Why I dropped out of college.

[@Amandasbarros]

I have severe adhd. I take meds and I take care of myself but writing papers, doing group projects with people who don't understand my struggles, and takinf exams are so hard. I need more lessons, I need more time, I need more assignments along the way so I can keep up with the process and I need more help from the professor. I don't have any of those things. I'm going to my 4th semester and I'm proud of myself but I'm so scared of going back next year. I only have 2 friends who are more of colleagues. I'm anxious all the time.

[@antidelusionalpeeps]

I can relate to your story. My mom, who also is an immigrant, called me and I told her that I have decided to drop out of college without having a plan, and I could just hear the disappointment in her voice and her basically pushing me to jump into another major, any major if it meant I stayed in school. But I know that I'm doing what's best for myself, and you are too! Wish you the best.

[@fredfarkle4162]

Jessica, I have to say this is very timely, given that tomorrow is college decision day for the class of 2026. My daughter has been following you for some time, both for the similar demographics and similar degree aspirations at the UW. She is also the only daughter. We have been struggling to finalize her university decision and UW played a very large part, given it is my alma mater. However, the ultra competitiveness at the university, which has always been there but seems to have ratcheted up exponentially since my day, has even me feeling that it may not be the best choice now. Your struggles, given your obviously high level of competency, makes me think that someone with the same profile but a few years behind you would be better off elsewhere. For yourself, take time off and walk the campus without the pressure. With the cherry blossoms out, spring quarter was always my favorite time there but with the stress of academic life, it was hard to see the forest for those trees. Hang tough, you will clearly succeed at many things in life and I can tell you from long experience, life is hardly over at 20, or 30, or 40, or 50. Good luck to you.

[@_SunnySet]

Don’t let this girl on the internet persuade your daughters decision. The vast majority have gone, put in the work, graduated, and are succeeding in their careers. This just sounds like an undisciplined girl that hasn’t put in the work, and is complaining because it’s not always fun and no one is there to hold her hand. There are many other KZbinrs that share positive experience about this university. If you’re daughter gets accepted, let her go, and teach her discipline and maturity. With this girls mindset, nothing would ever get accomplished and she won’t be a self sufficient adult. “When the going gets tough, the tough gets going” -A military affiliated student

[@RealisticSunsFan]

@@_SunnySetyou’re a weird person

[@theanami3309]

Jess, you are an amazing human being. You are so strong, inspirational and such a mfking queen!!! I am so happy for you that you are now going on this journey to take care of yourself and to do things you actually love and find interest in! Prioritizing mental health and physical health is such a girl boss move and you should be so proud of your self. We all believe in you and can’t wait to see what the future has in store for you! ❤️❤️

[@speechiecrossing]

girl you are amazing! the ways of college is very outdated. as a recent UW student/grad... UW and most universities will never understand that. you are not the problem and keep going and do what you genuinely love. you only have one life!

[@animicat6688]

I hope your recuperating well now.. from personal experience it’s a battle

[@EricNEverything]

You are one of the smartest people I know, you'll definitely figure it out, whatever you decide to do. Glad to hear you're gonna be making more videos. 😁😁

[@kimberlyhung3975]

Thank you for being so open and honest. U may have helped so many other with this. Take care of ur self and stay close to ur dad. He sounds like a great guy. This to shall pass. Hang in there gurl!

[@victoriastrzemecka5156]

so excited to see you succeed even if it’s not part of the “original” plan because plans CHANGE allll the time ❤️❤️

[@Dsmx1119]

Still deciding between uw and ucd, i do know that uni is meant for pressure, but thank you for showing this to me in such a straightforward way. Glad to see that you return to uw. All the best luck jess!

[@jordynkerr3238]

Jess, you have been such an inspiration to me and you continue to be so! I'm so proud of you for taking care of yourself and doing what you need to do for you! You are the reason I still box. I love you so much! You have no idea how much of an impact you have had on my life! You will get through the hard times! I promise you! ❤❤

[@mothbyte98]

Jessica, you were the first person on youtube that I watched about getting into UW for studying psych last year starting in autumn 2021. I have since decided to pair this major with a premed track and I feel the frustration on all fronts, especially with STEM prereqs that fit two whole curriculums into ten weeks. A full time courseload, on top of TWO JOBS (!!) + moving + internship, plus no enjoyment derived from your prereqs... no wonder dropping out seemed sensible. Your situation reminds me a lot of mine and how I had to take a gap quarter for WI 2022. I also was between two apartments. I was getting situated in my new place and on top of that trying to find a new job. My previous job in Seattle released me because I said some very unwise things at work to a coworker, and she turned around and reported me for it. These unwise things had to do with me essentially being outcast from my then group of friends over some very petty, high school tier nonsense. I was at my absolute lowest. Didn't feed myself for about a week, didn't brush my teeth. Had to cancel my trip back home, so my birthday was ruined, Christmas was ruined, New Years I didn't even celebrate...all while these people who contributed to this blip got to go home and experience family and gift-giving. Not one of my peers who were around when I was going through all that fucking gave a shit, and the people who actually did (i.e. my family) were too far away to do anything. Oh and my dog died in January as well, so I didn't get to see him before he passed. My grades took a slight dive, and now the admissions adviser says that my GPA isn't as "highly competitive" for my major, saying that out of the 150 applicants they accepted for SP 2022 for psych, only 20 of them had my GPA of a 3.5 or lower. I'm just like...what school creates such scarcity for its students who already pay to be there that an A- isn't considered "competitive?" I'm basically an A- student. There is an upside to this all. I live near campus so I'm making friends (I think), and despite bombing my first chemistry exam, I'm actually enjoying the material once I've begun to study it in depth. I'm working out now and I've gotten back into the church which is super important to me. I got even luckier with my next job which pays me enough to work 16hr/week and make more than enough for expenses. I was hoping to run into you on campus one of these days, and tell you how much you helped out. But for now just accept this heartfelt thank you.

[@hojaeyun6747]

Listen, schools not the only thing that make you succeed in life. It's all about learning outside of academic area. Once you grow up into mid 20s you're gonna realize that school only takes your time and money trust me.

[@revsun2024]

I love your youtube channel because I love your personality. I won't stop watching your channel you are so inspirational.

[@kristinebermoy7228]

Thank you for being real. I have a Filipino dad and iim going through the same.

[@ShubaMurthy]

You're going to be just fine, whatever you choose to do!

[@jessicastarsinspace2563]

Thank you so much! Comments like these give me strength to keep pushing forward!

[@shopgirl6673]

Don’t get sick attending UW and take some time off & transfer to another school to finish it off. Your mom will eventually come around for you. Let the time heal for your mom & mental health. It’s not the end of the world…. : )

[@quintonmitchell2853]

You're awesome, but you're young and you got fire in you and drive, so you get hard on yourself, but you'll do just fine. Carve your own path

[@swisscheese1-d8y]

this is EXACTLY what i needed right now

[@francollins806]

thank you so much for sharing your story Jessica

[@andreimihail3677]

What has happened since then? I'm in my junior year studying engineering but planning to drop out, and this just resonates with me, A LOT

[@quintonmitchell2853]

Keep your head up. UW OK. Plenty of good schools out there and many are smaller than UW but with good reputations

[@jessicastarsinspace2563]

Thanks for the encouragement! I’m thinking perhaps I might go back for my Masters or get some sort of certificate at a different university. I’m not sure if I want to pursue a traditional job anymore though, so I guess it all depends on where the next few years leads me. I’m grateful for UW, but I’m excited to see what else is out there!

[@SpecialEdDHD]

Sounds like me. I dropped out after first year. You might have untreated ADHD. Worth looking into it.

[@samw]

I want to drop out of uw rn which is why i am watching this

[@davidmares6053]

It's better to do what you like. At the end of the day. Who cares what anyone does? life is short

[@kimberlyhung3975]

I’ll be waiting to see how high u go

[@nickolazcarters]

So brave ♥️

[@saanvi4738]

Jessica- ur queen. This is exactly how i feel and I’m an engr student at uw. I feel like I’m the problem tho and that I’m not smart enough 😭😭😭

[@MegaHappyKorean]

lets get it! maybe pro boxer :)

[@jessicastarsinspace2563]

Definitely…✨not✨ LOL! I will always have fond memories of my boxing days (most I can’t remember though given how many times I’ve gotten hit in the head…JK JK!), but honestly, volleyball has more of a special place in my heart! I think I’ll try out for the club team next year, or at the very least keep going to the open gyms consistently, but it’s something I definitely want to keep in my life beyond college!

[@_SunnySet]

Girl, I think you should try the military. It’ll really teach you thankfulness, discipline, and that sometimes you just need to show up and the tough things. The fact that you were able to go to such a top university and get an internship at NASA is amazing and not everyone gets that opportunity so young, or at all. School does not last for ever, it’s a means to an end to get you into a career. It’s hard to get far in any field without a degree. Even if you go part time or switch majors, I really think you should go back and finish. Maybe taking a gap year would be nice, but just up and quitting is pathetic. There are people that have to wake up everyday with no money, living in a shitty place, barely paying their way through community college for a chance to get themselves in a better position. The world isn’t just rainbows and butterflies. You really have to ask yourself- did you hate school, or did you just not feel like doing the work. And trying to get a sob story just because you failed one class is immature. You’re still young, but you won’t be in a couple of years. And whether you figure out what you want to do today or 3 years from now, you’re soon going to reach a point where you’re going to have to not only support yourself, but have at least some me type of career that’s reasonable for an adult. Study more, switch majors, take a gap year, go part time, take anti depression medication, but please finish. Especially since you don’t have a back up plan. School is not a waste of time! You’re just not looking at the bigger picture. You need to grow up, the world isn’t going to hold your hand. There are so many people that have graduated that have learned something because they put in the work, and are successful on their chosen path- whether that’s business or psychology, etc. Do you really want to be twiddling your thumbs in a couple of years, not having graduated, with all your peers ahead of you?

[@angeliquebacker8522]

The world is what we make of it, we don’t need to go to college if it is not serving us. We can change society to be more compassionate, loving and caring because we as people make up society. The “real world” doesn’t exist in this sense. College is an elitist institution not geared towards education, it is flawed and corrupt. The more people learn this the better.

[@victoriaveeart]

you sound like your projecting so much seek help

[@moelife543]

Cool video. I just posted a similar video

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