Why Office Affairs Attract Traumatized People

[@roxanekeeley-monet9352]

Anna your wisdom is priceless. I am very grateful for all your content 💌💕

[@irishcladdagh3]

I'm 52 and I have NO interest in being in a relationship... I now want this part of my life to be for me....I've given too many yrs to men who did not deserve me and if the universe has a blessing for me in the future then I will see but as for me LOOKING for someone or me just settling for someone...OH HELL NO!!!

[@Chahlie]

This is a funny coincidence- yesterday I had a text conversion with someone I used to be infatuated with when I was still needy. This was a professional conversation (related industries back at the time), but after our text exchange he continued on (obviously drinking) in a series of 3 texts to a new target- it was so funny, the wording and so on. Then he realised but too late, and I know he is still cringing, and now that I am a recovered person I can see this as funny and not just pretend it didn't happen. It is such an awesome feeling to not get into entanglements any more!!!

[@amsie_86]

what therapy dod you have to be entangled? had one on one counselling but need something more specific

[@Quinefan]

Well done, it's so great to hear your success story of healing!!! 😘

[@Quinefan]

@@amsie_86 FWIW I recommend psychoanalytic psychotherapy or psychoanalysis - ideally more than once a week.

[@acfatemi]

@@amsie_86 if You cannot find a good therapist, find a good priest! …..and in any case pray (a lot) in order to be strong and become authentic and get healthy boundaries 🙏

[@susiflorence6960]

I so understand this. In my Secretarial positions, I had serious crushes on the men I worked for...before I get into a relationship ..with an Equal..that is..I would greatly benefit from Therapy first. And yes..its a Pattern.

[@BB.halo_heir]

About the wife being controlling, etc. Maybe he's been caught cheating before and now she sees his pattern happening again. Never think you're the first time he's cheated.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

That's a great point! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@Andrea-sl8wd]

Lol...she's "controlling" signed the cheater. Guys in office jobs are notorious for this behavior... Side chicks have always been around. It's about self respect.

[@jasonkresock2196]

“I tend to be pretty hard assed about these situations.” You are the real deal. My deepest respect and love for your work. Thank You

[@stacyjaye6350]

Thanks you saved me the replay LOL I was like did I just hear that

[@ebbyc1817]

" Honestly, everyone knows how to get out of a relationship " The sooner we all get this through our heads, the better.

[@CitrusSimon]

People want more than anything to be seen, and yet they are terrified of being seen because they are afraid of what will be seen. And there is so much we want to hide, and yet we have hidden from ourselves that which is best in us.

[@Allthingscheri]

Excellent advice Anna. Don’t ever speak poorly about the wife or girlfriend. It’s 2 side to every story. That’s how they will speak about you afterwards too. The same way you get a man it’s the same way you will lose them. I’d never trust a man if I allowed him into my life if he had someone in his life.

[@zeddeka]

There's an old saying "the problem with marrying your mistress is that it creates a job vacancy". If someone is cheating on their partner to be with you, that means they're a Cheater by nature and they're very likely to go on and cheat on you.

[@adorapollard7308]

Oh wow - I find these so triggering. I feel like people always same the same things about wives/girlfriends. They’re controlling, they’re manipulative, they use the kids blah blah. Abusive people always say that about their spouses to justify their cheating to themselves and to the other person involved. My ex just did this to me with a co worker and told her things weren’t good at home and all these things and I never even knew he had an issue with about me. He had just proposed to me and I thought we were working things out. Turns out he never cared about me at all and instead of end it he strung me along and cheated on me. He told me that she told him to break up with me for months based on the crap he told her. That’s controlling and manipulative. Regardless of what I did wrong in the relationship, if it’s never brought to my attention and then it’s used to justify cheating with another woman, that’s abuse. Anyone engaging in an office affair, I would imagine, is being complicit in a similar dynamic.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so sorry you went through that; I agree that it's abusive and controlling. Women with CPTSD are often very susceptible to this kind of manipulation. Hopefully, the tide will turn now that there is more of a spotlight on these CPTSD symptoms. -Cara@TeamFairy

[@julief7234]

When a man is ignoring his wife and instead giving his emotional support, attention, and romance to another woman, of course his marriage will suffer. Then he can blame the wife and justify his behavior. So many women fall for this. Then they are surprised when he does it to them.

[@g.h.7755]

Dear Anna, I can't even start to THANK YOU for giving the affair situation it's adequate perspective: "Do not criticize his wife. Stand next to you sisters". We know for men it is really easy to abandon their children and to cheat on pregnant or nurturing wives: it's not them who are cleaning 💩, changing diapers, vomit, carrying a weight in their stomach for 9 months, breastfeeding...and them, of course, the strategy is known and simple: "My wife is crazy, she mistreats me, but I don't know how to leave her", because, of course, the baby is only hers, right? THANK YOU, ANNA!

[@acfatemi]

I have a friend, now in her sixties, that multiple times had affairs with Co-workers. First time was on her first job when she was 19…. Stories this man told her was the same Luna heard (and of course he never left wife+baby). Over the years my friend has been made feeling special and secretly the number one. I watched with horror how she has been the entertainer during business trips and so on, always compassionate with the ”poor” men complaining about their wifes… If a man wants to cheat on his wife, a Co-worker is the perfect partner in crime: easy access and the side-woman cannot make too much noise if she gets angry bc she has her career to loose…. Life has gone by, looks faded, and my friend is alone and without children. I do hope that this will not be the destiny for Luna!

[@bedtimeclub]

You make it sound that being alone & child free is a bad thing

[@acfatemi]

@@bedtimeclub It is a bad thing when it is not by conscious choice but rather the result of bad choices and repeated disappointments. I know that my friend didn’t plan her life this way. As young women she was the one that wanted family more than me. Turned out that I got children, she never did.

[@acfatemi]

@@ir9567 her female friends were more or less non-existent, another advice from Fairy 🧚‍♀️ Anna to take note of: with a strong network of good female friends a woman is less likely to be taken advantage of! Mind You, low self-esteem as female doesn’t rule out a besserwisser-attitude in all other compartments and that is a huge problem bc it is both intimidating to normal, serious men as well as making it impossible for friends to offer constructive criticism & advice. Of course there is a back story…. Our parents were friends and we grew up together. According to my mother, my friend’s father was cheating even when young and early into marriage. Eventually, a long term side-relationship became known to my friend’s mother resulting in a pre-mature, hastely divorce (the parents had agreed to stay together until all children had grown up and moved out). Father quickly remarried and told & introduced the step-mother at a businesslike lunch after the ceremony already had taken place. However, the father was a successful entrepreneur and my friend was his favourite to be educated as the son that wasn’t borne. Any attempt to point out that the father was a yerk failed towards agressive dismissal of the fact that she had grown up in a dysfunctional family (in spite of money, material standard and functioning routines almost set in stone). My friend graduated highschool with top grades and eventually university as a doctor of technology, venturing out in an all male world of work. Female friends were me (who failed postgraduate studies bc of a failed marriage), a co-worker that never had a romantic relationship at all (don’t know why), and my friends (who never accepted her appalling disrespect for others’ marriage and thus distanced themselves). The misogyni of the father was internalised and produced a woman who was afraid of being feminine but confident in academia & work. The natural desire for home & family was never expressed in public, though she talked about it with me as best friend. When father died from liver cancer, within a fortnight from discovery, she and siblings inherited a successful business. New ”friends” emerged and today any soulsearching discussions are drowned out by the flattery chorus. We all find a way to cope…. I do love my childhood friend with much affection and sympathy for her hardships in life, and no matter what we are friends for life!

[@acfatemi]

@@ir9567 second answer: Actually, coming from a social setting that provided fertile ground for narcissism, we were all fighting the demons of emotional neglect and abuse in various ways. We all had poor judgement (in spite of intellectual achievements) and chaos in our lives. The chaos my friend was involved in never really surfaced bc it is the nature of these affairs in a proffessional environment that they are constrained in being public. Rather, my friend was often the one being single that could support me in the chaos my mother and later also my abusive husband created. Thus on surface everything was calm in her corner. (A burnout problem that caused her to leave her career was shielded financially by the inheritance of her father’s business.) We were all like sheeps without a shepherd!

[@Woodman-Spare-that-tree]

I’m 65 and you just described my life. I’m very unhappy and have spent my life being used and unhappy. Now, still Unmarried, no children, no career achievements. My mother brought me up to believe I was worthless and that’s how I’ve lived.

[@CJ-uk1rt]

We appreciate breadcrumbs, thinking it's the entire loaf 😔

[@PanniMezei]

Never EVER start with someone who's married. You will be cheated on, just like the spouse before you, PERIOD.

[@indian.patterns]

True true true..

[@emmatessier600]

Not true at all, not every couple is the same. I know because the communication between me and my boyfriend is better than what he used to do with the wife he left to be with me. Cheating is a weak behaviour but doesn't mean a person is bound to cheat again

[@charlottelouise209]

@@emmatessier600 You hope but forget my cynicism. Good luck with your relationship

[@letym2271]

@@emmatessier600 now that's just you lying to yourself so that the fantasy doesn't fall apart. It's not just a communication issue, it's also an entitlement and boundary issue. Someone who cheats has poor boundaries, someone who cheats in a marriage is even worse, because that just shows a lack of respect to the vows made. He doesn't respect his wife, hence the cheating, why do you think he respects you or your "relationship" when he's shown he doesn't respect women or commitments? Even in happy marriages, people cheat. It's an entitlement issue, wanting to have every single need filled.

[@emmatessier600]

@@letym2271 I know that the cheating wasn't about entitlement. But lack of respect for her, sure. You can't tell me I'm lying to myself if you don't know the specifics

[@angelicmelody404]

This is why i never meet outside privately or attending an event with male co-workers/male friends. My partner doesn’t appreciate it and i do not either. I have seen so many relationships break down from this one small step people take and i am not willing to risk that for my relationship for a few hours of supposedly friendly encounter with a male co worker and/or male friend. Know where to draw boundaries and resist or remove temptations in life when you want your relationship to succeed.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

This is great insight. -Cara@TeamFairy

[@genxx2724]

My friend is a real estate agent, married since her 20s with kids in college. She went to her agency’s Christmas party. Another agent flirted with her. She flatly said, “I’m married.” (He knew that, and she wears her rings). She left right away and never attended again. She just won’t put herself in that situation, where people have a drink and become inappropriate. Her husband is middle-eastern, so maybe there’s a stricter line. Also, professional reputation. People love to gossip, and they don’t care if it’s true or not.

[@wildrose12.47]

Luna, how do you know you are the only “other woman”? I tell you most assuredly you are not. I recently was bowled over by the caring sensitivity of a man I thought was the one I’d been waiting for. We are both single, but he was mysterious and secretive. Soon it was clear that though he texted me daily and I thrived on the attention, he was also paying attention to other women the same way. You know the saying “talk is cheap”? Well texting is even cheaper! It costs NOTHING, Luna, to sit and text beautiful words that make your heart sing, while also texting several other women at the same time. He has made a comfortable home and future with a wife and baby, and he wouldn’t have spent all this time and effort with them if he didn’t WANT that life. Anna is right. He is playing games with your feelings and you are not the first or only. His face lit up when he saw you because your wounded starving soul tripped his radar and he was grooming you with his smile and attention. You cannot determine someone cares for you by his texting. That is so little effort it is beyond nothing. Yet you are taking it as gospel. I did too. When he discarded me for the new crush, I couldn’t even breathe right for weeks. It’s a game, Luna. I’m so sorry, but when Anna says your heartbreak is coming, she is right on. Walk away now dear. If you don’t gather the strength now, the discard will be brutal when it comes. He is just boosting his ego texting women with no regard for what it does to anyone else. God bless you Luna, I know how you hurt. Listen to Anna.

[@yuk498]

Listen to Wildrose12 Luna. It will be hard now, but six months later you will be so proud of yourself. Don't abandon yourself for one more person who wants to steal your time and energy and emotions from you. You lived such a tough life, yet you are here. You can do it! You go gal!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

@Wildrose12 I love that, "texting is even cheaper!" :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@pandoramoore3794]

This is so spot on. Xx I've been there and Wildrose12 has wise words. I let my affair drag on via texts that kept me dangling for months, Eventually I was discarded and sooo heartbroken the pain was awfull..But hey I can't imagine how bad I felt back than, how in love I thought I was. How bleak life was with out that good morning text that kept a spring in my joyless life. You are worth more these men play us like a fiddle.

[@tarothijadevenus4017]

Thank you for sharing @wildrose12 I am recently recovering for the exact same situation… You need extreme cutting off No looking back. Thank you for sharing ❤️❤️❤️

[@pandoramoore3794]

@@tarothijadevenus4017 Well done. I know how much strength that takes to cut ties with the only thing you think brings you joy. I'm slowly through this channel starting to take charge of my "limerence" Its exhausting looking for magical signs from the universe, convincing/lying to yourself how much that person loves you. Days drag into weeks months and for me years.....xxx

[@cbythesea]

Thank you for this. A few months ago I thought I wanted to know my work crush better... they know more about me because of their position. I got very busy and I lost interest. I’m going out of my way to not talk to them now because it’s crumbs personally, and there’s no reason to work-wise. just don’t want to go there. I hear this person talk to other people and I hear similar tone etc almost flirtatious. I’m embarrassed that I was like that. They got an ego boost from me. That’s a pattern for me. I’m glad I stopped when I did.

[@jessicahanlon1258]

Well done. It's not easy so pat yourself on the back and keep moving forward 😉

[@cbythesea]

What “hooked” me was I asked them for help on something - which is always hard for me to do-and they took care of the part I couldn’t do. I had to go to them and I needed their help. I didn’t have any other options. Their response to my request had me feeling something I rarely feel- heard. And they were caring, sensitive, kind and, above all, smart about how to go about it, promising to keep it confidential. I’m a sucker for kind and smart. They thanked me for trusting them but I didn’t have a choice, really. I’m indebted to this person so I’m struggling with being all business. I *should* be more friendly but I worry it will be taken the wrong way- or I’ll start to have feelings, so I go to the extreme and just avoid eye contact and interacting.

[@jessicahanlon1258]

@@cbythesea I totally get you I'm the opposite and I fall hook, line, sinker and I barely even know them, they say something sweet and kind and my head is full of magical thinking 🙄 I'm learning though I know it's just fantasy so I'm pulling back. At least we recognise what it is now. Keep healing 😉

[@Slowgroovin]

No matter the attraction, NEVER get romantically involved with a co-worker. It is a steep stairway to Hell.

[@venomousbluefrog]

A surprising number of people come to work actively seeking ego boosts, flirtations, and other inappropriate connections. It's really obvious when you're absolutely not attracted to them and/or they're blatant about hitting on coworkers indiscriminately in search of their fix.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Good point! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@lemsip207]

Because work is often stressful and it's a distraction to motivate you getting up each day or sticking in the same job.

[@SparkyPearl]

Dear Anna, thank you for another excellent video. I wish I had seen this 20 or 30 years ago, and i wish I had the knowledge and wisdom to avoid the "lessons" I had to learn the hard way. Thinking back, I was so desperate for any attention and I was willing to give up anything just to feel "loved". Yes, now I understand why and I can accept my past and the people I hurt. I really relate to Luna. And it's not your fault Luna. You just want to feel loved. But you need to listen to your heart and Anna because getting involved with a married man is like drinking poison when you are thirsty. It may make you feel "loved" for a while, but once the infatuation state is over, reality settles in, you will see things much more clearly. Don't listen to your emotions because that's CPTST talking.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for sharing your experience with us -Cara@TeamFairy

[@indian.patterns]

Yeah it's a plastic apple!

[@atinemassare]

My utmost respect for your work. Seriously there are few channels where every word, every idea is well thought through, every sentence is a jewel. In every line is so much wisdom and care. Your channel is definitely one of them. Theramine trees and Live abuse free the other ones.

[@indian.patterns]

I actually write things down , what she says and read them regularly 😄😅

[@torchbearer1973]

I was just finishing up watching one of your older videos when this one popped up in my notifications! I always click "like" before I watch because I know it's going to be good. Thank you, Anna, for all you do for us who've had crappy childhoods. ❤️

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

That's kind of you to throw a 'like" on there before you even watch. We appreciate your support of the channel and are grateful you're here. - Ashley, Team Fairy

[@PeachesLemons]

I love how harsh and blunt you are about the workplace affair. Too many other people sugarcoat things !

[@roxydee1452]

This man is NOT going to leave his wife. How I wish I had a dollar for every male sob story I have heard (first, second and third hand) about how he badly wants to leave her... but never, ever does. More than 20 years ago, when internet chat rooms were all the rage (not for dating, just mutual interests) I met a man on a music fan site and we took it offline. He told me early in the piece about his unhappy marriage and we continued as long distance "internet/ phone friends", meeting in person when he came to my city for work. I'm not proud of being involved in his deception towards his wife and when he told me he was thinking of giving in to her "demands" for a child, that's the only time I threatened to expose him to his wife. I worked in social services at the time and strongly believe children deserve better. I said, if after seeing the evidence of our "friendship" she loves and forgives you enough to still want a child with you and you guys commit to working on your marriage, great! Go figure, I was always the therapist to those I spent time with, eventually I got my own relationship! This guy went to absolute pieces one day when he rang me out of blue and I told him I just got married. Like, dude, you have known me 8 years! The child with his wife never happened and if I had anything to do with that... well, Karma might just be real, cos years later when my husband and I tried for a family the doctor tells him he could fertilise an Easter egg but doesn't know what could possibly be wrong with me! I have accepted this reality... but now I resolve to stay the hell out of other people's life dramas! Thanks to social media, I can tell you my former internet friend is still very much with this "awful woman", 21 years later! She has a good career and must be very smart. I'm sure she knew all along what he was about. Then again, her husband may just not be expressing his disappointment and unhappiness to her face the way he was behind her back. He may actually have her believing everything is just fine.

[@reyihangulialimujiang6402]

Wow, what an experience! I'm so glad you did what you did. You said you were always the therapist to those you spent time with, me too, I feel like a garbage bag sometimes because of it, could you please tell me how you got out of the therapist role?

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@purvamandlik4696]

@@reyihangulialimujiang6402 the therapist role is so much a childhood issue. My mother expected me to have a solution for everything, and anything could be my fault. I grew up with hypervigilance and people pleasing. I have been going through such videos and other internet support. I now accept that I don't have to do and be everything. That was my mother's lie to me, to keep me trapped. Every time I feel the urge to commit to do something to help someone or give something, I hold back. I just listen to them. At times, I may validate their feelings. I don't offer advice. If they ask, I just say I'm not trained for this. I say I'm sorry and just wait for them to leave. It takes a lot of practice to put yourself first, when you have always been put last. Practice helps 🙏🏼

[@reyihangulialimujiang6402]

​@@purvamandlik4696 Thank you for sharing your perspective in detail. I actually forgot that I've been called stupid and all sorts of names by my mother whenever I couldn't figure out a solution for something, your description of the origin helped me remember. And yes, that novel and uncomfortable thing -- putting myself first, I trained myself against it for so long that now I just automatically throw myself out the window whenever I'm near any human being, can't feel how I feel, don't have access to what I want etc. I guess I just need to start taking baby steps towards this "putting myself first" thing. Again, thank you so so much for your kindness 🙏

[@purvamandlik4696]

@@reyihangulialimujiang6402 it may be useful to imagine your inner child as a child alongside yourself. Think of what you would do for that child. Then do it for yourself.

[@mushroommagic1697]

Uhhh something similar happened to me. I was attracted by people who were kinda shady, played the poor person card, and gave me attention. By looking at it from a different perspective. I realized that, those men who give small bits of attention and played the poor me card are not serious, nor safe, and quite toxic. They are bored, they have so much free time and can wait for someone who can fall with them. Also they create a sphere, like a parallel universe, where there is you and him and it is made to be perfect and peacefull, like a Sanctuary. That is a trap. It helped me to realize that wait a minute, I have limerence again, I need to sit still and calm down, it is just another of that storms of illusion. It helps me to sit in the present moment and to ask myselc what opinion do I have about people, behaviors, things, ideas. A good thing is to acknowledge what I am doing and be still-not act despite the need to to something, plus a list of traits and things I accept or not accept in a person, plus a list with my preferences for a relationship.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Great work, thanks for sharing! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@GodiscomingBhappy]

Luna you are not alone feeling like you do. This channel just shows how many of us are on the same road to get our Lifes back. Married people are OFF the menu because they can-t provide what we deserve. Blessings to all.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing :) -Calista@TeamFairy

[@akferren1]

I was in a bad marriage and during a lonely and horrible time in my life I had an affair with a married man.. it was the worst thing I ever did to myself.. it triggered all of my childhood traumas.. if I could go back I’d never do it again and wish I never met the guy.. 3 years later and no contact, I’m still recovering emotionally

[@gracecase998]

So true with healing parts of your life one area at a time. I worked on job stuff first, as I need to eat and keep a roof over my head, next was eliminating toxic friends, then toxic family. Now relationship stuff which I think is the hardest. I accept breadcrumbs and crap fitting. Working on it. It's a process. Including an affair with co-worker. I broke my own rule and it ended up breaking my heart and my self worth took huge hit. I finally moved on from that job, it helped my peace.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for sharing your experience. -Cara@TeamFairy

[@slaveofgod7921]

would love to see a video on spotting healthy people , so we can learn to recognize them and not struggle ?

[@Random-Wanderer232]

If you take a quick look at her channel, you'll find a few videos on this topic 👍✨️

[@soleil7652]

I can't even remember now how I happened upon your channel, but thank you with all of my heart for sharing these videos. I am able to pick out information and situations from these letters that I did not see in my own relationships - so would not have been able to prevent and heal from. This video resonates so strongly with me as I recover from a recent relationship that sounded so much like this woman's. While mine was not a workplace relationship, I see so many parallels that help me relate and see that my relationship patterns are very much like this woman's. I was accepting crumbs and his future faking. I ignored his mistreatment of his ex-wife (whom he had not spoken to in three years, despite the fact that they still lived in the marital home with their FOUR children), and chose to believe his (probably false) explanations for his living situation. I ignored these giant red flags because this man was someone I've been acquainted with since high school, so I thought he was safe, because I knew who he was. When he neglected and mistreated me, I blamed my own dysfunctional reactions (honed in an 18 year relationship with an emotional abuser with Narcissistic Personality Disorder). My own magical thinking attracts me to partners like this, because it was how I survived a (normal, not abusive) childhood in which I felt neglected, unloved and unworthy.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We are thrilled the content is helping you! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@arianasilesia2500]

People complicate life so much regardless of anyones history. Everyone knows right from wrong. Talking to a married man is wrong it’s never okay.

[@lemsip207]

Why not? They are people too that you might have to deal with. As long as you keep it platonic.

[@bekabell1]

Thank you so much for your response! At 17 I got pulled into an affair with a married man - similar story, I was neglected and abused, and he seemed to be so caring and 'present' (when he was there) and could see me when I felt invisible, but ir was all a lie. A lie I gave myself to for years. Years of plastic fruit instead of dinner, making it impossible for me to discern 'real food' for decades. Thank you for speaking TRUTH

[@Daily_Bread84]

Hugs and love Luna. You are doing great. When the time is just right the man you want will appear. Blessings

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for sharing encouragement with our letter writer. Much appreciated! - Ashley, Team Fairy

[@marb1072]

I am Luna, minus the child. I had discovered you a couple months prior to hanging out with my coworker. When I met him I told him I was living my best life, I was doing all that you teach. He didn’t wear a ring, he didn’t mention being married, and it was to early for us to hangout and spend a lot of quality time together. He was so handsome, great conversationalist, he listened, I fell hard very fast. Yes, I have CPTSD. My father was an alcoholic, I’ve been married twice, and have a child with another man. Back to the disaster, Two months in and his wife found out and called our work and told our bosses. She moved out, and as much as I wanted to stay connected, I walked away. I have been the wife, with a small baby. I know what his wife is feeling. I have been through so much in my life, I’m 50. I know what I bring to the table, but I feel as though I’m worthless. I am back in therapy because I don’t want to continue living this way. Although Ill have to see this man at work, and all my coworkers know about what has transpired, I act like it doesn’t bother me, but inside I’m dying. I hate living this life. I’m trying to piece my life back together. Right now I’m angry, and I hate men.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're doing great and I hope you'll channel some of this anger into the Daily Practice, we would love to have you on a call - you are missing support and it's important to have when taking these healing steps. Daily Practice is a free course courses.crappychildhoodfairy.com -Cara@TeamFairy

[@BioShocking]

Please dont say that about yourself Mar B. You are not worthless. I am very sorry that he has made you feel like that.

[@hermit.masteroflight5970]

I am 9 years out of dating, and it is the best thing I could have ever done. You should only date after having gonecthrough a long period of being single and totally happy.. thst way you are sure that you are not going to become dependent on a future partner. Stop seeing love everytime someone smiles at you! Stop convincing yourself that every cramb is going to suffice to make sure happy. Stop seeing with a positive view a person who just made a baby and a few months later is arguing that he/she was unhappy. If someone has a baby is because he/she made that baby a few months ago with someone else!

[@HandleHandle233]

I don’t recommend getting involved with co workers even if neither of you are partnered or married. That is not for us.

[@katierojas8066]

The girl in the letter needs EMDR therapy. I’m a therapist and I have referred clients w serious trauma to EMDR specialists. It works.

[@wildrose12.47]

I am getting great results from EMDR. I am finally learning to leave my abuse and shame behind. No more bad relationships. EMDR has a cumulative effect, where it keeps healing your brain long after any specific sessions. I have had great results and will recommend to anyone with trauma.

[@julief7234]

His kind, understanding words are his way of grooming you into an affair. He is a narcissist and maybe a sex addict. He wants the validation for himself. If he is cheating on his wife he will do it to you. Run. He will drop you and move on to another as soon as he gets what he wants.

[@onelittledropintheocean]

Two words for this kind of man ... Emotional predator! These characters are scary and VERY dangerous. They remind me of a vampire that seduces his victim so she can't resist the bite that will either kill her or make her a vampire too. And let's not forget that a vampire needs his supply from countless people, not just one.

[@quietreflections18]

Great video! I like the plastic apple analogy - provides a great visual! Thank you so much, Crappy Childhood Fairy and Team!

[@maryannecomment3302]

People are sometimes attracted to people with the same feelings or background. It feels like being understood en being able to learn something from another traumatized person. The collegue that loves you from a distance is either someone, who experienced the same trauma's, like you did or someone who is able to pretend that he did. In either way is this a bad situation for you. You have to be happy that he is already married because he is bad news for you. It is better for you to look for people with the same experiences in a therapeutic way, which is what you try to do now. People, who are really interested in you as a potential partner, do not behave like your collegue.

[@sunshinerainbows4627]

Young girls and seasoned professionals alike should unite on this one! We'll leave the "play along with the men" types in the dust. If the man (or woman, women cheat too) has a wedding ring this is not an easy fix and a baby is even harder. With Anna, if you stop and think before it happens, you'll feel absolutely terrible hurting the child more than the wife possibly because you are a hurt child. Notes 📝 to consider: 1. Married men(or women) can turn the charm on and off (the off button hurts as much as the on button feels good). 2. The man may be Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde (you see the happy person and the wife gets the cold shoulder, if you end up with him you become the wife) 3. Wedding rings sometimes come off (don't use a wedding ring as a sign, it can come off yet divorce papers are harder to handle and not easily followed through on) 4. In the world of business you may be eye candy and a source of ideas to further his career and the business. Question for Crappy Childhood Fairy 🧚‍♀️..... How can women play to win? Women with moms who don't take to them fall for all the tricks until they don't and then it's flat out bullying and harassment. What's a girl to do? P.S. The goal is to keep working and gain respect, not play little boy games.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

More women healed will mean more women supporting other women :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@arianasilesia2500]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy Once again the men have the power. It is so interesting how women turn on each other for a man 🤔 I don’t think too many men do that they actually cover for each other unspoken male rules 🤔

[@lemsip207]

My mother warned me about older married men hitting on school leavers at work when I started my first full time job, other than holiday jobs, at 19. Only it didn't happen for me as I was working with mostly single men my age or a bit older. Might have something to do with my mother living and working in South Wales where she grew up whereas I lived and worked in Southern England. Then when I moved back to Wales at the age of 35 it was a different story.

[@yuk498]

Affairs like these actually cement a marriage that could otherwise end. Because the married person has the marriage, kid and now also the emotional support. The way it starts is the way it ends. Who says he won't have two or three parallel affairs while being married. Married men and women who want to have affairs do have such stories of how their spouse is controlling. Well, how do you know you are his first affair?

[@marqann]

Totally true, I had an affair with a married man , it completely saved his marriage

[@lillybethford1915]

My friend, to have an affair is one the most selfish thing anyone can do to another person. Then, to compound it with the ridiculous belief that the affair strengthened or saved the marriage, it’s completely absurd. Perhaps, telling oneself that you helped saved a marriage, is simply a coping mechanism..to avoid guilt and accountability. If/when a partner has an affair, it damages the trust permanently, and the cheated partner never feels the same about him/her. Although, he/she may remain in the relationship, it’s never the ‘same, or better’…as, some might want to believe. Marriage is a sacred institution, ordained by God, and once it’s violated, both, cheating parties will reap destruction. I will pray for you.☮️

[@marqann]

@@lillybethford1915 But the wife doesn't know, she just knows, that her husband suddenly changed from a very unhappy man to a much happier one. Things are not always simple, and if you want me punished, don't worry, the one who is left unhappy is me...

[@yuk498]

@@marqann you could read about the emotional triangulation theory by Murray Bowen. I hope things get better for you.

[@thedocasianmedicine6549]

@@marqann People say the wife doesn't know, they are ALWAYS wrong. The wife always knows. The energy of a spouse giving away their own life force that would have been given to the marriage is palpable, even if the spouse does not intellectually "know". Lies are "felt" by the whole family. And the children feel every ounce of energy that should have been for them that is mis directed to a mistress. The whole household feels it. The consequences for the children are horrible and ongoing. Such cruelty is unnecessary.

[@mariaramos8267]

Young people are so lucky to have you. I trieded so many things but without knowing the root and the symptoms and that conexion, nothing results.

[@susiflorence6960]

They are. I so wish this had been available when I was in my 20's + 30's.

[@robinwalker961]

She TOTALLY dropped the hammer!!!! I have done this too and I feel like she was talking to me..

[@annamaria9899]

Nicely said. I fell in love with just married man in our office, we were close but he was not behaving like giving me any chance romantically. I left the company ( I was leaving it anyway) and wrote him that we cannot be friends anymore cause I fell in love with him and we cannot be in contact and its hard for me and was sorry for that. I think he was surprised, because I did no show it on me that I was in love with him. But he accepted it and since that tíme its calm. It was difficult in the beginning. But each day it was better and better. Now its almost 3 months and I am starting to be fine 🙂. Regarding the lady with baby and controlling stuff, all my friends who have babies are like that, especially when on maternity leave, we have it here 3 years for woman with baby. They are more vulnerable and more dependant in this period, its very challenging for most couples.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@aylen3322]

“Cotton candy plastic apple love” wow. Nice phrasing. So good ! This video was so en pointe!!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you liked it!! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@rachelmaxwell5953]

Luna - sending you heaps of self-love and self-faith! I was a vulnerable mess in my teens, 20s & 30s. Education from people like our dear crappy childhood fairy has opened my eyes. Learning about narcissistic personality traits is also crucial I believe! To be informed is like putting on some magic armour. Dr C of the 'surviving narcissism' KZbin channel is also a gem and, in my opinion, the perfect compliment to Anna here. Big hug to you and anyone else here in the same boat ⛵🤗

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

thank you for the encouraging post :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@tewwonwonii8462]

15:20. Cold bit of reality. Excellent.

[@danip6648]

Thanks for this one. You nailed the authentic answers she needed to hear! God bless you!

[@susie5254]

I hope "Luna" and everyone in this type of scenario will take a leap, follow your instructions, set boundaries, and begin to realize their true worth even though there is a difficult adjustment to make not falling for the first thing to ease the pain/boredom/ restlessness. Stick it out, fight the temptation, and life will get so much better.

[@estherclark820]

Anyway, Anna, I always find your content spot on! Thankyou.

[@jordynbabywoods]

Much needed wake up calls, although I was already coming to a lot of these conclusions on my own. You’re doing good work 💯🙏🏾☮️

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks so much for your support of the Channel! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@rinnswimmer]

I’d love to see a video on this topic (chasing the feeling of being loved) but applied to friendships. I feel like I’ve struggled with self-doubt, intensity of emotions, and confusion about boundaries in that area.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Noted! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@color2066]

Anna, you’re so awesome and helpful. Thanks for always being real

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks so much for your support of the Channel! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@wildrose12.47]

Your best video ever, Anna. I’ve watched them all for several years. I rewatch my favorites. Brava for your no nonsense love and answers for Luna!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Yay! Thank you! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@cherylbrigid5781]

After 2 decades and many, many children, youngest was a toddler, my then husband cheated with a coworker. It ended the marriage. I stood in line for Catholic confession next to her as she cried about knowing it's wrong to be with a married man. I looked her straight in the eyes and told her that if he'll cheat with her, he'll cheat on her. She thought she was the bomb. And he eventually did her dirty too. My teen boys laughed at her because their dad played her, talking to other women. They call it "Dropping the phone" because he would be telling thots "I love you" and would drop his phone when her call would interrupt his other lovey-dovey conversations. Cptsd really sux. Mine, his, and OW.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

What a story, thanks for sharing. -Cara@TeamFairy

[@Eighteen19]

WOW. Run. Just run is all I’d say to this lady.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@debbiegeshem687]

Appreciate you standing up for this man's wife.

[@elspethfougere9683]

Thank you anna, i really needed to hear this today.. Not that ive been in this situation directly, but I do know what its like to tolerate crumbs and justify it as good enough, and make excuses to myself for someone elses choices and let them play me.. Its so painful to witness the whole cycle, and I do see my life slipping by and know how worthwhile attending to this is. Especially your acknowledgement of the usefulness of the pain, that the pain serves us to take the message and move on. Its so easy to continue making excuses under the nomer of being compassionate, but we deserve that first and foremost for ourselves

[@mariaramos8267]

You are so right. It keeps being worst and it destroys.

[@christinajackson3461]

Change two details and this is a letter I myself could have written. My emotional affair with a married man was a few years ago and the fairy is absolutely correct.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for sharing! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@lemsip207]

Meeting your partner at work is one thing as long as you remember that there is no office divorce and you were both single. Breaking up with your partner if you are still in the same job is very difficult. That happened to a housemate of mine and he took the relationship break up very badly. We all thought he was out every night when instead he was at home in his bedroom with the light off.

[@sigrid3553]

I 100% agree with you in the way you advice this lady. Wonderful arguments, you want the best for her - not only crumbs.. Brilliant video.

[@bradywebb3430]

The process is worth it, stick with it. I know from experience

[@estherclark820]

Was just thinking about a family member who is caught up in a grand delusion (yes, like an addiction). How awful the moments must feel when he experiences doubt, yet it's in those moments he's closest to finding healing and freedom from the grip the delusion has on him.

[@crystalssuch6818]

Anna I respect and admire you so much.

[@claudiarobinson587]

I have watched your videos for a while. I have been through all abuse and more than once. I feel so broken broken. My finance is dying. He is under hospice care. His heart is working at 25 percent or less. His personality has changed. He is grumpy. He doesn't want to be touched or messed with. I have no family support. My mother has treated me badly since childhood. I often feel like I am adopted. There is no connection. My parents divorced when I was 10. She left for a year with no contract. I have ms and fibro and ra and more. She tried 3 times to put me in a nursing home. I recently made the sentence that I don't know where I will live after mark dies. I only get 800.00 a month. My rent is 1000.00. Her reply was an assisted living. I said no ma'am. I will find a way. I am taking care of Mark alone and me and she wants to put me away. My only sibling is 12 hours away. He is a controller. He is loving to everyone else but me. We went through hell together as teens. I have a sweet friend who is a God sent. She is more of a mother friend. She text me daily and often. She knows alot of my secrets. Because of her I have gone 3 weeks without hurting me. She helped me through the dark days and still cares. She is teaching me to love me. I look into the mirror now with the light on and say I am smart. I am beautiful. I am loveable. I am love. I'm slowly beginning to believe my words. I have a eating disorder. I am a water color artist and gel inks artist. I have recently sold some of my work. I don't do drugs or drink or smoke. I walk a mile most days. I walk a lap or 2 and come in to check on mark. Hospice comes once a week. He has boys. They live 2 hours away. I just want someone to just hold me and let me cry. I'm tired of being alone and broken.

[@johngallagher72]

So sorry to hear of your struggles . Thoughts and prayers to you both. 🙏❤🙏. From what you described you have an inner strength and resolve many of us will never know.

[@MD-pm2kr]

Claudia I’m so sorry to hear that. You seem like an incredibly strong person. Know that you are loved and people here are praying and rooting for you and for Mark. ❤️🫶 Also that’s amazing that you were able to sell some of your artwork- maybe that’s something you could continue.

[@claudiarobinson587]

@@johngallagher72 thank you. Are you in NH?

[@claudiarobinson587]

@@MD-pm2kr thank you.

[@RootBound505]

What horrible and painful circumstances you are enduring. I wonder if Hospice has any resources for the support YOU need. I’ve said the same regarding being held, crying, alone and broken. Our world has moved far away from care and connection. ❤️ to you

[@marqann]

Doing it right now, ended my affair, wotking closely with him every day. I do like an alcoholic, one day at a time. Keep it strictly business. But it's hard, very hard. Listen to you daily to keep myself on track. It's kind oof a relief too though. But I'm fightning my fears, "I'll never find a good man" "No one I can love, who'll love me" ect...I'm not young..

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

We are behind you! Congratulations on this important step. -Cara@TeamFairy

[@christinajackson3461]

I'm 39 and I feel that way. Losing hope but also retaining myself to think "what is my mission is not to be a girlfriend but something else altogether."

[@joyporter1188]

We talk about these feelings every day at LAA. Come learn about withdrawl and create a new life for yourself.

[@jordane8526]

@@christinajackson3461 Christina no one’s soul mission is to be a gf or a wife. Our souls are so much bigger than that 💛

[@annc6417]

Valuable words! Every one of them! Thanks Anna!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for listening! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@Juliss4jul]

Thank you so much for this! I am going through something very similar right now (although thankfully without a real third party) and your (sometimes blunt 💗) words do help A LOT. Especially the part when you described how me being in such situation is actually me being used. And that’s me abandoning myself. Thank you.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You're welcome. Glad this video was helpful. - Ashley, Team Fairy

[@danaezama5701]

You are one good quality therapist. This video has the best advice in it. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You are so welcome! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@almaconnor9171]

Omg. This was me, 1000%. I’m not perfect by any means but am quite aware of this behavior. So glad at least I stopped.

[@jbreezy5959]

I was cheated on several times by my first boyfriend in my twenties, it was devastating. I also have witnessed a close friend who was in an affair. I was able to see both sides to this story and it's not good on either side. But there is divine order and karmic righting from previous lives. We are here at this time learning and it can be really tough. Hopefully she finds her worth and heals the part that just wants to be loved at any cost. ❤.

[@cadencechrome4783]

Wise words. We have to grow up to the reality that we must protect and value ourselves. It's been proven to us that no one else has.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Yes! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@Lexi_Con]

I tried to look at this scenario from each one's perspective, and regardless of who's cheating, lying, enabling, or being used/manipulated... a CHILD is involved. They/we probably wouldn't be in that situation if not for their OWN dysfunctional or neglectful parents. Luna would be better equipped with boundaries & more likely able to resist the attention & interest that sparks such good feelings, esp when one is lonely or has been denied healthy love. Perhaps the male coworker would respect his wife & marriage more if he didn't have his own issues. And so on... *WE ARE THE BABY, in a sense. It's hard but maybe the cycle can be broken if we think about it that way. A child doesn't deserve the impending chaos, just like we didn't when we were young & innocent.

[@Woodman-Spare-that-tree]

I wish I’d seen this video, or that someone had given me this talk, 50 years ago. I love the cotton candy analogy. It is like being addicted to sugar.

[@PutTheShovelDown]

I love the plastic apple metaphors! 🍎

[@LoveFaithLive]

Excellent! Every single point you made Anna, so true.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks for watching! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@AthenaIsabella]

AHHHH I was just thinking about this thank you!!!

[@dawnmaestascowell6930]

U are so helpful! Omg I'm 62

[@karenKristal]

I always feel so surprised when people say they have many bad relationships and do things like 'take a year off' I literally cant get anyone to notice me ever. Normal periods of being single for me are like 10 years. What are you all doing to get someone to notice you are alive??

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Getting out there and connecting :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@karenKristal]

@@CrappyChildhoodFairy on second thoughts, nah, people who do get out an connect seem to be having a worse time! #staysafe xx

[@WTG194]

@@karenKristal then why did ask if you don't want the answer?

[@karenKristal]

@@WTG194 just thinking out loud. I do wonder how people meet people, but then the idea of putting yourself out there and then having a load of bad experiences seems too scary

[@estelayer3138]

You are so precious, can't say thank you enough for your videos ❤️

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You are so kind :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@lazulil.3951]

Perfect!!

[@indian.patterns]

Thank you Anna. You are a very beautiful person for helping us out. 😘

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

You are so welcome! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@dianemoril7612]

Those of us who haven’t experienced addiction to illicit subtences won’t understand how it works. You have to choose an example that we all know: toxic relationships. When I met each of my exes, it was a fairy tale. I saw them as perfect men. if someone had asked me to leave them for one reason or another (and it happened once), I would have refused and I would have sworn that this man was the man of my life and I was willing to sacrifice everything for him. And in the end, he wasn’t the man of my life and all I got was to turn a blind eye to house-sized warning signs. We must remember this and put our situation in perspective: there are signs that the man who seduces us is not valid. and our emotions twisted by our PTSD prevent us from reacting properly. So we have to decide in advance that in the presence of certain signs, we will stop the relationship no matter how much we think we’re in love and suffering. In hindsight we will see the situation more clearly, and the regrets will disappear. There is also a detail I learned a little while ago: to survive an abusive family, the child learns to be empathetic. because he needs to be sure of situations where he is safe and others where his abusive parent could hurt him or abandon him. So very often, children from abusive families become super-empathic adults. And that’s a huge trap. In a stressful situation we enter survival mode and our inner empath takes control. It means that we give up our true self to care only for what the other person senses, wants, or refuses. and that’s how and why we abandon ourselves. It’s very nice and helpful to be an empath, but not if it overwhelms our entire existence. As adults, empaths must learn to differentiate between what they want and what others want. not only intellectually, but emotionally as well: "ah! So that’s how you feel! ah that’s what you want! and me then, how do I feel about all that?" I realized that if I had done this exercise with all my exes, I would have realized much earlier that they were toxic. For several months now, I’ve been practicing doing this with all my relationships. and I’ve noticed that all situations where I feel pressured are situations where my inner empath is trying to decide for me. if a person subject to PTSD does these two exercises systematically: obey the alarm signals even if it breaks ones heart, and listen separately to his inner empath and his own emotions, I would say that he has already done 80% of the convalescent work. my ptsd brothers and sisters, fighting!

[@sarahalessa78]

You explained that brilliantly!

[@dianemoril7612]

@@sarahalessa78 thank you (english not being my language I appreciate)

[@namelessbrat7197]

That's a useful strategy. Thank you!

[@melanieinthecity]

Great advice. For all parties.

[@mariruutinen]

Thanks for the realness, Fairy.

[@saycog1084]

I was compared to to my father on things that are considered good, but my mother would say them with a rage. Things like washing my hands all the time, not liking to have sugar sticky hands, for liking to read books. It seems that she hated everything about him.

[@mariansmith7694]

Absolutely correct

[@blackbearhomestead]

NOT ONE MARRIAGE IS WEAK ENOUGH for an intruder from the outside. For better or worse. No excuse. If a man is married, get out of the house that you did not buy. It’s not your home nor your family.

[@cherylbrigid5781]

When the intruder is invited in by the very person who vowed to love, cherish and protect you, it certainly is enough to destroy the marriage. It takes two to have a marriage and one to leave it. That said, I do agree that people need to mind their own beeswax and stay out of the marriage of monogamous couples. If a spouse is so unhappy, there's therapy or divorce. No need to cheat.

[@cindyluwho602003]

So well said, Anna.

[@Am-js1ue]

I really needed to this In my situation the person is not married though. But I realised It's very Unhealthy for me. I think he has Mother issues & I've father issues. He's kinda anxious and I'm avoidant. I really want to stop this & not live in limerence. It's so tempting when someone is so nice, caring & gives you so much attention. Huh I don't want to fall for it. I knew there's something wrong here. But Now it's clear to me. Thanks

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

I'm so glad you found it helpful! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@unamurray4279]

The exhaustion is very telling and normal. Mind yourselves gently. Good luck.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

The encouragement is appreciated :) -Cara@TeamFairy

[@tishmfey]

She's in serious limerence. She's addicted and the same parts of the brain are being activated like in a drug addiction. And like a drug addiction, she will need to go into detox and go no contact. If she must be in the same room then she must gray rock and detach. I know this pain she describes because I have been there. I hope she finds her power and peace.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thank you for the support of the writer! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@fourthgirl5028]

You are so on spot. I’ve been there. It’s a dead end and you deserve more. Start

[@GodswarriorEsther]

THANK YOU

[@krys8830]

He's using the oldest lie in the book...

[@libbypaige6160]

100%!!

[@FlorisV82]

I love the plastic 🍎 comparison. Very fair. Thanks.

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Thanks, glad you're here! -Cara@TeamFairy

[@Rapunzel1122]

I was told t he same thing : “ u r just like your father ....” like it was a sin and I do look like my father which I came to realise much later in life wasn’t such a bad thing coz he was magnetic somehow ... Anyhow, u do feel degraded and guilty and faulty and that’s so unfair to a child, just a child .... Thank you Anna for your videos !!! I always find myself in the things you talk about . Thank you !!!

[@susiflorence6960]

Me too. 'You are JUST like your father..I need to beat it out of u'...she never beat me..but so damaging. 'God loves us unconditionally..He accepts us completely He has forgiven me totally. I am a whole person in Christ'

[@Rapunzel1122]

@@susiflorence6960 your faith is inspiring!!!!!! Wish I had it !!!! Thank you 🙏

[@susiflorence6960]

@@Rapunzel1122 Dr Charles Stanley. Dr. David Jeremiah. Joni Eareckson Tada..are my 3 'Tellers'..all available on Utube..changed my life. But more was needed due to those 'parents' God gave me. By the way...I may 'look like your masturbating father'..her words.and yes.i was a child.. but I know i am created in the very image of God. HIS Handiwork..well planned ..since the beginning of Time. 'Before I knit u together in your mother's womb. I. Knew. YOU'...'You are fearfully + wonderfully made'...

[@Rapunzel1122]

@@susiflorence6960 thank you 🙏 I will listen to them. And I really like the sentence before the womb he knew me, that I felt once in my life in a time of emotional pain so I feel these words. Strange thing is that this morning I woke up around 6:30 and my only feeling was gratitude for everything : for the light I can see through the window, for my beautiful dogs, for my best friend who I’m meeting up with today, for the fact that I am here and can see and feel and even for my broken now car. Gratitude and my heart is so content . Thank you for your words and much light your way as well!!! 🙏🙏🙏

[@susiflorence6960]

@@Rapunzel1122 ❤ 😍..so if our 'mothers' have a problem with us resembling our 'fathers'..its an issue they need 2 take up with God..but God did say, 'whoa to him (or her) who quarrels with his Maker.' ''Does the clay ask the Potter..why are u making me this way'..have a lovely time with your friend today. 😊

[@tracimatkoski9656]

Cotton candy, plastic apple men that made me laugh out loud! What a perfect description of the men and the type relationships I have been picking! IT IS NOT REAL and it never will have the outcome you deserve!

[@CrappyChildhoodFairy]

Glad you enjoyed it! -Cara@TeamFairy