Why Men Are Saying "I Don't" to Marriage

[@davidpbcivil]

12 years ago, I truly loved a woman, but I didn't want to get married and have kids. I just wanted to enjoy life together. She cried and spoke for months about how she wanted marriage and family together. So I married her, was faithful to her, never touched her in anger, gave her children. 10 years later, she filed for divorce. Never again. Modern women and family law just cannot be trusted.

[@khanhcao3123]

Did she take half your stuff?

[@Greentunic84]

Thats brutal. I have a similar story.

[@nevatoolate]

Agreed, and similar. My old/old-school dad could not understand and gave me hell for my divorce, as if I was the guilty party. He asked if I hit her or cheated on her, and I responded absolutely not. I paid her out of debt, new car, new house, kids, devoted ..... but not good enough. Just incredible, and not in the good way....... actually terrible, and if I could go back in time, I would never have spoke w/her.

[@minimatemasterworks]

That's all of our stories. At least you got kids out of the situation. Hopefully you have them 50% of the time.

[@John_Wood_]

Similar, I was with my wife for most of her 20's and was having my doubts but didn't want to have wasted her time. After marriage and children she threw me out like a dirty nappy.

[@Retired-jr3qs]

I've been divorced for 25 years. I retired at 57 years old. Getting married is overrated. Freedom is priceless.

[@MrSamadolfo]

😒 correct its just the simple, this isnt rocket science

[@monicaspector2388]

Just say NO.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@MrSamadolfo For some men, it's wonderful in them being married. True love does exist for the man who is desired by the Woman. 2024, USA

[@Retired-jr3qs]

@@Jay-ef2ii most married men are miserable and broke.

[@ripley7t429]

Married for 33, just divorced. Retired at 60, traveling SE Asia. Sure the realtionships are transactional, but at least it is transparent as well. They were always transactional here too, but you have to give up at least 1/2 each time in the West. I find it hard to even be upset with Chad and Tyrone. The more I think about it they are just sticking it to the system, eh, women. I dont think using the man would convey the proper meaning here.

[@factsguy-d2x]

I dated a girl for a year and a half. She just started a company. I make 10 time what she makes. She pushed for marriage , wouldn't sign a prenup and wanted me to move to the city she wanted. She eventually gave me an ultimatum. I said Bye .

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Great

[@zoraster3749]

She made it easy

[@andre1987eph]

Dude, why is marriage even on the table, with all the information that is available to you about how absolutely lopsided it will become against you?

[@franknada8235]

Happy to see a boss story here among all the sad laments.

[@dasdguy7606]

Dodged a bullet.

[@IAmTheEggMan111]

Sex is widely available …. Until you get married that is

[@inverted_real_it_y]

It still is, just not from your wife 😉

[@benstandard]

​@@inverted_real_it_ya person either adapts or goes without.

[@inverted_real_it_y]

@@benstandard very profound but 'going without' is also adapting. 😘

[@36handy]

@@inverted_real_it_y- going outside the relationship is also adapting.

[@borislaviliev251]

Exactly my experience, and I have no idea why and how I deserved this, its like deep down she is following her instincts, what John was explaining in the beginning, she would love some from some other guy, and not me, I am just for money and the help.

[@rowen_correa]

The irony: a young man watches p*rn, a young man stops watching p*rn, young man makes a great effort to find the right woman, a young man gets married, a married man watches p*rn.

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

BOOM, Catfish dindin.

[@WildB06]

A young man stops watching p*£n then finds the right wahman only to get financially destroyed in dievorce a few years later... p*£n isn't going to do that to you and is the safer option

[@ItalNico]

You just described my marriage to a T.

[@andrewevans7992]

Yeah or you quit watching porn to get a gf or something, then you realize it wasn’t all that cracked up to be

[@WhiteGhost21]

i really dont get why people are into p^rn. i've knocked it out of my system for at least 5 years.

[@edubwalter3179]

Marriage...where sex goes to die!

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

Ironic🎉

[@Quadster19]

And Monday night football

[@nickcalderone75]

Recently divorced after 14 years. This is her third failed marriage. We have no children together, but I raised her son from her first marriage. She has devastated me financially, mentally and emotionally. If there are ANY young men out there who are on the fence about marriage...WAIT. Think. If she gives you an ultamatum, DO NOT GET MARRIED. Live your life. She's not what she seems. Please, I implore you...stand up for yourself. Trust this advice from a 50 year old man who is suffering from a marriage that has tormented me and cost me thousands (6 figures) in a divorce settlement.

[@john-griffin]

Excellent Advice

[@BirdDogey1]

Been there. You are spot on.

[@George-ri6vg]

So sorry for what you went through. I hope that you are in a much better situation now

[@benstandard]

It's just not worth it.

[@BlakesPipes]

I can feel your pain brother. I am a failed 2 divorce guy. Thankfully no children. First wife I never wanted kids, second wife came with three. I raised them for 8 years as they were my own... I was blue pilled as they came. Just started to save money now at 51. Better to know now, then find out later when I am 65 and kids are still living in the home I was in. Cheers, hope you find peace in your life quickly

[@liverpoolscottish6430]

Just remember- IT'S NOT YOUR COW, IT'S JUST YOUR TURN.

[@mrwillwgp]

Tip the cow over. Leave it there.

[@snake57]

@@mrwillwgp😂😂😂

[@MrSamadolfo]

😏 LOL, just like Animal Farm, some of us are more equal than others

[@dwightvol9555]

*just your CHURN. 😂

[@ericaz1458]

It's a renters market

[@JohnVanMeter58]

Cows are less maintenance than a woman. Just my experience on the farm.

[@gailflora1835]

Lolol. For sure.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@gailflora1835 Men can compare women to cows, but at the end of the day Boxx conquers the day. 2024, USA

[@tdgdbs1]

So true! I had a heard of Angus.

[@watamutha]

Cows will listen

[@captdavec590]

I was with a woman for 44 years. She takes a cocktail of antidepressants became addicted to pain meds. She lied to police and had me arrested for assault and burglary in my own home. Plus she got a restraining order banning me from my home, of which I'm the sole deed holder. WOMEN ARE DANGEROUS; THIS COULD HAPPEN TO ANYONE!

[@raspberrykissable]

@@captdavec590 this happens to women as well.

[@john-griffin]

That sounds insane. I don't know how you deal with it.

[@captdavec590]

It happened! She claimed that the second of my home was her "private" space. ​@john-griffin

[@fantasia55]

more details please!

[@mowtivatedmechanic1172]

@@raspberrykissablemen v women this happens to men a MAJORITY of the time (when this scenario happens). It’s rare it happens to a woman.

[@patrickbennett439]

Im 42, when i was about 38 I decided I dont allow the governement in my relationships. Its not that im against marriage, im just against the government telling me how things are going to go if she leaves me. She can stay as long as she wants. Im all about a life with a woman. I only reward her for staying, not leaving. That makes a ton more sense.

[@john-griffin]

My thoughts exactly

[@Kenny-Ross]

I'm the same age. I have no problem with marriage. It's just that if a woman decides out of the blue one day that she wants to check out of the marriage, her decision can have long term negative effects on my life. And so I've said the same thing...if you decide you want to leave for whatever reason you leave with NOTHING!

[@patrickbennett439]

@@Kenny-RossYea thats why I have a problem with the government being a part of it. She aint doing that to me.

[@Henry1965ism]

Imagine someone demanding that you pay new car prices for a car that has had multiple owners, high mileage, the body is covered in tiny scratches, the engine makes a strange knocking sound, the dash is missing a dial and there is a stain on the upholstery that just won't come out.

[@lesleycronin832]

LOL but so true

[@christophilous4831]

Once you buy this used car, it's the only car you're allowed to use, even if it doesn't function. If you try to use another car, you will be punished legally and stripped of assets.

[@MrTimenator]

Also blown diff, saggy headlights and lots of leaks :-)

[@franknada8235]

How about the allegory of buying a bad used car, paying for service and other costs, but YOU can never be the driver nor decide where it goes! You are allowed to sit in the backseat and stay quiet too.

[@portraitofman2063]

Probably several stains...

[@JazzDuets]

ooh man. You speaking about your ex wanting to work and leaving your daughter at school when she was 4 + all the financial irresponsibility. OMG. My ex announced she wanted to travel and be a musician when our 3rd kid was just 3 weeks old. And she did. She had so much leverage over me I just had to suck it up or lose my kids. She just did not want to be a mother. So I was left looking after 3 kids and the sole bread winner. Now 3 years after divorce she is broke and trying to get some kind of child allowance off me even though the kids are mainly with me and I still pay 100% of all the kids expenses. She caused so much damage to my children, but they are better off now living in a toxic free environment without a mother always unhappy and resentful. Myself I am a million times happier single and stronger.

[@MrSamadolfo]

😒 ouch really sorry for your pain, i always say Wives and Mothers are way over rated, I always recommend to get sole full custody of the kids and not to coparent. Just Ditch The Witch. 🎃 Long time ago these types of mothers would be Exiled.

[@malcolmhayward4431]

What a selfish cow

[@SaxSith]

Was she a Ukrainian?

[@tarekyousuf8699]

This milk is never free, you pay one way or another. But the highest price to get this milk is to marry. After you find out your cow don,t give you milk anymore. Because she gives the milk to someone else. It,s never your cow😂 Greatings from germany

[@sorryociffer]

The free milk is always the most expensive milk…

[@jurassicthunder]

milk is free to Chad. everyone else has to pay for it.

[@keepitreal1547]

No, I certainly don't agree. In my own experience I pay nothing at all, other than offering coffee & occasional cake, before & after the most amazing intimacy with a stunning woman who only wants exactly what I want. We don't get involved in eachothers life, we don't want commitment or responsibilities. We only see eachother for the same reasons of adult fun. Outside this we both work hard, have grown up kids & our own interests. I would never pay for sex & so 'no' there's no reason to do so, if you meet the right woman who thinks the same.

[@keepitreal1547]

​@@jurassicthunder No, never have paid & never will pay. It's all about self worth & finding the right woman.

[@brianjoseph8982]

She's not your cow it's just your turn 😅 you're just renting

[@Booker.T]

Imagine being a stay-at-home mom and still having to hire a maid? What was she doing with her time?

[@benstandard]

Their value is far less than their mothers and grandmothers and that's part of the reason why marriage rates are plummeting.

[@melissasmess2773]

Nails and hair. 😂

[@wLBlue]

Other guys she meets on social media while listening to amd taking single/divorced womens advice

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

Norcos, boxed wine, and social media. Oh and the milkman, just like the mailman. Stopping by once a day.

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Well stated

[@samobispo1527]

But for most married men, they are feeding, sheltering, and providing for a cow and not getting any milk. Plus, once the cow finds another farmer they like better, they can take half of the farmer's land with them.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

Which is why You simply do not do it. Stay unmarried, guys!

[@mpa8336]

Ponder this: men feed, shelter, and provide for a cow- AND THE MEN get milked, in divorce court.

[@sarangsosi3195]

I got divorced last year. I always find comfort in your videos. thank you

[@DUNEATV]

Same…

[@OziBlokeTimG]

stay with it bro, it gets better....

[@GoldKingsMan]

Good thing I didn’t get married in my 30’s then, I be more broke now..

[@ripley7t429]

Soon you will realize your divorced life is comfort as well. That tunnel can be long and dark, but the other side is a great place.

[@allseeingotto2912]

@@ripley7t429can confirm

[@webthirtythreenoname7259]

I think there's a hidden polygamy in society. The problem is women sharing the same men are blaming all men of their misery while most of men have ne access to women.

[@benstandard]

And those men they're sharing are the top three to five percent. They're the Chads and Tyrones. Those are the only guys they consider and some have the audacity to expect them to commit to just them. It's absurd.

[@LorenzoMasterConnector]

When women complain about men they forget to mention that they are only complaining about the men that have options that don’t desire to commit

[@BxBL85]

I laugh every time I remember that Johnny Depp lawyer divorced her husband just to date Johnny while working on his divorce from Amber Thurd 😂

[@andre1987eph]

I saw this happen in college in the early 1980s. . You would hear rumors of a few certain guys getting the top women for one night stands..

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

Hidden? Seriously?

[@doctordetroit4339]

It's called "hoeflation"

[@alois4674]

too many whores, too much lies - just hypergamy at its best

[@Random-rt5ec]

Redpilled education should be mandatory before considering marriage.

[@WildB06]

Dangerous words from John at the end of this video selling the hope strategy though... 90% on target then he let's himself down trying to be pc

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@Random-rt5ec Red pill education tells you to become a better you but red pill philosophy is a lie in where they tell you that you will find a hot wife at the end of the rainbow once you have a nice job, etc. You are just buying your wife with your money and your wife will just use you for your money and she will think about Chad [all day long]. Men need to marry for true love even with a woman who is not hot. But men regardless of looks believe that they deserve a smoking hot wife even though he does not look like a Chad. 2024, USA

[@JPs-q1o]

Q: How do you turn a 🦊 into a 🐮? A: Marry her!

[@dasdguy7606]

Weaponized family courts are partly to blame for men shying away from making a legal commitment with a 3rd party which by the way leaves the man the least privileged.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

Half a century into "empowerment" and "emancipation", legislation and jurisdiction have turned marriage and cohabitation with kids into one of the worst mistakes a guy can make in his life

[@Goku467-w3i]

True

[@ripley7t429]

To be honest, men make and run the majority of society. We have only ourselves to blame for allowing it I believe. Things always seek balance/middle. they go far left, far right then eventually back to the middle.

[@WilliamKirkland-j4r]

Speaking as an 87 widower, who was with one woman for 61 years,, I concur 100% with your observations. Understandably, all the ladies I dated over the past 3.5 years have been widowed twice, because men just don't last as long, but to find out about the Troup of men they have entertained in between and after spouses is just too much to accept. I relish and appreciate my desire to just touch warm female flesh but they can reserve their lips and kisses for the next bunch of guys they attract. Sloppy second, thirds and so on is just too much for me to find desirable. That kind of transactional relationship is just more than i can handle.

[@benstandard]

It's beyond not worth it. Some wind up becoming churchy types thinking that they've been redeemed. The truth is self-respecting people don't accept the no intimacy until marriage from those that didn't require the same from others before them.

[@DeaconChriss]

​@@benstandardthey think God can erase those miles lol

[@mjaybee]

Google “widow’s fire” and you will understand.

[@jpowe2822]

That's why they refer to it as "riding the carousel"

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

​@@DeaconChrisslolz

[@BirdDogey1]

Culture has changed drastically over the last 40 years. Marriage was often not based on deep love. You had access to whom was available where you were. You made due and tried to make it work. You stayed together because survival required it. This is not today's world. The pressure to break the marriage up is more than the pressure to remain married. A man enters this contract where the other party benefits from breaking the contract. It is a bad deal for a man in today's culture.

[@WayneARobertson]

Facts!!!!

[@askquestions1236]

bad deal for women too. Not easy being cheated on and thrown away. I know couples who have been together for a long long time and they truly love each other. But never worked out for me or a lot of other people.

[@Rileyed]

The evil government incentivizes stupidity. They know what they are doing. Calling porn and such art and free speech. We went too far into perversion.

[@S1000xrhp]

@@askquestions1236 just read the comments here, the vast majority of which relate to how difficult, conniving and untrustworthy women truly are by nature. And you never accept accountability. No doubt there are some occasions when a woman is cheated on but I think we all know that hypergamy means it's far more often the female who cheats, denies affection or initiates divorce. So, yes some women are cheated on but who is he cheating with, mostly other women! Deny your man affection and he will eventually look for it elsewhere, often with a woman who sees him as the prize that you no longer value. Men are like carpets, lay them right and you can walk on them forever. A full belly and empty balls is all we need, we'll work like a donkey and even let you make 90% of the spending decisions! You don't have to be very bright to see that we men are dumb as mud yet 80% of all divorces are initiated by women who think they can get a better deal.

[@JayTide]

​@askquestions1236 it's a great deal for women. They initiate about 70% of divorces and get cash and other prizes on their way out.

[@GBU61]

If a man has reached his 60s and finds himself single, the days of dating are over. Women shift to being less and less important as we age and if she is single around this same age there is a reason and it is not good 99% of the time. That leaves him with going solo, or either getting sex and a little companionship or finding a woman who will see him on a regular basis while each maintains their own home.

[@alantheschmallan1933]

Trust me, trice burned I realised the same at 43.

[@coopsiesmeanderings2507]

@GBU61 I got divorced 18 years ago, decided to do something for me, and walked back from Australia to the UK. I call it my long walk. Now 60. Still date, although as you say, women are not so important. Straight up tell them, no marriage , not interested, no co habitation. You have your house, I have mine. Maybe meet once a week, they also told, in daylight hours I got work to do for me. If I want to go somewhere, i decide if I'll take someone, nothing worse than going to see something, and a woman tries to convince you she also interested, yet after 5 minutes she bored. I've had some try to bend the rules, they all told where the door is, some have said , you will grow old and lonely, when what they really mean is they don't want to be old and lonely. Now have a part time job, no stress, life is peacefull, and if someone want to upset that balance. It's goodbye. As John points out, there is plenty of free, or somewhat free milk, as now to me, my most precious thing I have is time. And I'm not going to waste my time trying to satisfy her demands. My life, my rules, don't like it, go find someone else. I adopted that rule after the divorce, first thing was to get out of the financial burden placed on me, hard long journey that was. And I will never be in that position again. Then make new friends who were interested in the same things, different social circles, some over lap. The greatest thing is peace, the freedom. The freedom to decide what I want to do with my time. The crazy thing is, in my 20s I jumped through hoops to get the milk, the last 15 years, being upfront 100 percent honest, I expected women to run a mile in the opposite direction. They don't. I don't play games, and I won't allow them to play their games. So for any young men, think carefully, it's the biggest decision in your life, that can have the consequences that could ruin you. Enjoy life, don't be a Chad , just be a man who respects himself, and most of all understands the greatest asset you have in non replaceable. Your time.

[@rememberdavid9329]

So true. I’m 59 and can’t imagine cohabitating with another women. Best case scenario, she has her place and I have my place. Sleepovers on the weekend and vacation only.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

@@rememberdavid9329 ☝☝☝👌

[@S1000xrhp]

@@rememberdavid9329 I have this arrangement with a woman of my own age and it works fine. We both appreciate the time apart as much as time together and because we have this break, we value what time we spend together. Our sex life is frequent & amazing as a consequence. We attend to the humdrum household chores and upkeep of our homes and daily lives separately, we have separate financials etc as we have both found in our previous relationships that the discussions and arguments surrounding joint financials and sharing of chores are real passion killers. I recommend this way of rationing time together as it means we can focus on having quality time with each other which boosts our romantic life. Don't cohabit, simply maintain separate lives, interests & domestic arrangements and you will find that you & your partner are more spontaneous, playful, energetic and attentive without the imposition of the pre-conditions and obligations that dominate lives spent living together.

[@JediDarkForce]

She can change her mind and change your world 🌍

[@dews3340]

Yes

[@TheQuixoticRambler]

Very well said ♥!!

[@benstandard]

The system aids them in that.

[@steamhammer2k]

I have experienced that. Not getting fooled again.

[@dews3340]

@@benstandard yes. State marriage certificates are bad... Stay safe

[@97MrStew]

I agree. Sex is easy to get. The risk of divorce is too great. Women have painted themselves into a corner.

[@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226]

As they always have. Women are not very intelligent after all. They CAN be clever and scheming, but not intelligent. Whichever cause or endeavour women champion, if it's not guided by male spirit or the Will of God Himself, it's going to tank time and time again. And once again: If women were intelligwnt, they would learn from such mistakes. But alas...

[@Goku467-w3i]

True

[@tarothijadevenus4017]

@@97MrStew You see it from a superficial perspective. Sex is very expensive on an energetic level. You mix the most sacred of your energies with women/men infected with sexual parasites. The depth, happiness and complicity that you are able to achieve in a marriage in which both of you invest at every level, is priceless.

[@untunedguitar45]

@@Goku467-w3iand if you point any of it out, they bite your head off over it

[@Goku467-w3i]

@@untunedguitar45 they can think what they want you can close your eyes but the truth will always be there marriage is dead aint no man looking for marriage today unless they want a reformed 304 that's literally what a wife is in 2024 a retired harlot I don't see modern women getting married at their prime no they have their fun and expect some dude to marry them when they are done with their h03 phase what makes it even worse for their chances of getting married is the goverment I'm at a stage were I would not even sign the marriage contract with Marry the virgin or have kid without dna testing let alone some random woman and im a 19 year old guy imagine how fed up the older dudes are.

[@taridean]

3:00 Another one on the list that was left out was that the cow, once bought, can turn off the milk supply and will take you to the cleaners if you try get the milk elsewhere.

[@truthtelleranon]

Exactly, the cow turns on you. Only the most important concept. Commitment = she wins, game over, time to withdraw with cash prizes and find new host

[@tonym9310]

Indeed. An important addition to this metaphor 😅

[@benstandard]

​@@truthtelleranontrue. A significant numbers of men are realizing that and that's part of the reason why marriage rates are declining.

[@taridean]

@@benstandard I realized just before I was about to buy. Thank goodness I didn't go ahead with it because the milk supply was already starting to be rationed. After that experience, not sure I ever want to buy now seeing as they're far too many fellas that have been hit with the bait and switch where supply is then totally cut off shortly after buying.

[@benstandard]

@@taridean It's good you made the right decision. It's inevitable that they pull back on the intimacy when you've been together for a while and once they do that its best to immediately end things right then and there because it's only gonna get worse. if one is gonna have intimate relations with a woman and wants a long term relationship it's best not to do so in the west or even certain areas of the east.

[@ItalNico]

I hear you on the p0rn thing, but as other men have shared it's a lot of us married men with dead bedrooms who have no other outlet. Funny, the thought of cheating on a SO was repulsive to me prior to getting married. Now that I'm in a near sexless marriage I completely understand why some people stray when their needs aren't being met. Women who bait men with good sex and then turn it off when they commit don't seem to understand that it is only a matter of time before their man wakes up and either leaves or seeks comfort elsewhere. I plan to leave and never look back.

[@plasmaarmelund]

Been there. It never got better. My advise is to leave sooner than later and not waste any more time.

[@john-griffin]

It’s when young guys use it to replace women completely is when I think it becomes a problem

[@Rileyed]

I don’t get how they say no? To hate sex is mental illness unless you got real smelly and on drugs.

[@Osssssss666]

@@john-griffin for the women. Besides every woman has a vibrator in the top drawer of their bedside table, even the married ones

[@rockymntain]

@@john-griffin Yes, now modern women have to compete with the techno-artificial, fantasy world. How they do that is a topic for another day. Sad to say, many men have no other option. If they aren't addicted to it, it is a safety relief valve that keeps them from going berserk during stressful times. Perhaps a discussion of what an addiction is would also be apt. The biggest problem is believing the garbage is reality...as long as they implicitly realize it is sheer fantasy and not real life. The purveyors are all in it for the money, and the dealers of it are exploiting every person that makes or consumes it.

[@jonathongoodwin]

Don’t forget the legislators, and judges who have brought this all here as well.

[@benstandard]

Along with the media moguls and the educators in the schools and universities.

[@MrSamadolfo]

sure its the entire system, they all are to blame and need to pay

[@malcolmhayward4431]

Amen to these comments

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

@@MrSamadolfo Just stop playing their games. They're about to realize. They're already panicking.

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@manfredschmalbach9023 The USA has so many simps who have not been educated about the black pill. 2024

[@Tarsarian]

The Cow purchased 60 years ago had a chance to be healthy and lower costs. The Cows today are sickly and filled with trouble. The Milk they provide today is sour! BE CAREFUL GENTLEMEN!

[@ThomasJTuhrdwatter]

I think they call that "mastitis".....

[@gumdeo]

Many have Mad Cow disease...

[@Anonymous-yn2ny]

It's never free. Although desirable men pay a reduced price. The discount is considerable.

[@Billydevito]

12:40 ‘Women can cause a lot of disruption in a man’s life’, WTF !! 🤣🤣 There’s the UNDERSTATEMENT of the DECADE !!

[@john-griffin]

@@Billydevito I appreciate that. Try not to sound too crazy it’s already a pretty loaded subject. Thanks.

[@deephouse733]

They want to cook for you but they can’t cook as good as you They want to do your laundry but they tumble dry and shrink all your clothes You have barely any closet space even tho you have barely any clothes They interfere in your career They even interfered in the car you drive

[@mafp22w]

Regarding your ex wife: wasn’t her war with God? Did she ever think God made a mistake in giving her breasts? What is wrong with women that they can’t see the obvious? Without question mother’s milk is the best nutrition for a child. Women have monthly struggles that make work outside the home very difficult. So, instead this has all been exchanged for soy formula and an epidemic of breast cancer. Similarly, prostate cancer is rapidly rising for those 80% of men that are left in the dust by the 80% of the women going after Chad and Tyrone. It is very sad.

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

​@@deephouse733TOOTH

[@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226]

@@mafp22w Preach it! This is the core of the matter! Truth from the mountain. 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

[@bdoubleeb3039]

I’m 46, got the marriage ultimatum last year and declined

[@SnapBones]

I love the "sign half the empire over to me or I'll stop bothering you and you can try some fresh 🍑" ultimatum. Oh nooooo don't leave. 👀

[@benstandard]

The worst that can come of it is she breaks up with you and you find someone else to be with until she pulls the same nonsense. Just don't make it worse by getting the government involved and that includes cohabitation as common law (to varying degrees) is recognized in most states.

[@wLBlue]

The ultimatum always a sign...not a good 1

[@ChrisSadowski-pp1np]

Smart choice. The woman you marry will not be the same woman that divorces you.

[@lesleycronin832]

Nice one

[@rabblerouser5559]

9 times out of 10 the “free milk” is actually sour cream 😂

[@nunuvyurbiz123]

The underlying risk always remains: no matter how valuable she seems at the beginning (intimate, agreeable, homemaking, loyal, etc.), she can change her mind at any time, and you, as the man, have no recourse. If you get divorced because she is no longer meeting her intimacy end of the bargain, it doesn't matter - you're still obligated to fulfill your commitment, forcibly extracted from you by the courts in the form of loss of 50% of your wealth, paying a child support pension, paying an alimony pension). It's just a really bad deal.

[@ackbuilder8262]

That’s right. There is no recourse, no legal consequence for a woman to change her mind..men are legally and contractually responsible for everything- seemen, kids, marriage, their anger, emotions, physical power, business, employees etc. society or matrix is slowly relieving all women of all legal responsibilities..

[@mysticone1798]

I've said the same for many years: The man's financial obligations can be monitored and enforced, whereas the woman's obligations for sex, housewifery, etc. are never evaluated, judged or even required in any way. The Law's message to men is, "YOU married her, we didn't"!

[@hernandayolearyallda]

@@mysticone1798 Yes, granted you can't contract for sex, but it is unconscionable that the court doesn't say the man was accustomed to having a homemaker so woman must continue that!

[@mysticone1798]

@@hernandayolearyallda LOL! Yeah, benefits only go to women in this country, since nobody cares about the men (least of all the government).

[@mysticone1798]

@@hernandayolearyallda Just another double standard.

[@ElearningDigest]

A husband is the last man in line who pays for what everyone else before him got for free.

[@jacksquat4140]

There are no free lunches. Someone must pay the Piper and it will be the fool who marries her.

[@john-griffin]

👍😂😂

[@A_Sen_0]

Not if s.he earns equal or more than him Think 😜 Also lot of time shhe remains very grateful for him marrrying hr where as the chad left hr

[@Goku467-w3i]

True

[@bunnieskitties293]

@@A_Sen_0 Somehow, the way you type matches the brainlet message you left.

[@TheVagolfer]

Always follow the money... sex is cheap and marriage is very expensive.

[@DUNEATV]

John, other large KZbin channels are picking up your content and showing it on their channels! You’re really making an impact! 👏

[@shirleygriffin7672]

Yes he is

[@monicaspector2388]

🎉🎉🎉 ❤

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@shirleygriffin7672 Men need to marry for true love even if the woman is not pretty. Many men have been marrying women who don't love them. The thought they could red pill the situation. 2024, USA

[@Jay-ef2ii]

@@monicaspector2388 Basic men need to marry basic women. Why would a normie end up with hottie? He thought he could buy her with house and a job along with making 100,000 dollars a year. He can't red pill a woman. Women want to marry for true love, and they want to marry Chad. She only married a red pilled man for his money and the man fell for it. 2024, USA PS red pilled men thought that they had defeated the Chad. No, the Chad wins, always.

[@orvelorten5586]

Remember gentlemen....the milk is free because it's past its expiration date...😂😂

[@andre1987eph]

Actually not true.

[@russellgraham2112]

“The sex you get for free costs a lot more than the sex you pay for”

[@ripley7t429]

For some reason that type of realtionship seems more honest that most today.

[@ArmyWolves]

Yep.... For example if a husband sleeps with his wife once a month and earns $120k which is almost entirely spent on a lifestyle , home , furniture , social activities etc that are dictated by her that means he is paying $10k per session of unenthusiastic , starfish lovin'

[@Noisycowonline]

My fav t-shirt - "Marriage is like chaining yourself to a bear, then kicking it" In fact, wearing that shirt right now.

[@melissasmess2773]

😆👍🏻💯🔥

[@john-griffin]

That is Excellent! Comment of the Day!!!

[@mpa8336]

May I respectfully offer a slight change. "Marriage is like chaining yourself to a bear, then hitting it repeatedly with a baseball bat, to see what happens". My 3rd wife is a keeper, but the other women I was with were beyond imagination bad.

[@traceywright7790]

Sleeping around is not good for men, either…just saying.

[@mpa8336]

@@traceywright7790 About 85% of women 18-35 who want to sleep around can. At will. About 5% of men 18-35 who want to sleep around can. I agree with your point- I have chosen not to sleep around, unless I was married to the woman. However, let us understand that men and women are asymmetrical to each other, in many ways. I saw the bad boys, in college, having women visit their rooms at least 3-4 nights per week. I was 17 when I went off to college, yeah, at that time I was jealous. My second year of college, one roommate in a suite was French, about 30. Women threw themselves at him, we, his roommates, knew, because we saw it happening. At the time, yes, I was jealous. Now that I understand how energy works, I know that this would not have been useful to me. Merchandise sells well- when satisfied customers share their pleasure with the value they got. Merchandise does not sell well, when dissatisfied customers share their extreme displeasure with the product. Which is not to say that human beings are merchandise, but in the market of marriage, to some extent they are. My former supervisor's wife died, when he was about 55. Sharp guy, great shape, a joy to be around. He went on the dating sites, to find women about say 35-50. He was utterly stunned- in a week, he had 500 hits from interested women- whom he described as high grade. And he got more hits... only top 5% men get this kind of attention from women, though.

[@stealcian74]

We used to have a co-dependence of sorts. Trading commitment for sex. Women don't need the commitment as much and men can get sex without commitment.

[@benstandard]

Women get the intimacy with (and without) commitment all the time as well except it's mostly just with the top three to five percent of men because everyone else is invisible to them.

[@andre1987eph]

Men haven't broken away from codependency

[@denisbelanger4473]

I have a friend who's been telling me the exact same thing you seem to articulate very well. I also have another friend who is in a very suffering marriage his wife treats him like a child and constantly fights with him with extreme jealousy .

[@nickcalderone75]

I feel for your friend. I have been where he is. Tell him it won't get better. She won't change. I hope he gets out and salvages the remainder of his life.

[@ronv6637]

Put all assets in trust or another name with advise of a divorce attorney/financial attorney and leave with emotional abuse cause (document everything negative).

[@RaymondNelson-qc2hs]

Had a Korean/Cherokee that did the same.

[@MrSamadolfo]

ive been there too, she never cheated on me but the constant bullying took its toll on me, she would even beat me, it was bad, i finally got rid of her, had to go thru it 3 more times till i learned by lesson. Im good now Thank God.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

When women are acting jealous, there is usually a valid reason. For example, A lot of women, myself included, make it clear at the beginning of the relationship what our expectations are and one of those expectations is not checking out other women, looking at porn, or anything similar to that. When your man agrees he will follow those expectations and THEN you find him checking out other women or looking at porn, he has violated his comittment to you and one of the most natural and justified responses is jealousy. Or when your man agrees to not have female "friends" unless his contact with them includes you as well and then he starts having long one on one conversations with this "friend", jealousy is a natural and reasonable feeling to have. Jealousy is often felt by men too if the reverse situations had happened to them. In short, in general, women are not usually jealous unless they have good reason to be.

[@JariSatta]

3:30 Everyone gets this wrong. Men are the gatekeepers of VALUE. Women don't need commitment, they need access to VALUE.

[@MrSamadolfo]

Once we have Blade Runner Replicants we alone have ALL the value 😎

[@whispersofveracity63]

Yes, women can always get commitment from a low value male.

[@genovasquez8361]

Alot of men are going Monk mode and dont even want the milk

[@nanomia]

good!

[@neilanderson9151]

Blammo

[@JEEDUHCHRI]

I’m getting to be lactose intolerant. 😂😂

[@genovasquez8361]

@@JEEDUHCHRI haha

[@fudogwhisperer3590]

It’s not about body count. It’s about her not being able to lock down the man she wants but doesn’t want her. A woman can sleep with one guy and be alpha widowed. This also leads to psychological issues and cluster B tendencies. A good way to tell if a woman is wife and mother material is if she’s not self serving and selfish. Selflessness in a woman is most important.

[@Henry1965ism]

And once becomes an alpha widow she will always be longing for him.

[@visionforetold4568]

Body count absolutely matters what are you talking about?

[@robmcguckin7605]

They all love bomb in the beginning so even though she is selfless now doesn't mean she will remain this way once married.

[@MrSamadolfo]

its about all of that and more

[@bunnieskitties293]

Got to experience this first hand with one girl. She met me in my early 20s, we met up for a 3 week Screwcation together and the aftermath of it stuck with her so strong Im now 34 and she just at the beginning of this year came asking for more. She said it all, "Couldnt ever stop thinking about you" "I couldnt love any of the men I dated after you". Golden Dick is a real thing and its real curse to women who go biting into forbidden fruit. Sad part of the story? I wanted to marry her. She wanted to chase her career instead. Damn shame.

[@George-ri6vg]

I said it before and I will say it again. We all have similar stories. I wish everyone the best. Stay strong 💪

[@ois-jy9kl]

I'm not that religious but its seams that the story of sodom and its demise is a good analogy for the dating scene these days.

[@benstandard]

The story of sodom and gomorrah had more to do with alternative lifestyles.

[@MrSamadolfo]

🙂 yes, thats a role model city that they want to move all us into, right now we already have it in Prisons, but they want to roll that out to the general public as well.

[@kire115]

Money Energy Attention and Time. ALL men pay. - shout out Coach Greg Adams

[@Steelrain322]

shout out to the coach gang

[@nadie2795]

Her money is hers, your money is ours

[@visionforetold4568]

Don’t negotiate with women. Decide upon your program and implement your rules and boundaries. Require adherence to the program from the people in your life. You are the man. Lead

[@ripley7t429]

Oh, no, a boundary automatically makes you misogynistic and a narc at the same time. Good luck finding a woman in the West to comply with it.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6 year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on , I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here .

[@DianaJovita]

The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?

[@DianaJovita]

Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.

[@charlesdavid-p1y]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.

[@john-griffin]

I know it is really hard to imagine, but time can heal all wounds. You have to accept what is. You must stop replaying it in your head. Stop playing the "What if" game and just close the door on the fact that it is over. Appreciate the other people in your life and the other experiences that you can have that give you some enjoyment. Release your attachment to whatever belief you have about this relationship. It was not the end, it was just one stop on your journey. Finally, you have to forgive yourself and her for the whole thing. This is just an experience. One day, it will reveal whatever lessons it holds. But you will never learn them when you are still clinging to the attachments. HANG IN THERE! Good luck!

[@retroloungemusic]

A man would have to be insane to get married today in the United States.

[@shirlebryant9427]

yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssssss

[@kkenny70]

It's not just the USA, it's pretty much everywhere "Western Liberal Society" has infected or infested.

[@Lucas-wn5wm]

Actually many parts of first world nations is facing similar problems. Because of social media

[@davidhall4373]

I haven't had a woman in my life for almost 30 yrs. I realized that although sex is marketed as a need, as in the much touted hierarchy of needs, it really isn't a need. For me it is a luxury item. I just don't "need" it. It could be wonderful for sure if I could get it without the expenses that come with it - financial and emotional. But since I am not a wealthy man in either department, sex is just too expensive of a luxury. I think that if I were safely financially independent with a good solid chunk of wealth I could tolerate a woman around as her needs wouldn't threaten my financial stability. It would be sort of like having a very expensive pet that I could comfortably afford. Or maybe a parasitic relationship where the host (me) was unharmed. But I'm not that wealthy yet. I find that dogs are much more affordable and emotionally stable...and they actually love me even when I do whatever the hell I want to whenever the hell I want to do it.

[@Greentunic84]

And..theres more content likes yours that's easily accessible now. So men are becoming more prudent when it comes to marriage/commitment. Also, A lot of us have seen our boomer parents unhappy in marriage.

[@danbev9313]

Feminism has convinced today's women that sleeping around is perfectly acceptable. This is a win for single males who have their acts together. A loss for society and the nuclear family

[@Henry1965ism]

And has convinced them that 'reproductive rights' is now a form of birth control.

[@nanomia]

...but men also sleeps around? why it's only wrong when women does it?

[@ciarakristos111]

I'm a modern woman and I've never slept around. I also don't subscribe to feminism and am more conservative in my mindset. Don't tar us all with the same brush.

[@danbev9313]

​​@ciarakristos111 IF what you say is true, you are an outlier to today's garden variety low value/high body count female

[@danbev9313]

​@@nanomia Because no man wants a committed relationship with the town bicycle.

[@Brent-z2s]

I dated one woman who told me she was a virgin until she got married because she was scared of her dad. Dad's are no longer allowed to discipline. Also other women used to shame the women who put out. I grew up around a dairy and some of the cows had milk coming out before we milked them and that is what modern women remind me of.

[@benstandard]

Yep. Now you have the whole born again virgin type requiring marriage before intimacy even though that wasn't their lifestyle prior to you. Self respecting people don't tolerate that.

[@bunnieskitties293]

The real crux of the issue is the sexual liberation where women now encourage scandalous, slag behavior. They cheer eachother on while they behave more and more degenerate. And nothing anyone can do can effect them meaningfully. They are enjoying wallowing in their pig slop. They dont get a reality check for decades, its such a slow decaying process I dont know how many generations have to fall for it before women catch on. Maybe they dont, because by the time the last generation is paying the price.. theyre seen as old hat, not cool, no one to listen to. Theyre too busy with their girl squad rooting them on to participate in a glory hole. Ive seen so much of this first hand. Its sad. I feel bad for em. Theyre depriving th emself a lifetime of happiness and the true satisfiaction of a job well done, all to get some sugar high short lived excitement that rots their soul and gives them crabs.

[@nanomia]

so her dad was controlling and you applauding it? what about modern days aren't they just as bad based on your analogy? what a loser mentality you have

[@994pt4]

#1 Sex is overrated #2 Marriage isn't about 'having sex' unless you are still an adolescent #3 Marriage is about COMPATABILITY...that's it.

[@TrevyTrev-andTheFunkyPets]

I’ve beginning to learn that the few successful marriages that I personally know of, companionship and friendship is what it’s based on, the sex part may not be a big factor so much.

[@doctordetroit4339]

Sex is no part of a successful marriage....sex is just sex. So what. It's everywhere. Good men leading with authority over everyone is what keeps a family together. But the state prevents that now....

[@danbev9313]

Intimacy is the most important aspect of marriage. There are other dimensions of Intimacy besides sex

[@gw6056]

That's what I have, I'm 56 we have what I call slow lazy sex....age related because we both don't need to impress, slow sensitive occasionally is fine.... companionship and being best mates is far more important....

[@ryomi1202]

So true.

[@Rileyed]

@@gw6056randomly go fast and crazy! Variety is the spice of life. I think if we always keep them guessing and be spontaneous intimacy is more enjoyable.

[@sorryociffer]

Modern women are like “buying the cow?…I’m just gonna make me an open petting zoo…”. 😂

[@coeurdelion1193]

I asked a retired priest friend why married men always die before their wives. Without pause, he immediately said, "So he can find some peace and quiet." Marriage has always been hard on men.

[@john-griffin]

That is hilarious and sad at the same time!

[@bobbysilver272]

Mid divorce after 32 years. She decided to end the marriage after we started to struggle a bit financially, stopped creating, and within 2 weeks found a wealthy bachelor. I married back in the day because I was fed the idea that I had to have a girlfriend or a wife. For many years it was great and we enjoyed being together and I fell in love with the illusion I had created of her in my mind. When kids came along practically everything changed and it became a struggle. I guess she hung in there long enough to let the kids get old enough to leave. She is so unbelievably selfish and I am left looking after the kids financially, which I don't mind as they are my kids, but she is a cop out.

[@TruBluBlood666]

Hate to break it to ya, she probably had that wealthy bachelor lined up before the divorce.

[@xenuburger7924]

Yup she was definitely fu¢king you but in a bad way. A manipulative crook.

[@andre1987eph]

Feel sorry for the wealthy bachelor 😅😅😅

[@tres5533]

This video essay is really a "one-stop" summary with great insight and nuance for anyone to watch about the current state of relationships and our society. Kudos John.

[@john-griffin]

Thanks!

[@mikerepairsstuff]

John that space in nature you walk through with your dogs is the most beautiful.

[@Florida_Joe75]

When a women gives you an ultimatum, that's a declaration of powerlessness.

[@jamescharlton1417]

I think one thing you’re missing mate is that men do go for the traditional woman who is not going to work and fulfill traditional feminine gender roles, he is taking on insane risk in the divorce court in terms of spousal support and division of assets. Furthermore, the “home making” role does not require as much work as it used. Keeping the house clean and preparing food takes a few hours a day at most. The value exchange between men and women in todays western society is just too one sided with men providing most the value.

[@MrSamadolfo]

😒 the problem is that you can't see your Future Self, they want you to sign some paper when your only 18 or something with nothing in your pocket, but if you could see your future self's financial portfolio at Retirement: couple of homes, 4 cars, 4 bicycles, some farm land, 401K, Pension, easily over a cool Mil, you would definitely think long and hard on signing that paper

[@keepitreal1547]

I've got the ideal. I see a stunning woman for mutual benefits only. I met her in the supermarket mall & approached her with my witty charm, swapped numbers & have since had a zero strings, commitment or responsibility thing going on. We've discussed it & it's what we both want. We feel exactly the same, it's just mutual fun & it's never ever been so good. We've even discussed were we both feel relationships & living toogether go wrong. Her saying how she is against such, is music to my ears. I've been married before, plus had a long term living in girlfriend...the downsides are huge & yes intimacy runs it's course. I would never go back there, especially as I have seen the light since.

[@harrybrown6585]

I think therefore I am, single.

[@john-griffin]

Excellent comment

[@cur244]

The problem is once you buy the sex is gone. Why would a guy want to buy into a sexless relationship??

[@jacksquat4140]

Why pay full price for a flashy, sexy car that will break down shortly after you drive it off the lot.

[@jrnumex9286]

possibly me for one. i don't like same-o same-o 24/ 7 anyway.

[@Kenny-Ross]

Yup! This is a problem I have in the "Christian" world. It's a heavy, sensitive topic for many. It can easily trigger a lot of women. So nobody really wants to have this conversation. One of my best friend's mom said to me a few years, while having a discussion about some things pertaining to marriage, that *you're not going to be having sex all the time. A woman's body changes.* There you go.

[@jacksquat4140]

@@Kenny-Ross : Once a woman has her day in the sun, her priorities quickly change, and the groom is no longer number one. In time her hubby will become her final consideration, after her friends, the kids, her career, her mother, and the family dog. Now, I'm sure your mother is a fine woman, but the truth of it is far more sobering than "You're not going to be having sex all the time. A woman's body changes." Like I said, it's not so much that her body changes as much as it is her priorities, commitment, and desire.

[@Tyler-wl8kq]

Great insights your videos keep getting better

[@steele4347]

When a couple splits up...the woman gets 100% possession of the kids. If the father wants to see his kids...he has to hire a lawyer to petition the court to have access to his kids. While the father is petitioning the court...the court tells the father...since you are here lets discuss child support, alimony payout, 401k plan, pension plan, division of assets, health insurance, etc. This is how they sucker the fathers to go to court voluntarily...then they hit them with the never ending financial burden or jail time‼️

[@john-griffin]

I know that has happened to some men on the site. But it didn’t happen to me. I have custody of all my children. I think of men fight harder they stand a better chance. You just have to be willing to fight really hard.

[@bunnieskitties293]

@@john-griffin I knew a guy who did his college thesis paper on the subject of fathers getting custody of their children in California. According to the data he was able to gather, which I believe was extensive, about 1% of men who actively sought custody of their children were granted it in that state. Given the man was in his 60s when I met him, this would have been almost 40 years ago. I doubt the numbers have gotten better since. Some states are a little more lenient, but you should still consider yourself lucky. It oft doesnt matter how hard you fight. It sure didnt for my father. I respect you a lot for putting in the work necessary to win though. Again, these were only the men who went to court for their kids, it was about how many who actually put up a legal battle WON that battle. Not how many fathers on the whole got custody, since many dont even try.

[@RS-ms1bz]

The milk dries up rather quickly once the ring is on her finger, regardless if any milk was given away before the ring or not.

[@mniks8860]

After she's done having children, that's when it ends for most of us.

[@bradgraystock5966]

Until the government is willing to allow legally written marriage agreements between couples that will hold up in court society will continue along this path.

[@WayneARobertson]

Faaaaaaaaaaaaqqqcts!!!!!

[@tomla2725]

@@bradgraystock5966 I believe that’s called a prenup

[@bunnieskitties293]

@@tomla2725 He said agreements that will hold up in court. Prenups get thrown out too often.

[@LawlessGaming13]

I don't think that the milk is for free per say. It's just cheaper to buy a gallon at the store than to buy a cow and still have to work to get the milk from it yourself. Every man pays. You either pay as you go or pay a monthly subscription (marriage)

[@heathmcrigsby]

There are more men not getting any sex at all now than at any point in our country's history.

[@mikebingham9700]

Bingo. That's it!

[@dolittle6781]

Hopefully your thoughtful videos will save some men and women from the dystopian family culture we are currently experiencing.

[@alantheschmallan1933]

Thing is, at 44. Trice left for another man, raised 4 kids, 3 arent my own... she pulled the ole "Im not happy" 1 month after we got a puppy that SHE wanted, and Im stuck with now... Now that the family-years are over for me, my health and hobbies are in a good place, my money is better than ever, libido is controllable and my 14 year old girl is my main focus? I struggle to find a "Why" I should risk disrupting my life with a woman? Im really trying but I guess Im to burned?

[@Woodsman_797]

The milk is only "free" (its never truly free) for Chad and Tyrone

[@ChadAV69]

eh, it's free for a few months until they get bored and start adding drama into Chad or Tyrone's life. And if they don't play along then she just moves on to the next guy. Women get bored easily.

[@benstandard]

​@@ChadAV69Come war time this degenerative society isn't worth fighting for.

[@Noisycowonline]

Yes, they have all the options and a plethora of sex, but their conquests are out to wreck Chad's life with trickery and deceptions like "don't worry I am on the pill" and 'my doctor said I can never get preggers.' 18-21 years of hell awaits dealing with a troll. So being a pretty boy has its drawbacks as well. No one truly 'wins' with plotting females if they throw themselves in the risk/reward scenario where reward is perhaps an orgasm and risk is years' of having your peace and solitude destroyed.

[@retroloungemusic]

@@ChadAV69 100% true. So many think that women don't play games with certain guys. They play games with every one of them.

[@nomad6086]

It's definitely free. I have an acquaintance at my gym who's a middle-aged "Gigachad." 6'3", 215, jacked (on TRT), hair transplant, good $$$, sportscar, etc. He gets approached all the time with many being hotties half his age. He doesn't half to approach women at all nor deal with the old bags. The life of a Gigachad. 😯

[@jacksquat4140]

"There's a lot of good women out there to be had." (22:29) Sorry, John, I know you're being gracious, generous, and trying to instill hope, but I just don't see it.

[@Random-rt5ec]

Boston, MA - I asked my college (Engineering) age son why he doesn’t have a girlfriend & he said dad I can’t find a woman with a body count less than 20 and I don’t want that. So for now while he is building his kingdom he’s being a Chad enjoying short term hookups with no commitment.

[@MrSamadolfo]

be careful about Child Support, you dont even have to be the biological Dad in some jurisdictions if you dont Contest

[@CRlifeisgood]

Ha!. Problem is girls with extremely low body count like I was, will not want a guy like that because the reason why we have a low body count to begin with is because we see sex as sacred and people are not objects of pleasure to take and toss. So his values would not align with me, and I would not pick him, money or no money. I picked a guy who was just starting as a nurse and had nothing but an old car to his name and school debt because his character and values matched mine and he had an extremely low body count too. Men who participate in hook up culture are an immediate turn-off for a woman like me who didn't sleep around. So good luck with demanding a low body count when you are clearly not.

[@bunnieskitties293]

@@CRlifeisgood Didnt work for me. Kept my virginity well into my 20s as a good looking guy. Never found a woman who gave a shit, all I ever wanted as a kid was a committed relationship, a partnership, something that could become marriage. No woman ever picked me, no matter how many I asked out. I just couldnt find a woman who wanted anything deeper than sex. Its an evil world we live in man, women like you are so god damn rare its trying to find a strand of hay in a needlestack to find a girl who would actually appreciate me and isnt an absolute harlot already. Now that Im 34, I just assume I wont ever find one because women near my age are either taken, single moms or worse.

[@asianstud7]

@@bunnieskitties293 same problem i got. im 45.

[@Random-rt5ec]

@@CRlifeisgood I appreciate your words, men & women process every sexual encounter much differently. Men ejaculate into the woman & the woman absorbs the hormones & proteins of ejaculate into her bloodstream forever changing her.

[@TheZrpilot]

I thought I had all the reasons why I prefer to be single, but I had never thought about me de-valuing sex... I do. I can get it when I want. Even buy it. spitting truths, John

[@ciarakristos111]

Thank you for your balanced thoughts and insight. I agree with much of what you said. As a woman, I have always struggled to find a decent, mature-minded guy because they all seem to be hyper-sexualised in a regressive way. They just see me as a sex object, even though I'm thin and dress conservatively. It's been obvious to me for a long time that there are at least three generations of men who are governed by pornography and, unfortunately, this bleeds into everyday, mundane life in a detrimental way. I've tried to have meaningful conversations with guys and, more often than not, they 'freeze up' and can't seem to view me as a fellow human being. From a very young age, I actually looked forward to being married and having a couple of children (and happily staying at home in that role), but there aren't any men left who want to commit and get married. As you said, "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" It's sad, it's eroding the foundations of our society and it's killing the intrinsic beauty, joy and healthiness of male and female companionship as well (I enjoyed several close friendships with boys when I was a child). 💔

[@alois4674]

it's just your turn! ALWAYS

[@stevend8785]

We’re both Gen X. Our Grandmas (WW2 era) knew this intrinsically.. They collectively told young men, you want sex, put a ring on it. The boys coming home from the war did just that, had a lot of sex, and the result was the Baby Boomers. Our Gramdmas didn’t have the Pill, legal abortions and lived in an era before sexual liberation. They paired off appropriately 1 to 1. I’m not saying it was perfect, but there were couples that stayed together until death. In about 4 generations we’ve lost the ability to have families.

[@john-griffin]

Great insight. thanks

[@A_Sen_0]

But what will happen if your granddad leaves hr after marage ? I mean incompatibility, segs less marage was present in that time . I know many man left & Also many wman want to be separated from hubbies too What happens then ???

[@929cbr_rr]

A lot of the couples then stayed together even though they were miserable.

[@stevend8785]

@@929cbr_rr I’m well aware the WW2 gen had problems in their relationships as well. I’m aware longevity of the relationship and happiness in the relationship are not perfectly correlated. I’m aware women didn’t have other options if they left. Leave it to Beaver was a scripted Tv show and not real. Then as now, people that were happy for decades were a minority of cases. However, this broken home society is a disaster. In the black community it’s the cause of boys going into gangs and getting life sentences before they are old enough to buy beer. There’s unwed mothers , suicides, poverty, people unable to form relationships and just having sex wherever, and women doing porn because they’re aren’t any other jobs.

[@georgefranko7788]

My mother divorced my father and always wanted him back afterwards. I’m so glad that my father has always taught me to never get married.

[@vedymin1]

Exactly, why would he ever want a backstabber and a betrayer back, who destroyed everything couse her feefees told her to, she took his trust and generosity and spat on it all...and the children too.

[@mikejames9642]

This is a very interesting topic and you bring out some very valid points. 59 years old and divorced 8 years. I’ve dated 3 women post divorce and had sex over 1000 times with these 3. I didn’t set out to date or count the number of times, it just somehow happened. Women are desperately searching for men and found me. All 4 were hyper sexual. Very new concept for me, but why not, right?? I enjoyed the relationships but they took the lead in having sex. I was totally honest that I was not looking for marriage. Even though they pushed the sex, they all eventually got upset, pissed off and claimed that I used them. Very disappointing to me cause this simply wasn’t true. 99% of women still want a husband and they still believe they can convince a man to marry them by throwing themselves at us. They just refuse to understand that they have devalued their own worth by being so open to sex. Unfortunately, too much sex is dangerous for men. It makes us crave women, but mainly just for sex. After the “craziness” starts showing up, the sex isn’t enough to keep us so we move on to the next one. Rinse and repeat. I don’t need the drama in my life but I still crave the sex. The cycle of starting over is draining, so we as men need to break free of our intense sexual desires and enjoy alternatives ways of filling our time.

[@A_Sen_0]

A relationship agreement would be the solution If man leaves he pays the settlement or support for few years In this way our cost is lesser But sshe got kind of commitment Also what is marage anyways? A man or wman can leave separately if its unhealthy marage is not it Its all about financial settlement the punishment for dvorce or break up So make it less & sign the contract with gf & we both genders r winners

[@MrSamadolfo]

😒 i recently only deal with PROs and Freelancers, so that pressure that your talking about is not there, but not everyone is cut out to be dealing with them, i haven't had a relationship like yours in over 10 years and I dont miss it cause yeah i remember the JEDI mind games all too well, they all want get paid for their bodies in some form or fashion, i never met anyone in my whole Life that wasnt like that

[@robmcguckin7605]

I was happy in life and had plenty of 1-4 year relationships from age 18 to age 37 and then I decided to get married. Now, its 18 years later, kids are doing well and I'm once again single. I kept the dog, bought another motorcycle, weekend SL is in the garage and I have no desire for todays "modern women". Even though I'm still able to date younger women, I'm not interested. I may retire to either Eastern Europe or Southeast Asia, if I meet someone there, I'd be ok with it but I still won't get married ever again, its a bad contract and favors only the woman.

[@robmcguckin7605]

@@RG-cz1tc Nice! I love all the SL's. I have a R230.

[@andre1987eph]

So you're 55 and still making Eve your life's purpose? That's not a man.

[@DUNEATV]

John spitting straight FACTS!!!!

[@sonlightpsalm942]

I walk through the woods next to you as my friend, enjoying the flora and fauna, listening intently to what you have to say. Contemplating the depths of the observations and conclusions that you've come to, to say, darn, that sounds like the problem with society in general. The only way for men to protect themselves in today's society is to not get married to the state, as it's laws are slanted to hypergamous, narcissistic, psychopathic women, that want to rape men of their resources and dignity. Unfortunately, the 60's produced a mindset that's anti family. Women that are seeking elusive happiness at the expense of her husband and children. Are there truly good women out there? Out of the 50% who stay married, how many are truly happy? I've learned to love myself enough to not sacrifice myself to make another imperfect human being happy at my expense. 😊❤😊

[@WayneARobertson]

Facts!!!!

[@mordyfriedman5647]

Men who get legally married should ALWAYS get a prenup first. I will never understand why someone would not do that. If she doesn’t want to sign then she’s telling you that she’s not the right one.

[@fansofst.maximustheconfess8226]

@@bostonguy Well done, dude!

[@leviathon2]

Everyone gets a prenup when they get married, period. It's either written by the lawyer that you engaged and paid or it gets written by the state. Which one are you going to choose?

[@GBU61]

Actually a better way is just live with her in a non-common law state. If a man marries in America he just gave away his leverage.

[@manfredschmalbach9023]

@@GBU61 It's not easy, but always make sure she has her own address at any time. Send letters or an Amazon item to her address now and then to confirm it. Make sure her name is not on Your letter box or door. Make sure to have a guest room in Your house. That all helps to show in court how she never was Your in-house-relationship.

[@UntamedMann]

Prenups don’t hold water😂 go ahead with that

[@reclaimtheframe]

My ex wife wanted to be a stay at home mom. She wasn't good at doing house work though. I said no. Hind sight being 20/20 I think I made the right choice or I would be paying alimony.

[@reclaimtheframe]

To give some context, she had us wait to have kids until she got her masters degree.

[@Ainttrippin]

There is always value in having a loving relationship with another human. You just have to be a high value man and find a high value woman -- and keep your eye out for any red flags, period.

[@JLM_79]

Also Make the point that high value women have a hard time getting higher value men, because those men have infinite options. Also those types of women tend to be older, higher body count, masculine in their attitudes and have a boss babe mentality. Those high value men don't want to come home and have to deal with her crap after battling at work all day. He has the option to go overseas and get a very traditional feminine young woman.

[@robmcguckin7605]

Which is fine as long as he doesn't bring her back. Both of my marriages were to foreigners, one was from Benanćon, France and the other a Latina from Peru. Eventually, they become "Americanized".

[@JLM_79]

@@robmcguckin7605 thanks for pointing that out. I knew I forgot something in my comment.

[@robmcguckin7605]

@@JLM_79 Glad to assist. My 3rd and final, I think I will stay there.

[@gravisan]

I was home for a few weeks, and decided to see what this house work stuff was all about. Easiest thing in the world, had everything done and then had the rest of the day to do other stuff.

[@eunicef1]

Love these videos and so glad I leant from my dad's three failed marriages. Said he's never been happier with just him and his cat.

[@KathleenFulton-u1x]

I think that in the 1950's, for instance, most couples got married young because women, for the most part, wouldn't have sex until marriage. The women didn't have "high body counts." When a man married, he felt that his wife belonged to only him. The divorce rate was very low.

[@recmtnbiker4368]

Hearing one man after another describe how he was treated in divorce court is a big reason a lot of men won’t get married.

[@samdarp]

As a female fan of your channel, I find it very educational and also a way to improve my awareness and 'womanly' behavior. Could you please elaborate on what men look for in a friendship with a woman in the coming videos. I appreciate your perspective very much.

[@learningisfun2108]

Just a random male observer here; I think that most single men have all the male friends they need (which is probably a very low number). If they have a female friend, it is likely sexual relations they are looking for. Don’t get me wrong, this is not a hard and fast rule. When I was divorced, I had a female friend who was also on the dating scene (purely platonic, from my side at least; I can’t speak for her) and we would swap dating horror stories and hang out. Now that I am remarried, we have remained friends. But I think this is a bit rare. Men think about sex all the time….. like so many times a day. It is a huge and constant biological need. So for a guy to have a purely platonic female friend….. well, what’s the point? They have male friends who are easier and less maintenance to hang with and talk sports, cars, etc., and complain about women LOL. Just my two cents.

[@samdarp]

I ment friendship with sex of course... without marriege which I'm also against :) thanks for your comment

[@rosem7042]

Let's be real. The vast majority of men in your life who aren't related to you would absolutely bang you if you indicated that was a possibility in even the most tangential manner. That's just how men are, it is what it is. If you do want to cultivate genuinely platonic relationships with men, you need to be consistently crystal clear about it and never, ever waver in that clarity. Don't be surprised if 90+% of the male friends in your life disappear. The ones who are left though, they're likely to be lifelong friends since they have the emotional maturity to see you as a human being, not just a woman.

[@learningisfun2108]

@@samdarp Oh, in that case then it would be great for lots of men that aren’t going to marry again. I’m sure men like that would like the companionship and sexual relations and friendship without commitment or marriage. And they get to go home to their own place and do their own thing….. 👍

[@john-griffin]

That’s a great idea, I will do that. Sorry it took me so long to get to your comment.

[@antevrankovic4539]

I am an archaeologist, and I can tell you it was more logic and order in the cave-days than today, because - among other things - there were very few people on Earth. Perhaps just few milions

[@annabella735]

As a mom of five kids I can say that I was proud to stay home and raise my babies!! It was my greatest joy, even with the struggles of a single income it was still worth it and I wouldn't trade for the world. I know a lot of working moms who were miserable and would love the opportunity to stay home with their children. I loved my husband even more for giving that privilege.

[@Nomad-XA]

I haven’t been in a relationship for 10 years and still get plenty of action, and oh yeahhhh I’m an AVERAGE man.

[@trevorthetherapist4200]

S3x is at bargain basement prices these days. If they ain’t putting out I was moving on when I was dating 5 years ago before I married my wife 😂

[@john-griffin]

Me too. I have no idea why other guys aren't getting any. If you want it, it is there to be had. You may have to work a little, but it is there.