Why Feminism Will Fail You | Ep 219

[@princesscake70]

I am a housewife with a Masters degree. I found my happiness in being home, supporting my husbands career and being the manager of the house, but the cost has been constant put downs and condescension, judgement that Im somehow not living right. But I wouldn't trade this for anything. I am free. My boss is in love with me.

[@raymarchetta7551]

H Trus God bless you ma'am! You are raising your kids right! This country needs more of you

[@eurekahope5310]

Sadly, the perception that women who care for their children full time are incapable or lack ambition is pervasive. My honors and AP peers are doctors, lawyers, principals, and career politicians. I gave up my profession to raise a quiver full of children. I have never been more content! God bless you and your family.

[@etaylor8028]

Right but I think the argument for feminism is that you have the choice to do that. It's not about forcing women to not be housewives. Being a housewife (if that is your choice) is actually a luxury - many families can't afford it.

[@princesscake70]

@@etaylor8028 For us, that's not true. It cost us more money to have me work...because of commuting costs. And we've had to sacrifice things for me not to work too.

[@etaylor8028]

​@@princesscake70 So for you to have a job would lose you money because the cost to even get to work in the first place would be more than your salary? Even if you are working minimum wage that can't be right.

[@katerinavalchevaa]

Ohhh girl, you are on fire..! As an ex feminist and atheist, I absolutely back up in every single thing you say. Just love it! I hope and pray that many young girls and every woman will open their eyes. That most of this, we did it ourselves. It's easy to blame someone else, not taking responsibility, but we have to. God bless you sister 🙌🏻

[@csouza926]

Amen

[@sienna2379]

I'm so glad you're saying what no one else will! Women do play a role in sexism. Men didn't force women to wear corsets that made their ribs fuse in the middle. That was other women.

[@AngelineProductions]

Corsets didn’t do that at all. Corsets were simply precursors to the modern bra; they were necessary to keep everything in place. Educate yourself on a topic before speaking against it.

[@crafterman2345]

as I man I can tell you that men do not care what kind of bodies women have. We have our preferences but different men prefer different things.

[@csouza926]

True

[@callme_JayJay]

"Feminism is about pointing out problems - some are real, some are perceived - and offering stupid solutions to them. That is what feminism is!" This should be pasted somewhere in the Oval Office. I love you Allie!

[@sancurioso711]

Femininity is under attack these days

[@NBLOOD1990]

Which it should be

[@belzebubs4268]

Even from the gender that started it itself, it's disgusting.

[@belzebubs4268]

@@NBLOOD1990 shut up

[@amberc.2840]

This was fantastic. I am so glad you are speaking the truth about feminism. // When I was in college I wrote a paper in which I gave solid reasons why one character was the cause of another character’s death. Both were female characters. My feminist professor wrote a huge red “F” on my paper and wrote, “A woman can never be the cause of another woman’s destruction.” She made me rewrite the paper from a different angle. -- Funny thing, I turned in that same paper as my senior thesis, and I made an “A.”😁 // That was my first distaste and distrust of feminism.

[@marcoz6023]

That's a pretty ironic claim that your feminist professor makes.... considering she was the one who failed your essay and in a way "caused your (academic) destruction"...

[@sonnymp1337]

WTF

[@abeautifulmoment2714]

I really liked that you included some of the struggles that women face. Too often conservatives just say that those things dont happen, and we lose so much credibility when we deny that reality.

[@hopelovegood8131]

yesss!!! I completely agree!!

[@amylorraine9113]

Since the time he beguiled Eve in the garden, Satan has used clever tactics to separate men from women. And he’s still using the same old trick. Feminism is just another fruit that he’s dangling.

[@Concetta20]

Ooo, very true point there.

[@shanek6800]

KZbin decides to play a Bernie ad to start this podcast. Those targeted demographic algorithms of theirs are working swimmingly. LOL

[@chloehey1858]

I think it's hilarious when that happens

[@BA-yt4wp]

Almost all of my ads are for the democratic candidates when nearly all of the content I watch is conservative in nature.

[@faymikiska7519]

Women drive the standards of beauty, not men.

[@emmarose6590]

I Disagree. Sure it takes women embracing to drive standards, but ultimately it comes down to men looking outward too much. It’s both men and women’s faults

[@faymikiska7519]

@@emmarose6590 please allow me to explain further ... on a biological level, women compete with one other to attract the highest value male in their sphere ...women drive all the markets that purvey supplies to meet the women's perceived beauty standards ...the high valued man is the prize, not the problem as evidenced by the statistical fact that 85% of consumer spending is done women. Men are focused on the two things that only women hold the key: a reliable source of consensual sex and a healthy mother to have and raise his children. Men are not that complicated.

[@faymikiska7519]

@@emmarose6590 with respect, what evidence do you have that proves what men see outwardly? Do you believe that men and women perceive the feminine form and beauty with similar standards?

[@emmarose6590]

@@faymikiska7519 men will continually pursue women with more beauty. Bottom line, so women continue to pursue ways to become more beautiful. It’s sin. It’s looking purely outward. It’s an “in the moment” mentality by both.

[@emmarose6590]

@@faymikiska7519 and please don’t ask me what evidence I have that men are outwardly. Honestly you saying that is ignorant and frankly condescending 🙄

[@aquariusshade]

No man can do as much damage to women than women do to each other. That being said, thank you, Allie, for bringing up the Christian side of 'feminism' because sometimes it comes off to me that it's a 'different side, same coin' to secular feminism.

[@abeautifulmoment2714]

I dont think that's true. It's both. Men absolutely hurt women in astronomical ways (look at Islam for an example) and that is just as damaging as radical feminism.

[@youssef-nq6il]

@@abeautifulmoment2714 give me reasons why Islam is a damage to women?

[@kross2143]

@@youssef-nq6il FGM for one. Check out some Ayaan Hirsi Ali videos.

[@gwdavey]

I don’t know how this channel popped up in my KZbin feed, but I am so glad I came across it. I used to be an agnostic and rabid feminist. Then, 1) things went way too far left and 2) I became a Christian. I’m grateful for this voice. I admire your willingness to speak up. God bless.

[@Xandy2dandY]

Gurrrrrl, you are on 🔥🔥🔥🔥 TAH-DAY!!! PHEWWWW. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@smashandcreate]

What a great message! Thank you so much for all the work you do!

[@ritawahn6934]

There is absolutely still a stigma about being a stay-at-home-mom, be prepared to be called anything from "too stupid to work" to "being your husbands personal prostitute" and it's sad that so many angry women will put you down for prioritizing your family

[@lydiah317]

Rita Wahn even fellow family members-I’ve heard several times that I’m wasting my abilities.🙄

[@airgin3000]

Just tell them: Well your too stupid TO HAVE TO WORK outside the home Second insult: If I am my husbands personal prostitute - you are EVERYONE's prostitute.

[@smithpartyof6]

YES to the line about women’s conferences. They so so often focus on our insecurity holding us back instead of our sin 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@karricompton]

There’s a reason God made male and female different and to complement each other. It’s sad so many have bought into the error that women have to either prove women are like men, or be so over sexualized that men fall all over them.

[@raymarchetta7551]

Karri Compton When Women try to prove they are like men, they start acting like men. Not sexy.

[@karricompton]

That’s why I said either. They err on one side or the other of the spectrum. I’m sure Shakira and J. Lo think they are empowering women (feminism) by their lewd dancing at Super Bowl halftime. And there’s nothing masculine about them.

[@CultrCnnundrm]

Allie needs to release a curriculum and host/start a women’s conference that touches in these points!!!! This episode is amazing!!!!

[@chloehey1858]

I wouldn't be surprised if she did!

[@blanca2721]

John Lee yuck!! No! As an educated women not identified as a feminist.. her perpetual spread of biblical propaganda is so disheartening and makes me so sad...

[@hdwarrior8830]

I grew up in the 80's we all wanted to look like Madonna. I pulled it off, but as I got older I developed a weight problem. I bought a tee shirt that said "by the time I am thin fat will be in" lol Now I have a condition that causes me to have trouble gaining weight. I feel SO out of place with my tiny little butt! rofl Beauty standards change constantly. I always seem to be rocking long hair when the styles are short or vice versa. I learned to just do my own thing and make myself happy. Which in my world means making God happy. I stopped wearing makeup, stopped cutting my hair short and stopped dying my hair. I do wear make up on special occasions, but I busted out of that Southern woman mindset that you don't even go to the mailbox unless you are made up and properly dressed. Who am I trying to please? I please myself, which pleases my husband. He doesn't have to hear about my every insecurity, because I know I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and like everyone else, I have flaws. Being beautiful means living as Jesus commanded. Loving.

[@shaug2003]

Please please make a video helping young women (like myself) how to answer when someone asks if we’re feminists and why we’re not. I know why I’m not but I don’t know how I would react when they enter a full on debate 😪 Thanks for sharing your opinion and intelect❤️ Role model 🙌🏽

[@ClaritySinger]

Allie, you speak the truth with both compassion and conviction! You often give voice to my own observations and concerns going on in our culture and the shifts happening within the church. I appreciate you! BTW, my life turned out to be everything my teen self never wanted: I "wasted" my education, never finished my masters, got married young, birthed and raised half a dozen kids, volunteered (meaning didn't make $$), and now at almost 50, I wouldn't trade it for the world. I applaud my sisters in the various fields God has called them to, but I've long learned to not measure success/beauty/value by the world's standards.

[@Kdoy-gq7gm]

Allie! I love you. Seriously I’m fangirling as a fellow Christian (Catholic) around the same age I love that I can relate and listen to someone project the thoughts and words that I can’t always get out! You’re awesome

[@GratiaPrima_]

Kris D same 😊

[@MrsTurtlemommy]

I’m a Catholic mom in my 40s and have a 19 year old daughter. We both needed to hear this. Allie has spoken to a multitude of generations!

[@lynm474]

Low rise jeans are back 🤣🤣🤣let's revolt!!! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

[@morgangarcia977]

I feel so blessed to have found this podcast, Allie. You are uniquely gifted in articulating my thoughts and feelings and therefore, watching your videos helps me communicate those thoughts with others. Thank you for all the work you do and know I am praying for you!

[@BA-yt4wp]

As a middle-schooler around the time you were born, we also had near-impossible standards for "beauty". And constant pressure to achieve it. Back then, we looked to the supermodels of the time, including Kate Moss. I knew girls with anorexia and bulimia, trying to live up to those expectations. It doesn't matter whether a man or woman first decided what was hot, women have played just as big a role in proliferating those expectations. Same goes for how we should live our lives.

[@victorxavier777]

Very thoughtful message Allie, you really spoke all the flaws in the movement and showed the way of the Gospel to confront every movement that rises that is against God's standard. Your messages are very rare nowadays and i really appreciate your views that you have biblical lens of seeing every issue. So much grateful for all your messages! Victor from India! God Bless!!

[@YourJamaicanArchitect]

This vid was quite solid. Again - don't agree with everything said by Ms. Stuckey, but there were some solid points made. Re the Cynthia Nixon video, a recitation of a blog entry written by Camille Rainville in 2017 titled “Be a lady, they said” - it achieved the goal. Which was, to make people aware of the mixed messages women receive - daily. How? By stating what to many women are the obvious issues we face as women. Why? Because some persons (mainly men) have no idea the numerous conflicting messages our gender encounters every. single. day. It is true also, that as women, we prey on other women. We can be unnecessarily combative and unsupportive. Whether Feminism is "incompetent to fix it", it being the challenges we face as women - that depends on where the "Feminism" comes from. The source of incorruptible Feminism is found in the bible. There are multiple scenarios where, God established rules - to protect women who were rejected (Tamar and Judah in Genesis 38) or physically hurt (Genesis 22:28-29); to continue lineage through owning property (Numbers 27 & Joshua 17), to lead/rule (Judges 4&5) and we could go on. All of the above are Feminist ideals - all based on establishing equity and worth. On the abortion issue - the challenge here (I think) has always been the justification for it. There are too many stories of persons who have had to chose to abort - or die. And those cases are heartbreaking. However, in the United States, since abortion isn't classified based on reason (meaning, there's no definition for a medically required abortion vs. simply a late-term abortion), there are persons who are caught in this political tussle - who are also shamed by well-meaning right supporters, who really, are ignorant of the facts. Here are a few stories related to this - slate.com/technology/2019/02/late-term-abortion-support-group-lessons-trust-myself-women.html www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2020/10/11/abortion-miscarriage-pro-life-choice-widow-column/5909096002/ There is also more to being pro-life, that goes beyond being pro-birth as Shannon Dingle a former Republican voter pointed out in this article - www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2018/11/05/republican-pro-life-health-care-family-support-column/1837701002/?fbclid=IwAR3pLLi-szBzLasdLc_kF82OgNQeLDzIx1NvZ9YNipwSgZoed-a1g5Bcckk There is much more to say on this topic, but I'll stop here for now :D . Blessings -

[@funkeybabe1]

One word: amazing!!!! So well said Allie! Thank you!

[@TabithaDavis]

When you got to the sin vs self esteem thing you made holler! Preach sister! When you stop caring about what the world tells you you should be it stops affecting you. ❤ Also, women are mainly the ones putting these standards on each other.

[@amybrock1701]

Wow, your point about women's conferences and Bible studies is a personal pet peeve of mine. I have been leading women's Bible studies in our church and have been very conscientious about them all being IN THE BIBLE. We have worked through about 10 books of the Bible together. I was recently not feeling well and so we did a video study lead by a popular women's bible study teacher. There was definitely truth shared, but you are right, the primary message was about how amazing women are. :P

[@futuretech2330]

can you do a book review of the self-help book by rachel hollis, "girl wash your face." this book is being promoted at bookstores and even christian churches, yet it seems to be very self-centered and not so much God centered. i'd love to hear your thoughts on rachel hollis and her message because a lot of women are being influenced by her.

[@stephanyhughes6528]

I agree

[@kelechi3126]

I hear what you’re saying about the matriarchy but again that’s a consequence of society. Women are raised to see each other as competition for the male gaze and that itself exploded into what’s more called the “beauty industry” but you take a closer look at said industry the women supposedly in power are actually doing what it took for them to get a leg up and that may not align with your values (them don’t follow their example - also it’s not really their job to raise other people’s kids so that what about the children response won’t work either). Those industries are headlined and owned by a men. Mostly men sit on the boards of beauty magazines. Mostly men are owners of beauty corporations. Yes a woman is the face but a man’s the puppeteer. The point of feminism is that it should work for you however you want it to. Whatever you’re reading into it is on you. Yes there are radical feminist and yes allot of them take it to far... but for every argument there are radical opposites. Should we dismiss an entire movement created to make life easier for you and women in less fortunate situations because of the extremists ? If that’s the rule boy do i have done bad news for you about religion

[@airgin3000]

Beautiful video And so true!

[@keiajohn]

Preach girl! You hit every nail on the head!

[@robertharper1181]

We love you Allie! Keep delivering the goods(news) ; )

[@dugnalic1]

You saved my life Allie. Thank You; Keep doing what you do. God Bless you.

[@skepticat1581]

I don’t think one needs to be religious to oppose third wave feminism and to embrace gender roles as biology proves time and time again the inherent differences in women and men. I’m an atheist and in full agreement with your views in this video. (Other than religious ones)

[@stephanieharris3808]

Thank you, Allie for your boldness!! I’m so encouraged by you!

[@pahakuutti]

Feminism prevents long term relationships from first forming, and then thriving. May not be the biggest one of our problems, but its not a small one. For a society it *is* the biggest problem we face now since the replacement birth rate is not met. In my country we are at 1,2 babies/women currently.

[@emmarose6590]

It’s weird because as I Christian, I disagree with 3rd wave feminism, but as a single women who works and is unmarried, I can also see how non-believing women would embrace 3rd wave feminism. Additionally, I’m grateful for the women who came before me, I fear we didn’t have the feminist movements of the past, I as many other women, including our parents generatio, would have been forced into marriages and lives that God didn’t call us to out of society’s expectations. Good episode

[@gramcracker1616]

Thank you, Allie! Here is truth for women that will help them to be happy as well as holy!

[@Maya_Ruinz]

Incredible message, needs to be shouted to the rooftops.

[@alexandrajames9352]

I love you so much Allie!!!! I'm way younger then you but i love listening to your podcast, when i strive to grow into a Godly woman like you :) do you think you can talk about polygamy?? It’s always been really confusing for me. We have the same name btw, and its spelt exactly the same!!

[@tropicalgarden2884]

"feminism eating itself alive" & leaving a bitter aftertaste of hate😭😭 @allie Thank you for the TRUTH❤

[@ruteisabelmendes6706]

You have no idea of much you inspire me. God bless you and your family, sister in Christ.

[@trulygrateful7217]

Allie I love your perspective on a lot of these issues. It’s refreshing to hear conservative Christians!

[@2424hvl]

I am not able to have children, and so I am have maintained my career. I think you make some wonderful points, but I must disagree with the premise that women often choose to become aggressive (b*tchy). I just have not seen that, even in the world of finance. Most are still pretty sweet, and sometimes get overlooked because of that. Just my .02:)

[@sarahb2874]

So good Allie. Looking forward to your book even more now!

[@midi510]

I absolutely hate the image of what most guys think is attractive, especially makeup. I'm all for someone's right to use it, I just can't stand it. I think woman is by far the most amazing and beautiful of all God's creations. It boggles my mind how affected I am by the image or presence of a woman. I see at least some beauty in all women, a lot of beauty in most women, and an extraordinary amount of beauty in a lot of women. I'm all for (preferably natural) skin and health care products, but please don't cover up what God made. Disclaimer: I think there is a place for makeup in theater, costume, or special cases like a deformity or severe acne, etc.

[@MichaelLantz]

Why are conservative women so pretty?

[@MsKaykay819]

🤮🤢

[@heaven9378]

On fire today Allie...what you said about christian women conference s is so true...its always insecurity not sin that holds us back at these conferences

[@leefray973]

I think a big issue people have with SAHMs is that they don’t acknowledge how privileged they are and call it “prioritizing their family”. It’s so expensive in today’s economy that most women/moms have to work. So the fact that they literally don’t have to be employed to earn a living is such a freaking privilege. Yet all they do is complain about having to do basic household chores that ALL adults do everyday after they get off work. They want to call it a “job” they are going to the park and hanging out at Chuck Fil A for hours. Like sorry working people have to squeeze in a 20-30 minute lunch you aren’t working. I’m not hating on SAHMs by an means I just wish they would acknowledge how freaking lucky that are that someone else is supporting them to live and eat!!

[@iceprincess2134]

I think the privilege comment is a bit unfair as there are actually a lot of SAHMs from low-income households (would've been lower-middle if she worked). Aside from the fact that there are many that started doing it because daycare literally costs as much if not more than their potential income, many make it work by sacrificing a lot of things that are considered a given today. They only have one car, no smart phones, no tv, no streaming, small home with room sharing, don't eat out, make everything more scratch, coupon, no new and/or hand-made clothes, etc.

[@leefray973]

Ice Princess the average cost of daycare per month is around $800-1000. If a woman can’t find a job that makes more then that a month that would mean she’s very low skill and can’t even get a job at McDonald’s.

[@iceprincess2134]

@@leefray973 Lee Fray That would be the cost for just one child and you didn't factor in concurrent costs such as a car. At even the low end for daycare for one child, if you earn at or around minimum wage (40 hr/week) and have a car (which will also require registration, insurance, gas, maintenance, possibly repairs and personal property taxes) that's not paid off you are still at or near a net zero. Many consider a possible $1000/year to have someone else raise their kids not worth it. Also, there are many reasons other than low skills that a woman may not be able to earn a lot. She may be young, there aren't better jobs in the area or they don't have enough hours available, or she has health problems making it so she can't be on her feet all day or do manually intensive jobs all day. Either way, I fail to see how a woman not having a lot of earning potential undermines my point. Young families can and do choose, in advance, to forego going to university/getting a job and having unecessary things in order for the woman to stay home all the time.

[@andikrstic3561]

I would assume some might be "privileged", but some choose children over other things. I have always kept my foot in the door with a job, but since having kids have worked less than I'm home with my kids because that was my goal. I put all my wants on a back burner. I cut my hair once a year, honestly didn't buy any non-work related clothes for 6 years. Only bought work shoes. When I say that I mean, I bought one pair of tennis shoes every year or 2, I pair of walmart scrubs every year. We did not eat out, we did not go on vacation, we did not have nice cars, etc. Sometimes women sacrifice wants because to them being home with kids was more important to us. I also don't know where you can find daycare that cheap. Most here is $500 a week and that's for one kid. I didn't see the point in having kids, if I wasn't going to spend time with them, not to say it isn't different to someone else, my personal reasons. That being said, I don't think that women working at a business or home has to explain themselves to anyone or deserve to be called names for their own private choices.

[@gabriellekelly3462]

I worked for 13 years as a business manager. My husband & I worked together to pay off 79k in consumer debt in 30 months for me to be able to stay home. We lived off of half our income to become debt free and as practice for living off of one income. That wasn't privilege, that was hard work & sacrifice. We are a blended family and have 7 kids. I've never seen the inside of chick fil a. We still sacrifice. I cut my kids hair, I cook all of our meals. We don't go on family vacations. I don't get my hair or nails done anymore. I drive an hour (one way) to shop at an Aldi's to save money. We drive older cars

[@nikavidetic4529]

100% spot on

[@preferablystephen480]

@AllieStuckey: When pastors preach on Ephesians 5:22-32 (Wives and Husbands), most seem to spend 90% of the sermon challenging men to be more like Christ and to love their wives as Christ loved the church. When this passage is taught, do you feel challenged as a woman? Do you believe women are challenged just as much as men are throughout these sermons? What has been your experience? Thoughts?

[@My_Master_Waves]

One movie star or celeb does it and then other woman want it and then there's a lot of woman doing the same thing, as time goes men look at it get used to it and now if woman does have or does not do this or that thing it's weird to men and to woman themselves too, so now they have to follow it even if they don't want it. A lot of things you are talking about are 100% true and I lived long enough to see these standards come and go and who was promoting these ideas.

[@yelenaseattle]

Love your channel! Thank you❤️❤️❤️

[@alfredjohnson2647]

The level of griping in music these days is a bit like that Bill Bailey joke... You picked me up from school You attended all my sporting functions You bought me a car Gave me use of a credit card But how can I feel pain (x3) ...when you're being so supportive?

[@midi510]

Hip-huggers completely destroy the classic hour glass lines of a woman's figure.

[@kelechi3126]

Here i thought feminism was about you as a woman having as much right as a man to choose the path you wanted and as much opportunity as a man to succeed in said path... thanks for the enlightenment?

[@WJFK480]

I've always known I was a sinner, but I was raised Catholic.

[@Cheesyenchilady]

Beautifully said Allie. Great job

[@tonifelise6297]

I hate to break it to you but single women need to earn a living too. Not all women are married, i came up in the Reagan 1980s when women were nothing but slaves, thats what there are talking about, men were paid something like 10 to 30 times what women were paid . It didn't change until after the millennium. Which meant the first 20 years of my working life I could not support myself without a man, I HAD TO BE MARRIED. whether I was in love with the man or not. Thats what feminism is about.

[@amberjanesmith6771]

Women wasn't slaves in the 80's

[@theselittlepigsstayedhome]

You’re on fire 🔥 in this video girl. All I can say is Amen!! (Fellow 90s gal also) Keep it up!

[@dana7223]

One of your top five podcast episodes Allie!

[@lauras3002]

I will join you to fend off the demonic forces of low rose jeans! It was horrible!

[@platinumjohncrow719]

Women should have their own career. Less alimony payment

[@etaylor8028]

You're making all valid points here but I think feminism has been misconstrued as misandry, at least in the US. You're right that just attacking men for injustices will only further divide people. In the UK it's common knowledge that feminism means gender equality, and you'll rarely find a man there who doesn't openly identify as a feminist. In the States feminism has become a dirty word. I think people like Taylor Swift enjoy having someone to "fight against" so to speak, and they just like to have their own little rebellion. They're not looking to unify. Feminism in its true form has not failed anyone - you wouldn't be able to have your own podcast here on youtube if not for feminism, or if you did your views as a woman wouldn't be taken seriously.

[@1986kimberlyg]

E Taylor if you haven’t already watched videos on it, check out the first vs second vs third wave of feminism. I’d be interested to hear if you think the UK currently operates under the first wave. Like you mentioned, I think a lot of people can find reasons to support the first wave. It’s the second, then the third, that seem to be the issue.

[@colourfulbethany]

I’m in the UK and I agree with Allie’s views on feminism 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@etaylor8028]

@@colourfulbethany Yea and I'm sure I can find a cat somewhere that likes baths. Doesn't mean that cats in general like baths.

[@colourfulbethany]

E Taylor you really think that feminism is any different in the UK than it is in America?

[@katrinapullella6178]

E Taylor I’m in Australia, a consensus-oriented, centre-left society like the UK. I used to think it was strange that many Americans seemed hostile to feminism, but then a)saw the not so nice side of feminism myself and b) realised that Americans aren’t fans of collective, unchosen identities based on gender, race, etc. The culture of Australia and the UK is more equality-oriented, whereas American society is more freedom-oriented. There are pluses and minuses to both, but I think Americans will always have a degree of scepticism towards collectivist identities and movements, because they see the cost of utopia (achieved by equality of outcome) as involving yielding to authoritarians and sacrificing their personal freedoms (and they’re absolutely right).

[@olgareshota8541]

Why stop at feminism?....any ---ism will ALWAYS fail you.

[@therose1277]

A group of good men should make their own response video showing what they ACTUALLY want in a woman, which is probably the opposite of what the feminists think they want.

[@anamarroquin3666]

Thank you Allie! 👏

[@barbdenise5548]

Bring back theology Mondays.

[@gabriellewieczorek2883]

Thank you, Allie!

[@cheryl5667]

Hey, Allie. I would recommend familiarizing yourself with the works of Julie Bindel, Janice Raymond, Germaine Greer, Andrea Dworkin, Catherine MacKinnon, and other truly radical/2nd wave feminists, for nuance on this subject. Many radical feminists reach across the aisle to conservatism and Christianity on like-minded issues.

[@katrinapullella6178]

Cheryl S This is true - they have the same ethical stances on prostitution, pornography and surrogacy. They still demonise traditional femininity, however they’re a million times better than the third and fourth wavers.

[@cheryl5667]

@@katrinapullella6178 Hah. You know you're really right. I know that Ally's spoken about Meghan Murphy since this was published, which was great. We're quite divided on femininity, critical thinking of motherhood and lesbianism, but I still consider myself one of them (2nd wave) as there's still so much work yet to be done from what they started to allow women to be liberated from male violence. Unfortunately many women have seen femininity used against us by men throughout history, like the kind Chesler discusses in Women and Madness, but I yearn to be a traditional mother and wife, and would if I happened to meet a man who does not consume porn and wished to be a good father and husband and wanted to pursue me for the purpose of marriage. Dworkin was married as was Steinem... Posie Parker's quite fabulous, though she' s anti-theistic... I would love to hear more of your thoughts regarding both sides!

[@katrinapullella6178]

Cheryl S Hi Cheryl! Please don’t give up on your dream of finding a strong but sensitive man who shuns porn! I think there are quite a few Christian men who recognise how destructive porn is, and know that it demeans women and distorts everyone’s sexuality. What I’ve found difficult is finding one my age (mid 30s) who’s single. Like you, I would also really love to be a wife and mother. If I found a Christian gentleman who respects women and loves kids, I’d be overjoyed. I tell myself to leave it in God’s hands, and not make an idol out of marriage and motherhood, but life can be pretty lonely sometimes. I just pray. I’ll pray for you too. Hopefully God has a couple of nice good men out there for us! I used to read Greer, Jeffreys, Raymond, Dworkin, Joanna Russ. I still read Julie Bindle’s articles sometimes. I have this theory that most radical feminists would actually be conservative Christian women, were it not for their anger over poor treatment by the men in their lives and leftist grievance culture. I’m actually trying to move away from radical feminism. I still admire the moral courage and principled stand they take against exploitation, I just don’t think radical feminism is a worldview that promotes loving relationships between the sexes. The problem is that once you say gender is at the root of all oppression, then gender-specifically, gendered power dynamics-becomes the lens through which you view all interactions between men and women. And suddenly you start to view all men as oppressors and any woman who’s traditionally feminine as an enabler. Radical feminists are right to point out that many sexual and reproductive practices, often touted as “liberating” women, really just exploit them. But they’re wrong to view the existence of masculinity and femininity as an inequality that needs to be eradicated. That thinking is dangerous; it does men and women no good to believe that an inherent part of how God made them (I see sex and gender as synonyms these days) is in fact a social evil they need to get rid of. All that does is pit men against women, women against women, and create general social confusion. Radical feminism can be a brilliant moral philosophy, and provided some of the meaning I was searching for as a young woman. But it wasn’t enough. It never told me to love those who hate me or bless those who curse me. It never told me that men who oppress women are sinners in need of a Saviour-just like I am. In radical feminism and other leftist ideologies, there’s no forgiveness or redemption. You see oppression and then can find yourself hating the oppressor, denying the humanity of men just as some of them do to women. It doesn’t work! Jesus makes all the difference. There are some issues where radical feminism agrees with Christianity. Radical feminists and conservative Christians could certainly work together to stop things like domestic violence, child exploitation, prostitution, trafficking in women, and educating young people about the lies and harms of porn. We agree on those things. But Christianity is ultimately a faith, not a moral philosophy, so there will probably always be that tension, in terms of dealing with immorality and oppression, between what each side views as the causes and answers (original sin and prayer versus male power and radically altering society. Both will also be divided on which issues we think the government should take action on, although there’s obviously a few-unambiguous harm to women and children-where we both agree). Cheers for your comment!

[@cheryl5667]

@@katrinapullella6178 I really could not agree more, (particularly regarding Christianity and motherhood being dreams of ours that are hindered due to finding gentlemen who share our views on porn and are compatible with us) and it's wonderful to meet you, Katrina! As I mentioned having worked in a rape shelter and working with underprivileged women, my views on gender aren't necessarily due to it, as I don't believe that it's a social construct, but rather have seen too many instances of male violence that reinforce it and to disbelieve that men are not innately violent and that the only thing that prevents them from proceeding are laws. there is still much work to be done yet within the movement to protect us until Jesus returns. Some instances of extreme violence only in my country of Canada - the motives and levels of which are non-existent amongst women are those of Cory Legebekoff, Paul Bernardo, Marc Lepine, Ryan Love, Robert Pickton, Antoine Naskathy, Matthew Harks, Adam Laboucan, and Gabe Whorton most recently, among many, many more as these are just high profile cases within mainstream media, and countless calls and one-on-one meetings with women fearing their lives at the hands of men in their lives due to the physical and economic power that they more often hold over us. This absolutely does not mean that women should not be held accountable for any unwanted sexual advances or violence we can commit. In a way, saying that women sin equally is like saying that gender isn't real. I'm constantly told by conservatives that 'women are just more nurturing.' which is true. That means that men are more violent as a result. I've met men who are good and strong and masculine, which I hope flourishes much more often. It doesn't mean I'm not a sinner who needs Jesus, called to forgive and love everyone who offends me. As you say that many radical feminists would be conservative Christian housewives, as many of us are heterosexual and desire families but cannot nor should we wait for Jesus' return to feel safe, and rates of femicide and domestic violence in the US only reinforces it. I know that there have been men in your life you could have married but correctly deemed it unwise and dangerous. As women, we all know danger when we feel it, and it's seldom at the hands of other women. I'm not scared of other women when I jog at night or in the evening. I sometimes hear 'men underreport their wives' domestic abuse' (in which they sometimes include 'nagging') but the truth is that if battered husbands shelters had to exist at anywhere near the same rate, men have the resources to build them if necessary. I am in favour of building more homeless shelters in general but would presume that that would be deemed 'socialist'. I would love to pray for you to meet a loving, kind, honest, loyal, supportive partner while being the amazing wife and mother that I know you would be. I will pray that you go on to be happily married with the large family you desire and could PLEASE pray for this to happen for me as well I would appreciate that greatly. I am truly SHOCKED to hear that you have read Dworkin as I have NEVER met anyone else via a Conservative's platform who has. It's a blessing for you to have shared your views with me today.

[@munyumbamutwale2985]

Why has feminism been taken over by a fringe group of Angry Lesbians?

[@munyumbamutwale2985]

"Feminism is not the Christian Man's Biggest Problem" ... You have a point we have also started to overplay that hand.

[@TempleofChristMinistries]

How is it that a woman can abort a baby yet she does not have 100% ownership over the child to do this, because it takes a man also to produce the child, in this, the child is equally owned by man and woman that is, father and mother, why does your law permit a woman to abort a child when the man who impregnated her cannot be found, the law should be that a woman cannot abort a child unless the father of the child has also agree with this, otherwise woman is removing the right of a man concerning the child. Is it not against the law, is it not a sin in itself, not to inform the man that he is the father of the child.

[@TempleofChristMinistries]

@@technoloverish I disagree, just because it is in her body doesn't make it hers in totality, it also makes it the man's, and that's the problem, that woman could be so selfish to think that the father has no ownership over the child. This in itself is sinful. If she has total ownership of the child than the father has no responsibility for the child whatsoever, only the woman is responsible for the child's well-being, and the man is set free from all responsibility.

[@TempleofChristMinistries]

@@technoloverish for what reason do you believe that he should be able to withdraw financial responsibilities, he has no responsibility you just told me this, he is free not to be responsible for the child because he has no ownership of the child, just because it's in her body doesn't make the whole child hers the man's DNA is in the child this makes the child belonging to the man also, only if the child had no DNA of the man and if the child was conceived in the woman by The power of the nature of woman then this makes the child totally hers. However, women cannot conceive a child without a man. You cannot say that woman has the full responsibility to abort the child and then tell me man has responsibilities to support the child you contradict yourself, it makes no sense, if a man has responsibility to the child then he also has responsibility of what happens to the child and that includes aborting the child also. It is written, man and woman be will become one flesh, and this one flesh that they become is the child, they produce it, the one flesh of man and woman within the child you cannot remove this. If you think that woman has responsibility 100% of the child that she can abort the child then what will I say to all men who have impregnated woman and have walked away from them, they should have no shame or guilt in doing so because the child does not belong to them they have no rights you remove their rights completely, this means when man walks away from woman he is not being irresponsible and this means that woman alone is responsible for her child, a man has nothing to do with it.

[@TempleofChristMinistries]

@@technoloverish yes I understand what you're saying and yes it is true many men do probably agree to the child being aborted, but there are many who don't and there are many men who do not even know they have a child because the woman does not tell them, this happens quite a lot, and the law of the land is one thing but what is right is not based on the law of the Land, thank you for your discussion, God bless.

[@michellec3871]

Amen!!!

[@ammcroft]

Mic drop Allie! Well said!

[@fernandovillanueva4952]

What a talk young lady!... I want to tell you now, from my syncretist perception of All Reality, whatever honest perception of God anyone can get, that perception is talking here through you.

[@hstteacher]

Allie - you have actually listed many reasons that those if us who are feminists are feminists. And as a feminist, I do not appreciate your definition of feminism that offers “stupid solutions.” I wish you would be more specific. As an actual feminist, who is quite a bit older than you - here are some actual feminist solutions: let us come up with a better society that is centered in all humans - not just white middle class men - 1) create a society that allows anyone the chance to both work outside the home and at the same time, raise well educated and nurtured children. We need a society that does not force anyone to choose between work or having children - thus there should be good quality childcare, directed by well paid, caring, educated folks that is available to all. Or, anyone could choose to stay home with children. We should also have excellent quality elder care, along the same lines. Thus, folks should know they will never be thrown out into the street, no matter their condition. 2) a feminist vision for society would obviously include healthcare for all. 3) a feminist government would be made up of a diverse group of politicians, who would be committed to democracy and to the health and well being of all our citizens. This means a similar commitment to getting as many citizens involved in voting, attending meetings and participating in government in all levels. Yes, this looks a lot like socialism - a socialism which is committed to all citizens having adequate housing, food, healthcare and education - not everything has to be the same, but none should be left behind. And a democratic socialism. Utopian? You bet - this would be the vision we would constantly strive for. That is the feminist agenda. What is wrong with that? It certainly is not stupid or hateful. As a feminist I do not blame men for everything, nor do I think women are always victims. Please do not generalize. BTW, I grew up Southern Baptist and was “saved” at a Billy Graham crusade. But my faith has evolved and I no longer believe that God had to put his son to death to save a small number of humans. Whether or not there is life after death, our lives here on earth are important and we need to make the lives of all humans better - that is the work we must be dedicated to as humans, no matter our religion. Thank you for your consideration.

[@harrystylesismineha]

"Do you know many happy, fulfilled, radical feminists?" yeah I do lol. heappppps of them. sooo I think maybe you are jsut in an echo chamber over there in the US? kind of found your video redundant after that point, too anecdotal ://

[@kelechi3126]

Also women are held as well to the sane standard- again the point of feminism. Not that women are better but different and EQUAL to men

[@katrinapullella6178]

K E L E C H I That might have been how it started, but these days it seems to me like it’s more about twerking and calling yourself a sl*t and a wh**e, while getting mad at men for degrading you! And not taking personal responsibility for anything and blaming society/men for everything. I don’t see much equality in modern feminism these days.

[@kelechi3126]

Katrina Pullella that’s the point. It shouldn’t matter. You should be respected no matter what you call yourself simply on the basis that you’re a human being. Men have had the same duality for generations, why aren’t women afforded the same luxury?

[@katrinapullella6178]

K E L E C H I I think it’s pretty hard to demand respect from others if you don’t respect yourself, and that this goes for everyone-male or female. Also, it’s not a race to the bottom; having no self respect isn’t a “luxury.” If men are demeaning themselves, why do we have to join them?

[@kelechi3126]

@@katrinapullella6178 my respect for myself will never be tied to the my body image or clothing choices and if yours is then i'm sorry for you

[@katrinapullella6178]

K E L E C H I I never mentioned “body image” or “clothing choices.” I wasn’t talking about skin or sartorial tastes but about behaviours. People are always worthy of respect-behaviours aren’t. A big appeal of Christianity is that it holds men and women to the same behavioural standards. To many feminists, a woman who exposes her vulva in public is empowered, but a man who exposes his penis in public is a flasher and a pervert. A Christian believes both are being sleazy, and that both sexes should perceive and treat ourselves and each other as full human beings, not a set of genitals to be exploited for the other’s lust. Maybe these feminists are trying to “reclaim” power from men. But any power that comes from referring to oneself with degrading epithets or inspiring erections is at best tenuous. And as a Christian I’d question if power’s really a thing to be aiming for at all, as opposed to forgiveness for past oppression, which enables everyone to move forward in *true* equality and freedom. But hey, I’m weird like that.

[@kaylacallender161]

This was legit in hearing Christ centered perspective amidst the darkness. Must share!!

[@krissyjo2577]

😅lol🤣😂👍🥰

[@DentGal83]

Thank you for speaking the truth - our biggest problem is SIN and we need Jesus to make us alive again. Thank you! I’m so sad and tired of the waterless clouds we find in ‘Christian’ women teachers etc...

[@adriana_asi]

Perfect 👌

[@blanca2721]

adriana asi nope.. disgusting.

[@kathycox8066]

Amen!

[@Shelabayy]

I’ve been an avid listener for over a year and I can’t tell if the differences I’m seeing are specific to me and how I’ve changed in that time or with the direction of this channel alone. Seeing you obviously reading, talking about this same topic for the umpteenth time, knowing your book of the same topic is coming soon...just feels disingenuous. ima head out lol

[@colourfulbethany]

Shelby Buchanan ok good bye

[@AllieBethStuckey]

Shelby Buchanan 1) I’m reading what *I* wrote. I do that on some episodes to make sure I get in all that needs to be addressed. 2) I have never addressed this subject this extensively or from this angle. 3) My book isn’t about this at all. So, I’d say it’s def specific to you. Thanks for watching while you did! 👋🏼

[@JoeMedrek]

I love your blogs and style of teaching. But I’m a guy. A lot of your audience are guys too. I hope you get more generic in your videos. Still going to listen though. I’m a subscriber too.

[@patriciagrant6687]

Have mercy on us Lord as women, some of us are being played by the same Satan that played Eve....

[@meganslonesings]

God bless you and protect you and your family from all harm. In Jesus’s name. Amen. How our culture deceives. Heaven is better than the world’s way anyways. You are a true woman of God.

[@klgg7849]

🙄👎🏼