Why we are not getting married

[@KalleFlodin]

⚠I want to clarify something from the video. When I said, 'I don't understand why people are so interested in marriage,' I meant to say that I don't understand why people are so interested in OUR marriage specifically. Christine and I ABSOLUTELY plan to get married one day, and I look forward to the day I can call Christine my wife 🥰 English isn't my native language, so things can apparently easily be misinterpreted 🙈 Marriage is a beautiful commitment that offers stability and safety to both partners, especially now when we have August 😊

[@tahjanjoki2940]

Yes and i would say life hapen everything so dont wait becouse your not "old" my frend was 30 hi die ,they where not married if they would she would of get spucemoney from coverment and all for rest her life thill she remarry and if not she get that rest of her life.Just saying ,marrige is not just some romantick ideal ,its also secure for the couple financialway..

[@jayembee2109]

@@KalleFlodin thanks for explaining Kalle, understandable, the wording is difficult sometimes. Love your show!

[@LilliSkog]

I listened to this from your point of view, not mine, and with a genuine interest and open minded mindset to learn what another life is like for someone else. No misunderstandings what so ever, I understood the whole way you were talking about yourselves and I loved every minute of this beautiful and honest video. More of this kind of openness all around, and the world will become a better place for everyone ❤ Thank you for daring to be an example in a world where it's needed!

[@terrig4750]

@@KalleFlodin Thank you. Yes you do it when you ready you have such a wonderful family and life you two clearly love each other and others the way I was taught that's one of the reasons I follow your posts you are what we say are good people. And I look forward to the day you say I do and hopefully share it with us.

[@CatTheDruid]

I totally understood what you meant! I don't know why everyone is flipping out so much about it anyway. I mean, who cares? I just wish you and Christine and your little boy all the best.

[@sarah.sojourns6861]

A lot of the commentors are looking at their relationship through a North American/Christian lens. In Sweden, common-law partners (or Sambo as its called in Sweden) are equal to married partners in the eyes of the government. You have the same rights as someone who is married. Sweden is a secular country. Meaning that its distanced from any religion. Its highly unusual for any decisions to be made based on religious reasons here in Sweden - especially Marriage. Those who do marry are still very unlikely to do it for religious reasons. Having a Sambo relationship is also EXTREMELY common in Sweden. Much more common than i think anyone in the comments realise. 1/3 of all couple relationships in Sweden are Sambo... thats roughly 1.5 MILLION people who are in committed relationships but unmarried. These relationships are still filled with love and respect and happiness, and have no ill effect on children born into these relationships either. So before you criticise or put your own cultural lens and judgement onto Kalle and Christine, take some time to reflect that this is a difference of cultures and traditions, and consider that your own beliefs may not have any merit in other peoples lives. ✌️ (how do i know this? Ive been in a Sambo relationship with my partner for nearly 8 years now. He's Swedish and I'm Canadian. So i have a good understanding of the cultural differences that are going on in these comments)

[@ezequitor]

We should pin this comment. I was about to write something similar explaining the Sambo relationship until I found that you already explained it! Thanks for the perfect explanation

[@kleinehexe4140]

👍👍👍👍 Thank you

[@newme1589]

After a quick search, sambo IS NOT the same as marriage at a legal level. There is no inheritance, you dont share lots of stuff at a legal level, etc. Societies that move away from marriage are at a higher likelyhood of self destruction, mainly from reduction in Judeo-Christian values (this can happen in many forms, for example for Sweden, crime has risen A LOT because of Muslims). Im not a fan how men are treated in divorce court, but to suggest that "sambo" is a favourable replacement to "marriage"... I have my doubts. Anything that removes responsibility/connection from a couple (especially with kids) is always going to be worse (as in, no shared stuff, etc, you can search it). Sambo seems like the natural next step from when you remove Christ, because why would you get married anyways. The problem is that it doesnt stop here, why would you have kids, why would you get a job, why not stay inside and touch yourself, which is precisely whats increasing in the youth (this is just a simple way of describing why Atheism as a philosophy doesnt work). Im rambling, best of wishes for them, hopefully they make the right decision for the kix

[@nicedragon815]

Sambo is the same as marriage in the eyes of the law, ONLY if you have a written agreement, sk samboavtal. There are plenty of ads from law firms warning about the consequences of not having written an agreement or will as sambos. If and when hen your sambo dies, and they have children with someone else, those children will inherit everything your sambo owns. If you and your sambo have an apartement together, the children can force a sale to recieve their inheritance. This isn’t the case if you are married.

[@nicedragon815]

@@newme1589I don’t agree with you at all. If you do such generalisations, I will too. Being religious in itself doesn’t keep anyone from commiting crimes, only a sense of morals do. The sense of what’s right and what’s wrong comes from your parents, school, friends and society. Religion doesn’t have a monopoly on this at all. Sweden is an extremely well off and stable society and we’re 90 % atheists here. The church lost it’s influence a long time ago. Some researchers mean we’re the most secular country in the world. What Swedes do have are strong societal norms and a strong desire to do the right thing. Also a very strong sense of trust, trust of others and trust in the government.

[@dccoffman1]

It broke my heart when she said, “We will get married when Kalle asks me to marry him.” It seems like you’re not fully committed to her, because you're not willing to marry her. Why wait? Are you hoping for someone or something better, or is there something else holding you back? Relationships are hard at times-that’s normal and doesn’t mean something is wrong. This phase won’t last forever. There’s value in making a public pledge to Christine and your children, showing your commitment to them and your future together.

[@northernstar2064]

100%

[@TheKiman2]

I don't understand this comment. Why put this pressure for marriage? Maybe you'd like to see them married but where does this requirement for marriage even come from? If they are happy with the way things are, what does it matter whether you have a ring on your finger?

[@dianestevens2659]

I can see that Christine wants to get married, she is ready now. The view I am getting of Kalle is that he is selfish, he wants the benefits but not responsibility. His attitude is not one who wants to get married. I could not understand why Christine had to move out because the cabin was not suitable but yet Kalle built an A frame? Priorities.

[@runaasmr]

Marriage legally protects your wife in a way a girlfriend is not protected when it comes to inheritance, medical decisions, travel privileges, migration privileges etc. Some people do not care and it is their right. But I feel when you love someone, you want them to be as safe as humanely possible.

[@Footbal_supremacy]

So it really has nothing to do with the man but her😂😂

[@bearpawz_]

@@Footbal_supremacy 😆💦 Maybe they should re-word it to "spouse"

[@michellepernula872]

Exactly and we'll stated. An empath gives and a person that controls the relationship breeds cracks later too because health is not permanent and perfect. Children need to know they are wanted, including heritage and name.

[@Collin_The_Red]

My state has common law marriage. Basically, after living with someone for an X amount of years, the state recognizes you as a couple and you can even file taxes together. Other things vary, as i havent done much research into the pros and cons, but its definitely something the state recognizes. If im not mistaken, its like being married without being married. Although i could be wrong.

[@tahjanjoki2940]

Agree,specially when building life around his stuff(house /land etc) And if stay home mom

[@Supercharger86]

Christine might be tired but she's absolutely glowing from motherhood 😊

[@BettyKoehler-zg5sv]

Kalle and Christine, you mentioned that you don’t understand why anyone should care whether you get married or not. Personally, I don’t understand why anyone should feel they have the right to question your choices. You love each other so much, love your sweet little August, and have goals for your future. You are both very responsible adults who deserve to live your lives the way you choose. I wish both of you a life filled with love, sunshine, and rainbows. Love from Pennsylvania, USA 💕🌷🐻

[@dianestevens2659]

But is it both their choice? Sounds more like just Kalles choice. They are asking us our opinion.

[@juliehumphreys5968]

@@dianestevens2659 actually, in an earlier video Kalle DID ask Christine to marry him and she declined.

[@drummerlovesbookworm9738]

They put their lives on the worldwide web which invites opinions and comments from their subscribers. That’s the contract. It’s not one bit surprising or inappropriate for people to wonder because in society, men marry the woman they love and doubly so when they have a child! That’s just a fact. A fact.

[@ganzw-erde-n4784]

@@juliehumphreys5968 witch Video is that supposed to have been? 🤔I just remember another video where she also said she would say yes if he asked.

[@tereseday4060]

​@@drummerlovesbookworm9738That is an individual choice.

[@sharonstranzl3733]

Christine, your English has improved 1000 percent over the last year, you are extremely fluent and much more comfortable than in the early days, you are amazing!

[@Roxy00726]

Christine is so sweet . She and the baby are the best thing that happened to that guy. And i think she would like to be married .

[@Phethephoenix]

I do too.

[@grumpydruid8372]

I mean tbh, when I saw this title "Why we are not getting married" my first response was "It's absolutely nobody's business, whatsoever, certainly not mine." I am so sorry people even asked this. It is really generous and gracious of you to discuss it.

[@marlenecardinahl9346]

U forget they HAVE made their life PUBLIC- so why not wonder why

[@Delyanstion]

Truly. ​@@marlenecardinahl9346

[@adeleross5843]

Finally a normal, sane person. These people are dinosaurs. Nobody's business if these two get married or not. You are the sad ones. Jeez, chill the heck out guys

[@eldrin5793]

@@marlenecardinahl9346 Sure, but the amount of comments forcefully pushing Kalle to marry ASAP, or condemning him for still being unmarried, is ridiculous and weird...

[@UrbanRVLife]

@@eldrin5793 no one is condemning his choice. Just highlighting facts. And if you have a following it is natural for people who spend their time in their life watching your videos. It is absolutely normal for people to ask a couple without kids, if they plan to have kids- biologically that is what makes sense that is why you are here in the world breathing and taking up space because a woman got pregnant and had you. It so immature to be getting offended over normal questions. Don't want questions, don't put your life out there?

[@carathorsven3326]

You two remind me of my husband and I SO much. The dynamic of your personalities together (as far as we see) the love language differences. The way you seem to share alot of goals and connection with nature but also have some core differences that cause some really difficult to navagate feelings. Getting married gave us a deeper security a deeper commitment to being completely dedicated to our family and relationship HEALING. Its not easy to look at your behaviors and patterns and find how to meet eachothers needs without comprimising your own but when youre vowed to one another it becomes more of a solace in the rough patches.

[@draug7966]

I don't mean to be rude or anything but to all the apparently very christian and/or american people: Sweden is a secular country where not everything revolves around religion, and a couple living together and having a kid and what not without being married is not seen as smth strange here. Can you guys please respect that? With that said, it's nothing wrong to ask but some comments here seem kind of aggressive about it.

[@maikvanlommel7573]

Well said!

[@h.neubert8770]

Thank you!

[@UNIQUETVfilm]

As a neutral philosopher and thinker new to the west here is why you better get married: As the world now is big you need a proof that you are members of one family, that you are together. This helps for example if you are using a medical facility as you can have family insurance. Also for inheritance if one of the couples die their spouse can get their pension or belongings. On the emotional level it is as saying I promise to spend the rest of my life with you or you are the one and only for me. Even if this didn't happen in the future it is sweet to have felt this commitment in the moment. Usually men are the ones who are against marriage because of financial worries, specially in the west as the man doesn't want to end up being the sole provider if the woman go through pregnancy and raising the child. which she has to do biologically. If not married she will be on her toes in addition to having babies also worrying about providing financially for the family. Also men see marriage as loss of freedom while women see it as a joyful life achievement. It doesn't have to be marriage in the traditional sense but any form of legal commitment or proof that says we are in this together. I see from the video that only one is not excited about the marriage idea 🙂

[@kyletberry]

To all my Americans in the comments talking about how they need to get married. Remember that it's a different culture in Sweden, and that Sweden is a different country (big shocker) to USA. If they weren't willing to commit to each other they wouldn't have a son together.

[@JoJo-vz5uy]

And they wonder why other countries dislike Americans. This is why!

[@lauraspower6439]

Exactly!😄🤘

[@NL-001]

My both children, having a family with children, are not married. It’s not important at all!

[@os-qt1hc]

It just feels so not right for a man to call a mother of his child his girlfriend. Just the words themselves - BOYfriend and GIRLfriend - do not indicate two adults commited to each other in a serious relationship having a family together.

[@BeaArk1977]

Marriage in the United States of America gives the spouse access to social security benefits if one of you dies. The children would receive a payment of about $400 per month in the event of one of the spouses death. In the United States it can also give you a tax benefit on income tax. And in the United States it gives you certain protections that you would not have if you were single especially to a partner's pension. So a lot of it has to do with the security for the child in the future. I'm not sure what you have in your country it may be totally different. But in the United States it's pretty important for the benefit of a child that parents do get married

[@stellazonoozi2829]

It is the same in Scandinavia ... The Marriage and family law protects your Economic rights after the divorce or When your husband or wife dies.

[@sarah.sojourns6861]

​@stellazonoozi2829 wrong. right, but wrong. When you declare cohabitation or Sambo that gives you the same rights as a married couple. So you're right, but you're also wrong. You don't have to be married to get these benefits.

[@JoJo-vz5uy]

No one cares about the United States! They live in Sweden and they have better benefits than UNited States. Is their business not yours.

[@TheMothang]

Actually the payment is based off of how much the parent benefit is and how much the family benefit amount would be. My children each received 1400 at first, but the amount changes as one ages out, the other would get an increased amount. Children receive payments regardless if parents are married.

[@karenhutchison12]

This is for you and Christine to decide not anyone else, you do what feels right for you both. How you choose to live your lives has nothing to do with anyone else.

[@ZoeMikelStites]

I really appreciate that you guys are building a family in the way thats right for you. I love seeing people building relationships and support like this.

[@billydiaz7280]

My husband avoided "marrying" me in ceremony. We did it legally but no ceremony. I still hate him for it. The resentment builds.

[@gingerspice5336]

To my mind, the curiosity regarding the state of your relationship arises from a kind of wondering astonishment which people are reticent to verbalize. But I will do it even if it offends some people, because you DID ask. That a woman can rise to this level of physical commitment -- moving to the middle of nowhere & having a child -- without the certainty of long-term commitment from her man in return....? That amazes me. I couldn't do it. The fact is, having a baby is far riskier for the female in a partnership, and it leaves her vulnerable. That marriage vow makes any woman feel safer in that circumstance, and I look at her with some awe that she is willing to take that risk for you, without you first committing your life to her. That is a strong woman you have, and I hope you appreciate how far she is stepping out for you!!! I would like to add for those who may protest: even though so many don't take marriage seriously enough, childishly taking the divorce option so quickly, still today there is a weightiness to the marriage vow that has a strong psychological effect on a partnership. It would add a great deal of value to you both, and it does seem to contradict your "why wait on taking the leap?" philosophy, Kalle, that you have delayed so long in taking this leap. This makes me curious.

[@gingerspice5336]

I would like to note that you failed entirely to answer the question. You instead asked us why we were so curious, without explaining yourself. Not that you are obliged to answer such a private question so publicly, of course. You are entitled to keep that to yourself; it is a supremely profound thing. I also noted that, as always, the woman's stance on this question was somewhat different to her man's. Obliging as she is, it was still obvious to me that she feels a little differently from you here. This is very typical of a couple from our generation.

[@adeledesolla1404]

This beautiful little baby boy, has been blessed with two most beautiful, loving parents and his life will be filled with such love, what an incredible start to life. We love you all. XX

[@hoytho]

WOW! Rewatching, I picked up that neither of you spoke the same language when you met, that's amazing. It seems you've been able to improve your skills in English quickly, particularly when Kalle speaks of an item having a specific 'name' that isn't common, he thinks and the word comes out perfectly! I love listening to your duo videos -- it's a weekly habit on Sundays. I love everything you guys are sharing.

[@Weaverbird49]

I so enjoy all of your videos and this one was especially enjoyable. I am probably around the age of your grandmother's but some of the things you discussed today I have experienced with my son, who is now 39. I breastfed him, co-slept with him until he was around 3. I also homeschooled him from kindergarten through high school. I loved every minute of it and even though he and his family now live in Thailand we are still very close. I completely support the way you are choosing to raise your son/children although you will probably get plenty of negative comments. It is unfortunate that you cannot homeschool in Sweden. What would the consequences be if you just went ahead and did it? There was a time when homeschooling was illegal in most states in the US but that has changed over the past years. I knew in my heart that that was what I wanted to do and do I did and then it became legal in my state. I've always had a rather radical view of raising children - God gave me this child to raise, not the state or the government. I don't believe that it is for everyone but I believe that the parents need to make those decisions for their own children. Sorry for the lengthy comment. This is something I feel very passionate about.

[@AudreyORourke-e1u]

Kalle and Christine you are both so grounded and analyse situations so logically. Your baby boy is so well behaved for one so young.

[@zat6442]

Beautiful - so glad the world has you two and your son and future children are blessed. Completely resonate with everything you say

[@carolynrae1845]

Thank you for your honesty, integrity & authenticity from some very probing questions. Your values really shine through in this episode, I applaud you.

[@mariellewestland8963]

I totally understand you about marriage! For us it is more important to renovate our home before the baby comes. Both time wise and financially a wedding doesn’t fit at the moment. We made sure the family is legally protected in other ways. Your day will come, and it’s none of other people’s business when that is!

[@karenroberts9941]

Kalle and Christina It is no one else’s business other than yours Don’t explain yourself Your choice Thank you for your videos They are really nice and I enjoy them greatly Carry on being you Enjoy your life together x

[@danviridian]

Read the title of the video, they kind of made it our business 😂

[@lindafolk4598]

I really enjoy hearing how you both are able to communicate with each other and share your hearts . You seem so compatible. Wonderful this child can be raised this way. ❤ Good work loving people!

[@karenroberts9941]

@@danviridian I think their was a bit of confusion as to how it was put across from themselves And a bit of a misunderstanding in their explanation

[@Laura-g1c1l]

Her miscarriages and birth were actually none of our business either, he chose to make it our business. Once you open yourself up like that for the sake of a youtube channel, then you end up dealing with not being able to pick and choose what/when he discuss things. It is the fact that the question is really asked of HIM and that he doesn't really have a decent answer that upsets him I think.

[@danviridian]

​@@karenroberts9941read the title of the video

[@Gemisnotmyname]

Its so interesting watching your journey. Like from when Kalle said he brought the cabin wanted to work from there… to meeting Christine.. getting a baby. Life really can switch 190 degrees any day

[@lidewijvos]

Apart from that everyone misunderstood Kalle and jumped to conclusions, I'm also baffled by the blunt conservatism in the comments of people who are unable to see things from another perspective. Even if Kalle didn't want to marry (he said he wants to) it's nobody's problem. In most western countries you can also have a registered partnership so assets or children are protected. Common people you are better than this!

[@maikvanlommel7573]

Well said!!

[@GemmaRotgerMoll]

For those christian conservative americans in the comments. In Europe we have many religions and also the choice to have ANY religion. We have civil marriage and civil partnership which are legally same in terms of protection and rights. Since there are several religions, in most countries in Europe you cannot have a religious marriage without having a civil marriage at the court first. So what protects you and gives you rights is the civil act of partnership or civil marrige. Religious is optional and it does not give any additional legal right. At the moment you register your first child you are automaticlly set as civil partnership in case you weren't before. So chill!!

[@h.neubert8770]

Thanks!! I am European and live in the US and Americans are so backwards in many ways.

[@allenthomas9572]

2:21 The validation you just gave this man with those words is immense… It’s beautiful… Perhaps one of the main things we man want to hear

[@kendralynne]

I would say that I would love to see you two get married because I believe it's a powerful, beautiful thing for a man to call a woman his wife (not just his girlfriend or "partner"), and for a woman to call a man her husband. I think "husband and wife" sounds more like a family. :)

[@Cass6]

100 percent agree! It’s the most secure layer I think (especially with faith) that you have as a family. Especially for children to know that your a team for always and they know they have that security with both parents.

[@Contemplative_extrovert]

That is well said. And a child feels that security as well.

[@junegagnon6506]

Yes, I totally agree!! And God performed the first marriage. So that is an important thing to consider what God thinks as he knows what is best for us. So get through this amazing time and then you can plan those other important events when the time is right!! Much Love to you both!!💜💜💜

[@marlowemayhem3230]

It's nothing but a social construct created to enslave women. The price of witnessing your friends pledge their young lives to an institution that until only recently gave men the legal right to rape their wives (and still does in some US states, thanks to legal loopholes) does not come cheap. Marriage is not now and never has been designed with women’s happiness in mind - and yet we’re told that without it, we will be miserable. As any sociologist can tell you, it’s men who benefit from marriage: they live longer, they are generally healthier and happier, and their economic prospects improve. On the other hand, studies have shown that married women die earlier. And marriage alone isn’t a guarantee of happiness for women - they are happy if they have a happy marriage. When it comes to divorce, the financial risk to women is more perilous: ASX research based on numerous studies has shown that women’s incomes drop by around 21-30% after divorce, an economic hit that it takes an average of six years to recover from. The same is not true for men, their income briefly dipping by about 5% before recovering. We can assume one of the reasons for this is the cost of raising children, both in terms of economic outlay and deprivation of economic opportunity. When you peel back the layers of history and propaganda, it’s impossible not to want to completely destroy this inherently misogynistic institution.

[@marlowemayhem3230]

Marriage is an unsalvageable lie, designed to keep women in service to patriarchy and away from realising our full potential. We should reject it entirely, and refuse on principle to willingly add our names to a list built primarily on the backs of women who had no choice, no rights and no freedom. The fact that many women still can’t make this choice freely - even Tolentino wound up married, because it was the only way she and her partner could access each other’s healthcare benefits - says everything. Simply put: if the government is bribing you to do something, it’s rarely in your best interest. Criticising marriage, the so-called “bedrock” of western civilisation, is perceived to be a criticism of those who do it. That can feel bad for the person on the receiving end, and anything that makes someone feel bad must be wrong. But we should be willing to engage with critiques of our institutions, particularly those that have the kind of lengthy history of oppression that marriage boasts.

[@lareekline8232]

I love your reasons for waiting to have another child. It is so vitally important for each child to have their time to be the baby and for the mother's body to fully recuperate and remineralize. I wish more people would understand these important needs.

[@michele6873]

I once knew a young couple who had two children together. They didn't think marriage mattered either. Until one day they dressed their girls up, went to the courthouse and got married. It is an extra level of commitment and, yes, for many people it does make a difference. In the same way you don't understand the 'push' toward marriage - I don't understand the reticence to do so if you love one another.

[@olgamanarev2233]

Kalle, just don't feel bad about people's opinions and ignore them. Why do they feel they have the right to tell you how you should live your life? If people unsubscribe, then it is their loss, not yours. You kindly share your life and intimacy with the outside world. You don't deserve the negative comments. My support to you. Freedom of speech and mind, people. Respect that.

[@christian_koester]

I agree on this. Kalle is living his own life. He took the step to move up there. He bought the cabin and renovated it. He actively chosed to live a different life than most people. He even chosed to share it with the world. Besides, he is not an american (or from another country outside Scandinavia), for whom it might be normal to get married instant ;) Many live whole lives in the Scandinavian countries without getting married. So, it's very unpolite to put on your own opinion on whether he should get married or not :)

[@dianestevens2659]

You forget, they asked us to comment

[@lindafolk4598]

​@@christian_koesterI think the concern is how protected financially is Cristine if something would happen to Kalle. That is my question. I guess his parents are next to kin and would assist her. Not to be negative but practical.

[@christian_koester]

@@lindafolk4598 Then the situation would be like any other woman in Scandinavia, who is alone with kids. Same if smth happened to her, and he would be alone with the kid. That's called life, and is sorrowly quiet normal in society today.

[@lindafolk4598]

@@christian_koester normal but out of integrity

[@Serendipity-gj2me]

My children went to a Rudolph Steiner Waldorf school their entire schooling years. Initially, they lagged behind compared to the children in regular schools who could read and write at an early age, however, later on, the Waldorf education system surpassed the regular education system in everything. Waldorf-educated children were calm, respectful, creative, empathetic, confident and outstanding in every way. They were far smarter than the kids from other schools who were broken, unhappy and destroyed by an unjust system. I have so much respect and gratitude for Rudolph Steiner and all the Waldorf schools. Today my children are highly successful, confident, independent, creative, and happy.

[@bearpawz_]

When I read your comment.. I thought of Garrison Keiller of Lake Wobegon (the "Powdermilk biscuit" radio guy from Minnesota).. He'd start out his radio shows by saying. _"Welcome to Lake Wobegon, where all the women are strong, all the men are good-looking, and all the children are above average.”_ 😉 🥰 xoxo

[@ec2402]

It is truly a special system and you're right that the humans that went through the entire schooling, generally come out happier and more confident. It makes it not always easy to realize that not everyone is like this once one enters the 'real world' and realizes how much hurt others carry around, also from schooling or other things in life. Waldorf also heals and is therapeutic I think to some degree through the arts and also other methods. It tries to benefit the human as a whole and considers health and well-being also. This is according to my own experience and knowledge anyway.

[@Ammiisa]

I am from Finland and I can really understand your reaction to "getting married" question 🙃 this might be a cultural thing: you have a lot of subscribers from other countires than northern Europe, and I feel marriage is somehow bigger thing elsewhere, for example the US, than it is in Sweden or Finland these days. I have been with my man for 13 years and we are not married. It's very common in Finland too these days, that couples might not get married at all and it's not seeing weird.

[@newme1589]

Sadly wherever your society goes, you tend to go with it. Its like a kid who uses a tablet at 2, if every other kid does it, then its "normal", doesnt make it "healthy" though

[@andelipandeli3647]

Sadly some people are blinded by their god-colored glasses

[@Heidi_137]

@@andelipandeli3647 Absolutely! I like 'god-colored' glasses, I will borrow this from you LOL.

[@maikvanlommel7573]

It never struck me this clear before that europe (Sweden, the Netherlands) and the USA are entirely different worlds. In large parts of Europe marriage is considered old-fashioned and outdated. You do not need a paper tot be committed to each other. And kids feel just as safe in these families. This really blows my mind.

[@Kristiina_K]

Marriage is not about paper, it is commitment, responsibility. Marriage is for life, commitment until death. God created sex only for husband and wife. People who are having a sex and are not married is living in sin fornication. God will never bless that union.

[@Heidi_137]

Exactly! And, back in the old days, in Canada anyway, the marriage was never registered with the govt, it was a document from the church that people would put into their family bible. Yet, those oldies were still viewed as legally married after the laws came to be registered with the govt. It's a money grab, control of the population.

[@stevegreenwood7837]

Hi l would like to ask... what does the pendant represent . 🙂

[@Echoesofwhispers]

I have a degree in Family Science and have been married 33 years-not always happily, btw. But, we have our faith and our children & knew that divorce is not an option so we had to figure it out. We had lots of therapy and worked very hard because we knew darn well that neither of us were without sin and that if we left each other, it would leave generations of scars. We decided that neither of us would ever try and win an argument and that we would always try and see the best in the other. It’s worked very well. We are happier than ever because we dis the work and both now feel cared for because we value each other while also having respect and kindness toward each other. Living together is devaluing to us as humans. We deserve to be with someone who is willing to fight for love.

[@RenayEmond]

🤝Well said TRUTH ❤🙏

[@dovh49]

Why get married? It shows a public commitment that you plan to stay together through easy and hard times and will raise your children in a healthy committed relationship. Since you have that public commitment it signals to others to try and help you where needed to stay together and help in hard times. This also signals to your spouse that when a prettier lady shows up you won't leave her and your child for the prettier lady. It also gives certain legal benefits upon the death or injury of a loved one. From a religious perspective it goes along with the first point and it also says they you will be committed and will not have infidelity in your life.

[@unda2147]

You guys would make an absolutely wonderful homeschool family! Your environment is so incredible for that! We are in our 3rd year of homeschool but we also did regular school and you can not compare!!! You are such great parents, you will choose the best for your baby, I'm sure. :)

[@katrinag1234]

Kalle, I'm with You (and your family). And I think there is no space for questions like that from "outside". Why are these people so interested in that? That's strange.. but maybe this episode was just in time when to get free from followers who are not ment to be in your followers list. And it will be better for your family.

[@Secular-Serenity]

Another great video. Thank you for being so frank, honest and forthcoming. You two are a wonderful couple.

[@KalleFlodin]

And thank you for being here watching our videos 🥰❤️

[@karenw8481]

Kalle can be close to the baby too. Hold him, hug him, talk to him. Children are a gift to make their parents better.

[@carorijkehaven5386]

I lived in the Netherlands for 3 years and one of the many things that I enjoyed about the country is the many heterosexual couples that I met who, in the subject of marriage, left it to the end and some haven’t even married yet and may not. They own a nice house together, have their own jobs, and at least two wonderful kids. Most of them have been together for more than a decade now. Unlike here in the United States, marriage is too important and seems to revolve around one of the main important goals in relationships. The only time that I found it normal to see people married quickly was when I was in the Army. Some people did it for love and being married makes it easier for when the Soldier has to get stationed somewhere else, and some for the benefits which we call “contract marriage”.

[@Heidi_137]

Marriage is a huge business in the Americas, the cost of the wedding and divorce even for low income can reach 5 figures but usually 6 figures. It's a money grab and a way to control the population as well.

[@Melissa-gn3dv]

Sounds like maybe Christine would like to be married.

[@KalleFlodin]

I also wanna get married 😅 When I said, 'I don't understand why people are so interested in marriage,' I meant to say that I don't understand why people are so interested in OUR marriage specifically. Christine and I ABSOLUTELY plan to get married one day, and I look forward to the day I can call Christine my wife 🥰 English isn't my native language, so things can apparently easily be misinterpreted 🙈

[@lindafolk4598]

Marriage is a confirmation of your commitment which you already have with one another. Marriage protects the partners legally and personally, doesn't it? No pressure or a demand just what legally suports both of you. We are subject to our state laws unfortunately or fortunately. Thats all I'm thinking. ❤

[@Delyanstion]

Every woman wants a man to marry her, but cultural expectations differ. For example, in Russia, a wife might expect her husband to guide and support her more. In Scandinavia, it seems less common, which I noticed in your relationship with Christine. In a video, you mentioned paying for the food you brought her in the hospital, which seemed odd and a bit rude since you're her husband. Christine seems like a very different kind of woman, but if you don't want people sharing their opinions about your relationship, maybe avoid making it public. People will always have opinions, so if you don’t want feedback, it’s better to turn off comments or keep things private. ​@@KalleFlodin

[@numivis7807]

@@Delyanstionhe didn’t mean that with the food. He said he needs to pay for his own food (meaning the hospital/ the health insurance doesn’t pay it for him, since they only pay it for the mum)

[@Heidi_137]

She is 'married', no need to have a paper at the legal office to be committed! In the eyes of the law they have the same rights as legally married people.

[@angelanoftle2885]

Thank you Kalle and Christine for answering my question about the A Frame rental. Your idea made much more sense being away from your cabin. 😊

[@ladybug9171]

You have a beautiful family. Cherish it dearly. I am a mother of 4 and have been married as long as I remember myself 😂😂😂. Anyhow, it might sound old fashioned, but a marriage is an agreement. It is to protect you, your wife and your baby. It is a sacred union. Plus it gives your child your name - his father's name. And it adds security to the child's upbringing.

[@krewetkaaaa]

In most countries you get father name even without marriage

[@ofirshorshy8281]

so true, agreed. Marriage that is done in front of God with his light on it is stronger thne just a govermant certificate or agreement in a layer office.

[@moyrainbow5674]

Only if you believe in that particular god!

[@numivis7807]

My parents were married and I got my mum’s name.

[@ofirshorshy8281]

@@moyrainbow5674 well if you dont believe they are just not blessed.

[@dankadesign7462]

Enjoy the first one a lot to learn right now and see how you going.I am sure you will get more when times come❤

[@alittleheavenonearth]

Just because you had a bad experience on the first one don't think it will happen again. With time you forget what you went through. He will make you forget. And yes absolutely give it time. Marriage is a sacred thing. Many don't see it that way but in God's eyes it sure is.

[@virginiapapesh]

With the comments regarding marriage- I want to preface this by saying firstly- you and Christine are doing an amazing job as both parents and partners. Having said that, marriage is a personal choice and decision. I feel like the partial obsession of you and Christine getting married is majorly due to cultural differences. Western culture- marriage has a strong connection with religion and legal/financial rights. I also believe that gender roles in each culture also differ which attributes to how westerners and people of Nordic descent view marriage. Kalle, you mentioned that the comment you made has cost you followers…to that I want to say that has NOTHING to do with you and everything to do with them. The purpose of life is to be happy. Don’t forget that. You started your journey and left modern world seeking happiness. You have it, my friend. The opinion of others, especially on this topic does not concern you. Meaning the judgement, or others expectations does not dictate your life or how you live it. If anything, it should encourage you to focus on your own values, goals and authenticity .

[@21earlthepearl]

In my country marriage protects both spouses financially in the event that something happens to one of them. Also, I think marriage symbolizes deep love and commitment, which is a wonderful and secure thing to feel from your partner. That said, everyone should do whatever arrangement is best for them and their partner. ❤

[@dskarban]

Oh my goodness! I am so disappointed in the negative responses. This is your and Christine’s business. It is your lives and you should be able to do whatever you want to. People need to keep their opinions to themselves and not criticize others choices in life. In many countries partners that live together have the same legal rights as married people do. Your religious beliefs are yours. Live and let live. ❤ your channel!!

[@MyNic28]

I assume it was just people being curious? I personally don't care, but I guess some people are just interested.

[@StephanieJongsma-cw5jp]

Beautiful couple, beautiful family. Thank you for sharing with us!

[@NcScbeach1]

She’s a beautiful person and I pray all the best comes her way

[@veronikaradu3915]

Thank you Kalle and Christine for opening up to us, even if you do not have too. I appreciate and love you both! I am sorry you have to go through these unsolicited advices in some of these really nosy and hateful comments...it makes me mad, that people feel entitled to comment your personal choices and pressure you. It is none of their (ours) business, really. It is really annoying and people really do not realize. It is really the same as they would ask "when you will have kids?"(I am currently dealing with a lot of that pressure). Well, there may be very personal reasons behind, that Kalle and Christine do not want to share with complete strangers on the internet. It is none of our business. And also somebody commented, that "you either should be ready to receive these questions OR you should not share your personal life at all on internet" What??? Really people? Again, we should feel honored, that Kalle and Christine share with us the glimpses of their beautiful life and really inspiring lifestyle. I am so disappointed that this wonderful channel is flooded with these kind of comments....

[@amstergal]

I enjoyed so much, tranquil and peaceful and appreciate your direct and straight forward responses! ♥

[@KalleFlodin]

I'm so happy you liked it 🥰 thank you ❤️

[@YolandaUrban]

Thank you Kalle! Beautiful family!❤

[@60nygal]

She is sweet This guy comes across as a tad bit controlling I just get a vibe listening to him . She is angelic and sweet. Innocence about her.

[@April-is3uu]

Loved hearing more about your life and plans in this video ❤. As far as marriage goes, I don’t think people should be asking if or when it’s going to happen, or pressuring you. It’s entirely your choice and I’m sure you’ll both do what’s right for you and your family. As to what marriage changes, I agree there are guaranteed benefits that aren’t always available in common-law relationships in some places. To me it’s also more than that though. Regardless of whether a person has a big fancy wedding (I didn’t), getting married was a way for my partner and I to actively “choose” each other as lifelong partners. To us it felt like a stronger promise than dating. A promise that we were going to tackle life together, whatever good or bad may come. We were also a little older when we got married (30s) and had both dated other people. Though we obviously know divorces are not uncommon, getting married was our way of saying to each other that it was ok, we could let our guards down, and that we weren’t just going to walk away from each other during tough times. Would we have been just as committed to each other without being married? Possibly. Knowing we made that commitment and are sticking with it though, can be incredibly comforting, even if it’s just a mental thing.

[@marshabailey1121]

August is getting so big! I, too, love that name. He is lucky to have such caring parents. My mother also kept me out of kindergarten and at home with her one extra year; in Canada, I went to Grade 1 at age 5.

[@pirad7799]

Im a bit late to the party. I saw your comment regarding the difficult comments on Instagram days ago. I wanted to say I don't understand what's there to not understand about your views on marriage. Obviously you're waiting for when it feels right. I loved this video very much and it has inspired me to think about certain aspects about my life that need adjusting. All the best to your 3.

[@StefaniCardosoLeonardo]

I understand cultural differences and maybe even translation problems. Im not a native english speaker myself and I hope I can make myself well understood. But it just feels off (TO ME) seeing a man next to the woman he loves, the mother of his child, the partner he lives together for years, and hearing she being referred to as "girlfriend". In my point of view she is his wife, he is her husband, no matter that there is no paper officializing it. In my country many people dont get properly married either, but they still call each other spouses after having kids together and living together and sharing life. It just feels right. Girlfriend and boyfriend just sounds to me like you are in the first stage of the relationship. But again, im just sharing my personal opinions and thoughts on the matter

[@magdachrzastek2340]

So much appreciation for your honesty. So much to learn from it. Christine, you definitely shine in your new role on many different levels ❤

[@KalleFlodin]

❤❤❤

[@QPOWERR]

Dogs are creatures that have no self-control. Please do not leave the baby alone with the dog. God bless your family.

[@purrsephone2904]

It's nice to see the love you two have for your baby.💛

[@mecker]

This is such a personal desicion - how can people put pressure on you Christine and Kalle...?! Its just non of our business. If you chose to talk about it, that's great. But it's still YOUR desicion, YOUR timing, YOUR life... By the way, there are other (legal) ways to protect the woman in a relationship than marrige and Sweden is not the US.... Thanks for the beautiful video anyway ❤ Love from Switzerland

[@Ankesadventures]

Christine you’re glowing! ❤

[@mjmomo541]

With the beautiful instrumental in the background and August being rocked to sleep by Christine this is an ASMR video as well as a super interesting insight into your family's life! 🙂😊

[@KalleFlodin]

I'm so happy you liked it 🥰

[@1whitecottagelife770]

Christine's answer to the question "why don't you get married ?" : The day I'm going to get married, Kalle would have to ask me.... dude, read the room... forget all the lingo and philosophy etc and get down on one knee and stop being selfish. I would think that there are some financial benefits in Sweden, protection for married women in case something happens to you.

[@marygee3981]

😊Wow. An amazing comment. I have a friend, she had more income. She was with her partner several years and bought a house. She put his name on it also. She values him and has shown him, by this act, that she does value him. I do rembember K. Saying that Christine could buy into the house at any time. 😂 Well she had shown her commitment by turnining her life and body upside down.😊 Time to put her name on everything to show commitment, no need to marry.

[@diannephillips2689]

Perfect answer @1whitecottagelife770. I was dumbfounded when he just shrugged off her comment. And the very beginning when she asked about an intro and he shamed her. I cringed for her. Kale seems selfish in these instances. I guess my thought is that when you are in a committed in a relationship, you want to share everything (financial and otherwise) and celebrate as one with endless support and love. Perhaps Kale thinks of this as a business relationship.

[@michaelwerner3430]

I personally think it's NONE, I repeat NONE of our business!

[@ELonaBrahimllari]

Even though I like this family there's something about Kalle that reminds me my ex who was philosophical. I try hard not to compare him but in this case I swear I want to tell Kalle, please be easy going and not so strict and ask her the damn to marry you!

[@refreshingtwist]

It seems Kalle may be afraid of marriage. Arguably, he has some tough thoughts around the idea that he needs to work through. Which he will. In his own time. Nothing wrong with that!

[@JeanStAubin-nl9uo]

I think the question "Are you going to get married" is a cultural thing. I'm thinking that the question must have come from someone in the USA. It's rare that a couple in the USA has a child together but then doesn't get married. My cousins in Canada have children and don't feel the need to get married. I admire that.

[@lisabyrd8398]

Love your videos! I just want to say, it is very mature of you to ask your viewers why we believe so much in marriage. We know you don't have to share anything you don't want to, and it is cool that you let us chat about our biggest burning question with you. Marriage- It is a higher level of commitment -whether it's for religious reasons or for civil protections etc. Not sure anyone can argue that. I guess what makes us curious about it is that Christine does seem ready for that next level of commitment, and has seemed ready for a while...and Kalle does not. From an outsider's perspective, even if marriage is not a big deal in Sweden, it just seems like with the love you have for eachother, there would be no barriers to committing to eachother in that way. We see how much you both love each other, and so, I guess this is what doesn't make sense. If both of your answers to this question of marriage were " we don't believe in marriage, marriage sucks" we would no longer be curious. But it doesn't seem like both of you feel that way. I think marriage is the ultimate geature of love and commitment a man can make for a woman. And I do think that despite marriage not being a fairytale by any means, it is the best thing for the whole family. Sending love to you both and your sweet baby!

[@NymphTheDanube]

Marriage is a contract, and if it exists, it is for a reason. Mom is the sweetest person ever. August will be a steady rock for momma. Heal your body, and your mind, complicated deliveries leave scars even years after the event. 38 years old still good age for a baby. Merry Xmas 🎄✨️

[@fredw4711]

As Keane's song said "everybody's changing and I don't feel right" I raised a daughter and a son and they are adults now but nothing happened as I tought at the beginning..they both were good drawers as kids so we try to put them in Art school but it all messed up..they did love their comrades but hated their teachers or school's directors! Finally my son is working in a BMW center and my daughter graduate in film mounting but she is in the fitness business...My nephews were total geeks in video games in their childhood and my Sister never imagined that..and when they were 16 they made a 180 turn and went to sports studies (parkour) .. for finally both ending in the army now 🙄 What I want to say is Life is full of surprises and never gets the way we imagine for our beloved ones: you can put your kid in the nature, trees, flowers and Dog walks but when he'll get autonomous maybe he would like partys with friends or Sportscar! Enjoy every seconds with your boy when he is close to you! Best wishes from Switzerland from a sporadic regular viewer 😁👍🏼

[@FlowerWhiskers111]

In my country getting married is a cultural and religious thing - old people still consider it as the biggest shame, if you for example have kids and don't wear rings. But younger generations place healthy relationship in the first place, instead of feeling pressure to get rings. Poland

[@juneturner7964]

Thank you so much for taking time and answering I really thoroughly enjoy Listening to that and then watch U2 interact as you do it. Can’t wait for your new channel.

[@lauraspower6439]

First, let me congratulate Christine. You look much brighter & happier after your pregnancy🌸 Being a mom seems to fit you perfectly because you look gorgeous💕 Kalle you did an amazing job with the cabin and the father roll fits you very well. I understand that there is a mix of viewers from different parts of the world who watch Kalle's and Christine's life journey. I wrote this comment only as helpful comment not as a critic. In Sweden, we have different views on people's privacy & marriage, which can easily be misunderstood by european or americans. People here often don't rush into marriage or share as much of their personal lives. We also never do things only to meet other people's expectations. In Sweden, we generally do not ask such private questions of anyone, even if we are close to them, because we believe that individuals know what they want to do with their lives, how and when. We also don’t rush anything; we are more relaxed, which some might misconstrue as selfishness. It’s a healthy kind of selfishness, let’s put it that way 😊

[@natalieharvey5631]

Your baby is so precious. God bless you ❤️❤️❤️💜💜💜🌹🌹🌹

[@marionbartley214]

Hello Kale and Christine, I live in the United States. I was married for 29 years. Before my husband wanted a divorce. This was back in 2003. Looking forward now I did not remarry. I think if I would have had this type of relationship, that you have in Sweden as a custom. I would have saved so much time and heartache and emotions. Not to make light of your situation. And say that you do not experience all of these things. When in a relationship ends or falls apart. We would have been able to financially be better off also going our separate ways. I would like to think it would have been easier with this type of lifestyle. I wish you both much happiness in years to come and the joy of raising your child together. Thank you for sharing It's good to see other customs and cultures.In other countries in regards to relationships.

[@pienpakvis6118]

Congratulations! August is a beautiful baby boy. You must be so proud! Well done, parents!

[@CharlotteBugYouTubeVideosMore]

You do you boo! Love you guys either way.

[@ec2402]

Very happy for you guys that you have created such a nice family.🙂❤

[@hanapalkova7513]

Kalle in our slavic culture marriage is like a ritual, one important step in the human life cycle. When man/ woman undergo this experience they grow into further step... without this step they remain on the previous.

[@margaretcopeland5029]

To answer your question, "Whay is marriage so important", I have a reply. Marriage in the USA is a *contract*. It has certain protections for children. What it means, if the marriage breaks up, that each parent has responsibility for the child. This isn't about the relationship between the parents, it has to do with financial protection of the child. I know personally many children that have been scared and confused by the actions of thier birth parents. I would not wish that on anyone. Think of this : a child does not ask to be born but once here they have their life and rights. I am sure it varies between countries but here in the US, especially in these times, one needs to think beyond oneself.

[@numivis7807]

Fair enough. Its not like that in Sweden though

[@Melissa-gn3dv]

I can't imagine the government forcing you to send your kids away to school everyday. I'm thankful we can homeschool in the states.

[@gailmcdonald1946]

The government has no right to have such over reaching regulations for where kids are educated,parents bring up children,and know what’s best, not governments

[@numivis7807]

I loved going to school. Would have absolutely hated being homeschooled.

[@pythonsequel2924]

People are so nosy. 😂 I hope your baby has a wonderful first winter in the cabin!

[@sharonstranzl3733]

Not religious, but in the culture of the US, most people still enjoy the commitment of marriage and tradition, even in the most liberal area, where I live.

[@theamishpotato]

She wants to get married.

[@Qurex]

the only reason needed 🙂

[@jonskitalonhenki9613]

Marriage is not needed in a relationship. I lived happily with a man and we had a son, we never got married. I did not want to. I feel like marriage is an old way of transferring the ownership of a woman from man to man. I want to stay free.

[@maikvanlommel7573]

Well said!

[@ashley7260]

I know someone who was home schooled and he advises against it. His mother could not teach him all subjects like five teachers can in a day. He now feels undereducated and unable to match his peers in their college and graduate school admissions and performance. His career options are extremely narrow too.

[@kristiecox7350]

Love how your dad had you follow a string to find your present.! ❤❤

[@mihex_0]

Thanks for the amazing video. I had a really cozy feeling while watching it. I am looking forward to the next Q&A. Enjoy your day!

[@hyperborean72]

it's so nice to see you both in good health. you are a very beautiful couple, and I'm sure your boy will be too. thank you for sharing your ideas and experience with your audience

[@terrig4750]

The thing im noticing is if people are so called flipping out but I also see it as there are some wonderful people that truly love their spouses or significant other and are so lucky to have such love to post how wrong it seemed when they thought someone else might be missing out on it. So it might seem not right for a comment but it is also showing how much they truly want and love their wife or husband and didn't want you two to miss any of it. You do it when it's right some people get married soon after meeting others years after.

[@lifeaftersuki]

You guys are lucky you have sambo option in Sweden. I have been with my life partner for 24 years. We entered civil partnership over 10 years ago in the UK (we're not British but from the EU) and after Brexit we left the country and currently living in Portugal where the civil partnership doesn't count only because the UK is not a part of EU any longer. Long story short, we will be moving to Sweden in a near future and one of the reasons is the equality and freedom (I know it's a relative term). I know there are obstacles everywhere you live, however I feel Sweden is one of the most sophisticated countries in Europe. Anyway, don't let anyone telling you what you should do. It's your life. Those keyboard warriors are only loud because they cannot look into your eyes when they say such things. Good luck guys xx

[@JM-mj1lb]

Your relationship is beautiful, getting married is a desicion between the two of you and not anyone else - of course😊

[@Henri377]

What great and very special Q&A ! Thank you so much ! I've been smiling for almost 60 minutes! 😊 It's an honour to watch and it makes me double happy to have been part in your well project, so that you hopefully can have that bathroom! By the way, I love your new kitchen 😍 Thank you for gifting us so much of your time and life ❤

[@bonnie5601]

Wonderful video, you two, but remember, each day is a new day never lived before. Life is not static. So today’s decisions may not be what tomorrow’s will be. Wisdom comes with age! And as you grow old together, comforting each other , remember to be the great team mates for each other that you are now.

[@kalas-kurt]

Love the school answer!! So important ❤

[@petereckerwall9423]

Det är livsförvandlande att få barn, och för oss män kan det vara lite svårt att acceptera att bli nr 2, men vänta bara tills barn nr 2 kommer.. då blir barn nr 1 helt och hållet ditt ansvar! 😂❤ Säg bara till om ni kommer fram till att ni vill ha riktigt avlopp. Då kan jag hjälpa er att anlägga det avlopp ni vill ha. Min tid bjuder jag på!!

[@KalleFlodin]

Haha det där blev jag inte direkt lugnare av att läsa 😅 Väldigt snällt av dig, men vi har redan en rörmokare vi brukar anlita 😊