why i’m no longer afraid to cut friends off! trust issues & lack of boundaries.

[@saffs001]

Aww girl 😢 I find that people who’ve experienced trauma struggle with boundaries cos their tolerance is so high/they’re just used to letting things fly and being numb to a lot. You got this❤️

[@talkswithhelena]

Omg this is it, I need to work on it because I’m too grown to be feeling like this😭

[@br0broe436]

I see your point. Your friends don't respect you and see that you have low self esteem so they thrive on that. Get rid of them, focus on yourself and transform your life. make new friends that are positive that actually like you

[@talkswithhelena]

These are friends from the past but I hear you 💯

[@kayvee-u4j]

You're not alone. You're probably empathic and it can be easy to be a people pleaser. What people dont realize is yes people pleasers seem "nice" but because our niceness is often at the expense of our lack of boundaries or the confidence to enforece them, we turn to be resentful hence we blow up when we have reached our limit. Ive experienced being dimissed by the infamous "it is not that deep" like from my flacky cousin who loves bombs me when she is single but when she is in a relationship she dissapears. I've also been given the silent treatment by an ex roommate of mine who is a covert narcissist. But that siatuation was the wake up call for me to be more firm and confident coz people pleasing pleased everyond but me. Now i'd rather be respected than liked, fuck being liked.

[@dynogamergurl]

Yeah the people that dismiss your feelings are not good friends. I’ve cut people off when they repeatedly disrespect me. I have to say I’m still far more lenient and give people more than 3 chances. Some people don’t even deserve that. You do what’s best for you

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you!

[@21tklove]

Skin is glowing hunny

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank youu x

[@dynogamergurl]

Also you’re not “too sensitive” you’ve been abused by narcissists and gaslit into thinking you’re the problem. It’s not you it really isn’t.❤❤

[@M_Kru]

I like listening to your opinions and stories! ❤

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank youu❤️❤️

[@MeatloafCreep]

Im almost 30 and can't keep friends because they end up just dumping on me, and it gets overwhelming so I ghost. Or their character is sketchy. Like they enjoy being in an abusive relationship but they cry when they are in a fight. I tried to be friends with an older women once n i seen her driving away and she threw out a McDonald's bag out on the highway. She was a litter bug! I couldn't be her friend. Im just thinking solitude is for me. I miss having girl friends but everybody seems so selfish. Im selfish too dont get me wrong but idk I don't know how to be a friend. Im just scared of everyones intentions. I grew up in an abusive household and so i "watch" people alot. I see bad in alot of people and they are nice to your face but they shit talk literally everybody else, and its like why are they nice to me? Im very suspicious.

[@talkswithhelena]

Omgggg everything you said I can relate to, it’s crazy. But you have to protect your peace!

[@MeatloafCreep]

Exactly, These people are really trying these days as an adult. I'm glad that I don't feel that pressure to stay friends with anybody tho. I've subscribed to your channel too! Ur video was so good n ur skin is glowing❤ can't wait to see more content from you! ​@@talkswithhelena

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you so much❤️❤️

[@notyet3dna]

5:30 and she said ''NO''??? LMFAO the audacity of those girls lol Glad u stood up for yourself back then xx

[@talkswithhelena]

Honestlyyy

[@sihamel5721]

First of all, I subscribed as soon as you started singing. Second of all, are you a capricorn? Or an ENFP? 👀

[@talkswithhelena]

Thank you😂❤️ I don’t believe in star signs but I’m a cancer

[@menmanom]

same, i only have 4 and theyre my family members, parents and 2 brothers... thats it

[@xikrx5951]

Your reply to "If it was that deep, you'd have mentioned it at the time", might go something like "Well, if it had been trivial, I'd have mentioned it then, but I thought I'd better calm down a bit first", obviously toned down and using your words if you get my point?

[@talkswithhelena]

Elaborate

[@renemae8601]

Honest question, do you find it easier to make friends with men more than women. Or do you think it’s equally difficult to let go or make new friends with them?

[@talkswithhelena]

Me personally I struggle to make friends with men also due to trauma as well, so I wouldn’t know how to answer that.