Why Iyanla Vanzant's Dad Told Her to 'Shut Up, Sit Down, and Listen' - Part 1

What's the most memorable piece of advice your parents gave you?

[@gracefadiji619]

YES!!!! It is a Yoruba name from Nigeria. I am Yoruba and Nigerian. Iyanla means "big mother"

[@iseoluwa8239]

Grace Fadiji yoruba🇳🇬

[@NellieKAdaba]

Grace Fadiji Cool

[@sufundasamuels2313]

Iyanla is a beautiful name with rich and profound meaning....just beautiful!

[@letsgracethisplace]

Best interpretation of Stormi's name.

[@bedouinoutpost]

You and Me yes. And then Loni had to go and open her stupid ass mouth

[@stylecollective-qt9um]

I would be a hypocrite to imply that I've ever been a fan of ANYTHING Kardashian/Jenner related, but love the wisdom in Iyanla's reply regarding the name "Stormi". It brings to mind the old proverb, " Anyone can find the dirt in someone. Be the one that finds the gold". That's my lesson learned for today.

[@obdiane]

Funny that when Iyanla stated that her father told her to "sit down, shut up and listen" all the women were in shock as if it was so mean. Until she told them why. People really are so quick to find fault in discipline (nowadays), that's why so many kids don't sit down, shut up or listen to their parents/

[@QueenOfTheDamned]

They were in shock before she explained which would probably be most people's reactions. But even Iyanla said herself she thought her dad was being mean until she grew to understand.

[@Bnizzofashizzo]

This👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sufundasamuels2313]

Yes, her father said that to her, but look at how she turned out by doing just that....this is a woman that should be much admired.

[@HenryLee666]

They looked so ignorant just gasping and saying wow at everything she said but not understanding anything. And Loni so sure of herself at 0:51 trying to be smart but getting it all wrong 🤦‍♀

[@saraadam3941]

yeah and when jeannie went "I love that" like it was some profound quote 2:18

[@morningsunshine0216]

Marisol Gómez I was ctfu 😂😂lm like these idiots r they even listening to her 🤦🏾‍♀️🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mz.toomuch2578]

Marisol Gómez I Totally Agree 💯

[@Praise_Mhlongo]

hahahaahahahaha!!! That was so funny!!!!

[@yankeeyobaby]

Marisol Gómez lol.riiight .they so phoney

[@trudyjackson4405]

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; James 1:19 ESV This was the Bible verse Jennie was quoting

[@ladieesc0]

my mom gave me the SAME advice. lol i was just about to say how this is actually biblical. lol. she didnt use that verse but i believe theres a verse in Matthew when Jesus says "its not the thing that goes into a man's mouth that defiles him, but the things that come out" (he was talking to the Pharisees). I always remember that and try to mind my speech now as well as talk less and listen more BEFORE offering an opinion....its a work in progress lol

[@trudyjackson4405]

Ama O A to the men🙋‍♀️

[@nicoleajunwa8897]

Why is Adrienne always bringing up the Kardashians.

[@NellieKAdaba]

Xxx Olachi Exactly

[@emilybrown7224]

Cuz Rob is her ex

[@siesiechampion]

She misses Rob

[@tanyalake9152]

*"Sit down. Shut up, and listen".* I've been doing, and saying the same things for years. It seems like most *"adults"* still don't know how to do that. That is one of the many reasons why society is still a mess.

[@leslieburgess6985]

I wish Adrienne would forget the Kardashians. Why mention Kylie jenner?

[@SallayMusic]

Leslie Boozer yeah and I felt like Mel really wanted to talk but was keep being cut off by her..

[@mwanawanhingiwekwanhingi2701]

Like why mention kylie Jenner in an episode with Iyanla,the ignorance is too much.She needs to get over it

[@Indiegirl007]

Because that's all she can relate to.

[@NellieKAdaba]

Leslie Boozer True

[@thelords3394]

I am gonna sit down shup and listen!

[@MiMiOrt]

Can't wait 2 see the new season, this woman is astronomical

[@mattw4496]

MeMe O. well...she is the "big mother"

[@FELISPEAKS]

IYANLA WITH THE SHADE 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@doriyellepink4638]

I love her.

[@jamessneed5669]

yessss push threw i 💘 that Iyanla said stomi will bring Massive Change to the family. # positivity

[@SQuiKenya]

Iyanla is so sweet

[@jesusistheonlywaytoheavenj7880]

It is amazing how many people don't know the power in a name...you most always check the meaning of a name before you name yourself or children.....ALWAYS...

[@intheworldofsandy9694]

Jeani that hair is EVERYTHING!

[@MyThoughtzExactly]

Love💙Iyanla

[@teatime4148]

Not on my watch😂

[@yankeeyobaby]

KZbin Tea lol

[@teimatata]

i love Iyanla and her advice is spot on.

[@YoungLuminaries]

Remembering the time Tamar called Jeannie 'Iyanla' lol

[@keondawashington9877]

Nandi Majola 😂😂😂😂

[@m.j7253]

Nandi Majola I don't remember that one.

[@neverever8264]

Wasn't funny, one of those moments where she bullied Jeannie. Makes me glad she is gone.

[@hebrewqueen9280]

Jenie looks great!!!

[@carrietezeno1553]

Yes Indeed Beautiful Queen 👑 Great Mother Is Right Love You 💖 Mrs V

[@MsRae-ev9hs]

LOVING the hairstyle on her!! Go Ms. Vanzant!!! Smart and stylish...#typicalvirgo #muchlove

[@Professorrob2k24]

our dear mother vanzant

[@malaythegreat4472]

I love her

[@lailaquarles8286]

My parents got my middle name from Ms. Iyanla and I'm Soo glad they did

[@MsRenny23]

I LOVE IYANLA!!!!

[@FULL-HUNDRED]

“Slow to speak, quick to listen.”

[@kadijahkhayyam8814]

I lovee IYANLAAA

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

Is she on this show yet again or are y'all still uploading clips from 3 months ago....

[@TheRedScareIsAlive]

gigglyfitzgirl she was just on show. Mel B filled in for Tamara this week while she's sick

[@gigglyfitzgirl]

TheRedScareIsAlive oh right 🤦🏽 lol I forgot about that... duh. 😂😭 #WhenThrowingShadeGoesWrong

[@hawaiihawaii3934]

She was talking about Kylie so it’s recent

[@QueenNaestar]

gigglyfitzgirl 😅😅

[@LionessJewlz]

LMBO 0:52...Loni wasn't really getting the whole "title" concept...I think we've all had moments in which we think we understand something, but really we're completely off =D

[@millicenthamilton-kakowski8275]

Listening--my greatest skill & attribute.

[@millicenthamilton-kakowski8275]

Me mother NEVER complimented me for anything. Years ago, when I turned 60, she actually did give me a compliment. She said to me, "You're a great listener." That, I am.

[@khandipwens1955]

I knew she was into some type of spiritual type stuff that is over and above what black people are comfortable dealing with.

[@krystingrant6292]

khandi pwens this that's okay.

[@obatalaosun2222]

Sadly yes. Many Black people are still running on the brainwashing inflicted on our ancestors during slavery and colonialism. They are afraid of anything non christian. Iyanla is a priestess in the West African Yoruba indigenous spiritual tradition, which many call Ifa, Orisha, or Isese. Thank The Creator that many of us now are waking up and 'reverting' to the spiritual paths cut by our forefathers and mothers before we were forced to abandon them or die. Though she's not limited to it, that tradition definitely informs her overall spiritual practice and helps her do her work in helping people heal, especially Black folk.

[@hellobye7697]

They got the quote wrong in the title

[@dreafar4137]

Loni always with the shade 😂👀👀

[@Lynn-r7x]

I love Mel B's voice, and I love Iyanla so much...i want her to be my auntie lol

[@tanyathomas928]

Iya... Ashe ashe Oooo...Alafia Mother!

[@Candie4JC]

I love seeing these older videos and really seeing the physical transformation of Cousin Jeannie and Auntie Loni. I'm so proud of them!

[@khansa3181]

It is something we believe in Islam too, your name affects you because that is what people constantly call you and fill your ears with. So there are certain names that shouldn't be kept such as 'Imaan' or 'Deen' as they both mean faith, you'll find yourself saying 'oh Imaan just left' and you're filling that specific house with an energy that means 'faith has left us'. I always found that so fascinating. (if you do keep names like this, it's best if they're hyphenated so it's not just one meaning)

[@henrykyem]

She said "Sit down, Shut up and Listen" but y'all just changed it huh ?! 🤔

[@karengutloff2004]

Hosts and producers need to do more homework. Any iyanla fan knows the story of how iyanla got her name. Ad the book or google. Questions so shallow for such a deep person.

[@mattw4496]

Karen Gutloff It's not like they don't know who she is. So, what if they don't know about witchcraft? Not a big deal.

[@ceeceeceecee5280]

Yup, cuz Carol means Joy 😀

[@ance306]

Old school saying. seat down be quiet and shut up. Tough Love for the know it alls

[@stylecollective-qt9um]

That's right, "PEACE, BE STILL", lol!

[@towandaallen6667]

Will do! I accept that, great reminder, thank you so much and stay blessed! 🎎🎎🎎🎎🎎🎎

[@ReturnJaguar]

Delores are usually good people. Always loved that name. That usually good cooks and neighborhood aunts.

[@tinytowz4471]

Who is Deloris?

[@remie6991]

I'm Nigerian and had know idea her name was yoruba😂😂

[@angeLxLaw]

Dolores Umbridge anyone?

[@l1lunk0wn]

I also thought about it. She can definitely be proud of that name !

[@monikaranee]

When she said Dolores I thought of Sister Act.

[@thatbemefool]

Monika Ranee' - I thought of the sad/dark movie Delores Claiborne. I love that movie!

[@AshMcMiller]

Monika Ranee' my grandma name

[@giovannarodney]

Yes team Charlie ..... her great gran

[@Daniece100]

Beautiful

[@SunniWrld]

Fr I mean no shade, just a thought...but why on earth would u call a baby “Stormy”? What did that baby do to you? Names are powerful and that child gon have to carry that name all her life...😟

[@zzsmile1]

Oh my gosh, feeling ashamed it took me this long to realise it's yoruba, pronounciation makes a difference! Iya nlà

[@obijieoru7626]

Iyá nla.... Now I get it

[@themisanthropechannel8052]

I like my name a lot, but i gave it to myself because my parents were using a longer version of it, which I hated. My version allows me to do dramatic things in a short space of time.

[@FB-vp6qz]

Loni is shady" trying find something positive lmaoooo." Shady

[@Barbarian857]

"Sit down, shut up, and listen" -- no! It's rude. Period.

[@user-ss5vr7gz8s]

Names are connected to destiny. That is why I get so scared when people name their children all sorts of craziness,

[@SQuiKenya]

I have watched most of the clips of Iyanla fix my life after watching her on the real

[@texasgirl73goodjob46]

Yessssss

[@anthoniopressley267]

#One love

[@emeraldgreene7767]

Love the show!!! ...is it me or does loni come for the kardashians a lot. 🤔🤔

[@mutheume1713]

I miss Tamara.

[@mariahwhitneycelinejanetmadona]

i didn't even realize that Mel B was there

[@DJReeRee]

She's right names can make you or break u. Some names follow a stigmatism of curses

[@georgia8592]

Dont call ur kid damien

[@ciara6279]

What happened toTamera? Where she go?

[@thobie8]

Caroline Norton she was sick I think

[@bleubelle4339]

Caroline Norton she has pneumonia .

[@ciara6279]

Bleu Belle oh, okay. Thank you! Prayers for Tamera🙏

[@Doritheexplori]

They clap at anything.

[@elaine8013]

My biomom named me after Sir Lancelot's wife. The knight that ran off with King Arthur's wife. and every man in my life has cheated and abandoned me just like Sir Lancelot did to his wife.

[@Dannibb08]

Adriane messy saying Kylie Jenner baby name knowing damn well they hate her for dating Rob 😂

[@s.p.5213]

JEANNIE.... Whyyyyy do you have long hair when that short bob is doing everything you need in life?? Chop It off. And let it grow back long if you want.. The short bob is definitely your best to look.

[@angeleyes3319]

I can agree that our name is our nature. It was that way back in Jesus's times.

[@DDavis-mi2cg]

A simple hairstyle can a woman look beautiful.

[@monicacinco577]

Omg Loni lolll

[@didilv2187]

that's abusive, i've certainly never used those words to my son. you can say the same exact thing without being insultive.

[@jigglejello]

It means big mama

[@lookhowshegobbledthat]

Do you think Blue Ivy sounds like a stripper name, Loni Treemonster?

[@stylecollective-qt9um]

To me it always sounded as if she were a Zappa, Phillips, or Phoenix kid, or one of Cher's children (I'm thinking of her son Elijah Blue).

[@A.Jionni]

People always always ALWAYS jabbing at Jenner, kardashian like what's the underline Hollywood secret we don't know

[@MiscellaneousMichelle]

❤️

[@smeak9246]

Somebody wanna tell me where Tamera's at?

[@everythingsamsara5719]

I like the name stormi

[@missbrooks1571]

Ugh! Adrienne is always trying to get attention especially if she can mention something about her being Spanish SMH! Iyanla: "it means sorrow" Adrienne: "In Spanish it actually means pain" 🤔 that was redundant AF!!!

[@juicyloveja]

Upload full girl chat please

[@DeBellanadi]

I knew I hated the name Delores

[@90Outside]

Najah Mcbryde - my grandmother does too lol and her name is Dolores.

[@karisay347]

Adrienne is obsessed with the Kardashians, girl you’re married into another family, let it go!

[@conjunction7959]

I hope I can look that good at 80

[@kimr5479]

she"s in her 60:s

[@leggs4113]

Lala layla you tried it!

[@conjunction7959]

Hehe

[@mattw4496]

Lala layla lolll

[@LL-us7je]

Lala layla ... Ur comment was disrespectful. For what? 🤔😕.

[@allthingstravon21]

I HATE THAT THEY SWITCHED SIT DOWN AND SHUT UP IN THE TITLE

[@Pacifica74]

I don't believe in all that. I only believe in what Jesus said.

[@stylecollective-qt9um]

Believe in what? the fact that names have meanings? Even the Bible attributes meaning to a person's name, and as for name change as part of one's spiritual journey, we saw it in the Bible as well with Saul's name change to Paul. As for some of the other things she said: the roots is biblical. Her father essentially told her as a young woman, "Peace, be still", and insofar as the wording she used to lift Baby Stormi as opposed to villyfing an inncent child, she simply employed the instruction of 1 Peter 3:10, Colossians 4:6 and Ephesians 4:29

[@Pacifica74]

The only nature I believe we all have is a sin nature.

[@obatalaosun2222]

Great explanation. Some people though, religious or not, are just dense.

[@mattw4496]

stylecollective Triggered much?

[@jennyoyster5054]

Pacifica74 Amen! Only Jesus!

[@zainababdulkareem7167]

Are you kidding me? Iyanla is a Yoruba descent, a Nigerian tribe.

[@magicpower1858]

Wow, she had kids really early then !

[@kjdnyhmghfvb]

She had her first child at 17. "I didn't have money for child care, so I took my children to college with me and they sat in the hallway. They went everywhere with me."

[@chriss6531]

what's the point of cutting a 5 minutes clip into two 😑 stupidity

[@lifewithcaroline8196]

Illuminati talk !

[@jojom6657]

A title... girl ppppuhhhlease!

[@kutamentu]

Lonnie is so phony to me😒... Everytime I watch anything related to "The Real" on KZbin, my feelings always remain the same. I honestly been stopped watching the show once Tamar left.

[@RC-fe9py]

If a father never tells his daughter those words he's a worthless father.

[@tinytowz4471]

Sons need to hear, & heed, the same.

[@RC-fe9py]

@@tinytowz4471 of course that goes without saying and most do. It's the daughter's that get held as lil princesses without any accountability. That's the serious problem at hand. Fathers instinctively are harder on boys than girls.

[@tinytowz4471]

@@RC-fe9py In so many households, the exact opposite is the case.

[@RC-fe9py]

@@tinytowz4471 not in black homes. 73 percent of our homes are headed by a single mother.

[@tinytowz4471]

@@RC-fe9py Even if the fathers are not in the home, how many of those fathers are still co-parenting? What might they they teaching their kids?

[@jonnydavis6066]

#AllWomenNeedToSitDownShutupAndListen 😂😂😂

[@jonnydavis6066]

Iyanla needs to continue to shut up, listen, and sit down

[@cccc-rz5qf]

Ok she sold her soul to the devil and they renamed her. So watch her show with yall eyes wide!!!!

[@ConservativeAnthem]

Old meddler

[@just_a_light]

The Real is so fake though😏 Only real host to ever be on this show was Tamar