WHY I LEFT NIGERIA. MY IMMIGRANT STORY. GETTING INTO CORNELL

I am finally uploading a video I have been wanting to share for a long time. I am sorry it is so long and promise my next one about my medical school & residency experience will be shorter. I get so many questions about my journey to the USA and where I am from .... so I decided to share and honestly the process was therapeutic. Please feel free to share.
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[@oyamsbabe4028]

Wow! I am in awe of you. Such a honest and heart warming experience. I love your videos and was recently quite surprised that you were part Nigerian. Thanks for your story and your honesty. You are a breathe of fresh air. I hope you get to understand the impact your story will have on others' lives. I am forwarding this video to my girls. The older starts medical school this fall and the younger's still in college. This video will show them that they are not alone and that with hard work and perseverance, they can achieve what they set out to do. Your story will show my girls that their difficult experience with their dad and the hardships our family went thru, should not hinder their future goals. Look at you! You are a shining example of how one can beat all odds and be a success, not only academically, but all around. I got hooked on your videos bc they are fun and beautiful, but more so now, knowing your struggles, perseverance and accomplishments. Thank you.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

I really appreciate your comment, Thank You!

[@dapofam5549]

Your dad is a great man. Jealousy or being possessive is not a cultural thing, but human. My Danish girlfriend gets upset when she doesn't know where I am and neither does she like me having female friends. U are a bit too harsh on the poor man. Can u imagine the pain he would have suffered from the experience of losing ones family. u should have empathy and understand what he went through. Its not just all about u. Remember u guys left him,:not the other round. He should be the bitter one. u are lucky to have him as ur dad.

[@ayodeler39]

Yes Oyams you’ve said all the words in my heart !

[@sweetpepper100]

@@dapofam5549 I don't think u understand being trapped in a culture and land where u don't agree with, and also being controlled and abused for daring to challenge anyone especially the patriarch. In England where they started their lives, everything was done, d English way. Until they went back to Nigeria, the mother wasn't Nigerian, and all of a sudden, she has no say over her children. This is a problem with people who married foreign wives. Hope u better start telling ur jealous girlfriend that if u ever go and live in Nigeria, she will become a subject to what ur parents says, which will become final. Many Nigerian men, don't cut d apron tie. For fear of being disowned or cut off from d will.

[@jacqulineloncke7832]

Verygoodtoyou

[@SisiYemmieTV]

I cant believe I watched it to the end! That degree is so beautifully framed! I feel like I know you better now...your immigration story is very interesting. Your mom did a good job of relocating her kids

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you! Yes it was a long video/story but I needed to talk about something I often keep to myself for fear it will upset my father. I still feel conflicted about seeing my father but I hope one day to visit Nigeria and see many of my cousins and places I lived & went to school! Now you can understand why I love watching your videos which give me a small window to a place & people I used to know well. -Habiba

[@amehimable]

SisiYemmieTV good to see you here, am always seeing you everywhere I go😊

[@pslack282]

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[@bunmialafiatayo7133]

Lovely woman 👩

[@omolaraolaiya3110]

@@amehimable Me too

[@ek6907]

Great to hear that you finished secondary school in Nigeria. Nigerian Secondary schools has produced great men and women over the world. Great story. Your mother is a smart woman to succeed with taking all three of you back. It is a man's world in the Northern Nigeria. Take very good care of your Mum, she is a strong woman who put her children first.

[@pwhitfieldful]

Well told story!! Please write a book! I enjoyed hearing your story as I am currently dating a Nigerian and I know things have changed, but there are still some strict residuals of the old traditional way of life. I could watch this over and over. It was like a movie!

[@daniella8400]

Are yall still dating?

[@vicchenyo]

By an act of God, I stumbled on your channel. Fortunately for me, the first video I watched was that of your father's visit to the US after 25 years, as you said. Secondly, I am from northern Nigeria and for the first time on KZbin I deeply related with someone's story, please don't get me wrong. But I mean it when I say, I found your stories relateable because your experience and mine seem to rhyme in many ways. I am greatly happy for you also because you and your mum were able to "escape" the grip of northern culture to the United States and you are able to be what you are today. This is a very big feat considering that I saw within my family how my aunts and nieces were given out in marriage barely before the age of 20. Decisions are always in the hands of elders and local customs and traditions. Even as I type this, I am only grateful that as a young man my extended family supported my education up to the level that I am pursuing a dissertation degree in the United States. Anyway, I shall continue to watch your videos now and hope to share stories of our cultural inhibitions in northern Nigeria and hope that with the passage of time, things will be alright. I am your latest suscriber. I shall share your channel with my family back in Nigeria as I am also from the Zaria axis. I am sure your videos will inspire many within my extended family; I see in you my sister. My regards to your husband, and your beautiful kids.Thanks for sharing your story. Sannu da aiki (Weldone! in Hausa).

[@bettyangel7009]

This is my first time I ever shared a space in any form.or fashion with anybody from Northern Nigeria both growing up in Nigeria and living in US. Wao, hope your desertation went well.

[@mabeladutwumwahfrancis869]

Abiba stop the talking and write a book. It will be a best seller. 💙💚💛

[@bunmialafiatayo7133]

mabel adutwumwah Francis right 👍🏽

[@vicchenyo]

I support your suggestion to Habiba. Writing a book and telling her story will surely inspire more youngsters especially now that things are not so wonderful in northern Nigeria with all the unrest. From the book, we can graduate by adapting the story for a movie.

[@thabim.1377]

Or watch that on a big screen ,its really a great life story. Well done girl, I'm greatly encouraged 😙

[@Assnwomen]

Although I feel your pain and hear your side of the story... I also can feel the pain your dad must have gone through. To one day wake up and find out that your wife and kids have left you in addition to the shame he must have felt in his community. I feel that once you were an adult, you could have at least made contact with him earlier rather than later. Most Nigerian fathers are stern but always loving to their kids. Watching your reunion video I heard him ask about your mom at least 3 to 4 times. That let's me know that he still cares for her even after what she did. At the end of the day, making peace with him at his age is the best thing both of you can do for each other. Glad you shared a piece of your life with us!!

[@sherifatolubukola7785]

Thanks for sharing. Your mum did a very good job on you guys, the moral upbringing she gave you reflects in the mannerism of your speech. You narrated your story in a dignified way. I am from south west Nigeria and i know the northern culture is very conservative.

[@abioduntheresa9272]

Wow that's a very big Degree, I've been watching Your videos since 11pm, its 3:25am and I'm still watching. You're special, Your story is, and I relate very much.

[@rosemarieallen749]

You guys have such a gentle spirit and your Dad bought gifts for everyone, how precious . You are a gem for honoring your Father the way you did. so beautiful. I loved every moment of this video.

[@ochonganokwu]

One thing I must say is that your father is an amazing man. He is truly a rare gem .just thought you should know that .

[@paulaadams8331]

Habiba, You are such an inspiration! I love the fact that you opened up a part of your life to strangers, and you didn't have to. I love reading your blogs, and looking at your videos. Keep up your beautiful journey. You are a "minority" of being authentic and true! I love you! So keep being an inspiration to others!

[@ADE-of-LAGOS]

Nice video. Guess I should educate viewers about Nigeria of the 70's. Most Nigeria that left home to travel to another country only did so for education, and most (>95%) returned home to pick up jobs waiting for them as well a Peugeot car. The civil service was super efficient. We had health inspectors visiting homes to ensure a good living environment. That was the early days of the oil industry in Nigeria. Life was good. My father studied in the UK in the 60s and he returned to Nigeria. I had an uncle who also studied in UK and came home with a young German wife. They had two of their kids in Nigeria. That was around early to mid-70's. Then the Nigerian currency was stronger than the US dollar and was almost at par with the UK pound. Many Nigerians traveled to UK for summer holidays and they almost certainly return home. Though infrastructures were largely limited to major cities but life was simple and standard of life was okay. Then Nigeria was an African pride that promoted and supported many freedom causes all over Africa. And to surprise you, healthcare was good to the point that the Saudi King then was a usual guest at the University College teaching hospital in Ibadan. Save for corrupt politicians, Nigerian story would have been so different. Finally, it is very unlikely that you would find someone, most especially a man from northern Nigeria living in the West permanently. I am Nigerian that left Nigeria purposely for grad studies, and have have lived outside Nigeria for almost 20 years now. I have only ran into a northern Nigerian man once, and also one female that is a professor in Canada. They are very conservative and if well educated would certainly have a much better life in Nigeria because their ethnic group have more political power and access to lucrative jobs, simply because less northerners are literate, and if you are a literate northerner, certainly your community would need you more. I edited this comment to include a KZbin video showing Lagos in the 1960s because someone here said I am lying, obviously because it does not fit the lies they were fed that Africans used to live on trees. kzbin.info/www/bejne/d6WZq4JoZqidpck

[@bappatijjani9017]

You said it all.

[@adaruby5437]

This is absolutely true

[@ochonganokwu]

adeoflagos Ade beautiful

[@aghoghookotie-oyearone3602]

My dad school in USA and also returned home in the 70s. With a civil service job

[@michaelheery7427]

YOU TELLING LIES.

[@LeBeatInc]

Hi!!!! I’m your 6000th subbie🎊... found you on Instagram and I love your page!!! I love your mix Jamaican and Nigerian!!! I’m from Trinidad and Tobago 🇹🇹☺️

[@evangalinebrendahoward438]

I stumbled on your video and the title and decided to pop in and listen. You were very enjoyable. I am Caribbean from Barbados that was raised in Brooklyn in a strong Caribbean cultural. I grew up in the late '60s during Vietnam time when black identity was alive and many of my generations who wanted to move back to Africa and learn where were we came from. During my teenage years, I read a lot about Africa and always desired to travel there at some point in my life. Well, when I went off to college; out of state; I met my first African sister from The Gambia. I could not stop wanting to be around her daily asking lots of questions about her country and West Africa in general. Being that she was in the state alone, there were other Africans in her same situation who planned to be together as a family during school breaks and the summers back in NY from other schools such as Columbia, NYU who were brilliant. I would find myself spending all of my summers and Christmas holidays time surrounded by my African family as well. What a wealth of experience. I knew then that I wanted to marry a brother from Africa although my parents wanted me to marry a Caribbean. I also had family who migrated to England from Barbados. I would love to meet you one day in person when I return home to NY to continue my story. Hoping to catch the next chapter of your beautiful story. Evangaline Brenda Howard Bus-swofie

[@PhemyWilliams]

An inspirational story that mirrors my own! Well done Queen. Keep on rising.

[@galcocle]

Without seeing this video, I knew your Mom is a Jamaican woman. I didn’t see Indian??? I hope that You realized that your warrior spirit comes from your mother Jamaican stock and your Nigerian stock!!! Wow, You are amazing and a true fighter.🥊🥊🥊

[@GenXpressnG]

Well Habiba refers to her mother and her mother’s family as Caribbean, her grandfather she refers to as her “Jamaican” grandfather, so it’s not clear what her mother ethnicity is, if she is 100% Jamaican. IF your heritage on your mother’s side is Jamaican, please say “Jamaican”. Jamaicans 💚💛🖤 to stand out.

[@LiliansGardens]

You're on awesome story teller. All the best. Thanks for sharing.

[@AgnesM]

I just saw your reunion with your dad, and I remember I saw this specific vlog a long time ago, but now I’ve put 2 and 2 together lol.

[@teejay7779]

It's been very inspiring Habiba. Hard work, Focus, Commitment, Resilience, and Faith are written all over your story; you're in deed a blessing. I wish you, Kenton, and the family - the very BEST in all things. Thanks for sharing.

[@obieWanmotivation]

This is one heck of a story. Luckily for me both my parents were Ibo Christians but I was born in USA and we relocated back to Nigeria in 1975 when life was relatively good there. I was sent back to USA at 16 to attend college so I relate to a lot of your background and especially being naive about the nexus between dark skin color and progress with respect to blacks in America. I'm a practicing lawyer in the DC area and I'm grateful to both my parents (now deceased) for setting me up with education as a platform for success. My humble advice if you haven't already done so is to reconnect with your Dad. You made the best decision for you no doubt but your Dad was only being the best version of himself possible within the limitations of culture and religion. I'm thankful to God that you've made it but you should embrace your Dad (as you've done for your mom) because he's played a massive role in the strong positive woman you've become today. Anyway thanks for sharing and God bless you. 🙏🏾

[@joyyakobuinworship]

I enjoyed every bit of this video. Thanks for sharing.

[@janicerichards8959]

Now I know where you and your Mom got your strength from. NUFF RESPECT (My Jamaican Queen).👏👏👏👏👏👏👏📯📯📯📯📯

[@chikaachilike6134]

Wow Habiba, this is really profound, thank you for sharing your story. As a Nigerian I can relate to what you are saying, especially about the pressures that cultural proprieties, judgement and scrutiny can place on a young woman. Having been in the US for a little over two years, I can also relate to the cultural and social isolation, seeing as all the cues are different from what I am used to. I was raised in a different culture than you were and even though the Igbos are somewhat more liberal than the Hausas, the society has essentially the same expectations for young women. At some point, you begin to miss the the times when people were overly concerned about your affairs. Having left Nigeria as an adult, it has been a huge adjustment for me but I have learned a lot. On your family and dad, watching my brothers and other family members has given me some insight into the dynamics of marriage and the extended family -and you know that in Nigeria you marry the whole family, good, bad and ugly. I am not speaking as an expert and will not try to take your experience away from you or tell you how to feel however, I have seen people face a lot of pressure and animosity about marrying someone from a different tribe or religion more so, a different continent/country. It couldn't have been easy for your mom being the outsider in the eyes of others. It also will not be strange, if your dad faced some pressure from his family about the appropriateness of his choice in a partner hence his effort to control whom his family interacted with. Different people react to all this in different ways and sometimes hurt their family in a bid to control the situation. I bet it is easy for me to say because I wasn't there but whatever the case may be, thank you for sharing your story.

[@ariseshine08]

Beautiful video!! as l watched l felt proud of all the strong and selfless women who always sacrifice soo much to put their kids first in the face of challenges... God bless our mothers!!

[@watchit16]

Late comer, love your story. I watched meeting my Nigerian father 1st so I've started from the beginning of your story. Lovely family.

[@DiamondCIA]

Thank you for sharing. Such a inspiring story. How am I just seeing this now? You just earned yourself a new subbie

[@texpatrol]

My father was from Nigeria my mother from Jamaica and I was born in London England I grew up in NYC

[@joannabosededixon3734]

Your words are amazing, especially the15 mins, so thank you!

[@marieevans582]

Thanks for sharing ,truly amazing 🙌🏾

[@LatreethaTaylor]

I loved this story. Thanks for sharing

[@lisasgonzales]

you are so straight forward with you experience. I love it. thanks for sharing.

[@happykendra4539]

Oh my goodness. I loved this video..Im Nigerian too so I was curious to hear about your experiences there. Oh my what a story. Thanks for sharing!

[@yvonnedunlap5088]

Fascinating story my dear... do keep talking. Its good for understanding, peace & maybe even reconciliation. God bless you!

[@agbaratheo1]

Thanks for sharing. I wish that my children would read your story. The part of your experiences that is similar to those of my children are changing from Nigerian school to American school system. They completed high school in Nigeria and thought that they were going to enter college or university as they call it in Nigeria. They were not allowed to enter partly because they were under age for college and partly because they were required to submit their grades from high school in Nigeria. Those who know Nigerian standard operation procedure (spo) knew that to obtain such documents from the school authorities could take more than two years (that is if the student bribes from getman all the way to the school principal for legitimate grade). Family members who reside outside of the USA and who knew nothing about the school system in America told my children that they love them more and that they care for them more than me. That i was decieving when i told them to go two more years in high school yet pass out at the age of 18yrs. My children believed they people who told them what they wanted to hear. I stood my ground and there came irreconcilable differences that lasted over eight years. Thanks to God that we were here in America. They could not do more than to hate me for a while and come to realize that i made the right decision for them. The two years that they did in the American high school opened their eyes into seeing the different lifestyles in the American society. They learned that not all "shes" refers to female or behave as the female they grew up with. They graduated in Engineering(MA)and Pharmacy(pharmD) respectively.

[@SheIsParfait]

I went to Cornell too! Graduated 2015❤️

[@Adwoael]

I’ve been watching more of your recent videos until I watched one of your cooking videos and stumbled upon this video. Thank You for telling your story.

[@remijules]

Your story is very honest, educative, and inspiring. Hope many will listen to you, learn from it, and be inspired onto great achievements. Well done.

[@olaleyekemi]

Thanks a bunch for sharing your story with us Habiba. I am so happy for where you are at today especially in the context finding fulfillment and comfort. As a Nigerian, (though from the south west) I totally understand what you went through. I just feel so sorry that your parents' relationship had to end that way - knowing that they loved each other so much. I wish you more joys in life. And lest I forget, you are very beautiful. Good luck and stay blessed.

[@etsout]

Thank you for being so open. I enjoyed your story.

[@ettabrown1332]

Congratulations Dr Habiba Tunau MD 👍👍👍

[@airhabairhab]

Great story. I was born in Kenya to an American mother and Kenyan father they also split up years later because of cultural struggles. We moved to America when I was 10. I then moved on my own to the UK as an adult and have been here 5 years.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Wow awesome we have similar backgrounds! God Bless

[@irene4217]

Hello from Kenya 👋

[@stephenodhiambo7556]

Please come back a visit us.

[@juzme37]

Hello!Habari gani?🇰🇪

[@ainansheahmed3571]

In my suggestion no matter what happen between your two parents try to have good relationship between two of them. I wish u all the best

[@sherwood9917]

Your father should have found a way to be a father to his children. However, your mother is not immune from blame either. You have spent a lifetime being told her side of the story. Just remember that every story has two sides; both should be weighed against each other. All the best.

[@reggea83]

Thank you sherwood! I didn't like the part when she told how bad the marriage was... 16 years is a long time to be in a very bad marriage according to her for the fact that her mum had the privilege to be brought up in the west and seemingly he didn't abandon them if he moved his family back home... Every story has its side for sure.

[@infinitig2013]

But it is her story. No one has a right to criticze her.

[@sherwood9917]

@@infinitig2013 You are right. However, if you don't want people to criticize your story, don't put it on a public platform. You can't expect to only receive praise on KZbin.

[@infinitig2013]

@@sherwood9917 True, however it doesn't cost a penny to just look away.

[@sherwood9917]

@@infinitig2013 Except that this video was uploaded precisely because she wanted us to look. That being said, you could have just looked away when you encountered my and other comments with which you disagree.

[@danielopara2025]

Great story line my Nigerian sister. We are smart and work hard. It really showed in your upbringing. How l wish my daughter would start watching your vlog. So proud of you.

[@lifewithzee8807]

Ma shaa Allah! Had just subscribed now. Am really interested in your family vlogs. As long as you keep it real. People will appreciate.

[@Imesnaturals]

I totally love your honesty, this's how we should be! I'm Nigerian too i see nothing bad you telling people the truth about you, i think we are mature enough to understand how someone feel and see things in different ways! Thanks for sharing really enjoyed watching. Xoxo

[@bashirah_i]

I love listening to you tell stories! Thank you for your videos :)

[@Kenton-Habiba]

You are welcome, Thanks for watching

[@bluebuffy5]

I’m glad you shared your story with us 💕

[@cherylarcher8502]

This is the second of your videos which I've watched, first being , Meeting my Nigerian father. I'm glad the videos came in that order, because I know you met him again. Your story is an interesting story!

[@bukolavic]

I just discovered your channel and I'm loving it 😍

[@hanniewangari6908]

Me tooo

[@thehibiscusking]

I'm from the Northern part of Nigeria as well and moved to the States; thanks for sharing your story. I can certainly relate on several levels; both from your Father's perspective, and understanding the relationship dynamic of your parents which I've experienced in my relationships as well.

[@Trinetteblue]

Thank you Habiba, for sharing. I'm so happy I came across your videos.I'm really enjoying learning about you and your family. I have been watching your videos every since I found your channel.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you so much! more to come

[@IdrisBusari]

Deep stuff! Thanks for sharing!

[@BukolaRY_TV]

wooooow...... I can't believe I just watched 5 of your videos..... great videos though 👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@kaywilson208]

Good day to you Habiba I've only just discovered your channel today 5th March 2019 thank you soooo much for your Autobiography 😄 that's what i call it I've been riveted listening to you That I've subscribed to your channel ..... Papa need forgiveness he did what he did with the knowledge and understanding of that Era Bless you for welcoming him into your lovely home🙏

[@solaogbeide7832]

Thank you sharing your story very inspiring. Will share with my children especially the girls during the spring break.

[@pagingnurserose2215]

Literally in tears listening to your beautiful story. I am a single 37 year old LPN working on my cleasses for the PA program. Thank you so much for sharing and giving such great encouragement. May God continue to bless you and your beautiful family.

[@HASSANYAKUBU]

Interesting...... looking forward to the next video

[@davidthompsonsr.4427]

It felt like a *movie* listening to your story. Very *inspiring* video.

[@douglasvilledarling2935]

David Thompson Sr. She should send this to lifetime and Oprah for sure

[@MrTeamsolutions]

Wow! This story is very therapeutic. Very relatable.

[@christopherchunuwe7713]

So so inspiring! I am speechless. Thanks dear. I have learnt enough.

[@maryroserowl1157]

I thank God for the grace upon your mum. May God bless her Lioness personality

[@DiscoveringNatural]

I truly enjoyed your story and appreciate you sharing it. New subbie

[@jewel3567]

Your story is amazing. I’m a new subscriber. I can relate to your mother’s story. You are a survivor. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾💜🙏🏼✝️❤️

[@nonyegyana7265]

Waoooh! Oh my God, I can definitely relate to your story. It’s so true.. I appreciate your courage.

[@mariaddis9341]

Thank you soooooo much for this. My daughter has pre admission to Cornell. She is the grandaughter of an African immigrant (Ethiopia.) I appreciate this video as well as your story.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for watching ! I hope your daughter does well where ever she goes!

[@paz8179]

This sounds like my West indian Aunt who met her Nigerian husband in England. She lived in Nigeria with her 3 kids but ended up leaving him because he was Muslim and had other wives. The culture gets in the way of love.

[@bensonogbe6534]

Paz817 It isn’t the culture.It is Islam

[@comfortedu5115]

@@bensonogbe6534 yes

[@passportheavy5505]

@@bensonogbe6534 the islamophobics are in the house I see. Before foreign religions, Nigerians were polygamous. So yes, it is culture as well.

[@annettehenry7734]

Your video is a blessing and I'm proud of you and the sensitivity of your heart to forgive your dad and welcome him for Thanksgiving in your home. You have s lovely family. God bless you and your Family.

[@amehimable]

Am so glad, I came across your channel yesterday and trust me when I say, I have watch a ton of your video and each one of them is so interesting and encouraging. I hope I run into some day. I recently moved to NC from Dallas.

[@anniebanana3698]

Wow this was so good and so interesting and I loved the moral of your story. I would love for that naysayer to see you now. Love it!

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you for watching. Come back soon!

[@kikikareema5912]

This was a very interesting story. It's interesting that you mentioned that you came from a country where everyone who ever accomplished anything was black like you so you never felt restricted by your race or thought much about it. Whereas in the U.S. we still celebrate the "first black" this or that. Black success still seems rare for some. Have you done any mentoring work for underprivileged black children?

[@nkjv12]

As a Nigerian I felt the same when I moved to the UK did not even realise I was black because it's not even a thing back home. Struggled initially with celebrating Black History Month i mean I get that American History is why it needs to be done but it is very strange coming from a country where you don't even have to think about being the first black anything.

[@kikikareema5912]

@@nkjv12 Well I have to think about being black all the time. I have to think whether a certain hair color will deem me a "ghetto black girl" or if I talk to loud or act too silly I will be labeled ratchet. My race and ethnicity is always looked at especially if I'm the only black person around.

[@nkjv12]

@@kikikareema5912 I am agreeing with you, that is why I said initially I struggled with celebrating Black History month. I have grown and learnt that I have priviledges not everyone has the chance to experience. I think what people fail to realise is that it takes a long time for an immigrant, regardless of where they are from or colour to get their head around their new adopted country and really start to understand the culture of the new country.

[@msccmb9929]

You have a very inspiring story! Thank you for sharing!

[@thecreativefamjoy]

If you are focus in life , you will definitely become whatever you dream. Thanks for sharing your true life story with the world its indeed inspiring.

[@mohamedsidi5097]

If I were you Habiba , I will go see that man and have some form of peaceful closure with the man I dont know very well ( Your father).I believe it will make him happy to see you one last time and to give you his blessings.Tomorrow he will not be there but leave him with a memorabilia about you.Keep well and take care Habiba.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you

[@IamthatIam3146]

I agree. While I sure understand you, and your mum's decision to leave Nigeria, your dad was left heart broken and betrayed. Believe me, he must have had a lot of fights with his family to afford you as much freedom as you got, so you can imagine the mockery and I told you so that came flooding in after you all left. I am sure the humiliation from his family and friends would have made it even tougher on him. He practically lost over 15years of his life and love in one day without a notice. I am sure if you asked him, it probably felt like 4 of his loved once died suddenly, at least when you loose love once through death people will console you, in his case he was mocked. This is a tough story. I totally get both sides as you would have felt like a living dead had you stayed. I hope time has given you all the opportunity to heal. Thanks for shearing your story. Your story teaches, love, strength, persistence, dealing with differences, I can go on and on. There should be a movie on this. :)

[@galcocle]

Beautiful and well said

[@MsMirnat]

Wow! Amezine story I am proud of all that you have accomplished. I undertand what you went thru since I myself been a Latino woman was also a minoroty. I was born in Puerto Rico and my parents migrated to Brooklyn, New York in 1963.

[@debbieoyeniran46]

God is good my dear sister, so happy for you

[@islamtechislam4462]

Great story HABIBA. Thank you for share. ❤️😘

[@ginettemayas7640]

I went to Roman Catholic Schools in the 60s and 70s and there was corporal punishment and public humiliation. It's not just limited to Africa or emerging and developing worlds. They stopped eventually.

[@witneybaah9348]

Not sure how I ended up on your page, but thank you for being an inspiration! I am an aspiring non-traditional medical student.

[@unityfreedomjustice1601]

Amazing narrative, all from the heart. Very very interesting. As an African from Sierra Leone living in the UK, I can relate to some of your story. Good on you👍🏽👍🏽

[@vaunmalone3064]

I love your honesty! I admire you and Ken!! I think you are incredibly brave! You are an amazing wife, mother, sister, daughter! I love the food journeys! 😂😍

[@joydimiri99]

Hey, Habiba, I really enjoyed your video. I am a Nigerian in studying Msc Social Work in UK. I related with the part of feeling like a Minority, losing my comfortable life in Nigeria to a very patchy life in UK. Your journey resonates with my experience. You have so inspired me.I love you Sis. Thank you.

[@mavislaryea4870]

Your story do inspired me . I admire you and your mum did a very good job by taking you and your brothers to America l give her a thumb up. Despite everything your dad too did very well by coming to meet you and your family in America. I think that's his forgiveness. The family is now bonded. Thanks be to God . So dear sis Habiba well done God bless you.

[@VanyaCAzoro]

Amazing story thanks for sharing! I am the same mix my mum is Jamaican and my dad is Nigerian and I was born and raised in the UK but I moved alone to Canada in 2018. 💜

[@Jsebina1]

Thanks Habiba for sharing this. I am so inspired by your story

[@ebutuoy406]

I can't believe I sat her and watched your wonderful story, the variety of changes in your life connects like at puzzle. I am so proud and happy for you. I too am a product of the English school system.

[@kaygbo8919]

I love your honesty. God Bless you.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you

[@worldtraveler8571]

This is really sad. I hope you and your father are ultimately able to make peace. I hope you're children are also able to know him.

[@kjayview2]

I loved watching your video and hearing your story. Very heartfelt and inspirational. Awesome and thanks for sharing!!!

[@godsonnzube7988]

You look gorgeous 😍💖

[@margueritesaintleger8375]

Your story is very inspiring Thanks for your time Kudos to your mother’s strengtht

[@mansarayify]

I have been enjoying your videos since I watched your first one were you received your dad at the airport and listening to your story how life was in Nigeria with your biracial up bringing, that reflected my memory back to how life was then in the 70s in my native country of Sierra Leone. A strong Muslim family dictating the hell out of my @ our life as children, our dad who was the decider of everything in our life and moooooore stories. But thanks for sharing your own your honest experience to the world. It's very amazing and I truly enjoyed it.

[@Gmystycal]

She is not biracial...lol...

[@mariefranceslommonu4800]

You are not offending anybody.Continue to share, so that we can learn.You are very honest dear.I love you.

[@rsodeyi]

Oh my goodness, there are so many similarities in our lives. Thanks for sharing, I can only imagine that soul searching involved in that decision. Just found you and looking forward to more 💚

[@charlesolusola6296]

Hey Roland? Did you live in Barbados at any time? You sounded familiar though.

[@rsodeyi]

@@charlesolusola6296 Hi Charles, yes I did live in Barbados, but not related to those people you mentioned

[@khoudiangom2167]

Nice Story great Story thank you for the encouragement, so proud of your mom strong woman, she took the great move

[@MrDzo1]

That was a beautiful story and have learnt some few things from your that... thank you for sharing.

[@Jordie0001]

my interest in Nigerian pidgin led me here and I watched your entire story about how you coped with cultural differences. I feel enriched by your story because i am a culture junkie. Thank you for sharing. J

[@Kenton-Habiba]

You are welcome, thank you for watching! feel free to watch my other videos!

[@nsalawal9944]

I am a Nigerian in the USA. I love your story. Thank you. I am also in the medical field with a long story. The good thing about going to school in Nigeria is that it made us able to withstand any competitive school in the world. Also racism was a shock to me. It is very unfortunate that racism exists in a beautiful country like the United States, which is a melting pot to all nationalities.

[@uptownbayarea6068]

You understand. The same way some find corporal punishment at nigerian schools aboherent is the same way 3rd world countries find racism silly in western world.

[@israeliteforever3343]

@@uptownbayarea6068 Corporal punishment was allowed here in the US when I was a kid before laws changed. This isn't exclusive to other countries.

[@nicolem2877]

People also should not wonder why African Americans arent performing at a higher level. Its easier to push against a culture when you are cherished, protected, and financed outside of it. African ppls have a reprieve from the racism because they have somewhere/someone(s) to escape to.

[@uptownbayarea6068]

@@nicolem2877 African Americans too have escape route if they want. It is called connecting with African brothers and sister. There are African AMericans like that.

[@Haelkefa5946]

Thank you for this. This is partially my story. This gives me inspiration for my daughter.

[@arthuriarossiii6332]

I knew you were amazing and now I know why! Thank you for sharing this it means so much on so many levels! Cultural difference really rise up when the children come! 💖💕💞

[@ennyshandsandcombs]

Always loved your videos ma'am and this one is so in-depth. Thanks for sharing your story and more blessings to your family.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Thank you!

[@nicholastoo858]

Loved the story! Very logical sober decisions. From Kenya.

[@Kenton-Habiba]

Wow Kenya! I would love to visit one day !

[@liserorose4713]

Beautiful story Habiba, welcome. Am from Kenya too. Loved your detailed explanation. God blesd.

[@gtjoyjohansson3082]

I really love your story and thank you for sharing and you are so honest.

[@omijieabumere1540]

Nice story and I hope you continue to recognized the impact of your dad in your life.