Why I Don't Go Home for the Holidays

[@theevolutionoftina2397]

The only people who get upset when you start setting boundaries are the ones who benefited from you not having them.

[@DaVideoz]

I had to read this multiple times it was so good

[@WhiteRabbitProphecies]

I'm 64 and writing a charity movie ....or a play........ for the SPCA. Can I steal those words of yours ?? YOU must !! ...be an artist.

[@theevolutionoftina2397]

@@WhiteRabbitProphecies You sure can! Good luck on your SPCA project!

[@saadk8905]

Im gonna set a boundary by blocking you and reporting your channel.

[@WhiteRabbitProphecies]

@@saadk8905 Say no to drugs. lol

[@BlazeIsBOSS]

Tons of people in the comments don't understand this video and its ok, it's not for them. For those going thru this, keep going! You got this.

[@kendraheard8240]

Amen...thank you it's gets very lonely but I'd rather be lonely than be around a toxic unloving family

[@Rolls13]

🥊

[@Southpaw44]

Eh. We judge you though. Being disloyal to your family for your goals (I.e. money and hedonism) is just sad. We think you are crappy humans

[@stephena5752]

Not true. I used to think his way as well. Then your parents get old and you raise kids then you realize no one’s fucking perfect

[@Southpaw44]

@ exactly. Selfish of them

[@user-245er4ud]

You've basically described my life. Most people don't understand what a toxic family environment is like. They just say family is important and hold this stigma of you not wanting to be with your family. It is of course important, but it should never be so important that it ruins your growth and who you are.

[@EnglishEvolution]

1000%

[@chrismacdonald9361]

Truth!

[@stellium10]

At least we are not alone in being aware of our toxic families, and can make the better choice for ourselves 🩵✨

[@vinayallavarapu]

💯

[@United_Wings]

Facts

[@themillenialfalcon]

Thanks for putting this video out. Whether it's the holiday season or not, you are absolutely right and it's great to get to hear it from somebody else

[@ivaldisako]

I love this kind of editing, simple no music, calm and feeling more personal

[@JakeStewart1343]

Do you like the different angles and zooming in and out, too? 🤔

[@4nxy]

Way too many cuts though

[@Darko1.0]

Yessss! I noticed but not conciously. The biggest problem in his videos was the editing.

[@unknown-q2p7r]

Never in my life have I found a video I can relate more to. I am 100% the black sheep in my family and it’s so refreshing to know I’m not the only one that goes through this. Thank you Alex. This video really hits home.

[@knowledgejosh654]

For real man. This hit me deeply. Really need this!

[@carladossantos1142]

I'm with you too. It's so relieving to have someone validate what you feel and tell you upfront that you're not doing anything wrong if we choose ourselves first!

[@munrostreet]

Me too I hardly go back home.

[@ImproveYoSelf610]

Agreed man. I’m right there with you, about to be going home for Christmas. I go because it feels like a duty but I know what it does to me consciously

[@laurajones1474]

Black Sheep? I was the Scapegoat Now I’m the EscapeGOAT

[@jacquelinevanbierk]

While I agree with many of your points I will say that if you have a great relationship with your family, especially your mom and dad, make time for family bc they may not be around next year. I experienced this with my dad. And it can be productive and recharge your batteries. I left my small town for the same reasons and going back now feels nice, because I know I don't live there anymore, but it's where I came from reminding me how far I've come. This year I'm noy going home, and I'm a littlw sad about it. I do prefer when my mom visits me, getting her out of her comfort zone, giving both of us a new experiences.Each their own like you said. Much love and happy holidays, everyone! Do what feels right for you!

[@lisabrocadello6470]

I would love to have a community filled with people who can relate to this video. Hugs to us, black sheep of the family. 🎉

[@kodevicious]

I fucking feel this ... tired of the snarky comments at family get togethers "are you a millionaire yet" .... i want to surround myself with other people trying to achieve things ... tired of all the people that settled. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

[@planeguy95]

Completely agree with you. Family are the worst at this unfortunately. It’s the crab mentality. Strangers are usually (unfortunately) your biggest supporters

[@Paredinho1]

@@planeguy95 Truth.

[@jordanhouton1686]

Love it compleytly agreee

[@Nikki.....]

I've learned it's best not to share everything and goals and even achievement with everyone even if they are close to us. it's just easier to do your own thing in silent without people watching you and holding a popcorn.

[@willia_mbrown]

No better feeling than saying "yep, i am"

[@logankerr727]

I’m 21, I left home for the same reason, you just put into words the way I’ve felt for 2 years, thank you.

[@ericcajada2750]

We're the same age and I life home 3 years ago, growth has been exponential since then

[@danishvirsingh4723]

I'm 15. My family thinks I'll do something in the formal education, But I'm already in online space and having problems, learning each day.

[@kayleebaginski]

Alex just spoke directly to me. Not necessarily about going home for the holidays part, but the part that I’d be returning to my old self and my old ways that I’ve tried so hard to breakaway from

[@carladossantos1142]

I totally resonate with your words🙏

[@NumberNinjaDave]

From another Persian, I totally get it man. It’s very much cultural but there are boundaries. Mad respect and God bless you

[@NightScapesNocturneCafe]

I'm not Persian but what is said here by Alex is true of not only my family, but most families. The people who are not expanding want those they know to stay the way they are used to them being and they not only talk to you and treat you like they did with the old you, but even energetically or subconsciously, many will try to sabotage you from your expansion so they can keep you how they are comfortable with you...because if you succeed wildly, they have to look at themselves and they don't want to. That is so uncomfortable for other to have to face if someone from their clan rose up in a very big way in comparision to where they are. This is human nature, not confined to specific cultures.

[@NumberNinjaDave]

@ amen. It’s all projection to justify staying stuck

[@jamessilveria5148]

This hits home. I did not want to go home for Christmas but my family guilted me into it with generic you can’t not come home for Christmas we’re paying for your flight no excuse…not happening ever again!

[@adamMjarosz]

I’m blessed to have an awesome family who cheerleads growth but I understand how old relationships never recognize it and want you to stay there. Keep going.

[@Tony-gh8gg]

As someone who grew up with a very toxic family through and through. Man this hits home. Thanks Alex.

[@jimmymoon5879]

holidays are hard. reminders of bad memories and spent with people who don't even like me. looking forward to the day i will not have to be around those people and that i can have my own family who actually loves me for me.

[@christopherburns5170]

As an older mozi, I also needed this. I've been avoiding family gatherings for over 10 years but it hasn't stopped the guilt. I always felt a little weird and didn't understand why I wanted to stay away. This was helpful for me because I feel better knowing I'm not the only one. Thank you.

[@alicebishop8962]

Alex, Thank you for sharing this. My grown children have this same problem with their Dad. He is toxic and makes them feel like crap when they don’t want to go to family get togethers or holidays, so they go to avoid the arguments and pain they would endure if they didn’t go. I sent them this video, and I hope that they can see that it’s ok do just do “you” and not feel bad about saying no, to stand up for themselves and the direction they want to go in. I Love your advice and videos, congratulations on all of your success and more to come!

[@jennacallahan1]

I used to be a major people pleaser but I moved across the country this summer and put myself and my goals first. I stopped going to family functions around 5 years ago, I realized I never felt good when I was around them. You have to give yourself permission first because no one else will.

[@jennacallahan1]

@ aww because I don’t conform to your beauty standards you believe you get to comment on my looks and I’m supposed to care? Oh anonymous man? What is the point of what you’re saying?

[@Southpaw44]

@@jennacallahan1 what a sad cope. It’s not about conforming to beauty standards. You aren’t good looking by any standard. The fact you treat your family this way is dosgusting

[@Fluffy_Penguin727]

@@Southpaw44 No.

[@rugvedshinde5418]

Alex is the Big brother we all need and HAVE ! thankyou

[@Bello9848]

I can tell this video came from a really deep place. Thank you for sharing, Alex.

[@garethellison01]

Love this! I can completely relate. If you're striving to be the best version of yourself most people won't understand you, nor should they. I used to think there was something wrong with me for years. I never quite belonged. I grew frustrated, and depressed. There's nothing wrong with me. It's simply that I outgrew my environment. The hardest thing is to identify this very fact. Harder still, to accept that you must, and should, move on if you want to continue to grow. Even if it's lonewolf for a while. Have faith. New people will enter your life, just like you. I'm learning this right now. 🙏🏼 Thanks Alex. ❤

[@xaviermelendez9506]

Thank you Alex. You should know watching your videos the past few weeks have been slowly helping me battle depression and the wrong thinking. I would say more but your free service like these videos probably saved me from a dark place I was just heading. Thank you

[@joshuatrott193]

Keep pushing through brother. You got this

[@lisar.2549]

Keep the faith!

[@grow-your-mindset-now]

Stay strong!

[@meh3083]

Darkest nights, brightest mornings

[@creamnchery]

Never loos hope, everything passes in life. Tommorow you can win the lottory, find a new friend, get married or learn something new. You never know what good is coming your way. Keep strong, take good care of your self, ask for help. Things will be good ❤❤❤

[@kiranzenkner2997]

This!!! I 100% agree. It took many years for me to realise that being with my large, and in many ways toxic family broke me down so much. A few years ago I made the decision not to do it and it's what feels best FOR ME!

[@michaelcarswell895]

Thanks for posting this one. This is something I've struggled with a lot. For some reason, you (some internet guy I don't know) giving me permission to not go home makes it easier to decide not to go home.

[@JiceJohnson]

This doesn’t just apply to families. This applies to outgrowing any space. It’s okay to grow and not revisit spaces that have triggering expectations or that knock you off your square.

[@brianmeen2158]

Yeah my family is fine but my old friends are just not a good fit anymore. We are such different people now and they mostly just want a drinking buddy. The only thing we have in common now is our shared memories

[@MrCards42]

Alex is so good at deconstructing scenarios into actionable task. The one aspect that I would add to this conversation is that it is important to let others see the life you are living. Much like the access Hormozi gives us to his life through these videos. The best way for others to see the changes they need to make is not by telling them but by the display of your life against theirs. For example, to see how crooked a stick is put a straight stick next to it. Ultimately, it is imperative to continually grow as a person. But it is also part of life to bring others along with.

[@kirkwesterveltoutdoors]

People don't change. Don't waste your life trying to help them. If they want help, they will be standing before when you turn around

[@stairwaystogrowth]

The way I can relate to all Alex said in this video is rather terrifying to me especially as someone who values family and friendships a lot, has issues with abandonment, and loves too deeply even when they keep hurting you. Thank you for this Alex. It’s a boost to my resolve.

[@arbitragebakery6330]

I love how Alex’s confidence comes from competence. Stuff seems contrarian or incorrect because he’s right. Most ppl aren’t right

[@STELLASCUTENESS]

He’s not right.

[@Christopher-je8to]

@@STELLASCUTENESS he's right.

[@liquidsnakex]

@@STELLASCUTENESS Enjoy being treated like sh!t then, you deserve it

[@planeguy95]

@@STELLASCUTENESSkeep telling yourself that

[@andrewrogerson8834]

I admire his work ethic and resolve, and take what lessons I can from it. But ultimately I see an angry, insecure man speaking from a place not of confidence but of unresolved trauma. There's no question that fear and pain can drive people to do great things, and he often speaks about this. I can relate to the fear of an old identity that he refers to in this video. But I also believe that a complete, healed human being doesn't need to run from that because it's been integrated and he's comfortable looking at the old self in the eye, with full knowledge that he has become something better. I also believe that no amount of success can replace family and friends. Furthermore, healthy relationships with family are regularly updated, so the metamorphosis is witnessed as it happens and annual gatherings don't carry the risks of meeting an old self like this. With all that said, I acknowledge that every situation is different, families are complicated, and his advice will be quite relevant for a minority of people (as he says in the video). But it would be a sad, cold world if everyone was so obsessed with their own journey that they become estranged from their family

[@kimpatschinsky]

Thank you Alex, I needed to hear this right now. My friend invited me over for Christmas with some of his friends and I played the scenario out in my head and I’m better off alone to focus on all my progress. Happy Holidays!

[@Sunny-ye9sd]

WOW!!! This exactly sums up why I don’t go back home to visit friends and family as well… I don’t think I even realized why I never felt comfortable going back, but as you explained your personal situation I literally felt my whole body get tight because I know the familiar feeling of my self esteem and confidence being shattered by old people, places, and things😢.

[@Marc-td7nn]

GM, Everything you said was 200% spot on. The crazy thing is I went home first time in 10 years and found out that everyone looked at me as the I am to good foreveryone. Very disappointing. I guess I will check back in with the family 10 years :)

[@PodcastPapi1]

"It's very tough for people to see poeple grow because when we change we remind them of the changes they've been incapable of making"

[@auroraleielsalama261]

The part where you talk about telling people the truth about why you dont want to be in their company blew me away. Honestly, this word is a great impartation on me. Blessings 🙌 Alex.

[@HaphazardHospitality]

Needed this like 4 years ago! This is amazing advice for young and older people afraid to go against the grain of tradition and family norms.

[@mariembuenaventura1278]

The tradition is beneficial, the problem is the people hehe

[@rlpupdates]

Love this video as I have a toxic family and found a lot of my friends had not realised I had grown and were treating me like I was hopeless I finally got fed up and walked because that is where they needed me to be for their egos.

[@Schaar22]

I couldn’t relate more. I even left the whole continent 2 years ago at 19 years old to start fresh and can never fathom the thought of ever going back to the same environment. It’s hard to accept this idea and it takes lots of guts especially at a young age. But the progress I‘ve made since then is remarkable and that‘s what gives me validation to never look back no matter how lonely it feels at the meantime. One day it will all pay off.

[@heysimmone]

I respect your honesty.

[@Schaar22]

@@heysimmone Thank you!

[@walkurehauk9415]

😂 I am patient until I have already overdone it. Then, have issues. Working on not overdoing it, but honestly, will choose working towards my future and sometimes burnt out rather than NO FUTURE. ❤❤❤

[@haske_]

He’s not referring to all families , he’s referring to ‚toxic‘ and unsupportive families.

[@HighValueMan24]

He's referring to his own clearly and right or wrong, he made this out of spite 😂

[@Pyrrhonian]

@@HighValueMan24 plenty of folks feel incredible guilt about having to visit family during holidays, having a voice they at least somewhat respect telling them it's okay can be meaningful to a lot of people

[@United_Wings]

💯

[@adiiancu891]

this@@Pyrrhonian

[@stonedassassin187]

They actually need the most love and care. They dont know they a mess, its you who knows that needs to grow some balls and challenge the family.

[@emersonkistler]

Love when you said that family has never told you "You are not happy" lol. That's exactly what my family tells me when they explain that money doesn't buy happiness after I begrudgingly share my recent success with them.

[@Tophe]

I hear it, but at the same time, family time is very important for most people. Depends on your own situation.

[@aylanelson1012]

This is so helpful! Having negative people in your life can do so much damage & takes so long to undo. Best to move forwards & build better!

[@AbroadInThailand]

Thanks for sharing your wisdom! I left home moved to Thailand and haven't been back for over 4 years. I'm not in a big rush to revisit since it's no longer in alignment with the person I'm becoming. My family has an open invitation to visit me anytime and they still haven't made it a priority yet.

[@Rhin025]

This as been left unsaid for so long in my heart. Thank you Alex for bringing it to light.

[@jtg1465]

This is now my FAVORITE Hormozi video! You NAILED it, Alex! Pure 🔥🔥🔥💯👍🙏!!!

[@leejinsan906]

Hit me hard. I’ve changed myself since I left my home, not because of the toxic family, but I had made lots of mistakes. Friends over there treat me like a cheap loser, but I’ve gotten respected from my workplace and they ain’t know. I can relate.

[@IanNoone-y1p]

Dude I can't express how much I needed this I have been fearing the holiday there's very complicated issues and I am trying to change n I really needed to hear this thank you

[@alexjoh13]

This is so, so important, Alex. Thank you for sharing this, a lot of people need this and need "permission". To all the people who want to go home and actually have a great family - do it. Love your people, we´re only here for a limited time.

[@emiliolopez4721]

I have an amazing family. But this video is a great lesson on how to set limits. Thanks Alex.

[@goforbg]

OMG this is so true Alex. People fail to accept changes that we went through, that they can't.

[@ianyapxw]

While I don't have similar experiences I really appreciate Alex's honesty and sharing what he did here. One of my favourite of his videos so far!

[@MajesticLawnGnome]

I love it we just hit up the bar and I see how or where people are it actually motivates me even more to be more productive and focused

[@jags1008]

Hell yes. Thank you so much. So many people don't understand what its like when your family has been destroyed or don't understand you at all.

[@Jack_Ody]

Thank you Alex for letting me feel and think the same way as you, without feeling the pressure of social norms from people I don't want to be like, to feel that this is wrong and I'm not being nice.❤

[@danielrennie8945]

Wow. This is exactly where I'm at with my family. 2023 involved ending almost every old friendship I had. And spending time with family this Xmas has involved constantly telling them to speak to me with more respect. I'm told how judgemental I am. But no, its just been the result of massive personal growth.

[@ChiefSeerLoLo]

I feel this, I needed to hear this. I appreciate you for sharing your truths because I am very much aligned with this. 🌹🌹🌹🔥🔥

[@indiangigachad777]

Really grateful for this video...I haven't gone back for Holidays since 2020 an don't plan to. The old frameworks of the past just don't fit me now and in an Indian household the need for authority and control is too strong so there will be an inevitable clash of ideals.

[@TotallySafeAir]

I completely understand- I’m Italian and it’s the same thing for me . I’m 63 yrs old and my dad still speaks to me like a child - it’s sad really .

[@aox111]

Mozi spittin fax. Cut relentless the bs and focus on your growth. Never react, stay calm and take action to increase your power.

[@DazzerrPlays]

I have zero issues with my family and try to spend as much time with them as possible, but this really applies to me for old friendships. Examples of friends in town after not talking for multiple years and they just expect you to drop everything and make them the main priority. Can apply this advice to many different circumstances and I feel refreshed after watching this video because I had to play the cold shoulder to some old high school "friends" who I hadn't talked to in many years and then they are back in town and expected me to just do whatever they wanted.

[@zizi5721]

ALWAYS ON POINT. This is my life. Just a family gathering. Many more to come.

[@darkflamethrower]

Thank you for putting this out, man. You aren't gonna see this, but it doesn't matter. You know how valuable this is which is why you shared it. I appreciated it.

[@solarjungle]

OMG, how could i have missed this last year? i really don’t want to go home for the holidays and i totally resonates with everything i experience.

[@TimRandall810]

holy shit man I needed to hear this. I am 14 months sober and I associate spending time with my brother with drinking and I am starting to seperate my identify from it. thank you, the outside permission from my social network is really helping me go through with taking the space I need spending the holidays away from my family.

[@kenzakassabi7780]

The funny part is that it's the same wether you made it or not! If you're still at their level, the tease, if you level up they hate. It's a matter of choosing a fight. Or better yet as you said, just block'em. I honestly just did that this exact morning. I want to live a peaceful, clean, pure, honest life and it starts with cleaning my network from ANY being that brings negativity. Regardless of the relationship I have with them. Also because I'm still "tender" launching my business, my skin is getting thicker but I can't guarantee the part x in me won't listen to their comments about my business or my font or what I wore. THANK YOU for being authentic Alex! Cheers

[@Dank_Lulu]

I needed to hear this. It's mostly because of my friends. I acted in ways I dislike that invited bad behaviour and I relapse when I meet old friends, it's a bit horrible. But getting away from that feels like I'm running away from my problems and I'm being an entitled human-being while doing so and it absolutely sucks. So I *do* need outside permission from someone who has their life together because right now I don't. I also don't know if I'm gonna achieve great shit but I do want to excell at the things I love, do them my way and share them with the right folk. So I hope you have a great time during your holidays, Mr. Hormozi because I think you just made mine a bit better. ^^

[@lisar.2549]

You can make the changes. One step at a time!

[@Dank_Lulu]

@@lisar.2549 Yeah, I believe so too. I've just wavered and taken 10 steps back a lot of times. Getting back on track amidst that despair and doubt is hard but it seems to be getting easier. It's a good time to be alive, not having to feel alone in this. Take care, m80! o7

[@PersonPersons-kh3bg]

Maybe quit league

[@stellaborealis4846]

I feel like I am giving this advice to myself because this js so on point & I agree so much with Alex’s way of thinking and acting on this topic. I feel very much represented by Alex’s perspective. Thank you Alex

[@TheMightymarozz]

I like this style of vid, to massive edits, no music. Raw talk.

[@jumpman858]

Alex. Much respect for putting yourself out there. I get it. I avoided home for YEARS for family issues. In my case though, what really cured me was making peace with home and coming back (not to live but to sit in the pain until it felt comfortable. I invite you to do the same because once you make peace with a "toxic" past, it opens a lot of doors to allow new things into your life. Just a thought.

[@DayneRego]

I really was skeptical about one of your videos for once. I look up to Alex like a mentor and thought I might disagree with something he says for once. I was totally wrong. Recently I've been in a slump of slumber and laziness, I'm an 18 yr old who took your advice and didn't go to college and instead decided to get real hands on experience. It was going well and I never felt this productive and driven in my life. But I recently started hanging out with some old buddies and now I became back to a lazy undriven person. THIS VIDEO IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED. Thank you Alex.

[@NeoM018]

This is so true, most people back home wants to treat you like the person you use to be. However, I know that the people that you saw slightly more often in a year knows now and have adjust to your growth and treat you accordingly. Pity you can't see everyone as often and it's those that ruin the holidays. Interesting and enlightening vid though. 🤝🏾🇿🇦

[@BrokenBicyclesProductions]

Let not this distract you from the fact that the Christmas tree decoration is slaying 🤩

[@joshtavernier]

This chrismas, ill be spending my time pretty much by myself. My 11 year old son will be coming over halfway throughout the day to spend time with me. I am super nervous as I have never spent Chrismas by myself I want a different life for my son, myself and my future family. This video couldn't have come at a better time. Thank you Alex for taking the time to make this video!

[@erichristian11]

Enjoy your peace brother. Merry Christmas.

[@joshtavernier]

@@erichristian11 Appriciate it, Merry Christmas to you also.

[@willie_du2180]

100% get this. I am 20 and I have always been more of a goofy guy that likes to have fun but has always had big dreams. My family just treats me as just a playful guy that will just be average. It hard for them to understand that you can be ambitious and still likes to do crazy random things, like climbing random building and such

[@sevensages5279]

They will change their tune once you have a seven figure bank account! 😂

[@lisar.2549]

Oh yeah, totally!

[@pandconfid]

What do you want them to treat you like, Elon Musk? You are average. Do you think having dreams divides you from all other people of the world and nobody else has one?

[@Christopher-je8to]

@@sevensages5279 No they won't change, Alex has way over 7 figures in his bank & his family still acts the same. Kobe Bryant had a similar situation to this with his family as well. Gaining money actually makes them resent you even more sometimes. It's the hard truth

[@stockscrypto1593]

how bout you just have a good time with your family and then go work on your goals after like a normal person. nobody cares about your dreams, i doubt you even care about your family members' dreams. But its all about you isnt it

[@Holmesharryd]

I agree with most of this. Depending on the family/friends in a home town. I believe it’s good to go into anxiety ridden situations so you are not being ‘controlled’ by the anxiety. I also believe in knowing yourself so well that you don’t have to go into those situations. I believe learning from every situation you’re in but I also understand the frustrations of family.

[@berkan54]

Alex, you sharing all these with us is really great and just wanted to say for what it's worth thank you for doing so, appreciate it a lot.

[@counternorm1989]

Gorgeously said! I had done it once but have been feeling the need for another one. Parents moving closer and my anxiety is shaky.. 😅

[@beeweezee71888]

OMG this is just the perfect video I needed to watch. I literally just went through a similar scenario with my sibling trying to label me of something I am not. I have change and my reality reflect that now. My sibling instead of being happy uses the phase "Hey Brad you will turn back to your old self that just how we are we always have bad luck and was meant to suffer" I didn't agree with that statement at all and correct him. I realize he stuck on the old program I am not.. For that reason I will not attend X-mas diner to avoid any drama. I love them but from a distance!

[@Mightycarloss]

I have watched this video twice and I love it. I have returned to my home town after living 15 years abroad and agree reframing relationships is tough but necessary.

[@thmrsmpl]

F*kin finally. Real Alex. Real talk. No crazy subtitles, effects, graphics!

[@damienwelter4543]

You're a warrior, and a wanderer, and a winner, it's important to keep what you gained when you left 'home' behind.

[@MásAlláDeSara]

This is so relatable, it's difficult to explain to people that I still love Puerto Rico but can't live there. Going back is like being stuck in the past. They don't accept I won't conform to the expectations of me. Thank you for posting Alex, happy holidays ❤

[@demondrucker3514]

It’s not the same.

[@mrgame97]

So you left your loved ones to go overseas and be a career driven hedonist got it

[@MrTresto]

My god I'm so sorry that your family sucks so much (you Alex and you other viewers who can relate). I'm so lucky and grateful that my family is kind and supportive. I did move to another country but I'm still happy to come back for the holidays. Nothing but encouragement for what I try to do. My mom says she's sad that I left the country but that she understands. And she comes to visit to see her grandchildren too.

[@EdwardVarner]

Feel like a Bro who needed to talk it out. Glad I could be here for you, and thank you for everything you do.

[@kamshaft_tv4914]

Alex, I would like to say I truly appreciate everything you do. You have helped me change my mindset and my life and given me a very good set of tools. Currently I am still at the point in my life where I lost everything and I am trying to rebuild, and your videos give me hope. Thank you so much sir. I really hope you see this 🙏🏽

[@ineedmorestuff]

Thanks for the great content, Alex! It is super easy to fall back into old habits with people from the "good ol days." Time to put the boundaries to keep you from sliding back (not easy!). Reflect back on the good moments and the tough ones that shaped you, but always keep moving forward.

[@NewHorizonDetailing]

I'll comment on this, I never comment but Alex is a friend I actually should say is a true friend that you all should be perspicacious of finding!! An hold dear to a true honest out spoken person, he nore I speak not to bring you down, but to do better for yourself and grow to become more. I hear you brother and happy holidays to you and the wife Alex. Keep doing what you both are doing, cheers👍

[@Rsiatat]

I've been in your shoes and all I see is a really smart guy suffering. It sucks to come from a toxic familly, but going lone wolf and overworking is not the solution. This comes from a deep rooted pain that is hard to face, but facing it, and working on yourself to not be triggered or affected by any actions or words from your familly will make you so peaceful. You would become truly zen, and there will be no more pain,all while being imune to all the toxic traits and past triggers. This is what true healing feels like. You become a whole new person, all the disciplined and dedicated work comes from another emotional place and will feel 100x better, and you will be capable of a lot love towards yourself and others again.😊

[@dianaabiemo5177]

You absolutely nailed it! Thanks for sharing. More of these videos, please - they're helping us grow and become the best versions of ourselves. 👏🌟

[@maxgulli9399]

This video made me realize how smart Alex is besides his business mind. So well spoken and articulate. You can tell this man put a lot of work into himself.

[@alvinsworld-global]

Wtf i just searched for a video 2 hours ago from Alex about family and saw the old clip why he didn’t go home for holidays Now he makes a remake 😂 that’s a sign because i wanna left my complete environment and family

[@1geko818]

Respectfully, leaving your family for such childish content is insane. There are way more important things in this world then money and family is certainly one of them. Matthew 16:26 For what is a man profited, if he shall gain the whole world and lose his own soul? Or what shall a man give in exchange for his soul?

[@RyanSaplanPT]

I agree with this. But there is a but there is a balance to manage.

[@casonlamothe312]

​@1geko818 dont go pulling a generic bible verse to solve a specific problem. Yes, family is so important. ... but not everyone has that.

[@Pappy1991]

@@casonlamothe312even more reason to cherish it.

[@user-245er4ud]

If family was so important they wouldn't be treating you like shit and driving you away. I will warn you, that it is as painful and difficult as it is scary. Though, it is very effective especially if you need it to grow and get better. First off, treat them like crap back and like Alex says in the video, do not tolerate them even with little things, belittling you with words or whatever. Stop responding to them for everything, and just make sure to get them out of your life the LEAST stressful way possible, because it will be stressful. In the end, you will be SO MUCH better for it. Even forgiveness may present itself down the road, sometimes not though.

[@GrabberSmurf]

14:30 Alex. You’re the first person to ever say this to me. The odd man out is exact. Thank you. Keep moving forward.

[@adi-t6y]

it's kinda crazy how nobody's talking about the banned book called Success Secrets Of The Elite

[@sunnybajwashow]

The challenge is you’ve worked so hard on changing your frequency when you go back to your past relationship you quite literally go back to the same person they recognize. Following that it takes tremendous energy to shift back to the correct energy

[@TylerSinden]

It's pretty crazy how much I've changed in 5 years. I went away for school and became a completely different person. A lot of the people where I grew up stayed the same and still do the same behaviors. A lot of my friends/family still know and think of me as the previous version of myself. They treat me the same way and don't understand why I do stuff now because I "never used to do that".

[@lloydmcleod629]

You're doing good.

[@brianmeen2158]

Same here. I’ve changed a lot over the years and my old friends expect me to be the same guy but nope - I’m not going to go out of my way to please other people.. I’m not going to listen to friends complain .. I have no time for that anymore and regret wasting time in it in the past

[@johnnyx1039]

Oh wow this is exactly what I'm dealing with!! Thanks so much for this inspiration!! Now I know I'm right for staying away!! I'm excited about the evolution of me !! Thanks so much for this!!🙏🔥❤

[@nortongreeen]

Your video is pure gold brother. Also had the same thoughts about not seeing family for the holiday but was reluctant. Thanks for the input

[@Aw89251]

Refreshing to hear this. I’ve always felt misunderstood and under appreciated back home. That’s why I stay away. To achieve my potential but also strive for growth.

[@Ali.Qurbani]

I'm thousands of miles away from my family and I have been since I was 15 years old. I Went thru hell, but it was worth every second of it. I cannot hangout with them. They are so negetive and so limited when it comes to their mindset.

[@emcjakes]

So well said, been dealing with and participating in this for too long. Thank you

[@kennywesley]

I think it's possible to go home and create solid boundaries between people from the past. Also, by avoiding people you close the door to reconnecting with individuals who have also grown and who can enrich your life.