Why INTJ Men Have No Friends

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INTJ men, also known as the "architect" personality type, are known for their intelligence, independence, and strategic thinking. While they seem to be good at a number of things, nobody is perfect and in the case of INTJ’s they often struggle with making friends. Today on Charisma, we’re going to be looking at 10 reasons why INTJ men have no friends.
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@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

Did you relate to this list?

@Ingisen Жыл бұрын

@@acx10204 You can be strategic in many things, not just chess. Strategic as in being able to plan you life goals, managing close relations, helping others in various ways, etc. Don't let perceptions define you, certainly not 4 letters

@Ingisen Жыл бұрын

Yes and no. While I think MBTI is interesting to study, I treat it as just that: a study, a pastime, a distraction to help me unwind. Defining oneself by MBTI is - to me, at least - the same as using horoscopes and such. Using terminology such as Alpha, Beta, Sigma in regards to social hierarchy is in the same vein. My greatest relation to this video is the loneliness. Then again, it should be said that although loneliness is a state of mind, it is also a consequence. A consequence of others AND oneself. One of my regrets in life is not having realized this sooner. *Although I usually test as INTJ, I take that with a huge grain of salt. I certainly don't tick off the boxes so often applied to INTJs (although my gaze has the same effect as Moses and the ocean). **Being told while growing up that you appear intimidating is NOT good for the 'ol self-esteem

@TheOverThinkerYT 4 ай бұрын

Your words are so true sometimes judging yourself through these "quizzes" sets up unrealistic expectations, but can also be insightful. -intj@@Ingisen

@Zumjay85803 7 ай бұрын

Friends interrupt thinking time.

@markeberle3984 6 ай бұрын

"Friends" are just people that want to be heard or validated. Gain their knowledge, keep it moving. We have the world to gain.

@mirafields1641 2 ай бұрын

I acknowledge that your point is valid in certain friendships. But fact is...best way to grow as a human being is to have people that are actually able to contend with us and that will challenge us. And this vice versa. Any person that put value in personal growth will take this in perspective. And finding those special people that share that value and can be respectful about it....both parties will acquire huge benefits from the friendship. I do believe many intj's possess this value and thus choose their very few special people that can fill the role essential to their growth and missions and they provide the same in return.

@SamBrockmann Ай бұрын

This is not an attitude of the INTJ. Architects don't want to rule the world. You sound like a sociopath.

@galenspikesmusic 9 күн бұрын

The world to gain? That’s why you have no friends.

@SamBrockmann 9 күн бұрын

You're not a INTJ. You're a moron.

@HottyAsh 7 ай бұрын

I am an INTJ and have literally zero friends. I don't need friends; I only need my goals and dreams to be achieved.

@youtubeadsarecancer785 4 ай бұрын

im an intj and i run business, unless you are a scientist or whatever inventor that can build a warship in your own basement, making friends is important, because they help you achieve a higher goal, you can use them no matter how you see them. If you think friend is not important, you are a low INTJ, real intj will do whatever they don't like to do in order to reach a higher goal, such as socialising in a party, for some particular reason.

@HottyAsh 4 ай бұрын

@@youtubeadsarecancer785 First of all, I am an administrative officer and i am gonna say it again that, you don't need any friends to fulfill your dreams as an INTJ, having friends isn't a bad thing but its just not my style. And by your words, i can guess the low level INTJ is you, or maybe you're an Wanna be INTJ who doesn't have any confidence to do things alone and always need other's support. Maybe its because you do Business. But i am in Administration, so i don't need anyone, cuz everyone here is under my authority.

@renanfrancisco8377 3 ай бұрын

It's just unhealthy not to have friends. Remember, as an INTJ and as a human being, you should prioritize good self-care and survival. There have been studies that showed a particular correlation between a lack of intimate social interaction and common diseases. So, try to be social more often if you want to live longer.

@youtubeadsarecancer785 3 ай бұрын

@@HottyAshif you dont have frds in banks, in government, in a law firm, or in whatever powerful authority, now try to lend 2 million from the bank and extend your business. try it. 😂(you will say you are the authority, but meh officer is not an authority) but yes if you are an admin officer, then yes you probably dont need frd. i get you. 😂your stable salary will cover all you need in McDonald😂😂🤣"Everyone is under your authority" kkk . A psychology research discovered that the most "sociable" president in United state gets their law passed through Congress much more easily than those who have "no friend" but also "no enemy". So, you are living in a delusion that you are the best, but in fact, you are not, because you cannot harness the people around you. "having confident" in doing sth doesnt mean you have to do it in the hard way, because efficiency is more important than your delusion "im the best i can do it all by myself" mindset, you didnt have the vision on the future, there is a reason why microsoft and nvda is not a one man business, lmao byebye

@youtubeadsarecancer785 3 ай бұрын

@@renanfrancisco8377 KZbin deleted my comments again lmao., Every intj understands we don't really need friends, but he doesn't understand that there are so many practical benefits of having/using friends, which i can assure you he will not be a successful intj, meh disappointment. Imagine Elon musk has no friends, their will not be tesla. But stupid intj will think "meh im the best i can create and run tesla by myself" lmao. Mr administrative officer

@thepickles8833 Жыл бұрын

We have very long sighted perspectives that many people do not share. Opening up and sharing these views comes across as cold, dire, and frightening to most people. We see hard factual context in most topics, others evade these truths to stay in a comfortable state of wistful ignorance. We don’t like to tiptoe around these people, so we ultimately deem them “mentally fragile” and steer clear of them to reduce damage. Having someone who can content our foresights, spin it with a stable or optimistic recap... are the friends we crave the most... but they are Extremely rare to find.

@TheDexterFishbourne 6 ай бұрын

This rings true with me, I am 45 w/about 3 friends, everyone else is just an acquaintance.

@Chris-fn4df 4 ай бұрын

44 and with 3 friends. Each of whom I have known for over 20 years. We actually see each other once every week or every other week.

@jonrazo7912 9 ай бұрын

I am an INTJ and I have too many friends. My sister told me once that making friends was my superpower, I do it so easily. I wish I had more alone time than I do.

@pepthelad 8 ай бұрын

wish that was me 😂

@setlow4466 5 ай бұрын

just stop hanging out with them

@sashaalex8730 4 ай бұрын

You are not intj, maybe

@stevencrypto3721 4 ай бұрын

Same for me

@donfrank2544 3 ай бұрын

@@sashaalex8730 even if you’re an INTJ you may have really good charisma that overshadows your hard headedness. Kind of get too friendly with someone too fast and then start to feel awkward because your bran is rejecting it. Kind of strange.

@manigomez2387 Жыл бұрын

People drain my energy.

@cmymotion 5 ай бұрын

That's true

@malenesainz2136 Жыл бұрын

Same here, I’m female only have few that I consider friends those only that I know who can’t drain my energy.

@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

Makes sense. Seems that these carry over regardless of if you're a man or woman

@romonk5980 Жыл бұрын

Makes sense youre an average of the people you spend the most time with and INTJs REALLY dont want to be average, Jaja. I only have 3 close friends and were all INXJs. T/F

@Wasp239 10 ай бұрын

@@romonk5980 It's not about want. It's just is what it is

@def_no.t_sidd Ай бұрын

As an INTJ myself I don't even let my feelings/vulnerabilities known to family members or closest friends.

@nonjaninja4904 5 ай бұрын

I'd say the worst thing as an INTJ, besides having to present something in front of a class, is being bored and feeling flat. I can deal with up or down, but not flat.

@1975KyleDavid Жыл бұрын

I've noticed that INTJ and INFJ people have many common traits--good and bad. Both groups are independent, unsocial, enjoy building in private environment... these are just a few of the many similarities. I don't know if I am an Intj or an infj, I fit in both groups.

@romonk5980 Жыл бұрын

That means youre an INXJ you just have weak feeling and thinking traits so youre in the middle instead of one sided like most INTor INF Js

@anime_lover12379 7 ай бұрын

You should look at cognitive function if your feeling is Fe ( infj) or Fi ( intj).

@RetroXRicardo Жыл бұрын

An interesting take on this INTJ type! Thanks for sharing. Randomly discovered your channel through the KZbin algorithm! 🤟🤟🤟

@LaMach420 7 ай бұрын

I cant argue the most fun Ive ever had was with the boys, that said we were only friends cause we shared the same common interest and sense of humor. However once they got bored of said activity, the thread went missing and our friendship fell by the wayside. I get a lot done when Im alone and while I dont feel as lonely as others may in solitude, it still sucks sometimes. Im able to vibe with all types minus SFJs 😴 we just need to be doing an activity together. The types I can smoke a doob/crack a beer with and just talk are usually xNTP, INFJ and some xNFPs. Sure I could find some, just need to put effort into socializing.

@andycuriel8367 Жыл бұрын

I have absolutely no friends. Partly because I feel I’m above everything else in terms of thinking (I think about 1000mph) and because I’m really antisocial lol I prefer to be alone

@ScorpioMoon8 Жыл бұрын

I feel that too. I've tended to ascribe to "modern hermit" at times when I start to doubt myself and weigh the options between it being worth trying to socialize or maintaining my own sense of sanity. But I usually realize that it appears to be an uphill battle either way, because I really only have family close to me, but even them I don't really have any sort of connection to because of drama so I just keep shut off and explore all kinds of ideas and possibilities. Honestly it seems more worth it to isolate more because it gives someone the chance to actually start thinking and not use the common fake persona and feelings that don't even lead anywhere besides venting mostly and using others as a backboard of sorts. I know now not to feel bad or ashamed about it as it just means I have preference of who i wish to share information or interests with without doing myself wrong with other people's BS

@romonk5980 Жыл бұрын

INTJ + ADHD everyone wants to be my friend until they are then they cant keep up and dont feel like trying or are too busy with their own path and drama so I back off.

@Wasp239 10 ай бұрын

you wanted to say Asocial. Asocial means not engaging with society. Antisocial means against society and refers to sociopaths and psychopaths.

@Wasp239 10 ай бұрын

@@ScorpioMoon8 "fake persona and feelings that don't even lead anywhere besides venting mostly and using others as a backboard of sorts" sounds like narcissism

@ScorpioMoon8 10 ай бұрын

@@Wasp239 you aren't completely wrong. The people i happen to be around at all or have any contact with is family, as I don't have any friends willingly. What I meant with my comment is that to me it feels like there is this persona that a lot of people give off that to me feels fake or basically that I'm waiting for them to get to the point. That I'm impatient with, or indifferent to other people being giddy and upbeat with me as an introvert (I guess this is the case of extrovert versus introvert interaction) when I just don't feel the same and my own feeling of being expected to behave the same otherwise I'm labeled rude or uninteresting or that something is wrong. Another reason that particular thing pops up into my mind is due to my mother actually showing a lot of signs of covert narcissism. She will continually put on a very false sense of elation, even after something happens (like for instance when she manages to say something hurtful to me, or make herself feel better about talking crap about anyone else) and when I don't express the exact thing she wants me to express, she will go into a "wow, okay. Guess everyone wants to be depressed today" sort of thing. Usually it's along the lines of "I can never be happy" (her way of trying to make me feel as though I'm dampening her mood or causing her sadness when I don't share the same feelings as her).

@SP-lk7do 9 ай бұрын

I can keep entertain myself.. I can do sports, solving hard problems, learning new stuff and all the other things you have to do to live. Thats enough for me. I only just talk to people because everyone else is socializing.

@louie4939 Ай бұрын

So basically i am the only INTJ man who has loyal friends 😆💖 Basically they're all loyal and reliable, they're my treasure and I will never abandon them. 💖✌️ My 1st group is where I am in college, They were most extroverted and only 3 of us are introverts. 11 loyal and fun people, we did many mess up things hahaha, but we like to hang up after school and drink more coffee.. We Cherish every moment even though we are all graduated and have our own personal responsibility we are constantly met because we really treasure our relationship that we built up in college. We graduated in 2018. The word I will never forget is that 1 of my friends said to me she say, "If I will abandon them she will never give up our friendship." Those word earned my respect because she done it in her actions. 2nd group we're in my colleagues in the church, they're all amazing and great leaders, we're our treatment to each we're like siblings. I cannot tell them all.. I had friends in work, my students.. etc.. Being INTJ doesn't mean you cannot make friends, you just need to be true to your self so that people around you will accept who you are. 💖✌️

@iandobbs4920 3 ай бұрын

Interesting that all videos about this subject suggest that INTJ’s ‘struggle’, ‘have a hard time’ or ‘find it difficult’ to make friends. As an INTJ myself, I disagree with all of this and would answer the question ‘Why do INTJ’s have no (I prefer the word few) friends?’ more simply and succinctly with, ‘because we don’t need them’.

@rubelrana-vr7gl Жыл бұрын

I am intj. Very happy to know why I have less friend.

@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

Figured it was worth making a video about it!

@Buzzard095 Жыл бұрын

Why say that here? You are a liar.

@markwatson7652 2 ай бұрын

This is spot on about me. I'd really like to see a similar matrix about the OCEAN personality model.

@santinamarie4699 Ай бұрын

They are skeptical about introverted thinking. Their extroverted thinking makes them think that the only thing that exists is what they can see and touch

@ambvurt3739 Жыл бұрын

My closest friends and I all took the MBTI assessment at the same time and my entire friend group, all five of us, turned out to be INTJ lol.

@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

Thats wild haha

@ambvurt3739 Жыл бұрын

@@mindscopechannel I guess what was said about preferring to be friends with those that value independence and intellection was correct.

@Buzzard095 Жыл бұрын

The lol negates your untrue statement.

@Peter-uo9km Жыл бұрын

Must be like a party up in there

@romonk5980 Жыл бұрын

Makes sense youre an average of the people you spend the most time with I only have 3 close friends and were all INTj

@nikitaacoral 4 ай бұрын

I’m an ENFP and I feel the exact way. I think at 1000mph and find everything predictable and easy and boring. In saying that though I find beauty in this. I still prefer to be around INTJs though because they think the same as me, I just wish they could look past the sunshine exterior

@dennisfabian2570 4 ай бұрын

Sunshine exterior? Like into the depths of what people pretend to be, because we don’t like socializing with them too much?

@MissLibertarian 5 ай бұрын

This INTJ female has two INTJ male relatives who are great at empathy and expressing emotions and support but they often follow the golden rule and do unto others as they would have done unto them. … So, if another person is trying not to cry, they might do something to distract their thoughts to either a solution or a different topic to help them not cry. The empathy they feel will often be unspoken in words but seen in their face or manner. They may go away and think about it and come back later with some kind of contribution of support and it might be their best idea. In short, this and one or two of the other statements about INTJ men was less convincing to me than the ones that I can agree with. When I see so much suffering in the world I want to go and fix the broken monetary system and open up healthcare to the free market in order to save lives from stress and malpractice. Is that empathy? I also do things to further those goals. The way others express empathy often seems like small talk. When people talk about their shoe-shopping expeditions, I pull out my story of the anthropodiatrist in the UK who helped anthropologists distinguish Anglo-Saxon and Celt remains by the shape of their feet (an article I read last century). You are correct about small talk, but my Dad could talk to anyone (starting with me as a child) asking questions to discover my thought processes in a Socratic manner which is a sign of respect. The stock footage that illustrates this video is really distracting and I had to close my eyes as the expressions displayed were off-topic and seemed to have been more representative of actors and models than INTJs. Several of the Jane Austin movie capture INTJs better. I’m curious to know if there is a body type associated with this type of brain.

@timg6176 Ай бұрын

We dont want friends, big difference from not being able to make them.

@setlow4466 5 ай бұрын

apart from explaining the same concept with different words over and over good vid

@user-8b5en6bgh7f 7 ай бұрын

An intj women also have no friends

@carljj7942 7 ай бұрын

Yes!

@Benjamin-mx1vf Жыл бұрын

INTJ-A.... I have friends

@Buzzard095 Жыл бұрын

You are not

@albertmichelson1615 Жыл бұрын

I’m an INTJA and I still don’t have friends

@eena_na_ve Жыл бұрын

Intj women too:)

@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

True!

@YTS214 7 ай бұрын

I dont know which mbti i have

@canadianlumberjack7642 5 ай бұрын

Intj male, doing life my way... zero friends for years. Bushido outlook.

@mohammadshaheen5376 11 ай бұрын

i have more than 20 friends, I had no friends when i was kid!

@jhawksmoore9773 3 ай бұрын

Due to my hobbies i've made a reasonnable amount of valuable friends but they're all from the rationnal types.

@Whatwasmynamemeanttobeagain 6 ай бұрын

I have friends- some like a few like 3 or 4 maybe

@puiasailo9831 Жыл бұрын

I took a test on google and now I think I'm an intj 🤣🤣🤣 does that count

@mindscopechannel Жыл бұрын

Sure haha

@Buzzard095 Жыл бұрын

Nope

@michaelbuick6995 Күн бұрын

I don't think ANYONE has friends. A fairweather friend isn't a friend, and all friends are fairweather. The difference between us INTJs and everyone else? We're not fooled. It's essentially our defining characteristic we see the code in the matrix.

@juraganfarms 9 ай бұрын

I can count my closest friends with my hand fingers 😅

@LaMach420 7 ай бұрын

Current or lifetime? Lmao.

@exposingproxystalkingorgan4164 8 ай бұрын

INTJ, Sigma Males are hardasses who get crap done. They will dump any dead beats that weigh them down. I am INTJ with Dark Triad personality traits, and maybe even a Darth Empath. I am definitely not secretly touchy feely. I just want my goals achieved. I do like some socializing in moderate amounts. 🤨

@RelaxedReadz 4 ай бұрын

Because he doesn't want any.

@Tusihicsisalitersentias 9 ай бұрын

Not in sales so dont need to sell things to people

@cmymotion 5 ай бұрын

That's not true. I have friends, though i like to be alone most of the times. It is not that we are not empathetic, empathy does not solve any issues most of the time.