WHY THE NARCISSIST IS SO IMPULSIVE

[@kathy7253]

They are so impulsive to the point of being a danger to innocent people.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely correct 💯💯

[@AA-ct7cb]

Yep, they are destructive to everyone including themselves.

[@tamikasinclair5478]

So spot on they are impulsive I've dealt with it for almost 7years divorced and free ❤️ no more drama we win

[@sinceresong9907]

Impulsive and explosive. Never at peace. The miserable look that hangs over them the majority of the time. I should of known better. My narc ex and I have a son. I was moving, we spent several days packing(him looking like someone died the whole time). When we finished and left, all he did was complain about how it had messed up his work days(. I've never asked him to do anything like this before. I've moved myself and child. In fact he has been extremely self focused and had years to focus on his work without interruption or compromise for us and our needs. I said, let's focus on we have achieved today and not what can't be changed (not to dismiss him but to stay positive)I had also thanked him through the process. He suddenly switches into full anger mode, starts shouting(lasted an hour in the car)..".your so selfish , you have uses me..don't appreciate all the work I've done. Now we have finished, apparently you don't care about the situations I have..now your ok"(not true).My ex knew that the time was needed out of his week to do this and agreed . So my translation is, he has helped ,not really wanting to, probablyan ulterior motive of he thought may benefit him long-term. Then thrown it alk back in my face, in the worst way, twisting things in a manner I'm not motivated by...Just to make me feel as miserable as him. I realised this move was a win for me in his eyes. He couldn't celebrate it. He had to destroy an achievement because in his mind that should be him. He has made some bad financial decisions because he won't listen to anyone. Anyway, it was a stark reminder I must keep a wide birth...I really had nobody else who could of helped at then. However, Pointless asking anything from him for the disruption caused. He will always use it to try and either manipulate or devalue me. They can never just see something through in good will without unnecessary drama and bad feeling.

[@MJ-qb5ph]

Yes and those around them have to be so hyper vigilant around their need for control

[@kenjrmullisandhiskid1484]

I was blinded for 6 years of giving my everything to a narc. This is so new to me. I didn't even know what a narrcasist was. When I was leaving she kept raging telling me I was a narrcasist. I left and looked it up and found your great inspirational videos. I am so shocked and totally blindsided. Thank you for giving me hope to a better path.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Ken.. continue to become educated and empowered.. you are doing great 🙌🙏💯💯

[@womanclothedinthesunq7574]

Welcome to the great awakening.

[@jjones4314]

Don't beat yourself up over it! Your story is a carbon copy of my life except I foolishly dealt with it for 13 yrs before I started researching & figured out what he is! Been no contact for 1-1/2 yrs & finally have peace! Hang in there, stay strong!

[@cynthiafortier2540]

The shock of this encounter never leaves. 2 years out and I still can't believe I fell for it. Glad you are free and now awakened!!

[@kenjrmullisandhiskid1484]

Thank you all kindly.

[@robyncampbell9624]

They are even impulsive when they discard you for new supply

[@motherearth6064]

True. Narcissist always need an audience, they hate silence.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes they do 💯💯

[@jessieb7290]

Probably cause they wonder what we’re thinking, and it drives them nuts.

[@soloplayrules]

Soooo true. They make decisions not thinking about how this affects people. So true!!!

[@cherylwestbrook5526]

My ex literally told me that by me asking: "How was your day", that it was too "cliche"! Lol He also did not want to have a set dinner time. In the beginning, he was totally fine with it but after a very short time, it was "too routine" for him. We didn't have any kids together so it was not a big deal but it eventually got to the point where he wouldn't even eat any meals with me. He would cook one of those frozen dinners and take it into the bedroom and eat. I would still prepare these really great meals and just ate them by myself. His loss!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I remember similar experiences..💯💯😉😉

[@marciajones2361]

So sad😢

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Damn me too

[@hongtruong4576]

My experience was different. We didn’t share a home, but he expected dinner every day at 6. He would go on about: You don’t know how to be in a relationship, your mate comes first. I worked and have my owe responsibilities. I finally said: whatever you are eating I’ll have some. He is relentless🤯 peace is priceless 🙏

[@emiliebudd7026]

My ex bought a beach house in Mexico without much thought or consulting me. I cashed in my retirement to make that purchase happen. Reflecting on this makes me realize the extent I would go to please that monster.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes when we are in the relationship .. we are in the fog..💯🙌💪😉

[@billyje4726]

Ha yes! My ex bought an overprized van, that even needed a lot of work to function as a holiday van, without asking me!! 🙈🙈 That was during a time when we didnt have much money. He didnt work fulltime and we had just moved into a cheaper appartment because of that. I had to use my savings for daily expenditures after this. 🙈

[@Dee-xs5yy]

I never thought of this but spot on. My ex bought a cat, dog, chickens, peacock, geese...all which he refused to look after and it was my responsibility. I ended up having to sell the 40 chickens and geese as it was too much.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

See my video on this topic I created in November..😉😉

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

Lol mine did this with high maintenance vehicles . Plants. Technology. Somehow always my responsibility

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

I was in a 7yr relationship with a narcissist who told me I was the narcissist. They love smoke bombs and mind games. I remember the day I packed my suitcase he chased me out of my own apartment screaming at me and my head was just spinning. I didnt even know what a narcissist was. Its been 4 months no contact. Its been hard some days are better. Most days are much better!!. I feel more for my grandchildren because they dont understand. Papa was around for 7 yrs then gone. Doesnt care blocked my kids ran away abandoned his dog and left the place trashed. These people are mentally ill. Its just not normal behavior.

[@yonishain3208]

Impulsiveness is such a big thing with a narcissist, people don't talk about it nearly enough, thank you, this video is great!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@sheilamurry9875]

They are doing the unspeakable during these impulsive behaviors.There is no teamwork and the family is going to suffer. They have no moral compass and all is well with them. Then we are left embarrassed and shocked

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Agree Shelia..💯💯

[@AA-ct7cb]

“Nothing can stay constant.” Yep. If you have to be around them, at least never be alone with them, right? They are dangerous. Period. Solid video.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you A A..💯🙌💪

[@ladyt7320]

They are so impulsive to the point they will attack you too.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely true 💯💯

[@AA-ct7cb]

Even physically? Thanks.

[@jessieb7290]

That sounds more like a sadist or a covert narcissist/ malignant narc.

[@malcolmwaddilove1822]

Impulsive , and happily admits it with a smile,thanks Andrew!

[@kimberlyfontana5852]

Andrew , The dog scenario literally happened to me. I can home from work (keep in mind this is my home) walked in and there is a full grown 1 1/2 year old female German Shepard. No prior convo but that would take communication and respect. Your right what they want when they want is that matters. No common sense ! The kicker … The dog was left behind which was the best for her since she feared him. She no longer chews her nails to the nub. 😏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty.. thank you for sharing this insight..💯🙌💯🙏😉😉

[@rsbrinkman9168]

They would expect you to light yourself on fire to keep them warm . There is no sacrifice we could make that they would ever consider , unreasonable . My ex once bought a puppy , her only incentive was to score points with a coworker that was selling them . It immediately became my job to look after it . She had no other use for the dog , never fed or watered it , never walked it . Never really gave him a thought ever .

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

Omg#!!! Thats my story too!! Thats crazy!!! Im stunned at the similarities we have all of us. ThankGod we have eachother !!! Thank God Andrew is making these videos!!

[@goldiebrown3576]

This happened to me too. He brought home a lab and few weeks later a Rottweiler. 3 years later he took our Rottweiler to the vet to put him down while I was at work. This is when we’re in the process of our divorce. And when he goes shopping he will buy multiple color shirts, shorts or any other clothing. He would buy multiple tools of the same sets. He’s careless with our children by walking ahead of them without looking back to check on them. Now I finally learned he’s a malignant narcissist.

[@thrivingnow7395]

Me too! A German shepherd with him knowing I have an extreme allergy to dogs! Then when my asthma kicked in, tells me I don't have asthma it is all in my head.

[@hopestrong2037]

You are so correct. Impulse to no end right along with all kinds of addictions

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 💯💯

[@stainless1175able]

Pet unexpectedly, multiple times. I'm thirsty, so I need to drive to a store to get a soda. Obsessed with Tiktok. My son told me at one time that she didn't really pay much attention to my sons anymore. He said she was always on tiktok. Broke my heart. I gotta say , it's as if you were right there with me during all of this. This is the most inciteful channel, on this subject, that I've seen. By the end, there were six cats and one dog.🤨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight..💯🙌🙏😉💪

[@dawngardener9586]

Absolutely agree Andrew and thankyou for raising this topic. Dr Les Carter in his midweek video explained that narcissism is built upon childish reasoning, they are stuck at pre adolescence. This seems to make sense, and helps us to understand the impulsivity and their inability to have adult relationships. Thankyou again Andrew for your insights and know that you are in our thoughts and hearts, have a peaceful and healing holiday and much love xxxx

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Dawn..💯🙌🙏😊

[@georginasandoval2653]

Wow! This is so true!! He used to do whatever he wanted, all of your examples!! He bought a lot, specially sport clothes and then he returned all of it, it was like a game. He bought a dog and then he didn’t want it and put it to sleep to buy another dog. He said out of the blue: let’s go to New York or to whatever place. At the begging I used to say yes who doesn’t want to travel!! but when I started to have problems with my time schedule and said no, he got mad, very mad, he said I was ungrateful. Other times he got mad just because, he disappeared arguing that I was mean to him and had to go. He took his motorbike and just went off for a couple days in this silent game. He used to change plans. I felt like if I was in a rush all the time. At the end of the relationship he was like in a hurry all the time wanting to go somewhere else, like thinking in what’s next., I just couldn’t keep up, I’m a very calm person, I mean I like going for a walk or riding a bike but not like that!! He wanted to go out to walk for hours!! No breakfast just walking for hours!!!! He just said and said and said: I want I want, I want… god like a kid! He wanted only his way. I never knew what to expect. It was exhausting. thank you for reminding me that. Just remembering it made me anxious!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this..💯🙌🙏

[@hairartistsasha7339]

He brought me 2 puppies impulsively, he didnt care 1 bit about them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😳😳😉😉💯💯

[@elizabethflorez2372]

Thank you ❤🎉God bless you. I’m in my journey of healing ❤️‍🩹 & living life to the fullest

[@cherylwestbrook5526]

Yes, I love the part where you talked about everything going smoothly and then all of a sudden, wouldn't talk. This would always happen on vacation. The first couple of days would be so blissful and then on a dime, he would all of a sudden not be talking to me. It's almost like he could only take so much getting along and then he had to shut down.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand 💯💯

[@cherylwestbrook5526]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I hope you have a very Merry Christmas! Thanks for all of your insight. Very helpful! 😊

[@lorrainemiller799]

I’m hearing ya 👍

[@dianaabad3910]

Absolutely true. He was always buying things that we never needed. Huge purchases. Cars ,computers,businesses. Crazy. Put me in huge debt. My son too. Opened credit cards in my name. Horrible divorce. Trying to survive. This video was great.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Diana.. 💯🙌🙏💪

[@lourdesecheverria6209]

Andrew, so right on! Once my ex went to run an errand (?) and come back with a boat! Another time he bought a camper trailer, for no reason at all! Jet skis, bikes, all these while he was flat broke! OMG....and the cell phones...he had 3 ! unbelievable! And I was in such thick fog, all I could do was just hope the figure out what the next day was going to be like! Free, after a discard. Happy and healing. Now almost 3 years later. Thank you! You are a blessing to all of us! Hugs and love to all!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙏😌💯

[@candidaherron6130]

I knew all of that business was a bit much . Way later on before I realized I wasn't in a real relationship . All the change up was exhausting . Yes manipulation the whole time . Narc use to say he loved living on the edge . Driving me nuts ! Super examples Andrew of the whole mess . God love you ! Thanks for encouraging the education of the madness !! 🙌🌻✌️💯🤗

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙌😉😊💪

[@candidaherron6130]

You got it ! 🌻👌🙏😊

[@caifanesdelaaalaz8529]

Greetings from México. I'm a survivor.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome to the community Caifanes..thank you for being here.. 🇲🇽🇨🇷💯🙌

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Omg Andrew, get out my life!!😂😂😂 That need to always be IN something is so real!!! The passing hobbies, the gear, the unfinished “projects” . . . . It was insane. None of it lasting, just crap to keep them distracted and occupied. Ugh . . . .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😉💯💯

[@pamelakelley5535]

Yes, he was constantly go, go, go driving at 100 mph reckless driving (narc trait) would just take off for anywhere couldn't sit still. Then when he had to have shoulder surgery and couldn't get around or get out he became a monster. He was actually crying poor pitiful, depressed self. His mask was completely off. I really saw the monster for the first time. I left him never went back and then found out two months later in one of his rages that he had been cheating on me for the last year. I thank God I had already left him. I felt like I beat him at his own game by leaving before the disgard.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty and sharing Pamela.. you are amazing 💯🙌🙏☀️💪

[@pinkposey8134]

Scuba gear and we lived 1000 miles from water to use it. Milk runs took an hour, he had to talk to GF

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this..💯🙌💪😉😉

[@kristinej.4182]

Andrew, you literally described my ex narcissist. When he discarded me and left the house to be with his new supply, he told me the living conditions with me were becoming unbearable bc it was so smooth and stable. Huh? Isn’t stability in a household a positive thing? But not for a narcissist. Yes, they need chaos and disruption. My ex narcissist couldn’t enjoy a relaxing evening at home. He always had to go somewhere, anywhere as long as it was out of the house. Weird…. Thank you for this video! Great work! 👍🏻👍🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always.. thank you 💯🙌🙏💪😊😉

[@CassandraArtrice]

My ex used to call his normal friends like on a Sunday afternoon trying to get them out to run the streets, and they would tell him that they were with the wife and kids doing family stuff. He would literally go through his whole phone looking for people to hang out, anything but spend the day with me.

[@diannamaldonado8737]

Me too. My ex is was the same. He did the same. He would ti a concert or to bar in a heartbeat. He left me because ge wasn't getting enough attention. But he already had a new supply.

[@kristinej.4182]

@@diannamaldonado8737 That was exactly for me too. He would go to a nightclub, bar, concert, mall anywhere in a heartbeat. He left me bc he said I wasn't giving him enough attention and bc I wouldn't sign the marriage license for him to try to steal from me legally. And yes when he left me, he also had a new supply but lied all the way. My gosh, how could they all be so same. It's scary. Thanks for sharing. I love this community of narc survivors.

[@kristinej.4182]

@@CassandraArtrice Same here. That was exactly what my ex narc did too! He was always on his phone looking for people to be out with. He couldn't enjoy being at home, relaxing. He said it was torture to be stuck at home. In the beginning, I tried to do what he wanted but later it was too tiring and too chaotic for me.

[@carolmoger9869]

Never could depend on him for anything and never any communication or apologies!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 💯💯

[@luckystaramourangel9345]

Your videos have become a regular part of my self care routine. I look forward to them every day. Bless you bright Soul namaste 😇🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Lucky Star..💯🙌🙌😊

[@swanam_1]

Same. I watch these while doing the dishes and cleaning every night

[@anewchapter1336]

Spot on Andrew, I have experienced this for 24 years and two kids later with my husband. At end of my rope. It gets worse as time goes by, I have only stayed to protect my kids and so his narc family doesn't enmensh my children like they did him. My youngest is almost 14 now (oldest is 18) and understands alot now so I have begun making plans for a huge change. I am turning 50 this year and have made it my goal not to keep putting up with this into my 50's.

[@AAXS-op1vo]

Good for you! Take it from one in the 50’s, with two grown children, who is almost done with the escape: get out while you still have reasonable strength and sanity. I understand staying for the sake of the kids, but you health will take a hit for that sacrifice.

[@denisebarber5960]

You hit the nail on the head with this one. He did this every single day. I couldn’t figure it out! The only time he was ever still was when he was sleeping. I never realized this before. Thank you for helping us understand these intricacies so we can move forward and heal.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💯🙏🙌

[@sabrinacollier3641]

You are right. My ex came home one day with about 10 pairs of shoes for no reason.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

There we go..🤔🤔🙌🙌💯💯

[@ks0969]

My x... collectibles and knickknacks. We had shelves and bins of beanie babies,, black cats. , collectible figures, videos and cd s, etc.. he was always spending money on stuff.. flea markets, yard sales,the mall. My mother... soap, shampoo and clothes, magazines.there was no reasoning with her. Her house was like hoarder haven.Tons of the stuff. After my marriage ended, it took awhile to get out of the impulsive, hoarding mentality. Them and their obsession with things and having to have things. Because I had been subjected to the mindset for so long, it kinda rubbed off on me. Now, I focus on just having the basics. My x and I lost every thing in a fire. That s what set me straight. That s when I realized him collecting all that stuff was madness. He was obsessed with his collections. All they did was sit on shelves and collect dust. Having to start over gave me a fresh perspective. I m free, I don t have to live like that anymore and can be myself.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Kathi..💯🙌🙏😊🙌

[@ks0969]

It s like they re trying to fill the hole in the donut or the void with things and people.killing the pain of all that nothing inside.

[@slestage5725]

Its amazing how deeply you understand this disorder, the cycle and the family dynamics at just 18 months out. I just hit two years out, as of April 23rd. Your channel is perfect for those of us who are truly now out of that awful cycle.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌🙏

[@apekshajairajpillai]

Just talking about this gives me anxiety.

[@marysarianides8150]

Me too

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Hoping you are ok.. this was not the intention

[@apekshajairajpillai]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone I am okay thank you I just wanted to share my thought 🌸

[@beegee5305]

This hit home... things I had never thought of. The impulsivity and how the narc needs to do-do-do and no reflection time.

[@irinaivanovic9792]

My mom is EXACTLY like this. Always was ever since I can remember. It’s all about her and what’s sadder is my father was always catering to her. Even if she was in the wrong and I was standing up for myself, he was always so blindly in love with her that he would end up TAKING HER SIDE against ME. It was sooooooooo toxic all my life with my parents and also as an adult. My mom is out for herself and god forbid you try to insist on any fairness.

[@smokeyfreestyle22]

Peace bro!!! stay shining!!! ihope i heal oneday ;) !! Keep it high :D!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

You are doing great 🙌🙌💯💯

[@SilverArtemis]

Their strange impulsive disappearing acts! Yes, they have no regard for anyone else.Thanks again. I'm in a dark night of the soul with a narcissist at work, combined with big life changes, death in family, health challenges....Praying I get a job offer soon....and can leave this mess to be near family. I'm trying to relocate. Its been horrible. Just oppressive. Insomnia and nightmares are chasing me. Sometimes I'm staring into space for hours, ruminating. . These videos help. One thing I pray so hard for is: I will heal and break the cycle, have boundaries, be willing to have self preservation put first. A narcissist very cunningly destroys your sense of self preservation.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to become educated and empowered.. believe that you WILL get the new job.. stay on the healing path and know we are here for you.. 💯🙌🙏💪

[@SilverArtemis]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks soo much. Silly, but it means alot. I am stealthily trying to make my exit. I am an RN , and should have something open up. I have to work with this narcissist and she became a friend outside of work before I knew her real self. She is vindictive and powerful at work. Meanwhile, the world has been crumbling it feels around me. Multiple health scares ( resolving), then 2 deaths. I'm alone , no family in metro Atlanta, just trying to get out! It feels as if My ex-husband narcissist can smell blood in the water too. I am so angry I was so weak to let these people in. I blame myself. They are so incredibly cruel. It is beyond. Your words mean so much. Thanks for all you do. The unfortunate truth is. I surrounded myself with these damaged people due to my complimentary damage..... I am grateful for your support and videos...it will help me refocus. Bless you.

[@debieaves4788]

@@SilverArtemis I was teaching a clinical skills in-service class at work one day when one of my students came up to me (I’d shared that I was going through a divorce) and shared a common situation triad that arises with empaths: Rescue, Nurture, [become a] Victim. Seems sadly valid for many of us in narcissist “relationships.”

[@izawaniek2568]

Yes, you are right thal impulsivity is one of the narcisistic traits. It is Absolutely draining.

[@lorigray1904]

Talk about being impulsive he bought a house kicked me out 9 months later we got back together which was stupid Bought another house We were there for about 15 months We were supposed to go to the beach 4 the weekend Pick a fight So I went by myself came back and he had put the house on the market and was buying the house next to us at that point I was done He is the most dysfunctional Unstable Impulsive person I've ever met I was so emotionally broke down I didn't have a choice but to leave .... I could go on and on about the crazy things that he did But I would Need about 3 hours Didn't know what narcissism was until I Google it and said to myself OMG this is what I'm dealing with It was a year in October 2020 It's hard to grasp that you Believe somebody loved you and they never did They're not capable that is so hard to comprehend I'm still trying to recover

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely.. 💯🙌🙏.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙌

[@tewashington2]

The accuracy of this is surreal............

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely 😉😉

[@dulceandersson8877]

To live like that is not healthy. I will never go back to that life I had before. I have a beautiful Appartment now, better than I had with him. It is unbeliaveble! 😀😀♥️♥️👌👌 God bless You, Andrew. 🙏🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Dulce 😉🙌🙏💪💯

[@mariaparra1527]

OMG this is so true. They keep changing their mind in a way that you are off the rails all the time. It is exhausting!!!!! And they get frustrated when you don’t engage in their changing behaviour. But when you want a change is different. They never engage in your changes and also, if what you want is not anything they want or need, they go and do their thing, not caring if you wanted them to be with you. Year and a half of that for me … guess what? Never again.

[@jjabreakerzz]

All true. Bless you, Andrew 🙏🏻

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes..😉🙌🙏

[@stevehartwell1861]

Peace is not their natural state. Calm is actually bothersome for them. They must help spin the chaos, keep it stirred.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Well said Steve.. agree completely 🙏💯🙌💪

[@bethanyhutchens2012]

So weird that you should mention the dog thing. My ex narc brought home a dog while I was in labor with our 4th son. He left me at the hospital to go get dog food. This was the second time he had brought a dog home. He would get sick of caring for them after a few months and sell them. He did the same thing a year after we were divorced. These poor animals weren't even immune to the narcissist!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty.. I understand this completely 😉😉💯😊

[@livinggood6876]

My narc made all the decisions whether I agreed or not. There were no family decisions on anything including having a budget. Once I started calling him on his behavior, the discard followed.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate this.. I understand completely 💯💯😉😉

[@Sanddollar754]

😊 Thankyou Andrew. Spot on.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@stellamunro2724]

Yes Andrew they get bored easily. Need to control the situation. Be mindful they may be leaving for cheating..milk. Then they are empty inside. So they are impulsive .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great insight Stella..😳😳😉😉💯💯

[@rebeccar189]

The dog example is spot on, I know of two suspected narcs who did this. One brought home a dog right after his wife gave birth-without any discussion. The other was going to get a dog and came home with two dogs. Oh, and don’t forget you are the one who ends up doing the majority of the work.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

They always always know more about your life and situation than you do. Under the guise of caring about you and your situation. And they know nothing so sick of it. When someone knows more about you than you do.. beware

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great insight 😳😉😉💯

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone thanks 😊♥️

[@misfit7866]

My Narc went from we are getting married to he needed to find his happiness after on a saturday I took off cause he wanted to sleep he discarded me via Text a grown man 41 mind you he had new supply cause that is what they do!

[@londongirl1233]

Oh my goodness this is so similar to what I experienced. I'm so sorry you went through that and someone treated you this way. It hurts so bad!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty Misfit.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏💯

[@misfit7866]

@@londongirl1233 Yes and he hoover me with 3 texts very recent asking me for $ to help him you know cause everything is our fault!

[@misfit7866]

@@londongirl1233 I am sorry too for you we deserve better we need to stay strong they always circle back to the Crime Scene meaning us Victims!

[@londongirl1233]

@@misfit7866 thank you for writing this, yes it's so hard to stay strong but when you think about.....can we really take another round of this?? We have to listen to what Andrew says on this one! We can do this!

[@nicharr7796]

Andrew, thank you for sharing. Thank you for your videos. You are so on point and making so much sense. Every time I’m like wow, this is what happened.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Nic..🙏🙌💯

[@angelajones885]

Wow this is so true his impulsive behavior was also displayed by his anger the narcissistic rage and it just all happens all the time out of absolutely nowhere you don't know why it's happening you start asking yourself what did I do wrong but unfortunately this Behavior it's just one of the things that they do to sabotage anything stable and normal this was a great video thank you

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Angela 💯💯😊😊

[@dvawva5197]

Narcissists do not want to stop long enough to think for some reason. I don't know if they're haunted by obsessive thoughts or their conscience is so full they cannot sit still.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely correct 💯💯

[@thekellers5041]

I always had to explain where I was going/when I’d be back/take cellphone with me so I could be called or tracked down but the narcissist regularly got up and left telling no one where he was going what he was doing or when he’d be back and raged if asked any questions once he returned, raged with deep contempt if I or kids did anything he didn’t know about or answer up about. Narcissist Double standard!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely true 💯💯

[@Tatjana.B]

True...my ex narc always yelled "Action, action..." and was always "busy" ( also with another supply making her a chid ).

[@theresaconley5930]

Wow! I worked all week long, He didn't work anywhere, and the only time the narc would go to town was on my payday. The cart would be filled with clothes, movies, etc. that he'd pick up and throw in. When I would say, "Hey I have bills to pay too and I can't aford all this stuff." I would get a melt down like a child... Borrow the money from your Mom for the bills. You can work and pay her off. I came along for you to buy me what I want. The next day or two the movies were gone, I never watched them, the clothes were never seen again and no explaination of where they were or what happened to them. He would anounce that he cleaned out the refrigerator. I should compliment him on a good job? Ha! I wanted to know what happened to the groceries that were purchased for the week. He would say... In the garden. Upon close examination of the contents in the garden, the food wasn't in the garden. Just the empty wrappers, etc. He was taking them somewhere else and throwing out the containers, etc. He always had excuses... for whatever he did. He would never answer any questions. He even said, I don't remember, so prove I do.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Theresa.. wow.. I appreciate this insight..💯🙌🙏💪

[@theresaconley5930]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone It was a nightmere. 24 years of it! The minute he drew his last breath, I was at his side. A message popped up on my phone. It read, God is always on time. I cling to that message. God's my only stregenth. I struggle every day. I feel lost, paralized, guilty, angry, the list continues every day. He didn't have a change of heart before death. So sorry he died in that emptiness. For 6 months I've felt like I've had to just make it through one day at a time. It's hard. Once he told me I didn't have a clue how evil he was, his eyes shone black staring in my eyes with contempt. I know! If I would list them or talk about them, people would tell me I'm insane. No I'm not. God is healing me with the help of good people. Thank you! I have lost myself along the way. Its a very scary place to be. I have had two tearful break throughs trying to connect to myself sence he passed. I think it's going to be a long journey. But It's the first day of the rest of my life. Baby steps. You can't learn to run until you learn how to crawl. That's what counts! One day at a time.

[@palmamingozzi5736]

And who knows who’s house the dog came from…and everything else. I wish you amazing things in life. Thank you for your goodness.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Palma 🙏💯🙌

[@elizabethflorez2372]

Andrew you are teaching me so much & helping me understand about our own family dynamics . Are these narcs born that way or did I create this monster . ❤After her boyfriend left . I said , daughter what are you doing . You just lost a hood man . She said I was trying to make him jealous . Really , I said more like trying to create more problems & da stove your own relationship . I washed the dishes crying for that young man that we lived so dearly . My son & I left so sad & hurting for him & my daughter . I was shaking my head trying to grasp what had just happened & I never u set stood it . I went over it & over it . I thought what am I in denial if . I spoke to my mother about it & she said honey for years I have been telling you that your daughter has something wrong with her mind from the spina-bifida. I said , mom , I don’t see it but I have been taking her to counselors & a psychiatrist & phycologist. They put her on anti-depressants but she refuses to take her phyc meds . Wow! Andrew there us so much just so much that We all went trough with her for many years & now I’m understanding it all . No wonder I’m so broken at 64 years of age & I have no self worth wondering why . I have & gave & gave . I was so empty . I had no more dreams . But now that she acts like she is too good for us & cut us off . I cut her off too . She needed grade A supplies but we didn’t go running this time . I ran into her again yesterday at the market for the second or third time & she vents about her life . Yesterday was a bit more dramatic & she said , her father was calling her a witch but with the bin front ,all night long & she said she called her uncle, his brother to come pick him up before she killed him . ❤He did . I told her I was so sorry to hear she has been going through so much & trifling . I told her to go home & get some rest . She said she hadn’t slept so she was going to go get some sleep . We said our good byes & parted ways . As I drove home I cried & prayed for her . She had bags under her eyes 😢& you could tell she had been crying a-lot . Something I very rarely witnessed .

[@ketchup1185]

I see why you mention narcissists bringing dogs home without prior discussion. Dogs are a creature that will follow and love them no matter what. An ex's dog bit me multiple times and I was the bad guy for having healthy boundaries about it. Thank goodness I'm awakened and free now!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@joshuaosborn9878]

My narc ex wanted a puppy, got it and raised it. We break up, she monkey branches to a mutual friend and moves across the state immediately. Impulsiveness is their game!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Joshua..💯🙌😉💪

[@ellik1817]

Totally agree.. the dog thing happened many years ago & there were a few of them - the same breed quickly replaced . Then I brought a kitten home for my young son at the time & he got rid of it.. To this day he is jealous of me loving & nurturing animals / cat right now…. pathetic. 😩.. You’re so right - they don’t think of consequences & alcohol just makes it all worse ….

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌💪🙏😊

[@meg-zp2tv]

makes so much sense and yes they're childish and impulsive and delusional and paranoid. believe me. 13yrs experience with late hubby. he passed away last january

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Meg.. my hope is you are improving 💯🙌🙌💯

[@funkymonk542]

👏👏👏 so true , my ex GF one time out of nowhere flew out to get a puppy. She couldn’t sit on a couch and watch a movie . She was always on her phone . She constantly was ordering on Amazon.She got bored fast and found people boring unless that person was validating her. I was 5 years in that relationship and after six months of me trying to apologize and try to work it out she messaged me that she had met someone new and that she’s getting married. And it’s true I found out her 10 year old son who was close to me called me out of the blue that he missed me . You can’t make this stuff up . I haven’t been gone 7 months and she has that man sleeping in the same bed that I slept in for the last 5 years . I’m hurt and I’m troubled . She’s not right they are crazy . I find myself thinking and I know it’s stupid I feel guilty that I didn’t try hard enough. But at the same time I know it’s wrong what she did .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this James.. you are amazing 💯🙏🙌💪

[@Pinkdiamond12]

That totally happened to me, them walking thru the door 4 hrs late and acting like nothing. Or how about them just getting in at 5am and pretending they just got dressed and are on their way to work early. 😹

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely..💯💯😉😉

[@pinkposey8134]

Same.....And would suddenly go to a movie after work. Happy he was not at home actually. Abuse ends respect.

[@Pinkdiamond12]

@@pinkposey8134 I get it, I hated when he was home & wanted him away. I instantly felt dread hearing his car come up the drive way. I played dum till I could escape.

[@sandycares2995]

Sorry that happened to you. It’s gut wrenching waiting hours for someone to come home after they have”gone out with their buddies for a few hours” To me it was one of the worst emotional pains. I suffered terribly and then of course it takes time to get over so the next few days are wrecked. You recover and then go into anticipation of the next episode. Victim is always in “anticipation “ mode. It’s exhausting

[@sgtmuffinbadger6147]

I experienced this as well. She was cheating

[@rosejones5535]

You are so right on I have had to deal with many of his implusive childish behaviors a kitten was brought home and I lost 6,000 dollars on another one of his childish screams and many more

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely Rose..💯💯

[@salsung73]

Sometimes they are calculating. There’s no one size fits all with these crappy people 😮‍💨 thank you for your support Andrew 🙏 and have a lovely Christmas 🎄 bless you. I really appreciate your videos

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 💯🙌🙏😊

[@GLeon-ov9yu]

He bought impulsive items like a dog, a $50,000 sports car cash, a random leather couch spontaneously without research. So many RED FLAGS. Also asked me to marry him in first 6 weeks. He would also be hot & cold the entire time. I could not keep up with all of the stress, chaos and nonsense. He ruined my life while I was with him.

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

He was also a shoplifter. I didnt even walk around the store with him because we would get in the car and he would start emptying his pockets and have 20 chocolate bars. I couldnt believe it. Even with the grandkids hes taking risks like that. Also reckless drug use and s#!@!ex addiction. It was never enough and he started entertaining other options. I figured it out and left for good!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Moving forward everyday and not looking back..💪💪💯💯

[@lisadawson6981]

Thank you Andrew my narc had hidden addictions/impulse control issues. It took me 10 years to find out he was addicted to Methamphetamine , Gambling , side chicks . He literally died on the kitchen floor I performed cpr brought him back and got him to hospital. I was shocked when the heart surgeon told me his heart was enlarged due to long term drug use. One week later when he was able to move around . He left for a day to see his side chick , again I only just found out about her also. After all that the bank accounts and bills were delinquent. He was spending 30k a month on Gambling .it’s been 8 weeks since I ran away from him. I am still in shock . 😳💔 everything you talk about sounds like my life 😭

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I appreciate your honesty and sharing this Lisa..💯🙌😉🙏

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

Oh God honey!! Mine was doing Meth as well but denied it. I googled the signs then I believe he moved to Fentanol. I googled that too. They are reckless for drugs and sex with other drug addicts. I wouldnt touch him with a 10 foot poll. They lower their standards so quickly its just Discusting.

[@karenflowers4079]

Thank you Andrew. I saw things but did not connect the dots correctly. You explained it and I understand it better and yes, very impulsive and could not sit still for that long. Always working and doing projects around the house and then all at once the impulsive dynamic hit. Used to drive me crazy. Thank you for helping me understand this better.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Karen..💯🙌🙌🙏

[@shanazi1]

I was blind but I see clearly now crystal clear Andrew thanx happy holidays xx❤🤶🧑‍🎄🎅

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you shanazi1 ❤️😊🙌💪🙌

[@jonathansmith1801]

Wow Andrew spot on!!!! Yes!! My ex was so impulsive and yes twice brought home a pet dog without me even knowing. Laughed when u said this at your accuracy. My X was always doing 100 mph. However, it's been such a long and hard journey. Glad I found your page as it has really helped me in recent weeks.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏🙌💯

[@midnightmoonflower2999]

So true! I never put this into words but he was totally impulsive. That might contribute to our feeling bored when we are done with them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Completely possible 💯🙏🙌💪

[@mstyles2667]

Tattoos, gambling, shopping for any and everything it was never ending with the narcs impulsive behaviors. It was exhausting.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand completely thank you for sharing this insight 💯🙏🙌💪

[@karenzilverberg4699]

Thanks, Andrew. This video is amazing. Exactly. There is evidently no bottom to their Dark actions. Body, mind, and soul they are committed to nothing and no one except they are committed to the dark side.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Karen 💯🙌🙏

[@karenzilverberg4699]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 🎶

[@monicagreen6217]

True Andrew👌

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Monica 🙏💯

[@nickf9392]

They are impulsive because they are completely selfish.... they have no regard for any one elses feeling or plans. Absolutely everything revolves around them.... just ask them.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@Goethe2andFro]

Yes, so impulsive with no thought of others!! And when that impulsivity backfires, they get mad as hell! They are exhausting 😤 I got this narc relative that will just up and swing by folks' houses' at 2 or 3 in the morning, as if he's impressing people by being up so early. Anyhow, he showed up at his brother's house like that one day, but they were out of town. The narc let us all know about it via group text, ranting about how "no one communicates anymore" as if THEY had done something wrong to HIM. It's about a 4-hour drive for him. Never mind the fact he didn't call to let them know he was coming in the first place! Had he done so, they could've let him know they wouldn't be home. 🤯😒Narcs lack consideration for others, but they want consideration shown to them.

[@christinacirillo54]

100% 🙏 Thanks for another great video. Narcissists fly around like they have ants in their pants. Down time is foreign to them

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉💯

[@christinacirillo54]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 😉🌺

[@jdr5764]

Thank you Andrew! God bless you! 😊🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you J DR..💯🙌

[@elainesetford549]

WOW! The dog situation.. it happened! Narc wanted a dog, I didn’t. I had no say on the matter. My feelings wasn’t thought about. Narcissist are really selfish ain’t they .. Once again, thank you Andrew. 🙂 Your amazing!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

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[@stacydauterman5122]

This is another mind blowing video! The narc was always jig-jogging around, constantly. Always collecting and buying things. Showed up with a dog, unexpectantly, at a party I was having for my child. The narc used animals as a form of manipulation. It's just sick! I won't go on about this, but it must be very significant , with narcs. My dog is a narc survivor. Namaste❤💯🌟🌠🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing 💯🙏😉😉

[@smarternow]

My soon to be ex was gone 11 hours with his supply and came home and acted like nothing happened! He would show up with different cars all the time…big purchase but news to me…

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Lorraine for sharing this 🙌🙌💪

[@ninadallarosa3383]

Thanks andrew

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌☀️

[@maryjopling5952]

I don't know how many times I cooked supper and ended up eating alone. No phone call. Or comes home at 3am with a new motorcycle. thank you for helping me find my way out of the fog

[@ladyoftheveil8342]

My ex-narcissist was a major hoarder, there wasn't room for me in the spare bedroom where he made me sleep. He never spent less than 300 dollars a week at the food co-op. He went there looking for supply, I'll never forget the afternoon that he ignored me to stare at this Mexican woman dressed in military outfit. I said something and he ran around the buffet got his food quickly and didn't go pay for it. He walked fast to the dining room where the Mexican military woman was setting and then claimed he didn't know she was sitting there. he said I made him nervous by pointing out his staring at her. I'd rather be alone as painful is that is. This behavior hurt me so much. I felt so devalued.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand this completely.. thank you for sharing Ginger 💯🙌🙏

[@jessieb7290]

This was so spot on! 😮 my mum is a psycho, my dad is a narc. My mum hoards stuff, I cleared out 30years worth of her stuff after getting her ok for it after nagging her for weeks, then after she just hoarded more stuff...so it was pointless. I thought I was helping her. My dad would often lie that he went to work when instead he’d yelled at his boss and got fired, but he’d still dress in a suit every day, until he was ready to mention that he’d been fired. We all found this out later. My mum hates sitting still, it drives me nuts because it comes with her frustrated energy (which I can feel coming off her), it makes me feel uncomfortable and I often have to go upstairs to get away from her energy.

[@monatassone1190]

Andrew , thank you! Today was a hard day. Your channel brought me back to reality.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@turquoisepearls4817]

Thank You! This just proved to me that a friend that I knew for 20 years was a narcissist. He thinks this behavior is ok. That it’s ok not to contact your wife after being off work for hours. We’re no longer friends because of it

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 💯🙏🙌💪

[@davidcrowley1985]

This video made me smile... Impulsive purchases to fill the huge void inside them.. I had them all in our 5 year relationship from a new top of the range Nissan Tera to 2 puppies from the market which were discarded weeks later... This is a very common trait of NPD individuals and can often be a major source of financial abuse to us victims who are expected to deal with the consequences of their reckless financial decisions. I thank the universe I am now in charge of my own destiny. DC

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight DC.. thank you for sharing this 💯🙌🙏💪

[@ninadallarosa3383]

Your so correct

[@ammj6202]

This is so fascinating! I witnessed the dog scenario, it's so true! Narc A suddenly brings home a puppy. Narc B was not expecting or wanting this but loves a dog so goes along with it. Narc A was not prepared or ready for introducing the puppy to the other dogs; it was a mess... and within 24-48 hours Narc A sells the puppy to a friend and didn't even tell Narc B they were doing it. Narc B was furious! It was so perplexing. Narc B, told me Narc A will spend thousands upon thousands of dollars on clothes. Some will never be worn. Some will have all their tags on them. It's piles of clothes and this is often highlighted on their social media. Narc A will buy a new car but won't properly park the vehicle so it gets wrecked and Narc A doesn't even seem to care or notice. There is a wild carelessness with Narc A. Narc B is less of a wild card but they are brooding, sullen, spontaneously explosive- over anything- a compliment and inquiry- doesn't matter. The times I actually saw Narc B happy was few and far between- eyes on the phone a lot. Narc B's memory seemed good for 24 hours at times... maybe a struggle with object constancy. I also think along with impulsivity is poor planning- such as running late, not predicting potential problems or hazards because of a lack of clear planning. If you can't be introspective for yourself, I don't know how well you could plan to be successful in future endeavors that require a framework of stability while not screwing people over in the process.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I experienced this more than once..😉😉

[@thekellers5041]

I actually built a second kitchen full of cupboards to stow all the gadgets the ‘gourmet chef’ narcissist ‘had to have’ used once and lost interest in

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💪💯🙌

[@sheilamurry9875]

They abuse their free-will so out of context it becomes a free-for-all

[@kimberlyfontana5852]

@Sheila Murry funny you say free for all ! That was spot on!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😂

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌