why self-love doesn't work

[@Rachel-zb4xe]

"I love me but I don't love me back" that hit

[@clio5880]

I finally found my rhythm when I realized That even The steps backwards Were part Of the dance love this so much. thanks for sharing the poem nil

[@foreverPriscilla]

you’re so well-spoken, mature, deep, & just intelligent. keep shining Nil❤

[@NilSani]

I love u

[@Nisan-v6h]

Being a perfectionist I always put pressure on myself to always feel, be and look my best. I recently turned 22 and felt emotionally overwhelmed trying to explain why I feel that way so I can "fix myself". My sister then told me that it is completely normal to feel that way sometimes AND so important: That I don't always need to try coming up with a solution but instead to just "be" without constantly overanalyzing myself and let go of that fixing mindset. Because oftentimes we think that it is not acceptable to have these off days, so we tend to blame ourselves for feeling that way. But in order to grow through things you have to go through things. Some things you just can't control right now but trust me everything is temporary ☀️🌻

[@NilSani]

THIS!!! it's okay to not have the answers all the time. Not everything needs a solution, like you said we just need to "be"

[@anotherfanatic9000]

You need to accept both your good and bad self to experience true self acceptance

[@ay3sha235]

Love this new style! You’re so eloquent and it’s always interesting to hear your thoughts on stuff!

[@cengizsani2229]

Probably the greatest pleasure in the world is to be useful to others while doing his job. I'm proud of my daughter too.

[@ayla1849]

agreeing throughout this entire video... I can tell you've already grown so much since your last few videos and I'm very proud! you nailed it within the first minute, self care has already become commoditised and a trend/aesthetic on social media but those actions are basically useless unless you commit to building that foundation of self esteem and self worth like you mentioned. one thing I wanted to add about validating your emotions and experiences - we definitely need to do this for ourselves, but hearing someone else (my therapist lmao) finally validate what I'd been through was completely lifechanging for my healing as well. also you made me remember that the most deeply content time in my life was when I was writing those I am statements daily. so happy you are on this journey and I'm looking forward to more videos like this!

[@biplavhelllord]

This is highly spiritual and the most intelligent state of mind. This is what all great thinkers and philosophers say when they say enlightenment.

[@sandravasquez7199]

i love the fact that you’re changing up your content, it’s super interesting and helpful, so excited for whats to come

[@restuaulia6305]

When I want to love myself and know our shortcomings, then we will fix them. For example, inside me, I feel like there are a lot of things that I haven't fixed, but I can still love myself now. Sometimes I'm confused about where to start. I can only look at people. What seems perfect in every way makes me more insecure, and I try to start improving to be better at what I can't do.

[@zehraaa_7489]

love this new format

[@ayla1849]

and now I can't stop thinking about "I love me but I don't love me back" whoever wrote that really did something there omg

[@NilSani]

Fr spent 20 days just thinking ab this

[@mskennyjune1470]

This was wonderful, Nil. I was smiling the whole time, thank you for delivering this information 🥹🤍

[@rosna2109]

Damn Nil... this video came in like a sign for me!!! While listening to you, I started to realize, that was what was happening to me these past few months... I'm gonna write the "I am ..." statements. Thank you for this very informative video

[@NilSani]

❤️

[@kathlenemontes4019]

Your aura is glowing 5:57🖤

[@emiliaespinoza7503]

Thank you SO MUCH for this video Nil ❤ I’ve been struggling with these lately, happened the same thing to me that I thought I was great until I started going to therapy and now I’m opening the bag that kept me numb and allowed me to pretend I was doing great by rationalizing my feelings, this video made me feel less alone in this process so I cried a lot, but this felt like a hug 🫶🏻 thank you infinitely

[@NilSani]

Awe I'm so happy you could find comfort in my video! You're never alone ❤️❤️❤️

[@apoorvapatwardhan]

okay, but Nil we need more of these! I think you are so full of these insights and observations which your audience would love to hear about💗

[@saara1344]

i liked this before even watching omfg i NEEDED THIS

[@dorixyz]

OMG GIRL- THIS IS LITERALLY THE WHOLE ANSWER TO WHAT I'VE BEEN FEELING LATELY????this is so good and helpfulllll so grateful that i came across this video today and your energy omggg ilyyyyy

[@MariaLaura-tk1ld]

Please do more videos like this! Also if you could attach your findings just to read and have a better understanding in order to apply it more thoroughly. Thank you Nil

[@NilSani]

Absolutely thank u for the feedback!

[@mo.yanaaa]

im so comforted to know that someone out there has experienced the exact same thing that i have. thank you for sharing your journey and knowledge you’ve gained by managing hardships THE RIGHT WAY! ❤️❤️❤️ really hard to find the right path to dealing with depression as an overthinker but videos like this makes things sm easier ❤

[@ron1397]

fav video ever

[@kvlogsyoutube]

Loving yourself means allowing to breath and grow we all make mistakes and it’s okay to move on and not live in the past ❤

[@hopeclutch7499]

Talking about your past emotional experiences and putting your thoughts out to public is not easy. I'm so proud that I know you (as a KZbin artist at least.

[@stellar4304]

you absolutely slayed this episode, coming from someone who went to school for neuroscience

[@NilSani]

Thank you!!! I researched a lot before filming so it feels really nice to hear this :)) ❤️

[@stellar4304]

@@NilSani happy to hear!! kinda insane how much of this stuff isn’t broadcasted to the world the way it should be. KEEP THE CONTENT COMING 🫶🏻

[@tuana1988]

thank u nil!! even that short clip on ur story was enough for me to be curious about my self-love!! im willing to change my mindset with you thats why im here to watch the full video and start my loonngg self-love process 🤍🤍

[@annaymous]

Thank you for this Nil! I appreciate your academic interest and your critical thinking to this instead of just your personalized opinions.

[@suhani2259]

NIL!!!! thanks a ton girl! i've always known that you've got great insight on things( from your videos where you talk about things other than your daily routine). i REALLY REALLY think that you should do more of these sit down videos, your knowledge is crucial. although i wouldn't mind a few vlogs here and there BUT a 100 % yes to more sit down videos concept you're trying

[@NilSani]

Thank you!

[@outlander1939]

Glad to have you back, I've missed you. Hope all is well. Enjoy another spring in the city.

[@cihanmtunc]

I love this new podcast format ❤

[@galacticknight55544]

I'm having a really hard time believing that I'm worth loving. I have weird kinks, I'm extremely socially inept, and I've had people call me whiny, entitled, dishonest, creepy, narcissistic, and a lot of other things. The worst part is that I'm worried they might be right. Sometimes I wonder if it's a good thing I'm perpetually single, because I don't deserve to be loved.

[@nakalyangomolly7828]

We all deserve to be loved , just love yourself with mantra : Love yourself the way you want others to love you 🎉

[@galacticknight55544]

@@nakalyangomolly7828 Are you sure we all deserve to be loved? There's some real scum in the world.

[@mariamk4849]

Listening to this at the gym i love it so much specially the ( loving yourself vs loving being yourself) 🤍🤍🤍ily nil comeback with another videos we missed you 🫶🏻

[@NilSani]

Love that!❤️

[@jocelynkissezz]

please continue this series!! seni seviyorumm

[@rutuluhar4981]

loveeeed this video Nil. missed you so much. you and Hailey are such genuine and inspiring role models. thank you 💞

[@NilSani]

❤️❤️❤️

[@shambhaviyadav2905]

This video is powerful. Trust me, Nil.

[@souna5468]

THIS IS VIDEO IS AN ABSOLUTE GEM!! You're literally speaking everything I have in my mind I LOVE YOU😭❤️

[@NilSani]

❤️

[@Bukett._]

Finally girl, missed u, ur content even ur friends 🩵 Im still waiting for the video of u,mandy and sarah playing we are not rlly strangers and it would be nice to watch a book video as well 🌸❤️ (also we need a life update)

[@miowytla]

I love you Nil I really needed this!

[@nicoleabrukwe]

loved this so much..this is the most raw and authentic video I’ve watched today..please post more content like this

[@noos4425]

i loved this vid ! definitely more enjoyable imo and looking forward to seeing similar posts🩵l

[@NilSani]

Yay! Thank you! ❤️❤️

[@yasarnilay2596]

I loved this video! I hope you keep posting videos like this. It was really interesting hearing your thoughts and learning something new.

[@NilSani]

Thank you so much!! I'm so glad you enjoyed it

[@layan6479]

Most realistic vid in the internet , loved and subscribed

[@gcar25]

this hit really hard today, thank you

[@bhawnaaa122]

NIL BABY IS BACKKK

[@magdalenaarias3753]

nil please start a podcast this is amazing

[@univuniveral9713]

My new guru.

[@AmarieLetrece]

thank you sm for this! it's helped me a lot with how i view self love, and i would love to see more self love/care related videos from you!

What you are doing is great and I think that you should also upload this video to your Turkish channel with subtitle so more people can benefit from your knowledge. Love you and take care

[@imgekarakus]

love this new format.I am waiting the other videos for that. love u so much babe💕🥰

[@fraulienlopez]

Thank you! I needed this and I love it! I'm gonna go start an affirmation journal now!!!❤❤❤

[@morenaailin2470]

Absolutely loved this video, please do more like this one. ily

[@yuh8717]

I loved this so much and a lot of things especially the foreign perception part of self really resonated with me

[@carlavrh8465]

i loved this video so much and related a lot!!! thank you for making this.

[@VC-or4iv]

Very much needed, thanks Nil❤️

[@marinafernandez5312]

Thank you nil🥺❤️

[@abbyklake]

Nil I missed you!! Glad to see you again - loved this video and you are so right💖

[@Nisaaa766]

Bu video kesinlikle Türkçeye çevrilmeli,bu tarz videolar çok etkili ve bu seriye devam etmelisin✨

[@sansaadams4509]

yes please make more of these videos!! this is so much different from what other people in social media talk about and i respect you so much for giving us this version that we all need 🫶

[@Catdogcatdog1212]

Wow i loved this video. Gonna watch it again and take notes i found it that helpful man

[@NilSani]

Glad it was helpful!

[@parkhimahajan935]

Loved listening to you! Needed this.

[@mimiguetta7281]

So well spoken it’s incredible ❤

[@NilSani]

My soulmate

[@maz_azizi]

love this video concept!

[@charlie-ee7vk]

I really enjoyed this content. I agreed throughout the video. Thank you for your sharing thoughts I’m looking forward to more content like this. wish you all the best Nil

[@clio5880]

Absolutely love this!

[@livelife1012]

podcast pls 😍 this was amazing

[@SabinaVivacheLai]

Thank u for making this video. it just came out at the right time for me 😅 the universe power though ❤ Your vlogs always cheer me up in some way and this video really makes me feel so much better. Thanks again ❤ much much 💕 love

[@NilSani]

It makes me so happy to hear that!!!!

[@aniconicnadia]

I feel good about this video. Hope you do more of these. I’ll think you’ll enjoy Lana blakely

[@Salwastalks]

Keep going girl with this type of videos! Your advices are really great!

[@skloise]

You're very insightful and wise beyond your age 🤍🤍🤍

[@Nadine94822]

MORE . OF . THIS . PLEASE

[@aur-2001]

I wish you could do more videos like this!! 🩷🩷🩷

[@nilayaslan499]

ily nil

[@tuana1988]

give us more of these IM BEGGIN

[@azagimaayan1928]

so amazing and inspiring, I feel seen

[@NilSani]

[@DestinieLo]

I almost cried watching this 😭❤

[@anriema_sley7509]

Thank you❤ I love this video

[@Eliik.02]

Thats great keep going we want more like this videos

[@izzygrandic]

Brilliant vid nil!

[@NilSani]

Thank you🥰🥰🥰

[@annaymous]

Love this!❤

[@carolina_mp]

I wish I had this on a podcast format 🤓

[@benedetta8001]

I need your podcast 🫀🙏🏼🤧🔆🫶

[@CaptainVideo100]

You're really pretty!

[@sumjkn]

I looooove itt pls do one about being ok being alone

[@bubeudeh]

8:53 yes

[@nehashahi7634]

Helpful thank you for this

[@mohibquadri4053]

Too Good !! What's some best books to read for Self belief ?

[@anneanne5191]

Hi nil, any advice on how to deal with atrocious men in public? Men have been draining my energy for as long as i could remember

[@Μαριαγκοντολια]

I need this kind of video 😻🥺❣️

[@bubeudeh]

i love you ...thank you

[@miowytla]

yess yeesss more videos like this please 🥵

[@sofiademitri3178]

i need you to make a podcast

[@pigeonsound45]

Super helping my state rn

[@avinajilse6516]

can i ask something about how to go about doing affirmations? does ur subconscious absorbs the things u repeat to urself even if u dont necessarily feel wholly what ur saying about urself?

[@sanafarssi7764]

U re just amazing ❤

[@alyssamarie8197]

drop the podcast

[@Realityscopee]

the title 💯

[@Onlocationtours]

Great video!

[@naz6211]

Nil ben türküm ve bu video türkiyeye kapalı ve yani evet başta hak verdim ama şimdi pek anlam veremiyorum özellikle böyle içerikleri türkiyeye kapatman konusunda, kanalını en çok destekleyen türk fanlarını kayırmak doğru mu sence?

[@nilbalajayeva]

You're amazing