Why He COMES BACK After You Give Him DISTANCE!

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When you give him distance, it completely repolarizes the magnetism, the dynamic. And in this video, I'm gonna show you exactly how to do that, how to repolarize the energy, how to pull your energy back, and how that will completely change the level of magnetism you are putting out.
Now, the thing to mention with this to understand is this is really just an energy game. That's all that is. And we don't wanna say necessarily a game, but it kind of is in a way, in the sense that the energy we put out, we are getting a reflection of, and people are playing according to the dynamics that we are kind of engaging with them with.
So when it comes to somebody that is feeling either repulsed or that is backing away their energy, the thing to remember is that if you would just let them do that, just let them back away, let them go into their own energy field, what you would end up finding out is that it actually does way more good and it allows them to process whatever they're going through and it allows them to be in their own space so that then they desire to actually come back into your energy.
And think about it in an analogy I've shared in many KZbin videos, but in comparing this to a dog, if you start chasing a dog, the dog plays with you, it's responding to the energy you're putting out.
Now, I'm not saying whoever you're dating is a dog, but what I'm saying is when that is, if you stop chasing a dog, the dog will just kind of turn around and be there. But if you chase, it's like, oh, oh, and it starts running away 'cause it thinks you're playing or she thinks you're playing.
And in the same way when it comes to dating, it's like people feel the energy that's being put out. And the challenge as well is that if it's a needy energy, if it's a needy energy, if it's an energy that's kind of codependent, that's almost like, "If you gave me validation or love or support, then I would feel better."
They feel that. It's an energetic thing and it's very off-putting. So sometimes in this dynamic, all you have to do is let go and trust that them being in their own field will then allow them to either appreciate you or to go on their way and then you don't continue to waste your time.
So what this is really about is this is an energy dynamic that has to do with being able to be receptive as to why he may be asking for space to begin with as well. And sometimes there's one of two options I can generally see here.
On one hand, he may be somebody that just wants somebody or whatever the dynamic is, but he/she, but it's somebody that wants to be in their own field because maybe they've
been feeling too enmeshed in the energy field.
Maybe they've lost a sense of who they are versus who somebody else is. This is actually something that recently has come up in my own relationship because my girlfriend and I, we realized, okay, I'm gonna share some of this.
Basically, what we realized is very early on in the relationship, we've been together for a year now, and very early on in the relationship, we kind of moved very quickly where we kind of in a way moved in.
She lived in California, I lived in Austin or lived in Texas and we go back and forth with each other. But what we noticed is that when I would go with her, I'd be with her for a week. She would come here, she'd normally come here for months.
And it was either all or nothing because we lived in different cities and when we visited each other, it was like we were around each other all day, every day. Now, after about a year, what we realized is that it was getting in the way of the relationship in the sense to where, I think part of it too is my frame and my reality.
I have a schedule, I have routines, I have retreats that I do. And my girlfriend is in a process of really moving into a new sector of her life where she does her own retreat, she does her own things.
And it was challenging for her to do her own things when around all of my stuff because all my stuff has such a big gravity because I've been doing it for a while and stuff like that.
So what we found out is what she's doing is she's moving to Austin, but she's getting her own place. And what we found for our relationship is we actually are able to really appreciate each other in a much deeper way.
She's able to do her things, I'm able to do my things and we're not living on top of each other. And it was feeling at a certain point that things are becoming too enmeshed. We were around each other all the time and she wants to do her.
She's an amazing musician. So she wants to do her music. She wants to focus on things, but it's challenging for her to do when there's so much of like, I have people that come over that are on my team and stuff like that.

[@lightfromevan]

What we chase we repel. Let go and let God, what’s meant to be will be.

[@allahlovesyou7241]

Allah❤️

[@lovepositivity2632]

Aaron all other coaches are asking us to dream and visualise about our sp but I think we only end up obsessing over them I enjoy your videos of letting go because you really help us from stop obsessing over them

[@kearabaggio7448]

Be True to your heart and authentically let go and trust💝

[@jillkx]

It’s very true. For me, personally, letting go, chilling out and not trying to manifest anyone or anything has brought more movement than constant affirming and visualising has ever gone for me. Whatever is meant for me, won’t pass me by. I’ll just trust divine timing and that’s it

[@lovepositivity2632]

@@jillkx That's true it's better to not try manifesting but just let go we will get it

[@sophiexblaire]

If thinking about them hypes you up and elevates your energy, then there’s nothing wrong about it. But if you think of them in a lacking way or shifts your energy down then I do agree its best to exercise to let the thoughts go. I believe it’s all about keeping your energies up and live your life the way you want to

[@Tati94942]

So so true he understands what’s really going on in our minds when it comes to wanting a specific person back

[@MonkyDollqueen]

Be you. The world will adjust

[@angiemason7021]

Sooooo, a successful relationship is basically a game of repel and attract? That sounds exceedingly tiring.

[@Frugal637]

Yes

[@tash8820]

I really have to say I feel a lot better since I watched your videos and have taken back my energy. Before I‘ve put all my energy all day long to this person, tried to manifest them in my life and I got really obsessive. Thank you!

[@Frugal637]

When you stop doing that they usually come back.

[@RRthee1]

I appreciate this. Love the “energy cords” reference because it’s such an easy way to remember to and how to disconnect from the subconscious neediness. 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@gabrielaraimondo2430]

I already distanced myself because he wasn't respecting our Love anymore... and I just couldn't take it anymore... we had a huge fight... and in 14 days... we only sent eachother a couple of msges to try to clear the air... but I sense he is still angry at me for putting my foot down... and he has a huge ago... bc I sent 2 or 3 msges and he just sent one... saying we would chat for now and gradually go back to what we were... and dissappeared... while I sent him music from Il Volo in a video... as we used to send eachother romantic music and things...❤ this was to put some Love even though we are apart now... but he did listen to the video and my nice words... but didn't even answer an emogy or whatever... So now I'm pulling my energy totally back... if he wants to reach me... he knows where I am... I love him but I'm not good chasing no one... and he knows I Love him even if things are like they are now... I'm starting to Love myself!❤ I leave it to God!❤

[@sunmoonstars0369]

You are really good at explaining the unseen realms of what is happening in relationships. Very few people are as good as you are at understanding and breakng it down, explaining to audiences. Your past and current experiences with females def helped you to become extremely intuitive and aware of what is happening. Im learning so much from you are very gifted.

[@benignbarbarian]

Aaron and his community would greatly benefit studying the psychodynamic theory and attachment styles. He teaches detachment which is great, but understanding the human condition and the different ways we attach to each other will give you more insight than just mere technique of playing it cool and giving distance.

[@rocio292]

He Does cover the human conditioning bit, our childhood conditioning/trauma which is where the "different ways we attach to each other" is born out of 👌

[@bellakim9404]

I think what makes a relationship thrive is Space, Confidence & Trust. I think, without Distance there is no Missing., and without Want, there is no feeling of Need. Making people Desire you is Necessary. Aaron, you're right on the mark with this theory! Happy 4th 🎉

[@MindsetMom]

Yes the sleeping-in-separate-beds, is one of the practices in Judaism (I know other people do it too). It is during the time of the menstrual cycle the couple separates. Most Jews do it out of obedience to G-d (which is great, we don't always have to have an explanation). However, your video helped me connect the dots that that is probably why the Creator gave that particular commandment. We live in an energetic universe! That is helping me understand an aspect of my faith deeper, so thank you! And the "early phase of dating" stuff is great sharing. I really appreciate the teachings you do.

[@miryana79]

Thank you Aaron 😘💙 you are fantastic 😊 I learned so much,to stay away from control freaks,who negatively influence me. My ex,can find someone like him,a sociopath, cheating narcissist. I moved away from negative environment too,. 💕m Hope you are well,safe healthy.

[@alien-oo-_-oo5732]

It sucks, from my experiences and your videos, basically we cant fully love or people start taking shit for granted..lol, if we’re too nice people get tired of it and all that bs, instead of people learning how to appreciate someone like that, we need to learn how to not be too good to someone and be more of a jerk or not care much. The shitty world we live in 🤣

[@onurbole7921]

This never happens to me. I've never gone back to someone because they gave me distance. Sure, their obsession pushes me away from them, but only if I'm not romantically interested in the first place. If they give me space it's like hey I appreciate it. It's not like I don't care about them as person, so I may stop by and ask how they are doing, not because I've gone back. I can stay in touch with anyone as long as nobody is hurt, so if their romantic emotions are something of past I can be friends and show friendly care. And that's exactly how people treat me too. I've never got someone back by giving them space. If they want space, chances are they don't want you like that anymore. They want space because they want to spend their energy elsewhere, and they'll have their romantic pursuits away from you. There is nothing you can do about it. When two parties are interested there is no need for push/pull games. You're not bored, you're not suffocated, you just enjoy it. It can range from once-a-week genuine and deep interaction to excessive attention 24/7. The former doesn't feel aloof, the latter doesn't feel too much. The dynamics might change but the satisfaction is the same. When there is too much of an asymmetry between emotions, just let it go gracefully. There is no humiliation in it, no offense to be taken. You're just incompatible and that's okay.

[@chanellover2143]

The people who gave you distance physically may have still been heavily focused on you emotionally, therefore they did not give you true distance and you did not want to go back.

[@MelodyNicoleSibley]

Lucky you. I’ve had stalkers & also have been the crazy person before as well. I don’t always “go back” but the men in my life have always came back, only to try and waste my time again.

[@onurbole7921]

@@chanellover2143 I don't know about that. I'm not the type to demand space when I like someone. I'll embrace their attention and receive their emotions if I am interested. And it's not all about them. In fact, it's MOSTLY not about them. I don't chase people because they are emotionally unavailable to me, or because they're not focused on me. That would be masochistic. And most women in my life truly give up when they make up their mind, that can be a blessing when I don't consider them romantically in the first place, THAT'S when we can communicate. I like seeing them happy, single on their feet or with someone else in their life. Seeing them strong makes me respect and admire them more, but that doesn't lead to romantic attraction. And it's a torture when they do give up on me when I'm romantically interested. It's not until I truly let them go and live my life that we can get back to talking/seeing each other. But then again, they just show friendly care and respect to me, and me to them. Romantic feelings aren't really rekindled.

[@onurbole7921]

@@MelodyNicoleSibley Sometimes people come back when they have nothing better to do, feel bored, lonely, horny, whatever. But even if they come back for better reasons (that they really want something stable with you now), it's usually not the result of you letting them go. If anything, that would arouse curiosity and envy. Letting go is for your own good, for you to find your niche, your own pace, your peace of mind, empower yourself again. It's not to get them back. In fact, when you truly let them go and heal, you don't care if they come back or not.

[@appleheaddefender]

Distance is meant energetically

[@donnawright5795]

Your videos have been LIFE changing for me . Thank you

[@appledarling]

Man I wish I realized this years ago. A quote I heard a while back "Let go, or get dragged"

[@antoniaosborne4972]

Love Aaron but the thing that puts me off is he never writes comments and no one gets back to the support emails - i don’t mean to be ungrateful but it’s just nice to have that exchange of contract

[@dr.tapasyadiwakar1246]

His laugh is so different at the same type cute...i like it

[@FitByEnergiana]

I follow you from the beginning, I resonate with what you share with us. I wish you all the best☺️

[@georgannkingsland767]

I think I finally realized that this person is not for me and will not return is made up his mind but I did the parallel thing with you last night and I really feel that I'm going to meet someone that's right for me this time so thank you I'm hopeful

[@springfauna1465]

I understand what you're saying here about energy and I totally respect it! It sounds to me like your careers are more important than the relationship itself though. I personally, would rather live together, and have us each rent our own office spaces. That way we both come back together at the end of the day and bond, and leave our careers outside of the relationship. Maybe this is old school, but I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with a guy who felt more comfortable having me be on my own in another place separate from him. Especially after years of dating each other.

[@chimps7777777]

They’ve only been dating for a year. Having their own place gives them space to miss each other. True old school would be getting married before cohabitating

[@chimps7777777]

They’ve only been dating for a year. Having their own place gives them space to miss each other. True old school would be getting married before cohabitating

[@mamziemay1575]

I agree with you.

[@Judith11.11]

Maybe there is another issue if you two need so much space to be able to appreciate each other. Just a thought... Namaste 💜⚕️

[@kevini4295]

I am dealing with it now. Resisting all urges to contact. I know it will resolve one way or another eventually.

[@shelleycummings2691]

Aaron your advice is just gold! And I love the way you laugh! It cracks me up! 😁

[@jacksoncox2343]

Keep preaching that truth, brother. You’ve been putting in that work and I respect the hell out of it. I also hope I can be your friend one day and meet you in person :)

[@dr.m6152]

This was a really good video thank you!

[@disandero2333]

Bloody brilliant . I know this and you explaining it makes perfect sense

[@iamgoddessoflove]

Work on building a healthy relationship and falling in love with the person that you see everyday, who has been through so much pain and heartache, but still manages to gets through it all.❤️ 💙KZbinr That Helps People Overcome Toxic Relationship

[@tomahawk297]

Aaron, this is golden. Thank you

[@winniewinkles]

Totally, living with someone I never hardly know which of my thoughts, feelings are mine hehe!

[@cartooneyed]

Heather is a keeper

[@praslisa]

are u sure you are not dating an avoidant now? seeing each other just couple of times a week seems a bit less.. just looking out for you ! love your content, its helping me heal , thank you so much!

[@victorymelisa5058]

Hello dear,I recommend you to a man who can help you manifest whatever and whoever you want to manifest within two day😍😍

[@victorymelisa5058]

He was the one who help me in restoring my partner back three days ago without delay,I promise he can help you too.👇👇😍😍

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[@Rach_0412]

This helped me so much 🙏🏼❤️thank you Aaron

[@Jadetarot_45love]

And by the time he does come back,on his terms or time. I'm bored and don't want him anymore. 🤦

[@lovepositivity2632]

Same here when we lose interest they come back obsessing over us all of my exs used to do this to me but till I was into them they never bothered me

[@Jadetarot_45love]

@@lovepositivity2632 Then I tell them "Too bad,soo sad". I wont chase after him. Buh-bye!

[@zippyblessed839]

Exactly

[@torigonzalez505]

Appreciate you soooo much!!!

[@Orunk777]

I like stoicism so I guess I got proposed this chan by the bots, therefore I need to write something serious on the big lines of Aaron's strategies. 1st thing Im gonna say is = if you don't want anything, you'll get nothing, except maybe disdain, accept this and you'll attain the true let go of sorts. You cannot integrate detachement and get friends girls money and fame, leave that for youtubers I guess, they live in the clickbait moment. If you erase the need for a soulmate and don't seek for one, you'll just get none, because he/she won't ask you and you won't ask he or her. Don't bother putting yourself in any frame or box or cage. Find your own path and stick to it. Try to fail until you just do and remember to be bold. I don't say here everything's false, bad-minded or inacurate, there are of course some good advices from him, but I can sense some incoming segment or even full video from this chan that will state that "everything I say is BS" like a sad guru or the others of that niche. I'm just going to watch the same future content of this chan to see how that view on magnetism works against him and you. By those beliefs you might actually get universe-scale distant as a love one you stand face to face to. It's nice to eat at restaurants but nobody knows better what you need to eat and cook than you.

[@chadcavio9823]

Listen Orunk I don't know who you are but when I speak like this people tell me to fuck off, this is a perfect example of Aaron's teaching I think his purpose is to fill our minds with ideas, and that is ruining the contraception of time itself meaning you might have your life in order subconsciously but when you become conscious to the face that you need a youtube video telling you what to do all power in one's self is at a loss. I learned this because 2 girls didn't ask me for sex when I was alone at a store, yes they talked to me but it was important to set my intentions. So if you want something you gotta throw some sand metaphorically speaking and that will bring you to what you desire

[@primallife2602]

All good but there has to be middle point where both connect. It cant be hide and seek game forever. We should work on our self esteem. We csnt just let go like this. No this never work like this. Find ur inner block solve them. Love yourself like you have crush on them. Then you will be non needy.

[@EJinVA]

My husband and I don’t sleep together because we both have sleep issues, it’s Sooo hot when I jump in his bed late at night!

[@Magagirl2024]

Everyone should have their own bed whoever came up with the idea of sharing a bed no

[@lubnaali283]

I love some one so much i met him accidentally, i feel he do the same but each other we have many obstacles to prevent this love to grow up

[@EmpathicSoul11]

AARON DOUGHTY I SWEAR I AM YOUR BIGGEST FAN

[@camillechallis3335]

If he has to have space, no problem. But once I’m gone...I’m gone. There IS no going back. He can come back all he wants, but a Berger hot off the grill has my attention, where refrigerated from yesterday...not so much.

[@ShayC143]

I don't want him back! LOL

[@mamziemay1575]

Likewise. He can crawl on shards of broken glass to get to me and I still do not want him back.

[@gavinspeaks]

All your wishes will come true, every wish has its own appointed hour. You can't miss it. Everything you do brings you closer to your desire. or your imaginal act. You get what you think about. ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction KZbinr💜

[@cariciaortagus4813]

He asked me to leave him alone. He still takes care of me and loves me but he wants space so he can deal with his own stuff. He opened up to me about it and said how he acts to not take it personally. I spent 3 weeks where day and night barely saw him yet when I had time with him he wanted me to leave him alone. Yet the time with him more intense sex wise but everything else seems more tense. Idk how to trust the process and give him the space he needs. I need help

[@elliecortez6136]

You are amazing you explain thighs very very well. Everything you said makes so much sense.

[@dominiquemathews8617]

It's an energetic dance💃

[@raily6824]

Having two wife's increases the polarity for him as he check out from my energy to hers and vice versa interesting so far as it suits me now as empath I had problem putting myself and my needs first and lost myself in relationships but now I have time to distance myself to see my energy and my wanting tnx🤔

[@smartsavvyandloved2095]

Thank you !

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[@selinatolson5152]

My husband needs to listen to this am divorceing him .

[@ceraaddare7636]

I'm sad the guy i'm interested in is ghosting me. I really don't need to hear advices or anything. I just want to express my sadness and let my negative emotions i've been faking it for a week and it just hurts

[@thecrocandsweepshow611]

He??? What about she???

[@raily6824]

If I knew all this years of divorcing so Manny times I needed to find a partner who agreed to live by himself my live would be easier 😂😂😂

[@cainanbenghali4]

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[@axentelivia]

try not to think about a pink elephant!!! yep… you all pictured it, right?

[@eveadorn8028]

The best way to get over somebody, is to get under another!!!! LOL 😅. SERIOUSLY - shift your focus elsewhere

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[@AlejandroGonzalez-ks5ln]

I dont like that you only do videos for women audience, like thid title say "him" like i get it works both ways but damm why dont u ever title ur videos "her"

[@SRILANKANCHRISTIAN]

nice

[@Honzaapril]

"Why HE comes back"? I did not know you make presentations for only woman. He will never come back, because a real man doesn't chase.

[@selinatolson5152]

So your not chined to hip😀

[@activatedbliss]

Can y’all shush with the gender crap , are you even getting the message of this video or just complaining ? Lol tired of this woke world and it’s obsession with gender. This is an ENERGY conversation. Thanks ☺️ ✌🏻

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[@annado3885]

Whoever I'm dating is a dog 😝

[@merladyneptune3908]

Haha same thought here 🤣

[@lovepositivity2632]

🤣🤣🤣

[@gangh7812]

BSSSS

[@mamziemay1575]

IDK, I sorta kinda like this guy's videos, but will probably unsubscribe. He says the same thing in every video. However, never gives specific ways or methods to "pull back," etc. Plus, he never responds to people's comments in his videos. It's repetitive content, always. Yawn.