A TRUE narcissist or borderline WILL NOT ever think it was THEIR FAULT
@Wildanimal864.4 ай бұрын
Not exactly that’s an umbrella statement.
@Wildanimal864.3 ай бұрын
Borderlines get a bad rap. They aren’t that bad and tend to be more anxious . BPD are so misunderstood.
@neodistinct2 ай бұрын
That is so true. For them it is always your fault. Total mind f. By this I mean real diagnosed BPD, not imaginable ones.
@salzmedia5113 жыл бұрын
This sounds exactly the way my ex is being right now. She wanted to see other people, I kicked her out of my house and her good life, kept the dogs, she’s trying to pick fights with me even though she has a new man, and blames me for her tight living situation. Victim mentality. I tried everything to make the marriage work. Now I’ll never accept her back. 🤙🏾
@ConceptHut2 жыл бұрын
Update?
@salzmedia5112 жыл бұрын
@@ConceptHut haha I forgot all about this. Update: I doubled my income and have my own business, travel the world, have my own house with my dogs, drive a nice car, I’m in shape and dress well, have occasional women in my life, and have so much peace now. I can’t believe I wasted 7 years married. But they were 7 years that I sacrificed to learn what was really important in my life. Making a woman happy was not it.
@SS-in1ts11 ай бұрын
I don’t know your story but if she wanted to see other people she probably didn’t feel heard or seen and her needs weren’t being met. And was hoping you’d want to work on things by opening yours eyes to the fact that things weren’t working to the point of her leaving. There’s usually two sides to the story and if you want a relationship that last you’ll have to figure out your part in it. Sounds like you don’t want a relationship from your comment, so good for you for finding what fits you best! Cheers!
@salzmedia51110 ай бұрын
@@SS-in1ts That is a great observation. I realized relationships are not for me. I like to live a life free of stress. While it’s true that maybe I haven’t found “the one”, even if I had her, it would be a responsibility that I just do not have the time or energy for. Maybe when I’m an old man and need a hug I’ll regret not having a wife. But right now, the world is mine.
@flowersforme3753 ай бұрын
Why would you be proud about kicking your ex outside of your house? This is a person you claim to care about?
@mikaylag94207 ай бұрын
As someone with degree in counseling, yes recent research has found that the 5 stages of grief are not in order. Older information will tell you its in order. Im glad that you came to the correct conclusion that people can go through them at anytime, again. And most therapists know this. People go through those stages, in and out and also out of order.
@Criggs4 жыл бұрын
Anger and bitterness can’t last forever
@BIGWILL0715 Жыл бұрын
Bullshit. It’s been 15 years since my parents divorced and my dads still bitter as fuck.
@delovely1577 Жыл бұрын
Its been 3 years and hes engaged.... why worry about me still!!!
@carolinerajkumar4 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me... But he's trying to make me jealous and hurt.....i can't understand.. He's the one who broke up right?...
@scottyscott8273 жыл бұрын
My ex did as well...no he's mad a me because I asked him for the money he owed me. I caught him with a girl he allowed to stay at his house, and to add insult to injury she started attending his church that I would attend...now hes mad...smh
@tiffanysabrina5253 жыл бұрын
@@gingin7629 whats the mans name
@sarasilvaferreira3 жыл бұрын
my ex is very angry because 1 month before he humiliated me he hurt me and broke up with me and month later i am meeting a new person and moving on! Now he says that I am fake and that he regrets meeting me because I’m already moving on! but he broke up with me and hurt me right? He’s so mad and rude in his texts, I’m so confused.
@flowersforme3753 ай бұрын
Moving on after a month depending on how long you have been together is narcissistic behavior. It means you were gone before you broke up.
@raybribreezy3 жыл бұрын
Thank you! The last message was extremely helpful and gave me a much better perspective for moving on!
@muneebnadeem74824 жыл бұрын
My ex saw me after a couple of months. she was with her new bf(and she broke up with me) and preceded to yell at me. She kept pulling me and her bf had to intervene. We were also in a public space in front of mutual friends. After I left the space she started crying. Idk what that means bc I wanted to end the relationship on good terms but she’s been angry at me this whole time.
@AllysonSparks4 жыл бұрын
She is angry at you because you didnt contact her....
@danielatomescu34873 жыл бұрын
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@ifrahabi48346 күн бұрын
True, she is not happy with whatever she has and she broke you and you stand still. and move on, she feeling guilty and not happy. So don’t look back. You will know the goodness of someone till you loose them. That is what she is feeling now.
@dontaythee15082 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me after 6yrs and got a new boyfriend but yet she blows up my phone let air out my tires treatin to buss out my windows and beat up whatever girl I'm with but I ignore it but if they leave u always work on yourself be better get better have fun go hangout with friend's trust u will feel better and thank me later life is beautiful if you focus and love yourself
@georgespangler15173 жыл бұрын
After she decided to leave she was on cloud 9,,and I told her to give it time because she will realize I can't be replaced, 13 years together was not a failure and I never even raised my voice to her,, 4 months later she tried to return and I told you i never take a woman back after she had left me and 2 months later she had a nervous breakdown and now 3 years later and she still can't emotionally handle talking to me..And even got married after trying to project what I was on to him and my words echoing in her mind that baby you can't attach old feelings to someone new it just won't work because I set the bar much to high.. l do feel sorry for her but I also remember how damn cruel she was towards me showed no empathy at all..karmas a real bitch!!!!
@@munneli2014 Thanks but it's not for me, l could never take a woman back after she had left me and been with another,,, my wife of 17 years left me and our young children for a loser in 2000,,, and tryed to return but I couldn't, l would never get past the thought of him with her. But we are all different and I hope it works out for you,,
@EmpressLee88883 жыл бұрын
It's so confusing because he moved on and loves to argue anytime I mention he has a new girlfriend, even though I don't care🤷🏾♀️better her than me. I just wonder why he be so aggressive? Lol
@theshazy6253 Жыл бұрын
Its a confusing process where we jump around emotionally
@rhonnieminnie2 жыл бұрын
uhh...my ex blind sided me with a breakup and blamed everything on me (i agreed to do the things he said he wanted...i know...how dare i)...then proceeded to be very angry at me?????
@tantomoriremotutti4 жыл бұрын
I'm over my ex. We will see each other on the 4th of June, to speak up. She left me on the second of May. I just write to her that I've accepted the situation and I don't want to be with her or to stay friends, because I need my space to forget her and move on. And now she's mad at me and thinks that me not wanting to be friend with her is acting immature and vengeful. I don't want her back and I don't want to hurt her, I just want her to be happy and to move on, how can I talk her into dealing with the situation rationally and understand that not contacting each other is a good thing for everyone?
@francisvon14794 жыл бұрын
tantomoriremotutti First of all for whatever reason you guys broke up, it still makes me sad to hear. You have done nothing wrong, you have improve yourself in a major way becouse of the break-up. She hasn’t. You have rationalized every available option, and came to the term that staying friends with her, while your trying to move on, wouldn’t be emotional benifisial for you. I want to point out that you have no reason to argue or try to convince your ex to not be in contact. As long as you were nice to her before, during and after the break up, you don’t have any reason to stand your ground and try to shoot her shots at you down. Just leave it at that, ignore her message or text that you don’t want to see her. Block or whatever and move on
@francisvon14794 жыл бұрын
I’m at the stage of moving on from my ex who broke up 2 weeks ago. She hasn’t acted hostile towards me yet, and she is determed on keeping contact with me. Let’s see how that goes
@ifrahabi48346 күн бұрын
It’s good for you 100%. Stay away from her, no need to please her, she left you, may be caused you a lot of pain. Don’t go back to the same spot. Sometimes they don’t come because they love you. They are just curious to see if you move or still thinking about them. or may the grass is not greener. Don’t give a hint about your affairs, don’t show any weakness.
@rivv0103 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me and I called to talk to her kids, after they handed her the phone I just politely said “hey, how are you?” She said “I don’t know” very angrily and hung up on me. It doesn’t phase me honestly lol I still love her and everything but I refuse to meet anger with anger 😄
@isajiddamohammed31153 жыл бұрын
True love never die, don't give up anything in life all hope is not lost.
@isajiddamohammed31153 жыл бұрын
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My ex went from I love you to Eff you within a hour when she had a break down. Told me she needed freedom to fix her mental health. 5 weeks later she tells me our relationship of two years went too far , got too intense. 4 weeks after that she’s angry at me , blaming me for everything, told me she went back to her loser ex husband
@tinkerbelle76502 жыл бұрын
The dumpers are not always the bad guys. I just dumped my then bf now ex bec. of lying & being dishonest. He is keeping things from me leaving me second guessing. He does not care about what I think & feel. I cannot continue & keep up with his irresponsible behaviors anymore & so I had to broke up with him. Dumpers are not always the bad guys. Now he is the one who shows feelings of resentment after all that has happened. I did not regret my decision though. I know I deserve a way better mature & emotionally & mentally stable man in my life & not an immature kid. I rather be alone & be at peace with myself if this is the case. It's not healthy for my sanity & well being. I feel better & relieved now. I just want my peace of mind back. I chose myself & that's ok.
@marialourdess2 жыл бұрын
wow! really good video! Thank You so Much💙
@travelmanMN4 жыл бұрын
I have an ex gf from 30 years ago. We were never married and had one girl. My daugher is now almost 30 and my ex has been marrried, divorved, in many relationships and married again. We stay in contact for our daughters sake etc. But she goes thru this stage. Hey you wanna sleep over? as i live a distance from her. Now she wants to be friends with me.. wierd
@suarez_4 жыл бұрын
I ran into my ex a few days after 2 weeks from breakup and she said hi to me with anger... Is this because i am in no contact with her or?
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
There is a possibility the anger is that you are seeming to be doing well and they are not.
@filmtrailers-yd9vu4 жыл бұрын
@@chrisseitercoaching what about her friend being angry is it the same thing since they share secrets?
@jacintamary29213 жыл бұрын
This really work out for me
@jacintamary29213 жыл бұрын
I got my ex back
@gloriatucker97966 ай бұрын
I believe its primitive strike. Anger to justify their actions.
@Americanpatriot-zo2tk7 ай бұрын
I haven’t even heard of the video yet but I’ll give you your answer they want to crush you and you to be destroyed and you probably acted like you were not destroyed which pissed them off after all whatever this woman is she so wonderful everyone in the universe wants and if you don’t something must be wrong with you so she’s mad at you simple.
@thelegendriderx27409 ай бұрын
Im in no contact for nearly a month now and couldnt be happiern
@bryannagonzalez35322 жыл бұрын
My ex cheated on me during my pregnancy and he broke up with me before we could even talk and process what happened. Left me confused but i forgave him for the sake of our unborn child. He calls me saying he loves me then the next time he calls me bragging about how good his life is. He hasnt supported me at all during the remaining of my pregnancy and called me with an angry tone because he didnt come to the baby shower but his family showed up. He blames me for everything and im just so confused because i never bring up the infidelity or any horrible things he said or did to me..
@daughteroftheking640211 ай бұрын
My ex did this, and than he kept doing it. He wasn’t right in the head. I had to leave him. He didn’t support me and only came in the picture once I got to 8 months and than he cheated on me again and never showed up to any of the appointments but blamed me for them. I would run!
@Elizabeth-ef2mm6 ай бұрын
Unsettling how someone that claimed to love you comes over, has sex with you, then immediately tells you he’s not feeling it anymore. He gave me some bullshit excuses about why he wanted a break. I did cry and wanted to work things out, he wouldn’t budge so I packed up his clothes he had at my place and sent him on his way. I was devastated, suicidal. I felt so used and just confused. I’ll probably never know why he dumped me, maybe he has someone else. I was hoping he might come back but it’s been 2 months. It still hurts. I don’t think I can trust/love again 😢
@dianafeliciano82244 жыл бұрын
I broke up with my ex for so many reason and im in no contact. After few days without reaching out on his side, now he txted me with lots of harsh words that really hurts me.
@janewui464 жыл бұрын
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@janewui464 жыл бұрын
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@hennylo684 жыл бұрын
How are you in no contact if you broke up with him? Makes no damn sense. Why even watch these videos. You broke up with him. These videos are for the dumpee, not the dumper.
@Mohamadxeltxz4 жыл бұрын
@@hennylo68 Hahaha ikr. Why should a dumper doing no contact. To boost ego?
@hennylo684 жыл бұрын
@@Mohamadxeltxz Typical woman. She broke up with him yet is still hurt over him not chasing her so she's gonna do no contact to have him chase her and give her attention.
@anthonyoca34494 жыл бұрын
me and my boyfriend dating for 3 years. and he cheated on me for 10 months, he blocked me in facebook, and his still with her girlfriend. and i still love him. what should i do,?
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
Look up the being there method and complete a No Contact before implementing it
@anthonyoca34494 жыл бұрын
@@chrisseitercoaching i did the NC since we broke up.
@skilic83944 жыл бұрын
Nc
@anthonyoca34494 жыл бұрын
@@skilic8394 do u relate too?
@skilic83944 жыл бұрын
Oh I say no contact...him
@Lolam192 Жыл бұрын
I had to breakup with my ex because he started using drugs and I couldn't support that I tried to help him but he would only lash out more I don't regret cutting him out of my life.
@sir.6362 ай бұрын
This is not the place for you.
@J3nnycat7 ай бұрын
I broke up with my ex, but he is not the victim (even though he feels like he is). He wasn’t very nice to me and chose to lie to me about another woman. These were his choices. Choose the behaviour, choose the consequences. You can’t push and push someone and expect them to stick around.
@KoolT Жыл бұрын
Dealing with one playing victim after 20 year's divorced. 20. CRAZY people
@peppermintcookie55314 жыл бұрын
I just realised now my ex hasn’t posted anything on Instagram nor liked or commented on my posts last December. He also didn’t respond to my Happy New Year greetings as well and it’s been 42 days of my No Contact now 😞
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
You broke NC when you reached out to wish them happy new year. If you want an ex to reply to you, it is more of a success rate to use one of the texts I suggest that cater to your exes interests. Not a generic Happy New Year message as there is no real reason to reply to that.
@peppermintcookie55314 жыл бұрын
Chris Seiter well, I just finished my 45 days of No Contact. I decided to text my ex that I haven’t seen him post anything on IG so I decided to text him it’s my birthday on Wednesday. Still, the anxiety kicks in and I am afraid that he won’t reply to me again. Here’s my message I sent to him: Hey there. Long time no see. It’s my 18th birthday on January 15
@ericat84782 жыл бұрын
Mine is still bashing me on his Twitter (found out through a mutual) even though I've been in NC for a month and implemented it immediately. I really don't understand his anger towards me. Everything bad in the relationship is all my fault too according to him🙄
@jrichieander6832 Жыл бұрын
My ex stop contacting me and I was wrecking myself trying to figure where I went wrong or what happened and her reason was “I just want peace” so I took that as I was the problem so I left her alone she started going out of town and not telling me and things of that sort so I accepted the relationship was over I told her I accept this for what it is and I’m going to start my process to cleanse myself of this She didn’t like that and started talking about me sleeping with other women and how I can just stop by for sex and I said no that’s not what I want and she doesn’t want to talk to me cause she feels like I bring out a negative side of her So I gave up trying to reach her or get to a common ground
@aricarter65233 жыл бұрын
My ex broke up with me 2 years ago and we have a son together and even now he’s so argumentative and mean it’s crazy & he has a gf so I don’t understand why he’s so mean.
@bobbyroybal85003 жыл бұрын
He's angry because she not you He's frustrated with his new so called girl he misses you alone trust me
@aricarter65232 жыл бұрын
@@MinyaBihness you should really mind your business like you name says!! …and if you think that I give a fuck about someone who I don’t know “not liking” me you have to be on crack!!! Even if I did “drive” him away? Ask me do I give a fuck? I don’t want him. Hell I forgot I even wrote this.✌🏾
@aricarter65232 жыл бұрын
@@MinyaBihness and I still don’t give a fuck. I said what I said. Lol
@aricarter65232 жыл бұрын
@@MinyaBihness and once again I don’t care about him leaving… like I said.. I forgot I even wrote that..seems as though you care more than me. Me and my kid are blessed 💙 so if your intentions were to hurt my feelings… you failed miserably 😘
@aricarter65232 жыл бұрын
@@MinyaBihness you should probably be more worried about why you’re searching about YOUR EX on KZbin… I’m wayyy past that☺️.. Mind your business ✌🏾… remember?
@kalinmurray4877 Жыл бұрын
My ex just keeps saying he don’t fck with me lol after saying he wants to be friend because he likes being around me lol he’s just mad he’s back sleeping on his moms floor and he told me the grass wasn’t greener but he made a choice 🤷🏽♀️
@maureenangeo24982 жыл бұрын
my ex broke up with me because he said im bringing negativity yo his life. after two months he posted the one we always have an arguement before. he knew i will be mad. but i kept my calm. but he owes me money idk why he still wants to hurt me if he is the one who owes,me
@hassanjaved73384 жыл бұрын
I hope what you tell it's become true
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
If you follow advice on what to do during this time, then you have a great chance of getting what you want
@joymelaniecloke62222 жыл бұрын
Truth bombs. All of it 😊
@theprolificnetwork46703 жыл бұрын
Change of the sower? I only sowed good seeds why aren't my good seeds being returned. If anything I should have broken up with her matter of fact I kinda did but didn't expect the reaction I got.
@haiasieel60994 жыл бұрын
My Ex broke the no contact rule last week and wanted me to call her. But all she did was give me a hard time and have an attitude. WTF, I stopped contact with the goal of moving on and feel like I've been suckered into playing a game where she thinks I'm at her whim...
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
This is why I say not to answer calls and texts during your NC
@donna26934 жыл бұрын
Sometimes they break up with you because they gave you every chance to fix the issues but you didn't put the effort in....I've never regretted breaking up with someone because when I'm with them they're given every opportunity to correct their wrongs if they keep repeating it not giving a shit about your feelings then yes I will break my own heart and walk away because It's better to be temporarily heartbroken over some one who doesn't put forth the effort like you do than to be forever heartbroken staying in a one sided relationship 🤷.....do I miss them, sometimes, would I take them back, nope.....once I emotionally detach from you no matter how hard I try I can never feel the same or even close towards you...xo
@vangoghsotherear41143 жыл бұрын
This is the worst. I’m the same way and find myself holding onto this one guy because i know once i let go I’ll never be able to love him again. And i love him so much. But he’s not making any progress in knowing how to treat me right and i can’t stay.... 😞
@ConceptHut2 жыл бұрын
When you say every opportunity... in what ways did you convey your needs and feelings and requests? Did you sit calmly face to face and talk about the needs feelings and requests? Did you suggest in a calm time that you'd like to go to couples counseling?
@annemarie7203 Жыл бұрын
@@ConceptHut exactly my ex bf said this to me but he didn’t really sit down with me and communicated how he was feeling and only if he was willing to fix our issues smh
@uctom7364 Жыл бұрын
@@ConceptHut This right here ! 👍🏼👍🏼
@trainerhazel55354 жыл бұрын
Very good. I really like the video. Thanks.
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
Awesome thank you!
@Pascalfigo3 жыл бұрын
urvackround music just calmed me so hard while i actually were in panic cause my ex startet to send me hate speech texts while im in no contact with her 7 days in .
Try to act ACT but not REACT. PAUSE b4 you react. ACT don't react. ❤
@user-jw4wb4wp7i8 ай бұрын
Hello my ex so angry at me before she dumped me I'm the one who mad at her sadly to say i have done things that hurt her and 3 times begging after no contact. She always want to justify to others that her new one is only friends but i already know before doing that things can hurt her the truth behind her new one. That before breaking up with me she has already with someone else. She always telling to me that her new one so called friends is not the reason of why we broke up. She said that were already toxic before she broke up with me. And she keep on manipulating others that she's right and i am the one who's not telling the true. As of now i decided to go in no contact. In that case if there is a chance she will ever regret why she broke up with me? And still comeback to me?
@mikehindrix79683 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@jademong4182 жыл бұрын
this is new info for me~
@ParadiseAlley17762 жыл бұрын
No said it ever happened in order infact thats common knowledge there is no order
@EuromanMovieReport4 жыл бұрын
Well I had a short relationship 5 years ago with a younger woman, and I ended it. She has a boyfriend today and I have a girlfriend, however if I pass S in the street she stills looks angrily at me. I tried once to write her, to tell her not be angry and that I had moved on. But never got a response. Could it be she is angry because I ended the relationship? Because S was of a wealthy family and used to getting her way. She is the only girl I ever dated who had wealthy parents, so maybe someone here have some experience they can share?
@onewingedangel327 Жыл бұрын
Maybe she just loved you deeply and never forgot about you, and all of this still brings her bitterness. Maybe she didn't want it to end even though she moved on..
@ifrahabi48346 күн бұрын
@@onewingedangel327 True. But I did understood what do you mean wealth.
I don't understand why my ex is mad at me he's the one that dumped me but continues out of three women that he has been with 😮He continues to stay in contact with me!!! With me ignoring all his Facebook fake pages!!! Ignoring his messenger messaging me 🤦🤦Answer the phone why are you not answering you're ignoring me🤔 blah blah blah blah blah and then he calls me private all the time out of all these women he continues to do it Three years 😭😭😭 of this and he just recently had a baby I heard 🥴So I'm like shouldn't you be like in my mindset shouldn't you be paying attention to all of that🤦🤦🤔 And recently I think he passed me in my neighborhood and I moved how the heck did he find me crap 🙄🙄🙄 Time to move again I think he's a narcissist help why won't he let me go😭😭😭 and what does thumbs up mean because I don't answer the phone like but continues to call private over and over again at least fifty times if not More
@LilQuincy3 жыл бұрын
I Only Take A Day Of No Contact For Her To Get Angry 😤 and just be friends 😂. Kmsl well okay you got it
@mahjabinuddin95454 жыл бұрын
Me and my boyfriend was in relation ship for one half year he left five days a go he still gave me his new num he was so much controlling me so much and toxick my life but we both loved each other but he tex me saying he kissed a girl send me pix so I can get jel am confuse
@bernesemuir80224 жыл бұрын
Hopefully someone can say why they do this type of thing send photos of others chicks etc why not just leave us alone
@chrisseitercoaching4 жыл бұрын
You need to move on, this is very disrespectful and cheating on you. You have said he is controlling and toxic, definitely time to walk away
@mahjabinuddin95454 жыл бұрын
@@chrisseitercoaching yes am trying even today his checking my wasup and he post a pix I brought him a trainers he showed middle finger and took pix but I did not say not or respond to his pix your video helps a lot
@francisvon14794 жыл бұрын
I hope your doing well and trying your best to ignore your ex. I want you to think about this. If he’s truly happy with his new girlfriend, why is he still contacting you or sending pictures of their relationship? This is a sign that he isn’t paying a lot of attention to his girlfriend and he is waiting for that “I miss you,” text from you. You need to move on,block him you did nothing wrong and therefor you don’t need to testify to him why your blocking him or when.
@ifrahabi48346 күн бұрын
@@francisvon1479 True, he is not happy with his new person. Maybe you are too good for him. He is regretting. So move on. Block him everywhere. Go far away from him. You will heal and you will find someone better. Don’t give him what he wants. ❤
@monicaacinom94123 жыл бұрын
The repetition of the 5 stages of grief, poorly explained.