Why I don't worry about getting married... Design tips + quitting tech

[@Holly.makes.things]

My husband eavesdropping like, "since when are you into design?" Ummm, I'm not. I'm into ✨️CAROLINE✨️

[@eb9520]

What a great comeback!!!!!!!!

[@Grace-lw4hd]

“Don’t aim for rock bottom … but if you wake up and find yourself there - the sky is the limit” This is why I’m here 💕💕💕

[@elizabethvotra104]

I was in rock bottom for a few years. A friend of mine was in the same space and our inside joke was “started at the bottom, still here.” Fast forward 5 years I’m a homeowner, peaceful, healthy, making more money than ever before (doubled my income.) we all need places of rock bottom to see what’s non-negotiable in your life and leaning into it despite what you think people will think about you. Once you just drop it and say here I am take it or leave it, stuff changes. Prayer helps too. I bet you’re already halfway there ❤

[@laurenzoucha6244]

"Worrying won't help me meet somebody." YES. And this can be carried into anything in life.

[@shannono8397]

so so true, the moment I learned to not waste energy on worry, like a switch was flipped. Great to learn that and get things done without the stress.

[@klaulegaspi]

For someone that's disgustingly anxious and overthinks every single thing, I cannot tell you the amount of times I've repeated this throughout the day because it really is true! I

[@gretasabaliauskaite894]

u full, yy fyi g

[@cindysteffens8065]

I'm 71 years old, and I find your content refreshing. I found your channel when you were looking for your DC apartment and subscribed. You're funny, quirky, and interesting (in a deranged sort of way). I love your apartment and would have chosen that space for myself. Your decorating ideas are great. I also love the interaction you have with your family. Congratulations on 400,000 subscribers.......well done ✔️

[@morgan3llis001]

"interesting (in a deranged sort of way)" 🤣

[@donnasheehan3703]

Funny….Im 72 and was thinking that I wanted to share my age as well, to demonstrate what a crazy wide appeal you have, Caroline! I love you and so appreciate your content. I’m an interior Designer ( for the past 15 yrs) and I am a certified Social Worker ( worked in that field x 37 yrs) I mention this because I relate to your design commentary, but I also respect you for your personal commentary-- like your video on eating disorders and depression. Those videos and what you shared in them was so valuable and well presented. You really rock!

[@brose27377]

Just found you and have watched many of your vlogs and have also subscribed. I'm 72, and a retired RN, but have always loved design. (People want to know how I do what I do with my own house.... I walk into a room somewhere and instantly redecorate it in my head, etc.) When I was a teen, Mom said I should be a designer, but it was the late 60's and who wanted to listen to Mom. Well, of course she was right, but my career path was fulfilling, too. I'm still buying and selling houses as my hobby. I love your sense of design. I like how you present yourself. And as the 71 year-old above me says, you're funny, quirky, and interesting! You remind me of me, but I was never brave enough to be as honest as you are. You seem really authentic; not an easy thing to do. Also..... who cares what you wear? My word, don't some people have more important things to worry about?

[@awildapproach]

Every time you upload, I instantly scream to my husband from across the hall, "DEREK, CAROLINE HAS A NEW VIDEO!" I told him it doesn't matter the topic, I just love watching your videos. It's your personality and humor. Can't get enough. But also: don't let that keep you from taking breaks! We will all be here when you return. ☺

[@AWJ-zf8cf]

Yes!!!

[@dianecourtney2724]

Yep! Caroline is worth waiting for ✌🏼🌷

[@AbilityToBeAwesome]

Same. My husband just thinks I’m nuts. 😂

[@lirekoqhobela4439]

I click like before I even watch the video. Then proceed.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

on saturdays we scream at Derekkkkk 🫠😍 and thank you for saying that! I'll probably be taking a short break in later April, and I already have a long awaited video lined up for when i return!

[@jt2284]

Caroline, I wanted to tell you that my cousin had kids while being single because she reached her cut off age. She decided to go with a sperm donor and she's never been happier. She now has 2 beautiful children, both a few years apart, and she has her family around her to help. I admire her strength because it's not easy, but she is just so happy now.

[@sweetcheeks5775]

That’s perverted.

[@jt2284]

@@sweetcheeks5775 you sound like a delightful person.

[@femchud9255]

The kids don’t have a dad though

[@freescot8035]

@@femchud9255 Many children don't for many reasons. It sounds like these children are blessed with a Mum who really wants them and loves them =)

[@kirstenkendall6479]

​@@sweetcheeks5775I would say, more accurately, that this comment to someone's really happy moment is perverted.

[@amandakesterson224]

I will say in regards to "sunk cost", it does need to be thought about what the cost benefit will be mentally. If you have a room with a lack of light and you pay to paint it white... if that will make you mentally feel better every time you walk through that walkway, maybe you're spending less money on other things to try and give that serotonin boost. For example, when my husband and I finally painted and reorganized our kitchen, suddenly our takeout bill went down by half each month because we started enjoying spending time in our kitchen.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

ahh so true! so articulate. i love this

[@awildapproach]

Wow! what a great point. I never thought about how the feel of your kitchen really affects how much takeout you get, but that really is true. And it hits home. Just reorganizing our pantry and fridge recently helped us get takeout less. Every little move can make a difference it seems.

[@studionightshade]

I feel like my whole condo depletes my mood. Kitchen especially. I just focus on the task and cling to my take-out cost anxiety as a motivation to cook. My kitchen is crying for green tiles though. And woodgrain counter tops. $$$$ though. :(

[@bellaheblan8479]

That’s awesome!

[@LisaAdams.75]

In Australia when renting, it's usually a big no no to paint or even add picture hooks etc. I do wonder if anyone has ever asked and had approval, I am sure it's been done. For me, everytime I go to the loo, I get so freakin' annoyed, the toilet roll holder is next to useless and the toilet seat is loose and am sure it doesn't belong / fit on the actual toilet. I've lived here for three years and now thinking fuck it, I'm going to upgrade these items... I can always swap them back and take items with me or on sell them. I don't know why I have put up with it for so long. Does my head in.

[@yujuti8416]

"The more I grow, the more I know I am closer to being disliked" I am so glad you are aware of this! I've watched so many growing KZbinrs going through this phase: they get more and more audience, then they start to try to please the haters to a point that they can't see the positive responses. All they care is the mean comments. I remember one of my regular go-to channels announced they would shut down a new series that just had ONE episode aired. "Because you guys hated it" they said it with such a depressing tone. I was so confused because I liked it a lot, and I scrolled through over 10 pages of comments and almost all of them were compliments. So I posted a command asking "who is hating the series? All I saw was compliments" then other viewers responded "there were some nasty comments in the community section". They have so much love but they were so focused on the hate, and that breaks my heart, oh and also makes me feel ignored and pushed away. Please keep being you, please keep in mind you are very well loved by so so many people!! Don't forget you are making video for US, the people who enjoy watching you!! WE are the reason for you to keep going!!! Love your lovers, not the haters!!

[@sadler451]

"I love money" was exactly my pitch to my client who wanted a project done for less than what I proposed. I also explained even though I seemed more expensive, I was a great value.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

hahahaha that is an absolute powerhouse move. i went on about a 20min spiral on whether i should cut that from the video. but you know what...i dont HATE money

[@humankaleidoscope4989]

@@Caroline_Winkler most people care quite a bit about money. I love that you’re honest!

[@Intrepiddabbler]

Did you get the job?

[@sadler451]

@@Intrepiddabbler Yes, I did get the project. Plus they hired me for seven more projects after that. Each time, my rate went up and each time they said yes. To put it in context, the projects were 1,000 to 3,000 hours each over a period of 15 years.

[@BillPeschel]

I've known freelancers who discovered that once they raised their rates, they lost the penny-pinching idiots who made their work life hell. They kept the clients who appreciated what they got. Of course, the freelancers have to really deliver to do this.

[@marydumois4242]

You are the sanest, most self aware person I’ve ever seen. You, my dear are going to do just fine AND you will be a great mom one day.

[@KnitsFromTheVoid]

2 years ago my life fell apart completely and I really really enjoyed building it back up while following you tackling similar themes and building up your channel. In many ways, it kept me sane(ish) to not feel alone.

[@AbilityToBeAwesome]

You are not alone! I agree I feel the same way with this channel! I mean yes you may physically be alone reading this comment thinking what does this weirdo know. I promise you this community of people, and world around you. People see you. Sending love and light your way! Remember you have the #AbilityToBeAwesome. Hope your having a wonderful weekend. Just keep going forward and celebrate life everyday!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

ah man. this comment makes ME feel less alone. sounds like a very similar timeline we had. i remember the feeling of waking up 2 years ago and realizing that every recognizable aspect of my life had disappeared over night. quite surreal. but such good things on the other side. I hope you have made it to the otherside, just a day at a time ❤

[@KnitsFromTheVoid]

@@Caroline_Winkler right? suddenly having to move was what got to me most, but ultimately it was really best for me to be on my own. So yeah, I too made it to the better side of things after multiple unexpected, life-altering changes and moving away from a career after 10 years.

[@HappyHarryX5]

Been through horror 32yr marriage and decided to get my head together and learn about everything to make my life mine and content. To all those out there going through the same thing, have an awesome new chapter in your lives!

[@c.s.102]

Incubation time for me is dreamtime. Watching the clouds passing by for instance

[@ninaoaster8039]

Caroline, I'm a 67 year old women who is reliving me life through your videos. My life, in my thirties, although married (now divoresed) was a cluster F***. I wouldn't change anything because I was blessed with three wonderful children. They are all in their 30's now (I can't believe it). I Thought is was me and you have given me to grace to see that i was not the only one. I love your videos and I thank you for baring your soul so the rest of us can realize that we are not crazy. I wish you peace in your life. Blessed be. Nina F

[@lllovesalll]

YES normalize time off! I'd always rake a 4 week sabbatical every spring and rebirth myself, in addition to a week off in summer and a week off in winter. Sometimes I'd come back full of energy and sometimes I'd come back with the courage to resign or quit something. Time off is better than gold ✨️

[@emilysha418]

Where do you live/what do you do that affords 6 weeks off a year?

[@Caroline_Winkler]

NORMALIZE👏 RE👏BIRTH 👏

[@lllovesalll]

@@emilysha418 I live in Toronto. When I started my last job, working , I negotiated 4 weeks off and Friday afternoons in the summer, knowing it included a lot of travel and special events. During winter holidays in 2010, I stayed in, meditated and cried every day, and realised how badly I needed to leave my amazing job so I could do something for myself. Since then I got certified in my current work (healing & teaching). I've made a very successful career of it. I work 4 days a week and take about 8 weeks off each year now. Very thankful I listened to that little voice in my heart so long ago and made a 180° choice to choose myself, while my peers were scrambling to get married and start families.

[@lilypudd]

Time off really helps! I used to do so much better when my son was in school because we had Fall break, winter holidays, spring break and then summer. It was like something to look forward to and able to take a breath before getting back at it.

[@JuLeZ274]

@@lllovesalll I love this so much!! Thanks for sharing! It’s Sth I‘ve been struggling with a lot (changing/choosing careers, restart life from scratch after a mental health „break“, etc while others start families and have „figured their stuff out“…). Can I ask what you do now and how did you decide to go for it? Hello from Germany :)

[@rachellopez8357]

This is almost 40 minutes?! You’re a GIFT TO THE WORLD, Caroline Winkler. I can’t wait to watch with coffee! 🥰😘💗

[@drebugsita]

40 minutes that felt like 20, max. It's like an update from a friend that you catchup with whenever you can and feel better for it

[@MacWitch]

It's so cool to see that you're cracking the code to your own success here on KZbin by realizing your patterns of balance in quality vs quantity of your videos. I think I speak for MANY of your subscribers here when I say that I'm so happy to hear that you'll be taking time off to actually live your life and replenish yourself. Sure it's fun to get weekly content from you, but what's even better is knowing that you're taking the well-deserved and much needed time away from yt so that you stick around longer term without risk of burning yourself out. You're awesome, I love all of your content including you and Jess' podcast, and I'll always tune in to your channel whether it's weekly, bi-weekly, or even once a month 🤟🏼

[@Caroline_Winkler]

REALLY appreciate this. its so hard to step away from the things you love, but i absolutellllly know that my best work comes when i have time away. and it is VERY much in the interest of staying on youtube longterm. i love it here, i want to stay, and i want to do right by everyone here with the content i put out. big hug to you 💕

[@y0utuberculosis]

oh my god yes, my fav youtubers are the ones that disappear for weeks or months at a time and then barge back into youtube with an absolute banger. Plus it's an actual reason to hit that bell icon because otherwise you're just getting the same annoying notification every week. But I also personally don't care when I watch a video so long as it shows up on the feed eventually. 🤷‍♀

[@deborahrobertson4670]

A painting tip...I punch holes with a nail along the rim of the paint can where the lid goes....this allows paint to drip back into the can after a pour and not down the outside🎉🎉and when the lid is popped back on the holes are covered, voila!

[@pollydolly9723]

The hall looks great Caroline. It's amazing what paint can do, isn't it? When my 2 kids were little, and my frequently ill husband was in hospital, I would ask my in-laws to take the kids for a weekend. I would then pick a small room, tape it up, and paint. The physicality of ladder work and tight places gave me aches that were very different from the ones stress gave me. By Sunday night when the kids came back home, I was relaxed and accomplished. And you know what? If I chose the wrong colour...it's only another weekend away from being transformed. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us.

[@dianecourtney2724]

Love your comment ( read it bc my mother’s name is Polly )☺️

[@maleidi]

Intentional hard work always softens hard times

[@ShaferHart]

"If I chose the wrong color it's only one weekend away from being transformed" surprisingly insightful

[@michelleriggs2450]

In the midst of a separation right now and hoping to move into an apartment in the next couple of weeks. Will be the first time in 20+ years that I'll be on my own. Your content brings me so much comfort and reminds me of my own strength. And your decorating advice is truly so understandable and actionable that I feel I will be able to make my apartment my home in a way that I never was able to before.

[@douxchats2868]

I've walked a similar path...and you can do this Michelle. You may have to pause and take a deep breath here and there, but it's okay...keep moving forward. I have faith in you, wishing you peace and light on your way. 💜

[@susanmclare]

I think you’re going to have a totally amazing, fun time! ☺️🧡 You get to do whatever you feel like x

[@HappyHarryX5]

Me too, 32yrs. To all going through it, have an awesome life filled with contentment, peace, fun and laughter with some pretty decor!

[@KB-qy8ps]

Being "alone" is so underrated! I found myself in the devastation of a big break up, and redesigning our home into my home. Go nuts, make a space just for you and it will be an anchor in your life when things feel out of control. All the best to you in your new chapter! ❤

[@Helen.G.]

i read in a book after my last major relnship split "what if there is not "the one". how would you built your life differently if there is no guaranty of the one?" that both shocked me when i began thinking about the truth behind this and then it liberated me in having a full and more authentic life anyway and if a great person comes along great! if not great still. life has meaning if u follow ur beliefs and values and also, there is no using of the other person ( even as an idea or presence) for my dreams to come true

[@abeautifulcountry9353]

Yes! I am 52 and married 14 years. For most of my 20's and 30's I believed I can only be truly be happy being in love and married. And now, I look back at those years when I was single, I wish I could tell that young woman, nothing is wrong, nothing is missing. I was actually happy. I would urge everyone to just live their lives and enjoy it, because in a lifetime, some of us are not meant to have children, some of us are not meant to have a 'soul mate' and yes sadly some of us are not meant to live to old age. It doesn't mean our lives are any less or has less value than someone who may 'have it all'.

[@MyFocusVaries]

I met my husband when we were 16 and 17. We've been happily married for 36 years, and I still don't think there's such a thing as "the one." And I don't think my happiness depended on having met him. It was pure luck.

[@wasabipeas8905]

What you said about rock bottom is so real. I can't even fathom how I used to interpret the world before I hit my worst. Every time I think about something that I used to think of as crazy or outside the realm of possibilities I ask my self, "what would I do to save my own life?" Because I've learned from months in the hospital or in bed that its only going to be you saving your life. You gotta be the hero

[@carolaratari6373]

Caroline, you found your platform. So understand letting yourself get bored to get rejuvenated..so relate. You actually give me the kick I need to get moving with things!! Thank you. Love Saturday mornings with Caroline! ❤️

[@AbilityToBeAwesome]

Same!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

i love this. i think it applies to all of us in all things. an ebb and flow and juggling of what's front and center. ❤🙌

[@TheMirandalorian]

I literally gasped out loud and smacked my pillow when you started talking about the creative process and how important taking breaks is and I realized we have the SAME philosophy and I don't mean to super parasocial but hi bestie 🤣 this is my weird way of saying i love you and your channel. Please never change

[@jiaheung4628]

Only discovered your channel recently and you’re the best therapy ever.

[@romanceramblingsetc.]

Who would have thought that going from white paint to a different white paint would make such a difference, but it looks really nice!

[@deeteeemmsixtwotwo]

"Don't aim for rock bottom but if you wake up and find you are at rock bottom, the sky's the limit!" Words of wisdom Xoxo 😘

[@ilovejessiedog]

Hi Caroline 👋 KZbin aggressively promoted your videos to me for a while before I succumbed and clicked. Boy am I glad I did. I love your content and have enjoyed your channel immensely. In response to your musings on disappointing others etc, can I just say - as much as I enjoy your personality and what you put online, I have absolutely no expectation that you are a perfect human being. You're a woman on the internet whose videos entertain me. I don't need anything more from you and if ever I am somehow disappointed by you, i will survive. I am an adult woman capable of being disappointed. You owe me nothing!

[@isabelle.9]

For the dropcloth, I recommend using one that is canvas on one side and waterproof material on the other. It's made specifically for painting. The canvas side up, the waterproof side down facing the floor.

[@EM-is9ti]

Carolyn - You are so deeply authentic and I don't know how you open up like you do to a bunch of strangers for that level of authenticity. I wish I could do that. "You don’t learn your way out of self hate by other people telling you that they love you...." I think you just gave me a break through moment. Thank you for talking about this.

[@Biostatmom]

Thanks for setting up the patreon absolutely want to support you particularly videos you can’t monetize. You are very talented, keep going.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

wow thank you so much. im really excited about the bonus content and behind the scenes type things i will share there!!

[@vzeimen]

I always save old shower curtain liners for paint drop clothes. They work great!

[@alexk.6520]

Your videos always nudge me to go do something, anything, to make my space feel a little homier. I was literally hanging a framed print in my hallway listening to this when you said, "Don't be afraid to put holes in your wall," which was oddly comforting, because I had definitely already made an incorrectly placed hole in the wall moments earlier.

[@imanilewisglasspiegel2402]

I heard from a super wise colleague early in my career that he would take a 1.5 week trip every quarter. He was such a high performer and someone everyone on the team admired. As soon as you said it, I was reminded of him.

[@heidiv5720]

Caroline! Oddly happy to hear your comments about kids. We have somewhat similar personality type/intensity and all kinds of things you talk about (introversion, history of depression, etc) I relate to... but the kid thing. YES. I am a mom of 2 girls. I became more me than I've ever been when I became their mother. Values and priorities and all kinds of things about myself and the world became crystal clear because of them. I am a single mom, never married, and the joy in my life is unbridled. Certainly the stress and overwhelm can be too, but God, it's worth it. ❤ it was so cool to hear you vocalize the thing that happened to me.

[@marsy427]

Your sponsors/ads are the only persons I’ve ever actually sat through because you make them so engaging and authentic!

[@Eyleenelly]

You have exactly the same view/project as me about marriage and children, hearing you speak about it made me feel strangely validated and happy (even if I already knew my mother supports me and is ready to go on retirement the moment I get pregnant to help me). I'm definitely going to save that part of the video to be able to watch it again.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

it definitely helps me to get really clear on what the priority is. theres no right answer, but it sounds like getting that clarity for yourself is so important ❤glad you have it

[@carolb9234]

Don't agree with having children without a husband; kids NEED two parents. It's kind of selfish to purposely have a child just for you. I'm sure I'll be slammed on this comment as it's the minority these days, but it's what I believe.

[@elizabeth714]

@Carol B I agree that having a mother and a father involved in a child’s development is not only ideal but essential in most cases. I find her strong desire to have kids is very honorable. My hope is that a good man for her will commit to marrying her and raising their kids together.

[@Joy-zf6cs]

@@carolb9234 Try telling a woman who has successfully raised children on her own, that she NEEDS a man! Is it easier? Usually, but it can be done.

[@tinkpix425]

​@@Joy-zf6cs it's not about the woman it's about what's best for the child/children. As a child of a single Mother I so badly wanted my father in my life. Even into my 40's I still have trauma from not having that balance of being raised by both parent's. I understand thing's happen that aren't planned but this is an intentional thought process.

[@evelyntinsley321]

“You can’t teach someone self-love by loving them” Well said!!

[@TheMirandalorian]

You describing imposter syndrome is sooo so so validating for me... thank you

[@mariliseinch2561]

Your authenticity is what draws people to your channel and what keeps us watching. I love the little 'mind tricks' you share of how you make decisions or overcome your fears, etc - so real and so refreshing. Also love how direct and honest you are. So yeah, you might not be for everyone but the most important thing is to stay true to who you are and so far you are killing it!

[@senseofwonder4734]

Oh my God I LOVE the opening pose, Caroline as a modern bad ass American Gothic!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

oh my goddd did not see this. bless

[@awildapproach]

TRUE! 😄

[@Lindalindali]

Now I see it too 😄

[@aleksandra...]

Yes, lol

[@shannono8397]

yasssss

[@melindafountain3976]

You are so cute! I'm old enough to be your mom, and I think you are absolutely precious. You appeal to people even my age, and you are so relatable. I never watch one of your videos without guffawing out loud. I also love your commitment to fitness and your good mindset toward exercise. I have loved your videos that address obsessive workout mindsets. Thanks for being so refreshing and fun to watch!

[@nancybaumet8831]

LOL- "guffawing out loud." I would use that word in a sentence too:)

[@kimlarsen8515]

Also old enough to be her mom and I love Caroline so much I send her videos to my daughters all the time!

[@ilsemorgan4001]

Ditto!

[@Rachel-qv9sk]

I love your channel and I’m so happy that it’s working for you and you’re doing something you like to do. You have articulated a lot of my own thoughts that I’ve never said out loud. I’ve pulled back from social media lately because in general it seems really phony but your channel is one of the few exceptions. You seem so genuine and it brings something to my day. Take care!

[@Caroline_Winkler]

this is basically the best kind of feedback i can hear. i really appreciate this

[@HappyHarryX5]

I love photos of Europe so my tips for not making them look tacky are: Make them look old or black and white or use the tiniest bit of saturation, and use a watercolour/drybrush filter for some. I’ve found the brightness/levels have to be lightened as when I’ve put them up on the wall they become darker. I lower the midtones a lot and it works. If doing a gallery wall use photos with more negative space or add some in. Use photos with interesting angles and curves for the B&Ws. I usually use a detail of the photo, my family’s photos aren’t great and many are from 1986 but they’ve turned out to be amazing. I take out the crowds, cars, any tech and drains so they look timeless. Last week I took a window out of a photo of Mont St Michel (a room that looks like a dungeon) and put in a view of snowy Canadian pines. The room had a lot of light coming in so it was perfect. I use cheap black frames with custom mats. I also use photos of buildings in Australia that look like Europe and no one can tell.

[@kerriesaephanh]

This is my favorite youtube channel, I love just hanging out with Caroline.

[@Littlelizzylizliz]

“i can make people out of my body- and I will” Caroline, you’re a badass and I am here for it !!! Nodding along re: thoughts about marriage and kiddos.

[@dianeandbrad529]

I hope it all works out for her... its easy to say these things as your future plan, but nature can be unpredictable and a lot more complicated than “i’ll just __ at a certain age”

[@tinkpix425]

​@@dianeandbrad529 agreed.. many women think they have more time to have kid's than they actually do. Finding that perfect person is like searching for a 🦄 in the gumdrop forrest.

[@CiaoColeG]

I used to be certain about adopting at a certain age if I wasn't married. I work with kids and their parents, and now I just don't know anymore. It takes a lot of emotional and mental strength to raise kids well (double that doing it alone), not to mention the costs, and you gotta find an amazing godparent(s) just in case you die young. My father died when I was 13, so I think about stuff like that. Life is a gamble no matter what, and I don't know if I'm willing to take on that risk ever.

[@duc25xr]

It's selfish. If something happens to her, the child becomes an orphan. Sometimes life happens and a child has one parent as a result but to go into it deciding to have a child with no second parent is messed up.

[@duc25xr]

@Harleen even if someone doesn't want to be romantically involved, finding a coparent would be in the best interest of the child. Me and everyone I know who grew up with just one parent dealt with many issues as a result, and I find it annoying to watch a privileged woman who grew up wealthy in a two parent home say she is entitled to bring a kid into the world without another parent because she wants to for HER to feel complete, without any mention or consideration for what's best for a child.

[@limeslizard]

I’m just here for your amazing energy and personality tbh

[@Caroline_Winkler]

bish. how dare 💕

[@blueeyedsoulman]

Just to save people some pain: Love is simply a decision. You get up every day and decide to love this person. It's not feelings (Those can change all the time.) It's not sex (That you can work on together.) Love is sacrifice. If you would sacrifice yourself for your best friend, that is love. Also, it's important to know, the person you marry could be completely different in 10 years. In fact, if you join yourself to that person, it's guaranteed. People do not stay the same. They are fluid. Sorry if this bursts someone's bubble but it's best to know the truth. If you "love" someone, define it for them. The word is overused and taken for granted. Before my wife passed away I told her "I care very deeply about you. I want what's best for you. I want you to be happy and healthy and have everything you need for this life and the next. If that's not love, I have no idea what is."

[@violetxoxox]

I’m sorry for your loss. I lost my husband in a tragic accident eight months after losing my mom the same way, and grief … it’s with you for life. What you say about love is so true. My husband and I went through some rough times over the years and we both changed along the way, but we fought to stay together because we loved each other. When I lost him, for the longest time I was stuck in a phase of being so angry it was him and not me, and I still say I would give my life in a heartbeat if he could get his back. I will always feel that way, because I loved him so much and he had so many ambitions and so much more he wanted to give the world. No matter how hard I try to pull myself up by my bootstraps and live the life he no longer can, seeing and experiencing the world for him, I’m failing miserably. But watching videos (like Caroline’s) of other people working to improve their lives motivates and inspires me so much. Little by little, I’m getting there. I WILL get there. I hope you’re doing well and finding your way, too. ☺️

[@twohawk57]

Very well said and very true! My condolences on your wifes passing.

[@paulaprice6949]

That is what love is. ❤

[@koahlition13]

I can't explain it but once all the photos came down it seemed like such a closed up and small hall! But the painting made it seem huge and then with everything back up on the walls, bigger again! I enjoyed this Q&A. KZbin brought me here a few months back with the making eyes video. Then I lost you, I'm so glad I found my way back!!! I sub'd this time. You're stuck with me lol

[@alexdavidson9204]

Caz, this was a superb stream of consciousness. You have 406k subscribers as of 3/19/23. The jury is in. You are very, very well liked. Never worry about disappointing us. Being compelling is your superpower & all of us on this side of the camera are totally rooting for you.

[@brendaokuda2158]

It's April 24th, 2024 & I was just binge watching your old videos. Came across this one & realized that while you were answering questions about finding your life partner, getting married, & possibly having children, you were, if fact, dating Justin. This must have been before he told you that you were his girlfriend. You little minx......😂😂😂 At this point we're all (I'm pretty sure) just waiting to see how absolutely ADORABLE & GORGEOUS your child(ren) are going to be. Y'all are just too cute, but together? Ah! Chef's kiss 😘😘😘

[@Judywithbudgies]

"I can make people like my body and I will". Wow! Very strong statement. Good for you if you can see yourself being a single parent. I really admire your candidness and honesty. It is so refreshing to see someone who is so in tune with what she wants. You know what is negotiable for you and what is not negotiable. Some people just do not know what they want or like. I think if you know what you like, you are already halfway to the destination of your "want world" if that makes any sense. I find it way more challenging for those who do not know what they like. Love your videos. I am late in responding to this one because now you are in a relationship with a very nice looking man and I am so happy for you. The two of you really look good together and I think he will propose at some point (if he has not already done so). Many more years of happiness to you Caroline because you deserve it! Have a blast together for the many, many, many years to come. 😊💕💖

[@AWJ-zf8cf]

You have a way of saying things! Wow. You articulate very well. You help people like me who have all these thoughts but have a hard time explaining them.

[@simoneshlomi3869]

Congrats on the 400k mark! You deserve it girl! Yesterday I was driving in the rain and thinking of your accident. I turned to my daughter in law and told her that my friend had the scariest experience recently while driving in the rain. She asked me which friend? My friend from Washington. She said, I didn’t know you had a friend from Washington . Now she knows.

[@MovieJustin]

Honey it's an event everytime you post, take the time you need and we will be right here waiting with our notifications on ❤

[@JennaHong]

I’m truly obsessed with how informative but professional but entertaining your content is 😭

[@girlathebeach]

I guess pink for your living room color, patreon is a great idea for you as you're so worth it, and yes to you and Luke in an exercise video because you two make a great team and your relationship with him is priceless. Oh, and metaphorically, literally would make a great podcast.

[@lollsazz]

I agree with you on so much. It's refreshing to see that there are other people like this out there, who also use their time to reflect. I hope you will get those kids at the point you feel ready to, and that there's a good network around you, so that you can get the rest you need, to be able to live the life you want ❤

[@ape475]

It is so interesting your reflection about having kids, especially being from someone without kids. This is basically how I can explain it to friends who ask me about it. But I only found out after having them. I have kids, and I feel exactly as you described it. It is so much growth, conflict, and humbling within yourself. They bring you to a level you would not even consider possible. To me, it feels like all the same emotions but amplified: happiness, gratitude, exhaustion, fearfulness, you name it. Love your work and personality ❤❤

[@annawindisch8416]

Oh man, you're gonna be such a fun mom!! I've got two kids and I'm loving it everyday - they are just hilarious!

[@CaitlynnM123]

I’m here for the chats and the lessons - zero expectations I just appreciate your perspective and your character. It’s been crazy to see your channel go from 50k to 400k. But you deserve it for putting out meaningful content 💖

[@theorist]

I felt that, when you said your tech job wasnt fulfilling (creatively). I had a real estate job and I was damn good at it But my god, I just didnt like it. With KZbin im able to talk about stuff I ACTUALLY care about. Its also still so weird that when I upload I get views. I rarely talk to other youtubers so idk if you relate to that. Its “surreal” seeing people comment ‘omg i love your videos!’ Im still shocked when I see it and put into disbelief Also fantastic videos. Some of my favorite content rn. A lot of youtube feels bland at the moment. Happy to see more real and fun content being made still

[@elanahdransfield1014]

When I tell you how much you are an inspiration you are to me. Again probably wildly different with very different lives (mum 29 in England 😅) but I look forward to your videos every week- please don’t ever stop being you, you’re amazing!

[@Marie-di5gl]

I always got really nervous when I realised someone liked me because I was afraid of ruining it. 😢 It makes it difficult to form real relationships. You basically described a big aspect of social anxiety.

[@bellaheblan8479]

I am editing my comment because I spoke too soon! After watching the whole video, I have more to say! Thank you for your honesty, and for answering questions that people can relate to. Such a powerful comment about how if you don’t feel good about yourself, people telling you how good you are doesn’t help! We subscribers will tune in whenever you have something to share! Good for you, for reflecting on what is good for you, and taking for care of yourself. What an inspiration! Congrats on 400k subscribers! I appreciate your topics/ delivery being so refreshing, fun, creative, and relatable, not to mention informative! I’m sort of obsessed with your channel, because I never know what to expect, and I’m never disappointed! Can you tell I’m a fan? Hehe! Thank you, and best to you! 👍🏼

[@Rachel5280]

Would you please do a video about developing your humor style and how you hone it? Do you journal or write things down? Do you practice banter? Did you grow up with it or did it develop in your adulthood? Who inspires you? Thanks!

[@IzzyWootonn]

"you don't learn your way out of self-hate by other people telling you they love you" - girl, that hit hard...there's always one line you have in your videos that makes me laugh or really resonates with me and makes me hit the like button immediately. Not like u have to earn a "like", but I do try to save my likes for things that i really enjoy. You are one of them :)

[@littlemissprickles]

Caroline, I've watched this video before but have come back to binge watch several of your videos. When you mentioned just committing to clean for 15 minutes, there were 10 minutes left in the video. I now have a clean bedroom and the video isn't even over yet. It felt like it would be so much more work, but I feel so accomplished and much better now, thank you!

[@risika]

In terms of time management - I was listening to a podcast that said, “it’s important to live life by design rather than emotion. Basically, sticking to a routine is what allows us to be the healthiest version of ourselves (especially when you're fighting these demons ex. OCD for me). I made the most productive+lasting changes in my life when I began practising mediocre consistency. Now I try to put in consistent 40-60% effort into my habits despite motivation (ex. Studying) - to make sure I do it I began recording it and posting it on my youtube channel. Giving a small-ish, consistent mediocre effort everyday, its crazy how it adds up.

[@marissabulso6439]

Yes, I totally know what you mean about needing to get bored sometimes! It’s like a creative reset. I need that down time to get re-energized.

[@alexandracatomio7217]

Caroline, I feel so blessed that I found you on KZbin. Listening to you is so eye opening and satisfying. You are wise and self reflective. Your more personal videos are very therapeutic. Wishing you all the best, Kind regards from Austria, Europe!

[@tiffanycave5974]

I'm very picky with whom and what I watch and I oddly enjoy you because I think we're both a little bit odd or weird as people would say. And I find it somehow soothing and relaxing mentally for myself to just listen to you yap about anything random. Thank you for sticking with KZbin. I think you're helping me on my days off and on my struggle days to actually. Lessen my anxiety just by knowing you are human and so am I

[@KirstenMongie]

Thank you for your authenticity on marriage and parenthood. I got married young, but it felt so right. After a few years, it still feels right. It was a matter of having someone good in front of me at the time. I was dating around, but not forcing the idea of marriage on my dating. If there were no good people in front of me, I would not have gotten married. Having kids is the same way for me. At some point, I will feel ready for that new journey and personal growth. It's a balance of having goals in life, but not forcing them when you are not ready.

[@carolpascua1848]

I lived in Arlington, VA just south of Crystal City for two years. My tiny one bedroom apartment retailed at $2700 in 2008. Living in the Dupont Circle area in 2023 for $2000 is an absolute steal! Totally LOVE your place.

[@OG_Bearcat]

Girl, you are such an inspiration! I’ve done many makeovers in my home that you inspired. I love my space so much more now. Thanks! ❤️

[@Voltechs]

You're an absolute ray of sunshine. Keep it up Caroline. I have no doubt you're an inspiration to lots of women, but I can tell you you're also a breath of fresh air for men. The guy you're with and or whoever you end up settling UP(?) with, will be very lucky! I hope women of all ages take notes about your outlook and approach to life. Just seeing you act so authentically in your own element is strangely therapeutic.

[@QiyuLiu]

I rent a condo that was built 30 years ago so the walls are a slightly off-putting French white. I’ve been wanting to paint them flat white but it always seemed daunting. Your video is terrific inspiration-after all, I don’t even have to film myself answering questions!

[@CynthiaMiller-cc3qj]

I’m a messy painter so the tip about using brown paper on the floor is good to know . Also, I’m a big fan Sherwin Williams “Extra White”. Also love their shade “Creamy”

[@natashadavies9569]

Knowing what you want for yourself and aiming at it is so important. I personally always knew I wanted a house of my own and pets/a cat 😺. Children should be for those people who fiercely want them and are willing to make the compromises/pay the price in return for the joys. Also the next best thing to having a supportive and joyfully fulfilling partnership imo is being single with friends and interests. Not settling for an okayish relationship.

[@carmenalmedina4157]

Love your stuff it’s witty and light. Need more of that! As a single mom., Trust me, I would absolutely NOT recommend going it alone! you’e Soo right that worrying only compounds things. Working on yourself and doing things like you’re doing probably going to create space for that opportunity. Best of luck.

[@WhiteBueno]

I think a big problem with relationships is that people look for someone to fulfill them in ways that they're not capable of. They forget that real love involves sacrifice, and isn't just about pandering to their own ego.

[@sherrimorris3560]

Best comment on here today! Everyone wants to be fairy tale in love but don't understand how to go about keeping it. I can be my own princess charming, we'll never argue or divorce. 🎉

[@brendamoon2660]

I love money too! Keeping the mortgage paid and the lights on are my most favorite hobbies.

[@JeanineFollette]

First, im guessing Pink (maybe bc i stared at you in a pink top for the past 38 mins) but also...I always appreciate your life advice. And how candid you are about your feelings, especially the "blowing up on KZbin" part. You're quite articulate and it allows us to really empathize. Love ya girl!❤

[@Caroline_Winkler]

ohhhh a good guess!!!! not pink tho but i would die for a pink room one day, itll happen eventually. thank you for such a thoughtful comment, i never know how sharing those things will come across. another thing i debated taking out of the video. so it's quite comforting to hear that the feeling was articulated in a way that made sense. thank you friend 💕

[@amberlynn3121]

I'm thinking a shade of green or purple. But not like Friends-purple.

[@maltajade9058]

Your unit is so great for that price, it has personality (your decor/design helps of course lol). I'm in Atlanta and I feel that Sq ft and rent! Thank you for being so open about everything, hearing you speak about career decisions, children, struggles with self hate/successs etc is helpful for me. 😊 you are so strong! Keep doing what you find joy in!

[@EmmaDitnes]

“Put it up, we’re all gonna die” has to be one of the funniest and best piece of home decor/life advice I’ve ever heard. And I mean this sincerely! I’m a relatively new subscriber and I love to put your videos on while I’m tidying up my apartment on the weekends cause it feels less like I’m watching something and more like I’m hanging out with a friend (and I’m a preschool teacher who is a MASSIVE introvert, so by the time the weekend comes around, I’m running on empty, and so having videos like yours to watch, saves me from actually having to spend time with people when I really don’t want to 😂). I love your honesty, vulnerability, sense of humor, and relatability. Thanks for following through on doing what fulfills you and giving so many people something look forward to and enjoy ❤

[@prfct8]

Equating people loving you with giving them opportunity for disappointment lol ermagerd guuuuurllll! This is why people love you. It’s how you say what a lot of us are experiencing in life in general. You rock. Thank-you.

[@masakimoayra00]

I love your opinion on marriage. It's exactly my own, but I'm bad at explaining it. I'm not one for my own kids, but I love that you're so excited about it. I hope everything works out and I love your channel 💜

[@thesnoopydance645]

Caroline, I have been doing the rate the day thing you mentioned and when i started i felt like a 2/10 and now last few days i have been 6 or 7/10. YAYY ( There's a quote that goes something like :" Be happy for no reason like a child. For if that reason gets taken away, so is your happiness taken away." Something like that.🙂 Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. So often you put into words some things that might be slightly shocking BUT THEY'RE SO TRUE.

[@jessicaforrester2638]

This is so lovely.

[@Nomoreanons]

I'm definitely in need of some inspiration to get rid of my grey wall.....it definitely screams outdated design-inspiration, so thank you Caroline. I need this.

[@Caroline_Winkler]

you got it bb 💕

[@amg1love]

I have never heard a KZbinr admit that a gallery wall is unintentional, and it’s inspired me now to take my maybe/incomplete art pieces or frames out of a storage closet and just f-ing put them up somewhere and chill out. Also, I forget what pieces I have and I certainly can’t enjoy them if I’m waiting on an imaginary perfect gallery wall plan to do it. But if you ended up curating even a little more when putting it back up… well we need a video on your edit! You touched on it in the bedroom but this is a floor to ceiling and (I’m hoping) it includes your maybe pieces too. Like who cares if it’s random? As if I have ever hung up art and it’s ended up staying there for years and years anyway! And- the white looks great here. I resonate with your style (read: you are the goal) but I am always trying sample paints of bolder/darker walls (sample paint squares everywhere but my art is in a closet wtf) and I can’t commit. So I’ve been in a beige room with six sample swipes and no art because I am waiting for my perfect plan. You convinced me that it works and I don’t need a wall color I can’t decide if I love enough and will always love THAT MUCH OF IT to drench my whole damn bedroom. Right? Right??

[@bellaheblan8479]

I’m with you on this! So many of the points made in the video are so authentically reasonable! Why not! I’m going to rummage around and find places to hang all those framed pieces, and also buy more frames! Being random and quirky might be just what I need right now! 😀

[@dogplanetofficial]

I am also of the same mind about getting married and having kids, doing it alone is totally my plan! Thank you for letting us see a glimpse into your life Caroline, it genuinely makes me so happy

[@izbella3556]

You have this power of making a pretty conventional "vlogger Q&A" topic so entertaining!! There are times where I read the title of your new uploads and get thrown off because I'm not drawn to the topic. But when I actually click on these videos, I'm immediately hooked by your authentic charms😂 Maybe it's your vibe, energy, or your current place in life but you remind me of my sister and my cousin so much! Perhaps that's why I find so much comfort from your channel even though I'm kind of the opposite. To me, your channel is like a therapist, reality tv, and a sister or a close friend all at the same time.

[@elaineignots5332]

You always make me think.... I can do better. I'm doing OK. You always make me laugh. You always make me more ambitious (that doesn't last long 😂) You always make me feel. Thank you!!

[@dianaknox9885]

Thank you, Caroline. I appreciate your thought processes. It calms me down to just sit and listen to you. Thank you for sharing. I'm so glad that You Tube is working out! It's a strange thing that blesses so many people; both the person who is sharing, and the people on the receiving end. Until next time! 😊

[@butterflysun]

You are such a delight, so delightful. Thank you for being genuine!

[@hellodaxushi]

Love your videos and I've been sending the organization video you made to all my friends. I've watched it so many times that even my husband goes, "I need to corral my crap!" Also, I think a hunter or lighter sage green would contrast so well with the orange and reds you already have in the living room!

[@sdelia129]

“Just put it up. We’re all going to die.” Laughed so hard I started choking. And it’s also a great life philosophy!!!!

[@reneeadams9673]

I always love your content. You are a breath of fresh air in a time where too many people tell you what they think you want to hear and blame everyone else for their troubles. I appreciate the truth and honesty with which you approach every subject and how you take responsibility for your emotional well being. As a society, we would be much better off if more people did the same.

[@crimsonio7623]

I'm LOVING the pigtails. Keep up the work queen!

[@Nomakeupmama]

You, just sitting talking about thrive market, just makes me feel like your friend. Just wanted to let you know because the internet is weird but we can still feel like your friend and love you haha love you girl

[@monikagross8802]

I find you so inspiring with regards to your career decisions. I find it very interesting how you reflect and just don’t try to find excuses to NOT change it. I am at an awful spot right now in a corporation and am thinking about where to move from there, where I can put my strengths in more. Good luck with finding a partner! Maybe really try to look for father material 😅

[@Caroline_Winkler]

well it is incredibly difficult to make those changes. im sure it will be quite difficult for you, so i never mean to trivialize how hard those changes are - logistically, financially, emotionally. but i just feel it's much harder to stay in a place that is maybe deteriorating you. Keep at the search, you know best what you need. there are other options out there for you💕

[@jo4vt]

@@Caroline_Winkler ❤

[@monikagross8802]

Exactly! I feel like a corpse. I want to do something that makes me feel alive. Almost lost my mental health there, but it also taught me a lot about my shadow self, the person I become when my context is difficult…which is good.

[@coconut922]

No pressure, but please don't ever stop making youtube videos okay? Thanks. I loveeeeeee all or your content, it's amazing, you're amazing !