Why Some Boys Don’t Become Men.

Boys need to move past their feelings and learn to accept the uncertain of life, controlling their feelings and embracing the path of faith. A man does not deny his emotions, neither does he validate them, he accepts them and then moves past them into action. This action is trusting that despite our feelings, Christ has a plan and purpose for our lives.

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[@jordanpresy7671]

Father Moses out here teaching us to bench press our emotions

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Amen… I’m actually benching right now, no joke.

[@pablowentscobar]

Based.

[@pablowentscobar]

@@fathermosesmcpherson The spirit of your savage bench has touched our souls, Amen.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

🤣

[@Vittalius]

I predicted usa will have drafts from 18-35. Mandatory because we don't value young men anymore in political society . Your blessing care? Also 2027 off will be the times

[@ThomasSmith14562]

Just finished reading ‘Raising Warriors: Preparing Your Children For a Godly Life’ and it really opened my eyes to some new ways of guiding my kids in their faith. Highly recommend it if you’re looking to strenghten your family’s spiritual life

[@JoshuaAlo]

By Kaye Buenaventura?

[@ThomasSmith14562]

No, by Fr. Benjamin Johnson

[@lathonland]

this dude goes unbelievably hard.

[@alfonsosolorio7403]

Amen

[@MrAndre505]

"The only thing wrong with your childhood is that it lasted too long." That wrecked me. Wise and edifying words I wish somebody had told me long ago. Thank you, Fr.

[@Nick_Taylor.]

Yup. Had to pause this video when Fr. Moses shared this line because it was dead on for me too.

[@jaymeepaul7156]

Yeah, absolutely brutal. However, true and necessary.

[@metanoeo4]

Well, what about child abuse? Isn't that wrong?

[@TBRCHUD]

As a 42 year old father of three, who probably really didn't start to act like an adult until I was 38, this is absolutely dead on.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Thank you for the kind words and humility.

[@OrthobroLocal1]

I’m 33 and in the same boat. It’s time to step it up and be a man. “In malice be ye children. In understanding be men.” -St. Paul

[@shaunsteele6926]

same here... had my first child at 38. I was never really a mature adult until I became a father.

[@DesiraeJ]

Same as female here

[@michaelgresham1980]

Bro what? 38?

[@madimakes]

This is apparently a not so random recommendation.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

God bless you!

[@thefoxchronicles1232]

Nothing in God's plan is random

[@staychillfox]

well I could say the same you know

[@areyoutheregoditsmedave]

i didn’t start growing up until i was in my 30s. seek the Church, boys. now. don’t waste an entire decade.

[@knb2b-cu1ll]

You're still a boy in that case.

[@josephmedina6403]

When you’re young you want to grow up and be with the older crowd , then when you’re older and all grown up you want to be young again and do things that you couldn’t do as an older grown up .

[@ttgkvngg]

The church is in me

[@barrywhite36]

I thought being a man was being jacked and doing mma. I tried both. For sure , it’s much better than being a guy who stays at home , doing nothing. But my true maturity and building of real wisdom came from having kids and converting to Christianity!

[@FranzVonGaart]

I'm turning 30 in a month and yes it's just hitting me now

[@FiremanKevin]

Having my boys wrestle competitively and serve in Church are the best pedagogy I can muster.

[@eighteenfiftynine]

Get them reading too.

[@FiremanKevin]

@@trevrockrock16 I did martial arts growing up. I wrestled and I fought mixed martial arts to a professional level. And taught Muay Thai for over a decade. Taught kids and adults. Coach wrestling from youth to middle school. I can say from a lot of experience and seeing a LOT of kids that wrestling is the best sport a kid can do. I don’t think it’s even close. Anything is better than nothing. But I emphatically disagree with your statement.

[@SeanWinters]

Never neglect teaching them theology, even if they disagree on some points at least they will have an answer to every theological question.

[@FiremanKevin]

@@SeanWinters yes of course. That sort of goes along with growing up serving in the Church. I felt that theological discussion was self evident in that statement 🤷‍♂️ but in case it wasn’t, rest assured we have many many dialogues around theology.

[@SeanWinters]

@@FiremanKevin you'd be amazed at how many young people serve in their church and they simply never asked any hard questions until they leave, and when they don't have answers as adults that they should have had as kids, that's when they leave the faith.

[@PaxettreugaDei]

26 years old and have come to the utterly crushing reality that I have dug my own pit and sat in it. Jesus Christ came into this world to save sinners, of whom I am the worst, I am chief. Flee from the drug and corn addiction my brothers, flee from it like its hellfire and sprint to the Father, before its too late. Teach your children to FLEE from it, lest you want them to be like me. Christ is Risen, truly he is risen! God bless you Father, your message has helped me hold back my lust for another day.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

I was 25 when I started the internal work, and started abstaining from alcohol and drugs. I was doing drugs/alcohol from the age of 14-25, and I only had 4 months sober that entire time, and it was when I was locked up in a boy’s home! There’s lots of hope for you! Christ is Risen!

[@PaxettreugaDei]

​​@@fathermosesmcpherson Thank you Father, for your response and taking time from your own family for a fallen son. I fall so easily to my nihilism and victimhood, I try to get back up again and be more grateful and courageous. I find so many parallels between failing in excersize and failing in the spiritual life. Either one, you must get back up again. Thank you for your words of hope, I always wanted to hear that from someone else. I'm not sure why, I think its a lack of faith. Forgive my arrogance, I have so much to learn. God bless you, I will pray for you and your boys. ( What a wonderful work he has done in your life, Glory be to Christ! I'm so happy that you kept fighting to this day, I resonate with your wisdom on emotions)

[@IdoStuffProbably]

I'm 29 and quite literally spent the last 6 years in solitary confinement. I've started going to church, and I'm working on finishing my high school education and applying for work. Maybe it isn't too late. We'll see.

[@Adamantos-Elean]

Where is Jesus, why does he not speak to anyone audibly? I have never heard him speak to me and I have asked him to. I don't think your god is real.

[@michaelcarney5936]

@@Adamantos-Elean Every second of your life you have been completely accepted and loved by a God who became man in order to rescue you. Why you don't feel this, I can't pretend to know, especially since we are strangers. But you also have an enemy who will always hate you and who wants to destroy you. Don't mistake "jamming the signal" on the devil's part for silence on God's part. "The Kingdom of Heaven is taken by the violent", the Lord says. What could that mean for you? God bless you!

[@angelusvastator1297]

"A man does not deny his emotions, neither does he validate them, he accepts them and then moves past them into action". A classic banger

[@Koi_to_Dragon]

Absent/Tyrannical Fathers and Overprotective/Devouring mothers are a big part of the problem. It’s hard to go through life and learn how to do everything by yourself with no mentor/role model.

[@NerdyScubaDiver]

100% I can relate. Wow. Thank you for this comment.

[@jaealexander403]

Damn that’s exactly what I feel

[@nyegem.]

Yup can relate, raised by a great single mother who truly cared and provided very well for me although her being overprotective hinders growth by a lot. For an example she didn’t let me buy my own dirt bike for until I was like 18 due to her being worried I would get hurt.

[@metanoeo4]

And how am I supposed to honour a tyrant? Isn't honouring a tyrant an insult to the concept of honour itself?

[@oraclehaveacookie9737]

Its never late to start to work on yourself. Whatever happened to you no matter how bad, doesnt and will never define you. Acknowledge that and push trough it with Gods help

[@meditationsbythiago]

“I am feeling this way right now” rather than “I am this way”

[@Plus1Like]

do you think that's a kind of 'separation from responsiblity' because you put the blame over to the feeling and not yourself?

[@EriPages]

@@Plus1Like There isn't any "BLAME" in having a feeling. The blame only happens if you ACT on a inappropriately based on any given feeling such as happiness, anger, sadness, etc.

[@JamesBarker-qt3pb]

Its Both For Me

[@LiftZone-df1tq]

​@@Plus1Like​ Well it is 100% necessary to separate yourself from your feelings. Now is it tansferring the blame? Yes it is, and it should be, because if you blame yourself for feeling something, you are going to spend your life blaming yourself constantly. Separating from blame does not mean separating from responsibility. Even though you shouldn't blame yourself for feeling something, you should blame yourself for doing something wrong based on those feelings and that is when the responsibility comes. But if you just acknowledge your feelings and do the right thing anyway by separating from them? What responsibility is there to take then?

[@yeziagabi7964]

Yooo I appreciate this bro! 💯

[@FilthyRagsMinistry]

Anger has been my weakness lately. I try to surrender it all to Christ, but sometimes I let it consume me. Im grateful for this video, thank you.

[@danehales5986]

Me too brother. Gaming is not of the father brother. It’s an illusion of accomplishment. I’m trying to break from these chains as well. Much love my friend.

[@FilthyRagsMinistry]

@@danehales5986 There are people who have never heard of Christ on vrchat and they never leave their house/room. There's gotta be someone who gets the Word to them somehow.

[@wojtex2011]

The key word here is "I let it", which clearly shows that you understand what's happening, that's good! I would say that's half of the problem solved.

[@FilthyRagsMinistry]

@wojtex2011 I appreciate that. I've gotten better at surrendering it all to Christ as I feel it dwelling on me. I've been staying in the Word every single day now

[@eliasandrinopoulos8746]

“A man has anxiety and other negative emotions but he pushes through them and accomplishes his goals in spite of them.” Very great talk, God Bless you, Father! ☦️

[@JamesBarker-qt3pb]

AMEN 🙏📿

[@marcosserrano8744]

Meditation is the real key

[@germanpatis9136]

no goal is worth my levels of anxiety

[@xpullupndswerve]

Im an 18 year old of serbian orthodox faith trying to grow up as a man quickly because my estranged father abandoned us 4 years ago (and was never a man/father figure anyway) thank you for these videos. Im truly learning what it means to be a masculine man of God in this fallen society, God bless you Fr. Moses

[@danehales5986]

I’m 24 and just realized I’m not the person I’ve been pretending to be. I’m trying to go all the way back mentally to where all this hate came from.

[@shikochin4962]

Congratulations you are where you can truly find out and sort out the pain and hate in its order. Its a lifelong learning road. Sometimes you will fall so hard that you could punish yourself , beware of that and dont stay there, becasue if you do ,you will miss the opportunity to feel grateful for what those downfalls was trying to teach you. Keep a journal, there you can practise to express your feelings - Its not " gay" to keep a journal. Its terapeutic and in the long run , learning the ropes of self mastery. You have a powerful road ahead of you.💪🙏

[@am33f]

word for word my exact situation, feel like i’ve got this hurt and hate in my heart that sometimes comes out that i’m trying to open my heart through Jesus instead

[@jovicatrpcevski209]

No matter how long you've been traveling down a wrong path, turn around. ( Turkish proverb )

[@noblesavage6858]

Im proud of you. You're courageous and brave. Because of this, the rest of your life will interesting. Keep going

[@MrFeelsGo0d-YT]

Same man, 23 and it's weirdly scary yet freeing to know that the man you've been building isn't real, and trying to figure out who you really are

[@Xavier-ww9zy]

Most jacked shepherd I ever had minister to me. I appreciate it

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Let my people swole!

[@Xavier-ww9zy]

​@@fathermosesmcpherson😂

[@TheApostleEthereal]

Well said Father! Listening to my emotions only ever lead me to one thing: sin. I'm 30 but you've inspired me to take that final leap I need to finally grow up.

[@olijomusic2481]

Did Jesus listen to anyone's emotions or did He ignore them? Listening is not the same thing as agreeing. "Romans 12:15: Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep." Validating a feeling doesn't mean that it would also validate just any reaction to it. Many men have been taught, that they have no right to feel angry, but that doesn't remove the anger. That just hides it under the surface until it explodes and then it's much worse for everyone. Some times God may even want us to get angry, instead of repressing it. Just remember that God is almighty. He sees all our thoughts and emotions, whether we are honest about them or not. Also, only God can truly relieve us from our suffering, even though many try to seek comfort from sin. Sinning is just a way of how we try to ignore or repress our "bad" feelings. To make us feel better for a moment. God may want to tell us something even through our bad feelings and experiences. If we ignore them, one way or another, and think "it's all just devil's fault!", we may be ignoring what God want's to reveal to us, and we may be denying God's almighty power, like some kind of idolater who only worship his own, very limited image of God. "Ephesians: 4:26 Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath"

[@benvas1]

I wish my dad was like you and taught me these things when I was younger. Thank you, praise God

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

I wish I had a father also. Such is life.

[@soulslayermma]

Don't ignore emotions but keep them in check! Thankyou Father!

[@ICONFESSONEBAPTISM]

Guys if you havent done so already go read the homily on the vices and virtues by St John of Damascus, understand your own human composition (your anthropology) because what society teaches people nowadays is carnal, deluded, toxic. Knowing is half the battle. Passions are vices not virtues, repentance is virtue not a vice. Most of what we assume is our own feelings and thoughts come from without, theyre demonic attacks you have to confront and deal with.

[@ionutpaun9828]

link to this homily?

[@ICONFESSONEBAPTISM]

@@ionutpaun9828 test

[@ElonMuskrat-my8jy]

​@@ionutpaun9828Philokalia volume 2

[@kennethrosario6706]

Link?

[@ICONFESSONEBAPTISM]

Google it, it's got Orthodox Church Fathers website

[@Runandgun13]

Weak men use emotions as an excuse to act out or play victim. The best thing the military and my parents taught me was to channel your emotions positively.

[@olijomusic2481]

The number of children doesn't prove anything about a man, but how he raises them. There's many men in this world, who make many children and never take their responsibility.

[@LouiseIngram-hd5yc]

That’s true , any idiot can pro create .

[@AmericanDreamer]

exactly

[@Plus1Like]

I think it's like "Any man can be a dad, but not every man becomes a father" and I think father is more of a verb, like "father your child" like you would say "mother your child"... you wouldn't say "dad your child"

[@tdhceo]

You clearly missed the point of what he was saying

[@tdhceo]

He obviously made the statement under the assumption that the person taking the advice takes care of their children this is a Christian Channel so when he said that he obviously wasn’t talking about the deadbeats

[@ChrisShin-jb9xq]

Amen! God is raising up His kingdom, let us partake in the suffering of Christ, the True Man!

[@sorlowski78]

"Faith it's the journey of uncertainty" That's so true! Thank you andGod bless you.

[@GameWithTz]

This man woke up and said I’m gonna save somebody’s life! 💯good word brotha

[@dr.edgar.urilov]

Frustration tolerance is a big one for me that I have been developing. Been making some good strides here by starting to become comfortable with uncertainty. Glory to God! Thank you Father Moses for this insight ☦️❤

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Christ is Risen!

[@dr.edgar.urilov]

@@fathermosesmcpherson indeed He has risen!

[@JamesBarker-qt3pb]

@@fathermosesmcpherson AMEN🙏📿

[@SsecretsSsS]

Honestly, you’re right. I’m a POS. I need to stop blaming everyone else and have some discipline. Thanks father for this guidance I find your lessons are very straightforward and exactly the things I need to hear right now. God bless you Father 👍🏾

[@_SkyEye]

I’m Jewish, but I appreciate your spirit, intent and valuable advice. God bless, Father Moses.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

God bless! Embrace Jesus Christ, He is the messiah! My grandmother was Jewish, and I am 20%, only Christ can fulfill us!

[@jovicatrpcevski209]

@@_SkyEye Shalom aleynu ve al kol Yisroel.

[@bodepeterson6371]

I don't have a father figure in my life. And have done everything I can to figure what being a man is. This video confirms for me the path necessary to take. Thank you

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Join your local Orthodox Church!

[@danbranasco4106]

9:59 ”In faith I walk forward and I trust in Christ” when you said that I felt it through my entire body, some tears ran by my face and for long in a while I felt happiness. Jesus is with us. Thank you for your words.

[@karasmusic123]

Boys deserve compassion, too. Compassion doesn't have to negate accountability & empowerment.

[@SyoDraws]

Yeah, I think he is generally right, but the use of "validate" to refer to making excuses and being led by emotions instead of reason can be confusing.

[@SeanWinters]

​@@SyoDrawsThat's how most people use the term. Most folks use "validation" to mean "fully accept my emotions as correct and just reason to act incorrectly".

[@SyoDraws]

@@SeanWinters interesting. I've never heard it used in that way (at least not by therapists or other professionals I've heard speak about it). But yeah, using the definition you gave, it would be wrong to "validate" emotions. I'm just not coming from a place of having heard it used that way, that's all

[@SeanWinters]

@@SyoDraws That's fine, but when lefties get a new word, they simply take the most literal understanding of the word and force it to fit their best interests. Therefore "validation" means "whatever you feel is valid(correct and real), and anyone who says otherwise is dehumanising you." So yeah, that's how most toxic people use it, and non toxic people don't really use that word at all outside of therapy, and even some of them use the "bad definition", especially in marriage counselling.

[@deitchj003]

Thank you Father Moses God Bless. As a 21 year old man I’ve always wanted children but have been deathly petrified of fatherhood. This video has given me a better insight on the matter. It doesn’t matter if I’m afraid I just have to do it.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Get it!!!

[@COMM-fu2fn]

I have listened to this once and I definitely need to listen again. This type of content needs to become its own playlist for all of the lost boys/men who never had a role model in their lives.

[@214arnas]

Up until the last 12-18 months I relate to this deeply, for years I was always a well built, masculine man but never walked like it, realising how much I was walking in weakness in habits like drugs, pornography etc I took it upon myself to find true power, true strength, that true power is in our Lord and saviour Jesus Christ and I can now walk with such confidence and power, it's liberating I am not perfect and I still have much to repent for and work through, but I'm glad I can say I have put those weak, un christ-like personality traits behind me. God bless all

[@EC66OK]

Just beginning to learn some of these lessons late in life, and this video is very timely. I wasted much of my 57 years clinging to boyhood and it wrought nothing but heartaches and wreckage for those I love the most, because my actions only served my selfishness first. The wisdom spoken to your friend by his mentor, that the only thing wrong with his childhood was that it lasted far too long smacked me across the face like only cold, hard reality can. Glory to God that He saw fit to call even me, the worst of all men and the undisputed chief of sinners to repentance and to His Holy Church. My wife and I were received this past Holy Saturday after 15 months as catechumens, and as our Godparents told us, now the real work begins. Truer words are rarely spoken. This message is another very timely lesson in a long line sent to me by our Great God and Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ. "If you love Me, keep My commandments." Amen!

[@badbda4]

These talks are so timely for me in my own life. Thank you for speaking truth Father. I'm just a recent convert to Orthodoxy from Protestantism, so I still have much work to accomplish as a man. I have to detach myself from worldly manhood and embrace Christ.

[@ChrisNiels]

For every man and father out there, this is one of those videos you put on save and remind yourself of its message everytime the battles of faith and this life are pressing in on all sides.

[@madimakes]

3:49 was a bomb. Thank you for this whole message; I needed this.

[@Baileypatt97]

As a young man myself, I’ve had to learn to take responsibility for myself and my emotions. All of those feelings and emotions you feel, you need to acknowledge that the emotions are there and orient them to Jesus Christ. We take every thought captive (good or bad) to the Lord. I pray that God would bless me with a wife and kids where I am fully present for each one of them and can be the priest, provider, and protector of my home.

[@marina-hermione]

God bless you!

[@connorohare229]

Currently waning off prozac and it's been messing with me internally. But I thank the Lord for teaching me during this time. I thank the Lord for giving me the courage to have children with the woman I love.

[@connorohare229]

@AllUKLuv I've literally prayed to the Lord over such a worse case scenario. I hope that never happens. But at the same time, I'm not going anywhere regarding my faith.

[@nevets77]

Facts 20 and transforming right now

[@marcinsmolinski903]

I'm 25 years old and when I entered adulthood, I was completely lost. The number of choices waiting for us is overwhelming. I'll graduate in a year and I'm slowly getting back on track.

[@nicodolc]

As an eighteen-year-old young adult who doesn't think God exists but believes Christianity is the right path for us, I thank you for your advice to take our responsibilities seriously and stop crying over our fate. I sincerely believe that what you have said will reveal reality to many men as well as to myself.

[@stephenwinters3032]

Christ is risen! Thank you, Father. I am new to the church but have been a husband and father for nearly 15 years. I have learned more about being a father and husband in the past 2 years than my entire life prior. Your message and YT channel are a great find. Glory to God. May He bless you and your family.

[@YuanandKratos]

This video was a gut punch for me in a good way, I just started growing up at the age 30

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Better 30 than 31! Or even latter…

[@lawrence8724]

It's amazing how feminized our society is these days. It's almost like we worship feelings in the world. "I feel a bit sad, I have an anxiety disorder. Please change your behaviour around me accordingly"

[@ArizonaTengu]

It’s not a feminized society. It’s a childish society. Real women have to subjugate their emotions just like men. Waking up at 03:00 to deal with baby issues isn’t something most people are happy about.

[@oneofmany7051]

​@@ArizonaTenguI agree! It is a childish society. I think it is because many adults who are about mid -Gen X and younger grew up with little parental guidance, therefore, failing to fully mature into an adult. It is easy to see because so many adults these days still do things like collect Legos and play video games and behave like they are still in high school (women). Being a parent requires you to buck up, mother or father.

[@ElonMuskrat-my8jy]

​@@ArizonaTengu Feminized in that it caters to the whims, emotions and desires of women.

[@keineahnung472]

@@ElonMuskrat-my8jy where does it do that

[@adenise__122]

men are the ones who are and always have been the most childish which is why they are very bothered by female independence, because men are not independent

[@DadInFastForward]

Well put. I had a weak father, the boy who got old. He was a great teacher by example. God brought good men into my life and I sought out good men as a boy. I wasnt a Christian but I sought out God. It was through my wife(His daughter), through our children(His children), through the knowledge of the carnage of what being a weak man creates; I clung to God for guidance on what to do. I didnt start to become a man until we had our first child and chose to be the servant warrior he needed me to be and He was asking me to be. I became a Christian because I needed to lead my family in the Truth, so they could have a Life and know the Way should I go down. It was that Easter, I truly became a man.

[@RevDeaconMichael]

Bless, Fr + Christ is Risen! Beautifully articulated and so needed. Thank you!

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Indeed He is Risen!

[@JamesBarker-qt3pb]

AMEN🙏📿

[@EnavSounds]

5:15 Thanks father Moses. The part that you said "that is what needs to happen" is what made me understand.

[@jacobstevens9957]

I wish I could have heard this this morning. I was pitying myself because I didn't have "the best example of a father" growing up so it's not my fault I'm not always a good Dad to my son. After hearing this I feel as though I've gotten a reality check that I desperately needed. Thank you Father!

[@tsin002]

Such a good role model for us men! Praise Father Moses!

[@monasticmonk67]

My dad was cold, distant. Not a spiritual father/ leader. I've had 50+ years of confusion but now I'm starting to understand

[@YVNGSHADOW]

dont blame it on him, everyone has free will.

[@Luke-gs6kz]

Needed this thank you

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Thank you!

[@CuttinInIdaho]

True...The world doesn't bend to your emotional state. I found this out in my late 30's. My boys will learn the world won't bend, and neither will your parents...but we will be there to hold you up or help you up until that lesson sinks in. This message has already been given to them...they are still young and they may hear this before they hit puberty. Unfortunately, the world is full of enough vultures that it may take longer.

[@c.antoinehill100]

Thanks for the video. Men don't dwell on their emotions and feelings. But uses them to accomplish their purpose. I'm 37yrs old. Growing up, I was an easy target for abuse and bullying. I am going through a journey of growth and building value. I use martial arts to help with that. My goal is to be the best which will help me through life and be a better Christian man.

[@jumby_thicc6848]

Thank you Father for this video. The wisdom granted to me here by you and many other Christians senior to me has helped me through the days, along with the word of God. One thing that i find helps me worry less about the future is knowing that 1, the Lord has my back and 2, that the final day could come like a thief in the night. God bless you.

[@coreytodd1709]

Autist with decades of abuse and trauma. Im 29 and still feel like a teenager. Ive recently come to christ, but I still struggle with growing into a man. Ive just lost hope, ive been working on me internally for 5 years and i feel no closer to being an adult. The economy doesn’t make it any easier, I cant move out and support myself, even when at 19-21 i supported myself, though i was homeless most of the time. I just feel like I’ve dissociated most of my life and if thats what being a man is, you can keep it tbh. I’ll just keep praying for God to make me better and work towards it.😢

[@latestmush9281]

I pray for you Cory the devil attacks the hardest just before breakthrough you will look back on these moments and trials and see how God used these to chastise you into the man of God you will become

[@GreasedDolphin]

Thank you Father. This was incredibly important to me ( 30 yr old male) Hristos Voskres

[@valiantone395]

Vaistinu Voskrse

[@syednadeem8656]

Father Moses, I'm a Muslim, and though we have our disagreements in doctrine, I can say for a certainty the guidance you gave in this video is absolutely raw, no sugar coating, to the point - just straight truth. I am very grateful for this video coming across my recommendations (it came at a rather perfect timing) because I do watch your videos for guidance as I myself have struggled immensely mentally with this whole emotions issue. And this is something to applies to people from all walks of life regardless of religion or race, because this a thing relating to the basic humanity of everyone on this earth.

[@drowngang]

As men we have to accept that no one cares about our feelings, it’ll be that way until we die. Nothing you can do about it.

[@TetrzLesonduclairon-qb7cn]

No one cares about the billion of animal slaughtered, thats a much bigger tragedy than your self pity existence.

[@DixonMyas22]

It’s crazy

[@1214gooner]

That’s an emotional statement.

[@michaellemmen]

I don't believe that to be true but we certainly have to subjegate our feelings to the will of God.

[@crown-i3s]

Thank you. Please keep making this type of content. It helps us helps give clarity on the path we undertake 👍I like your videos

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Thank you!

[@aaronharslett9240]

11:07 - "stop acting like a little boy & embrace manhood which is faith. Its the journey of uncertainty." Faith is a journey of uncertainty? Hebrews 11:1 - Now faith is CONFIDENCE in what we hope for and ASSURANCE about what we do not see. Biblically its the OPPOSITE of uncertainty. The question is, how to get ASSURANCE & CONFIDENCE of (in the context of what hes talking about) the unseen future journey your headed into? How to embrace the journey with Biblical faith. I think thats the relevant question🤷‍♂️

[@jans6406]

Hello Father I am a 32 year old Catholic and have recently become a father to my first son. I really needed this, even though I have made a lot of changes and grown, it is good to have this laid out on the table and explained in a way that I can implement it fully in my life. This is a great message for all males religious or not. God bless.

[@Mistah_Boombastic_BiggieCheese]

Im 26 and losing hope of ever meeting a good woman to become a father. Im catholic as well. I feel stunted in life, not much relationship experience and I am honestly starting to give up on myself in many things in life. I thought I wouldve met my future wife by now but I havent. The older I got the more I became apathetic and irresponsible in my life because I feel like its impossible for me to find a good woman, and I am getting genuinely lonely and I dread what God has planned for me because I had prayed for years to meet someone and trusted that he would have helped me, but I didnt. Ive never approached a woman in person and used dating apps for 4 years and the best I ever got were flings. I keep hearing about God’s timing and Gods plan but I dont think I have that faith anymore. I have no meaning in my life. I deeply want to have a family but I feel like I am not physically good enough to get married. Im in despair and honestly dont care about my life anymore. Its deeply lonely. I don’t want to be single forever. I keep hearing people say it happens when you’re not looking, and in my early 20s when I wasn’t looking, it didnt happen either. I’ve replaced relationships with pron and video games but its not helping me anymore. Working out a lot isnt helping me feel better or more confident in myself either. Women only want tall men. Im completely black pilled and honestly dont see a point in preparing for anything in life when I am stuck in this lonely rut and when I am unloveable and the right woman doesn’t even exist for me, otherwise I would have met her and definitely started getting ready earlier. I dont even pray about it anymore, in fact I hardly pray at all because I lost faith that my prayers will actually be answered and finally find what I have been praying for.

[@georgenovikov8186]

As a 15 year old, this is very informing and helpful, thank you Father.

[@jack-xh1md]

“Faith is the journey of uncertainty” Wow, I aspire to have just a portion of the wisdom this man has.

[@Yo-0o0o0o0o]

Thank you for this.. Difficult when you grow up without a father or one who doesn't behave like a man.

[@HolyBoyNick]

I am an 18 year male and I just wanted to say thank you Father Moses forn providing wisdom and direction for other young men like myself. I appreciate what you are doing for us, I would like to add because of your videos being relatively short around 10-15 minutes its amazing for me to wind down on lunch break and listen to your guidance, thank you very much sir. God Bless you and Amen.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

God bless you my boy! Please remember me in your prayers!

[@AleksTinkovski]

Christ is risen! Thank you, Father 🙏

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Indeed He is Risen!

[@RunOfTheMillBill739]

dude, you are an absolute legend. "faith, it is a journey of uncertainty, a man has to live it and walk by it in order to find his meaning and purpose in life"

[@CrusaderThe2nd]

This is so helps me so much coming into the Orthodox church as when i was protestant I always based my relationship with God on feeling, on how far or close God was feeling from me. But watching this is helping me to realize that even though i feel God is not there i have to acknowledge that he is and that he I will never be without him. Thank you, Father Moses, and God bless you i pray God leads me down a path to become a father like you

[@CrusaderThe2nd]

I found home there, and when I started studying theology I found truth there. With it being the churchbthat Christ started, I found the whole truth and my heart was opened @@trevrockrock16

[@metanoeo4]

@@CrusaderThe2nd okay, then how do you explain the promise in Isaiah 26:3, reiterated in Philippians 4:7? There's an emphasis on inner peace. You can't have inner peace if you feel terrified.

[@CrusaderThe2nd]

@@metanoeo4 What is ur point I don't feel terrified, I was saying that I based my faith on feeling not on actual faith that Christ was with me no matter what I did. Plus using the verse, you gave me (Isaiah 26:3) I rather had my trust in my feeling to an extent to say how far God was from me which was my error. Now I attempt to keep my trust in God

[@metanoeo4]

@@CrusaderThe2nd the point is that I was a Christian, and there have been times in the past when I asked God for inner peace to do his will and nothing happened, I was in despair, always. I have many flaws, but if this God does exist, he is an absent father who expects perfect obedience while he doesn't do anything to help and allows evil because of "free will", which is a lazy excuse considering how today we know better about why an individual thinks and acts as they do… and people often are conditioned, and conditioning is the opposite of free will.

[@CrusaderThe2nd]

@@metanoeo4 there is time that God will give peace through his time and place as God works with a plan that we don't know, and if you were struggling in a Christian life well then that is a Christian life as seen in the lives of the saint who endure great physical and spiritual temptations and were also in despair for great periods of time, but thing that made them saint was keeping that faith even though tempted to despair. Though in the end they got the peace they were looking for. And also seen through the lives of the saints is that God is not absent but rather He is guiding His people and making saints through the church. I am greatly sorry to hear about the despair that you face as I know what is felt to be in despair, but I do pray that things may get better for you. If I may ask, did you ever have a priest or anyone to talk to about any of this? I hope Father Moses might also this so that he can help you as this is not usually area of expertise and also so that he can correct me if I have said something wrong

[@UndercoverPuertoRican]

Christ is our head, he is our father. Amen! The closer I got to God, the more understanding of myself and others I became. What an absolute blessing!

[@theodorep.5501]

Greetings from Greece. Thank you for this video. Christ is King!

[@mdeez8286]

U are 100 percent i have a friend who always complains about everything and the smallest thing sets him off and he always blames his parents and his family for his shortcommings, but he lived a shelter life with a safety net and is doing alot better than alot of people i know

[@JonathanSanAnto]

As a 23 year old man working on getting his shit together I needed this video. The problem is me.

[@sharpears1756]

Hey Father Moses, I am a 21 year old man who needed to hear this growing up without a proper father figure. This really opened my eyes, knowing that you have to have faith in god/universe and being strong through adversity. I’ve been feeling lost but i’m slowly gaining my way back.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Get to an Orthodox Church!

[@sharpears1756]

@fathermosesmcpherson Alright I will look for some near my area

[@olubunmiolumuyiwa]

@@sharpears1756 How's the search been going?

[@TheAncientEmo]

I’m 23 and I help manage a trampoline park here in central Florida, the teenage boys I work with & teach are some of the softest people I’ve ever met in my life but I have hope for them. I’m convinced that this generation simply needs challenge & they need to be rebuked when they don’t face their fears and coward. they’ll do the work they just need someone there to push them forward.

[@floridaman318]

They are soft because there is nothing in this world worth being hard for.

[@TheAncientEmo]

@@floridaman318 that’s not really true, I’d say it’s a rather bleak way of looking at things. I suppose you could say that nowadays instead of their being lots of good to work hard towards you sort of have to cultivate your own good. But then there’s still something worth working hard for it just means you have to work hard from a different mindset and mentality then people used to.

[@aperta7525]

They can't make up their minds about their own worth being in Christ,​@@floridaman318 It's not the absence of anything worth becoming stronger for. The Greatest and Second Greatest Commandments are always worth every effort.

[@RogerTheil]

Spot on, and you're at a very good age to be recognizing this. Our society has an extremely feminine (although an immature one) influence on even the young men of today. What many of them need to hear is that struggling, having anxiety, having thoughts of insufficiency is NORMAL, and in fact GOOD. It's what tells you that you are at least confronted with the challenges of life, and I believe, most of the time, it's God hinting at you to embrace these challenges and come through stronger and having learned something. When you're taking the most flak, you're probably near the target. That is the way of men. We don't need to be reassured that it sucks to take flak, we need to know that we're near the target and it's time to drop the payload and complete the mission.

[@atomicphilosophy]

Can you give some examples of how they are soft?

[@rioperez7461]

Thank you, Father. I needed this today. It's tough out there for men. I'm 34 working a dead end job in retail with no wife, kids, living in a shared accommodation and just a tiny bit in savings. I look ahead of me and the future seems bleak and my dream of finding a wife, owning a house and starting a family seem to be fading with each passing day. But I still trust in Jesus's providence and his plan for me. Your video gave me hope. God bless you and your family. From London, England

[@zumby]

I am 17 right now, going into my senior year of high school. I was raised without a strong father figure and did not find GOD until I was in middle school. I found some strong men that have mentored me, taught me important things, taught me discipline, wisdom, and how to put hard work into my life for the present and future. I hope one day I can be a strong man of faith. As of right now I feel so far behind, but what I have heard coming from my mentors, they have told me that I will be far ahead of most of my generation just because of the things I am doing right now. So with Christ, I can become a true man of GOD.

[@slattmandan]

Thank You Brother In Christ. It is TIME to embrace manhood and continue on this journey of uncertainty. God Bless Everybody watching and reading this video, IN JESUS NAME AMEN.

[@ggbouvier9897]

Any man can have many children, but it is being a caring father that is the real measure of a man.

[@suj3itohomem]

Thanks for the words, Father. Hugs from Brazil.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Remember me in your prayers!

[@david_vash]

Father Moses is so swole his robe is a pump cover 😮. God bless!

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

🤣

[@Being_Joe]

Keep them emotions in check. Well said. I'm is a messed up part of my life where many things happened out of my control yet I am still responsible for my life regardless of what is going on. Sometimes I sit around and look at what has happened in my life the past few years and it is like a messed up story. I get sad and depressed but I know that in end of the day to be a man I need to take responsibility for what I can control and make the best out of it regardless of what cards I am dealt. God will not give us anything we can't handle.

[@DehydratedOnionDip]

"Winter is almost upon us, Jon Snow. Kill the boy and let the man be born." that line from Maester Aemon in GOT legitimately put this whole topic into perspective for me. Thank you Father.

[@Ab-mx2bj]

Father ! I am so happy I found your channel. I needed this as I am going to get engaged soon . Pls pray for me !!!!

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Please remember to pray for me!

[@crohunter100]

That’s not just manhood That’s adulthood

[@BloomAndBliss.Studios]

These days, on this journey, i feel alone sometimes. I am grateful for this because it gives me strength

[@dj2740]

Wow I found a Father that lifts like me AMAZING , GOD is Good.

[@cassiuswest]

11:30 - 12:10 gassed me up. Masculinity can be healthy!!!! Crush our obstacles 💪💪💪

[@subzee5623]

The ending is so motivating, thanks Father!

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Glad you liked it!

[@cheezyllamba]

I’m not religious anymore (born and raised non denominational Christian), but I always sit and listen when I can; to those who are willing to share their thoughts and wisdom. I love learning, and one of the aspects of learning is being able to TRULY listen to those who differing beliefs. I’m always trying to become a better man, for those I surround myself with, as well as myself. I’m super glad I came across this channel!

[@JM-X0304]

4:32 to this I would add that he follows through with this plan to the best of his abilities; lots of boys are dreamers, men are doers.

[@bunsenn5064]

I think a core part of this is also gaining the ability to see emotions as things that are experienced, that impact us. Instead of thinking “I’m angry”, rephrasing the emotion as “I am experiencing anger” puts some space between me and the emotion and lets me appreciate it and find some inner peace.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

Good point!

[@pablowentscobar]

Sound advice Father Moses, great lesson. More of these please. Thank you, God bless.

[@RSNDRUMS]

I wish I heard this years ago. I’m 28 and embarrassed to be as immature as I am, but God has truly moved me as of late and I won’t go into it all, but I will say I’m working more, working with a heart of gratitude more often and going to church every Sunday for months now. I pray, read and journal every day and I know I am on the path towards becoming the man God intends for me to be. Thank you for this message!

[@RSNDRUMS]

I will say I started going to church, I finally started training jiu jitsu in May, which I’ve wanted to do for years, and I am making new, healthier friends. A MASSIVE part of this is making friends that are “better” (you know what I mean) than you and learning to love your old friends from a distance if necessary. I just had to accept that I had to grow up.

[@RSNDRUMS]

Also…subscribed. 😊

[@KrazyArrows]

Yea I generally hide and repress my emotions since that’s what the world likes to tell me. I also just keep my distance from people who enjoy wanting an emotional reaction out of me. I am just angry in silence at this point. All I need to do is look out for my mother and put food on the table whenever I can. No one is hear to save me.

[@fathermosesmcpherson]

I recommend finding a priest you can share those thoughts/feelings with. Unburden yourself.

[@diogol3443]

Thank you Father for the wise words! “You have to make imperfect decisions in a imperfect world“

[@ValidityJ]

With what you're explaining, I am a female that feels like a man. Don't take that the wrong way, I'm not struggling with transgenderism 🙄 that's not what I mean. I'm an Orthodox Christian (convert 9 years now). I am divorced, single for many many years now and what you're describing is me. I have to acknowledge all those feelings, often have a temper tantrum about it, shift my mindset and refocus - do hard things that I don't want to do. I'm tired. I'm genuinely afraid to get involved in a relationship because of the energy I expended in my first marriage....I gave everything to a boy who never became a man where OFTEN, even in that relationship I was implementing this overcoming of my feelings, making a plan and moving forward. I'm tired. I genuinely want a magical man to JUST BE A MAN, and take care of ME for a change. I will cook. I will clean. I will respect a true Orthodox MAN. I don't feel I am in my "female me" because men have failed me and maybe that's because I too have failed somehow going from girl to woman. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know. Lord have mercy, God help me.

[@perhel2396]

Times are indeed very difficult for women

[@theskyizblue2day431]

Lmao you just want some rich and tall guy like every other woman. Orthodox woman lolol

[@YooKkang]

I promise…not everyone man or woman is the the same, the time will come, the lord will answer your prayers.

[@theskyizblue2day431]

So basically a real man is someone who does everything and you never have to make a single choice ever again? Did I miss anything?