Why I Decided to Live a

Why I decided not to have any children and live a child free life. When people find out that I don't want to have kids they always have a lot of questions and opinions. So here's my answers and thoughts on being childfree by choice. #childfree
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[@1babygirlg]

Funny how people with kids always say it's selfish to not have kids but then they always tend to have kids for selfish reasons like someone to take care of them as they get older, needing a purpose in life, trying to hook someone else, money, etc?

[@TimothyWard]

Exactly!!!

[@miket6094]

I think maybe one of the reasons they say this is because they are jealous of our free and independent child free life.

[@peral341]

If they're depending on Junior to take care of them as they age, GOOD LUCK!!! The nursing homes are full of folks with kids who don't call, visit or even acknowledge their existence. I've seen elderly women looked after by their friends and neighbors way better than kids look after their parents.

[@TBlock1347]

Simply put its projection

[@miket6094]

@@peral341 yep! I don't work in the healthcare field but I just witnessed this myself first hand. It was family that sent their mother to a retirement home because they couldn't care for her anymore. She spent the last year or two alone

[@georgemcfly3482]

Living alone, being single and being child free is the key to happiness

[@saramatthews7159]

Amen

[@DigitalLoom]

and not wage slavering thats the second worst thing!!!

[@tojoinbobdylan]

I think the only thing we would now need to focus on is building a strong community between people like us

[@scorpionqueen66]

You're absolutely right!!!! As a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman, I tend to agree!!!

[@fulanichild3138]

The research on happiness agrees with you! I read a review of scientific studies on happiness several years ago. The eye-opener was that the studies disagree on almost every aspect of happiness except one---childless people report feeling happier than those with children. This result has been replicated many times using different measures over a number of years.

[@teedee8398]

No kids here either. People think I'm strange because as a female I'm suppose to want them. All the woman who I know are mothers look miserable and always complain. I'm over here happy and free.

[@thomasshort1784]

@Tee Dee They just want you to be as miserable as they are. While it might be easier said than done, I say forget what they think and, if possible, distance yourself from them! It's no more your fault they made those CHOICES than it is mine!

[@thomasshort1784]

@Roy_Thousand It is!

[@ashdacraft]

I been getting shit for years and I’m almost 32. I’ve been called a genetic failure, future cat lady, said I was killing my bloodline, not a real woman, bullied at work by the moms about my relationship not being real-even strangers on the bus feel like it’s ok to tell me why I need to have them. I just had to switch therapists because I got told to just have kids to give myself a life purpose. The funny part is-when I tell these people my ovaries are fucked they suddenly feel stupid and start apologizing.I shouldn’t have to tell people about my medical status just to get them to fuck off, but that’s been my reality.

[@AndyB1286]

Good for you. People should be free to make their own lifestyle choices :)

[@ak47ava]

don't worry, cats and wines for you.

[@pforce9]

I will be 78 years old this October and I am sitting on my 30 foot sailboat contemplating going to sea for the rest of my life. I would not be here if I had a kid. I have been married three times and each time to a woman from a different continent. If I had to do it all again, I would do exactly the same thing. In a year, I want to shove off and see how far I can sail before I die.

[@aloowalia2849]

Hey , don't you feel lonely sometimes

[@pforce9]

@@aloowalia2849 Not at all.

[@aloowalia2849]

@@pforce9 how tho?

[@pforce9]

@@aloowalia2849 I have memories of a life full of adventure and excitement, with a little bit of anxiety and fear thrown in for good measure. I have kept company with many a classy female and I have my memories of that. And finally, at the age when most old folks are hunkering down to live out their last days in comfort, I am preparing to take a sea voyage that will probably be the last thing I do. Most people I talk to are afraid to alone. I think that everyone dies alone. I would like to get laid once more before I go though.

[@aloowalia2849]

@@pforce9 oh I understand

[@PauloNideck]

I'm 32 and childfree and I love it! My life is so peaceful. I have so much time to do what I want. I see most of my friends are struggling with kinds running around, no sleeping, need to take them to school everyday, pay for everything, change diapers, omg;.... no!!! I'm good the way I am.

[@epiphany55]

I feel you man. Freedom is the number one benefit of being childfree for me, and not only does it make life more spontaneous and carefree, it makes me a better person. I've changed diapers, taken kids to school etc. No problem with that at all. I just want it to be 100% voluntary for friends/family, not an obligation. When something becomes an inescapable obligation that you can see drawing out on a daily basis into the future, it becomes very grey, burdensome and suffocating for me. I want to be able to give my energy to things when I have that energy, but also to be able to say "no". With having children, that energy is in constant demand, whether or not it is available. You can't say "no" when you have kids and everything is dictated by the clock rather than how you feel. It has to be done whether you are in that space or not. And I think that is the main cause of stress in life. You are imprisoned by unrelenting obligation and I'm just not the personality type to respond to that positively. So I'm aware that, for me personally, having kids is not compatible with how I roll.

[@aegisreflector1239]

Im the same im a 33 year old guy decent looking have had gfs blah blah. Point is iv noticed people shaming me for not being married n not having kids more now.

[@pratibha1976]

Yes, their mental health suffers.

[@erinperry07]

Same here I’m 32 with no kids as well and it’s because I absolutely love my freedom. I have nieces and nephews and that’s enough for me.

[@collingalanos1783]

@@erinperry07 I can relate. I'm childless, with no regrets. To my nieces and nephews, I'm like their superhero uncle or something.😂 This world isn't the kind of place I'd want to bring my kids into.

[@sararichardson737]

My mother always said: “the best parents are the ones who’ve consciously decided not to have them”

[@majogutierrez3926]

Yess. Why? The best humans that qualify as good parents are the ones who don't want kids xd... Why??

[@qudustariq9970]

I think it’s because you never want them to get hurt so you never bring them to the world.

[@GhostRangerr]

@@majogutierrez3926 Because the best humans see the whole picture before making a decision and not just see the bits they want. Best humans know that the world is full of crap and how they're struggling to survive in it, they wouldn't want to subject other humans to the same cycle. That's a pure selfless act.

[@mjsteward5508]

Preach, you hit it right on the nail with this comment.

[@fredstanley419]

Choosing not to have kids honestly gives you a lot more freedom and flexibility in life. You can afford to take more risks as well

[@Leatricaw]

So true

[@23Marcinq]

*If someone is a weak person. Being weak is common these days.

[@biobelewilliam-west1310]

It’s nice to see a Childfree black man out there ✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾✊🏾

[@coffeestraight2953]

Some childfree men have abandoned their kids because they never wanted them.

[@biobelewilliam-west1310]

coffee straight I don’t know about that....I know for me I don’t want any children at all

[@rickrgg]

@@biobelewilliam-west1310 me either

[@aliciareece636]

So glad you are being honest instead of spreading your seeds and ditching the kids and mother 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@derrickmerisma7800]

Facts they say you gotta have children for the culture

[@loveandjoy810]

He’s not wrong. I have 3 kids. My husband kept convincing me to have more when I really wasn’t feeling it. Now I’m almost 50 and just exhausted. My kids have had the life I wish I had when I was younger ( stable and loved never wanting for anything) and they the most unhappy high strung sad and angry individuals. I don’t actually understand it at all. Now at this point I want them to just move out and be miserable somewhere else. There I said it.

[@Childfree334]

There is no man in this world that could convince me to have anything. Don't care how handsome he is, don't care how rich he is, don't care how good he is in the sack. My husband also tried to stealth me. When I woke up and discovered he had removed the condom I served him divorce papers a week later. Nobody makes decisions for my life but me. Told him I was giving him his freedom to go breed elsewhere because it wasn't happening with me. Thank God I did not become pregnant. If I had, immediate abortion.

[@michellebello5098]

You look so young tho

[@freespirit-111]

@@Childfree334 I had one kid , then had a tubal. Best decision ever. I feel the same way, being rich and handsome don’t mean shit to me. I’m not wired to procreate multiple times.

[@hannag6546]

Thanks for the honesty sis

[@Talkwithtina808]

God bless you ❤️🌺

[@TheRealJaded]

This world is becoming more and more like hell every day. A loving person wouldn't bring another soul into this mess. Respect. Wish more men were like this.

[@Cok76]

Jaded oh jade it ok for men not to want kids. But when a woman say she regret having kids you jumped in her shit and call her selfish, you should call yourself shady instead of jaded

[@TheRealJaded]

Betty I have no kids, I bet you do and you're mad at yourself. Blocking you.

[@etravi5058]

I know. I've thought about suicide.

[@kidsdidnotworkoutglad7547]

Messes all the time cuz it's about learning process to be a cleaner by the nurse kids make messes cuz nobody's perfect and as me as I bystanders a 31 years old person I got older myself to make decisions on a child free by choices but gets messy sometimes I get cleaned up with or without a human being is just saying that because someone on here has a kid I'm not ready for that 911

[@simonstuart2003]

This here. That is why I am child free. Never wanted to be a father.

[@TheMichelex20]

42, almost 43 and I don’t want kids for the same reasons you expressed. I’ve been in several relationships and it’s always a point of contention. I can’t wrap my brain around bringing children into this awful world. Plus I love my freedom.

[@edgar22452]

Absolutely feel the same way

[@Mykelcharles]

It's good to get a male perspective on this. These pressures come from guy cliques as well.

[@maz1980s]

My wife and I both happily agreed not to have kids. We love traveling and can't stay in one spot.

[@joeroot9142]

@@Mykelcharles wow never new. Thought it was a woman thing

[@_JESUS_is_GOD_]

I'm looking for a man like you. Bringing children into this world is bringing them pain.

[@jam_is_jammin]

When people ask me why I didn’t have kids I tell them, “I spent my childhood raising kids. I’m over it.” Some of us were neglected by our parents, who were neglected by their parents and don’t feel the same about family or have a healthy support system in our family. My childhood wasn’t conventional, so why should my adult life be?

[@thewiseguy3529]

FACTS! 🙌

[@powerrangers6228]

So true...since kids i'm become a parents for my parents.They busy to work and i'm the one who cooking for them and cleaning the house after i back from school

[@xxxlegend6810]

I feel that strongly, I spent almost all my teenage years raising my young siblings, now im my early twenties really thinking if i should have children, maybe not. I just want to enjoy my adult life now, also I noticed that in vacations, , I significantly enjoy it much better if kids weren’t around, or I don’t have to take care of one.

[@kithu1231]

Correct I have the exact same experience in my life also.

[@eseiteclemariam3854]

I can barely manage my life. I don't manage the stresses of daily life well. Plus I do not have fond memories of my childhood. I don't miss my childhood, and the best way forward for me is to be childfree. If I end up homeless, sick or unemployed, at least I will be the only one who is hurt.

[@TimothyWard]

I think about it that way too Esei. I'm glad that I'm not responsible for anyone else's life.

[@Childfree334]

I 1000% agree. As a childfree woman I have the same attitude. This world is getting worse and is no place for children anymore. If I have to suffer, I only have myself to worry about.

[@sonofgaia2322]

Be safe. Wish you the best.

[@robertroots6387]

Facts

[@lisamccray9079]

I agree 👍 💯 I barely can take care of myself let alone someone else. But in this day and age I am glad I don't have kids even being 56yrs old 😅. Kids are a life time commitment

[@skyking6989]

Not having children was probably best choice I ever made. I've got to experience things people only dream about. I've moved 6 times in 5 years have lived all over the country and I regret absolutely nothing. If I died tonight I lived a hell of a life!

[@ashdacraft]

When people ask me why I don’t have them-I ask them why they do? And it’s usually something like “I wanted something to love” I hope I never feel like I have to push a watermelon out of me just to feel love.

[@DaynaAshley]

The whole idea of pregnancy sounds terrible. The whole process before and after of pregnancy doesn't seem fun. I have anxiety about throwing up,and being in pain. Smh

[@ghettogreenbeann]

@@DaynaAshley pregnancy seems terrifying and life risking

[@DaynaAshley]

@@ghettogreenbeann yes! Many women die during child birth. Its sad.

[@cupcakesparkle4335]

"watermelon" awwww so cute how you put it. 😘😘😘

[@miket6094]

When people ask me why I don't have kids I tell them "it's mostly luck"! 😂

[@anye76]

Being unmarried and childless is such a beautiful freedom. I can't tell you how many coworkers have said how they envy me because I come home to a clean house with no noise😂😃

[@Childfree334]

You too? I have female coworkers and friends wanting to trade places with me on the daily.

[@coppertonedone]

Have U been married before?

[@moneypac6126]

he looks so young and at peace

[@TimothyWard]

Thanks!

[@ms.rivera7898]

Thanks for the share. I am a single, happy, childfree woman over 30. I have travelled, lived abroad, made friends from around the world, and am truly enjoying my existence on this earth. Many people in society can’t handle the fact that they see a happy, thriving single black woman who has international experience. I’m gonna keep on living and loving this one life that we are given. No one can tell me what I can and can’t do with my body. I’m also a teacher, and SO grateful to send my students home at the end of the day.

[@Dallas3212]

Worst career ever right?

[@VLM123]

I'm right there with you. I decided that I didn't want to be a parent in my 20s, and I got sterilized in my early 30s. My life is better for not having a child. I enjoy my freedom and the ability to pick up and move when I desire. The rise in Black childfree women and men is great to see! #HappyToBeChildfree

[@mattrodgers157]

Finally, someone talking about #childfree from a man’s perspective. Thanks king

[@beaulieuc8910]

Agreed. Too much responsibility and hassle. They are overated.

[@sickgeo008]

Lol

[@cynthiakhan5483]

Love this post Tim. My husband and I have been married for almost 25 years, and we made the decision years ago not to have children. We’ve never regretted it! Family and friends have definitely been judgmental, but we didn’t care! Lol!

[@nalyzamariano9634]

It’s nice knowing u found a guy on ur page, I always felt that I would need to eventually because every man wanted a family… I’m 30, no kids & unmarried

[@mindybluephotography]

Many many many people are too selfish to have kids, but they have them anyway. It’s sad. My husband and I are both very thankful that we didn’t have children.

[@TheRealJaded]

Mindy W. Having kids IS selfish

[@MK-hh1vo]

Many many many people are to THOUGHTFUL to have kids but have them anyway because of family and society pressure and expectations.

[@thecelticdruid.6681]

@@TheRealJaded No, when you have children you make a sacrifice, you put the child first and the parents needs come last, second best, so what you say has no logic at all, there is nothing selfish in being a loving, selfless, committed parent.

[@thomasshort1784]

@@thecelticdruid.6681 While it's true that SOME parents are loving, committed and willing to make HUGE sacrifices, there are OTHERS who ARE NOT and I mean THOSE aforementioned ones who ALREADY have children (e.g.: self-serving, abusive and/or neglectful ones, narcissistic ones who are among the WORST kinds, etc.)! So, NO, it's NOT selfish to not want children if you don't already have them! If only more people who think that way actually went with their instincts about it, there would be FAR LESS child abuse and worse! Some people simply have NO business bringing kids into this world.

[@jenniferr9624]

@@thecelticdruid.6681 It is not a sacrifice. You put that child in this world so it is your responsibility to take care of him/her. Do not expect praise for doing your basic duty.

[@A_Muzik]

I had a lonely, isolated, and really traumatizing existence. So I decided at 21 that fathering children would be imprudent, delusional and a callous act of narcissism.

[@necilya]

I’m sorry you did. I hope things have or will improve for you. I wish you all the happiest in the world.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@andyokus5735]

AJ , you would most likely pass on your hangups onto your children. Like it says the sins of the forefathers are passed down to the next fathers.

[@Ry-wu3nt]

You're not alone my friend. I feel the same way, and there is even a part of me that wants to have children. But I refuse. Because I will not pass the dregs of this trauma onto another being that I care about.

[@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

I know that's right!

[@mamawren2795]

Too many children are born to parents who abuse them, and do not love the gift they have been given. Tim, I honor your wisdom in keeping your BIG GUN covered and not making unwanted babies.

[@joemama4lifersss348]

Starshine2000 Summertime 😂

[@essex_120_union9]

Starshine2000 Summertime also as trophies to everyone else’s point of view.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@gloriatoo22]

@@GuidetteExpert yes..aspecially in Africa where I come from..children are suffering really

[@81eniale]

I'm a parent and grandparent. Kids are overrated and I wouldn't have them if I could get a do over. I stopped at 1 and that's 1 too many. Society is too evil to bring children into the world. I'm scared for all the babies out here. Nothing wrong with your mindset Tim. Enjoy your life while you can!

[@81eniale]

No I wasn't a single parent. Children are beautiful for those who want and can care genuinely for and about their needs. They require SO much and the ROI is not favorable. It's tiring, worrisome, and you will have to be there for them the rest of your life. I love my child and my grandchild but if I could get a do over it would be me, myself, and I.

[@81eniale]

@Unicorn UnicornI am a woman and none of the above mentioned applied to my situation. I know and face the consequences for bringing my child into the world. I am an awesome parent and grandparent but in MY alternate world it would only be me. I don't judge people who like to have children and I don't question those who don't want them. Think about the long term outlook for the child and yourself before you do because once they are here there's no going back.

[@anaisvandenbosch6249]

Thank you for your honesty.

[@RockyMoth]

I also only have one and believe one is too many and two is too much. A do over would look very different I agree.

[@wheatstonebridge]

Thanks for your honesty. And that doesn't mean you don't love them! I'm certain you love them dearly.

[@dov111]

I am a 41 year old child free woman and like you, I am so happy and at peace with my life. Best decision I’ve ever made. So glad to hear from others that feel the same way.

[@fulanichild3138]

Deciding not to have children is _the least_ selfish thing a person can do.

[@brownbrownbrown2938]

Then banning all vaccines isn't selfish either

[@crownedingrace012]

​@brownbrownbrown2938 you should've been born during the Black Plague, you would've loved it

[@gimoroemma]

@@crownedingrace012 did you get your 7th shot of sterilising carcinogenic serum?

[@sbug2705]

You are not only handsome, you’re smart! I am 50 and did not have children for similar reasons. I like my calm happy life, where I can do as I please daily, and have no responsibility whatsoever, haha. Everyone has to do what is right for them.

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you 🙂

[@RawFruitGuy]

Thanks for making this. I feel like there is definitely a taboo in the black community around consciously choosing to not have kids and being outspoken about it.

[@BlackBerri83]

There is! I am 37 and my husband is 34 and we both are bombarded with ‘when are you having kids’ questions for years. When I told my mom I didn’t want kids she snapped “that’s an awful thing to say!” We both are content with being the cool auntie and uncle 😎 who travel, have a cool house with breakable shit, and have awesome adventures

[@clarkbruce_exmuslim]

I would say it's just as taboo in white communities, let alone Sweden where I'm from. It's especially taboo in the Muslim community (also to not marry). The Muslim community's pressure almost destroyed me. I started missing being a non-Muslim, just to be free from all this pressure. Insane considering why I converted in the first place.

[@kellynunez3430]

That part!

[@gregorycyr9272]

Taboo runs in all colors and cultures when it comes down to it.In other words you have good and bad in all groups of people.Just the way it is.I met a friend of my older brother for the first time and within 5 minutes he was being very judgemental of me concerning this subject.It is obvious that I had been talked about on this subject before I met this person.I am thinking who are you to judge me without knowing me???Oh Well🤔

[@gloriatoo22]

Africa with kids wah...mmmmh

[@m_waaka]

I was 12 when I decided NOPE! I'M NEVER HAVING KIDS. I'm 54 now and I'm so happy I made that decision. I never had a maternal instinct. I couldn't cope with the stress and responsibility. My life is great!

[@Childfree334]

Same here. Just turned 45 and living my best life. Love the nieces and nephews, but so glad I can walk away and go home to a quiet and clean house.

[@cherylT321]

Ditto!

[@Blessed1283]

@@Childfree334 how do you deal with people passing judgement? I sometimes people try to imply you are miserable for not having had kids.

[@Yin-Yang-444]

If you don't have kids you also listen to this song and you have a "good feeling" more than people who have kids. kzbin.info/www/bejne/aYDRn3enfZuKoJo

[@cherylT321]

@@Blessed1283 l couldn’t care less what people think! You have to live your life for yourself and not worry what other people think; otherwise you’re just going to make yourself miserable!

[@Aniexo_]

I’m 24 born in Haiti where things are traditional done. When I tell my mom I’m not really wanting to have children she makes it such a big deal trying to push marriage down my throat. I’m working on becoming a 6figure earner I wanna be the rich aunty with no kids. I love being able to get up and go. 😩 I was able to quit my job to pursue my dreams with a child that would be near impossible. I love it here anyone with kids I’ve seen don’t seem genuinely happy.

[@xoxoChic0102]

🤗 🇭🇹

[@victoriasage7]

Yeah it’s usually our parents that want them

[@nicolewilliams2468]

I’m childless by choice & spent 10 years lobbying for surgery to make that permanent, & finally got it. I think the most selfish people are the ones who expect others to be SOOOOO HAPPY to be in the presence of their ill-behaved spawn. 🙄🤮🙄🤮🙄🤮 My first husband was positive he could convince me to have kids - nope. Thank God my husband now never wanted them, either. I love my niece & nephews but definitely never wanted any of my own from when I was a little girl til now at 44.

[@1babygirlg]

Best comment ever and such an inspiration to us women who feel the same.

[@nicolewilliams2468]

@@1babygirlg thank you! There are more of us out here like me, & we’re starting to hear from more of them. 😊

[@AndyB1286]

"Ill-behaved spawn"? You took the words right out of my mouth! :D It's true that there are exceptions, but the way some kids behave (and that their parents let them get away with it) is an insult to proper parenting.

[@jonburford633]

I feel like it’s hard to find women who don’t want kids especially nowadays.

[@jbrowne2088]

😄😄😄you was one of them too

[@Nicoleiia]

I just turned 33, and I'm childfree by choice also. I'm happy with my choice. If anything, women my age are totally jealous of me and give me issues because I'm free and they are somewhat trapped.

[@thomasshort1784]

@Nicoleiia Just simply remind them they made a CHOICE too!

[@1babygirlg]

Exactly! I'm 31 year old black women and I feel the jealousy too. Not too mention we always tend to look younger due to the less stress.

[@Nokss87]

@@1babygirlg lol they will always encourage you to have a baby more than starting a business.

[@ghettogreenbeann]

As a 23 year old I look up to you

[@skm6704]

It's sad that people want to give you issues just because you don't have children. People can be so toxic..Oh well, let them hate and just do what makes you happy🙂

[@jacobstrouble6631]

People always assume I'm gay because I'm a loner with no kids. People's minds are so simple.

[@thewiseguy3529]

The human being is very smart, people in general are very stupid.

[@liveworklive5715]

I have a daughter and love her and am glad to be her father. But I 100% respect and support those who choose to be #childfree. We need to stop pressuring people to reproduce. And instead we need to work on building a more just and equitable future for all.

[@patrickmcginty7154]

You're not alone. When I was 18, I thought I was going to be married with kids by 22 because that was what was expected; however, I am now 55 with no kids and not married. It all worked out and I am happy. If I had kids - great, if I don't have kids - great. I agree with your reasoning and I think it was best for my lifestyle (that of an adventurer) not to have kids. Although I will admit I like being uncle to my brother's kids.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@insanoibro6331]

Spittin

[@Yin-Yang-444]

@@GuidetteExpert Yes, I agree, let's give the Polar Bears a chance. Their last Iceberg is melting.

[@dini_davis]

I always knew from a very young age that I wanna be child free.

[@ji1787]

for many people having kids is only for finding a meaning in life after 30. there can be many other meanings, than kids. totally agree.

[@dergluckliche4973]

41, married, no kids, no big deal. There wasn't even a reason, per se. Parenthood never appealed to me, never crossed my mind. I'm not interested in climbing Everest or learning to fly a plane, either. Nothing's missing from my life because I haven't pursued those "possibilities."

[@TimothyWard]

That's a good way to look at having kids. Just another possibility. You can go for it or not lol.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@ion-shivs]

I"m 48. I've never thought of having kids in my life. Never had the desire. I've never felt any kind of void in my life not having any. I'm recently married, as of 5 years ago. Now, my new wife wants to start a family. I'm damned near 50. I really have no desire to be raising a teenager in my 60's.

[@debbiebarrow7557]

Thank you for your comment been in my earlier 50s I have occasionally regretted not having children etc.Godbless.

[@NewWave-zl6wx]

Vasectomy, protect yourself, better be safe than sorry.

[@sugandhadogra1781]

Kids are beautiful but I don't want them. Amen.

[@SpainSpain-kr8lh]

More people need to be encouraged to make this decision. People like you deserve and award.

[@TimothyWard]

Thank you!

[@BlackMagickMike]

Or to just be free to make whatever decision they choose, accept that it's not a matter of good or bad, just consequences. And not to worry about why other people are doing what they chose, unless and until it impacts you. That's my philosophy.

[@lovetotravel780]

I don't have and don't want kids. I don't think it's meant for everyone and I'm one of those people. I don't want the responsibility of a child and all that comes with it. In my opinion, having a child is a burden, not a blessing, a liability not an asset, a risk not a reward. For myself and my lifestyle having a child would be an anchor instead of wings to how I have lived and plan on continuing to live. I don't even have or want a pet or plant.

[@MK-hh1vo]

Agreed except the part about pets and plants! 😄

[@Coincollector81]

You are just like me. No kids , No pets. Minimal drama. Life is sweet .

[@suhanishrivastava9734]

😂

[@olive0eyes0]

Lol wee bit of 🪴 is ok

[@lisamccray9079]

I totally agree 👍with you I am 56yrs old and I don't have kids either to be honest I never wanted kids you have to take care of them and it is not easy

[@dianebarone1542]

Unles you are in a committed relationship it’s best to not have kids. To many kids in broken homes without two parents.

[@princessmj15]

paul c I’m sorry you had to go through that.

[@justbelit]

even 2 parent homes can be broken & detrimental to kids, because adults make selfish decisions that "are the norm" more than actually choosing wisely

[@Nokss87]

I had both parents and I wish they were never together. But then again I wouldn't exist and wouldn't have bills to pay 😆😢

[@Melly16yr10]

Truth

[@cwong1229]

I am currently childfree and single at the age of 35 in the year 2023 - and I LOVE IT!! 😊 I have so much peace, quiet, and freedom in life. Not to mention I also don't have any problem financially. Even if I get laid off from a job and need to apply for unemployment benefits, I still wouldn't feel stressed out about life because of money 💵. • I realized that it is not about how much $$ I make from a job, but how much saving I can retain in case shit happens in life. • It is about using money merely as a TOOL - to reach self-actualization. 😚

[@ChildfreeLT]

As a childfree black woman, I approve this message

[@treylovely1418]

@ChildFreeBlackWoman I’m 28 with No Kids And Me And You Both Look Youthful in The Face for our Actual Age ✨

[@rtoriq]

It is soooo refreshing to see black men who choose to be childfree. I come from an East African community and it’s very much wtf in that circle. It’s just plain-ol’ not for everyone!! I love my niece 100% but having some myself is not for me. Oh and thanks for that point about expressing gratitude for being childfree, I think that’s a dope practice I need to put in my gratitude meditations.

[@kabete8]

Kenya?

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@miriamkwembe]

I am a Tanzanian woman, married and childfree ( People's opinions are non existent in my care list) .

[@lumilight8229]

I'm a Kenyan woman. I honestly don't feel like I have the mental and emotional bandwidth to cater to a child 24/7 for the rest of my life. Plus I wouldn't want to bring a human into this world which seems to be falling apart at the seams. I would like a partner though. 😅

[@lorenl9262]

Hello :)- Tim. I am a 49 year old male who has never been married, never owned a house, and never had any children. My family said that I am "lucky". This is not luck, but a choice that I chose to make. My younger brother has a son and that works for him, not myself. I am a "free" spirit and I have a lot of freedom and flexibility. Kudos to you for addressing this subject.

[@AndyB1286]

I'm 34 and I've never wanted kids in my entire life. Maybe I have occasionally thought about it in an idealised sense, but hardly ever. Some of my reasons: 1. I like my independence, 2. I dislike 95% of children, 3. The world can be a nasty place, and I don't want to bring a kid into that, 4. I don't buy into this "well everyone else has kids, so I'd better have some" crap, 5. I don't buy into this "but who's gonna look after you when you're old?" crap. There's no guarantee that your kids will even be around to look after you when you're old. My brother and I were born in England, but now we both live abroad. Ergo, get a carer (if you even need one; my Nan didn't).

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@Topg1]

Same reason why I don’t have kids

[@cherp7522]

there is always a retirement or nursing home waiting for you. Who's gonna check on you? Your siblings kids. You will get old.

[@GabiN64]

Im childfree myself but the world has always been a 'nasty place' maybe even nastier in the past. Prehistoric times, Roman times, middle ages all awful time periods.

[@fulanichild3138]

You're so right---there is no guarantee your children will be there for you in your old age. A survey of American adults revealed that 1/3 are estranged from one or both of their parents.

[@Satan97458]

I'm 29 I never wanted to have children since I was teenager and I told my parents, family and friends that I will never have kids and they told me "in your 20s you'll change your mind." Now I'm 29 and I still don't have kids so no I have never changed my mind. Reasons why I don't want kids is because I never saw as a dad growing up and also because I love having my freedom like focusing on my work, life and having fun going out like to stores and going to the movies.

[@michellebello5098]

I like going the stores and movies too. I don't have kids yet 😊

[@kaishapage2443]

Why do families assume their kids want children all the time? It's annoying.

[@soniao.5482]

I'm impressed that you are not doing something you are not ready for or feel the need to do. Children are a big responsibility and not something to be taken lightly.

[@thomasshort1784]

@Sonia O. Your last sentence, 100+% true!

[@jackcarraway4707]

I don't want kids because I value peace and quiet. My ideal life is coming home from work and enjoying a quiet evening with my future wife.

[@faithbaker4785]

If we are not prepared for children they will become a financial and emotional liabilities to us. In today's time and Society we fall victim to the pressures to have them and we aren't even done growing ourselves. That's passing on life of unnecessary stress and strife not all the time but a huge possibility.

[@Coincollector81]

I'm 39 and i feel the same way. I love my freedom and i don't want to give it up for anyone. A lot of women approached me about starting a family. I was straight with them that i have no desire to be a parent. I missed out on a lot of relationships because of my choice. No regrets.

[@thadevilzadvocate]

Relationships are overrated.

[@empismagic]

Dodged a bulled my friend

[@epiphany55]

The only thing you missed out on was the devastation of investing your time and energy in a relationship with irreconcilable differences!

[@beaulieuonnp593]

You are just being used a baby making machine

[@miguelfilo962]

You didn't miss out on anything John. Except the tremendous ongoing headache of paying 18 years of child support for a kid you never see.

[@anewcreature7]

Why do people think it’s ‘selfish’ to choose child free life. Wouldn’t that be ‘selfless’? Most parents are not fit to be parents, in debt, living pay check to pay heck, relationship is rocky, can’t look after themselves. Yet, they still decide to have kids. They say, ‘I want to pass on my lineage, I have lots to teach, I don’t want my kids to live a hard/poor life like I did!’ Really? You can’t even take care of your own problems and you have the audacity to think they have something to pass down onto another life? Most people who decide not to have kids, take things more into consideration about the future of their (possible) children, so if it feels like you’re better off without having kids and you know the kids won’t be living the best life, as you can’t provide/afford it, they’d rather choose no kids. PS- you don’t stop your responsibilities after the child turns 18, you need to take care of your kids for the rest of their life.

[@eseiteclemariam3854]

Amen! I would also add the ever increasing cost of raising a child: healthcare, education, clothes and food.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@anewcreature7]

@@GuidetteExpert exactly

[@silverballer7342]

You mentioned the word PROBLEMS. When this word arises in any context one must back out of that option. It's wise. That is not to create more problems.

[@anewcreature7]

@@silverballer7342 bingo!

[@DidierDubz]

For me, I just don't want to pass down the same bad traits that were passed to me. I have never thought about it, so that means I have never planned for it essentially. I f&£ked around in school so I don't even have the money to look after a child. And we are going through some CRAZY changes in the world right now that I didn't prepare myself oflr the child for... It's not selfish, it's doing society a favour.

[@andyokus5735]

You were wise.

[@moneymechanics77]

I've never wanted to bring anyone else into this. Thank you!

[@kikigetcrazylow]

Never really wanted kids either. i just dont get thepoint. wayyyyyy too many ppl on this earth already...plus im too much of a gypsy/witch/adventurer/penny pincher ect...lol I think i have too many hobbies 4 a kid

[@kikigetcrazylow]

Confident and a pretty TV Awe Gurrrl u so sweet! Sometimes I wish I was an animal lol I’d be an soaring Eagle.

[@erickfuentes7276]

Kiasia Bassett 😝😝😝😝😝😝🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 I love your term Gypsy 😂😂😂👏👏👏👏👏👏 I totally hear you, am a trucker flying all over the U.S am never home, so I don’t need kid nor want them love my freedom to much so am good.

[@kikigetcrazylow]

@@erickfuentes7276 I love being a gypsy lol 😂 It’s lit 🔥 always something new to see and to go... that’s me!!! What a coincidence I’ve been wanting to get my CDL for a 2 years now so I can get out on the road and start driving a truck. I always thought that career/lifestyle was super cool!

[@erickfuentes7276]

Kiasia Bassett don’t waste anymore time mama just do it go to school get you license and then do your due diligence to look for a good company to start werner is a good one to start to start ok not to stay. Watch some videos to see if you want to do it for example COCO she is a female owner operator driver and this my trucking skills Chanel this one teaches you how to backup the truck safely cause that’s the biggest thing backing up trust me it looks easy but it take months to get it right. Start on the dry van division then you move up to reefer division which handles frozen food, then flatbed if you want. But watch them videos they gonna help you a lot.

[@kikigetcrazylow]

@@erickfuentes7276 imma get on it!!! Thanks for the tips hun!!!😄

[@lorenzoclark3616]

I agree with Timothy, I never wanted that extra baggage..never wanted any pets either..never wanted the responsibility..I love the childless carefree life.

[@scorpionqueen66]

You're not wrong at all, my brother!!! As a 56 year old single and childfree Black woman, I absolutely agree 💯%!!! The last thing I want to do is deal with a lot of noise and tantrums, cleaning up the house numerous times a day, picking up toys and food crumbs everywhere, and crying babies all night long, but most of all, I don't want to spend the rest of my life taking care of somebody that possibly turns around and be ungrateful to me and I get little or nothing in return!!! That's not what I want to do with my life, no thanks I'm good!!!!

[@bella3096]

I appreciate your honesty. I honestly wouldn’t want to have kids Bc I wouldn’t want my kids to ever go through what I had to go through being bullied growing up. Life is definitely not perfect by any means and I’m just trying to make the best of it.

[@wetthirdvrail9990]

In addition to that, I can tell you from expirence that children can not only cost you friends, but also can get you enimies.

[@1babygirlg]

Right! My childhood was atrocious from the day I was born. Would never want my child to experience the pain and suffering this world has or what I went through as a kid.

[@msdpow8027]

I love seeing a brother man with a brain! 🙌🏾 Thank goodness. I’m a Black Childfree woman and the amount of “I’ll change your mind,” bullshit I’ve experienced from brothas has been annoying as hell!!! Ugh. This keeps me hopeful. 😍

[@TimothyWard]

I think people in general always think they can change other people's minds. They are welcome to try but it's not happening lol 🤣🤣

[@happystation3228]

Most stupid people think they can change everyone's mind they disagree with.

[@thomasshort1784]

@MsD Pow While it hasn't happened to me as much, I still feel you about that "You'll change your mind." BULLSHIT, which it is and I'm a white man who's also childfree! On the other hand, I'm still open to marriage (though not a requirement) and that includes but, is not limited to, you black women out there (I don't know if you're into white men or not; I certainly think y'all are worth giving a chance) so long as you neither have kids nor want them (for me, personally, being an uncle's plenty good enough)!

[@msdpow8027]

@@thomasshort1784 Hey there! Yes, I do love my Vanilla men, but most have been “too vanilla,” for me because they don’t like my strong independence and can’t take my sass & sarcasm. 😭 The struggle is REAL. But that’s okay. I’d rather be alone that stuck in a lifestyle I don’t want like the thousands of parents admit on the I Regret Having Children Facebook page. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@govegan6112]

Almost 48 year old woman here who never wanted kids. This world sucks.

[@ilovelife3328]

I agree. I want out of here so I can’t imagine forcing a child to come into this world in its current state. It would be highly selfish of me. Misery loves company and a lot of parents don’t care that their kids will suffer.

[@badass1g]

I don’t envy anybody that I know that has kids… life is already so hard as is I couldn’t imagine adding that stress and cost. I’m all about simple living, esp just turning 40!

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@stephaniehansen5162]

Been married 18 years. No kids. Just fur babies. The best kinds of kids have fur. I’ve really never had the desire. Whenever anyone would ever bring it up I would cringe at the thought. It’s nice to know that there are other people like me out there.👍

[@MK-hh1vo]

Yes! Fur babies are the best! Human babies not so much.

[@KYLOWW]

Exactly your not alone 🙏🏻

[@charleswilliams4247]

I'm childfree but I don't like pets either.

[@kimberlyjohnson8674]

@El Angel that was rude. I’m 40 no kids and l have Two fur babies and believe me it’s time they compromise your space, you have to feed them and not neglect them and care for them even when they ignore you or scratch up your furniture. So actually having pets is a selfless and sometimes expensive act of love. I hope you don’t come back as an animal. If all humans thought like you no pet would have an owner to care for them. SMH

[@dominiqueharry7436]

@@MK-hh1vo speak for yourself I love my kids better than pets.

[@musicby001]

Not having kids doesn’t mean you are introverted and selfish, people need to know that.

[@20maxilo]

You know how many women envy me because I have no drama and responsibility and or debt. They look down on me because I chose to not do what they all have done. I even have a cousin that dropped out of college and her business because she started a family and she doesn't talk to me because I have chosen a different lifestyle than her.... I agree Tim with your last reason as why you don't want any kids. I think we what is going on in this world with society as a whole bringing kids would be too selfish

[@scorpionqueen66]

When you chose to live your life against the status quo of women having children and getting married, you always get negative feedback from family, so called friends, and society as a whole!!! I've been getting the same treatment thrown at me because I chose not to have children or get married!!! The hatred against childfree and single women is very real!!!!

[@tinadarealmilliondollarbaby]

I got you Tim, kids is are a choice. I'm good on that, if im blessed with them ok but i love my freedom and this world is way to crazy.

[@Wisdom1357]

For women, it's a choice

[@Mabhayi30]

Childfree by choice from South Africa 🇿🇦 😊🎉

[@treylovely1418]

@Queen Panda Im 28 with No Kids and what’s your instagram

[@1984petrus1]

The most selfish thing a person can do, is bring a child into this world.

[@mamawren2795]

It is selfish to bring a human being into existence? How did you come to this understanding Yan?

[@jenniferr9624]

I agree. All reasons for reproducing are ego based.

[@argengnarzary]

@@mamawren2795 stupid

[@justinpatterson5291]

I've heard it's selfish to not want kids. Still don't comprehend that one.

[@favouritethings11]

I agree

[@damianmcdonagh7908]

I couldn't agree more. I've travelled all over the world and I simply love having the freedom to do what and when I want. Such a great video and a special hello from Ireland.

[@supersaturn956]

🔥💯💯💯🔥🔥

[@JojoMinimalSchizo]

Thanks a lot for this Video. I dont have any kids myself and dont want any. I'm sort of an childfree activist. The USA seems to be more progressive to this topic. Here in germany childfree is still a huge taboo. The first german book on childfree lifestyle got published only a year ago - it caused a nationwide scandal and the female author got hated on by most of our country. So thank you so much for your video!

[@melindaharrington6632]

Great topic. I am a woman in my 40’s and never had any desire to have a kid, or raise one. Love the peace and freedom that comes with being Childfree by choice. I have heard to many complaints from moms about their kids of all ages. Oh well . 😃We only get one life. Be happy, positive, travel and be yourself. 6.11.22 💜♊️

[@TheEmpress185]

34-years old childless woman here.The older I get the more I can't picture myself as a mother of a small child but my partner has an adult son and we get on well.This world is getting more and more crazy and bringing children to it seems like a helluva risk.

[@Waduppp]

Me neither, can barely manage my own crazy life.... please yourself....

[@musicguru22]

I am a 35 year old female. I do not have any kids and I have never been pregnant. I say "thank you God, I don't have kids". I travel all around the country buying antiques. I just bought my first victorian house. I would not have been able to do that if I had kids.

[@musicguru22]

@@P.90.603 me too💜

[@saramatthews7159]

Congratulations I bet your victorian House is so beautiful! Someday I hope to own a Victorian home as well

[@musicguru22]

@@saramatthews7159 Thanks. You should get one. It's a lot of fun😄

[@taurussun2228]

I'm 40 and my husband is 38.. we've been married 5, together 9.. we are child free and it's so freeing, honestly. Not against having children, but it never happened and now we are preventing it. IDK but, I am so Free. Nothing wrong with it. Live life on your terms! ❤️✨❤️

[@zorbajevon]

I'm going on 50. No kids. I knew at 7 years old I didn't want kids.Thank God. No pregnancy scares.

[@teresarayburn4501]

has never had desire for kids. Not even one. my cousin when she was younger, and her daughter had cured me of it. (her daughter was 2 months old.)

[@jahandarwerewolf8480]

I'm 39 years old. I do not have kids. Sometimes I am thinking, Should I have a kid or not? but my internal voice is yelling and screaming, "Do not!" And I agree with you as well about bringing kids into this world! I want to live my own life and focus on my own career. I found your video very useful! God bless you, brother!

[@NYKgjl10]

About to be 40 soon and honestly, I'm happy being single and kids free. I love my freedom to travel and a peace of mind which is super vital in my world.

[@DaneReidVoiceOver]

I don't even want plants. Who's gonna feed them while I'm traveling?

[@heatherfeather9951]

I think that once you hit 30 you know very clearly whether you want children or you don't want children. If your life is comfortable as it is, there's no need to make it more challenging and stressful.

[@eddiejumpsropeusa]

It depends for every person it is different, I knew I did not want kids at the age of 16 when my friends talked about getting a girlfriend, marrying and having I would be quiet and think to myself, hell no, I wondered about traveling the world instead !

[@epiphany55]

Got my vasectomy at 37. I don't no why it took me so long but yes I just became more and more certain. Weird how certainty can have incremental degrees lol

[@pratibha1976]

I agree with this

[@heenakaur7330]

Very well said! Life is stressful already why would I make it more challenging? Yk?

[@SR77736]

Facts I knew when I was 9.

[@daniellashah7995]

No kids here . I love it and will always will love it

[@codis5722]

I have one chid and I understand why people dont want to bring children into this world. It's a responsibility of not to only clothing and feeding them but also protecting the from this strange world we live in. That's why this American dream was such a push because it was an easy way to get your kids to not venture out and explore this dangerous world we live in. As a father I'm going to protect my son but also not push him towards the safety of the norms of going to college and getting a good job. Sure I'll be an anxious parent if my kid decides to go and do the unordinary in life but he didnt ask to be here so why should I force him into anything that wont give him purpose?

[@codis5722]

@@victoryprjct thank you so much 👍

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@mytwosense5223]

I have one child too and I totally see where you are coming from

[@muhamedjones122]

I always looked at how I grew up. Life is hard and we all been through alot. I'm trusting my gut to not have kids, I love the carefree freedom and I could spoil myself.

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@ModernGoddess81]

My first husband wanted kids so badly (20 years ago) and I said I wanted to wait because the world is fucked up...that was 20 years ago! So glad now I never had kids

[@tsanyen2708]

OMG! These 3 reasons why you don't want to have kids are exactly what I have on my mind. I felt every word you shared. I'm so glad that I am not alone to have those thoughts. The last one you shared"I am not ready to bring a kid into this world" really hit me. I have a good life and I am grateful for that. I love kids but I personally don't want to bring a human being to this world. Thank you so much for your video.

[@birdieculture]

Why should any adult have to pass on knowledge to JUST ONE CHILD? Why can't people do it for everyone?

[@monharris28]

Good point!

[@TBlock1347]

Could be multiple children but I see your point

[@ubobcat]

Agree with every word. And regarding the filling the void and making your life fulfilled kind of bullshit, this channel alone makes more value to the world then a one more human.

[@TimothyWard]

Thanks 😁😁

[@doloresvangaal2248]

@@TimothyWard I agree with the first comment. Keep making your videos, even if only for a few people. You have no idea how much we appreciate your fantastic outlook on life.. 😊

[@oscarm.1417]

56 years old here; never had any kids, lived in 7 different countries, started 3 businesses, and live life ON MY TERMS. Do you think for a second that I envy those hogtied parents that have little to no choice on how they lead their lives?

[@samuelaubrey899]

I see children destroy dreams and relationships

[@TimothyWard]

I agree, I see that too lol

[@samuelaubrey899]

@@TimothyWard seen it happen with family it's quite upsetting to be honest, the kid can be lovely but I can't ignore what I see, don't think I could handle it, my life is my own and it's gonna stay that way 😎

[@GuidetteExpert]

There are to many kids in the world! And are starving to death and have no parents. We should rather stop having kids or adopt them and make the world a better place!

[@Theoriginalgreenring]

Haha! Gosh this is soooo me. I am 43, free as a bird, I love being alone, despise the idea of a mortgage, hate staying in the same place, gotta be on the go and have new experiences, BUT I have a 16 year old and it does slow me from all those things, but theres a deeper layer of indescribable fulfillment and they bring sheer joy you never knew existed into your life. I have never been married, never had the desire and also only had 4-5 relationships in my life. I haven't dated since I had my daughter. But she is my best friend now. You are not selfish, your life just went a different way - not the wrong way. Having a kid is like having a wound and a worry that will never heal. Enjoy your freedom and peace.🙏🏼

[@markferguson3745]

Almost no one is ever going to say having children was a mistake; I've had only a handful of mothers and fathers acknowledging the bad choice, and usually only when they were very impaired, or on the brink of nervous breakdowns. Realistically, you can only play out certain situations , and qualifying the value of the experience is abstract. It's hard to be in LTR's, and NOT have them; I've struggled with that a few times. More people should put more thought into it, instead of just being afraid of missing out.Too often, kids are the ultimate act of selfishness, which isn't how it was supposed to be.

[@Sappylittletrees]

Look up the Facebook page "I regret having children". Very true and scary posts.

[@markferguson3745]

@@Sappylittletrees So often, I see people make bad choices for want of alternatives, - better, or otherwise.Needless to say, if you are pursuing a specific passion, or if you are caught up in drugs or illegal activities, having kids isn't the move.I always feared looking in my kids eyes and knowing that I was deliberately failing them due to my life choices.You can blame others, or society, but it ultimately comes back to you.Everday, everywhere I go, I see children born into chaos, to parents that are mentally unfit.

[@Paradyce.A-CEO]

Hi there! Im a childless birthWorker and I can’t wait to shed light and pass wisdom that way. Community is important to me but I necessarily do not have to have children ❤ Thanks for sharing

[@mercermercepanama6334]

I am 44 years old and child free and I love every minute of it! I value my freedom too much and I feel like children would be a burden to me. Furthermore, I have never found a woman that I feel is worthy of being the mother of my children.

[@Childfree334]

I feel you there. I have never met one man in my 45 years on this Earth that I wanted to have a child with. They are either on drugs, alcoholics, misogynists, sex addicts, have some kind of mental disorder, liars, cheaters, or unemployed users. When I turned 32 I got sterilized. I'm good.

[@Cok76]

I have one child , looking back I was trying to fill a void . I had her at age 35. If I could do life over a again I don’t believe I would have a child. She gets on my dam nerves. You smart not to have kid, it over rated.

[@TheRealJaded]

Betty all about you, I think it's pitiful on your part that you are 100% responsible for the suffering your child will experience in this life. Yet it's still about YOUR damn nerves. I bet it gets on HER damn nerves she has to live in such a dogshit world. Typical selfish woman.

[@Cok76]

Whatever you probably don’t have any kids.

[@genj6630]

Appreciate your honesty Betty!

[@nrandall4980]

Good to see some honesty. LOL

[@MissRandomwriter]

To Betty - Thank you, thank you, thank you for your honesty. If only people were honest and straight about kids, I may be more inclined to have them, however, I only ever hear the mantra of 'meaning' and 'fulfillment', and then the constant whining about how hard a parent's life is, how they don't get time for themselves, how they're not given enough support by the government... etc, etc.. but how they 'wouldn't change it for the world'. If people were just damn honest about how they love their kids, but their life was better without them... well, maybe I could consider having them. All I hear is desperate anger and regret and bitterness from parents.

[@erezcrestfallen1383]

I'm 40 and enjoying my freedom 😊

[@MsMaxinejoy]

Childfree and debtfree. Living my life at 53.