7 Things Women Do That RUIN Their Lives

[@gagaearthian]

Women, especially pay attention at #6 🙏

[@fionaj77]

Can be hard when one is autistic

[@Thisscandinavian]

I watch this because I’m trying to understand women someone said it’s impossible to understand a woman but I’m gonna get to the bottom of this

[@joanaborges9450]

Mistakes: #1 - Waisting time on bad relationships #2 - Waisting time analysing men #3 - Putting unrealistic expectations on themselves #4 - Spending too much time on social media #5 - Not taking your mental health serious #6 - Not understanding basic psychology and being unable to detect red flags #7 - Not having financial literacy

[@SweetCheeksJokoli]

Thank you for the summary 💖

[@ACollectorNotAHoarder]

*Wasting

[@PersianCat_Mimi]

God bless your soul 😍

[@fionaj77]

*Wasting*

[@TM15HAKRN]

7 one fatal..be careful gals😊❤🎉

[@makushla5]

I started following you about a year ago. I have watched ALL your videos. I have leveled up and changed my mindset. I made a manifestation board. Since, I have moved continents from Vancouver, Canada to Florence, Italy. I have met an extremely high value man, who treats me with so much respect, who lives in Zurich, where coincidentally, I was born. We now spend our time between Zurich and Florence and travel the world. Your content has changed my life more than you will ever know. Thank you!

[@Stacyalexa888]

I love this❤

[@nelata9860]

I love this too. So beautiful ❤️

[@viktoriamir22]

So wonderful 😍you are amazing

[@imlv2614]

So happy for youuu❤❤❤❤

[@allegrarosa4371]

This is a beautiful story ❤ levelling up in life is a true glow up and full of self love and happiness! Xx

[@tammysummerswoodbeck1353]

I stayed 37 years in an abusive relationship. Huge regret for not leaving sooner. It took me getting totally broken and suicidal to leave, but I finally did it.

[@sy_dianne5224]

Congratulations!!

[@a.b.2405]

Oh wow! You finally did it though!

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

I can’t wait for the opportunity to leave too

[@elizabethpace1591]

Glad you got away.

[@rosytwilight8894]

Actually leaving toxic family is way harder than toxic men so congrats all the way!

[@lifeofalexiss]

I love how you go straight to the point without spending 1-2 minutes on an unnecessarily long intro like most people do!

[@momzilla7752]

32 years. Ignored so many warning signs. Blamed myself for the criticism, raised the children, cut back my career and earning potential ( I’m a highly educated professional), suffered from chronic depression and tolerated hoarding. Discovering his infidelity was the catalyst that got me out. I’m now earning 3X what we earned as a couple, am advancing in my career and reducing depression medication! Wish I’d listened to my instincts sooner

[@KalaShalaHawaii]

Ladies…from a woman in her 50s LISTEN to this excellent advice - all of it. Mahalo Anna - this is one of your best 🌸🙏

[@suekalucis9449]

Thank you Anna for calling attention to this and addressing it. Love your content.

[@dvorahe9305]

This is really a brilliant contribution that every women should take to heart. I am 69 years old, got divorced because I married young and had four children and discovered that in reality I had five children and had to work so hard to keep it all together. I raised my kids without any child support and managed to put them all through university. My daughters are wiser. They know how to navigate life and pretty much do everything as you addressed here. What valuable content. Thank you

[@laurencebenedicta8782]

me 19 years old watching this feeling like she saves my future career and relationship. Thankyou Anna Bey!! I've been following you since I was 16 years old

[@IevaKambarovaite]

Lucky you! I can't wait even imagine where I could have been in life if found this kind of information at the age of 16. Good on you for implementing necessary changes in your life. Well done!

[@imlv2614]

"Analyze some stupid guy that is now does not even matter"OMG Anna, you literally described me😢😂😂

[@susanna5864]

It’s called limerance. It happens mostly when you grow up with an emotionally unavailable or absent father.

[@karmakomodia]

So true.. I was married to the WRONG man for several years.. The best decision I ever made was to run.

[@GyllenkroksAve]

Sister, I am with You

[@BlackBeauty-yl8uq]

Same. Can’t wait to run when I can.

[@purplelove3666]

Why did you stay for several years?

[@Mel-k7z4i]

I had my husband's family infecting our marriage for 30 yrs, it made me stronger.

[@jessiejohnson1208]

More than 20 years of my life with the wrong man. I stayed because it felt safe, but it was a boring relationship with no passion.

[@LarchmontLady]

I’m off all social media (except KZbin) since 2016 with no regrets.

[@aishafalah8553]

Me too

[@leahwalker771]

Me too!!

[@POTATO-ch3lp]

Recently I came to the realization that if I ever get married, I want to stay at home. AND THAT scared me to the core. I’m scared of judgement, scared of being dependent on my partner. I even felt guilty, shameful, and small. like HOW DARE I CONSIDER STAYING AT HOME AND NOT HAVING A CAREER. Thank you for saying that it is okay to make a choice.

[@halcyondays8945]

As someone who made that choice and was burned by it - I implore you to get your education first and learn about money. Don’t let him control all the finances even if he’s the one earning. Make your financial security a priority so you can have peace even if you decide to stay home.

[@POTATO-ch3lp]

@@halcyondays8945 Undoubtedly

[@JulissaDeleon-n2i]

I’m there but no regrets is hard because of social pressure but I’m so happy to have time for myself and my family and time on my hand to educate myself. I go to college part time now that my kid is in school but no pressure from my partner to go get a job. Is all about the partner you choose their values and what’s important for the both of you.

[@Coffeeismylifeblood]

Friendship needs to be the priority.

[@xxxlegend6810]

I really agree w this, but unfortunately most women prioritize men and their boyfriends . Way too much.

[@nancycy9039]

@@xxxlegend6810I thought she meant friendship with the man, too

[@missywissy5423]

So true! Have a life outside of your romantic relationship!

[@Bhumika1015]

Im 16 i learning a lot from you! Youre such an inspiration ❤

[@LissyAvenita]

On the topic of Mistake #3, i think so many people (specially women) are so aggresively against tradwives as a trauma response. It has become more and more common for men to use that lifestyle to chain a woman to them, because if she focuses her life on working on the home and not for money, where else can she go or how will she run away if things get toxic and she doesn't have a financial foundation to back her up? I think it's basically them being very scared in this "CAN'T YOU SEE YOU'RE IN DANGER?? STOP!!" mindset. I do agree that before marriage, if you're planning to be a tradwife, you should really have a financial backup just to be sure, but i'm not really against the lifestyle. I think you can have both, just take care of yourself first

[@tobe-you-tube6612]

Interesting perspective. The tradwives you see on social media are a fantasized perspective about women living traditionally at home, take care of the house, cook, carry and educate kids while their men are the main provider. It's fantasized and embellished, these women are sharing life with what we call "a good man", with no bad intentions over wife. In reality, women can get trapped in a relationship as you explain. You may just be missing a point. Even educated women, even women with a financial backup can get trapped on toxic relationships. It's not about money, it's about power. If a man wants to ruin a woman, in order to control her, her education, her patrimony and her money won't save her. A man of trouble can ruin a woman, her career and her reputation in a blink of an eye. You don't even imagine how the whole society can become a complicit of such acts. Have you seen " The mister von Bülow". It's very interesting and realistic. Being a tradwife or a businesswoman is not the problem. The problem is entering a toxic relationship with a toxic person.

[@lulupomegranate]

@@tobe-you-tube6612 Men can ruin women who have more money and power in the world than them, so what do you think they can do to one that LITERALLY has no way out? Being trapped as a "trad wife" is not just a toxic relationship, it can be life ruining. Just because someone better protected than you can also be hurt it doesn't mean that you shouldn't take means to protect yourself. I have nothing against housewives and it is admirable work, but you *need* protection. Being a housewife is only safe if you can *afford* to do it. If you have a passive income or real estate and large sums in your name to keep you on your feet if it all goes tits up.

[@whfh178]

I was reading "The universe has your back", I woke up today and said to the greater power "show me a sign", come to YT and the first video on my feed is this one. Woman, I have been with my bf for 5 years, and second guessing this relationship for the past 3. Many of the things said here are things my therapist already told me and I didn't want to listen. At least I know what my next move is 😅

[@spirituallysafe]

The universe does not care about you. Seek the CREATOR of the universe. Jesus said “I am the way, the truth and the life; no-one comes to God except through Me (John 14:6). Jesus wants you to to cast all your cares on Him because He cares for you (1 Peter 5:7). Only by repenting of sin and trusting in Jesus to guide your life are you spiritually safe for all eternity. I encourage you to prayerfully read The Holy Bible.

[@stasiaerickson9342]

This is pretty good advice! Sadly, one of my friends was killed as a result of domestic violence in 2022. The relationships that we choose to be in can literally be a matter of life or death. I'm grateful that you advised avoiding toxic relationships because it's so important.

[@sarahkapadia5373]

Hey Anna this video came in at the right time. I m 16 and I have been obsessing on a guy and just wasting my time on social media, this past week but I guess this video is a sign for me to get my life back together.

[@Nupur.b]

Your advice about unrealistic expectations really resonated with me. I am a vascular surgeon and a single parent and I always feel like I am failing at both.

[@Paulina-yv7go]

Love your comment on feminism Anna! Now women are chained to work and home too or pushed towards 50/50 relationship with a housemate (yes, housemate not a man)...

[@LorraineGrant]

Everybody should have the right to choose whether to work, or stay at home to bring up kids - without being judged.

[@tatianamarazzi]

Precisely. Women always worked, expecially the lower classes!!! House work is work too, it is just not paid. As a brazilian philosofer sayd: "Feminism destroyed the right to not to work and to expect the husband will provide, or, at least, try to. Now men says: "I paid my half, now you pay your half"." I think he is right. Feminism destroyed the value of the work women do at home. Feminism destroyed the value of mothehood. And now who is raising the kids? Feminism said woman can have sex with anyone without consequences, and now the relationships are getting even harder then before. And most men don't want to get married and be responsable. They don't need to. We don't need to be feminists to fight for women rights, for dignity, for punishment against violence, for respect. We don't need to embrace an ideology to do it.

[@l.l.r.1743]

@@tatianamarazziI agree about casual sex leading to men not needing to commit anymore… It also lead to women not respecting and devaluing themselves just for instant gratification.

[@Reycobaby]

@@tatianamarazzi 💯

[@cassielee1114]

@@tatianamarazzi Fully agree. I always wonder if children being brought up in groups, by groups of women who are not their primary caregivers, is having a huge affect on how people grow up. Things have changed so much

[@elizabethpace1591]

100% spot on. Unfortunately, we live in a very cruel world and some women are just easy prey one way or another. So sad. It’s awful how women are put under so much pressure, ie having children and also having to work just as much as men. 😕

[@Jasminepsalm]

I LOVE YOUR HONESTY

[@chabelyaldunez2665]

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!. Our Self-esteem gets down and we start hating ourselves... Thank you Anna you are helping me to find my true-self❤.. You do make a big difference in women.. Thank you..❤

[@evelina3075]

I'm a housewife and the amount of people (mostly women) asking me "don't you get bored " is remarkable . Usually after carrying on with the conversation , they usually mention something about the work being tiring or something in those lines and some might even say that I'm lucky to stay at home ... I actually chose this lifestyle and that's why I'm living it. The pressure must be Huge if so many women are working without a purpose and at the same time judge other ladies that choose more relaxed lifestyle . Even my neighbors keep asking me if I started working already lol . I actually can't work legally im in the middle of immigration process, but woww people just can't understand what would one do without a job ... IT'S OK to enjoy life and just be and appreciate what you have and being alive. I actually find it useful to be able to listen to myself throughout the day and reflect on things and do everything on my schedule . If you don't Need to work, consider enjoying life til you get to do something you love I believe the key for happiness for women is moving slower in every day life and feeling more. Don't be tricked to be a work horse just because you only have so much energy and we ladies age faster be smart ❤

[@bathemeinchampagne]

You have entirely missed the point. You are beholden to your man. He can blackmail you financially because you have no finances of your own. He holds all the power. You have none. So enjoy your life while you can and pray he never gets tired of you. Also...no man's 9 - 5 Equals the 24/7 work of childraising and running a home. Be very careful you don't get taken advantage of by a lazy man who holds all the power. Now you cannot say you have not been warned. It's nothing to do with being bored, not having a job or choosing to be a homemaker. It's ALL ABOUT THE POWER HE HOLDS OVER YOU

[@chelsey1ize]

Agree. The family, the children are better balanced. Have a lot of respect for stay at home moms. Wish that more have that choice or had more open viewpoint. It's a different generation and for many today that could/would choose that route, the dynamics would probably be different from the past. The resources are there today like never before. Good post. It is smarter.

[@plainsimplefaith24]

Dude! If this isn't the most realistic comment ever, then I don't know what is! Most people think you're "dependent", "a burden" on him, "pray" he doesn't leave you or cheat on you. They don't realise there's so much power in just being a good woman, good wife, good mom. A high value man will never take that support for granted. I've personally propelled my boyfriend's ( now husband's) career single-handedly by supporting him in his true purpose in life. He wakes up motivated, his drive literally never ends, he is calm, composed and patient in all his endeavours because he knows I'll stay with him if none of this money,status,power exists (we literally were hand to mouth a few years ago). Most importantly, he knows he can work peacefully on his dreams when I take care of everything else in his life. His family and friends are an extension of my own. They all love me way more than they love him. And in turn, he loves, cares for me, values and respects me accordingly. In Hinduism, you're literally the better half of a divine union. Lots of our gods come in pairs of two, one being the divine masculine who "does" and the other being divine feminine who "feels". Together, you are literally unstoppable. It's not the Western culture we should blindly follow of do-achieve-work-hustle-money, it's the eastern practices that bring us peace, contentment, joy, satisfaction and purpose in life.💕

[@moonamoonz]

The problem is that is very difficult finding a man who you can trust financially and emotionally. I'm seeing many cases of women who are happily married housewifes, but then out of nowhere their man cheat and dump them, leaving them without anything. I also wish to be a housewife, my dream is having my own house in a peaceful town/farm, with a loving husband that provides for me, and one or two kids. I pray that God will help me achieve, but i'm still very careful about trusting males.

[@voyageofclara]

Anna all the things you mentioned resonated so much! I also feel I wasted so much time and energy in my twenties thinking about men, trying to analyse every little detail and trying to figure out why I was not treated respectfully. I also lost more than 10 years of my life to a toxic and abusive relationship and it was only at 35 when I got the courage to leave. I also finally learned to appreciate time by myself and started doing activities that I truly enjoyed. When it comes to the financial aspect I also feel it’s a shame we don’t get some proper education on that. Even though I have a bachelor in Business Administration! I was never taught how to invest my money and I still need to learn so much in that department 😄 Happy to hear you will continue to share your journey on KZbin 🥰

[@imlv2614]

Anna, i am sooo grateful for you❤

[@Oxnylia]

great points anna! completely agree with all parts of this video, i got off social media in 2019 and it changed my life for the better x10! Love seeing your evolution and calling out this toxic "feminism" mentality. we are not men and should not strive to be them, thats the opposite of really stepping into our feminine energy.

[@monday2756]

Anna, I'm always looking forward to your next content 🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@healwithmarianna]

I am with you Anna! I regret the most in my twenties the amount of time I wasted and wasted my youth- raised kids in my 40’s and 40’s and now that I am slowly approaching my 50’s I am more determined than ever to get that time back and have freedom to live elsewhere and travel!

[@ToND1Ne]

Another huge mistake young women make is failing to curate their health and beauty. I’ve watched so many of my children’s former friends go to ruin now that they’re hitting their 30s. They fell into hook up culture, drinking like fish every weekend, neglecting sleep, eating a junk food diet, and casually using drugs. Many of them were beautiful teenagers and young adults. Now, sadly, most are train wrecks!!! The bills for neglecting your health, and harming your body come due when you hit 30. I’m so glad I hadn’t made these mistakes. Strict parents helped, but I’m glad I listened.

[@wackersbonkers4377]

This is so true! I’m 25 now and often get called boring or told that I need more friends. A lot of people my age are still busy drinking like fish and partying every weekend and it’s already showing. Growing up I had a strict family but in this instance it paid off. I don’t feel the need to drink or smoke every weekend in order to maintain “friendships”.

[@Thomassina1]

Good points. When single you pontificate about men much more. Mental health -observe your moods and general contentment regularly, tweak things as you go incl your job, where you live, friends, etc. Use your head before you give your heart, will prevent much heartache from attaching to the wrong man (for you). Once attached is v hard to leave so you tolerate, then get resentful, unhappy, gain weight, etc. Avoid going down this depressing path to nowhere. Financial courses avail everywhere for free or hire a competent person. Old Money families teach their children from the get-go. Observe those who handle money well and those who hv what you want; learn from them.

[@yourteacher_anna]

Anna, I love your warm community. Thank you for addressing all the problems we women face in today's world! Your message is so insightful and important!

[@marydidyouknow5826]

SAHM here. The worst thing I did in my life was chase success. It literally drove me straight into disability because my body couldn't handle that and underlying childhood trauma. I thought I had to have the career, the house, and the nice car to be successful. That was the message I'd received. But my best life came after I gave my life to Christ, married an associate pastor who treats me like a queen even though I can't do all that a traditional wife would do even though I don't work out of the home, and got to finally come home and be home with my daughter. I was miserable out in the working world. Maybe part of that was not actually knowing what kind of career would be best for me with my ADHD brain and more sensitive body, but honestly, I think the working world can be very hard on women. I don't think anybody's body was made for a technology-driven, unnaturally corporate world, but I think women's body's don't handle it as well as a stronger man's body can. I truly hate the modern feminist message and the attack on traditional values. So many women are finding themselves in their 30's, miserable and alone, and they are raging at society for telling them that this is what they should want.

[@Mariann907]

First, I love that sweater on you! You look beautiful in it, Anna :) Second, I so firmly agree with what you've said, especially about the need for financial literacy. Understanding finance is key not only to managing the resources we have but also to understanding and attaining financial independence if anything goes wrong in your love life - and you need to run from a toxic relationship. I am glad that this particular topic is being brought up by a lot of influencers, that's the good side of social media.

[@ancientmage2669]

My dear Anna! I am 55 and I went through all of these and wasted so much of my life 😢 now I am wiser, a BS detector😂 and def much better at my finances. And you are so down to earth but classy and so wise. Keep up with your work♡♡♡Cheers

[@cutefunnyanimalsonline.1785]

Anna Bey, I love you and your message, you have helped me changed my mindset over the years, I even watch your new channel with my little daughters whom are 10 and 7 years old. Your energy is pure and genuine. And I am happy for all the growth you have been achieving over the years, it is inspiring. Please continue your work. Do not leave youtube, we need you.

[@1queenruler]

I’ve enjoyed how you’ve evolved over the recent couple of years, it aligns with my journey currently. Previous ones did then, now you’re staying authentic and not trying to please the older version. Thank you!

[@techguy943]

Anna once again you hit the nail on the head with the real talk On mistake 3 you're describing peer pressure when it comes to unrealistic expectations and feminism If other women make you feel insecure because you choose to be in the workforce or a stay at home type that's technically peer pressure even if they're not your closest friends You come across someone at a gathering who has a job and they question your choice to be a stay at home and vise versa and you decide to make a change based on what that other woman said to you you gave in to peer pressure and unfortunately peer pressure doesn't discriminate against age or gender The choices you make are yours not theirs

[@sgibson4115]

Yep! To all of this. I do not regret my bad marriage only because I got two beautiful children out of it. Now, these wonderful people are my grown friends. He also expected me to do absolutely all of it: child-rearing, budgeting, housework, and a job. He worked and played and thought that this was all he should do in life. I knew that I wasn’t alone in it. I watched as women did all of the work and even cut their family’s hair while their husbands bought Harleys and bass boats for themselves. When it was all said and done, my ex tried to accuse me of “stealing” the money I’d used to pay our bills.

[@lesliealund]

What a selfish irresponsible man. Good thing you kept it together.

[@ea9319]

100% Anna and Yes I’ve been off all social media platforms but KZbin for educational content only and yes you will feel incredible difference and feel like you have so much more creativity and time ❤

[@zainabhussain9421]

Ond of the best advices - 💎! When you are young you think ah whatever I won’t be affected but as you get mature you realise just how life changing these are. Thank you Anna ❤

[@prettycolours17]

Your Content is always different and informative.Keep growing.❤

[@M-bp9ge]

Yes You're absolutely right. Being chained at home is not so bad. I'm enjoying my life. Being a wife and a mom of four children is so excited❤

[@WereNeverDuplicated]

Yes. I feel the same way. Somehow I received the message to my subconscious mind that I needed to apologize for the thing's in my life that had gone well for me, due to the fact that I had received undue negative energy, smear campaigns, & other attack's from outside influences. I went inward, & did a self check. Was I really all of these terrible things that I heard through the grapevine? It started to affect my mental health in a negative way? My eventual answer was "No, I needed counseling to deal with the people who refused to go to counseling." I now realize that I NEVER should have apologized. I should have left, and/or reevaluated these people, places, and thing's, and their actual places in my life (due to behavior, & whether it served my higher, or lower self), a lot sooner than I did. Death comes before rebirth..... This is so down to Earth..... Great upload!

[@Mili1989100]

I am very grateful, Anna, that on your long journey you were able to build a career in which you can be a voice for women! So many of us hear you, you have been a role model for years, and I learn a lot from you!

[@annaspanski2371]

Amen on putting mental health as a priority + social media toxicity. I’m currently on a path towards being more mindful and in the present moment, and I think social media and our world today in general doesn’t foster this enough. We are looking ahead or behind too much. P.S. always look forward to your videos!

[@ABisdoingjustfine]

Great advice, Anna! I'm 27 and find your thoughts very helpful on how to align my thinking, and continue levelling up without losing who I am, or putting myself at the mercy of others.

[@nkatyt]

Anna, you are the big sister I never asked for but really wanted.

[@jennifer3551]

I can't believe how much time i wasted on toxic relationships in my younger days. I no longer do this and it has improved my like greatly

[@meydiaengka]

I thank you deeply for speaking for the trad wives ❤❤

[@healwithmarianna]

Inject my 18 year marriage and it was no other way despite the chikdrens protests! I feel stronger than ever almost divorced in NYE when it’s finalized and so glad I did it because I was getting literally sick in the marriage - the man was really upsetting me - I would cry like 10’times a day

[@LindaLights]

Very clever sentence: instead of being chained to the kitchen, women are chained to the office! Most best piece of truth I've heard this year!

[@martacadar4451]

Sweet Anna, I have always loved your appetite to grow, but this version of you is the one I love the most!!! 🎉 You are just decency, common sense, so reasonable, inspirational, onest! Love you for that! Be blessed🙏🏻

[@monatelierartesanal]

Muy cierto no debemos desperdiciar nuestra vida en relaciones que no son buenas para nosotras, ni estar perdiendo el tiempo analizando a los hombres, mejor enfocarnos en nosotras , nuestra felicidad y salud mental.

[@AlyssaTheePatriot]

Great work Anna! Keep sending the tips and Positive vibes. Saving the ladies video by video. Keep going. Love from NJ❤

[@chloeanne2823]

Thankyou Anna, as a young person I find these videos very useful so I can start levelling up early.🙏😊

[@artwithmamafairybreadd]

Everything you said here is gold. It truly is. I hope many woman get much out of this. It’s important to know. I also had this terrible stress from family to go to work even though I had babies and wanted to be home with them. I wanted to be the ever present mother for them especially during primary school whilst everyone else chucked their kids in crèche, and ran back to work. Almost all mums I know were well off too, and they still left their newborns in crèches just to go to work…it seemed ludicrous to me. What was the point of even having babies if you do that was my opinion….I know it was all pressure to LOOK trendy and be a working mum…but the consequences were you’re kids were not with you, they were all day stuffed in a crèche…I stayed home , it was what I wanted. I knew it was the right thing to do. Of course there’s a handful that can’t afford to do that, but most can, they just bow to pressure… Stand your ground girls. Stay home with your babies if you want to. It’s the most important thing you can do.❤

[@aqg8370]

Excellent !!!!

[@simonec.2133]

Hello Anna, A other interesting video. It would be nice to see a video how you level up financially. (as a beginner like 5 tips maybe. Like what books or articles. How you set up a certain system for yourself, why you did choose that system etc) Love the direction your channel is going recently! ❤

[@810cooldudette]

What a powerful video Ana! 😊❤❤❤

[@marionandrews176]

Preach girl! I love how you always keep it real.

[@strawberrypauyoung3098]

You are always on point Anna!❤❤❤

[@layahails9655]

Anna, you're the smartest person that I know, and you have done all your homework, saving us of a lot of excuses and suffering if we chose to listen to your advice ❤❤❤❤

[@vivianfolsom9341]

Ana! This was an amazing video! Thank you so much for making it and sharing it. You are so right on all of these. The only thing that I would add is to the first point. We not only stay in romantic relationships longer than we should, we also sometimes hang on to some friendships longer than we should. I know that I am guilty of that. It can be just as painful if not more painful to lose a friend over their toxic behavior, especially when we’ve been so close to them for several years. We explain away the toxic behavior because of our love for that friend and because of all the fun times we remember. I’ve been dealing with just such a friendship since last year when I was horribly betrayed by my best friend. I’m the godmother to her daughter and after the incredibly toxic behavior she showed I eventually went no contact with her while trying to remain in my goddaughter’s life. It takes time and I still haven’t spoken to her about the behavior because I’m working with my therapist to let go of my anger. I will sit down and talk with her eventually, but only when I’m ready. But I will say this, my life has been a lot more peaceful and calm since I drew my line in the sand and have stood by the boundary I set. It’s hard when friends take advantage. Anyway, love to all the ladies here on your level up journeys. I hope each and everyone one of you has a wonderful life and a lot of fun on your level up journey.

[@fastandpraywithleonie]

love you and your guidance. wish i had you as an auntie to guide me growing up

[@consuelakayla1040]

Great advice, especially learning about the negative psychological traits. It has freed me so much to see the red flags for what they are and keep pushing on and being happy. I feel happy to have control over my life & emotions. Therapy is fundamental. If you can’t afford therapy there are wonderful therapist on YT! ❤

[@millshaag1341]

Superbe advice, Anna ! (I wish someone had told me decades ago). Btw : I love your authenticity.

[@karenschmoutz6785]

Feminism IS about having choices. I lived through the early 1960’s when women’s “choices” were wife, mother, teacher, nurse. That was it. Feminism was an awakening to other possibilities. However, there is a political movement afoot to return women to a dependent-upon-men status so the Men can feel better about the fact that they aren’t the be-all, end-all authorities on the planet, making all the decisions & running everyone’s lives. I find that completely nausea-inducing. If a woman wants to stay home & have a family, then she should. If she wants a career then she should go do what pleases her. It shouldn’t be a political or social or religious dictate for either choice.

[@cloudycloud4171]

I am so happy I don’t have to be with a men and can leave whenever

[@moonamoonz]

That's it, thank you.

[@ceydaerenkol8176]

I am watching your videos a couple of years now. You are definitely keep improving yourself. It’s inspiring. You are a strong woman. Thank you for sharing your journey with us.❤🇨🇦

[@karriwerner]

Preach it, girl. And i love your evolution. Great job and love watching you. :)

[@annac.5630]

I've always loved your content (I've been here since 2019ish?), but I love it even more now! It seems more organic and down to earth.

[@pao6097]

She’s right about guarding our mental health

[@Mel-k7z4i]

Hi Anna! I follow you off and on and see so much authentic stuff here. I think we see women having soo much pressure to act masculine instead of saying no to feminism. It's not black and white whether one stays home or not. Different seasons for different times. I stayed home with my five and homeschooled and worked a little, than worked more.

[@janicerepass6996]

Good for you for striving to improve and helping others to do the same!

[@GyllenkroksAve]

Very wise words!!!! I wish that someone would have taught me these points years ago……

[@imlv2614]

By the way, you ARE GLOWING❤

[@xixoro]

Anna, it's great to see you grow, to share your journey over the years. I agree with your point about women and work. I find it cynical that we don't have the right to choose whether to devote ourselves to career or family. We are forced to work a minimum of 8 hours and how on earth can we have a normal family with two kids???

[@Arushhiiii]

The moment you mentioned mistake no. 2 I was like damn!! Anna and I think alike😍

[@NtAna-h8d]

Finally, facts! I agree especially with the #3. I met a lot of women who were viewed as "old fashion" or whatever just because they had chosen other things than a typical career(like businesswoman)

[@annavass0221]

Yes! Our time is the most important currency!! Thanks so much my dear Anna❤

[@olivia_olona]

Thank you Anna, love it so much!! less is more, I am cutting off social noise more and more now a days and find out I am happier and more align with myself as a result! Glad I got the experience and went to Ibiza, Sant Tropez, Marvella, Monaco, bla bla bla... now to come back to my roots and feeling more fulfill here and actually writing a novel book and loving the quiet life at home.

[@tobe-you-tube6612]

Your life is literally inspired by Agatha Christie's.

[@Financegirl12345]

Love you content Anna! A small bit of feedback - the swishing and swiping sounds are very distracting / hard to listen to especially on headphones. Your voice and the visuals are totally engaging enough with out the bells and whistles 💕

[@GabrielleOkeeffe]

Amazing content well done you for women of all ages. Utube needs more of this wonderful content.

[@SouthFloridaSunshine]

Wow, I was thinking I would come in and hear how we leave good relationships. Thank you, that opener was very relatable. We women could excuse away carrying an elephant on our back if it gave us just some sort of benefit.

[@annabarbarad]

I agree with every point! Great video, I love the evolution of your videos. Thank you, Anna!

[@sarahannalise3849]

Anna Bey has some angelic qualities. I feel like she is Heaven sent to help ladies (and in turn, men) in the world. 🙏 Thank you.

[@flatteringkitchen]

I like you. Thank you for your channel 🌺 #7 is for me. I waisted so much money on stupid and unnecessary things when I was young with good job. I am now gathering financial knowledge for a better old age.

[@smilecat4633]

Thank you.. I love you for mentioning mistake #3 ..

[@all4Dorian]

Great Advice. ❤

[@Jasminepsalm]

you're so classy. beautiful inside and out love you girl

[@wingsphysio]

Love seeing you develop and grow ❤

[@romy2486]

I loved this video! I totally agree with you Anna! Big hug from Italy! ❤🇮🇹

[@lauramb946]

Nothing but the truth.... and thank you, Anna, for how mindful and positive you are when explaining each point. My Favorite: #4 😊

[@moonamoonz]

2!!! This is a mistake almost every woman does. Pretty much all of my teenage years were me trying to please men and make them like me, men i didn't even knew. I'm now getting out of this phase. When a woman starts focusing on herself, her goals and dreams, that's when she starts seeing her worth, and stop caring so much about what a random male thinks.

[@s22centuaryfox]

Love everything you said here. Xx

[@kig7988]

Very meaningful video, thank you ❤

[@alexandram5052]

These are golden nuggets and rare to be heard on yt ❤. I agree with you and I like this new approach.

[@karenbobbe1040]

You are touching on some very important topics, really enjoying your channel!

[@mikeletaurus4728]

Ms. Bey, I love your honesty! I hope you don't mind having men subscribe to your channel. You reveal so many things about women that men who truly value the company of a woman should know and be aware of. Thank you so much for your enlightening content! Your husband is a fortunate man indeed, and I must say I'm a bit envious of him. I wish you all the best! And thanks again for enlightening people. You are a wonderful content creator who deserves every success.