Why self improvement is ruining your life

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Description babble (aka, pleading to the algorithm gods):This video is about self improvement, self development, self help, and why all of that can be a good or a bad thing depending on your outlook. It can either ruin your life, or make it worth living. I'm Joey Schweitzer, this is Better Ideas, and I don't know what else to say... Somebody post a meme to the subreddit because it's dying.
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[@betterideas]

Take a shot every time I say "self improvement"

[@abread1094]

Love your work Joey srsly was watching your overstimulation video didn't expect this

[@jakewachholz1845]

I’m already drunk

[@azure7802]

Not tryna kill my liver with vodka man

[@happyyouarehere8527]

You gotta take action. That's the bottom line. It's a balance, if you're just bumbling about not examining your action, you'll make a lot of avoidable mistakes, but knowledge is useless. Knowledge in action is gold. Thanks for this perspective.

[@JennB]

I would have loved to hear you say “draygen” more than once :)

[@michaelrosen6814]

The irony is that this video is actually a self improvement video.

[@niklas5948]

My thoughts exactly! Isn't this guy's whole channel about self improvement?

[@mcod99]

i do find it funny that this dude is contributing to the problem with self improvement industry with his channel

[@oanhtran2218]

@@niklas5948 I think his point is to not surround your life around self-improvement rather than pursuing and living life. Like he does. Basically, do less consuming and more doing. He is not the same as his viewers. He is doing less consuming and doing more. Aka focusing on his KZbin career, outside work, experiencing life and help advising people. Self help is useless if thats all you surround your improvement by. Find a passion outside self help so you can actually implement it to be beneficial. Yes self help can be useful, however if all your focus is on self-help, it won’t get you to the same place as the people you may look up to. That’s why he brought up successful people. Focus on doing. (Learning about topics you are passionate about, going outside, exploring, learning new hobbies) rather than consuming self help n being isolated

[@eavyeavy2864]

@@mcod99 tell people they are shit, convince them you can makr them better. Motovator are just less obvious manipulator

[@Kkkllkll]

@@mcod99 I see that it wents over some peoples heads what he is saying. He's saying at the beginning not that self improvment is bad. He's commenting on the collective ego that comes in communities like that. Wasn't so hard to figure out.. :p

[@AnwarSadath787]

Spend 20 percent of your time learning and 80 percent practicing what you learn. That's the way to go.

[@PA-eo7fs]

Tell that to Warren Buffet who spends 99% of his time learning and less than 1% executing. If self-improvement goes, let’s take singular phrases to embody success haha

[@yeh2248]

@@PA-eo7fs Oh yeah, all his investments are made automatically by a robot 🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️🤦🏿‍♂️

[@civilizedmonster]

@Didac Cerver you're right.

[@ivanivany7762]

That's beautiful

[@stiloskenbri9562]

I noted this in my notebook. So right

[@friedrichs.8004]

Self improvement is never making your Life worse but you have to take action. Thats what it is all about.

[@lacroixphonk]

??? dumb

[@edgardanishh]

Summary: Preparation, planning and learning is key, but don’t overdo it. Take action, you are running out of time!

[@takezomiyamoto1390]

perfect recipe to build up stress and anxiety

[@hendrikkiefer3325]

@Takezo Miyamoto but he is right. Marcus Aurelius was right. The stoic philosophers all understood that out time on this earth is limited and you got to live life at the fullest

[@beastfromtheabyss666]

@Hendrik Kiefer what does living life to fullest even mean? You can't live life to the fullest everyday. That a recipe or anxiety and depression.

[@Gamer-vs3xl]

@@beastfromtheabyss666 it just means to enjoy one's life.

[@fake10hourentertainment17]

It’s also that if you’re always obsessed with self improvement to the end of time then you’ll never feel grateful about reaching your goals. You’ll simply have disappointment in yourself over not having yet reached a goal even further than the one you originally set. As a middle schooler who couldn’t even do a single push-up, I would’ve dreamed of having “average” chest strength, but now that I have average chest strength I feel just as miserable compared to muscular people. It’s the hedonic treadmill.

[@chocolatymilk2402]

moral of the story: just go out and live, don't over obsess with improving your life without living it.

[@AlexiaHDIntuition]

Yah carpe diem really ;-) Humans put so much pressure on their lives because it's the only thing they learned sadly!!

[@deadchannel443]

As a late teen desperately trying to make an philosophical equilibrium in the pandemic, i defo need this.

[@AlexiaHDIntuition]

@@deadchannel443 it’s wonderful that you are able to assess your needs to better yourself 💕

[@deadchannel443]

@@AlexiaHDIntuition I’ve sort of gained a few ideals, such as to avoid jealousy, inferior complex and validation (has been my biggest struggle coming back to school) but having ideals while being in a conversation has been hellish because I have million different things in my mind obstructing with being simply present. For something that cures social anxiety it creates more. Self improvement is only valuable when you actually help yourself.

[@AlexiaHDIntuition]

@@deadchannel443 U R welcome ;-)

[@staycold547]

„WHY EVERYTHING IS RUINING YOUR LIFE?” This should be the ultimate video

[@jasenkavukelic5047]

Why life is ruining your life?

[@roses6799]

Jasenka Vukelić why is your life ruining your life ruining your life

[@SamMartinPeakPerformance]

nailed it haha

[@RyanMolkentin]

"WHY RUINING YOUR LIFE IS RUINING YOUR LIFE"

[@Revitalized367]

@@jasenkavukelic5047 good question

[@makurei6888]

"Like what else you gonna do? Get worse?" Exactly what I've been doing for 2 years now.

[@ju999X]

Yep fuckin same man i’m ready to just go

[@macieclinee]

Like I keep thinking I hit rock bottom but it js goes sm deeper

[@kifayatullah6761]

Why I wouldn’t have thought about this dark side of obsessive self improvement. Thank you for sharing this hidden perspective.

[@millionaire-millennial]

Better to hack and slash through life with a dull sword than sit inside with a sharp one. I really like that. 🗡

[@kalleanka2796]

hack AND slash *

[@youngbazzy3751]

I agree but I like the japanese quote better: 'I'd rather be a warrior in the garden then a gardener in a war.'

[@zuraxle5012]

why not go around the forest

[@yashwantchoudhari2080]

@@youngbazzy3751 its meaning is entirely a different thing it doesn't relate with the video

[@padrinozerocool]

sounds like a gaming quote. :) which is applicable in real life as well. :) hmmmmmmm

[@soonny002]

It's like reading a cookbook but never actually cooking. haha

[@pjswag2118]

Good one

[@medonja9361]

why did i read it as cockbook wtf

[@pjswag2118]

@@medonja9361 I at first read it as cockblock but never actually sucking. I'm a recovering porn addict bro, I'm still feeling the side effects a year later 😭

[@medonja9361]

@@pjswag2118 dang brooo thats tough 😂

[@pjswag2118]

@@medonja9361 yeah, I was a mega addict in my past bruh, I thought I was over with that shit

[@navaneethgopal1862]

Last week I ran my first 5k without stopping and all the time I could hear the voice in my head saying that I can do it. Forwago, thank you so much for everything!!

[@LiamMartyn]

A noble pursuit: Do more. Say less.

[@muffinberg7960]

is ruining your life?

[@LiamMartyn]

@@muffinberg7960No I'm saying it's a noble pursuit rather than just talking about what you want to do without applying yourself

[@muffinberg7960]

@@LiamMartyn is ruining your life? =)

[@PapolloDraws]

Yes. If you spend your life planing and planing but not doing nothing at the end you might not know anything

[@LiamMartyn]

@@PapolloDraws Exactly 👍

[@Nazrininator]

A more appropriate title would be this: Why the obsession of self-improvement is ruining your life

[@fatimasamira3695]

I agree 👍

[@avananana]

Wouldn't get enough clicks. Not attacking him or anything, I'm with him completely here, the title holds and it's not a false title and it delivers what it says. But youtubers also need to make some money. Making the title more attractive to clicking on isn't being a bad human, it's smart advertising, until it becomes false advertising, or as we on youtube call it, clickbait.

[@lomoplateado8402]

I notice that since a months ago, I only prefer to pursue my legitimit goals that I want and that's it!. I have live in a poor family, I only want a better house, better food, better clothes, to certain degree, and stay "stock" in there until I feel the need to improve something else, that's how I feel moving free and with confort in life, if sometimes I need to be more rigid some times on certain things, then I do it, follow your gut, sometimes I complain I let the place to feel like shit some times. In my opinion support the values, ideas, paradigms, that makes you feel better, that makes you feel that you have a normal bearable life, that makes you feel satisfied 80% of the time.

[@ali-nt1fv]

​@@avananana No, the title is false , it clearly makes us think the problem is self improvment. I feel I wasted my time because there was nothing new. I already watched another youtuber talking exacly the same thing but with the appropriate title. I clicked curious to see why he is saying self improvement is a problem and if the title was right, I would not had wasted my time. "...need to make some money". It does not justify misleading titles and you talk as if he doesn't make much money. He probably makes more than us all combined in this discussion. But we have this mentality nowadays that to sell something using such tricks is "smart" instead of unethical.

[@lovebug7923]

Definitely agree with that one. It would give a bit more context as what he is trying to say. Throughout the beginning of the video, I thought he was spouting nonsense until I got to the end, but it was completely different from the title of the video.

[@---GOD---]

IMO, self improvement means growing as a human both mentally and emotionally. It's about learning to deal with the ups and downs of life and being content with your own life. It's about seeing where you're lacking, finding solutions to it, making those changes, and building good habits. You don't need to be the best at everything. It could be as simple as drinking more water and making it a part of your daily routine. You have to accept the problem, find a solution, and just start. Be persistent and watch the results over time.

[@TheLily97232]

So living life ?

[@---GOD---]

@@TheLily97232 Everyone lives, not everyone grows.

[@michaelnolan6515]

The knight and sword metaphor is SPOT ON!! Love it!!

[@wyattthacker3679]

At that point it isn't self-improvement that's damaging you, it's acknowledging self-improvement without executing it that does damage

[@Unknown-nm3db]

Couldn't have said it better

[@untungmuhammadlaksamana9814]

Like practice to talk in front of mirror, that is self-improvement too.

[@wyattthacker3679]

@John Wick exactly, people go on and on about how they need to improve. But they never DO it. It's always some procrastination

[@praketh1056]

bruh well said this is extremely true

[@TishSerg]

@@wyattthacker3679 omg where can I get that sweater?

[@gabrielgrigore526]

I hate the fact that "self improvement" has become a cult of people that endorse toxic positivity. Working on yourself is amazing. Pretending that everything is possible is not!

[@JMXCzw]

Cult🤔

[@misole999]

everything is possible

[@jasenkavukelic5047]

Smart kid!

[@marcweienfels3609]

pretending that everything is fun and games 24/7 wouldve been a greater way to describe it (my opinion) otherwise I totally agree with you... but literally everything is possible tho

[@mksk4395]

@@misole999 nope, it is not. In the fundamentals of logic, it's not.

[@DMviewerguy]

This should be the channel front page video, this is the big takeaway for sure. You find yourself in these places because you get knocked down or you're down on your luck, but no amount of sharpening the sword really fixes anything on its own as obvious as that seems like it is. Not being able to gain new skills just by studying up is something I had to learn the hard way in my college years, and it basically applies the same here but with being the version of you you want to be. That intangible confidence and wisdom doesn't just turn on eventually, you just have to actually be gripped by what you actually do in whatever you're after and start powering through being the not-so-desirable version of yourself you are now in the moment, because beyond just realizing the dreams of being better you _do_ still _right now_ really care about and want the stuff you need to do.

[@miguelbaez-montano2486]

you’ve elaborated a solution for an obsession that’s bombarding. I’ve never realized the amount of time I’d lose if I kept going like this. Thank you.

[@FutureMindset]

We spend far too long sharpening our swords rather than actually slashing and hacking. We're almost fooling ourselves into thinking that we're growing but we're just stuck in our comfort zones.

[@HolyCodzta]

For sure. I've built a wealth of knowledge from listening to many great people online that will surely come in handy at some point, but as of right now only a tiny portion of it is getting put to use.

[@FutureMindset]

@@HolyCodzta The main goal should be implementation instead of rampant consumption. If productivity is measured based on output, then we'll be doing a lot more with our lives.

[@davidcox4980]

But we get out of them one slice at a time.

[@jamien.5528]

Yeah...been there done that :(

[@altamuramarc]

in short: self improvement is only best suited for those who take ACTION

[@mohaglade4892]

very clear and simple

[@LisaOnyimonyi]

Period

[@chuck7228]

I think self improvement techniques are tools which should be actively applied to achieve things you're intrinsically, genuinely into.

[@cautarepvp2079]

as with everything lol

[@Ayat4q]

I couldn’t agree more 👏

[@Hassan-GnB]

This is the truth. Ran into this issue and am currently on stress leave from work because of it. Have been doing great in life but was never happy or satisfied. Put myself down if I wasn't 100% on point. Would get angry when I didn't have time to read. Was chasing the next "improvement". Feeling better now and this video is great to hear.

[@haydn2097]

everything has to be done with apprecation. Appreciate the life you're living and love improving at things in it. Love life, and everything about it.

[@declandaveywork-lifebalanc4986]

Agreed... Self-improvement can turn into self-sabotage when taken to extremes.

[@flonn_]

You have to find a limit then, listen to your body, don't rush anything and Self-Improvement will work much better

[@jenesaisvraimentpasquoimet8473]

@sly dankass what do you mean ?

[@kmp8985]

Does self care count as being stuck in the comfort zone? I have anxiety and trying my best to find things to relax me but now I feel guilty for feeling I should be doing more.

[@lastprophet9904]

Internet: how to self improve. Also internet: how self improvement is ruining you.

[@Vincorin]

Wait what? A medium offering opposing standpoints?? Unbelievable...

[@yadanada4106]

Yes, a lot of contradictions and it can get quite confusing listening to everyone’s belief system. I think everyone should just do what works best for them. Trust yourself and just go for it, whatever it is. If you want to “self improve” then do it! We just have to learn to have a balance and not obsess

[@JR-gq3ww]

No it is just this idiot.

[@grandhustla101boi]

😂

[@peace-to-the-world]

F = -F (c) sir Isaac Newton

[@ArcasDevlin]

This is why every time I watch one of these videos, I pedal my stationary bike at the same time. I'm in bad shape, and watching the videos gives me ideas, but ideas are nothing without action... so I make certain to be doing something and not just watching.

[@jomk5731]

I've watched this before when you first posted it, but watching it now has an even bigger impact for me. Awesome video. Thank you.

[@zacharybaker9449]

The reason that people don’t “improve” while consuming self improvement content is when they don’t apply their knowledge. Instead of applying a video to become more social, they just watch another video. That’s when self improvement becomes counterproductive.

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

“Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else's opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” ― Oscar Wilde

[@richardw3347]

good one. sharing.

[@gradynaughton6834]

“I’m livin in an idea, livin in an idea from another mans mind” -Frank Ocean

[@mauve9266]

Perhaps I’m looking at it the wrong way but I don’t fully agree with this. I concur with the general sentiment but I think it’s ok if you do what others do as long as it’s still authentic to yourself. Everyone’s just a blank canvas that gets painted on by numerous entities be it your parents friends society whatever. I think its about evaluating what they’ve painted and altering things where u see fit. Like of course most of my opinions have been held by others before me especially if it’s not regarding something personal to me but it’s about making sure the point is evaluated not just blindly believed. Of course my life will be similar to everyone else’s somehow but as long as it’s what I want to do and feel I should do. Of course someone else on Earth will share even my most esoteric passion and that’s ok as long as it’s what I truly want to do

[@YukiKunikida]

One of my favorites of O. Wilde: _"Choose yourself, everybody's already taken"_

[@laczodani]

Oh the hypocrisy

[@louiscarole9091]

Feel like Matt D’Avella and Better Ideas are taking a turn in their videos, they are more nuanced about self-improvement, and I think that is the way they can really help people start doing thing, and stop wasting their time on KZbin watching self-improvement videos.

[@QuillASMR]

Hmm...you should make a KZbin video about that.

[@sadisticgirl_]

@@QuillASMR hmm you should make a video on what other videos he should make

[@laurentiucosma9061]

I think they reached a new level of understanding of life

[@rajaseethakre2598]

They are the game changers. & the game's called world!

[@tomasveres5066]

Agree

[@Infinite_Mortis]

I started following your channel a few days ago. Thank you for your outlook, it’s very helpful to hear your take. It’s realistic.

[@RisenFallen]

DUDE, I was stuck in this headspace for so long, reading books, and never actually applying the knowledge I was absorbing into the actions in my life. Once I was able to put more effort and time into actually DOING the work instead of learning how to during both my 9-5 and my passions on the side, did I start to improve and find more enjoyment out of them!!!

[@badakh301]

How are you doing now

[@RisenFallen]

@@badakh301 Doing much better now, struggling with different things as I peel back layers of the ego! Thanks a lot for asking! How are you?

[@badakh301]

@@RisenFallen am fine always striving for improvement now i am thinking of changing approach.... Moving towards spirituality

[@ManoHertz]

Consuming self improvement is not a bad thing, because we all need somewhere to start and learn from not just ourselves but others. Its consuming and not implementing which will keep you in an endless loop

[@RisenFallen]

@@ManoHertz I agree with you completely! Thanks so much for the reply!!

[@Anthony-kj2zj]

"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Roosevelt

[@hussainbohra7235]

But if you don't compare You don't improve

[@petrpernikovec6601]

@@hussainbohra7235 disagree. You have to have your own goals that you wanted because... And your reasons. If you build your goals based on somebodys success, that you dont have you are not improving yourself, you only competing with somebody.

[@em3m998]

@@petrpernikovec6601 Maybe its called motivation

[@petrpernikovec6601]

@@em3m998 Motivation is like a smell, it goes away.

[@em3m998]

@@petrpernikovec6601 This is like right and wrong at the same time lmao

[@WeAreOnePiano]

whenever I have an urge to post a comment on youtube or reddit, I just tell myself, "shut up, nobody cares about what you have to say." and so i'll delete whatever comment I'm about to make. Because that's the truth, as a man, if you are not successful, nobody cares about what you have to say.

[@3D1ofakind]

It's not about other people caring what you have to say and offer. you have your own sword that you care about so show it!

[@mxro_jo]

@David Crespo he doesn't need to, because if you didn't notice. He found success by realising what he needs to feel and be; that's what all the people should do in their lives man. And as a plus, he's kind enough to share it with us, so reanalyse his comment, cause it might help you too... (I'm a psychologist btw so I know)

[@zmgzjgzngFnNfFjztj]

@@mxro_jo What field are you in? I'm curious, as I'm taking a class currently.

[@supercraggle]

You're wrong, you are only looking from your own perspective. I care about what you have to say. This made me think, you had an impact on me.

[@Jason-ji5xl]

Let it out man! Don’t hide your light under a bushel basket. I like to read comments; some i agree with, some i dont but i enjoy hearing different and unique perspectives. Take care!

[@Everythinginsightful]

Single handedly the most inspirational thing I’ve seen this year. Many thanks broski

[@buuuuhbeh]

I agree with what you’re saying - to an extent. The whole point of self improvement is so we can apply what we’re learning to our everyday life and if we’re not then it’s a waste of your time and energy. I’ve read countless books and it helped me quit smoking, create better habits, manage my emotions and become a better version of myself and for my partner BUT AGAIN, it’s because I was applying everything I was learning to better my relationships and myself. I think individuals who think self improvement is a waste of time is because they’re not putting it into action. And it’s like losing weight, it’s not an overnight success. Self improvement takes time and effort! It took me about a year to unravel some trauma and face it, which ultimately led me to where I am now. Things take time!!

[@fres.leannn]

Obsessing over self-improvement makes me think of the phrase: “stay ready, so you never have to get ready”. However, when you’re obsessed with “staying ready” rather than just executing the very thing you’ve spent so much time preparing for, you miss out on opportunities.

[@leilanidru7506]

Facts fres 👏🏿

[@JR-sz5dh]

🤯🙌🏾

[@chad7554]

Mi fi tell my girl, I swear, jah kno star... The mount of times that I do that too my self, I worry about other people approval especially family and not worry about what's going to get me to the that place "I have to be", yuh zimi, focusing on how I'm not there and journey it going to take now due to each set back, so I miss out because I have on track mind and fret about the possible misfortune and not actual being flexible or adaptable.

[@s4nder86]

Preppers come to mind.

[@nebuloustooth]

That's so true it's like from Batman Begins bruce is like I've trained but Ra's says training is nothing the will is everything the will to act

[@volcomsocom]

No one: Better Ideas: “Why ruining your life is ruining your life.”

[@squarepeg9484]

Houlmnt I noticed that ages ago! On the available emojis on keyboards is the blue spiral too, I’ve always wondered why that’s there...no other colour, just blue. It’s not representing tornados or whirlpools or anything. The pink heart has 2 triple heart logos too, similar to the girl pedo heart inside a heart thing. No other colour. 😷🤔☠️

[@ArbleezyGaming]

"why ruinung life is fun"

[@AdamHMortimer]

So when I started my personal development journey, I found myself reading a lot of books, and being really excited about all the different ways I was going to improve my life and make a lot of money. I would take all this information and share this with my wife with a lot of excitement. Finally one day she came to me and asked me why I was learning all this when I was in applying any of it.I took that to heart and applied everything I learned from then on! I became an action taker!!! It changed my life!

[@elizaveta8871]

I loved your video. You described the never-ending loop of self-improvement very well. After a couple years of having it as a hobby, I only now start to actually practice the deeds. Thanks for the content!

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[@MasterE131]

The biggest takeaway i got is that not taking action after preparing yourself to do so is a detriment to yourself. I needed this video thank you.

[@upturn2.]

The biggest takeaway I ever got was from Dominos, it was like 6 pizzas and 3 boxes of wedges man

[@DAZEY_iz_healing]

Nice conclusion

[@jm8585]

Is it just me who finds wedges with pizzas wrong?

[@hardrichhardstitch4828]

Thank you, thats why I was stressed aboout

[@khakis6929]

What made me realize this was seeing a picture of Mark Zuckerberg in his early 20s working to develop Facebook on his laptop. He was surrounded by various unhealthy drinks while giving the camera man the finger. Made me realize that “these people” got to where we all want to go by focusing in on the thing that was actually going to get them there; not doing some crazy workout routine or having an insane diet.

[@Infiniteeternal1]

Zuckerberg didnt developed facebook. He did steal it from the Winklevoss brothers.

[@aaronjkn3955]

@@Infiniteeternal1 that's besides the point bro

[@yeh2248]

But an athlete needs workout and diet.

[@mrborat2493]

Nah it's very high IQ, smart people are the first ones most of the time, working hard is not enough to be a multimillionaire or being one of the best in a specific field

[@krislo4788]

Facts

[@user-pj4hz2rl6h]

thank you for this video . i always felt there is something about self-improvement , especially when you do it in a passive way

[@EazyCooks]

bro this is honestly how i feel. I feel like everyday something is in my head telling me to have my whole life be sorounded with things to help me self improve and its getting yo a point where I think im more mature then everyone around me even though im not going out and actually getting expierience. But at the same time I feel like im running out of time if I just focus on what normal kids my age are focusing on which is school but I dont wanna persue school, I wanna work from home and make money wherever I go. I hope this feeling around me can come to an end and slow down because I feel like im going to fast to the point where I cant control my speed. I need some guidence, something to hold onto because I feel like im alone in this thinking space.

[@DJEkilibrium]

First, get yourself Balanced, then Neutralize ypurself and later on, Equilibrise yourself. Humans NEED and MUST have Equilibrium, that is not the same to Balance or Neutralising something. Philosophy is everything, people have forgot to thing about what they are doing, you are going to fast, stop yourself, think what you are doing. And have self imporvement, but at the same Time have some time to Entertain yourself. You cant live without that. It´s so funny, Humans want to Escape the Equilibrium, but at the same Time they crave it so they can have Order in their life.

[@assreductionist8575]

This hit me hard. I’m a perfectionist who has put real life on hold in order to avoid facing the pain of being imperfect.

[@raphag9945]

I think it's time for me to do the same.

[@andremakris3061]

I feel you. It’s so stupid

[@danielraj3315]

i'm right there with ya' bro...

[@Alisonws]

Same here only I didn't realize it until I read your comment. Thank you for sharing!! 👏🏻

[@toad5364]

I never knew cookie monster felt such pain

[@hempbuster3883]

Wow. I couldn't have thought how to word it better. I needed to hear this. I have be listening to self improvement and I feel like it's been a slow climb but this dude is right.

[@motivationvsinspiration]

This is so true.. I have a 40 hour workweek working in the service industry...only when I started seeing the flaws within myself I could improve my communication skills.. It is tough out there.. but one learns more about life living it and not only teaching it.. Great video😀👍

[@kvncnls]

"Knowledge is useless without the wisdom to act upon it." Just because you read a self-improvement book doesn't immediately make you a better person. You need to get out there and figure stuff out on your own and EMBODY the good things that you've read.

[@skillo6399]

Literally me. I know how to fix my shit, but don't want to take actions on it. I know I should seek therapy, but that would make me have to make changes and improvements. It's hard to force yourself into doing things when you feel like it's good enough....even when it shouldn't be

[@alexchavez3244]

No knowledge is useless when you have logic 😂🤦‍♂️💀🙄.

[@alexchavez3244]

It’s good to be confident not delusional.

[@Kasumi10074]

Hm...you’re right but isn’t wisdom about have years of experience or knowledge? If that’s correct that sounds contradictory. Lmaoo I’m just saying 🤷🏽‍♀️ You’re still right I actually got a new book which is Becoming Bulletproof by Evy Poumpouras a former secret service agent I am not just using for self improvement, but apply what I know to life. Because when you’re in a situation where someone is disrespecting you wait until there’s no one left, but you, and the other person. I learned that from the interview by Lisa Bilyeu who’s was interviewing Evy. Love that interview much respect.

[@harshitaverma7505]

@@skillo6399 Man, I relate with you on so many levels..

[@padmac8176]

"JUST DO IT!!" Shia Lebeouf

[@tomasveres5066]

True

[@kyle007100]

"RIGHT NOW!!"

[@DavidLydonTV]

Needed that : ))

[@brunofilgueiras3518]

man, I've seen many of your videos, but I felt like this was the best one

[@myessential]

Thank youuuuu! I needed that! 🙏🏼✨

[@mikeimmonen6619]

Obsessing over self improvement is the same as a musician thinking that an expensive instrument will somehow magically make them sound good Just like the sound is in the hands, your life is in yours Don't sweat the small stuff, just be yourself We're all winging it here, nobody is perfect, nobody has to nor should be

[@spanellaful]

Amen

[@kp1656]

Beta mindset

[@kp1656]

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[@Phantom-kc9ly]

Sounds like fucking excuses

[@808Efe]

Expensive instument better btw. Thats a truth.

[@robertcurpan9047]

"Knowledge is potential power. It only becomes power when you apply it." - Tony Robbins

[@KericBurleson]

Applied knowledge is power!

[@Graeberwave]

That’s bullshit. Try going into a university library without a student ID. The man with a stick will be just around the corner. Now tell me more about this power you speak of,

[@mrdan523]

@@Graeberwave lmao are you high? Or did you make a joke that just flew over my head?

[@mukyalasarah9642]

Loved it

[@Clumz]

Hi, I really liked your video so thanks for making it. I hope you are proud of these videos so you can keep blessing more people with them!

[@hanniesusannie]

Thank you for this video I really needed this perspective today!

[@Joseph.2023]

Stop being obbsesed of self improvement and start to live real life I took note of that, the best advide I heard this year

[@anasubic3090]

I know, right? This video somehow made me at peace! I have been thinking about starting some workout routine for a whole year now, and I'm only now realizing I make like 4 km of fast walking/running with a bag/or like 20km with a bike per day just by living that busy student life. I am on my feet educating and socializing myself from 7 to 7. F*** that evening workout, they exist to help you not hount you. Being healthy/fit is the goal here afterall!

[@LEONSKENNEDY91]

@@anasubic3090 Depends on your goal. If you want to make yourself stronger physically, you probably need a weight workout. If you just want to be fit without being overweight, having a busy life like that is most likely enough

[@anasubic3090]

@@LEONSKENNEDY91 yeah, that's right. i keep weights in plan, but as long as physics takes 7-9 hours of pure lessons, not even counting commuting and studying alone, i will have to compromise.. so it was comforting for me to be reminded that achieving the priorities is an actual plan here ((and being fit and not overweight, as you said it, luckily comes in the package naturally))

[@broadbandtogod]

As an arsonist, I approve of this message

[@danielprosvirnevs4818]

I don't know man, by self-improving I feel my confidence levels rise. reading books and applying what I learned really does help me in a lot of situations. ever since I started staying home more and looking into my future I noticed one thing about my friends. All we used to do is go out hang out smoke a joint or a few drinks and talk about how we will be rich and how we will develop good habits. I started doing my own improvement which really made me realise my friends still do what they did for the past few years. their highlighted story wouldn't be of how they succeeded or what they achieved. it is more like how fucked up they got on whatever and be proud and say how I'm missing out. Their excuse is that gotta live while we are young. I want to be flying on Jet Skis and travelling the world while I'm young not getting fucked up in my dodgy town for the next 5 years. Thank you to whoever read this lol. was meant to be a small comment but got carried away.

[@idkicy2690]

so wya 1 year later?

[@danielprosvirnevs4818]

@@idkicy2690 well, i quit drinking and smoking for months now, (I'm 21) which was part of the mission. Basically quit all my bad habits and some I'm still working on. i dropped out of college, was doing computer science for 3 years that was putting me in a bad place so i made a decision to move past that. Iv basically learned a lot about myself because when you cut the shit and get real work done that's when life gets really challenging. Failure after failure after failure but i pushed past it all and now i look back thinking.... i put on 10kg of muscle, I do novice Boxing. Got a nice car, Sometimes i feel like an alien within a crowd of small minded people, but when i meet someone successful or with same mindset it all makes sense. If you hang with 5 millionaires you will be the 6th, If you hang with 5 bums you will be the 6th. to make it short iv become a tank haha. i work full time i train everyday, nobody understands why I'm doing all this but iv to be a millionaire by 25 so..... in this world the only support is me myself and I. The biggest thing that i realised is, Close ones don't like to see you win because yous started at the same level, but once you start going up and they stay down, they cant bare and hate when you win, but they don't show it in obvious ways... Strangers in fact love see people winning.

[@idkicy2690]

@@danielprosvirnevs4818 I’m happy for you, it really takes a man to quit bad habits and start improving and actually take it serious, I know we jus strangers but I support you bro, keep improving n stay strong 🙌

[@danielprosvirnevs4818]

@@idkicy2690 My brother, i appreciate it 100% why not use this post to throw out ur achievements, it would be great to know how your progressing through hardships and nailing success. We are strangers but we got similar mindsets . Keep up the hard work g

[@typoolian1300]

@@danielprosvirnevs4818 Thank you for your comments. They are very motivational, and thank you for warning me about close ones starting to be jealous of you. I have just started my self-improvement journey and I will try to remember your words. I would love to keep in touch with you here, to share some future thoughts and accomplishments. Keep it up, brother! I'm proud of you!

[@peaceseeker7748]

This was amazing, thank you for the words of wisdom man!

[@ClearDiscussion]

I agree Joey. I recently started my KZbin channel and it has part of its focus on self-improvement. I try to keep what you're saying in mind: don't get caught up in it. Improve yourself but don't obsess. Great video! 👍

[@nagabro5770]

Tired of "working on myself", I will now be unapologetically insane.

[@best_subliminals]

Mood

[@KyCandicee]

I love this

[@Zombarakh]

Fr

[@SONALI_V]

Truee

[@urskavidensek2000]

Simply; Live

[@Hadhoudtn]

Short summary : Self help is useless unless you turn it into action.

[@DrAElemayo]

And unless it takes you to where you want to be in life.

[@Hadhoudtn]

@@DrAElemayo For that you need action right ?

[@leilanidru7506]

Hadhoudtn you’re both right. Action is necessary to make any change in any direction but It’s not only about action, it has to be coupled With actually knowing what direction you want to be in life. It’d be pointless both reading books and putting into practice ideas about socializing if I’m already a very social person. So he’s right, aimless self improvement (including the ideas you put into action, practice and perfect) is kinda pointless if it’s not taking you to where you want to be in life. There’s a famous quote that says, “growth for the sake of growth is the ideology of a cancer cell.” I think it applies. Imo, at some point Action without direction, is as useless at not taking any action at all.

[@harambey]

And BAM, now you're dead

[@austinmiller8922]

@@DrAElemayo, unless where you want to be is simply, Improved. Any better situation then your in now, would mean you've reached your goal.

[@susan.b8788]

I love your realism. Thank you for teaching me this before I even started considering "self improvement".

[@rosariotodisco5508]

Jeez, i wachted kinda 10 videos of yours in a day. Got to stop 'cause i got to read before going to bed, and i don't have much time left, but dang. Got to watch your videos tomorrow too. Damn you are awesome, GREAT channel!

[@BrianVelez]

Wow! This one hit home for me.

[@mmathulosejake]

Same

[@c.m.m6668]

This was a finisher

[@merlinkunzi4778]

Damn thank you for that...

[@Mayanksharma-ss8xj]

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[@pauloh3591]

Because you are narcissist?

[@jacksonwuttunee6082]

Whats more important than learning is putting it into practice

[@MaoMavo]

Ready perfectly, I am fully and completely ready for this.

[@nathaneal.murray]

Great vid man and very true, nothing like real experience and being hands-on.

[@MisterPol]

_Me reading the title while procrastinating_ : "I knew it!" _Goes back to procrastinating_

[@MisterPol]

but for real, thank you for inspiring me to get into self development!!

[@gregorysampaio]

Hahahah... Soon we gonna see: “Why procrastinating is good for health”

[@betterideas]

No man! NO!

[@lucasgirala999]

@@betterideas "I'll just watch it later"

[@milkywaygalaxi2244]

😂

[@RainyCityResident]

Dawg I was just telling my cousin something like this last night lol. I felt like I've been spending too much time learning how to improve and haven't been applying shit in life

[@senazri]

Same

[@harambey]

None of these "success's" will avail you when you die, what have you prepared for in the next life This life compared to the hereafter is like a water droplet in the Pacific Ocean

[@bluerectangle5794]

You could say that you were living in an iFacade.

[@Blobbybobbyboy]

Maybe you should check out the "how to stop learning and start implementing" self help book haha

[@notaproblem9165]

Just found your channel a couple days ago and I love it, great videos, keep it up

[@michaelt1500]

hey man found your channel from a comment you made on a LAHWF video, and its scary how accurate your titles and videos you make pertain to my life, thanks man

[@thememorytraveler4978]

When I was young, I heard that an admirer said to a pianist, “I’d give my life to play like this.” The pianist replied, “I did.” Everyone that runs had to learn to walk. They fell down and their parents didn’t berate them. The parents encouraged the babies...and what do you know? They not only learned to run, most kids learn to ride bicycles & learn to drive. We start at the beginning and practice. If you keep up, you’ll be good at it. Reading does go hand in hand with learning! Sometimes, it saves a bunch of falling down!!!

[@johnwoods7526]

Sometimes the words don't make sense without the practice and experience and I think anybody whos "cerebrallized" socialising knows this horrible feeling.

[@thememorytraveler4978]

@@johnwoods7526 I totally get it. I enjoy your videos. Glad to have found you. You express your thoughts beautifully.

[@LightKnight14]

I definitely sabotage myself with my obsession with self-improvement sometimes. I often forget that most of my improvements will come from getting out there doing stuff. This is a really important topic, and a great video!

[@evo683]

This video helped to temper me a lot. As of the past two months, I've been trying to improve myself in various ways. I'm eliminating crappy foods and beverages, I'm sticking to a pretty good schedule, and I'm spending at least 30 minutes a day meditating. However, in the mean time, my progress in other things which I want to do has been lacking. I think I'm still scared to make risks, to really take a chance and just do stuff. This has pepped me up a bit, and I think I really needed to hear this.

[@iamsomeone8266]

i have this problem, i would always want to improve my grades by watching videos and not doing my homework. Lmao, it rlly is a sickness

[@dewvvvvy]

Same

[@BitaniyaDereje]

Same here

[@benfrowen94]

This video popped up for me during a time when I wasn't feeling completely secure in my own progress, worrying about what I should have achieved already, and what I should achieve by this age etc. Sometimes getting so caught up in those details that I would get overwhelmed and just freeze which is counter-productive. It's amazing how much you can self-improve 'in the background' when you're not actually focussed and self-improvement. This video was really helpful, thank you!

[@beyondoursound8788]

"Go outside and live your life" 2020 pandemic - HAHA!

[@zekielrodriguez913]

saganist and for extroverts to either go insane or be reformed. I’m one of the saved ones

[@philippinesbestplace6279]

saganist it’s sad ‘cause im introvert but i want to be extroverted. The pandemic is messed up

[@extraterrestrialhorse9722]

*else

[@thedanielaros]

Here, here ... enjoy the riff on the old knights. Great advice about not only consuming a single source of information but expanding it to other fields and getting out to try different things. The more we diversify our knowledge and experiences, the better it can help us be more well-rounded. Plus, what good is all that knowledge if we do not do anything with it. Cheers mate 👍

[@Obsidian281]

I've found myself falling in exactly this trap. Thank you for this important reminder.

[@EevlynnWasTaken]

i really like the dull sword analogy. you can spend all your time inside your own head thinking about how you can be better at something but by doing so, you're forgetting that a lot of this is what you'd be doing anyway just by going out there and getting experience. some theory can make a big difference, for sure! but while you eventually get diminishing returns from theory, you can never have too much experience. sick video, man! :)

[@mirandabeaudry7936]

Fully agree!! 🙌🏻

[@chellybabyme]

I agree with you about experience. I was thinking about all the things that I just went out and did in my twenties and what great things came from that action of going in and doing them. I also thought about the growth in my career when I made organic gut choices without wondering about it first.

[@chellybabyme]

@Quantum Man The Photonic Mastermind! Thanks, Quantum Man. Good encouragement imagery

[@salsa101]

The biggest problem with people who think they need self improvement is that they feel they have to put everything else on hold until they're satisfied. People even set aside developing relationships or going out to find one, because they don't think they're ready. You can go throughout your entire life trying to improve things but never feel satisfied. It can be pretty heartbreaking to think about all those missed opportunities.

[@princesslacson6291]

preach

[@FraganceOfMoon]

I heard this in the right moment. Even when I try to "improve" myself I still feel empty. I start to asking me what is wrong with me... But now I understand it.

[@briandaortiz5127]

This video actually helped me to go to therapy, I was never satisfied with myself and I thought that if I improve myself or if I reach my goals I would find happiness, but as years passed I only start to feel worst and I stopped finding a reason to do anything. I did not even wanted to get out of bed and I started to sleep more than I should. Now, thanks to my therapist I know my situation is not normal and just because I don't have suicidal thoughts, doesn't mean I'm not depressed. So, in two days I'm going to the psychiatrist, because I probably have dysthymia and this way I'll get the meds I need. Of course im sad, but at the same time I'm happy I'm finally finding the reason of my lack of motivation, because at least for me this is a nonstop fight that everyday was consuming me more. Thanks Joey. And sorry for my English, this is not my native language.

[@KerbsideTube.CommunityTV.]

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[@nassh3702]

So one of the best self improvement advice I've ever heard is ironically about stop focusing on self improvement, but rather mastering what I like doing. Thanks man.

[@Daemonenkoenigin13]

On the other hand you shouldn't be too extreme about improving yourself either. It is human to make mistakes, to miss out a day of exercising or to eat your favourite chocolate after you have been craving it for a week. Nobody is perfect, and you have to give yourself breaks from self-improving, too. If you feel like it is becoming a task and you are not enjoying what you are doing anymore, then you will likely fail a few days or weeks later anyways. In my opinion it is better to cheat and enjoy it, and then go back to your plan or routine of self-improving. In short: Have fun while improving yourself!

[@xevora9310]

But isn't this exactly what most self-help books say: learn the lessons and then put them into practice in your everyday life?

[@helenee.5462]

I think we all have to go through these stages of understanding in our own lives. If you’re unaware, and something happens and you get more aware, self help is a good place to start. We get our wisdom from learning and advancing. And then we start to see things more clear, and our perspectives shift. But it takes time, and it’s our own journeys.

[@ChrisVincelli]

Dude you are an INSPIRATION!!! I lost my job due to the pandemic. Since then, I've started a KZbin Channel on Personal Development...and it is GROWING!!! Thanks for all of your content, and to everyone else...NEVER GIVE UP!!

[@Shoobs3D]

That's really good. I'll soon start my channel too, but the only camera I got is my phone camera and my earphone microphone. Let's see what I can do with it

[@supreemcourt9181]

i quit watching motivational videos when they started making me feel guilty about not workin on my goals "24/7" working hours upon hours happens when youre in a muse and ideas are flowing. but if youre unsure of your future plans then motivational content wont guide u

[@saurabhvimal1008]

Same tired of grind and hustle culture 😂 like 24/7

[@michellibrito5375]

Exactly! It makes me feel so anxious, like what I’m doing it’s not good enough, that I have to do/work always more!

[@nateromero4159]

Exactly, if you’re not sure of your future plans and goals, self improvement is practically useless. The same thing happened to me, I spent a lot of time focusing on self improvement and I didn’t even know what I was doing it for. Eventually I decided to stop so I could just figure out what I want.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

@@nateromero4159 frr

[@GrowthMindsetChannel]

The content on this channel is so solid. Thanks for putting the time and effort into this dude

[@KerbsideTube.CommunityTV.]

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[@danielfox268]

I feel this even before watching the vid I've actually been waiting a long time for this video.

[@DekkarJr]

Omg can I take this as permission to STOP watching all the self help plz? It's giving me a anti social disorder. I feel like I'm detached from society ... I did the same thing, I have isolated myself from everyone I ever used to hang out with and its like this constant thinking that I can't leave my house and talk to people until im perfect :(

[@adeniyisalami9416]

This channel is amazing and has truly inspired me to work harder and be more disciplined. Now I'm a first-year medical student and documenting my journey. Your feedback will be greatly appreciated on my first Vlog. kzbin.info/www/bejne/p5y9oWaortmDg7s

[@best_subliminals]

Omg I thought I was the only one!

[@Serena-or7sl]

Same for me. Made me lose all contact with reality and with people. It made my mind cluttered and busy, and made me lose my spontaneity and productivity, Not it's extremely difficult for me to start doing any project, because I feel like I have to be perfect from day one.

[@ligux-8816]

i think thats his point.......people now want to be perfect and focusing on self improvement just because they think that they aren’t good enough to do anything the point is just don’t think you aren’t a good person because someone that doesn’t even know you says that you have to be better i hope this helps

[@lapcsanka]

You can go outside, do stuff with people, talk to them but you will be having a worse time while you aren't fixed to some extent. Having a not so good time worth it? If you can, fix some of your major issues (again, if you can) then do the socializing. I think it's pretty obvious.

[@Zeetwig]

@Better Ideas and everyone else: This is a long comment but please take your time to read it. Hopefully it will open your eyes to a new aspect of your life. What you discuss here is the problem with the personality culture that has evolved since the beginning of the last century. In western culture, we idolize the individual, and especially individuals who are very open and charismatic. For many people, this new culture suits them, but for just as many it does not. There are people who will always be more happy sitting at home "sharpening their swords" as you describe it, and who will never be at peace with themselves regardless of how good they get at "fighting the monsters outside". This is the problem with the personality culture that has evolved, as it sets an ideal that is only applicable to a percentage of the population. In the past, the character culture was the predominant one, in which traits such as honor, honesty, perserverence and empathy was in focus. Becoming the "best" was not the goal, but instead people were encouraged to become as good a person as each individual had the capacity for. This culture is a better fit for most people, and it does not require any self help. For instance, everyone knows how to be honest or how to show perseverence. In personality culture on the other hand, where traits such as charisma, well-spokenness and risk taking are prevalent, there are inumerable self-help books and media, becuase it is not obvious how to be, for instance, charismatic. For those who struggle with self-help, the best advise is to abandon it completely. Reflect on yourself and your personality, your goals and dreams, who you are, and you will find that you know exactly what makes you feel like you are becoming a better person. Quite possibly, you will find that being more like the "popular guy" is not the answer, but that being a loyal and loving partner, a great parent, a reliable colleague and someone your parents can be proud of, is what brings peace and a feeling of personal improvement to yourself. It will be difficult to cast off the yoke of the personality-idolizing culture that we have been brought up in, but everyone can achieve it.

[@stephanieo5441]

Well said

[@trusttheprocess4775]

Well said. I just want to be somebody in life and have my parents to be proud of me. I'm a lazy fat ass right now but I wanna improve. My mum and dad have invested very heavily in me and I want to re pay them back. That's all.i want man.

[@maryamlefkir3074]

Thank you very much for thoses words we really needed them.

[@austecon6818]

You chose your words so well with this. Amen brother.

[@akrammohamed8374]

Here's a thought I'd like to share, a couple of years ago when I first picked up self-help books like "The Happiness Trap" & "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F***", I felt very inspired reading them and I was able to effectively remember and apply the techniques and concepts that I read in these books. At the moment, after reading god knows how many "self-help" books, I feel like I got desensitized and I no longer feel inspired. There's a noise of bad (and 'good') advice that I received from these books that I'm overwhelmed by, and affects my decision-making. I can definitely relate to the thought of "I'm like an alien trying to learn how to interact with humans". Reading these socializing books have helped me a bit (like maybe 10%) but have also made me even more inside my own head when I interact with people. I don't remember it being this tedious to interact with people when I was in middle school, and I didn't read 300 social skills books back then. Sometimes we adult too hard, we over-engineer simple things, when we're supposed to take a step back and realize life isn't meant to be this complicated.

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[@bet0neiro]

This video came at a perfect time in my life. I've been feeling depressed every single day for months, and I do believe that the main reason is thinking I should be a perfect man in every single are of my life that has all answers. It just isn't healthy.

[@stansvitsa1]

How are you now? Got out of depression?

[@bet0neiro]

@@stansvitsa1 Sincerely, I am at my best in quite a while. I feel good almost all the time, I have a nice job, a great relationship with my loved ones and made a lot of progress at the gym. Never give up, guys. Find your own path and always be grateful!

[@stansvitsa1]

@@bet0neiro great to hear! So happy for you 🙏🏻

[@twistingtheway]

"There is no use continually brooding over who you really are. For, just as in narcissistic self-observation the preoccupation with the effect nullifies the effect, the self of the self-explorer is reduced as his need to explore increases. Excessive psychoanalysis weakens the psyche. A person does not find his self by turning his inner life upside down, he creates it by putting something on his feet in this world. A self that only sees itself ends up destroying itself"

[@erievhs]

Whered you get this?

[@twistingtheway]

@@erievhs from a book called "Kleine Philosophie für Nichtphilosophen" by Friedhelm Moser. I read the spanish version, though ("Pequeña Filosofía para no filósofos") and I translated that part with google translator, so it might have some mistakes, I don't know.

[@nc-pf3qm]

thats very well written

[@kiandinyari3740]

Great quote

[@erievhs]

@@twistingtheway thanks, ill check it out

[@samirsketch9973]

Basically you should DO, not only plan. This happened to me. I was obsessed with self-improvement and I knew a lot of it but I wasn't doing it. Once I started doing my life changed

[@andrewsross1]

Enjoyed this. Needed this. Thanks!