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[@gagaearthian]

Women, especially pay attention at #6 🙏

[@trekkie-cat]

Can be hard when one is autistic

[@Thisscandinavian]

I watch this because I’m trying to understand women someone said it’s impossible to understand a woman but I’m gonna get to the bottom of this

[@tammysummerswoodbeck1353]

I stayed 37 years in an abusive relationship. Huge regret for not leaving sooner. It took me getting totally broken and suicidal to leave, but I finally did it.

[@sy_dianne5224]

Congratulations!!

[@a.b.2405]

Oh wow! You finally did it though!

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

I can’t wait for the opportunity to leave too

[@elizabethpace1591]

Glad you got away.

[@rosytwilight8894]

Actually leaving toxic family is way harder than toxic men so congrats all the way!

[@lifeofalexiss]

I love how you go straight to the point without spending 1-2 minutes on an unnecessarily long intro like most people do!

[@joanaborges9450]

Mistakes: #1 - Waisting time on bad relationships #2 - Waisting time analysing men #3 - Putting unrealistic expectations on themselves #4 - Spending too much time on social media #5 - Not taking your mental health serious #6 - Not understanding basic psychology and being unable to detect red flags #7 - Not having financial literacy

[@SweetCheeksJokoli]

Thank you for the summary 💖

[@XXLady]

*Wasting

[@PersianCat_Mimi]

God bless your soul 😍

[@trekkie-cat]

*Wasting*

[@TM15HAKRN]

7 one fatal..be careful gals😊❤🎉

[@KalaShalaHawaii]

Ladies…from a woman in her 50s LISTEN to this excellent advice - all of it. Mahalo Anna - this is one of your best 🌸🙏

[@suekalucis9449]

Thank you Anna for calling attention to this and addressing it. Love your content.

[@sgibson4115]

Yep! To all of this. I do not regret my bad marriage only because I got two beautiful children out of it. Now, these wonderful people are my grown friends. He also expected me to do absolutely all of it: child-rearing, budgeting, housework, and a job. He worked and played and thought that this was all he should do in life. I knew that I wasn’t alone in it. I watched as women did all of the work and even cut their family’s hair while their husbands bought Harleys and bass boats for themselves. When it was all said and done, my ex tried to accuse me of “stealing” the money I’d used to pay our bills.

[@lesliealund]

What a selfish irresponsible man. Good thing you kept it together.

[@elizabethpace1591]

100% spot on. Unfortunately, we live in a very cruel world and some women are just easy prey one way or another. So sad. It’s awful how women are put under so much pressure, ie having children and also having to work just as much as men. 😕

[@ea9319]

100% Anna and Yes I’ve been off all social media platforms but KZbin for educational content only and yes you will feel incredible difference and feel like you have so much more creativity and time ❤

[@ABisdoingjustfine]

Great advice, Anna! I'm 27 and find your thoughts very helpful on how to align my thinking, and continue levelling up without losing who I am, or putting myself at the mercy of others.

[@ladyjade9494]

Our ancestors fought for our right to work and now us women are fighting to get divorced as the husband has no contribution 😂

[@seren4740]

Right to work.... Yeah....

[@hhhhoooojdjd]

Dear antecessor, I don't want to have to work a full time job, I wish I could have been a stay home mom, take care of my husband and kids.😐

[@terrypurvis2535]

Our ancestors screwed us over. And the women who begged us not to fall for this were ridiculed. Good men have ALWAYS treated their wives with love and respect. Just watch some old movies and TV shows. There are plenty of bad people, now even more than there used to be. Mainly because we are so unhappy. Bad men and bad women. But there are plenty of good people, too. Our jobs are to surround ourselves with good PEOPLE.

[@elena3476]

Well...women were pretty much forced into the work force, our ancestors have fought for our right to get payed for that labour tho😅

[@elena3476]

​@@terrypurvis2535 it only seems there are more unhappy ppl now than before bcz social media allows us to share our hardships, before social media ppl were keeping their problems in their house and put a happy face in public, we are just as unhappy as they were but now have more resources to deal with it bcs of our ancestors:) old movies and tv shows are fiction...they dont show the dark side of things for obvious reasons

[@AlyssaTheePatriot]

Great work Anna! Keep sending the tips and Positive vibes. Saving the ladies video by video. Keep going. Love from NJ❤

[@marionandrews176]

Preach girl! I love how you always keep it real.

[@Thomassina1]

Good points. When single you pontificate about men much more. Mental health -observe your moods and general contentment regularly, tweak things as you go incl your job, where you live, friends, etc. Use your head before you give your heart, will prevent much heartache from attaching to the wrong man (for you). Once attached is v hard to leave so you tolerate, then get resentful, unhappy, gain weight, etc. Avoid going down this depressing path to nowhere. Financial courses avail everywhere for free or hire a competent person. Old Money families teach their children from the get-go. Observe those who handle money well and those who hv what you want; learn from them.

[@sonyagray4261]

Yes. I feel the same way. Somehow I received the message to my subconscious mind that I needed to apologize for the thing's in my life that had gone well for me, due to the fact that I had received undue negative energy, smear campaigns, & other attack's from outside influences. I went inward, & did a self check. Was I really all of these terrible things that I heard through the grapevine? It started to affect my mental health in a negative way? My eventual answer was "No, I needed counseling to deal with the people who refused to go to counseling." I now realize that I NEVER should have apologized. I should have left, and/or reevaluated these people, places, and thing's, and their actual places in my life (due to behavior, & whether it served my higher, or lower self), a lot sooner than I did. Death comes before rebirth..... This is so down to Earth..... Great upload!

[@aditisadhu0611]

Thank you so much for making this video Anna, this was really insightful and helpful for someone who is willing to develop self-awareness and do the inner work to make themselves a better person.

[@monatelierartesanal]

Muy cierto no debemos desperdiciar nuestra vida en relaciones que no son buenas para nosotras, ni estar perdiendo el tiempo analizando a los hombres, mejor enfocarnos en nosotras , nuestra felicidad y salud mental.

[@ceydaerenkol8176]

I am watching your videos a couple of years now. You are definitely keep improving yourself. It’s inspiring. You are a strong woman. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.❤🇨🇦

[@aqg8370]

Excellent !!!!

[@imlv2614]

By the way, you ARE GLOWING❤

[@alexandram5052]

These are golden nuggets and rare to be heard on yt ❤. I agree with you and I like this new approach.

[@pritipatel2493]

Awesome Anna!! You have summarized all the mistakes so well. I admire you a lot. I wish I could become your friend. 😍😍

[@mrcream9749]

I would LOVE to be a stay at home mother and home maker (as a tech manager after 20 years). But we need 2 incomes. Thanks for this video - it is so important.

[@elsiedankwa805]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR TALKING ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH.

[@SophieN-ve2jp]

Wonderful ! thank you so much Anna ❤

[@Arushhiiii]

The moment you mentioned mistake no. 2 I was like damn!! Anna and I think alike😍

[@navael257]

Hi Anna! Wow, what an excellent video. Point#3 really resonates with me. I am one of the women who have decided to step aside from the prestigeous career in favour of my family and it was the best decision I ever made.

[@Vaanneeeesssssaaaaaa]

I love every single one of your videos, and this one is one of my favourites. Not only do you point out what I have been thinking, but also make me realise and give me some amazing tips. You are and always will be my fave youtuber ❤❤❤

[@reyabaichoo4518]

Im 16 i learning so much from you ,or such an inspiration ❤😊

[@rubyrai4619]

Part 2 please

[@mysticallymary]

Great video!!! So many excellent points.

[@roserodriguez9452]

thank you anna, this was a great video and wonderful subject matter. i'm always shocked when there are clips of your "past life" in there. lol you've come such a long way and i appreciate the wisdom you share feely now.

[@lesliealund]

Workforce evolution took me out of a job for pay. What I came to realize is that housework - work without pay -- makes ones life nicer. We didn't fight nearly as much and I came to realize how much work I was cramming into so little time.

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

5:38 True

[@ineseandzane5505]

Really nice video. Thanks, Anna!

[@sylviadiro]

Honestly I love this new kind of content You have for Us!… I feel this info closest to the real matters woman must have in mind… A more ambivalent, solid content targeted to real women regardless of social class, marital status, etc.

[@Cata.w176]

Great advice! Ladies...listen to Anna.

[@kathysharpe7339]

Right.

[@zaraali1296]

I love to work for us for our house. I love him and i love that he takes charge of the work outside the home and i be the queen inside my home.

[@divineangelic2727]

Hi Anna love your lavender sweater. The color is so hard to find and French doors too

[@juliettirina6829]

I agreed 100% with you.

[@SophiaCommeUneEtoil1]

best KZbinr ever. I love you Anna

[@user-ub4lk3pf3w]

I feel like trad wives are very different in Europe v the USA. In the USA there is a political side to it that can be a bit toxic.

[@edithpfaffli8955]

point 7

[@almamater489]

4:58 the problem isn't that they wanna be housemakers, the problem is these content creators do in fact work, yet they promote this tradwife lifestyle that many older women have pointed out are putting women at financial risk

[@HesterLFurey]

#2!! take back your time and attention!

[@bathemeinchampagne]

Be certain that the man understands fully that homemaking and home managing is WORK. Be certain the man understands that he wouod require to do that WORK himself if you did not do it. Be certain that he understands child bearing and birthing is life threatening and as such is a gift beyond price. Be certain that he understands child raising is hard work with immense responsibility it is ongoing 24/7 with no let up even if you are ill. If you were not able to do it he would require to PAY for it to be done. 24hr childcare is rare and exceedingly expensive. Whatever he earns - once he pays the bills, the remainder is 50% YOURS without question. You should not ever have to ask. If it is not so you are being made a fool out of , taken advantage of and are allowing it. He could not do what he does in his career if you didn’t do all that WORK in the home. Are you working for FREE??!!! If so wake up, get your self esteem out of the gutter and set standards and boundaries or DIVORCE THAT LAZY ASS.

[@juliea.]

Your early videos were about how to get your claws on a rich man which will basically happen if you're "the hot chick." I find your content has become more relevant and realistic, however, this whole Trad Wife choice puts women in a precarious situation. A WOMAN SHOULD NEVER BE AT THE MERCY OF THE MAN IN HER LIFE. You used "feminism," in a negative light...getting educated and being financially independent are the two most important things a woman can do for herself. It means we have THE CHOICE to be a stay at home wife/mother, a worker, or a combination of the two. Men are scared out of their minds and angry that they can't control us anymore.

[@ericadewitt1337]

I do not think the vast majority of Western men have or have had any genuine interest in controlling women. I think men just want to feel needed, and that is beautiful, though it is sad that men have largely been cast aside as women declare that they no longer need men.

[@lulupomegranate]

@@ericadewitt1337 Women don't need men, it is in many cases the opposite. But women would make men will valued and needed if they *wanted* men, and that part is on men. If he's hard to want, he doesn't *deserve* a woman to act like he's important to her just to protect his ego.

[@lulupomegranate]

Fun thing is that she several times URGED your women to get their education, and then will turn around and scoff at feminism.

[@justafrinian]

It's because narcissism is taken as a sign of confidence, but it's not.

[@sa35915]

💯

[@makushla5]

I started following you about a year ago. I have watched ALL your videos. I have leveled up and changed my mindset. I made a manifestation board. Since, I have moved continents from Vancouver, Canada to Florence, Italy. I have met an extremely high value man, who treats me with so much respect, who lives in Zurich, where coincidentally, I was born. We now spend our time between Zurich and Florence and travel the world. Your content has changed my life more than you will ever know. Thank you!

[@Stacyalexa888]

I love this❤

[@nelata9860]

I love this too. So beautiful ❤️

[@viktoriamir22]

So wonderful 😍you are amazing

[@imlv2614]

So happy for youuu❤❤❤❤

[@allegrarosa4371]

This is a beautiful story ❤ levelling up in life is a true glow up and full of self love and happiness! Xx

[@karmakomodia]

So true.. I was married to the WRONG man for several years.. The best decision I ever made was to run.

[@GyllenkroksAve]

Sister, I am with You

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

Same. Can’t wait to run when I can.

[@purplelove3666]

Why did you stay for several years?

[@MmM20978]

I had my husband's family infecting our marriage for 30 yrs, it made me stronger.

[@jessiejohnson1208]

More than 20 years of my life with the wrong man. I stayed because it felt safe, but it was a boring relationship with no passion.

[@LarchmontLady]

I’m off all social media (except KZbin) since 2016 with no regrets.

[@aishafalah8553]

Me too

[@evelina3075]

I'm a housewife and the amount of people (mostly women) asking me "don't you get bored " is remarkable . Usually after carrying on with the conversation , they usually mention something about the work being tiring or something in those lines and some might even say that I'm lucky to stay at home ... I actually chose this lifestyle and that's why I'm living it. The pressure must be Huge if so many women are working without a purpose and at the same time judge other ladies that choose more relaxed lifestyle . Even my neighbors keep asking me if I started working already lol . I actually can't work legally im in the middle of immigration process, but woww people just can't understand what would one do without a job ... IT'S OK to enjoy life and just be and appreciate what you have and being alive. I actually find it useful to be able to listen to myself throughout the day and reflect on things and do everything on my schedule . If you don't Need to work, consider enjoying life til you get to do something you love I believe the key for happiness for women is moving slower in every day life and feeling more. Don't be tricked to be a work horse just because you only have so much energy and we ladies age faster be smart ❤

[@bathemeinchampagne]

You have entirely missed the point. You are beholden to your man. He can blackmail you financially because you have no finances of your own. He holds all the power. You have none. So enjoy your life while you can and pray he never gets tired of you. Also...no man's 9 - 5 Equals the 24/7 work of childraising and running a home. Be very careful you don't get taken advantage of by a lazy man who holds all the power. Now you cannot say you have not been warned. It's nothing to do with being bored, not having a job or choosing to be a homemaker. It's ALL ABOUT THE POWER HE HOLDS OVER YOU

[@momzilla7752]

32 years. Ignored so many warning signs. Blamed myself for the criticism, raised the children, cut back my career and earning potential ( I’m a highly educated professional), suffered from chronic depression and tolerated hoarding. Discovering his infidelity was the catalyst that got me out. I’m now earning 3X what we earned as a couple, am advancing in my career and reducing depression medication! Wish I’d listened to my instincts sooner

[@imlv2614]

"Analyze some stupid guy that is now does not even matter"OMG Anna, you literally described me😢😂😂

[@susanna5864]

It’s called limerance. It happens mostly when you grow up with an emotionally unavailable or absent father.

[@laurencebenedicta8782]

me 19 years old watching this feeling like she saves my future career and relationship. Thankyou Anna Bey!! I've been following you since I was 16 years old

[@IevaKambarovaite]

Lucky you! I can't wait even imagine where I could have been in life if found this kind of information at the age of 16. Good on you for implementing necessary changes in your life. Well done!

[@dvorahe9305]

This is really a brilliant contribution that every women should take to heart. I am 69 years old, got divorced because I married young and had four children and discovered that in reality I had five children and had to work so hard to keep it all together. I raised my kids without any child support and managed to put them all through university. My daughters are wiser. They know how to navigate life and pretty much do everything as you addressed here. What valuable content. Thank you

[@BrideofJesuChristo2]

Friendship needs to be the priority.

[@xxxlegend6810]

I really agree w this, but unfortunately most women prioritize men and their boyfriends . Way too much.

[@nancycy9039]

@@xxxlegend6810I thought she meant friendship with the man, too

[@missywissy5423]

So true! Have a life outside of your romantic relationship!

[@Bhumika1015]

Im 16 i learning a lot from you! Youre such an inspiration ❤

[@PoM-MoM]

My opinion. Unless you marry a multi millionaire (or +) then getting married is a mistake. Example: avg car is 40k, avg house 500k, a 4 yr simple college education 200k, groceries for 3 for a week $500... etc etc. ALSO, having babies because "everyone else does". You're not everyone else, You're you and if you don't enjoy standing over a person for 18+ years, spending MOST of your $$$ on a child... well just don't. Remember how you were when you were young, could you handle this or want to? Best wishes 💚

[@nefelid6281]

I could not agree more! Being 35+ I feel that society makes me feel like I am missing something. Something I don't want! A child. Society won't pay for the child. I will. I don't want to spend my life running behind a mini me, which will turn an evil teenager as I was. 😅 I have already enough stress in my life.

[@PoM-MoM]

@@nefelid6281 Smart💯

[@PoM-MoM]

@@nefelid6281 Smart 💯

[@samed3957]

LMFAOOO you probably wouldn’t be here if you parents had this mentality. A lot of people want to be selfish and spend money on themselves yet there is human yearn to want to reproduce

[@prettiestkitty6793]

Please dont call the effects of capitalism to be feminism. Bc it is supposed to be about choice. You doing your youtube videos and your business and marrying and whatever you want to do is an effect of feminism, otherwise you wouldnt have chosen your husband, your life or anything. It would have been chosen for you, which still happens on this earth in other countries with ,,less feminism“. Like obviously the world isnt perfect in the western countries but feminism is just trying to push rights of women in every direction. The fact that we are still opressed in many ways stems (for example) from capitalism. The fact that we get to chose to work or have our partner work for us is an effect of feminism, like i said the right to choose has been pushed. Just bc the options of choice arent perfect yet doesnt mean feminism did bad. In fact it just did as much as it has been given

[@lulupomegranate]

If we didn't have feminism we'd sink back into chains even in developed countries and that is a fact. Hell, even in developed countries where women have all the necessary rights some women can live as if it is 1843 because their families isolate them from any help they might be able to receive otherwise, and lack of FUNDS is one of the main weapons used. More over women's rights are under attack in many parts of the world, including USA where husbands can literally report their wives to the police over abortion or even suspected abortion in some states.

[@Paulina-yv7go]

Love your comment on feminism Anna! Now women are chained to work and home too or pushed towards 50/50 relationship with a housemate (yes, housemate not a man)...

[@LorraineGrant]

Everybody should have the right to choose whether to work, or stay at home to bring up kids - without being judged.

[@tatianamarazzi]

Precisely. Women always worked, expecially the lower classes!!! House work is work too, it is just not paid. As a brazilian philosofer sayd: "Feminism destroyed the right to not to work and to expect the husband will provide, or, at least, try to. Now men says: "I paid my half, now you pay your half"." I think he is right. Feminism destroyed the value of the work women do at home. Feminism destroyed the value of mothehood. And now who is raising the kids? Feminism said woman can have sex with anyone without consequences, and now the relationships are getting even harder then before. And most men don't want to get married and be responsable. They don't need to. We don't need to be feminists to fight for women rights, for dignity, for punishment against violence, for respect. We don't need to embrace an ideology to do it.

[@l.l.r.1743]

@@tatianamarazziI agree about casual sex leading to men not needing to commit anymore… It also lead to women not respecting and devaluing themselves just for instant gratification.

[@akatybaby]

@@tatianamarazzi 💯

[@cassielee1114]

@@tatianamarazzi Fully agree. I always wonder if children being brought up in groups, by groups of women who are not their primary caregivers, is having a huge affect on how people grow up. Things have changed so much

[@gustericaaa]

Trad wives chose an aesthetic from a random point in recent human history, played into romantisation of it and are making money online off the fantasy. We are collectively bad at distinguishing aesthetics from reality.

[@terrypurvis2535]

No. We are mature adults in a deep relationship with our spouse living our lives and making our dreams come true. It is quite beautiful.

[@RedRose01289]

@@terrypurvis2535 The women on the internet who call themselves "tradwives" while making money off social media and owning a bank account are not actually "traditional".

[@monday2756]

Anna, I'm always looking forward to your next content 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@Oxnylia]

great points anna! completely agree with all parts of this video, i got off social media in 2019 and it changed my life for the better x10! Love seeing your evolution and calling out this toxic "feminism" mentality. we are not men and should not strive to be them, thats the opposite of really stepping into our feminine energy.

[@imlv2614]

Anna, i am sooo grateful for you❤

[@sarahkapadia5373]

Hey Anna this video came in at the right time. I m 16 and I have been obsessing on a guy and just wasting my time on social media, this past week but I guess this video is a sign for me to get my life back together.

[@Jasminepsalm]

you're so classy. beautiful inside and out love you girl

[@lunavvoods]

Feminism is about choosing what path you want to follow, not about putting women in offices.

[@sophiegriffin8351]

She confused feminism with capitalism (which is deep rooted in misogyny)

[@lunavvoods]

@@sophiegriffin8351 exactly. Without feminism she wouldnt be able to make these videos without her husbands allowance.

[@LindaLights]

Very clever sentence: instead of being chained to the kitchen, women are chained to the office! Most best piece of truth I've heard this year!

[@EmmaAnimalWelfare]

I had the same critique regarding the Tradwife movement as you, as I thought part of it was supposed to be about "choice feminism" - which there is nothing wrong with - however, like with so many other subcultures (including our brand of elegance 💙) there are many that take it to extremes and try to live out this 1950s cosplay fantasy where genuine submission to their man is part of the process and they supress their own needs, resulting in a loss of agency and security.

[@ericadewitt1337]

I have never looked into the tradwife stuff since I do not use social media often, but I suspect the "submitting to your husband" part is misinterpreted, as it is with Christianity by non-Christians. However, if this movement genuinely advocates for women to suppress their own needs, that would be harmful and not exactly Christian. It would also be the opposite of feminine energy, and I am all about true feminine energy. I will have to look into this.

[@purplelove3666]

​@@ericadewitt1337It seems like it's doing that, if you are cooking , cleaning,being the sole caretaker of your kids ,and taking care of your husband, when will you have time for yourself? Your life is dedicated to other people,

[@EmmaAnimalWelfare]

@@ericadewitt1337 The women who willingly follow the choice feminism route in being a homemaker, or unfortunately those who do not have the "luxury" of that choice have always been present and haven't felt the need to call themselves tradwives. Either the movement has a mixed bag of people that are showcasing the unpaid domestic labour of being a housewife (which already exists without the current subculture), or it's pushed by women who glorify the aesthetic of being the perfect wife. "I ensure I exercise to stay in shape so that I am always desirable to my husband, and I always have dinner on the table every night as my husband arrives home from work". I think it is tapping into the unrealistic standards for women that were expected back in the 50s, which I feel is easy to cherry pick at today (like the hair, outfits, baking, easy to use home appliances etc.) The overall concept of choosing to be a homemaker shouldn't be the issue, but it's purpose seems to be more like "Stepford Wives" - and the movement is really prevalent within the conservative and Christian community 🤔 It's an interesting debate for sure (apologies for rambling)! 🩵

[@EmmaAnimalWelfare]

@@purplelove3666 I think there's the glorification of giving up your own needs for others here as part of it. I want to believe there's an innocence to the subculture, but it feels very Stepford Wife/keeping up with the Jones' and rooted in competition under the surface. Ultimately those successful creators we see showcasing the movement online are making a lot of money from it... Not exactly a traditional homemaker role 😅 All very interesting at least!

[@svetlanarybalko6867]

Love your phrase - chained to the kitchen and now we are chained to the office. It’s so true, women work long hours, still try to have some sort of family, get burnt out. Is anybody talking about if and what makes a woman happy? Women’s rights - we were fighting for them since the end of the 19 century. The goal was to be strong and powerful as men, have success and financial independence. Are we happy? Gender differences been blurred to the most extreme. Look at US and UK - transgender women compete against women (biological). I saw one photo a competition in cycling in UK - two transgender women took gold and silver and a biological woman holding her little baby got bronze. For me it was an epitome of absurdity of modern gender trends. I am sure this woman was crying in her heart - she can’t beat a former man who is a woman now. In US in some states women’s restrooms became everyone’s restrooms 😢 no privacy any more. This is the ultimate absurdity of fight for gender equality that basically flipped on its head. Who is suffering - regular women who want to stay women and not somebody else😢

[@christinekellyrose9435]

Spot on! Have babies! Western society depends on it

[@blue4u2054]

Why can't men share the workload at home so that women don't get so burnt out?

[@lesliealund]

Since transgenders [body modification] complete with people without body modifications there needs to be competitions for transgenders only; it's the only way to level the playing field.

[@deadlifts_steaks.]

I honestly hate working.

[@POTATO-ch3lp]

Recently I came to the realization that if I ever get married, I want to stay at home. AND THAT scared me to the core. I’m scared of judgement, scared of being dependent on my partner. I even felt guilty, shameful, and small. like HOW DARE I CONSIDER STAYING AT HOME AND NOT HAVING A CAREER. Thank you for saying that it is okay to make a choice.

[@halcyondays8945]

As someone who made that choice and was burned by it - I implore you to get your education first and learn about money. Don’t let him control all the finances even if he’s the one earning. Make your financial security a priority so you can have peace even if you decide to stay home.

[@POTATO-ch3lp]

@@halcyondays8945 Undoubtedly

[@nadiasympa1233]

Correction: we are now chained in both the kitchen and the office.

[@purplelove3666]

You don't have to be chained ,you can actually pick a husband who is also going to contribute financially and domestically

[@Jasminepsalm]

I LOVE YOUR HONESTY

[@ToND1Ne]

Another huge mistake young women make is failing to curate their health and beauty. I’ve watched so many of my children’s former friends go to ruin now that they’re hitting their 30s. They fell into hook up culture, drinking like fish every weekend, neglecting sleep, eating a junk food diet, and casually using drugs. Many of them were beautiful teenagers and young adults. Now, sadly, most are train wrecks!!! The bills for neglecting your health, and harming your body come due when you hit 30. I’m so glad I hadn’t made these mistakes. Strict parents helped, but I’m glad I listened.

[@wackersbonkers4377]

This is so true! I’m 25 now and often get called boring or told that I need more friends. A lot of people my age are still busy drinking like fish and partying every weekend and it’s already showing. Growing up I had a strict family but in this instance it paid off. I don’t feel the need to drink or smoke every weekend in order to maintain “friendships”.

[@hepihepi7987]

Not that I didn't kiss any frogs... but if he made me feel bad continiuously, I had no issues leaving him behind without looking back. I won't change him, but I can prevent him from hurting me without wasting my time.

[@healwithmarianna]

Inject my 18 year marriage and it was no other way despite the chikdrens protests! I feel stronger than ever almost divorced in NYE when it’s finalized and so glad I did it because I was getting literally sick in the marriage - the man was really upsetting me - I would cry like 10’times a day

[@Nupur.b]

Your advice about unrealistic expectations really resonated with me. I am a vascular surgeon and a single parent and I always feel like I am failing at both.

[@chabelyaldunez2665]

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!. Our Self-esteem gets down and we start hating ourselves... Thank you Anna you are helping me to find my true-self❤.. You do make a big difference in women.. Thank you..❤

[@Annalorraine67]

You choose what you wanna be in if you choose to be abused, you choose it or you get out of there. My ex-husband left me because I chose to live with his abuse and until he decided it was over or he would've killed me.

[@lifeofsaffran]

I agree it sucks that women are now expected to BOTH work as hard and earn as much money for the household and do ALL the housework and childcare. But without feminism, you wouldn’t have the option to work, to not have children, or not get married. You wouldn’t get to choose your husband yourself but get sold off. You wouldn’t have the right to vote, or for education. Sure you wouldn’t have to work outside the house, but you wouldn’t be allowed outside the house if your husband didn’t agree to it. And if that husband you didn’t choose was abusive? Though luck. You’re stuck. Even later, say 50s or even today, if you managed to get that divorce, what are you to do? You have no money of your own and no work history on your resume. You can marry rich all you want, but please get a prenup if you’re going to be the one to stay home, and please get a separate bank account ladies! Or else, when you’re in your fifties and your husband left you or you left him, you will be stuck flipping burgers for minimum wage, because that’s the only job you can get.

[@karenschmoutz6785]

Feminism IS about having choices. I lived through the early 1960’s when women’s “choices” were wife, mother, teacher, nurse. That was it. Feminism was an awakening to other possibilities. However, there is a political movement afoot to return women to a dependent-upon-men status so the Men can feel better about the fact that they aren’t the be-all, end-all authorities on the planet, making all the decisions & running everyone’s lives. I find that completely nausea-inducing. If a woman wants to stay home & have a family, then she should. If she wants a career then she should go do what pleases her. It shouldn’t be a political or social or religious dictate for either choice.

[@Mariann907]

First, I love that sweater on you! You look beautiful in it, Anna :) Second, I so firmly agree with what you've said, especially about the need for financial literacy. Understanding finance is key not only to managing the resources we have but also to understanding and attaining financial independence if anything goes wrong in your love life - and you need to run from a toxic relationship. I am glad that this particular topic is being brought up by a lot of influencers, that's the good side of social media.

[@sausana2501]

Women can have children while also leading careers if the government wasnt fucked up. Offering reasonable paid maternity leave for example. Thats a given in Europe and many countries but in the US the system is just insane

[@purplelove3666]

Women having a job and also having kids is not the problem,the problem is when you are married to your first child,

[@purplelove3666]

By the way, there should also be paternity leave

[@sausana2501]

@@purplelove3666 agreed

[@youssra6840]

In islam as a women a men should provide for you. Give you at least the same lifestyle you were used before getting married. He should get you domestic help because it is not your job to cook clean etc. Your responsibility is to be a wife to your husband and the fact that you are giving birth to his children. If you do work that money is only yours. And I believe that is how it should be. Being super ambitious, doing all the domestic things, looking good and being a great wife and being a good mother is just too much.

[@stasiaerickson9342]

This is pretty good advice! Sadly, one of my friends was killed as a result of domestic violence in 2022. The relationships that we choose to be in can literally be a matter of life or death. I'm grateful that you advised avoiding toxic relationships because it's so important.

[@MP-ui5vd]

We women need to become way more respectful and supportive of each other instead of being judgemental 🌷

[@LissyAvenita]

On the topic of Mistake #3, i think so many people (specially women) are so aggresively against tradwives as a trauma response. It has become more and more common for men to use that lifestyle to chain a woman to them, because if she focuses her life on working on the home and not for money, where else can she go or how will she run away if things get toxic and she doesn't have a financial foundation to back her up? I think it's basically them being very scared in this "CAN'T YOU SEE YOU'RE IN DANGER?? STOP!!" mindset. I do agree that before marriage, if you're planning to be a tradwife, you should really have a financial backup just to be sure, but i'm not really against the lifestyle. I think you can have both, just take care of yourself first

[@tobe-you-tube6612]

Interesting perspective. The tradwives you see on social media are a fantasized perspective about women living traditionally at home, take care of the house, cook, carry and educate kids while their men are the main provider. It's fantasized and embellished, these women are sharing life with what we call "a good man", with no bad intentions over wife. In reality, women can get trapped in a relationship as you explain. You may just be missing a point. Even educated women, even women with a financial backup can get trapped on toxic relationships. It's not about money, it's about power. If a man wants to ruin a woman, in order to control her, her education, her patrimony and her money won't save her. A man of trouble can ruin a woman, her career and her reputation in a blink of an eye. You don't even imagine how the whole society can become a complicit of such acts. Have you seen " The mister von Bülow". It's very interesting and realistic. Being a tradwife or a businesswoman is not the problem. The problem is entering a toxic relationship with a toxic person.

[@lulupomegranate]

@@tobe-you-tube6612 Men can ruin women who have more money and power in the world than them, so what do you think they can do to one that LITERALLY has no way out? Being trapped as a "trad wife" is not just a toxic relationship, it can be life ruining. Just because someone better protected than you can also be hurt it doesn't mean that you shouldn't take means to protect yourself. I have nothing against housewives and it is admirable work, but you *need* protection. Being a housewife is only safe if you can *afford* to do it. If you have a passive income or real estate and large sums in your name to keep you on your feet if it all goes tits up.

[@CelineFox1985]

Love most of the points in this video, however, I disagree with feminism being a problem, especially as it relates to the "Trad Wife" movement. The problem I have with "Trad Wife Life" is that it's not possible and unrealistic in today's social/political atmosphere. The whole 1940s-1950s "Trad Wife" life was only possible due to post-war prosperity in the USA when one person could earn a living wage and there were government subsidized loans for homes and education. Modern "Trad Wives" are not actually traditional because they aren't solely living off their husband's income and are earning their own income going into their own bank accounts (I assume) by posting monetized content on social media, so they're just working from home instead of the office. Almost all of the "Trad Wife" influencers that I know of were independently wealthy and/or educated before they married. The goal of feminism was to give women a choice and equal rights such as education, reproductive rights, a bank account and a career. If a woman chooses a "traditional" life, that's cool, but remember to thank the feminists who came before and fought for those rights because when women were previously excluded from some these rights by a patriarchal society, they had no choice but to marry for financial security and resources while hoping they wouldn't be at the mercy of an abusive spouse.

[@nkatyt]

Anna, you are the big sister I never asked for but really wanted.

[@whfh178]

I was reading "The universe has your back", I woke up today and said to the greater power "show me a sign", come to YT and the first video on my feed is this one. Woman, I have been with my bf for 5 years, and second guessing this relationship for the past 3. Many of the things said here are things my therapist already told me and I didn't want to listen. At least I know what my next move is 😅

[@spirituallysafe]

The universe does not care about you. Seek the CREATOR of the universe. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

[@amritabanerjee3670]

I saw the true colors of a woman in social media, personally she behaved well, mingled with everyone etc. Then she posted something tactfully about being superior to homemakers being a corporate independent woman . It hurt me being a homemaker and I just asked her whether everything was fine and what made her do that? She said that she is perfectly fine and I don't have the capacity to understand that she has written it just like that. So, I shouldn't poke my nose & I just blocked her & never poked my nose.

[@Morrocanprincess]

Women really suffer from the sunk cost fallacy. We think "Oh, I've already spent 3, 5, 10+years invested in this relationship...I can't leave now, I've invested too much. Meanwhile a man can be with a woman 10, 20, 30+ years, wake up and WALK as if the woman didn't even ever exist. I have a friend in a 10 yr relationship going NOWHERE. No ring, just a live-in domestic servant. She requires very little, yet she's gotten nothing. Women need to be more selfish. We need to put ourselves first.

[@heliana25]

When you haven't leveled up (in every aspect of your life), you are going to be triggered. So was I, before I start leveling up. And, yes! We can't talk about the prevailing of "feminism" when we left behind (?) the house/housewife work BUT we continue to WORK for an employer that - most of the times - doesn't even see us as human beings but as tools

[@all4Dorian]

Great Advice. ❤

[@chidiekpeluchi9413]

Dear Anna, you have influenced many women for some years now. Well done 👏. Now it's time for you to think of having children too. It will be kind that you reproduce beautiful human beings like you. It is worth doing if God blessed you. Children are gifts from God. Think about this. Thank you for every good thing I learned from your videos. ❤

[@prettycolours17]

Your Content is always different and informative.Keep growing.❤

[@zainabhussain9421]

Ond of the best advices - 💎! When you are young you think ah whatever I won’t be affected but as you get mature you realise just how life changing these are. Thank you Anna ❤

[@Marivi247]

Dear Anna, I followed you since years and love your videos. However about feminism, I agree nobody should shamen women who stay at home. But I also love to have the choice to have a career. I rarely heard any feminist say that women should not stay at home if they are really well provided for financially (including retirement savings and everything she needs and wants). I feel quite feminine but I do work, and as I don’t want children, I am happy I can invest some of my energy into a job I like. I do even enjoy to watch some trad wife content sometimes because it looks relaxing. I just feel this argument of feminists not respecting women who stay at home is a straw man argument to criticize feminism. Also considering climate change and the environment, a little bit of a population decrease might be a good thing, we are very far from extinction. Women with options will not have children with a man if they know they can’t offer the children a good enough lifestyle and they are right about it