I'm 25 and I Have No Friends.

[@scott8193]

A black man expressing his feelings. Wow. Salute my brother. Transparency and honesty is a undervalued trait. You’re going places. Just keep ya head up gang ❤❤

[@gastarbeiter8384]

Why y’all always have to mention the skin color? Man y’all obsessed with that its unbelievable

[@D_A_Marv]

@@gastarbeiter8384let me just simplify it for you….black men, when they’re young, are told to not show their emotions, man up if they’re crying. Crying is for girls. So, when a BLACK MAN shows his emotions as an adult, it’s a good thing! He is not ashamed to be vulnerable

[@gastarbeiter8384]

@@D_A_Marv yea and that’s only a exclusive black man behavior right? 😂 wtf literally every man on this planet is growing up with the same stuff no matter what skin color you got. No matter where u go, europe, russia, china, australia every man is told to man up and dont cry. But you don’t get it because your stuck into your little racedefined world

[@Despond]

@@gastarbeiter8384 They have a valid reason, but you didn't think before you posted. In many black communities a male being this emotionally honest is seen as a weakness more so then many other demographics.

[@V1Salvo]

@@D_A_Marvthat’s very true. It’s all about culture. We all grow up in different cultures and it is a big factor in how you turn out as an adult. Although I do always believe in self-accountability.

[@Borzah]

I’m In the same position as you even with 1 million subs. No girls, no attention, no parents or family. Just grinding from the bottom and it hurts me inside everyday

[@Ashleyunfiltered]

I hope you either already know God or get to Know God

[@asdsdfadfsa]

Omg

[@lawrencethebig6768]

you just need to find something that drives you some sort of passion that keeps you going or at least thats what i do. stay positive brother that's all you have at the end of the day, your mind

[@MadLemon]

@@Ashleyunfiltered fuck god, he doesn't need any more imaginary friends, he needs real friends. real people, who don't know who he is and want to learn who he is.

[@HTxGhost24]

You're still breathing though 🤷💯

[@chaytonhurlow840]

I have no friends, no GF, no social media, no car, no residence, no doctor, no bank account, etc. I'm basically a ghost.

[@MatthewRoux-nw9ve]

You should have just said you’re free. Respect.

[@nassergabriel4778]

You are saved my brother, consider to go all into Orthodoxy and serve our Lord Jesus Christ in this life.

[@LuisFlores-mc2tc]

I basically one bad day away from that too

[@SanekaRice]

If you need work Baltimore Electric JATC is offering paid training for Electrical Engineer and Network Telecommunications Engineer @ 2699 W. Patapsco Avenue in Baltimore MD

[@Iknowyoumadnow]

Damn at least I have 5 out of 7 fk friends or a bish

[@Meocon09]

Im a 30 yo woman and I have no friends nor boyfriend. I had friends before, I thought we were very close but it turned out it was just me who thought so. I’ve dated before and got crushed too much too many times. Now I isolate myself from interacting with any human as much as possible. I know there are good people out there but im just not lucky to be friends with any of them

[@usus1811]

Wanna be friends? I'm from a whole another continent but still, I'd like to be someone's friend and why not you.

[@aliceandappetizers]

@@usus1811I’d be interested in being friends as well. I’ve never made friends on the internet but I’d like to start

[@jaffa3910]

I will be your friend,I live in N S W. 😃

[@JS-nh7vm]

The fact that this is a normal everyday guy venting and there is close to a million views.. speaks in volume about the loneliness epidemic.

[@harlan5339]

Big facts.

[@DeJay7]

It does NOT speak volumes about the loneliness epidemic. This fact only means a lot of people find it interesting enough to want to listen to it, no matter who is the guy speaking. I'm just pointing out that your statement is realistically invalid. Yes, this is an everyday guy (looks to be in a good state) venting and has a ton of views, rare but it does happen to people here and there. Yes, you can definitely argue there is a loneliness epidemic. But no, they are not related whatsoever. Maybe whatsoever is harsh, but there is no direct connection, they just both happen to be independently "true". Sorry.

[@Pres_NotSure]

@@DeJay7do you know how the algorithm works ?

[@KeandraWilson]

I love how raw and real this video is. The fact that so many people relate is just the cherry on top. I definitely relate.

[@PHlophe]

Keondra, hon.. it really sux tbh , life is unfair. i'm boutta cry

[@notinterested8452]

Of course all of you do it's so natural and important.

[@thanhNguyen-dl6xk]

I have no friend, anyone want to make friends

[@coreejacobs4780]

Do y’all have cousins, colleagues, neighbors, anyone? Gym buddies?

[@notinterested8452]

@@coreejacobs4780 none of them matter enough. Be sensitive and understanding because you're highly privileged by comparison. Walk on eggshells.

[@aerah76]

The fact that this video blew up so fast just proves how so many people can relate to you and that you're not alone. Love from an Indian brother!

[@jjoshvill]

💯

[@BasilNadeem]

For real

[@bolpyrl9464]

cap

[@tommybilinglys1661]

Honestly I feel him dude I'm 21 and feel 1000 percent the same way

[@Fraudkovic]

what does you being Indian have to do with the message?

[@Sal_needs_Salt]

Im 21, had maybe 4 "friends" in high school, and I use quotes because I never hung out with them outside of school. I have 4 contacts in my phone, just immediate family, I'm broken, and I've almost ended it a couple of times. I never thought it could get worse, but my god, it doesn't stop getting lower. Seeing these types of videos helps me to try and keep going.

[@kaitomcho911]

Hey Sal, I definitely understand how that feels. I moved states in middle school so going into high school I never felt comfortable because I thought everyone already had “their” friends. I eventually found an amazing group of like 8 kids. One girl ended her life our senior year of high school, 2 girls spiraled into a dark depression and have been in and out of treatments, and 3 others moved to separate states across the country. I only talk to the last 2 friends from that group and other than family they are the only 2 people in my phone. I’m only 20 so I can’t give much life advice but I understand how you feel to be broken. I’ve failed out of school, struggling to pay bills, find a better paying job, and can’t seem to hold on to any type of healthy relationship. Everyone I know sees me as the most bubbly person on the outside because I don’t want them to know how I really feel inside. I tell myself that tomorrow could be the day I get my big break and that it will be worth going through all the tragedy. All I can really say is plan ahead for you future but take life day by day, you will never see a rainbow until it storms and the harder it storms the prettier the rainbow will be. Please keep your head up and stay strong!!

[@semidecent6773]

Going off what the other person said, everyone has their days that can stretch on for weeks, months, etc. Really, the most important thing to do is to keep pushing with hopes for something better. You can't give up this early; you've just started. I'm only 19 myself and about to turn 20 in half a year. I've been a marine for longer than I've been a high schooler, so I've had shittier days/weeks/months than the majority of people will ever have. I try not to make friends, but somehow always attract them in the weirdest ways. 😅

[@semidecent6773]

And if you need someone to listen just say the word broski.

[@JS96919]

always be patient. healing takes years, decades, lifetimes. just give it a chance

[@myb5558]

How are you doing? God saves

[@Dhw997]

Im 28 and no friends. Im fine with it, people nowadays dont know what true friendship means or is unfortunately.

[@newend2116]

fuckit

[@whitebwoi]

no nigga they just dont like u

[@Czaint]

Including you.

[@DistantMist]

@@Comporio Straight facts. I cut off everyone besides 1 friend, I can definitely say I've never been happier. Although I do wish I had some friends to play games with once in a while.

[@guyearnshaw3380]

This isn’t true… humans are social animals, relationships are core to what we are. Believing this statement is not useful to you. Sticking with solitude is your own way of protecting yourself. Reach out to your childhood friends and cousins, share stories, be honest, and keep open minded to new people. Hope this helps

[@tothemax13]

I am not going to lie. I saw this video title, and I got so excited because not enough people talk about this!!! Too many people in this world genuinely don’t have friends don’t know where to find them. Don’t know what it means to be a friend and their whole sense of community is lost I admire you for speaking out.

[@barbaracunningham7115]

Well said!

[@nettiea9384]

Agree… as u age it gets worse. Buckle up😞

[@xtrwombat4876]

socializing sucks for 10000 reasons. I once heard that you need to talk to maybe 100-500 people before you finally meet at least one person who you actually get along with and I totally agree.

[@alpFiLa]

​@@nettiea9384most friendless people have a good heart

[@Moneymagi]

It's always lonely at the top. If your lonely you may as well manifest that top. Play the game given to us.

[@amber.jocelyn]

When I was 23 (I’m 33 now) I reconnected with an old friend by reaching out to congratulate her on graduating. We are now best friends and talk every day. Don’t be afraid to reach out to old friends especially if you have something in common with them.

[@minervaowl8298]

Yo wtf is the first comment. Also good for you girl.

[@luscious718]

This is what i tell my 25 year old daughter to do.

[@anonamous6320]

who said we all have old friends to reach out too?

[@Islammx]

But u just disappointed when u tryna contact them , they don't give af

[@aleksimyllymaki2617]

But be wary of contacting old friends, especially if you fell out with them for a reason. Nobody loves to see your downfall more than an ex friend who thinks they know everything about you, because you used to know each other

[@s.a.4076]

Friendships take effort to maintain over time. You have to make a point to deliberately nurture & support your relationships. Just hanging out for fun isn't enough -- you have to help each other out in hard times too, & be willing to learn & evolve from conflicts.

[@jayygotit_1]

Nah can’t help people who don’t wanna help themselves

[@bria4776]

maybe this is why i don’t have friends… having a friend isn’t hard but maintaining it is. I don’t like texting everyday , i just feel exhausted and drained how do have so many friends

[@Truth_teller724]

@@bria4776personally speaking, I think the best thing is to set boundaries and understand that not everyone is going to be able to text everyday, and this is something that my friends and I both understand. We all have our own lives but whenever we come tgt and connect, it’s always meaningful and fun.

[@je.suis.prisci]

Thank you for sharing this. I am a 30 year old woman, my friendships have dwindled down and I no longer care. I have been protecting my energy because a lot of people are not rooting for you. I want to be focused on the goals I've set for myself and that requires working in silence. You will find people who match your energy and are on the journey you're on. It requires being patient, selective, and the relationship needs to be consistent. I am no longer running after people for attention, acceptance, or to be loved. I've done that majority of my adolescent years. I've always cared about what people thought of me. Use this time to find a small community of people to have some social life. It can be as simple as joining an adult sports league, outdoor activity, artistic circle, then come home and focus on yourself.

[@mahoganysoul7195]

💯💯💯

[@thebibleisrightperiod]

I agree 100%

[@dawncousins8497]

Amen 🙏🏾🎉❤

[@marylenehall405]

Same

[@wackybrattyx]

This is a very negative and false message. A lot of people can root and care for you, and you just have to find them. I wouldn’t encourage people to isolate themselves or not pursue friendships as a result of past friendship trauma…

[@pnwyoshi]

Having a relationship with yourself is one of most important things

[@vanessay4]

Yes definitely but then we need people, we are humans. When people are isolated it had detrimental effects long term . I blame the society we are continuing to build, less community more isolation and individualism

[@Aworology333]

I personally think this is all by design. The last thing they want or need is a people united standing in their way.

[@anna-lu7878]

❤💯

[@KT-pw1cq]

@@vanessay4agree

[@Shaolin91z]

Peace in Christ surpasses all understanding 🤟

[@whopperlover1772]

You’re speaking for a lot of us man. There’s a reason this video blew up.

[@RickyVsWorld]

Stg

[@thatjessi]

"Men"

[@whopperlover1772]

@@thatjessi No, I meant “man” lol. I wasn’t saying “you’re speaking for a lot of us men”, I was saying “hey MAN, you’re speaking for a lot of us”. I see why you’re confused lol.

[@thatjessi]

😝yeah

[@kimg8456]

I'm 32 with no friends, a single mom no social media it gets lonely but honesty it's been the most peaceful ❤

[@pourladentelle]

❤ don’t isolate yourself too much. U can have social media w/out needing close friends. Just go on there to watch videos etc. 🙂

[@Tico513]

Yes, your free. You get it

[@Inthenameofbrown]

Kim, I can mostly relate I am 37 with no friends 90% my choice for real. I do have IG but I only follow Carhartt and Cabela’s. With all respect, where are you from?

[@Monkeyjelly]

Same with me!!!!! I really feel better tbh

[@Borzah]

everyone is selling you dreams and false hopes. our geneation is cold and only seek clout or money. our attention span is worse than a fricken fish bruh. I'm sorry you're going through this. i don't know how you or I are going to get out of this situation.. we are in this together. You're not the only one. I'm also lonely and have no friends and seeing lots of fake demons around. i'm here for you

[@appleloverjack7729]

I hope you will find a true friend

[@LilXancheX]

Bro your face looks like a meme

[@lyonsheartmusic]

Bro you need to relay this information on your channel, instead of acting like everything is ok

[@whatupcuz3688]

what about your friend LeBron James??

[@QuagmiresDungeon]

Subscriber bot. 2 million subs and an average 10k per video lol

[@ian6695]

Keep your head up bro. As a 40 year old man with 10 years of his life incarcerated until 2022 I too have no friends. Everyone I knew were dealers, thieves, and armed robbers. I cut them all out of my life to better myself. You’re going to be fine. Chin up, If they aren’t about who you are as a person. F em.

[@sandmanlopez9920]

Thanks bae 😥💅

[@JohnnyJohnJon83]

Bro I feel your pain.40 here too and no real friends . I’ve learnt to live with it and rely on myself only .

[@omars1369]

Im on the younger side , 19 and what you said is some real. I had a small circle of friends that I knew since elementary. We grew up in poverty and yet even though they make bad decisions i sticked with them. Now at 19 that same group are addicted to fentanyl and are locked up. Glad I left them when we were 16 I probably would of been homeless if I didn’t man up.

[@Dizzy2Wizzy]

This is real shit .. u just have to push a new road for yourself and then new circles will levitate around u

[@user-qy6tu9ip9v]

Hey brother. I was falsely accused of assault and there is a chance I might have to spend 11 years in prison. I might have to cut off everyone I know including my family if I receive jail time. Any advice on what jail is like?

[@redrumnoir7552]

As a 29 year old, same. My “friends” started falling away from me around 23-25, and since then I haven’t made any new ones, and barely revisit the ones I had in the past. I think it’s normal for me, but hearing other people dealing with this too makes me feel less alone in dealing with it. Thank you for sharing.

[@Owatupcuz]

Friends overrated some of em be in competition with you for no reason it’s wasteful energy

[@andyng5321]

why friends fall away from you when you were around 23 to 25?

[@redrumnoir7552]

@@andyng5321 I got married/was married at those ages

[@AbbygaileHearne]

@@Owatupcuz!! Wasteful

[@ivanrioscervino4369]

As a 51 yr. old dad with 2 teen kids I really appreciate you sharing your thoughts and feelings. My kids struggle with loneliness. However, looking at you and your strength I am sure they will find their way. As will you. All the best to you!

[@SwayDGAF]

All you can do is just be you. Better to not have fake people around u. Stay focused on your goals

[@demontiming3234]

That mindset is why he will maintain no friends

[@lamarkP22]

changing yourself to fit in where you don’t is one of the lamest things possible

[@demontiming3234]

@@lamarkP22 only if you aren’t the problem. If you are the problem then you will have to change.

[@jewel_throne2950]

@@demontiming3234the normal average person isn’t problematic. Your assertion makes no sense at all.

[@Gnomelander1400]

@@jewel_throne2950lol he’s the problem getting upset over a word then complaining he got no friends

[@JudaCash]

I feel like our generation is dealing with this the hardest. I'm seeing so many people my age struggling with a lack of relationships. I'm turning 22 in a couple weeks and I relate a lot to everything you're saying

[@Koreryn]

Older generation of men have the same issue.

[@thefirsttrillionaire2925]

man im 22 now and feel you

[@JudaCash]

@@Koreryn No doubt but we struggle more cause of the internet and how it makes us so much more detached from reality

[@Koreryn]

@@JudaCash You think we don't use the internet and aren't detached from reality? I use it 18+ hours a day as well.

[@JudaCash]

​@@KorerynI hear you but we're talking about how this stuff effects our growing stages. We were raised on the internet and many of us are missing out on our youth because of it

[@ShonnysLab1995]

I’m 27, I have nothing, no friends or family. Thanks for sharing bro, stay strong ✊🏾

[@samanthasmith4038]

I’m here for you

[@mgene8093]

Same no friends or fam . Holidays have just been a regular day for years

[@shoppingassistants7442]

@@mgene8093 🫂

[@apacius69]

I can be your friend if you want 😊

[@aishaaa-17]

You are strong

[@kaykaynini99]

23 and never related more to a video or someone in my life. i just watched your other vids and had to come back to this one and really just say how much i appreciate your mindset. it’s truly amazing to be able to connect to someone like that fr

[@shalimarie9016]

As life goes on you learn that jobs will come and go ,people or “friends” will come and go, seasons ,situations will come and go .You have to learn to be content with yourself ,and don’t rush anything in life or compare yourself to other people’s path.Everybody is living a different life .

[@ryans3729]

I've heard that so many times, but I often forget and I find my negative thoughts keeping my self-esteem low.

[@King-se6lx]

Fr thats true shit you got maybe 1 or 2homies for life that youre close with and others that you dont see long but youre still good amd got youre back 💯

[@reneerenee5073]

I’ll be 40 in February. It gets easier, y’all. The biggest lesson I can pass along is be a friend to YOURSELF. Don’t sleep on that!

[@Micahsophia]

I totally agree

[@frandere2982]

the only person that will always be with you is yourself. So loving who you are makes living with only yourself happier.

[@RestingonHope]

Man whats happening to people today. Can we not develop some thick skin and learn to love others. If you want friends then show yourself friendly. If you want friends then initiate. Get your eyes off of yourself a little and learn to appreciate those around you. Theres nothing good in simply loving yourself as most people do that anyway. Loving others is hard work but rewarding because we are all creatures that need others whether we want to admit that or not.

[@Qrr0wned]

@@RestingonHopeyou can't love others if you can't love yourself, you always come first.

[@RestingonHope]

@@Qrr0wned yes you can. Depends who you're loving. If your focus is Jesus and you know that love of Jesus who gave his all, his very life for you, you will find it easier to love others and yourself. Why? Jesus death demonstrates the enormous value God has placed on human life. His forgiveness of sin demonstrates his willingness to forgive you and me and therefore we can and should be in good relations with others. In the book of proverbs (somewhere) it says, "he who wants friends must first show himself friendly"

[@dijonmustard2831]

Man I can here this dude at the verge of tears after like every sentence, this making me really sad. I hope this guy can find some people or just a person who he can really just be around and be comfortable.

[@Clearbluesky771]

He just need to accept what is, don't be upset or sad about it, learn to be at peace with it, you are enough. We can want a friend si bad not knowing that person can be our worst nightmare

[@amshooketh]

⁠​⁠@@Clearbluesky771I think it’s common for us humans to wanting to make connections and to feel a belonging. By nature humans are social creatures. I certainly think yes it’s okay to be alone and necessary for growing up to learn about yourself but being alone for too long can affect somebody’s well-being

[@markuchiha7737]

It sucks 😞😞😢😢😢😢 I hate this world but we don't have a choice.

[@markuchiha7737]

We all have now all things to connect but we still feel isolated and alone. People have changed a lot makes us feel more desolated

[@gojogeto2840]

Well some people need a stable connection/friendship(s) more than others. Some people's mental health and just general well being can depend on whether they have that feeling of community and like they belong, it's natural. @@Clearbluesky771

[@sharnicethompson]

I’m glad that I listened to this video, this reminds me so much of the difficulties that I faced in my mid 20’s. I grew apart and lost contact from a lot of my friends, and I also had to distance myself from toxic people. You are growing as a person and the best people are yet to enter your life and you will find friendships with those who you least expect 😊

[@heyywrong1989]

It’s crazy how we think we are the only ones, until we actually say something. Best to you and your well being broski😌

[@shana_mcd]

I’m in my 30’s. The older you get the more friends you lose and the harder it is to make friends

[@sterlingkayon84]

facts, of life...just gotta find your few and cherish and nurture it.

[@lonniephillips8517]

That is damn sure the truth . It seems especially so if you’ve moved for work like myself and know zero people in the area you’re in . I just have taken it like you said the older you get the more normal that tends to be .

[@shana_mcd]

@@lonniephillips8517 it’s so unfortunate. With all this social media, it’s hard for us to meet ppl in real life

[@TONYOnehundred]

Its not harder tbh people just have less energy over time

[@Tico513]

You shouldn't be focused on being popular, this isn't high-school. Your free

[@nollafd]

Bro I am 23 and I feel that way too. Especially after high school I felt like a lot of friendships fell off and I had nobody. I deleted all my social media 2-3 years ago aside from linkedin and youtube to cleanse my mentality and focus on the important things in life. That really showed me who cared or didn't because plenty of people had my number or used to claim we were really good friends but nobody really hmu unless I texted first which is a crappy feeling.

[@ShiftTheGears]

Damn same experience here 😢

[@silentx9709]

This is true!! Every single one guy or girl only responds to my texts but never start the text first it’s sad to see which is why I stopped texting and I’m 23 just like you. I have a career etc

[@cutieOX]

ya a girl I wentt to school with when I was pregnant w my first baby and came and saw my baby works in the building next to me and we park next to eaxchother and she and I both know.. I messages her twice..she only responded once.. literally was in my car after work the other day saw her walk out we locked eyes.. she acted like she dint know me.. I waved anyway.. still acted like she didnt see me...

[@nollafd]

@@ShiftTheGears I’m sorry :( yeah life’s very interesting with the way stuff plays out. Stay up 🙏🏼

[@nollafd]

@@silentx9709 awe yeah I felt that! Having a career is a huge time commitment as well. I hope you find some quality co worker friends.

[@KatherineSchertz]

I am 43 with no friends. It sounds like you have focused on achieving and have lost friends along the way. Just know once you get into the fields you studied in you will make new friends and try reaching out to old friends if you feel the need to. Life is ever changing and has a way of making your friends grow with you,

[@mffchris]

i’m 20, almost 21. i graduated HS in 2020 when we didn’t get a graduation, prom, or grandnite. The majority friends i had are doing their thing. I basically have no fiends, nobody texts me first, and spend many weekends alone. I find it tuff to deal with because i’m socially awkward and i always wished i could easily connect with people, but i struggle greatly. So making friends, too, is always tuff. I am starting to grow a drinking problem cuz every weekend i cope with my loneliness by drinking and watching movies. Hopefully we all gain the strength to accept loneliness and make it beneficial. I haven’t found my strength but i’m hopeful. Prayers up brother🙏🏼

[@awak4nedchulo882]

It’ll be better days bro trust don’t destroy yourself off of substances for a quick and temporary way to try and ease the struggle keep pushing all love🖤

[@donashia6091]

I pray for you because I honestly understand

[@missbloom7939]

I feel you...the same situation with me

[@ridofchris]

Same, I relate a lot to this and I also just turned 21 (tho my drug of choice is weed). Just hang it there, it will get better, more people are lonely than we think. For what it’s worth, you’re not alone in your loneliness.

[@waluigibigwap]

same situation, I hope we find friends soon. covid really changed a lot

[@KrustyKrabPizza22]

You seem like the type of channel that would blow up because of how relatable you are. Keep going man.

[@rockstarr_rambo]

is my music okay , lmk sum

[@superfupahecc]

like sneako before the craziness

[@fortnitemanwoo5264]

@@rockstarr_rambo its shit

[@UserName23567]

​@@superfupahecc😂

[@whitebwoi]

@@superfupahecc sneako was dope back in the day and he's still dope now, you just riding the hate trend

[@Borg2590]

I'm 30 and I don't have any friends. Highschool was horrible for me and it really affected my ability to be social, even a decade later. And now trying to find a partner is hard because many people don't understand and think you must be a weirdo because you have no friends. Reading the comments made me feel like I'm not alone. Thank you for this video!

[@brock1594]

I’m in the same situation mate. Live another day. I see you.

[@Borg2590]

@@eleonanyc784 wow I'm so sorry you went through that traumatic highschool experience. You know, it really does make perfect sense that our childhood experiences affect us so much into adulthood because our brains are still forming and our bodies are still growing so trauma is literally engrained into our heads and has a continuous effect on us. It's horrific how cruel people can be, especially teens. I hope we can all find the happiness we deserve, at the very least some comfort so we can get through life a little easier. I wish you the best my friend, keep utilizing therapy if that's what works for you❤️

[@coreytreverson740]

I had a lot of friends in high school but had some rumors go around about me that ruined everything. Ever since then I feel like I cant be myself socially and now I can’t make friends while im slowly losing the ones I had which is somewhat typical. I broke up with my gf of three years so now im really feeling it and i cant seem to find new people to make my life full again

[@claireredfield7368]

Same Situation, 33. Too much Work, too many Hobbies, too little Time.

[@Tico513]

That's an assumption on your part, no one actually told you, you were weird, you feel that way. Change the way you look at things

[@Heyitskhayp]

I am 21 and currently feel like this. I’m so relieved to see this being spoken on. Thanks for your transparency and letting it be a safe space for everyone. I hope it won’t be like this forever, I’m healing from my friendship PTSD. From having girls steal my clothes, talking to guys I was dating or just in all not being a genuine friend… it’s hard out here. I have been falling more in love with my alone time though and being more appreciative of it. My advice would be to continue to do things that make you happy try new hobbies, movie nights, find scenic parks, travel & explore your city, self care etc..

[@alexandraclarke431]

I’m 28 and I feel like I have people I associate with but not like people I can call on just to talk. So I definitely understand. I’m also an introvert but can be extroverted around the right people.

[@1Dub79]

With that last sentence, that sounds like a Virgo trait.

[@alexandraclarke431]

@@1Dub79 lol definitely not a Virgo, but I’ll take it as a compliment

[@r.wilson2348]

Omg I’m the same fucking way. But I don’t have any associates. Ima Aries and it def takes the right people to get me out my shell.

[@shaniskin_ke]

😊

[@JazzGaming26]

Same here. I have co-workers that I'm friendly with but I don't really hang out with anyone.

[@queentinadoire6931]

Don't feel bad. I'm in my mid forties and I also have no friends. Folks nowadays are draining. I just need my peace and quiet.

[@spitonlyfacts2638]

Agree

[@marleyisms]

Hi Zo, I'm 51 and losing friends is a normal occurrence. I've been betrayed early in my life by friends, so I started keeping folks at a distance. I have levels to people. There are acquaintances but few friends. Having friendships takes work. Sometimes one person gives more to the friendship than the other, but true friendships never die no matter how long your don't talk or distance. Having one quality friend is better than having 20 useless, selfish, narcissistic acquaintances. Be a good person always. You'll attract what you are inside eventually, but you'll definitely kiss a bunch of frogs along the way. Bless you for sharing your story. I don't believe we put here to be alone. Finding good people to do life with is hard, but don't give up.

[@ArtofTonyPommells]

Appreciate you for sharing, this is solid advice!

[@mezsage]

aw thank you

[@drizzykicks2970]

Good advice.

[@drizzykicks2970]

My advice is, work hard, and do great things, and become friends with others who are also grinding, it happens when you are grinding, for example, When I started leveling up in my gym and training, i started gaining more friends, (not alot ) but a good few quality, 1 by one over time, because I guess when you are healthy you attract other hustlers to be friends. the same thing with other areas in life. Family relationships signinficantly improve when you take care of your addictions and just live the life you are suppose to live, even if it's hard.

[@comeplague]

couldnt agree more!

[@kryssalou]

i’m glad you’re speaking on this. i’m new here, but i’m 34 and have no friends, no real relationships that are mutually respectful or supportive, no connections… for a lot of reasons. most of the real homies passed away, friends who didn’t deserve the title, friendships that fade over time. it’s pretty hard to face not having anyone left in you’re corner, especially in a time in life where it’s hard to form friendships- with other impacting factors (like i’m autistic, and won’t mask to hang out with someone). but im glad more younger people are being open about it, i can’t imagine going through my 20s without people to share experiences with, places to go form memories, realize what makes a true friend too. the world has changed and the impact on human connection is a problem if you ask me… we all need someone, we’re social creatures at our core.

[@ZackWilliams_TheProducer]

I'm 30 and I have no friends. As I've grown and matured my standards for who I want in my life have tightened to the point where nobody's left. I don't tolerate phony people any longer. I would encourage anybody to break off their half ass friends. If any of your "friends" talk to you, and treat you in a way you wouldn't treat them. They're not your friend. Some of us are too compassionate and need to realize that compassion is wasted on some people. Took me a long time to realize that. Because there isn't a strong character and integrity behind it, all the fake love they claim to have for you doesn't mean shit.

[@hellyesgood]

I can really relate. I will be 25 in december and as most people in the comments here i also dont have friends nor a gf and it doesnt bother me. I ended my friendship with last group of people i knew 2 weeks ago it was a guy i met in school when i moved to a new country 6 or 7 years ago and when i moved back to this country in January he introduced me to his gf and one more girl from their school and 2 weeks ago we all were about to move to a new apartment they found. Me and that dude were talking about start making music together because sometimes i make EDM music as a hobby and im still learning always searching for videos about music but idk what snapped in me and one day i texted that i will not be moving in with them and i kinda dont want to be associated with them anymore and mainly its because they dont do anything they just pretty much go to university and smoke weed all day and he never tried to even make music all he does is just saying if we need to make music get rich but never does anything. So i can really relate when i started to mature and have standarts the circle became very very small.

[@EDTHEWEATHERMAN]

Friends and family I can loose them all and not feel anything except for my mom Now a dog you can never replace a dog Dos is better than any family or friend

[@user-ld6do7td2l]

i love you

[@YoungTCash]

Best advice I can give is enjoy that time, and don’t have a kid with a girl you don’t want to be with. I’m miserable over here dealing with this bs

[@Nottinghamfinest]

I love this

[@thatboy3930]

I’m 26, being totally alone is starting to feel like the new normal. I have been disrespected by family, friends, girlfriends multiple times and I’m realizing that my life is less stressful alone. Would I like to have a family, friends, and a girlfriend I could thoroughly enjoy being around? Of course.. but I haven’t had that once in my life and I don’t know if I will ever have all 3, or even 2 of those things.

[@starstump]

You aren't alone because God is Alive and Truly with you. Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊

[@zachsav3235]

Hope you attain all of those things my friend, hang in there

[@Rebs114]

@@starstumpAmen🙏🏽❤️

[@ricco3480]

bro that resonated with me. I'm 28

[@miaribishop3545]

Yes me too it’s just the disrespect I can’t take ! I’m way happier alone . Of course no one wants it this way but people come with so much now in days it’s like you have to pick your poison

[@sphinxkitty4951]

I relate to this so much. I’m 28 turning 29 in January and I have no friends. Once I stopped partying and going out as much everything died down. Focusing on yourself and self care is truly a lonely journey. Thank you for expressing your feelings ❤

[@marchesherlock4170]

I felt this, Especially now that im following God and not world;y things. My friend group is barely none.

[@mslondonlove1435]

The self care journey really is lonely sis but we have done the right thing for ourselves, I hope you’re well 💖

[@sphinxkitty4951]

@@mslondonlove1435 thank you love I appreciate that and yes I’m doing good ❤️

[@HumbleBurger-b2x]

Bs, youre normalising the human engineering that the powerful are trying to create, you know theres something wrong, when you feel lonely its an indicator and reflection of how society is being shaped

[@LoFoSho]

Same!! 28 to 29 I met a couple people that changed my life and made me realize that I didn’t have friends, I just had opportunist and bad influences in my life. Now I have been alone for 2 years and it has been so amazing and yet so lonely. I really wish I had done this when I was younger, but better late than never I guess. I will never forget those people that genually cared for me and not what I had to offer them.

[@tammiajayi1498]

Friends don't even matter. I only feel good now in my 30s. People are selfish and don't realise your value. Their loss. Don't change who you are for losers.

[@MikeKnowsBall98]

I'm also 25 and have no friends so I can relate. I have not had a single friend since I was in High School, and since it's been so long since I have had a friend, I have completely lost the ability to socialize properly which has been preventing me from making new friends. It sucks sometimes because you feel like you don't even exist.

[@Qokdnzjuql7163]

This I relate whole heartedly

[@wayy2much311]

You dont make friends, you connect with people. Dont put so much pressure on yourself to be noticed by other people. An attitude like that stinks. Get passionate about something

[@theONE-ws8lh]

@@wayy2much311great advice bro

[@kooganh6276]

@@wayy2much311spot on bro. Tbh at one point I made multiple female friends when my guys went off to college and some of us stayed in NYC for school. I will say having a strong male group is very Important but also don’t put too much into it bro…sometimes extra people are a beadache

[@zzirfamo24]

Nobody at your work you like?? Shit they don’t even have to be physical. I have tons of friends on PlayStation that I don’t even know in real life, but we know each other as if we did!!

[@ThrowAway-v9d]

Crazy to see the reaction to this. I think you've tapped into a sentiment and situation that's common in this generation and time period and its worthy of discussion. Very honest piece of self reflection expressed articulately. Thank you

[@syritasdoneitgoodytwoshoes2471]

not just your generation ffs - although you are all seemingly Self-Entitled

[@alexmartens]

Bud you gotta be the most patient person I've heard speak on their experience with hearing that word. It shows me how much you may have wanted that friendship to work out, but you ultimately made the best decision for yourself because they clearly weren't respecting your feelings, and didn't treat you like a person equal to themselves. One of my pet peeves is when a person is hurting, they convert that hurt into pain they inflict on other people. You seem to have the opposite thing going on, where you may be hurting but you still give people grace. That is a massive burden to bear but you got your head on straight man, this is the way to be. Patience will pay off for you in the end. I thought I had burned all my bridges at 23 and moved away from home, friendless and burying myself in my new career. I was poison to my friends, and I was reminded I was in the wrong by the burning in my chest everytime I thought about them. It all comes around man, I promise you. At 25/26 I entered a new job in a new city and met the most beautiful group of like-minded friends I still hold onto to this day, even though we live far apart now. If you keep searching, you WILL find your clique I promise you.

[@bzoklyentel]

📈📈

[@dastargirl]

I relate to this so heavily. I’m 19 nearly 20 and I feel so alone. I’m adjusting to it but my mental health has been in the gutter since I started uni in sep, it makes me question my worth. I love your vulnerability and bravery to make the video so others can hear ur story and apply their opinions too. I wish us all well💕

[@ednaidatipote5602]

I feel the same at 30 sometimes. My brother is 21 and dealing with the same. You are not alone. Thanks for sharing, you have a lot of courage and transparency

[@MissRedWine]

Girl same and it feels nice to know as a black woman that other black people are going through the same thing as me. Being alone isn't the issue. It's loneliness that's the issue. Anyone can feel at peace being alone. 24 here and seeing other melaninated folks talk about these things means a lot to me.

[@arielwest7249]

❤your very gorgeous

[@thebibleisrightperiod]

I'm 33. I have "friends", but I don't fit-in with them anymore. The things we used to bond over do not excite me anymore. I'm more focused on my walk with God while my friends love worldly things. I'm learning to accept it. I do have family. I have a husband. I have children. I have loving parents. I have a brother. I also have coworkers that I hang with from time to time. I become depressed sometimes because I'm not as close as I used to be with my childhood friends, but I just have to let go and let God. 🙏🏽

[@victoryhouse1446]

I wonder if we have the wrong expectations for what it means to have friends in adulthood. I am in a similar situation as you, except I do not work right now and so I don't have coworkers to hang out with. I am 36 and I am learning that I still have enjoyment of life with my hubby and family even though I no longer have the close bond that you find with childhood friends. Maybe this is just the nature of growing up and maybe if I change my expectations, I can get even more enjoyment out of a life of loneliness @@thebibleisrightperiod

[@augustvirgo6773]

I do not have Friends either you're not alone. I see a lot of people online saying the same. I am wondering if you're an introvert like myself.

[@jaynotonyoutube1808]

Tbh i think as long as you have hobbies especially if they get you outside and you have self confidence being a loner feels like the most freeing thing ever. You can go into almost any social setting and just feel comfortable being yourself and people actually gravitate towards that confidence and sense of calmness.

[@ApexGaming100]

I got hobbies but i dont got the self confidence 😢

[@SharedLovee]

@@ApexGaming100 REAL

[@oshurus9137]

@@darker2920 theres a lot of hobbies that are solitary

[@oshurus9137]

@@user-wr1jj6xx7w you can be social with yourself, if you cant entertain yourself then you're pretty boring tbh

[@alltales]

​@@oshurus9137You can only be social with yourself for so long man, but when you actually believe you are alone completely, it messes you up seriously

[@TrashScientist]

“Family bonds is something we all need but we all don’t have.” Felt that shit on a spiritual level my brother.

[@gamercreature2587]

Yes exactly I am grateful that I have good parents to talk to and hang out with but not everyone has that but family does not have to be blood related family are people who would be there for you when nobody is there.

[@AnonymousA708]

Life seems harder when your not close with your parents, wish I had that option but at the same time makes me feel like a lone wolf

[@SunnyExMusic]

I wish dude. I don’t have a bad relationship with my parents, I just have a bad relationship with myself

[@ayoolukoga9829]

Come unto me, all ye that Labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30

[@chaos-tech67.1]

​@@ayoolukoga9829Please delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..

[@soni_nyc2829]

Hi I'm 50 and i don't have friends. I have a couple acquaintances and people i chat with at work but not people i share my deep thoughts with. I was never the type of person to have a lot of friends but life and negative experiences made me a much more reserved and private person. It's hard to find people that are really interested in who you are as a person and what that means. Most people nowadays are fake and do things to get something and im not down with that. I've grown very comfortable with the fact that i spend so much time alone and honestly have come to prefer it that way. People are complicated and i prefer simple and drama free. Thanks for posting this video.

[@gilleschen7373]

Hey man, I want to let you know that things are going to workout. Keep working on yourself, live a good life, be a good man. I'm 26 and will be 27 end of this year. When I turned 25, I felt the same as you do. I didn't celebrate my birthday, didn't have a girlfriend and didn't have any super close friends. Just 18 months later, and I couldn't be happier. Established some real relationships with people and also found the love of my life. Hit me up when you wanna talk man. Trust me, just 18 months ago I could have done this kind of video as well.

[@kulolal]

Bro I'm at the same age as you and it would be great if you could share why there has been such a change in such a short period of time.

[@gilleschen7373]

​@@kulolal Hey man, i'll be glad to share my story with you. I was always self-conscious about my body, being fat/overweight basically 90% of the time. About 4 years ago I was at my worst, I felt the ugliest, was the most overweight, quit University after 2 years because it was too hard and had to change to another University. Not much changed immediately after that, but in 2021 during Covid, I really went down a rabbit hole of self-improvement. At that point, I did not really have any close friends, I barely went out or even got invited. The past 2 years I have been fully focusing on grinding, improving myself and my mindset and becoming who I truly am. This meant a lot of isolation, which sometimes made me feel depressed - but I know I was doing something good for myself and that at the worst case at the end of this self-improvement journey - I'll have a better mindset, better physique and more confidence and love for myself. Becoming my authentic self meant that I began approaching people with a newfound sense of character, a quality I had lacked in the past - I actually felt like I had no character at all. Nowadays if we talked, you would probably not forget me very easily and see me as "that" guy. Approaching people with my now more refined and defined character meant that I now would only make friends who I liked and who also liked me for my now more outspoken and direct personality. I don't have tons of friends - I don't care about that - but I have 2-3 very close friends who I spend a lot of time with working, going to the gym etc. The essence of this may sound clichéd and unremarkable, but its truth remains undeniable - work on your fucking self. Find out who you are, what you are. Improve your mentality. Take care of yourself physically and mentally. Look clean. Behave like a good man. Dress well. Speak slower and more confident. Look people in the eyes. Walk around with your chest up and shoulders back. Be thankful to God. TRUST ME - it adds up. I had no relationship before recently at the age of 26 - and now I have found the love of my life. Life is undeniably good-perhaps almost too good right now for me. However, I remain mentally prepared to embrace the lessons that Life and God may still have in store for me. Whatever you do - live a good life. Become a good man. Respect everyone - but most importantly - RESPECT YOURSELF. I kept this story short, a lot of details are obviously missing, but I hope you get the idea.

[@fortheladies771]

@@kulolal Because he trusted in the Lord

[@gilleschen7373]

@Queen... You can do it! Keep going.

[@shimire26]

Going off OP, every time I isolate myself it takes a lot of time and effort to start reaching out to people again. Small baby steps, like remembering how to even just have conversations by tiny small talk with one person at the store counter or a dog walker etc. Stuff like looking up one or two of your hobbies or potential interests (anything!) and try to start slowly going to groups and testing it out. It’s awkward and draining at first but bit by bit you get into the swing of things. Initiating things with people who you’ve fallen out of touch with! Ultimately, isolation is torture for humans (that’s why solitary confinement in jail is such a punishment). Isolation severs our connections and makes us bitter, and while that hurt can be in response to genuinely hurtful things a lot of that times, isolation BLINDS us over time, and makes us more and more bitter as time goes on. Slow progress to undo the patterns of behaviour that enable further loneliness helps to undo

[@officialthomasjames]

I’m 24, I feel you bro. We are in that time where everyone is far too focused on themselves, money, and getting attention. The best thing you can do is be a good man, and seek out others who are trying to be the same. You can find guys like this at the gym, jiu jitsu/martial arts classes, church, and some other passion-focused groups that you could join. You are not alone man, just look at these comments. I promise you are gonna be just fine, God bless.

[@kaluba.m7272]

Some good advice:)

[@akirahayama2653]

I’m also 24 and am in the same boat. Sadly I’ve tried joining hobbies/clubs but it seems like no one else is really looking for friendships anymore 😔 Guess I’ll keep trying…

[@Keepayoungrichmind]

This touched me. I thought i had friends and when i found out that most of my relationships where one-sided. I pretty much spiralled into depression and was one step away into commiting suicide. But then my father died the next day. I ended up accepting this reality and started to make the best of my life. Im hopeful that ill find people like you. Keep faith in your heart.

[@toryag9950]

God be with you. Pls open your hear to know God and He will never leave you or forsake you

[@Darknightdriver1]

I can relate 100% with this man. I had to cut friendships because it was necessary, and other friendships just died out. I really only have two friends. One who I've known for 14 years and the other who I met in college 3 years ago, but lives far.

[@marcrivera2195]

I’m 26 haven’t had “friends” since after high school, I was always a loner. I use to think something was wrong with me but I’ve come to accept I’m just the way I am. But I’m never alone since I have 8 younger siblings. Lucky for me because if I was the only child I’d probably have a different mentality.

[@vChilly]

Family is always more important than anything. I have one close friend that I’ve manage to have left in my 20s and we talk about how we don’t talk to anyone anymore except each other. Everyone just moved on in their life or we just knew moving forward that there is certain people we couldn’t take on in life, when we’re both busy we have our families to and we both talk about the importance of having that bond with a family that will always be there for you.

[@alwalkemdown7878]

I’m 24 turning 25 in 2 weeks same for me. I jux stay to myself . I always been like that ever since a kid and in school . I’m not the person to go out in party or anything I jux work and make money . And on free time play videos and I’m cool with that to be honest .

[@UserName23567]

Wish i had as many siblings i only have an older sister

[@klopcodez]

its actually a lot of people who dont have friends, because after hs everyone focused on there life

[@alcinoos4013]

the balls this guys have are gigantic. Respect for witnessing a current social "problem". Friends aren't nescessery, family and self-confidence is the KEY. 💪❤‍🔥

[@Jay-pf4lw]

Yoo how you know he has big balls 🤨 i mean I’ve personally witnessed it but we gotta keep it to ourselves bro 😉

[@tubewanderer5721]

Confidence is key, but we are social creatures and friends are needed. I hope you gather yourself a trustful pack as you navigate through life. Someone you can mentor and be mentored by.

[@no_special_person]

ima actually disagree, i think freinds are neccicary, but thir not #1 yanno what i mean? their very important. meaningful connections and to experiance life celibrate happines and struggle thru pain with another human being will just idk it makes life awsome. that said, its not the number one. wich by the way, thank god its not the nuimber one, our society is making it hard to grow freindships, just look at the data, more peopole YOUNG peopol especially feel lonly than EVER BEFORE IN HISTORY. so yeah, we gotta get creative and escape the downward spiral

[@lastnamefirstname6035]

Friends are definitely necessary. I mean why else would people make video's expressing these feelings? It's not as if this video is a testimonial for succes. Friendships can lead to a more healthy/wealthy life because friendships can often lead to opportunities for jobs, relationships, entertainment, and overall better self-esteem as a consequence of mentioned opportunities. It is a lesson I had to learn myself and I'm glad I pushed myself to reach out to better(!) friends. Cut ties with your bullshit friends, those who f*ck with you, take too many dr*gs, those that space out into fantasies to much, and those that stab you in the back. People attach too much meaning to the word "friend". A friend does not have to be "your life-time" buddy and knows áll your insights... I met someone on a vacation who I will probably never see again, but we clicked so well, I will not hesitate to confidently call that person my friend. If you f*ck up with me, your not my friend anymore... So what I learned is that the word friendship is way more fluid, fragile and short-termed than I thought before. Don't raise the bar so high, or else friendships will always be this unreachable deep battle. BTW, the dude in the video seems super chill! I think I could definitely vibe with him.

[@fatkitty4207]

I haven't watched the video, but I want to say having friends is a very good thing. Have 1-3 very close friends that will do anything for you and you will do the same for them.

[@Herrera_70]

I'm 30 and I feel the same. My guesses are: 1 - We've matured and learned that not everyone was a "friend", we just happen to be around each other for long periods of time. 2 - Work really consumes people. Social life takes a toll when after graduation, going out stops being fun when you are constantly tired. 3 - Social media has people only texting. We barely have real face to face humans interactions like our parents did. Lastly, society has changed so much. When I was a kid my little town used to be fun, regular parties and events happening throughout the year, there was always something to look forward to where you'd meet people and socialize. The last time there was something like that I was like 15, now not a single celebration type of thing ever happens. The fun town I remember is no more.

[@en2p187]

So sad. Especially your last point, it stopped when I was 10.

[@christopherclark7512]

Try moving

[@christopherclark7512]

Find new community if that doesn't help sorry, I'm thinking of moving same reasons

[@katodd2925]

4. You're a bad person who nobody wants to be around

[@Rose-aye]

You are so real for making this. You seem like a genuine person & good for you for staying true to who you are & knowing when a person isn’t for you. I’m 25 almost 26 and I’m in the same situation. It hurts sometimes but if they were the right people then they would stay. Hope you’re well 🌸

[@MrLachie]

As a 30 year old I look back and see all my friends from high school as only friends because we were around each other every day. I learned the hard way that people grow apart. Adult friendships require a lot of work to maintain but are much more satisfying

[@user-vq2fv1vt9p]

I’m 28 now and I met 3 of my closest friends at 24 & 26. I got burned in the process by going too far and being a social butterfly but once I realized i dialed it back and have only spent time with people who don’t make me uncomfortable. Don’t close yourself off, don’t walk around thinking that it’s too late. It’s not

[@Neteohas1]

this was specifically what i needed to hear thanks

[@frostedlambs]

Hay me too! I had best friends and I left them to make a million weaker friendships and ultimately drifted away from everyone

[@feetyeet8538]

Jesus is the only way to heaven Being a good person won’t get you there. “Jesus said to him, “I am the way, and the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.” ‭‭John‬ ‭14‬:‭6‬ ‭ESV Repent from your sin(disobedience to God) and turn to God and follow Him so that you will be saved “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” ‭‭1 John‬ ‭1‬:‭9‬ ‭ESV‬‬ “No, I tell you; but unless you repent, you will all likewise perish.” ‭‭Luke‬ ‭13‬:‭3‬ ‭ESV;)

[@user-vq2fv1vt9p]

@@feetyeet8538 Hey what does Jesus say about this Bible verse? Exodus 21: 7-11 "When a man sells his daughter as a slave, she will not be freed at the end of six years as the men are. If she does not please the man who bought her, he may allow her to be bought back again."

[@user-vq2fv1vt9p]

@@Zachinator2009 Old Testament, New Testament. The whole book is tainted throw it all away

[@bbbbbbbbbb0]

Honestly this is what comes with getting older; friendships become something you've gotta put a lot more effort in than when you were in school and was pretty much "forced" into a closed environment with the same people everyday. With life's responsibilities and just general adulting, it becomes harder to maintain them.

[@TswanaBae_Mimi]

Valid point 💯

[@Me-ty8dd]

I SWEAR this is so true.

[@iamlilbll]

On my soul bro. If you not in high school or college its very hard to maintain friendships especially since most friends either get locked up or are raising a family.

[@Blissful.1]

Exactly 😢 I’m 47 & struggling with depression and loneliness

[@hotpursuitwb]

Very well put

[@Ravenysx]

I used to care too much about having friends especially a best friend, but as I got older I got more comfortable with being alone. And I actually don’t mind it because it’s better that way. I’ve had bad experiences with people, some with hidden agendas, some moved away and my best friend in high school passed away from lupus. Ever since then I just stopped caring, I only have 1 good friend and my sister. That’s all I need

[@irumianims]

so relatable, i've been on my own since my college days, and now at 24 i've noticed that as i've grown older, my circle of friends has significantly changed. i had friends from high school, but honestly, i never found much comfort being around them. letting go of these friendships was a decision i made, but it's difficult because of how crucial and unhealthy loneliness can be

[@square7935]

same

[@dominicbowie092]

But man there is so much other things to life. For me personally I’m 21 right now and I slowly drifted away from all my friends from highschool. But it didn’t brother me or make me feel any typa way. My biggest concern now is what do I want to do with my life what am I going to do for a career. Cause at the end of the day nobody is going to be there for you when ur trying to earn money or make a living, or when your trying to find ur career path. Once you got all that figured out, if u still have no friends then start focusing on that. But for me personally friends are the last thing that is on my mind. I’m a lone wolf type. I’m not seeking friendships.

[@HoopLifee]

Society achieved its goal of separation... 😢stay woke

[@ClayHarness]

@@HoopLifee try to keep your friends especially if they care for you

[@muhammadmahdin1934]

This comment is SO FUCKING RELATABLE. I'm in college currently but I've actively decided on breaking away with the bonds I didn't feel comfortable with. At this point of my life I currently have a friend who I consider to be my best. Nth else really. Everyone else is just surface level

[@Zii12301]

I love this because it’s allowing those who actually feel this way to express themselves

[@starstump]

Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊

[@DiligentVisionary]

@@starstump Amen

[@chaos-tech67.1]

​@@starstumpPlease delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..

[@chaos-tech67.1]

​@@starstumpi reported all your comments btw

[@whateverokand4603]

@@chaos-tech67.1im gonna be real with you there’s no need for this. You are being mean to someone just because of their faith knowing good and well this person is not the reason your acting like this. Don’t blame the actions of others on another just because they belong to the same group. I’m not Christian and i dont mind because its the internet. You reported him for trying to spread love to another person in the best way he can because thats how he grew up. And not only that but Christianity it the majority religion in the United States. You sound very hurt, hurt enough to report someone for a quote that is supposed to support others. If you dont like how Christian’s treat others then dont do the same. Idk what faith you are or what core values you have but i hope you really dont agree with religious censorship

[@coltonc8894]

The fact that I’m 25 now and have been through the same exact things you’re describing. I really thought I was the only one who was like this at this age. Thanks for having the bravery for coming out to talk about this stuff, and the comment section here is oddly motivating for me to go out there more. We all might have more in common than we think

[@nigerian_the-original]

29 here and I have no friends. I am very much a “loner” personality. I like doing things on my own, how I want, when I want. I got family so that helps a lot. I also work 60 hours a week and get all the socializing that I require at work. When I’m not working I like being alone. I am friendly and make small talk at the stores or say hi to people I pass but otherwise I am very introverted and like it. I think society/social media makes it seem like if you don’t have friends you are the odd one. But you’re not. I do hate tho when people ask me who I hang out with or what things I do with others on the weekend. I don’t. And they don’t understand.

[@BlackWomenAreTheSmartest]

​@@nigerian_the-originalTrust me I fully understand you basically just described me. I don't even have a Facebook cause I have no family or friends to add

[@pecesita-dorada]

You have a beautiful soul. You are precious, keep talking like that because the appropriate people will find you. Hugs. Keep us posted.

[@MightyKingYoung]

If you ever read this, please know that as we get older, the stakes in life get higher, and a good friend becomes a lot more nuanced. They're not just people you enjoy being around, but have to be someone who respects you, will stick up for you, and never put you in danger/harms way. It's a good thing you've ditched the people that can't live up to this. You will meet new people who can, and they will be closer to you than any of your previous friends. Trust me (in my 30s).

[@lynxo5695]

Well said. I'm 34 and agree with this.

[@dojo_clipss]

I've made mistakes and said things that really stuck with my friend and we talked about it and I still didn't understand fully why he felt the way he did about what I said l. Now looking back at it I understand more deeply how he felt and I realized I'm in no position to ask for his forgiveness but I want to talk once more and express my apologies and new mindset towards this issue. Idk if its even possible

[@_shumba]

Someone once said "Friends are in your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime". Once you understand that friendships aren't the rosy concept purported by movies, letting people go and move on in their lives won't be as hard. I sympathise with your words, mostly because I was deeply betrayed in my youth, but I am working on trusting people again as I regard very few people outside of my family as true "friends".

[@kittydonovan1452]

The paradox is “feeling / being alone” is what actually connects us as so many people feel the same. So essentially you are never alone ❤️

[@nightsweats810]

Of course. I know logically physical aloneness ≠ separation from one’s spirit, we can see this looking at incarcerated people who manage to maintain a sense of connection in prison communities. Inmates who feel their role is *necessary* to the maintenance and wellbeing of their prison ward are more likely to gain employment post incarceration //have decreased time in solitary confinement (I made that stat up-makes sense to me!!!)

[@3rdDayHeRoseAgain]

Screenshotting this comment.. well said 💯

[@travelpro23]

But do you see how backwards this is? Yes, you don’t feel alone bc everyone is going through the same thing, but it doesn’t quench the loneliness or solve the problem by simply acknowledging this. You’re not really “connected”, you’re just going through the same tough times, being isolated from everyone. That doesn’t add any salve to an already lonely, hurting heart.

[@HumbleBurger-b2x]

Sounds like cope, the truth is actually worse, we were meant to live in small groups or communities society is human engineering and its not good for the individual

[@kittydonovan1452]

@@HumbleBurger-b2x True but we unfortunately no longer live in that type of world. Everything is a matter perspective.

[@SherXP]

I relate to this a lot. These days, I just personally go with the flow, whether that means staying lonely or continuously making new friends, time will tell. Also, I think people just get mentally exhausted of always checking up on each other, which is why you start to feel the both of you slowly depart. Thanks for speaking about this, and sharing your experiences with us! Best of luck to you Zo!

[@aldoumene6201]

You seem like a really chill and good dude. Unfortunately in todays society manipulative and fake people have the most friends because so many people with no personality act the same to not get excluded even if it was for being a horrible person.

[@markocrazy2231]

Nah that no personality shit is real everybody copyin everybody 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@seynpurrp]

ong

[@AshantiH502]

Fr tho. It feels like a lot of people are the same. There’s not much originality and it’s sad to me.

[@rorymercury4519]

For me it makes so sick having to fake anything i say man this is tough, so i am never fitting in?!!!

[@Kekmit]

My life peaked like 2 years ago - I had many good friends, spoke and played games with them every day. I had a girlfriend. I had a good job with a cool boss. Worked out, got slim. Got a nice haircut, clothes, fragrance etc. It was the best time of my life, I finally felt like I belonged somewhere. Then it all started to go to shit, my job changed, friends started disappearing one by one because of things in their lives, and even though I was always there for them, it turned out they were never there for me. I eventually broke up with my gf. Got fat again. Stopped caring about my looks. Have a job that I hate. And my life is just miserable. I can't even speak with anyone. I have literally no one. I never had many friends, but I never had ZERO friends. But at least I have a youtube comment section, where no one will ever read my comment, but at least I can rant and let off some steam. Life just sucks. What's the point of it if you don't even have anyone to care about.

[@nicknick493]

Hey man hopefully things get better. Life sucks, but it can always get worse.

[@NoémiM-h4r]

You are not alone there. Things can change so quickly, so hopefully it can also change for the better again. Best of luck.

[@govindharish1308]

Tough times seem endless, but just know that you're appreciated and you matter

[@scriveamy5955]

Just know that a stranger on the opposite side of the world is feeling like you do. No friends, no job, no partner, no life direction. At least it hurts a little less when the pain is shared. We’ll go through this hopefully.

[@drawingsforlife2249]

Stop with the self pity, and make the change that u need. Bc nobody is going to do that for u but urself?

[@juicedelavie6212]

I'm 24 and dealing with the same issue. Since 16 I was the popular kid man. I had friends everywhere from different states, I could swing by anywhere and I'd have friends there that I'd bump into. I was out partying everyday and would always get invited to private house parties. we smoked and drank. fast forward to 2021and I was 22, and everything just started falling off. Everyone I knew started drifting away and everyone changed so fast. Hanging out with friends isn't the same anymore, some were engaged, some were overseas, some were just next door but we don't hangout anymore. It's so weird what's happening and it's making me crazy thinking why is everyone so introverted all the sudden. I've always been nice to everyone and I always tried to have fun with everyone. to my knowledge I never offended anyone or made any enemies. It's all making me blame social media and our phones, but idk man. This world is so weird and I feel like I'm the only person who still wants to be human.

[@MPPG663]

I think you identified the problem and a very hard truth: Party culture is not a basis for friendship. At all. Drinking, smoking, clubbing... they are activities without any substance conducive to forming relationships. They don't fill anything, but time. People come to that realization at different points in life. It may be the reason why your invitations dried up.

[@ctruthlyfe4452]

Great point about social media, technology. There are studies on the fast pace of technology and its impact on human connection. Sadly, AI will make it worst. Just cue into the movies made over the years to see where things are heading. Anything worth having will require a fight of a strong will, wisdom and patience

[@sensimania]

Have you made any efforts to make new friends via work and/or hobbies? People change as they become adults. Gotta find a new tribe I'll tell you about my experience which is a little different from yours. Although I was surrounded by "friends" during my teens and beyond, I never felt like they resonated with me (and vice versa). Yeah, we had smoking/drinking sessions and partied together, but I wanted deeper friendships with people who shared similar interests. I'm sure you've heard of the saying "we could be surrounded by people but still feel alone." I found those people to be quite shallow and didn't do anything fun apart from smoking, drinking, playing computer games. Some of them weren't even interested in higher education nor did they have ambition for a career (whereas I've always been quite ambitious and very studious). I felt kinda trapped and couldn't wait to finish school and distance myself from the people who I had nothing in common with. Finally, I went to university and started a corporate job, and between the 2 mediums I managed to find a few life long friends who I can spend hours on the phone with and/or participate in indoor/outdoor activities with. The last friend I made was at the beginning of 2019 in Spain when I decided travel there for Spanish classes, lol! We still keep in touch and visit each other sometimes. Anyway, I successfully distanced myself from my old friends. But I might have a catch up with 1 or 2 of them once a year or so. Outside of that, we don't have enough in common to spend more time than that together. Maybe some of the people you mentioned have done the same? On another note, the pandemic lockdowns was what made me embrace my introversion (having always been an introvert but felt forced to act extroverted). Even though I'm an introvert, I still make time for my favourite people

[@yvonnewalls4293]

God is drawing you to be closer to Him.

[@alec_shaw98]

I feel you man. The fall off of friendships is real, same thing happened to me but I’ve been rebuilding my social life by just trying to become a valuable person to be in anyones life.

[@faybaysound]

this is a big problem and so many people in our generation are going through it right now. It's admirable that you made this video, not enough people are open about these struggles. The only way we can solve this is together as a community

[@tisbutascratch2045]

Let's all just get together and be friends! I need people in my life and you guys seem like a great bunch! Sending a virtual hug to all of you and hoping for you, genuinely, the best in life ❤ Love ya'll.

[@samanthasmith4038]

Hi wishing you well

[@bunnym5617]

God bless you my friend ❤

[@cierrakae]

Virtual hug right back to you 🫶🏽❤️

[@VimpGaming]

I'm 27 right now and I've never felt this lonely. Most of my relationships are hanging by a thread... guessing it might just be a normal part of growing up. Somewhat recomforting that I'm able to hear it from someone else. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts. Keep up the good work !

[@mysterioanonymous3206]

It is. When you're young and socially immersed you think these people will be around forever, but they're not. People move for jobs, spouses, some change and reorient themselves, some die (no kidding, suicides, cancer, accidents)... It happens to most people. And it happens every 10 or so years. Life isn't static.

[@anomaly3215]

the best and easiest way to put it is with this quote "if you never get rid of the wrong friends, you'll never meet the right friends", make sure your friends aren't dragging you down, because even if worse case scenario every single friend you had was actually a leech and now you have no one and feeling alone. but when you're at rock bottom you can only go up from there and that loneliness will create independence and you'll see that you don't need the help of others as much as you may think

[@HarrisonWheeler358]

Hang in there young man

[@miscellaneousish4320]

25 with no friends or family. I’ve woken up to zero text messages for two years now… it’s lonely but it’s peaceful

[@SweetSuccessDiaries]

sending hugs 🫂

[@belladcunha1077]

Idk you but I’m gonna think about you every once in a while and send u positivity

[@christinescorner111]

@@belladcunha1077this made me believe sweet people are still out there 🥺imma do the same for you now

[@Pluralofvinylisvinyls]

Yeah just keep telling yourself it’s “peaceful”

[@Whyyoumadcuz__]

@@Pluralofvinylisvinylsyou can enjoy life by your self

[@ashnicole9354]

29 and experiencing this has put me in a deep dark place last year praying this year is better for the both of us.

[@Bi11lie_v]

Wishing you the best , stay strong , protect your heart and mind and be happy and safe ❤

[@SueChefInternationaL]

Pivot

[@sumiedisplay]

hope you’re doing better. i’m in a pivot too

[@votepurple]

Thank you for sharing. When you realize that you don’t exactly need external people to valid your self worth, that’s freedom. We’ve gotta keep being our authentic selves and eventually we will align with the right people.

[@wtpaige]

Reminder: You're only 25! Your people will find you and you will find them as life goes on. There's so much time. Join things that interest you if you can. I joined a cheer team this year, and it was super helpful for meeting a lot of people at once but gradually getting to know them better as time went on.

[@sophiethelk9557]

I'm 23 and I needed this, thank you. But it's sadly just easier said than done, especially since I suffer with being socially retarded if you will. I've been suspected to have autism so that makes it even harder to find my place and "fit in" so I've had to learn to accept my circumstances. I have thought about joining a book club or something but I just can't see the point since it hasn't worked out in the past :( maybe once we're out of our 20s it gets better

[@teemumiettinen7250]

Its actually the opposite, if you are 25 and have no friends you will most likely never have any friends in the future. As you age the harder it is to find friends.

[@truezeonic3617]

I'm 18, and I haven't had anyone to call a friend or anyone to call me their best friend since freshman year, just mere acquaintances. It honestly hurts a lot from the inside, and I think I'm losing a bit of sanity because of this.

[@Enlightened_SpursFan]

there are people you can connect with, you just have to find them and take the chance. think of that one person you really wish you were friends with. i know there is one. they have a personality that seems almost magnetic, right? this person can be your best friend you never had. in reality, anyone can. it could be me. could be any random online person whose comment you see scrolling down in this video. you never know until you try and make a connection with someone. and if it seems as if you do try, and fail every time, then try and change something every time. you are the only person who can change yourself, and if you want to heal, then change might be needed man. just know you are never truly alone. there is a god to hear your prayers and nature to give you company when human companionship seems to come short of what you need. i took a few minutes of my day to write this message because i just really want to help you find some comfort from this struggle. there is always hope :)

[@truezeonic3617]

@optimisticspursfan2814 Thanks, man. I really needed to see that. I appreciate your time on this.

[@filmaker256]

cell phones its turning people into sociopaths

[@ronswanson1410]

Hear me out - Join a fraternity. You're actually the exact type of person my fraternity used to love because we knew we could take you in, break you out of your shell a little bit, and have a killer time with you. You're hurting for relationships and a good time? I am telling you... You'd fit right in if you try.

[@Comporio]

Two things, (if you haven’t already) Get a physical active hobby that builds strength and discipline (Martial arts, bodybuilding, running etc) Get a fun hobby that builds a skill and allows you to learn. (Drawing, writing, painting, reading)

[@AlbertHill770]

This makes me realise that having no one around me provides a lot of free time to work on myself and achieve my goals !

[@don2672]

Damn. I needed this. I'm 29 and talk to none of my college friends or church friends I grew up with. When life changed we all just grew apart. I feel like we can all help each other by being friends lol!

[@entertainmentblock616]

same here lol

[@Cecalore]

Me too

[@janice.03]

I’m 20 and honestly I think that not having friends at all isn’t necessarily a negative thing, I know society more often than not definitely sees that as a ‘bad’ thing but in my opinion it’s actually a great opportunity life offers you. I’ve had many friendships before and all of them have taught me something, while having my own time to myself I’ve learned that being dependent on people isn’t particularly having a purpose in life, your purpose comes from within yourself. I’ve learned to find peace within myself and not others, I’ve learned to not always rely on people for everything, I’ve learned that just because you care for people a certain way doesn’t mean the feeling is mutual and they’ll care as much the same way. I’ve learned so much throughout the whole process of building friendships and learning to let go of some, I’ve learned to put myself out there as well but not fully rely on that sole thought of when another friendship will come or go, but most importantly I’ve learned to realize that if I can’t make peace with being alone I’ll never truly feel peace or satisfaction within myself. To most it might sound harsh but it’s something we all have to understand, to come to terms with and understand the fact that when everybody else leaves in your life and when it’s just you on your own, that’s all it’ll be, just you. And it’s not necessarily a bad thing, it all depends on how you view it I’ve been coming to peace with that specific thought for some time now and as time goes by it’s less terrifying and more comforting. Being satisfied with yourself is the most beautiful thing you can create on this earth

[@ipad.4868]

@@janice.03whatever you think it means

[@tuwheratiaihaka2744]

I’m going to say the the obverse side to this notion of “society thinks that having no friends is a bad thing” and that say this is false and that the culture is facilitating breakdown of communities, friendships, the family system and regarding this as ‘normal’. This is not what you’re adapted to be here as a human being. We’re supposed to thrive within a social context. Without a social context then there are no forms that Pankseepian 7 Basic Emotional Systems (instincts) to operate within and people tend to go neurotic (mental-illnesses). And once a whole culture is mentally-ill, then it propagates, like a virus in the immune system would, and start to create havoc because the immune system hasn’t picked up the virus and hasn’t immediately begin to get rid of the virus. Our ancestors lived together in tribes. A post-structural way of viewing this is to think we’re no longer like our ancient ancestors because we have evolve as a species. This is true, we have evolved, but we’ve also grown disconnected away from our instincts which are adapted to the environment and creating change within it. The current problems you’re going through, your ancestors have already gone through and experienced and you can access those states by doing the ‘right’ things, taking action in the world, connect with your creativity and disconnect yourself from a sick culture. It’s all within your genome 🙏

[@SecretDoxer]

lol not that serious

[@janice.03]

@@SecretDoxer this comment wasn’t directed to you whatsoever, but you have a nice day!

[@kyhxx]

. etc 20 rn aswll. cut all ties 4now tbh^

[@mcnugget6949]

I’m 22 and I relate to this so much . After highschool I feel like everything changed and I know I don’t need friends to be happy but it does get lonely at times

[@tamelia2722]

I appreciate your honesty. In this new generation people don’t know the meaning of true friendship everyone is out for themselves.

[@brianna5278]

I don’t have any friends either. It’s so hard to find genuine people out here that have no ill intentions. Just know you’re not alone. Thank you for sharing your feelings.

[@brittthecancerqueenempress9137]

This 💯

[@imafairy]

Same here... 31, friendless and struggling to find genuine kind hearted people )-:

[@cowpunkability]

This guy is so cool. It’s so amazing how many people will feel less alone bc you shared this. I woulda looked at you and thought life is easy for this guy, handsome, young.

[@user-ys7eh9kx9p]

Yes for real this is real influence whats brave guy

[@kuruptflip21]

Wow you’re so thirsty. You think just because he’s young and handsome he should have more friends ?! He just said he’s looking for more meaningful connections smh. Don’t be offended though I’m just trolling

[@AWolfCalledFred]

Sigma male always have very few or no friends. Do a KZbin search on why sigma males don’t have friends. It’s common for our type.

[@Gabriella_Macy]

@@AWolfCalledFredshut your corny ass up “Sigma”🤓

[@H.K.5]

@@kuruptflip21 Good looking people are treated better by society. Even straight men would rather be friends with a good looking guy than an unattractive one if they’ve got the same personality.

[@bratzcube]

I can see depression in his eyes. I’m proud of you for sharing.

[@bartpatton3409]

When you start paying attention to people's eyes.. its crazy the vast amount of us actually have 'depression' in our eyes.. from youngens to even olders...

[@YoungTCash]

@@bartpatton3409man fr bro, I can’t even look myself in the mirror because I can’t recognize myself anymore being depressed

[@bartpatton3409]

@@YoungTCash been there.. well i stopped looking into the mirror, broke it with a punch lol.. get some sunlight vitamins and magnesium supplements do help too, a lot .. do someyhibg fun with other people.. and maybe the gym could help too.. i did that for a while, got tired of it but it helps too.. just go out there and be you. The reflection in the mirrior don't define you brother.

[@Ez-lk2hl]

Want cookie?

[@KnockoutweeklyKO]

He looks tired lol

[@lemonchan2013]

hi hon, im learning in my psychology courses at college from a wise professor that changed my life that besides the “viscious cycle”, we often forget that there is such thing as the “virtuous cycle.” it’s about doing good for others that in turn make yourself feel good. it’s actually amazing how easy and simple it is- participating in volunteer work like food drives, helping homeless, animals if you like, anything charity related. i think you should try it. it’s an opportunity for you to meet people, and then write about how you feel after when you come home!thanksdoc

[@nokesyboo]

It's okay to not have any friends, it means you seek quality people rather than quantity. It's hard to come across really genuine people that you can vibe with and has similar mindset as you. Don't settle for anything less than what you set your values to.

[@meqomi]

i lost my entire friend group when i was 25. i am now 29. youre not alone.

[@mytamponhurt]

same...

[@xtra_612]

Same,do you think our lifestyle is the reason? We could distract ourselves with gaming social media we can run from our problems

[@Namedeeznuts]

@@xtra_612some people just want to bar crawl and go out to drink to party, when you're an adult you have less friends because most of them stayed broke ass kids. Might be having more fun and seem happier but in the end... the winner is the one who had fun and has financial stability along with having a loving fun home life. It's hard to have good friends when all they want to do is go and get drunk, spend money and fuck off every time.

[@nonhan1801]

34 and have maybe 2 close friends from childhood that dont live in my city anymore. It's lonely but I cut out a bunch of fake people and while I wouldn't say my life is great, i prefer this over the chaotic drama those toxic people brought to my life for most of my 20s.

[@cavesandcaverns]

I just lost mine at 29 and it is so weird to have a whole group drop out of your life

[@Saiyan96]

I feel better watching these. It feels like I’m not alone

[@starstump]

You already aren't alone because God is Alive and Truly with you. Jesus Christ says in Matthew 11:28-30: “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” 🙏✝❤❤❤🙌🕊

[@chaos-tech67.1]

​@@starstumpPlease delete this, you are offending my beliefs with this comment, not everyone has the same beliefs as you, it's not fair to those with different beliefs to have this shoved in their face everywhere they go, you should really try to be more considerate of others..

[@Audreytsfrfggf555]

You are brave and you are not alone in feeling lonely. May God warms your heart and makes you feel connected

[@katrynapona]

25 too and feel this so much! I feel so lonely. I think I'll just spend this time to keep focusing on myself and hopefully find the right people in my life. It's so hard, but I don't want to not do things cause I don't have friends.

[@Truechildofgod]

Hey Kat I totally agree with you that not having friends to hang out with should not stop you from enjoying life. Last year for the first time in my life I went and got dinner and caught a movie afterward. This was after a break up and it felt so good to find a new way to appreciate myself in healthy manner!!! But I was never lonely even. I prayed to God that whole time and I talked to Jesus as I was trying new things (not outloud of course lol) but I found so much joy and it has been amazing even when I get sad about things that happen in my life I never feel lonely and I only have Jesus to thank for that. Its a nice feeling to know that the one that created me Loves me so much. And that same creator loves you Kat. I just wanted to share that with you :)

[@d.t.4150]

Take this time to truly get to know yourself and most of all appreciate yourself!! Find out what u dont like and what u do like, what u want out of life and what u dont want, whats a must and what must go!! Its so much in this time to do instead of focusing on whos not there!! This leaves roonm for someone who sees that u are lonely to prey on that and thats what we are trying to avoid!! It get loney but im surely its an area of your life that needs your undivided attention!! So take care and control of your life and never give your power away!! Stay strong❤

[@gottmituns6628]

@@TruechildofgodGod bless you.

[@Truechildofgod]

that was very sweet to say, May God fill you up with his love , peace, and kindness continually to the edifying of yourself and others that you come in contact with❤ @@gottmituns6628

[@katrynapona]

@@Truechildofgod aww I love this!! Thank you so much for this message. I really appreciate that and it’s so true. I pray and talk to God everyday, so I can relate to that :)

[@Motion511n]

You're WAAAY ahead of the fools that think they have a lot of "friends." 🙌🏿😅💌

[@Gen-ZEarther]

For me, someone who has been quite proactive in being social and reaching out, I’ve never been more frustrated in my life. Because there is only so much you can do in the art of making friends, a lot of it depends on the other person. It is sort of like being a fisherman with the best equipment and you got out on the lake which is supposedly the best spot to catch fish and you toss out your best nets hoping for the best, only to get…nothing or at the very least small little minnows who aren’t very rewarding.

[@Herrera_70]

Oh this one hurts me! I am also that person that has been "proactive" for yeears! in reaching out to others, but if the others don't give back the same energy, it just doesn't work. So I already stopped trying to be social, and that's how I ended be becoming a loner and pretty much have no friends now.

[@alec_shaw98]

Okay but what are you offering to friendships? Why would somebody want/need you in their life? If you can provide reasons for people to want to be around you you’ll never run out of friends. I was in a similar situation but I learned to take pics and vids now people hit me up to film them. Mutually beneficial. Relationships can form from there

[@sophiethelk9557]

wow yes I feel this! and thats really a big step for my introverted ass too lol. it just doesn't seem worth the effort anymore, and it feels impossible to accept when nearly everyone else around me has a friend group. it's just so lonely

[@Herrera_70]

@@alec_shaw98 Yikes! man that sounds even sadder! of you'll never run out of "friends", huh? of course you won't, people love free stuff using others for their benefits. Wait till YOU need something from them😬

[@alec_shaw98]

@@Herrera_70 lol first who said it’s FREE provide value to people that have things you want then? Lol easy example for is filming for people that teach financial literacy and mma fighting. I learn just by being around them, and they want me around. Mutually beneficial.

[@chinaleone]

I’m 27 with no friends; at times I get sad and want them but the way my personality is (I’m a bubbly, friendly person) ppl don’t really vibe with that. Everyone wants to be mean and miserable half the time

[@slimelove6977]

Feel the same way. Idk how to be an asshole haha.