Why we don't have kids 🪴

If you really want them, then of course you should 🤗 but you’re not sure, you don’t actually have to. It doesn’t matter what others think. This is just our story.
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[@reginesinatra8213]

The people who judge. Have pieces missing within themselves. When you are so happy and full , you are too busy being happy to judge. Thank you for your inspiration.

[@tatiananugent8434]

Yes, yes and yes! People who are on an authentic journey are often more focused on their own growth and fulfilment, which leaves little room for judgment of others. They recognize that happiness and fulfillment come from living in alignment with their true selves, whether that involves having children or not. This mindset fosters a sense of respect for the diverse paths others may take in their lives. Embracing authenticity means understanding that there isn't a one-size-fits-all approach to happiness, and that everyone’s journey is unique and valid.💖

[@reginesinatra8213]

@@tatiananugent8434 beautiful x

[@ronnyb9416]

We have NO kids... retired at 47... we have lived overseas and we have been traveling the past 15 years... No money issues and we have good health....... best decision ever with no regrets at all.

[@JeanVoronkova]

happy to hear you are happy with your choices and no regrets. Thanks for sharing with me 🙏

[@kathleenwang]

that's my goal as well!!!!!! retire early is what I look forward to. im not into kids, like other people's kids, but children is not my thing maybe..

[@jade-oh5wn]

It's not too late. Have some kids!

[@ljkoh20052000able]

Great life!

[@wordsw]

​@@jade-oh5wn have some respect. It's not on everyone's path.

[@BeingHumane173]

Fellow Childfree by choice person here. Well said, marriage and Motherhood are every woman's personal choices, not obligations, no matter what. Stay strong and stay happy !

[@beaulieuc8910]

I am 58 and childfree. No regrets. I have lots of hobbies and I volunteer. I don't have pets but I love my wildlife in my garden. I am learning to be alone as one day I will be

[@LordFlashheart1]

Summed up perfectly, I never envisaged kids, I'm 46 now (man) I like a simple life, camper, motorbike, surf when I want, work minimally

[@drnicolebeaumont7884]

I don’t have any children and never thought l would. I am 54 now. Happily married for now 14 years.

[@shapeoftimes]

Same here, we're both 54 and don't have children. We did try though, for a number of years, but I think it was more due to the pressure of society and parents, but it didn't happen. We've been married for 31 years and have no regrets. Maybe everything does happen for a reason 🙂

[@asavannah7439]

My husband and I are 46 and 49 and happily married for 19 years without children.

[@2622Valerie1]

I do not have children. I am 48- 49 ( in August). I do not regret.. in contrary… ! Good luck

[@asavannah7439]

I am 46 and definitely also do not regret not having children.

[@MazGun]

Me and my older sister choose to child free too. For her it's because she doesn't like children to begin with, and for me because i enjoy living single. More freedom and i can take care my true self properly. Being people pleaser in the past making me forget to love myself. This world is already jam packed too, making younger generation hard to live. Bless for you all.

[@KatAsp312]

This is true for me too. At 37 it’s now time to start looking after myself well and enjoying my life, and I’m actually grateful I didn’t go down the kid-road or it’d all be about that right now, and I’d still be neglecting myself. Best wishes to you 🙂

[@michellehuynh8451]

My partner and i dont have kids and we totally agree on everything you said. We feel like we are having an amazing time and life goes by soo fast, we just dont want to be bogged down with kids. Cheers to a well-made decision. 😜 🍻

[@genniepoon2189]

I didn't want to have kids, a decision since I was really young. My friends think I will regret it. Today, most of my friends regret having kids and wish they have my life. I know, being honest to myself is the best gift I can give myself.

[@simpelminimalistischleven]

People like to judge everything that is not standard. We have four children and that is regarded strange and selfish by many. Just as having none. You do you 🤍 People will always judge when you deviate fromthe norm whatever that may be. Our job is to not be bothered and live our own beautiful lives 🌸

[@rod1424]

4 is strange and selfish? Where you from?

[@erikt1713]

​@@rod1424Here in Switzerland it's the same. If you have more than two kids you are seen as promoting climate change. One thing is sure - if everyone globally had 4 kids it would be unsustainable. However, it balances nicely with the childfree.

[@sansan838383]

“You are called crazy or worse, for dancing because they don’t hear your music.”

[@Johanneslol11]

I am 33 and my wife is 30. We both dont feel the need for a child. We are happy together, we enjoy going out together. My mother always says "don't create a new life until you have lived your own life" you meaning do the things you want to do first and then you can have childeren if you choice. And if you don't, that is fine to. 😊

[@Mike-qo8nm]

I'm 46 been with my wife for 18 years both kinda late bloomers with no children and the straight up hostility we get from so called friends and family is so beyond ridiculous it's actually sad. This coming from people who are out right miserable with their situations.

[@Jungleman707]

They are jealous.

[@Mike-qo8nm]

@@Jungleman707 seems like it

[@Childfree_Jerra]

Like the saying goes, "Misery loves company..."

[@abbiealverez2960]

They say these things to you to justify them having kids and obviously still not being content

[@someawsomeguy100]

Some people just cannot see outside the box. I’m glad you have the courage to make choices that are right for you, despite the comments from the peanut gallery. 🙌🏻💫

[@jaredheymann]

Thanks for sharing, Jean! I'm very happy to have found your channel. My wife and I also decided not to have kids, and we've been married since we were 23. Each year, we had "the vote" if this was the year. As time went by, we looked at our life together, and decided it wasn't right for us to interrupt what we had, and we continued to grow and be fulfilled with our relationship. We've had some amazing opportunities to travel and gain experiences that wouldn't have been possible if we made other choices. We celebrated 20 years married this week! No regrets! Live YOUR life!

[@ilap381]

this was a beautiful, reasonable, compassionate perspective of a childfree woman, thank you.

[@bumblebee_mrs]

I'm the same, childfree for now. Selfish are those who have kids and abuse them.

[@JeanVoronkova]

yeah i'm with you. Nothing sadder than having kids only to neglect them and resent them for wanting your attention.

[@anewcreature7]

@@JeanVoronkova that’s right. most can’t even take care of themselves (financially and also mentally/physically) yet they want to bring an innocent baby into this world thinking they can ‘take care’ of them?

[@dukey4771]

Everything comes down to the same thing, so long as you're happy and not harming anyone then that what's right for you and your life.

[@Childfree_Jerra]

Amen!!

[@phooongtion]

Same here: no kids, a nice investment and retirement portfolio, time, hobbies, healthy relationship! I've got a great life that works for me and I'm happy :)

[@angelwings5705]

I’m turning 43 only child never been married. I think finding the right partner with similar values is Crucial. To grow old and have friendship with. Having a child it is a blessing and not everyone can have one.

[@beaulieuc8910]

not everyone wants kids

[@jessicapodbielska3817]

Such a refreshing take! Im now 31 and for as long as I can remember I have never wanted kids but whenever I say this I am always welcomed with unsolicited opinions/"advice" that 'you'll change your mind one day'. Well my mind hasn't changed yet and I really don't see it changing either. I respect peoples decision to have kids if that is what they want and I wish people would give the same respect back with my decision to not have them. Everyone should live a life they want without judgement.

[@garymiles4075]

Your story was very moving. I made the choice to become a parent as a 53 year old in need of a succession plan. I was so terrified of the prospect of raising a baby to an adult that I cried uncontrollably when my partner told me she was pregnant. I am not fond of babies in general but I got used to sleep dep and diaper changes. Now my 17 year old son is my best friend and my life has been unimaginably enriched with him around to teach and learn from. In a year he will be off to university to study engineering and I will be making my way to Bali to retire. I got lucky.. There is no guarantee as to the outcome. You are wise to consider this life-altering choice carefully.

[@Dot21234]

How old are you now? How old was your gf

[@Dot21234]

How old are you now. How old was your gf

[@garymiles9609]

@@Dot21234I was 53 when my son was born and my partner was 40 at the time of giving birth. I will be 70 years old in July.

[@Dot21234]

@garymiles9609 oh gosh. My partner is 63 and I'm 25 I'm thinking about having a baby with him

[@garymiles9609]

@@Dot21234My partner breastfed at night and I did the diaper changes so she could rest. It is important to be honest with yourself as to your energy levels. A 63 year old who is fit and vibrant could pull it off. If not, you might find yourself doing a larger part of the work. Kids start sleeping through the night after 6 months so the stage of parental exhaustion doesn’t go on indefinitely. Sometimes families will help in the early stages.

[@tanyarenaissance8829]

I think having kids is about having them with the right person.❤

[@christineflygirl]

Having kids is a 20 year commitment (or more...!). I have two sons in their twenties now, I have no regrets, they are my pride and joy, but many of my friends have chosen not to have any, and I totally respect that. It's a harsh world out there to raise good and compassionate human beings. Enjoy your life the way you choose to live it. And ignore people who would want you to change it!

[@JeanVoronkova]

I love that you have kids and they light up your life but you don't think everyone else must be poppin out some and can see that it's just different life paths

[@Bav92]

20 years out of 75 honestly doesn’t sound bad at all. I’m not a parent but I would be happy to spend what is probably less than 1/3 of my time with kids. Especially because they can also enrich your life and bring out traits you never knew you had.

[@Fan-zx1lz]

​@@Bav92Having kids into this over populated world is doing a crime to the children Born, they have to fight for basic necessities like food, Water due to high inflation.

[@rohitk9429]

Great video and message. Main takeaway is that there are many ways for us humans to live a meaningful, fulfilling mortal and brief life in this eternal reality, and it needs inner reflection to find our own paths. Also, not caring about conventional thinkers is important as they are living an outdated reality and will project their own misery/toxicity onto you. There's only one way to live a miserable life - and that's not living the authentic life meant for you.

[@rmvl2000]

I absolutely respect people with no children, indeed I have some close childless friends, they live more exciting lives for sure….. I have 4 kids myself, and I am damn busy every day. My childless friends are happy, and I am happy too, in our own ways. I love your videos Jean, gives a completely different perspective of life

[@amazingredox]

You are living an authentic life, same goes for everyone who is living their best life. Much love from North Borneo

[@hellotinashe]

I’m 39 and my husband is 51, we had our son 2 years ago. I never grew up vision boarding kids and instead was such a career woman (and still am, just with tremendous balance) but boy, having that little guy has been my biggest life reward.

[@wheatstonebridge]

Isnt that way too old to have a kid?

[@Isaidso-hz7kg]

​@@wheatstonebridgeyou are being rude

[@dalaov5258]

Nobody's Business what you do with your life. And you are contributing and having a valid Life by sharing your experiences with this video and channel. Keep up the great work

[@RA-ot6yr]

I feel the same. Always think about it but don't see a big enough reason have have myself right now despite the pressure from others. Your content really resonate with me!

[@LamNguyen-qb4ic]

No kid is much better and give you lot of freedom to retire early. Enjoy your life and whatever make you and your man happy that's all matter. Good luck to you.

[@JanowerAmmirata]

Hallelujah!!!! The daily jesus devotional has been a huge part of my transformation, God is good 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻was owning a loan of $47,000 to the bank for my son's brain surgery (David), Now I'm no longer in debt after I invested $8,000 and got my payout of m $270,500 every months,God bless Christy Fiore 🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸..

[@Andrea-hy8df]

Hi that's good you have idea &share to those who deserve it that's great god bless🙏🙏

[@Steph-uz8jd]

She's a licensed broker here in the states🇺🇸 and finance advisor.

[@Steph-uz8jd]

After I raised up to 525k trading with her I bought a new House and a car here in the states🇺🇸🇺🇸 also paid for my son's surgery….Glory to God, shalom.

[@sheltonunrabbe]

Can I also do it??? My life is facing lots of challenges lately

[@Foutz-qp8wf]

I've always wanted to be involved for a long time but the volatility in the price has been very confusing to me. Although I have watched a lot of KZbin videos about it but I still find it hard to understand

[@taloweryus]

Totally agree! Thank you for saying this so eloquently.

[@martinatravers330]

Thank you for sharing something so personal. Nobody as a right to judge you. It's your life. You only get to live once so life your life not the life others think you should live. ❤❤

[@patriciaavery9001]

This is just SUCH a good video. Calm, measured, thoughtful, intelligent. Thank you. for making it. It is my first time seeing your channel.

[@ART-kp9cn]

Great video. I have a two year old and while I love being a parent and have absolutely no regrets, I can see where having kids is not for everyone- the sleepless nights, the time commitment, the seemingly constant tantrums. Not everyone is cut out to be a parent, so people should always respect other's decisions. We all take different paths in life and the route to happiness is different for everyone.

[@AbreTuMente]

Thank you so much for sharing your view, I really feel connected to everything you said.

[@shannonchristopherphotography]

I've watched your videos for years and have gotten great value, but this resonated above all the others. To top off no kids I'm also single and very content. Ironically my career as a family photographer gives me great purpose. Thank you Jean for posting a video I'm certain many will grateful for. I know I am.

[@JeanVoronkova]

thanks for leaving us this kind note. It is a very fortunate thing to be as we are, content & living each day with purpose 🌻😍 so happy you're in this place

[@ringotan5244]

Wow! At last, an overdue question and answer! 👌

[@sjcobra84]

Single. Childless. Never been married. Living the merc life and that's how I like it.

[@lindajmorrison]

Parenting is incredible and never sucks balls ... It is truly the best thing I have ever done and I have achieved a good amount in my short years - The toughest thing has been empty nesting. DO not ever think otherwise. WE grow completely for and through them it is truly unexplainable to anyone whom have not stepped through this experience. Choices are fine. All our lives are valid. If we live full and well. We make our best choices and also children come to us even when we do not choose.

[@andrewholly9129]

parenting NEVER sucks balls? as an empty nester, are you forgetting the early years when babies can cry nonstop and toddlers can tantrum for hours, fight sleep, whine/screech if they don't get what they want, and basically wreak havoc everywhere? not saying that your kids personally did those things, but they are common challenges to consider when deciding if you want to have kids.

[@niasteadley]

In the thick of parenting with a 2.5 year old and I can assure you there is plenty of ball sucking times 😂 and even more wonderful ones

[@lindajmorrison]

@@niasteadley toddlers are my fav… enjoy. Some teenagers can allow you to know you are really living. Especially the fiercely independent ones!

[@jasonjason1196]

Beautiful video Sis 💯💯 Totally agree with all the messages.. and really love the peaceful theme and feeling your videos always bring with it. Wish ❤️❤️ You and Hubby V ❤️❤️ have a very meaningful and happy life together 🙏🙏💫💫❤️❤️✨✨🙏🙏

[@irinayes]

Thank you for the video! 😊 I totally agree here

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

People do not need to have kids. It is not legally mandated after all!

[@anewcreature7]

Even if it is ‘legally mandated’, why would you just listen to them? Stand up and fight.

[@SuiGenerisAbbie]

@@anewcreature7 Fight? With whom, pray tell? My comment was meant to reassure Jean that choosing not to have kids, aka ankle biters, is a wise choice and nothing to feel guilty about. That's all.

[@anewcreature7]

@@SuiGenerisAbbie I’m an agreement with you, just saying even if it is ‘legally mandated’ that shouldn’t be a reason to have kids, if you don’t want to.

[@IslandGal96816]

I don't have kid, either, and don't want to have one because I know I am selfish, I want free time, do what I want with my own time ... like if I want to sleep/watch TV, I just go sleep/watch TV any time and in peace ☺️ Hubby is with me. He once told me, better to have niece/nephew, they come and they go home 😂

[@Debbiesdilemmas]

It’s everyone’s right to do what’s right for them as a couple. The sad thing is if you want and cannot have. My husband and I tried for years with no success. Long story short we adopted and that was the right choice for us. I believe you can be equally fulfilled with or without children depending on the lifestyle you choose and that both partners agree. I see Jean and her husband living this amazing life and obviously it is the right thing for them. I’m sure many people would be jealous of this beautiful life and I think I would have been very happy living this life up to a certain point. I am so grateful that my husband and I pursued parenthood to the point of adoption as I know in our hearts we would have regretted it had we not.

[@jessiquilla1]

I fully admire you for living your truth and choosing the right path for you and your husband!! You said it all beautifully

[@desmonddass764]

Personal choice. As long as you are comfortable n happy with it 🙏🌺

[@jordanmbrock]

“EEEEEEEVERYONE knows parenting sucks balls, right?” Yes! Haha - best line of any video ever. Even parents agree. 🙌

[@wordsw]

Thanks for sharing. I am 51 no kids. Love the freedom.

[@JeanVoronkova]

us too 🌻 life is good :)

[@gloval5187]

So lovely that you feel the way you do.

[@JeanVoronkova]

🌻😊

[@anthis4297]

Wonderful video, thank you for sharing your thoughts ❤

[@JeanVoronkova]

glad it resonated 🙏🌻

[@zhannakryukova8676]

Thank you so much!!!!!! It is not the easy topic for us! But you are so right! Thank you!!!

[@mamaliping]

Brave and introspective sharing!!! And often a topic I deep think about. It's the same thing concept as being married or being single - no one is actually better than the other. We choose what we suits us and bring us the best in us. To me the worst is really just doing something because everyone is doing it. ❤❤❤

[@LeydiKatheryneRamirezLopez]

Thanks so much for your videos! ❤

[@xotomw]

May you continue to live the awesome and fulfilling life! :)

[@paulrobertclayton5352]

Not to mention the price tag they bring along with them .. You also must be financially stable and 90% will probably have to work your ass off until 68.. It’s a huge responsibility to have kids ..choose wisely..

[@uyouhaveyou]

Society does not support families well enough. Parents struggle to get time with their children for having to work all hours. Yes, it's a tough call and one needs be brave or loaded to think of raising children.

[@arthurshannon1851]

"Kids are a fortune, and it's gonna cost you one"

[@hannapineda6292]

Hi Jean thanks for sharing your knowledge - goodluck!

[@JeanVoronkova]

Thank you! You too!

[@itv7476]

Send both sons to private uni, and still manage to reach FIRE at 49. So, yes you can also have kids and still enjoy life.

[@shamekabenjamin8010]

Great video! Thanks for sharing. Being purposeful/intentional about all of my choices has lead me to be child free. In a sense I feel I live more deeply from the core of my soul, I’m free to continue unraveling “me”. This factor has enriched my life more than words could describe. ❤❤

[@DE6553]

A big THANK YOU for sharing your thoughts so honestly and reflected. I am 59 and have raised my son (32) as a single working mum. I got married and had him because everyone else around me did so. But my marriage failed within one year and raising him was hard and challenging, but also brought out the best in me. I love him very much and wouldn't want to miss him. However, he does not want kids, his girlfriend neither - it was difficult for me to accept and part of me still hopes they will decide to have kids because I would love to have grand kids. But I know, this is one of the not-so-good reasons you mention. It's them who should WANT and FEEL it to be able to cope with the challenges kids bring along. Yes, they might regret it later on, but I also regret a couple of decisions in my life that are irreversible, and yet I am a happy person, so what's the point.

[@yourteacher_anna]

Like your point - people should have kids if they really want them! Life is great anyway. Thanks for sharing your family story, Jean ❤❤

[@christineskeen7252]

Jean, love your honesty. It is my belief that children should always be wanted by both parents as they're a life long commitment. Even when they are adults, as parents, you still worry. I wish our world would allow people to be childless and not place judgement on them. It's not for everyone. I love how you explained this topic and wish you and your husband all the best!

[@JeanVoronkova]

Hi Christine thanks for the kind note. I'm 100% with you. I hate that some children are here in this world and not gettin the attention they would like to have from their parents. We should be allowed to be different when necessary without facing judgment.

[@nihandinisanti3420]

Jean, what a beautiful content you make… it’s about contentment, fulfillment and satisfaction in life that you eloquently elaborate. I agree that each individual has a different purpose in life that makes them content. And boy how lovely to see those who are content outside the societal boundaries. Best wishes to you both!

[@JeanVoronkova]

thanks for this very kind note Handini :)

[@RomanVarl]

Agree with everything, no urge to have kids here (44 now). You are a wonderful couple! Hello from Moscow ))

[@SagaJohanna]

SUCH an amazing video, and so eloquent and well put! I recently interviewed Cathrine Forner who said that biologically, only around 25% of people in a community had kids, and the rest of the society were makers, and hunters, and gatherers and helped raise the children or helped the community in one way or another. I love this kind of thinking!

[@michaelamuro]

We have same life perspective as yours. I support you. From Taiwan.

[@hannapineda6292]

Hi Jean- thank-you for sharing your opinions.

[@david_starsky]

I am 45 years old and child-free. This allows me to take financial risks, to make investments and continuously focus on self-improvement and education. I enjoy spending a lot of time outdoors, engaging in training, and practicing meditation. I have complete freedom to live and do as I please, wherever I want. For me, life is so much more enjoyable without children.

[@shamekabenjamin8010]

Exactly the same.. right down to the meditation and self improvement.. ❤️

[@JC-dt7rn]

All those things above are achievable with Children as well, some people want it ALL !

[@david_starsky]

@@JC-dt7rn That's for sure. Many successful people have big families, so it's definitely possible. Personally, I am just not keen on having kids.

[@user-jc8jc5tp2z]

​@@JC-dt7rn Agree! Finding dedicated time to commit to adult endeavors and passions is definitely harder with kids, but not impossible. Business travel is hard for the partner staying a home and the guilt for me personally has been hard. Also once the kids are independent you get your time back as well. Either path with or without children has its own set of challenges and rewards. But if you know you really don't like spending time with kids and building a lifelong relationship with them, that's okay too. There is meaning and value to life regardless of you having kids or not.

[@user-of2co3ke5p]

Intelligent and want to live life completely untethered and on your own terms💪🎯.

[@JazzyLou18]

I’m 39 and spend time supporting my friends going through divorce with kids. It’s hell on earth for them. Kids are great when it all goes well.

[@JeanVoronkova]

i do think the saddest is when they get saddled with adult issues that they had nothing to do with...

[@victoriatorcolini4410]

Very well said. Beautiful and true video.🥰🙏

[@JeanVoronkova]

🤗

[@lidna82]

We will never be ready for everything - marriage, kids, bungee, scuba diving or pursue a new learning... etc. What usually holds us back is the absolute lack of understanding of what the next minute or future entails or the fear of not being successful including parenthood.

[@britniandben]

Well said! We have the same mindset about this topic and we are very happy with our child free marriage/lifestyle. We love that our friends and family who have kids are enjoying their life as well! All about focusing on what true happiness looks like for each individual. Thank you for sharing these thoughts and points on this topic. Have a wonderful day!

[@kristina4395]

So sweet ❤️

[@tatiananugent8434]

Absolutely! You get to live your life, not someone else's. We are all different and enjoy different things, and that's the beauty of our world. We each have a unique purpose in life, and discovering that is essential. Keep enjoying your authentic life because that's how you illuminate the world.🙌 ❤

[@JeanVoronkova]

thanks for this sweet note Tatiana 🙏🌻

[@adammorra3813]

Beautiful video and message.

[@JeanVoronkova]

😊🙏

[@robertmangan6501]

Brilliant Fantastic ❤

[@rrocketman]

Very interesting, good luck

[@uhnschlek8827]

A child was never asked for their consent to be pulled into this world. So, I imagine, whoever is pulling that soul into this realm better have a darn good stack of resources to provide for the child to make amends for the kidnapping.

[@zxia6096]

Thanks!

[@angelm1112]

Jean, thank you for your honesty. Not everyone is supposed to have kids and I think if most people were honest about their reasons for having kids, those reasons are mostly selfish. That responsibility is not the path for everyone. 🙏🏼 Being child free is such a blessing 🙏🏼

[@fatalframer87]

Fantastic video. You really have to be honest with yourself whether children are for you or not. I'm 46 and all my life so far I was never once interested in children. If it doesn't interest you, don't do it. With lots of hobbies, as well as being a world traveler, I feel very fulfilled as a person with no children

[@svetla1star]

Jean, I love your energy and your videos. Thank you!! Also, can I ask if you can recommend Bali locations with less tourists and good for surfing? You may have a video on that, but I am not sure. Thank you!

[@Uloma2024]

Well sàid. I can't agree any less

[@bordercollieluxi]

I Love your honesty

[@thesarahstory]

I would never have a child for many reasons. I‘m 33 and married and I‘m very happy without a child. I‘ve so many other plans for me, so many dreams. I live for me and my dreams and that‘s okay.

[@MS-ge2jb]

It is the government and politicians who need kidz. They need sustainable taxpayers. They want the state to remain because that is where their salaries and benefits come from. They need national health insurance to remain in place. Without kidz, the national health and pension system would collapse, and the country could not survive.

[@Ladybug1440]

To me your life is soooo beautiful and envious. I’ve always wanted a boy and girl which I got, my life would be incomplete without them Regardless how hard it has been to raise them and I hv 5 grandchildren that are the loves of my life. Honestly I wish my life looked more like yours just with my grown kids and grand kids nearby. Thanks for sharing your beauty life with us 🥰

[@siaec3094]

😀 Brought back precious times! Just be happy, always. ☺

[@floydschrock2761]

Amen, Amen. Life is always about a choice, I am 62 this year and always taken care of my parents, I never had children or been married, I believe the happiness I hear in your voice, your married life gave you many blessings without children, Amen, Amen.

[@The_English_Castle]

lovely sharing

[@lindajmorrison]

Would not forget the challenges - sleeplessness - but I lucked on great kids - that chose me. And was pregnant and breastfeeding for 4 years straight as they were close in age. And I have been transformed for the better with these challenges. Strengths and confidence ms developed I would have has had to access if I didn’t have to support for them and have them show me what unconditional depth of love is. Having looked after in our wellness businesses thousands of families everyone’s experience is different. But choosing to be a parent is not always a conscious choice … life/ god/ universe whatever you believe in sometimes has a better/ different plan for you, kids or no kids. But child birth and all the stages , even empty nesting I have never thought it suck balls even 6 years of not sleeping.

[@suzannewhittaker9751]

The fact this is controversial says everything and deserves collective reflection, so thank you for (hopefully) getting us to do just that.

[@woofmeow247]

It's all in the mind. Fear of missing out. Ego.

[@corporatebreakoutcouple]

Before we started our hawker stall in 2018, we made a decision to not have kids. The hawker business took all our time, attention and energy literally 24/7. Now that we are early retired, we are living our best lives sans kids. Thanks for making this video. We totally resonate with all your reasons ❤

[@kristalangel]

I have 5 kids yet I agree with what you said. All of it. Lol. Don't have kids if you don't want to. Absolutely nothing wrong with that. Love your videos. Hugs to you 🤗

[@philippkrueger4410]

I deeply respect you as you respect the choices of others opposite to your own. I wish you and your growing family all the best. Very refreshing to read these

[@chinedunnadi258]

To be honest, having kids or not having is fully a couple decision.... But having a little son or daughter call you dada or mama just feels magical, i can't really explain it.... I am sure people will be alright 🙏

[@goose0701]

you also need to realise, that for some people its completely opposite. those words spoken can be the worst. everyone different. good luck to everyone in their choices.

[@chefse5442]

I think people who have no children have no imagination on what they are missing out. And people who don't have children I assume have some underlying issue. I was always very uncertain; and if it takes away my freedom etc etc..but having it there is nothing comparable. It's just another chapter in life; which is so amazing. You will probably never be sure; you must be brave. But you shouldn't not fade the biggest miracle in life.

[@China786]

@@chefse5442 I guess you also don't know what you are missing by having kids and no personal life or freedom, I have seen many colleagues who are so tired of kids that they don't want to go home or don't even want holidays because they fear of taking care of kids

[@godfather1962]

​@@chefse5442it's a miracle I can travel everywhere I want every month

[@seniri610]

@@chefse5442 You know, some people just don't want the responsibility to raise a child since it's the biggest and longest responsibility you can have in life. Not everyone who can have children is able to be a good, healthy parent for the child. It is much more complex than just this "biggest miracle in life". I'd personally much more rather regret not having children than having children, plus: you can't regret something you never wanted in the first place.

[@raysorayaray]

You are free to chooce, always in your self by your self, norhing to do with others. Enjoy your life just thevway you are🎉🎉

[@eddenoy321]

My best friend and I in high school used to observe our parents and wonder: 'why have kids' ? That was 2 generations ago already.