Why I Returned To India After 12 Years In USA I R2I Story I 2024

[@syamalsen8879]

If you have money, nothing is like life in India. After 30 years in USA and returning to India this is my conclusion. Every comfort is available in India ,if you are financially stable.

[@mahabharat11]

@@syamalsen8879 That is true about any country in the world. If you are rich in the USA, life is very good too. No need to move anywhere.

[@vishakaupalkar5008]

TRUE

[@sukuvar]

100% India is best if you have money and assets.

[@Drganguli]

@@syamalsen8879 but you need yo avoid high pollution cities

[@lantherpagdi]

yeah but that's only when you are indoors and live in a bubble (apartment complex). General Infrastructure is still the worst. Zero civic sense, people are inconsiderate, unnecessary competetion.

[@vivektripathi5878]

India has a very vibrant social life. I don't know if anyone cares in US if you are married or not or you have got baby or not but in India relatives, neighbor's, friends, they all will remind you of getting married and having kids. Once, you will get married , neighbour aunty will start bitching about your wife to mother in law. Once, you will become father, they will keep updates of your child. And the amount of show off and competition that goes in India is crazy. The jealous, envy, conspiracy, taunt, sarcasm, hurting your sentiments, is beyond imagination. You will start feeling going in Vipasana meditation when peace of the house will be disturbed due to above reasons

[@raviraj1975]

I was in USA between 2004 to 2010. Returned to India because life is easy here 😊 ( agree less money in India) and my parents are happier being near by. Older people life is tough due to medical insurance, long queue for apointments, no social life and weather issues etc. Yes professional life is awesome in US!

[@09jitesh]

Very well Said...❤👌👍

[@rabindranayak1190]

@@raviraj1975 mother is always mother land, what ever good or bad. No one will take that place.

[@truth6Seeker]

Which country is best to relocate to india wrt pollution?

[@rabindranayak1190]

@@truth6Seeker Switzerland

[@GDe-gi1kz]

Fool air pollution in india not usa,

[@macdowellandrew]

We went back to India in 2015 with warm emotional thoughts exactly same like yours. We returned back 3 years later & we are happy now abroad. 1) India is rapidly changing & there is cultural shift. 2) For children we find safety abroad. 3) India is not value for money.

[@ranjitsumati27]

SAFETY, is that what you are talking? And that too for children? Aren't you aware of regular on and off Mass shooting in U. S. A. at SCHOOLS? And even in all other manner the safety about cheating, swindling, dishonesty. What are you talking? And India is not value for money? Money cannot VALUE more than what REAL "HUMAN" VALUE is and India is a country of real "HUMAN" NOT "ROBOTS". Good luck to you where ever you have moved back. You must not bother to ever even visit India unless you can understand/attain the level............"Human".

[@CLG100]

Sir , I must say your video has been made with all honesty . I feel it is too early for you to say you regret or don’t regret . I have two brothers . Both went to USA , did MS and were well settled with USC and lived in Bay Area . Both relocated back to India at different point in time . Having lived here for 3 to 4 years one of them had to move back to USA as his job prospects were not satisfying here unless he moved to Mumbai , which he did not want to .We are natives of Bangalore and he felt that if he cannot live here with family better to go back than to move to Mumbai where the life is not as per his liking . Now he is well settled in Bay Area without any guilt . The other brother relocated to Mysore and very happy , no regrets but the only realty that makes them sad is that both his sons being us citizens have gone back to usA for higher studies and job. Loneliness has started haunting them here . What I mean to say is ,no decision can be perfect . Loneliness is the reality of old age whether you are here or anywhere . By the time you are old our relatives , cousins everyone will be in the same situation . Senior care homes are mushrooming in Bangalore which is a testimony to reality. Infact my brother in usa is happier because his children visit him more often .

[@myNRILife]

Thankyou for your valuable insights. Really means a lot. Stay connected.

[@annawagg66]

V true. I prefer USa any day to the gossiping and back biting between relatives in India

[@traderbotwin]

f*** - this hit hard

[@rajnit5769]

This is so true. Most of the US citizens who shift to India thinking they moved for good, have moved back after 10 years. I personally visited many Indian old age home communities and they are all geared up for upcoming desi retirees in the US numbering about 500,000 in next 10 years and that number will only grow. In my opinion, it only makes sense to live closer to your children and grandchildren during later stage of life (65+). As long as one is energetic, enjoy both worlds! At 50, this is what I am gearing up for! Live 8 months a year in Bangalore / Mysore and 4 months in US for next 15 yrs and then get an Indian old age home in the US with plan to spend few months a year in India for as many years as possible after 65!.

[@inspyreme6560]

​@rajnit5769 when ppl didn't take care of their parents how can they expect kids to take care of them.

[@dharmyadav7937]

Bahut badhiya, Amit. Your video will act as a lesson for the younger ones going to not only the USA but other countries also. With utmost maturity and honesty, you have explained everything. You deserve all applause 🎉🎉

[@myNRILife]

Thanks so much for your kind words.

[@swapankumardey7246]

It’s nice to go through your video. Our only son is in USA since 2007. Completed his PhD, married to a USA based girl and a father of a 8 year old daughter. Purchased two houses in USA, having all the luxuries in life. As you said, coming to India after two or three years. We also visit them occasionally. We both are very senior citizen. When we become sick, he never hesitate to reach us availing first flight. We both are self sufficient and do not need any financial support. If he returns to India, he will get a prestigious offer from any reputed university. But his wife and daughter may not agree. We never say him to return to India and spend our happy life together. We have shared all our deposits and bank accounts with him and made him as our nominee. I worked in abroad and returned back when my father had cerebral thrombosis and by the grace of God he could walk and could perform his routine work by himself.

[@myNRILife]

Dear sir i hear you. Thankyou so much for pouring your heart. Please stay connected. thanks again

[@inspyreme6560]

Ii all works till you are healthy n support themselves. However,seeing life I have seen parents getting sick over 75. They can't function properly alone n require support. Or you can take care of outside help. This is time when you want someone to take care of you. I have seen this very closely.

[@Bsk52]

@@inspyreme6560even in India life is difficult for seniors

[@swapankumardey7246]

@@myNRILife Thank you so much for your concern. I am a retired chemical engineer from Roorkee IIT and my wife is a Gold Medalist in History from Utkal University and was topped in Masters in Philosophy in History from Utkal University. We both are still active and spending quality time together. I have some hobbies, which keeps me entertained and enjoying my life. I like music, photography, gardening, cooking and astrology too. I am a post CABG patient. Had open bypass heart surgery on 10/10/1994 in Apollo hospital Hyderabad. We never take junk food and never take fine carbohydrates. I am now running 79 and my wife 69 years old. We enjoy movies in Netflix and Disney and Hot-star. We have engaged one nurse cum cook, one maid servant and one regular driver for our help. Our neighbours are doctors and engineers and getting good support. I again thank you for your support. Stay blessed always.

[@swapankumardey7246]

@@myNRILife I have subscribed your channel and am connected with you. You are a very sober boy and have taken a right decision by returning to India. Though it’s not possible to stay along with your parents all the time due to your job. We should not forget the Chanakya Neeti. It’s not preferable to stay with your parents after you get married. More distance you stay from home, your attachment towards your parents will increase. But I have seen in abroad, how my Indian friends were lamenting that they didn’t returned to India before their children were still kids. Once the kids become adults they will never agree to return to India. I know our granddaughter will have boyfriends and marry one of them and will stay in abroad. She will be lost from our life. You have done the right thing to returned to India when both of your children were still young. We do not need in crores of rupees to have a peaceful life. Swami Vivekananda told “To give is life and to take is death. So to give, one must have abandoned in wealth and wisdom so that he can distribute wisdom and wealth to the needy.”

[@Israr1946]

We came back after staying abroad for 14 yrs . We had lot of stress initially. Now we have no regrets. Very happy with our countrey and country men

[@josephpurushotham1425]

It depends upon personal feelings. After living in USA and earning money, the purpose seems achieved and now feeling like staying in India our home. Now we have to make India like America - a good country. So that no need to go to USA. 😀👍😊

[@blankjohnson6934]

This guy is living in the past, even India is changing. Making kids dependent or complaining about them being independence is stupid. India has changed a ton in last 10-15 years. Good luck!

[@deepalimathur2218]

Were your kids accepting of this major decision? How hard was it to convince them ?

[@A29305456]

One of my friend came back to India with family ( Two Kids) settle down in Pune. Finally kids grown up and they have tough time in India ( Money wise they are well to do) Now both kids came back to USA got married one is divorce and parents are in India with their family alone. So it is pros and cons every where.

[@shootingmonkey8236]

You are a lucky man. I tried going back to India it didn’t happen I lost my kids to this culture. It’s too late for me. I wish I had courage to do what you did .God bless you and keep your family safe

[@UshaThombre-g7l]

Yes you are absolutely right. I was in US for15 years and decided to come back to India This was a right decision and happy here You have the money to spend and not end up in a skilled nursing facility or a nursing home

[@samanilaivaathi]

India is becoming like the US.

[@Farjah-q5p]

As someone of Indian origin who has lived in the USA for more than 50 years I saw clearly why an Indian expat will want to return to India after spending 4 weeks in India earlier this year. Of course there are pros and cons living in a developed versus a developing country but in my brief experience in India it became obvious to me why in 2024 I would prefer to live and raise a family in India rather than in the USA. In my opinion the pros of the USA are it's superior educational system, free market culture, efficiency of its businesses and government agencies and above all job opportunities with promotion based on merit. However, the cons are scary (far outweighing the pros for me) and more so if you are an immigrant and not white. Topping the list are an unregulated gun culture resulting in numerous gun homicides, robberies, suicides and several random mass shootings of school children , a pervasive drug use culture, which can affect your children in school ( the selling and use of drugs in schools), a toxic political environment where every non-white person (regardless whether you were born and grew up there) is looked upon with disdain by the mainstream population as someone who's there to steal their job and dilute their race. Some have been the target of mass shootings (Sikhs and Hispanics) in recent years. Lastly, it's a culture that does not respect older family members who live in isolation and most times without any close relative to care for them. Yes, India may have its numerous flaws but it has a very superior culture and family values and none of the cons listed above.

[@ranjitsumati27]

Promotion based on MERIT in U. S. A............? really.......? Rather promotion based on NEED and Selfish interest where either they or the employer there, are NOT FINDING THE talent AND/OR if they find someone like local American he/she would not work as well and for the amount of money Indians are offered asking for MORE money even more than the employer would be willing to offer...........THAT IS the FACT.

[@realnapster1522]

In red states, they only promote white people. Indians are not promoted. There is lot of racism in US corporate world.

[@ChandrashekharPai13]

@@Farjah-q5p Well said.👏👏👏

[@VladimirPutin-sl5qe]

Again depends on how is your family constructed,its kinda hard to move with a non Indian spouse and grown up kids.

[@mahabharat11]

@@VladimirPutin-sl5qe Correct if your family is of mixed race, moving to India may not work.

[@MuhsidRameez-o6o]

Last year I took early retirement and returned to India after nearly 20 years in the Gulf. I had completed my financial goals, and surprisingly even surpassed them. I wanted my son to experience his culture and his extended family. The move has been excellent on all counts (except some negative aspects related to family interference in day to day affairs, which is quite natural in close knit families like mine, and which we had forgotten about after so many years away). One experience that has been different is your point about independence in children. I feel that my son is getting more independent in India. Kids raised in the Gulf are so privileged and entitled. I am working to have my son shed this. By the way I really admire your calm and composed manner. Khandaani sharafat nazar aati hai aapki gudtugu mein 👍

[@karuppusamyrangasamy3039]

Very happy to hear your story. I shall share mine. I had to fled to Gulf as I was blessed with two males in four years. 16 years of working in India - Sr Engineer. I could not save much. By the way I walked out of our house when I was in 7 th. Stayed with relatives and friends houses 1968 dip, (worked) 1977 finished engineering. In 1985 to Muscat-construction, 3 employers, Saudi, Abu Dhabi 3 projects , Qatar, Saudi, 4 projects, Abudhbi,Kuwait 2 project Muscat, Saudi, Muscat,Kuwait, Nigeria, Muscat, Qatar, Yemen. 2012 ---- Made my family to be in Bangalore all along . Yearly 2 ,3 short visits. Made elder son as developer / politician. Other son UG Bangalore PG US, Cornnel. MBA in IIM B, he worked in US, London, Ireland, and now in US since 2000. Built 5 houses but now retained 2 and with elder son. I could work only for 44+ years. 27 employers. 8 countries. Now I am 78 wife 72. Made daughter in law to do her PG in Pennsylvania. Both working in LA. Took care of my parents in my own house till their final journey. Coimbatore.

[@VladimirPutin-sl5qe]

YUp almost same as mine hard work pays.

[@ranjitsumati27]

We do NOT understand whether you participated in this DISCUSSION with what purpose or intent of contribution, BUT unfortunately it ended up simply giving the extensive details of your own Biography sort of adventure and so called achievements if...................!

[@Prit2004]

So whole of your life you were staying without your wife and kids, Is this achievement 🤔

[@MD-zr8xi]

@@ranjitsumati27 very true. ...........

[@sunitayadav2570]

Grown up children in India think of going to US, whether it is education or job, while children in US never think of going to another country. I think we grow up seeing that elderly people in India have their full command over their family till they become dependent physically or mentally. After being disabled they are totally a burden over their children. Then the actual fight starts that who is going to take care of them. Today in India also everyone is working , bahu, beti, beta or damaad, everyone is so busy with their job n children that they themselves are dependent on their servants. Today no service providers in India are ready to do every work of super seniors( washing dirty clothes or bathing) these two things have to be taken care of by family only. So olden times have gone even in India. So don’t keep high hope by coming to India. All the best 😊

[@RameshPatel-uw3cs]

Thousands NRI from UK go to India during winter months . From November to March .

[@rohitkulshreshtha448]

Hi.. I live in delhi and work in International logistics and work with a lot of US ,UK and Canadian companies on daily basis... i must say... aapki baaton ne dil chhu lia... you are bang on target... moving abroad makes sense when you take your parents along.... otherwise... you are a cut off branch from the tree... you are very lucky to have managed to come back... congrats..:-)

[@myNRILife]

@rohitkulshreshtha448 - sir aapke feedback padke bahut accha laga. Apka bahut bahut dhanywaad. I will always remember your kind words. Stay connected.

[@truth6Seeker]

Which country is best to relocate to india wrt pollution?

[@amritamuttoo6397]

God bless you for your sensible decision.Best wishes.My son in law went to US as his project moved to CA.He is back after 7 years,returned his Green card.Continues to work for his first and only company Google.The family is happily settled in Bangalore.

[@IndianSummer1982]

As long as you can live afford to live in a great society, apartment complex with all facilities, and you work from home and do not have to commute to office then India is a great place. The thing is you will need to live in a cocoon and you are not exposed to reality, the indian reality.

[@Kaashsh]

All your points are well explained, and you seems like a very mature person who handles situations well. Living in US for last 20 years I am just giving some of my thoughts: 1. Quality of life is definitely better here, if you buy luxury you use it, like if you buy a luxurious car then you drive it not your driver. If you buy a technology based vacuum cleaner then you use it yourself not your helper. If I can afford an iPhone then even some( not all) house help that we call once a month to clean our house, they can also buy iPhones. 2. If you are an introvert then definitely you would enjoy the quiet environment. Sometimes we get so used to the privacy that it’s hard to live where anyone can come anytime or call anytime. People in India discuss their life story in front of their drivers or even ola drivers that we are not used to now. 3. There is no show off among young kids, a construction worker kid will go in the same school as a software engineer’s kid, which is not the case in India. 4. Kids are very independent, a 14-15 years old( boy or girl), knows some basic cooking, knows to clean the house themselves, knows to wash dishes, knows to take care of a small plant, knows how to appreciate their parents , ye to aap bhi notice karenge ki Bacche jis tarah se yaha baat karte hai or waha baat karte hai doosro se , there is a huge difference. 4. Doesn’t matter where you live, your kids will learn what you will teach at home, not only Indian but African family kids here they know the African tradition as well as American tradition, Mexican kids know both Mexican and American culture, Chinese kids know both Chinese and American traditions, so people should trust their parenting no matter they are living in India or America. Kids in India these days follow more American culture than Indian kids in America. 5. Adults living away from their parents in India hardly meet them for 3-4 days after 5/6 months but here in America we live with our parents/ in-laws for 4-5 months continuously. When you work hard in the beginning you get this financial blessing after few years so you can call your parents every year to live with you, and of course to meet our siblings we go every other year, but whenever we go they also get distracted from their everyday life and routine, because everyone in India is also working hard and earning well this days and yes they all have luxuries lives and again it’s a blessing for those people in America whose siblings are in India to take care of their parents when they are not there. 6. Hard part is the expense of medical bills as you age, which is way cheaper in India. 7. You are free to do whatever you want, if you have talent no one can stop you to grow in America, whatever your race is. But india is not ready yet to accept the fact that people from other countries can grow in India and can do better jobs than Indian can. 8. I love India and still there is no place for me better than India but I chose to stay here kyunki kuch paane ke liye kuch khona padta hai. Jaise log acchi job ki talaash me Allahabad,Agra , Lucknow etc se Delhi Mumbai ya Bangalore chale jate hai or wahi bas jate hai , waise hi humlog job ki talash me India se America aa Gaye or yahi bas Gaye. Ek cheez batana bhool gayi UP ke ek chhote se college ki degree leke kahi jati thi India me job ke liye to koi poochta bhi nahi tha,(2004), husband ke saath yaha aayi or kuch saalo me job start Kari to Kisi ne poocha hi nahi UP ki degree hai, bas Indian degree ke naam se ek chhoti si job ki shuruat ki thi jo ab 17 saalo me US ka work experience ban chuki hai.

[@mahabharat11]

Very well described. कुछ पाने के लिए कुछ खोना भी पड़ता है. I left home country over forty two years ago. I have no regrets and would not go back.

[@rasbijalpatel310]

Very nicely said. Life’s comparisons. Make valid time for kids and husband. Experience things you like to do. I like it in India too.

[@truth6Seeker]

Which country is best to relocate to india wrt pollution?

[@ranjitsumati27]

Will anyone of you rather than only comparing so called PLUS points of U.S.A. also take time or bother to POINT at the other side and FACTS of U. S. A.? e. g., all of you facing the popular music "......GO BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY........." The DISCRIMINATION, over, covert open, disguised whatever that YOU ALL face (don't try to be ignorant) RACIA, PROFILING by police officers, and indeed treating you even as less than as one HUMAN should treat another, let alone as second or third class citizens. Further not to mention, frequent Gun Sporting that goes on in the country.........Deception in whether to marketing products but even in Healthcare and commercialized Education. Be Candid and Honest to make the discussion, BALANCED at least if not perfectly HONEST.

[@VVR1999]

Dil behlane key liye khayal accha hain galib, aapki train chooth chuki hain 😂 take few more births in America to come back to Devbhoomi😊

[@iSaurabhMittal]

this is a great video but respectfully sharing some thoughts on common things I have noticed: 1. A lot of people who have not spent money, time, and effort to ensure their kids come to India every year, eventually are very insecure about their kids missing strong cultural roots. 2. As parents, we see financial security as a pivot point to shift. But what about kids? Moving during their most critical years, especially when they are transitioning from middle school to high school, takes a toll on them. 3. just because we have grown up with a certain thought process ( like where we come from, and what value we place on parents), doesn't mean the kids should shadow the same. unless those are strong values, for example, if the child wants to fund their own education that is such an empowering mindset, parents are rather than getting offended by it, we need to help them structure those ideas and priorities. 4. The detachment vs. attachment debate is deeply romanticized. Even back home, while we have a huge network of family members, the core is still really small. And you realize with time that it's a personality thing. Some people feel empowered when they see the whole village (Galli, Mohalla) at least show up at the door in case something happens (only limited to smaller towns), and some realize that there are only a handful of people who will actually help n matter in life. Eventually, it's a small circle that proves really useful in life. 5. education, social security, infra is a real mess in India. I have seen life in Gurgaon, unless you never leave the high rise, the quality of life is quite poor. in comparison, smaller village life is significantly better. there is a reason why everyone is jumping through hoops to send their kids to colleges outside of India 6. the visa situation, excellent but expensive healthcare, high cost of insurance are the only major negatives with the US system. 7. staying far away is the other major negative, but its not a US issue. its a choice.. 8. and social life in India is probably worse than in the US. but again, case to case dependent. eventually 90% of social life depends on your work colleagues. while, I am not against it and at some point we will return, these ideas are always on top of mind for us. cheers and thx for sharing your mindshare.

[@Antariksha]

Very well said. Our kids are born and brought up outside India, they don't feel they would adjust to the Indian life. This is inspite of them going to India every year for weeks, sometimes twice a year. They have travelled to quite a few cities too. They love their relatives but we respect their opinion and choice in life. We may retire in India after the kids are settled but we will not unsettle the kids if we have a choice. You cannot keep your kids with you your whole life, they should have their own lives. That is why your life with your partner matters the most. Try to build a great life with your partner so that you don't need anybody else. When you need the kids, of course they will be there.

[@lakkarajushankar]

Amazing summarization #4 is dot on.

[@georgen.p.6452]

I fully agree with your observations. First he has taken a decision about his kids' future without their knowledgeable consent. Who knows they will not emigrate to US when they grow up. Second when one comes to India occasionly life here will appear to be all hunky-dory, all relatives are so nice, etc. But once you settle down then you start realising the reality.

[@VikasChaudhary1]

Well put, immigration is probably the biggest factor for folks who come to India and this point will be proven by the fact that their younger son would be an American citizen

[@danagovil1469]

Makes a lot of sense

[@ppen8359]

My parents moved to a different town in India after retirement. For 30 years, they could not make a single friend. It is wrong to think that it is easy to have a social life in India. If you are from Agra and live in Madras, then I can guarantee that you will not have a single real friend in your entire life. People in India will isolate you as well. Most of the return to India stories are mostly "kup manduk" stories. You know your well, go outside only to realize that your life in "your" well was more familar. That does not mean India is better because, even in India, you cannot live your entire life in a brand new town in a different state and find happiness.

[@ANTARIKC]

Well said. I feel its a vicious circle. Even in india kids move out of their home for college and then go to bangalore pune for job and parents end up staying in hometown. I believe its a globalization problem because people will continue to settle across the world.

[@mahabharat11]

@@ppen8359 This differs from person to person. It is unimaginable to think that a person who lived all his life in North India, would choose to live in Chennai, especially as a retired person.

[@ppen8359]

@@mahabharat11 And this is where hypocrisy comes out. All these returning NRIs seems to suggest that India is some kind of Utopia society. The problem is not America, but these returning NRIs who cannot live anywhere unfamiliar to them.

[@mahabharat11]

@ppen8359 true. If India was such a wonderful place, why did these people chose to become NRIs? Should have stayed in their home town entire life

[@shyamalipatro2191]

Time is the main factor ,only times know when whre whom to keep, and settle. So no regrets. ❤

[@gulamrabbani1041]

Each and every word you spoke is 100 percent true. I myself returned to India for the same reasons after almost 11 years. You took right decision at the time. A year or two more you probably could not have come back. Very good decision. Listening to you is as if it's my own story.

[@ygthbvfe4826]

Grass looks greener on other side....ALWAYS!

[@myNRILife]

100% agree sir! thankyou for your words.

[@Ss-sz5cd]

You made a very wise decision and surely you will not regret. The longer you stay, the harder it is to go back. We see people regretting and depressed but they have missed the train as you said. Good luck

[@bombaytalkies6836]

All the best, I have been here since last 20 yrs. And I sincerely selected this life as compared to the one in India, kabhi kisi ko mukammal jahan nahi milta.. yeh line mere liye hai. But ur statement on timing of return back is the key, stay blessed and stay safe. I agree that the family ecosystem in India is the best, its home 🙏

[@poetatheart]

Among the people who settle in the US, I have seen a trend that if they come here as single people and later get married, they are likelier to stay around. Many work visa holder folks come with their family and always feel that they don't fit into this culture. More often than not, they return to India. There is nothing right or wrong but the ability to fit in improves based on when you came in. And that is a direct effect of having close friendships which are built better in college and graduate school.

[@nandanasalvi]

Your honesty and unbiased analysis are really heart touching. My story is similar yet different. Being half Indian and half Jew we immigrated to Israel when I was 10, but now even after crossing my 50s, with a family of my own, the emotional ties with India are as strong as ever. Luckily my son is quite in love with India and the Indian culture, so we travel a lot. But yes, once you have that Indian blood in your veins, it's a gone case. You're chained for lifetime.❤ Best of luck for your new life!

[@ChandrashekharPai13]

Congratulations & best wishes for a smooth transition, Amitji. In 2005, we immigrated to US with a green card (EB1). No visa hassles ever. Within a year, we decided, US was not the place to raise a teenager son and a 7 years old daughter. So wife & kids returned (giving up the green card). I stayed back a couple of years alone to complete the residency & became a US citizen too. Kids grew up in Indian culture in Mumbai (not much different than US)!😃 It was a hell for my teenager son, as he frequently got taunted (even by the teachers) in India,”this is not USA. यहाँ ऐसा ही होता है।” In 2010, took up a job in a corporate institute, but could not adjust. Anyway, fast forward to 2014. I filed for family’s green card again and my son got into the US university. The daughter followed the suit. In 2024, both children are college graduates, working and are independent. Now we are looking forward to spend the retirement in India. As long as we don’t have to work and have sufficient funds for retirement, India life will be the best, I guess. Now the pros & cons of returning now. Pros: 1. Cheaper and quicker healthcare. 2. Lower cost of living, stretching your savings further. 3. Amenities, like domestic helper, driver, etc. Cons: 1. Pollution, corruption, traffic, etc. 2. Nosy relatives and neighbors.😊 But we are satisfied, we gave our best to our children - Upbringing in Indian culture and then the college degrees and citizenship of USA. In the process, we (the parents) sacrificed a lot. PS: I have no complains or regrets of the professional life in USA.

[@mahabharat11]

@@ChandrashekharPai13 Good decision in your case. Only problem is as years go by, it will become difficult to move back and forth as senior citizens

[@ChandrashekharPai13]

@@mahabharat11 Yes sir. I am in my early 60s. So I still have a few years left to enjoy. And in later life, India will surely be a better option.

[@TheHobbyvideos]

I am curious to understand what exactly is "Upbringing in Indian culture" and how exactly is it different from American culture. Can you explain?

[@TheHobbyvideos]

Also, could you elaborate on your decision that the U.S. was not the right place to raise your teenage son and seven-year-old daughter? What specific challenges or concerns influenced this choice? @ChandrashekharPai13

[@ChandrashekharPai13]

@@TheHobbyvideos Sure. 18 years back, when children moved back - They were right inside the Indian environment, Indian relatives, friends, cousins, attending different ceremonies, becoming aware of our “culture.” Those were their formative years, they developed an identity, as an Indian and were not confused. Today, they speak 3-4 Indian languages and more importantly, they LOVE India. When we say,”We are going to India,” they get excited (as both of them have their childhood friends in India) and don’t make faces. Hope this explains, what I meant by “upbringing in Indian culture.”

[@rajk3810]

Man - I see myself when you are talking. These are my exact reasons to move back. We are moving next year mid. Thanks for giving that extra motivation. Really appreciate it

[@myNRILife]

Hi @rajk3810. Welcome Welcome. Sab accha hoga. India has its pros and cons. and i am sure life is more imp than being in a dilemma. Thank you for your feedback. And please stay connected.

[@proud2318]

Sir same thing is happening in india. How many daughter in laws in india want to stay with parent in laws, you are v lucky if you have such a wife. Cousins in big cities meet each other once a year. The great thing out of this is your networth is now probably 5x vs x if you had stayed in india. Kudos to you 🎉for securing your financial future and old age, some of us left in india with single income after taking care of parents, children education , marriage will not have enough left to retire respectably in old age if children choose to leave us.

[@Ashwin_11]

I came back to India after living in Europe for 9 years. almost 1 year completed in India, but now started feeling, it was worst decision. The only thing positive is that I stay closer to family. But apart from that stay in India is ruined by pollution and corruption. Thinking to go back to Europe with next available opportunity.

[@sb5224]

You should be more consistent in your thought process. It seems like you make decisions without evaluating your priorities. Don't blame it on India.

[@myNRILife]

Appreciate you sharing our thoughts @Ashwin_11. I agree India will appear tough specially if you R2I after a long time. I am sure you will find your answer. In the end whatever you decide will be best. At-least you gave India a honest chance and that is what counts. All the very best. ! Stay connected.

[@Ashwin_11]

@@sb5224 well it's just a fact India is polluted and mired with corruption. One thing I didn't consider is how much these things affect us in day to day life. And if we can normalise living in a polluted environment. Unfortunately, I can't normalise it.

[@OMMITRA]

​@@Ashwin_11 As NRI, I am shielded from corruption because of my relative wealth. Throwing in a few dollar here and there doesn't bother me as much. But the pollution is a real deal breaker. You can't escape it. It is a constant reminder, like a thorn in your foot.

[@srkshpdmnbhn]

@@Ashwin_11so is this something you suddenly discovered, or was hidden from you that you couldnt know about or did the situation change while/after you transitioned, meaning it was good but then changed to bad?

[@jiwanpanjiker7607]

Hi @Amit - you have made a best decision based on your requirements. I have also planned and done a hybrid move to Goa(after living for 16 years in the US) and it will soon be a permanent move. If you would like to collaborate and create a video let me know and I can share our approach with your viewers.

[@sureshiyengar480]

Your Analysis so true and perfect I left India in 1999 and around 2004 this feeling krept into me but could not reverse as my family was not in sync with my views put forth by me. 1. Roots are cut 2.lonlines will set in as we grow old 3.once kids cross a certain age i.e.10 to 14 Years they will not allow you to go back and their live will be ruined as you will be the cause for it. So in short You will have to become Abhimanyu in a dilema unable to return back to India. I appreciate your video sharing the real true feeling which any immigrant will go through and facilitate them to make the right choice and decision of their life.

[@djsunshine1]

Very honest appraisal of your life time decision! I have been living here in the Boston area for the last 45 years! I am glad that you returned in time to be able to adjust to the Indian way after 12 years! I go to India every year! I feel it's very difficult to settle back ... socially & economically! I have few friends who have moved back successfully and few who came back! A wife's sense of freedom and being able to insulate from family politics is an unsurmountable task! I go to India every year for 7 to 8 weeks..I found it (for myself)that there's no either or!!! Everything is global! Even family & friends can indulge with you for so long!! India..or the US! Have a blast! Congratulations for the video!

[@CHENNAIADVOCATE-t7r]

I RETURNED TO INDIA, AFTER BEING IN USA FOR 35 YRS. SETTLED IN MADURAI. ROYAL LIFE. ME AND MY WIFE ARE THOROUGHLY ENJOYING. BUT I DID METICULOUS PLANNING FOR 5 YRS, BEFORE RETURNING TO INDIA. MADE ENOUGH MONEY AND INVESTED IN PROPERTIES +, BEFORE RETURUNING.

[@rajnikantmehta76]

We came India for retirement after almost 39 years in USA. We love it in India

[@NILESHPATEL-ew1xx]

You are right. I have been in South jersy for the last 35 years. Kids are gone for the college.. kids don't want to return to New Jersey after college. This is the truth of life. You came for a better life, but at the end of the day, your kids are not with you..

[@myNRILife]

@NILESHPATEL-ew1xx your comment touched my heart. If you are ok i would like to invite you to talk about your experiences on my channel. Im sure you will have so many insights to share with the Indian community. Really appreciate your insights. Stay connected please.

[@ANTARIKC]

I feel its a vicious circle. Even in india kids move out of their home for college and then go to bangalore pune for job and parents end up staying in hometown. I believe its a globalization problem because people will continue to settle across the world. Its very subjective, if you are from bangalore then you will stay in the same city as your parents else the same situation is real in india.

[@Rishkush87]

12 years in US, bought three properties including a Villa in Noida and now it’s time video banake logon ko gyan dene ka 😂

[@msdadsfsx]

wrong decision, i invested in indian stocks from usa, money have become 5 times to 60 crore

[@myNRILife]

Haha sahi kah rahe hain aap.

[@aroravivek77]

Soon you will realize India for working class is similar to US only ….lonely life after kids move out.

[@sajeraopatil3748]

Correct

[@drtaorikamal916]

Wa WA badhiya aanaddayi hai great 😅looking forward to hearing from you soon for networking and pooling and pulling diversity as opportunity

[@UdanKhatola_dream]

congratulations and best of luck. We are also moving back to India in next few days and capturing our stories through daily vlogs.

[@littysantosh7910]

I like the honesty with which Sir has presented facts, giving an objective view

[@anuragg-p8k]

Nothing like India if you have a home and a job

[@truth6Seeker]

Which country is best to relocate to india wrt pollution?

[@atisdmitra]

UNFORTUNATELY YOU ARE 100% incorrect. India is moving towards same culture under Modi

[@arunamritraj01]

Thanks Amit for sharing and presenting your experiences in a true manner. I am living in USA since Feb 1999. Initially, as full time student on F1 visa for about 6 years (completed couple of master degrees from NJIT New Jersey and spend some time for PhD but did not complete PhD) then about 15 years on H1B and got green card in 2021. I can relate your points very well. Best wishes for your move!

[@jig2253]

Damn, freaking 22 yrs to get greencard.

[@arunamritraj01]

@@jig2253 yeah, it was long journey but true...

[@jyotiyangadmotghare1843]

Your country is your country. Family great institution made by God with parents grandparents and children. With extended family offcourse. Bonding with each and every member of the family matters which gives you real joy and peace.I can not go and live in other country yes I can visit other countries. I myself did not allow my daughter to go to USA as she wanted due th seeing after her friends going their after completion of their BDS and MBA.i love india .India gave me a great opportunity to work as a professor for about 37 years in one college getting UGC scale .Now after retirement handsome pension for a lady who is a lucky having such job in a country like india

[@dishadesai6646]

We too moved back to India 6 months ago after living in US for 10 years. We are just loving it here.

[@Gopinathk17]

You have children? Are they able to adjust in India now? I have been here for almost 10 years now and I'm also planning to move but thinking about children who are in middle school now.

[@dishadesai6646]

@ yes I have a son who is going to be 5 years. So that was an easy decision for us to make.

[@awesomekj5812]

Can you share your experience on what prompted you for that decision ? Thanks

[@dishadesai6646]

@@awesomekj5812 we never wanted to settle down in US. After a kid they get bored as most of the months u need to be indoors because of the depressing weather.

[@awesomekj5812]

@@dishadesai6646 Wait ..that was the only reason ?? You know that US got like different weathers.

[@msultan596]

You have taken the best decision on the right time. Congratulations, I would love to do the same but I 25 years ago India was not like today.

[@shaileshwadkar7175]

I moved to India in 2013, and even today, I believe this was the best decision i took. I did not even once regret this call. But ya, moving back to India or to be there, this decision can vary person to person, depending on what priorities are considered.

[@MAHESH-rd3df]

I fully agree with you and for similar reasons, I never settled abroad. Several of our family members wanted to come back but their children now don’t want to come back to India.

[@tm066]

A very honest video! Thanks for explaining your thoughts, in a way that's our own thoughts!

[@saradaprasannabehera4797]

Your kind words and healthy clarity is touching my heart 💕❤️

[@159841abhi]

Hi @myNRILife : Congratulations for taking such a huge decision . I am in same boat and figuring out the way . Which school did you choose for your elder one ?

[@myNRILife]

Lotus Valley

[@talktimewithpavan9970]

Thankyou for sharing your life's major decision. Can relate to it 100%. Left the US after 22 years. A soulfully happy decision, on 90% levels. Like you rightly said, teething issues are every where. Ultimately, Home is where the Heart is🎶 🙏👍😊🍀❗

[@nehakesarwani1]

Sir it depends totally on priority and clarity of thoughts....we ourselves are moving to India....n we are very happy....🙏🙏

[@BB-gr3mo]

Earn enough money for 3 generations in Usa ,also please make sure all your children and grandchildren have American citizenship and return to settle in India to see what a great country India is

[@rajnit5769]

Totally resonate with your thoughts Amit!. I am planning my India move ( Bangalore) after being in US for 25 yrs. I am semi retiring at 50 and don't intend to work for any employer in India but rather spend time doing things with family and friends / Travel. I do not think we will be settled in India or US. I see that we will be in both countries though we may spend more time in India for next 10 yrs compared to US and it will flip when we reach 65 ( full retirement age in US) to spend a bit more time in US compared to India. That's the time we will start seeing our family grow with kids marriage and arrival of grand kids. Just like India, Indian old age homes communities are growing in US too and you can pick and choose your time zone/weather in US while selecting Indian old age home community. There are pros and cons of both India and US but your comfort depends on your financial independence and concentration of your friends/family. In our story, the final conclusion is that, we are very conscious of our good health between 50 -65 yrs and want to encash the time on extensive travel with base in India, instead of chasing $$ in US with stressful job. There is only time value left for us as life is too short!. Return to India story is each to their own and depends many aspects!. Liked your thought process and your story!. Would love to connect if you could drop contact details.

[@kumudinitomar3277]

You have so politely explained about your decision, which, so many will agree and benefit by it, n thank you for helping them to makeup their mind to their decision to return to India. Values are hidden in family culture and spiritual happiness. Even birds return to their land of existence. Whites from west come to east either for holidays or seeking peace in our spiritual culture or rich ancient ethic.

[@DanPune]

Wish you the best. I love India , but when I plan to move back to India , I would prefer no to work , hopefully retire and move . Work is a different beast in India .

[@myNRILife]

agree 100% Thank you so much! Really appreciate your comment. Stay connected.

[@IntellectNobody]

video starts at @6:40

[@klawtawar]

Thank you 😂

[@Prit2004]

I wonder how a grade X child would have adjusted in an Indian school and appear for boards if he has been to a school in US since nursery/ play school.

[@Superlion027]

This is an example of why H1B visa's are a waste of everyone time. If the US govt rather invested in the local populous and allowed them to first priority on jobs, and gave better opportunitieas to new students who are US citizens to acquire those jobs then it would benefit the country as a whole because those people wouldnt just collect all the money and/or just leave everything and take all their money back to their home countries. They would be better equipped to pay back students loans (which were taken in US dollars) and also, be better positioned for long term success as they are no longer competing with those who are only looking to come for the money aspect.

[@realnapster1522]

US citizens are not capable of doing higher studies. STEM education is looked down upon in US society. There is more importance given to sports stars and artists.

[@yss6465]

For that to happen, US parents will have to take care of/fund their children's complete education, as we in India do. That is US parents have to imbibe the concept of savings for securing their children's future & not burden their kids with financial instability from the age of 16-18. Individualism leads to consumerism & instability.

[@Superlion027]

@@yss6465 This is false. The US Govt. and other pvt banks are fully ready to fund students who are ready to learn, this is other then state and third party sponsored scholarships. The point isnt students being burdened.... it is existing students who already hold degree's having to compete with outsiders for the same jobs for less money only to see those same people walk away from teh country with 0 loyalty.

[@AdityaJape]

​@@Superlion027 you both are right

[@FHi349]

​@Superlion027 and why should H-1Bs have any loyalty? They're neither immigrants nor citizens. They are there for a definite period of time so they earn as much as possible and go back to their Homelands whenever visa is set to expire

[@indrajitba33nerjee97]

A truly honest and balanced perspective shared in the video and all great points, both the pros and the cons of living outside India. Look forward to more high-quality content.

[@amitfrancis1766]

East or West, India is the best . Grass is now greener in 🇮🇳. Indians have made us company , not gora ,now it's time to give back to the mother country which is now growing to catch up the developed economy

[@myNRILife]

Thank you so much! Really appreciate your comment. Stay connected.

[@butternuttergirl]

Hopefully your decision works out the way you want it to. All the best. One thing I’d like to say is your kids will move on, and can leave India to study or work elsewhere. Gen Z is quite different than millennials who grew up in India especially. That divide between parents and children is already there not only in the US but India too. In fact Indian youth tries so hard to be like the American youth. My husband and I live in Chicago, and our story is very different. We have nothing and nobody to go back to, for the most part. My husband’s parents are no more, my mother is the only surviving parent who visits us- once a year. Our brothers are busy with their lives, and live in different cities, and even when we were in India, they hardly met us…so to come back to India , we’d need a better reason.

[@praveensethi9163]

I fully agree, with him , especially the parents who move to USA after retirement as dependent parents. Such parents Initially for first 3-4 months remain happy but slowly and gradually the start missing their friends, relatives because children and their spouse are busy n their grandchildren are also busy in studies / friends- it’s the time the old parent who have migrated to USA start feeling loneliness and remain confined to their bedrooms because of many reasons. They want to go back to India but they are helpless because of old age- various ailments. I am one of such parents and have started feeling now ( in 14-15 months) that my decision to move to USA was not wise. Family bondings keeps getting less n lesser day by day. Indian way of living is entirely different. I know some parents who have surrendered their green cards and have gone back to India. Even I want to go back to India but the problem is that my wife is not willing to go back to India.

[@anamikad9397]

I’m also daily struggling with question of moving back to India. Please let me know about your kids. Are they fine staying in India. Are they able to cope with study pressure there. I have heard many go back and come back to USA because of kids. Is climate temperature not bothering??

[@BKrishnasetty]

Some of my friends who had children in USA went back to India. When their children grew up they went back to USA to study and settled there. Now the parents are in India and the children are in USA. There’s no one to take care of them in India. They are ending up in senior communities. The joint families are slowly disappearing. Hope this won’t happen for you.

[@umar_mughal.3861]

There's no difference between India & West... In India,got opportunities for education, sports, entertainment/culture. Only people with a particular mindset settles permanent in the West.. Rich people in the West keep connections in Asia,that goes vice-versa..

[@lamarkhanna7300]

I have been in US for last 35 years, never ever coming back. Came for quick visit in 2024 March, horrible experience, no discipline, no space restriction, rip off everywhere. If just in case coming back, .01%, will go in jungles of Uttarakhand, India is very low mindset place, returning is next to impossible.

[@jagadishn1740]

May be you can make a similar video one year later and let us know how you feel .. India is not the same like when you left.. it has caught up to the individualism like west. And looks like you have high hopes of post retirement life in India. Good luck with that..

[@myNRILife]

@jagadishn1740 really appreciate your feedback. I certainly will. My goal thru this channel is to share a true picture of life of an NRI. Both good and bad. stay connected please.

[@FHi349]

​@@myNRILife let us see Mr.

[@werhuman8798]

I really never understand,how can anyone cm bk from abroad , until n unless there is sm unfortunate incident, though I hv still chance to go bk but becoz my hubby is hr n I can’t live without him , I must hv to stay. Being a North Indian woman, where after marriage girls r treated like unwanted family members so I am not atttached with my parent side n hubby brothers r well settled in USA already, effectively no one is dying for me in India. Second… ufffffff India is so dirty, still I am not able to breathe, not safe for woman n kids especially, justice n law u should forget, cyber crime is at world level, no traffic sense, no civic sense, judgemental society n millions of things. If u cm by own for the sake of relatives then hats off to you but in my thinking everyone wants only money, nothing else. How ur kids accepted ? Me also deliberately came after 12 yr from Indonesia, world,s peaceful country but missing every single day of Jakarta.feeling suffocating here. Hoping u wud not regret, all the best for new journey.plz make video after 1 yr

[@DadCooks4Us]

I live in Houston and we have been living here for 16 years now. My son is in high school. The problems you are talking about are mostly legit but they are not specific of America. I thin it is the struggles of staying in any foreign country outside of home. Some of the points you mentioned I would not agree as I believe they were your specific experiences.

[@TheKmunjal]

Beautifully summarised Amit. We did the same move after 18 years in the US and pretty much had the same reasons as you. Especially the third reason you mentioned was spot on. I had this fear also that I don't want to spend my retired life in the US or when kids head out to college. I feel like life in general in the US is very robotic and tied to your job. If you stop working then the loneliness and the general monotony of life gets to you. Plus a lot of your time goes into chores and I feel you never have time for yourself there. India certainly has downsides as you mentioned with pollution and general apethetic attitude of people in your other video. But I will still say once you attain a certain level of financial assets, life in India offers you a better quality of life vs. the US. Looking fwd to future content from you.

[@getishamshad5439]

We currently live in the Netherlands and are discussing if we should move back to India as we are not happy mentally here. Thanks for the video . It feels that going back to India would be the better decision

[@waliaharpreet7942]

What are your thoughts about your elder son who went to India while in high school? How is he adjusting to competition in India and competitive exams ahead or your son will come to US for further studies ?

[@myNRILife]

Its a very relevant question. Moving to India with teenager kids is another challenge. I guess i am lucky in this regard. My kid is settling well. I think we should have a honest conversation with our kids. Tell them the reason for the move. And give them easier options to settle in India. In my next video I have addressed the question of challenges kids faced while moving to India. kzbin.info/www/bejne/i2TMnnuCopJlaM0 I hope this gives you some answers. Stay connected.

[@Prachi-sha]

Paisa aa jane pe roots yaad aa hi jati hai. Jitne paise apne kamaye usse yahan aap raja k jaise ji skte ho aur wahan aap ek normal person they.but apko wapis aane k liye family ko convince krna pada.. hope your kids don’t suffer here since, for them it is big change.

[@kalyanacmalempati4112]

Just curious sir, have you applied for a green card ??? You went in 2012, Eb2, Eb3 dates the same year. You have not mentioned about it, takes forever to get or never... 😮

[@scd7812]

Please do a video on how you moved your finances/corpus from the USA to India. 401k, Roth, tax implications etc.

[@shekar209]

I thank u for ur wonderful sharing . I am happy that u n ur family realised that sare Jahan se Accha Hindustan hamara . All the very best f happy stay n stay firmly connected with our roots

[@shammitrivedi3930]

You are 100% right thats all. Majority feel like you but they cannot back of ego and family clash.

[@sachinshukladxb]

Thank you for your advice by experience, I started working abroad just 2 years ago. I'll re-acess when I need to go back to India.

[@ashwindsilva]

You took the right decision at the right time. Any longer, you would have got stuck there. Best wishes!

[@sbbirar]

Did your kids face any challenges to adapt education/schools in India ?

[@amindra963]

Asia and India is the future!

[@rabindrasingh6270]

Thanks for sharing your experiences. Having lived abroad for 11 yrs, I can relate to myself with your thoughts. You have brought out your point of view in a very Frank and balanced way. Keep it up.

[@bridgitlavanya6417]

American lifestyle which was once a blessing begins to haunt in your old age- 💯 percent true, i see one elderly person who settled here 46 years back, longing for people to talk and for simple indian veg foods made with less oil and care . For first generation settlers it is a challenge in old-age

[@shakuntalakuchibhotla6057]

Yes, when they retire, children left home, if they cannot drive because reflexes become slow due to health reasons ,life becomes miserable. Children do not visit often. No concept of parents moving to stay with children.....very very rare. Domestic help is extremely costly...charge by hour. Having a driver is unheard of. Only option is to move to a retirement home!!!! Public transport is only in big cities like New york. One gets mad... I know some people in such a situation.

[@truth6Seeker]

Which country is best to relocate to india wrt pollution?

[@ashokkumar-mt9cb]

Totally agree with you dear. Right decision at the right time.

[@ucboxi]

Good luck and happy life in India.

[@nancherla]

Very well said and explained…i anticipated all these problems way back in 1998 after my first travel to Germany….so stayed back in India forever….happily enjoying life in India….the western culture is not bad but its just that it is not suitable for Indians…if people can afford then they must always go around the world and see places and collect memories but the best place to live permanently is India….just my thought🙏🙏🙏

[@myNRILife]

Truly said sir. Thank you so much! Really appreciate your comment. Stay connected.

[@muralidharv6213]

Very well articulated. The biggest loss for the people who move to other countries is the irreversible loss of our cultural and civilizational values. The Indian way of life flows from this.

[@reenaroutray9246]

A very wise decision! Family bonding, culture and everything is absolutely good in lndia! Caring for parents grand parents cousins is only seen in lndia!

[@myNRILife]

Thank you so much! Really appreciate your comment. Stay connected.

[@ArunBhatia-xp6im]

Great informative and thought-provoking video ! However, what if most of your family is abroad and in the US ? What would you have done ? My daughters married Indian-American boys. We are in constant contact with each other.

[@shwetakhemanigurnani2831]

We share a very similar story. Will look forward for more of your journey next in India.. thanks

[@pamc7307]

your son used to be sick with bronchitis,as a child how is moving back to high AQI areas going to affect his beathing? your kids might move to US anyway for college. I see many Indian kids moving to US even now.

[@sonalilikhite1856]

We have gone through the similar phase in iur life about 15 yrs ago. However our timelines dont match. We returned to India from the US when my elder one was almost 6yrs. Im happy to say that it was the right decision. My children happily grew up in our families (my family and my husband side family) Aftet my elder one turned 18, we moved to the US again to support her education after 12th. Im curious to know how your elder son is dealing with this transition. Is he planning to do his graduation in India? I'm sure you would have done research on colleges, admissions, quality of education etc in India. What are his plans. It will be awesome if they align with your move. All the best!

[@manishagrawal4260]

Hi Sonali, we are currently in the same bucket (your move to india) and would like to understand your reasons to move back to US. Can we please connect?

[@shakuntalakuchibhotla6057]

Good decision..I really really appreciate it.