Why Millennial Middle Age Already Feels More Youthful | Explained

[@thetake]

Go to casino.draftkings.com and sign up with code THETAKE - new players can get $100 in casino credits with just a $1 wager.

[@NonFatMead]

I know you need sponsorship, but I'm not sure gambling 'fits' with The Take. Just an observation.

[@aruwu21]

Good having a sponsor but a gambling one feels off

[@AbominableQueer]

Y’all sounded not excited and monotone about this sponsorship 😅

[@celinelia8127]

@thetake will you pls talk about Friends the Brad Pitt episode where they laugh at Ross being s.. uaIIy ab.-sed by a 50 year old woman in highschool?

[@venus_envy]

You're promoting gambling? Weird. I'll pass.

[@frankenviews4069]

All the previous generation's mid life crisis: All grown up, struggling to be young again. Millennial mid life crisis: Frustrated at failing to become a grown up, trying to be an adult.

[@thesingerintheshower]

😂😂😂

[@lorienator]

Wow... this. You nailed it! Wow.

[@malvavisco10]

generations’

[@HaleyMary]

That's pretty much what our 40s are going to be like for a lot of us. Wondering, will I finally hit those milestones I've been striving for, for the last 20 or so years?

[@Musasabi31]

yeah, we don't have a house, stable job, family to escape from, and we don't have the budget to go crazy and buy a red sport car 😆 Mid life crisis costs a lot I don't have the means for that 🤣

[@nychris2258]

A video about Millennial hardship, sponsored by gambling is wild...

[@roxane1237]

Right. I am unfollowing.

[@Archivist82]

I was following along until the casino app ad hit so abruptly I thought it was satire. Wrong! Time to find something else.

[@Myranoctis]

@@roxane1237i unfollowed too, it’s so insensitive

[@user-zr2um9du6p]

Yes, disgusting(

[@arelis4553]

You can hear it in the narrators voice how much they don't want to do this add. I wonder what is going on, seems like an odd choice for the channel. Still love their videos though!!!! 😊

[@anthonyvasquezactor]

I was terrified of turning 30, but when it finally happened, I felt so relieved. Four years later, I still look and feel young and my best years are still ahead of me.

[@hipnhappenin]

My 30s are so much better than my 20s

[@sophspice32]

yesss that´s the right approach i love that for u

[@thewewguy8t88]

Yeah my 30s feel like my 20s lol

[@greyLeicester]

You think you have it tough, Antonio? Try being a woman. The ageism is real!!

[@sugicasugarac686]

Hell yeeeah. Same 😊

[@toxicwaltzn8175]

How can one have a mid-life crisis, if our entire lives have existed in an unending state of one?

[@GamesFromSpace]

I've been burned out since I was 9.

[@jacquelinesolis574]

This is too real, Stop making sense!

[@lynxlubbpeeps]

​@@GamesFromSpace Bro this sounds like a rap bar u should keep going

[@greenscythe8940]

Fact

[@CrimsonEclipse]

That sounds like paranoia.

[@redrumnoir7552]

Born in 93 and I cannot stress enough how I still feel like a fake adult who can’t adult well enough to function in the society created before we had any say. I hate it here.

[@epaminon6196]

Born in '93 means you're in your early 30s now. It doesn't get any more adult than that. Remember the slogan 'Don't trust anyone over 30!' ? That's you now. It doesn't matter if you feel like a fake adult or whatever. Everyone else sees you as a mature adult. That should be enough for everyone.

[@redrumnoir7552]

@@epaminon6196 I’ve never once head that slogan. Nobody who knows me thinks I’m an adult, let alone mature. So. Idk. I’m aging, that’s it.

[@redrumnoir7552]

But thanks for reminding me my thoughts and feelings don’t matter because other people have different ones, that certainly helps this existential crisis

[@chrisbrooker7260]

I’m Gen X. I felt the same way in my 30s (and probably even into my 40s if I’m being honest). It’s not a new phenomenon

[@CrimsonEclipse]

I would blame on technology and modernization of convenience and the media. People are created based on the environment they are around.

[@melss94ish]

I thought I would be killing it in a career and traveling the world at this age. Instead, I am unemployed, dealing with health issues, still living in my parents' house, and I turn 30 this year. Not what I thought my life would look like 😔

[@jon6309]

same here, even with a full time job paying above minimum wage and no debt I am not confident enough to sustain myself on my own yet alone a family so I still live with my Mom.

[@epaminon6196]

Life is more than just chasing mid-20th century societal expectations of an independent life at age 30. Since then, stuff got way more expensive, higher education became ubiquitous and we adapted to this by staying in post-adolescence longer. So what if you keep living with your parents a few years longer? They're your parents! Those guys won't be able to do stuff with you forever. Let's be optimistic and assume that your parents had you at age 20. And both of them will make it to 90 by the grace of fate/God. If you moved out at age 18 and visited your folks on 14 days a year on average ever since, you'd have spent two whole years with them by the time you turned 70 and they died from old age in short order. That's roughly 20 years in total you spend time with your parents out of the 70 years you could have spent with them. Now imagine you moved out at age 36 instead. So much more time to make memories with your folks while you're all still fit enough to enjoy said time. That's a lot more value than you might think.

[@HaleyMary]

Same here. I work a part time job, live with my mom, I had hormonal issues that affected my eyes for the past decade that are only starting to feel better now. When I was younger, I imagined I was going to be married in my 20s, didn't turn out that way at all. Due to climate change, I'm choosing to be child free and haven't met a compatible guy yet. I can only hope that life will begin in my 40s.

[@epaminon6196]

@@HaleyMary Climate change ain't that big of a deal. Worst case, it's going to be a few degrees warmer around the globe for a few centuries before the Earth cools down again. One or two additional people won't make a difference. And it's already a certainty that the population in most parts of the world will decline over the coming decades, given that fertility rates are below replacement level in most countries.

[@xtinafusco]

Yeah, really tired of the whole Millennials "trying to be adult but failing" trope. We ARE adults. My peers who want marriage and children have it, and the ones who don't, don't. Both ways are FINE. My peers who value having one steady career and pensions have that. The ones who'd prefer to have more free time and just commit to odd jobs have that, and BOTH WAYS are fine!! Our boomer parents' generation had the biggest economic uptick and government handouts in history, so they could purchase homes and buy more meaningless stuff... that doesn't make them 'more adult' than us. Just more capitalistic. Millennials statistically work longer hours, spend more time caring their health, more time actively caring for their children, AND they understand mental health. I'm totally biased, but I find my millennial peers are BETTER and more fun as adults than the whiny boomers!

[@gjin141]

Yes, love this

[@lynxlubbpeeps]

We don't have to join them in their misery

[@Mothermochi]

Agreed.

[@bigsistahtips]

Doing grown up stuff doesn’t make you a grown up. Is being acceptable of changes, not making it all about you and stop with the teenage narcissism. I think the problem most people have is that they think they have to do grown up stuff to be considered grown ups. Other generations felt contempt when getting all that stuff at a young age but they sucked at parenting and being good partners. Cheating, physically and verbally abusing others were toxic patterns that were quite common within those generations. Grown ups, those who get to that point (sometimes it takes them 50 to 60 years to achieve it) are appreciative for the people and the circumstances around them. They understand they can’t control what happens but they can control what to do with it. They accept their emotions but don’t let them control them. It’s a long painful journey understanding that things and people aren’t there just for you.

[@FutileGrief]

Was looking for this comment

[@watwatwatwat]

30 is middle aged? F outta here. 25 year olds get "quarter life crisis" and 5 years later they somehow get mid life crisis? Math genius.

[@fcv4616]

“… middle age is generally defined as the span between 40-60, though some people consider it to start as early as 35” Those people are wrong. Middle age begins at 40-45. Marketing and social media has pushed this ageist nonsense that you become middle age at 35 or even just 30.

[@kingderald]

It’s not refusing to grow up. We are just taking our time at this point. I can’t lie. The 30s are a blessing right now.

[@BillyButcher90]

And how do the older generations expect us to "grow up"?

[@vqbl795]

​@@BillyButcher90Probably expect us to be "true grown ups" by buying the house many people can't afford to buy and/or maintain these days with the current direction global inflation is going. Raise kids all the way to college which the typical lower middle class in most parts of the world can no longer afford. Follow a cookie-cutter idea of settling down and raising kids many of us cannot feed but conceived anyway because that's the "norm" and that's just "life" 💀🙃

[@shiptj01]

I'm enjoying middle age because I still have my health. I have a stable job and I'm not in a toxic relationship. I have more power and control than I've ever had in my life.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Health is all that matters. So many of us don’t have that. But also avoiding a bad relationship is amazing. It’s helping your health too.!

[@shiptj01]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 True that!

[@kaiwilliams4173]

I hate to break it to you, but 30 is not middle aged. When I told my Mom all of these Millennial concerns you are talking about she said "it's cute you think that". Now that I am 40 I am entering my IDGAF age. If you aren't there yet, you will be.

[@fcv4616]

I am so annoyed by this ageist asf notion thrust by social media and marketing that once you hit 30 is old. It’s ridiculous and damaging. Imagine when gen zers (and the very youngest millennials) will get when they finally reach that age. They are going to flip hard, lol.

[@baby.nay.]

It was when people died at 65

[@baby.nay.]

@@fcv4616but remember when you were younger? At 22 I thought 30 year olds were old .

[@childof83]

Middle age is really like 50 now days

[@terig8974]

That's the thing. It's "old" to marketers because we're not young enough to easily advertise to. Once your prefrontal cortex is fully developed and you make less impulsive purchases, you're "old".

[@reyfan011]

I was born in 1993, and I have old classmates of mine who moved out got married, and have families now. Meanwhile I still live at home and I’m just trying to function with my depression, anxiety, and newly diagnosed autism and going from part time job to part time job. I feel like I’m doing something wrong, that I’m falling behind what I should be doing. I like my life, but I have that nagging feeling I’m immature. I don’t have the money to move out, and I also am afraid to live alone, and I’m not good with strangers so a roommate is out. I have just decided to try not to compare myself to others and just live my life whatever way I feel is best for me. It feels good to know it’s not so strange now to live at home as an adult still, and that it’s okay to make mental health a priority

[@mona-elf]

The same. I feel disappointed in myself. Most of my classmates have families and kids, and I haven’t even had a long and stable relationship. I can’t say that I invested that time into my career either. My youth was terrible, I struggled with depression and illnesses. I still feel that I should have done much more.

[@MooBerry2009]

Born in ‘91. Minus the autism and switching that part time job to full time and still broke, just know I’m in the trenches with.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

You are,clinically, immature. It’s a neurodevelopmental disorder. Depending on whether you’re level 1 2 or 3…. And you’re here writing so probably 1 or 2, you’re not really ever going to be an “adult” in the traditional sense. That’s how developmental disorders of the formative brain work.

[@vmj361]

50 yo GenXer here in the same boat

[@jon6309]

Same here born in 1991. Single and still live with my Mom but I don’t have any student loans, have a full time job and saved over $300k. I’m done trying at this point to pursue traditions I just don’t think it’s worth the effort as I see my other classmates struggling as they try to raise a family!

[@unionunicorn6776]

I’m turning 35 and my plans for my birthday include snacks, movies, and video games.

[@zdlax]

Turned 36 this past weekend. Very much the same situation. We're going to have elected officials posting pokemon memes soon.

[@GamesFromSpace]

I thought the ad was making an ironic point about people being exploited by gambling and commercialism. Nope, it's just a dumb fucking ad which is unironically manipulative and fake.

[@Celcey24]

Same

[@etienne2315]

I could do without the gambling ad in the middle, i hate seeing gambling ads just everywhere, i unsubscribed.

[@MissAnathemaDevice]

Same.

[@ezeigbocpascal294]

Well, that's how they get paid. If you do not like it fastward, that's how it done. They are not focusing you.

[@RawDealCo]

​@@ezeigbocpascal294 they will not have advertisers if they lose enough followers. This is not a good sponsor

[@robintauber9994]

I thought "middle age" was 50.

[@LilySaintSin]

It is, especially because people are living longer now.

[@ryanjacobson2508]

​@@LilySaintSinLots of people still die before 70. 45-64 is fairly widely accepted as middle aged.

[@archiecook55]

It's 40-60, which includes 50.

[@corymiller536]

For millennials 40 is middle age, were dying young

[@Crime_Scenesters]

I'm 31 going on 32, and I feel NOTHING like I'm supposes to at this age.

[@baby.nay.]

There is nothing biological of how you are supposed to feel . Everything you think you’re supposed to feel is socially constructed. Always stop to think who told you you had to feel a certain way at a certain age 💓😊

[@CuriousCat_4]

I am glad you mention being childfree as a positive thing. Life without kids is really, really nice! There's so much stigma against not having kids as an adult... I'd say the hardest part of being a millennial is lack of financial stability. I have a PhD but I am currently unemployed... On the upside, I do own my own small apartment, that I bought with my own savings.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

That’s so rich and better than most people!!!!! Don’t ever have kids if you can’t afford a great life for them. Congrats on your apartment.

[@jon6309]

to be honest sometimes I wish my parents never brought me into this world and I feel some resentment for a forced existence. I won't have kids because I am a gay male and even if I was straight I don't think I want to have children. My sister who is a year younger than me is heterosexual and has a high paying job but she doesn't want to have children either.

[@Tania-fx4uz]

I'm 29 and for me it was having a cat that kind of made me rethink kids. Like before that I didn't really want kids but it was more of a not now vs a never kind of thing. After the cat though I realized that I didn't really like having another living being dependent on me. I also don't want to dedicate 18+ years of my life to anyone. Not sure if this will change in the future but it's where I'm at right now.

[@CuriousCat_4]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 Thank you, the apartment is in a far, cheap part of the city, but it's all I have. And yes, that was my thinking with kids as well, if I can't give them financial stability, it's better not to have them. I learned that through my own experience with my mom and siblings.

[@pandalyn2267]

​@@jon6309You're not alone feeling like this.

[@aSUGAaddiction]

I'm flying to see a Kpop concert. I've done more in my 30's into my 40's than I ever did in my 20's. I'm married, joyful, and hopeful because unlike my earlier life, I know who I am and am content in that knowledge.

[@DanielaElana]

Lol im 29 turning 30. While 30 isnt 20 anymore, I'm pretty sure middle aged is like your 50s

[@tolazytothinkofauser]

Middle age starts at 50, it has been declared by the millennials council!!!!!! resume eating your 🥑 with your toast!!!!!! That is all

[@skotabrit]

😅 I’m fine w/ thar decision.

[@kyliefire5008]

Nice ❤

[@normangarza6624]

As someone who is a "xennial" 79' born Xer without all the boomer takes, it is easy to relate to what is going on with elder millennials reaching middle age in a way that is deferent from other generations. A lot of this generation including myself has had to deal with inflated costs of living, food, and education and a less stable job market.

[@WhitneyVesser]

00:06 why did the camera pan to Emilia Clarke when the narrator said middle-age?? Ma'am, she is THIRTY-SEVEN 😭

[@baby.nay.]

Probably because a lot of people are dead at 74

[@nuclearwessels2078]

​@@baby.nay.All the people around me live well into their 80s.

[@coreyfemling7259]

@@nuclearwessels2078life expectancy has been rapidly declining in America

[@AwakenWithDanielleGray]

I am turning 37 this August 2024 and I think it is wonderful if I have babies at 40 years old. I think knowing that I can be an even better mom, because I took the time to find myself and I didn't settle in a relationship for anything less than I deserve. 💯

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

Yeah but the kids are coming out super mega not okay.

[@fcv4616]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 Not necessarily. Modern medicine, health and genes play a bigger role. More and more women are having successful pregnancies and healthy babies in their 40s. A healthy, fit woman in her 40s would be a much better candidate for pregnancy than a 20-something obese woman with illnesses and disabilities.

[@HazelJaneTarot]

​@@nataliaalfonso2662 You don't know what you're talking about.

[@willrichit]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 source?

[@jaylienwashington2382]

Happy birthday (soon) you just summarized my life, (turning 35 in November) you're awesome 😊

[@jasonflay8818]

Legit conversation I had last week on my 41st birthday: millennial mid-life crisis will look completely different than previous generations. Mine: I got a coffee grinder and a mocha coffee pot because my wife and I FINNALLY after 6 years took a honeymoon to Italy, my buddy and his wife: they had a child. We are not the go out and buy a Corvette or run off with some 20 year old, our splurges are going to be things that better our lives, and strengthen those relationships around us. It'll be an interesting next few decades. But we do have a chance to make our family, community, and country better. Make it the best version of itself not based on hate, fear, and exclusion but equity and inclusion.

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

It’s a moka pot. Mocha is coffee with chocolate. And you just took a vacation. Honeymoon is the sweet first MOON of your marriage. The first month. But yeah your comment proves our lives are truly in shambles compared to older generations. You’re talking about a 40$ stovetop coffee maker……. While our dads and grandads could buy a corvette and a new apartment for their 20 year old mistress… while still providing for a family. We’re so doomed.

[@jasonflay8818]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 Thank you miss semantic. But this 'vacation' is the honeymoon we never took because of life, pandemic, and the outbreak of WWIII. Kinda a dick move on your part for making a comment no one asked for.

[@radicaledwards3449]

I'd rather have 2 20 year olds than one 40 year old, the math makes sense.

[@YaBasicMillenial]

Gambling advert?! I expect a lot more from this channel! Especially when dealing with a topic about millennials- we are the first adult generation severely impacted by the financial crisis!

[@aurora6920]

I'm in my early 30s and me and my friends all look the same, youthful and healthy. It makes me think of celebs like Taylor Momsen, Avril, Paris Hilton, Linsdsey lohan that get questioned about why they look so young for their age... when it's so normal! our generation isn't old! Must be just genetics, health, makeup/fashion.

[@kristenswanson5819]

That’s because your early thirties aren’t mid life. I felt the same way you did right up until perimenopause hit me around 42. Enjoy being young because that is absolutely what you are.

[@aurora6920]

@@kristenswanson5819 I see that makes sense, haha kind of looking forward to it

[@khaelthas293]

29 still unemployed since graduation, still living with parents, always have social anxiety one of the reason i find it difficult to get a job. I don't know what to do with my life. It feels like my will power is only enough to keep me alive, but not enough to give me a life.😭

[@zdlax]

Find a way to make money without a boss over you. I trade stocks and crypto. But there are other avenues. Like content creator. (You're your own boss, but you still have to build an audience and be responsive to them) so it's not as hassle free as trading. I knew I found what I wanted to do about a year ago when I caught myself looking forward to Monday morning. Because that's when the markets open and I can get back to making money in my pajamas without answering to anyone.

[@slowanddeliberate6893]

Recessions and inflation have made it tough for millennials to build their lives.

[@ashful9008]

Millennial born 1990 here! I may have less anxiety in my 30s than I did in my 20s, but my body is still falling apart. Lol

[@KaylaNoelle1]

1995 millennial here, try doing at least a little yoga every day. Things are bendier and bouncier than when I was a teenager! 😂 (the yoga booty is especially nice!)

[@thesingerintheshower]

Lol. I relate.

[@cbpd89]

Turns out that our knees missed the memo that we're still young at heart 🤣

[@fcv4616]

I guess it depends on genes and how you take care of yourself. I’m 35 and I still feel very fit and healthy.

[@ashful9008]

@fcv4616 For sure! For me, genetics play a big role. A lot of health problems run on my dad's side, and I unfortunately did not skip a few of those genes. I was also a CNA during most of my 20s and, of course, thought I was invincible at the time. Definitely paying the price now. I do what I can, but the aches and pains are still there. 🤷‍♀️ But that's what weed is for. 😉

[@janevirak3841]

I always thought that the middle age is 50s-60s 😩

[@nataliaalfonso2662]

If the average lifespan were 120 it would be. Middle age is definitely from 35-65. 35-50 is young middle age, and 50-65 is older middle age.

[@fcv4616]

@@nataliaalfonso2662 No it’s not. Middle age begins at 40 or 45. Middle age isn’t about the middle of your whole life, but the middle of adult life. Moreover, it’s a social construct based on societal expectations and needs rather than an actual stage in life. But roughly it covers the fourties and fifties

[@gueswhathappened]

Millennials: Oh look, I worked over 10 years like a horse and still have nothing to show for it! lel, second 20s it is then, and alcoholism (very understandable).

[@vqbl795]

So are you a boomer or a Gen X? Jokes on you. Many of us had already binged on alcohol during our teens and early twenties for fun and for copium. And then the iced coffee took over. Now our hyperacidity can only handle one trigger, and for many of us, we're choosing to stay caffeinated.

[@zdlax]

​@@vqbl795 I think I should have drank and partied more in my teens and twenties. My social development would have benefitted.

[@KarinaLicursi]

We grew up watching shows like Hot in Cleveland and the Golden Girls that showed aging doesn't mean you can no longer live life to the fullest.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I’m very excited to see Millennials take charge of the zeitgeist. We need new ideas.

[@alexisrodriguez3352]

I'm in my early 30s and i must say, I'm having way more fun now than I did in my 20s. I'm no longer in a toxic relationship, i had time to grow and focus on myself. Though i would love to get married and have kids at some point, I don't want to be forced to do it due to societal stigma. These are massive life choices and, we should have those things when we are ready. Im at the prime of my life and look 25. So lets keep living

[@WhelmedButReady]

6:16 I felt that education portion in my bones!!! From HS through college the narrative just kept shifting on what the job sapce demanded/expected of us. Made it hard for myself and plenty others to choose a path to go down in life and career.

[@shottybuthonestreviews]

Millennial Middle Age Is About Not Settling ♥️♥️

[@amandaredd3057]

The ageism in society is bulls*it. The word "old" is heinous. How about saying "mature"? This is the prime of freaking life but you don't know that until you get there. I don't consider middle age until like 55! It's just a stupid idea anyways.

[@ariesearthdragon]

There is a good amount of people in their 40s and 50s who are less mature than the average 25-year-old.

[@dorianholliday6805]

I'm turning 40 this year and this video resonated with me so much. I still feel youthful (back issues be damned) but I'm more mature and have a stable sense of self. Building community, cultivating a career (I'm finally a fully licensed therapist!) and finding myself have been so important these last few years. Can't wait to see what middle age brings.

[@roseredremix]

Elder millennial here. I like my life way more now than in my 20s. I still look good. Our generation was coddled/parented well into late 30s. Everyone expected us to disrupt the workplace and prioritize ourselves… we did. 😂

[@sparrowwilson4514]

Jesus, 30 is not middle aged. 🤦‍♀️ 40-60 is middle aged. 18-40 is just adult. How many people die at 60? Almost none. I mean, no wonder they seem “young”. 🙄

[@jmaldo92]

Right? Lol

[@EM-cp8er]

For real, 30 is young as hell.

[@CuriousCat_4]

How many people die at 120?

[@jmaldo92]

@@CuriousCat_4 Irrelevant ass question lol

[@sarakoob6667]

Middle age starts at 40

[@blkchld1]

The oldest are 43

[@danielfrazier3764]

bet I got 3 more years

[@mariaskabardonis8353]

35 is not middle age Wizards of Waverly Place I do feel a lot younger then I thought I would in my mid 30s lol

[@TerraJ-ug6nc]

Me at 31 last night: I'm having a midlife crisis

[@dariamorgendorffer7813]

Trust me. I am a bit older than the age bracket of the millennial generation. I never felt a sense of belonging to the Gen X generation. I sometimes look at people my age and wonder if I'm supposed to look like them. I don't possess a house or a fridge for that matter. Traveling is always the priority. Never really grasped adulthood the way previous generations did.

[@esikazemese]

Being a Millennial is beautiful, my parents taught me to have options and do what makes me happy. Growing up with peace and privacy but into technology so I'm not left behind but I can enjoy quiet is a bliss. I feel perfectly grownup without marriage and kids, just enjoying my life is fucking great.

[@eksassy901]

Not me crying into my oatmeal as I watch the Take realizing I’m officially middle age! 😭

[@Farmynator]

Get an investment account, start investing. Prices are so cheap on stocks and cryptos this moment. Everything is in a dip. Choose what s most stable and pays at least a 3% dividend, add to it each paycheck, and enjoy 10 years from now. ❤

[@karatn]

I had everything going for me at one point, I thought I was adulting so well. Then Covid happened and I lost all my money, plus some other traumatic stuff, and I can't even get out of bed most days.

[@jon6309]

33 years old! I laugh when people think I’m between 22-25 years old. I consider myself a man child and avoid stress as much as possible!

[@sideshowkazstuff3867]

Millennials have been given an idea of adulthood which is really quite horrible and dull. Also we got told a lot of the things that made it bearable actually was bad for us so we couldn’t have that or we find that those things made others feel horrible like parents drinking themselves into oblivion after tough days of work infront of their kids. Now those kids have grown up can you blame them for doing things differently maybe buying plushies and not having kids that have to suffer them instead?

[@debbiefiuza]

Are y'all really taking this gambling sponsorship? You have 1.5M subscribers. You can absolutely find a better one for your brand.

[@nastiazhy]

Casinos are scams, shame on you for promoting one

[@technojunkie123]

Couldn’t you have done this with more examples of people in their 40’s instead of their early to mid 30’s? IMO this take feels strange when you’re calling people in their 30’s middle age when that’s objectively not true

[@cassierolemuch]

I love the lack luster casino add. It's so real lol 😂

[@jennifer.martin.48]

In an elder millennial, 38 y/o, and honestly feel the best than I did 5-10 years ago. I’m not at the weight that I’d like to be, but I workout more and eat healthier so I have more energy for my kids. I also never did fillers or Botox and honestly think that natural faces keep you looking young.

[@crystalobaseki]

Same ❤

[@GonzoIsCool]

Wait, isn't shaking things up typical of middle age? I mean, that's a basic mid life crisis.

[@katinkaraab1964]

Thank you. I'm usually not into generational bashing but seeing the millenials go thru absolut normal aging and making a big thing about it, is just stereotypical Midlife-Crisis.And let's be real here. It is not impressive to have you child a 30, nor is it impressive to have it earlier or later. And you are not more youthfull just because you postpone certain steps. You age, just like everyone prior to you did. Guess what the boomers Drive a VW from Germany to India Just to sell it there. They drove thru China via bycicle. They lived in comunes. They traveled thru africa via Bus and thru Europe via train. Yes they did it, sometimes with childern, Bit they did it nonetheless. You don't age mentally past the age of 40, until you jit 65-70 and feel really old all of a sudden. Postponing stuff like childern, settling whatever doesn't mean anything besides you'll have less time with them. You always need to learn and be willing to change, otherwise you stagnate. I however hoped that the whole 30/40/50 is the new 20ies-thing would finally die. We have been doing it since the 90ies. And I would really appreciate for us all to age gracefully. I personally do not need to be youthfull anymore, I'm not a Greenhorn anymore. I'm a mature women on a good path to be good human eventually. Yes, physically speaking I was hotter, when I was in my early twenties but so was everybody else, so what does it Matter? I do not need to compete with people several years younger than me. I enjoyed my youth, and now I enjoy beeing an adult. Just accapt that your now.middle aged and enjoy the perks that comes with it, If you always hunt for your youth, you'll die without having lived a single day.

[@aurora6920]

Yes and it makes sense as it's a time in your life where have done most things, so you want a change - whether that is kids or hobbies/lifestyle/spiritual

[@valerierodriguez8561]

I'm 37, and I remember being scared to turn 30, lol. In all honesty, I like my age, and I like the person I am today. Given what's going on in the world, things can be a lot worse. And now that my kids are teenagers, I can pursue what it is I want to do with the rest of my life. I remember my parents feeling like they weren't achieving anything when they were my age, because they thought they had to meet some type of standard to win adulthood. I can honestly say I'm a little more relaxed than they were

[@paisan8766]

Problems and all, we Millennials are thriving - no matter what path we take or took. Fuck everybody else

[@Myranoctis]

Are you guys seriously promoting gambling 😟 well thats disappointing. Gambling is a huge problem that ruins peoples lives, like wtf. It’s like seing a drug sponsorship.

[@Dr.Jalondra-MamiMelusine]

I usually don’t take generational discourse too seriously but I can see this. I just entered my forties and that feels jarring but I’m healing and having fun in ways I didn’t in my twenties because I don’t care as much what people think. At 37 I learned to swim and became a mermaid. 🧜🏾‍♀️ I am married with a child but maybe because the reality of marriage and children has made me realize how idealized those aspects of life are especially for women they are important to me but not as defining of me as they were when I was pursuing them as milestones. I am still trying to buy a house but I’m also pursuing other goals like getting my Megan knees back and learning new hobbies and interests and having a wider range of experiences in life and not being so obsessed with the passage of time.

[@TheTrueffelsucher]

Talking about the uncertain financial situation of a whole generation and having a Casio-App Add-Break, when the rest of the Video is just reassuring insecure but agressivly-online millenials, that they are still capable of being youngish hip trendsetters (i.e. that they buy the 'good stuff'), who do not give "boomers on Facebook"-Energy when they are amongs all the young kids on TikTok ... and not once questioning the idea of ​​why this hype about "youthfulness" should even be important at all, is... peak "YT-Video Essay in 2024" and kinda feels 100% millienal

[@michalpitowsky]

It's my 40th birthday today, and you published this 😂 kinda feels like the Truman show, but also I loved the video.

[@jamesbisonnette]

Much as digital watches don’t allow us to imagine or visualize the passing of time-symbolized on analog watches by their moving hands and spherical shape-people’s faces no longer change as they used to, slowly and in one direction only (forward), but instead seem to remain frozen for years and then suddenly change in leaps and bounds. It’s true that cosmetic surgery is ever more widely used, but not enough for it to bear sole responsibility for this mystery. It’s more as if the collective desires of a society and an era were alone powerful enough to achieve this, and the prevailing desire in our own society and our own era is to remain young: one gets the impression that the changes and modifications to which all faces are subject now go through long periods of stagnation, which explains why there are ever more people of “indeterminate age,” as we used to say. So much so that when the face of someone we know suffers a sudden deterioration, instead of saying, “How he’s aged!” we wonder if he’s ill or has fallen victim to some terrible misfortune, as if physical deterioration could no longer be attributed to the mere passing of time, but to some anomalous, uncontrollable force, a curse or a catastrophe or imminent death. The only changes now deemed natural are those once deemed unnatural, namely the most abrupt of changes and those that remain invisible and untraceable, just as on a digital watch the shift from 11:59 to 12:00 will remain for ever invisible or untraceable. Faces seem condemned to persist and to be either always the same or unexpectedly unrecognizable. It’s possible that this apparent prolonged state of immutability will become the norm, and the mask will only drop in the preamble to death, or even later if we’re lucky: the devastation of the face so carefully preserved over decades then becomes a warning and an acknowledgment that the end is nigh. It’s possible that, in future, faces will bear no trace of their biography or their journey through life, that it will be naïve of us to try and glean from someone’s face the kind of life he lived, the experiences he had, or simpler still his character. Today, though, we still tend to scrutinize a face in an attempt to guess at the person or the story that lies behind it, we still expect it to have some effect on us, we still assume it will serve to give us some idea-a very basic idea-of the kind of individual before us, in order either to draw closer or to flee, to trust him or her or to avoid all contact. The trouble is that while we may cling to this habit or expectation, it’s becoming increasingly difficult to see anything genuinely personal in a face. Every age has its own faces, which sometimes belong so unmistakably to that age that they allow us to identify them as belonging to the past, or even to recognize a present-day face as being somehow old-fashioned. Perhaps in a few years’ time the faces that now inhabit the newspapers and the TV screens will seem energetic and distinctive, and their gaze-especially in those who have since died-will seem full of meaning and expression and memory. Perhaps. The fact is, though, that without the perspective or benevolence we might acquire with passing time, most of the faces we see appear to be unmarked by life, in keeping with that strangely frozen look I mentioned earlier. I’m referring now not only to the lumps and lines and wrinkles that can be covered up, postponed, or even suppressed by an operation or a nifty bit of make-up, but also to the marks-let’s call them “interpretable”-that would once have been left by some rash action or grave omission, by suffering or trauma, by great joy or bad news or by some particular characteristic, a happy or unhappy childhood, a triumph or a failure, a loss or a gain, an ineradicable memory or a misfortune. It’s as if people were ashamed to admit that anything has happened to them, that life has left its mark on their face. You might think, from what I’ve just said, that faces have merely become more inscrutable, and that the suppression of every trace of experience is merely a manifestation of modesty and good taste, an apprenticeship in reserve and discretion, something as hard to achieve as it is commendable. And yet that tends not to be the case: on the contrary, faces are growing more and more gesticulatory, just as voices are becoming more vociferous; any expression of desire, disappointment, or surprise is often accompanied by grimaces and a great deal of (usually inappropriate) waving of arms and hands. This is probably why present-day actors seem so primitive beside those of the old school: Gary Cooper or even John Wayne, for all his limitations, could say far more with a single glance than even the very best of today’s actors, despite all their technique; Robert de Niro’s eyes, for example, are nearly always opaque and reveal almost nothing. “Noble faces” such as those of Rex Harrison or Henry Fonda have disappeared, and if you think of the faces we all know, famous faces, it’s hard to think of a single one that really attracts our attention or prompts our interest. You could “study” the faces of yesteryear, but today’s faces barely merit a second look. This applies not only to actors, but also to people with less high-profile professions, and who are also most clearly seen on television, for the simple reason that we can gaze at the screen with impunity, without being seen by those we’re looking at: we can, therefore, study them openly and brazenly, at our leisure, and therein lies television’s success, the fact that we, the viewers, remain hidden. It’s odd, though, that in a medium in which voice, diction, and image should matter, most of the correspondents and presenters who appear on TV have strident voices, terrible pronunciation, and, all too often, faces that are apparently the result of a degeneration of the species or are, at best, so dull they make you feel like giving up the ghost. Many seem to have been chosen precisely for their unsuitability to appear on the screen, quite independently of their journalistic skills, about which I will say nothing here. Even more alarming are the faces of the people who appear only occasionally on our screens-for example, the contestants in one of those interminable game shows. It’s possible that, at home or among friends, they do recover a little of their personality, their individuality, their dignity and their own story, but when seen trying to win or lose some trifling prize or other, their faces are positively digital, as if, when they entered the studio, they had left their biography behind, along with their coat, in order to become anonymous figures, submissive and smiling, greedy and smug, immodest and excitable, who applaud themselves when they manage to mangle some sentence or other or crease up laughing at their own jokes, which are almost never original, never funny, almost always stolen from someone else, and almost always in the worst possible taste. It’s as if they had undergone a strange process of depersonalization, and I don’t mean the loss of regional characteristics (which, on the contrary, seem to be on the increase), nor the supposed levelling out among members of different social classes and different professions (which I don’t mind at all, even though I see little evidence of it), but their apparent willingness to relinquish being separate individuals and behaving as such, that is, being someone: someone who will react differently from someone else in an identical situation, even if it’s only a game show with its rigid, humiliating rules intended to distract and console their invisible fellow citizens. The faces of my contemporaries are beginning to grow equally uniform and predictable, and the worst thing is that if, as I said at the start, the changes usually brought about by age and time become postponed for longer and longer or, indeed, are suspended entirely until overtaken by illness or death, just as on those digital watches 12:00 overtakes 11:59 without anyone noticing, then we will have to get used to the idea that those faces with no past also lack a future and are therefore perpetual. Even worse, we will have to get used to the unpleasant idea that if no one entirely escapes their own era (and no one does), then our faces will meet the same fate. Javier Marías November 22, 1992 (Translated from the Spanish by Margaret Jull Costa)

[@ccc4640]

My favorite part of this video essay is the unenthusiastic Draft Kings ad in the middle. Get yo bag Take lolololol 😂

[@racheltoler3895]

This Take left me feeling better not worse. Thanks.

[@baby.nay.]

I never followed the take , because it’s usually a very privileged and white perspective … but the gambling sponsorship is deplorable. Following up with multiple if you need help hotlines that seem weirdly inaccessible and convoluted is the Cherry in top .

[@radicaledwards3449]

I always though that the whole ' mid life crisis' was a white people thing, the only time I ever heard of it was from white people (who incidently tend to apparently age physically quicker), or from sources run by white people. In every other culture you're either a child, adult or old.. For the longest time I genuinly though that mid life crisis was when everything is fine in the middle of your life, and then your house burn down or something, not 'Im 'x' age' so now I have to invent a problem....

[@SpectraStarShooter]

I’m in the middle of a break down, this found me at the perfect time. Still can’t afford to retire but I feel a little less alone about it 😅

[@TheCaliforniaboy1]

I love being in my 30s. Less drama, less times being called too young. Less games with dating. More friends that actually invested in your friendship.

[@RudolphManor]

I'm 35 & I Look Forward To Being Middle-Aged. 💯

[@wallcouldtalk]

Haven't found a reason to have a mid-life crisis. In fact, I got more boring. It's been great.

[@WhelmedButReady]

Technically, I'm a Zoomer just barely. I'll be 28 this year. However, my culture and upbringing is very much Millennial given how close I am. And now I'm feeling that weird interspace between feeling young yet knowing I'm "older" and should be closer to more adult characteristics like having children or a serious relationship. It's been weird, but I love my generation and the freedom to formulate my adulthood however I want it. Regardless of societal pressures of the gen before.

[@PossibleBat]

Same, born in the 94s (I’m considered a young millennial or old zoomer, I just turned 30) I had a lot of younger friends so I had a millennial childhood and early adolescence, and an early zoomer 20s and late teens, which I feel puts me in such a weird Intergenerational position, cause I grew up with old home phones, no internet at home only in school, brick computers, early consoles, and then experienced the smartphone boom when I was already past preteen, so I had a waaay more mature attitude towards anything internet or technology related

[@krisk298]

Why are you describing my life right now!!!😂😂😂

[@soapaddict09]

It's because we've already had our midlife crisis. It was called the financial crisis of 08. Add in the pandemic. We've been through enough tyvm. Props to mentioning CF life from a childless cat lady lol.

[@songsayswhat]

Millennials saying they feel younger never considering every. single. generation since the beginning of time has never felt they were "middle aged" when they hit that magic "middle age" number. People never change.

[@fcv4616]

Maybe that’s because middle age is a social construct created by social expectations, marketing and media than actual life? 😲🤔🙄

[@Butterfly_Spirit5]

I can't believe this channel is advertising for gambling again! Saying " please play responsibly " doesn't change anything!

[@jasonflay8818]

'according to Encyclopedia Britannica' showing your age there Take! Haven't even seen an encyclopedia since highschool... Because I'm an elder millennial.....*sobs quietly into a bottle of liquor*

[@fcv4616]

I mean, dictionaries and encyclopedias are still reputable sources when you need to cite data

[@Rebelliouso]

42 and one of the eldest of elder Millennials. I still don't feel "grown up"!

[@o_0malik]

So glad to see that I wasn’t the only one confused by the gambling ad. That was some terribly bad editing.

[@courtneypuzzo2502]

well middle age is determined by average life expectancy for gender Women live to be 81 and men 75 so middle age happens earlier for men by 3 yrs.

[@juggaloclownpreacher]

I'm 38 And I know my childhood What is different because I did deal with severe childhood abuse, But I don't look back at that time as being anything I would love to do again. I have a hard time trying to understand people's nostalgia for their childhood.

[@oldchild527]

Im 33, me too, i do miss the tv shows but the people or family wherr a big Meh to me

[@oooh19]

Yea movies were better in the 90s

[@mariaskabardonis8353]

I miss bright color flip phones, blockbuster, and frozen yogurt while watching a blockbuster movie. Playing Oregon trail on the computer watching Britney and Backstreet in their heyday

[@elisciachristie6984]

Or some of us are a part of the last ones that had kids young, and now they are out of the house, so it's like.... what did you miss out on? Or you're sitting back and thinking about being peaceful and going in a new direction by finding the new you.

[@paddybazin9066]

Thank you for breaking this down!

[@PokhrajRoy.]

9:25 Periodt Wish they had this statistic printed up in the ‘90s.

[@angelicaziffer9106]

The casino ad was an uncanny moment

It is so good to be 33 but look like 25.

[@zdlax]

Was asked by security at the university where I teach to show my student ID recently. Sadly I no longer get carded even if I go clean shaven.

Promoting gambling is a big no go. Rethink your marketing strategy.

[@DenshaOtoko2]

No one calls me an adult because I'm under 40 years old and don't have a Chinese wife and Chinese kids. And also don't have a house and a car and a job.

[@juliannehannes11]

Same minus the Chinese

[@debbiemoore2747]

For any younger generations out there. Do you. Don't cave to pressure. The people my age (48 +) are angry, passive aggressive, grumpy and frumpy and have lost their joy and connection to their inner child.

[@rudenewatt22]

Am I the only one that feels like the Casino Kings advert just doesn't fit with this content? What is going on with adverts on The Take lately?

[@dameneko]

Gambling ad mid-video was really jarring. I felt like y'all were trying to sell me something we know is bad, but you got paid just enough to put aside your qualms by rationalizing that we'd understand that your financial needs are realer than the potential for harming an informed audience.

[@kizoid]

Loved every word and idea of this video. As an early millennial, I could relate to the sentiments portrayed here

[@chloegrobler4275]

wtf is this casino sponsor??? I am soo confused rn.

[@youngnope4664]

This channel used to be against using ads in their videos, but now they’re advertising gambling in the middle of it

[@metaouroboros6324]

We are going to be 40 in a few years guys. We'll revisit this again soon.

[@KittySnicker]

33 year old Millennial here. For better or worse, I do feel my sense of self-worth tethered to work. I am deeply in debt from law school lol. I’m happily married but I worry, despite my husband’s reassurance, about aging. I’ve reduced my drinking but I do like Vaping and it’s like, is there anything I can do for a damn buzz that won’t prematurely age me?? I’m worried that I don’t look as young for my age as my peers. At least I don’t like being in the sun.

[@Strawberry_Angelic]

I'm a millennial and I didn't even enjoy my youth 😭 I'm 32 so not older but not younger of them so I just waisted everything lol

[@jwinterph]

As a mid aged Millennial, This pretty summarized my Timeline of existence.

[@ryanjacobson2508]

For those arguing over what constitutes middle age.... To kids, anyone over 30 is "old". To the old, anyone under 40 is young. It's subjective.