'I'm scared of my own autistic child' - BBC News

[@tammyreneemc5552]

My son is on the same spectrum. However, I am a single parent doing it on my own. As soon as he was 18 I fought and fought to get him on SSI. After many times of being denied he was finally approved. Immediately I put him in assisted living. I cannot control a grown man bigger than myself. The threat of harm is too much to live with even if it is your own child that you love so much, but you cannot help. You feel like a failure on a daily basis. And there is nothing you can do about it.

[@danwalsh4988]

what is SSI?

[@kiara198923]

@@danwalsh4988 Social Security Income.

[@robbieunderwood8349]

If you made it thru 18 years you did enough.

[@bcaye]

You have nothing to be ashamed of, dear lady. You have done everything you could and made the right choice even though it was so hard.

[@coryindahus7319]

Lmao i got roasted by a No u and your mom

[@temple_123]

I hate how the only autism portrayed in the media is the aesthetic kind where they turn out to be geniuses no one knows about severe autism it kills me Edit: I also want to acknowledge that the people with high functioning autism also face lots of stereotypes about their autism. I still feel like the people, like my brother, who is like the kids shown here are not known about at all.

[@almightybeanchild]

Aoife Temple the "genius" artists are highly rare not many exist

[@mysticqueen3551]

No, that's highlighted too. It's called the pity documentaries that are made about them. Both major ends are highlighted (genius and barely capable), but we're never portrayed as people.

[@Thingsforyou1]

Agree with this. We really only see the geniuses on the media and the people who are on the higher functioning end of the spectrum but it seems like the lower functioning end of the spectrum is completely forgotten.

[@almightybeanchild]

Acacia O'Donnell because the blue puzzle autistic society is hell bent on portraying autistic people as geniuses but it's just a front. I've met heaps of kids with autism. The overwhelming majority were just simpletons with brain damage. Parents and family of autistic people need a reality check and a wake up call. They are highly delusional

[@c.darwin9259]

I’d say it’s the other way around, how els would you explain the idiotic masses believing all autistic people are emotionally and academically, retarded, bruits.

[@macclift9956]

These parents are exhausted!

[@rkvelasquez]

That's shortisum

[@lizatanzawa7910]

Riley Rees-Tucker NOT horrible. Truth can hurt. But not as much as getting beaten up by your child. Don't be cruel to these desperate parents.

[@sherrykao978]

LJK Designs LTD did u mean "we" would be dead by now instead?

[@Shreddies_and_spam]

Mary Anne Clifton yep they are. I know from experience. I am the problem

[@lukeism2]

They want to die

[@ttrev007]

This is why i get annoyed when people try to tell me that Autism is not a disability. It absolutely is and it is important that we keep it labeled a disability so that people qualify for care.

[@pauliriekkinen7519]

Autism is, but only severe, myself consider asperger not. Edit: No matter what, Im still tired of people speaking of autism in such voice tone, that it is the worst thing one can possibly have and autism rates in the world must be supressed at any costs

[@ttrev007]

@@pauliriekkinen7519 ignoring that in the US the Asperger's is not a thing anymore. I would say that is should still be considered a disorder since their are therapies that can be helpful and accommodations necessary to be employed. I think it is like Obsessive Compulsive people and OCD. they should make the distinction. You can have some traits that can even be helpful but you add the disorder when it is causing dysfunction. ... Maybe you are right since they no longer call it Asperger's we can you that as the term for the characteristics but not the disorder

[@YOSHlDA]

@@pauliriekkinen7519Asperger is a disability and I’m saying it as a person with Asperger. We still work very different than casual people do and it’s not bad to say we are disabled, just NOT retarded

[@cover_mystic545]

On this same line of thinking, where people ignore or belittle these types of issues: are when people say that “it isn’t real and people just make it up to get pity” When people say those things I get absolutely livid, because clearly it’s an issue and people are hurt by it.

[@CCAnne]

@@cover_mystic545many people are not seeing severe autism unfortunately where I am you have kids that have sensory issues and they are diagnosed, we have way to many misdiagnosed and that’s ruining the resources to help those that have it for severe. D

[@greenbanana1001]

My son cannot talk , cannot toilet train , scream constantly is always hyper never sits down never sleeps it’s so exhausting and unless people have dealt with something similar they have no idea how it feels

[@agricolaregs]

Get respite services if you can.

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

There is no such word as can’t

[@catguy4996]

Well that might be the most severe possible case of autism. You probably will need assistance from social service to take care of him

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

@@catguy4996 social services wont help they will just put the kid in care

[@natesportyboy4939]

Then perhaps you should consider sources such as Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, Applied Educational Neuroscience, the Neurosequential Model, Beyond Behaviors, Low Arousal, or Ukeru.

[@Vernatrozz]

who the fuck was in charge of the background music

[@J37182]

Vernatrozz John was.

[@casperl8408]

Vernatrozz who can relate! WOOOH

[@BB2_462]

Really, like why is the Mask Off instrumental playing in the background at around 4:00 ??

[@gaby5930]

That SquidKid lmaooooo right

[@livieegee]

that's what I was thinking lol

[@briarrose5208]

I live in the US. A friend of mine has a severely autistic son. Her husband died when their son was still a child, so she was a single mom. Her son grew up. He had always had violent outbursts, but now he was dangerous. He destroyed his bedroom and their bathroom. He attacked and injured his mother several times. He was hospitalized and sedated several times. Public school couldn’t manage his behavior either. His mom put him in a day program for kids with special needs. He came home nights and weekends. She has had to fight every step of the way to get services that were desperately needed. She always worked full time. They have never been on welfare. For years she lived in fear that her son would kill her. She finally had to put him in a residential program, which she never wanted to do. She visits him several times a week. What the parents of children with severe autism have to go through is worse than we can even imagine.

[@sallyire1]

I feel so sorry for these parents of autistic children. In my area there was a single mother who was raising her severely autistic adult son and he killed her. She would have to lock herself in a closet.

[@OutragedPufferfish]

I've lived with an untreated schizophrenic from the age of 10 to 22. It was hell.

[@GD-xc4wg]

Its really sad, frustrating and upsetting. Its the most tiering thing comparing to any other type illness or disability other kids have, its proven actually. Its a non stop job with Autistic kids. Even when they do not hit or break they scream or cry, run and dont listen when its not programmed or known. Any to much light, to much noise, to much smell (like smell of bread), to much people will or can bother them and start a crisis. So many people does not understand so it makes it even harder on the parents. Courage to her ❤ To us all with Autistic kids

[@noelgeorgette3150]

As a former forensic tech,, I am very sad to report that the best thing one can do for the family is to separate the autistic child from everyone else. It's horrible I know but I will never forget one such case in Europe decades ago in which a family was wiped out by a severely violent autistic son.

[@kita5886]

It’s ok to say you’re that mom. No judgement ❤

[@Livinglife595]

M’y daughter works with autistic children. One day a child of 10 came to class with a purple lip. The school was very concerned as this child said it was his dad that did it. The parents were contacted and yes the father had hit him very hard. Because he found him strangling his younger sister till she was blue. He had to stop him. These parents have a very hard time

[@pattymelt-go3fv]

I have no clue how Cameron's parents handle him? I would be more than desperate.. 30 seconds Cameron's baby voice... that immediately switches normal once he gets full attention. UGH...Poor parents! I feel so sorry for the other kids in the family. What causes Autisim anyway? I hope we find a cure!

[@izzy_da_crocs_pookie]

@@pattymelt-go3fv there is no cure for autism and what I don’t understand is why you people can’t accept it as it is instead of immediately jumping to asking for a cure to it

[@KennethRachel-xi7dv]

I think Autism is from women taking depression medicine whilst pregnant but I'm not sure if that is why .

[@izzy_da_crocs_pookie]

@@pattymelt-go3fv There is no cure for autism. I’m sorry, but you can’t cure a permanent brain disability. That’s just not possible. The only thing people can do is be patient with it and accept it for what it is.

[@susanwoo7536]

@@KennethRachel-xi7dvno! No! No! Find Wikipedia !

[@SierraBarron-t2g]

As someone with Autism, I can say that life for me was expected to get worse. I was 8 when the diagnosis came in and the doctors told my parents that I would never make it to high school and I would have to rely on my parents for the rest of my life. But thanks to the early diagnosis and having me go through various therapies, that fate was avoided. Here I am, living alone for a half-year study abroad program during my final year of college. But seeing all of these poor individuals makes me tear up over the fact that, this could have been me. It’s disturbing that despite the heightened awareness, there’s still a multitude of struggles that these parents and their children face.

[@thegodzillaatomicblastprod1702]

Im autistic and my skill is avoiding therapy and things I don't like.

[@justsomerandompersonnoques8701]

I remember they said i wouldn't make it out of 2cd grade

[@mariafaria2256]

Thank you for witness. All the best to you always!

[@svetavinogradova4243]

You were a normal child whose parents could not properly parent you. Luckily, they invited specialists who taught you to comply and so made you teacheable.

[@filipeflower]

@@svetavinogradova4243 Do you have any evidence to back up that theory?

[@vickinoeske1711]

I live in America and have an adult schizophrenic son. This country provides very little help with the mentally ill. After 18 parents have no say so in their child's treatment. If the person shows indications of harm to self or others, a therapist can put them in the hospital for 72 hours...that's it. The adult patient has to agree to continue treatment as if the ill can make good decisions. I know this video is regarding Autistic people, but the whole mental health issue is wanting.

[@prutwekker2193]

I am in Canada; same here. My AS son could not handle work anymore but will not seek help. I cannot do anything. I know he is becoming a hoarder ( I am not allowed in his home, and now my husband isn't either). He sits his whole day at the computer. My other kids keep saying how much he has gone downhill since he is on his own. Nothing I can do; he will become a street person and likely freeze to death someday. Governments do not care. All I can say is you are not alone, but sadly real help just isn't available.

[@vickinoeske1711]

Prut Wekker My mom and I worry about him ending up on the street as well. Brad does get some government help, but not enough to live on. He won't live in a group home and of course, no one can live with him and vice versa. I absolutely feel your worry and pain. Mental illness is no longer such a social stigma, but it is an ignored illness . Contact me any time.

[@Dima-dc5mf]

Oh my, you must be glad that you get any help from your country. In Ukraine, if kid with autism or other growth disorders will born, 90% that you won't get any help on regular base. You are alone with this. Now that kind of scary you know. Be grateful for what your government gives you in that situation.

[@mayjailerxx]

The system definitely needs reformation. There’s to much advancement regarding our knowledge of the wife spectrum of mental illness, laws and practices need to catch up

[@peppe44]

My girlfriend is a single mother of an autistic child. The boy is 14 now and has a strengthen of a bull. She lives in Florida now and at least they have schools and some help from the local gov. I'm worrying what would happen to her and the boy.

[@heatherlorscheider7758]

My son is only 6 but his violent outburst are getting worse. It's hard to control him sometimes. I have bite scars, busted lip, and bruises. It's incredibly heartbreaking to see your child like this.

[@woodland5325]

Hope things have improved for you Heather, if you don't mind me asking how is your situation now?

[@Robinicat]

@@svetavinogradova4243 I think you should move on, Sveta. Does it really give you pleasure to hurt people as you do?

[@svetavinogradova4243]

@@Robinicat You cannot digest truth? Only unreasonable people are hurt by the truth. And this truth needs to be OUT THERE, because there are people who NEED this truth, as they will change their behaviour. I have no need to hear your personal thoughts about me - you have no right whatsoever to give orders to adults in a conversation under freedom of speech. Desist.

[@nowirehangers2815]

@@svetavinogradova4243you seem autistic

[@sherene.613]

Did things get better? My daughter is 6 next month and I’m dealing with the same thing, her strength is not normal! She attacks herself and me every single day it’s so draining!

[@k.elmaraghy1370]

Honestly, I dont wanna ever have children. Mental illness runs in my family. And would literally shatter my world if a kid of mine rose up to have some sort of mental illness. I 'd rather live and die alone over living with such agony. Stop saying its a blessing! That child is as much struggling as their parents are. I wouldnt want my child to suffer. It would be like a harsh stab to my heart

[@Oakleaf700]

It is a lottery. If Autism runs in your family, there is a likelihood of you also having an autistic child. I agree- Autism to this level can be incredibly dangerous to the parents and other siblings.

[@k.elmaraghy1370]

@@Oakleaf700 Schizophrenia, depression, autism, epilepsy have marathons in my family.

[@ColinHammond94]

Same my biggest fear I've a brother and ive 2 nephews with it ,heart breaking the 2 nephews cant speak and my brother is in a living assistance facility 😢

[@k.elmaraghy1370]

@XaiderMaider No sweets. You're a beautiful human being and a beautiful soul. I didnt mean by my words that people with whatever disability shouldn't exist.. all i meant is i don't have the heart and courage for it. I hope it would get better for you. We're all struggling in some way or another. Just remember that!

[@SunnyHeartKay]

Just bc you don’t have kids don’t mean you’ll die alone. You can live a beautiful, full child free life. Many adults do.

[@robinright825]

My son, now 36 years old, is very severely autistic. He also has violent, dangerous outbursts. I was a single parent with 2 other young children when he was little. By age 4, 5, 6 he was very difficult & dangerous to care for. His first placement in a residential program was at age 7. He lived there for 4 years. He then came home for a couple years but was still impossible to care for so again he entered a residential facility and he's been there for the last 22 years. I can't even imagine how our lives would have played out had we not had help for him. I am very grateful to have my son in a residence where he is well cared for and cared about. I'm in my 60s now and although I worry about him all the time (I'm still his mom & he's still my baby boy!!!) I do have assurance that after I'm gone he's going to be ok. Just to clarify - when he's been in residential care I haven't abandoned him! I've always been, and am, very involved in his life. I'm involved in all aspects of his care from medical, medication, dental decisions to his everyday care decisions such as what & how much he eats to buying his clothing, underwear, shoes, etc. My husband and I even made him a special bed recently as he kept tearing apart & breaking up typical bed frames & headboards. I also make him special sheets for his bed as he tears off store bought sheets and then destroys them. I even change his bedding weekly & then launder his special bedding at home then take it back the next week or so. I will always be involved with my son and his care as long as I am able!!!

[@frickolis2531]

I applaud to you. Parents with autistic children or family members are very strong, doing anything to their child. Like they said in the video, sometimes they cried when they slept, and I couldn't imagine that, every day. I'm very sorry about your son, but he will always love you. Thanks for sharing your side of the story, and have a good day

[@kilitaplayz6543]

Who else was too lazy to read it all

[@taralynnhoffmann5831]

It sounds like you feel extremely guilty (that he is in a home) and you shouldn't.

[@germantennesseean8438]

I hate that you feel like you have to explain and justify yourself . People have to understand that you as a parent also have other responsibilities and there is just so much a single person can do and there is no shame whatsoever in saying : I need help I cant do this on my own.I have very very high respect for you and your love for your son and am sure he knows he has an absolutly awesome loving caring mum.Much love from Germany

[@rhi2400]

Robin Auras If someone is not in your position they have no right to judge the choices you felt you had to make for the health and safety of everyone involved. I can’t imagine being in that situation, you just have to do the best you can💜 sending you love!

[@haikat4]

I dealt with the same thing for 20 years. Eventually I just ran away. I love my brother but at this point whatever happens happens. I can't deal with being held hostage or attacked every other day. The violence wears you down hard.

[@batabids]

im autistic and im really so sorry for you ❤️

[@Robinicat]

It should never have reached a point where you were constantly attacked. I feel strongly that the rights/needs of the other children in the family are paramount to those of the autistic child....because he is the perpetrator and they are the victims. Sadly some children do need to be institutionalized.

[@Robinicat]

You have to consider what is best for EVERYONE in the family. If siblings/innocent children are being abused, it's best to remove the autistic child from the home.

[@redleeks6253]

​@@Robinicat A friend of mine had 3 kids and all are in the austism spectrum but the first girl has what it was called asperger and wasn't diagnosed until she was 18. The middle child has mild autism but was able to improve with special education and therapy the youngest is severe, non verbal and the only one managing him is the oldesr sister (shes now 20) and the boy is 13. The mother just put the oldest child parenting 2 autistic children, even when the oldest child has issues herselfm

[@Robinicat]

I strongly believe that if a child is growing up in a household with a violent sibling (whether from mental illness or autism or brain damage), he or she has a right to a calm and peaceful home life. The aggressive child needs to be put in a home. I'm sorry YOU had to leave. That should have happened years earlier. Maybe seek counselling to deal with any feelings of resentment you have towards your family for putting your brother's needs ahead of yours. Keep in mind that you will have a second chance at a happy family life when you have your own family.

[@Jdjustsaying]

I was attacked by an autistic person at work. It was brutal and left; me unable to work, in chronic pain, with a lifelong impact. When he was convicted, it was his 3rd conviction and he was only 21. Disabled people being violent to their family or people who work with them is an issue that no one wants to talk about. When families, quite rightly want more support, we've got to remember that the carers and workers will be the ones who are subjected to their violence.

[@AutisticBrain]

Bro an autistic man was arrested isn’t that what you’re saying *(Janetdonald9801)?*

[@volkischfrau2957]

💯

[@PeterPumpkinEater75]

When I was a kid 15 or so years ago we had this massive autistic kid in our class who was larger than everyone else and had the mental age of probably a 6 year old when we were all 10 years old. Was able to hurt and lash out at whoever he wanted, due to me being so small I was a victim of these rage attacks a few times, all of which came without consequences for him. Anyways one day I’d had enough and smashed him over the head with a tin lunchbox and he fell to the floor like a sack of spuds. He shouldn’t have been in mainstream education and his condition shouldn’t have been our problem to face daily

[@jacquelinelopez3429]

I wonder if Mexican families have kids act up like this? I am Mexican-American and I’m just saying, our parents have our ass in check🩴😂

[@pinchebruha405]

It is t right that the general public has to deal with the sick disabled and addicted. They’re not educated or equipped to but here we are. Their right over everyone’s safety. Yes the parents don’t can t care for them so then workers will be the ones to deal with it. It is very freighting

[@outroseok]

my sister has severe autism and I grew up with her hitting, pulling our hair, throwing drinks, etc when she was angry. people don't TRULY understand unless they've been through it themselves.

[@natesportyboy4939]

What you mean is that you've been through someone autistic doing that to you. That's not the same as knowing what it's like to be autistic and to do those things. For that, you should consider watching "Reframing 'Severe' Autism" by Damon Kirsebom, a boy diagnosed with "severe autism".

[@svetavinogradova4243]

Your mother just failed her parenting job.

[@nikicarrie4071]

I'm sorry

[@0ctoCraft]

people don't TRULY understand if they aren't autistic

[@nowirehangers2815]

@@0ctoCraftso? If you can’t behave in society you belong in an institution

[@zoeydeu2261]

I didn't know about this type of autism until I moved into an apartment downstairs from a family with a severely autistic child. I'll never forget the first time I heard him scream, we nearly called the police over thinking a kid was being physically abused. The noise was so extreme, we'd hear things being thrown around, breaking, even the neighbours below us thought it was us abusing a child (I pointed to her it was the family above us, that's how loud the child was), he'd have one of those episodes at least twice a week. One day I saw the father take the kid to school, and was shocked to see he was about 7 years old! So young and yet so frightening! Then a few months later, I saw an autistic teen bashing his father on the train. The father tried to be as calm as he could and hugged the kid tight while the teen violently thrashed in his arms, screaming. All the passengers in the carriage were silent and in shock/pity for the parents. There was nothing any of us could do. You could tell the mother was embarrassed and tired. The moments of witnessing or hearing what these parents were going through was heartbreaking.

[@denisekriel5892]

We moved out of town onto a small holding because of the fear of living next door to people. When we lived in town we were constantly worried about what our neighbors would think. I did tell them about my daughter having autism but still I think as an outsider when you hear the commotion it is unbelievable and it must be incredibly upsetting. It definitely added so much more stress to our lives worrying about other people. We have outbursts daily to varying degrees. Some days it is just screaming and shouting (good days) and other days she breaks things, becomes violent and has tried to stab us a few times with a knife. She is 13 years old. People just don't understand the challenge of living with this condition 24/7. It is our normal but for others it must seems far from normal.

[@zoeydeu2261]

@@denisekriel5892 Sorry to hear you have to live in constant stress like that. I dunno how you guys do it but hats off to you and hope she gets better with age. It's good you told your neighbors, we didn't get that from our previous neighbor and had to guess. As long as they know a child has autism and isn't being abused, they just need to deal with the noise. Personally I feel for parents and carers of all severe autistic children, I don't know how you guys cope. I hope researchers find a medication or a therapy or treatment that can help calm these kids down (without sedating them), so they and their families can lead safer, better lives

[@masonnix9566]

God kingdom cant come soon enough.

[@MachinaGirlRobots]

My neighbors have called and actually complained about my 4 yr old autistic daughter making noise. I threatened to sue them. It can be VERY hard at times, and most people just do not understand at all. I know no one in my building understands it. Oh and a little edit: I did tell everyone she was autistic. They all know.

[@masonnix9566]

@@MachinaGirlRobots Why are people with autism so mean and cruel?

[@aerialkate]

I feel so sorry for the parents. I know that the kids can't help their behaviour, but it doesn't change the fact that the parents' nerves must be frazzled. Thank God I'm not in their position.

[@colorbar.s]

If you can't help your child if they happen to be born with any kind of disability, don't get children.

[@willowmadhuridixit8991]

It’s drives many to breakdown, suicide, relationships to breaking point and sometimes beyond.

[@willowmadhuridixit8991]

colorbar.s stupidest comment I’ve ever read. Autism is a Neurodevelopmental Disorder. You have no idea when you have a child is that child will be diagnosed with autism. ASD’s are genetic. It’s just a lottery as to who will have it. You don’t not have children because you fear they may have Autism. You can only do you’re best.

[@peanutandoreobasset1859]

aerialkate I know almost nothing about autism, but I wonder if enforcing discipline in the way you do with a non autistic child , from a very early age, would help mitigate some problems later on. Do some parents withhold discipline because they believe the child “cannot help themselves”? I am just wondering.

[@ExclamationPeriodQuestionMark]

aerialkate well just grab the belt and do what you can to protect yourself from the kid

[@tink3802]

LOL why they play "mask off" by future in the background while showing the parent's injuries lmao

[@JohnWhite-uo3tf]

They need the molly and perks

[@truecrimerip7936]

yup, think the editors liked the song too much 😂 doesnt fit the moment at all.

[@laela6289]

Tink yeah poor choice of music. A little distracting 😅

[@nothingwhatever9915]

lmaoo i'm glad i'm not the only one who noticed that

[@myguiltybody]

there was also a weeknd instrumental in there i think

[@awakened3651]

In NY these kids are 'mainstreamed' into regular classrooms. I just got cracked in the head today by the head of a 6yo 1st grade boy. Another teacher got jabbed in the eye with a pencil by a kindergarten boy. Last week I taught in a 4th grade class with a non-verbal girl in an adult stroller. As the day wore on she became increasingly dysregulated, vocalizing, screeching and flailing, bruising her aide. The aide gets no legally required breaks because there is no one else to attend to this 9yo girl. The other children in this classroom get no work done and no one is interacting with this child. Teachers and staff quit regularly, capable students are pulled out of public school by parents. No one benefits from this version of 'inclusion'.

[@sarah2.017]

You are correct.

[@bavariangirl123]

As the parent of a now-grown son with severe autism, I can only agree. Some children are on the mild end of the spectrum and can benefit from an inclusion-type setting. Those on the severe end need specialized care that far exceeds the care that can be provided in a typical classroom setting.

[@InvisibleVicky]

They are here in uk too. Teachers refuse to acknowledge their issues. They don’t give e a shit. Not one of my 4 ASD kids have finished school as they can’t cope. It’s awful as they are so clever

[@Jill_of_trades]

They shouldn't be in a normal class these children

[@InvisibleVicky]

@@Jill_of_trades def not. It’s messed my kids up. Not one have finished high school as they couldn’t cope

[@ajdelgado2663]

'Excuse me....' 'ExCuSe Me...' 'eXcUsE mE...’ 'What Cameron?' 'nO'

[@ayanmustafe8967]

AJ Delgado its not funny its not Lmao pls stop

[@KingJaxsony]

Lololololoollllll 🤣

[@user-xm5jm3im8y]

I laughed lol

[@ayanmustafe8967]

@I'm addicted to musicals it was a joke bro you need to relax and just take the damn joke

[@Stephanie102684]

The 10 year old kid in my special education class does this too. He also will speak in commercials (I've heard the Cookie Crisp and Fruity Pebbles commercial for 7 hours straight before) or TV shows and he'll say, "Excuse me," until you acknowledge him in some way or he'll go over and tap you and then when you do acknowledge, he'll just launch into an explosion sound. It might seem funny to others and sometimes it is because it seems really important and then you acknowledge and all it is is an explosion sound effect. It's something you just get used to.

[@nicoalbarn]

I really respect these parents. My autism isn't that bad but I know sometimes I'm hard to deal with.

[@kaiwhittle6840]

Me too

[@deezn.3418]

Please be my 23rd friend.

[@nox2534]

Same it's really hard because i'll start having a meltdown and no-one will know what to do so they'll try to intervene and obviously that doesn't help...

[@jemstar3388]

I’m on the spectrum aswell but on the high functioning side and since I’m female it got missed for years.

[@themightypars4453]

Jem Star that happened to me(Am male btw) and It’s been 2yrs since we started trying to get a diagnosis My School were calling it anxiety because i was doing good I’m school (They don’t care about your feelings) But my mum kept fighting and just got the diagnosis a week ago. I just feel bad for people that schools don’t care like me

[@kwerkykiki777]

These parents don’t get enough credit the tiredness and mental strain must be alot to deal with but we see you. mum and dad your doing a job👏

[@Muhabbatik]

You are absolutely right. many people when hear you are raising a child with autism act like it's nothing special. If I would left many of them for a day with autistic child many of them would beg to take ac child back within an hour if not less... it's a very hard job

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@Muhabbatik Firstly the situation is caused by the parents and societies choices (epigenetic onset) secondly it only ever get's this bad if the guardians themselves are totally unfit and abusive...as is seen here...I have aspergers and don't even have to think about it nd or nt crowd i'm over with kanner..n as you look around the world don't forget typicals are the kings of social masking/interpersonal manipulation infact it's the only thing typicals are good at on their own.. ALL of the tech you enjoy in your life from the pencil on up you can thank autistic people for... it's a very different culture within your own circles this is showing you will not adapt even for your own children so prehaps they should be locked away for their crimes here and the general welfare the so called parents that is who only stupid/very dumb people could miss where extremely abusive These fucks are in no way sensitive to their children they don't even think of them as such their getting this predator view of someone only mimiking their own responses stressors and such...Don't want timmy to grow up hitting you don't raise him hitting him..otherwise when you get clobbered it's all fair..Might makes right parenting approaches often lead to an overthrow.. Sensory issues yet we are in quiet active places with camera crews staring down people that typically arent found of attention and uncomfertable with eye contact...I could go on and on but there's o many problems here I would not be the least bit surprised if one of those kids killed their parents and i used the term kill because in my eye's it wouldn't be murder after enduring all that but self defense to stop it from continuing

[@5040115]

@@allenbrodess8510 i respect your opinion since you have an inside view but as a mother who is waiting for her child to be assessed for autism I just have to say that I have to work 10 times harder than any average parent just to keep my child safe, fed in a healty way and not stuck in a tv all day. It is a tough job. You know about autism and how it it is autistic but you don't know how hard it is to raise a child that you don't understand and don't know how to help.

[@allenbrodess8510]

​@@5040115 LOVE your child...depathologize your thoughts....instead of looking at stimming as a bad thing acknowledge it's a self regulatory process that we shouldn't interfer with unless it's violent for we can induce burnout which brings with it skill regression,increased tendency towards violence ect...We treat that with a more love lover type approach if it even begins to get there...everything short of sex throw the dayspa,sound therapy,wooing it's a time of recovery the body is forcing to protect itself...Ignore it and get intellectual co's/disability maybe even physical. Look for spd sources of issue like florescent lighting,various sounds,combinations of,textures explore the world again with them to and pay a devoted attention to taking notice....Be about them for awhile observe not to judge/change them but first what can be changed to be better for their lives...Frequent breaks as you shift from topic to topic with a fun distraction so they can 'fall out' of the gear they where in and get ready for the next one..

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@5040115 Really need much more comprehensive information to go beyond generalized best practice tho... you're just now coming to this conclusion soooo chances are regression/burnout has recently started time off vacation toss out that rulebook and let em live a bit see what they do on their own with help rather than trying to force conformity and what you/society wants...THis is critical longer it progressed the more damage will be done...Short term can usually have full recoveries IF you get to the issues and help em move forward,But when sustained symptoms worsen skill loss and trouble obtaining new ones is a sure fire bet and everything just degrades and spirals out....Catching at this point if you treat correctly you could find there's more than than you ever knew.... Not joking at all if their at that point i'll do it myself if you'll bring em...Don't like the results there'll be a plethera of charges you can push...went where i said not to (likely to happen)'kidnapping',the dayspa stuff can easily be twisted and it doesnt take much of an imagination..easy sell to the town who's witnessed a 'closeness' the uber protective nature of what needs to be for awhile i'd be cooked but it works and is worth it.never failed to get another out of burnout yet

[@ekasmar1991]

Having more children after you realize you have a violent child is abuse. Being a good parent to your disabled child is wonderful but stop brining innocents into a situation they didn’t ask for. It’s guaranteed trauma and neglect.

[@SaraGustafsson-xg2ge]

My sisters 14 old girl have ADHD with autistic traits. It feel like a curse in my family. I have a mild form o Down syndrome. My family never understand I thougt diferent. Translated them wrong. They never saw when I was confused or needed an other explanation. I never understood their facewrinkle they made. I was sad, angry and confused. I never understood my 'friends'.

[@socialmediamanagement1859]

what is abuse is your comment. These people at struggling

[@SaraGustafsson-xg2ge]

@@socialmediamanagement1859 I suspected is was some kind of abuse the last years. I'm 39 now. It was like they spoke chinese and I greek.

[@sylviekins]

@@socialmediamanagement1859plenty of ignorant people like to chime in with nonsensical remarks, sadly.

[@missshowers3807]

His voice "excuse me"....this would drive me insane!!!

[@livbaker988]

@@robinjohnson1485 that's disgraceful.

[@empressrobin2280]

@@robinjohnson1485 Could you please explain your reasoning?

[@Iusti06]

Robin Johnson nO u

[@livbaker988]

@@Iusti06 you are so inconsiderate and self centered 🤦🏼‍♀️

[@somepersonwithnolife7754]

@@robinjohnson1485 rude.

[@QueenM3.]

It's stressing me out just to watch. It takes unimaginable patience to raise a child like that. I commend anyone going through this.

[@c_n_b]

I admire people who can raise any child. I can't even imagine this.

[@ohgodwhy3401]

And in some cases, they still have to raise them all through adulthood

[@spacemaster8831]

Not every autistic child is like that, but to the families who deal with that daily, keep going, I admire you

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@spacemaster8831 Most who are you can bet their 'family' onset the violent symptoms with their own violence...Can bet they are suffering as greatly as anyone else there and it's the 'caregivers' fault for being trash,. prehaps well intentioned trash but such an idiot no one should have ever let them have kids without a signing caregiver of their own to take responsibility

[@Louis-lu5wh]

What about being the brother of one of these dickheads that tells you every day that he is going to kill you…

[@jamalkherry5296]

The background music is a tad inappropriate. The Weeknd high for this and Future Mask off aren't what I would have used tbh

[@Incognitoiscool]

Jamal Kherry molly perkiest

[@Yourfairweatherfriend]

Jamal Kherry Haha

[@maximum2918]

Jamal Kherry I thought this comment was a joke but wtf

[@andrewschulzsd]

i think they used that Logic one cause the parents want to kill themselves

[@ikshakandangwa7963]

😂😂😂😂

[@alananmollymollynalana3748]

shoutout to those parents for having such love, compassion, & patience. i don’t think i could handle it honestly.

[@daleburrows2662]

They took the risk when they had children

[@CAUGHH]

@@daleburrows2662I’d rather be infertile than that being a chance my god

[@google1030]

@@daleburrows2662 not really, before modern times the unfit would likely pass away due to being too much burden for families to manage 24/7. It's only due to the parents' decision to be so considerate to deal with the abuse that the kid has made it this far, they have really gone above and beyond to be there for the child.

[@daleburrows2662]

@@google1030 yeah that's true... 200 years ago... when people had lot of children to help out on farms. In the 21st century however there's no excuse to abandon a child

[@phenitagomes1292]

​@@daleburrows2662 I wish your mother had just sucked his dick and swallowed you.

[@ahmedsuleman3204]

My brother is so abusive to my mum always screaming and hitting her when she's trying her best to help him with his diabetes and autism some days I just wish he was never there , and because my parents focus on them I'm literally on the end of a cliff with my mental health ..

[@kita3638]

No please don't harm yourself because of your brother,if u need someone to talk to I am here for u

[@ahmedsuleman3204]

@@kita3638 I'm getting better with my friends help , Thank you , I hope you have a wonderful day

[@natesportyboy4939]

I think you should consider sources for your brother such as Collaborative & Proactive Solutions, Applied Educational Neuroscience, the Neurosequential Model, Beyond Behaviors, Low Arousal, or Ukeru.

[@justagirlthatlovesjesus6030]

Ur mother should boot him into a care home so that u can have some of the attention u are entitled to, esp since u are struggling just as much as they are. So sorry to hear his tantrums are taking presidency over ur well being😢

[@ColinHammond94]

Sorry to hear this ,I've a brother and 2 nephews with it 😢 ❤

[@Jdjustsaying]

Also, the ‘help’ are also victims of violence. People working in disability are the second most injured group of workers, just under building.

[@filipeflower]

What's that supposed to mean?

[@aidisnotapotato1132]

@@filipeflower like caretakers. Caretakers or others who offer in home support often face a lot of violence too.

[@a016202]

@@filipeflower Meaning the help parents are begging for are also targets of the violence the parents are trying to get away from. Medication and a locked room should be the standard of care.

[@filipeflower]

@@a016202 Yeah, but that doesn't apply to every case, does it?

[@a016202]

@@filipeflower What do you mean by “every case”? If you mean do support persons (non-family) experience violence from those cases with a known history of violence then yes - I would bet that nearly all (nothing is ever 100%) experience some level of aggression/violence at least once while they have cared for that person. But if you mean “every case of all autistics” utilizing a non-family support person then no - around 50% of those with autism are not aggressive. Personally, I believe aggressive autistics should be medicated while trying to identify triggers and ways to manage them or finding coping mechanisms. You can’t teach someone who is actively injuring themselves and others.

[@melissakelley9758]

People drive me insane thinking they have the solution when they wouldn't last a week in the shoes of a parent who goes through this. Even if you work in a group home on a typical 8 or 12 hour shift it isn't the same as living 24/7 with a child on the spectrum. You have no idea how isolating it is, how frightening it is, and how it feels to have a child that grew within your body trying to kill you during a meltdown.

[@svetavinogradova4243]

You just need to learn to parent .

[@Robinicat]

I don't know what traditional therapies there are to help families manage the 'meltdowns' and aggressive behaviour of their children these days. Years ago castration was done in order to make aggressive, autistic boys/men calm and gentle. This happened to my husband's cousin about 60 years ago. Is hormone treatment to make males easier to manage and to help make them less volatile and happier individuals?

[@svetavinogradova4243]

@@Robinicat corporal punishment helped for centuries

[@filipeflower]

@@svetavinogradova4243 Why don't you use it on yourself?

[@dollfactory]

​@@filipeflower 😂

[@nychris2258]

Nope.. dont want to have kids and risk living like this. Not worth it. This is a nightmare.

[@carollima7579]

I agree

[@tthsgun]

Quite rare but understandable

[@elenasirosh2989]

​@tthsgun it's not rare. 1 in 36 kids in the US becomes autistic (2023, CDC). The numbers are growing.

[@Chamomile369]

Same. I have mild autism so my kids would guaranteed at least have it mildly, NOT risking this. I watch these videos as birth control.

[@dreamsofturtles1828]

Im not even surprised anymore when people i meet tell me their son or daughter is on the spectrum .

[@kerrymurton2268]

I’m going through the same thing. My son was such a content, happy child growing up. Since he started puberty he’s become a monster. And it’s horrible to be scared of your own child but I am.

[@beaulieuc8910]

;;ad to be kidfree

[@juliabirney4853]

Talk to your pediatrician. There is help. I worked in the autism field. There are aides through schools too. If your pediatrician writes a "prescription" for your child for behavior health help, you can get help!

[@mariec3527]

Just so everyone knows Not every person with Autism is like this . Don't sterotype every autistic person . I have autism just a low form of it , my only struggle is socializing and making eye contact . Where as these kids have a very sever case of it and I hope there parents can get help with them cuz this isn't easy to deal with

[@TheRojo387]

What if we stereotyped every HUMAN person? Well, the stereotype would look just like Zamyatin's We.

[@shadrach6299]

No one is putting down or stereotyping all autistic people. It is understood that they are discussing some autistics

[@nowirehangers2815]

This isn’t about you

[@mattweber6505]

Autism is like fingerprints. No 2 people are the same. It manifests in infinite diferent ways.

[@Iamnottheplatypus]

Yes.

[@kaylynnehoelscher4297]

Time for a special home y'all deserve a life too. Don't feel guilty for doing the right thing and getting your child into placement where they can be understood better. Sending prayers positivity and healing light.

[@jessicafain6630]

Of course they're going to feel guilty. It's incredibly hard for them to be in control and not act out in frustration to the kid, and they love them dearly. So imagine how they'll be treated by strangers who don't care about them at all. Very difficult decision.

[@yellowblanka6058]

@Pye22 He could potentially seriously hurt his parents if he can't control his impulses etc. Granted, it's not his fault he was born that way, but that has to be stressful on the parents.

[@hellybelle5]

When you have children, and are devoted to them, you cannot just dump them, and especially not feel guilty.

[@ArtDesignHobby]

I think parents should be trained to deal with them...

[@yellowblanka6058]

@@ArtDesignHobby - I think they're doing the best they can, but even in the best circumstances it's hard to deal with a child that has the mentality/emotional maturity of a toddler with the size and strength of an adult.

[@dollfactory]

My gf's daughter is 21 nonverbal and frightening. I remember many times watching her pick up her little sisters and throw them across rooms. Ever since she was little and to this day whatever she's doing she puts all of her strength into it so, if she's mad you better look out! She's caused alot of pain but doesn't know it most the time....my poor friend. I feel for these families.

[@Robinicat]

Where I'm from parents are encouraged to send their autistic adult children to a home for intellectually handicapped adults. The quality of life is excellent with trained staff, nutritious meals, outings every week, duties for each resident and many even work. They make friends in the residence. Just as we expect our 'normal' children to leave the nest, parents of autistic adult children are also encouraged to let their children start their more independent lives around the age of 21. That is not to say that they are abandoned there. Parents can visit, take them out for dinner and to family events and even take them travelling if possible. It's a win-win situation.

[@KathyPrendergast-cu5ci]

That's terrible; how horrible for the younger siblings who are abused by her. No parents or children should be expected put up with constant violent abuse by a family member, no matter how much the love them and how little they can help it due to a mental disability. There was a really heartbreaking case in the USA a few years ago (there was an episode of Dr. Phil focusing on it) in which a desperate mother of a violent severely autistic 13-year-old girl tried to kill both her daughter and herself with carbon monoxide, but failed, and now faces a long prison sentence. She was battered by this girl (who was already bigger and stronger than her) almost every day.

[@Robinicat]

@weirdscience2911 I hope you have come to terms with the life you have been dealt. Just keep in mind Weirdscience that we ALL have some kind of issues in life. Some are born with a physical deformity, some suffer lifelong medical issues due to an illness, others are abandoned at birth, and others are tormented by mental illness and cannot deal with reality. Some are born into abject poverty, others are rejected and unloved, others are bullied at school and are friendless and others suffer from autism. You can deal with your issues with help and a determination to be the best 'you' you can be.

[@sophiebyers5496]

@dollfactory Did you call child protective services?

[@hackidreemurr]

Bro that's not autism anymore. Someone deliberately hurting other people to this extend, that must be something else like sociopathy or even psychopathy. Not even one animal deliberately hurts others, if they are born sane and without antisocial personality disorders, not even in the animal world, and even a small human wouldn't do so, if not for self-defense. Most autistic people aren't dumb. They know what they are doing. I'm pretty sure there must be something else for most autistic people described in the comments

[@lasalleman]

Big kid. Seems like a grown man physically. Dangerous to himself and others. Sad business.

[@fairymairah]

what the are you talking about? 😒😡 this was never said about non-autistics who cut themselves or hurt themselves in anyway ! ! ! ! !

[@maskedscorpio6328]

fairymairah That's literally exactly what people say about people cutting themselves what the hell are you talking about.

[@fairymairah]

+MaskedScorpio I'm talking about these so called autistic experts calling autistics' anger and being upset an OutBurst but they don't call a non autistics behavior that! it's bad enough people judge autistics and give out all this un-needed Love and Care which probably disables autistics from learning how to be independent in the first place! but every time a non autistic person get so angry and upset! it's not considered an OutBurst! but when an autistic person does it! than that's when it's called an Outburst! and it makes me want to extremely DisLike these kinds of people! And also! when a non autistic person hurt themselves like cutting themselves! that's when they're considered needing help! but when an autistic person hurt themselves like biting themselves! they get kicked out of Schools! Programs! Camps! and get to be treated like Criminals and they get Judged like alot of people before being actually Known! That's What I'm talking about ! ! ! ! !

[@fairymairah]

+MaskedScorpio and I feel like I just want to HATE these kinds people and want justice for autistics

[@courtneykurtenbach2230]

fairymairah an autistic person having an outburst is completely different from a non autistic person having an outburst. Autistic people have outbursts because they are feeling overwhelmed with sensory input or because they can't communicate what is making them uncomfortable. But outbursts CAN be very violent and intense. And unfortunately there is no way to reason with them, they just have to get through it. That is incredibly difficult for parents and caretakers to deal with. But it's just because of their condition, they can't help it. Their brains simpky work differently. A non autistic person having an outburst is different, but can certainly be just as dangerous. But those with no mental conditions don't have outbursts as frequebtly or intensely as those who do have conditions such as autism. But I have no idea where you seem to get that people are not concerned about non autistic people having outbursts. But someone cutting themself as a way of coping with stressors is nowhere near the same as someone having a violent outburst due to a mental condition.

[@thebloodyquill7455]

As someone with Asperger's, I think it's incredibly unfair to the parents to have to deal with that for the rest of their lives. It's not the autistic kids' faults, and they're lashing out in pain and frustration, but at the same time they are burdening their families. They need to be put in a home of some sort where trained professionals can take care of them.

[@lavalampluva55401]

I don't blame them for living in fear. The most extreme cases, those kids have almost superhuman strength. They have the potential of causing serious damage and harm. These parents need help.

[@debraduffy9610]

I watched several videos of the Neeson Family. They are in Australia and have a 19 year old son. He bloodied his head by bashing with his fists ...screaming and but his father. I have seen the Guardian Helmet which can protect them against self harm. I also read an article about a parent in Wisconsin that had vocal cord surgery done to soften the loudness of screaming meltdowns in 2013. A family should NOT live in fear of adukt child with Severe Autism causing harm to themselves ....property destruction etc.

[@lesliemillni8715]

their parents who who did who just prayed all their lives and some of them have been healed of autism they don't have Asperger's they don't have that autism and doctors psychologist said they received a miracle you have to put your faith in the word you don't know things have happened to people in group homes institutions

[@e.a.coldrick]

@@lesliemillni8715 ummm... haha people can't be healed from autism... but thanks for playing I guess

[@ReqZi]

I am normal person and I have autism and in my opinion autism is just an excuse

[@bilingualeducation7333]

I'm autistic. My parents were overwhelmed and didn't want more children after me. Thank God I'm independent and non violent. I used to be terrified of people and of change. I have learned to cling to God, Consistency and routines are nice but never effective 100%.

[@a-k9161]

Even God I not 100% effective if there is one.

[@lillybrandy1188]

@bilingualeducation7666 Don’t let other’s questionable comments about God disturb you one bit. A true follower of God and his written word is all that you need, along with following his guidance with prayer 🙏. Bless you and your family and keep the faith. In Jesus’ name: Amen. ✝️

[@depnewshound]

I have a friend w a violent autistic child and he’s made the family life a living hell at times. I feel so sorry for them and all families who have to put up w this. Watching this and knowing that this is a prison they’ll never be able to escape is just tragic.

[@0ctoCraft]

the real tragedy is how your friends family seems to treat them

[@depnewshound]

@@0ctoCraft What do you mean? I never said anything about how my friend treats her child -- which, by the way, is with excellent care and love. My comment is on how the entire family is and always will be held hostage by the behavior on one child.

[@0ctoCraft]

@depnewshound their family isn't ''held hostage'' by anything

[@Blopusanian]

@@0ctoCraft I would describe being stuck with a violent child as being held hostage in a way

[@0ctoCraft]

@@Blopusanian not when you make the child violent

[@brittttany]

excuse me, excuse me, excuse me, excuse me .. ay, look on the bright side - he has manners!

[@shanimarie409]

He actually had something to say but nobody acknowledge it .. he said "I can't see you" and seemed to do something weird with his eyes... Maybe he had a problem.. I feel sorry for him his mother didn't even asked him what's wrong why cannot he see her...

[@mariroldan9636]

@@shanimarie409 im so happy he is able to communicate because when they are non verbal it's a guessing game on what is bothering me

[@cobrafn2682]

Kagan Roy start acting mature instead of picking on people in the comment section

[@wolfgang7812]

Why didn't th mother just move out of his way. He clearly doesn't like her talking to a third party about him.

@@wolfgang7812 yeah. Isnt that supposed to be rude or something?

[@GnosticAtheist]

I'm over 40 now, still not regretting my decision to not have kids.

[@coryindahus7319]

Yeah and remember not to ever get kids either because once you get older there is a high risk of autism in you children

[@GnosticAtheist]

@@coryindahus7319 No way I want kids now. My head hurts just thinking about the stress...

[@coryindahus7319]

@@GnosticAtheist I feel bad for you man

[@almunumm9069]

When people say that they don't want kids at the age of 40 it usually means they do, it's just an excuse for why someone can't get a boyfriend or girlfriend.

[@GnosticAtheist]

@@almunumm9069 I'm gay. Not saying that automatically remove those natural feelings for reproduction, but it does alter it. There are ways to have children (including adoption) but its more of a choice. Having a child is something that cannot happen by accident thus its much easier to ... skip it.

[@vonreeves17]

I am dealing with the same situation! I would not wish this on anyone!

[@katesteventon5296]

von reeves love to you. Hope things get better

[@LlamaCornAki3110ryhd]

I am autistic and your behavior disgusts me. When you had a child you signed up for anything. You should not expecting a child that will be perfect or how you want it. Imagine the struggle your child has!!

[@katesteventon5296]

Dopepe shut up troll. No parent ever expects that their child will be violent towards them or others. This has nothing to do with having unrealistic expectations for your child, being negative towards people with autism or not loving them as they are either. You imagine being scared of your own child? You imagine how painful it must be to watch your child in so much distress and pain on a daily basis?

[@BabyBunch]

Routine and rules work.

[@frak7190]

"My child hurts me and people I care about, but it's ok because they are probably upset too" Doesn't work like that pal.

[@BaBaYaga1999-p7u]

What a horrific nightmare. It would destroy my peace of mind and qualify of life. I couldn’t do it.

[@Rich_ric6075]

i know right? i cant deal with this, im too weak

[@epursimuove1633]

Nor should you be expected to

[@toniwesley4467]

That mom shouldn’t feel any guilt. She did an amazing job. You can tell she’s really patient.

[@wemuk5170]

Toni Wesley Patience isn’t enough. She needs professional help from a weekly speech & behaviour modification therapist who will train her weekly to train her son all day long - daily & intensively. Behaviour modification therapy helps the anxious child communicate appropriately without recourse to violence. It’s not the child’s fault (his violence) & patience is grossly insufficient! The £150 once a week for professional therapy to train the parent is worth its weight in gold! Much better to spend all his benefits on therapy for sanity than on much needed respite. Sad but true: patience isn’t enough - if you don’t know what you are doing.

[@Sailormoonfan88]

@@wemuk5170 Try telling that to insurance companies who don't cover that!!!

[@wemuk5170]

@Kamil Debiola How can you call her son selfish & annoying? How do you know? I have a son diagnosed with low functioning autism, intellectual disability & various health issues and no one has ever called him selfish or annoying. Since 2017, I also run a pan-disability club to support all-ages, people with disabilities and mental health diagnoses, and to support their parents and carers at YMCA. No one has called any of us (so far) selfish or annoying. Who appointed you a judge over him/us? Walk your talk, friend.

[@wemuk5170]

@@Sailormoonfan88 Yes, you are right. It is a shame in some countries. However, in UK, the government usually will give that public funding as support for those who have children who are severely disabled.

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@Sailormoonfan88 Autism can be great and i wouldn't give up being an aspie but as with all great things there is a price to be paid.Kanners and Aspies are the reason you can have everything you enjoy today they invented and laid the foundation for everything of technological value..You as parents made that choice you get to pay the price in a just world even if it costs you your lives..That's called taking responsibility for the outcome of your actions/choices. Same to father as mother...You don't pay the toll no one crosses the bridge and you get to pay penance

[@monty4195]

I pray he doesn’t hurt his parents when they get old and when he gets old

[@katysteele6069]

@Dr Yuching Lee stop peddling your fake herbs , herbs dont cure autism. its offensive. and i am a parent of an autistic child!

[@TheBucksco18966]

Maybe he needs to be in a place were people can manage is violence. Not everyone can be cared for at home. The parents need and deserve a break.

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

Why? My mum has never had a break and I’m 30 don’t hear her complaining. Parents don’t get breaks

[@alananmollymollynalana3748]

@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 parents deserves breaks. just because you have never heard your mom complain doesn’t mean she doesn’t have any. a mother will never complain about her child to their face.

[@s4sh-g6g]

the kid deserves a break

[@theblackwholemy]

​@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 This kind of sociopathic thinking is why I don't feel sorry when these people get put in a home.

[@iramanuca3556]

Parents, who decided to bring these monsters into world deserve a break but poorly paid workers have the joy of dealing with these waste of space?

[@olczi7]

I work in an SEN college for autistic adults and one thing no one tells you about is that the more comfortable they get with you, the more likely you are to become their target during a meltdown as your reaction isn’t as unpredictable to them as that of a stranger.

[@xyz7572]

That is so sad and terrifying

[@MarionBurgess-s7e]

Yes i totally agree with you. I have worked with autism for years, now retired, i had a lot of bad days, getting hit and punched, the sad thing is on a good day it is really good, but the bad days are very bad. These parents are working hard to make the best of their lives, and for their son, very sad for them.

[@FronteirWolf]

The person most likely to be at the receiving end when I 'm so distressed that I get violent is my mum. I'm generally respectful, teachers found me to be well behaved, but with my classroom assistant it was a different story. I was never violent, but I was still difficult with her.

[@Niki-mp8qe]

Yes I agree, just a sign they are comfortable and feel safe to tell you how they feel in the only way they know how

[@nat22228]

@@Niki-mp8qeor they see you as a pushover and know you’ll never retaliate so you’re an easier target to attack than someone that doesn’t put up with their abusive behaviour.

[@mandysimms4184]

Autism is not a gift which a lot of people sprout off about.

[@Sailormoonfan88]

Some gifted people had autism high functioning though. Ex:Mozart,Bill Gates extra.

[@macion9481]

It can be a sort of blessing as well as a curse, but it is rare.

[@chicken2761]

Monica LW I have high functioning autism and see it that way too. It makes me creative and I think outside the box but I can also take things to seriously and sometimes don't get things.

[@macion9481]

chicken 27 Yes that's how it is for me too. I've learned to sort of work with my autism so that it benefits me and the people around me. I'm more emotional than most people would think, loud noises bother me if they're unexpected, and making friends IRL is extremely tough. But I've been a musician for 7 years and have honed in on that, and I think my autism had a part to play in both of those things. 👍

[@chicken2761]

Monica LW I applied for college in a course doing costume design for theatre and movies and I think my autism helps me with that and helps my creativity

[@glasshalffull4061]

Autism is a broad-spectrum disorder. That's part of the difficulty in dealing with it. One person's Autism can be minimal, while another's can be completely debilitating. And absolutely, where violence is concerned, the larger the person, the greater damage they can inflict. The struggle is great. The heartbreak never goes because as parents, we want to "make it better" and when we can't, and we have to watch a child suffer, it is the greatest pain of all. These parents have nothing to be ashamed of. I applaud them for sharing their stories and reaching out for help. God bless them!

[@hikaru9624]

Cherokee Woman agreed!

[@jaymemangano1154]

Cherokee Woman.My Uncle First wife was an décent lady Was Cherokee Most of all I found my Uncle over at Saint Thomas Hospitalisé while in en Collège!

[@gabriellaguido1441]

Cherokee Woman I have a question how do girls with bad autism deal with there period. This is actually a question I curious about and if you have the answer I greatly appreciate it.

[@leesscribbles]

My cousin is high functioning, I didnt even know he was on the spectrum in till I was told by my mom. Not many people realise that it is a spectrum like you said.

[@leesscribbles]

Cracyeccololly Kidrauhlisthelord that was difficult to tell by the way you structured your comment.

[@luvdanni95]

This background music has me dying, they really started played High for This by The Weeknd at one point 😂

[@rahidm4367]

I absolutely love that song 🤣🤣

[@jordanarmenta8606]

Lol 😂

[@nickinportland]

The bbc always has top notch background music 😂

[@sherylliu791]

For real lmaoo was looking for this comment

[@nskeow]

4:08 mask off by future??

[@margodphd]

I'm sorry but other children didn't ask to be beaten,to be afraid in their own home. They feel invisible, unwanted, betrayed, they ARE victims - phenomenon of glass children is frightening. The parents have to protect ALL CHILDREN,not only the sick one....

[@YochevedDesigns]

Are you volunteering to go to their house and give them some respite hours? If not, then STFU.

[@emmajones8590]

If that was my child, he would be in a facility. It's just too dangerous to keep him at home, end of. And that story of somebody else in this thread, of the autistic child trying to kill his sister, is terrifying. That is a ticking time bomb and it is so unfair for the younger sister to have to share a home with an older sibling that tried to strangle her. This makes me realize how incredibly lucky most parents are, to have a child that behaves even reasonably normally.

[@charlieamy2279]

Honestly…I can’t help but think about this. I also can’t help but think so children/adults who go through things that cause trauma, who more than likely also don’t know exactly what’s going on, how to express it or how to deal with it, that act out afterwards will be told to take care of their shit and more than likely will hear shitty things about themselves due to judgement, but an autistic child or adult will consistently violently lash out and possibly physically and mentally damage people like these stories I’m seeing here…some for life…but we all need to be more understanding and accepting. That is blasted all over media now yet I don’t see this level of autism being shown or talked about much yet. I just hope this is not what we are accepting. I can’t give a person with a disability/disorder who’s consistently violent a pass. It doesn’t feel right or fair. It’s still violence. It’s still damaging and unacceptable. Anyone other than parents and caregivers who are made fully aware these things could happen and consent to still caring for them albeit the possible violence, shouldn’t have to deal with this. I know that may come across cut throat and cold, I’m just stating my honest thoughts and feelings here. I do understand there is things going on that drive this more than someone who does not have severe autism yet I still feel If it’s repeatedly harmful to innocent by standers, it needs to be dealt with. Kinda feels like a double standard to me when trauma can act as a disorder/disability to people as well. Just doesn’t sit right with me because I feel it’s given more of a pass yet the damage to other people doesn’t discriminate.

[@np100]

@@emmajones8590 Do you know there are no facilities in most countries? And those that exist have years long waiting lists.

[@isabellavillanueva4639]

@@np100people don’t want to work in these fields and get abused how can you blame them

[@fionagregory8078]

my autistic son has taught me great patience. Everyone who meets him likes him and says he is very polite.

[@euanstirling1866]

Emma Rose Well tbh when you are being punched by your child, I don’t think anyone should judge any of your feelings on the matter...

[@e.n7558]

I am obligated by the internet to say lol XD i honestly don't think autism is a joke and it should be taken seriously but a man has to do what the internet wants The internet can be cruel to me

[@a016202]

Everyone is lying to be polite. No one likes autistic children.

[@bruhmieter5688]

@@a016202 and you are an elitist who unironically thinks he can control his life.

[@kendallbald]

ThisIsWhy well, people like me because they got to know me and by the way people do like children with autism and if you’re going to say something as ignorant as that you’re part of the problem

[@Kiddly3000]

everyone needs to understand every person with autism is different just like any human being on this planet I have autism

[@abandoned---channel-o7b]

Me too!!!!!! Merry Xmas! !!!!😺😺😺

[@aliens3219]

Kiddly3000 same

[@cooljackster7390]

I have autism as well but on a very low level

[@brotchenkorner3944]

jep. there is such a huge spectrum.

[@HarvesterYT]

Same. So many people believe that autistic people are always violent people who view the world as bad people and kill people in cold blood. The media makes this worse as well, immediately saying that somebody who has commited murder or terrorism is somebody who has autism or other forms of mental disablities.

[@sonnen8971]

That’s no way to live. I wouldn’t wish that on my worst enemy.

[@karenkas81]

Yet there are people that say, it better to have an autistic child then to have , measle, mumbs..

[@coryindahus7319]

@@karenkas81 shut up karen, you are a divorced soccer mom

[@Frank289100]

THE MERCURY INSIDE THE VACCINES ARE MOST LIKELY THE CAUSE OF AUTISM IN CHILDREN. MERCURY IS A GOOD CONDUCTOR AND MOST LIKELY CREATED ELECTRICAL PATHS IN THE BRAIN CAUSING THESE AUTISTIC CONDITIONS. I USED REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER TO CURE PEOPLE OF IRON OVERLOAD/HEMOCHROMATOSIS AND IT WORKS. SINCE REVERSE OSMOSIS IS THE PUREST WATER IN THE WORLD AND HAS A TENDENCY TO ATTRACT MINERALS/METALS. FOR CHILDREN WITH AUTISM IT COULD HELP TO REMOVE THE MERCURY DEPOSIT IN THE BRAIN CAUSING THIS CONDITION. REVERSE OSMOSIS FILTERING SYSTEMS ARE CHEAP AND I WOULD HIGHLY RECOMMEND INSTALLING ONE AND GIVING THE CHILD THIS WATER DAILY TO DRINK ONLY. ITS WORTH TRYING BUT ALSO REMEMBER TO BALANCE IT OFF WITH A VITAMIN MINERAL SUPPLEMENT. BECAUSE IT CAN ALSO REMOVE GOOD MINERALS FROM THE BODY. IN THE BEGINNING ALLOW THE CHILD TO CONSUME THE WATER WITHOUT THE VITAMIN MINERAL SUPPLEMENT TO SEE IF THERE IS AN IMPROVEMENT. THERE IS ALSO MANY BOTTLED WATERS THAT ARE REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER LIKE DASANI MADE BY COCA COLA, AND ALSO THE NESTLE WATER IS ALSO REVERSE OSMOSIS WATER. YOU CAN START OF WITH BOTTLED R.O WATER FIRST.

[@corninyourpoop]

@@coryindahus7319 lmaaaoo

[@randomhuman9672]

Karen Soares not all autistic people are like this, I never hurt anyone

[@kita5886]

My heart goes out to all parents who have experienced this ❤

[@AdamAbdullah1]

The choice of music in this is horrible

[@jg7157]

aaa aaa yeah like they’re playing future over an autism documentary

[@fir3y569]

I know right. who would put wolves on this? lmao

[@shara5309]

Why would they freaking put Logic 1-800.

[@undefinedelijah72]

AGREE

[@maybelikealittlebit]

Zip Zap I died lmao

[@2tone69]

Sadly I wouldn’t have patience for Cameron

[@thewatcher544]

It’s sad that children are born and have to live with this condition.I wouldn’t be able to cope with a child who was that grown and that dangerous.I love my kids to death but I’d be calling child protective services on my self just to have my kid placed somewhere that he could be looked after .Might sound mean but I’m being honest here.

[@bashdug]

No

[@jacquishersby5329]

I

[@hannahhorne1438]

Same

[@monty4195]

suzie peaches same

[@mizfeng1442]

I am Autistic myself and having gone through years of struggling and meltdowns, I can tell you that my parents suffered a great deal having to care for me. If I was any more severely Autistic I don't know how they would have coped - how these families are doing it is beyond me. These parents need so much more support than they're getting, and their children need to be dealt with better by professionals so that they can actually target the issues and help those who are more high-functioning develop coping methods. It's terrible that more isn't being done.

[@bigboomer1013]

GetSetPet I always thought that myself. I mean yeah we autistics had hard times but as a parent, they struggle so much becuase seeing their child having meltdowns and having trouble having friends and getting bullied alot brings alot of stress to the parent and it saddens them. I know that if I was any more low functioning, my mom will struggle with me becuase she don't know exactly how to support and make me happy and all and it hurts her to see me hurt all the time and atrugling with life.

[@lcestnick]

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[@malinrobbins7779]

GetSetPet nutritionfacts.org/video/best-foods-for-autism/ This may help.

[@mizfeng1442]

Thanks for your help but I really don't think broccoli sprouts are gonna cure me. I don't eat animal products and eat a large amount of those foods anyways (including broccoli sprouts.) Foods won't get rid of a neurological condition.

[@malinrobbins7779]

GetSetPet Sulphoraphane won't cure you but it will buffer the 4 main components that make up what is known as autism. Also one important thing is that sulphoraphane can only be gotten from eating raw broccoli. That's because an enzyme in broccoli breaks down a compound into sulphoraphane when being digested in your gastric juices. The enzyme breaks down at temperatures of 118 to 127°F. So if you have not eaten raw broccoli then I would suggest trying to eat a cup of raw broccoli and see if you can sense any effect :).

[@Paigebaby]

You never look at pictures of your baby/little one and imagine this life for them. It’s unimaginably hard, but you don’t love them any less.

[@maryam-st9ci]

😭

[@annabelenko1611]

I wouldn’t love them at all

[@Seraphime]

@@annabelenko1611no one should love u

[@daleburrows2662]

​@@annabelenko1611life is a cruel lottery. You choose to create life then you have to bare accountability if the child doesn't come out correct. Noone asks to be born

[@google1030]

@@daleburrows2662 I wouldn't say that, there's circumstances that are beyond what a parent can reasonably be expected to work with. Being physically assaulted is not okay and it's normal to not be able to deal with that or other extreme behaviour problems and care requirements.

[@jamesgant2650]

I really feel for the kid when he screams, "stop that noise!" I've told my mum to stop doing the dishes because it felt like she was throwing them at the walls in my head but all that anyone can see is less than what you feel.

[@sarahebert2510]

thank you for this comment. my algebra teacher threatened to send me to the office for listening to music, but that's the best way i know to block out the loud noises in the room.

[@Anon24052]

@@KFrost-fx7dt Bullshit.

[@hajraashraf5702]

My brother does the same. He gets disturbed by the tiniest of noises. I thought he was just rude and overdemanding but now I've come to understand that noises do really disturb him more than they would another person

[@nintenalex]

@@Anon24052 Not bullshit whatsoever. Its live life turned up to 200% intensly aware of everything around you and any minute change from their normal routine feels like a disaster. Just because you cant imagine it doesnt mean it doesnt exist you plank.

[@nintenalex]

@@KFrost-fx7dt Your an idiot who shouldn't have children if your advocating parents beat their autistic children.

[@5150Rockstar]

This and many other reasons is why I’m never throwing the dice and having kids.

[@ad8447]

Amen

[@MimMiao]

Exactly.

[@Rosebud2503]

I sometimes wish I had kids...but seeing this....I am glad now I haven't.

[@nottodaynint.nottoday2235]

I applaud you for that, people that can't handle their child being anything but healthy, cis, straight, mentally stable, etc etc, just shouldn't have kids

[@amulet6]

@@nottodaynint.nottoday2235 It's funny how you assumed she hates all these other groups just because she doesn't want to have an extremely autistic child. I bet it would be really difficult for such a dense person like you to raise an autistic kid. In fact, you wouldn't handle it a day. Imagine having a kid that screams all day and all night because he doesn't understand that he's in an environment and he's supposed to behave! That's what you'd be dealing with. It's much easier said than done.

[@arrontheemo7752]

God I was getting stressed watching him getting up in hes mums face saying excuse me over and over again I cannot even imagine what it would be like for them.

[@a016202]

Absolute hell on earth.

[@allenbrodess8510]

exactly what their chosen actions brought upon them and if they don't change will continue to bring upon them...reaping what they sew..autism and it's worsening are epigenetically induced...There's no debate left to be had there 90% of the human population has the potential to go that way with the same/like conditions less than 1% does cause their conditions where different..

[@natesportyboy4939]

Oh sure, feel for the parents but not the child, how totally lovely of you. You need to read "Two Houses" by Henry Frost, an autistic boy who is just like the one in this video, because you don't know or care about how people like this boy feel about situations like these.

[@arrontheemo7752]

@@natesportyboy4939 you need to grow up a bit before you start commenting on here. Never said I don’t fell bad for the child.

[@arrontheemo7752]

@@allenbrodess8510 I’m sorry can you just explain what you mean please as I was confused with what you said

[@crismarieb6275]

The mental toll it takes on the parents is heartbreaking. Parents need support too.

[@winning3329]

Having an autistic child is extremely mentally and physically draining 😢

[@beckee6282]

Does anyone ever consider the person with autism? How hard do you think it is for THEM? Quit talking about their parents for fucks sake. Imagine how it feels to be autistic and how hard that is to deal with? There’s nothing wrong with them, they just have no support in society because most people don’t give a fuck about disabilities. They don’t care about anything unless it’s personal.

[@0ctoCraft]

@@beckee6282 thank you I am autistic and it's great to see someone who supports disabilities

[@google1030]

@@beckee6282 The parents are getting physically assaulted by the child, and have no way to stop it, so yes it is hard for them. Jesus christ how can you be so self centered? We know it's hard for the child, but being physically abused without any way to stop the abuse is ALSO a difficult sitation to live in. No autistic person would want to have to be in a situation where they are on the receiving end of that type of behaviour either.

[@Hypn0__t1z3]

Completely agreed. I'm autistic and saying that someone is scared of their autistic child hurts me.​@@beckee6282

[@KAvanAlten]

I am autistic myself, and although my mother tells me that i was a relatively difficult child to raise compared to my younger brother and sister, this is a quite whole other level!

[@charlesfraunhofer7893]

So you follow an ism, wow, no more isms for me, I have ism-phobia.

[@KAvanAlten]

@@charlesfraunhofer7893 Not once in my comment did I use a word ending with 'ism', so I am curious how you came to that conclusion, and also which 'ism' you are talking about.

[@takashi.mizuiro]

Krijn van Alten whats ism

[@mohammedsaifullah633]

Hey krijn , r u on fb

[@KAvanAlten]

@@mohammedsaifullah633 I am.

[@KbKiller42019]

I'm on the spectrum myself and the thought of possibly putting my family through this when I was younger makes me so depressed..

[@leahgracefecteau6049]

Aww sorry that you felt that way I’m sure family doesn’t want you to feel bad 😞

[@kathleenh2782]

me too. i'm on the spectrum and i'm still a kid and the thought of putting my family through this makes me sad, so i try not to bother them too much.

[@leahgracefecteau6049]

Aww

[@the5starreviewer226]

Luckilly most Autistic people aren't like that, Unless they said you did you probablly didn't.

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@kathleenh2782 Prehaps it's required for your particular situation to keep going forward but that's a really unhealthy mindset...If they are family rather than loose relatives their job is to help you and yours to help them..Your autism was created by your parents epigenetically it's not some random aliment there are conditions in the womb and just after which cause it made by your parents,socieities choices...About 90% of the worlds population HAD the potential to go that way..Those parents made other choices and got different results

[@votecurtistheguineapigforp9603]

This world is such a crazy whack backwards place there's little kids that are perfectly well-behaved being beaten and abused daily, right taken away, put it put into foster homes and then we got this family ....they're the ones getting abused, don't give up on their kid wouldn't dream of hurting him. Can someone tell me how to help? The government clearly isn't, and quite frankly I don't think they ever will. I feel so bad for this mother. .. just....

[@ThatCringeCalledIggleboz]

Stop voting Tory then.

[@kairosworkshop3349]

You do realize it's because he's having a meltdown due to overstimulation right? I myself am autistic and bit my sister once because I was melting down, I was terrified and everything hurt, so don't make it about the parents, they're actually ignorant.

[@tomorainns145]

you where terrified so you bit your sister, now i know what goes through my bros head

[@danieldyman7196]

Kairo's Workshop blame the O V E R S T I M U L A T I O N

[@kairosworkshop3349]

Tomo Rainns I was scared so I lashed out, look I was 7

[@mordan4686]

What a nightmare. Poor parents.

[@EmmaDevlin2]

Why are you overlaying rap music tho lol

[@JJ-rq1sk]

eggplant iguana it fits with the theme

[@prestonbobbitt700]

lmao i thought i had another tab open

[@Yourfairweatherfriend]

eggplant iguana Haha your random comment made me burst into laughter.😂

[@ranidayz09]

I was like I know this ain't mask off playing while showing these folks bruises lmao

[@basstion4146]

eggplant iguana IKR WHAT IS UP WITH THE LOGIC LIKE

[@dinolandra]

These kids don't get therapy or medication. They should have emphasized that more in this video.

[@jake1173]

dinolandra The thing is, i got therapy even though i was top of my class, I had autism, but it was very minimal, but my younger autistic brother, who is more severe than mine, didn't get much treatment.

[@dinolandra]

SparkyTheFox that's pretty messed up. My husband is high functioning and did well without therapy but his family members who are low functioning didn't get as much help and aren't nearly as successful in life

[@dinolandra]

chibi hungary yeah but they focused more on the parents' struggle rather than the children's, and i don't feel like that will really help the children.

[@dinolandra]

chibi hungary i think educating the parents as well as giving therapy to the students will help them. I am lucky to live in a metro area where i can receive both for my son. Autistic children are not emotionless machines who can't be understood. They just react to things differently and think a different way. Too many parents with children on the spectrum don't understand that.

[@heathercameron1485]

dinolandra The thing is therapy and mess don't completely stop meltdowns. It certainly helps don't get me wrong but you can't completely get rid of their "challenging behaviour" (as the new pc term goes).

[@denise6896]

The issue with autism is it's not one thing. Autism is like having a sore throat. It could be allergies, strep throat, or bubonic plague. All cause sore throat, but the rest of the symptoms can may be minor to almost deadly. I'm lucky my children are very high functioning, and most of the issues are social queues. Other than that fine. I know many that is not so.

[@cargoloyalty9978]

I just wanted to say I love your analogy!

[@Swedmonkei]

@Jack park You obviously have no idea what you're talking about. I have high functioning autism and sure, I can act appropriately and people always like me (at first). But whenever I have to spend en extended amount of time with people they will always get the feeling that something is off, hence why I have very few friends who stick around. It's also absolutely exhausting for me to be social with people, I need about maybe 6 hours of just sitting at home completely alone to not burn out, which makes managing uni/work/social life extremely difficult.

[@Fizzywoz]

You make it sound like a disease when you use that analogy. Everybody on the spectrum is unique with their own set of challenges and abilities. I'm autistic myself. I can make friends but sometimes struggle to maintain friendships. Just like any other human my ability to do things can vary.

[@Samuel-ku1qb]

Denise I’m high functioning (Aspergers) and it’s very hard at times but I am always glad that I’m not as low functioning as others.

[@RhiannaBarr]

@@Samuel-ku1qb me too. It just saddens me that ALL people on the Spectrum (us high functioning types mainly) are lumped together with the lower functioning types) and are all seen as intellectually delayed, violent and otherwise a burden to society.

[@linlegerton3482]

I worked in a school for Autistic children I always wondered how they coped at home, I couldn’t live like that, I was punched, bitten badly, fingers broken and bruised at school but I can go home or leave they can’t, poor people 😩

[@Anacaona4]

The problem is that these kids needed EARLY and intensive therapies and didn't get them. This is the result. Also, the parents should have been given proper training. The system has failed families like these. I'm a mother of 3 kids on the spectrum, the youngest most severe. He was nonverbal and violent. Luckily he received early and intensive therapies at age two, although I had complained about odd symptoms in him since age one, which was ignored by doctors. We also taught him sign language which lessened his violence, which was from frustration from being unable to communicate. Before all that, before his violent outbursts were under control, our home was entirely "baby proofed" and I had learned martial arts self defense blocking techniques. I would block his attacks until he realized he was getting nowhere, or tired out. Anyway, long story short, today he is like a TOTALLY different person. He can speak, engage with people, he is very outgoing, he can learn just like other kids, and is no longer violent. His only issues now is just oral sensory aversion, staying on task at school (he needs frequent breaks), and the occasional irrelevant or nonsensical speech. He only 8 now though, and I can envision him overcoming all that before he is over 18.

[@rachaelnelson3702]

Dan Drs also helps these kids out with under lining medical problems

[@prodigaldawtr7907]

Depends. My son has had therapies since 18 months. His speech never came back, and he often still backslides. He's 8 now. Still therapies every day. Not much improvement.

[@prodigaldawtr7907]

BootzbaobaoGaming lol I quit my job, and have been with him at home full-time doing over 60 hrs a week of therapy for 7 years. Trust me. We are always trying different things, and always will. The hard truth is that this can be a massively serious disability that not only won't improve in some, but unfortunately worsen with time as they age, hit puberty or develope seizures. You should always try your best, be flexible, and hope for better. But that's no reason not to be aware of the statistics or reality. Every case is different.

[@carolmiles553]

Look nothing works. They will be a problem all their lives will never hold down a job or keep a relationship going .they will self medicate when they are old enough on illegal drugs . Sad but true .country is broke no help any more no solution forget the kind fancy words i know many of them .do not make yourself ill share with other family members

[@louisedoy3540]

Not all autistic children respond to therapy. My 28 month old son is being assessed for autism and doesn’t like people near him and doesn’t respond much to his therapist. He isn’t interested in learning signs or picture cards gets aggressive when shown things. I have just bought lots of sensory toys, lights and a dark den and he seems to be attracted to these. I have made his bedroom into a sensory light room and he seems to get excited over these things and is a little more settled through lights. It’s different for each child with autism. My son doesn’t like to touch certain things and doesn’t like certain sounds or going out. I am also trying some weight therapy with him. He is non verbal at 28 months and doesn’t respond to commands.

[@leviepine1876]

My brother and I were both diagnosed at age 4. My brother was rather violent even to the point that he was kicked out of my primary school. My family has massively resented my primary school for that as he was less so in the wrong and more so the teachers who had no idea how to treat an autistic child. This was 2008. At home from a very young age we were told why we acted the way we did and our parents didn't hold any information back. We were told everything. When one of us kicked off we were left alone. We weren't grabbed, touched or shouted at. When things had calmed down or anger had turned to tears we were ushered to our rooms or to the stairs to discuss why we'd gotten angry/ aggressive. We were never made the villain and we were never discussed in a negative light by our parents or other family members and if we were we weren't made aware. This changed when we began high school. Neither of us get aggressive at home ver often if at all now however school is a different story. There is such a lack of understanding and miss information at school. My brother and I attend separate schools however both are in close proximity and we can see each other during lunch times if we wanted. I attend a regular school and my brother attends a special needs one. Both come with their own set of problems. In the first year of high school I built up a lot of hate for my peers. They all seemed the same and they all spoke a different language. I became aggressive. My mind was like a battle field. Half my brain was telling me to resist temptation and stick to my morals but the other half was screaming profanity and swinging punches. I took my anger out on walls, doors and stationary but I never once physically injured a person as for mentally I cannot say. There were some teachers who didn't understand my condition and I was kept behind for detention so many times. I was silent but I was screaming constantly that 'they were disgusting pigs who couldn't understand one poor girl' and many other things. There of course were many wonderful people however I'd yet to see them. There were two big and major problems for me. I always felt as though others looked down on me and when others tried to involve me they spoke to me as though I were a child or a dangerous wild beast. I couldn't tell if people were scared of me or patronising me. I'm glad I've now been able to find people who understand me. :) My brother in his first few years of high school didn't discuss it much but he was rather popular in his small school. Before I thought my brother was doing fine at his school but only recently has he opened up that he's actually depressed. He's very intelligent for the school he's at and has more freedoms at home than most others. A massive school wide discovery that was only found a few months ago was that few of the students would meet up after school as some had issues with transport and most said that they wouldn't meet up as they were afraid of the other students who went to mainstream schools. I can kind of see were they're coming from. Imagine walking down a street of models and picture yourself there with difficulty with speech then your friend who is in a wheelchair dribbling down their shirt and lastly your other friend who is flapping and tapping their hands as if their playing the drums. You'd be uncomfortable. That is the example my brother gave me. So he rarely meets with friends and is very isolated. Something my brother and I can both relate to is how volatile our emotions can be. Someone's joke could send us into a fit of rage or a kind comment could cause us to burst into tears. In our minds we keep screaming that we know it's wrong but we can't help it. Now to finish. I personally think that in the world today so many disabilities are miss understood and people with them are dehumanised and in my opinion I don't think it'll ever change. It's human nature. People with disabilities are different no matter what people say and difference sparks confusion and fear. And people hate what they fear. This I've really wanted to voice somewhere but it matters little as like myself this comment will vanish into obscurity. (If you actually took the time to read this my good sir/land I do thank you... Not that anyone really cares if I thank them for reading a comment on the Internet now really ^^;;)

[@thebestjasmine1134]

You do not have to feel alone in this! My brother has a type of autism ( not violent but removes the speed of learning things compared to other children ) and sometimes he does go into a fit once in a while and i have seen children ( like the one in this video ) are worse than my brother so all that i can do is to be grateful. I may have not gone into a personal experience by having autism but i have seen other people’s and children’s examples of their own experience of autism so i can have a vague idea of their pain. Thank you for sharing your experience with autism with me and others that may have read this comment!

[@daisychapman5321]

Levie Pine that's a lot of writing

[@Lundy.Fastnet.Irish_Sea]

Why did you think everyone else was the same and spoke a different language.

[@TheDancelover4ever]

This comment offers so much insight. It was a joy to read. I hope you and your brother continue to do well. You've obviously exceeded so many expectations. I applaud you both, for making it past all the judgement, criticism, self doubt, and isolation. You've had a much harder time in life than most, and yet you're doing just as well, if not better. You seem so sweet in this comment even thanking us for reading. I'm just happy to read that you and your brother are doing okay.

[@CharlieGH-]

Thats a hefty paragraph

[@AnimeShinigami13]

I have aspergers syndrome depression and anxiety, I'm 32, I was not diagnosed until about 10 years ago. I live in the united states and I'm considered too high functioning to get help with adult living skills by my medical insurance provider, so I can't get help unless I'm in an absolute crisis. I'm very smart but I'm hard to motivate, I can't reign in the obsessive behavior and I get fatigued after more than a couple of hours out in public. My comprehension skills take a dive after a couple of hours out in public. I'm so sensitive to noise that I have to wear headphones in public and that buys me maybe another hour or two of mental strength before my awareness starts to take a dive. People don't understand, they think if I don't act like the rain man I'm not sick. But I can't focus and progress to become self sufficient without guidance, and I need money to do that. I can't work to get that money so I'm stuck here. It should be that if you need something, mental illness wise, you get it. But the reality is that even in countries with socialized medicine like Britain NOBODY CARES.

[@ottoroberts5163]

Let’s count our lucky stars it’s not quite as severe for us as it is for the kids in this video! Don’t lose help, we have some self awareness so we can at least try and get better... ✌️

[@nettaleanne]

This needs to be talked about more

[@nettaleanne]

So something can be done. Your points are very valid

[@lisakulp4639]

You are saying what I was thinking. At least this is in the UK where there is a government effort to provide for the needs of people who can't fully take care of themselves due to medical conditions. I can't imagine how families in the US with the same needs manage with little government support.

[@AnimeShinigami13]

@@lisakulp4639 Besides money (insurance companies don't want clients that need therapy because pills are cheaper), there's a movement inside the US government to try and destroy/privatize services for the most vulnerable people. Flint MI was an example of one way this can backfire horribly. But they want as few people sympathetic to the mentally ill as possible and they want as much money as they can gouge without having to work. These people will happily label anyone who cares about the wellbeing of their community as being communist, when in reality they're misusing the term in an effort to divide our society. Privitizing these services is a big mistake and would allow corporations to legally rob disability and social security.

[@jennydawson6952]

No parent should have to deal with this. This is a form of domestic violence or even domestic terrorism. I know these kids cannot help Ky, but that changes nothing for the family members who are effectively victmized by these disabled children. I couldn't and wouldn't manage. No one can be forced to care for anyone, even their child. Leave it to the state. Save yourselves and your healthy children.

[@catguy4996]

"No parent should have to deal with this" Then don't have kids in the first place. If you don't want to take the chance that your child could be extremely disabled.

[@filipeflower]

@@catguy4996 That depends on a lot of factors.

[@joypeace8574]

Sadly, the care required to care for children with severe autism can cost the parents their marriage, fracture family life. Other children suffer with their mental health and physical well-being. It’s not always the best solution to provide care in the home. My heart goes out to the parents and the siblings.

[@hackidreemurr]

I'm pretty sure that it's not JUST autism. Look at that boy in the thumbnail. Alone his smile and the gaze into the camera, combined with his eyebows and the shadow that looms over his eyelids. That's a stare of a sociopath. No living being would deliberately hurt any other living being if it's not for self-defense or survival. Hurting other people out of boredom or fun is not normal and not product of "low intelligence", it's something to watch out and could be a sign of sociopathy or psychopathy. Most autistic people are smarter than one may acknowledge and that level of violence and psychological manipulation definitely requires some level of intelligence

[@nachowarrior1]

Dude I love hip hop as much as the editor, but there is a time and place for it outside of a video of autistic children

[@DD_MENEN]

Sorry comment is true but funny at the same time😢😂

[@ashleym.2981]

Yea I was like "Is 'Mask Off' really appropriate right now?"

[@sarahdd123]

LMAO

[@KarryUndercover7]

nachowarrior1 THEY PUT THE INSTRUMENTAL OF THE WEEKND’s “HIGH FOR THIS“

[@user-s0m30n3]

@papa shrek no u

[@carlosspiceyweiner740]

I salute these parents, I could not do the same

[@emmarose4234]

Kelsea Moore, what about the Autistic child? Aren’t you going to salute the kid too? Oh, that’s right, we’re all burdens.

[@markjohnston-st8cn]

I salute this kid even though I’m on the spectrum I still couldn’t live a day in this kids shoes every case is different/unique

[@sophiebyers5496]

Carlos SpiceyWeiner Me too...

[@MsBhappy]

@@emmarose4234 It's called a spectrum for a reason. If you can type that comment and have autism then you're much higher functioning than these individuals who cannot properly communicate or learn about their condition and feelings and thus resort to physical outbursts. No one is saying all autistic children are a burden and I'm sure they aren't when they're young children but caring for an adult for many decades as you the parent gets old and more concerned for your safety and happiness is not a way for either human being to live. I was attacked suddenly by an autistic individual during an outburst and it'd be impossible for anyone who has also been victim to one to say it doesn't take a physical and mental toll.

[@MsBhappy]

@@emmarose4234 It's called a spectrum for a reason. If you can type that comment and have autism then you're much higher functioning than these individuals who cannot properly communicate or learn about their condition and feelings and thus resort to physical outbursts. No one is saying all autistic children are a burden and I'm sure they aren't when they're young children but caring for an adult for many decades as you the parent gets old and more concerned for your safety and happiness is not a way for either human being to live. I was attacked suddenly by an autistic individual during an outburst and it'd be impossible for anyone who has also been victim to one to say it doesn't take a physical and mental toll.

[@mingmangmung3051]

Cams parents must be soooo stressed. I can’t believe they’re still married with the amount of work to care for their child

[@allienixon8959]

They probably can’t afford to split up because they can’t take care of him by themselves

[@nathanandcherelle]

Maby because they still love eachother I don't think it plays a part

[@Bringon-dw8dx]

@@nathanandcherelle sadly many couples do break apart due to having complex needs children (severe autism included- particularly if it has a violent behavioural element). Even a strong marriage can’t always stand these life events

[@gaillewis5472]

I know several families with sons with autism and all the parents are divorced.

[@_Dynamight_]

I know people who don't get divorced. They care for each other.

[@jackdonovan554]

I really hope we find a way to help these families. How will parents cope when they are elderly?

[@AmandaJ__]

Good point

[@piscesempress1978]

I worry about that everyday.

[@Sam76889]

@@piscesempress1978me too

[@manicmaggie]

​@@piscesempress1978Me too.

[@saralee6710]

This is my son. It is sad, because you love your child deeply. However, when they are having an episode of violence, you are either imprisoned in your home, or must lock them off from you. I have had so many broken bones, they thought I was in an abusive marriage. For us it has been medication management, but then what makes your child your child special goes away as well. It is so hard to explain to people, and you worry about when you inevitably pass before them, how they will manage in society without people truly understanding they are not angry violent people, just unable to process and express in the same ways as others. I am lucky enough to have a large engaged family who are willing to continue care for him, as I have leukaemia, but I really believe my passing will collapse his normalcy and exacerbate his behavioural issues beyond what he does now. My husband must work to provide for the home, so I truly hope more resources or support (in-kind or otherwise), becomes standardised.

[@rikicakecreations1615]

How can you allow anybody! To touch you and abuse you?I really don't feel sorry for you allowing it.

[@TASIAawful1]

@@rikicakecreations1615 What a stupid reply

[@toriwargel]

@@rikicakecreations1615 family matters are not black and white. Regardless of hitting and abuse, he is her child and she loves him. Wants to care for him and give him a loving support system. A mother's unconditional love is pretty incomprehensible unless you are a mother yourself.

[@toriwargel]

I wish you the absolute best. You are an excellent mother. I applaud your patience and love. Much love

[@NurseSnow2U]

@@rikicakecreations1615 you’re an ignorant oaf that should never be allowed to comment on anything, EVER. How blatantly IGNORANT.

[@bonafide5425]

I know this hard on the parents. but the reason he's getting upset at 6:44 is because he embarrassed a frustrated about the things being said about him to the reporter. I think parents should keep those separate. I know myself and many other kids with mental health issues really do try and struggle hearing your parents say these things in front of them even if they are true is very damaging

[@Parasmunt]

Yes i agree, this is a rule across the board applies to people with other kinds of mental impairment such as dementia etc as well. Respect is the first rule.

[@bagobeans]

Elliot parents have a realist view. Cameron's mom let's her guilt get in the way. She can ask him to stop interrupting her. She could try to teach him some social skills. She let's him walk all over her, complains about it, but does nothing. Just because a child has a disability doesn't mean one must feel sorry for it. Early intervention could help if the state stepped in and offered programs.

[@carleyhinman8219]

Bag Obeans mentally, Cameron is a baby, at this point he’s likely incapable of learning new behaviors and applying as actions

[@bagobeans]

Carley Hinman I disagree. I work with young teens, and yes, they can be taught. But they must have the support of the parents. Some parents like to be victims, and enjoy the attention they receive.

[@carolwoodward5605]

Bag Obeans I agree. She doesn't seem patient with him. Its wrong to put Autistic children away in a Looney bin. Its not Their fault.

[@Xarynnaxarynna]

As a childfree woman the risk is too high if things go wrong.....

[@mizz308]

Ok? You came on this video of people struggling to make yourself feel superior?

[@Clleonie]

​@@mizz308stop talking shite, her point is completely valid and she has a right to say it.

[@eurekamreum5458]

Honestly. I'm on the spectrum myself and know for sure I wouldn't be able to manage a disabled child.

[@Charlotte-ti6oq]

Absolutely. Having children is a leap of faith.

[@elih6087]

@@eurekamreum5458 Same, it would be so overwhelming. Imagine if it would be neurodivergent as well, unmanagable.

[@toocutepuppies6535]

This is a way bigger problem than most realize. We really do need institutions for these kids. This kills parents, emotionally and ultimately physically. The long term stress these parents are under is unimaginable and will contribute to illness that will ultimately make them unable to care for their other children. It's shameful we can't do more to help.

[@Hello_Kitty_Fan]

I don't think we need institutions, institutions back then were really neglectful with little staff to care for those with disabilities. Sometimes, abuse would take place in institutions. I think these families need TONS of support from programs who are supposed to help those with autism and they're families.

[@vanessasimmons1175]

At the end of the day parents will be too old to cope so they’ll end up in adult care anyway

[@Robinicat]

Here in Montreal, Canada, there are residences for adult children with intellectual handicaps but they are not institutions. They are set up in homes as families. There are two systems. Some live in the home of a person who has elected to welcome them into their home. Another system is where the same few caregivers come and go to the home bought and owned by parents. Most have their own bedrooms. The higher functioning 'clients' live in different homes than those who are lower functioning. And those who work with lower functioning adults are paid more. Their workload and stress are heavier. Life in the homes is excellent. Very nutritious meals are offered (government regulations). Almost all of the higher functioning clients work and some can even be trained to take a bus to their jobs. Others go in taxis. So the house is empty during the day. The caregiver oversees the health of the clients, taking them to medical appointments etc.. The clients are expected to be neat and tidy, load and empty the dishwasher, make their beds, collect laundry from the rooms etc.. There is a chore roster on the wall. Volunteer musicians often visit on a Sunday for sing-alongs. The clients are signed up for different activities in the evenings and weekends such as bowling, swimming, a dance party, cooking and crafts. They have special outings to a nature reserve etc... They are kept active and engaged....just as we are. The lower functioning adults cannot work. They may go swimming and to a gym program and even to a special summer camp and they have volunteers to entertain them with singing, drawing, dancing etc.. Families of the clients are welcome to visit, take their children out for the day or the weekend or on holiday as they like. Basically by age 21 it is the norm for parents to place their adult, intellectually handicapped children in a residence but they are still in contact with them....just as our 'normal' children leave home and make friends, work and live independently. Life is excellent for those with intellectual handicaps...as it should be.

[@toocutepuppies6535]

@@Sarah-yy6hv It's not always the first child who has special needs.

[@FloKarlos-dj7nb]

​@@Sarah-yy6hvautism often Shows at the earliest Point at 1,5 - 2,5 years. Many mothers that want more children will BE pregnant by that point

[@Jessijitsu]

My daughter is 23 years old and autistic. Although she is no longer physically violent, she definately was when she was a child. I wound up addressing this in two ways 1) I started training in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. BJJ is a grappling art that allows the practitioner to use holds so as to control a person's body without inflicting injury. The knowledge that I could physically control my daughter without hurting her, allowed both us to feel safe. 2) Medication. While pharmaceutical intervention is never an ideal solution, I have to admit that it made a huge difference in my daughter's life. It did not solve all of our problems, or make her more 'normal', but it did help calm her down to the point where she could eventually attend classes at a regular school without being a risk to teachers and fellow students.

[@SMCwasTaken]

Why didn't you call the Police?

[@kiddosneakybeaky3934]

@@SMCwasTaken Because OP said that the violent impulses were when her autistic daughter was a child..? And besides, it seems like OP managed to help her daughter cope with them just fine.

[@jamieohare5096]

And parents of autistic kids don’t want to cause a big negative incident between our kids and the police. One bad experience means that our kids will panic every time they encounter a police officer and are more at risk of behaving unpredictably and being subjected to excessive force in the future.

[@0ctoCraft]

you could've just parented the child nicely instead of doing all that

[@mamascarlatti]

@@0ctoCraft Expert in parenting violent children, are you?

[@cayeeshacharlesmarc6342]

Percocet molly Percocet!

[@realswagger]

Mask off

[@bmwfan1988]

cayeesha Charles Marc Off mask

[@C9Equixnimod]

i'm trying so hard to take this seriously but I cant with this music lmao

[@4Beats4Me]

God bless you. From my friends' experience, their seriously as autistic son was injuring his sister and taking the family apart. When they found appropriate as te residential care for him, he was calmer, happier and showing abilities he never managed before. The family felt greater freedom to go on with their lives. I hope this becomes available to you as well.

[@nothanks1239]

So sad for everyone. They can't help what they are doing and the parents love them so much; it must be so exhausting.

[@DreamBelief]

"The system is not working for all autistic children" - you're right, and YOU are a part of that. We don't grow out of it. All too often everyone acts like the only ones in need of support are children, and that once we hit a certain age we are somehow miraculously cured.

[@Natttttttttt]

I’m doing my part by paying council tax for adult social care lol

[@witchynerdhermit]

One hundred percent agreed, friend.

[@Peek-a-berries]

4:11... wtf song choice. lol

[@diecouch6362]

Pure Autisem

[@ZachPowers1996]

Percocet. Molly, Percocet...

[@jimmyalderson1639]

peek-a- berries it was written by 'hey this is cool right?'

[@kiwanozukai1180]

'tism off, 'tism off, 'tism off, fuck it, 'tism off.

[@Ivan-fn7vv]

peek-a- berries lmfao

[@lesliedavidson2127]

I'm currently dealing with this with my 19 year old. He's a sweetheart most of the time but when that rage comes out, God help me. When he was little, I could control it more but now he's bigger than I am and has the strength of a large man. God bless this family. I hope more services become available to them.

[@AliceGibbs-x8j]

Thank you Dr Oyalo for healing my son from autism. And I want to share about him to every one. His herbs has made my son verbal and Improve in social skills

[@gentlemen.7621]

I, myself, have autism, and while yes, I am extremely talented in writing, I do sometimes have aggressive outbursts. It is one of few things in life that keeps me down, and I have little control over it, because many people expect me to be some kind of natural genius, which I am not. And my god, if I get one more person accuse me of faking autism, I may just snap.

[@allenbrodess8510]

I didn't get the writing part i'm more electro-mechanical but I feel what you mean i perform many tasks well some even well better than my peers but there's sharp rigid's where i fall off just as sharply as I climb the bell curve and people expect/lash out when it hits that point and i don't keep up the standard i have with the rest..Working on it but the concepts elude me as various concepts others might find eluding are simple to me..

[@MachinaGirlRobots]

People tell me Im "making it up" when I was officially diagnosed by The United States Navy with 7 Psychologists. Even after THAT I'm told to "knock it off" or "why do you act like that" and so on...My parents just shake their head at me and then avoid me.

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@MachinaGirlRobots YOu could try the route of bringing up anthony hopkins,alan turing and so on had autism...That has appeal to some of em....but milage varies significantly and might just insert more crap as they deny that and there's easy proof of it rub in and get carried away with..They might have adverse reaction right from the go...Hopkins didnt have autism blah blah blah even tho it's right there in his biography..

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@MachinaGirlRobots could try explaining the problems you are having to them in relatable ways as well if you want to try a soft approach.... the fade out into more directness/distance after stressoverstim to not having coffee/cigs or really being with it..explain the feelings of sensory issues try and compare to more relatable symptoms like nausia being up way too long to use your head like you should but not physically dead yet..

[@allenbrodess8510]

@@MachinaGirlRobots Burnout if you are dealing with that to professional burnout

[@shorts-cr2zu]

11:15 maybe child services was having trouble reading the doctor's handwriting

[@wemuk5170]

shorts Wish it was that simple! No, respite costs £10 per hour; professional speech & behavioural modification therapy costs £60 per hour and £150-180 per week, that’s why? Lack of support is always about money! Not wise of the National Autistic Society to blame the devoid-of-meaning word - ‘system’.

[@asjadalagied4338]

shorts definitely 😂😂😂

[@tigerninja2261]

Doctors have the worst handwriting

[@tecnicstudios]

@@wemuk5170 behavioral modification therapy is abusive.

[@Doctor.Kästien.Louis.Rosenberg]

shorts Sadly, us doctor’s do write like a spider with a 200 year old quill pen 🖊 😂

[@ashlieleavelle]

Very sad. I believe if the autistic child is putting others in dangers, they should put the child in a group home. Also, routine and consistency is very important with autistic children. I know that the parents have their hands full.

[@ghristophermyers666]

@@suziepeaches321 Fuck off

[@sugercane7213]

"Very sad. I believe if the cat is putting others in dangers, they should put the cat in a group home. I know that the owners have their hands full."

[@WeiYinChan]

Alicia Welsh their family shouldn’t have to deal with this

[@bashdug]

@@suziepeaches321 have you heard of opinions you dip

[@ashleynave561]

Residential school might be appropriate.

[@MargaretLarter]

I was physically and mentally broken by an autistic man who was residential where i worked and it affected my whole life.

[@susanfreeman5116]

When he said ‘I can’t see you.’ I knew exactly what he meant. She isn’t being ‘mum’ in the interview, she’s being herself and he doesn’t recognise her. I’m autistic and my husband is autistic and my dad and 3/4 of my husbands grandparents and his cousin is severely autistic. Neuros are hard to read, but Autistics are much easier.

[@femilicious]

Yes when im angry at my daughter and not my normal self my daughter says i want mum..i miss mum

[@NurseSnow2U]

@@femilicious this is so sad. 😢

[@spiralrose]

Nuance is hard, I get it.

[@charlottevicarage1331]

Mum's are people too. Kids need to realise this.

[@choco1199]

He doesnt want her to talk about him🤷‍♂️

[@witchynerdhermit]

Being autistic myself, I totally get how and why Elliot is violent. When your parents don't understand how you are feeling and you can't tell them, it's really easy to get frustrated, then angry.

[@murasakihamster1866]

@cinnamon sparkles get some help

[@murasakihamster1866]

@cinnamon sparkles get some help

[@jenniferkendall1998]

@Koichi the Reliable guy Hey Koichi, I don’t have autism, but my sister is on the spectrum and so are her two kids. I can understand your frustration with not being accepted and I am so sorry your mom and dad don’t understand that you AREN’T broken, you’re you and that’s a great thing! Is there anything that has helped you or things that could help you with communicating with them more? Just wondering because I want to understand my sister and nephew because I love them and they are perfect the way they are, just as you are!

[@Blackbirdinthedeadofnight]

@Koichi the Reliable guy maybe go to therapy with your parents so you all could learn to communicate better with each other. I am sorry you feel like that but it doesn’t justify being violent.

[@elainemackenzie9651]

@Koichi the Reliable guy Could you write your feelings down in a letter to them? I'm sure they love you very much and try hard but sometimes parents struggle too. Communication is so important especially when issues like this arise. My son has autism and adhd and can be very challenging at times I would love to understand what upsets him, makes him anxious etc every time so I can help him but it is often difficult as he struggles to verbalise his needs. I hope you manage to resolve the issues you're having with your parents.

[@wanettarenay1384]

this is why you need institutions; these parents are not qualified to deal with certain extreme forms of mental illness and they are not going to live forever to take care of their offspring, it is cruel to both parent and child to expect them to

[@umberdandelion]

Wanetta Renay autism is not a mental illness

[@vanessasimmons1175]

I don’t think I could cope with this. In fact there’s no way I could deal with it. These poor parents.