'Why I abducted my son and moved to India' Victoria Derbyshire

A British child is abducted and taken abroad by a parent, on average, every day. Figures show numbers have increased dramatically - last year the UK Foreign Office dealt with nearly 500 - double the figure in 2005. Cases can take years to resolve especially when children are taken to countries with no agreement to return them home. BBC Asian Network and Victoria Derbyshire reporter Divya Talwar has met a woman who did the abducting, and those left behind. Produced by Catrin Nye
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[@hanaj]

The majority of these comments make me sad. In the UK or the US (and many countries) , one parent can’t take their kid out of the country without consent. It’s kidnapping. What if they lived in India and the dad took the kid to England?

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@k_abby3398]

But do they investigate the other spouse and why one felt the need to "escape" with their own child?

[@christinecameron1612]

Things must have been very very horrible for these women to take their children, run for their life, and hide them forever.

[@diruholic]

Divorce doesnt keep an abuser away. An injunction might. All tgese things cost money which most likely these women who are probably housewives don't have. A divorce costs 550 pounds alone. Isolation plays a big part too as the women's families are back home in India or Pakistan. Imagine trying to come out of an abusive marriage with no support from your family. It is extremely hard.

[@kinojnoda6636]

Kym Hype i agree they should..i think it's justified if a parent takes their child if they were in a hostile enviroment or relationship..

[@showmercytoothers4059]

THE WOMAN WANTED TO GO BACK TO HER FAMILY. ITS NOT ESCAPE.

[@showmercytoothers4059]

YOUR SO STUPID.

[@ShyAnn291]

I can’t even imagine how hard it would be to have your child abducted and not knowing where they are, I feel so bad for this father, you can tell how desperately he wanted his child back!!

[@EW-uw7dg]

They don't care about the father's feelings. Sad, abusive and harmful to the child. Poor father, devastating. The mother took them just to be with her own parent, didn't care about her child's feelings for her father. Damn airports let anyone through with kids, no questions asked and he has custody. Father should try contacting Center for Missing and Exploited Children maybe they can help him. Horrible, she didn't even have a reason to take the child.

[@hatsumiito9445]

My friend lost custody of her child to her husband. He had money. She was a housewife. He cheated on her with several women, did drugs, but because of her religion, they felt she was unfit to parent her own child? He moved away with her son to another state, and she couldn't visit him due to financial reasons. She recently reunited with her son on Facebook. He reached out to her after coming out of prison. He's now in his thirties with a family of his own. I know you should follow the law, but sometimes the laws are shit and destroy families. My friend lost so many years with her son. I'm sure a part of her dreamed of taking her kid and running away.

[@carmay3600]

Had he not been raised by his adulterous drug addict father he may have never gone to prison.

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@hotxhotguy]

That's strange, his dad doing drugs would have automatically removed him as a custodial parent. Also, being a housewife is still a job. In that case, not only your friend would have been the custodial parent, also would have received alimony. Which country was your friend's home in? This doesn't sound right.

[@ri4sukisuki902]

@@hotxhotguy Sometimes people can be “clean” for a while or present themselves as such in front of a sympathetic judge. It really depends on the judge in most cases. Maybe that was the case there. I’m from the US. My friend is 23, divorced, and having a difficult time with a judge over her custody battle as well. Her ex was the one who raped her and tried to hook up with other women online, but whenever she goes to court, the judge is always lecturing her. It really depends on the judge.

[@hotxhotguy]

@@ri4sukisuki902 not really. Having a drug history is more than enough to tell a judge that a parent is not granted custody. Your friend needs to get another lawyer.

[@sarahsulwey2146]

Not abduction of the woman and child is going through abuse.

[@TANKTKO]

Fake abuse

[@TANKTKO]

The father had custody and mother left while having her for visitation. Stop with this fake abuse

[@HeartMyKPop]

My issue is that if she is being abused by the husband then she needs to seek legal help for that crime and doesn’t need to run away. However, if it’s just that your marriage fails, then you have no right to keep your child from your ex-partner. It is hurting your child. Your child has the right to know and see their other parent.

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@VasuVin]

Only west can call a parent an abductor.

[@MrNixity]

Because non western countries are undeveloped primitive and savage countries, India still does honour killings ffs

[@FilmMakerMr]

How can a mother 'abduct' her own child?? She IS the mother!!!!

[@showmercytoothers4059]

THE MOTHER WAS NOT FIT LIKE MOST ARE, TO HAVE HER CHILD.

[@johntmekjian]

Because she is not the sole parent and did not have legal custody.

[@ajeetalbert91]

Coz she didn't give birth by parthenogenesis..

[@jamaladem9945]

Film Maker I dont understand either

[@kimcaudle125]

She does not have custody. Her father does.

[@preternatural3231]

As a disclaimer, I'd just like to say that I don't know both sides of the story, and am in no way justifying the actions of a child abductor. I would simply like to use my own experiences to offer some insight. The case of "Ami" seems very familiar to me. A lot of the time, for Indian families, marriage is seen as a solution for issues with a man, as well as a sort of cover up. According to the rhetoric of some Indians, if you aren't married by a certain age, something must be wrong with you. Thus, a man is married (even if he has clear issues that a marriage will not necessarily fix) as any 'normal' man would. In addition, a lot of the time a woman (usually unaware of the issue) is thrown into the man's live and expected to put up with him. A common thought is: "maybe, if she puts up with him long enough, he will sort himself out". But it doesn't really matter whether the woman is able to miraculously fix him or not. From the outside, he is married and has a family and is 'normal', and that is the solution. This rhetoric doesn't just go away if you move out of India. In fact, living in a western country actually makes it easier to apply. Western countries are seen as a safe haven by many Indians; a place where they can be safer and have more opportunities. Most families will happily wed their daughter to a western man, sometimes even while being aware of his issues, so that she and her children can have a better live. In addition, being thrust into a foreign environment would cause anyone to be easier to manipulate. The woman is seen simultaneously as a miracle-worker and disposable. Even if she doesn't have control, she is highly celebrated when something goes according to plan, and shunned when it doesn't. So I hear Ami's story about the unplanned baby and treatment that she received afterwards and I am inclined to believe her until proven otherwise. I can't imagine why anyone would want her life except out of necessity.

[@ennakavi2129]

You are right.

[@Ssookawai]

I did relate to her and thank God I decided to stop everything before it's too late (being too involved into the relationship), how the man changes his mood on a whim and anything done or said in a way "inconvenient for him" will make her shunned... I didn't even live with him and I was already feeling anxious as I were walking in a minefield... I can't imagine how it would have been for me if we lived together or even had a child... that thought of being involved and eventually, having a kid was a key factor for me to tell him "I have nothing to give anymore, I'm done"... I wish her a lot of happiness with her son, I think she made the right decision and her son can always go back to the UK for his studies later...

[@has3219]

No one really addressed Indian/pakistani/bangladeshi men after colonialism. They were beaten of their masculinity and manhood and were never really taught how to act. You cant fix broken men unless theyre addressed thats why I always tell my brown sisters to be harsh but also understanding when criticizing brown men many are just tryna put the pieces together in this new world. My parents have been together for 25 years and theyre good cuz my dads just affectionate to my mom but I mean in general my pops lived through war i Bangladesh and I dont think even he understands what he went through with that.

[@johntmekjian]

Abolutely not. It doesn't matter how unhappy she was in that relationship, she had no right to steal that man's child. Unless the court that awarded custody made the wrong decision, then breaking the law and kidnapping is never the right decision. If the UK police ever get their hands on her, I hope they terminate her parental rights.

[@doraymeandyou]

@@johntmekjian that’s her son. He has no right to detain him in a country where the mother has no support network and is subject to racism, and deny him of contact with his extended maternal family. She didn’t even want to have that child, but she fully embraced her role as a mother, even though it wasn’t her choice. In your line of thinking, the definition of father and rapist are one and the same.

[@arnabdc]

As if the country produced the child and the mother was just a way to produce it. Abducted got a new meaning.

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

This is sooo stupid it is even not an argument!

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

The girl was at risk with her mother, hence full custody to the father!

[@bittertruth_or_sweetlie5739]

Gaytri This is the problem with you civilised robotic people. Stop seeing the world only by the binoculars of the law book. Feel sorry for parents who lost touch with children but feel sorry more for u.

[@lorgarspersonalchair]

I feel sorry for a daughter who might not be living the comfortable life she was promised because a mother who was deemed incapable or a risk to her was selfish and didn't think about her daughters needs only her selfs. I feel sorry for a girl who might have had tons of opportunities stolen from her. I feel sorry for a person who thinks that critical thinking is "robotic".

[@bittertruth_or_sweetlie5739]

nobody called critical thinking robotic, read it couple of times.

[@quentinfernandez4673]

Abduction. That's crazy it's just a way of escape for a mother and a child. If the man can treat the wife like that, he will be the same with the child. So it's better the woman leave with the child.

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@wimpsta982]

You shouldn’t take any child from mother its nature kids need mum no matter how much more money you have got, if your that guy can do this to mother and child than you don’t deserve anything from life

[@thedrivaevo]

now i realise why common sense is very uncommon.

[@antwto8784]

Maybe if he was civil enough to split custody of his child, his ex wife wouldn't have had to 'kidnap' her own daughter. Typical case of little man getting butt hurt that his wife left him and therefore got revenge by getting full custody of their kid (yeah I know how Asians work, he probably used every trick in the book to pass her off as a dangerous mother) I don't feel sorry for him at all

[@krsamysmith1]

Haha!!...what a joke....Mother abducted her child. It should say "mother ran away from tyranny!"

[@theasiangamer2962]

Why do u believe the mother can't be wrong

[@christinecameron1612]

That's usually the case, especially in those cultures.

[@theasiangamer2962]

Christine Cameron no its thinking mothers, women can not carry out evil that is sexist

[@showmercytoothers4059]

SHALLOW MIND

[@StrawBerry-mm1iy]

There will always be a reason why these women took their child out of the country. And unless it was very bad they wound not have left. Women have very high tolerance level.(especially indian women) But if they can't and left then something was very wrong. That's why they left.... so the word abduction is bullshit.... it's more like doing the right thing.

[@Nomad314]

The second case is a domestic abuse case. Even if the mother & child returned to the UK, no doubt the British legal system would give preference for the child to remain with the mother in those circumstances. Yes, the woman should have approached services in the UK for aid initially, but as she is from India she may not have been aware of the help that would have been available to her. I don't think it's right to just say she is a criminal. Her husband is a criminal under UK law for being a perpetrator of domestic abuse.

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@miss00caro]

Funny how they don’t document the reason why these women left their husbands. In their culture there is a lot of domestic abuse, environment no mother and no child deserves.

[@sidzy317]

Caro PerRod what culture are you talking about sir? domestic abuse in the West is no joke tbh

[@beatinghearts9404]

Agreed

[@Cynnas]

They who? If the mother chooses to not report abuse to the authorities who exactly is going to document or report on it?

[@beatinghearts9404]

Laura S. Indians, that's who. She could've been threatened to stay silent for all you know. So sh.

[@showmercytoothers4059]

indians? are you ALL INDIANS?

[@ramneet371]

Its the worst sin to take a child away from a loving parent

[@johnsnow2118]

Hope safraz does meet his child he does guinely seem a caring father list without his daughter

[@TrainTransportShortsOfficial]

John Snow yeah coz that matters even tho he’s a dick as a husband

[@janetaylortaylor674]

Aww, he just wants to marry her off soon to some rich , old family-friend and collect a huge dowry and some other 'legal' papers! And if she disobeys, strangle her in the name of Allah and honor!!! They always have some sob story for softhearted westerners!

[@shinytan]

John Snow That dude is evil piece of shit, don't fall for his drama..

[@Ssookawai]

shinytan, do you know him?

[@imaginx806]

The dower goes directly to the woman and you can't force someone to marry. Learn some facts.

[@JaniyaNicole57]

These comments are ridiculous. He had legal custody of the child. Taking the child out of the country without permission and to no return is abduction! If this was a father abducting the child then you would be appalled? Ridiculous. It is different if you are escaping abuse but just to cut the other parent out is disgusting and cruel!

[@anjanadevikumar]

In case of abuse, it should NOT be considered child abduction. If the parent takes the child out of bitterness, it is abduction and the only one that suffers is the child.

[@showmercytoothers4059]

THE KID WAS "given" to the responsible parent the FATHER.

[@charliefoss4699]

Abducted? Did he give birth to her ? Children belong with their mother !

[@charliefoss4699]

Tucna Fucna oh shut it. A man can never ever be as good as a mum.

[@charliefoss4699]

Tucna Fucna sure but in general children belong with their mums !

[@natashagreen-chillaxedprod7769]

Technically this mother didn’t abduct her son because it was her mother.

[@saffiyehbrandhijaffer-mcne2800]

trying to still figure out why Rameez' mother is considered bad . for what reason was she taking her Son with her to India? and why was she leaving Mohammed. what did Mohammed do that made Rameez' mother want to leave Mohamed.? like why ??? tell the whole story if yur gna tell it. why men turn a woman own child against her. woman carries the baby in her own womb, man doesn't lose nothing.

[@rameezdassu6406]

She didn’t take me to India she took me to Dubai and if I told you what happened there you guys wouldn’t even believe me

[@BattousaiAMV]

9:27. I am a father and when I see a child biting the lip and always looking at the parent nervously, this is a sign to me. This father is no good. I bet the child is so nervous because saying one wrong word could get him into trouble behind the camera...

[@rameezdassu6406]

Your totally wrong I was very young in that video and we had a whole camera crew in front of me it was abit much which is why I was biting my lip I still do to this day

[@isshinish]

BBC this is a messy affair. I see that you used a South Asian British reporter in this but maybe she is more British than South Asian. Yes the legalities in UK might be different from how these South Asian countries are doing about custody battles. She did failed to mention that almost all ASIANS and maybe most of the world will say that a young child should be with their mother. Yes, the children are British but they are their mothers' child first.

[@katekay]

That poor man :( I can't imagine

[@sudiptaadhikary2044]

well we were burning our women alive a few decades ago and still kill our female children...so as Indians, we shud not lecture others about culture.

[@Pasadena14]

Ew. What a radom racist rant!

[@tellsaurabh]

Sudipta Adhikary With your silly logic BBC should be the last people to report any such news. Their bosses were raping kids for over 30 years and covering up until the beans were spilled by other news paper! Also to your knowledge Europeans was also burning women after branding them witches. Also, a very important question to you, what is the proof that there were 1000 sati in the year 1805 a.d., other than a missionary decided to write that in his diary and report it to the then British media who flared it to justify their colonialism and conversion of loose moral wild animal like Indians to Christianity? Kindly do research before blindly accepting anything that comes out as information from the west. If you want to know the real standards of how women are treated here in the UK read local news papers like the Star and other county papers. They are actually much worse off, than a lot of developing countries regarding women's right. There is not protection for a woman and her kids if her partner is violent. The court gives an order takes away father's visitation rights but that does not stop them from violently stalking and threatening the woman or her kids. Every other day it is reported in the news that a woman was killed by her violent partner or she was sprayed with corrosive substance. Girls here are bullied as early as 9-10 years on their looks they they are often extremely stressed to look beautiful and have make up all the time. A woman is expected to have her arms and legs shaved or she is considered vile. Women here are not paid equal even in the public sector employment (govt. jobs/universities), let alone people of the so called lesser race. It is really really difficult for a women to get to the managerial role, let alone people of the so called 'lesser race'. Their media taunts about discrimination against people in other countries but they still identify people of other races based on skin colour: White/British, British Indian, British Pakistani, British African, British Arab instead of calling them all British. BBC, that pretends to be the champion of women's right in other countries fails to pay equal wages between gender and 'races'. Racism is very much institutionalized in the British system and obviously ignored by people here. Even to this day, Britain institutionally justifies colonialism and they teach in their schools that it was a boon for uncivilized countries like India and Africa. They hide the massacres and robbing of people. They do not tell their kids that the condition of women in India is poor and girl child is generally disliked because of the effects of colonial laws like 'Doctrine of lapse', etc. They hide the history of world economics. They lie to their kids that they united India.

[@sudiptaadhikary2044]

tellsaurabh completely agree with you mate. I never said their culture was any better. Victorian England was a shockingly misogynistic society. What I was just complaining about is the tone used by the previous guy who's making comments saying ppl can't raise their kids and have sex in front of them

[@tellsaurabh]

Sudipta Adhikary I just detailed you info on condition of Britain as of 2018. Also, I am not your mate.

[@sambawomen]

I’m not condoning taking a child away from the other parent, but in some cases where there is abuse it can be necessary, but to use the word “abduct”??? A parent CANNOT “ABDUCT” their OWN child!!! Can we please get that straight! They can TAKE *THEIR* child away from the other parent or a place, but in no way shape or form can one ABDUCT their OWN child.

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@MrNixity]

Because u still have the primitive and savage view that children are like possessions or property of the mother

[@youtubesuckss7058]

It's disgusting behaviour to speak ill of the other parent in front of a child

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@PrasannjeetSingh]

Most importantly, why does the title of this video mentions "India" when it's just a part of whatever this is!

[@cybercop3108]

Prasannjeet Singh indians bring views

[@PrasannjeetSingh]

Look Eastway exactly... Things people do for views!!!

[@chamelion1red]

Abduction???.....they just moved with their kid to their own country.

[@prasanaa80]

Are you justifying that? What about the other parent who has right to his or her own child.

[@teenuvadi8312]

Indian men don't even know that taking away child without parental (both) consent and not obeying court's order = abduction / contempt / kidnapping.

[@snehadhn6526]

Teenu Vadi lol

[@TrainTransportShortsOfficial]

It’s a stupid word used in the West when a mom moves with her kid overseas but the thing is he’s British so she shouldn’t move coz India has little to no rules abt child abduction

[@romeoruleszful]

Dad had the custody of his child, common that they show in Bollywood why u want to play dumb

[@faebalina7786]

Some people marry abroad then have a child and when their relationship breaks down they run back to the UK with the Child.So it happens both ways

[@RitzMatt]

If both the parents cant sort out the differences and live peacefully for their child.. then they both don't deserve that child..

[@jayantthedrastic]

lol i hope BBC keeps on entertaining the world with their display of British way of doing things. The title of this video should be British toddlers Illegally entering India.

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

This is such an ignorant comment. He had full custody,because she was found to be at risk to be in full time care with her mother. Mum had access only,by taking her abroad without his permission, then by the law of the country, whether you like it or not, this is abduction.

[@megnemo6403]

im really sorry but if you spend fortytwo weeks pregnant with a child 30 hours or more in labor with a child and change diapers and 2am feedings then you deserve to go where ever you want to go with that child. thats not kidnapping. i have been forced to stay in florida most of my life by dead beat dads. it wasnt good for me or my children. i wish i had the courage and means of these women. if you are a man and you want to keep your kids you need to work out these issues with your wives before you have babies with them or if this isnt possible go to therapy with them as soon as the issues present. women go through so much to be mothers and it seems to me no one wants to do anything but condemn us. some support and kindness would go a long way to help these kinds of problems.

[@annnax9102]

Nobody wants to ran away with their own children but the fact is life in UK is very difficult and also most Asian man don't triet their wife well.

[@ashsqx3246]

criminalising a mothers bond to her child? to call this abduction or kidnapping is absurd

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

Even if the relationship is harmful?

[@ashsqx3246]

Gayatri Nambiar-greenwood did any of these mothers look like they were harming their children?

[@kazip55]

I agree.

[@FOLIPE]

It is abduction though. Mothers have a right and so do fathers.

[@Liieszy]

Well, for some reason the courts took custody away from her so I’d assume something had to have happened.

[@fathimaabdulhameed7032]

Rubbish. Its not abduction when the mother takes her own child

[@fmlihl7818]

Fathima Abdul Hameed Agreed...unless she's mentally unstable

[@atrixsauza2068]

Fathima Abdul Hameed what if the dad does it?

[@fmlihl7818]

Helen Lovejoy maybe YOU should know better. Get outside of that cubby your protecting yourself from reality with, and see the real world, reality as most would call it. MOST father's are losers, who are controlling and don't give a flying-f about their child. There's a small percentage of decent father's out there, but the majority are crooked and corrupt. They aren't In it for the long haul, and if they are it's only for their interests. Not saying all fathers, but there's more bad than good. Go on somewhere with your delusional self, wake up and know the struggle is real for most women

[@imwaytoshort]

Fathima Abdul Hameed Yeah it is abduction. What is wrong with you. If a woman doesn't have custody she has no right to take a child away from the other parent who may have custody. It's a crime. There are men that have custody of their kids and if the mother was to leave the country and abduct the child that's sick and illegal. You are sexist. Some mothers are bad parents who shouldn't be raising any child and the father may be a better parent. In very rare circumstances is leaving the country when a child may be in danger ever ok. Using that logic fathers who have just as many rights can't abduct their child either. Without the father the women who abduct children wouldn't even have a child so should be abit more thankful.

[@imwaytoshort]

fml ihl What about the mothers who beat their children. Should they be raising children. There are plenty of women who aren't in it for the long haul and treat their kid like crap. You don't have any idea what you are talking about. There are loads of men who are better parents than the mother and provide a safer environment that is better for a child. Women don't automatically become good parents because they are female. There are so many cases of women treating their children terribly and even killing their children which wouldn't of happened had the father had custody. Some men are great parents who are just better for the child to be raised by. Don't be so delusional and ignorant.

[@sarathkankanala8107]

Kidnap involves money or black mailing to do something .it's a fight for love of their children .They say anything is fair in love and war I don't say this but criminalising it is absud

[@latishamalika1]

Mother kidnapping her child lol...funny word

[@mchoudhury6989]

Mother took her child wherever she feels like how can it be abducted???

[@Onlinesully]

the reason is that both parents need to be involved.

[@abhishekdev258]

The mother should sue BBC for defaming her..

[@GalaxyFlower-ko6vw]

The mothers should have there children I would do the same thing!!!

[@madeinmadrass8455]

how is this even abduction- arent both parents has equal rights on kid?

[@abhir7823]

Great BBC ... Ami... Good that when you think of India all you reference is Jungle Book..Kipling would be proud...

[@zubs1972]

I'm mohammed sheikh that is my son and I in the documentary if I can help you contact me

[@teenuvadi8312]

Sorry but BBC made such a stupid documetary justifying/showing sympathy towards child abduction. Indian females do it too often and then file number of cases on husband to make her feel like victim, to settle scores, to extort money. You did wonderful work and were also lucky that she didn't take him to India.

[@SomEbodyisDERP]

that's very nice of you..

[@TrainTransportShortsOfficial]

Teenu Vadi men also do it which is worse and take child at baby age away from mommy. Child needs a mom more than dad. I feel worse when a man takes a child from its mom but yes this is also bad

[@dannafoster7686]

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[@ashsqx3246]

and once the child is taken away from the mother and dad has custody ... she has barely any contact with her own baby? isnt giving one parent custody then the same as kidnapping and abducting the child from the other parent?

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

As it is rare that a father gets custody here in the UK, the girl must have been at risk in her hands. Mum had access rights only.

[@drmeghanabagalkotkar.official]

In indian law as far as i know , if child is a minor , then he or she will be rightfully in the custody of the mother ... then where is the question of abduction...

[@debradias8288]

'Abducted'😂😂

[@TeaCup1940]

So she abducted the child she had "by accident"? I feel she is not being honest about everything.

[@xyzsame4081]

I wonder how many of these men prevailed over their women (even in our justice system) because the have more money, more confidence. If that father 10:00 comes from the UAE he is bound to have very patriarchal views - even in the best of cases. And do not underestimate the enormous familiy and peer pressure on these men to conform to the stereotypes - and to deal with their wifes or ex-wifes accordingly. Now if HE has money and professional status he can leverage that against his ex wife. A friend of mine married an Arab man (Palestinian). They talked about maybe migrating to Canada. Instead they went to Dubai (I think he had lived and worked there before). This is when he showed her his traditional side. His friends were calling him out why he allowed his wife (a German) to go alone into downtown city for shopping for instance. So they had a cultural clash going on. I do not think he intentionally deceived her when they dated in Europe and became a couple, but when he got into the retro environment he slipped back into the mindset with which he had been raised. She had one child with him and was pregnant. And called her parents and left for Germany. (At least he did not abuse her or hinder them from leaving - nor did he pay child support.So in that respect she was lucky, because in Dubai it would have become very difficult for her to challenge him legally, no doubt there are lots of possibilities for the boys club to tilt the scales against her.

[@Subhrajitbhattacherjee]

u called that abduction??

[@TrainTransportShortsOfficial]

Subhrajit bhattacharjee she leaves without her husband and just bolts with her kid? She’s left another country with different rules so yes miss uneducated it’s actually abdication whether it’s his mom or not bc of the law and his father

[@tellsaurabh]

Rose Momlife What are the options of a women whose husband is aggressive and a violent stalker? How do you protect those women and her kids. Apparently there are no laws in your EU Human rights shit system for those poor people. I do not have to tell you, you can scan your own newspapers, where almost every other day a case is reported wherein a woman was killed by her aggressive stalking partner. Also in Indian law, parent is not considered an abductor if the children are not in harm's way.

[@doctronfour9060]

tellsaurabh you criticize the male yet in all these cases the Dad was given primary custody... meaning HE is more suitable to look after the child. If you’re gonna just up and leave with your child at your will you are an abductor.

[@tellsaurabh]

Doctron Four Mother keeps the baby in her womb for 9 months because the baby need her, gives birth and feeds the baby her breast milk for 1.5 years because baby need her. No matter how old you will be, if you are in small or extreme trouble you will remember your mother. All this is simple biology. A child will not grow up with a fine mental state if it does not have caring mother around. Watching this video, do you feel these girls are in any distress from their mothers. Also, British legal system is extremely corrupt and only for the fortunate and rich. Those women were not British so the judgement was given in favour of men. It wouldn't be the case if both parents were British. Following are some examples of how the British law bends to favour the rich and fortunate: www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2017/09/25/oxford-student-judge-suggested-bright-prison-spared-jail-stabbing/ www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-43782241 www.theguardian.com/law/2018/jan/19/oxford-student-case-oliver-mears-dropped-days-before-trial And there are thousands many like this. Just read about the Windrush and realize that the British Legal system ruined the lives of those people who placed their trust in the British Law and helped rebuild the war torn country. Here is some more British judgement on the international level at ICJ: www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/chilcot-report-inquiry-tony-blair-iraq-war-weapons-of-mass-destruction-evidence-verdict-a7122361.html The very reason why this lying British representative got booted out of ICJ by the members of UN in the General Assemble voting. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Greenwood

[@dlgksidiffnr4671]

Yea it should be called the mother took her child without the fathers consent

[@motivationinspirationmumin8398]

So sad when the kids get caught up in the middle 👍👍👍

[@ashuu3]

Mother should be given child custody in the most cases. In the eyes of Indian she is not abductee as she is living in India only Indian laws applicable.

[@ashuu3]

If you have money then you can hire expensive lawyer but what about poor mother. It would be disastrous for India to sign the Hague convention on child abduction. By signing the Hague Convention, we will be compelled to recognize a foreign judgment regardless of the justness of the decision on custody under Indian law or whether was delivered ex-parte. In the US a rapist can demand the child support from rape victim refer the case of Hermesmann v. Seyer and also rape victim force to share the custody of child with her/his rapist. There are many stone age law in the US www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation/2014/09/02/statutory-rape-victim-child-support/14953965/

[@hikkrzminzzy5946]

But they are Indian not English so they are going back to their homelands that’s all 🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@fathemaabdullah948]

I hate it when fathers try to get full control of a child when the mother goes through so much pain, through child birth and late night sleeps. Everything. Men need to stop trying to get full custody

[@fathemaabdullah948]

Pasie you give birth and then say wtf

[@imwaytoshort]

fathema abdullah Giving birth doesn't make you a parent. There are women who give birth that have their children adopted out to another family. You are sexist. The father was the better parent according to the court so the mother obviously has issues that's makes her unsuitable for full custody. That woman wouldn't have that baby without the father so stop being a sexist ignorant ass. Being a female doesn't make you the more suitable parent to raise a child. Some women are bad parents who beat their kids and abuse them just like some fathers so you are delusional pretending women have the right to have full custody when the father may be a better parent.

[@imwaytoshort]

fathema abdullah He got custody because he is probably the better more suitable parent. Look how defensive you are because you are wrong. I know a woman who treats her kids like shit and bad mouths her youngest childs father constantly to her son even though she has slapped her son out of anger and abused him mentally for years and still does to this day. When you have to name call you have nothing worth saying you delusional sexist. Getting custody because you are a better parent isn't evil. Why don't you live in reality. Ive seen what a so called loving mother can do to her kids first hand so stop pretending the mother has more rights to a child than the father. You have problems and are sexist. Im a woman and would rather a father went for custody if it's best for the child. Some mothers are bad parents who shouldn't be near children just like some fathers who aren't good parents and aren't the best choice for custody. You have no idea what you are talking about. Courts don't just decide to give a child to fathers in most cases so when it happens it's because the father was deemed to be more suitable to have custody.

[@imwaytoshort]

fathema abdullah My opinion is based on facts. What about yours delusional ignorant sexist. If I was a unfit parent my child would be better off being raised by the father. It's funny though how so many unfit parents can't see why they lose custody. Ive seen first hand what a bad mother can do to her children and how her behaviour affected her kids and still does yet she lies to people and brainwashs her child to hate people she doesn't like including his own family and isn't honest about how she is hurting her youngest child who has serious personality flaws because he hears her lies all the time and how manipulative she is. Bad parents shouldn't get custody regardless of gender. Being a woman doesn't equal best choice to raise a child. It should be about what is best for the child. You seem to forget that.

[@ABC-td7zm]

fathema abdullah Your Disturbed comment sick.

[@sarojiniginger]

Ho hum another bbc exclusive spreading hate about India....

[@luna1star334]

I'M GLAD SHE CAN LIVE HAPPILY FREELY. HERE IT'S LIKE A PRISON IN THE UK, THE WESTENERS DONT UNDERSTAND. HAHAHAH

[@AngelEyesChic]

I think "abduction" is the wrong term here. Its not like stangers took these children. Its the fighting spouse, in this case women, who clearly feel that her child will have a better home with her(the mom) than the dad.

[@AngelEyesChic]

maybe because most husbands shown here have a full control of their wives finances and the wives feel financially and maybe physically in danger with the man in full control and with having no family members to support them in another country? The question this document should ask is WHY did the wife chose to run away? WHAT did the husband do to make her disappear overnight?

[@ah5721]

How is it kidnapping if your parents take you?

[@RaghunandanReddyC]

how is it an abduction?

[@Onlinesully]

It is utterly tragic. It destroyed our lives.

[@JarradAlex]

Saving a child life by a parent is not child abductions. The real child abductors are the social services once they get their dirty faces involved you are bound to lose your child.

[@dr.lubnafatima5623]

I really do not understand the new age definitions such as " marital rape". Abduction by own parents ...come on it's a particualr issue which shud not be given terms like these.how can parents abduct their own children.wht does it really mean..

[@abhinavmusic1138]

Paranoid android is quite apt here. I don’t like BBC otherwise.

[@ganeshmaharaj324]

see a typical Indian women prefers to suffer or die than to let her old and helpless parents to let them know about her problems... and ask for help. so may be there is something wrong with the father. just saying! i am son of typical Indian parents, luckily the ones who respects my feelings.

[@sushils9775]

In Britain, the immigrants seem to evolve into speaking the British accent, but in the US most immigrants who have even been for 25-30 years still have a strong foreign accent. I wonder why.

[@kurtnobranes9914]

Sushil S us held more segregation

[@Aqua-tx9jy]

It's cause they were probably born in Britain and are first generation immigrants. Most of the middle-aged immigrants in the United States were originally born in India, cause they mostly started migrating here in the 90s/2000s. It depends where you learned to speak english.

[@preetsingh694]

also immigrants in usa cant seem to learn making faces like @6:34

[@Ssookawai]

These guys are either born in Britain or moved there when they were very young. It's difficult to get rid of an accent, even the slightest one when you're an immigrant (for me, kids born in a country or brought there when they're too young aren't to be seen as immigrants, they didn't chose their birthplace or the place their parents moved to) especially if you work very long hours with people from the same cultural backgrounds.

[@watchulla]

What does this have to do with anything?

[@Terinka14]

if an abused parent runs with their Child i dont think it is an abduction. if there was no abuse and the parents just broke up then it is abduction i think...

[@Terinka14]

some people are abused to the point of feeling worthless and terrified, not believing anybody would help them... They barely manage to leave, and run away. Abuse can be both physical and psychological, and psychological is way worse in this regard, the victim really can believe nobody would help them or that the abuser would somehow manage to alter the situation to their benefit... Of course, restraining order would be an ideal way to go, if you live in a western country. In some cultures - such as islamic cultures - men get the children in a case of a divorce tho.

[@Terinka14]

of course, the system would have her back. I thought she came to the UK to be with her husband, so she did not live in the UK as her home country... I mean, if I was abused, living in another country, all I would want is to take my kids with me to my home, my family... and as I said, abused people often arent the most rational, as mind is a strange place, and they can truly believe there is nothing anybody could do for them..

[@jojotaji4258]

I feel his pain same has happened to me

[@zaid2884]

Ashutosh Shrivastava calls her neonazi and then proceeds to make fun of her because she’s white I thought the nazis were the people with racist thoughts

[@priyaf5649]

Ashutosh Shrivastava : Mr Shrivastava you are delusional and have been watching too many erotic white women movies to come to this conclusion....white women are free to choose their lives and can be sexy if they want to ....just like Indian Bollywood actresses....so don't talk nonsense...

[@dannafoster7686]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmmnpGWErKufjJI

[@bryasharland3765]

Oh man was I blind to this. Coming from nz, a country where almost nothing ever happens, and hearing something as complicated as this- it's upsetting

[@Talkwithtina808]

Those women leave for a reason !!! Bravo for them to leave those controlling men...

[@shirinpathan9308]

My brother JT you sound bitter some reason? Do hv sisters, daughters n wat if one of them went trough marriage lies were told n later their husbands abuse them,would your comment be the same?NO... think wat most of the women go through daily with physical,mental torture, verbal abuse etc and obviously rape which illigAl if the wife does not want sex... what you do? Roll your sleeves n her front door n say, right tell me where is so so husband of yours! Plz everyone think tank and want good for others as you woke for other

[@manjushiva1286]

By accidently she got pregnant, what a joke

[@smpl1592]

I see nothing wrong

[@roberthills629]

Got pregnant by accident by her husband ???? Now repeat that to yourself loud few times and tell me how stupid that statement sounds. And taking your own child out is called abduction ? Anything to make a sensationalized eadlines for click bait.

[@jeanthree]

children are not property we are just responsible for them

[@showmercytoothers4059]

BITTER DIVORCED WOMEN SHOULD NEVER GET THEIR KIDS. THEY SHOULD ALWAYS GO TO THE FATHER IF THE FATHER SEES THE MOM AS UNFIT/UNBALANCED/NON LOGICIAL/DEPRESSED AFTER DIVORCE.

[@MrOnemate]

I as a British citizen demand justice. All Asian parents leaving UK to India or third world should be arrested without bail immediately.

[@guileniam]

How can a parent abduct a kid? Unless it from foster care?

[@razortanner2671]

Dizzy Blu Took him with no consent or knowledge of the father, it's called abduction.

[@cintojoseph5259]

They give asylum to mallya and calls others criminals :D

[@ghostgutarist5234]

BULL SHIT !!!! When Mother take a child, it is not called Abduction u Mothas... May be she saved her daughter.

[@whatamievendoinghere5804]

You can't 'abduct' your own child ffs. 'What makes them do it?' - Is that a serious question? Lol. Mothers know why.

[@whatamievendoinghere5804]

Tucna Fucna The mother is more connected to their child.

[@simrag]

its not abduction it is moving country

[@colleenrodamer6230]

Y isn’t there a way to put a hold on their passport so they can’t b taken out of the country

[@Ravi-nq9qy]

Abduction, are you out of your mind? Please for god sake change your word selection and mind set. It seems in Britain women feelings doesn’t matter.

[@gayatrinambiar-greenwood5308]

It does matter, when a child is involved. It is rare that a father gets custody so there must have been significant risks with Mum. That then makes it abduction

[@haiderahmednazir6609]

Well it's actually happens to the Indian and Pakistani women...

[@honestytoafault]

gayatri nambiar-greenwood.... or he had a better lawyer

[@kkt23654]

In india if a mother feels unsafe she will take her children with her .. it's not abduction lol .. It's her right .. it's what any Indian women would do .. But considering UK law to which she's a foreigner I think India should step in and explain her point of view .. She is in no way a bad person ..

[@autobotfan11]

You are garbage India is trash You eat popo

[@nahidasultana5533]

i have a family member who actually lied against her husband and ran away with the kids . The poor man loved his kid and received abuse from his wife . alot of comments keep saying the men are the abuser .. i am a female my self and let me tell you female ain't innocent .

[@dannafoster7686]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZmmnpGWErKufjJI

[@BeautifullyBroken88]

Look I don't think it's right to keep children away from there mother or father but we don't know both sides of the story with that being said you can't kidnap a child who you given birth to it's ridiculous

[@RHQ7]

How is this abduction?

[@spongebobb7950]

Well she wernt going to run away without her kids now would she?

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Why did he have so much more custody of the daughter? He needs to share custody FAIRLY! He thought it was ok to have his daughter full time and her to barely see her mom? SHARE custody!!

[@ABirdOnTheMoon]

Horrible choices. Abdication is an abdication. You could share custody or return to the court, but taking children away and running doesn’t prove anything but how unfit of a parent these mothers are. If they cared for their children they wouldn’t done that. We are not talking about countries like India were the law is corrupted! The fit parent is determined for the child benefit. You as a mother have no right in taking the child. Unless the child is in danger, you have no excuse to act based on your own selfishness. Your experience or your view of the ex husband isn’t your child .. only yours.

[@elizabetharmada5335]

If the parents are separated, ,the mother can take the children, ,am I right? Or the children will decide which one they want to go

[@miralosman3351]

They shouldn't worry those kids will come back when they are adults, that very mother will send her kid 😂😂😂 and that kid will be a well behaved .mostly this happens when parents want to Displine their kids and the kids be like al call police on y'all, deportation to India, Pakistan and Africa will be the answer to straighten them 😏

[@digvijayparmar8349]

YOU can move to Ireland. WE welcome to Ireland.

[@zb7293]

Digvijay Parmar ,you are not even Irish. ...why are yiu inviting people? It would ruin countries identity, it would turn to London. ... Little migraton is okay. ..A lot, not. ..

[@ayanlejaguar3539]

zrinka bunic i live in dublin and am immigrant u got problem with that?

[@zb7293]

Well it is sad to see Ireland turning in to nothing.... As tourist you wish to see Irish people...but lately as I visited, Dublin is lacking of Irish people...

[@ayanlejaguar3539]

zrinka bunic u sound to me like a poor eastern europe specially poland

[@zb7293]

And you sound illiterate....just go back ,where you came from....

[@caasholikeyou8434]

His abuse run a way any mother she protect her child

[@tessa9570]

This is horrible and so sad! If the child was given custody to the father, then obviously the mother did something to lose her daughter! This is so unfair to these children! I understand fleeing if u and ur child are in danger! But because u lost custody, is wrong and these parents should be arrested for doing this!

[@Solitude1990]

It's a very tough issue. A parent cannot abduct a child; HOWEVER, both parents made this child and therefore have rights to said child. If they don't see eye to eye, I don't understand how both the child and the father have to pay for it. If she was being physically abused, there are plenty of places she could've gone to and steps she could've taken. Yet, she didn't claim physical abuse, she claims her husband ignored her a few days a week. That's not enough reason to tear a family apart. Child abductor is not the right term for a mother that does this, but it is still wrong of her to do. She should suffer consequences, but as a mother that has taken a child without the other parent's consent; NOT as a child abductor.

[@spiritual_earthly_insights]

MsLalaUsagi there was definitely emotional abuse since he didn't let her parents communicate with her. Please read up on abuse to know what are its different types. Domestic violence isn't the only form of abuse.

[@wilsonroo16]

I wish they had asked her why? Was he a violent father....a bad father....I get if your relationship fails...but if he is not a bad father then why penalize him and the child?