Why Is Nostalgia So Painful?

A short journal entry I wrote a few weeks back about feelings of nostalgia.
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[@ColeHastings]

Wanted to do something a little different today. Been feeling a bit strung out on the self help content so I needed to switch it up. Let me know what you thought. Also, I'll probably be making a post about this but I'm gonna take the next week off to help me generate new ideas and recharge. Nothing serious, just need a small break.

[@SeanLunny]

Enjoyed it brother

[@spanishDoll1]

Awesome content Cole *hugs*

[@RorySadler]

Daft Punk calling it quits totally makes me miss those times listening to their music 😢

[@alex_georgescu]

Loved this video.. I feel the same nostalgia with some songs.. For ex, Get free-Major Lazer.. It turned 8 fckin years a few months ago!! UNREAL😭

[@capbrodilupo7940]

Taking a break always helps me improve. My example - programming. It's easy to leave your code editor up on your second monitor 24/7 and work on it little by little in chunks, but taking a week off always gets my brain refreshed and I'm way more productive until the burnout kicks back in. Hope you still find time to do little social media stuff until you're refreshed and ready to dive back into youtube.

[@Timefades1]

I think a big part of it, when hearing old songs or seeing old vids and photos, is just realizing how quick this time on earth is, how things change so fast, and how our youth simply slips away,

[@kanawaaluchack5363]

Probably

[@hamoodtatari]

Exactly :(

[@moviesandstuff34]

This is accurate, I am somehow glad and sad that people around the world understand my problem

[@prateekyadav9811]

Absolutely mate.

[@rohanindra6401]

Yeah, the 2000s music videos hit different. But I think that era had a feeling of confidence to it so it always feel special. Like even movies like Spiderman 2 - were sooo fun. 2010s is so lacking in beauty and dominated by politicis. Lacking originality. Tik tok era

[@royallan]

I just searched "nostalgia" on youtube and arrived at this. This is the worst kind of pain

[@ColeHastings]

Welcome

[@eun-solkim7080]

Exact same thing over here

[@suprisebuttsecksspy5958]

@@ColeHastings i realize how good those old times can affect what i was now. I was not feeling pain but this feeling just making me sad and cant let go my past

[@dankdino2771]

Same thing I did

[@legendairymilkman2373]

Crazy how I did the same thing

[@aidacailar1126]

2012-2014 were the only times in my life when I was truly happy, really. Everything was so innocent, pure and beautiful back then, and now it's all emptiness, pain and struggle. Thinking about those old days makes me incredibly depressed because I know that no matter what I do, I'll never be able to experience life in the same way.

[@nooneaskedok8652]

Cap your prob 10

[@kubujkp3249]

I'm 35 about to be 36 and have been finding myself sad quite often with the thought of knowing there's no way to go back in time and relive that fun, troublesome youthful nature of life. My mind still feels young but the fact is it's not and never will be.. I look at young teens and think "they have no idea how fast time is really going" this shit's depressing AF lol ... But, what 'r ya gonna do 🤷🏽‍♂️

[@shashish6856]

Your names ironic ​@@nooneaskedok8652

[@logandasbach3192]

I was just thinking that nice to know I’m not the only one 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@necksnapper933]

​@@nooneaskedok8652a 10 year old wouldnt and cant talk in a serious and good way like that

[@fv8405]

"It feels like I just haven't actually existed the past couple of years". The same for me. During 2020 quarantine I saw myself alone in my room with all my free time to think about myself, my fears, and my goals. Now I can barely believe the past years of my life I was just a blob without any knowledge about myself but sometimes, I miss the old days of ignorance, where life was so simple: school - egg bread - adventure time - Minecraft. No worries about life nor existential pain, just egg bread. Idk, I guess this is that thing of "becoming an adult" and start caring about your future

[@EnjoyGengar]

Jokes on you. You can still life ignorant. But we all know its not the smartest way.

[@lyt5777]

@Kuba P what?

[@hamoodtatari]

Same… during 2020/2021 I started to really feel nostalgic of old times… like really a lot. And now I really miss times even 2019. But for me 2016 hits the hardest

[@user-kt1no7yx1u]

2019 and 2020 pre covid sucked for me anyway. I didn't have friends, overloaded with exams, but 2017, 2018 ugh i just wanna go back

[@daichi1688]

😢

[@valon.pllana]

Wanting to live the normal life line hits me so hard

[@MrJavonnthomas]

Don’t know why but I didn’t expect to see you here. Respect!

[@Dylosophy]

Pllana! What're the chances I find you here lol

[@Kinomiyasan]

How the hell i found you

[@klutchedup9]

2020 changed everything life hasn't felt the same

[@gl1tch1ng_h1mar1]

Fr people are so mean now

[@YMe-il1vu]

I know​@@gl1tch1ng_h1mar1

[@NickFrancoeur-gv4sf]

Ye even during 2020 felt better than after the pandemic 😭😭😭

[@AbbysalWarrior72756]

Everything is so boring and empty

[@NickFrancoeur-gv4sf]

@@AbbysalWarrior72756 2022 and after have felt like sufferage. People need to change.

[@SparcReviews]

For me it was 1999-2005. And it hurts deeply that I can't go back

[@roarred]

I think feelings of nostalgia are about the present not the past nor the future, you can only experience the past in the present.

[@matej9368]

For me 2014-2019 cause I am younger and I feel nostalgia for these times

[@yamaagamingyt]

For me it was actually 2020 or 2021 to now....I sooo wanna go back to August 2021 , i wanna have what i lost from then...This hurts.

[@user-ip3wq8dj3i]

same@@matej9368

[@Sniped137]

​@@yamaagamingytit's so strange how during 2020 I wanted COVID and the time to go so quickly, but now I want to go back to 2012-2020 times

[@xilanceylan]

Lol you’re describing my experiences so accurately it’s scary

[@mattlosch7495]

Same dude I was like dang this guy understands

[@ColeHastings]

Love yall

[@demetresswright3090]

Yes its crazy how we can share so many of the same feelings

[@Shui90]

嗨锡兰

[@bluefox564]

Same here

[@giovanicappelaro5169]

Sometimes I feel it for times that I didn't even enjoyed when living. But now when remembered they seem good and I miss it.

[@ColeHastings]

Happens to me all the time

[@giovanicappelaro5169]

@@ColeHastings It can even trigger some ansiety.

[@WinterNox]

@ItSickBrah It is always better than it seemed..

[@Roey512]

I feel you so much. Something about school years seems so far away to me, and I'm only 23 years old. When I was 8-16 I wasn't always happy, but looking back. those were so crazy good years.

[@sumitraj6878]

@@Roey512 why does this happen????? this feeling is so depressing

[@Austyn_Young7]

2010 to 2016 was the best years for me.. the it’s so painful to know that u can never go back and it feels like your locked away and will never be free again 😭❤️

[@Avery-ct4ow]

Stop ur making me cry..🥺

[@bred3862]

Same for me and 2014 was peak time for me so much excitement and curiosity and peace without anxiety, existential crisis.

[@diactionza5864]

I wish we could all get together and share our pain

[@leonn6499]

​@@diactionza5864 yeah

[@agent5tm902]

I bet we all want a time machine that can bring us back to these years, one that doesn't make time problems if you met your self and everyone gets scared and confused. But that will never happen, if it did we would probably had met our old selfs by now. 😞

[@MJ12chemist]

Would go back to 2017 all the way. To have another shot, act differently, not screw up. But if I did, I would never gain the experience I have and wouldn't be anywhere close to where I am. Still hurts.

[@swissbankroll1929]

It’s 2015/2016 for me I was in freshman year at the time. Shit was so simple

[@asiacherry9460]

2019 for me😔

[@OiiAris]

Definitely 2015/16

[@onmyceiling]

same. life has been kicking my ass since 2018, and if i could i’d do so many things differently. say goodbyes and focus on the important areas of life. but i’m afraid if things changed i wouldn’t have the knowledge i have now.

[@bawla1870]

For me the best years of my life were 2015 to 2019

[@infinitebeing21]

Change is inevitable. Everything changes with time . So we should learn to live in the present moment because it is the only thing that actually exists.

[@ColeHastings]

Indeed

[@78_mary31]

@@ColeHastings This hurts when u said only present exist now ..its like hopelessness but its true tho

[@neutral1087]

When you realise this present will be past in just a blink of an eye

[@matrix6161]

Back when I was young, the feeling of nostalgia was never a bad thing at all. Now that I've aged over time. Nostalgia has turned into a bad thing.

[@sumitraj6878]

yeasssss exactlyyy.

[@ShainaCilimberg]

It makes me want my younger self. It makes me yearn for past good times and makes it hard to look tot he future

[@CJ22930]

POV: You discovered a childhood song, remembered a moment from the past, saw a clip of one of your favorite shows on youtube. Now you’re here. How ever you feel. I wish you the best in life!

[@begood4786]

Yep and thank you! 😭

[@Psimansingh]

you are genius!

[@lloyden2152]

Don't make me cry

[@themorlmeister1860]

The timing of this video is scary. Been feeling the exact same feelings recently. You’re a master at connecting with your audience Cole, I guess we are all pretty similar.

[@ColeHastings]

Very happy I'm the type of youtuber that resonates with people

[@That_normal_dude]

Sometimes I just wish I could go back to the hood all days, Afterall when I didn’t know what I didn’t know life seemed pretty good

[@thefinalboss2083]

Humans seems to always want what they can't have, the fact that this time is gone forever, makes it sweeter. There is a big difference between remembering and living, life is not a fairy tale, but it doesn't mean you can't be happy right here, right now, you just have to give yourself the permission to be

[@78_mary31]

Thank you . I was feel really ill with nostalgia..its like I didnt want to live rn just to live back in the past it felt so bad . this helped me thank you so much

[@MrFredstt]

@@78_mary31 I feel the same exact way Mary. It's crazy when you think that you're essentially sacrificing your present to try and get back lost time. Hang in there though we'll both get through it.

[@mayersalahsalah7100]

Right

[@AhmetKaan]

Cole is the next big self improvement KZbinr for sure.

[@blakerabizadeh]

Agreed, the next Nathaniel drew and Matt d avella!

[@ColeHastings]

Love y'all, the growth wouldnt be possible without all of you watching my stuff

[@blakerabizadeh]

@@ColeHastings 🙏🙏

[@blakerabizadeh]

@@Pleasekillme12369 ikr?!?! With content like this he’s going to have millions soon.

[@richgenix]

Fax

[@TheMellizification]

I feel like this about music from 2009, I was 14, I was naive and I wasn't worried about anything... but I think the pandemic has exacerbated our feelings of "things used to be different" at least for me

[@TheMellizification]

@@hikhuhvhh7883 I mean my car is from 2005 so I'm living that life in 2021 and I don't really mind it honestly 😅

[@aemiliacarolphonetube9749]

I feel the same way about Christmas music from Ray Conniff and Love to Sing.

[@wokk9543]

well im only 13 but i feel the same about 2013-18

[@PassportBoysAreNotwelcome]

2009-2010 were my best years, listening to the songs of those years takes me back to memory lane, where I was 14 and everything was just simple, stupid and fun. For the past couple years, nostalgia hit me so hard, and idk if it's just part of being depressed. Every single night I wish I die from sleep, hoping that I may be able to go back to those years and relive the memories.

[@DreamofAnything]

Exactly, after 2020 nostalgia has become so different

[@reallifepsych3309]

We will always have nostalgic thoughts, but I hope to never wonder what if. Win or lose, I’d rather know I tried!

[@ColeHastings]

Well said

[@NostalgiCrazy]

Nostalgia seems like a friend, but it can be our enemy. For me it's been an issue for as long as I can remember, even as young as 12. I really don't know what to do at this point, it's been eating me away more and more every year. All I want to do is go back in time and stay there. I don't see much happiness in the future and that's depressing enough 😞

[@revo5563]

Sometimes you want to go back to moments you weren't even there for. I have had the same thing since about 10, it shouldn't be a worry at that age, you should be care free and enjoying your youth. It will just eat you alive, and nothing seems to help.

[@agx111]

same

[@agent5tm902]

@@revo5563 I feel you bud, if I could I would go back to the years that I didn't exist and experience the stuff my parents did. But I guess some stuff needs to be left behind in the past and remembered in family storys, photos and VHS tapes. Oh gosh I just made me self tear up 😢

[@Jelloonpellow]

@@agent5tm902 I feel you too wish I could’ve been there in the 80s 90s. Since about 11/12 years I’ve been nostalgic everywhere.

[@Riu-bw4bl]

Same. To a T. I felt nostalgic for my past ever since I was around 10 and now it just gets worst and worst. It seems to have hit extremely hard this year. Maybe because the world I grew up in seems like 100 years ago and not just 15-20 because of how fast out culture and technology has changed. It’s so different. Or surviving just seems to be very very hard as a adult and I miss just.. living.. I honestly can’t take this feeling but I can’t seem to make it go away. Don’t know why.

[@theryanvin]

Iv’e been feeling so nostalgic too but then I realize looking back at this time in my life is going to be the most nostalgic

[@ColeHastings]

I have a feeling ill feel the same

[@lyleabapo7731]

@@ColeHastings It seems as if we need distance and time to fully see and appreciate the value of things in our pasts. Nostalgia lets us observe those moments and periods in the smallest details and really know the littlest things that we took for granted.

[@hryfa5487]

@@lyleabapo7731 damn that hit me

[@RevanPorkins]

This

[@jinhub2175]

THIS!!! I think about it all the time and it encourages me to live in the present

[@LaneCopeland42]

“It just feels like I haven’t actually existed the past couple of years.” That one hit HARD. This video encapsulated all of the feelings that I’ve been struggling with for the past few years. Thank you.

[@gregflip5938]

or that you’ve existed but haven’t lived

[@jinhub2175]

​@@gregflip5938 that hit hard

[@jad3n114]

I feel like as life goes on, your burdens and hardships increase and you progressively feel nostalgic for the times that were easier, while life is getting harder and harder. During those times that we look back on i am sure we did not care and felt the same we do now, but once you look back on something through a new lens, your perspective seems to change.

[@RifleEyez]

True, but my life was worse on balance (freedom of being a kid aside) with absolutely no hope in my mind back then of living a settled and normal life in the future, but I still have that nostalgia for those times. So I have a nostalgia for a time that was objectively worse with less future prospects than now while I'm living a life now I never dreamed I would have, if that makes sense.

[@LeroyKang-nc5ez]

"Early" life crisis

[@sumitraj6878]

@@RifleEyez yeah but why is this happening to us? why do we think more about the times which we wanted to escape back then but now have a big room for them in our brains and hearts. this is sooo depressing.

[@RifleEyez]

@@sumitraj6878 Yes it's weird, I have a life now I never dreamed I would have (great wife, baby, my own house in a nice place), yet I still have nostalgia for the past. My life and future was worse back then, I lived in a much worse place, I had no interest in having kids, or a wife, but I still miss it.

[@user-bf1ds9cc8l]

Nostalgia is kinda like love. It's usually a very beautiful and exciting feeling but sometimes it can also be very painful and depressing 😭

[@boopbeepbop154]

I get intense nostalgia all the time, even if it just happened a year ago, or a few months ago. If I look back far enough I get (situationally) depressed for a long period of time. If I try to "relive" the good memory I just feel more sad. If I play a song, or a video game, or watch a TV show that is nostalgic it just ruins the feeling. It's a type of pain that I don't want to let go of.

[@BitchChill]

Back in 2017 I said "4 years isn't a long time". Now here I am blissfully reminiscing about 2017. I acknowledge that I'm wrong now

[@MrFredstt]

Man, I thought the same exact thing. I was a junior in high school and becoming an adult just seemed so far away. Now I'm wondering where on Earth all the time went. I learned we really have to appreciate the time we're given and make the most of it because it will fly by before we know it.

[@ragefistz7623]

Hi. It's been 3 years since your comment. Realise how fast time goes?

[@MJ12chemist]

That it will never come again is what makes life so sweet. - Emily Dickinson

[@sussuhimself]

Ah the old good days

[@mundea]

Stop watching the same channels as me SIAMAND!!!!!!!!!!! 🤣🤣

[@sussuhimself]

@@mundea hahahahahaahahahahahahahahahah 😭

[@deanjelbertaustria6174]

I miss the past.. i wanna go back there..

[@kidungmalam_]

2016 was the best year for me. Well, actually the first few months I have to admit it's kind of hard. But, after that everything seems goes smooth. Not that much dramas in my working life, I always hanging out with my friends, never have to worried about money. The Olympics, Copa America, Euro 2016, Pokémon Go....it was very fantastic year. But now, I lost everything in that. My father passed away, I'm unemployed for more than 1 year, my friends busy with their life and I always worry about the future.

[@hamoodtatari]

2016 was so fun. I remember I came back from UAE on January that year for once feeling happy 😃 and I was playing ROBLOX all the time back then. I wish I could go back to that time when I was 11..

[@Roger-do1dy]

When I hear old school music like 80s and it soothes me, but walking around places I grew up shows me how things will never be same, and it shows me just how much of a failure I am

[@mrflupa]

2012-2019 were my best years ( these 7 years were full of joy ) ❤❤😢❤😢😢

[@SeongDae-Ho]

Same here 2018-2019

[@D1editzs]

Same 2014-2019😢

[@Yalo571]

Nostalgia is a bad sign. Take a break and make something unusual for yourself, the way you never act before. A bunch of new good memories are guaranteed after that 🙂

[@ColeHastings]

Definitely need a break

[@aemiliacarolphonetube9749]

Especially when it comes to romance

[@LeroyKang-nc5ez]

@@ColeHastings music for me in 2016 was greAaat also I have no nostalgia for 2017 because it was a shitty year for me

[@aplias20]

@@ColeHastings me too maybe thats it

[@rjc7289]

The way you feel about 2016, I feel about my whole childhood in the 70's and 80's. We miss the care-free innocence of our youth, especially when we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life as adults. The slightest things can trigger it -- a song, a fleeting memory, an old memento from that time, remembering people from that time who've passed on, places we used to frequent that don't exist anymore, etc. Change is inevitable, but so is the feeling of longing and sadness we get because we can't live those precious moments in real time anymore. They all were a one-shot deal that are just memories now. So I guess the big question is, how do we accept change in such a manner that allows us to enjoy those old memories without spiraling down into a pit of depression? How can we treat our inner child with an occasional memory of times gone by without letting that child hold us back from embracing adulthood with open arms? Therein lies the key.

[@princesszara111]

Let us know if you find what works for you 😢😢

[@erinkezar]

I've been having serious nostalgia the past couple months that's creating a lot of additional anxiety for me. I think mine is hitting me hard because it's my last year in my 20's. I had a great day today but am finding myself extremely sad because I'm realizing just how fast time flies and how it is ever changing. Change is hard. Looking back at happy times also triggers feelings of "what ifs". It's nice feeling that I'm not alone. Thank you for making this video.

[@vincentdhaese7]

I wish i had a timemachine. I always feel sad and nostalgic when i go back to my grandmothers house or if i go to the place were i spent my childhood.

[@wafflesforme12]

i miss my school,i miss coming back and chilling, i miss my old friends, our laughs my geninue last happy days

[@liv168]

2022 was the best year of my life. I was very young only 14 turning 15 in may 2022 however it was genuinely the best year of my entire life. For so many reasons so personal and close to me. I get consumed by nostalgia everyday I don’t feel I’ll ever be that happy ever again. I don’t want to go back to that time period because I don’t want anything in the memories to change and reliving it again wouldnt be the same. I feel as though it’s definitely me looking at it through rose coloured glasses because there will have been bad parts too but I just miss it so much. It just felt so good and simple and I miss it more than anything. As it was by harry styles is so painful to listen to as much as I adore that song and there is so many more. I think I will always feel this way.

[@hvxrv]

Man 2016 & 2017 were the best two years I would do anything to back I really miss those times when i had feelings 💔

[@Feminazi1dc]

Post grad depression. Damn maybe I did love school. Just for the connection

[@Ragheed_Lasoo]

Yup..

[@SuperWishaniggawoods]

Nostalgia hurts so much more when your parent is now dead & you lose a really good friend that was there with you throughout those times. I’m hurtin hard bro 😣 rip dad rip Torren ❤️

[@yuricidalia7942]

pfff crazy, i have the same. Exactly 2016-2017 those were some great times :(((((( how can we go back mannnnnn i know it is over .. but i wanna feel the same again....

[@roderickshawn8160]

2017 - 2022 especially 2018 and 2019, best times of my life, junior high was the best man, miss the old days

[@Allabovethesky]

Bro exactly same, me too! I was in jr high school too

[@user-vm6yj8mn6d]

College 🏫 😢

[@jdkingsley6543]

It hurts, especially if you grew up in an area before social media. Those memories you arent able to just bring up on a phone. Or hop into a social media account to see. Those memories hit the hardest. At the very last you have a way to go back to those moments, In beautiful form. Think about those folks who were raised in times where they had nothing but memories.

[@danielchristopherdc]

I was born in 1989 and feel this completely. Those 90s and 2000s memories hit the hardest

[@TheRealBaycon]

Thinking about the past is extremely bittersweet for me. I always remember myself being with my classmates and friends whenever I hear a song or remember something related to the past. It's honestly really painful and hard to accept that these memories cannot be repeated again. This is why I would tell my younger sibling to fully enjoy that moment before it turns into a memory.

[@anshii1111]

Same heppend with me 2014 2016 2017 I really miss those days 🥺

[@syrgakomuraliev]

Once I achieve something I wanted so much, I realize that none of this makes me happy. It makes me anxious. Pressure grows as you grow

[@78_mary31]

true very true

[@78_mary31]

it's like I dont want it anymore give me back what I lost

[@margrose5]

Nostalgia causes me such pain. More and more as time goes on.

[@ThatOdd1out]

Same

[@firstlast5974]

this comment section hits so hard with all of the stories . I fear that I will also miss my time as a kid when I am an adult

[@BM-de3zd]

I've come to learn that chasing my dream and trying to help others only caused me more stress. It wasn't until that I got laid off, that I learned to stop trying and let go, invest in myself and live in the present.

[@hamoodtatari]

2017 was my last good year. But 2016 hits the hardest like I really want to just go back to 2016. So much… and I simply can’t it’s impossible

[@micheal009]

i’m a year late but i really wanna go back to 2017 so badly

[@Jelloonpellow]

@@micheal009 I wish I could go back to 2013 2014 I was very young then and I went everywhere with my father too bad those times are over.

[@micheal009]

@@Jelloonpellow :(

[@amirasummers947]

The most nostalgic years of my life were 2011 and 2012

[@Isirsizitsitreed]

Samr

[@davidcolantuono3622]

My nostalgia goes much further back than 2016. Mine goes back to the 1980s and 1990s when I was just a kid and a teenager. The first pain of nostalgia hit on the night of New Year's Eve in 1999. Seeing the ball drop to announce the year 2000 gave me so much dread and anxiety that I felt "ill" while everyone else was cheering and excited for the new year. I even had to lay down on the couch for a while. Since then, every New Year's Eve hits me the same way as it did back then. The big change in my life came during the Autumn of 2007. That's when I came down with a mysterious illness. I went to *THREE* doctors, and not *ONE* of them ever identified the illness. Not one! Ever since then, my life has spiraled downward. It's a very long and disturbing story of how badly my life has changed since 2007. Long story short, I'm currently homebound with no life, no family of my own (I only live with my dad), and no hope for the future. Take that any way you wish. But, the point is the same. I have repeatedly wished, begged, and prayed to go back to the 1980s and 1990s so many times that I've compared myself to a broken record. And, I'll keep on longing for the #GoodOldDays until the day that I die. I *VOW* it! No one on the planet will ever change my mind about the past, why I hate the present, and why I dread the future. Besides, death is my worst fear over anything else! Looking forward to the future, as people often say, means looking forward to my own death! Is it any wonder why I dread the future so much, and why I wish to return to the past? Also, I'd like to go back and fix many mistakes that I made back then. My childhood and teenage years weren't all good. I've had some bad memories of those days, too. But, I will say that it was more good than bad back then. Today, it's just the opposite. 1980s > 1990s > any year beyond that point

[@bred3862]

I don't know how old you are currently but I'm 22 and feeling same 😑 exactly 😞😞 it feels like something inside me is dead

[@davidcolantuono3622]

@@bred3862 I'm 43 (as of this past March).

[@bred3862]

@@davidcolantuono3622 oh okay are you fine these days 🤔

[@davidcolantuono3622]

@@bred3862 Honestly? No. I'm very miserable nowadays, although the reasons vary. It's not just about how much I miss the #GoodOldDays. Other problems that plague me include sinus problems, allergies, asthma, and other upper respiratory problems that make my life unmanageable. It's a long and disturbing story. Ironically, it's these problems that further make me wish to go back since they were far milder back then. In fact, all I had back then that was rough for me was the annual flu and stomach bugs. Colds and allergies were just nuisances back then. Today, they are beyond debilitating. As if that's not enough, I also have sleeping problems that, for the most part, are brought on by these miserable problems I mentioned above. So, yeah...I'm definitely *NOT* fine these days. Not by a long shot, I'm afraid.

[@bred3862]

@@davidcolantuono3622 so sorry 😔 to hear that ...if there is a real God somewhere then he/she won't make us suffer that much 😞...but there is no god 😑

[@user-tg9yp5qc3g]

I feel this very deep i am a person with psychologic problems and all i can do is think about the beautifull moments in the past,i wish to live back there because i really enjoyed those times all i do now is suffer… society asks so much of us and those times where just pure enjoyable and free i know i am not alone in this world that thinks like this

[@ABirdOnTheMoon]

I share your agony. Whenever I face a stressful situation or just be traumatized by life these days, my mind travels back to my childhood home. Specifically to the years I lived happily with my Nan. It’s the most I felt safe, loved and cared for. I never felt the same ever again. My parents have their own demons. I walked on egg shells and became a shell for most of my life after and even when I tried flying away and creating my own safe place, I recently got a horrible incident where I got assaulted in my home by an intruder. It is worse because I don’t have my Nan on this earth anymore. I am all alone and some days are just hard.

[@benjaminortega6970]

2016 was the last good year... Then politics divided us all...

[@jad3n114]

Fax

[@ColeHastings]

2016 was unmatched but imma still try and make every year better than the last

[@A90sChick]

Sure has, it’s all very sad

[@farhanrahman8361]

Facts. U hit my heart sooo hard that I almost got heart attack. Even I randomly predicted that 2016 was the only last and best year.

[@godofworts6366]

2016 was the best year of my life!!! after that everything went down hill for me 2017 was alright until my xbox account got perma banned for life and lost some good friends.

[@farhanrahman8361]

Bro. U r literally literally literally literally literally describing my heart too. My heart tooooo. U r legend than legendary. 2016 and 17 only and not 18 that’s what my heart says that u revealed in this video. I thought those nostalgic OG’s are dead. But I was wrong, I was wrong, I was wrong. Bro I’m crying while typing. Automatically my emotions are in this comment coming out. The every single dialogue which u have said in this video was fact of mine. From 2018 I was slightly seeing some change in me and others. Everything was quite awesome but in from 2018 something I was feeling like I’m missing something. I’m literally depressed every second from 2018 till now. 2008-09-10-11-12-13-14-15-16-17 the end. I was thrilled by ur words. I was just shocked man. My tears won’t stop from the start of this video till end. My depressing years started from 2018. In 2010’s decade the best best and the best one was 2014 which i enjoyed like hell l. I won’t forget u and this video till my last breath. U should remember me. In this world we people like u and me are more than family. This world right now in one side and we people from nostalgia to the other side. Please my humble request read this comment. If u r depressed u and me and my brothers will feel a lot better. Every second bro I only remember of 2011-12.....17. Thanks u soo soo soo soo soo soo soo soo soo much for expressing the true pains of u, me and my brothers out there. This video is a core of whole KZbin.Love u man

[@Dont-worry-about-it.]

Honestly I’m incredibly young compared to some people on the internet, but I always have felt a strong nostalgia for my home even though I haven’t moved out yet! My home is very symbolic of me and my personality and I’ve lived here my entire life, and I don’t plan on leaving this place for a while. One day my parents may sell it and if that’s the case I’ll buy it off of them, or if they stay I’ll live nearby so I can visit them and the house when I feel this nostalgia. There’s something just so so soothing about the image of me in my room on a fall day with some tea, listening to pure imagination while doing homework.

[@nope.3380]

this is eerie, you're describing exactly what i and others have been feeling in the comments. and i also miss those 2016 days too, phew it just hurts me to the core everytime i bring that up 😭.

[@winstonbanton2667]

The years of the 2000s just makes me cry the simplicity the old childhood memories it makes me miss being a kid again

[@jamesw3413]

I thought I was the only one who felt like this. I've learned that looking back in the past rarely helps me, but it's better to just focus on the present and try to redirect your attention away from those painful nostalgic feelings

[@mortenkristiansen5747]

But are they painful? Or is it a message the body is trying to tell u?

[@nostalgiagirl7081]

You don't need to avoid the feeling. There's a lesson from nostalgia, it is to appreciate what you have before it's gone. But also you should be thankful that you got to experience good times in the past and learn from your mistakes.

[@RifleEyez]

I feel that painful ''childhood'' nostalgia sometimes, even though my life on balance is much better than I had it back then. I went from living in a crappy neighbourhood with a single mother and useless stepdad with deadbeat friends (with no idea how I'd ever own a house or live a normal ''settled'' life) to being married, owning a house, expecting a kid and living in one of the nicest (and relatively rural) areas of my country. Despite that I still find myself traversing my old haunts on Google Street View that I've not been back to in over a decade, and flicking through people on Facebook (despite not using it) that I've not spoken to since I was teen (30 now) and having pangs about games, music, movies, TV, even my school life - which wasn't a particularly stand out moment either. Weird how you can have nostalgia in that way when overall I'm living way better now than I could have ever dreamed back then.

[@drmether9150]

I feel exactly the same… I spent my childhood in a different country and I feel like an alien in the place I am right now because I’ve barely made any core memories here despite spending 7 years here… which is a strange thing to say since I’ve had a lot of significant experiences here but something about my childhood was so potent, serene and colourful I just miss feeling of being so grounded and happy all the time… plus I have virtually no family here so I just feel so untethered lately.

[@sumitraj6878]

@@drmether9150 i left my home for my college. i am in a completely different state right now, very far from my hometown. the first three months of my college was hilarious, until i realised that i dont belong here. the world here is so fake. i am also their age grp but i dont like the plastic culture that the youth today follows. so i havent found anyone with like minded mentality. so i have become pretty alone here. due to this, i always feel nostalgic about moments that once i wanted to escape from. even the small small things that you cant even imagine sets me off. its eating me from inside.

[@mrcynxz5114]

This is really how Ive been feeling the past few months. From listening a couple of old songs and watching some old videos i started crying uncontrollably. I have no idea why, but it just happened. Man i miss those times.

[@jayreacts1356]

I am extremely nostalgic over mid July 2016!

[@plutoreturns9630]

You haven't just been building yourself up, you've helped all of us along the way.

[@ColeHastings]

❤ thanks for that

[@unyieldingproductions7714]

Having recently gone through surgery made me nostalgic for when I was in good health which is interesting because I never thought of that time to end up being nostalgic when I was living through it. I think everyone misses living a more carefree life, where today's problems don't exist.

[@theotherguy21]

2005 to 2013 were the best moments of my childhood i wish i could just relive all those days one more time to take it all in

[@TF2Scout..]

I feel nostalgia on everything 1982 to 2017

[@MoonDark.]

I would do anything to bring the past back 😔

[@nocturne1879]

man i just wanna go back to 2013 so i would be young again and shit would stop mattering i used to sit on my bedroom floor and play minecraft on the xbox 360 with my friend dominic over xbox live now im in high school, failing biology, algebra, and somehow american history, and my parents don't love each other anymore life sucks man

[@kaylak7147]

It’s such a relief to know that I’m not the only one experiencing nostalgia this way, because the way you’ve described it is exactly how it feels for me. Even the time period! I’ve been nostalgic to the point of tears listening to my favorite bands and songs from the years 2016-2018 and thinking about the person that I was then and the people I had in my life, most of which I’ve lost touch with. At that time I was working a dead end job and could only really afford to take care of myself. I lived very simply but had my youth and would do things often that fulfilled me like going out with friends and meeting new people. Going to concerts and festivals. I’m now a mom and a nurse, able to provide a much better life for myself and my child, but I still painfully reminisce about those few short years when life was just so simple and well, happy. Maybe it’s because I know I can never get those experiences and years back, and I wish they lasted longer or that I appreciated them more while I had them.

[@RallyWrex]

Life was so simple back then, good music, good movies, good video games. Ever since covid everyrhing went downhill. I wish I could relive it all over again..

[@mundea]

the timing of this video during this period of my life is elite... I just keep reminiscing on the past and I'm busy watching ads, can't wait to watch this gem

[@ColeHastings]

Hope you enjoy

[@PassportBoysAreNotwelcome]

I always feel stuck in the year 2009, that was the best year that I could remember even today, when I listen to Owl City, BoysLikeGirls, The Script's songs, it feels like it's always the new awesome ones that I'll ever hear and enjoy... despite of it being 11 years ago. I miss being alive, well I am technically living, but my life back then was more full of life compared today that has turned dull and depressing.

[@ThePetieProject]

Love the honesty with this one. I'm the same way when I listen to music from my sophomore / junior year of college which was 2010 / 2011. There is no replacing those years but new adventure and memories await. Don't get bogged down, enjoy those memories but don't dwell on them thinking you won't make new ones because you will. Great work on this one man.

[@dg8522]

Man i look this video up and from the jump i understood exactly what you meant about life changing so fast. I moved states recently and im reminiscing on my life just two years ago and going back to my childhood. It hits me even harder when I google this topic out of curiosity, from the first clip in this video you unknowingly stabbed a dagger in my heart. I grew up in san diego and knew exactly where you were without having to second guess. The amount of field trips and memories I made at balboa even recently with my girlfriend was an insane coincidence for this video. Leaves me thinking this might be a sign life is just changing and my new chapter is starting and soon ill look back on these times they way I look back at the scenery in this video. You seriously don’t know how specific the place you chose to film this is to my life and how its helped me feel happy through revisiting the times where I wasn’t thinking about adult problems and just thinking about the next time I got to play video games or go hang out with friends. Well done sir you’ve made me cry

[@moviesandstuff34]

This is one of the most emotional videos ive seen and it almost made me shed a tear. I feel you man, so much. In every single word you said. Ive been going thorugh the exact same thing and I hope youve got through it and are living a better life.

[@kaisushii]

2017 to early 2020 is the best chapter of my life especially my senior years, no anxiety, no depression, no existential crisis just go with the flow but the pandemic took it all

[@DeadGuy16]

Yeah fuck wuhan

[@mathamphetamine]

The world is so dead!

[@therealtechmasterjason99]

The 2020s are the best decade ever, screw the late 2010s!

[@FineArtsMusic]

Nice video! I can strongly relate. You compare life now to how it was and you feel hopeless, realising that the present feels somewhat meaningless. It’s the time when we were making connections with other people and experiencing positive change in our lives which we will feel most nostalgic for. This past year in lockdown will most likely be remembered as both a depressing and boring time as nothing much tends to happen for most.

[@ColeHastings]

Thanks for sharing my dude

[@78_mary31]

Yeah it's this connection and people ❤..same I feel empty

[@chae_purple7062]

i just miss my old days, which i couldn't take pictures or videos.. But in my memories it just hangs

[@sayahnachakraborty1853]

I thought I would get some answers but ended up being more nostalgic

[@wolfsaucedo9900]

2016 was lit AF. 🔥

[@babatunde352]

I listened to a bunch of songs I haven't listened to since 2010, I'm feeling a mixed feeling of happiness and sadness, I just... I just don't know how to express my feelings

[@MrFredstt]

You're not alone. We'll get through it

[@sumitraj6878]

exactly brother. even i dont know how to deal with it.

[@baltitubemario2223]

Nostalgia can make people sad whether it made you regain interests on something u liked as a kid like an game like riddle school game or Minecraft youtubers or a cartoon show u used to love ended a while ago, it the fact that you feel that your the only one that likes it and since it was in the past no one likes anymore and u feel lonely knowing that your the last one who still likes it, It sucks but the painful thing about it is having to move on from it

[@isee7283]

I just cannot stress how brilliant and well made this video was. Great work, Cole.

[@lars1588]

I feel as if 2009-2013 was the best point in my life. While I am only sixteen now, I feel like those years were when I was happiest and lived truest to myself. Of course, I was a little kid then, and children are usually blissful, but I still feel like, at some point, I lost something significant that I had back then. I lost all of my friends after the summer of 2013 and had to move houses/switch schools and I was put into a toxic "gifted" program, all of which caused my three-year episode of childhood depression that recently came back again as I started my sophomore year of highschool last year. I have no friends anymore, and I feel like I haven't been my true self in almost a decade now. I know it's part of my responsibility as an almost-adult to figure these things out, but it's really hard, especially right now. UPDATE (3/26/23): The depression came back and I nearly took my own life on more than one occasion in 2022, but I am doing okay now. I am also pursuing an ADHD diagnosis that could be life-changing if I can get medicated. I'm also now a communist and have things to look forward to in the future thanks to that. It get's better, guys. It really does.

[@TheRealBaycon]

Same bro I feel you, I remember back in time where I still have my friends before we got separated into different schools. These years were extremely fun because we were famous in school and we would participate different competitions, events and programs... ...And now those moments are gone, and its hard to accept that you cannot repeat the same feeling again.

[@unknownrealms8452]

Good to see that even people of my age group are feeling that I'm feeling something strange Like when I see something that is old like 6-7 years I just feel like crying on the inside Whenever I look at the amenities that my family now has access to hurts me that my older generation didn't have those things From the 1980s photography is available to anyone on the planet We can see our old photographs but what about our grandparents How hard must it have been for them to try to remember their old times Imagine how hard it was for the people before industrial revolution(the non-europeans because in Europe you had cities and the distances between two cities was less in comparison to Asia) Just walking mindlessly to reach your home after a day at the farm Eating the food made by your wife and then sleeping In the morning you bathe and go to the farm again Occasionally celebrating festivals I have grown up in a village where I almost knew everyone and whenever I took to the streets I didn't feel alone or stranded But whenever I go to the cities alone(not like for buying but like staying in a hostel) I feel alone walking the streets It hurts to see that that the things that sci-fi made me to believe in are not really possible And even if they were possible not everyone would have access to them. I think I sound like a socialist here The Way back(2010) This movie might help you to know what I feel I watched this movie in 2020 so I might miss some details When the movie began and the prisoners were brought to the gulag What were their backstories(this hurt) Then they planned to escape They lost some members Then when one of them decided to stay in Tibet(It hurt terribly) And after the scene in which they were in the tea gardens of India after crossing the Himalayas we were acknowledged about what they did afterwards(It made me cry) Now you might have an idea what I feel These feelings are always there but get strong when either I'm failing at things in life or I am walking alone on the streets. If I'm getting good at the major things I love to walk alone in the countryside Cities just suck Theirs still a lot to say but I ought to sleep Got to complete logarithm tommorrow

[@randomlegos58]

I feel the same about the way music influences nostalgia. I sometimes listen to old songs from middle school or early high school and I get flashbacks to when I would listen to those songs, especially if I was feeling some time of emotion at the time.

[@benamitchell]

Man this hits hard for me. Cole, you have really have a gift for articulating feelings and thoughts that are so relatable and genuine. I'm graduating from college this year and moving soon for my postgrad and I often think back to my senior year of high school and freshman year of college. It's almost like I'm a whole different person now then I was then, and I've grown in so many ways that have lead me down a better path. But I still get nostalgic and think about those memories even if they were only serving me in the moment and not in the future(not the healthiest behaviors). I think what I've learned is that you can find joy and nostalgia in most periods in your life when you look back, so I've been trying to embrace the present and enjoy that moment while its happening.

[@frantuspelser1227]

Why is 2016 and 2017 such nostalgic years?!!

[@johnnydouche7967]

damn i honestly feel like you read our minds with every release of your recent vids. very therapeutic sir i thoroughly enjoy them - keep making them !

[@ColeHastings]

Thank you

[@lunar4006]

god. as a 13 year old, nostalgia hits me like home. i was really young in 2011, but, i remember so much wonderful things. i was so happy until 2012. i was raped. since then, life has been so horrible for me. those were the actual memories i had. it only lasted a few years, but, i miss it.

[@noexcusesYT1]

You are 13 and nostalgia hits you? Damn bro 🥺

[@noexcusesYT1]

How old are you now?

[@sachinmahi7709]

Literally been thinking about 2016 and 2017 some of the best times of my life

[@hipoint40cal39]

1990s for me....crazy fun.

[@creap32]

30 year old fossil over here, I've just been hit by a huge dose of nostalgia after seeing a few vids and listening to a few songs from my youth. Remembered a friend and all the great times we had while we were young. That friend has since passed away due to covid complications in 2020. He was 28. Miss him greatly and hating how life is feeling atm, how time flies, and how people are lost. Am afraid of future loses , even though I know they will come. It sucks.

[@datboi6415]

Man I've been thinking bout doing some creative writing on the subject of nostalgia recently cuz I've been having a lot of those same thoughts. I'm currently in my second year of university and when I think back to grades 10-12 I get this tight feeling in my chest and it really is painful to think about how I'm never going to experience those moments again. Makes me think about how nostalgia might not emerge just because times were better back then, but it's our longing to have been more present in those moments since time is so precious. When I was going through my latter years of high school, I was very unhappy and was really struggling with mental and physical health issues. Now, when I look back on it, I seldom thing about that bullshit, but instead I remember all my amazing friends that helped me through it, the awesome things we did together, the music we worshipped, and living up the final years of our youth with all the blissful ignorance and naiveté that came with it. In saying that, it makes me wonder if we'll almost always be able to muster some sort of nostalgia from a particular time period because that's just how our brains work. Hell, my dad even has nostalgia for his years growing up in a poor ass village in the USSR - that's saying something. Idk man I'm still pretty young and in a couple years I'll prolly think that what I'm saying now is some uninformed garbage, but that's just my take.

[@MrFredstt]

We're about the same age and I have the exact same feelings, friend. I also think many of us, especially when we were teenagers, took what we had for granted and didn't realize how fast time would actually fly by. Regarding your last sentence it's funny because last Fall in 2021 I had the same thoughts and now in 2022 I have nostalgia for that time.

[@ghostyhype_btw4303]

Feels good to have someone describing exactly the thoughts that I have been having recently not about the same things of course but about the same questions and feelings I have when nostalgic which I have been very recently.

[@MemeTeam6900]

Wow what a beautiful surrounding. The nature at 0:01 was amazing

[@cne2229]

Since 2020 I've definitely been stuck with case of chronic nostalgia, even to the point where I repeatedly play songs from 2016/7 to immerse myself in when I wasn't a depressed balding, ageing mess dd.

[@shiken6174]

I know what you mean. I’ll have nostalgia memories when I smell and hear something and I’ll get a warm cozy feeling and all I want to do is go back to those moments. But when I actually think about it I wasn’t really happy back then so I think my nostalgia tries to cloud the bad things and only showing the good things.

[@charlesswedenburg9449]

Same my mind just highlights the good times

[@GTAandApplechannel]

@@charlesswedenburg9449 and the time that didn't actually exist ( Dream )

[@charlesswedenburg9449]

@@GTAandApplechannel woah 😮

[@GTAandApplechannel]

@@charlesswedenburg9449 .

[@kw3036]

Nostalgia is triggered for me, when I smell a certain scent, or the weather on certain days, music, or seeing old pics! And it hurts soo bad, something about that time in my life was comfort, carefree! Certain movies also make me feel that way 😪! I just miss the times in ma life when it was "CAREFREE" and exciting! If ONLY we could go back in time ❤

[@bohgirl11]

One thing that helps me overcome painful feelings of nostalgia is to remember the unpleasant memories I have for a certain time frame instead of dwelling on just the good moments. Like, I remember feeling nostalgic for my old middle school when I was having a rough time in high school. I thought about all the fun field trips we took, various rose colored moments that made me happy to think about, and it made me want to go back so badly. But right as the new school year began, and I was strongly considering the idea of going back to that school, which was a private all grades school, I encountered one of the girls that made every day insufferable for me there. And she was the main reason I left to begin with!! I suddenly remembered the miserable feelings I had there and the times she would try to upset me, and it triggered me to my core. And suddenly, the nostalgic feelings left and it made the current school I was at not seem so bad.