Why Is It So Hard To Be Kind? | Ajahn Brahm | 05 March 2010

[@freddylim310]

Brilliant Dharma teachings ❤️Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏 Thanks Ajahn❤️

[@FallouFitness_NattyEdition]

I hope someday to meet this man. His talks have made a huge impact on my life.

[@nichole7965]

AVET87 me too!

[@sachinthaherath4902]

Me three😂

[@mariac5942]

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[@erickrapf9332]

Same. The lectures very much affect the way I think about certain situations. Yet its very challenging to apply it in day to day life. I feel as if my views and my surrounding are constantly challenged in this tug of war between western and eastern philosophies. I would love to take the middle way, yet I feel like people around me want to commit to either this or that, no middle way, mostly extremes.

[@yaiyasmin]

Inspiring video, everyone needs to be reminded of kindness. I talk to myself first. "Kindness is a mark of faith, and whoever is not kind has no faith"

[@suzanneolivar1]

I wish that schools would allow this type of lectures at the high schools, maybe there would be less bullying.

[@Beautifulcoil]

There wouldn't. Kids don't understand or care about that stuff.

[@nguoithichhoasim1233]

@@Beautifulcoil : kids can bé taught the karma and consequence , and the kindness in the simple way suitable to their understanding . But the other religions will protest . In USA , mindfulness meditation were taught at few school , to help them concentrate in studying more , because they were distracted by internet . And a couple of years ago, Christians in a district , signed a letter to protest , said that propagates Buddhism . In the ideal situation , the kids and students at high school , universities , also the parents are taught the kindness and compassion too.

[@joycemansfield1108]

And just good people

[@AlysiaWilkins-t9v]

WE ARE IN Agreement!!! ❤️

[@Elegance191]

Aww...Ajahn Brahm is a good actor with the duck and chicken story 😂 He makes me think of it when I go 'berserk' and grounds me 😁

[@lordbyron3603]

4 years later and I still have difficulty with being kind to others! In fact, I’ve gotten worse.!! I’m applying several techniques AB talks about ie, look at the bigger picture and focus on all the positive things , good qualities in the person instead of the negative things about them. It works but the hateful ill-will feeling doesn’t go away completely. But the duration doesn’t last as long either . So I’m doing something right !

[@kevinng1702]

Every morning, look into the mirror, say to yourself…I love myself…I am still alive…be grateful with what you have…keep saying that daily…you will see the difference within 3 months…Good Luck….

[@sachinthaherath4902]

10:20 really hits the spot for me😌 Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu🙏🙏🙏

[@mobiusloop339]

I have an insane need to be right. I never thought I did, but seeing this video made me realize my mistake. I learn an immense amount from Ajahn Brahm's lectures. He is a brilliant teacher.

[@ip9117]

Blessed are you!

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Mobius Loop I can relate to this too, I also often have this insane desire to be right😔 (it's almost like an 'all knowing' sense of ego). This talk reminds me of the need for humility in life😌👌

[@thudo5587]

I think you gave this talk just for me. Thank you so much for your wisdom,compassion,and personal humor 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Elegance191]

And for me ! 😁

[@Windhorse_Mcghee]

Jewels and pearls of wisdom in every talk, thanks

[@jdelafuente04]

thank you so much for posting this. You did wonderful job. I like listening to Ajahn Brahm

[@ODDthoughts3]

this makes so much more sense then fighting all the time I really needed this:)

[@winnbrad]

Thank you for posting these wonderful videos.

[@Ourladyrosaries]

I watch every day x

[@5755mettateoh]

It is difficult to show kindness when one is surrounded by difficult people who think they are always right.......have to keep telling oneself to be patient

[@evemerda2583]

Ajahn Brahm at his best. Wonderful lecture.

[@clearskymind]

Great talk as always. It starts with forgiving and loving self, and everything else in the past and future forever without expectation. Deep but hard to practice. Since outside world is competitive, fault finding and dishonest a lot of time... And rewards that negativity... But it still is worth being kind and forgiving than otherwise for ones own peace of mind...

[@sachinthaherath4902]

@Kat Y 😌

[@ashantasetiadi]

love every second i watch this. a very good talk. thank you very much. Buddha Bless Us All.

[@howardcohen6817]

Love after 8 years. And your blessing lingers in the air. Thank you. May I join you in this holy blessing on Us All?

[@Sneflokke]

One great talk, so mening full to me, thank you 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼✨💫✨🤩

[@joakimdernebo8400]

Buddhas teaching is the true wisdom

[@lordbyron3603]

I thought I was kind, forgiving and generous. I am not! I lose it every time I'm tested.

[@adth123ify]

Sending you so much 💗.

[@lordbyron3603]

2 years later ... and I’m still losing it. But, the unkindness doesn’t linger like it used to. I was only unkind and filled with anger for maybe 3-5 minutes. That’s damn good. What I did was immediately focus on something that gave me a lot of pleasure. ... and it worked. Woohoooo!

[@gonibilla532]

another wonderful talk . thank you!

[@lollipop9139]

One of the reasons why people won't let a person, who has made a huge mistake, off the hook is because people nowadays are very abusive. And, that is why people become traumatized and start to protect themselves so as not to be hurt again.

[@symphony1045]

Seelavantham Gunawantham Punyakkettham Anuttharam Dullabena Mayaladdam Buddha Putthan Namamaham 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 I Pay my homage to your respectful Swaminwahansa May my mother A.K.M.Gunawardhana be blessed with Great Health. Please give her your blessings Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu Sadhu

[@claribelsefira3573]

thank you so much for making me a better person hopefully! still trying to be a better person ! this video inspire me so much !

[@thudo5587]

🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇🙏🏻🙇Ajahn Brahm

[@michellepeterson5241]

Such a sweet, funny teacher. 🙏

[@lordbyron3603]

" it was me!" .... He's so funny.

[@JAKEAWAKEOFFICIAL]

Got me started. That's all that matters.

[@mauriced.turner-brown6703]

Its hard to be kind and have good self control to these people these days

[@mipatataquierido]

thank you so much.

[@clearskymind]

Never helpful to be self-righteous or angry even when we were unfairly hurt.. Need to constantly reinforce this idea otherwise the mind does start to feel angry and fearful.. Buddha is so wise- desire and anger keeps this unending destructive cycle going. Only way is to realize this and change ones attitude without pride, let things be. Dharma is practical- unless one applies and practices, the mind can never change. Without internal peace, it's hard to be happy with any amount of wealth or ach

[@dk4past2now87]

It's not hard to be kind but people do not handle loyalty. The world disposes of each other for such small things. It's easier to push people out of our lives. I don't mind admitting when I'm wrong, but find even that act of kindness, is ignored. People assume they will find better or someone they feel fits their standards. This makes it hard to keep showing kindness or even encouraging others when it isn't appreciated.

[@kritisrivastava9393]

12/1/22. Thankyou Guruji 🙏🏽

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[@Sumazndoode]

its nice to be nice!

[@karunabro6061]

beautiful talk

[@Frlvonundzu]

Sehenswert!

[@larryprimeau7738]

another good talk

[@AhLeBatard]

Great tolk thanks 😊

[@clearskymind]

There's no perfection but it is kinder to all beings and environment to live contently and simply. But being defensive, having a strong ego to protect and manipulate others through fear, anger, and rating makes this place so hard to live for all beings... not considering how that actions affect everyone... wars, using up resources, unequal distribution, .. it's real, but nevertheless it's more helpful to be forgiving, see the good in everything and get through life. Never helpful to be self-rig

[@bocabill1907]

So true.

[@kadenprowse4609]

Ha! Loved it

[@omnimatty]

8 people weren't kind to this video. thumbs down :(. it is great. :)

[@clearskymind]

achievement. Kind of need to look at the big picture. lower the expectation, and start with forgiving and being kind to self first.

[@lollipop9139]

And, I was wondering if Ajahn Brahm would give a talk about sth on being abusive and stuff...

[@TonyPrower]

Ajahn Brahm, is there any knowledge, wisdom or experience you could conceive of which would make you give up Buddhism?

[@ip9117]

So true... whatever, a duck or a chicken :)

[@Andrew_-yo1jh]

Deep done in my head my head say there ugly I say shut it shut it shut it stop being rude now I am kind

[@composerdoh]

Actually, Jesus's point about a camel passing thru the eye of a needle has to do with attachment to wealth/materialism. The Buddha said similar things, and it seems to me the very fact that one must be able to give away all of one's possessions and take a vow of poverty in order to be ordained says that they're not all that far off on the issue. That being said I do understand Ajahn Brahm was just being a goofball.

[@lordbyron3603]

Hahahaha.....LOL. “Can I be honest with the person I live with?” ...... oh hell no! I’d be kicked to the curb.

[@killertaquito27]

35:00 enemy list story

[@bktarch]

He cussed :O monks are not allowed to cuss.

[@remedyke1]

+bktarch I've seen him cuss a lot...he's a comedian ;-)

[@SisypheanRoller]

Who told you that monks can't curse?

[@jasonsha6844]

conpanuan planting helps teehee just jokes and thank you mate

[@songswithlove2204]

my kindness persent is 83

[@jasonsha6844]

phalosifey is wot it is I did not know Buddism was a religion I know some think of it as such but the budda in ones self is wot it is not religion dosent matter what we call it is wot it ………………….peace

[@jasonsha6844]

India for Indians China for Chinese Africa of Africans Germany for Germans and so on Quote Darlolama funny how trees from all over the world live together Rododengrum lives side by side with gum tree

[@lordbyron3603]

Why couldn’t the woman be the one to relent ??

[@roymarshall_]

I doubt that would work - you have to be in an accepting state of mind to actually care about what he says. If you're not interested in being more peaceful and kind, nothing Ajahn Brahm (or anybody) says will change you.