Why I'm NEVER Dating Older Women Again

I have had a lot of experience dating in my life. After all of that now I realize that I do not want to date women who are older than me. Today I talk about the reasons why I prefer to date a younger woman compared to an older woman.
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0:00 Breaking Down Relationships
0:58 Coaching
1:29 My First Love
3:07 Dating Older Woman
4:34 Problems With Dating Older Women
8:41 Same Age Relationships
9:50 Dating Younger Women

[@WheresWes]

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[@dresscodeclinician5879]

Wes, stay single until you figure out who you're. Relationships usually work out best when the man figures out his sense of purpose.

[@jona3797]

You are *** 😂

[@rayrwyr]

WTF! Just because you have opportunities to cheat, it does not mean it is inevitable for you to cheat. A man of honor will not betray his wife who is good to him. You are saying you have no honor. If you want to hookup with other girls, get separated from wife first.

[@WheresWes]

Men are only as faithful as their options. If you had all the options in the world, 90% chance you will also cheat.

[@rayrwyr]

@@WheresWes -- That's how dishonorable men roll. Duty, honor, commitment, oath, mission and purpose are Masculine traits. Not feminine traits. Men of honor are focused on on their purpose. Betrayal is against their grain. Single men of honor may screw around with many women. But married men of honor keep their commitment.

[@h4xOffPls]

​@@rayrwyrexactly right. Also the ability of self control. Cheating is degenerate behavior

[@levismirnoff5450]

I would only "cheat" if my gf does not satisfy my needs anymore. But really I would just exit the relationship so that is not really cheating.

[@rayrwyr]

@@levismirnoff5450 -- If there is no betrayal, then there is no cheating.

[@kwidid23]

Im 46 and prefer older women. I believe there's less drama because they have more experience in life. Young people in this social media world today is very haunting.

[@incelanthem8481]

Advanced tier cope

[@Evrastrim]

@@incelanthem8481 lol so true

[@GoodVideos-ry5ie]

You are kidding right? I think older women are set in their ways ( I have never dated anything beyond 36 and probably never will). They do not seem to be able to pair bond. Big gold diggers and far too masculine and in competition with you. They seem to constantly be undermining and manipulating you, with their giant ego. They would never submit or stroke your ego. You are not going to impress them, they have already seen it all and have also had better than you, if you know what I mean.. They are also very unattractive physically and sex is probably too infrequent and on their term. I had a buddy, who married one of these oldies, she was in her late 30s, he was a little younger. They had been together a few years. He revealed to me they had not had sex the previous 6 months. Why would anyone marry such a thing?

[@magicfire1]

@@incelanthem8481 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@fakebrit]

I respect your views and obviously this is your own personal experience but at 30 years old you're still young. A lot of your views are coming across from an unevolved mindset. Whether man or woman at 30 you're just starting a different path of life and maturity. For me hearing this it's not so much of your age preference but the view and categorizing of women. And you lost me when you said you agreed with Andrew Tate. Agreeing with the views of someone that toxic and involved with sex trafficking is questionable.

[@nikolavukicevic9799]

Andrew Tate was never a sex trafficker, it's all the mainstream media lies to demonize him because he's a pain in the 🍑 for Deep State

[@nikolavukicevic9799]

Andrew Tate was never a sex trafficker, it's all the mainstream media lies to demonize him because he's a pain in the 🍑 for Deep State

[@WheresWes]

No evidence was found of sex trafficking so don't accuse someone of something that didn't happen. You can agree with people that you may not necessarily like, that's the beauty of having your own opinions on things.

[@fakebrit]

@@WheresWes There was evidence and he was charged. That is fact. Not opinion.

[@leoyuan3f]

Yall gotta chill with the cancer culture shit. Whether those charges are legit or not does not change the fact that Andrew Tate is one of the few role models for male empowerment and men's rights in this world full of entitled feminists shitting on men. Is Mel Gibson suddenly a shitty actor cause he hates Jews?

[@lachica3551]

I'm 40 and feeling horrible hearing this

[@demolek22]

Don't be. He is a bit true. Yet, I think he is now in a playboy phase because women in Poland adore him. If you are 7 find yourself a 5, if you are 5 find a 3. In this case even if he get better and you get bad you will be equal.

[@flutingaround]

My feedback: Date close to your age to get rid of the inevitable power dynamics that come up with larger age differences. You don't want power and control over your partner, but a sovereign individual who is equally empowered as you. This will be a powerful ally in life. Someone you respect in kind. A warrior like you. You can work through the inevitable competition that might come up. Or, shift your mindset that they will challenge you to do better.

[@GoodVideos-ry5ie]

I respectfully disagree. 10 years younger minimum. Never date a woman older than you, she will never respect you and a woman your age has had 10 times the partners you have had, she is jaded and will age out much faster than you. A man at 50 is still attractive, a woman at that age is vile.

[@demolek22]

Very good advice. My relationship with a 9 yo older man was the worst. Much better with a 1 year older and the best with 1 year younger who became my husband actually.

[@gmailcgs]

A year Later, wes makes a video titled "why I only date older women"

[@helenatube]

I've agreed and resonated with so many things you've said on your channel and I really appreciate your transparency and desire for self-betterment. There's a lot I respect about you, but imho there were some things you said in this video that I hope you walk back and reflect on. I think your divorce embittered you in some ways and you project that as "a woman's age is the problem" when it really depends on the individual situation and is much more complicated than that. People are not assets that "expire" after a certain age. Men and women alike are more than their age, looks and/or money. You can't have a real relationship when you're calculating how to win a power struggle. Sorry for all you went through, I hope the sun is shining brighter now and I truly hope you find your healing.

[@qaesarx]

Guys and gals, dont be fools. Love exists as selfless only in ONE state: charitable platonic love. Romantic love, is ALWAYS selfish, because its based on DESIRES (wanna have!) and feelings ONLY. Thats why you CANT have a successful relationship of TRUE love unless there is GREAT FRIENDSHIP. Cause romantic love WILL FADE! And we live in a romantic/sexual MARKET (BUSINESS!) not in charity. Charity with selflessnes does exist ONLY in deep FRIENDSHIP! (and that is rarer than a UNICORN, ok maybe not so rare, but it takes EFFORT, and nobody wants to make any effort nowadays anymore.)

[@lagunacorona]

Damn your one of the very few that actually knows what your talking about kuddos hopefully these young guys understand what you are saying

[@qaesarx]

@@lagunacorona thanks a lot ♥️ unless there is a huge wakening worldwide (hopeless?) there can't be a better future. Humanity always lacked selfless love, but now it's getting worse than ever. We will have everything (money. Wealth, sexyness, pleasure) but still NOTHING (Deep friendships, sacrifice, caring, tenderness, etc).

[@flutingaround]

Excellent. This is real wisdom...lacking greatly worldwide!

[@CorruptedBat]

Groomer 😂

[@duanepadilla2514]

Wes, sounds like you are talking out of both sides of your mouth. You did not want your older wife molding or arguing with you, but you think you will be able to do that with a younger woman. My advice is found someone closer to your own age who likes a lot of the same things or better yet, thinks along the same lines. Nothing about finding a compatible partner is easy, but life is a journey and strive to keep learning and growing on a daily basis.

[@WheresWes]

nah bro, age is a big factor but culture has a lot to do with it too.

[@duanepadilla2514]

@@WheresWes Culture will always play a big part, and as you found out the hard way, religion can as well. I am headed to Medellin next month to meet a woman I met online. I am 57, she is 49. We have both lived life and have the scars to show it. We video chat every day for two hours, but are we compatible, that remains to be seen in the long term. However, our philosophy on life and what we want out of life as we both near retirement seems in-line. Just some food for thought from a much older male.

[@WheresWes]

Well you're actually proving my point because you're dating a younger woman relative to you. I'm not saying there's anything wrong with 30 year olds, but as a 29 year old dating older for me is 30+

[@duanepadilla2514]

@@WheresWes Agreed. However, life changes your thinking as you age, for both men and women. Like you to this point, I never had children. It has made my life far less complicated, but I also realize those events and experiences I have missed out on being a father. This decision as well as finding a compatible partner make life extremely interesting and challenging. I really enjoy your videos as they make me think about my life and future. Keep up the great work!

[@wanderingdoc5075]

Most legit comment here. Same thing popped into my head after listening to the video and I immediately find your comment

[@legendary8838]

I’m 41 already but I’m open to dating someone maybe a year or two older because they aren’t too much older that they know more than me but if I date younger I don’t want her to be too much younger than we can’t relate on things like music etc. I was three years older than my ex-wife, although we came from different cultural backgrounds. I never really had the opportunity to lead as the older/man in the relationship because her father was always her go to for advice, which, in a way, put a strain on things because she is from Latin America and family is obviously a huge thing in that culture

[@Cooliewhistles]

Cringe

[@demolek22]

Almost all the traditional women are actually taken till they are 35. Thinking that you are able to cheat means that you should not be in this relationship.

[@userkaa0990]

Hello, everyone 👋In my humble opinion, age is mostly interconnected with personal experience. I mean, years don’t exist in the vacuum - at 20 you change in this way, at 30 in that, etc. There might be some patterns but they are probably as vague as the horoscope. We overgeneralise cause we don’t want to experience the same pain/dissatisfaction/you name it. I personally believe that the best relationships can be formed when both people are mature and self-sufficient enough.

[@whitneyrful]

Huh? You’re using Blake Lively’s photo in your thumbnail who is 36 with four kids married to Ryan Reynolds as your 20 year old. Then you change her photo to make her look horrible and degrade the beautiful woman she is at 36. 😂 Guide? How can you guide and when do crappy things like this to degrade a woman. Why would a 20 year old or any woman find this as a good quality in a man who does these things for views? Good leaders do not tear down women and they do not go searching in a specific age bracket when that young woman is still learning about herself and try to convince to conform to his way of life.

[@WheresWes]

Lol chill it's not that deep. I couldn't find a bad pic of her lol

[@helenatube]

I love you for this comment whitney lol. Co-sign completely

[@helenatube]

@@WheresWes It kinda *is* that deep though, because it reflects the core beliefs you hold about the world.

[@micclay]

Don't make the mistake of thinking there will always be loads of younger women willing to hook up with an older guy. Age gaps of more than 5 years carry a social stigma that women are very conscious of in Western countries. Developing countries become more westerized by the day and the old days of 20 somethings linings up for a 50 year old man with resources are coming to an end.

[@WheresWes]

good point bro. I'll probably only date like 10 years younger or something but when I'm 40 I'm gonna be settled down already. No need to be messing with 20 year olds at 40

[@wil_L]

Nah, I think you're incorrect. Age gap relationships are actually becoming more common in the west. Economics in the West are not doing well. Older men tend to have more money. Women are more and more open to sharing men, hence the issue of single younger men becoming more lonely.

[@micclay]

@@wil_L i think you're talking about sugar daddies. There's more honor in hiring a prostitute than lying to yourself that a woman in her prime has genuine desire for a man 2x her age.

[@sonderexpeditions]

20 somethings lining up for 50 year olds wasn't even normal in the 1950s. Millionaires sure. I don't think young women necessarily think about age in and of itself it just seems OLD in general when you're 25 and younger. People are more focused in their age group. Even before social media, young people have been the most ageist. For me it wasn't until I was 27 that 30 didn't seem too old to have romantic interest in. At 22, considering a 30 year old was out of the question. Especially because it's seen as settling down age. Anomalies will always exist though. I had 1 friend in college who liked men 10+ years.

[@micclay]

@@wil_L there is more honor in hiring a working girl than paying a sugar babies bills under the facade of being in a relationship.

[@sonderexpeditions]

I feel like this is a personality thing. Also keep in mind age gaps have highest divorce rates even at only 5-10 years difference so I don't believe that to be a logical reason for a success but more so for failure. It's more so shared values. People who have more in common typically have more success. I agree though as you get older you get more set in your ways. I think you'll find what you're looking for. More so in a 25+ year old. Under that age people aren't looking for something serious. Finally keep in mind to be realistic. So many of the things men seek in a partner can be contradictory. Like wanting someone educated/intelligent or adventurous but also submissive, moldable, etc. Difficult to find in the same person. It's a big world though 😊

[@militur33mind]

We always got an expert chiming in.

[@levismirnoff5450]

The study is from the US. Countries like Nigeria have an average of 10 and have a lower divorce rate.

[@sonderexpeditions]

@@levismirnoff5450 Nigeria is 6 years and most marriages aren't governed by law but traditional so a divorce is hard to document. regardless I Googled countries with highest gaps and almost all were either Muslim dominated and/or African/Middle Eastern countries where women typically have less rights, higher femicide, and divorce is shamed. It's not uncommon for countries with high Muslim populations.

[@chinobonito30]

Usually they are more cooperative. Not sure where you get the idea of other way around.

[@WheresWes]

Def not bro. Maybe in the beginning but older people in general are much more disagreeable.

[@LuisaV-kb8oj]

Wes, I like your video and I respect your thorough viewpoints. I'm a man nearing 50, was married to a Latin lady 2 years younger and it did not work out for a couple of reasons similar to yours. I'm now seeing someone who is 17 years younger. It's going very well however, I hope you consider some things. 49, 32 versus 29 and 24 (hypothetically your future situation). A 24 year old may be what you want physically, intimately, and give you a better opportunity at a leadership role, however, sometimes wisdom is lacking; the know-how to stick it out through the turbulent times. Sometimes the Club and partying is still in their blood, but not in yours. Sometimes too much vanity is a concern, even if it's concealed at first.. Next, you seem to love Latin America. The probability is high that you settle with a Latin American woman. Brother, they don't tend to have lots of kids late in life, period. Especially not 3 or more kids like you desire. And late for having several kids 'begins' around 28 for Latin ladies (merely a reference point, and strictly my opinion, but based on my experience too). Big difference if you only wanted 1 child, but you want 3 or 4. Keep this in mind. However, don't use this to justify going too young because you clearly have other desires and goals too. Lastly, there's nothing wrong with older ladies (slightly older), in your age group, say 31 vs you at 29. You may be surprised to find that you will get the balance you seek. I've dated plenty and also married a Latin woman. Love is where you find it Wes, however, if I had just 3 seconds to make a recommendation, I'd say 3 years younger (26) to 2 years older (31) is probably to optimal age range for you based on your expressed desires. You want maturity, you want the Captain's wheel, you want cohesiveness, and submissiveness, etcetera. Around 28/29 is where you will find it. I hope you take time to think this through before going 'too young'. And yes, I agree that 'too old' is often a problem because they are not going to relinquish control to you and they are absolutely set in their ways. God bless, Wes. Put AND keep God (1st) in all that you do and he will guide you the best!!

[@nekeb5421]

Relationships are based on many more factors than an individual’s age. Honestly, too many ‘experts and coaches’ on KZbin. Ridiculous. Date who you want. Who cares? What works for you doesn’t work for everyone. There is no formula.

[@StoneSteel-zk6vs]

Your age shows... you're talking about having a family, etc... wait until you are like me; 50, recently divorced, kids grown, and looking for women who know who they are and what they want, also with grown or no kids, and the big one... PAST menopause... older women are awesome. Also, you get to see how their genes age... what their real principles are, etc. Your perspective will change, trust me, young grasshopper.

[@singleplayergamerr]

Pretty much your a passport bro

[@BellatorNyc]

Pretty much it makes no sense

[@Chill59190]

At the end of the day... It depends on the individual. I grew up with independent women in my family that kind of do for themselves, however, when they are in a relationship, they never try to make the man do everything, it's more of an equal partnership. I myself don't mind paying for everything but at the same time, I would like the women I'm in a relationship with try not to rely on me for EVERYTHING. Older women you have your pros and cons and at the same time don't let them bully you into something you're not ready for. Technically, if you married your ex wife who's older than you and if she wanted to start having kids... I see nothing wrong with it... But you wasn't ready at the time so basically why marry an older woman? I know there's other issues involved but that's just the general point. Younger women same thing... But you don't want to be the older guy that ends up being the "sugar daddy" lol. Plus a lot of younger women in today's time don't even know how to handle a real relationship and it's nothing but a game. So basically find out what YOU want before you look for that partner you want. Just my humble opinion.

[@fakebrit]

This was well said.

[@j.f.almeida9081]

My problem with older woman is that as the time pass they get more and more emotional. I see it in older couple when usually the men are calmer and their wives is all about drama.

[@levismirnoff5450]

There is no pro to an older woman. It is all bad for men.

[@George-Aguilar]

Don’t mean to be overly critical at all Wes, but some of your requirements are diametrically opposed to each other. Finding a smart intellectual, modern woman may not jive with a obedient traditional thought process.

[@WheresWes]

never said anything about obedience. There are many smart women who believe in more traditional roles too, the world is so diverse.

[@PamphileJonathan]

@@WheresWesThat my friend is an Asian woman. Smart, intellectual and feminine. You won’t find those qualities often in other races. If they do have those qualities, they will be extremely feminists and argumentative.

[@George-Aguilar]

@@WheresWes Your expectations of women seem to hinge on respect, love, admiration and traditional values (deference of leadership towards the man) These values can be found in small rural villages throughout the world. But expecting this woman to be an intellectual, well traveled and share in your cultural background maybe very challenging to find. Modern women have the same hopes, dreams and aspirations that you do… At some point… after dating enough you may find the woman you seek doesn’t exist at all.

[@mrnarason]

@@George-Aguilar yeah, Wes wants a submissive women, but also a learned and open minded women, those things are contradictory

[@Noqqin]

@@George-Aguilar At this point, it just might turn out to be better to be alone than chained to such a modern woman.

[@RKELS69]

Thanks WES.. quick question WES I see all ur videos I'm in medellin can't stand the heat on one of your videos u commented if u dnt have a.c they sell something u can put in the room u in to cool off what is it WES AND wher can I find to buy plz.help bro.! Thanks

[@pieadapter3615]

Long-term relationships with younger women are unstable. It's likely that she'll also grow out if it and won't be as coachable as you think

[@WheresWes]

Depends on the age gap. 29/24 isn't really a big gap

[@Serge-cm5my]

You're not taking cultural and upbringing into account. That shit is more likely to happen in Western Liberal culture.

[@Alexx_950]

​@@Serge-cm5myExactly.

[@ralphgelwicks3679]

I'm with you bro, I just got divorced from an older woman! The divorce was what she wanted! But with all the headaches she gave me I'm glad now and much more relaxed!

[@George-Aguilar]

80% of divorces are initiated by women. We shouldn’t project “ideas” on to women that don’t exist. They make mistakes and are often unrealistic, just like us.

[@oceanearth2243]

Watching your video, an ad for Panama residency just popped up. Fitting because the women are so beautiful there 😮‍💨 the mix of Carribean, Spanish and Latina I worked there in 2001 as a surf guide. It was epic

[@Sa7biUK]

They are ok, not the best LatAm has to offer and tend to be on the more colder/arrogant side as opposed to Brasileiras or Colombianas

[@nweeezy]

facts@@Sa7biUK ....of the Central/South American countries Panama, Argentina, and Bolivia chicks tend to are among the most arrogant and Mexican, Columbian, and Venezuelan being among the most affable...You could include DR in the last group, but DR is like a meat market now, the niceness from females there is akin to the niceness from a salesmen on a car lot

[@sirenesoteric]

Older women have always dragged me through the mud for liking older men. They have literally made fun of me because I value marriage and children, constantly being told that I'm just going to be "used for pleasure" because I'm "new and young" lmao I don't even have sex bro 😭

[@shaynalee]

I’ve dated younger and older men and honestly it boils down to connection and your life arena. I was starting a new job and so was my much younger bf so we were on the same level in that regard. I workout 7 days a week and intermittent fast so have been the same weight since i was 15 year old. There’s a lot we can control but most are too lazy a it is hard work.

[@mjc1583]

If I can sum up this video in one emoji = 🤦🏻‍♂️

[@bodhisattva2348]

To each his own

[@myronbourne6937]

Common redpill W

[@cc-92]

Man Wes you needed an OG to tell you that marriage was gonna be a disaster. 7 years older??? If you had a relationship with your pops back then maybe he would have advised you.

[@WheresWes]

u nailed it. My dad wanted to tell me but my mom told him not to say anything. Probably wouldn't have listened either tbh

[@byron9630]

even his pop told him that, it would have ruined their relationship with his family

[@demolek22]

​@@WheresWessorry, but probably you were in a bad moment do marry to anybody.

[@RaulinRodriguez-gi3by]

Man we have similar stories. I also almost got married when I was younger but then I got a gig in Asia as an English teacher and that indirectly kick started my world-travelling phase. And not getting married really was the best thing that happened to me or else I wouldn't have had all the great experiences globally.

[@yesviews]

I can see where the inspiration came Wes. I noticed the same thing about Polish women

[@dwighthayles1226]

Everything in society,biology, religion or evolution points to the ideal situation being that the man is older and the woman being younger. There are exceptions to the rule however, the majority follow the rule.

[@viajandomundo421]

It's nice seeing Wes grow up online... From the time he was deeply religious in Manizales and kinda judgemental... To the way he's now. What he will be 6 months from now?

[@michaelweston1042]

For me older women were easier to relate to, mentally. While physically young women are most certainly better the majority aren't all that bright. however my experience was the older are more calculating and it turned out to be a disaster due to this.

[@domirican81]

Ummm it’s normal dating younger women since the beginning of civilization. Dating an older woman is an automatic L. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Ali-xh1lw]

amazing video as always ❤. But i would like to know the brand name of your t shirts. Amazing choice ❤❤

[@WheresWes]

Bought this in Vietnam

[@mrgreenelander4952]

Back in the late 90s I remember this woman in my building who was around 32? her boyfriend was like 50? You could tell she was bored to $ as she was still young and wanted to party, and he was just a nice guy who wanted to work and then come home. She would often flirt with me as I was in my late 30s at the time, but I was like no thanks

[@levismirnoff5450]

32 and young lmfao, she is about to enter risky pregnancy territory.

[@D_Roadtrip_Productions]

wait until you wake up in morning at 51 years of age. be attractive to some. very old to many.

[@julienalexander6113]

I feel you on this, man. I'm seeing it now with this female I'm currently talking to now. Well, I've been talking to- on and off for a bit.

[@user-ib5ep7pm2u]

30 is not your peak.

[@reialbz1]

What do you think is the peak age of a man? And what do you think the optimal age gap would be for a relationship?

[@WheresWes]

Probably 35. That's when Kevin Samuels talks about when a man should settle down and consider marriage. No optimal age for relationship, just marriage

[@reialbz1]

@@WheresWes damn what am I gonna do for 15 years

[@reialbz1]

@@WheresWes I see. What I meant though is what should the age gap between a man and a woman be haha So in this case, when I’m 35, what should the age be for a woman I’m marrying in your opinion?

[@nataliaristic9311]

Don’t tell people in Poland you want a lot of kids😂. Not a thing in Poland.

[@yaz5627]

Lol hearing ur experiences are funny cuz I feel we have a lot in common but also very different experiences too. I think its best to find someone around your own age. Maybe a few years younger but just make sure they are forsure mature. I also dont think u should say it would be inevitable to cheat. I feel like you fight with a liberal mindset and conservative one and so do i as a guy who is muslim but grew up in LA the land of haram shit. I hear people say they are down to cheat a lot but thats not the way of God. I know it sounds cringe or cliche but its really not the way to go bcuz too many ppl are down to do that even married ppl i have found super common. It means u dont really respect ur partner if u do that. U really have to just push all that shit aside or sleep around and beat off as much as possible to ur old memories 😂.. eventually u get tired of that shit anyways. I also think its important to recognize that with money in the bank ur self esteem and outlook on life will drastically change so dont try to come up with too many conclusions before having that financial stability but also dont make money the main character. Overall i think its just important to calmly make ur choices in life.

[@genegene6570]

You may "guide" a younger woman for a while. However, in time, and as she gains life experience, your efforts will most likely have been in vain. Respect and accept a person for who they are at the moment, without a plan to "guide" someone.

[@Kristoferwitha_k]

Coach corey wayne. If you know, you know

[@Desireebelveal]

This is awful

[@savagelychill2858]

I like to see your growth. Haven’t watched your videos in a while. I guess the infatuation with Colombia wore off huh?

[@irishock]

Women are at their peak ages 30-35.

[@levismirnoff5450]

No men are. Women peak 18 to late 20s, men late 20s to late 30s.

[@impepenane]

@@levismirnoff5450wtf 18 is like a baby you wirdo

[@allanwatts8361]

i only do dicaprios...meaning id rather rent em up to 25, then trade em in for a newer model

[@magicfire1]

Men peak: 35-45 as long as you keep a healthy lifestyle, hit the gym.

[@brittney701]

Very alarming mindset.

[@WheresWes]

For u maybe

[@telebiopic]

Great perspectives. Also, I think churches are now overacting on old women fenimism ;/

[@jthegreat3627]

Never in my life have I wanted to be with an older women, I've never understood that weird fetish.

[@janellbeach8616]

That first girlfriend, why didn't you just tell her what you were thinking/feeling at that time?

[@WheresWes]

Of course I did

[@stevierayripple]

Ya, I want a woman before she has given’up hope .

[@MRZE506]

brother u are spot on i am the same as u about to hit 30 in sept im successful well of last girl i dated was 27 she was a little to much and i left her in less then 3 weeks i guess the older u get u know exactly what u want wish u the best bro

[@Jonathan-dj3yb]

When I was 25 I fell in love with a 30 year old woman and from my experience you're right. She felt as though because she was older that she was more wiser and should be the one in charge of everything. Also she was very coercive in her desires for a family and marriage etc, I'm trying to figure out if she's what I wanted and barely had any time to really come to those conclusions before the baby talk and marriage talk came up. Her mental time clock really ruined the relationship alongside her unwillingness to follow my leadership entirely due to age even though I'm far more successful than her. I'm 28 now if you were wondering

[@Ninjaseye21]

Haha I literally told you the exact same thing in a video you posted long ago. At least now you know

[@WheresWes]

live and u learn lol

[@mannyc4224]

100% agree with you.

[@nicobic]

Yes the 7y hap explains it ALL.

[@Akingsjourney]

Whold heartedly agree!

[@mrgoodman6620]

While I feel society could possibly benefit from the concept of the church, I have distanced myself from those that go. It doesn't have to be a part of your life to be a good person and things like it becoming a third party in a relationship, having influence without accountability, NO WAY! It's rare in the extreme to obtain anything multi faceted by nature, that match exactly with our personal ideology, but it seems your somewhat steadfast in that goal. Chronology is a deadly enemy of you mindset. Sadly it sounds like your wanting an investment asset more than a partner, which is kinda doomed from the start. I won't judge someone for admitting they might cheat because it suggests they can't or have never known real love.

[@michadybczak4862]

I think you put too much meaning into age. Sure, those generalizations may hold some value, but it can also happen to meet a mature, more responsible younger girl and a stupid, naive older one. Also, the thing about respect has absolutely nothing with age, at least in Polish culture. It's just a matter of personality and upbringing. Usually, there will be areas where you have a say, and other ones, where the girl will have the last world, oftentimes when it comes to home or kids. There will be some fighting over things, pressuring, possible even some yelling (which is fairly common in our culture), but if this is all within certain boundaries and keeps to the heated moments and then quickly ends, so the most of the time it's good (basically a best friend girlfriend), then you have found a relatively sane, balanced relationship. The conception that a girl would respect you because you are an older man seems to be flawed or not looking well for the future, because in that situation, the girl would be still immature and unsure of herself or what she wants. In Polish culture women often have the upper hand in many areas, so on the surface the culture is patriarchal, but when it comes to family, it's often matriarchal. However, it all depends on people, so it is still possible that you will find someone who will fit the role you prefer, and you can play the role you want. My point is, that at least in Poland, the boundaries can mix and depend strongly on person and there is no homogenous cultural patterns, so you may have a bossy or agreeable girl, no matter if she is younger or older than you. It is also possible for you to find a girl open to the prospect of moving to Spain and living there, just saying ;). We Poles, see the south of Europe attractive and exotic, so it's at least not something that many will deny so quickly. Of course, one have to realize that living somewhere is totally different from having vacation there and that each country has its pros and cons. As to the age and the look, it depends strongly on genetics and to some extent on taking care about oneself, but in our family, everyone looks younger and that carries on with time, so at first everyone see you 10 years younger and later 20 years younger. It would be good to look at the mother of the girl, how she holds up, but that may be misleading in some cases if the girl took that after the father, so it depends. So age very well and gracefully, some age badly. It's crazy how different people can look in their 40-50s next to each other. Some look quite attractive and well, while others look like a grandpa or grandma. However, at the end, it's the personality and relationship that matters. I believe with time you will start to prioritize it more over the look or age.

[@lagunacorona]

Also is they work and have a college education good fn luck........I old enough to see patterns that women do not need us anymore.

[@jakubsamoowka7459]

U've became sugardaddy bro

[@mrxiong2567]

Yep, I was wondering why you chose to marry an older woman when you did that.

[@zhangster]

preach brother

[@lucashenriques4242]

i'm 24 she's 27, is it fine?

[@WheresWes]

If it works for u but don't get married until around 30

[@militur33mind]

No it not okay. Break up with her

[@lucashenriques4242]

@@militur33mind Why?

[@RenanMendes-zd8hj]

3 years old of difference is not a lot, you are practically in the same gen, have some cultural references from your gen, etc, however, if she doesn't see you as the authority, if she thinks she knows more than you because she is older, run away

[@TshepoMokoena-my6fr]

He's just jealous bro.Don't follow hater's instructions.Just believe in yourself and follow your dream.​@@lucashenriques4242

[@ericterry6042]

I always hear men say they want a traditional woman, but what tradition are they talking about. I personally don’t think a relationship with a wide age margin is going to work long term

[@thesilversurfer1071]

If the guy is older and the woman is younger it will work. I see it all the time and thats how most relationships are. Women mature mentally faster so they are at a good spot mentally to be with an older man. A man there age would only be good for physical stamina in intimacy but some older men have that too

[@Sa7biUK]

@ericterry6042 - thats a Blue Pill worldview. You need to unplug and get with it, in many cultures across the world the man is older than the woman by a wide age margin and the relationships work. Once the west collapses and Daddy Government is no longer able to keep feeding cake to these women, you'll see the return of relationships with wide age gaps

[@sonderexpeditions]

​@@thesilversurfer1071 statistically that's not true though. Age gaps have THE highest rates of divorce. A gap of 10 years already increases chances of divorce by 39%. A lot of men ignore this known statistic because young women are beautiful and less experienced. People choose their own anecdotes to justify age gaps which is fine bc love is love and at the end of the day many do survive just less than those with smaller or no gaps.

[@ericterry6042]

@@sonderexpeditions I was just about to say the same thing

[@levismirnoff5450]

@@ericterry6042 American study. Meanwhile Nigeria 10 year average age difference and lower divorce rate.

[@oceanearth2243]

Twenty year age gap is the answer to spicing up your life ! Who can deny that a fruit is sweeter when it’s ripe

[@WheresWes]

ehhh idk if I'd go as far as 20, I think 10 may be my max

[@Jay-tm7dl]

@@WheresWesShe’d be 9 yrs old. Of course you wouldn’t go 20 years younger. 🤦🏽‍♂️

[@sirenesoteric]

Thank you so much for this insight. I am 19 and only really attracted to men 28-38 and I really appreciated the points you've made today. I will try to avoid those behaviours you've mentioned in older women as I age.

[@WheresWes]

You're not alone! I noticed now more than ever I'm getting tons of attention from women 18-21, I think it's quite normal in many places in the world.

[@JW0121]

@@WheresWesI think its flipped in UK because my friend at the club approached a chick and they were dancing and stuff, then when she asked how old he was , he said 26 and she freaked out and not into him. But alot of these girls are the party degenerate types so maybe thats why

[@graysonguice5956]

I'm tired of modern women in general, the ghosting, the bullshit, the feminism. I'm over it

[@lagunacorona]

Don't date any woman until you have your OWN house and stable career....and you have financial means that are not detrimental..... honestly you better live and work close by.....I cannot tell you how hard it is otherwise along with their family liking you.

[@lushlifewithlauren]

Sad day for the 30 yo’s 😭😭😭 love your videos though 👍🏼👍🏼

[@WheresWes]

[@Nomad_Tatar]

I'm 30 years old and my Colombian gf is 20.I dated younger and older women throughout my entire life and my biggest lesson from here is that older women expecially after 27 are brainwashed with this feminist ideology where individualism and 'ME' culture rules their life,and unfortunatly most of them carry a heavy bag from past relationships.They tend to be more mature and understandible some times but for a longterm perspective it is difficult to coorperate with those women.Dating a women that has turned 20 years brings lot of joy and as a men that focuses on masculine and feminie energy , you can truly feel the precense of the femininity in a younger women.She will do her best to make you feel like a man and makes you feel confortable,offcourse you need to take the lead in the house and grant her love and safety.The less pleasant part is that the younger women has less experience in life where deep conversations might be limited and you as a man need to take the lead and teach your women how to do and not.

[@redwarrior312]

I mean why would you date an older woman, older women tend to be more arguementive and very quarrelsome no benefit dating them at all plus they have developed masculine traits , why would you date someone older who expects them to "handle them". As a man i wouldn't wanna handle a woman who's quarrelsome and has masculine traits life as a man is very stressful as it is

[@AhmedAhmed-uj2dq]

Not to mention, most older women really don't want younger men.

[@WheresWes]

A lot do actually, esp if the younger man is ambitious

[@JorgeFernandez-qm5hi]

Mormon.

[@zdravo2247]

Im 25 and just want 18-20yo girls

[@Stezworld]

Been watching some channels similar to the topic in this video. From what I seen when women hit 30 is when they start hitting the wall. Im not sure but seems like many single older women are are starting to wake up from reality. Is like they just got a brick thrown at them and many are crying they may stay single forever or no men are looking at them.

[@helenatube]

This comment is the definition of incel

[@matthewbaumann630]

I'm with you.

[@mmfong297]

Me at early 40s but looking like early 30s, dating someone at my age or older is worst than dating a young single mom. Majority of women at 40s lose their femineity, and often times, they are bossy bc of their knowledge, occupation, work or parenting experience. Those women should be dating guys in their 50-60s, but some couldn't face that reality, so they'll just end up with cats and crying in TikTok. Tho I wouldn't mind to hook up with them, but dating.. no gracias! And tell me why someone at 30s who is looking to start a fam would want to date a woman who passed their prime, can't or at risk to have children, and possibly being bossy to you?

[@nicobic]

Had been 7y. Older then her, she would have approved to your decisions . 15y.o. shed bowed to you. In Colombiu that is

[@AlexTiger19]

I agree 💯 It's just the biologics, mostly men stay longer young than women

[@adrianazollo2688]

lol

[@user-dk3up2nl1m]

Trust me...the older a man gets..the younger the woman he wants! Im 46 and my fiance is 28! Perfect for me! The youngest i dated was 20yr old...and her 20yr old friend! Lol true! I say all that because i was married once to someone 5yrs older than me. They're a hassle a headache and not worth it! Older woman try to be the man and thats the problem! Living with my ex was so bad and be-littling...that i cheated on her with my female barber and was glad i did!

[@M_US_W]

Do not be foolish! many men your age are obese and neglected. Women take care of themselves, that’s why they look younger than their male counterparts . She wanted you because you are financially stable and she will take advantage of that.

[@M_US_W]

Don't be foolish! a bunch of men your age are obese and neglected. Women take care of themselves, that’s why they look younger than their male counterparts . She wanted you because you were financially stable….., she will take advantage of that.

[@levismirnoff5450]

IDK man I don't think cheating is ever ok. Just tell them their behavior is unacceptable to you and if there is no change end the relationship. I agree on the younger woman part though

[@levismirnoff5450]

@@M_US_W No you don't. Getting another lip filler is not taking care of yourself. Western women look the worst by far and seething comments like this contribute to that. Hate makes ugly.

[@officialkoby]

The situation with your ex-wife is exactly what is happening in the west, men take on ALL of the responsibility but have ZERO authority, which is slavery, the women either belong to the government, the church, or outside entities. At the end of the day men lead, women follow, tough times destroy women, tough times make men, a man with age and experience is positioned to teach and cultivate a woman with little to no life experience. Every time things happen out of this order, it will create chaos and will not work, it goes against the natural order of life, which is why relationships in the west are failing miserably long term and every country that adopts a western mindset in relationships also fails, because in reality they are going against God's order for men and women.

[@impepenane]

so much overgeneralization and oversimplification in this text, my head hurts. if you look at life through this lens you will become more and more frustrated, I guarantee you. And I am not refering to your exact opinion, it is generally a bad idea to overgeneralize so much. You act the same way as for example crazy feminists.

[@magorzatab363]

Nothing good about 'tough times' and theoretical snowflakes from the comfortable countries have no idea what they're talking about. Tough times make tough people *no matter the gender*. We're very straightforward, family-oriented and down-to-earth in Poland because of history. In the most 'hard times', many men died in wars and many more later tried to drown their traumas in alcohol, while women carried the load despite their own gruesome traumas. Two maniacal armies destroyed those lands, stole everything they could and created generational traumas which take time to heal. Family and friends were the only good value in life though they could also be easily taken away from you. Our (grand)mothers and (grand)fathers both worked extremely hard to get us to the prosperity we have now. You saying that those times make tough men and weak women says it all - you know nothing, Jon Snow.

[@dominichoward4833]

No shade but your ex definitely wanted someone she thought she could manipulate and lead. Glad you walked away from that and decided to move on your own terms.

[@toddhigg]

Older women are great for practice. Nothing more.

[@JG638]

Older men almost ALWAYS want a younger woman. Why would any man ever want an older woman ? Unless she’s a sugar mama 😂

[@nicobic]

Ok, I'm connecting the dots with others vids of yours. 7y.older and yet you were the provider and basically never get to see her bc working 12-hr shift on top of going to the church. You had the worst of both worlds. Divorce was ultimately the only logical decision. And btw, 100% dont date older women . Still half of the vid to listen...