Why I ran away from Indonesia for being gay (and how I did it)

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I talk about my struggles with growing up gay in Indonesia and how I planned my escape in order to be free. I also touch on lgbt issues in kids growing up in religious households. I honestly don't think I would still be here if I didn't do what I did back then... I regret how I did it but at the time, it truly was survival for me.
Also I keep saying in the video that I moved to NY in 2016 but it was actually 2014 so just keep that in mind lol
I wanted to be transparent with you guys for my first video on this channel, it felt like I wouldn't be doing you guys justice by uploading a "cute" couple vlog. Hopefully this video will clarify whatever questions you have about me or my life. I did not disclose a lot of details about what exactly happened with my family because I didn't make this video to spite them, I would like to have a relationship with them in the future.
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Yos' Instagram - / yoscw
Max's Instagram - / versusxiii

[@miumithea]

such a deep voice for such a small guy. lovely. edit: guys, 2k? really?

[@stephenng53]

LOL right???

[@lizakawgaz9563]

Avan kpop kuy

[@lizakawgaz9563]

کوی ئەلحوشتر😂😂😂

[@avankpop1455]

لیزااا کوی ژنی سیهونی

[@avankpop1455]

@@lizakawgaz9563 کچی بەحەی پێم بڵێ ژنی جیمینی

[@maggieryan9047]

Yos, your story breaks my heart! I am a 73 year old American Mom/Grandmother. My oldest son and my oldest grandson are both gay. I have NEVER had a problem with this! I love them, I love their friends and partners as if they were my own. Please know that you and Max have my love and acceptance, as well! Much love, warm hugs, many blessings! ❤

[@ganyusatier398]

amin ❤✨

[@Orxy]

Amen❤️😭

[@ilikelechocobar1220]

You are so nice

[@jungkooksbananamilk3815]

You are the sweetest person ❤

[@ohmahlawdjocelyn1876]

Ok now that was adorable💖

[@jesslim8454]

As a mother, my heart breaks hearing your story. You are so strong and I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all of that but so glad that you can now be yourself.

[@sisisiti9]

God never sleeps, mother. We don't know what people have done in their lives

[@medenaandrada4903]

I am mom. And I want to tell you that I'm so sorry for everything you went through telling the truth to your family. I wish you to be happy and healthy to live with your husband ❤

[@reveranttangent1771]

My sympathies, I haven't spoken to my family for 16 years.

[@reveranttangent1771]

@Franzlazy Ramos thank you

[@reveranttangent1771]

@haley thank you

[@guragura9194]

@iori1391 they need forgive them for what? for they been homophobe and abandoned for that? they have to recover their forgiveness

[@delightfulblueberries7405]

Hey buddy it must be hard but I'm fucking sure you have friends who love you an care about you so so much. Hope your life's great man.

[@reveranttangent1771]

@Lil RE most of us love our families, but, as the song says, "sometimes love, it just ain't enough."

[@CL-ke2hf]

I’m not surprised that his family reacted the way they did. Indonesians can be judgmental and I come from an Indonesian family. So I completely understand what he’s going through

[@hoyeonsgf8371]

Same here in malaysia and im not planning to coming out anytime soon,,im so scared

[@yashpangti]

Not only Philippines but most of the Asians.

[@pukakeneki905]

Yash Pangti Is Thailand an exception? correct me if I’m wrong

[@lilyamethyst844]

Puka Keneki not really I guess... i mean they’re still asians and A LOT of asian parents are against the lgbt community

[@yanahpasha5064]

Saya bukan pedukung LGBT, tp bukan brarti saya tidak menghargai pilihan orang.

[@thisisnotkento]

Filipino-thai gay here! I know it's hard to be gay in a Muslim majority country, but to all the Indonesian gays out there, I hope y'all are still doing well. Love y'all 😘

[@adrianwakeisland4710]

That's because of the sexual hypocrisy of the society in general of the muslim majority countries like indonesia. If not because of their sexual hypocrisy, sama sex marriage was already very strictly legal in all of indonesia, at all until now, since the indonesian independence.

[@petrusariawan2556]

But he is not muslim. He and family are christian

[@Park-zv2gc]

​@@petrusariawan2556that is, max's country of origin is a country with a majority Muslim population

[@alvoryou]

@@petrusariawan2556 who said he is muslim?

[@bmje6638]

المشكلة ليس الإسلام فقط بالرغم من اني مسلمة عربية و لكن كل الإنسان يمتلك عقل يعرف بأن المثلية جريمة ...كما أنها جريمة اخلاقية راجعو انفسكم الحياة قصيرة جدا و لا يعلم الانسان متى يواجة ربة الله العظيم مالك الملك

[@mangoes4447]

I just found this video now but you are honestly so strong dude, and to anyone else going through this you are also so so amazing. Stay strong my friends it’s a tough world out there but remember that your not alone and you never will be even if it feels like it’s hopeless. Love to everyone that’s reading this rn

[@patriciaross5442]

Dear Yos, as a great grandmother of 78, my oldest son is trans. Your story broke my heart. I’ll never get to New York, or wherever you two are, so please consider this as a giant hug for you. Many blessings to you both and continued success. 🙏 grams

[@ilikelechocobar1220]

You sound like a kind lady!

[@fraciaondari1571]

Your so understanding ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@halewich]

You have a good heart Ms. Ross. Hugs to you as well.

[@tossapixeltoyournoelle]

As a trans who is stuck in a home who doesn’t wanna love me and support me, this means alot. Thank you. ❤️ update: I finally runaway from home. I'm surviving for now but my dream to be in a country where the laws aren't so against people of the LGBT+. 05/02/2021

[@mariselaquevedo8598]

@@ilikelechocobar1220 .

[@26152B]

his face is literally this emoji 🥺

[@Lola-ui2zf]

Yeah,u are so right.He is so cute

[@sarapraisy3024]

He is so cute and innocent . I didnt expect that voice from this little body .

[@universe3331]

Looks like anime ☺️

[@luhlinni]

That’s so cuteeee🥰

[@aloevera1269]

SO CUTE

[@girlnextdoor0703]

You’re such a survivor. You flourished despite everything and you’re amazing.

[@phuonganhtrinh3252]

this is really hurt to watch, the way you go through everything is incredible. Hope you'll be happy forever

[@jennyliao9915]

I’m actually bi, living in Taiwan. Even though it’s legal for gay couple to get marry in Taiwan, my parents are still homophobic. It’s really hurt that every time my parents say “I’m not homophobic, but I don’t want my children to be a gay.” As one of the victim, I just want to give you a huge hug and tell you how amazing you are. Take care.

[@YukiTheOkami]

many parents actually feel that way and are not homophobic not really they are just worred they think if you were straigt wou would be happier and you would have a much easyer life try to ask them calmly what they exactly feel and then you might can explain to them that you yust cant choose who to fall in love with and that you dont care if its a little harder as long as your heart feels as peace just dont yell at them and remember especially bi sexuality is not proper unerstood even by the lgbt comunity so for real just ask them what exactly they are worried about when i outet my self as a trans guy (female to male) my father a little shoked but not cause he was disguisted or anything he asked him self if he raised me wrong (i was raised kinda gender neutral) or if it is cause i dont had a mother and all and he was worred about the operations and all that or that i would change as a human and i really neddet to ask him again and again to figure all that out

[@alanaadams1330]

And it’s really so sad that many parents are actually like that with their children, and then claim to not be homophobic but literally disown and ignore their children’s sexuality because they don’t want it to be their child.

[@iliveonatropicalisland6086]

Taiwanese pansexual here! We can do this, taiwan is getting more tolerant! 💪

[@chainedsilent6255]

I’m not Taiwan or gay but it just reminds me of one of my favorite Tawainese actors, Aaron Yan who’s also gay. All I gotta say is your parents brought you up and you can love them for it, but at the end of the day live for you and love for you. Just do what makes you happy lol

[@yxhhuang3362]

I’m also from Taiwan and I’m greatful that my parents accepted me and when I told them I litterly cried but my dad just laughed and said it’s nothing to cry about, and I did tell my friends about it but they actually supported me and when I saw the person I liked they would always support me

[@svnkm1894]

Being a gay/lesbian in asian country is not fun at all...

[@jesamor2509]

well not really in the Philippines .. gays are like the most fun people .. they often make people happy

[@jyu6977]

Except in Thailand :v they r already acceptinh

[@maggiezhang701]

china is fine

[@Noa......]

Thailand and Taiwan are more accepting countries.

[@Noa......]

@@maggiezhang701 Nope.

[@Alre]

these kind of videos actaully gives me some sense of hope 🥺 it's nice to see that some people can get out of that kind of environment or situation, and it's harder at some places, but at least there's a chance that one day, everything'll become better for all of us!

[@gisellealvesandrade1080]

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of this. It's really sad for a person to have to be what they are not. You were very brave to fight for your dreams and your freedom. Congratulations on your initiative. I pray today that you are very happy and that no person in the world has to run away to be happy. I send my love, my solidarity and a big hug to you from Brazil. You are in my heart. ❤️ 🇧🇷

[@tasyanadiah1874]

Wtf he is really Indonesian? I thought he was Korean or Japan... i still can't beleive 😱

[@jedyzanya.officiel]

tasya nadiah me too. Haha.

[@stevan3271]

Heloo baby... hahaha... still asia looks jepang and korea and indonesia and philipins and thailand.... looks like asian boy... hahahaha

[@angelicayori8893]

tasya nadiah hhh me look this same Japan 🇯🇵

[@strawberryshake6176]

Highly likely that he is an Indonesian born chinese

[@clarisarismawati4547]

Me too, he has that japan looks lol

[@intanmunir3194]

Family: Trying to lock him and make him go through a conversion therapy.. Yos: Yeah.. Im gonna do whats called a pro-gamer move.

[@dragulia_venaro]

is he a gamer?

[@deanchezyajudisthira7478]

Yea... its... big brain time... 🌚👌

[@allhailnamjesus9052]

No no no no... Pro gaymer move...

[@tino8850]

@@allhailnamjesus9052 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@supershepherd]

@@dragulia_venaro No, it's a joke about how he tricked his fam to get to the US.

[@anymontero6243]

Eres una persona muy fuerte ❤️ sigues siendo tu , una persona normal que puede amar llorar , sentir felicidad y mucho más te deseo lo mejor ✨

[@Juan79arg]

Respect and admiration. You're a very brave gay man. Although we are in 2020's this stories repeat over and over. Thanks for sharing and hope you can inspire other to be true to themselves.

[@marieamiss2743]

Listening to your story of what happened to you when your family found out you are gay broke my heart and I cried. I was raised as a Catholic, going to church every Sunday and holy days, attending a Catholic school and my mum was an old fashioned Catholic Irish woman. When she died I was 25 and that's when I stopped going to church. I have 2 beautiful children, daughter and son out of wedlock and I raised them with the help from my brothers and sister as a single parent. My son came out to me about 6 years ago, we were walking along the road we live on and I was so proud of him that I hugged him and told him how much I love him. I still say I love him everyday and how much I'm proud of him. He's my beautiful boy and so are you ❤️ I hope one day your family will say they're sorry for what they did to you and that they were wrong to do what they did to you. I know my mum would have loved my son for being gay because she knew that my brother was gay before she died. If I could I would hug you and say I love you and I'm proud of you for being you 🥰❤️ sorry I prattled on 🥴

[@jacklinebinamungu4865]

You are such amazing and understanding human being😉

[@leawilliams7596]

😍😍

[@marieamiss2743]

Thank you for your kind words ❤️

[@ninalyubov9575]

❤

[@imelda6488]

Or one day he will say his sorry for what he did to his family and that he were wrong to do what he did to his family. Will see

[@vendwinas.r5938]

I'm an Indonesian and... Indonesian people are really that scary about sexual orientation. BUT THE ONE I REALIZED THAT YOU'RE SO BRAVE AND I'M SO PROUD OF YOU. Makasih sudah bercerita tentang semuanya 💚💚

[@yongyash9205]

Kebanyakan di anggap penyakit kalau punya orientasi seksual yg berbeda🤦🏻‍♀️

[@rasyadahhalimah2706]

@@yongyash9205 memang penyakit

[@rasyadahhalimah2706]

@@yongyash9205 tanya saja k psikiater dan ingat juga kisah umatnya nabi luth yg diazab oleh Allah.

[@nnd2703]

@@rasyadahhalimah2706 lgbtq itu bukam penyakit, sudah ada study nya

[@sarifatonah1033]

kaum jahiliyah pun menyebar Astagfirallah , dimna Masa kebodohan manusia datang

[@kirisaky1]

Hi, I discovered your channel a few days ago and I just watched this video and I don't have any words that could be strong enough to tell you how strong and courageous I think you are to have gone through all this. I can't imagine what it feels like to have your own family reject who you are and to have to make a new life in another country. Today you are lucky to have Max by your side and you really deserve all this happiness. Never forget to be proud of yourself.

[@vuiteau]

You're so brave! As an Indonesian, this is an absolute heart breaking situation. I'm also gay and my social environments are homophobic. This is a very tough challenge to deal with.

[@adrianwakeisland4710]

No wonder why indonesia deserved to be disrespected and punished by azab like what happened in aceh at dec. 26, 2004 and donggala at sept. 28, 2018 because of homophobic attitude of indonesians.

[@vuiteau]

@@adrianwakeisland4710 I would say it's not azab, but it's a natural phenomenon. It's just happened by nature. Bc, no one deserved that type of punishment, if you believe in God. Yes, homophobic act is horrible and wrong. I really hope people learn and understand of the nature of homosexual.

[@adrianwakeisland4710]

@@vuiteau ikr. But the judgemental indonesians keep insisting lgbt like yos deserved to be hit by azab coz they are deviant. If we based on your logic, what happened in pompeii is not azab actually.

[@AlfariziZakaria]

I know how you feel, i'm divergent too but living in here its something more difficult for me.. indo susah mau menerima orang2 kek kita bang,, mereka akan bawa2 agama dan mengazab kita, sedih banget gak si padahal kitanya juga gak mau dilahirkan kek gini.. but saya sekarang sudah berdamai dengan diri sendiri menggap ini its something special gift from god...

[@adrianwakeisland4710]

@@AlfariziZakaria lihat apa terjadi di indonesia. Indonesia pantas banget sih diazab seperti apa yg terjadi di aceh di des. 26, 2004, padang di sept. 28, 2009, donggala dengan palu di sept. 28, 2018 dan stadium kanjuruhan di okt. 1, 2022. Kebanyakan yg korban yg ditewas azab di semua kota2x/tempat2x homofobik yg ku sebut mendukung lgbt dan pernikahan sesama jenis kelamin di indonesia?

[@radhiyahf1762]

Damn I'm from Indonesia and I know exactly stereotype of being gay in here. I'm so sorry for your terrible time back then, but you went through it and I'm so proud of you, you're amazing and I'm glad you did it. Just wanted you to know that I always support you from here. Can't wait to see your vlog that coming. Last I'm so sorry for my poor English 🙏

[@chouxcream13]

"if you're gay, it means you're sick af" They treat LGBT people like sick people tho? Religiously dangerous country

[@jeonriri2307]

Kasih subina ny kek, aku ga ngrtii:(

[@lol-fh6rp]

I'm indonesian and i'm really grateful that my friends accept me for being myself (i'm bisexual) even though my parents are really conservative i really can't imagine if my friends didn't accept me i think i won't even be here anymore...

[@onisetiawan533]

@@chouxcream13 I agreed, what I hate more is when they said "LGBT+ was sinners" In my deep down inside of me, I really want to slap them very hard -,-

[@dragonboimmdvideos]

same here. oh my god this is such my life goal... im so glad someone actually did it before me, it's such a powerful motivation for me 😭 wish me best of luck so i will also be able to do the same🌈

[@bsb8899]

I understand all about the topic, but... I really like his voice

[@lovethelove3]

Same idk it’s very relaxing to me

[@rafaelfactor120]

Me too it's so soothing

[@mayradougherty2501]

To me as a mother of 3 sons and 2 grand sons. He is so cute/ beautiful in a way 🌻

[@lovethelove3]

@@mayradougherty2501 mhm

[@khateninabequilla9513]

go for it...that what makes you happy...😊

[@cynthiadillon6759]

Your story is truly a touching one. Unfortunately your DNA can never be changed .You are who You are .I'm so glad you had a friend who was able to help you . Live your life proud and enjoy it with your beautiful husband.. ( For those who have to hide there identity ,I hope you can remain strong ! I hope you too can find someone who can be by your side.. ) Lots of love to all of you ..❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@cherylbatiste3817]

I’m a mother and three years ago my daughter came out as bisexual. I have no problem with it, but she didn’t tell me first. I always told my kids I would support them and love them no matter what. When parents love their kids, it should be no matter what. As long as they are happy and not getting hurt. I’m glad that you are living your life the way you want to.❤️

[@kuro16fxa35]

So actually one of my friends couple of days ago confessed that he was gay, I was supportive because if you want to love someone it doesn't matter what gender you are, if you're happy that's all that matters.

[@MaxYos]

Awe 😢 lots of love to u and ur friend

[@kuro16fxa35]

Thk we appreciate it 🥰, lots of love for you and your partner as well😘

[@uzairahmed7885]

@@kuro16fxa35 .., Best wishes for your friend, I'm still hiding myself from myself but one day I think I'll accept it ,,,

[@muhammadmuhaiminhisham7387]

Peace be upon you, as a human beings who has been blessed with a feelings together with a good nature, you definitely need to listen to me, I just want to say that:- If you got anyone in your life that ever said to you as for example ''how did it come to this?'' in the unkind ways, you know what I mean. This is what you tell them, you look at straight into their eyes and you saying: 1. Religion is about Peace and Mercy of God. 2. Either we're good person or we're the type of a person who put a barriers, why should there need to be a barriers to loves between one another. 3. Nobody should ever feel belittled for whoever they love. 4. I believe that God will please, and embraces with ours' kind and loving spirits. 5. Whenever you come close to God, He will never judge you by your sexual desire, He will judges and look at you, based on what kind of people you are.

[@jeyales4664]

We appreciate it !Lots of love ❤❤

[@blueeeyore2106]

I am gay and I live in southeast asia, I've dealt with conversion theraphy at my school and even a priest tried to change me whatsoever when I was only 12/13 and it was the darkest years of my life, and it still destroys me everyday, please wish the best for me to get out of this situation and move out. 🥺

[@tufan4230]

don't ever forget that you are not alone in this journey. i like to hear I'm not alone because it shows me that there are lives that are similar to mine. everything is going to be okay. hold on to yourself and your heart.

[@vincentbocil8880]

Fpi otw gruduk

[@IAMASELENATOR92]

I pray that you find freedom

[@bruuuuuuuh911]

Pertanyaan skg, lu mau berubah apa kgk?

[@AyuAdel214]

Hey, youre so strong, i wish you well, everyone deserves happiness

[@mariheartfilia3973]

Escuchar por todo lo que pasó Yos duele 😭 Pero ahora es feliz junto con la persona que ama espero y duren para siempre 💕 Gracias por contarnos tu historia, siempre estaremos acá para apoyarte 💚 saludos desde Costa Rica 🇨🇷

[@Justjyp27]

As a gay half Thai-Taiwanese I’ve lived in the Thailand 3/4 of my life. Fortunately, my family is quite open-mindful I think I am very lucky after watch this video and your story is so sad and touched af 😢. STAY STRONG 💪 AND JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE ❤

[@springday8732]

not only Indonesia bro... This is the real truth of most of asian countries ...

[@pandjela05]

not just asia, europe tooo im from contry on balkan, Serbia and its same too ,my mother told me that she would ,,kill herself" if me or my brother are gay/lesbian soo i guess i will never thold her the truth. Ther is a lot of demonstration in past few years in my contry for leting lgbtq+ get meried and adopt kid, buth there is no point Serbia is a roten mentality contry and for not-streight pesrson normal life wll never be normal. My gf and i are planing to go to canada after university and get meried if oure relationship work till that day

[@diannenavas]

Not just indonesia or europe its every where in the world there is a legal case here in the u.s going on right now that is trying to pass a law where lesbians/gays wont be allowed to adopt kids

[@springday8732]

I hate this bloody homophobic world.

[@kobo-kanaeru]

*thailand?

[@finnahsesay]

May be other countries are better In African countries no

[@hugecake4178]

I'm gay, Malaysian-Indonesian, and has been living with my boyfriend in Indonesia for almost 7 years. I haven't come out to anyone. Nobody even suspected me & boyfriend are gays. We never have any idea to come out to anyone else, even to our family, and didnt see the need for it. We're quite happy with our situation right now. Just some view from me to everyone, if you think coming out isnt that important, dont do it. Especially when you think that the negative impacts will be much greater than the positive ones. Its your sexuality, your private matters, no need to share with everybody if you think they wont accept it.

[@ninalyubov9575]

❤

[@ravina6686]

It's important to make sure you're safe above all else. But just in case they find out one day, please have a plan to stay safe!

[@hugecake4178]

@@ravina6686 yeah, we haven't think much about that. Our only exit option that we always talk about is moving to Thailand. I hope nothing drastic will happen if anybody found out. The thing is, my partner's family will be much more accepting of our situation, and it'll be quite different with my family. I hope it just in my head and they'll accept it too. Happy pride month anyways for all who celebrate it 😇😇😇

[@queengreentea8149]

How you guys doin'? Is everything okay so far?

[@hugecake4178]

@@queengreentea8149 everything is still ok so far, nobody ever suspected anything, or showing their suspicion and start digging into our life. We're quite private about our relationship, not too much PDA, just going out together when hanging out with other friends and taking holiday just when there're other people too. We always celebrate every special occasions such as our anniversary, or each other's birthday just the two of us in our place. Usually doing something romantic like candle light dinner or doing naughty things 😉😉😉

[@LuciferMorningstar-zu1ud]

My boyfriend lives in Jakarta and he tells me he has to be careful with being a gay man. He's miserable being in the closet. I absolutely applaud you and your bravery!! And you're absolutely GORGEOUS OMG!!! YOU'RE GORGEOUS

[@benjib284]

The only way you can be happy is being who you are. As a gay man ♂️ I struggle with my own sexuality but once I came out I was love, accepted and proud. So don't let no one stop you go out there and be happy and enjoy life. 🌈🇵🇷❤️😘👍💯

[@ChristinPedrosa]

I’m an Indonesian, a christian, straight. But whenever my church starts talking about praying for LGBTQ and its conversion, I feel uncomfortable. It is written in the Bible that the most important is LOVE. So I will support LOVE no matter if it’s straight or gay. 🙃 To all my LGBTQ friends out there, be strong ❤️

[@eywa9711]

sama aja lo mempermainkan tuhan udah dilarang malah ngelanggar

[@nianugroho]

@@eywa9711 Tuhan kan katanya Maha Pemaaf, jadi bisa aja dong dia memaafkan orang yang berbeda dari norma yang ada. Ngga usah sewot, nanti kena stroke.

[@yosaal-assad3946]

@@nianugroho lha terus gunanya Tuhan ciptain hukum agar tidak berzina tu apa blok

[@Ohm_Gulf_Gang]

I am a Christian too and I hate how much the Christians are unaccepting of LGBTQA people!!

[@nianugroho]

@@yosaal-assad3946 ya tanya aja ama Tuhan. Nggak usah goblok-goblokin orang. Kalo situ mau ikut ajaran agama, ya silakan. Nggak usah menghakimi orang yang gak mau ikut ajaran agama. Belum tentu yang dianggap dosa, ngga diampuni Tuhan. Kan Tuhan Maha Pemaaf. Luasnya ampunan Tuhan kan kita nggak tau. Just be happy for others, even if you can't understand it.

[@aetheriumm]

When you say, “I’m gay/lesbian” in my country, you’ll get a reply like: “Nice joke lol.”

[@fifaveng3649]

In here it's like taboo😂.and they will treat me until I die with depression or anxiety 😂though I. Straight.. peoples toxic words literally kill ..I feel vary bad lgbt and gay community they committed suicide..it's ok to be different until and unless it's harmless

[@adelsvlog4643]

In iran: Ok. Do ur homework.... Or maybe what is that? Or......

[@PepeRjrj]

@Light Bringer Where are you from???

[@SuperZamForever]

What’s your country?

[@PepeRjrj]

@Light Bringer How your country hates gays and doesn't know them???

[@presleyduhaney7578]

I am so happy for you Yos. And so glad you met Max. He’s so good for you. You are both awesome

[@bphipps312]

Hi guys, recently found your channel so catching up on past videos. Just wanted to say YOU MADE IT! I a similar experience and your advice is spot on.once I was secure I told my family and got lots of negative feedback but by then I didn't care so basically cut myself off from my family to be ME! Know your videos are impacting in a positive way and wish you both every happiness. Sending good vibes and virtual hugs 🤗 ❤

[@arinugraha4454]

Hi Yos, I'm from Indonesia, I know how you are , I can feel what you feel is very difficult to be different from the others. But remember Yos you are not alone there are we who support your decision, there is a husband, your friend and many others Yos. Greetings of love ❤️

[@FirstnameLastname-bm9lr]

*husband 👍😆

[@arinugraha4454]

@@FirstnameLastname-bm9lr yes husband sorry😅😁

[@mockingjay1707]

Calon penghuni rumah singgah waria 🤣🤣

[@del4604]

love is love ❤🧡💛💚💙💜💓💞

[@davesquash13]

I'm from indonesia too.. and i know your feeling. Cause i'm a gay too... It's kinda hurting me but i still try to keep this inside. Still don't let everybody know it.

[@rockie4546]

As a parent, I am sad to hear that parents can’t just love their children for who they are. As long as my son is not hurting others as he grows I think did my job. He is free to love who he wants as long as that person loves him back. Parents have to realize that children have their own wills and are not copies of themselves. They have their own personalities and desires in life. Glad you were able to be strong and do what was best for you even though it was hard. It’s hard when your family is toxic.

[@raidengamer1193]

I wish I had a parent like you literally my family are so homophobic and religious and I live in a country where it's legalized to be executed for being gay, and literally I'm going through the hellest hell of my life and I'm still a teenager. I've tried killing myself many times before and still trying. I just can't bear it.

[@nazaninjamei6219]

@@raidengamer1193 i realize you. me too:(

[@chiefpanthera8542]

we all hope the family we need is like the best,but we all is never good,even our self,if we dont have a mom,we never born,thats the case here,people will change,im sad for him for being gay.friend is friend,gay is man with man,u should love girl and never love a man like u love a girl,thats the case here,understand that first, so we can live in harmony.

[@nazaninjamei6219]

@@chiefpanthera8542 maybe I didn't realize you good, but you're saying the same thing that homophobics say. I mean why a man shouldn't love a man when its their sexuality! Wa just wanna live with fair and not to be told you shouldn't love a person with your own gender. This is not our choise and I can't realize why people don't wanna understand and keep saying man should be with a girl! It's as rediculous as LGBTQ family walk around and say to people "you girl shouldn't love a boy" or oposite. Straight people didn't choose to be straight, it's what they borned exactly as same as us. So I don't know what's wrong seriously.

[@chiefpanthera8542]

@@nazaninjamei6219 yeah u know u have limit for what u should love, but for a gay, god not make man penis for a penis, god make penis for girl so we can put our penis into ovari, even if u love a man, how come u born? U never born, u should think. If that just a hobby i can forgive that. But that's his husband. I'm not say I'm counter him, i just say, i don't blame for what he become. U can't even having a good sex if u a gay or lesbian, using tool? Nah, people keep using it, that's why gay and lesbian is officially good right now.

[@viverpositivamente8179]

Você é um guerreiro. Sei que é difícil, porém, não desista nunca. Amo seus vídeos!

[@naoomi888]

Eres fuerte, gracias por contarnos tu historia, y deseo que tengas una larga vida y buena vida con tu pareja nuevo o tu solo no importa, se feliz Yos.💜

[@rahayudiahwiyanti2952]

Im an indonesian. I will never do anything bad for any people with their sexual orientation. I proud of u guys who brave to coming out like this. ❤

[@nataliadwiyanti1657]

Me too..

[@chachaarmy3103]

Me to

[@sekedian4315]

Me too

[@ameliar.646]

Me too

[@orangjawatimur5146]

Chat iam.. may numbherz 085231297458

[@coffeelattea]

i'm from indonesia and when i watch this video and see the comment honestly i'm not really like when indonesian people comment on this video then say something that cons to gay, cuz even idk how it's feel but i really happy see gay/lesbian couples i think they're really cute and i really support something like this cuz people have their own decision and whatever they decision as long as it's doesn't harm anyone i think it's okay . hope you can have a better life now.

[@nasmonie1236]

sorry, but in any religion if you like the same sex it is said to be haram, but YOS must keep up the spirit, don't forget the family in Indonesia okey FIGHTING 💜

[@ukaeel9078]

Fujoshi mana suaranya😂

[@aurel7334]

@@ukaeel9078 Yashh di sinii😁

[@febbyamalia5422]

Ya karena indonesia mayoritas islam. Apalagi agama disini ga nerima lgbt. Ditentang keras. Bener si yang punya ni yt dia tau dia gay dan gatau mo ngapainn drpd bawa aib d indo mendding sekalian aja ke luar negeri yang meng izinkan ada nya gay. Tp ya trima resiko kehilangan keluarga. Tp gmn lg keluarga e juga gamau punya anak kek diaa. Ya dia juga ga mikir perasaan mamanya apa pasti sedih pol mamahnya.

[@rahmanhakim293]

@@nasmonie1236 laugh in taoism

[@susananderson4093]

Ah Yos- I can feel your pain. I think it takes so much courage to come through this experience. There are so many people who love and support you BECAUSE you shared your story. 😘😪🇺🇸💕💕

[@jayz131189]

i apologize of behalf netizen of Indonesia if they leave negative comments or negative though on ur all page but they still read n keep still watching just leave negative. i apologize for theirs ignorance. perhaps they better in future.i am sorry if i have negative comment or negative though on ur page from bottom of my heart I'm sorry 🙏🏿 gbu y'all n have a nice day❤️

[@UnknownOverwatchSoldier]

Mosf of them are kiddos, kadrun, and probably closeted anyway.

[@ElangCaca]

I am a lesbian from Indonesia n I lived with my girlfriend in Hong Kong for 8 years

[@adikbungsuelsa8357]

Kakak sehat2 ya disana😭😭

[@ElangCaca]

@@adikbungsuelsa8357 ea sehat, cm covid 19 tiba2 mendadak parah

[@adikbungsuelsa8357]

@@ElangCaca disini jg parah kak, parah bgt😭 Sekarang sih baru 80-90 ribu, Hampir 100 ribu😭

[@mamamawl]

ih udah lama ya kak semoga langgeng ya kak

[@ElangCaca]

@@mamamawl amin,3x malah jd melebihi saudara, ortunya jg ortuku jg udah pd tau.lebih ke saling mendukung,mengerti dll. Krn walaupun aq begitu, I do not agree same sex marriage 😊

[@brendaberliana6943]

The worst case if you're LGBT and you're live in Indonesia.

[@mikemondano3624]

Right. Like LGBTQ is a bed of roses.

[@ryu662]

For that, i am agree that LGBT out of Indonesian country.. they can happy but not in indonesia.. so, they should go from here 🤷‍♀️

[@vvdy7447]

@@ryu662 agree wth u

[@joshuak4599]

@@ryu662 They can be happy in Indonesia if the people around them weren't so close-minded. LGBT-friendly countries used to be homophobic at one point as well, only after great philosophical development did we learn to value human life and individual freedom. It is horribly immoral to discriminate against people based on their sex, sexual orientation, race, religion etc. How would you feel if being a Muslim, for example, led to you being harassed, killed or locked up? Should the Uighurs from China just leave their country, or should China stop persecuting them?

[@flygroundd]

@@ryu662 really agree:(

[@Nanatv308]

Thank you for sharing your story, even though your eyes can't hide the pain you had to go through. Lots of happiness and bliss to you and max. 💖❤️

[@Lulu-ih9by]

Thank you for trusting us with your story. It's so sad how so many of us have to hide who we are because “different” and that if we don't hide we run the risk of getting bullied, neglected and alienated or even abuse but our family. Living in a homophobic country is one of the most stressful things to deal with, especially when we now the consequence of being outted. If I could have one wish it would be that NO ONE ever has to worry/fear the rejection, humiliation or stress that comes with being outted, because as an asexual living in a homophobic household and country I would never wish that on my enemy and it sucks when ppl undermine how much courage and strength it takes to come out. Just remember you are stronger than any dark times you have ever faced.

[@inay2862]

when I ran away from home wasnt because my parents is homophobic, but they just doesnt understand me as a person it self. I ran away to AUS, was the BEST experience ever. I know how it feels to be free! it’s amazing! be it they are our parent, still.. we are human being, not a possession nor an object. we have feelings. pain is real. getting away from pain for the goodness of ourself by all means away from our parent or family is the only choice we have. kudos to you Yos! wish you much blessing and happiness you deserve!!

[@Tzipiii]

I got some Felix's vibes. His deep voice doesn't match his smol face... Edit: woww so many *stray* *stays!* Mom. I'm famous! Hahaha. I LOVE Y'ALL.

[@haechanlee3127]

TRUE HAHA

[@fantaestic8783]

ikr 🤪

[@imwass]

changbin stole al my UWU's 😭😂 true

[@orangecarabiner3822]

Lollll

[@mihaiserver9240]

EYYY!! STAAYYY

[@lindaang7814]

I just found your chanel. New subscriber here 🤚. And I'm Indonesian. So proud of you Yos, listening to your story really break my heart. Hope you always be you and be happy. Always supporting you from 🇺🇸.

[@bradandroysawesomelifebrad9209]

Thank you for sharing ❤ I’m so glad you’re happy and with Max!

[@thelunathatudontknowirl3134]

I'm Indonesian, I'm Bisexual, my family's are homophobic, and I'm planning to get out of the country for college! Hope it goes well... :'D Edit: waw, makasih suportnya! This has been the most support I've gotten!

[@ravaelr2093]

Hope everything goes well for you!! 💞

[@rpoetri9502]

semangat yaa! 😭🙌🏻💖💞🌈

[@yeniyuliyanti351]

Love yourself

[@marsyanuradzani111]

fighting! 💓🖤🥺

[@ryuuisnothere]

Same, I'm gonna do that too if i have the chance. Good luck btw!!

[@RizqiNR]

Apapun yang kamu pilih itu adalah pilihan mu untuk kebahagiaan mu sendiri, kehidupan mu milik dirimu sendiri. Selalu bahagia ya👌🏼✨

[@zsecondswekkkkkk4736]

Malu2 in indo lah anjim dia bahagia indonesia yg malu

[@alvinabasista6820]

Bener banget kalau di indonesia itu udh dicap yg aneh aneh,gini deh w buknya bela belain lu tong cuma ya kalau itu yg lo mau yaudh gak masalh cuma lu wjib tau rata rata asia dan tempt lu lhr itu mayoritas nya “ANTI BANGET" gay kalau lu pen jadi gay ya......lu harus pergi dri negara itu....itu ajasih bro

[@Yuzrijal]

Mending pergi dari indo sih kayak yang orang jerman itu juga gay. Ada youtube nya sama tik tok nya

[@edward3433]

@@alvinabasista6820 LOW MINFED PEOPLE KEK KLEAN HARUSNYA GAK DILAHIRKAN DI DUNIA . JADI ORANG ITU YANG TERBUKA . TERIMA ORANG APA ADANYA . LU KIRA DIA MAU JADI GAY? DIA SUKA JADI GAY? NONTON SAMPE HABIS DULU ANJINK . TAUNYA NGOMEN MULU HINA MULU MAKANYA NEGARA KLEAN MISKIN . 99% LOW MINDED PEOPLE .

[@xylverramxv2282]

@@alvinabasista6820 maybe you're homopobic, dia jga ga mau jadi gay, tapi keadaanny begitu, maybe di indonesia banyak yg anggap gay itu menjijikan, bahkan menghina², tapi hargai dia😷

[@lmarcelletti]

I was so touched listening to you and to your story. Thank you for sharing with us. I am sure many people who are going through a situation like that will be inspired by you and hope might come at the end of the tunnel. I am 60, and it was difficult and of course, I hate myself as well and I was so scare to loose the people I loved (my family). I had luck, because I went out to study and, even it took me years to come out (24), I had a wonderful experience, maybe the best one. After so many years, one of the things that make me extremely happy and hopeful is to see the young people being able to create their own true stories and being able to live something that was so difficult at my time. When I see two young men walking holding hands, a smile comes to my face. Thank yo, Yos, and wish you and Max a long a beautiful life together!

[@authenticmind]

Dear Yos, I knew you must have had some kind of unfortunate situation that I didn't know, What a terrible crime it is for anyone to deny others their right of self-determination. I only recently started watching you and Max, but I find you both delightful as you share your lives and adventures. I am thankful you were strong, and I hope you are now safe. Sometimes it takes a lifetime to fully recover from the kind of betrayal and emotional violation to which you were exposed, but thankfully you are on your way to better places sweety. Keep following your heart, let go of the hurt and hang tight to the joy and happiness you find as you travel forward. Big hugs!

[@aurelia007anjell]

the moment i saw "Indonesia" in the title i already knew it's gonna be bad. and it did get really bad. glad you get the life you've always longed for and i'm glad you're happy! all the best for you and max❤

[@tadanarilee6003]

Most Asian countries not really accepting lgbt. Which is good

[@elainecampbell8083]

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm so sorry for the struggles you've gone through. My Mother once said to me that sometimes you have to go outside of your family to find out who your family really is. Meaning those who support you and love you. Having to speak your truth of who you are can really be hard (in different forms, being gay or in addition to being gay). Just being who you really are takes courage and finally standing up and saying who you are can sometimes disrupt or even ruin family dynamics. It is painful and yet liberating. You can't be who your family wants you to be. You have to be you, or it's suffocating, and you live your life full of regret because you never really got to live. I am so glad for you that you were brave. And by the way, I am a straight Christian and love others just as they are. We are enough, and perfectly made. :)

[@hoangngocha8339]

Your mom's so amazing!

[@kaydian7124]

This got me crying, oh my gosh. It's been so hard trying to let go, like especially like leaving my dad's place in trying to find a better environment and such, and just move on in life. I really wish I still had my mom around to help guide me since I'm doing this on my own(I'm 22, but it's so hard and I feel so empty without her these years) then breaking off with my dad, loosing my job, being pansexual and not knowing what else to do with my life). But I love these words of encouragement (even thou it was meant mostly for Yos, but I'm so happy i was able to see a comment like this).

[@ice-rk1dd]

@@kaydian7124 heyyy, 6 months past... r u OK now? :)

[@kaydian7124]

@@ice-rk1dd yes I'm a bit better now, thanks for asking 🤗

[@bryleamosser4210]

I have a question so I’m straight and I know that but I like to watch gay couples like max and yos does that mean I’m not 😅 sorry I’m just so confounded but I know I’m straight is it wired I like to watch boy boy love 😅❤ plz someone tell me I also live in a very strict homophonic household so I was just wondering

[@chefjch]

Yos, I appreciate you sharing your story...painful though it may be. I have so much love and respect for you and Max, as I have already shared with you on your O-F page. Thank you for being real. It can inspire others to be strong in the face of their challenges. You are an amazing young man who is building upon the experiences of your lifetime. God bless you as you continue to find your way.

[@raniagl6260]

Here in Iraq, where I live, every day I hear a murder that happened to gay people .. and I think that I am the only one who calls it a crime, because the society here calls it shame washing and there is no punishment for these murderers.

[@IAmRoyalty-ng1kw]

That is...harsh.

[@peachbooks3199]

please be safe!! we are all rooting for the people of iran! ❤ i never understood those people who think it's not okay for people to be gay, or for women to show their hair, but somehow it's okay for them to murder people

[@IAmRoyalty-ng1kw]

@@peachbooks3199 simple, religion. Religion makes it okay to them.

[@peachbooks3199]

@@IAmRoyalty-ng1kw no religion actually approves of murder. these people are using religion as an excuse for violence, to justify hate and oppression

[@IAmRoyalty-ng1kw]

@@peachbooks3199 👀 The bible literally said gay people should be put to dead, and the Quran....Well it's way worst, so pls.

[@ridhafathima6257]

You can’t just “change” your sexuality-

[@lokanayagi1293]

Duh...ofcourse. who does that.he didn't do it.who is doing that in this video actually?

[@26.rendiandikaputra14]

Ndak bisa basa enggles

[@muhammadraisakbar9899]

@@26.rendiandikaputra14 kakaknya belajar, kalo gk mau belajar ada google

[@muhammadraisakbar9899]

*makanya

[@26.rendiandikaputra14]

@@muhammadraisakbar9899 canda

[@bellabemon]

As an Indonesian , i don’t mind about him being gay. it’s just why does he looked like just popped out from some cgi movie or anime?

[@dannyvn2010]

Maybe you are open-minded. I am tourist and i visited JKT 2 times and i myself witnessed a gay guy being assaulted during daylight time near my hotel. Nobody helped, nobody cared. Not intend to argue you over this topic nor judge culture, i just tell what i did see

[@ryu662]

@@dannyvn2010 because, here we hate LGBT.. the case about LGBT still Taboo here.. and personally, idc about what happened to them too... But, if the case like you its too much to ignore that.. or maybe the other guess just afraid something happened to them if they help him...

[@dannyvn2010]

@@ryu662 If you are straight ( as i suppose you are), why you care of sexual orientation of a one guy you meet? Gay or straight just matter when in bed. What i witnessed in JKT not only too much for me but it also stops me to visit Indonesia again nor to consume its products.

[@bellabemon]

Idk but maybe it’s for safety reasons, I didn’t hate gay but for my safety i would not try to involve in another people business. Perhaps it’s not because the people who are assaulted was gay. Perhaps it’s because they don’t want to involved with another people problems. Not only in indonesia, you would find that in anywhere. Anyway, yea true it’s hard to live as gay in Indonesia. Because most of people in indonesia are very much religious. You can’t deny that there’s no religion that allowed people to be gay, so probably that’s why being gay in Indonesia was unacceptable. It’s a doctrine that stays for more than centuries. We can’t just hope to change people opinions and traditions in one day right? And isn’t that still same in any country ? There will be always people who are homophobic.

[@hiltromsify]

@@ryu662 why do you personally hate the lgbt though? Don't say that "because my religion tells me so". I honestly wanna hear something reasonable. What have they done to you?

[@Dania3101]

thank you for sharing your story, you are so strong. i am also indonesian who's currently living in indonesia and i dont know if i would be able to get my freedom. i think it's nearly impossible. i have hopes that someday i would have the chance to move to other country but then again i would still have to be in contact with my homophobic relatives. tapi di sisi lain i dont want to leave my family bc theyre my family and i love them.... but i dont know how would i manage tinggal di indonesia sampe bertahun-tahun and keep on hiding my identity... cape pusing mau matik

[@xvq8080]

same. i'm actually from indo as well. indonesia itself is not islam base country. tapi pemerintahnya yg g sadar bahwa indo gk kaya di saudi . i hope you get what you want someday Love😘 NB: ak genderqueer muslim

[@Ben-ty5by]

You are amazing Yos!! Thank you for sharing your story with us, I am sure it will help to empower & validate others. I’m a counsellor who specialises in trauma & understand the impacts you endured & understand the triggers that you talked about in your recent birthday post. Keep fighting for the life you want & are building with your husband, I hold hope with you for any trips to Indonesia but for the moment re this subject just keep breathing & be true to you. ❤

[@qlnguyen301]

Lesson: DO NOT LET SOMEONE MAKE YOU HATE YOURSELF! YOU ARE PRECIOUS IN YOUR WAY, STYLE, AND APPEARANCE.

[@crispymattu9286]

Indeed

[@jellybomb1249]

Aww ty

[@andyyolesen]

As an artist, I sponsor LGBTQ student scholarships worldwide... one such student was Miko in Indonesia, who is a transgender person, that walked the hallways of an Indonesian University for 5 years dressed as a girl and eventually graduated. As a veteran, I feel we are all connected in LGBTQ activism, something I learned early on in my arrival, of the extensive activism of the veterans before me. You could not have landed in a better place than Canada, with all our rights, but keep in mind, there is always going to be homophobes, as you know full well. Every step we take alive is activism enough, to just survive and love who we are. You are a beautiful couple. Stay optimistic. Happiness is the journey and you will always be loved by so many of your TRUE family in LGBTQ community life. Peace and love to you both always.

[@jhobelzonlazaga643]

I wish I have this kind of support too☺️ Im from the Philippines btw.☺️

[@drumcoda]

Yos, I’ve been following you for more than a year and I had never listened to this video. I’m so sorry for what happened to you but so amazed at your courage and all that you have done since with your life. Congrats to you! You are indeed an amazing person.

[@MDIS]

My late mother passed on with anger and resentment, not accepting me as gay and my dad kicked me out to live on my own without any support or care. My parents were abusive and violent and I am lucky that I can now stand on my own and live a life that is slowly progressing in my own way.

[@Arkinas]

Off- Topic, but your eyes are beautiful.

[@itsmetricia9545]

That's what I've been thinking this whole tiimmeee

[@ahmedbarakat2809]

Me too it is so beautiful

[@euphoria-jungkook5565]

I stare at them and i still do

[@dyah5603]

*lens

[@stephenng53]

Loli Ver obviously he’s wearing lenses but the actual shape of his eyes are really nice and cute

[@joseemg1922]

Thank you for sharing your story. My boys are 19 and 20 now. I have been telling them every year since they were 10, that if they bring a girlfriend or boyfriend home, it does not matter to me or their Dad as long as they are happy. Just one more person to love. Pas de chum ou de blonde encore....

[@Oxideacid]

You're an amazing parent.

[@lauraaa6634]

I wish every parents in my country are just like you ... geez why i need to born in here

[@reyviewchannel97]

@@lauraaa6634 nothing Will you get from hate where you born, it's something you can't change, but you can change but fight back for your own rights , yeah it's better or you just can like mostly LGBT people do in my country, running away to others country

[@SimbiAni]

"one more person to love" is the best phrase ♡♡♡♡

[@akiseharu_]

I love you maam/sir You and your husband are a good parents and an open minded one and I can tell you raised your childrens well.

[@hamiyakabir7915]

I am so proud... I know I am watching this after two years. But tears are falling down... I can't even imagine how hard it was for you and I am really thankful what you have now.. wish you all the best for the beautiful life you have with your hubby ❤.....

[@mamabair1953]

Hearing your story brought tears to my eyes. I'm not going to go into my son's story very much here but it brought back those days with my son. I had no idea my son was gay but from day one I excepted that he was. It was a shock for me but all I wanted was for him to be happy. He had known for a few years he was gay but didn't want to tell us because of the way his Dad would take it. About three years later we lost our son and my world was forever not the same without him...It's been several years now since he's been gone and the hole in my heart is still very painful. He was in a bad relationship for those three years and it breaks my heart that he never got to experience that one true love to spend his life with and get his loving fullfilling ending with. I'm so glad that your life turned around and you found Max for your happily ever after. I wish my son could have had that. Can't continue this but I am happy that I recently found your channel. Bless you Yos and Max and always appreciate what you have together...💞

[@giampietroc.8529]

what would we (lgbt people) be without our girl best friend?! SHOUT OUT TO PATRICIA queen!!!

[@aqilahshahab9879]

I'm from Indonesia too, and I'm a muslim so yes my whole family is religious and so I'm. So I'm quite understand your feeling, and also happy for you that you can be like who you're now. Actually thanks to all the yaoi things that i read/saw it's like i open the new door to a more realistic world, it's a complicated world indeed. So to all the LGBT people outside there i really wish you all the best for your life and love ❤

[@iloveme2097]

As Muslim, this is so wrong. Mendukung mereka untuk menjadi seperti itu, itu juga salah besar. Tapi apapun itu hak mereka.

[@muhamadnuryaman298]

:')

[@Noa......]

@@iloveme2097 As a secular humanist, "acts" of homosexuality between two consenting adults is not immoral or wrong. Islam adalah satu cara bagi anda untuk membenarkan anda membenci dan prasangka terhadap orang gay.

[@farhismoo7809]

@@iloveme2097 tdinya pen ngomong kek gni jg :v tpi sudahlah tmpat kita bukan dsni :'v biar kita ngomongnya ini salah tpi mereka tetep membenarkan dn mndukung LBGT. Klo non muslim yg mendukung sih "mungkin" sah" aja.. tpi klo seseorang muslim pun ikut mendukung?! sya rasa gk etis 😳

[@iloveme2097]

@@Noa...... Islam tidak pernah mengajarkan saya untuk membenci kaum LGBT, tapi kami sebagai Muslim tidak akan pernah mendukung aksi sebagiam manusia yg menyimpag tersebut. Mereka menyebut mempunyai kelainan seks, ya itu benar separuh nya lagi itu adalah penyakit. Mereka mempunyai hak, tapi memberitahu seseorang tentang kekeliruan itu juga kewajiban kita, Di terima atau tidak itu sepenuhnya hak mereka

[@junsayjayandrewp.693]

Hello to you Yos! New subscriber here, and I just want to express how much I admire you for not giving up your true self and totally lost hope after what your family had put you through. You are an epitome of courage and vision for all of us who are sailing on the same boat as you do. Cheers to freedom and individuality God Bless both you and Max! Stay strong and faithful!

[@marcossouza705]

hi, here in Brazil it's 3:37 am and I just saw you reporting on your story. I was particularly moved, but at the same time I was very happy, simply because you were happy. your story is beautiful 👏👏👏. One of the best things that happened to me this week was discovering your KZbin channel, because seeing in a way the relationship between you and Max brings me peace ☮️. Thank you for existing, thank you for sharing with us a little bit of your happiness.

[@bitchienasty3839]

I didnt expect how rough and hard ur life was. I remember when i saw u for the first time on instagram, i really thought that u were the luckiest person ever, i mean... u can married to someone that u love and thats such a biggest dream for every single gay😂. But we all know that in every happy ending, there is always be the struggle behind that. Keep it up yos! Idk but i feel like im officially the new fan of u. Really love hearing how u explain this😂 Love ya❤❤. Next videonya ditunggu yaaaa😃😄

[@MaxYos]

aww your message made me smile

[@oktawjannah]

Ignya apa kak?

[@bitchienasty3839]

@@oktawjannah ig nya dia? @yoscw kalo gk salah

[@uzairahmed7885]

@@bitchienasty3839 .., Sweet talk, And I also know the pain for being single gay

[@darkvader9217]

Being gay and single is one of the hardest things we’ll ever go through... Our emotions hit us the hardest... The time when I had real hope for being in a loving relationship is so gone by now that I’m really trying to work out how to live alone my whole life... well sometimes it makes me wish i never had a life...

[@felixsbestie8721]

“i guess through their eyes i was different, but im the same person.” My tears fell down. i just cant understand people, just because they r gay, it doesn’t mean youre not you, it doesn’t mean youre change after the come out, nothing change, nothing different, the only different is they likes someone of the same gender. keep going babie, may you surrounded by good people, live freely, i wish you have a wonderful day. 🦋

[@Felix-Flx]

I'm so proud of you and I thank you for sharing this story with us! I'm sure it is still not that easy but just that you know, your communety is always here for you :))

[@clearslee]

i am so proud of you. your story is being heard!!!❤️

[@gabriellachristina9548]

I must admit that it is hard living as a lesbian in Indonesia. There are times where people will start talking bad just because ure gay especiall in senior high school, it was very terrifying. I remember i always planned to study undergraduate overseas and not coming back since junior high school, but I couldnt do that. And now I have the chance to go out finally (im a 2nd year undergraduate student) ill spend my time wisely there. I always imagined myself with the lgbtq+ flag in the lgbt parade, it will be satisfying for me to finally feel the freedom. I would like to run away from my family and this country too.. bcs I dont think I can live life to the fullest here.. My mom is a psychiatrist and she knew about this but all shes just denial about me being gay.. she knew that i was depressed but she just gave me anti depressant for months and my family is very religious.. all i can do is just pretend im going out for the sake of my education, its hard bcs it makes me feel guilty...

[@hellohi7972]

you have to do what is best for you and your future. don’t feel guilty when it’s your family’s fault for not accepting you. I wish you all the best💗💗

[@KimFebriany]

It feels great I can finally relate with somebody

[@electraboogaloo1321]

youre so incredibly strong

[@user-ki6bz3lo6h]

“And growing up I hated myself for it, and I hated being gay so much.” that sentence hurt my heart. I was raised in a religious family. And as I got older I started to question religion. No one should ever hate themselves or be made to feel guilty or ashamed of who their true being is. Sometimes we like to look for answers & guidance outside of ourselves & that could be very dangerous because doing so leaves our minds and spirits exposed & vulnerable to being fed poison. The only place to find answers & guidance is from within. No one knows your soul better than yourself. I’m sorry that you had to leave your family & home to feel free. But I am happy that you were brave enough to choose yourself & put your happiness first. That does not make us selfish it makes us incredibly strong. Sending so much love, & prosperity your way. ♡

[@patriciavaleriano2323]

This was so heavy...you are so brave! So glad you have a good and happy life now!!! Always live proudly!! ❤💙💚💛💜

[@MAFALDA65]

La homosexualidad no es un error de la naturaleza, el amor no tiene género. El rechazo a esta comunida debe terminar. Respeto y todo apoyo a los LGBT. Disfruten de la vida y sean felices. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@idkharis]

1.8 dislikes? really I'm sure that this is his family move.

[@strawberry1225]

lmaoooo

[@idkharis]

loona _chan maybe the whole indonessia is his family xD

[@shabrinazalfaamalia1294]

@@idkharis not me :)

[@bangseto6847]

Just because the content is about gay and Indonesian it's enough to make most of Indonesian people hate this video. Worse case is if the story telling about the fact that homophobic in Indonesia are the bad guy. Hopefully your life is better now.

[@shabrinazalfaamalia1294]

@@bangseto6847 it's so sad that realized Indonesia people is very phobia with this. The word that they used sometimes very very bad and never thought it would hurt anyone. Being gay isn't a fault. No one who wanted to be gay in their life. I hope someday, many people would realized that do a hate comment for someone life isn't a good things :")

[@VioletPapillon]

As a mother myself i really hope that your family will accept the whole you one day. Hopefully sooner than later. I always wonder why i should care about what gender my son likes. It is simply not important! Of course i care which kind of person he falls in love with, i want him to be with a good person. But the gender of that person? Nothing i should worry about.To this day he dated some girls, some boys and a non binary person. All of them where nice young people, well behaved and kind hearted, thats what matters. Only wish i have is that he finds his true love. (And get me some grandkids, if possible. Biological, adopted, i dont care! Lucky me, he wants kids too in the future, yay! hopefully his love will want kids too. Time will tell.)

[@__-yh1kn]

I wish each n every parents were like you and would think differently like you and was as accepting..😢 I wish my parents were like you then I wouldn't have to be depressed and fake smile all the time..😔

[@VioletPapillon]

Dear, sadly you are not alone. I really wish that every parent would finally be accepting, the sad truth is: Just because one has children does not make him or her a real parent. But please, dont give up! Find your own way, for yourself. I wish you tons of luck and happiness for your live, be proud of yourself and never forget: its your life and yours alone. Go and make it the way you want!

[@ravaelr2093]

You are such a lovely parent! I wish there were more as supportive as you :))

[@VioletPapillon]

Haha, my son had to do more chores the last days because i am ill, he would disagree with the lovely. ;) He complains a lot, but he does the chores just to help me. I am so blessed to have him! And thats how it should be, i think. We are blessed to have children, to have the opportunity to raise the little ones into good humans. To be a part of them and to leave a kind of legacy with them. We all just have one life. Better do something good with it.

[@seeinfo7742]

As a mother i hope oneday he know n realize that life not just about freedom, may God give his parent strenght.

[@ZIV04]

i am in the same situation currently of trying to be straight and being a ' good daughter' and going through convertion therapy weekly and i go to prayers and everything to try to convince them that i'm not a lesbian anymore all of that being after i ran away from home and police fetching me back home and i can't believe that it is also your case and i was super surprised tbh and now i am just studying and planning to leave my country with a good education and being independent after university so i hope i can do so just as you did ❤❤ p.s i'm from mauritius and from a muslim family so i totally kinda relate

[@frankwong2833]

I am sorry to hear that you are going through what he was going through right now. Be strong, you will make it. You don't need others to define, you are who you are ! ❤❤

[@loumaeve]

Kamu orang kuat, salut. Semoga ada banyak orang yang memang nggak berani come out di berikan jalan yang terbaik. Entah bagaimana caranya. Love you Yos.

[@ditamuharvasyah2992]

@@qilsjsk3412 setiap org beda pendapat beda sifat

[@ramnesktp4465]

Sehat sehat orang waras

[@Haru6N]

YOS AKU SAYANG BANGET SAMA KAMU. SEHAT DAN BAHAGIA TERUS YA. MAKASIH UDAH JADI ORANG YANG KUAT. tapi yos mereka kan udah ngebolehin kan akhirnya, DAN JUGAA SEMOGA SEMUA MASALAH YG DULU UDH GA JADI BAYANGAN GELAO DAN MENAKUTKAN BUAT KAMU TOLONG BILANG MAX, JAGAIN YOS. KALAU ENGGAK NANTI AKU SANTET HIHI KIDDING

[@maadlubis3555]

Salah DIDIKAN.

[@meow-dm1bb]

Maad Lubis maksud lo salah didikan apaan?

[@maadlubis3555]

@@meow-dm1bb smua dari dasar.kurang didikan

[@bonnieculla6210]

@@maadlubis3555 brainded homophobe uclim spotted

[@rikawansaklara5844]

Setujuu, semoga yang dulu tidak menggangu pikiran kakak yang sekarang haisss, habis kata-kata dah. Meski engga terlalu tahu bahasa inggris tapi saya tahu dari nada suara, dan yah dari sikap tingkah laku, sedih pastiya, tapi semoga semua berjalan lancar ya. Hah tetal tahu saya

[@foreveraline]

Omg you went through things so hard that I can't even imagine...I hope one day your family understand that being gay isn't wrong... it's just love in all kinds of ways. Thank you for the video. You're amazing and strong! Pride ^^

[@rianadehidayat7596]

Its wrong dude

[@foreveraline]

@@rianadehidayat7596 You should mind your own business

[@rianadehidayat7596]

HIV AIDS

[@foreveraline]

Straight people have HIV too...dude, you're crazy...Free yourself too

[@KainoaBlackeagle]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. Peace and love to you both! 💕

[@rRosanna]

You are so strong for sharing this with us! Thank you so much!❤️❤️❤️

[@madfantasies]

OMG he is such an angel and it’s so heartbreaking that he had to go through all that. I’m so glad that he had amazing people around him like his friend in Indonesia and Max. I hope the best for you guys❤️❤️

[@zhu1]

so unrelated but this dude has one of the prettiest pair of eyes I’ve ever seen like damn.

[@Levi-zc3oe]

Ikr he looks like the character straight outta anime😍

[@reyviewchannel97]

He use softlens

[@cartduet5810]

Riza yup

[@oopsy-daisy]

@@reyviewchannel97 Underneath them, you can tell his eyes are stunning ☺

[@khaingzintheintkhaingzinth4209]

It feels like Max's behaviour is getting much more childlish yet in a very cute way and I really love how you treat Yos. So sweet.

[@melvinsanchez5382]

My God this really made me feel like one day I will have that freedom, I just hope to be strong like Yos. 🌼