"Why dont men value career oriented women?" | Derrick Jaxn Vs B Simone

[@MissLeonable]

There are women looking for rich, successful men. There are men looking for hot, pretty women. And then there‘s the majority, just looking for a good human being.

[@brandyandcream2]

@moreno xo What does how pretty your face is have to do with fertility?

[@BiancaC1]

👏🏾

[@Confettifun]

@moreno xo this is such an ignorant statement. There are literally studies showing women are attracted to and try to mate with men who have high testosterone levels but marry those with more testosterone. Men dont look for “pretty faces”, biologically, men look for curvy women since that is an actual sign of fertility. You should open a bio book sometime

[@brandyandcream2]

@moreno xo Using insults because you cannot make a sound argument. Ok. I will play along. You initial comment did not say “young and fertile”. It said “young fertile” without the “and.” “Young fertile” can include “unattractive”, “much more successful than you career women”. Are you ok with a woman you don’t find attractive who is much more successful and has much more money than you as long as she is a “young fertile”?

[@waylander7777]

@@brandyandcream2 Markers for facial symmetry in both men and women also signify genetic fitness and higher prospects of fertility and healthier offspring. Our looks and physical appearance are a huge part of the evolutionary package our minds are biologically programmed to look for.

[@rl4127]

Women meet a new guy, their friends ask what he does. Men meet a new girl, friends ask what she looks like.

[@pandajohnlee1364]

This is way too deep.

[@laurensanchez8063]

So true. This is what both sexes truly desire.

[@empressqi1722]

Is it really like this in US? So different here in Europe.

[@TheRaptureIsComingSoon]

@@empressqi1722 would you please share how different is it in Europe? Just curious to learn. Thank you

[@neazy9925]

@@empressqi1722 what's it like in Europe?

[@AbaNPreach]

Am I the only one who hates them nails? lmaoooooooooooooo

[@kiriweratukukino9160]

Definitely not.

[@OO-cg6xe]

No

[@kingfathersuperstillhatesk7349]

Nope

[@jonathananderson7990]

PUT IT THERE BROTHER...LMAO PREACH YOU EXTRA ASF love it.

[@aiseafuapau183]

Those are some killer nails

[@chilegarcia2969]

Thousands of women who were trying to learn not to get played, got played by the guy “teaching” them how not to get played. It’s the circle of life lol.

[@krislatoya7556]

And all of a sudden, he could be home with a photo in the background but before car seats served as his backdrop Smh

[@louichen1433]

Just look for a partner that fits your “standards”. don’t try changing people who don’t meet your standards, move on.

[@beyondthat4845]

Another you forget to say was if you have standards make sure you meet them

[@Go_Ask_M0m]

Women are forever trying to change men. Never works out because when and if they change, the women don’t like it. SMH 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@louichen1433]

@@Go_Ask_M0m then they should leave if they can, if your SO asks you to compromise something you're not able to, willing to or are dissatisfied when you do, leave. i dont know what more there is to say

[@Go_Ask_M0m]

@@louichen1433 totally agree with you pal.

[@gp7944]

@@suzygirl1843 no one is stopping you. The beautiful thing about today is you have the choice to do what’s best for you. Go off & prosper

[@coke8077]

I don’t rly give a shit if a woman got money, I’m just looking for an attractive, loving, understanding, and fun person.

[@zeke_edits]

A combo would be nice.

[@coke8077]

@mizzmolly of all she looking for is money, she ain’t the right person for me

[@jsutton241]

Agreed, if she got money and make a lot of money, cool. But what you said is more important to me

[@kimk3329]

@mizzmolly this is how I know you’re financially illiterate. 60k is good money if you know how to manage money. It’s always a person with a low wage job saying “50k, 60k ain’t shit” But are YOU making that amount of money though 😂😂

[@starscream6629]

@mizzmolly Average *household* income in US is 50k. If a guy as a single person is making 60k+ and doesn’t live in an Uber expensive west coast state or city area, then he is doing well. Especially if he knows how to manage his money, save, reduce his cost of living, and invests strategically. Considering how many people lost or are still losing their jobs from the effects of the COVID shutdowns, anyone making that kind of money is doing well above average. We still haven’t even experienced the largest part of the coming economic impact from the past year. Just goes to show these ridiculous standards.

[@aframiamrad919]

Whenever someone says "what's your body count" all I hear is "how many people did you kill" idkw

[@pokemonlord3173]

Bruh 😂😂😂

[@icehoof]

What's your weight? What's your age? How many kids you got? *HOW MANY MU'FKERS YOU KILLED?* When you put it like that, i feel like it's a pretty reasonable question

[@Unknown-vu7ev]

Oh my god I thought I was the only one

[@ruhanfx]

gamer moment

[@hopelovegood8131]

LMBOOOO!!!YESSS

[@MrSeanMDolan]

I value women with passion and purpose, but chemistry is the most important thing besides attraction.

[@sarinaetienne]

Your so handsome omg 😍😍

[@MrSeanMDolan]

@@sarinaetienne thank you very much.

[@rosej2895]

@@MrSeanMDolan it's true

[@angelacox96]

This is so true!!! I've said for many years I truly believe this is why most relationships today are so finicky -- so many meeting online or through apps (where they can't possibly know if there's real chemistry) and then they base good/bad off other things that don't sustain long term relationships. You can check every box on every list, but at the end of the day nature rules!

[@carolmk3114]

I think I value chemistry a little better but well said.

[@gokulsiriah9750]

Preach imitating a body builder showing directions is the best thing ive seen this year lmao

[@Megan6772]

He was imitating Chris Farley in Black Sheep

[@gokulsiriah9750]

@@Megan6772 wait what scene was it?? I need to see it lmao

[@Megan6772]

@@gokulsiriah9750 they're staying at a hotel and a hot woman approaches and asks for directions and he points by flexing his entire arm. Classic scene 😊

[@teipplestar5586]

🤣🤣🤣

[@raymondmontunez8748]

That Derek guy is such a pimp

[@benry007]

My wife is a teacher. When I met her I liked the fact that she had a respectable job. I didn't really care about the money she made.

[@benry007]

@Debra Charles we are Christian so that would be a no😂

[@JB-rv1to]

That's how I felt about my wife's job. Didn't care about how much money she earned. All that matters is she's highly respected as a exotic dancer and she has a very tasteful OnlyFans site.

[@StageInTheSkyCreations]

I think a lot of men don't mind and actually admire women for doing something with their lives. The "career women" we're talking about are those who prioritize the career over relationships and motherhood.

[@ThaNarc]

What isn't a respectable job?

[@jojothegreatest1]

Which jobs aren’t respectable???

[@aishahhayaat6067]

I can’t take the word value seriously anymore without hearing value value

[@mrthawkins330]

That's funny.

[@DCUEmp_prinzy]

😁

[@clarktownsend8991]

Same!!!

[@royalacity]

Girl same. Hahahaha

[@lordreyna6924]

Same!!

[@selenasimmons6653]

What happened to character, morals, standards? Are you honest, consistent, have integrity, a good reputation, serve in one's community, help the poor, and elderly... Aren't those things men and women can agree on??

[@Michelle_McKenzie]

nowadays people are too superficial. they don't care about those things

[@Law19157]

@@Michelle_McKenzie Indeed, materialism is King. It's nice when you're in highschool and college when you can look at things like character, values, personality and whether said person is pleasant to be around because neither of you has anything at that time.

[@taniaslam8429]

@@Law19157 yes financially we have nothing but beauty is still an important factor

[@Law19157]

@@taniaslam8429 Yes but that's subjective to the individual and the same can be said of boys, being handsome and fit helps.

[@bloodraven1223]

Men don't say "Ohh what does she do?" when told their friend has a new girl. They are asking what she looks like.

[@marlondavis9450]

Imagine your boy saying "she look like Jaden Smith but fine tho"

[@HotforHealth]

Yep.

[@navonmyhand7999]

@Marlon Davis who are you talking about? 😂

[@marlondavis9450]

@@navonmyhand7999 got a funny homie who compared his girl to Jaden when she actually just look like a short haired Willow Smith.

[@marleybeauty88]

@@marlondavis9450 😩😂😂

[@olumideadanri557]

Richard Cooper said it best. "We don't care about your pot of gold, it's not like you share anyways."

[@LexRuger718]

SHOULD PIN THIS COMMENT

[@greatredshrike1234]

👍

[@solarmarks3093]

Big fax no printer a women will say "my money is my money but your money is our money" notice how easily a man will give his money to his women when he loves her but how much more it takes to ask for money from your women nowadays it's actually kinda sad

[@hyvll]

Words of wisdom

[@olyviermonteau4300]

@@LexRuger718 sadly, there's a pin of shame so, ye...

[@lilywojciechowski9906]

As a woman who has always felt insecure about not having a lot of money and felt judged (at least by other women) for living to take care of my family and my house and my friends, I really really appreciated this

[@lucavicentini795]

In a world of madness a normal man is judged mad.

[@APsupportsTerrorism]

Men judge that too... cuz that's an A+.

[@eliefosso7215]

Polish girl in the building

[@gp7944]

Forget those other women. It’s commonly said that females should have a choice. Just because your choice goes against today’s mainstream doesn’t mean you should be judged for it. It’s hypocrisy if you are being judged

[@nichy7734]

How do I pronounce your last name

[@TashaeJackson]

Single mom here, plus career-oriented woman...so I am a double-negative, I guess...Whatever the case, I feel relieved to have gone the career route as it was better than living in poverty after being abandoned with children and then going through a divorce. I used my status as a single mom living in poverty to light a fire under me to do whatever I could to grow myself and my career so I could improve our quality of life. Now, I make almost 4 times what I made when my kids were toddlers almost 20 years ago and am definitely living more comfortably financially.

[@solomonsanabria7092]

Career oriented is ok makes ur situation less bad being broke dependable single mom is worse.

[@patricejacobs]

Buy a dog and die alone

[@taz9234]

🙋🏿‍♀️hey me too. Living very, very, very comfortable. Kids in college and private school. No “Single Mom” poverty over here.

[@20darkmoon]

The fact you got money is a plus not a negative. It’s just not a preference men have but women do.

[@zachary3367]

I think people get the wrong takeaway. Everything you just said is both valid and entirely reasonable. I think when men say they dont want a career woman its coming from a place of wanting to be able to connect more or spend more time together and thats often more difficult if not impossible if someone is a workaholic, it remains true for women who date men who are entirely career focused, if he's never home eventually that will make you feel a certain way as you internally compare how he values his work in relation to how he values you. Everything in life is a compromise that requires sacrifice. Its all about what you value and what you need. For men I think most dont care for career women because most men want that emotional connection that we just can't get anywhere else comparatively. Its not an indictment against you or your values or needs. Everyone in this life is fighting for what they lack most; for you it seems it was perhaps money so you worked hard to be in a position that you're in, for a lot of men we only work a lot of the time for the big paycheck to attract someone that we can share it with. I hope that makes sense. I cant speak for everyone obviously, just trying to speak on what I think is part of the underlying reason of it all.

[@playplay217]

If Derrick Jaxn can become a dating coach, you can all fulfill your dreams. Anything is possible.

[@Von.NorthEnd]

Fax

[@heroesend1354]

@Ryan D a little is an understatement

[@No_Enemies_Kale]

Con artist*

[@ChimObiajulu]

Actually, do not underestimate Derrick Jaxn. He is a predator who peddles delusions to draw in his victims. Make no mistake about it, the women he shills to are his victims.

[@valeriecarre8967]

Him and KS not for me

[@moeshaellis5867]

I died when Preach came in with "Signal di plane yuh fi signal di plane, parachute, parachute" . Any Jamaican or Caribbean person would have. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@sharee1053]

I was like, "i didnt know preach was jamaican"

[@moeshaellis5867]

@@sharee1053 I thought the same thing then found out he was Haitian 😁😁

[@sharee1053]

well damn that makes a whole heap a sense

[@BecomingVirtuous]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@sebaschan-uwu]

What does that even mean

[@Etbrixproductionz]

I agree with her statement about having expectations of other people but not actually bringing value yourself. It's not even a standard Rule, it's called common sense. It's like trying to go to a store expecting to get an item when you have no money

[@royalacity]

Pppshhhhhh.....try working at a gas station next to the homeless shelter. Man. You know how many times I heard "Just help me out" , 6 pack in hand. I'm like dude you have 3 dollars. This ish in your hand is 14! 😂😂

[@justcallmebon2684]

I understand but notice you bring money to the store, not the same products that the store sells to exchange. In a relationship, the two parties bring different things to the table. So for example, telling women she can’t want a man who makes money if she doesn’t have money simply isn’t accurate. There are other attributes like this.

[@cpex2005]

Bruh, common sense is objectionable, perfect example: Guy decides to pick up his lawnmower and trim his hedges cuts his hands the fuck up and sues the maker of the lawnmower..Why? cause there was no warning sticker or instructions to tell him otherwise. What you and I consider to be common sense isn't what Edward Scissor hands here considers to be common sense. Haven't you noticed there are warning stickers on just about EVERYTHING now days. It's like offering something to drink for a guest that comes over, to me it's common sense to others it's not. So implying common sense has anything to do with it is absurd.

[@quincy7258]

@@justcallmebon2684 if financial stability on her part is not the trade off, then what is? If a woman wants a man with money but she has no money herself, what could she give to him to make the 'trade' fair?

[@haddingtoniangcp2464]

@@royalacity 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@gavinbrando8255]

Derrick really did follow his own advice when it came to finding a woman that complimented his attributes. He found a woman who would wear a beret and camo gear and quote the bible incessantly like a lunatic against those ladies who he consistently cheated with. She complimented him perfectly by letting him get away with it all and doing her job of being his doormat. He definitely practiced what he preached there.

[@paulcarmi8130]

Isn't derrick worth about 5 or 6 million though? I bet she knew about the cheating for awhile. (I'm not defending derrick, he's still trash. I just think that the wife probably knew before he got exposed and kept her mouth shut, but, that's just a theory)

[@gavinbrando8255]

@@paulcarmi8130My guess is that she knew. That was part of my point.

[@krislatoya7556]

@@paulcarmi8130 She did know because she compared herself to darker skin women with whom he cheated. Really wished she knew her worth and stepped away but she is probably damaged too.

[@breadshapiro1315]

What was the girl's name?

[@vandalg282]

She knows her worth, a 5 getting with a high value man, hes gonna have options, especially when he goes to the gym, is famous, has money, etc....shes a nobody with a mom body..shes gross, and of course he cheated on her with 7's and 8's....all she has to do is stay home and try to look pretty.

[@altruisme8602]

Who’s watching this after Derrick got canceled?🤣

[@MICHELLEWILLIAMSTheGreat81]

Going down the KZbin rabbit hole 😂😂😂😂

[@51beak39]

😂😂😂

[@rachealmaaron6005]

Me me me me me me over here me!!!!!

[@MoStylesz]

Meeeeee 🤣🤣🤣

[@elizabethakpan979]

Meee 😂😂😂

[@The_favorite_Uncle]

I think ppl devalue chemistry in dating these days

[@renaldsunset]

🎯

[@OHoneyPot]

Bingo‼️

[@Ace_TheAlchemist]

“What do you mean by that?”

[@queenesther743]

And that is the most important

[@Kikigreentea]

Right. All those expectations go out the window except for the few foundational ones when you meet someone you have raw chemistry with. I just witnessed two women and one guy fall head over heels for partners that didn't even meet half the credentials on their" lists".

[@DjPyro2010]

Declining to criticize women because they are "victims" is condescending and infantilizes them

[@commissarkitty3553]

I'm a victim because girls don't like my dragon ball collection 😢

[@amandaredeagle9572]

Thats true

[@justdoit.86yearsago]

The real question should be; Why do people feel the need to jump on the internet and start judging/criticising other people’s situations? If you don’t like a particular type of woman( career women or single mothers ) simply leave them alone. What is so difficult??

[@Jojo_Ojo_14]

My father literally raised me to be independent and “not need a man.” I have two degrees and I’m stacking my money like I was raised to. It’s very disheartening being 23 years old and finding out that men don’t value these qualities that my father raised me to have. Like what am I supposed to do?

[@houseofvoid2153]

Personally, just don't rub it into his face. For men, we want to feel as if we are helping, as if we are needed. Women want to feel wanted. We need to feel needed. If you have more money than your man, fine. Just don't rub it in his face cause it's gonna screw with his own self image, just like a guy calling you fat would screw with your self image.

[@manos7958]

You are actually at a really good point in your life to ask this question and you should not have any problems finding a partner as long as you follow a simple rule “Don't do unto others what you don't want done unto you.”

[@craig7405]

nothing wrong with having your life together

[@natalia_00123]

It's not that they don't value it. It's more like something that they're not actually looking for. Men tend to not care much if you make less money than them.

[@salmamesaddek6768]

You poor thing. You have an excellent father, two degrees, and a lot of savings, all at 23. Please stop

[@swedeonhisway8608]

imagine that men and women value diffrent things? who would have thought

[@zippo5294]

Didn’t have a clue.. damn.

[@inelhuayocan_aci]

But guys, those differences aren't real: For they are merely constitutions of norms embodying performative normative roles which repress honest discourse about bodies...LMFAO j/k.

[@lebabyjames2724]

@@inelhuayocan_aci - Bro I was about to say 😂

[@bobloerakker7010]

Yeah, weird.

[@GabrielleTollerson]

ikr lol

[@THETANKGINGER]

This dude acting like women don’t judge men on physical appearance. It’s literally the first thing they do.

[@ghorn1217]

The difference is a man can be rich “enough” to overcome his physical appearance, hence the phrase “ I’m 7 feet tall when I stand on my wallet”. Women, for the most part, don’t have a way to overcome a lack of physical beauty.

[@thetechconsultant]

@@ghorn1217 facts

[@joeyr2224]

@TeddyBearKnows if you really think that's one of the reasons money was created you really need to pick up some history and economy books 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@soulcialproduct5466]

Usually the Shoes 1st then the rest

[@privateuser29]

@TeddyBearKnows have fun in your little bubble of „OmG EvErY mAn Is DiSgUsTiNg“ type attitude

[@liyaxo4560]

I think people don’t like seeing themselves in other people. They want to be picky, but the moment the person they want is just as picky its a problem. This is not exclusive to one gender.

[@deathrager2404]

apron, kitchen, sandwiches. we ll call you when we need you.

[@christianaadormey9409]

Fax no printer, Queen energy

[@Santiago-ke7yj]

100%

[@moonlace1560]

@@deathrager2404 if ur really making a comment like that bro to a comment thats stating the obvious just say ur single and go 🤣

[@zion4205]

YESSS BRO

[@ssbmouse6471]

I would never date a guy that has kids. I totally respect that single dad struggle, and even the divorced every other weekend struggle, but I just do that want that in my life and don’t have to settle for it.

[@CultureCrossed64]

Keep the same energy if you have kids🙊 (not saying you do) can't get mad at the men either if they share the same mindset

[@madlaz5795]

@@CultureCrossed64 nobody said she would get mad.::

[@k-slice2482]

Lol I totally get it! It's unwanted baggage and weight! And since you don't want it, don't do it!!

[@kariw.160]

Being a step parent and in many cases full time “step parent” is hard as hell and often reward less. It’s not for everyone, and that’s okay. Certainly better to know what you do and don’t want then to try and be miserable.

[@arabian_empress]

I'm with you on that. I don't have kids and wouldn't date a man who has kids... its baggage I don't want to deal with, if I wanted kids I'd have my own, I'm not looking to be nobodies step mama thanks

[@stephaniemitchell8509]

I don't buy that people don't like these guys. They mix humor + irony + common sense + harsh reality the same way George Carlin did, and I've never met a person that disliked Carlin either.

[@zyyrtt951]

They are not funny. They are pretty stupid, and their whole channel is about pandering to low-minded situations and people.

[@LexRuger718]

YOU'RE HERE WATCHING 👆👆

[@Cloggieclover]

@@zyyrtt951 If they were so stupid, why have you invested so much in this to comment and follow them?

[@zyyrtt951]

@@Cloggieclover I don’t follow them, they show up in my recommended. You have to expose stupid wherever stupid lies, otherwise other people will never understand why they are dumb. A better question would be “Can you explain?” or “What do you mean?” Ask better questions and you will get better answers.

[@perzonne6302]

@@zyyrtt951 im with you

[@LeonahMason]

A women’s idea of what it means to be a women has changed but a mans idea has stayed the same. We’ve let hurt women tell us what it takes to survive and they forgot to teach us what it means to be a wife. Update: y’all got a lot to say 🙃

[@shottax]

There's still hope if a few think like you

[@vsioljones2549]

Very well put

[@KNEWERAADVERTISING]

WOW women of understanding still exist!!!!!!!!!!!!! Bravo

[@dominicjosiah2901]

Careful now, making too much sentence can be a death sentence....

[@Eaststoriestv]

Clapp for yourself!!!

[@chelseamalford8791]

It’s so funny seeing Derrick give advice now lol

[@YouAdii]

Oh how the mighty have fallen.

[@slimjim5487]

Right😂😂😂

[@51beak39]

😂😂😂

[@raymondcarter1137]

Why does he look like the Dave chapel crack head.

[@SCF721]

Always knew he was a snake, so watching him is funnier now

[@FreedoPan]

As a person in my early thirties with a partner at similar age, salaries play a huge part in our daily lives and our relationship. Attraction is important and character compatibility, but money is equal important when you want to do some stuff in your life, from eating at a restaurant once per week, to having holidays in the summer, to family programming

[@2000nibbles]

Finance are important! I think they say, religion, family planning goals and financies are the reason for a lot of marital disagreements. I personally would not marry someone who makes significantly less than me because it’s very hard to mesh your lives when your budgets and financial goals are so different.

[@snorman1911]

A family is way more important to me than money. If you don't have kids she should be working, but if you do it doesn't make sense to have her working and pay someone else to raise your kids.

[@stankssmile5865]

Why arranged marriages work in india, all of this western awakening was slapped into all us girls and boys at a young age

[@RGM5396]

Money, in-laws, religion, children the big 4 that people divorce over

[@jernellelouis3432]

True that

[@LAR3MUSIC]

Maybe if the focus isn't always on how much someone makes, things that really matter will become valued

[@ThePoshMel]

She spoke about someone who’s a family man, and has a fit lifestyle also, but you only focused on the salary point?

[@thijsjong]

Women fiirst select on the money. Then the men walks away. Then they complain about the walk away part. He is not a familyman. And pretent thr first criterium had nothing to do with it. Plenty of familymen with average incomes. Men that have money and aint ugly are like the 20 year old bikini instagram model. They got options other than you. So if you nag they are out. Women collectively created their own problems.

[@purplelove3666]

Well that would be great.if we lived in a country where we didnt have to pay bills

[@jlouri]

That’s what y’all keep forgetting. That IS what really matters. 80% of divorces are caused by financial issues.

[@mmtgangsta91]

That has to be established since grown ups were younger, the problem is everyone barely dated in their youth and start dating in their careers and expect love to be formed when that rarely happens

[@MikesterMF]

I feel like the only real metric we should be judging our partners on are: Are they mature? Are they supportive? Are they capable of effective communication? Do we find each other attractive? Everything else is superficial to me. That's not a dig on anyone who has a certain standard for finances or body type or whatever, but ultimately that's what I think is most important.

[@ghorn1217]

What you “feel” is irrelevant. Evolutionary biology has already solved the equation.

[@MikesterMF]

@@ghorn1217 Wow. You sound like a red flag.

[@mfalmegwada]

@@MikesterMF No he is right, men prefer younger women more fertile and with less bagages. If a man has a choice between a 30 yr and a 20 yr he will go towards a 20yr generally. Women are hypergamous by nature so they also choose older mating partners because they can create better children, how do they find a man with more ressources ? Well nowadays ressources are determined by the money you receive from the society. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@waylander7777]

@@MikesterMF Your criteria is perfectly reasonable. But if you pare it back enough, you will find the evolutionary underpinnings that drive most of it. Culture and personal experiences influence our expression of these gene driven behaviors (epigenetics). But they are limited in scope by our evolutionary inheritance to seek out particular parameters or their nearest analogue in our cultural environment. We are very flexible in expressing our subjective desires but we are also very predetermined in their core function.

[@KierMailan]

I agree, even as a guy seeing ur material success as a metric of self esteem is very shallow and unhealthy. But what is important? The PERSON u become along that journey like confidence, assertive etc. Is what women find attractive. Thou material success may be an indicator of such traits it is not a guarantee.

[@halitst1]

These dating influencers are just talking to themselves and not taking their own advice.

[@lollymadikiza3174]

I agree

[@thedivinechic6613]

Pretty much

[@ashylarry3442]

Preach slapping that phone is ridiculously accurate!!!🤣🤣

[@spbynum]

Derrick Jaxn does not speak for most men. Do not listen to him. He may make women feel better, but he’s not actually helping them with this advice.

[@MrKrushgutz]

He tells them what they want to hear, but not what they need to hear.

[@Recklyss]

He's pandering and coddling them and it's destroying the lives of women stuck in that echo chamber

[@brendan8108]

Amen

[@eon001]

Light Treason It's clear he has a guilty conscience over something and is over compensating for what ever he did in the past. Probably was a pos to women and it's come back to haunt him. He's trying too hard.

[@brittanymontroy1097]

@Franca Wong I wouldn't say what he does is feminine! He is like a femiNAZI haha

[@jojosdad1359]

Number one turn off, women who clap they're hands for emphasis when they speak.

[@drakelarsen3749]

Just say you don’t like black women and move on. 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@MysticDivinerLJ]

@@drakelarsen3749 Not all black women do this. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@unlimited971]

@@drakelarsen3749 it's a ghetto thing you racist F and a lot of people not black are doing it. to be more precise nowadays, with the education system infested with brainwashing most kids keep repeating this trashy behaviour.

[@ancientsithlord3314]

@@drakelarsen3749 bruh ive seen women of all races do that shit and if he doesn't like black women so what

[@SP-td9xj]

@@drakelarsen3749 even the "woke" black women that I've dated/messed around with didnt do that, seriously, very dumb comment

[@Danny_Deleto]

Men are seen as providers, women aren't. And even when a woman has money, odds are she'll still want you to pay for things like dates from the start. That's why we don't care. It doesn't benefit us. It's not surprising.

[@royalacity]

Well said.

[@Etbrixproductionz]

I agree. I think it's because in out modern society our diverse opnions cause differnt ideas to sprout out in how to live our lives. Alot more females subscribe to this modern Woman ideals, where they can provide aswell but that doesn't work with a Traditionalist male who is the provider. I don't need to people to do the same job, sure it's more efficient in doing that one job, however it's not efficient overall , I don't need two people to work all day and we both come home too more work when one could do the other.

[@NoName-sp5dp]

...theres women that go Dutch. You probably don't like how they talk to you but they're women that go dutch...not me

[@BenieMae36]

I can not speak for others but I’m a person that doesn’t mind paying for things for me and my husband. In a marriage you should take of each other. Not the man only should only be the provider bs and yes I am submissive to my husband because he knows how I like to be treated. So what happens when a man physically can no longer provide is my question? But some men can careless? Hmmm 🤔 Somebody’s ability to provide has nothing to do with gender. If a man is unable to provide for all those things that are delegated to a man’s role woman has to be able to pick up those things. But men don’t care about that? So yes it’s important to find a mate that can do those things.

[@jewelsvermin8866]

@@BenieMae36 Would you be with your husband if he was a bum when you met?

[@poppysmic856]

Maybe it's because I'm from a different culture, but I have personally noticed that young men looking to get married in my culture do put emphasis on the education and career status of their future wife. Often, I have found that the better educated a young man is, the more they want their wife to rise to their status. It's very typical for a male doctor to specify wanting to marry only another fellow female doctor/dentist. I think part of the reason is that they are attracted to the idea of forming a 'power couple'. I also think it's true generally, regardless of cultural differences, that when men are married to women in highly reputable professions: lawyers (George Clooney comes to mind), doctors, businesswomen, etc, that husbands love mentioning it/showing off about it. It seems to be a quality/trait in their wife that they find attractive. Of course, how much that truly played a part in their decision to ultimately tie the knot, I don't know.

[@ericachan452]

I thought it was funny that you guys said many women don't like you. I found your channel only a few days ago, and I liked it so much that I shared it with my boyfriend. And now he's hooked too. So here I am, being a girl, introducing you to a dude. :)

[@3kit4y]

I thought I was the only one lol. I found their channel last year and introduced them to my boyfriend as well. Now he's hooked, I'm hooked we all hooked. Definitely love their content.

[@timeakway7021]

Damn same I can't believe I have never heard of this channel tell yesterday, I'm hooked now too.

[@eradiusshikudule4252]

There is always an exception to the rules. You just happen to be the minority who likes their content.

[@chenanigans]

Me three! I think SM has people confused as to what women are like these days. Reality is much diff. We aren't all on that super feminist wave. Some of us have been red pilled or always were. Abba and Preach are great cuz I feel they aren't about pushing any ideas for a certain agenda, they're just about pushing truth and laughs.

[@phglam]

hahaha i love these guys

[@johnartcole]

Dj hates the fact that he's not a "strong black woman".

[@OEThe11]

😭😭😭

[@resipsaloquitor4530]

Lmao 😂🤣

[@Y0mAmA84]

I laughed waaaaay too hard at this lol

[@Aykndkjh13t]

Im weak 🤣 you caught me off guard

[@SoLoboo]

Mans wanna be a woman so bad. His mannerisms says it all

[@Go_Ask_M0m]

“If you wanna find ‘Mr Right’; you need to be MRS Right”

[@dolled-upjen3606]

Period

[@bamamade-jf1mg]

Just be Mr.Right by staying single

[@krism4763]

I agree. And vice versa.

[@VaivaPaula95]

If you want to find mr. right you can't be mrs. left

[@ThebigGLRams]

Right

[@tierrapetersen4651]

Aba and Preach, I love ya'll so much. Literally, this is what I watch when I'm feeling depressed or anxious. Ya'll are so funny and I agree with you so much. I'm just happy to be with a good man. When you start getting older you care more about kindness and someone that's into more then anything else.

[@albertmachtfrei1678]

"I have a career" You should have a career, you're an adult.

[@wellknown1204]

Hahhaaa.. well, that's so true

[@user-zj6dp3ej2k]

LMAO fr

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

A high percentage of adults don’t have careers. I’m from the uk and in my 20’s so I’m not sure if this is because of my location/demographic but most men I know my age don’t have careers (certainly no where near as many as women)

[@purplelove3666]

You should also be able to cook and clean for yourself.you are an adult

[@Shadow-nj6cr]

Not necessarily. A career and a job are two different things

[@zyloupbersabda6754]

she doesnt wanna show her nails, she just practicing sign language.

[@sodvine3486]

😂😂😂

[@terenceakins1377]

😆😆

[@myname-mz3lo]

sign language for sloths?

[@shortblackandmiserable]

Lol

[@AbaitheyBeauty]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@marywright7111]

This can be boiled down to one thing. Don’t expect from others what you do not have or do yourself

[@clmuka23]

You are Wright

[@lunaokittens9574]

👍

[@HappywifeTaylor]

On point

[@marywright7111]

@@clmuka23 lol

[@marywright7111]

@Ryan D facts 😂

[@godsonlychosenone]

When girls get nails they know how to talk sign language I see😭

[@Kay-cs8pm]

🤣

[@teritalekisha5334]

If you ever need a good laugh, watch a girl with nails like that at the gas pump when she needs to pull her credit card back out. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@justinakinsola3305]

That’s make me laugh every time I see it 😂

[@TheObjectiveTruth0]

Lol literally had to help a lady 2 hours ago at a gas pump in Brooklyn 😂😂😂

[@guacamoleniqqapenis7312]

As a girl who like nails, it's a living hell when it comes to cards n coins 😂

[@redwhites3651]

nah , I rather watch a girl struggle to wipe her ass

[@guacamoleniqqapenis7312]

@@redwhites3651 man we can wipe our asses just fine Except I dunno about them girls with them 4-5 inch nails, though 👀

[@cooper5324]

“what she do? she’s a doctor. God damn she’s SMART!” 😂 that’s exactly how it is lmao

[@Epitome_]

Being a doctor isn't a test of intelligence its a test of percervierence.

[@misterangeley]

@@Epitome_ what did you sayyyyyy?!!!!

[@Epitome_]

@@misterangeley I said you don't have to be smart to be a doctor. You just have to percerviere. Even if you fail the tests you can still retake them.

[@erboch7124]

@@Epitome_ You must be fun at parties

[@kailowrez5126]

@@erboch7124 he's not wrong tho

[@morandalec3869]

It's not that "men don't value career oriented women" It's more like "The men you WANT/WISH to attract, are usually at polar opposites for what THEY (the man) want in a woman. You do you boo-boo But that also means I don't have to feel obligated to give you any attention whatsoever People need to let go of their ego Male and Female

[@thunderlycanthrope7804]

@Hun Bun you are stupid, you literally just said what he typed

[@ezra5514]

@Hun Bun literally the end of the comment says "male & female" 🤦‍♂️😂

[@philslater7474]

There are women,and ladies and this is a U.K. perspective. But that person,mnnn.maybe not.

[@sebasg80]

@Hun Bun chameleon confirmed...

[@ClearSmoke100]

@Hun Bun Terrible example tbh. Most men are looking to fuck skanks not date/marry one. I've never heard a man complaining that he fucks skanks and wonders where all da good women at. He knows exactly who hes fucking lol.

[@melindaroop1346]

On the "family man" thing...that is a tricky situation to judge and just because someone doesn't talk to their family doesn't mean they don't deserve their own family. The reason being is because some people have very toxic families or they were abused as a child or they just didn't have parents that were present. So now they want a family of their own so they can give their children what they didn't have. My husband wanted a family for a similar reason.

[@melindaroop1346]

@Rick Rick Did I say anything about their "Entire family"? No I did not. I meant parents.

[@AuroraSelene2]

The only problem I have with your thoughts on this is that I feel like it's a catch 22 for women. A lot of women from a young age have been told--especially by well-meaning fathers--that they have to strive to be independent and successful so that they don't have to depend on a man. And the reality is if you're not independently successful and you remain single, you're really out of luck. And even if you do find a man, one day he may leave or even pass away young, and then you'd also be in a bad situation. I think a lot of women just want to have the peace of mind that if they are alone for any length of time, they won't be in a terrible state.

[@User-to7nb]

Actual facts right here.

[@lydiamerritt1174]

Sooo true!!

[@agees924]

Yeah that’s exactly it. My own grandma was widowed in her late 20’s and always wished she had the opportunity to go to school so that she didn’t have to struggle so much. And back in the day plenty of women did remain single, but unless they were born into a wealthy family or as an aristocrat...they typically had to become nuns or live at home forever because women didn’t work. It’s understandable why people want a backup plan. You can’t solely rely on someone else for your livelihood. Because you cannot make other people follow your life plan. We forget about how many stories there are like that.

[@AuroraSelene2]

@@agees924 Yeah exactly! Like I get where Aba & Preach are coming from in a lot of these videos--people shouldn't be obnoxious and full of themselves in their search for a partner, sure. But at the same time you, me, and many others are kind of trapped in an in-between where even if we want kids/family life we can't just plan to have a man be our rock either. Life is unpredictable and women often do need a career to fall back on or they're stuck in a cycle of marriage and re-marriage (if they can even find another partner etc)

[@njprincess6]

Yes! I’ve lived this. My parents were divorced and my mother struggled because my father decided to live his best life without us. I realized early on that I would need to support myself and not rely on someone else. Heck, there are woman who’ve married well and stayed home to support their husbands and then they are suddenly divorced with no skills and limited options

[@Jaedon1981]

It does go both ways. But, due to the fact that SHE AIN'T SHIT, that falls on deaf ears. That's why she's getting flack. Not because of what she said but the fact that it's HER saying it.

[@en9587]

so true. It almost feels like she's being hypocritical. It reminds me of how Cardi B was acting like she was some saint because she doesn't let her daughter listen to WAP... whilst being the most irresponsible parent imaginable and disrespecting herself on the internet almost every day.

[@EleashaD]

That's true. People don't like her, so they don't listen to what she says 😂

[@Jaedon1981]

@@EleashaD She literally gives no one a reason to listen to her.

[@Kris_is_a_Ten]

Exactly!

[@judenylebron107]

@@en9587 so she was just supposed to leave the music on? just because she is comfortable with her sexuality doesn't mean she wants to expose that to her young child. She makes music for adults, not children. If she left the music on when her child came in, she would've gotten hate for that too.

[@cabbagedestroyer1693]

I hate the type of women who literally wants everything in a man, but want their partners to expect nothing from themselves. Like how does that make sense?

[@picassojulien899]

This!

[@mindelo23]

Those women are a liability

[@mindelo23]

Those women are a liability

[@sarantoure7233]

I think Romcom are partly to blame for that.

[@sophon238]

Because most women are taught they are perfect as they are

[@frumpusnumpus]

Preach nearly killed me with his whole display. 😂 😂 😂 Somebody come get your man. He wildin'. 😂 😂

[@titto2602]

Italians: "We are the only people that can talk with our hands' Aba : " Hold my drink "

[@mouloudo]

Ethiopia was an Italian colony 🙄

[@slipsplace2122]

My friend take a trip into quebec some time to a bar. The hands that fly is nuts between friends. They aint fighting though

[@titto2602]

@@mouloudo man shut the fuck up! Don't come to me here with that colony shit, I don't care! Was Aba born during that time? No! Now go back to your shady crib you pathetic fool

[@mouloudo]

@@titto2602 what? Lol you're crazy

[@paulhobbs2467]

@@titto2602 aba? 🤣🤣 bruh got changed to abandoned

[@kynshii]

He's doing the same thing that he's accusing Kevin Samuels and others are doing. He's weaponizing the truth to make it seem like these men are just being mean. B-Simone was clear on what she said. Bottom line, don't think you're better than someone when chances are, you're probably lower than them

[@Miam_miam_la_gauffre]

What does "better" mean tho?

[@royalacity]

Not lower. Just, no better.

[@kynshii]

@@royalacity thank you

[@kynshii]

@@Miam_miam_la_gauffre when they think they're too good for a man who's only making a certain amount but the truth is they come with all kinds of issues

[@Miam_miam_la_gauffre]

@@kynshii i dont value a person based on the money he make tho

[@yahtoray3]

It seems like today’s society is either anti-role or you have to do your role while I do nothing.

[@Frainkey]

Real piece of advance.. You attract those who match you. Step your mf game up. I could easily be like " people are like this or like that. Blah." At the end of the day, the people I want to attract are out there and I know it so it's on me to match that energy. Went the focus is on self improvement, you have no room to place blame. It's just not important anymore.

[@cpex2005]

It's paradoxal. if you dont bring anything to the table you are a bum but if you do bring anything to the table your demonstrating social hierarchy.

[@Frainkey]

@@cpex2005 Not necessarily.. Depends on what you bring to the table. Money or sex aren't the only things to bring to the table. Stability, job stability, open communication, an open heart, humor, confidence, personal swag, intelligence, emotional intelligence, honesty, loyalty, courtesy, willingness to learn, ability to listen and understand others, knowing when to take an L, being able to deal with disputes without extreme anger/violence. There's a lot to bring to the table. Women tend to focus on looks and money while men focus on looks, sex, and house wife-ish qualities. Doesn't mean the other qualities don't matter, they just don't get talked about for the most part.

[@Okifyousayso]

@@Frainkey you just stated a plethora of nonsense you contradicted yourself more than twice

[@Frainkey]

@@Okifyousayso you just want to be right about something. Ok, you get your wish. You WIN. I don't have time to deal with ignorance. Either you discuss things like an adult or I give up.

[@mercedezp.6289]

I'm female and I love your channel. Just found you all and I've been binge watching videos. You two are great!

[@tiredox3788]

I never understand why people take advice from dating coaches nowadays. They're pretty much scammers. Edit: For the people who are saying that some are not. You are not listening to them carefully and to other dating coaches. They sound almost the same, just rephrase words; most of them just say stuff of what you want to hear, not what you need to hear.

[@datboii_ivan]

It's not always like that I trust @the33secrets, all I will say is listen and you will learn something

[@MrMatijas16]

I took their advice cause Im extremely socially inept and dont know how to talk to girls

[@mohammedmiah7554]

@@MrMatijas16 Dw bruh once you come into your own you’ll think they’re stupid too.

[@datboii_ivan]

@@MrMatijas16 nah my dude there are days when your down in the dumps and hearing someone's advice does help and also bc we never had someone in our life tell us this advice :)

[@kekmeister4627]

@@datboii_ivan thats' what friends , parent ,relative hell even a psychiatrist that has been in relationship are for and they know you better than some random dude who ask you to pay $200. not that i disagree with you but i rather pay someone who know me.

[@Alteori]

I like how this dude low-key calls out Kevin Samuels. Notice, don't call out any other KZbinrs but I may be wrong.

[@andyjones3345]

At least someone knows how to use low-key

[@om3667]

@Arache Bailey I mean, how can you have that convo without generalizing?

[@DamianSabre]

@Arache Bailey You gotta generalize to elevate the conversation. Otherwise "yeah, except blank" and you get nowhere.

[@jewelsvermin8866]

I despise the man but in Derrick defense I am pretty sure Kevin called him out a year or two ago. They give opposing dating advice so any gain for one cuts into the others market share.

[@momoney855]

Kevin is the 🐐

[@dr.dermixgirlmd7479]

My day is simply not complete until I hear Preach’s patois. Period.

[@staceygould2561]

Yesssssss

[@Rostein009]

F A C T S !

[@michelleforte8669]

Yes!😂

[@BTArnold100]

LOL And you can never anticipate when he will do. Just catches you off guard😂

[@jjay6432]

Right Love it too😆

[@kaydykes9916]

As much as people wish things were different, men and women like what they like. It’s not fair to fault them for that. I always love listening to you guys!

[@lliamlee5702]

I love the way Aba wears his hoodie, “algorithm can’t recognize my face if the algorithm can’t see it all” 🤣

[@CharlesMcHaley]

That’s exactly why men Loved Patrice O’Neal and women hated him.

[@chaboi7]

Gay...lol

[@tialyons4622]

Lol I agree I use to hate the fuck out of him I understand what he was saying but I was in my feelings 🤣

[@Fuhrdaddy]

@@chaboi7 project more

[@chenanigans]

Nah Patrice was funny and real af. Literally would be in tears watching him. I even put a guy onto him!

[@chaboi7]

@@Fuhrdaddy gay

[@MattandSadieBug]

Am I the only one who struggles to listen to women who sound like her?

[@zexionienzo4183]

same, but why does it seem like they all act the same?

[@GoldenGod69]

@@zexionienzo4183 they all probably watch real housewives religiously and try to act like the women on there

[@zexionienzo4183]

@@GoldenGod69 the whole copy + paste personality method? Got it!

[@langashouse7760]

That's a "you" issue, and maybe it would be a good idea to ask yourself why you feel that way?

[@deewight3991]

Nope ! The Machine Gun Mouth firing off is truly disgusting!

[@maybesoormaybenot1586]

My Dad died when I was 9 and my sister 14. My Mom had a high school diploma and a part time job at a pizza place. My Dad was a really nice guy but he was an alcoholic (thankfully not a physically abusive one, he would just make promises he could not keep when he was drunk) with no work ethic. He certainly did not think ahead about getting any type of life insurance and left us with pennies. We had to go on food stamps and rely on family and people from church. My Mom went back to school and got a degree and held down a 9-5 job from that point on until she retired a few years ago. We still didn't have much but we didn't have to be on food stamps or rely on others. My Mom made sure my sister and I knew that we were to go to college and not depend on men. Many of her sister's were dependent on shitty abusive men, most of whom were older and got them pregnant at very young ages (i'm gen x so mom and aunts are all boomers, not great birth control options or sex ed back then). They have all gotten away from those men. My Mom and most of my aunts have remarried wonderful men who are way more suited for them. This is because they got into those relationships when they were a bit older and wiser. My mom remarried my wonderful step dad when I was in college. They are actually perfect for each other and I often wonder how my Mom ever got with my Dad in the first place because they were so very different. My point is that you can NOT rely on a man to take care of you. Some of them turn out to be abusers after they reel you in, some of them die and leave you with nothing, some of them decide they are tired of you and find a new women. Women need to get an education and have a career. Who gives a fuck is some guy doesn't like it. Let him find some sucker whose going to put her in a situation if something goes south she has nothing. I'm happily married. We both have the same degree from the same college, this never bothered my husband. For a long time before we had kids I was out earning my husband. He didn't care because he was starting a business and was glad I had steady income to pay the bills he could not always help with. We now run that company together. He works a lot more hours then I do so that I can do all the kid stuff. I also the grocery shopping, cooking, and the majority of the cleaning. But I don't mind because I know he is out there making good money and I have more time to do that stuff because I work less hours. You better bet we both have life insurance policies. I do all the financial stuff for home and business so I know how much money we have and will not be taking less then my half of it all if he decides to step out on me (the only reason I would ever divorce him). Ladies get your shit together or you will be taken for a fool.

[@dianebrooks1859]

A similar thing happened to someone I know. After having kids she was told to not become more skilled in her old career because "there isn't any point, he'll provide for you forever." Weeeellll fast forward some years later there was a nasty divorce with abuse and drugs. Now she's relying on that career to help pay the bills, becoming more skilled and making more money. And it's not like she has some complicated career. It would be considered relatively simple compared to lawyer or doctor degree. Point is, it's not bad for a lady to learn a skill set. You never know the future. IMO don't make it your entire identity, it's just a way to support yourself. But it's good to know how to do something at least.

[@carmelcutie1991]

i agree with this. My dad put me through college so that i wouldnt have to depend on him or anyone else if things with south relationship wise. I think you should get a degree or a certification just in case. Its not fun being broke!

[@danielzenner3]

The biggest problem in the sexual market is the error of “projection”. Men believing that what makes a female attractive in their eyes (being nice and submissive) would be the same quality that would make them attractive to the female gender. Females believing that being assertive and wealthy would make them attractive to the male gender. They both inexorably go too far in enacting behaviors that goes with such assumptions.

[@EriPages]

Brilliantly written.

[@aye_papi]

And it really doesn’t help that men are told to “touch into their feminine side” “be more emotional” “be sensitive” by the same women who are not attracted to any of those traits. I think the lgbtq community is to blame because they constantly try to blur the line between genders like “the only difference between men and women is biological” and women will always agree with them so they don’t look bigoted.

[@seigemusic423]

@@aye_papi Exactly, though i feel like women mean it more selfishly like " be more sensitive to my struggles and morals and ideals every single day " but they don't want to say that since that's basically a man saying " do as I say "

[@petermulinzi1288]

never seen a comment shed this much light on me u're no regular person

[@apo.7898]

So, women have to be submissive in order to be attractive? I don't think that is the case.. Personally I would find it annoying. They have to be pleasant and fun, but not necessarily submissive or overly agreeable.

[@ChristopherCricketWallace]

I for one love a career oriented woman. She needs a job so that she has something to do and doesn't bug me all the time while I try to do mine. There's nothing more draining than having people around you that don't have anything going on in their life. They'll expect you to entertain them.

[@retheisen]

Preach

[@wolfpack4128]

I'm there with you. You want a woman to build a life with you not around you. At the same time it's the dedication to a useful career I value not so much the resources it brings to the family. A woman that is super successful by a man's standard but doesn't bring any traditionally feminine aspects to the relationship would be a no go. My wife works a 6 figure job but I can also count on her to be the one to deal with most of the kids stuff and just leave me instructions on when to help with pickup/drop-off. The same way she appreciates the sink drain magically gets unplugged or the driveway is always plowed when she gets home from work.

[@arron2lucas]

I don't think anyone is saying they want a broke chick... Folks are saying that a woman's career isn't a leading factor for most men ... a woman is more likely to overlook looks because a man is a Doctor making $350k or a dude because he knows how to make money.... Most men aren't lining up to choose an unttractive or uncooperative woman just because she's a lawyer or makes money... her career is important to a man only after she's shown to be attractive feminine and cooperative...

[@MaiNKoncept]

Exactly. I've had the exact same experience. The mentally and discipline on a career woman is just on different level.

[@kelvinnana205]

Facts brother. It isn't even economically feasible to be a single earner in a relationship in this century.

[@drekbleh7081]

"Why don't men value career women?" Why don't career women value Mr. Mom type men? If you take on the traditional masculine role your partner should take on the traditional feminine role so there's at least some semblance of balance Wait no most women look down on non masculine men.

[@robe8607]

I agree with the logic here but not the practice of masculine feminine thing. Not all career women are overtly masculine. But yeah a family with 2 bread winners means huge sacrifices elsewhere so it would make sense to me to that if she has the big career going why is it bad that he just has a job that when school calls and says little Timmy is sick he knows he can leave without looking bad to the boars of directors. Does that mean he has to be feminine and can't still be the one covered in grease fixing the mustang on the weekends and taking the kids fishing? I think a lot of woman are so against being the bread winner because they think it makes a man feminine and that has always seemed very counterintuitive to me when most woman also plan to enter the work force with career in mind.

[@aqmohra4]

Women want the men to still perform their traditional role but don't want to have to perform the female traditional role themselves

[@fluffywhitemanju]

I wouldn’t mind having a house husband tbh, if I’m the breadwinner it just makes sense

[@farahnursingserious585]

@@fluffywhitemanju same

[@drekbleh7081]

@@robe8607 I concede I used traditional gender roles as a ease of conversation. Women COULD have men to balance their lives but also overlook men willing to do so for men that earn more than them and are unwilling At the end of the day the dishes need to get done and the relationship is in danger if responsibilities get ignored for a sense of pride.

[@essme2878]

That nail segment had me 😭, all I could think of is 2 specific females I know 💅 and they do type like that

[@TheRealBrook1968]

Mature men realize that just beauty only lasts for a few hours in bed and then you have to interact with her the rest of the day. That is when a good personality becomes necessary.

[@youtubeaddicted8215]

So you are telling me that your ok being with a woman that won't you look at her and you can't even get up? True beauty is not everything but balance is necessary...unless you are planning on stopping having sex at 30, cause thats the age the decline begins, you need someone you find attractive and someone you can be with in a mental way

[@OGFitzRoy]

@@youtubeaddicted8215 30 is when it declines? Who ever told u that lie don't get none. 30's is when it gets better!

[@drinkwatereatmelons7048]

Damn 30! No wonder the world is maaaad🤣

[@TheRealBrook1968]

@@OGFitzRoy You are correct. Leave the drama of girls in their 20s behind. Women begin to ripen in their 30s and become more sweet.

[@TheRealBrook1968]

@@youtubeaddicted8215 I don't mean "So I am telling you..." I mean what I said.

[@borussiagermania7428]

As a 20 year old, hearing all this complaining about the dating game from the generation above me makes me think that there is 0% hope of relationships for Generation Z in the future. 😬

[@Gray-soul_81]

Work on you career. Don't be afraid of blue collar work. There are blue collar jobs that pay well. Heavy machine operators can make bank. Trade schools are good. College is a scam unless you are in STEM (Science, technology, engineering, and mathematics). And even then, watch out for the required gender studies or other BS classes. Just do the work and disregard the brain washing. Whatever you do, wrap that shit up, B! Don't have a kid out of wedlock. And finally, keep in shape. Don't get fat or if you are, fix yourself. It won't be easy, but if you do those 3 things and you should be ok. GL young sir.

[@redwhites3651]

wassup

[@Ha-fy6zv]

@@Gray-soul_81 your points about blue collar work and how worthless college can be are sound. But the fact that you think there’s “brainwashing” that happens at university makes you sound ignorant and proud. University teaches you “how” to think, not “what” to think. It isn’t religion or some shitty mlm cult. People often change their opinions after learning how to critically think, it’s not brainwashing.

[@amanhasnobody3415]

Why do you think we are called Gen Z? 😂😂😂

[@TheAcad3mic]

Do yourself a MASSIVE favour young blood... Stay off social media. Stay off dating apps. Focus on your work and the real things you're doing with your life and if you aren't doing that shit then start doing it. The right people will find themselves in your life but you have to take the correct action. And spending all your energy on mickey mouse online bullshit is not the way forward.

[@So_Oneal]

On the next episode of Derrick " cognitive dissonance" Jax ....

[@ghariiscool]

I wish he would go away

[@ChimObiajulu]

Actually sometimes I have to remind myself he doesn't have psychiatric problems with the way his cognitive dissonance is so pronounced.

[@benreilly5951]

Lmfao.

[@JiggyMiggytv]

🤣 nice

[@MissKhrissy]

It's the Elephant Man "Signal Di Plane" for me! I never laughed so hard💀😂😂

[@emanate0]

if a girl has really long nails, thats an automatic pass for me

[@capo4ever334]

My little guy swiped left for me

[@emanate0]

@I R if they can cook with em they're probably an alien

[@Layah-ht1qb]

@I R you get use to it after a while. They get snarky because people especially other women, often ask that in a degrading and judgy way.

[@navonmyhand7999]

They always remind me of Lady Deathstrike in X2 (the second X-Men movie).

[@lb1181]

Agreed. There’s a certain kind of female that gets those kind of nails and it’s a immediate red flag for me. Also, they’re just ugly.

[@lswanson22]

It's simple: Men don't care about the things that women think that we should care about.

[@asianmasculinity3811]

@Jack Neet true 💯

[@jonbeingjon]

I don't need her career, I have my own.

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

For me its all about fairness if you can put up with my hobbies i'll put up with yours.

[@trueindeed1569]

Facts

[@aisherwasher6959]

Now I'm curious! What do some of yall care about?

[@alexthompson1156]

that ben shapiro WAP remix f***king slaps

[@middlesys9180]

For the record... I like both of you b/c you speak the truth and have integrity. There's growth in listening to people who can offer a different perspective than your own.

[@BrittanySimon]

I consider myself a career woman but I also wanna have six kids. So, I chose a career I could do from home. I play to my strengths and ultimately, I know my strength is at home. I want a partner who plays to their strengths. I think harmony comes from partnership, building together. Than again, that's what I saw in my parents and they had ten kids ;) Not everyone truly wants that, I see it in my work all the time, people who date so they're not alone, not because they want a real partnership.

[@adio8824]

There's something nice about hearing you saying you want 6 kids. Good for you really

[@agathachris9722]

I'm a career woman as well until I have children then I will be a stay at home mom. A job is a means to an end for me. I

[@GoldenBoyDims]

6 children godamn I kinda pity the man that has to deal with that workload it just seems like way too much

[@frankenbeans9346]

@@adio8824 right? Sometimes I feel like a weird dude when I say the LEAST amount of Kids I want are 3. Most women I meet either want one or none and I definitely wanna be fruitful.

[@frankenbeans9346]

@@GoldenBoyDims It's a lot of work for people not prepared. As long as their physically and mentally healthy it shouldn't be harder than anything in life honestly

[@AmaraARW]

Derrick Jaxn never fails to find a way to make men the bad guy lmao.

[@adsmith364]

I'm like who tagged this SIMP? He always turn the tables when that wasn't even the subject.

[@-sdot83]

@@adsmith364 simp simp hooray

[@thundacat9378]

"Say goodbye,.. To tha bad guy... You aint go ever see anotha bad guy like this again"... Tony Montana

[@kamarimcneal5475]

To make a long story short. A man who wants a trophy wife is no different from a woman who's gold digging. Us men needa start being more honest abt tht. Issa revolving door.

[@StageInTheSkyCreations]

define trophy wife? Because what you say "sounds right"...but given the context of this video, it's meaning appears to be misused.

[@mbloom2275]

@@StageInTheSkyCreations I'd like to understand what he means by "trophy wife" as well.

[@gbaby19881]

I can already tell his definition for trophy wife is totally off just from the clues in the message... 🤦🏾‍♂️people that value trophy wives are men with alot of money not regular 6 figure men ! Above and beyond... they get to choose some one that does absolutely nothing for him but compliment him physically... don't cook or can't cook well... clean they have maids ... house keeping etc etc... and this ain't part of this conversation... you can't gold dig on something that brings just beauty smfh ... she contributes nothing but a appearance...

[@mbloom2275]

@@gbaby19881 For some men that's all that's required. Everyone isn't necessarily seeking someone that cooks and cleans.

[@user-us7py1cy2k]

@@gbaby19881 huh

[@thokozanimkhize7617]

"signal di plane" sent me home to glory 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣☠️

[@blinkybill2198]

The problem is 6 figure men dont care how much she makes, they will still consider lower income women if they provide him other categories hes looking for. The other side if the 6 figure coin is that women earning 6 figures dont want a man esrning less.

[@browndotflop]

Not true - I’m one example. I don’t care what he does or what he makes.

[@purplelove3666]

No woman wants a man that makes less than her.if you want a family in the future then you have to make more money.because trees wont give. Birth for you.the woman will and if you think pregnancy and labour is a walk in the park.think again

[@dorianfrancis2948]

@@browndotflop your one of the few

[@dorianfrancis2948]

@@browndotflop and I would thiiink you cared a little bit. You don’t wanna date nobody broke. I know u don’t.

[@ricardoh87]

it doesn't matter how much she makes, because in the end he's going to have to pick up the slack when she gets pregnant, or just when she feels like not working

[@CeeZee001]

I feel Aba on the nail thing. That is MAD unattractive, i don't even know where that beauty standard originated from.

[@TallicaMan1986]

I also noticed a vast majority of the ones I've seen with those nails ar single.

[@commissarkitty3553]

Nails can be attractive, claws fucking aren't.

[@_thea8099]

Demons in hell.

[@KeraJaay]

Africa actually.

[@rebeccaclement32]

I would assume because women like the aesthetic?

[@IHEIROI]

Typically, women with nails like that tend to be the loudest and most annoying type of women. So yes, I hate nails like that.

[@IHEIROI]

I dont use social media other than KZbin, however you're right, not all will be like that. It's just been my experience in person. I'm glad you have found one that broke that mould sir.

[@mommyharris1111]

I’m 100% natural. No fake nails, no fake attitude, and I love being a nurturing person. You gotta love yourself before anyone can love you! Love your content!

[@JustMeVanessa]

Love this comment ❤️

[@edwincaraballo2414]

Only problem i got is that theres woman that they want a long christmas list in a man and cant meet step 1 in basic shit. Then if you say they bring nothing they wanna claw you with them long nails 😂

[@lyrehcb8156]

Pro tip: put Vaseline on your face before you give your opposing opinion to a woman like that 😩😂😂

[@mysticstrikeforce5957]

Yha cause those long nails hurts like a MF i mean even by accident it will leave you a mark. I know it happen to me a few times specially during weddings and such were the girl and i accidently walk past and i ended up having her long nails touch my arm and actually left a scratch mark.

[@purplelove3666]

Dont men have a long list for women too?

[@dithaingampanmei]

@@ashleycabrera24 you'd be surprised

[@beekeeper2036]

@@lyrehcb8156 😂😂😭😭😭😭

[@TheCinderellaPrincess]

At 19, a 26 yr old guy that was a manager of a beauty company was really into me. I asked, "Why? I don't have anything yet." But that didn't matter to him, he was attracted to the person I was instead of materials I gained. Both men and women value character, but in different ways. For women, we look for integrity, strength, and respectability. For men, they look for peacefulness, kindness and thoughtfulness. Overall, we look at the same categories in different sections.

[@TheCinderellaPrincess]

@mark espinoza Actually, he was looking for a wife, it was kinda long distance and I'm waiting for marriage. So, I don't think it's just because he wanted to smash. We were talking for months btw.

[@Redboi-sp6pi]

Nah women look for financial stability value and unrealistic sexual expectations from dudes💯

[@changeyourways9792]

@@TheCinderellaPrincess Yep same thing happened to me, 21. I usually view it as a red flag because he wanted someone he could control. Unfortunately for him, I may look like that but i am far from the image he conjured up in head. It’s long distance as well and I let him know I am not interested in that way after he sent video to me on how feminism is ruining women of today. Nothing wrong with looking for a traditional woman, but look elsewhere.

[@Islandkid679]

About the peacefulness, kindness and thoughtfulness... those are qualities that will hook onto a man's mind aside from superficial looks or wealth...a man might be attracted to a woman with those qualities at a shallow level, but it's always the warmth that makes you think of someone at odd hours of the day, in wonder and sometimes longing.

[@kristoffsouffront1638]

Nasty

[@PenelopeSnowe]

Missed opportunity for “Simpire Strikes Back”

[@amandaredeagle9572]

Touché

[@Ike1129]

Brilliant! 💪🏾

[@meatballsandwich5329]

Y’all arent giving her enough credit because of how she speaks, y’all judged her the moment you saw her.

[@latt.qcd9221]

Women doing traditionally masculine things like careers and making lots of money, as much as they struggle, still have an easier time finding men than men doing traditionally feminine things like being a stay-at-home parent and being provided for.

[@joyandpeacefullaughter5307]

True, but I've never heard a man say he dreamt of being a stay-at-home dad. Even the lazy men who have girlfriends providing for them pretend to have something doing as a smoke screen.

[@latt.qcd9221]

@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 Yup, exactly. Men know that both men and women are still primarily attracted to traditionally masculine and feminine gender roles, but, for whatever reason, there seems to be a large number of women that think that men are into the same things in women as women are into in men, when that's just not true.

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

@@joyandpeacefullaughter5307 this is so true. Even when the woman is the main earner the man still won’t look after the kids, he just seems to want a free ride

[@charnaeyoung9815]

@@Bringon-dw8dx This! As a woman, I want to be a mom. I want to take care of my child that I carried for 9 months, have to breast-feed, and nurture. But I know that the house-hold needs money. And this is the dilemma that women face. We are supposed to have a hormonal nurturing connection that takes care of the needs of the child because they need constant attention but this clashes with the fact that the house-hold may lack the finances. So we become career women to make sure that we aren’t just depending on the husband’s salary. Because anything can happen. Women just don’t want to be left the vulnerable beings that we are. Because you don’t just pop out a child and go to work the next day. Not speaking for ALL career women, just the ones who feel the way that I do. You want to make sure your child has everything that they need but you also have to accept the fact that to have the time to nurture them in their early years, you have to miss out on work. Hence, finding a man who makes more than you or working yourself to death to save up money. Men can also be stay at home fathers but I’ve seen plenty of men who just don’t have the nurturing capabilities, attentiveness, and sensitivity. So you have to be careful forcing a motherly role on your husband. Just isn’t a dependable idea. So many worries.

[@butterflymage5623]

@@Bringon-dw8dx 😂 yeah that’s not what she was trying to say.

[@Jorary209]

"Yeah they don't like you cause you dry. They don't like me cause *sighs* I go out with a Whyte Ladehh" This shit had my abs doing a workout 🤣

[@todoldtrafford]

Men are attracted to the woman herself not her status, degree, job, or ability to provide.

[@cooper5324]

True! That other shit is like winning the lottery, but only if you have that attraction in the first place.

[@robe8607]

Funny how that somehow gets misrepresented as some toxic masculinity thing.

[@Starfire10982]

🤔 That’s interesting considering some conflicting ideas about this in past comment sections.

[@cooper5324]

@@Starfire10982 there’s just a bunch of bitter bitch incels that watch this channel.

I have the perfect example of when men will drop the _"Oooh!"_ When I first met my ex, obviously friends were curious about her. She's an impressive woman, a professor of English and linguistics, she has two Ph.D.'s... and she still has, and fits into, her catholic schoolgirl uniform (Oooh!). ;-)

[@mgancarzjr]

"I want a man of this caliber or with these values." Then go find such a man and ask him out. When you can't find such a man or are rejected, keep looking and/or lower your standards. Every young guy is told to lower his standards at some point.

[@SVTDI]

Everyone has high standards, then they get rejected and either stay single or have to lower the bar.

[@stalwartnerd]

@@SVTDI I started with low standards, now have no standards and am still single. Im not fixin to be some incel cuz of it but sometimes it doesnt matter how low your standards are.

[@og_szzl6627]

​@@stalwartnerd keep looking..problem is your already giving up or take time to better yourself

[@stalwartnerd]

@@og_szzl6627 Well, yes Im already giving up, at this point I think that it would be selfish of me to try to enact any fantasy of a romance in my life. Some people just arent meant to have romantic relationships. I'm not bitter about it, just resigned. I was just sharing how in my experiance sometimes for certain people it will not matter how low your standards are, it may never happen. I just do my best to fill in that gap in my life with cheesy fiction. I do hope that you have had, or will have a better experiance at it than me.

[@SVTDI]

@@stalwartnerd That is also true, cause the other person also have standards weather low or high they are, and unfortunatly some people have too big standards

[@simonettegiselle2655]

Yoooo.... When Preach hit the damn “signal da plane song” screaming laughing, I Have literal tears coming out my eyes 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@tanyabrown2732]

Loooorrdd I did too

[@austins.1102]

Men & women have different preferences🤯🤯😱😱?!? Mind blown. Also, I was expecting the return of Derrick “Darth Simper” Jaxn but I didn’t expect to see B. “The human Beats Pill Bluetooth speaker” Simone

[@kwilliams8440]

🤣🤣🤣 Human Beats pill speaker...

[@iXperienceIII]

LMAO💀💀💀💀

[@garthyahudahandrews8504]

Darth simper 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@bmgfrosty7089]

She right though why you gotta come at her? 😂

[@iXperienceIII]

BMG Frosty! Because she is LOUD and obnoxious most of the time 😂

[@bijouhamtaro3064]

I honestly love her energy lol. I think it's good to have flamboyant people in this world because they bring variety.