Why Nobody Is Required to Respect Your Trans Identity

[@Kinosec-10]

You gave a good analogy, “a Christian’s mental health is not harmed by an atheist refusing to believe in God”

[@mattbradbury]

Totally disingenuous - Christians are constantly complainiing about their medieval views not being respected and trying to inflict them upon secular civil society - and. by they way, in progressive Europe, the law protects Christians and all other religions against discrimination because - whether you believe in the Christian faith or not, it's recognised that your deeply held faith is a part of who you are as a person - in the same way that being transgender is a part of who you are as a person. You Americans go on about free speech a lot, but you cannot resist sticking your noses into the business of other people who just want to get on with their lives - total small town and small mind mentality......you don't even understand what libertarianism and freedom means because the Republicans have eroded your education system in order to produce generations of uneducated citizens

[@naomivought9317]

Facts. We just go on about our day

[@BlueberryEnjoyer]

Find a Christian at your job and go out of your way over and over to tell them that Jesus is fake, and find out what HR will do.

[@MRauTObt]

​@BlueberryEnjoyer Thats not an atheist refusing to believe in God. Thats one person imposing their belief on another. Its a 2way street.

[@BlueberryEnjoyer]

Oh. So you can't tell christians over and over again that their god isn't real, but you can misgender trans people.... 2 way street huh?

[@owensclock]

Imagine being called a bigot because you mistook a "star gender" person for a "cloud gender" person.

[@mattbradbury]

yeah, imagine if that was really a thing?

[@Lili-jv1zp]

this gave me a great laugh lol thank you

[@naomivought9317]

😂😂😂

[@joevaghn457]

"That literally doesn't happen."

[@BlueberryEnjoyer]

You have to say "imagine" because that's never happened.

[@NotMyGumDropButtons.444]

we have to queer everything = we have to control everything

[@henazz2561]

This

[@abcdeshole]

Queer politics: every boundary that can be pushed should be pushed.

[@mattbradbury]

QUEER EVERYTHING NOW! RESIST HETEROSEXUALITY

[@mattbradbury]

@@abcdeshole REPUBLICAN POLITICS - every boundary and check and balance on democracy and civic society should be pushed

[@Uncle_B83]

That being said, those on the far right are not much different. The ultra MAGA folk have left themselves with no room to engage with or tolerate anyone who doesn’t think like them. They’re just as dangerous to society. Middle of the road is where I always stand!

[@jboushka]

The pronoun thing sounds like "crybullying".

[@Kindred_37]

Thank you for this

[@mht5875]

Yes!

[@HONGRYGORL]

You have pronouns too. Should we make fun you for falling into line with 99% of the population. Talk about sheeple.

[@XKenny77]

That's the whole gender cult.

[@HollieMoodie]

LOL

[@UteHeggenTranswidowHeals]

Their narcissism comes first. They have "Napoleon" complex.

[@mattbradbury]

I thought you were saying that transwomen are 'BIG BURLY MEN' but now you seem to be saying they're tiny and have Napolean complex. Which is it? There are plenty of gaywidows, cheatingmanwidows, domesticabuserwidows, and actual deadhusbandwidows - you're not special Ute

[@tommyearthquake]

Exactly. They are overcompensating.

[@sirensong237]

Being gay is selfish

[@HONGRYGORL]

You also have pronouns and probably correct if people get it wrong. Don't be stupid. You are scared 1.7% of the population?

[@HONGRYGORL]

So you think queer people are making up for their shortcomings by fighting for their right to live openly like you probably do? That's transmisia right there.

[@tumbleweeb9079]

Why should I respect people who have no respect for anybody who isn't in their cult?

[@HONGRYGORL]

Who's in charge of this cult? Where do they meet? How much money do transpeople have to pay to be in this cult?

[@HONGRYGORL]

because Jesus died for everyone. It's a compassionate thing to do to love an oppressed body.

[@sengasengana]

@HONGRYGORL Being entitled is not the same as being an "oppressed" group. This group being incredibly obnoxious, causing everybody around them feeling uncomfortable and anxious, disrespecting everybody, actively oppressing others, demanding special treatment all the time and then calling themselves "oppressed" and "victims" is the reason and the only reason, why nobody wants anything to do with them.

[@tumbleweeb9079]

@@HONGRYGORL God also created science, math, and biology to be absolute and never untruthful. Please do not bring MY lord and savior into a conversation when you literally deny His biology. The only opression happening is my freedom to speak TRUTH, just like they did to Jesus.

[@rubytruly5912]

Why should I have respect for you? By your logic, As a co worker, I can just call you a she or he repeatedly, whatever I want, and you can get over it you little cuss. I don’t have to accept your identity.

[@joecoffey4199]

It's not my obligation to validate anyone about anything.

[@kylemurphy597]

The only validation I seek is for parking.

[@WorthlessDoNotReconnect]

you go girl,keep it up

[@HONGRYGORL]

Ok, Doctor Lady Shits-A-lot. That's who you are now. Since I'm not obligated to validate your identity either.

[@baconsarny-geddon8298]

They aren't "asking that you respect their identity". They're "DEMANDING that you AFFIRM AS TRUE, and pretend to SHARE their religious beliefs, about their identity" it's religious authoritarianism, plain and simple; It'd be exactly the same, if Christians demanded special pronouns, which affirm them as being "saved", or "washed in the blood of Christ" or something.

[@mattbradbury]

Christians don't demand special pronouns but they sure as hell demand that their megachurches don't pay taxes on their vast wealth, because 'Jesus'

[@HONGRYGORL]

Who are to dictate someone elese identity? You realize cis-people run the place?

[@Sunshiine305]

​@@HONGRYGORL you mean woman and man. Don't call us cis, we don't need it.

[@Sunshiine305]

Exactly 💯

[@clairhonnor6211]

​@@HONGRYGORLlook up Jennifer Pritska and Martine Rothblatt.

[@1jotun136]

Thank you Ray. This has been my position for awhile now. I quit letting Christians bully me in my teens. i just don't see the difference between their efforts to control me and trans ideologues try to control me. My response to both is NO!

[@Onojohivycyctx]

its like a dogma was replaced with dogma, my gay friends who grew up in religious homes seem to be the most ra ra abt gender ideology

[@defennia]

What did Christians ever do?

[@mattbradbury]

@@defennia provided a theological cover for colonialism and the genocide of native populations across the globe, murdered heretics, other Christians who worshipped God in a slightly different way, repressed women, had weird views about sex being sinful etc

[@etherspin]

​@@Onojohivycyctxsort of depends what it functions as for the person. Like how you'll see Christians and other faith traditions who are quietly living as best they can according to the principles and those who use them as a cudgel to try to compel others into particular behaviour and language.

[@barryledgister4496]

@@Onojohivycyctx Good point. They seem obsessed with religion and fighting its control, talking about `christo-fascists` in essentially secular societies. But they`ve swapped one religion for another.

[@Uncle_B83]

I was so indifferent to all of this until it crept into the corporate world. The fact that these ideologue extremists got corporate America to bow down is crazy. But I’m also of the opinion that something like this, that is all based on faith and nothing else, can’t and won’t last. People are finally starting to push back.

[@mht5875]

I agree, corporations need to stick to doing what they are supposed to do: Make a profit. Period. Leave out politics, leave out ideologies.

[@Trobtwillis]

My thoughts exactly.

[@bb-bu9vt]

The propose of pronouns is to simplify language, not to complicate language or politicize language. The pronoun crybullies are the most insufferable screeching narcissists in a world full of insufferable screeching narcissists.

[@Trobtwillis]

They're up there with Sovereign Citizens, Krazy Konspiracy Kooks, Moon Landing Deniers, Holocaust Deniers, Anti-Vaxers, Fundamentalist Creationists, and Flat Earthers.

[@harryf999]

Take the whole religion analogy one step further, following the separation of church and state, the government should not write laws protecting their ideological beliefs

[@annaxyz5132]

Nor donate any money for what they call “basic care”

[@samsonlovesyou]

"They feel invalidated and unseen" The sheer enitlement of that! When did I sign the contract obligating me to 'see' anyone? I wasn't put on this Earth to validate anyone else. If I choose to, it's of my own volition. And here's the kicker - when you demonstrate such entitlement and view me as just some tool to be used for your affirmation, I have ZERO motivation to 'see' you, and every motivation to feel contempt for you. They can't empathise with that even cognitively because of unfettered narcissism.

[@mattbradbury]

why were you put on this earth and who put you here? No one really knows the answer to that question. But everyone who is put on this earth has a right to live a free life - free of interference and discrimination - freedom to have food, clothes and shelter - the right to life, liberty and the pursueit of happiness - don't you understand that America was founded to escape from the kind of repression of free speech and personal freedom to live one's life that was going on in Europe? Do you know what was happening in Europe in the 18th century? Repression of different faiths and anyone who dissented against the right of Kings to dictate how people should live? Didn't pay attention in school or the shockingly bad education system in the US didn't want to tell you this?

[@samsonlovesyou]

@@mattbradbury It's really irritating when people don't read the comments they're replying to.

[@AnneAndersonFoxiepaws]

​@@mattbradbury I think you haven't read the comment or just like the sound of your own, preachy, rhetoric!

[@thefourthwritedjentleman3643]

​@mattbradbury You do realise not everyone lives in America right? 😂 the ignorance is hilarious

[@HONGRYGORL]

Not being seen, means that they are an oppressed demographic that is overlooked by society, limiting their civil rights and quality of life.

[@mht5875]

They want constant validation and support from everyone else but never reciprocate, they are constantly on the receiving end. They give nothing.

[@lial2713]

good point

[@baconsarny-geddon8298]

>"Nonbinary folx feel invalidated, when you don't respect neo-pronouns". Oh thank goodness. I was worried they might be missing the message.

[@877swissmiss]

They invalidate themselves by inventing neo pronouns with the demand to be perceived as anything else than themselves… Isn‘t that THE invalidation? ( I don‘t like myself so I invent a fantasy self and pretend to be that while I expect others to see ME, but not as the self I actually am but the inexistent one)

[@mattbradbury]

Christian folks feel invalidated when you don't respect their deeply held beliefs which inform their sense of who they are. Oh thank goodness. I was worried they might be missing the message

[@thefourthwritedjentleman3643]

Brilliant

[@WorthlessDoNotReconnect]

the fact you use the word Folx instead of Folk,you may be queerer than you let off

[@graveurgraveur2691]

Why must we "validate" insanity?

[@Uncle_B83]

It’s about controlling people. It’s nuts to me that such a seemingly small percentage of people have been able to obtain such a stronghold on language and be able to make such demands from EVERYONE. They’ve somehow managed to get their ideologies backed by some very powerful people, to the point where normal good intentioned people like you and me are afraid of the wrath that they can so often deal. One misspoken word or phrase and we can be doxed and left penniless. It’s INSANE!

[@Uncle_B83]

They can ruin lives, yet they’re the ones who are most “tolerant,” and “accepting.” 🤦‍♂️

[@Lili-jv1zp]

I really wonder what started the whole “invalidating” kind of language now often used. I mean I study psychology and we talk about chronic invalidation in the development of BPD, but that refers to objective emotional neglect and abuse in childhood. When ppl like Matt talk about it, it feels like we are in a kindergarten class again. I thought the point of being adults is that we no longer need others to validate us because we have already experienced the necessary emotional developmental process to becoming autonomous individuals. It’s just very infantilizing to me. I don’t think some people realize the real cost of “being nice”.

[@joevaghn457]

"... it feels like we are in a kindergarten class again." omg yes

[@jennaphage]

I generally try to be nice to everyone as a default. But it’s gotten to the point where whenever I see a “Be kind” or “Be nice” shirt or sign I get a little pissed inside. It’s almost as if the Messaging is to default us away from acknowledging truth in the name of kindness. Like an opiate/behavior control phenomenon. Kindness is not greater than truth…

[@richarddoan9172]

I've never thought of the religious freedom argument being applied to using pronouns. Very interesting.

[@PTRAINBOY]

How about, I'm unbothered if I offend you ? It's a you problem !

[@WorthlessDoNotReconnect]

Yaass Queen say it louder for the bitches in the back girl

[@graceg3250]

Except when you get fired, socially shunned, bullied, doxxed, or lose a family member because someone gets offended.

[@mjones8170]

Exactly. It is based on an ideology. We can't all be made to follow it.

[@mattbradbury]

No one should be made to follow any ideology. BTW capitalism is an ideology. Christianity is an ideology. I totally agree with your point

[@naomivought9317]

@@mattbradburyexactly and this country was founded on freedom of religion. This ideology goes against pretty much every religion out there. So to say we have to believe into this sh*t is pretty ridiculous because we don’t force them to be religious!

[@mjones8170]

@naomivought9317 I agree. We all have the right not to be religious. In fact, it defeats the purpose of religion if people don't actually believe it but just pretend to because they are forced. As for capitalism, people can try and live outside it I guess. They can go into the woods and have some sort of hunter gatherer lifestyle. Good luck to them on that one.

[@joevaghn457]

@@mattbradbury Ideologues can be some of the most insufferable people out there

[@vamvam7690]

@@joevaghn457true that!

[@BuckAngelOfficial]

“ queer trauma” Haha they are desperate

[@barryledgister4496]

Privileged white people trying to make their `oppression` match those from poc, ethnic, religious and colonized communities. Disgraceful.

[@davidpar2]

I’ll see their “queer trauma” and raise it by queer fatigue.

[@HONGRYGORL]

Are you queer? Have you been called a faggot and been beaten within an inch of your life for not fitting into heteronormative society?

[@Sunshiine305]

Love you Buck ❤️🥰🥹

[@whitway12]

@BuckAngelOfficial - Buck! I feel like I just saw a celebrity in public. You’re awesome ❤ you really opened my eyes to doing my own research and not just blindly support any cultural collective because I don’t want to be seen as a ‘bigot’ or ‘trans phobic’. I support authentic trans people, not ‘trans activists’ or ‘trans trenders’ and now that bill C-16 was passed in Canada and this all directly effects me, not to mention the outrageous push to transition children, and women’s sports being erased, I can’t support all of that.

[@Leamichellefan2244]

My question is, if these people are demanding that we respect their delusions for lack of a better word then won’t they respect our belief I mean respect is a two-way street. You can’t just demand that you get respect and then you don’t give respect. No no no no you can’t do that.

[@mattbradbury]

I think you'll find that trans people generally respect the right of others to be deluded

[@Leamichellefan2244]

@@mattbradbury that’s the problem. Why are we falling over ourselves to respect people, delusions when they won’t respect reality?

[@Purplelemon5033]

I just speak the truth and use the correct language now. I tried to understand in the beginning of all of this but I realised It doesn’t matter what pronouns are used they are narcissists looking to play the the victim, looking for anything ,any slip up that can be weaponised against others. These folks are a very particular breed of Karen’s

[@alainaruble163]

THEY want respect but show none to woman!!!!

[@SSGLGamesVlogs]

The comment I was looking for.

[@HONGRYGORL]

You realize a lot of queer people are women? They are called lesbians. Trans women can be lesbians or straight as well.

[@HONGRYGORL]

Are you aware the queer community absolutely cares for queer women?

[@SSGLGamesVlogs]

@@HONGRYGORL What is "Queer"?

[@tyllrt]

@@HONGRYGORL how can they respect women when they actively stripped the meaning of womanhood from its sex based reality turned it into a costume you can take on or off

[@firesong83]

Respect is earned, not given. You have definitely earned another subscriber. Thank you for putting into words what I have been feeling for solong. I am a 75 year old gay man. I came out in 1970 and I feel that the LGBT+ community is trying to force me to cornform in exactly the same way that the Christian community did the 50s, 60s, 70s.

[@thewheekshow5537]

I feel like humans arent REQUIRED to respect anything about anyone.... And if someone disrespects your gender, religion, way of life, or anything else... Thats a "them" problem. Write them off and spend your energy surrounding yourself with people you get along with.

[@jacksparrowguy]

Thanks for commenting on Matt Bernstein. All he does is throw What-About-isms and gaslighting. He never offers any counterarguments and takes things out of context, expecting his followers to just believe him and not do their own research. A good example is when he criticized JK Rowling as being a "fake feminist" and aligning with "far-Right" figures. It's clearly all emotionally-based points and not based on facts.

[@michaeljohndennis2231]

As an older Irish gay man and Irish patriot 22 years in the U.K. myself, I just don’t understand the whole trans and pronouns thing - as a traditional Irish Catholic, I do not believe that children (under 21) should ever be exposed to this stuff at all, for any reason - I cut all ties with and support for the gay community 18 years ago when they started to involve children in this, as I fundamentally disagree with their stance on this - I have extended family in the same village in Rural Ireland where I grew up and they are parents of very young children themselves and because of issues like this, I am very concerned about their futures once they reach adulthood - I used to be a leftist, supporting gay rights and equality and embracing modernity in my teens in the 1980’s, but after being 30 years in supermarket retailing and living in a socially deprived area of Manchester for over 20 years, I’ve come to totally reject this stuff and have become a gay conservative as I care about future generations after we are all gone

[@xladder3972]

i used to think like you, but i am just 21. i was brought up super conservative, and i hated myself for being trans, when it went against everything my fmaily believed, and to this day trans doesnt exist in my family. And i got used to being misgendered, i got used to never being respected. I was supporting a small party that was against criminality and hostile religions in my country, but it turned out that the first pride i ever attended, i saw said party in a small gathering right next to the pride trying to scream that i, as i was right infront of them trying to wrap my head aorund this small party wanting anything to do with pride, was screaming that im a hellhound, helldog im going to hell. what a suprise that every all conservative parties are christian. but it turns out almost every conservative part of a country is closeted, hateful people. i have now understood the correlation between conservatism, nazism and hate. Conservatism lures in people ike you because at the surface it looks promising but if u dig deeper, it becomes confusing, and you wouldnt bother anymore, till you see your conservative likeminds doing real fucked up shit towards lgbtq because they can all while this qanon is taking over the minds of the old. I never understood the reason why lgbtq hate conservatives until i finally learned why. They want laws to stop youngsters from this gay stuff, but that same law applies to ppl over 25 and it ruins lives, they dont want regulation or " help " younger people choose right, and they dont even mention peopple over 18 still be gay or trans, it doesnt exist in their radar

[@jefft8597]

The whole point of pronouns was to make language easier. If they make language more complicated, one may a well just keep repeating peoples names.

[@m4rkscott]

I must be a really bad person, I will do just about anything to help people but I refuse to someone's demand to be called something that they have made up sometimes with non existent words. It just isn't happening, I will call people what they look like, they can call themselves what they like and i'm happy for them to do so but i'm not playing along

[@jodie-b4g]

When someone corrects me,saying 'oh im they them '. If i can, i just walk away. Not because im cruel, its because i cant help them

[@barryledgister4496]

The Rastafarians used `i and i` instead of `we` or `you and i` amongst themselves, but didn`t expect anybody else to do that. Scientologists have titles for Tom Cruise, but they don`t expect non-Scientologists to use them. Because they`re in their own little cult world...why this tiny group think they`re going to convince the world to follow their cult beliefs is incredible to me. Bottom line is, nobody likes them...or the scientologists. The rastas were pretty cool though.

[@zak-a-roo264]

Spliff story. ..over the chalice being passed , a Rasta told me they created the word "downpresser" to replace "oppressor" because oppressor sounds too much like UP-PRESSER, one who pushes you UP to God. One of the better afternoons of my life.

[@remc0s]

Respect has to be earned; not demanded. And no sane person should ever be forced to respect a man in a dress 👗

[@FronteirWolf]

I've had some weird labels for my gender identity. Looking back it's all ridiculous, but I went through that phase. It was the standard non binary labels not stargender, although I did identify as autismgender at one point. I didn't involve anyone else, it was just my personal thing. If these people just didn't make any demands of people with these neogenders, I think they would still be on to a wrong idea, but it wouldn't have anything to do with anyone else.

[@christianefiorito3204]

This has become so irrational it almost seems a cult

[@annamariposa6959]

It’s totally a cult that I have no wish to participate in!!

[@gamer1X12]

from what I've seen on the internet, neopronouns often involve inanimate objects or fantasy characters. it's absolutely outrageous.

[@Observette]

I think that guy just meant that a bunch of kids whining on Tiktok isn’t gonna change the language. Neo pronouns will never be legislation because they’re absurd.

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

You think someone wouldn't have said that about laws against misgendering in the recent past?

[@tobyreed529]

Omg you're a stunning man, the world would have lost out lol ! I love that people like you are brave enough to not be silenced by the toxic side of the community, well done for speaking out, you may save many, many confused kids from permanent physical problems and medical bills, I salute you sir! 👏

[@PlainsPup]

No one “has” pronouns, and the only way to “use” pronouns is by referring to someone else. Pronouns belong to languages, not individuals.

[@cassidylhd]

Thank you! My pronouns are I/me/my, because that's how I refer to myself. I don't get to control what language other people use.

[@agirlnamedbrett.]

in total agreement especially since they don't even want to refer to women as just women, yet they want me to respect all these different pronouns. this idea of respect with the younger crowd fascinates me. they believe they should just have it and be respected even though they don't seem to respect anyone. idk in my life respect is earned and it goes both ways.

[@thefourthwritedjentleman3643]

If you identify yourself as a woman and i identify you as a man, because you are one Then who is right?

[@gusmonster59]

Both of you. Those the one who identities as a woman should not expect everyone else to just know that, nor demand it to be validated.

[@dimercamparini]

And you are right on the "religious" argument...a few weeks ago I actually had a person correcting and scolding me on YT cause I wrote "god" without the capital G in one of my comments... I explained to him that as an atheist I write "god" as I please and I am not feeling obbligated to do it in a specific way like a christian does. (is the same dynamic...a person with a specific ideology trying to force upon all others such ideology instead of respecting all the differences that an actual free society could and should have...you do you, I do me, OK?!)

[@877swissmiss]

They don‘t like people who accept themselves, who don‘t have the need to artificially create sth for attention and validation. Maybe it gives them anxiety that there are people who are fine with how and who they are?

[@naomivought9317]

That’s a personal problem tbh. We all got our own struggles, I ain’t got time for thisb

[@Trobtwillis]

Thank you Ray. Your religion analogy is so helpful. Who would want to deal with me if I insisted that everyone always bid me farewell with the words "May G-D bless you" or "May the F°rce be with you?"

[@moonman2022]

My pronouns are conditional. If you ask me to call you something other than what is obvious, then I ask you to call me Your Highness or His Highness. If not, you can call me what is obvious.

[@lila44411]

Thank and God bless you and your channel. Keep it up even when the haters start to come after you. You were so honest in this video and that takes bravery in the face of the modern online climate.

[@Xile179]

Us lgbt need to seperate from these q’s

[@sometimesawful]

The lgb must divorce TQ+

[@mikerude5073]

The constant policing of the words people use to describe the reality around them is EXACTLY what cults do. There has always been an overlap between religions and cults, the same way there is between a lake and a puddle, with no exact line in between, but you can tell which one you're looking at. The woke cult has very obviously gone extreme in deciding what words people can use to describe what they see. At that point, it isn't just a religion; it's a cult. I'd be willing to bet there are a lot of other cult behaviors that apply too.

[@RayAlexWilliams]

I think you're totally right. I have several videos on my channel talking about the cultish dimensions of modern gender ideology.

[@foop9]

It is exactly the point that they do infact want our rights taken away. Seriously calling their bluff, I'd love to hear those men say we shouldn't have rights taken if we don't comply--They wouldn't, and they very well know that they would get their asses handed to them ..

[@KenishaBarker]

These people need to remember that when they say, MY pronouns are “ or “I identify as” communicates to us that the REAL pronouns in those statements apply to THEM. I don’t care if you “identify” as a sponge. Just don’t expect me to pretend that I can use you to wash dishes or scrub my tub. YOUR self-identification is just that: YOURS.

[@Uncle_B83]

Thanks for this video. I unfortunately find myself getting in too much of an echo chamber when it comes to this particular topic, so it’s good to hear your perspective from your lived experience. Appreciate ya!

[@christopherdieudonne]

So happy to have found this channel. Subscribed !!

[@garnettekken]

other people’s mental health shouldn’t depend on me to affirm them. If you need others to affirm you that’s a PROBLEM.

[@nineveha]

🤣For the first minute I thought the video was someone that was joining the chat and I was so confused why they were listening to you with their mouth open not moving for a full minute.

[@Nina-xv4ie]

I'd love to hear a discussion between you and Matt Dillahunty on The Line. I haven't heard the parallel to religion before, but it made me curious what he'd have to say about this. He seems to have gone a completely different direction re trans issues, but is so very logical when it comes to religious beliefs, skepticism, and logical fallicies.

[@catamountain]

Queer the world? It isn't going to happen.

[@knox7945]

I guess I'm the "bad guy" in their eyes.

[@theconcreteshamans]

Spiritually speaking, it's about the ego. An obsession with disease and the physical form.

[@JenniferBell-Gibbons]

Thank-you for saying what needs to be said!

[@tajtabbah8623]

So interesting, I had to watch it twice. I absolutely agree with you. You articulated my thoughts so well. To identify as none-binary requires that binary opposites must texist, but whole point of feminism and the queer movement was to break down the binaries of sexuality and gender identity. You can believe whatever you want, but I believe reinforcing those binary stereotypes very regressive.

[@an81angel]

Well said. Thank you for voicing this.

[@777Rowen]

It’s not ok to control someone’s speech. Pronouns are sex based, and based on a persons name or appearance they’re automatically used. They/them is actually third person plural when referring to multiple people, not singular, so it is being used grammatically incorrect.

[@mattbradbury]

That is just wrong. In English 'they/them' has always been used as a genderless pronoun. For example, 'Some idiot came into the coffee shop today demanding free coffee!' 'No way - why the hell did they think they were entitled to free coffee?' Total dunce!

[@naomivought9317]

I should not be forced to use someone’s nickname essentially. Or penalized if I don’t. It’s just insane

[@joevaghn457]

@@mattbradbury They/them is a _indefinite_ pronoun, not a genderless pronoun. He/him is for a male, She/her is for a female, and They/them is when the fact that they are male or female is unknown or irrelevant to the subject of the sentence. It's also used for multiple humans, because its _indefinite_, meaning it there's no definitive instance of a human that one is talking about. It's essentially just equivalent to "any" or "all" (they/them) instead of "this" (he/her/him/she)

[@mattbradbury]

@@joevaghn457 the point was about singular or plural, not definite or indefinite

[@douginprague]

That's the best explanation of what's going on that I've seen so far

[@gusmonster59]

I don't care if if someone is trans, gay, straight, whatever. I have no problem calling someone by what they prefer. I DO have an issue when it expected that a store clerk (stranger) to just know someone's preferred pronouns and getting upset when they are 'mis-identified' (yes, this came up in a meeting at work). Please. A complete stranger is not required to know your preferences. Say 'Thank you' and move on. And 'hey guys' has long been considered a neutral greeting - since it is used by women to greet a group of women. I am very tired of this 'use no gender pronouns - ever' mindset. I am not onboard with the whole 'species dysphoria'. You are a human, you can't become a horse, turtle, whatever. Grow up. As for children - let be what they want to be, but let's not okay trans surgery for a adolescent/teen until they are adults (I'd go with 21, actually). Preteens and teens often struggle with their identity and change it several times before figuring it out. If they are still wanting to transition at 21, fine. Hopefully, by then they have gone through all their NORMAL angst and have sorted who they are.

[@dimercamparini]

As a basic rule I use the pronouns that MY mind comes up with naturally when I look at ppl...based on MY perception of them. So I am not an absolutist that always uses the "biological" pronouns just to be "correct" at all costs and show (signal) that I am completely against the woke ideology (even tho I basically am)...if a T-gender person made the effort to present good enough like the opposite SX my mind will probably perceive that and use their "appearance" pronouns...for example I would use she for BW and he for BA...even tho I perfectly know that they are not actually what they look. But I only go as far as that (cause it comes naturally to me and I have to force nothing on myself, and I dont do it out of "fake courtesy" or "politeness")...all the singular "they" and "fairy/fairyself" absurdities I leave to the cultists...total nonsense, uber-narcissism, and desire for control over others...

[@lesgraham7722]

commonsense needs to prevail.

[@ColdBaltBlue]

I respect you, you respect me, it’s a happy simple thing. Fair treatment is not a hard thing, the world is ending anyway.

[@tizzas1232]

I don't criticize neo pronouns because I think I'm going to lose my rights, I just think they're ridiculous.

[@hifijohn]

Of course, Harvard is going to be promoting this nonsense.

[@Uncle_B83]

If I’m in a situation where I’m meeting someone one on one, or if I’m working beside anyone who has “preferred pronouns,” then I’ll call them as such. However, I do NOT have to respect it. There’s a big difference between the two. You can show basic respect to someone without giving in to their demands. The demand in and of itself is actually what is disrespectful.

[@KattMurr]

This gender identity b.s. has been incorporated into annual training for New York State workers! I work for a state department and was livid when I had to take Gender Identity and Pronouns in the workplace!

[@nslater1388]

Star gender? What the hell is Star gender?!!

[@andrewbui8295]

a social construct

[@mr.sr7171]

I'm for the rainbow persuasion, and all I can say is what King Baldwin said: "However you a play or get played by, may it be a king or a man of power, your soul is in your keep." As in my gay ass is more is worried about my BS that I don't have time to worry about someone else's BS.

[@Maki-00]

I speak English, not gibberish!

[@MrPAULONEAL]

At some point you have to draw a line in the sand and say this far no farther...

[@benlandon9051]

Respect is not commanded. It's earned. If you want respect, you need to earn it. When you demand that a complete stranger who knows nothing about you respect you, you're not off to a good start to earning the respect you demand to have. Secondly, you don't have pronouns. I have never once referred to myself as any pronoun other than I/me/myself or the like. He/she/they/etc. is how other people refer to me, and I have no right to demand that someone else describe me in a way that I prefer.

[@danielday100]

I watched the full video and the funniest thing that they talk about "privileged white sis mens" And they're both are privileged white sis mans!! 😂

[@RayAlexWilliams]

The guest, Devon Price, is actually a trans identified female, not a cis man.

[@danielday100]

@@RayAlexWilliams 😂😂😂😂

[@mattbradbury]

@@RayAlexWilliams i think you mean he's a 'trans man'

[@Iyiouseismouse]

We are sentient apes , and naturally subconsciously see male or female, then think man or woman, and we have all been using or hearing this language since birth. There are no markers for “that person is a xim, the other person is a demon which is what demonself prefers.” We used to just have nicknames when we wanted a unique way for us to be described by others…

[@mephistofleece]

Come on people... subscribe, like and comment on these great contents. Let's get Ray's contents up on the list.

[@arsonfly]

You can call yourself whatever you want. People only get mad when you try to force them to call you what you want. Leave other people out of it.

[@CarolWoosey-ck2rg]

I feel offended by these people breathing! 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@Trobtwillis]

I swear that I am tempted to write a list of ridiculous rules about which words one may, may not, & must use when speaking with me. I would keep the list in my pocker, and then if & when I run into one of these pronoun clowns who tries to dictate all their absurd word rules on to me, I would produce my list and insist that we sign contracts to obey each other's rules. That should produce some constructive conversations, don't you think?

[@RustyhairedAlp9575]

The only third person pronouns we need are 'he', 'she', and 'they'

[@SpectreBagels]

Who's hurt? The people that dont want to use them

[@marceejohnson4113]

NAIL ON THE HEAD YOUNG MAN! Same thing just different subject.

[@lesgraham7722]

No one should be harassed. Biological women should not be harassed by biological born males in their safe places. Nor should they be harassed and degraded because they cant keep up with a born, biological male, who was made to feel like that when he competed against other biological males. That to me is a hate crime, just because instead of trying to improve themselves against their own birth biological sex, they chose to humiliate biological born females to feed their own ego. Is that considered misogynistic?

[@BroJo676]

The thing is, the trans identity is originally na offshoot of homosexuality since actual trans people actually have a homosexual life experience prior to transitioning. So, if someone is to confront a homosexual, they'll be villainized and it was taken too far for the trans community.

[@SeaBreeze-w9999]

What makes someone an "actual trans" person?

[@jeffreyscott4997]

Imagine trying to use the law to legally require everyone in society to affirm the "Born Again In Christ" identity. All while denyimg that you are making blasphemy law.

[@mia1191]

How can you put neopronoun in grammar textbooks if they are ever changing and even other queer people have never heard of them? In any case if someone invalidates your identity it truly wasn’t your identity. Only you can tell you who you actually are.

[@brandyhaywood6256]

Their '15 minutes'. What a joke. So sick of this.

[@paulpereira5633]

Your Sex/Gender is not flexible, you are born as you are born… but your imagination is flexible.. not everybody wants to or has to play along with your wishful thinking game.

[@nelsonmcduff5218]

You hit the nail on the head when you compared trans ideology to religion. The irony is that most of the gender ideology crowd criticise or mock religion while at the same time behaving like religious zealots.

[@Apoc5k]

I say be whoever you want to be however you aren't entitled for the vast majority of people bend to your will and believe whatever you believe, much less comply with your terminology.

[@Veldrane]

What they find offensive is the word "no". If you say yes once, then they will count on you to keep saying yes. They grew up spoiled brats that were not disciplined or disciplined at all to be anything other than spoiled brats. They are for the most part nice, unless they feel like being an activist where it becomes a rush to get misgendered and throw a childish tantrum.

[@janpetra1724]

It goes wrong the moment people have to hesitate even for second on which pronoun to use, in day to day basis, we dont even think about which pronoun we use, its natural. Pronouns are used for practical purposes. It won't achieve anything to point at someone who looks male from the crowd and used she pronoun, and vice versa, regardless of their actual biology. Some people insist on using biologically correct pronouns, but if presentation mismatches with biology, it wouldnt really be practical either, all you might achieve is a confused look from people, in a normal world, that is. If the person appears male, use he, and appears female, use she, just go with your guts, it's the most natural way to be, if they have a problem with it, just cite practicality.

[@beneficialmeditations4832]

I really love it when they say "respect my pronouns" only to turn around and call me a "cis" woman like wtf I never asked to have that added to my woman title buddy I had 2 kids woman or biological woman works fine... and don't even get me started on how quickly I click off videos where they start off saying they are non-binary & trans.... *facepalm* even my bisexual self knows that isn't possible Trans folks kinda have a set path in life! They got the English language wadded up almost as tight as all their panties now hahaha

[@jw325]

My pronoun is I dont give a f

[@urielthelesser]

People can earn respect. Pronouns are used or not. If you're demanding people "respect" "your" pronouns, you're effectively demanding they share your focus on your ego.

[@AMAmarae]

Hey me again, going through a lot of your videos lately, this one is a bit harder to watch since I am myself a trans woman, and appreciate if people address me with she/her (and do make the effort to "pass") But I have a question or two if find yourself around to answer them. I don't disagree about your position that people "Don't have a moral obligation to your identity", that makes sense. What I do wonder, is supposing that say you pass and your peers respect your identity and pronouns at least in that binary, which you did touch, would you not consider that at least "rude"? It is a big ask and I'm not disagreeing there, but assuming you've made the effort to pass and maybe not like 100% but you know working on it is there really no expectation at all for someone in your social proximity give just a little on that front? Additionally, the way you refer to this "Pretending to be the opposite sex" makes me wonder how you feel about Harry Benjamins argument of there being "seven types of sex" and someone might categorize their sex one way or the other based on whether the majority of these types add up to Male or Female characteristics, assuming I understand that question. Unrelated, some of these comments are a bit... hmm. But once again, thanks for you perspective. I appreciate that the way you seem to approach these topics is fairly gentle and thanks for that too.

[@RayAlexWilliams]

I don't think it's *inherently* rude. People can do it in a rude manner. But some people do it for philosophical reasons that are not inherently rude. It depends on the person and their motivations.

[@Neonblue84]

short answer to the topic: because it's BS

[@CosmicD]

I see it as narcissism, like a dignitary title they appropriate for themself, like Sire or Majesty! You even have to use behind their back. Because you rarely use pronouns when you're talking to the person directly.