why I have no friends at 19

[@KazB-o8e]

Social media robbed us all of genuine friendships.

[@faizkhan977]

Facts

[@R.Specktre]

so true

[@JasmineHesse2001]

Not really

[@Amelia-s8t1o]

Tru..I would love to go back to 1990s where everyone was genuinely more happier

[@Darkstar1626]

I became really sad and depressed for not having any friends to call or talk to at all and I actually feel somewhat better that there are other people out there who can relate to what I’m going through right now.

[@brisbreathing]

you’re never alone, and sometimes you deserve to be your own best friend. ❤️

[@Darkstar1626]

@@brisbreathing Thing is though, I don’t know whether I’m just not meant to have any friends?that’s what I always wonder and ask my self sometimes too.

[@brisbreathing]

@@Darkstar1626 I get that. I know I personally used to feel like I was too different, too this or too that, and that meant I was supposed to be alone. But these are limiting beliefs my friend. You can be what ever you want to be. And know that there are people out there like yourself. Sometimes it’s just harder to find them.

[@dinedine8336]

As same as you are really sad ; will you want to get along with me ? You can write down your instagram and we can have a good chat or your instagram , hangout or any chat websites

[@Retr-rq9lm]

@@Darkstar1626 so... Do you wanna be friends?

[@twixie__5651]

I used to have a lot of friends but realized that they were not friends. They were envious and dramatic people. Some of them are users too. I got too exhausted from them. I’m in my 30s. I consider others as acquaintances. I only have my family, bf and dogs. I’m an introvert too. Not everyone is blessed to have good friends

[@emilyc4351]

Same only I'm in my 20s. Family, husband, cats. I tried to do the socializing and having friends thing as a teen but found I was way happier without them.

[@brandonsupreme8380]

@@emilyc4351 im an introvert to to me it sucks because people expect to be yourself and then i wonmder it is so stupid to even mentioned that it is no true if im extrovert that means im going against my personality and it is sickening that people accept extrovert more often than introvert we can be fun to hang out to but no extrovert always get the better end .

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

you're in your 30's and have an anime pfp?

[@Perry-o5i]

Dogs are worthless mutts who create unnecessary noise pollution and only care because you feed it food

[@AngieJones-u2g]

@@iiCounted-op5jx Your comment shows you lack maturity.

[@Rick-S-6063]

It's far better to be alone than have "friends" who might bring drama to your door. I admire the courage it took to tell your story.

[@ArnoldWatson]

I'm an introvert and I haven't any friends either. I grew up thinking something was wrong with me, too. But I only learned about introversion in the last decade and have embraced my solitude with great relief. You are an AMAZING young lady!

[@brisbreathing]

thank you for sharing and for your kind words. :)

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

you still have social interaction once in a while though right?

[@LIGHTSOBER-d6j]

@@iiCounted-op5jx im an introvert and i have social interaction every single day, being introvert doesnt always means that ur shy. it just a personality term, u rather grow up introvert or extrovert

[@Stan_or_stanley]

as 28 i can relate. ive had few friends back when i was in military but ive lost them and now i live alone having contact with no one and to be honest its much great than being with toxic people or being involved in drama every single time, so its not really as bad as i thought it would be.

[@Knowthyself-zf3fy]

Hang in there... I'm 34 years old. People have come and gone throughout my whole entire life.. whilst others lasted for many years. When I went no contact with my toxic family.. and they turned on me. So I've been socializing with others.. but for the past 2 years I have had no friends in real life. But I know that is going to change.. and I will have the right friends. May you be blessed in everything you do.. including finding a loving partner, if you want one.

[@hageopyang4489]

This video has been recommended to me when I'm in the exact phase of my life. I had friends..??! But being with them I couldn't be myself I mean I was afraid they wouldn't like me for who I was so i pretended to be someone else not the real me. I cried a lot, almost every night and sometimes tears would just come down when I was alone..in my deep thinking. I always wished for a not many friends but only one best friend.But now I'm at home it's been a month I've graduated from high school and I'm planning on changing everything, like new life new friends new everything. And i don't even want to have any connection with them therefore I'm not using any social media now not even whatsApp because I just don't wanna be in that environment again. YT is the only social platform that I spend my time on and enjoy. This video and all the comments down here have really got me to think that I'm not the only one without friends and it's really ok without having friends. I think it's healthy. And I find peace being on my own and talking to God especially when I'm on the roof of my house staring at the night sky. This is really beautiful. Indeed the best feeling in the entire world.

[@brisbreathing]

thank you for sharing and thank you for bringing these beautiful words ❤️

[@avaw9679]

love this!! words can’t explain how grateful I am to be seeing this video today. it was motivational and on point!

[@teenietins1558]

thanks for this video, and for saying there’s nothing wrong with being an introvert. it’s an important message - for the longest time i was convinced it was impossible to get a job as an introvert and that i would be a failure, but it’s not true at all. embracing being an introvert is the best! i do feel alone sometimes and that’s okay too, i think finding balance is the healthiest thing to do :)

[@mind-numbingtasks1575]

I loved the way you explained that young lady, that is exactly how I view the situation.

[@karladuncan4026]

I like being alone too and I'm 55. I really was never the type of person that has to be in a crowd. I like to think, have peace of mind, imagine, create, and it can be fun. My social life ended when I was in my thirties. God Bless everyone and everything!

[@rodfrancis9160]

I am at that stage since the last 5 years and its great not having to emotionally support anyone anymore and listen to them go on and on...The last woman I dated kept talking about her dead bf and got upset if her daughter didn't reply her texts immediately...So off putting...

[@karladuncan4026]

@@rodfrancis9160 Sometimes, friends can bring a person down. Not always though. Through my years of experience I find that friends who don't listen, or its all about them, no one deserves that baggage in their life. Good friends give moral support, and they listen. I have been in situations before where I've mentioned some things, and my friends were like "why didn't you tell me"? It seems like the only thing that matters is them. When I am a good friend to someone, they know it. Sometimes, people can suck the life outta ya if you let them! Emotional vampires.

[@karladuncan4026]

@@rodfrancis9160 That would be terrible! I don't really care for cell phone communication in a restaurant unless it's an emergency. Stuff like that can wait. You know? Many people are missing opportunities cause they could me married to their phones. Why not look a stranger in the face and just say hi? I live in Tennessee and my parents taught me southern manners years ago. Either that, or get my butt tore up. Lol!

[@rodfrancis9160]

@@karladuncan4026 So true,I was in the London underground tube network and every single passenger was looking into their cell phone, apart from myself and I was able to look at my surroundings and it was a lovely sunny day,quite rare for Englands climate .

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

how does it feel being old?

[@jaceallen4985]

I have 0 friends. I get really sad about it but I know I will be ok. It just sucks not having anyone to call or hang with. I wish I had at least someone to vent to in life but I don’t have that. On the plus side, I can relate to you a lot, I like being alone sometimes too and when I used to go out with my “group” I got really bored and tired and just wanted to go home and chill. But I still get upset about not having anyone anymore since I’m out of school and everyone moved on in life and now I’m just a single guy that works with nobody to talk to.

[@brisbreathing]

and hey, if you’re really down about it you can work to put yourself out there. it’s hard at first, but it’ll get easier with practice. either way you got this :)

[@jaceallen4985]

@@brisbreathing that’s a good point cuz I’m a huge introvert and I just feel awkward talking to people but at the same time I want someone to vent to and talk to and it’s really hard at first. And also thank you!!

[@adatbh]

@@jaceallen4985 absolutely relatable

[@dinedine8336]

I'm going through this too . Do you have instagram or hangout ;you can drop them and I will contact you so we can express our emotions and share moments together

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

brutal, how do you even cope?

[@bigbrother1986]

This helps me realise being a natural introvert is okay.. thankyou... I relate to being drained by people. My energy gets taken from humans.

[@GaijingamDangmei]

I have no friends too. It's terrible and feels so painful. But i have never given up. I thought something is wrong with me. I thought I am not sane however i am keeping on going on my life. I love being alone but i hate to know that i could be alone forever. I wish I could have a good friend.

[@eileenh8999]

Speak your truth, Bri!! 👏 You are not alone. Let's dismantle the stigma.

[@chriscorey1871]

Kudos for talking about this. I have had a lot of friends and recently celebrated a birthday and the only people there were my mom and dad. Life is not always what it seems to be.

[@megs0810-]

im going 19 this year i have no friends, i dont have anyone to talk to and the people i did just stopped talking to me, i do have social anxiety but i want to socialize because im lonely but going out with people makes me exhausted and irritated i dont like people but i want to like people

[@georgia6413]

Me too

[@veIvette]

Same

[@bessabessa3795]

ur like me damn...

[@megs0810-]

As a now 21 year old still with no friends, I just recommend being your own friend (sounds sad I know) but I've taken myself out on dates and adventures and it makes me feel a lot less lonely

[@strawberrypanic7609]

i’m actually convinced that i’m the loneliest person alive. i have literally nobody and i fucking mean it..i also have an inability to connect with people, i used to have one good friend in high school but i never felt like i could trust her on a personal level. 2 of my cousins were also kinda close to me but everything changed in 2019-2020, everything fell apart, i just want to have a genuine connection with someone :/

[@lovemakeup3520]

To me teachers and parents say to talk to others but it never works and everyone mock me

[@veIvette]

I could be your friend if you ever want to talk

[@JessicaGarcia-xf9wr]

Sorry to hear about that. But I understand where your coming from I have no one besides myself and it’s been like that since my teenage years. I tried to connect with people and make friendships but no one seems interested in making a connection. Its gotten to the point where I do everything alone and somehow it doesn’t bother me as much anymore. From time to time I realize I’m lonely but I tend to distract my mind from it with something else. I just have a set schedule I follow on a daily basis and it’s been that way for years I just know when someone does want to make my acquaintance and tries to make me attend a social gathering I just feel completely thrown off and feel weird. I guess I feel that way because I just have completely given up on making friends and I prefer on being alone since it’s always been that way. It wasn’t a choice of mine I picked but that’s the path I followed since then

[@Gavin-Xc]

You're not the only one I have Autism spectrum disorder at the start I was meant to be alone and have less friends

[@IntrovertedLoLo]

Same! 29F no friends. No boyfriend, no kids. Can be a bit lonely sometimes but luckily I have my sister and my introversion. I also have social anxiety. But, I do feel okay and “content” not having friends. Despite occasionally being lonely and thinking “oh I wish I had someone to go kayaking with”. I think the societal part is hard. Like when my boss asks me “hey, did you hang out with your friends this weekend?” It’s a triggering question. I feel a jolt since it’s so “expected.” All I can answer is “….no….I was busy working on my house anyway….”

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

would you say that your sister is the only reason you haven't gone insane from loneliness yet?

[@aarongarcia5667]

No friends either . It gets me down for periods of time but I come out of it feeling ok . I go lone but not lonely

[@tanja5335]

i always liked being alone but hate feeling lonely

[@keithrickson8522]

Great thing about of being alone is you can do virtually whatever you want and go anywhere you want. I need some social interaction, but I also NEED to be alone here and there.

[@brennanworthy6043]

Deep, long-term friendships are a very rare thing. Especially now with social media creating a separation. Even my closest friends have all eventually become more distant. That's just life. I think young people expect friendship to be a normal thing everyone has. Not true. It is rare. If I were young again, I would embrace the fact that I didn't have a lot of friends. Trust me, most people are not going to make good friends. Wait for the ones who are worth having as friends and be ready to be a good friend to them.

[@h1jadelaluna]

hey bri :) thank you so much for sharing these words. it's so soothing to hear you being so unapologetically honest and self-loving in spite these traits being stigmatized. it's so beautiful and helpul (:❤as a child, my mom made me think that being this way = i'm a very bad person, which made me hate myself really badly. i grew up with extreme attachment issues and self-hatred, which resulted in me feeling like i wasn't even there for the past 10 years, that i didn't deserve to be a person and that there was danger in all friendships. today, i'm 18, and it was extremely painful for me to realize that in the past 10 years i wasn't able to form any safe attachment, and that i'm still living by the extremely rigid mechanisms as a result of feeling unsafe. for me (as you mentioned it at some point), my loneliness stems from a disorder (borderline personality disorder) ; i have severe attachment issues and am doing everything i can and more to heal ❤which is very hard and painful. but i remind myself that whatever happens to any child is never their fault, and that i am fighting so so hard. thanks again bri for sharing

[@brisbreathing]

thank you so much for sharing. i am so very glad this reached you. your words inspire me + give me strength. keep being you. ❤️ :)

[@darkmojojojo]

I don't think it's healthy to have no friends but the definition of "friend" can be rather fluid. Some people think that friends are the people you hang out with regularly and you go shopping or clubs or whatever the kids are into these days. For an extroverted person, that's actually a reasonable definition. For an introvert the definition could just be somebody that you trust and you can tolerate sharing a space with even if just briefly. You should have at least someone you trust and can confide in outside of your immediate family.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

years of loneliness literally makes you go insane

[@Banzo_]

@@iiCounted-op5jx It ain't that bad if you're comfortable with yourself. There's a difference between being alone and feeling lonely.

[@JRPage07]

​@@brisbreathing In Brazil you would have many friends just because of your good physical appearance

[@yeayeayeah933]

And here we go. The one extrovert who goes "That's not healthy" whenever someone makes a video about living life on their own. Gotta be at least one of 'em.

[@Banzo_]

@@yeayeayeah933 Well every extrovert thinks that way. Extroverts think they know everything and they love that they "know" everything so they have to tell everyone everything they "know" because they love the sound of their own voice. So glad I don't have to feed off people's presence in order to survive like an extrovert.

[@cleancutguy1892]

When I was a teen, my peers were so flaky and shit, it was hard to make meaningful friends. What I did is to hang out to international kids, not only were I interested in learning their culture, food, customs etc. but I also made fantastic close friends and I hang out with.

[@lee-royanthony7161]

WOW! For someone who's 19 you are very matured. I needed this. Thank you. 😊😊😊

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

isn't it normal for 19 year olds to be mature? they are adults

[@FUBAR_MUAYTHAI]

During my teenage years I realized that most people are a waste of time and energy. You are better off being alone and protecting your peace until you find someone/someone's to share that peace with. Thanks for the video and God bless!

[@jacobsboringlife1334]

I had friends, i was social, i was never shy, i moved from my country to another country when i was 13, its been almost 6 years, im now almost 19, and i was not able to build a social life,not ONE friend, mainly bcz of language barrier that makes me feel embarrassed, i for some reason even ghosted my friends in my home country and I don’t think we are friends anymore lol, now I literally know NO ONE, LITERALLY, with covid 19 lockdown I developed social anxiety lmao now I can’t even make friends bcz i spent all my day at home, besides school home and the gym I don’t go anywhere, I don’t have experiences to talk about

[@jvicttr]

thanks for sharing this. i feel exactly the same.

[@zaruwi]

i feel you, im going trugh the same stuff rn, im 19 also

[@zachf1212]

Glad to finally come across an uplifting video on not having friends. Great to hear you’re living with a healthy mindset. I’m late on the draw but I just want to say I wish you the best and hoping your situation has only gotten better since making the video.

[@vegan.rex_8]

Can't believe I just discovered your channel. I've been through several phases when I yearned for friends, suffered depression because of it, and sometimes I just couldn't care less. Now, I do enjoy my company and prefer not to make any friends, but sometimes I do wish that I had someone in my life.

[@samsoliman1846]

the friendship is always as the seeds of love and mercy as you have a golden reate heart even you don't have friends yet that mean your heart still pure till meet the same heart that meet your purity too .

[@SunnyBeetle1922]

I don’t have many true friends. about 3 people plus my partner and mum. I believe in quality not quantity and I keep my circle small and supportive. You have a beautiful soul and deserve people who match it. I’m sensitive too and Many emphathic people are exhausted by other peoples vibes. Aloneness can be a huge gift and I do find other people very very draining. I love my alone time. Being happy is about being yourself….Enjoy💕💕💕Sending love🙏🏽💛💛💛🌈✨💫

[@iliketotrade]

3 is enough 🙃

[@SunnyBeetle1922]

@@iliketotrade ❤️❤️❤️

[@BeLLAoR]

Thank you so much for sharing your story and being so open about your experience. It's refreshing to hear someone normalize the idea of being introverted and happy without having friends, especially when society pushes us towards constant social interaction. Your words are comforting and validating for those who thrive in solitude and struggle with feeling different because of it. I'm glad you have found peace in who you are, and your message will definitely resonate with others who need to hear that it's okay to enjoy their own company. You are inspiring others to accept and embrace themselves as they are. I’ve subscribed to your channel, and I look forward to hearing more from you. Keep being you! ✨ 💓

[@blackhartz0]

same. sometimes interactions can be very exhausting, and i hate when that happens especially when i want to build friendships, i feel you.

[@michaelvaladez3012]

I'm glad you've realized what kind of a person you are and good with it.I can definitely relate to how you feel cause I'm the exact way.I'm 44 and never been big on having friends or anyone to talk to cause I myself enjoy being alone and doing whatever I want, how I want,and when I want.Thats the best thing about being alone is that you're in control of your life,living environment,and your money.Plus you got nobody to bother you or to argue with or share anything with and best of all nobody to spend your money on! A word of advice since you're still young and still have your whole life ahead of you,Stay how you are and find a good career to keep you busy and distracted from loneliness and depression cause believe me it can catch up to you as you age. And one more thing Don't Have Kids! It saves you alot of stress, problems,and money! Good Luck

[@Smilze]

I’m 20 and I have yet to find a friend. I’m in cosmetology school and had a mental breakdown from having social anxiety. I’m trying to embrace being alone and being okay with that. Hopefully therapy will get me the help I need be able to not stress over it.

[@B0BBYJ4CK]

Y'know, I used to think there was something wrong with me because I DIDN'T make the effort to hang out with people outside of work and school. I like people, I generally get along with everyone, and have no problem with making conversation, but...never, and I mean NEVER, made the effort to actually build a long-lasting friendship. I just never wanted to become disappointed if they let me down. True friends are hard to find and most people in your life are gonna come and go. I just saved everyone the trouble and never tried. Yes, I do have days where I become envious of the friend groups I see out in public, but as soon as I get home, those feelings go away. 💨 I thrive on being alone and having a better relationship with myself. I think having enough alone time is necessary for everyone.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

which is why I never go out in public, can't stand being mogged by the normies of my generation

[@Banzo_]

@@iiCounted-op5jx Oh wow you're so different and superior.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@Banzo_ did I ever say that? No, stop putting words into my mouth

[@Banzo_]

@@iiCounted-op5jx that is what you said

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@Banzo_ either way it was not my intention to try and come off as "different" I guess I must have worded my comment poorly, I was simply just trying to state that I hate going out and seeing the "normal" kids of my generation and their friend groups because they remind me of what I don't have, I hope that helps clear things up

[@Amelia-s8t1o]

As an ambivert myself, I secretly wished I was more introverted because being an extrovert also takes social and mental energy by taking care of your friends needs ..another reason because so I can focus on myself better and be more comfortable being alone without depending on anyone

[@reptilesgamers00]

If I saw you in person, I'd think your some popular girl that I wouldn't get along with but your super chill. You got nothing to worry about.

[@hittorikiri1199]

I'm too very introverted. I absolutely love my time i spend by myself. In my class, or any other places, i usually stay alone and do my thing, with peace, and i enjoy that..until some of my classmates and other people say that being introverted is just a "double-faced" thing, and that it's not even a thing, you shouldn't be quiet and act all introverted, and i don't even know that where did they get it from¿..and they'd just constantly force me to keep talking and interacting (though at the same time, won't even listen or care to what i say)..though still i try to maintain my peace even then, this had let me to think a lot that why am i like the way i am.. much later i realized it's totally normal to be that way

[@joeglidden4080]

I'm 25 and I'm in the same boat & it makes you feel so lonely❤️

[@Chee.Y4ng]

I have friends, but I have two other friends who I consider my brothers. You can have a big group of friends but you’ll always have either one or two of those people to be your best friends, the closest ones to you.

[@amandamichelle4830]

You are not alone, God preserves those who are precious to him. Most people don't deserve to have you in their life to be completely honest. You are loved and CHOSEN by GOD. Jeremiah 29.11/ Proverbs 3.5/ Psalm 23/ Isaiah 54.17/ Romans 8.28. 💫😘

[@JacksworldSC]

of course you got friends, it's us on KZbin! that right there is extreme negativity! you are great

[@greekysam1288]

Hey girl 👋 I want to say you're beautiful 💟 ... sometimes Just go with flow n enjoy the smallest things of your life you have a worl to explore ahead you universe doesn't revolves around school and college

[@fortuna7469]

Yes, you are perfect the way you are! 🤗 And I agree, it must be a little hard for an introvert to live in the US where extroverts get rewarded.. Where I live the majority of people are reserved introverts. This country is Finland in Europe, and everybody here finds it incredibly funny, that Finland been ranked as the world's happiest country by the UN for five consecutive years. However, you are still quite young and life is very long, and building friendships take quite some time.. there may come a time when you would like to share your personal life with a friend. It might be worthwhile to build one or two really good, loyal friendships, perhaps with another introvert. Just so that you will not end up in a depressing, lonely place when you get a bit older.

[@brisbreathing]

I really hope to visit Finland one day! Thanks for your words, I understand. I hope to find those meaningful connections. 😊

[@fortuna7469]

@@brisbreathing All the best to you! ❤

[@Aquarius78]

Introverts unite separately in your own homes.😆

[@Amelia-s8t1o]

Gurlll im jealous of you, its nice to feel comfortable being alone or lonely and dont the need to have friends Btw what’s your MBTI?

[@seangrogan3622]

I've got a friend, Joseph Flanagan. If he serves me up another seeweed sandwich, he wont be my friend much longer

[@Outlaw4640]

I know that feeling. I'm introverted asf. I depend on myself. Sometimes you just need to do you. If you are happy the way you are embrace it. I'm in the same boat. I wear it as a badge of honor. The funny thing about it. It gets people bent out of shape 😅. If it works for you. Be proud of it!!

[@brisbreathing]

Haha it really does! I was surprised at how many people were upset about it.

[@HomelessShoe]

As an introvert, I can relate to this very much. I only have a few friends and I honestly don't feel the need to expand that number as I also value Being-Alone-TIme a lot. And maintaining a big group of friends sounds too much of a hassle and tiresoe. Building friendship takes a lot of time and the quantity of friends you reap is very low, as it should be. There's no way you can have a deep bond with more than a handful of people. This whole (overly-)friendliness makes me cringe and it makes me feel быть’ не в своей тарелке (it roughly means you'll experience awkwardness/uneasiness or even distress) when I am in such environment, especially in combination with beating around the bush mentality (yeah I know, I can be a blunt lady, but at least I don´t fake it).

[@brisbreathing]

I relate a lot, it feels very disingenuous and not natural when people behave this way. I can appreciate someone who is more straightforward. Less niceties to me shows authenticity and comfort, and in turn I also feel like I can be myself.

[@banginzaza]

Many young people nowadays just like being akone. Some were ruin by the phones and others just had the same old bad experiences throughout their youth that made them that way.

[@marie27023]

Hi, I live on the other side of the world and I'm a girl the same age as you. Being considered pretty and not having social anxiety, I don't have any trouble with first impressions, but I feel bad in the long run when I don't have my solitude. I've had judgements from my teachers and some family members, saying that I must feel better than others if I isolate myself. Art is my passion and I'm always super busy. I ended up thinking that something must be wrong with me, especially as I became like this in my teens whereas before I was a very sociable child. Thank you for sharing your experience, I've never felt so understood about who I am. And stay yourself :)

[@samsamiii509]

Same and it’s worse when u have sisters that have lots of friends to go out with. Then they always ask me abt my friends too 💀

[@RealAttraxion]

While we don't need friends, we do need people in our lives for our brains to not make us feel depressed. Keep your mental health strong. Important tools to improve mental health and energy are Mirathia (ithought Mental Health Care), Light Language Activations healing, Reiki healing, and Quantum Manifestation.

[@thebookof5rings]

it sucks man. i have this void in my life like im just missing a part of myself, a hole a void this loneliness, this emptiness, im so introverted and people find me so dry and boring, but its only because i can’t get out there more and socialise. i’m the best person i can be. i’m honest, mature, helpful, hard working asf, my work ethic is insane and i prioritise family, good habits and productivity and kindness at 19 and have my values set. I learn and hone my skills and i live a high vibrational life. what i get? antagonised, made to feel like the problem? talked behind peoples backs negatively. i’m a confident individual and strong minded but im introverted, i like deep thoughts and i can’t small talk, at most i can banter but i prefer deep talks, intellectual discussions… please man, i just want more human connection, to see people more, to laugh with others more, ive been thru a lot in my life and overcome so much but im left alone and disrespected by many and most. hopefully someone understands and the “drawbacks” of being a genuinely genuine person. feel free to reply if you share a similar situation

[@brisbreathing]

It feels so lonely. I get how you feel about small talk. Society makes it the default approach but to me it feels fake, forced and generally uncomfortable. It’s like a barrier to connection, yet you have to surpass it in order to get there because that’s the norm. But when you can’t do it right, or it feels agonizing, then what?

[@yonathanseleshi]

Don’t feel alone Bri. It’s actually really common and it’s becoming more common in the digital age. As someone who has been studying this let me tell you there is nothing wrong with you. There are so many people like you. There are an overwhelming number of people in your age group looking for friends as well. When you decide you want to have friends you’ll find they’re everywhere.

[@tacobell1299]

Finally someone else who actually means it when they say they have no friends. Like I literally have zero friends. No one ever hits me up to hang out. No one ever really talks to me like at all.

[@JPaulPhD]

Nothing wrong with not having a friends. I am the same way and it can be rewarding either way. Love your vid.

[@ontariospeeddating]

You're not alone. I'm trying to unite real people located in Southern Ontario and I wished more people would stop making their phones as their prime social box. I wonder what people would do if the internet no longer existed.

[@brisbreathing]

We would act so lost

[@ImBackAgain-00]

Im in 20s and im going hell,, and im active person but sadly i find my self no friends no familly to trusted... I feel lonely... But inside me i love life and but people dont accept me the way iam they think iam terrible person but iam not... But the hard part when my family comparing me to other people then i started losing myself the real me... I dont know how to make myself happy anymore...

[@twinnema4033]

Im in the same boat as u, im also 19 with very little to no friends

[@Banzo_]

Introversion is a gift that extroverts wish they had just like introverts wish they had the gift to be outgoing. Just be glad you don't need to feed off other people to feel energized like an extrovert. Introverts energize themself! It is so cool considering you make yourself happy and energized. Introverts are warriors when it comes to survival! It's a gift

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

but the thing is I think most people who call themselves introverts are just failed extroverts

[@Banzo_]

​@@iiCounted-op5jx Nope! We're talking about Introversion and extroversion which are legitimate character traits on how an individual functions and processes. Introverts can act extroverted and extroverts can act introverted. What makes them an introvert or extrovert at heart though is how they recharge themselves. There are also ambiverts. There are also extroverts who cannot socialize for one reason or another and that doesn't make them an introvert- they are still an extrovert- but that is not the topic we are talking about.

[@dondurmacnamk9936]

Everything will be Okay,Love the glasses btw 😁

[@brisbreathing]

thank you :)

[@jamesmarlow333]

I've been exactly the same way all my life . Also called a latch key kid. Always played alone. Your sweet and absolutely gorgeous. No really i see what's on the inside too. Looks with the sound of your voice. I could listen to to endless all day and night. Wish i could get to know you more.

[@kylorenthehusky2584]

It’s strange. I love being alone so I can communicate with people online rather than in person. I enjoy being able to delete/backspace 😂

[@brisbreathing]

agree! it’s can be much harder to communicate on the spot/without adequate time to process before responding

[@lauracook8203]

I feel that a lot of the young people had their social life ruined by covid. I have a beautiful but socially awkward niece was just starting to find her groove. She joined the theater dept and finally met people she was comfortable with when she was a junior but then covid hit and she kept in contact by zoom and skype but that faded out. She's a phenomenal artist but during the tail end of covid she stayed in her room drawing eyeballs and then it was time to go to college. She's better now but her confidence was interrupted during important years. What a horrible time to be in lockdown at that age.

[@brisbreathing]

I agree, for me COVID was senior year into my freshman year of college. I essentially spent the year in my dorm, had only one in-person class each semester and barely saw anyone because of restrictions. Definitely not a good year to start college. I think it made it harder to get integrated overall. I’m glad to hear that she is doing better now.

[@earthly9442]

i’ve never had friends. I did have some in ms, but i don’t talk to most of them anymore or we just had drama or we just stopped talking for literally no reason and it kinda sucks. I’m a big introvert myself but even i sometimes wish i had a friend or a group of friends who i can talk and text on a daily basis. It does suck but at the end of the day, i’m honestly fine and use to it.

[@jeffw1267]

I was just talking about people at work who are outgoing and SEEM to have lots of friends. But they really don't. They don't help people or give them things unless there is something in it for them. I'm pretty solitary, but I help people when I can, and usually they are people I don't know or who can't help me. Also, I'm a genius, so my mind is always busy. I wear earplugs in public so I can concentrate better.

[@raihanaradhana2246]

introvert here, having friends is mentally draining for sure but with all its fun and giggles its honestly worth it. but i cant hangout everyday tho otherwise i'd die lol

[@خيناشعبدالمنعم]

My dear, unfortunately we are far away, and I would have been your friend and I would make up for you. You look nice. I wish the best for you.

[@jefferee2002]

I agree with you mostly, but there are times in life when having a friend can be great emotional support

[@DannyHaidar164]

Hey Bri, I totally relate to you. I've grown up most of my life being an introvert, having little to no friends & getting bullied at school. If you're around the east coast, I'm down to be friends. Message me if you're interested :)

[@hp2546]

At least you are honest. There are many who actually have experience hanging out and making friends but ended up neglecting them only to pretend to have solitude life. There are many who made friends but not proud of it. Some even managed to get out of a friendzone with their partner only to neglect their partner. Many post videos about themselves pretending to have solitude life when in reality, they have friends. So I will say your honesty in youtube counts because you aren't faking to have 0 friends. You really have 0 friends.

[@N4MI_TSUN4MI]

this is amazing gurl🌊

[@Joshy2-E]

Most people in life are not your friends. They might appear to be your friend, talk to you, hang out with you. What you don't often see is that they don't really value you for who you are. Pay more attention to when you have a real friend, they are normally there, you know, because they're in plain sight, you talk to them all the time, yet, they're not really on your mind. Be the friend you need for yourself and let yourself care for others, and let them care for you.

[@Rohitash_755]

Damn I sorry for this I mean it really sucks soo much to not have friends I am also like that I am extremely introverted and shy I can't talk with people or socialise I have had received suggestions from my parents to socialise but I just can't soo I can feel you keep you head up everything happens for a reason I do think that now I have anxiety in places which are social and around people soo I feel alone but it's all okay life gets better soon you accept that you are alone and everyone is at the end

[@jenniekone7464]

I am here. I am the same way the happiest feeling. Ur beautiful

[@johnphilipco3142]

I think I had same experience bouncing around schools, i failed to established any sort of relationships with other people. Maybe people who wants to be alone should look for people with the same personality and i think they woule really get along

[@brisbreathing]

For sure, it’s definitely a personality thing as well. It can be hard to find people who match your energy but it’s possible.

[@joeshi4202]

It's good to know there are people that relate to me, a single night out can drain the life out of me. I just love my alone time.

[@eduardo.m9290]

thank you, from another friendless human :)

[@brisbreathing]

keep your head up :)❤️

[@adatbh]

Absolutely relatable

[@anomite121]

i was very social but i dealt with an abusive environment throught my life, with my father being POS and my classmates being significantly richer than i was, i was excluded even though i was a nice person, rn i don't care about being alone i just go to the gym and enjoy the time i have left, just telling you because this is not something one person can experience it's a worldwide thing and there many people who go through adversity through out their life

[@MaryKDayPetrano]

Definitely, our society rewards people for having friends. The Florida Bar, that is an almost 100 % Neurotypical membership organization, has this rule that once you have been a lawyer for 5 years, you can apply to become Board Certified in a Specialty, and one of the things required to do this is to have a lot of friends (peer review). An Autistic person could pass the Board Specialization exam right at the beginning of applying for regular bar admission, so the 5 years is definitely not necessary. But an Autistic person could never get a Board Specialization because we don't have friends (no friends to do the peer review requirement). So, it's very Neurotypical designed and very discriminatory toward Autistic people. It definitely rewards people who have lots of friends.

[@dopecat15]

When my common-law wife left me, I was really down. After not speaking with him for a few years, I reached out to my childhood best friend (known him since 1997). I told him how messed up mentally I was, he heard me out and in a really calm voice he gave me his recommendation, _" to unalive myself. I had a good run and it's all downhill from here."_ I considered taking his advice but decided against it. We don't talk anymore. With friends like that, who needs enemies? I stick mostly to my own company these days. Feels like all of society has become introverted.

[@brisbreathing]

good god, i’m sorry that happened. you’re right. we have more ways to connect than ever before and yet are substantially more isolated

[@23293]

i have no firends by choice, most people are just in your life to use you one way or the other. i used to have many friends when i was in high school but i realised that with many friends you save no money and most likely to develop a bad habit like drinking,drugs and smoking.

[@tsabiitahmustahfizdah4398]

You know what, i’m extrovert but sometimes i feel like i have no friends

[@necrosoldierxiii]

I don’t have friends. I wouldn’t say that it makes me happy. However less stress and not having to guess who is really my friend is way better than playing games.

[@mittu123vik]

39 yrs old and no friends. I love being alone. I go watch movies alone, prefer gym when less people are there, I even go to restaurents alone. I also always thought something was wrong with me growing up. It's just that introverts are wired differently.

[@DoctorSpicy]

Anyone with the charisma to do a video like this ain’t gonna be short of friends. Remember, people that you’ll never see again love you and think of you.

[@synchronise_living111]

Thanks for this message ❤️

[@gusdogbrownlab435]

Work on yourself and build self confidence. Be prepared to do things outside your comfort zone. Don't take yourself too seriously. Be easy to talk to, be a good listener. Do hobbies in groups as it will build a common interest with you and others. Don't worry about being happy on your own. I've found the best friends are the ones you don't try to get, as they accept you as you. Oh and go and learn to play guitar! These things have worked for me.

[@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l]

Don't feel bad. Their are actual apps for social meet ups. That's the world we live in.

[@immadurojaiye6825]

I know I had to separate myself from my friends because I knew where things were headed wasn’t entirely good or productive l. I over time developed a feeling that I didn’t enjoy the activities we did but I just put it to the side because I wasn’t good at making friends. I cut em off and things have been both up and down, I have really tried to change behaviors and habits that would enduce a productive or more upbeat vibe and I was good for a while. But every now and then I have these deep bouts of sadness knowing there is literally no one to talk to. I also haven’t had a car for the past 5 months so I’ve been only able to commute to and from work which adds up to costing more than a monthly payment and insurance combined. So every paycheck I have to go back 1.5 spaces for every 3 moves. All to save up for a car. It is terrible at times and good at times . But the overwhelming nature of the cycle is a bit saddening. There isn’t a way for me to even try to make friends. No car, no socials really. Then also add doing online college as well to fit in the time to work full time to expedite the time to get a car.

[@brisbreathing]

Hang in there friend, I’m rooting for you. These times will pass. ❤️

[@zara3456-u2i]

Almost 19 and no friends :| but my time alone taught me a lot

[@Grant-H2O]

A lot of people don’t want to be friends. It’s strange when I offer my friendship and it gets declined by a person with no friends.

[@piggregious4986]

First of all, you are more mature than I was at nineteen. Secondly, as someone who commutes to an environment that's inherently social, life can be draining. Different energies, expectations, and responsibilities can take a toll on you. I am also an autistic introvert (or ambivert, I don't really get it). With sensory processing difficuties and a disorganized mind, keeping up with social demands can be infuriating. Starting last year, I made the goal to be "more social" with the hope that it would grant me better and more aligned adult connections. It took a full year of trial and error, but I ultimately came out successful. Now, her and I chat via Discord on a bi-weekly basis. I think that I want friends and a relationship. These are things that appeal to me. But if I end up not having them in the end, I wouldn't be against that. I'd probably be at an age range where I stop giving a damn, too.

[@brisbreathing]

Hey, I completely understand. I was actually diagnosed with autism just barely two years after this video. Everything in my life finally made so much sense to me. It came with a lot of processing and emotions. Today, I want to connect with people even though I find it so hard. I hope to find neurodivergent communities, because that is where I have felt the most like myself. It’s really hard but in very small ways I am making efforts and I suppose that’s what counts.