WHY men label women as high-maintenance

[@trekstarsam2494]

People have called me high maintenance just because I wear dresses and skirts, makeup and perfume. It’s so ridiculous. Just because a woman puts in effort to look nice doesn’t mean she’s “high maintenance.” More like they don’t have the self-confidence to approach any woman unless she’s in a T-shirt and scruffy jeans.

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

This is the most ridiculous stereotype by far! Since when does looking put together equal high-maintenance? 😂

[@xqp5503]

Yes! But in my experience were other women the ones that made those kind of comments actually…

[@trekstarsam2494]

@@AnnaBeyOfficialbecause of the lack of effort most women are making these days I guess. If a woman takes care of her hair, nails and skin, it does cost money, I guess most men think they’ll be expected to pay for these things, therefore go after the women who don’t care to take care of themselves.

[@juliea.]

Keep doing what you do! Men are not called "high-maintenance," they're called "well-groomed." Continue being well-groomed.

[@TarynsTime]

Men who call women high maintenance for not letting themselves go are not equipped to even appreciate you. They are saving you time, there are plenty of men who will appreciate a well put together woman.

[@nanimm8673]

I’m not high maintenance but I love to take good care of myself and love ones, I make sure we always dress nice, clean and look good 😊

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Good for you!

[@walterdryja5201]

We ?

[@nanimm8673]

@@walterdryja5201 yes what’s wrong with that?

[@loosilu]

@@walterdryja5201 It's a LUCKY man whose wife makes sure he always looks great!

[@marianad5]

That's the norm

[@TheHighPriestessStudio]

Be proud to be called high maintenance, because it means that you won’t be desired by low life men or ones that are narcissistic or misogynistic. Remember what it took to get you to where you are today. Often it is because we have had to rediscover our personality after losing it in a relationship that took us for granted 🌹

[@ancientmage2669]

You said it well miss. Not growing up with a good example in my life I hit lots a brick walls and HARD! In these past 5 years after the breakups of one of the worst relationship I've had, I did some deep soul searching and called myself out on my own BS. I've worked so hard on myself in all levels and accomplished more than I imagined,that I do consider myself a HVM. Not because I'm better than anyone but bcs I know my worth and even distanced from some friends bcs they were just not evolving and I needed to move on. Best wishes to you😊

[@stefanmatton8778]

Ironic that you call those narcissistic, yet everything you said speaks volumes about your own narcissism you seem to keep ignoring

[@TheHighPriestessStudio]

@@stefanmatton8778 how is taking back your worth narcissistic? I've been there where I was in a very toxic relationship, he gaslighted me so many times, and during this time I lost my self respect because I became more and more fragile due to that man's cruel words. The day I kicked him to the kerb, thanks to my daughter reminding me that I was worth more than what I was enduring, I was carrying that man financially and helping him and his family through some very tough times (self-inflicted). I agreed it was time to strengthen my faith in myself again. And I hadn't realised how much of myself was lost in that relationship until I had to try to rebuild my life without serving him and his family. So, how am I the narcissist? I'm just sharing with her the importance of taking back her power that was depleted by that person.

[@marilynbartlett1850]

Story to tell: my boyfriend (now husband!) teased me about being high maintenance because I brought my hair dryer on a camping trip. When the weather unexpectedly turned cold (45 degrees) the second night, that hair dryer turned into a heater and got us through the night in a tent (we had electrical access). Never got teased again! :-D

[@spirituallysafe]

A truly high maintenance woman would NEVER go camping in the first place 😊

[@ParisaFairuz222]

🤣

[@elizabethpace1591]

Nothing wrong with taking pride in yourself and levelling up. If people don’t like it then it’s their problem. You will never please everyone.

[@Jennifer_Lewis_Beach_Living]

Exactly.

[@Triumphantwealth-g1u]

My uncle who I hardly talk to, called me high maintenance. I have never requested anything from him nor was I disrespectful. I was initially sad. Growing up as well, my parents told me I had so much “high taste”. I only wanted something better for myself and I’m willing to work for it. Now, I know it’s on them, just their insecurities speaking out loud

[@DM-xj6se]

Absolutely 💯

[@Protect-Privacy]

I’m sorry your uncle said something so rude and hurtful. You didn’t ask him for anything, so your maintenance is not his concern.

[@NaomiChambers]

Tell your uncle he needs to apologize to you if he wants a relationship with you.

[@Triumphantwealth-g1u]

Thank you so much fam. I feel better

[@Triumphantwealth-g1u]

@@NaomiChambers Thanks ❤️

[@oliviaxyz2087]

why yall mad, geting called high maintenance is literally my fav compliment🎀

[@lesleyrobertson5465]

I’d love to find these men that want to spend money on me. Seriously I’ve never met one. All my treatments and underwear I buy myself. How do you get to meet these men

[@lalavande1891]

@@lesleyrobertson5465My mom once said about my husband: he’s the kind of guy who’ll make sure you live in a beautiful house and have a good car. But don’t expect him to pay for your handbags and shoes. I’d say that’s the way how to go about it. Look for a guy who gets you a house. And you can get yourself a new bra ;)

[@oliviaxyz2087]

@@lesleyrobertson5465 im a master at law of assumption etc, what youre saying is literally the reason u dont have one

[@GrimReaper-mq7kr]

@@lesleyrobertson5465 stop going for the low quality ones. You will attract someone more suitable eventually.

[@lucyfromsiberia]

Because it's said with anger.

[@txpatriotgirl]

The older I get, the more I embrace my high maintenance nature. I am not toxic, I just like what I like and don’t want to be inconvenienced or uncomfortable. Does that make me high maintenance? Yes, but at least I have the decency to be nice about it and call myself out on it.

[@Nursepenny404]

I’m very similar. I’m not at a point in life where I am interested in lowering my standards to please others and they can call it what they want lol.

[@LValley-kz3yc]

Some women are self maintained and do not materially need a man. I found a thrown out male who had fine quality. He is kind, happy, hard working and extremely funny, honest, loyal and dependable. I am so glad I recycled him.

[@Rose-jz6ix]

I wouldn't call you high maintenance if you are maintaining your looks and clothes etc. If you were living off another person and putting nothing into the relationship, then yes, you would be.

[@tylerfast106]

I would argue it actually makes it worse to acknowledge that you’re high maintenance and not do anything about it

[@tammysummerswoodbeck1353]

I’m 59 years old. A grown ass woman. I’ve often gotten those comments from my mom, son, and ex-husband, simply because I like the textures and finishes of high end makeup and skincare. I also like quality made clothing but don’t spend a fortune on them by a long shot. I would rather own one great purse than many basically disposable ones. Also get comments for going to a nice hair salon. Geesh

[@loosilu]

I feel you. You're not being wasteful at all.

[@adw6894]

Did they buy it for you? If not, it's none of their business to complain. They're just have low quality attitude toward you.

[@wrightmf]

sounds like you saved a lot of money with higher quality clothes and a purse that will last a lifetime.

[@loosilu]

@@adw6894 THey're JEALOUS, plain and simple. Family and friends become ANGRY when you take care of yourself.

[@anshikabarai6470]

Can’t agree more. Like it’s an issue when we don’t put efforts in our looks, it’s also an issue if we put efforts in our looks. Like seriously ?

[@shalinac.]

This is so true!

[@VBoo459]

Exactly. I told a friend once that low life men will marry a “simple” woman only to stress her out, abuse her and cheat on her with a “high maintenance” woman who he truly desires.

[@AdaraBalabusta]

Quite. ❤

[@adw6894]

And then they say men are logical. lol. I see the opposite

[@chrystianaw8256]

​@adw6894 if they were logical, the patriarchy wouldn't exist

[@Mmmmkaaay]

I was such a hippy in my 20s and 30s. I had zero interest in dressing well or using makeup, etc. Then when I hit 40, I became obsessed with nurturing my femininity. I saw power in looking beautiful. I'm still the kind, caring person I always was. So if that makes me high maintenance, so be it. Men can't have it both ways. They can't have a feminine presence by their side, and not expect what goes along with that. There's no such thing as an ugly woman--only a broke and/or lazy one. It takes an enormous effort to be elegant. Men would do well to remember that.

[@sofitocyn100]

Exactly the same. Although I woke up now at almost 32. I'm taking the pathway towards elegance and beauty. I have spent all my life saving money "just in case" and never letting myself enjoy anything comfortable or luxurious because I couldn't justify it financially and ethically. I feel like I have missed out on life and I am decided to go reach for the best things. Because if now me, then who and if not now, then when? That's my motto 😊

[@AnonBrowser]

As a man, I do enjoy Anna's content. So I'd like to chime in. When it comes to a man saying that someone is a "high maintenance" women, I think two things; either he isn't on her level, or the woman is needlessly over complicated. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a woman who wants to take care of herself, look good and live a great life. Now of course there woman who are over the top hard to deal with and over do it. Too much makeup is one thing. That's not maintenance, that's a clown. But classy gals who takes good care of themselves, enhance their natural beauty, dress nice, and appropriately, carry themselves with confidence and have a good character, are what a real man of value want. Getting facials and having your nails done regularly, keeping a healthy body and diet, putting on well styled cloths appropriate for the occasion, going to a hair salon and other such things is not high maintenance. High maintenance is this but unreasonably.

[@gdlywom]

Exactly. Men who marry up can’t expect her to change her status because he isn’t there yet. And I’m sure she married him based on his potential to catch up . Don’t hate her status, level up, sir!

[@whatiordered2610]

I love to hear when people call me high maintenance 😅 it show i have worked on my self ❤

[@samrose5664]

I love being high maintenance because i love to do things for myself just because I care about me.

[@TarynsTime]

That's what matters most, we have to love ourselves.

[@brownry3508]

Nobody cares

[@amyleigh7624]

A bunch of dates have told me that they probably could have dressed better to meet me. I just smile and never see them again.

[@tobe-you-tube6612]

Being underdressed on purpose when they are meeting you for a special event. What a lack of respect

[@mcspankie2010]

More and more I’m seeing people in upscale restaurants in jeans and t shirts. Both men and women . There use to be some standards before COVID that’s when I saw a big chg in how people dressed to go out in public.

[@tobe-you-tube6612]

@@mcspankie2010 Aren't they poorer since then?

[@imlv2614]

Anna, i honestly do not know what i would do without you! You give so much strength!❤

[@Productmom]

I’m surprised this video presents ‘high maintenance’ as a negative remark. Where I’m from it’s actually a compliment.

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Interesting! Where are you from? I’ve noticed high-maintenance being used in negative forms usually

[@Productmom]

@@AnnaBeyOfficial I’m from Nigeria. We use it to refer to women who are rich (or appear so). Also women who put a lot of effort into looking very good. The high maintenance women tend to wear the best wigs, have the designer bags and have the most expensive jewelry. Everyone here wants to be high maintenance. When men call you ‘high maintenance’ and state that as a reason why they can’t be with you, it’s not an insult, rather it’s them admitting that they don’t have the means to take care of you or help you maintain the life you’re already living.

[@feralkat9370]

​@@Productmom Yes, I agree. High maintenance is considered a compliment and in the circles I'm used to moving in, both men and women are high maintenance with extravagant lifestyles involving haute couture, international travel, multiple nannies, multiple residences around the world, etc. Men at that level refuse to date anybody who is NOT high maintenance as they earn more than enough to keep their women satisfied financially.

[@adw6894]

It's become a negative form since too many insecure incels get mad and they trying to use it to attack women who out of their league

[@lucyfromsiberia]

Where are you from and why is that a compliment?

[@WafflesLover95]

If someone tells me that I look high maintenance I reply with “Thank you! 😇💅 “ I take it as a compliment! It tells me that people can tell that I take care of myself and that I am demanding in my relationships (in the sense that I demand a certain level of respect, and for other people to invest the same energy as me into the relationship)

[@eliwilliamson7849]

I am high maintenance at 65 years old age. It’s all about me taking care of my health and skincare.

[@elizabethpieters7798]

It's usually broke and insecure unsuccessfull men that call women "high maintenance". Wealthy men and old money men rarely call women "high maintenance".

[@adw6894]

truth

[@loosilu]

one thousand percent. Successful men are PROUD of their women taking care of themselves.

[@meydiaengka]

I have very sensitive acne prone face skin. I have to eat certain food (no processed food, only real meat and veggies), I have to do skincare routine with certain acids and products just so that no more pimples appear on my face, not to mention the dermatologist appointment and medication😢 All of these take money, time and energy. I am called high maintenance by some guys. But can you really blame me for taking care of myself and not wanting to he ugly? Lol

[@walterdryja5201]

😂

[@loosilu]

Ugh, tell me about it. If we DIDN"T manage our medical needs, they'd be screaming about that.

[@meydiaengka]

@@loosilu theyd tell you "I prefer natural beauty" 😂

[@loosilu]

@@meydiaengka What they want is someone who is naturally perfect. They are in la la land.

[@pageremick5504]

GREAT TOPIC! Once upon a time just about everyone dressed to the same standard: women in dresses, men in suits or jackets. Yes, there are degrees of dress, some more expensive and detailed than others, but only since the advent of jeans and T-shirts has the mostly derogatory term 'high maintenance' been aimed at those who still care about how they look. Funny though, it's often that well-groomed and thoughtfully dressed woman who gets the wolf whistles and appreciative glances. As long as the men don't have to pay for it, they like it. But the complaints seem to come from men who feel threatened in some way. I agree that it's MEN"S insecurities that cause the name-calling. Stick to your well-dressed ways ladies and walk away from those that would try to pull you down to their level.

[@NaomiChambers]

If a man or person looks at me and calls me "high maintenance" as a pejorative, I ask them "How does it make you feel to say that to me?" But in all truthfulness, I say to them, "Before we continue this discussion, you will apologize to me for saying that. If you do not apologize, if there is a "but" attached to your apology, it is not accepted and our communication will be non -existent until you apologize." It is really that simple. We don't have to get angry or offended, just police, clear, and factual.

[@adw6894]

We don't angry but we don't need to waste our time to talk to these low-quality men. Just simply say "So what? Better than being low-maintenance" and leave that guy.

[@Bakerygo]

Your analysis is so spot on! There's a term "neging" to describe the men that look down on women just to make her their league.

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

I often hear the term high-maintenance when the woman is actually in a different league to the man

[@defiantlypinki1107]

I may or may not be high maintenance but I maintain myself. That’s literally my response.

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Maintenance never stops in the level up community!

[@adw6894]

Better to be single and "high maintenance" like this rather than being with a low-quality man.

[@samghar7837]

People call me diva and high maintence or even spoiled at the bare minimum. Even when i ask for salt in a restaurant cause the food is too bland i have to hear “ oo you are soo picky because u are spoiled”. Mind you, no one ever spoiled me, certainly not as a kid as I have 7 sibling and I worked form age 12 doing all kinda of side jobs to get some money while in school. And i am still working mom of two. But I know why they say it, its because they have certain beliefs. They see a woman who looks nice, puts effort in her appereance and they automatically assume you are diva/spoiled or hihgh maintanance. Well, let them believ that. I just laugh at it and try to level up even more! And so should you!

[@jasminep.9860]

Same here! There have been times that I was outspoken with people and I was told that I was being a brat. I wasn't saying anything else that anyone else said, but just because I was girly and dressed well, it came across as "bratty" when I had a mind of my own and didn't just sit there and look pretty. It's like people can't handle if you have too many attributes. If you're well dressed or well spoken, you MIGHT not receive any hate. However, if you dare to be both, people cannot handle it.

[@VBoo459]

I love the high maintenance label and I own it. VERYYYY happy that I stopped attracting/inviting low life scum into my life after I embraced being high maintenance (well groomed, not accepting of bad/low value behaviour/men, high and realistic expectations and sure of self). Actually, found the man of my dreams AFTER becoming high maintenance. The biggest insult a man can really call you is “simple” or “low maintenance” because it means you’re easy and will put up with anything to please a narcissist.

[@linabelmonte5154]

Hi Anna! This video made me remember the video you did about things the average joe say and what to answer in response, with the intro being you in a yellow dress packing and furiously leaving the room! 😂😂😂 it was hilarious! Always said your humor is top tier! Happy Sunday :)

[@nlrrln6881]

Great subject. You can be graceful in your confidence as a woman. Only insecure people will try to come for your confidence.

[@paulmurphy42]

Keep 'em coming Anna! xxx

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Keep coming back for more! 😘

[@ritagildon5125]

There is one thing you said and I always have believed in you do have the right to be yourself. This seems so hard for some people to understand. I've got to be me for my own life's sake.

[@ladyhawk5245]

Thank you for saying these truths . Young women need to hear these things said. Older more experienced women have hopefully figured this out but it doesn't happen easily. It's very kind of you to post a video about this issue. 🙏☺️

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Thank you!

[@PenpimolKotchabhakdi]

We, women deserve the best. We want to look great, look nice much as we can.

[@ninas5988]

We should have this opportunity to be in right place with right people having everything what we need

[@sandysan177]

One of my friends say somthing on the lines of "aren't u overdressed " or " u didn't wear yor blinng and diamonds today" whenever we hang out with my girlies. i always reply " yes" or " absolutely" or " thankyou"..

[@walterdryja5201]

😂

[@jasminep.9860]

Sounds like she's jealous... I used to get comments on things like that all of the time. I think that when people say things like that, it's because you remind them of what they're not doing. People seem to forget that viewing someone as "overdressed" is purely subjective, and that there are many different styles for many different lifestyles. Also, not trying to be rude, but I noticed that the people saying that were people that took little effort in self-care (not just when it came to clothing, but with other things as well) and just didn't care. And that's okay. They just shouldn't put their preferences on other people. We don't put our preferences on them 🤷‍♀️

[@audreyandrea460]

I had a friend who would say things like, “I’m just wearing wearing jeans - you don’t have to dress up,” before we met up. She knows I feel uncomfortable in jeans. It eventually turned out that she was manipulating me in a different way. So it’s kind of a red flag, imo.

[@country_adventure]

im so happy to see new video from you Anna.. im afraid if you would stop posting 🥹🥹 you are my online fashion and elegance guru 🌹 may you stay healthy & happy there 🫶🏻🫶🏻

[@bellathereader1328]

There can be a “price to pay” when you level up and are perceived as a classy person (high maintenance?). It was my daughter in law. I thought she saw me as a role model. She came from a lower class family. I always loved and accepted her. Sadly, it all crashed and her true jealous and ugly personality came out. I will continue to be happy with who I am. Not everybody will appreciate you when you are leveled up, high maintenance or not….

[@Nursepenny404]

I’ve never experienced this with my partner but unfortunately I work in a career where many of my colleagues are quite humble and have simpler lifestyles and sometimes they call me high maintenance. I think it is just playful but it does get to me at times if other nurses crack jokes about me eating sushi for lunch while they have a peanut butter sandwich…who cares!?

[@YourUkulele]

Great video Anna. There are so many toxic men out there... Stay strong ladies, we are all worth it

[@mariah5056]

There’s nothing wrong with being high maintenance when ur independent,smart ,caring and giving it’s a compliment it just depends on ur personality

[@sofyab.6264]

Some folks want a league 1 woman but are playing in league 2

[@imlv2614]

yess

[@Anonom2012]

Yeah, men who take care of themselves are not considered high maintenance. Sheesh. Sexism. Double standards. Narcissism is the key here is--those are people who are difficult. I don't look high maintenance...but I put my money into an antiques collection.

[@floatingpoint5860]

my cousin is a high-maintenance woman. Everything has to be perfect for her. And she expects that others do everything for her. Avoid such toxic women at all costs!

[@lauracengelmagen6379]

As always, listening to your channel is refreshing, Anna. On so many levels. 😘

[@user-mf9yl2pf3v]

I keep seeing blue collar and small town men say that men don't like girly girls and well-maintained women. They act like men all have the same type. The men in my area love high maintenance women (”good”, not “bad” high maintenance). Just because you can't/ won’t maintain a woman doesn't mean another man won’t 🤷‍♀️

[@suicidalthotss]

men acting like all men have the same type is so real and i keep hearing the same things 😂😂

[@Fira.Diana.Razman]

Congratulations Anna for bringing such clarity about this senzitive subject! Many of the lower and medium class men have a limiting belief that a good looking woman must be materialistic and high maintenance. That belief is from their low self esteem. In my country, Romania that belief is rooted in our heritage’s culture, unfortunately 😅

[@AnthonyKellett]

Personally, I'd want my lady to look "high maintenance". I'd probably want her to dress better than she would, previously. Then, I'd be called "controlling" and possibly even "misogynist" (though that's particularly confusing... I certainly don't hate women!). There's really little chance of winning, in a game of losers 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@ninas5988]

My boyfriend tried to dress me up for wedding and we were choosing one dress for 6 months but we bought in last week and we bought a blazer for that 2 days before

[@findAplaceToCallHome]

Some men will call you high maintenance when you set boundaries, just because you won’t allow them to cross them. One time, an ex called me high maintenance and broke up with me, we then bumped into each other and he casually asked “what’s up?” And I answered “my self respect, now go f yourself “. Not the most lady like answer but for once, it felt good to snap back. And since, Ive been on femininity journey and am now married to a fantastic man who loves me and is generous and with whom I’m building a fantastic life. Work on yourselves ladies and ignore these people.

[@deepthikumaravelu7213]

Anna, I badly needed this video! Thank you😍

[@feralkat9370]

ANNA SHOULD'VE DEFINED 'HIGH MAINTENANCE' within the context of this video. From the comments, it seems moat consider dressing feminine and smart is HM. Yet it's actually about wealth and BIG SPENDING NOT JUST ON ONES APPEARANCE BUT ON LIFESTYLE AS WELL. ​High maintenance is considered a compliment and in the circles I'm used to moving in, both men and women are high maintenance with extravagant lifestyles involving haute couture, international travel, multiple nannies, multiple residences around the world, being on member lists of exclusive night clubs, etc. Men at that level refuse to date anybody who is NOT high maintenance as they earn more than enough to keep their women satisfied financially. They like expensive cars and expensive gfs and trophy wives. It's basic Demand and Supply where I live, so it's surprising to see it portrayed so negatively in the video and in the comments.

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Thank you for the feedback, you're probably right - I should've spent a bit more time explaining and clarifying this term.

[@ninas5988]

In Italy it’s so different. They are more for modesty even fake modesty. I just came back from wedding of Italian elites. They had husband which are film directors and the day after wedding they just wore jeans and shopper bags made of fabric. They also dresses up very modest and normal dresses for wedding. It was like no one was really showing that they have any money. It was 3 days long wedding and even bride dressed up more like for doing jobs in a garden. Mother of groom who owns 5 clothing brands just wore one of drssses from her store which is like massimo dutti quality. I saw maybe just one girl showing brand on her bag. Italy is like very weird and old style country nowadays

[@ninas5988]

It was wedding for 200 people….

[@8888-o4z]

Love this pro women video ❤ would love more like this!

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

More is coming... 😘

[@heidifoss6788]

I'm not maintenance, but I do love taken care of myself and being protective of myself besides my love ones.❤ thank you for sharing this video with me Anna

[@JasmineeeWu]

Love these kind of videos - you don’t need your patreon anymore let’s keep the 🌶️ going! 👏

[@suekalucis9449]

Spot on! I love your candid opinion!

[@theclassyconsultant.]

People call me "fancy" for wearing creative business casual! Sorry but you'll never catch me wearing MY pajamas outside!

[@jasminep.9860]

Right? So stupid. People forget that style is subjective. Although I'm not interested in wearing sweats, I wouldn't harass someone for doing so. It's THEIR body. Yet, it's not seen as rude when they insult us.

[@theclassyconsultant.]

@@jasminep.9860 Exactly! I've never insulted a person for wearing anything, so I don't see why it's okay the other way around.

[@SophieN-ve2jp]

Thank you so much for this video Anna it’s so relevant ! ❤

[@Lil-Be]

I refer to those insecure guys as "feminine energy diggers." They love to receive our warmth, care, affection, and so on without making any kind of investment. By investment, I mean not only financial contributions but also any form of commitment.

[@adw6894]

I call them "sex diggers" or "women diggers".

[@TheGecko213]

Warmth, care and affection ? Men would be better off with a dog !

[@Valkyrtzia]

I genuinely thought if someone called you high maintenance was a compliment haha

[@lesleyrobertson5465]

High maintenance is ok if you pay for it yourself like I do. I’ve never had anything bought or given to me except birthdays and Christmas

[@goddess4290]

I'm always called high maintenance by both men & women who doesn't know me.I'm a doctor, worked really hard to reach top of my profession.I like to look good & doll up myself.When someone says I'm high maintenance, I really laugh out loud

[@ninas5988]

This is truly admirable.

[@mikapeach1]

So good ❤ Thank you Anna !

[@Floratic]

A man calling you high maintenance or any form of negative description is a form of negging.

[@ninas5988]

Maybe it’s also misogyny

[@ilonacheema6088]

Also there are people who are emotionally high maintenance. So if dear Anna could also shed some light on it I would love to listen her opinion.

[@denzelheden4256]

High maintenance woman is actually Good because it gives us that STATUS of Financial SUCCESS, as long as she has High Standards, Educated, Humble, Intelligent, and Creative...Miss Classy

[@Floorguy1000]

Without a doubt many men call women "high maintenance" when the lady is out of their league. BUT... many ladies can also have ridiculous expectations. In high end divorce cases, lawyers used to call these ladies "shoppers". The item you mention at the end is a good one.... if you are a fair human and are reasonable, you shouldn't worry. However, most people who are high maintenance have a poor perception about fairness and reasonableness. Lastly, men can also be "high maintenance" with out of touch demands for attention...no matter how high up on the food chain they are.

[@adw6894]

Men have much more ridiculous expectations, men not only expect women to pay 50/50, split the bills, but also have to be submissive, obey, and do all the household labor, childcare,.. while still looking sexy and pretty at the same time. Most women don't expect millionaires.

[@cynthiahoz3948]

Our favorite reporter: Anna Bey❤️

[@colleenpomeroy3024]

Great conversation and comments Ladies!

[@nicolefujiwara4847]

This was an excellently executed video, thank you.

[@jennyrahmeh]

We need a "They can say that you're high maintenance, but it's okay because I like maintaining you" type of men in your life.

[@belladonna9280]

It is not about being perfect, but we always should push ourselves to be the best version of ourself at any age. We look good, we attract good.

[@fo735]

I laughed so hard when the news banner came on the screen 😂 i do love your sense of humour

[@cherylberk4593]

Thanks for this video! I have been called this repeatedly which was ridiculous bcs I owned my own business, home etc. These guys brought nothing to the table concerning my maintenance but constantly used it as a put down. Frankly, they were highly educated but never had much success. Me thinks they were just jealous!

[@frankiefranfraser]

What a great video ❤🥰 LOVE LOVE LOVE THIS ❤️ THANK YOU ONCE AGAIN FOR GREAT FEEL GOOD CONTENT 🥰💕🥰❤️❤️

[@Mindfuljourneywithme111]

Never take anything personally, even compliments helps to get through life much simpler without having to analyse everything ❤

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

What is high maintaince to one is not to another

[@misslinda772]

Some men assume that a woman looking like a model is automatically “high maintenance” without knowing her personally. One word? Dumb!

[@mhtammi]

Very valid points. I think we have to reframe the term as it isn’t high maintenance to have high standards. 😊

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

No it's not necessarily the same. Although "high maintenance labelled women" often do have standards which is absolutely fine.

[@rebeccakerr8941]

This is one of your best videos 🎉 thank you!

[@ashiklal260]

I think it is a comment related more to a personality than looking after yourself. It is rather about being self-centered than being self-confident.

[@justsodifficult]

😘😘😘 great video as always!

[@ildikoholicza2661]

In 21st century high maintenance should be a compliment ! And embarrassing for a man to openly admit by saying you are high maintenance as that man is broke inside or outside

[@queenofshells3494]

I literally saw some men stating on their dating profiles they were looking for low maintenance women. 😮

[@AnnaBeyOfficial]

Welcome to the new modern world 😓

[@lilisingleton5947]

I’ve been labelled as high maintenance or gold digger type of girl since I was a young girl. Also people think that I am a wealthy woman. Amen 🙏🏽 I came from a developing country in the village and my family never taught us to be consumed by material things as it didn’t sit well with our beliefs and our lives were purely based on what the religion taught us to be. Subconsciously I still carry that value in my life even though I appear to look glamorous. I was taught to be humble and good with money. I happen to be different from the majority of my people. I love to look good as makes me feel good. I love to take care of myself as I feel empowered to be able to defeat my own struggles because of the bullying and abuse ever since I was young because I was different. What people do not know is that I keep my appearance without having to spend a fortune on it. From head to toe I do everything myself lol….my hair (cut and colour) nails, makeup, lashes etc….I don’t like spending my hard earned money unnecessarily. I spend it on real gold instead! It’s an investment and makes me look good too…I hardly bought anything new. The Op shop is my favourite shop….you can’t judge people from their appearance or a book by its cover!

[@akalily8889]

When I was sixteen I was very much in love with a guy, but he broke my heart when, behind my shoulders he told others that he liked me a lot but that a girl like me was “unattainable”. And this guy even came from a very rich family. Years later in the final yearbook he wrote to the guy I was dating, saying how he admired him and that he wished he knew how this other guy had acted around me to get me(even though we just kissed). To this day I don’t know what he meant with me being unreachable, but all this made him my biggest regret for years. I was sixteen, dressed normally, no expensive clothes, I was nice to everyone..maybe he was just an insecure sixteen year old, but it still hurts me when I think about that situation because I was completely smitten with him.

[@1Gr8Editrix]

Someone could be considered "high maintenance" simply for having good taste. (Most likely she'd be called a "snob," whether or not it's justifiable.)

[@zoheret15]

I would like to know if anyone has help on how to verbally handle this? What do you say in return?

[@AdaraBalabusta]

“Thank you!” There is an excellent chance that the person is jealous and/or trying to be controlling. HTH. ❤

[@amyV10844]

This guy called me high maintenance because I try to eat healthy so I pretended to mishear him “omg why are you calling me low maintenance.. ??do I look low maintenance ??!” with a fake hurt look on my face.. And when he corrected himself I said “oh, ok good! I thought you were insulting me saying I am low maintenance “ shut him right up and I never went out with him again.

[@emmawilkins5755]

I think if the woman is paying for her own clothes, hair, jewelry and lifestyle etc its probably quite attractive. It becomes 'high maintenance' when the man is expected to fund the woman's lifestyle, especially if its a woman who always wants stuff and is never content or is ungrateful.

[@DuchessOfWales]

I love how well you know my ex!!! Nothing a great lawyer can't fix 🤗

[@thepragmatist]

"They're just someone else's garbage that they simply throw at you." Excellent sentence.

[@lotussong1]

If someone calls me “high maintenance”, I’ll just say thank you.😁

[@Isaellia]

There's a difference between materialistic and high maintenance, i can expect a rich guy bcz iam rich, i can expect a handsome man bcz i am beautiful. It's not like i want the opposite of it, it's reasonable. I prefer someone who equal to me, not too high or low.

[@marythang1260]

YES, I'm very high maintenance because I am ambitious in life - desiring a family, career, friends, happiness, money, fun, beauty, everything! To be my husband, you'll have to keep up. And if you can keep up, I'll give you the world. 😘

[@NtAna-h8d]

Whether you are female or male, if you are not high level you cannot claim to find a high level partner.

[@LargeEnsemble]

Excellent answer. I can only speak for myself, but it isn‘t that hard to see where I stand, to know my limits and take it from there.

[@noor.alwaheed]

How I love you and admire you Anna♥️

[@EnikőMiskolczi]

This is very "funny" cause when you are not the so called high maintenance they leave you cause they think the other woman is better. They think you cannot have a period when you maybe leave yourself (it can have a lot of reasons), but with help and patience you can bloom and find yourself again. So I don't care if they had bad experience and they call me names, cause don't!!! I don't call them names... or should I start the sentence: All the men are like... :D I will not but now I feel like it already... so do I have to project it on someone? NO.

[@ninas5988]

I don’t think any rich guy with good education will leave a woman just because she is not spending big money for clothes. It’s ridiculous

[@EnikőMiskolczi]

@@ninas5988 I didn't say for clothes. For eg you have a bad period in your life and you let yourself go a bit, I meant that... And then when you actually don't care a little bit, they leave you for a "better" woman.

[@bluebirdtraveller1213]

High maintenance is not a new term. This is from "When Harry Met Sally" back in the '80s

[@sarahmh3971]

I think men who use this label are lazy and not man enough to handle this kind of woman. If you want a low-maintenance plain woman, then move along, sir.

[@ancientmage2669]

Being HV Woman is often linked to being of High maintenance which is not the same. Let's take for example the Kardashians. They are high maintenance but not of HV and I'm sorry for the honesty but it's true. I am a Personal Trainer, a Sports Massage therapist and an interpreter who is very proud of how far I've come since I was on my 40's😅 I am a HV because I do think highly of myself, I respect myself enough to give me all the best things I deserve. I study Metaphysics, philosophy and Japanese language because it just makes me feel better, intelligent and more cultured. Nothing wrong with upgrading ladies, what's wrong is to thinking that life only goes one direction and that investing in one self is selfish. UPGRADE, ELEVATE and BE HUMBLE❤

[@lollyc9755]

I was always looked at as high maintenance when I had bleach blonde hair, now I'm a softer type of blonde and people don't think this anymore, even though everything else is exactly the same. The hair colour judgement is real