Why he WON’T leave you alone…but won’t commit either.🥴😭

[@Ravengal101]

"There's a price to pay for giving your heart to someone who's not qualified to hold it."

[@ms.hawkins7919]

Because we won’t apply boundaries. A person only does what one allow.

[@readingsbybrandy7494]

Truth. 🤍⚡

[@thetruth72480]

💯

[@songbird8404]

Purr

[@laurajones9971]

So true

[@mochadumore3763]

They will not stop ! They will keep coming no matter what

[@phoenixrising8007]

Being loyal to someone’s potential while betraying yourself 💥 Poor investment with poor returns is not a wise investment

[@crystalellingburg6813]

Yes

[@thelovely961]

Right, I finally learnt that taking that energy and putting it into myself instead, is a much better investment .

[@lanapalij4014]

❤❤❤❤

[@diamondjack-cooper5322]

AMEN!

[@Janessa_music]

Guys won't ever change don't wait

[@phoenixrising8007]

You’re right mend tend not to change their ways but the odd dedicated and commitment one is a rare breed, the unicorn 😉

[@abenigold6219]

Facts

[@yorubafreeman6069]

They will change for the right woman. Learned that through experience.

[@OsutaCaroline]

​@@yorubafreeman6069thy go back to old habits

[@phoenixrising8007]

A lot of guys see you as property not a partner. A Possession of ownership Not a person of equality 🎯

[@MsUdy]

Why? How do we come off that makes them see you that way?

[@cookiesmom584]

Yep! That be me! Wanted all my time but didn’t want to fully commitment.

[@lyndsaehunter7841]

Dealing with this now. I'm trying to detach from him and find myself again. I gave my whole heart and got pieces of him in return.

[@maryam4358]

Cut him off completely if you are ready. I understand it’s painful but every day you get stronger and don’t talk, think about it or feed it

[@lynnette1225]

Currently going through this myself

[@sthendlovu8844]

Saaame here!

[@rarasirius3795]

In the exact same position. It is the most painful thing I have ever gone through

[@cindilyn100]

Going through this now too

[@sunflowerlesvampirestarot9482]

They send: hey Sup Wyd he can't type but wants attention!

[@Tina-y4u6e]

I just told him it’s time to say goodbye. Feels great. What a relief

[@samanthadavis8203]

Being loyal to someone's potential Ignoring their reality..👏

[@serenedione]

🙌🏽

[@dorothyabercrombie5099]

My Capricorn ex wanted to act like he was a "free agent" so I tore up his contract and now I'm wearing a new Jersey and now I'm seeing someone who doesn't mind running the plays and doing the work for our team!☺

[@Christimony222]

Okurttt !!!🔥🔥

[@joiecelriviera4134]

My ex was a cap too 😳

[@rahamanwhitfield5480]

YOU MISS HIM.. CAPRICORN 💯😎

[@SS-su3rn]

I'm a capricorn He's treating you like that because you aren't showing him that you are an equal. Many capricorns have bad childhoods so if you aren't motherly. You won't be kept.

[@naiya.nicole__]

@@SS-su3rn that’s the most bs unaccountable narcissistic bs I’ve seen. What if she was ? I’m a libra sun and moon with a Capricorn rising, not the best childhood( both parents were abusive and neglectful in certain ways). I healed got therapy and don’t place fault on others.

[@ariahargrove2981]

You never lied when you said supermarket shopping it up!!!!🙌🏼

[@susan5048]

People, men and women want what they can’t have. As soon as it’s taken away they want it. It’s human nature.

[@mystibleu9851]

They are narcissistic!!! ✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽✋🏽

[@rareroseglosses1554]

I'm scared mine is

[@feliciamoreland2367]

Did he say, "some men are turned off from you not needing them?" 🤔

[@itsRudeGal]

Yup!!! They want you to depend on them, it’s an ego thing.

[@Nay-wd1tp]

Current situation, well ex situation because I cut him off. But yes he would constantly stay on my phone, talking for hours but the second I brought up commitment ,he had the oh I'm not ready. So i said bet! I'm out. Not wasting my time.

[@shelleydawnblagg1673]

It's games that we allow them to play instead of putting ourselves first for some strange reason we put them first when we should be putting them back on the rubbish pile.

[@shelleysamuels3682]

Exactly 💯

[@GuidetteExpert]

Sometimes you dont know what you want or what you had until its gone!

[@tesspeelz]

Thank you for speaking on this a lot of women don’t understand! You men deserve respect especially when you’re doing nothing wrong. Women say you don’t listen but they’re not listening to your needs.

[@tubegen11]

Partner with some one who will bring out the best in you not just the stress out of you…a woman who is properly loved is 10 times the woman they were before…bam!!!

[@antonettemartin3351]

Right he's possessive !!!

[@taj6048]

This came at the perfect time thank you !!

[@rubeniaspencer902]

Yes indeed and that's why I'm single to this day I just don't have the energy to play games to tired now ❤️

[@JackieIce-f4c]

Just started listening to you last night. You’re hitting home frfr

[@ambie62090]

My mind is blown!! 🤯 I had to take a break after watching this before I commented because that’s how deep it hit. You literally gave me the missing variable to my personal equation. Thank you!!

[@PhanRegSop]

Stray dog analogy....daaaaammnnnnnnn that hits. Thank you times 483893388364637839383827727

[@cheryls832]

Yep, they come back to try to defend their turf. Except that they don't own your turf.

[@charlottekyoto9519]

This is so true and interesting what you say about men who need to feel that their woman "needs" them etc. I remember the turning point in my fateful marriage was when I got my dream job and started to earn 4x his salary... I think he couldn't deal with the fact that I now didn't "depend" on him. The more successful and confident I became the more abusive and angry he became! Luckily he's now soon to be "ex husband "!!!

[@TruLuvin84]

You are speaking TRUTH !!!!

[@Beana52]

Exactly he told me change my Facebook to In a relationship instead of single...i was like ohhh hell naw....

[@acousticsoul2580]

I learned to never put all my eggs in one basket assuming you'll do the same. The scales have to be balanced. I put one egg in and see if you put one in, and also how long it took you to put one in .at the end of the day I should have six and he should too .but I use to put 8 in and he only put two . That's a red flag

[@materialhell]

he told me i was rude for cutting him off and not responding to calls/texts and also that I got angry at him all the time for no reason while we were dating. PS I found out he was calling and texting while he had a girlfriend!

[@kanamenoname210]

Did he come back often?

[@hollyrodgers9345]

Experienced that!! Turns it all back on me! Gaslighting!

[@lizp5449]

But the difference is,a dog is authentic and true when you love it

[@kimberlybriggs9322]

Oh my gosh. This is truly genius. I never thought of it like this. Thank you so much

[@stephaniemillington6455]

What I notice w player mentality, is they play you like a chess game, strategy vs reality; hence the games! You want emotionally & mentally available up front; this way your body isn't toyed with!

[@sandrapadilla7765]

I love you Derek! Thank you !For bringing so much needed clarity, God bless you! ❤️

[@kellytownsend4526]

you always hit the nail on the head!

[@ritamccormick5244]

You are a blessing, and so is this message. Thank you

[@awaywithwinds6115]

Could you, please, talk about men who never ever loved anyone, but still want some type of connection?

[@Beana52]

Yuppp exactly he putting all of it on me...yupppp u hit it on the head Derrick

[@johnodonnell8316]

Thank yous for playing a role in our relationship... you have given my family and I a new start and for that I'm forever grateful...

[@AprilHare]

My ex, contacted me with his new phone number as his old one was blocked. He always texts me, asking for him to call him. First, he knows I prefer texting him, so I knew it was going to be another "feel sorry for me, I'm not the same without you" sob stories. I told him to leave me alone and that I was ready to hit send on 911 if I saw him on my property again. He told me he never stopped loving me which earned him a barf emoji. Blocked his new number and hope this sealed the deal.

[@michelemccabeross379]

Haa🗽. So appreciate how you keep it real. I have four brothers and honesty is key. So good to see you out and about. Thanks for the knowledge. It’s power.

[@shondahamilton752]

I was outside today too. Went for a walk. Doing better I think 🤔

[@coldstuff9784]

I see this in romance stories all the time and it's portrayed as a good thing.

[@fire12731]

You’re spitting the truth my brother

[@AliValentine143]

I'm still mad at him but still telling the truth.

[@Chanel38-q1b]

Some guys just won't change that why I do me

[@dawnevans0602]

My husband does this. He doesn't want me but he refuses to divorce me so I can move on with my life. He doesn't want me to be with anyone else

[@alphahandy2021]

Well don’t wait, DIVORCE HIM. I did it. 🤞🌹

[@llararulens8895]

Do what you need to do, why care what he wants

[@nicholettej1742]

But he will leave you.. you’ll just be older, more jaded, farther behind, and in less than optimal position

[@karinamargotgutierrez7908]

Derrick, you’re such a good person! I hope I can find someone like you one day ☺️☺️

[@moniquerobinson-hines9304]

It's like your talking right to me derrick. I need to here this I'm going through this same thing he don't want you and don't won't no one else to have you

[@lavernehicks7874]

Same here. I can truly relate.

[@jadejacinta5514]

👍🏻 yeap an so glad I let him go cause I found my future hubby.

[@BeautifulChaosz15]

Around 4 minutes you talk about projections please post a video about that because this touches such a deeper topic that I feel with gaslighting and Narcissistic relationships women and men have to go through and deal with.

[@jadebishop9814]

❤ I know this video has been up for awhile but I love your video. They are always spot on.

[@BETTERTIPSFORYOU]

Don’t miss it until it’s gone.

[@acd1168]

It’s true. Oh my gosh thank you for telling the truth.

[@SaraCobb-ch4qx]

Real talk love it

[@onlymila1996]

Absolutely. True. 12yrs back and forth. Omgness

[@krystalgardiner5591]

Me to 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@laina1976]

10 years for me. So draining.

[@traceymallory4964]

I’m experiencing all of this now. You just explained my ex to the T.

[@rarasirius3795]

Mine too. It is a terrible and painful situation to be in

[@MoonFoxASMR]

*I needed this. Thank you.*

[@sarahs2135]

Thank you for this video! I'm dealing with this now, as far as him not wanting the commitment but not leaving me alone either, and acting like he wants more one minute, then back to not. Also, I'm pretty sure he did all he wanted when he was with his ex, and he definitely flipped out on her when she moved on.

[@Janessa_music]

Some guys are selfish

[@paulalatham6634]

Our nature is to nurture....love makes it easy

[@robbieboo100]

Thank you for your insite. I’m newly divorced after 23 years and need help to navigate dating.😊

[@maryam4358]

Excellent !! Love ❤️ the ending properly loved woman

[@roxcbrown8821]

You are a genius! For real 💖

[@ladonnaflournoy1]

Good Bless You Sir. Thank you. 🙏

[@shironbailey759]

👍🏾I can totally relate. That's happening to me right now.

[@fishstickbio594]

Because there is the proverbial DOUBLE STANDARDS!

[@kiacarter93]

Omg this is spot on smh

[@maryamzizi13]

I love you guys so much ❤️❤️

[@Love32377]

I.. Love your videos Derek. You speak truth

[@kara4454]

🔥 YES And another YES 👍

[@maryamzizi13]

I love you so much Derrick ❤️❤️

[@TheAirtudowu]

It's all about how many they have in their stable, women beware✌️

[@rubeniaspencer902]

I Derrick hear u and ur so right love u 😘❤️

[@beautifuldisaster8006]

Thanks so much!!! Needed this

[@lakiyaalston8187]

Wow!! So true..I’m going through this now!! Thanks for the knowledge!!

[@MelissaleeCummings]

❤👍very true statment bro from Flint Mich

[@Arizona_lilly]

Iv seen that men who cheat try cheat everywhere they go

[@keishajohnson7485]

This is so true

[@laurensimmers5802]

👍 I have learned that my strength in who I am and what I can bring to any relationship can deflect these types. I have been able to recognize situations in the last year that I would have fallen for when I was younger.

[@Ravengal101]

Same and my discernment eliminates the wolves in sheep's clothing that sometimes slip through.

[@dorothyabercrombie5099]

You on Point!☺

[@Lala-kp4ov]

Some men want to control the whole situation or never been in love. Completely closed off. You closed off I give no access. U selfish. Do u boo!

[@francinemartin1013]

Speak the truth

[@TeclarEzugwu]

Thank you very much Jaxn,❣️❣️❣️

[@OfficiallyJen]

Current situation 🤦🏾‍♀️…I

[@sagibaby7897]

Ty so much for your message

[@etheljackson9120]

You are speaking the truth, brother thank you.

[@PeanutButterTone]

I 🙋🏽‍♀️!!! (Derrick drops the mic 🎤 💥)

[@cm1663]

👍 I have this problem,I met up with him after 30 years he had a few relationships, married divorced, he has a child by another woman etc and he still wanted to meet me,I was too smothering and jealous he says even though I was so young away from home

[@tiffanyhogan2967]

Thank you for this 💛

[@galinaioffe2250]

idk bout anyone else but i know a stray dog when i meet one and i can keep feedin it just out of my heart for animals but thats all they will get. a plate of food and a flee bath and they can keep on movin til next time they need me

[@constanceweldon6143]

Starting at 4:00 you briefly mentioned projection, can you make a video more in depth on that? I completely identified with this...

[@Hiddenflowermagic33]

Thank you 🙏🏻 ✨

[@Janessa_music]

Guys don't care

[@Nanapoo]

thank you now I understand

[@barbarajones7491]

Yes. Resonates with me.

[@lisabullock9266]

OMG! Thank you.