Why SEX WORKERS HATE MEN

[@sadiapsychology]

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[@shamanahaboolist]

This is nice and accurate. Good job.

[@2GunRock]

I went to a strip joint once, but I was in no mood for a lap dance, and frankly I didn't find the girl attractive either. I tried to be kind about it and offered the going rate for a lap dance, but she didn't even have to dance for me for it. Instead she was furious, told the manager I sexually abused her (complete lie), then I explained my side. Why was she so angry?

[@jonesy585]

you missed it by a mile, the reason I use to go to strip clubs and escorts was because of the EMOTIONAL ABUSE I WAS RECIVING FROM MY EX GIRLFREND, SHE DROVE ME TO A DARK PLACE OF INSECUIRTY AND ESCAPE. Before meeting my ex I never once visited a strip club or paid for sex, my ex girlfriend made me hate women and reduce them to just a butt and tits because of how evil she was. so no not all men who seek prostitutes come from a broken home. many times its their wife who drive them there.

[@SEELAYTRAY777]

I will do a usa street version of this next week end ( i partially agree)

[@jimmythestoryteller]

So you're saying in regards to slut shaming, that having a lot of sex with various people is abnormal behavior. By what standard?

[@WidebodyLotty]

I think she’s overlooking the group of men who pay up front to get around dealing with the nonsense of conventional dating. Why spend precious time and money trying to “ court” a broken single mother, when you can make an explicit arrangement with a woman upfront? For many men, sex is still a desire but the concept of exposing yourself to all the negatives of relationships is not appealing.

[@peterharrell7305]

While at the same time exposing themselves to the risk of losing their freedom if it's an undercover or something?

[@karllarsen8797]

@@peterharrell7305 Isn't the oldest profession legalized or tacitly tolerated in the UK? No risk of being arrested at all in the UK, Germany, Denmark, the Netherlands.

[@KtotheG]

​@@peterharrell7305How many undercover cops pose as strippaz? They normally appear on the streets catching newbies.

[@ouwebrood497]

Yes exactly. It's just quid pro quo like almost any other romantic relationship, just without the detours normies want us to take.

[@cniht]

@@peterharrell7305 The oldest profession is legal in most parts of the developed world and in the developing world outside of very religiously/conservative countries. Second, even where it isn't legal men accessing those women at the mid to high level don't have those problems.

[@fringbabyross4718]

I’m a male with anxious attachment…far from avoidant. I’ve had childhood trauma on multiple levels. I always sought sex workers. My body count is staggering. Psychologically it was connected to my lower self worth and abandonment fear. The sex kept me from feeling those wounds and numbing those traumas. Luckily I’ve worked hard with an attachment trauma therapist and got away from the need for validation from women and other external sources. It’s hard to heal but very doable.

[@BatsAwesomeIn2030]

just curious, how did you heal. Like what are the few takeaways?

[@CX0909]

Well done sir! Stay strong brother 👊🏻

[@anandagopalpardue270]

I’m curious. If you wouldn’t mind sharing a name or a link. If there is an attachment theory method that can cure seeking validation from, which is very prevalent among men, implementing it in one’s life would create massive transformation. Kudos to succeeding on your healing journey.

[@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

If we don't get a response, we'll all know this poster's a scam and a woman.

[@ducksu_6243]

no excuses. you should have seen a therapist instead of using and abusing other human beings

[@AnthonyTheAnesthetist]

Men who are visiting strip clubs or sex workers are not looking respect from those women … they couldn’t care less. They are looking for a service. - Former security guard

[@dinos9607]

I was just explaining this above. Sex like anything else can become a service. Clients want the sex, not seeking connections and respect. Men could not care less what the prostitutes think of themselves or of the sex they have with them, they just care to receive a service that worths the price tag, that is all. Sadia also lies when she says that all or most prostitutes come from childhood abuse. I am using prostitutes for the past 5 years after my divorce and I have seen prostitutes that show signs of past abuse, childhood or not, these are detectable by their demeanour, either unpleasant or depressed - and of course I avoid them. The most common case of how a prostitute becomes one, is that of a poor girl that started having sex 15-16, she started having multiple boyfriends, thus losing her value in the romantic market and then deciding to just monetise her sex better in the prostitution market rather than in the romantic one. The other alternative would be cleaning stairs or picking cotton in the fields or something. You can't take seriously Sadia's view or any woman's one at all. Women hate prostitution because it lowers their own value in the sexual market place, that is all.

[@nickhexum01]

Exactly. I just want some physical intimacy for a couple hours. I'm happy to pay for it, and I appreciate the sex workers that provide it.

[@grandcanyon2]

@@dinos9607 i agree 100 percent women hate prostitution because it ruins the mating market for women even more so as women age, they also hate porn. Notice its almost never no 16-23 year old females complaining about prostitution or porn.

[@dinos9607]

@@nickhexum01 Exactly, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with it, it is consensual sex like any other. I can tolerate negative reactions only by people who are against sex outside marriage - there it is understandable that they have a moral code of theirs that does not accept sex if not within the confines of marriage. However, I can't tolerate hypocrites who accept and even promote sex outside marriage but somehow their pseudo-morals make them cause an outcry about prostitution. These people are the definition of hypocrisy.

[@23293]

😆😆😆😆😆 so are bartenders, we just want alcohol and not a conversation

[@bobthebuilder69429]

I dated a sex worker and got to hear her and her friends talk about men and their clients. They constantly ridicule these men and don’t care if these men have to sell every possession they own, as long as they get paid.

[@Utubedeletescomments]

But they’re “ women “ so we should feel bad for them .

[@venustheplanet8208]

Why did you date her if you knew that she's a sex worker?

[@robi6317]

anecdotal

[@godnyx117]

​@@venustheplanet8208 Because he was desperate. He will try to find other excuses but he knows it deep down.

[@loveself6396]

Good

[@tehlaziness]

Some guys have spent years being used and abused by bad women and being emotionally and financially wrecked by them that they're just sick of it. Personally as an autistic guy, I am not psychologically equipped to deal with how insidiously manipulative women can be. The gaslighting in particular; I'm very trusting and honest by nature and the gaslighting really crushes me. No matter how much a man comes to distrust women, the need for intimacy will likely still be there. Escorts pretty much become a means to have that physical intimacy without needing to go through all the drama. Another thing that I think makes a lot of good guys give up on dating is that, women seem to have a subconscious need to be treated like absolute crap. I kinda remember the second I subconsciously gave up on dating. I had recently gotten out of an abusive relationship and had joined a new Discord group with some people I met in FF14. One of the guys during a raid one night was talking about how annoying girls chase him despite him treating them like absolute garbage because he wants them to leave him alone. The harder he tries to shoo them away, the more he would be rude to them and ignore them and insult them, the more they would stick to him. These girls happily let him use them for sex. Meanwhile, the one girl he was interested in and nice to and wanted to actually date, she wouldn't give him the time of day. He wasn't even that attractive; it was like they were relentlessly chasing him for no other reason than he just treated them like crap. Some guys just morally can't be that guy and would rather be single than be a douchebag. For me personally, I want to be a loving, faithful partner, and be a good provider. But its almost like, as much as women complain about men not giving them that they actively sabotage opportunities to get it. At least with an escort, you can treat her with warmth and compassion and still have your needs met. Dating has become like a gacha game; you can throw butt loads of time, money and emotion into it and still not roll the character you want. It's a very costly and draining zero-sum game.

[@makhdoommohammad8923]

Mate I hope you get better women who value your goodness and fulfill your needs and treats you like a king and follows your orders

[@joanofarcxxi]

You have not been meeting the right women. Consider your values. Because one of the probems with prostitutes is that you can get more than you paid for. Like, a disease, robbed, arrested, or even killed. I am a mental health professional. I have worked with people with addictions, many of them convicted criminals of which a large number are prostitues/escorts. They are sociopaths and don't care about you. When they see you, they see dollar signs. One woman I worked with had a habit of getting the men that she had sex with drunk or high, and once they were passed out she'd leave the room after stealing all their money and credit cards. Eventually she got caught and ended up in prison for 3 years, but by then, she was pretty well stocked. The great majority of the women I worked with were infested with STDs. Is that a surprise, though? I feel truly sorry for many people out there who are trying swim in the cess pool of dating and mating. There is a huge disconnect, and it's a full on war between men and women.

[@chadesteban1408]

Remember, you need to learn how to be attractive to women first, or they won't care if you're a good provider, caring, compassionate, loyal, etc. "Douchebag" was obviously attractive to women. They slept with him because he had atttractive traits, *in spite of* the fact that he treated them poorly. Every man who struggles with women must learn to be attractive first, and then he will start to have options

[@markfennell1167]

This is exactly. You have articulated it 1000 times better than Sadia did.

[@munirsafdar8943]

Yup women are a nuisance now and dangerous quite frankly, it's better to go elsewhere than invest so much time and effort even if you do everything right it will blow up in your face

[@ethxo6734]

The first statement hit home for me. I was sexually abused as a child, my earliest memories are of being abused and quite frankly much of my childhood is a blur. When I was a teenager and had my first boyfriend I had sex very early because I thought to myself this time it’s my decision, he’s treating me nice. The decision absolutely came from a broken place.

[@mylolita]

I’m so sorry you went through this and hope you find peace and ability to live your life and manage your past! All the best x

[@bibekjung7404]

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[@eyeswideopen7777]

Hope life is better for you now ❤

[@aaronwest1055]

Yeah just take that accountability and throw it down the drain 😂 Your decision didn’t come from a broken place but a stupid one. Most teens make dumb decisions with their 🐈, your trauma isn’t the source but a side note.

[@cniht]

Few thoughts on the whole escort thing. 1) The statement of men dealing with escorts about 'they cannot get those women so at least let them pay for it'. Men are always paying for it, so this an indirect way in obfuscating that truth. It should never be obfuscated. All women are escorts in some form, period. The questions are: What is the medium of exchange (Some combination of Time, Effort, Resources), what is the duration, and what is the depth of the entanglement (Emotional, Financial, Exclusivity, etc.). Society has blessed certain avenues for intimacy and shamed other avenues. Society does this as a means of control in an attempt to force certain outcomes. It doesn't mean there are not prospective positive benefits to society's way of engaging in intimacy vs the other, but it is always society looking out for its best interest, not the individuals in question. 2) Emotional Intelligence is catch all made up buzzword psychobabble. Ask 5 people what it means, one will receive 5 different answers. It doesn't exist, speak plainly. 3) Escorts allow men with money to experience those women without rejection. Yes, this is correct, and? 4) I don't know what fantasy land the men falling in love with their escorts comes from on any measurable scale. I'm sure it happens, but not in any noticeable numbers compared to the number of individuals who engage in the activity. I'd love to see the study giving credit to this comment and pool of people asked, controls, etc. (That last part is facetious, it doesn't exist.) Don't take anything of the above as an endorsement of sex work. I just get peeved at thinly veiled attempts to degrade/shame men on this subject, instead of earnestly looking at the 'why' of the activity, and its prevalence. Same goes for the pornography narrative.

[@TheR1zzard0f0z]

This Sadia girl hasn't even done the bare minimum and looked at PMC, NCBI or PubMed to properly backup her claims. I would like her to go back to school and work under a PI. This type of rhetoric irks me to the nth degree.

[@paulberry5750]

Emotional Intelligence = how controllable are you.

[@stefanthomassen4750]

Haha, as our statistic professor said, statisticly it is much more expensive, to be 20 years married/in a relationship and divorce, then visiting 20 years escort-girls :-) Any more questions ?

[@ghuff31]

hahaha, I just knew that statement would prick the ego of someone from the toddlersphere. Bravo, you wrote an entire diatribe on your own mental issues with women!

[@showcase0525]

Somebody understands both the speaker and the content. Bravo.

[@antoniopalmiero6761]

I am a man who was emotionally and physically abused and then abandoned as a child and because of my traumas I am unable to have relationships and I unconsciously sabotage every relationship, but at the same time I have great emotional intelligence and a desire (which I hide) to connect with people and for this reason I never even consider paying a woman for sex, you have to be an emotionally off person with zero empathy to be able to do it and enjoy it.

[@nickymaria2023]

@@antoniopalmiero6761 maybe one day you can have a healthy relationship, you seem a good man. You deserve love.

[@WolfManThoughts]

Sadia tries to connect everything with past trauma. But not all women or men have past trauma. They just do it because they have less emotional intelligence and their sub-conscious brain doesnt give them signs that it is wrong. Not everything has to do with past and past trauma. Some people are like that. They dont feel anything or sub-consciously they dont feel something is wrong. So they did it anyways.

[@ST-yc7uj]

Emotional child neglect is trauma

[@ManPursueExcellence]

@@ST-yc7ujThe OP is right. Some people just don’t give a shit. Not every socially unacceptable thing is related to past traumas and all this stuff.

[@ST-yc7uj]

@@ManPursueExcellence i am talking psychology, not buzzwords

[@ManPursueExcellence]

@@ST-yc7uj That doesn’t change what I said. Many old school parents didn’t emphasize emotions with their children. It was either follow their rules or get spanked/beaten. Most people grew up just fine. Life wasn’t just one big trauma.

[@paragonofgood]

Being unable to cope and process emotions is a form of trauma.

[@iaintaylor3709]

I learn something new every time I listen to Sadia Khan what a brilliant mind this women has!

[@LiquidfirePUA]

Not sure yet another red pill grifter 😂

[@aojorel]

@@LiquidfirePUAI have only seen her state how negative the red pill is. But is logical in what she knows. She’s definitely useful as she brings expertise in her field and clarity on the subject. But as with anyone they don’t have all the answers or are always right.

[@RicksPhatPharm-vw2lb]

"ref pill grifter" you clearly uninformed on what the red pill is and who MGTOW are... Calling him a grifter but rallying behind a feminist straight out of Islam's harems is such a cope

[@NB-yu4lj]

@@LiquidfirePUAhow?

[@NB-yu4lj]

@@NicolasNigglesshe is

[@aronhighgrove4100]

11:54 Simp shaming and slut shaming existing for similar reasons makes a lot of sense. The perspective of not giving resources without getting sex or affection back etc., makes a lot of sense. We need to hear more of that perspective, to override the guilt and shame that forces many men to give up more of their time and attention then they want, because otherwise society often bullies them into thinking they are bad people.

[@magicmarlie]

Ive always said this, women punish stupid men for wanting to be with them because they know they're unworthy. That's why you hear these stories of men dating the sex workers and the guy tries to be everything the woman wants. He accepts her selling her body, accepts her kids, stay committed and faithful and even go as far as to marry him, and she absolutely destroys him or just disrespects the shit out of him.

[@manictiger]

I wouldn't care if they didn't reproduce. Idiocracy might have been a prediction instead of a warning.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

Aren’t sex workers normal people?

[@magicmarlie]

@matthewschwartz6607 what's normal about having sex for money and designer goods?

[@matthewschwartz6607]

@@magicmarlie - It’s just a job. Most of them have normal lives and are normal people.

[@matthewschwartz6607]

@@magicmarlie - I know many. I really want to be in a relationship with one, but she now has a boyfriend .🤦‍♀️

[@josefarrington]

2:20 "Men that pay for sex believe that they cannot access a woman of that caliber in real life". Well, maybe not by the price that the escort charges. How much money the Alpha spends(takes advantage off), in order to have access to an escort like woman? There are multiple men in the upper strata of society that use escorts from time to time, even if they can access those women without directly paying. Is like going to a restaurant; If someone eats in a restaurant, does that mean that that person doesn't know how to cook?

[@jasperruddock5155]

I met a prostitute the other day who told me she believes sex is over rated Women this is what happens when you have sex with no connection and intimacy

[@jjbarea5810]

That’s when they get it all the time it’s overrated

[@V3rnSqwd5611]

That’s exactly what she said in the video. They devalue sex because it’s likely they’ve been sexually assaulted. It lessens the pain of the assault by saying that sex is overrated.

[@jessed3648]

​@@V3rnSqwd5611i was a male stripper when i was 18yrs old till early 20e. Most of the women ive dated in my life were sex workers. Im 39yrs old now and still in good shape but i really hurt myself doing that job to support my héroïne habbit, i used to get calls from women friend of mine in the middle of the nite telling me they were whit a trick who wan a 3some. Im hurt, most sex workers are hurt and we almost all have been sexualy abused when we were young. The last thing we need its to be shamed. To go thru that and get out of that is hard, it built a caracter and we learn how to size ppl real quick. Im 39yrs old, i work now, my girlfriend is a ex stripper and she s doing ok working has a hair stylist. Those incels on YT are angry and bitter.

[@9395gb]

Tell that to men too.

[@TGP109]

Sex is overrated, full stop.

[@grayson.c.estrada]

She’s so clear in articulating her thoughts into words. Amazing.

[@johnkeane1419]

🤡

[@dinos9607]

And yet she lies when she claims that prostitutes, all or most of them, come from abuse. Prostitutes do come generally from lower socio--economic backgrounds and often from broken homes but other than they were not abused in the sense she insinuates. The typical case of a prostitute is that of a poor girl who has had sex at 15-16, got abandoned by her boyfriend, then found a new one and a new one and someone left her pregnant and she either kept the child or she aborted it and having lost touch with the "romantic game" she decided to monetise her sex. Good for her. These are for the most women who would be forced to become cleaning ladies or working at menial positions in a factory or in the fields. To avoid that "fate" they prefer prostitution because they personally find sex work as less tiring, more flexible and by all means far more lucrative. Prostitutes earn on average between 5 and 10 times what they would earn in a job that would correspond to their skills or better say lack of them. I am a client for years and I talk with them and most of them genuinely admit they love their work, mainly for 2 reasons : money and the time flexibility : they can start and stop working anytime they like, these are women who can't work in a fixed timetable, you can't lock them in a factory or in an office cubicle. She also lies about "connection". Sex with a prostitute does not differ from a hook up like the hook ups she promotes, maybe not directly but certainly indirectly. We don't live in a world where sex takes place inside marriage, most of sex going on takes place outside marriage. Hook ups for the most. And the only difference between prostitution sex and hook ups is that the man does not have to pay as much and he does not have to lie and manipulate. Because let's face the elephant in the room : for the vast majority of men to have sex, they need to lie and manipulate (at least by a little if not by quite much) and then spend quite a lot (often exorbitant amounts of money) - the latter being the winning point for women in this game, a point which is threatened of course by prostitution. For all Sadia cares, prostitution lowers the price of sex and that is why she speaks so negatively against it and lies about it.

[@lonewulfmo9128]

I found her articulate but not amazing. She comes across to me as a mild narcissist. She is slightly demeaning in her view of men who use prostitutes. the reality is not all men who go to prostitutes the same and not all prostitutes the same. i know a semiplegic guy who is very good friends with a prostitute. he has many female friends but evidently he not good enough for em despite being a sweet guy. The prostitute althoug paid takes really good care of this guy and makes him happy. It's not a cold, emotionless, relationship as sadia would frame it. the reality is having a sexual partner is a matter of luck: looks, personality and money you have. There's actually many men who can't have sex and it's not because of low self esteem, it just is the sad reality of their circumstance.

[@sole__doubt]

Right, if she wasnt so good looking no one would even pay attention.

[@robi6317]

doesnt mean she's correct

[@andikanotung4808]

When she's right, it's great because she explains it so eloquently. When she's wrong, it's annoying, for the same reason 😂

[@popwayneful]

nooo cap

[@LaLabutterfly]

What points do you see she was wrong/disagree with? Or is it in another video?

[@andikanotung4808]

​@LaLabutterfly another video, I think

[@philippagrimoire5968]

@@LaLabutterflyshe is wrong about all sex workers being sexually abused as kids. That’s a stereotype

[@JewTube001]

@@LaLabutterfly I liked the first part where she says clients are avoidant, but then she says we all must have low EQ and empathy, which is the opposite for me. Simply being avoidant or a little transactional doesn't mean I need to have low EQ. That said the type of man does exist, but like the abused as kids things she makes some big generalizations.

[@Lovexychrome1]

Loved what she said about sexual abuse devalues your sexuality and the importance 😢

[@sublimeister9630]

The same excuse - sexual abuse, broken place, taking charge of body, etc. etc. etc. SO MANY WOMEN out there who are just plain struggling to ECONOMICALLY survive due to Debt-slavery. 👍

[@montoya-400]

Yes ! And guys like me using that because I can't find a woman to give me a chance, let alone meet in appropriate conditions !

[@thetaxaccountant]

Exactly. Think beyond what you been taught at university.

[@Feminine-s7v]

Will you let your daughter do it? If you never will, then don't support it.@@thetaxaccountant

[@Feminine-s7v]

Clearly you've never been@@thetaxaccountant

[@justlkbj]

If we were off the debt system it would be no different now your required to hunt and build a house you have no choice your house and food is now currency instead and women would still struggle in that situation

[@Fielion]

the arrogance in her is strong... its easy for her to call other women unattractive and being not a threat. What arrogant women dont get is that arrogance makes them unattractive as well.

[@VerbalKarate]

All men pay. An escort is just a far more honest transaction.

[@mathiusq9128]

This way of thinking only makes sense for materialists

[@hellstromcarbunkle8857]

@@mathiusq9128 Been watching Musk lately? Materialists are the winners who set the rules.

[@MatthewThomas-ye1ei]

@@hellstromcarbunkle8857 we have free will to follow those rules or higher ones

[@HughYoung-d4j]

This way of thinking only makes sense to those of us who actually THINK -

[@merakiwellbeing6955]

I’m trying really hard to build Female relationships but it’s so aggressive and competitive all of the time, I just can’t be bothered with the bullying and drama!

[@vira1340]

Finally Chris got it right. Women exchange sex for resources. Either through marriage or sex work. Now that women have their own resources their demands from men have become just impossible skewing the market. Legal sex works evens the playing field. This situation can only be remedied through legalizing and destigmatizing sex work. This will make women's expectations realistic enough to form connections. Every woman who is against sex work will couch it in the language of exploitation to sound noble. However, essentially she is acting out of self interest to keep the price of sex high. Such women have no concern or empathy men.

[@theeel420]

Sex work is legal in most countries. Doesn't change a thing.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

Good luck with that.

[@KirosWinstone]

But we condemn sex workers, this seems like a zero sum game. It just creates another problem, look at only fans and the damage that’s done. You want the answer, the only winning move is not to play. For everyone, not just men, but I think both sides are fueling the fire with their actions.

[@vira1340]

I agree we should not play the marriage or relationship game especially given current divorce laws. I am not sure why we should not play the sex work game. What damage does only fans actually cause?? On the other hand smart women on only are making a lot of money. The opposition to sex work comes from elites who want to eliminate sex work to make marriage the only avenue for sex and to force people to play the marriage and relationship game. This is not in men's interest. Se we need to ensure sex work is legal.@@KirosWinstone

[@maijensen3317]

Imagine you had to sell your body. Would you like having people you don't know and probably despice use your body for sex? Would you like to be used as a disposable thing? Would you like your daughter, your son or sister to be a prostitute? I do know that a minority of the sex workers enjoy their job, but I believe that most sexworkers are selling their bodies out of desperation. Prostitution should not be option for survival. Instead we have to offer more help to the people who struggle. Saving women, young girls and young boys is simply more important than mens need for sex. Your life isn't ruined if you can't get a prostitute. A sexworker will most likely end up scarred. Ban prostitution!

[@lenks1018]

A lot of female escorts say that 50% of their clients are married men

[@simjam1980]

Yes, so how are they going to have a loyal, trusting relationship when they have slept with hundreds of men who are cheating on their wives. They can't. They will be so insecure that you will go through hell trying to prove yourself, while she most likely is the one who goes and cheats.

[@MalesAreDemons]

Disgusting

[@cheezedoodlenygguh6229]

It's been proven that y'all are more attracted to married men than single men.

[@cheezedoodlenygguh6229]

It's been proven that wimmen are more attracted to married men than single men.

[@ariestrucker7832]

Sex workers are absolutely disgusting. they despise the very men who are the reason they're able to support themselves, and will lay up with a broke thug that they'll help plot on a decent hardworking customer to rob him or even kill him

[@ObserverOne6727]

Humans are animals. We talk a lot about it whereas the other animals just do it.

[@lowbloodprsure]

WRONG guys pay for hot escorts because its cheaper and less of a headache.

[@alpringle9356]

I was scrolling and looking for this comment before I wrote it. I don't think she knows how all men are. Most men are tired of women bull so it easier to Pay and get what you want and go. They will say but men do Bull too but that's not the topic we on right now. That's another discussion.

[@sherriflemming3218]

They also may not be capable of maintaining a healthy relationship.. Monogamy, intimacy and commitment..

[@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

cheating is a dealbreaker, but so is sex withdrawal and weaponization, @@sherriflemming3218 .

[@photina262]

What you call a headache means a mutually respectful loving relationship where you have to be accountable

[@cheezedoodlenygguh6229]

@photina262 Men don't need drama. We're grown.

[@ShantiOwen]

Thank you for your support Sadia! I’ve been watching your videos via other platforms and channels and only recently found your own channel. You’ve helped enormously!

[@NormanInAustralia]

Thanks!

[@starryskies1370]

I’ve been a Stripper almost all of my adult life and I’ve never been molested. I just love the fame & fortune of the lifestyle. I also don’t have a pimp and have never seen dancers w pimps in any other place besides Vegas. With those inconsistencies aside, Love Sadia!❤

[@shanginadildo]

You are the exception, not the rule. You may also have blocked out the abuse you suffered as a child. I hope you change your career and do something more fulfilling

[@dedricklane4899]

No shame in that.. did you respect the men that would give their money away or would you prefer a man with self discipline?

[@starryskies1370]

@@shanginadildo I’m about to become a first time home owner by utilizing the financial means attained through my dance career so it’ll def be a few more years 👍🏽❤️

[@starryskies1370]

@@dedricklane4899 I had a baby and long term relationship with a guy that I met at my club 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@vira1340]

Even if I grant you that. Compassion is about letting people who are exceptions live life the way they want without criminalizing or shaming them. legalizing sex work makes it safer for sex workers. Stop being an evil person. @@shanginadildo

[@raymondtendau2749]

This woman is so brilliant. I have a lot to learn from her. Any video of her I watch is just spot on analyses. She explains so well. Big up yourself Queen.

[@steelearmstrong9616]

No she’s not. Dudes like are the problem. Stop kissing their butts. It’s desperately sad

[@MrZola1234]

She's an untrained life coach who should be prosecuted for impersonating a psychologist.

[@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

simps who call women "queens" don't deserve to be referred to as "men".

[@luckyrockmore2796]

Would bang 💯

[@seventhkeyomegasghost8233]

@@steelearmstrong9616 lmao. My man.

[@LoyalBlackSG]

Mainly it’s because they have been disrespected all their lives long. And they can’t handle a man who values other things than her sexuality. To all the men out there, respect and loyalty over love. And even if you love a disrespectful woman, walk away from her. She is used to being told by men who would pay her bills.

[@mylolita]

I would also like to add, as an ex stripper but also a deep romantic (I know right, how do they go hand in hand?!) that women have been taking money (or “resources”) from men since time memorial. Whether you do this within a respectful marriage, a loving boyfriend/girlfriend relationship or whether this is a transactional thing, women get things from men, and men also get something from the woman. I cook and clean for my husband and raise our children, and have done this now for 15 years. He provides financial support and a great life for me and our children. I adore him! When I was stripping, I was taking the fleeting financial opportunity - but everything comes with a price. My husband no doubt is paying for me - do I sit back and do nothing? All relationships have some element of transaction - let’s be realistic! The difference is, when love and respect and friendship is involved, because to take that away, reveals the stripper and the customer, the hooker and the trick, the one night stands etc etc.

[@jcaff6963]

If it's a taking or a transactional thing, it's a lot different than a love thing. If you don't see the difference, you need to get some glasses.

[@anandagopalpardue270]

This is a hot take, especially coming from a former stripper. I also agree with the comment about love being a different motivation. Even when there is love there are still transactions. They don’t tally the same, however.

[@mylolita]

I get what people are saying - in a dream world, love would be pure and selfless and perfect, and everything would be 50/50! But, with any long term relationship, the power dynamic shifts continuously, and you “bring things” to every relationship. The man might bring stability, finances, protective nature and calm. The woman might bring positivity, beauty, organisation and outgoing vibrancy. It’s all give and take, and a continual balancing act. Women have been looking for providers since the dawn of time, and men will always be attracted to youth and beauty. It’s a trade off. To tell a young and beautiful woman not to monetise or use her beauty for gain, is like telling an intelligent competent man not to use his intelligence to make money for himself. I’ve been happily married for 10 years to my husband, we have three kids and a happy home. No disrespect to KZbin culture commenters, but notice how these celebrities philosophise without having a lasting marriage, or even being married ever before! Maybe it’s time to watch “Pretty Woman” again!

[@jamesdougall2886]

every single thing in life is transactional... @mylolita is 100% on-point. Most people just can't accept this. And this includes all forms of love. And actually, it's totally fine! It's the respect that's the key, not the transactional element.

[@gavinr9107]

Very well and clearly stated mylolita. It is an interesting observation that Sadia is not married or has children at 36 years old. It is clear she is well educated and provides some excellent and interesting insights. I still perceive what she says with a grain of salt.

[@BigdaddyGO]

I think most of what she says happens subconsciously, that u don't even realize when it happen to u.

[@ariestrucker7832]

She says "skip emotional connection" as if there's plenty of women left even WORTH an effort towards emotional connection

[@RobertDore-x4x]

Sadly, you are right. I have an increasingly sensitive antenna when it comes to women who've monetized their genetic lottery winning ticket.

[@delideri3518]

I want to see this woman’s phd.She is brazen enough to spout rubbish in order to be monetized without being properly qualified.

[@davidhall3747]

I wonder why she never talked about the sex workers developing Dissociative Personality Disorder?

[@FreedomandRights4US]

Very refreshing to randomly run into this channel yesterday, this woman knows her stuff!

[@ChicoLatino098]

It's highly ridiculous that someone who is a misandrist and misogynist is hooking up a lot. Absolute hypocrisy!

[@ronhot3774]

I'm impressed with how spot on Sadia is. I've spoken to alot of sex workers and the majority were sexually abused as children, so for them the act of sex lost its special status. Then as they got older they learned that giving men sex was the easiest way to gain resources from them. On the other side the men who are addicted to the industry go there because they were rejected by women. Either they were in long term relationships that fell apart or they just got sick of being rejected by women at clubs. It's to the point now where the thought of dating a regular western woman makes them cringe. Then there is the money factor. It's a common joke that a girlfriend will "spend all your money", but its actually seems to be true and most men accept it as a part of fulfilling their biological need for sex. In most cases visiting a sex worker is much cheaper than maintaining an expensive girlfriend - you get your physical urges sorted and you still get to live your life. I daresay alot of violence and abuse towards women could be avoided if the perpetrators had access to sex workers.

[@baldeagle4710]

She confirmed at the 6 minute mark that women only respect men that treat them like trash. She's spot on when it comes to trauma and sexual abuse, but not about red pill. red pill is absolutely right about how women worship guys that don't respect them (like pimps and players)

[@KtotheG]

Everyone gets abused. Sex workers are no different. I hold them accountable to their actions and choices, just like everyone else. They choose to hate men because they hate themselves. The johns hate them because they serve other men instead of just serving them alone. They hate each other in that business, but they both feel superior to the other because they are lying to themselves.. both the tricks and the hoze.

[@IAmTheEggMan111]

Spot on

[@marioedward7635]

yes like all women

[@acurrentconspiracyacc2]

Seex work has always been around. In the Medieval Ages, the church even promoted brothels to keep men’s behavior in check and also to stop the negative connotation that Italy (particularly the city of Florence) was home to many hom0seexuals) . The issues of divorce and infidelity were always there too. There really is nothing new under the sun.

[@flyingunicorn109]

I'm a sex worker and I'm more disgusted by men that I meet in everyday life. I wasn't sexually abused as a child. What made me separate sex from emotins were men who have been treating me as a sexual object since my early teenage years. I've been harrassed by men in everyday life countless times and the people who dated me always pushed me into sex really early. It's like it's a normal thing these days to sleep with someone on the second date. As you can guess, the sexual experiences weren't really great (I guess the men "knew" everything they knew about sex from porn...) and it took me many years to discover my boundaries, likes and dislikes and be able to communicate them. So once you're offered money to sleep with someone and you realize you get pretty much the same experiences like when dating, why not take it? This way I at least get something out of the dates. Even if the sex isn't that great, I still get paid. Oh yes, and I have had some long term relationships too and I loved those people. That didn't make sex anyhow better though. Maybe during the honeymoon phase and it sure feels better to sleep with someone you feel comfortable with and who knows what you like, but otherwise it's just the same.

[@acurrentconspiracyacc2]

Seex work has always been around. In the Medieval Ages, the church even promoted brothels to keep men’s behavior in check and also to stop the negative connotation that Italy (particularly the city of Florence) was home to many hom0seexuals. The issues of divorce and infidelity were always there too. There really is nothing new under the sun !

[@robi6317]

if guys push you into sex too early, dont date them. i've dated several women that stated up front sex isnt on the table for a while and i was happy to be on their time frame. i tell female friends, dont give a guy sex for at least a month, maybe 2-3 if possible and you'll see who is interested in you for you real quick.

[@Jen281]

It may not have been sexual abuse but It’s still trauma that you experienced that influenced your decision to get into sex work.

[@flyingunicorn109]

@@Jen281 Nah, I don't think so. And with all the respect, I think I know myself better than you ;)

[@godnyx117]

​@@robi6317 Not having sex just to test a guy is disgusting and if I realized a girl did that, I would be disgusted and lose any interest for her.

[@GizmoMaxx]

Once a sexworker it's always a sex worker. This lady contradict the emotional side of connections from emotional to paid one way or another.

[@KorisnickoIme84]

I don't think Sadia understands how hard it is for an average guy to get sex from an average women..Probably thinks if he just puts in enough effort and treats her well it will be enough..little does she know dating apps exist and have ruined that..

[@EMcgame.23]

The only Option average men have is old women lol it I mean They don't mind giving up for free.

[@HerveMendell]

In my experience as an average man, attractive women don't even allow you to talk to them.

[@oceanroyal]

Thank you Sadia - I am an OF creator and didn't realise how harmful it is. I feel like you're content has saved me. I look forward to exiting this industry

[@sadiapsychology]

I'm so glad! ❤️❤️❤️

[@Loviebovie1993]

@@marilynlucas5128um what

[@Bimbo-Balls]

@@marilynlucas5128😂😂😂

[@godnyx117]

​@@marilynlucas5128 Are you a programmer?

[@marilynlucas5128]

@@godnyx117 Yup

[@DeathsInverse]

This woman is the truth

[@paulkieffer1189]

She’s a brilliant communicator. Humanity needs millions of women just like her

[@okeyokey578]

she single for reason

[@Gdesign959]

What she says about Hamas and Israel was way off and now proven. I doubt she apologizes for being wrong.

[@AstroMartine]

some of what she says makes at least partial sense, but mostly, she's pretty full of it, honestly.

[@peterharrell7305]

She's just pretty, that's why you think you like her. She's not saying anything special.

[@baldeagle4710]

@@peterharrell7305 lol. exactly. if she were 350 lbs, guys on this channel would be making fun of everything she said

[@tweeze123]

I'm a man who grew up without his emotional needs met. I'm 34 and never been in an intimate relationship and I believe it's because the idea of emotional connection makes me uncomfortable. I even struggle to form friendships with other men, I always cut them off once we start getting really along really well. Do you think getting a girlfriend and making friends will help me learn to have emotional connections or do I need a therapist

[@mr.carguy3161]

I would say therapy is best. It’s because you must HEAL your trauma. THAT dictates the quality of your relationships. Even with friends.

[@theEpicxY]

1:00 i dated a girl, she said exactly that. sex is just sex. it never made sense to me but now i understand more

[@simjam1980]

They are emotionally broken, unable to pair bond with anyone. They have no loyalty.

[@ashleycruz8686]

Sadia you are a true gift to the world. Thank you for making this crazy choaotic world we live in understandable, staying true to high standards & values and speaking the truth. You are the epitome of a high value woman. I absolutely love your platform and all your content. Also, thanks to your parents for raising such an amazing, brilliant, well-balanced daughter/human. 🖤

[@tsubaka18]

She is not ,and she is not

[@godnyx117]

​@lustyhitter Because people tend to value people that have the same views as them. She would day the same if that person said something she didn't liked and agreed with. In the end of the day, these comments mean absolutely nothing.

[@zrm1134]

ALL WOMEN DISRESPECT MEN ...... WHEN A MEN SHOW RESPECT TO WOMAN, HE IS TREATED LIKE A LOSER

[@JulissaDanna]

I appreciate her input on many things, but I have to say as a sex worker, this is not completely true - I was raised in a normal two parent household, never had any kind of abuse. The reason I chose to do sex work is because it is easiest money there is, and there are only two options for women - get something in return for sex or give it away for free, and in a capitalist society where time is money, it makes zero logical sense to have sex for free, because most men do not view sex as “sacred” or “special” anyway. Most men are transactional therefore it only makes sense to deal with them in a transactional way.

[@boukm3n]

You’re the exception. Congratulations

[@photina262]

You are privileged and this is not the story of most sw globally

[@jubedaine]

It’s such an interesting subject as not many professionals talk about the actual psychology behind sex workers. As an independent escort here in Australia, I could absolutely relate to this part as I have thought about it some many times: "The reason why emotional disconnection is so important for the customers is because a man who understand emotional intelligence and a woman’s emotion wouldn’t feel comfortable having sex with a woman who he knows doesnt want to be there. A guy that normally has emotional intelligence would think oh gosh, she’s probably not enjoying this and oh gosh what trauma led her to get here? I don’t want to have sex with somebody who doesnt want to have sex with me. But the man who skips that emotional intelligence and just want pleasure will not even think about the emotional trauma that got her into this position and will just think as long as she pleases me I don’t really care what it took to get her here." It feels like talking about it would hurt too much, so we just go about our business and hope for the best. Thank you for the great episode, I love your work!

[@Latinblood59]

Wild!

[@gavinr9107]

As she discussed, a lot of professional men who are financially secure use services provided by escorts. Escorts come from a variety of backgrounds and have a variety of reasons for becoming one, much in the same way that their customers use their services. Married men and single men both see escorts. You can't paint everyone with the same brush. There are also escorts that are not objectively good looking in the same way that you have clients that are objectively good looking with emotional intelligence. Whilst what she says has an element of truth, it can't be taken as gospel and is still her opinion (even if it is a 'qualified' and 'professional' one)

[@Hapotecario]

@@gavinr9107 well said. Sadia, as a psychology professional podcaster also knows how to work the crowd with triggers and innuendo. It might just be that at some point in a mans life, the lack of intimacy creates a stronger response that overtakes the importance of caring for a woman's feelings.

[@sparklesp9304]

​@@gavinr9107Based on what? She's literally a professional who has the credibility to speak on this.

[@gavinr9107]

@@sparklesp9304 Based on the fact she has zero experience in sex work. Based on the fact she has a degree in Psychology, not a doctorate. She is speaking about the subject in a broad general context and is not an expert. Simple as that....

[@harraldschmitt9113]

At 3:20 and onward: thats a really controversial position in my opinion. Here, in Germany prostitution is legal, and i have NEVER heard of a man renting a hooker to „boost his ego“. There is also not neccesarrily a psychological reason for why men use hookers. We are simple animals. Men want to have sex. Convincing a woman to organically give it up is difficult, time consuming and expensive, and has a very low success rate. It is thusly simpler to just pay a whore and be done with it.

[@bca-biciclindcuaxel7527]

Men that pay for escorts are like men that pay to rent a Ferrari for a couple of days but would never want to buy or own one and deal with all the problems :))

[@fishstickbio594]

What problems ? Usually your insecurity and faulty thinking is at play only .

[@alejandrodelgado5829]

​@@fishstickbio594if you want to fly, you buy a plane or rent a sit on it?

[@AliTonzon]

​@@fishstickbio594problems that shes used up

[@stevet6676]

She's really correct about clients falling in "love" with their escorts. I have commented to a couple of guys leaving their own comments to get the heck out of those relationships. I have never gone to a SW, but for these two guys who got so emotionally entangled with their escort became consumed with jealously. I guess they thought the SW would see them as "their guy". Really sad, no kidding.

[@Leto2ndAtreides]

This sounds more like what people want to think is true, rather than what always is true. Humans vary, circumstances vary... And it's easy money. Especially if you're decent looking and have a good personality. People can also compartmentalize different aspects of their lives. The "This is how I behave with someone I love" thing is its own function, driven by its own emotional context.

[@simjam1980]

But you can't just turn that emotional connection on and off at will. If you flick that switch too many times, the switch breaks. And then they can't tell the difference between having sex with a customer or their own partner. Broken, empty people.

[@TheKifster]

I can only speak for my close male friends and myself (all married) when I say that they do actually fret a great deal about the emotional well being of the sex workers they interact with. The reason they're there nonetheless paying for it is because they want high volumes of sex. The truth is simpler. I feel like we're making rocket science out of sticks and stones.

[@codeforce5556]

Rule 1 for all men, never take advice from women,even this one😅

[@sadiapsychology]

Said by an incel who pays for sex

[@kev2263]

​@sadiapsychology As a man in a relationship that gets women. I honestly think the guy who just pays for sex is winning. Why? His situation is transactional no emotions involved, there's no risk for cheating, and its cheaper paying than doing it the conventional way. In a relationship you use more resources, the sex isnt as good as a professional, also when paying for sex theres no chance of a divorce and someone taking your resources.

[@lenks1018]

​@@sadiapsychology incels dispise escorts

[@shiningdragon8737]

​​@sadiapsychology You pay regardless, don't get mad because he's correct. ALL men pay, either up front or when she chooses she's done and robs him of his resources.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

@@sadiapsychology Yeah? You have proof or are you just saying stuff?

[@doodlemecrzy8075]

As a man who has seen plenty of female betrayal, I do not want to further subject myself to emotional or financial pain. Just within a small circle I witnessed over 10 cases of female betrayal or monkey branching. Personally I do not wish to pretend or lie to women just to obtain sex because marriage is not one of my life goals. Hence I pay for 53x, have women friends just for female companionship. By paying for 53x , my needs are met hence I have strength to resist temptation from the wrong type of women.

[@bradleyolson3608]

you should go on the fresh and fit show, the women on there need to hear from you, love your mindset, keep preaching!!!

[@olgakuranova7986]

I'm always so shocked to hear about women being ruthless to each other. I hear it a lot, but I never encountered it in my life. I'm always comfortable about talking about achievements to my friends, and hearing they did something great always made me happy and proud - that I'm friends with such amazing people) I do cherish my male friends as well, but we are not that close. And if we were, it would look... a little inappropriate if we were. I hug and hold hands with my female friends, and no, not doing it with male friends.

[@TGP109]

Me too, never ran into any ''cattiness' in my life.

[@Retarmy1]

I am retired USA army and I been all over the world, when I was in Germany, it was just more like fun, to go to the Red light area of town, but when I was a good relationship here in USA, I never would go to a strip clubs, it was situational depending what was going in my life. The strippers, I met many of them here in USA, would try to make some type of mental connection with you like just talking to me for 5 minutes, like some type of mental control, I would just laugh at the stripper and tell them they are nothing but a rental. Many strippers try to tell me they are the hottest most sexy thing alive when they to get me to go a back, room where they 100 for 3 songs, I would just laugh, becasue i been to Russia and had many girl frinends.

[@CommandoMaster]

That’s a really interesting point on an abused woman will try to minimize the importance of sex so that it doesn’t seem like a big deal and they can take back some control of it. 🎉

[@velvetindigonight]

Loved this so much we’ve forgotten returned to me! Thank you

[@Mr.Bardel4363]

we need a better stronger society . and more respect . ban no fault divorce . ban onlyfans . manadatory paternity tests . disable father state . ban social media acces for children under 18 .

[@jbravo0173]

Sadia is an absolute pillar of strength to society in general. I find her intriguing. What a wonderful lady

[@taylorx777]

She tell’s me . You know there are guys in this world that have No Game. They don’t even know how to approach a girl let alone talk to her. There are some guys that ain’t what you’d call handsome or cute. No woman ever swipes right on these guys. These guys have done everything the magazine article, the books, the love gurus have said to do. They’ve bought flowers, candies, clothing, jewelry, shoes , expensive dinners. You name it. But still no women are even slightly interested in any type of contact. All these guys are hoping for is a little human contact. If it turns into more so be it. Now, the women who are willing to make contact with these guys are what I see as Angels. Though the rest of society only sees them as Sex Workers. They get paid,. Yes Because it’s WORK!!! So what!! But tell me what’s the price of flowers, clothing, jewelry These guys are humans that need just some human contact. They’re not asking or even hoping for more from women. They’ve been rejected , denigrated, used for material and financial gain with nothing in return.

[@Ludo045]

She doesnt care for these men. She expect them to suffer in silence or some bs like that.. or maybe she'll come out with some gaslight as "just try harder bro" "they are the right for you" "keep looking" bla bla bla.. Ofc she can and will say such thing because as a woman she and they dont need to do anything to find someone. 🙃 Always blaffing how are men listening to women on these matters.

[@johnspivack6520]

I think you are both right. You both above have some wisdom and kindness. I don't judge people who are looking for warmth, love,etc, even if they are incomplete and maybe can't get all the way there. I don't trust sadia, there seems to be a lack of empathy in her... she's a poison person in a pretty package. @@Ludo045

[@JohnnySilverhand21]

Well is very difficult to have “no game” I speak from experience I was really a loser when I was younger with girls. Truth is it’s most about charm, you just have to develop it. You need to truly love women and connect with them on an emotional level. You need to overcome the fear of rejection and have some personality. Then you’ll start attract women like magic. Trust me I have been the guy with no chance now all changed. It’s all on your mind….

[@hames7497]

Calling sex workers angels has to be one of the simpiest things I've heard. Do you fall in love with them also

[@مجتهد-خ2ف]

As a Muslim, I believe that Islam is fair to women. They are mothers, sisters, and wives. Their primary role is to take care of the husband and children. So, if you want to destroy any society, start with women. We have to return to our nature. We are all complementary to each other, and each one performs the role for which he was created.

[@holonet1]

It doesn't matter what this woman or anyone else says for that matter. I'm a realist, I'm never getting 8,9's or 10's. Most likely not 5's, 6's or 7's either. So if Strip clubs & or escorts are the only way, then so be it.

[@JohnnySilverhand21]

You need some self esteem man

[@jeanneparadise8200]

She is absolutely correct and insightful about the disconnection and wounding of borh parties. Amazing!

[@td2222]

The psychologist who doesn't understand how both prostitution and obesity are both trauma related behavior. There's no compassion in the world. I thought at least psychologist would have the knowledge.

[@mrstonesrocker]

👍❤️

[@twinturbo3461]

So much truth spoken in this interview. Thank you Sadie for explaining this.

[@Nick_The_Remedy]

Guys like escorts because it’s fun and most women are not valuable enough to build an emotional connection with. Also, most women do not want a sap anyways. Contradictory logic

[@AltheaMarch-oo9qt]

Women who have been devalued and sexually abused will most likely turn to being a sexworker. 😢😮

[@steelearmstrong9616]

Rubbish. It’s just a loophole they use to excuse them of the work they really enjoy

[@NB-yu4lj]

@@steelearmstrong9616I think it’s both…but they are obviously wounded too

[@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier]

seeing how non-workers make dating difficult today, you can guess the world adjusts the offer to match the demand.

[@x7zy-xx]

proof please?

[@AltheaMarch-oo9qt]

Yes, read third world statistics from the UN on this.

[@a81758]

Society and the family structure is broken. The result of that is broken people who are too emotionally immature to be in relationships. I myself have a lot to learn.

[@josron6088]

A very interesting insightful conversation. It also reminds me why I stopped dating. Way more trouble than it's worth. I rather have my money and my peace of mind and just do something else. Who really wants to navigate all this crap ?

[@joelharvey]

*I like escorts for a few reasons that aren't being considered here. First and foremost - convenience. Other routes to sex aren't guaranteed, they a require a large investment of time, effort and money, and they carry a substantial risk of some form of emotional pain to both the woman and myself. Whereas an escort eliminates all of those factors and gives me what I want for a relatively small fee. The appeal of this benefit should be obvious. Secondly, **--and this is perhaps less obvious--** Escorts permit you to relax and behave in a way that is independent of winning their approval, which is extremely liberating as a man. When you're conventionally dating, you constantly have to balance being yourself with being someone she approves of, and you're under way more pressure to perform in bed as well. But with an escort - I can say what I like and be myself, and I don't have to worry about whether I perform or not, because I've already satisfied her financially (paradoxically, the lack of pressure makes me perform really well.)* *Sadia has some interesting theories but despite her dogmatism, that's what they are - theories. Sometimes things just aren't as deep as she thinks they are.*

[@seanodwyer4322]

Victim Support- Sean O'Dwyer.- number 136- 140 Hobson Street.- Auckland City, 1010.- New Zealand.- South pacific.'

[@TyeMiller1201]

I agree with everything she is saying. I just love listening to her. And I can definitely relate to women in the workplace and just in general, kind of turning their nose up at me, or not liking me for absolutely no reason. So like she said, it’s kind of hard to be like “yaaay women!” Lol when they hate u for no reason.

[@AT-fx1og]

Hey, that has happened to me too. But I don't understand why. I am genuinely kind to other women, but they are almost always rude to me. Always making up rumours, always starting drama.

[@SartorialisticSavage65]

That's how they're taught by not being parented at all and the media. Women are haters. Mystery solved.

[@semmywap2916]

@@AT-fx1ogmaybe threatened by you? Idk I’m a man, so we usually don’t have those problems from other men,l

[@aquarius-woman5364]

​@@semmywap2916Lyer. Men gossip a lot at work and secretly compete but pretend otherwise

[@CommandoMaster]

She’s right. Women don’t support other women, and you can easily see this as when a guy approach a group of women, the friends will always try to find reasons to reject the guy, even if the girl is feeling him. It’s their way of sabotaging other women’s potential for sex or relationships.

[@plentyoflife]

YESSSSSS THATS WHY THEY ARE BAD LEADERS

[@TGP109]

Lol! Maybe it's because her friends are wiser.

[@CommandoMaster]

@@TGP109 Her single girlfriends are not wise. They are delusional and entitled.

[@cheezedoodlenygguh6229]

@TGP109 Yet most of y'all want the same dudes. That's why married men get more attention than single men.

[@90s-Trance_86]

she doesnt mention..men can ALSO go to Hooker street because they're hurt in their passed relationship(s) WITH DRAMA. SO he is going THERE...to get NOT the drama....It's just doing his needs and go away. Drama I mean, witholding se., always complaing, searching for fights, nothing is good through her eyes etc...

[@tg2112]

The point she mentioned about emotional disconnect between escorts and their clients does make a lot of sense. I consider myself to be emotionally intelligent even though I couldn't get laid without the help of escorts. As someone who doesn't have experience with women my mind almost treated them as an alternative to dating, especially after getting rejected dozens of times. the thing is even if you try to humanize those hookers it can't work due to the time & money limitations & they want to make money and do it as many times as possible, so you have to be kicked out. Therefore, it is very limited even if you try being a gentleman with those prostitutes.

[@HearditBefore2024]

Men don’t care if a prostitute respects them or not, as long as she has enough respect to do a good job is all that matters

[@johnspivack6520]

Sadia is just a cup of poison in a pretty package. Don't believe her. She is pouring scorn, contempt and judgment on people who must be suffering a lot inside. All the while she is trying to pass herself off as some kind of healer or teacher. Missing is empathy or understanding for any of the people she discusses and judges. She has no wisdom. She gives off cold arrogance. To me it seems like she is the one who is lacking in love and can't make and meaningful connections. Morally, I don't judge people who are looking for warmth, love,etc, even if they are wounded and incomplete and maybe can't make the journey. I feel compassion and I wish these people well. Religion teaches that love is a mystery and blessing and it can show up anywhere, even in the deepest personal darkness. That is something worth believing in. Sadia is the type who wants to cast the first stone..

[@iris_b]

I felt like the comment about girls who work at strip clubs was insensitive and ignorant. “They are ruthless with how they are taking money from men”. And men are at a strip club because they want to have a human connection with these women, get to know them intimately, gently touch their souls? Nope. They are there to entertain themselves and exploit these women’s bodies. Like, be for real, connect the dots. Women become detached because of men’s cruelty and insensitivity, which is also what happens in sex work, like y’all are saying.

[@christopherseat9871]

I dated a girl 25 years ago. Her mother was a PORN STAR and she was the biggest jerk. She was so abusive to her daughter, her son, and anyone she wanted. She was a good of a scrooge. ❤

[@stefanthomassen4750]

Sadia, I guess you don´t understand men´s psychology. I started going to prostitutes, when I became 33. It was never a problem to me, to get hot chicks into sex or a relationship with them, but with paying for the sexworkers, everything got much easier and quicker. Once a sexworker asked me, why I am paying for women/sex, she said I´m very good looking ( I worked during my university as a model) and I have a good sense of humor and as a consulter, I´m doing good money, so why pay and not do a relationship/marriage with one of the hot chicks I date ? I just said to her, that I didn´t pay for the sex. The directly said, that I just did it 5 minutes ago. I only smiled to her and said : " I paid for not having a stupid or uninteresting conversation before we had sex and that I can leave after finishing without listening to other endless uninteresting living-stories. She got it and laughed... Today, with 53, I quit using their services 6 years ago, but I´m still not interested in a relationship with todays stupid women (not in an intellectual way, more of behaviour). And my parents are still happily married for 54 years, so don´t come by a broken family...

[@Juicyfruitsbythesun]

What a refreshing way to start my day, I love hearing Sadia speak

[@TurfSurf]

Every man is paying for it one way or another. As long as you understand she is not yours, it’s just your turn, don’t get emotionally involved, you are only paying for your physical needs, then everything will be fine. Not everyone hires an escort is looking for a girlfriend or a relationship, actually it’s quite opposite.

[@cmdess]

I figured out the difference between the male and female and I won't be mentioning that. But when you find out for yourself it makes more sense of why we are so different in terms of this subject.

[@ISkandarash]

There is so much condescension, moralism and prejudice in what she claims without any proof. Most prostitutes, especially escorts, do this job essentially for RATIONAL reasons. as a "regular" woman they simply noticed that most men only wanted them for sex (being a "girlfriend" does not automatically give you the benefit of an authentic, sincere, emotional, empathetic relationship! especially when we see the type of toxic relationship in which modern women get involved, allegedly out of "love"...), and rather than being an object of desire for nothing, they did it to earn a living . Most sexworkers are balanced women (much more than the majority of Western women and other "girlfriends") who know what they are doing and stop when they want. Clients are not one type of man, they are of all types and reasons, since times past men have "dated" "non-regular" women (legionaries, traders, adventurers, sailors...), even the men of ms Saadia's family. .. I am passing over the clients who would be these "emotionless" men, whereas it is precisely this type of man who most attracts regular women in modern societies, who see it as a way to live out their Drama... Sexworker dont care about drama, that's what you meant by "disconnected from emotions", I think...

[@israelamador2808]

Sadia, you’re a gift to this world with the work you do. Thank you.

[@casadimilano7048]

I can understand why Sadia would have awful experiences working with women, she would be a huge threat to them because of her beauty.

[@urKikay_Nurse]

I pray for inner healing for all the people in the comment section. Whatever leads you to this kind of path trust and believe that Jesus will free you from the bondage of sin ( sexual immorality and addiction to pornography). Receive your healing today in Jesus name Amen. You are free and healed in the mighty name of Jesus.

[@Fielion]

its impressiv to see how arrogant and snotty she is towards men that she calls low lifes. Life is so easy for women.

[@jenberg3662]

100% agree .....Sadia, I'm a girls girl now..... I've found a few amazing friends...... but it's been a horrible road. Women are shady and cruel. :/ They always think you're interested in their man. 🙄 No, thank you....I wouldn't want a man who would leave his family for me. My values are too high. Integrity matters 100%

[@Sesshoumaru888]

Emotional connection, it means money if you are ugly...and beauty if you are good-looking

[@ziracontractors7841]

Sadia please when you are ready - talk about divorced women with children (the reason for divorce is domestic physical abuse from man to woman) what should the woman do? will the children be okay?

[@SikhokeleMvubu]

She is very details and informative. Every time I listen to her I always get something new

[@AlexKS1992]

To be fair men really don’t care for sex workers either so I say touche.

[@Rejetnicks]

Sadia, you`re the best. It`s so refreshing to listen to.

[@bobbanks6217]

It's funny that by the title and thumbnail , 'hot women' is synonymous with 'sex workers' 😅😅