Why Some Men Are Secretly Envious/Jealous Of Women🤔

Women share stories and discuss why they believe men are jealous or envy successful women or women in general.

[@VeeKayGreenerGrass]

Men who want peace from a woman often bring her chaos.

[@Enriquez2222]

I’m chaotic enough on my own 😅

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

yeah, then want a PIECE not peace. This man was ignorant.

[@tiah5881]

Or as I say men who want peace from a woman don't know Jesus Christ.

[@Phronesis7]

No truer words spoken! People who are driven to need peace from others [only] are telling you they have chaos within themselves

[@quanyin1556]

🙌🙌👏🏽👏🏽🙌👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌

[@KilonovaBurst]

If a man is calling a woman masculine, agressive or bossy its means that 1. She makes the same or more money than him. 2. She has standards he cant or doesn't want to meet. 3. She refuses to be shamed into complacency.

[@Becky_Cal]

Exactly! It comes from a place of insecurity and lack of confidence. A man who is truly confident and self-assured is attracted by women who are successful, driven, intelligent and challenge them to grow. Sadly that’s only 3-5% of men MAX!

[@HandofHolmes]

And especially if you are black they are likely internally harbour anti-blackness.

[@maigokonekochan]

2/3 are so real lol

[@cosmicbrownie333]

@@HandofHolmes!!!!

[@KeeWebb]

And I will add: 4. She refuses to conform.

[@jackiea9246]

All I heard from that guy was, “I don’t like women who can take care of themselves because I can’t trap and manipulate them with my money.”

[@divalizzous]

Exactly!

[@PH7018c]

That is a narcisist telling rhe truth.. Run!!

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Spot on

[@reginageorgetownuni]

Yup. I hate confident and self assured women because she will not base her confidence in being with me.

[@albertosei8788]

He's just telling u that if u claim to be independent then it means u don't need a man so stay single. Stats show more successful women end up single. Good luck ladies

[@missinterpretation4984]

It gives me the creeps when they list submissive as a trait they’re looking for. Wouldn’t you want a smart competent person who chooses to cooperate with you in a mutual relationship? Nah, they want sUbMiSsIoN. It’s gross.

[@NintendoGamepro]

Thats how you tell between whos an adult and whos not!

[@ashleybanks-wm4cg]

Submission is the natural order I'm not as rigid as thesw guys online but you know what I tell a gurl if she asks me why should she listen to me??? Are you serious I say You listen to your boss right Yes she says Do you listen to your coach when you play sports Yes she says So are you fucking your coach or boss No they say Then why are you listening to them more than me I always get my way with this convo

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

It’s too challenging for them to have a woman who actually is smart and competent. They want to be as lazy as possible and make no effort by wanting docile women.

[@famine3141]

a confident woman who knows she has value is sexy to me. but then im bisexual so most men say my opinion doesnt count so well....

[@meagan.phillip]

Because they have a false perception of what submission is. A feminine submissive woman would naturally submit to a masculine man who is a leader and provider. These men want women who don’t have an opinion on anything and simply exist as a prop

[@maenad1231]

Women will keep the same personality, same responsibilities and same behavior but get a promotion and start making more and the husband suddenly has 1000 issues with her

[@Priscilla_Boye]

True

[@Mental_Alchemist]

False. I have seen too many instances were women left their husbands because she started feeling that he should be on her financial level or higher once she started making more money than him. Me and other guys in the office have been proposition by a few married women in the office for s3x and many times they claim they are unhappy. The most common denominator is that they either started making more money than their husbands or they already made more. I always personally thought that it was distasteful and disrespectful.

[@LKC27]

@@Mental_Alchemistso if married women are cheating in the workplace, it must mean that it’s because she’s making more money than her man but if married men are cheating in the workplace… then what? Your assumption makes no sense

[@FreeBirdee]

@@LKC27😂😂😂 that dumb logic made sense to him😩🤣😂

[@Mental_Alchemist]

@@FreeBirdee pillow talk sweetie. There seems to be an unhealthy fascination with the idea of being a "power couple" in the office. I feel sorry for those guys based on the ish their wives talk about them. Half the time they seem like decent men to me based on what they be complaining about.

[@gensai93]

"Argumentative" So he's basically saying women are supposed to just agree with everything and not stand up for themselves.

[@returnoftheromans6726]

Red Flag! That's how women stay in abusive relationships.

[@pigeoness22]

He is so insecure in what he is talking about that he needs everyone just to agree with him. He can not be questioned, that could crush him, they are that insecure.

[@tatienono]

Of course. He also tried to shame single women in their 30s. I'm glad we're waking up.

[@churchsbiscuits]

They hate what they can’t control.

[@ochacal7794]

My suggestion is chose a men with no money who doesn't want to achieve nothing he will be great , no willingness to control nothing! Just living 😂

[@neoloanderson6676]

Then they complain about gold diggers, it’s weird.

[@yourlittlesecret7575]

They like nagging and complaining. They’re sassy like that 😂

[@claudiajeanpierre3098]

True 🤣🤣🤣

[@returnoftheromans6726]

​@@yourlittlesecret7575 #boycottsassymen 🤣

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

So many women today are willing to give up their bodies into a few dates and pay most of the bills so I don’t know what they’re talking about

[@wonderwalledit]

Cause they're a walking contradiction 😂

[@SE-gs6gd]

Honestly men do want to date other men. That’s their problem and they would be better off if they would just own up to that

[@reginageorgetownuni]

As a woman who's sick and tired of men, I want to date women as well.

[@sashaclarke2749]

You better tell it!!!

[@NeyamRye]

Yes

[@peachwhite-333]

They don't. Thats the problem, men cannot manipulate other men like women for the things that would benefit soley them.

[@Siss2012]

A woman has to be her own peace.

[@ChillingTales12]

Get a dog

[@ds37215]

​@@ChillingTales12 How does she know you'd make a good pet?

[@ChillingTales12]

@@ds37215 What the fuck is that supposed to mean?

[@agirlhasnoname1472]

@@ds37215😂😂😂😂😂

[@charliedeegan1598]

​@@ds37215 Holy shit 😂

[@Lena-cz6re]

"We told you what we wanted from the beginning" the problem is that once men get what they wanted, they start to want something different.

[@destroyraiden]

they say you can give a man everything & everything ain't everything!

[@MSBowen-pk6ww]

As a woman I foiund that insulting as a comment went. Men can tell us what they want but if a woman says the same to a man she's unreasonable?

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Men will want the best option in the moment, each situation can differ. Thus is male logic.

[@juned1719]

A jealous man is a dangerous individual. Run ladies don’t walk. He hates you and will hurt you.

[@tishwomack7870]

My Grandpa told me this years ago. This is very true!

[@77kc_77]

True !

[@karifoto]

Extremely dangerous! One is still trying to destroy me & he’s the most dangerous guy I’ve ever met (and I was married to a scary abuser!)

[@purevenus6359]

“A woman needs to be a man’s peace” Yeah no…. I disagree with that. Speaking from personal experience, You’ll be a man’s “peace” and they will still find ways to create the chaos and drama in your life. Men actually thrive and need chaos in their lives. When they don’t have it they get bored. And when they get bored they get self destructive.

[@aliceluis3272]

Man have to have their own peace first but it seems a waste of time so let's put that job on other person.

[@Daisy_518]

I agree. One should strive to be one's own peace. That's it.

[@Queenie022]

Facts! Men are ungrateful.. even the fugly ones lol

[@katherines144]

Dude even spelled peace incorrectly. Freudian slip? He probably did mean a woman is a man's "piece" (of @ss)

[@MothersHeartGypsyDoVe]

They speak with a forked tongue many of them mean "piece" not peace he uses her for sex and/or as a queen on chessboard of life but too oft willing to sacrifice her for his own safety...an in the end he still ends up...alone...

[@Aja-Christian]

Insecure men can be jealous of women but I also think it has something to do with the fact that women are less dependent on men for survival and financial security now more than ever. The less we have to rely on them, the more they lose that leverage and the more they are faced with actually stepping up in other ways (i.e, being emotionally available, being a good listener, being self-aware and likeable as a person in general, etc) and a lot of them lack those skills. They resent the fact that they have to be wanted instead of being needed.

[@chayo4537]

Even if a man has those qualities. That's not enough for me. It doesn't mean much

[@thedustysocietycrimes]

That last sentence. My narcissist ex couldn't stand that I didn't need him but he also hated being a provider. Just utter chaos creator bc I have to be the easiest woman to be in a relationship with.😌

[@samco63]

This is so true. They don’t want to do their work to level up in those ways. And they want a piece of women’s finances for nothing. It makes no sense

[@Makehimfamous]

Ok ladies I’m going to go out on a limb here and be vulnerable, so please be honest but gentle with your responses. So yes it is true that men can be jealous of women for a variety of reasons. I myself AM jealous of women because of an personal insecurity; I’ve learned this through much introspection. I will never be able to meet our societies ideas of masculinity or ever be attractive. See I am only 5’2”. My mother comes from a place in Mexico where people are very small , mostly farmers with that very petite build. No matter how successful in my career, how much money you I can make or be a great listener I can be, or how well I take care of the house or my kids, I will never have any masculine appeal. I live with a lack of agency to help myself and that is so depressing. ( fyi, I’ve never lashed out on women, it all gets turned inwards with thoughts of suicidal depression). Women on the other hand are given standards of femininity that are attainable. I’m not saying that men don’t have ridiculously high standards for women, what I’m saying is that at least your standard is on a spectrum, the standard I have to reach is binary, if you’re short like me it’s over, I’m not even considering a man. So thank you for your time. Please chime in and tell me what you think. Tell me what I can do to increase my masculine appeal given that I am my size, or jus tell me it’s over and there isn’t even a point in trying.

[@samco63]

@@Makehimfamous totally understand the pressures men have for height etc. so I’m not taking away from that when I say this - but women’s standards aren’t more attainable. Women are judged solely on looks and we also can’t change our height, or body shape, without a lot of money and risk in plastic surgery - so it’s unattainable for many women. It’s also an ever changing beauty standard, which we can’t keep up with, and how dare we even think about ageing. Not to mention all the other attributes we need to bring and also be ok with our mwn wanting every other woman out there - not to compete, but just trying to explain it’s not as attainable as you think. Now, back to your height - I really empathise with you and can understand how disheartening it will be. Especially when height is pushed down men’s throats. All I can say is, a woman that is judging you on that, isn’t your person. There are many women out there who will date shorter men - I have multiple times. My friend has a thing for shorter men too (she’s tall), and additionally, there are a lot of women who are 5’2 and shorter. Don’t allow opinions of people you don’t suit (women who want tall men) to distract you from the women who DO want short men. The more you focus on your height as a negative thing, the more you will come across as insecure and will subconsciously push away women who want shorter men / don’t care about height - they are out there! There is SO much more to a man than his height. Firstly, let me stress - being short is not a flaw! At all! Just because the media and loud people in society make you think that, doesn’t mean it’s true, I promise. I have short male friends who are in happy and fulfilling relationships Focus on being a good person, focus on having empathy for women (which you are obviously capable of empathy and are emotionally intelligent), please stop beating yourself up over your height! It’s a perceived flaw. Focus on how much positive you can bring to someone’s life - your humour, kindness, generosity, fun approach to life, maturity - whatever it is. Try to stop the cycle of negative thoughts - you don’t deserve to feel angry at yourself or depressed. You deserve better than that! The other thing I do when I feel insecure about my body - is I find women who are similar to me - and focus on them for a while, sometimes it’s easier to see the good in other people. And then you can see the similarity in yourself. Look at how they present themselves and carry themselves and interact with people. There will always be people who don’t like something about us, but the good thing is, there are many who love that thing about us. For example, I had a guy say he hates big butts and prefers modelesque women - ok cool. That’s his preference. I stay away from men like that because I’m not their cup of tea, and focus on men who do like big butts and a shorter woman - there have been plenty. You will find the same. It’s definitely not “over” for you. I wish I could show you pictures pf my male friends in happy relationships who are adored by their wives - and their height either doesn’t matter or is a positive. Don’t listen to the media - it’s there to make you insecure! And don’t listen to alpha red pill males as they are there to do the same. To increase your masculine appeal - work on your self esteem, start loving yourself AND your height (or at least try accept it if you can’t love it), and OWN IT. Not be cocky and arrogant like red pullers, but own yourself and your qualities - there is no one in this world like you! When you start being more open to it, you will find women who love you for you and your height

[@AquaticStarchild]

The girl at 10:35 is so spot-on. I am this successful woman and I am a magnet for narcissistic men. They want to possess me, they want to conquer me, they want to dominate me and they want to ruin me because they themselves are so lacking that by "winning a winner" they can feel like "the man". So they set out to get a beautiful, successful woman to show off to the world while they break her down behind closed doors in order to dominate her. They don't realize that by trying to win over your spouse in the end you'll be married to "a loser" and then they'll treat her like crap.

[@Luna-mq8ke]

I had this exact situation happen while I was at school. I beat him in one race and he trained like crazy to beat me and when he did and I didn't care he was so egotistical and gross

[@xrc7445]

I had this exact situation happen when I was at uni. Except it was my dad. Pretend to be the "proud father of the year" that his daughter is studying at the most prestigious technical university of the country to strangers and, behind closed doors, abusing me multiple times per day (including physically and borderline sexually: he stole the key to the bathroom to barge in while I would shower) aiming to sabotage me and ruin my life.

[@seabreeze4559]

I hid my application then when I HAD to tell him I got in somewhere prestigious I heard "you're not good enough to go there". Like genuine confusion. Later denied he said it. But everyone heard it. @@xrc7445

[@lionydea]

Oh boy... exactly that. Unfortunately I've had this happen three times now. Seems I just can't learn. The reasons of the men were exactly like you wrote. But I was always baffled why on earth me - and other successful and independent women - were also falling for these men. Because let's face it: It takes two to tango. And in my personal opinion it's because we do get lonely. And with time our expectations lower bit by bit, until we arrive at "I just need someone to cuddle with". And then Bang! An a*hole comes along and we feel seen and loved. Doesn't matter wat he does, at least we get cuddles, right? And then the toxicity starts... It takes so much time and work to love ourselves, build ourselves up again and have a strong inner base. I still don't know how exactly I'm going to keep doing that, but I've had enough of men conquering. breaking and dominating me. Any tips? :D

[@bloodmajesty414]

@@lionydea Learn to let go of the need to "prove" yourself and be wary when you feel their fluff up your ego too much. The ones targeting successful women usually use similar tactics -- making you feel like the baddest woman on earth from the first date (love bombing) while simultaneously poking at your insecurities and flaws, causing you to be on edge and feeling like you have to on top of your performance every time -- because God forbid you do dumb stuff sometimes (we all do, we are humans), they treat it like you just did the worst thing ever. It will cause you to be utterly exhausted and your brain fogged up, that you didn't realize he is slowly breaking you down. Let yourself be human and imperfect, and leave at the first sign of them questioning that.

[@CoolBreiz]

A man will have the woman of his dreams and will still find a justification for cheating/or treating her poorly. It really doesn’t matter what we do. Both masculine and feminine women get treated the exact same. Women should do what is best for them as individuals, if a man comes along cool if not even better.

[@midi6615]

Feminine and submissive women are getting cheated on and abused everyday. It's not a badge of honor to be the ideal woman of a man because a man will find a way to mess up the relationship of whatever type of woman he is dating. Do what's best for you ladies

[@catcat9582]

And that is so freeing

[@Bunnnnbuns]

Amen!!!!

[@akiram6609]

The man pretty much said he wanted sweet and submissive. This means he will find it easier to dominate her. He will seek to dominate a woman who isn’t submissive and sweet but at least with the submissive ones, he doesn’t have to work as hard.

[@Luckimee]

Ive always been like this

[@em.415]

0:45 why is he framing success as a masculine trait? If the choice is between a man and money I’m going to take the money.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Money over men any day.Because money = freedom,peace of mind and stability .

[@jd5368]

Same. Every single time. Men want money and success because it gives them power over other people, especially women who don't have such assets. Women want money and success because it offers freedom and self-determination. I think guys like this don't understand that NOT having to deal with them is the real prize for us. Telling women that no man is going to want them unless they are submissive and unfailingly agreeable is not the threat they think it is.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

They know that true power lies in financial freedom and they so determined to keep that to themselves but we know better.

[@Lilzki]

@em.415 I think that is exactly why they try to equate success with being a man/masculine. They are afraid we will choose money, peace and freedom over a man. And after listening to him who can blame us. Having money and being able to look after yourself is called being an adult, has nothing to do with the whole femininity masculinity thing. Besides there are intelligent and emotionally mature men, who are often successful themselves, who are attracted to intelligent and successful women. This guy in the video is just trying to convince us that all men want submissive sex house cleaners who are “a man’s peace” because he (and countless others like him) want someone they can control and control.

[@livalittle13]

When women love as men always have is terrifying to them and im here for it

[@oshunthagreat]

The thing is being a woman under patriarchy you are damned if you do or don't in many ways. Many men I've met can literally find anything to be jealous of it's wild

[@Bunnnnbuns]

Absolutely

[@may8043]

@@the8thchurch461 Jesus said men have to love their wives like Jesus loved the congregation, you know, the congregation he gave his life for. What Christian men choose to do is all on them. The proof of that is that men who are athiests are not any better.

[@NoName-sp5dp]

@@the8thchurch461you only submit if he is a Godlt man that is loving and kind. I know some Christian pickles that make submission sound like obedience. They’re wrong. Submission just means letting him take the lead and it should always match what God would allow not he should yell at you for not washing the dishes

[@thedustysocietycrimes]

Yes. I have been told I'm spoiled or grew up with a silver spoon in my mouth. Neither of the assertions is true.

[@MN-hv5xv]

There’s so much wrong with them….😅

[@jd5368]

It's interesting to me that this man equates being successful at a career and having money as "masculine" and then goes on to assume that having such masculine qualities make a woman overly combative, argumentative, and generally a PITA to be around. Is that how he views men? As a woman, I don't want a partner who is like that, either. So I guess women should just avoid dating men, since they are inherently toxic according to him? Interesting.

[@girlbrittneygirl]

Right, that idiot talked about how men are by nature! That was nothing but self-projection!

[@yourlittlesecret7575]

Exactly! He made negative traits are synonymous with masculinity. If you don’t want that in a partner, why do you think a woman would?

[@justynawisniewska1213]

He views it in a simple way: a man is supposed to be dominant and is allowed to slack around the house. A woman is supposed to be submissive, if she stands her ground, demands equal share of responsibilities she's a nuisance and we can blame it on her being 'too manly' and somehow make it seem unattractive so that the status quo remains untouched.

[@MrsDazl]

​@@justynawisniewska1213and that's that on that!

[@letsdomath1750]

A lot of insecure men see other men as threats. So, yes, that's how he views other men, but with a veil of respect/fear.

[@Phatse]

I'm a landlady. I actually experience more argumentative behaviors from male tenants and they will throw adult tantrums when I do not engage. You have your lease and if you do not like the terms please refer to the clause that allows you to terminate your lease early and give me your 30 day notice. I'm your landlord not your girlfriend, I don't care about your life problems you have 7 days to run me my money and if something is broken send me a text with pics. I'll have an electrician or a plumber to you asap. We're not getting to know each other and there's absolutely no reason to make small talk with me I have enough friends.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Bingo💰

[@alexishill3342]

I learned that some men are jealous of women when I was engaged to an envious man. We were together for six and a half years.He invited me to go to the mall like we did every weekend, but this time he'd keep track of how many people looked at him vs how many people looked at me. I told him there would be no competition because I'm a woman and whether we like it or not we're always being approached and stared at. Instead of listening to me, he went and showered, put on a tight shirt to show his muscles, some jeans and even a men's bracelet 🙄😂 We went to the mall. I did my usual shopping and tried to enjoy myself. He wasted his time actually paying attention to who was looking at him😂 what an idiot. When we got home I thought he'd let it go and was ready to move on, but he put on some comfortable clothes, came downstairs and announced I'd won. I got 52 looks of admiration and he only got 8. I cant believe he actually counted!!!wtf. I'm happy to report that I'm not with that jealous reject anymore. Thank God!

[@LukeRev480]

😂😂 dead

[@girlbrittneygirl]

Girl!! Men are jealous of women period for just existing! Attractive or not! They want you as a trophy to flaunt on other men but are mad when men stare! You were right to leave his ass!

[@Luckimee]

Reject! 😂 Wow how pathetic comparing himself to a woman of course you got more looks

[@nutsahoy]

Sounds like a narcissist! I’m glad you’re not around him anymore😬

[@Alexis-ec9cl]

Wowwww

[@carmeld45]

If you want to spend your life downplaying you achievements , stroking a grown boys ego or walking on eggshells, by all means quit you job,don't go to school and wait for one of these "Good Men" to marry you..I'll pass

[@Diana734]

They envy how easy it is for us to get access to sex. They also perceive thay we have it easier in life than they do.🙄😮‍💨

[@stephkais5613]

I was looking for a comment like this. Most men can't think past their peen. They see how many men want to sleep with any women, and they seethe with envy over it. It's sick.

[@luvjazmine241]

yesssss

[@Makehimfamous]

Ok ladies I’m going to go out on a limb here and be vulnerable, so please be honest but gentle with your responses. So yes it is true that men can be jealous of women for a variety of reasons. I myself AM jealous of women because of an personal insecurity; I’ve learned this through much introspection. I will never be able to meet our societies ideas of masculinity or ever be attractive. See I am only 5’2”. My mother comes from a place in Mexico where people are very small , mostly farmers with that very petite build. No matter how successful in my career, how much money you I can make or be a great listener I can be, or how well I take care of the house or my kids, I will never have any masculine appeal. I live with a lack of agency to help myself and that is so depressing. ( fyi, I’ve never lashed out on women, it all gets turned inwards with thoughts of suicidal depression). Women on the other hand are given standards of femininity that are attainable. I’m not saying that men don’t have ridiculously high standards for women, what I’m saying is that at least your standard is on a spectrum, the standard I have to reach is binary, if you’re short like me it’s over, I’m not even considering a man. So thank you for your time. Please chime in and tell me what you think. Tell me what I can do to increase my masculine appeal given that I am my size, or jus tell me it’s over and there isn’t even a point in trying.

[@rebekkagasmi9451]

Even for an attractive woman it's not necessarily THAT easy to get EXACTLY the man (for sex) she desires...sadly...would be nice if it was so... 😢

[@titandarknight2698]

​@@Makehimfamous i mean if you belive the thing holding you back is your height, then you can totally move to places where women are short as hell. After all, tall may be a beauty standard but it still exists on a spectrum. Even if you hear women only date 6 ft BS, just look at the couples around you. How many men in relationships are actully that height? Very few.

[@coolbreeze5683]

When I was dating, guys would dip out once they figured out I could things for myself. One even said "I feel like you don't need me..." after I installed a lighting fixture on my own. Another one questioned me when he noticed I was wearing a nice bracelet. I told him I liked it and bought it for myself. He asked what I was doing to get enough money to buy that (implying I must have had a side guy or got someone to buy it for me). Eventhough it's obvious I have a job that pays really well and I'm well educated. I definitely don't miss the whole mess of dating idiots anymore.

[@kekecampbell812]

Omg I dealt with this in my last relationship. My ex would look at my hands because I wear nice gold rings and he would ask what man bought this for you. I’m like myself and he never believed me even though I have a good paying job. Looking back at everything I went through it was soo jealous! Even complained about my car … which is nice… then went out n bought the same colour car as mine! It was crazy!

[@coolbreeze5683]

@@kekecampbell812 it's wild thinking how much time we wasted on these garbage men

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

I would ask him, would you even buy me what I wanted? No you would probably call me spoiled 😂

[@coolbreeze5683]

@@tiredoftheworld4834 exactly 😆

[@blasiankiki7831]

I remember when I was in college I was dating this guy and he always offered to take me shopping.. I’d ignore him bc I felt like he expected this to impress me. He would splurge on food drinks partying. One day he asked me to go shopping again and I said “ I don’t really need anymore clothes but you can buy my books for this semester if you want to help me out.” His entire facial expression changed and after that date he didn’t call for a few days… I didn’t call him either. Two weeks later he called and said why haven’t you called me are you mad I didn’t buy your books that’s not my responsibility. I said “ I understand, it’s cool so already bought my books” the pause was AUDIBLE… he said where did you get the money? I said I don’t see why that matters. He said you must have men lined up… anyway he asked to meet up. I said ok… changed my number (it’s before the block days). I saw him 3 years later and I had graduated college and he asked why I’d ghosted him and if we could try again? I said I don’t think that’s a good idea .. we aren’t really into the same things so let’s leave good enough alone. He went and told our mutual friends I was stuck up and thought I was better than people…. No you wanted to fund me partying but when you thought you could help me progress you hesitated… I’m not for you lol Oh and my mom bought the books but I let him think what he wanted 😂😂😂

[@chrzig554]

They don't like independent career driven women but would call a woman a golddigger if she expects the man to pay for a date he invited her to.

[@TrishaKnight]

Yes, they are jealous. Some even tell me straight out and say " not everyone can live a life like you do". These are men that have more material than I do and earn more. It really makes no difference. Jealous people will find anything to be jealous of.

[@dw9524]

Most ppl are insecure and mean spirited. Especially men.

[@heneverforesakesme4038]

What kills me with that statement...as a man, yes you can, as a matter of fact, men have FAR MORE opportunities than a woman and they don't have to work three to ten times harder to obtain it. Thank the Lord we can make money and live independently because if not, we would have died out two decades ago if we depended on a man for anything.

[@Makehimfamous]

Ok ladies I’m going to go out on a limb here and be vulnerable, so please be honest but gentle with your responses. So yes it is true that men can be jealous of women for a variety of reasons. I myself AM jealous of women because of an personal insecurity; I’ve learned this through much introspection. I will never be able to meet our societies ideas of masculinity or ever be attractive. See I am only 5’2”. My mother comes from a place in Mexico where people are very small , mostly farmers with that very petite build. No matter how successful in my career, how much money you I can make or be a great listener I can be, or how well I take care of the house or my kids, I will never have any masculine appeal. I live with a lack of agency to help myself and that is so depressing. ( fyi, I’ve never lashed out on women, it all gets turned inwards with thoughts of suicidal depression). Women on the other hand are given standards of femininity that are attainable. I’m not saying that men don’t have ridiculously high standards for women, what I’m saying is that at least your standard is on a spectrum, the standard I have to reach is binary, if you’re short like me it’s over, I’m not even considering a man. So thank you for your time. Please chime in and tell me what you think. Tell me what I can do to increase my masculine appeal given that I am my size, or jus tell me it’s over and there isn’t even a point in trying.

[@Virgoflower-h2w]

Yessss I've had guys say that same bs to me, and it has pissed me off. First how do you know how the heck I'm living and then I'm striving to meet my goals so why you mad at me. I had to tell those fools I am very ambitious and resilent, and if i fall baby i pick my face up off that ground a grind it baby. That's just me. You should see their face after I check them. Boyyyyyeeeee bye

[@toniwilliams9348]

@@Makehimfamous dude just be you! You’re not gonna change everyone’s opinion about what they view as a “masculine” 👌🏾 Life is short so don’t be stuck in the narrative of what and how should be lived. All of us out here aren’t married/dating with children….. I used to try to validate my own identity and looks to try to be dateable but what I’ve learned is no matter how thin or thick I am, if someone isn’t willing to take the time to get to know me, it’s not even worth my time or thoughts! Yes it can be lonely at times, I sleep a lot for entertainment…yeah I have vivid dreams! But now I’m understanding life better! Fuck the social norms or what others expect the social norms should be and be true to yourself! Find fun things to do like travel, find hobbies where you’re able to meet new people if that makes you happier…but never look at what other people expect from your life. Hey some people are vain enough to not want to be in a relationship with someone who’s shorter/taller, in shape or out of shape, but that’s their personal preference which they are entitled to….you can’t always get what you may prefer….might as well live the best life possible for yourself…👌🏾❤😃

[@Zikomo7]

Remember those “what would you do if you woke up as a woman” posts. Why did 99% of men say they’d start an OF

[@rosannarichardson7951]

They’d put the word slut to shame if they got to be a woman for a week. That’s why they’re jealous. They want to be able to sleep around with everyone at every moment of time. Actual women can do it. So they project about the body count hypocrisy of theirs. Anything a male ever does is directly or indirectly to gain access to s3x.

[@sashaclarke2749]

What’s an OF?

[@deadinsidebutstillsmiling905]

​@@sashaclarke2749only fan

[@BashaerB-h2c]

lol not surprised.

[@internetmachine]

"I must quit marrying men who feel inferior to me. Somewhere there must be a man who could be my husband and not feel inferior. I need a superior inferior man." --Hedy Lamarr

[@a_la_drinah]

Love this smart woman

[@Luckimee]

What they say is true. If you watch true crime, the targeted women were always women that "lit up the room"

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Thays right women with s beautiful aura

[@77kc_77]

Facts avoid them I had one guy jealous of my car and apartment he was living in a dump without air conditioning and I had a decent apartment

[@yourlittlesecret7575]

They want us to be their peace, but all they bring us is chaos 🙄

[@omotayosatuyi252]

Not true idk where you got that assumption from

[@ChillingTales12]

Dogs are waaaaaaaayyyyy more peaceful

[@rebekkagasmi9451]

​​@@omotayosatuyi252It IS true... Period

[@omotayosatuyi252]

@@rebekkagasmi9451 nah not true

[@kaysmellsgood]

​@@omotayosatuyi252A man that's cheating on his gf/wife will be expecting peace too 😂 when they're bringing trauma and chaos to her life.. y'all are clowns

[@cosmicbrownie333]

The men at the end nailed it. A man would be jealous over literally anything lol Especially if he’s a guy who has never learned how to deal with his insecurities and doesn’t understand when a woman cant be “bought”. Many men think money can override lack of character development & being emotionally stunted. I used to do pageants and was briefly seeing a guy who would never tell me I was beautiful and would always go out his way to humble me because he “didn’t want me to get a big head” but would be visibly upset when I got attention when we were out together. He went through my phone when I fell asleep because he was so insecure about me being considered conventionally attractive he just “knew I was cheating”. I broke it off. Or they will immediately minimize my accomplishments. One guy hit me with a “I could do that too” when I told him I spent 3 months in Japan as a musician a part of an orchestra at the time. Another guy was jealous because I quote “could get along with anyone and could wear whatever I wanted & have it look good”. Lol silly I know, but just mind boggling how many men think you only exist to serve them…like youre a robot without any feelings or goals. It doesn’t even have to be a career. They will get jealous about you being cultured and used to nice things like trips, personal hobbies, and vacations. Had a man get visibly upset when I told him I took a 2 week sabbatical to Hawaii for a solo b day holiday. Another mad at me for showing him how to use chopsticks because he didn’t know how and we were at a sushi place. It takes a lot more effort for men to engage with women who don’t seek their approval or validation because it requires you to actually be a decent human being to keep someone around. No wonder there’s a “loneliness pandemic” for men. All in all, some guys just can’t handle not being able to exploit a “damsel in distress”.

[@a_la_drinah]

Girl you nailed it!

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I'm glad you are away from these losers who just want to tear you down!

[@nawal10]

Women don't have to be rich to make a man jealous. She only has to be a damn woman, maybe an attractive one, and she'll have jealous hateful men right and left. Beauty is power. A beautiful woman can have access to an easy great life or many opportunities a man can't unless he starts working hard and making $. I'm not the most beautiful but I take care of myself. The insecure men always come for me. I had a male "friend" who always called me a brat and assumed I can have anything I want cause of my looks. Said must be nice being able to just sift through men and pick who u want (untrue) and one of my exs rarely complimented me and during a vulnerable moment he said it's because I must get it often from others and he wants to be "diff". This was from someone who supposedly loved me! And we planned to marry! Ha!

[@sinsin7655]

Even normal looking women will jealous over attractive women

[@Alexis-ec9cl]

My ex was jealous of how magnetic I was. He LITERALLY told me that when I walk into rooms the room shines brighter because everyone loves to see me. This same man would “knock me down” a peg, not only him but his friends. He would not pick something random from a conversation just to tell me I was wrong or handled something incorrectly. Lol. I am friendly, easy going, and non dramatic. But I knew how to have a conversation, I could talk to anyone, and I am bubbly and charming. He would just sit there fuming when we’d be at a bar because I would just keep talking to new people and people wanted to talk to me. When my ex broke up with me he said he couldn’t keep up with me. Our personalities were too different, he was shy and liked to be to himself and I was not. Even though he LOVED to say what he liked most about me was my ability to get along with anyone, adjust on the flip, and my charisma. Which ended up being the same reason he wanted to break up with me. He hated when I looked good and we went out, he’d sit in the car fuming the whole way there. Silent. Honestly bullet dodged. I can sniff out an insecure man a mile away now that I learned that lesson. If you can’t keep up with me, don’t have an open heart and aren’t likeable, I will not date you. Unfortunately that eliminates a lot of men from the dating pool. It’s much easier to date white men because they’re a lot more open and less hard up. They like to see you shine but black men take it as a slight against them. They can’t be the most attractive man in the room anymore because they’re woman shows them up. I’ve seen it a million time. If you are bubbly friendly and fun, men that aren’t, will pretend to like you until their mask slips. Watch out.

[@crazymusicgrlcheesecake]

He was not cool. I am a shy person, too, but I am willing to go out of my comfort zone. Especially if that meant making my partner happy.

[@edenhaile6356]

Omg black men, African men are the worst, they have such a feminine energy, they really need to be with other men onestly, they'll be happier.

[@livalittle13]

I'm so glad you for away from him. You're clearly wonderful😊 and deserve to be treated with the upmost respect

[@aurora8749]

That may be true for black women dating white men but as a white woman who dates white men, they are typically abusive.

[@ssmfetti]

11:39 Black model who dated a jealous white man. So much for whitemen love to see you shine & black men don’t. Don’t forget about all the whitemen who raped their slaves, then sold & slaved their own biological children. Like president Thomas Jefferson.

[@jones2277]

I don’t want to deal with some whiny argumentative dude. I want a dude to bring peace, kindness, warmth, and friendship. Does that make me masculine or just a human?

[@Asiwnsk]

Exactly!! So beautifully said

[@famine3141]

means u got standards and respect for yourself

[@KeeWebb]

Men know that the more women get higher financially and professionally, the less women they have access to.

[@NintendoGamepro]

😂 what? How? Make it make sense!

[@tiredoftheworld4834]

@@NintendoGameproit’s common sense

[@NintendoGamepro]

@@tiredoftheworld4834 it's not! that's why I need an explanation!

[@furballrage595]

​@@NintendoGamepro They want women who are beneath them. Also, successful women usually have resources and financial independence, therefore harder to be 'trapped' by these abusers.

[@NintendoGamepro]

@@furballrage595 I get what y'all are saying but putting all men in a category based on negative experiences is not it!

[@girlbrittneygirl]

How is a woman consider an average adult just because she pays her bills, when women are independent of men by nature?

[@tiny22022]

When you have a legitimate job, but they say the money comes from another man or OF. Not jealous at all, ladies. LOL.

[@msc8245]

Spot. On. They're deeply insecure with twisted minds. Bottomline, they have zero respect for us as women or even as a person.

[@MsLolaTaylor]

This is the new phenomenon I've been experiencing personally as well. I've been working since 14 and graduated college with honors so obviously moving up the ranks is inevitable. But since I look good and dress sexy all of a sudden my corporate job doesn't exist. The money MUST be coming from somewhere else 😂

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Lol where do they get this idea that men are just lined up to give women money and pay bills? If that were the case, then I wouldn't be working at all!

[@SusanHamer]

My sister made more money than her husband. He was NOT HAPPY about it. He sneered "you just fucked your way to the top". She did not blink. She looked at him and said "sooooo should I fuck my way to the bottom?" They divorced. No surprise.

[@francisikwueme1688]

Savage response lol😂😂

[@ecclairmayo4153]

That's so disrespectful to say to someone he supposedly loves

[@kittenmayz611]

They are ALWAYS comparing them selves to women not other men…. It’s weird

[@sashaclarke2749]

Bc they want to be women?!🤷🏼‍♀️🏳️‍🌈

[@SistaJenkins]

💯

[@willowclay5406]

I'm single and celibate by choice. I look great for my age! I'm tired of meeting losers or cheaters!

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

The very first man that talked sounded so silly. He’s saying men had to deal with the boss all day at work. So do women. They also work full time lol wtf

[@whycaninotfindagood]

He also implied that the boss is upset because he isn’t good at his job. Dude used probably real examples of him getting chewed out for being mediocre and probably getting the same heat for the same reason from his girl. Like how you equate a woman making money the same way of a man dressing fem? Showed that he really equates beauty with money and doesn’t seem like he can even keep up with it.

[@daysoftheboo]

I've Never met a woman that works and earns good money that acted like dude, but my mom was a stay-at-home housewife had no money was 100% dependent on my dad acted like a rude masculine aggressive always ready to fight dude , there's plenty of housewives that can be just as aggressive and dominant as dudes

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Thank you for this because the stress levels leave most of these said traditional women or housewives in their masculine energy while the independent women without men are more happier .

[@daysoftheboo]

@@Priscilla_Boye men are liars!! housewives are Not happy bubbly cheery smily always wanting to please like a Stafford wife Housewives become overgrown miserable children depending on Daddy husband

[@jones2277]

Watch any episode of Wife Swap. Plenty of housewives run their household with an iron fist. The submissive housewife is such a myth.

[@daysoftheboo]

@@jones2277 reality shows are fake and staged it's all for entertainment

[@NintendoGamepro]

​@@jones2277thats a tv show 😂

[@apocalypsgoddess1]

I have a male coworker who is gay and a little flamboyant. He goes on rants about how men are creeps and how we need to “protect black women”, and I agree with this. When a male customer is being creepy towards me, he takes over and it makes me feel comfortable. However, when a male customer gives me a kind and genuine compliment about my appearance without any weird undertone to it, my coworker gets real tight and passive aggressive towards me and starts trying to negate my compliment by saying “girl you’re not all that” and “anyone can get compliments”. He tries to say these things in a joking way but the envy shines through. When I called him out for being a pick me, he literally pretended not to know what jealousy and envy are and was tripping over his words. And not to be shallow but my beauty and femininity makes men tip us a lot. The men specifically tell me “this is for you” and I still split it with my coworker so if anything he should be grateful to work with me.

[@BB-gd7ez]

Straight and gay men both can have issues with women and it's crazy and dangerous at times.

[@apocalypsgoddess1]

@@BB-gd7ez yeah I know. It just so happened that the guy in my story was gay.

[@jones2277]

He wants attention from straight men. He’s jealous.

[@lunawiggins8251]

Idk sounds like you kinda the same. tell him you don't need it at all and take care of yourself and keep those tips NGL 👀sounds like he should be thankful for me because I give him my tips, even though he puts himself in danger to protect me.....

[@apocalypsgoddess1]

@@lunawiggins8251 him interacting with the male customer who is saying creepy things to me or has creepy energy in general isn’t putting himself in danger. He is a 6 foot male he can handle himself. And just because he chooses to step in and serve the creepy male so I don’t have to doesn’t mean I have to take his disrespect when a man is being truly kind to me and he’s envious. And the reality is yes I’m a beautiful girl and straight male customers do tip me a lot more than my gay male coworker. We are obligated to split tip unless they say it’s specifically for the person they hand it to. And most of the time the ones who are fond of me specifically still put the money in the jar, so even still I’d have to split it with no choice. I still share with him out of kindness when the tip is just for me and because I thought we were cool up until I realized his “jokes” weren’t actually jokes. So yeah I stand on what I said before. The same thing he puts me down for is the same thing he ends up benefiting from whether I have a choice or not, and yes I’m pointing it out.

[@Autumn-zd9nq]

Gaslighting. Men know good and well that they’re successful women that aren’t masculine and argumentative and if she is I bet the bottom dollar there was something stupid he kept doing.

[@jahsdiary]

Then don’t date successful women problem solved

[@sagittariusque8932]

As someone said "some men don't want to see you succeed even if it benefits them also"

[@saffy771]

I've heard it straight pout of the horse's mouth from other guys who honestly said that a lot of men get intimidated when a woman is smarter or more successful than them, which is why a lot of smart and successful women struggle more finding a partner. Even when she's not bragging about it or acting masculine, just an above average smart woman existing is intimidating enough for a lot of men.

[@gensai93]

They are more likely to cheat if their woman makes more and less likely to do cooking and cleaning.

[@JaydenHolland-wo4fd]

To me a smarter and more successful woman would be intimidating but in an attractive way(not fearful or feeling lesser) because it shows a lot of maturity because of effort. As well, just because the woman is smarter and more successful doesn't mean people who aren't are bums it just means she had the ability/time to put in more effort and conditions lined up correctly for her just like for a man.

[@opticalraven1935]

​@@JaydenHolland-wo4fdBut you're not most men. Most men hated smart and successful women.

[@JaydenHolland-wo4fd]

@@opticalraven1935 I do see that but I'm not a tiny minority. There are a lot of men that want smart successful women. I'm sorry about how other men made you feel, but we all just got to keep pushing.

[@chelscara]

Honestly, it’s why I started going for blue collar guys. My man is a car mechanic while I’m in school to finish my business degree, hes not intimidated by my intelligence cause it’s not what his focus ever really was, he was always more physical, so he just finds me wildly impressive and interesting. It’s definitely not full proof, I got so lucky, but I’ve had better luck with guys that ready aren’t focused on defining their worth by how much smarter they are than their partner.

[@NewOrleansGirl]

Thank you for posting this!! My boyfriend of 6 years packed his things and left me while I was at work. He never expressed he wanted to leave until I had to beg him to tell me why. His first reasoning was my success with my career and finances were a constant reminder of what he feels he’ll never be able to obtain. Then his second reasoning was that I was argumentative and had twisted love. I gave this man all the love I could possible give and more. Paid for his car and car note, for clothes, bought food and cooked, cleaned the apartment, took care of majority of the rent, paid for his acting classes, supported him with anything he need because i LOVED him so much…all the while he would sit and play video games or complain about how his acting isn’t going anywhere…I was doing wife duties while being a girlfriend. Once he started getting a little check from his acting job he didn’t need me anymore. I feel so worthless, unlovable, and used now, but I believe I’ll be ok.

[@amandaliscette6541]

Im so sorry this happened to you. U are worthy of love, & by all that you stated you're an amazing woman ✨️

[@farrahforever0210]

You will be just fine. Pour that love and energy into yourself and be thankful he left. He was using you. Smh never build a man up. Learn from this experience and always date UP.

[@aurora8749]

Girl, please! You just admitted that you were not only bringing a lot to the table, you were the damn table. You feel worthless and unlovable because some insecure, selfish, loser didn't value you? The reason he didn't value you is because he knows he doesn't add value. You think a woman who loves deeply, works hard, cleans and cooks well, is worthless? Or is a man who sits on his behind playing videogames and living off a woman's hard earned money the one who is worthless? Lesson learned! NEVER date men who are in receiving mode. They will make you suffer. Men who do not have enough motivation and determination to financially support themselves hate themselves and they will project their hate onto you. You do not need the love and attention of a male to be complete. You are already complete. Spend time getting to know yourself and then if a man wants to date you, ask yourself if he adds anything to your life other than just "he says he loves me" or he's cute. The era of women falling for the lie that a woman's ultimate happiness is achieved by being subservient to a male is over! I am happy AF as a single woman. I will never date again! Because I've been there, done that, and I'd much rather be able to live my own life the way I want to than have a man dictate everything I do while I serve him hand and foot. No thank you!

[@ToniToussaint]

Sounds like you were his mom.

[@NewOrleansGirl]

@@ToniToussaint yep I became the mother he “wanted”. Lesson learned.

[@ForTheDivine_2000]

Be very careful ladies. These type of men will unalive you and/or set you up to be robbed or unalived Used to be with this guy who made a comment about my headphones and said "these are small, I thought you'd get bigger ones coz you like big things" then tried to avert the conversation to fish for validation about his shlong 🤣🤣🤣 then proceeded to tell me that I'm not his usual type UNPROVOKED 💀💀💀 y'all stay safe

[@azureavocado5195]

9:21 she’s on the crest is making the profound statement but doesn’t quite land… *MANY of these guys don’t merely want beautiful, attention - grabbing women….they want to BE them.*

[@anonymousa-uy1hk]

👏👏👏

[@claudiajeanpierre3098]

I’m weak 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@knot_kisses]

This is it 🎯

[@shirleydaniels9310]

they are very jealous of all women they are petty too

[@TheMentalLevelUpPodcast]

The goal post will always move if the other person is not only jealous, but immature, insecure, and or miserable. It may take a while to notice, but even if they make more money than you, they will still find something about you to devalue you if you are a smart, confident woman who cannot be easily impressed or controlled. This is one reason why they will shower the dumb damsel-type women with attention - its a way to make you resent being smarter than him. They will keep trying to make you feel bad about something for the entire duration of the relationship.

[@Priscilla_Boye]

True.

[@saliormoon5534]

Decentering is the best thing ever

[@lavender4658]

I saw a video some time ago talking about smth like this. the reason men don't like independent/successful women is because they're also afraid of them. over the years, (in terms of gender roles of course) the definition of what it means to be a woman/what that entails has expanded a lot, whereas for men, its stayed more or less the same. Men are starting to realize that women don't need them to "provide and protect" so to speak, cuz women can do that for themselves. but the more women are able to fend for themselves, the less likely men are to find 'agreeable' partners (by that I mean easy to manipulate). cuz if the only role of a man is to provide and protect, but women can do that for themselves, then what is the role of a man? From a young age, boys are taught that their role in the family structure is to protect and provide for the household, and be the family 'head.' but when these boys become men, and realize what they've been taught isn't true, they'd rather blame women for not "following their role" and "acting like men," instead of trying to evolve the definition of what it means to be a man in their eyes. Honestly, it makes sense. I can empathize with men being afraid of this changing world, since they were promised an idea that is not accurate to real life. and with the way men are basically taught to fear their own emotions, I'm not surprised they turn to mentally breaking down a successful woman in order to feel like her equal, or above her. but I do not condone or approve of treating a woman like shit to feel like a "man." self reflection is hard, especially if u never learned how to properly process your emotions.But it's necessary work that anyone can do, as long as they out their mind to it. Unfortunately, most men aren't gonna do that, so for now, were stuck with narcissists who tear women down to lift themselves up.

[@MsLolaTaylor]

Phew 💯👏🏾

[@returnoftheromans6726]

Lol! Life is hard. Get a helmet.

[@JadeW1111]

I just started dating a guy and he keeps using the word compete! He used compete when discussions were held about sex, cooking, flexibility and it’s starting to sound like he wants a man too

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Have a breath holding competition. Make sure you breathe through your nose. Win. Smile inside.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

These men are secretly gay!

[@radguurl]

Funny how these guys never want to be the mutual peace for women. It's always them demanding peace from women without giving the same in return

[@Asiwnsk]

Exactly!! It is so draining to be around them. They expect us to do the emotional labour and regulation for them, like they aren't independent adults responsable for their own regulation

[@crestfire8008]

What do males bring to the table?

[@albertosei8788]

​@@Asiwnsk You both are supposed to be a team. A woman is there to be a helper and he on his part is supposed to be provider and protector sustainer of the family. He's just describing your role as a woman which modern women aka feminist refuse to do

[@CRINNGE_X]

​@@crestfire8008don't worry we bring nothing since you are already us😂

[@LorettaBangBang]

I have experienced this! Guy was STRAIGHT UP jealous and suggested I didn't deserve what I have (which is NOT much) because HE doesn't get much. Explaining how hard I worked for that did nothing. He can't have it? You don't deserve it. Like good f-in morning, the world has always been unfair but I got my fair share, thank you.

[@kiterafrey]

My favorite is when men online tell me I'll never get married because I'm successful and work in law and make good money. Especially, when they take the time to say it via DM where they had to go to my social page, SEE THAT I AM MARRIED IN MY PROFILE, and still send the DM like a dumbass proving they just can't read.

[@ctibaga]

I called a man machiavellian and you could have sworn I called him out his name. Many people are just draining.

[@OnceLostForeverFound]

1st guy is so pressed it's actually hilarious. Like his only caveat to successful women is "waaah well we won't date u". Like sir, the door is wide open.

[@vrichards4363]

Yes they think our lives are easy. They dont know the half. 😂😂😂😂

[@edithart5753]

I am going to say this, as a single woman I like the peace I have. It gets lonely sometimes but I get over it when I think about the trauma I have been through with men. They always think without them there is nothing left to a woman, the minute you realize how much better off you are without a man who barely makes an effort, leaves you feeling insecure and uncared for., being by yourself doesnt seem so bad. Ladies if it doesnt look like partnership and instead looks like you are there to serve him, just let it go. He will never see you

[@rosannarichardson7951]

If he can’t celebrate your wins, he hates you

[@SunflowerGodess0420]

Another reason to stay single.

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Lot of men think successful women got there not because of intelligence, dedication, and grit, but because she slept her way there.

[@77kc_77]

Yep 💯

[@Sacredmysticz]

I never realized how jealous men were until I woke up 😢 even seeing men’s comments on ig shows they are even jealous of a woman loving her her DOG 🐶🦮🐾❤ smh 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@rosannarichardson7951]

My now ex actually voiced this. I wanted a dog. He said the dog is going to replace him. Turns out his ex wife found that having a dog was better than keeping him around. Took note, woke up. Got tf out. Realized why (and he knew): because he didn’t have any of the good qualities a dog has. Volunteered at the shelter walking dogs instead :) single is best

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Men don’t want their love interests going to their best friends! Many of them can’t compete with dogs and cats, and are so wanting that affection we show them that they know they don’t deserve. I commented twice, you took this whole experience to light for me lol thanks :)

[@Sacredmysticz]

@@rosannarichardson7951 so so true men are a trip although I'm dating a guy now I still love on my pets and my children way more and he cant compete that not all men are like this though you have to find a real one that will understand but love your comment so true

[@Sacredmysticz]

@@rosannarichardson7951 it's only a matter of time before my ex husband wife leave him they fuss and argue and fight 24/7 right in front of my children I hate that they have to see that when they go over their father house

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Competing with dogs, now!😵‍💫

[@LisaApril]

The word submissive does not have a good connotation for me. I think of it like not being an equal partner in making decisions. Not getting to eat what I want for dinner because someone wants some thing else etc. and let’s face it, people in power such as a man with a submissive woman often abuse that power.

[@Oneofthenailas]

On my way back to doing my homework on de-centering men because this is crazy.

[@lovelylittlegirl3332]

A traditional man in my opinion is someone akin to a Samurai. The men these days lack philosophy talk about the intellectual prowess to actually be leaders. Women who are intellectually and financially better than these men are what they label as ‘masculine’. Men these days wouldn’t be so easily emasculated if they just started being men and learning more about philosophy instead of watching 🌽. It’s amusing how the ease at which men can be emasculated these days is not commonly discussed. Why is it so hard to emasculate men of sound intellect like Samurais and the men of the older ages but so easy to make these finance bros cry? You’ll call anything masculine if you yourself have strayed away from the true essence of masculinity. The masculinity of men these days has fallen to an all time low that a woman’s natural masculine energy (both genders have both energies) threatens theirs. Back in the day you will never hear men complain about women being too masculine because their masculinity is at a level that regardless of how much a woman tries, her masculinity can never rival theirs. Men these days care so much about dominating and dominance because they lack that dominating aura naturally.

[@Asiwnsk]

Exactly! These are words of wisdom

[@sandrasteele976]

This!!! Because they have no philosophy (most are atheist or superficially religious), they are clueless in life. They have no clue of basic right and wrong, order or how to navigate their own humanity😂. Stoicism, alchemy, Taoism....They are spiritually bankrupt and emotionally ignorant. The lack of philosophy and deep thought is blazingly obvious.

[@kristabistaify]

This! This! Is the exact reason

[@mabel9701]

The funny thing is when a successful woman in her 30s refuses to marry or have children or is just sick of men, the same males will call her selfish and scrutinise her for her decision 😂

[@albertosei8788]

And those successful women end up getting single. Look it up some secretly wished they had married when younger

[@77kc_77]

Facts the story of my life !

[@arbitrarylib]

This is why I turn off the Internet sometimes. A bunch of overwhelming truths and half truths. Doesn't matter what you do, men have some crazy perspective on it

[@ChillingTales12]

Humans suck

[@rosannarichardson7951]

Whichever option he can spin that he stands to gain the most benefit. That’s what he’ll choose. And these choices will not be consistent to any theme be it character, morals or values. Just whatever serves him at that time.

[@thekameru6058]

I knew a guy who called me a ball buster. This wasnt a romantic option by the way, just a friend. The real problem was that I just would do my own thing, wouldn't let him get away with stupid shit, and didnt care much for his opinions on me. He ended up dating several women, and the only ones who lasted any real time were ones who were prone to falling for manipulation. I do not envy them.

[@riareed1269]

They are competitive by nature, that’s why they want an obedient, silent, and ignorant wmn. Kinda like asking a lion do they want a chance at hunting a gazelle that’s successful at evading predators. A pred would be happy for easy prey.

[@letsdomath1750]

It's not even actual competition. It's catty pettiness of jealous and insecure people who are miserable with their lives and lack inner confidence.

[@returnoftheromans6726]

That is why a lot of men are now bragging about how they can find "traditional" women outside of the USA or other Western cultures. They date up, but ultimately want to marry down.

[@BlackRelationshipsUncut]

Men are extremely jealous of women, especially husbands of wives. My husband intentionally tried to destroy me because I'm out of his league. But he lost, I'm still rising.

[@kalinaribic6383]

A true alpha male doesn't feel threatened by an alpha female, but feels delighted to be in her presence.

[@CRINNGE_X]

Tf?

[@ecclairmayo4153]

Exactly. They don't compete with women

[@CRINNGE_X]

Alpha female please there is no such thing as alpha female 😂

[@lachanna100]

The lady who began speaking from 5:30-7:00 almost had me in tears she was speaking so much truth. I was married over 10 years to a jealous man. EVERY time he failed @ something he found some way to make it my fault or blame me. He opened a business October 2008 & it stayed opened until February 2013. When the business shut down he said, “My office closed cause you never made any telemarketing calls.” 😮 If you listen to his voicemail it still says the name of his old company even though it shut down 10 years ago. Since I left him I have a new job(been there over 4 years) New apartment(been there over 3 years) New SUV(had it over 2 years) Obtained these things with no help from anyone. While raising children. While traveling(been on 3 trips this year, went on 6 last year, another trip planned this year, 3 planned for next year) all while working 40-60 hours per week…

[@sourcandydoll]

My son’s father kept calling “a stuck up spoiled b*tch “ because I had the things he didn’t. Men can definitely make you feel bad and they want you to lower your standards to make them feel better about themselves. I leaned my lesson, never again.

[@ecclairmayo4153]

I'm glad you got a away from that toxic loser!

[@sourcandydoll]

@@ecclairmayo4153 thank you

[@77kc_77]

Wow 😮 I noticed that ! They will tear down your self esteem

[@adrianagauci4894]

You can be sweet and feminine at home and in public and still be successful in the workplace. That guy made no sense.

[@deenaprice1524]

The first guy is lying. They say they want a woman to be his peace, and then turn around and treat a docile woman like trash. By the time he's had her for a few years, she is no longer the same woman... because you ruined that, sir.

[@LnvoMv]

True They want the submissive wife to trap her and treat her like shit and not worry about her leaving them they hate when you can walk away anytime

[@dreamscomingtrue2446]

one of my classmates is jealous of women (me) who are not married . because i think he might be divorced . so he knows that women will be unhappy in marriages so he would try to advice with negative intention me to get married quickly . he also made comments like 1) women can get to go home early from work 2) women get to sit in women's reserved seat in the bus 3) he talked about my female friend negatively when i told him that my friend is living with her bf in a different country earning well 4) when i understood a computer code and he didn't . he openly made comments like "what did you buy a course last night for this too ?" so everyone would think that i didn't put any efforts . 5) also would discuss about me during coffee breaks and like she know how to code but can't talk during interviews . 6) even brought in another guy to discuss about me some guys are impressed that u know things too because its like easier for them . they can ask you instead of googling it .

[@dw9524]

They're jealous becasue we can do what they do and more. Like imagine complaining that men "built society and don't get a break" and then women enter the work force and then they're still complaining that they feel emasculated.

[@kushinaa1XD]

I once watched a video discussing how men and women see the world differently. Generally, men see relationships as hierarchies with "a dominant one and followers" , while women see relationships as a collaboration with equal participants.

[@Erica-wz8yv]

My own husband (now ex) was jealous of me when I got promoted at my job and got to permanently work from home. He cheated on me too.

[@77kc_77]

Wow I work from home my ex husband doesn't know I work from home

[@christyspeed4995]

A man will try to humble a Successful, Beautiful, Confident Woman fast! 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@lilithgrrrl]

I guess I'm a failure bc I'm single .... oh well, I’ll comfort myself with my 6 figure salary, owning my own home, and about to go on trip abroad with my best friend next week 😂😂😂

[@contessamcqueen2329]

This is wild. The minimizing your success part is so real. I would just leave them alone. I don't even challenge them the conversation. I just move on. Not worth it.

[@Traytriunetheomnist]

Pray for discernment to see past words deeds and see intention. You'll pick up jealousy real quick . They hate us because they beleive life is easier for us because we are the value for the fact that we have a poom poom

[@sadejones6657]

So according to him they want a doormat

[@gravityclarity]

4:41 guy was so envious! Lmfao. Those types of guys are so pathetic! Men who are secure in themselves don't do that.

[@prihollis]

Ja I went back to university to study more and with my first distinction came my ex asking for an open relationship because he didn’t even submit his assignments. I said “no thanks but I wish you well because you do you boo” to an open relationship. He “took it back” and then the typical “women don’t know how to be kind”. Jealous much?

[@addictedtochocolateandcoff9582]

hope you ddidnt accept him back

[@prihollis]

@@addictedtochocolateandcoff9582 no way! The loss of him resulted in a second degree, buying a place with a huge garden for my dogs and doubling my business. Not that I see him, but I have heard he said i'm "a sad dog lady who hit a wall". Soooo jealous :-)

[@AwakenAuthenticSelf]

A woman can be successful, make more money than her man and have all the qualities of the ideal woman described in this video, and men will still be envious. They are secretly jealous.

[@3mi3mi]

He straight up said it, “I envy you.” Even though he was nice to me and we were close, I could sense that. He ghosted me and I can’t help feeling like, he felt like I was somehow better off than he was so it was okay but it really hurt my feelings. All in all not nearly as bad as what some of these ladies are describing but yes, they do envy us, and either 1. Try to sabotage or “humble” you, or 2. Date someone they feel is “less” than they are, and then fall into the “hating your girlfriend” stage.

[@Lightreign888]

Might I share be careful with social media. I had a boy literally watch me for 3 years on social media mind you I barely post what I personally got going on. He paid to get a background check on me and studied my movements and resume . He commented on my tenure in my career and that right there raised an eyebrow. It turns out he does this as a job just stalking successful women that he can love bomb. Be careful ladies.

[@tamaradominy977]

It's not just because we are more successful than them, it's also because WE are the ones who bear children, and the only way they can have children is through US, and we have the power to say NO to that.

[@albertosei8788]

Or the laws favor women to keep their children away from the fathers

[@shivanipde]

My ex husband, with no job , used to be covertly jealous of my job, i used to work corporate at a plush office. I used to provide financially A to Z. His jealousy used to come out in our fights all cuz of money, once he threw the rent money i gave him on my face.

[@kameralkutie5594]

Of course they are they are even trying to be us. It’s very sickening.

[@shayemoore]

Men hate that women have autonomy. They wish women didn't have the authority to chose their own mates.

[@tiseytise]

True

[@Lolathefaiiry]

are you attempting to be transphobic? lmao

[@divalizzous]

Go back to kindergarten. “Phobic” means fear. She’s stating facts about male actions and b/c your opinion isn’t coming from her mouth you call her “phobic”. Grow up. Men will never be women and that is biological fact. Cry a river and deal.

[@Carrybean]

I hope so deeply you arent talking about trans women. Trans women are women. They are a bit different than biological born women, but they go through life with a womans brain and feeling trapped inside a mans body. Many trans women face the exact same misogyny and discrimination as cis women and fight for all womens rights, fight for equality for all.

[@shans1986]

Well I guess it really makes sense, if men just see Women as caretakers, then sure as heck don’t want someone who is seen as having more power through money with them.

[@Regina.Clarke]

They aren’t necessarily jealous. It’s insecurity because they haven’t gotten clear about what he wants for his life and he is not where he wants to be. He assumes you have more going for you. Given this, he puts women a position to be more masculine because he starts to show his true colors. This only applies to directionless men. A man who is solid offers a sense of safety to a woman leading to less defensive and him not projecting his insecurities onto her. Find a secure man ladies and/or someone who is self reflecting. The signs are there early.

[@Coach-ks5yd]

100% for centuries

[@chichisasmr]

This is why many beautiful accomplished women are…single

[@77kc_77]

Me ! ❤

[@shakesinthehouse]

Can’t be more wrong. My cousin sister, who is very well educated, has a great job and come from a very rich family, married this guy who was less educated, doesn’t keep a job, disrespectful. He wasted so much of my uncle’s money, cousin sisters dad, trying to build businesses with his brother but failed. Now, he wants to move to a another country to get a job but my cousin doesn’t want to. He try to portrait like he runs the house when in reality it’s my cousins money, even the house they live in. He’s trying to take away all of the things she got herself.