Why we have too few women leaders | Sheryl Sandberg

www.ted.com Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg looks at why a smaller percentage of women than men reach the top of their professions -- and offers 3 powerful pieces of advice to women aiming for the C-suite.
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[@Trunkmonkeymaniac]

I am laughing at all the negative comments. This talk was perfect, it did not blame men, it did not blame the business structure. It looked at the true cause, we are raising our women to be subservient. She didn't say that physically men and women are the same, she just asked women to stand up for themselves.

[@kelbell8127]

Jeff Bridges Lmao did you really waste your time typing all this up? That whole comment is ignorant garbage. What a joke. :')

[@trollswillgoextinctsoonhah3493]

+Jeff Bridges Get a life, troll. More men have failed in leading companies dumbass. Just because couple women took risks and didn't turn out well and we're still in evolving era doesn't give you enough data to prove anything at all. AND anyway you will be broke all your life, keep fantasizing about how your Y chromosome gives you a head until you're dead. No one care about you deadbeat. True leaders believe in equality and bringing everyone up.

[@amaka637]

Selena Gomez Girl PREACH! Men of quality don't fear equality.

[@amaka637]

Jeff Bridges What are you, a fucking stone-ager? There's many women who do that. Stop wasting my time with your senselessness. You've already been shut down as soon as you opened your close-minded ignorant-assed mouth. This conversation is over.

[@trollswillgoextinctsoonhah3493]

+Jeff Bridges Everyone is aware of that. Things started to change for women since 1970s. Still long way to go. Most countries don't even have equal rights. Talk statistics after every single fucking country at least have institutional rights, societal rights will take a long time.

[@Classicbo1]

What I like specifically about this speech is that she isnt blaming men, but pointing out how women subconsciously choose not to be a certain and points out how women should tell themselves to reach for the top, if they want to be on top. While men already are doing that.

[@undara111]

Agree. This is what all is about.

[@mistersmith9922]

Too bad she's the same woman who wants to "ban" the word "bossy". I suppose it's possible to simultaneously be a brilliant/successful entrepreneur and a stupid feminist ideologue.

[@silentwitness536]

Women prefer Male Leaders. End of discussion.

[@silentwitness536]

@@artemisw6859 No its instinct based on their dna. Confidence comes from testosterone. Men have more. Stop denying science.

[@silentwitness536]

@@artemisw6859 And when was the last time young people listened to anyone?

[@debolinadhar6376]

1. Raise your hand 2. Have a good partner 3. Don't leave before time

[@princehamdanmohammedfazza5914]

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[@artemisia3404]

@@princehamdanmohammedfazza5914 man😂😂😂😂😂

[@tromboner6061]

What did she mean by "have a good partner". Like have a partner who is stable enough and can give you the joy of motherhood etc. when you got time away from work. Use him for that right? Reverse the genders.

[@dhairya3746]

@@tromboner6061 lol just a supportive partner . Someone who doesnt blame the wife for " look, the children arent getting proper parental support becuase of your fcking job "

[@susannahhofheins351]

Being "at the top" generally requires 100 hour work weeks, a stressful environment, taking calls at 2AM, etc etc. Maybe many women simply decide they don't want that life, even if they're qualified. I heard someone say, "we shouldn't be asking why there aren't more women in these top jobs, but rather asking why anyone would want those jobs in the first place."

[@baassiia]

Probablly J. Peterson ;) once women have kids world is changed for ever ;) working that much is not worth it, just not. My kids are the hardest and most rewarding thing in my life. I still manage to maintain career but it's not a priority. I would not stand not to work but also I don't want work over 40-50hr/week. At least not now, when my kids are still small ;)

[@maganaluis92]

As a man if I had the choice to work 40/50 hours a week so my partner could make it to the top and I take more parenting responsibilities that would be fine with me. However feminism has not changed that side of the story yet, men still feel obligated to be the bread winners and it’s specially harsh for Hispanic men. At any case, and at least form me, I’ll always remain flexible.

[@Kamila-eb9pz]

@@antonioytm You're so stupid Lmao 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@antonioytm]

Feminist triggered.

[@radamik]

Yes. Though curious how men have been oppressed by careerism for centuries, women just recently, and as capitalism in this country evolves into plutocracy (it always kind of was I suppose) we’re supposed to embrace it like it’s a gift from heaven

[@QuestionEverythingButWHY]

"Done is better than perfect." --Sheryl Sandberg

[@deafears4025]

"Done" cannot last, "perfect" does. "Done is better than perfect" is nearly plagiarized from "Perfection is the enemy of the good" and both are foolish to say and moreover it is even more so to believe. It is shortsighted but works in a system that has no chance of anything long term. We are in the winter of our rule. Congratulations ladies, you assume power now that it is all about to fall. You cannot see the writing on the wall.

[@shaliniagarwal294]

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[@ava246xz_3]

Me when I'm rushing for my homework:

[@blessieconcepcion8609]

@@ava246xz_3 Literally my situation right now

[@gloomyoutlook5533]

Have you no shame. You fabricate evidence, you twist the truth. You are paid millions of dollars to produce this documentary that HAMAS committed rape.

[@JenPurple2022]

Women systematically underestimate themselves. So true. Women don’t negotiate salaries. No one gets to the top by sitting at the side table and thinking they don’t deserve it or don’t believe their own success.

[@Unlucky-Dube]

They do, they also are TONS less likely to be seek STEM professions. But that's thought to be the result of the patriarchy. Imagine being so pathetic, a victim of the everything and without agency, everything a woman is is ebcause of men, Women willingly give men all the power with a statement like that without even realising it. sad and pathetic state of rationale

[@rileyjesiah6284]

I guess Im pretty randomly asking but does anyone know a good website to watch newly released series online ?

[@philjoseph3252]

@@rileyjesiah6284 Ya Netflix

[@e-w-4174]

​@@Unlucky-Dube Yeah, men never ever question their abilities or qualities. They just drink Natty Light, listen to Creed and get CEO positions. Every single man is successful and confident, and definitely not an emotionally-volatile weakdick incel.

[@hellogoodbye4061]

Blah, blah, blah, blame men. Yawn.

[@harsheensahni3927]

Sad reality we live in. A talk given a decade ago is still relevant.

[@fulloffool5925]

Studies has shown ( more than 80% females) and also lots of Female KZbinr has shared their experience saying that they hate working under female Boss. If you want to know why just look on YT.

[@tromboner6061]

Why is it sad? Why does it matter that there are lesser women billionaires?? What matters is are most women getting to live happy life. Or basic necessities. If you are carrying a movement about something, the issue must be serious not just for any fun or privileges. Obviously women ceo's are less because of less suitable attributes. Admit it 🙄

[@xenzorygames4116]

uh, we still have fewer female drainage workers, plumbers, construction workers, and fewer suicide rates why don't we talk about that too? well ladies you cannot pick and choose when you want equality.

[@goldi1018]

@@xenzorygames4116 you know, there are more male sucides, because of toxic masculinity?

[@aymenrz2354]

@@goldi1018 because men goes through a lot more stress than women

[@NP-jl4jg]

I loved this. That whole don’t leave before you leave was an eye opener. The hands down insight was spot on.

[@demongirlluvzbooks]

I think people are overlooking the fact that 40 or so years of freedom does NOT make up for centuries of oppression. Even when we have legal freedom, the imbedded values of society are often not mentioned. When in reality the legal freedom pales in comparison to (silent) societal oppression.

[@BFaluup]

Women have never really suffered in America since it's founding and in western Europe for the last 600 yrs......yes women have felt with some pretty unfair things but so have men.....have you ever heard of conditions in the workplace during the industrial revolution?

[@thotslayer6946]

Have you heard the tale of the famous myth of the Amazonians? Long story short there were a feminist tribe who treated men as if they were demons. Also since they had to have kids to pertain their satanic tribe, they raped innocent men ( I know that is hard for feminists to believe, but history does not lie) and did not let the men ever see their children again. Now if it was a boy the woman would sometimes let the father keep his son, but never a daughter. And you are accusing men of being evil?

[@87Chooky]

Actually, history often lies - it's written from a particular perspective. And anyway, as you say, the Amazonians is a myth... and we all know they lie!

[@alextilson9741]

You can't argue that, otherwise I could just argue that history lied about the lack of female rights.

[@DanielJones-ri2uw]

nutjob alert

[@srizualemgr]

Growing up, I was always told that I was too bossy. I always felt that I must be doing something wrong and I felt guilty for coming out too strong. I kept my opinions to myself and stopped expressing myself. Now, i am 22 and trying my best to change my mentality. Although, I do feel vulnerable when speaking up my thoughts. But watching videos like this encourages me so much that one day I can stand straight and say that I am not bossy, I am a feminist. Thank you.

[@myfavs5393]

srizu ale Yes - you should do everything possible to annoy and offend men

[@theawecabinet]

Maybe you actually were being bossy. It's not like little girls are not prone to being incredibly precocious and bossy. Just saying. If you were a boy you'd have probably been drugged, so consider yourself lucky.

[@pavledrakulic9456]

Congratulations, this was the most facepalming comment I have ever seen

[@dyancelne]

Sirjana, how is your mentality now?

[@lesliechartier2136]

@@myfavs5393 Just "being" is enough.

[@JasminyPaul]

My dad who was a general manager at a company stayed home for more than 2 years to support my mom in kitchen chores and she will do the cleaning once she gets back from work...

[@evangelina3202]

I still remember when I was the topper in my school. My female teacher was teaching about equality between men and women and she proudly said "our school topper is also a female". Never felt so proud of myself.

[@mickc4672]

I like how your name is an example of the Howard/Heidi trick, at first I thought ur Evan... Til I read again: Evangelina

[@user-he8nj6fy7p]

:D

[@letiziademeo3269]

this is honestly so beautiful :)

[@CivicRec]

Are you greek? Cause your name is greek

[@nunyadambidniss]

This is honestly so GAYYY !

[@MSEAD123]

I love this Ted Talk even though it is almost a decade old. After I have been a manager and senior director in 6 other roles, I am now entering into my first executive role next week! Even though I am exceedingly well qualified and educated, still I feel nervous and worried about a couple things. This talk helped me to see that I am doing this not just to contribute to the industry, world, and my family. I am doing this for women and for the women to come after me. Onward women! Let's go!

[@God.sDaughter]

Keep up the great job! Thanks for inspiring a young lady like me to do greater things in life and aim higher.

[@ayenth1]

You are awesome

[@marynaval2033]

Hi, I'm wondering why you still feel nervous and worried about a couple of things when you have been a manager and a senior director in a number of roles? hope you can share to me your insights as I am also going through the same thing.

[@mohammadsalman57]

Got kicked out from Meta after she turned it into a genocide enabling machine for Myanmar and Izrael by silencing and dehumanizing the victims.

[@getonthesoapbox]

'success and likability are positively correlated for men and negatively correlated for women' For me this was the most significant part of the whole talk, this something I have experienced but couldn't quite put my finger on. Very inspiring x

[@TRUjohn]

That is incorrect, men are drawn to smart and successful women. There is no negative perception of successful women in guys corner . All the judging that is done towards both men and women is generally done by other women. Women judge other women about everything, how they dress, where they work, how much they work, how clean their house is, what clothes they wear, if the purse matches the shoes , how they raise their children etc. This list can go on, they meet together in little group and they start gossiping and judging other women. Men do not do that, men 80% of the time do not talk about women, and in the 20% of the time they do, they talk about women in admiration like, how pretty this girl is . She mad a very good food etc.

[@nathhenn8966]

If you cant put your finger on it all you have left is what you already wanted to hear.

[@billbillings8635]

No, it's because most women "leaders" are hyperfeminazi's and make disgusting powermad "bosses." Go on with hearing what your itching ears want to hear, as corporations, and socialistic governments are becoming ever-more irrelevant, and your paradigm with it. You won't be missed!

[@dossube]

I picked that up too but not sure what that means. Women shouldn’t be like able if they want to succeed? I want my daughters to succeed and not be mean 😁; so I need to understand this more.

[@hellogoodbye4061]

@@TRUjohn Men are not "drawn to smart and successful women"....in truth, men could give one rats butt iota about a woman's career or degree.....those are VERY low qualities men seek in deciding on any form of relationship.

[@jazzed2002]

Thank you. I am at crossroads in my career and need to negotiate my next steps, and this really helped me.

[@mforrester7082]

You will get there.

[@mohammedhasan1978]

This is a very eye-opening Ted Talk! I was very intrigued by the part about women systematically underestimating their abilities. As well as the women workforce tends to refrain from negotiating for themselves. Lastly, attribute their success to external factors as opposed to themselves which oftentimes causes major issues in the workforce for our women. I think we as a society have to encourage and instill more confidence in our women. Whether it be women boosting women up or men boosting women. The work from you (Sheryl Sandberg) is what we need more of to break these characteristic patterns practiced and that have been instilled into women.

[@mohammadsalman57]

Got kicked out from Meta after she turned it into a genocide enabling machine for Myanmar and Izrael by silencing and dehumanizing the victims.

[@FantasticRoze6]

I'm the kind of woman who likes to think more positive, so I'm usually the one that thinks she has an A. But then I hear girls around me talking about how they did so bad on the test and I think that maybe it was too easy. Maybe I did bad on that test too but didn't realize. But I don't underestimate myself anymore once I see that high grade. Seriously I once had 3 tests on one day that I didn't expect and I aced them all.

[@hdexotic1914]

“i’m the type of woman who thinks more positive” *thinks of men as inferior

[@roshnik5137]

@@hdexotic1914 you can't relate, you have nothing positive in your life

[@hdexotic1914]

@@roshnik5137 Oh jeez i’m so hurt by that! Stop it now you bully!

[@dhairya3746]

@@roshnik5137 ohhhhhhhhhh this savage reply

[@elenakudryavtseva6930]

I am determined and ambitious in becoming a CEO. I never underestimate my abilities.

[@keeshayip8420]

Girl, you got this.

[@magicmike289]

You go and become that CEO, but understand once you do, you will be giving up ever becoming a mother.

[@meghanmann4329]

keep up ...help other women too

[@sargentslim300]

Hopefully she never becomes CEO she would crumble the fucking company to the ground.

[@hannahasanah9325]

@@sargentslim300 tf proof plz

[@shuwenwang3416]

honestly I feel like i wanna cry when I finished watching this TED talk. It's so powerful and inspiring. I've entered the finance industry for more than a year now and I've noticed since day one that there are still very few female leaders in the industry (from my own experience). This speech is still very powerful even thought it's 2022.

[@w0undedmakers251]

Yes we need more crybabies like you in powerful leadership roles, making important decisions with potential for severe consequences.

[@yashumagar2608]

I feel the same way

[@hospitaladministrator3359]

Since starting work, I’ve had 3 female bosses. All of them were horrible power whores

[@spencermatthews5942]

Get used to it

[@TonyaMadeLiving]

"She's got three jobs and he's got one" - this is the key issue working women who marry need to reconcile before saying I do!

[@Huzuproductions]

Then don't get married. No one is forcing anyone to get married. We need to stop complaining for the choices we make regardless if we are male or female.

[@TonyaMadeLiving]

Huzuproductions Can a woman choose not to work when she gets married and has kids? That’s another solution to the issue...

[@hajerjm]

totally agree!

[@colouredwinds]

No, it is not women's problem. She is not a slave to work, to take of the house, and of the children. It is also the husband's responsibility and duty to do housework and take care of the children. A marriage is a union and the husband should do his part to make that union work. The woman is not his servant, but his life partner; a child is not a toy, but a living being that has needs; a house doesn't clean itself. I'd say this is all men need to consider seriously before thinking of marriage.

[@archanash1771]

@@Huzuproductions Men like you who wants to just sit in the couch while wife is cooking - dont get married and ruin women's lives.

[@issa_eggo]

The number of derogatory comments on this video towards this talk and women in general is disgusting. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a woman standing up for herself, asserting herself, being confident, and dominating. I feel like many people deride feminists because they think we're trying to say that women are superior to men, and that's not true; we're just asking for equality. There exist these female stereotypes of women being innately demure, domestic, weak, and not competent in fields that are supposedly "masculine" (such as STEM fields, business, etc.), that have proliferated in our society for so long which many people ignore or simply accept to be natural, and that needs to change. Some of you might say that women who fit those stereotypes do exist, and I agree, but I also think that there is a large percentage of women who are molded to be that way simply because that's the place our society locks them into. The fact that all these negative comments below exist only goes to show how ignorant our society is today. I'm ashamed of you all.

[@user-og8gl5hf4d]

izzy wong What about female janitors? Coal miners?

[@dornadorna.]

👏👏🩷

[@Lobster16763]

Truly, a women, symbol of patience, can only write lengthy comments. P.S. - Not read your comment even a word. But, I agree and sympathise with you. Pity…..really.

[@amaliewilhelmsen9113]

To all the women who watched this video, felt a pang of inspiration and validation, then scrolled down to the comment section: Don't feel disheartened. To all the men who grew up and watched their mother with a disproportionate amount of work on her shoulders to succeed, a qualified sister overlooked - or perhaps a wife who wasn't offered that dream job because of biases: we appreciate you noticing. Your future daughter will reap the benefits of having the choice and the opened doors. This video is not a criticism of men or women. It is an ongoing conversation about the underlying attitudes we have internalized as a collective after years of oppression in the past. We have come SO far, but there are dangers in thinking we have come far enough. The fact that not only are the numbers of women in leadership roles not expanding, they are regressing. We ALL need to make sure that every person on this planet have the right, the strength and the support in making the choices that is best for themselves. Whether that is staying at home, or pursuing whatever career they desire and qualify for.

[@caineable4525]

One issue I have with your message, women in the west have not been oppressed. Infact, they have been enabled and even been given leverage when it comes to the family unit as a whole. If you want to point out the oppression of women in the west, you would be sorely humbled when hearing the stories of women from Uganda. Women and Men have become spoiled and our indifferences here in the US cannot be compared to the rest of the world. Stop complaining, men have sacrificed their lived giving up seats in lifeboats for women.

[@caineable4525]

+Caine Able *lives

[@yosemite2405]

You watch too many Titanic reruns.

[@caineable4525]

+ProBoard Bear Cry about it

[@caineable4525]

+ProBoard Bear Women in the West have no idea of what oppression is.

[@ozland7172]

she is the author of the book called "lean in" ... highly recommended!

[@deafears4025]

A book trying to teach women to do what men do naturally. Not exactly a pioneer now is she?

[@AnannyaTripathy]

Option B is great as well!

[@beesandhu9926]

@@deafears4025 "naturally" is a strong word no? ..... *cough* social conditioning *cough*

[@Finalhellmaster]

@TeriSandHu As well as "Evolutionary psychology" who put leadership in men's group on a very high level of the priority scale... Because, you know, hunting, rival tribes and stuff.

[@sureshsvkseb1710]

@@Finalhellmaster So are every men you know leaders ?

[@marouabouhafs5266]

This had me rethink about a lot in my life!! I'm grateful

[@anthonygranados8919]

Her speech is not just satisfying a feminist agenda, it's actually human oriented. We need more women and men leaders thinking about how to improve the human condition.

[@bademoxy]

ANTHONY- is THAT what you think the business world should redirect its reason for existing on? "improving the human condition" rather than AVOIDING BANKRUPTCY? so start your OWN company with your own money then, hiring nobody but WOMEN !

[@RidesLines]

@@bademoxy Thank you

[@juiweiyang1033]

I don't mean to sound sexist, but in my opinion the reason there are more men then women in leadership role is due to (1) emotional management (a) as boys, since a young age, we been told stuff such as boys don't cry. While girls on the other hand people are more tolerating towards it. Despite been able to express one's emotion can be better for personal health, in the long run, by 14~15 boys in general increasingly become better at emotional management compare to girls (b) Boys don't need to deal with the mood swings associate with PMS. As harsh as it sound, emotional management is important in higher positions, there are time, when its alright to be emotional, but other time, letting emotion cloud our judgement can have horrible effect. Been overly emotional, when you cannot be emotional can have horrible effect, especially while in leadership role. Even take a look at culture. The Chinese once talked about pre age of enlightenment Europe and post Age of Enlightenment Europe, one thing they say is, if you look at European text since the fall of Rome and before the Age of Enlightenment, all their artwork and poetry is about romance, while after the age of enlightenment it is all about science. Take a look at South American countries, these countries are very much over indulge in emotions of romance, and they are poor, western Europe tend to be more in favor of rational thinking and they do well, even romantic countries such as France, people are only romantic during their off time. When its time to be professional, not so romantic. Asia been the most powerful region for most of the last 2000 years, despite it suck for a while, it quickly climb back up after the 1950s, and Asians are the less romantic people in the world, In all of China history only one classical novel is romance, while with Europe, a lot of classic is heavily influence by romance. The same boys don't cry principle, in Asia to a certain extend it was even been apply to girls, where some parents make their little girls sit in the naughty corner for crying, in the west, when their little girls are crying it is all hugs and kisses, if the dad is a bit of a thug, he probably go try bash people up. If Asian parents are that harsh with their daughters while crying, you can image with boys, I remember when I was a little boy, I use to get slap for crying. (2) women are more likely to leave the workforce to take care of children, it is human nature, all men wants to be an alpha and all women wants to be with an alpha. It is an evolution instinct, due to alpha male are better providers. As a result, even with the speech of, it is alright for the wife to work and husband stay at home with the kids, most couple are reluctant to do it, even when it is the logical choice, most of the time when it happen it is due to e.g. the husband is a working class guy that had a major injury at work and no longer able to do heavy lifting and now can barely make minimum wage. The wife is a college graduate that can get a decent office job, so, now, it only make sense for the husband to stay home with the kids, while the wife work. Those are very rare situations. As a result, with more husband working and wife stay home with the kids, the result is nature, more likely men get into leadership role, due to more women give up on their career.

[@kiterafrey]

True feminism is about equality. It's about making people equal, and since women aren't equal we fight for the right - but a real feminist doesn't want to take away rights, they just want women brought up to the same level as men. So, her speaking on an agenda that makes humans equal and self-confident is 100% what true feminist agendas are, it's the newbies and the femi-nazis who gives our movement a bad name.

[@Bootyinspector007]

@@bademoxy Ha 😂 Yea!

[@Soldier_Sean]

I worked for a toxic female boss recently and she schemed to have me fired over no good reason. Screw them!

[@HS-yi4ed]

Agree. We also have too few women as construction workers, miners, plumbers, carpenters, and sewage fixers. Btw I'm not talking about those women who claim they work in the field but always doing the easiest, safest and non-nasty tasks as they avoid their responsibility. Can you persuade women to take part in these fields too like how you push them to be leader?

[@christinagatwech]

Because they don’t want to. Theres a reason majority of women go into fashion and teaching children and men do miners plumbers and construction workers. It’s due to testosterone do the research

[@BrittanyLynnOfficial]

I love her so much!!! And Lean In. Thank you so much Cheryl you're a huge inspiration to me and my channel and women power !!! ♡♡♡

[@natedavis]

Astute observation early on that moms almost always feel guilty for working outside the home (whereas most dads--myself included--probably don't). Of course the question is, "Is that guilt genetic, or societally-inflicted?" Lots of other fascinating data and anecdotes though, both for the workplace and the home!

[@redrobindavis]

Her talk is a good summary of her book, Lean In, if people don't have time to read it. But there's a real sadness for me listening to her talk knowing that she's now a young widow (albeit rich and at the "top.")

[@patphatkitten]

Men know that most women will take care of her (his) children, no matter what, so men don't need to worry. Society says a woman has to take care of her children, so responsibility falls on her shoulders. She worries, because it is supposed to be her job. Men worry about the money to care for children, financially, but not much about spending time with them, educating them, and so on, in general , of course.

[@martijobarrett4527]

Woman are the givers of life and are natural-born care providers ... This goes back to cavemen. Most men find their sense of worth in providing a lifestyle where their wives CAN be the nurturing mamas they were meant to be. Personally, I love those God-given roles.❤ 💃🏻💞🕴

[@e-w-4174]

​@@martijobarrett4527 Thanks but not everyone believes in God, or having kids. Gross.

[@nastyaharutyunyan5956]

Sundberg's speech is such a push for women to fight for themselves, to stand for their own rights and to own their own success. She is such a motivation not only for adults but also for young girls to establish song feauteres to fight for the equality, to be able to achieve high peaks, not looking at unfairness of some people and companies. She recommends 3 basic things for women to do. 1. "Sit at the table" 2. "Make your partner a real partner" 3. "Don't leave before you leave" She explains all of the above-mentioned steps and encourages everyone, especially females, to try to follow these steps.

[@shringiprabhakar5355]

oh I can relate to every sentence she says. I hope I keep working hard and getting through.

[@felixw8004]

It is good to hear that, but quite frankly this is not adding any essence

[@FeonaLeeJones]

I can see the gender inequality in music programs and how few women composers there are. Less than 2% of works by women are performed in the well-known music venues. The same goes for women composers in the film industry. I do notice how my male peers tend to be more assertive and certain of their abilities whereas women tend to question their talents and abilities and run more insecurity. It’s time we start believing we are enough and we are worth getting these opportunities we are seeking.

[@princehamdanmohammedfazza5914]

Hello geerthings my name is hamdan the crowd prince of Dubai aad me on WhatsApp[phone]

[@ananyav3395]

This talk literally gave me goosebumps! Thank you ma'am 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@hailee7111]

Great talk. Really like her clear delivery and sense of humor.

[@maha_sage]

Great talk. It was like a one on one with women. Some men here butt hurt. Why? It seems that women have many enemies even when they are trying to empower themselves without men.

[@roshnik5137]

Enemies are always there and always will be, it's best to ignore them at all costs

[@hellogoodbye4061]

A well-established man-hater telling you to blame men for all that ails the world and that women are eternally oppressed is not sound advice. Hoping your mind has expanded beyond this closed realm.

[@hellogoodbye4061]

@@roshnik5137 Oh, look, it's the infamous Roshni K, the ultimate feminist man-hating troll of KZbin. Her advice? "Ignore all opposing viewpoints at all costs." Gotta love an open-minded man-hating feminist. You go grrllll!!!

[@kallihooper7423]

Interesting talk! I will keep this in mind as I start my career

[@ElizabethGriebel]

This talk is so inspirational! I come from a small community where most of our civic leaders are female. I have found a great deal of inspiration from this, but also a lot of guidance offered. I am employed in the Insurance Industry, where leadership is vastly dominated by men (out of around 15 agencies locally, 1 is owned by a woman). My ambition is to join those ranks, and by "leaning in" and taking charge I am already well on my way to that point!

[@BBBA_]

Shut up sexist.

[@KitaKatt1988]

She has a good book based on this Ted Talk presentation!

[@gloriaeman6112]

wow what she is saying is so so so true when i do good on my school work i am always thanking a specific teacher or external luck the question was nice or just the fact maybe my examiner was happy that day if i ask any of my guy friends they'll legit say "i am just wired differently i get things really fast" lol

[@fedepa3]

Realising this is the first step to improving your approach to success honestly Be proud of your accomplishments girl

[@shauryadivya1736]

This is completely misleading. Even boys, in fact as many boys lack in the ability to accept appreciation. I am one of them. I'll be like the paper was easy, the others mustn't have studied too much etc. This will sound sexist but in my whole school career I only found boys to be quite fast at mathematics, in general. There were quite smart girls too but few in number. The girls would get the grades, but would always lack in quick problem solving.

[@imranahmed-in4mo]

@@shauryadivya1736 nobody wants reality!

[@keichan3418]

@@imranahmed-in4mo Many people do.

[@yushi911]

As a career woman, i think the second advise ( make your partner a real partner) is the most difficult to achieve. A lot of male executive are married to housewife...the opposite not really.

[@sargentslim300]

Dumbass lol

[@HammerheadGuitar]

It's because women only want to marry men who make more money and have a higher status than them while men are not in any way attracted to women because of how much money they make or what status they have. So as you make more money as a woman your dating pool becomes smaller but as you make more money as a man your dating pool becomes bigger.

[@budabenimdikkatimicekti8998]

@@sargentslim300 wow you must be so butthurt answering all the successful women

[@e-w-4174]

​@@HammerheadGuitar That's because our value has been dictated as our looks, not money. Stop acting like men are the only ones forced to trade with social capital.

[@FirstnameLastname-lg2is]

I read Lean In and came here. She’s SUCH an inspiration

[@manasigoenka7599]

same

[@BrokenSofa]

This is a change that needs to be done on a cultural level, and that is not an easy task to go about.

[@monjier]

Women need to change who they are and support each other. That's why women are misrepresented

[@msschenn]

we all have to change

[@caydenlconnelly282]

👩‍🦰 duh duh duhhhhhh

[@michelguevara151]

I agree, feminism needs to stop demonising men for being born, we're bored with it now and women are complaining that we are leaving them alone as demanded by feminists for the last 50 years. which is it you want? oops, no one is listening anymore, the blame,shame, vilify game is completely self defeating, and yet it's up to those whom have been vilified to do something about the intersex relations feminism destroyed? I thought you were supposed to be so independent, what happened? telling men to 'step up' is ridiculous, we didn't break it, we don't have to fix it, in any case, we no longer have the time nor patience to pander to women's demands and pouty fecetious whims, in case you hadn't noticed : life does not give free rides. men have allways been aware of this, now it's your turn to learn the hard way. feminism is a quasi-religion of misandry : sexism is sexism how ever one wishes to colour it. I don't interact with sexists, male or female, bigotry of any kind disgusts me.

[@bademoxy]

the marxist exjews seek to change the culture-by destroying it, like they did in russia and china.

[@frecklefingers]

Does Sandberg do any actual work for FB? I ask this question because it seems every time I see her she's either complaining about how hard life is for women or telling men to do more housework.

[@purukrishnamurthy2960]

Travis Bickle She never comes in to office...has already made tons of money from google and facebook stocks and only bitches about women not getting opportunities....this is the same woman who's husband sits at home and takes care of the kids. lol

[@AmySterlingCasil]

Puru krishnamurthy Wow. Her husband who recently passed was Dave Goldberg, who founded Survey Monkey and numerous other huge companies he built from the ground-up.

[@alextoth1420]

My mother worked with Dave and Sheryl. She attended Dave's memorial and the way you just said that above really is disrespectful. She made more money than you can ever think of, and you know, she is fighting for women's rights and donating large parts of that money to good things. So you really have no effect on her and how amazing she is.

[@AmySterlingCasil]

Go Alex!!!

[@myfavs5393]

Alex Tooth She is still an anti-male feminist. She is famous for it. Get used to it

[@AleksandraStrong]

One of the best talks! Thanks for this voice for women and better world!

[@rekhang4849]

Don't leave before you leave... Thank you Sheryl...

[@peppermint23]

Over 1,000 dislikes on a video about a woman asserting her agency, and she's being concise, clear, and balanced. ~Shocking. This is exactly why we need more talks like this.

[@N0rthT]

www.washingtonpost.com/news/morning-mix/wp/2014/07/03/sheryl-sandberg-not-sorry-for-facebook-mood-manipulation-study/

[@N0rthT]

Global Man :( Yeah.... I don't know that I really blame her for not doing that.. That's a niche interest. I don't know many men talking about it. Unfortunately, that issue has been co opted by this extremist interest group called the MRM or something. They're basically the counter to extremist feminists. No one takes either seriously. Radical groups like that claiming real issues like the one you're speaking of is the worst thing that can happen. People just dismiss it because they associate it with nut jobs.

[@vaishnaviddreamer]

Jeff Bridges Yes it is 'your perception' which doesn't make it a reality. The way you see women is absolutely to do with you and not just culture. It is unfortunate that you have had terrible experiences with women and both of you have been unable to deal with it appropriately or peacefully. Perhaps it does have to do with your lack of understanding and respecting women. You might be a charmer in the outside world but your online persona seems to be filled with hatred and anger towards women. When you say you vent about all this only online and not outside shows duality in your personality and hence the inappropriate displacement of emotions. You bottle them up in one place and vomit it out online. Yes, women are full of various emotions (that might seem alien to men) but thats what makes them human and it balances it out with the logical and analytical mind of a male. The union of both is what makes a person whole and complete. Putting an end to dating and removing female employees might be the easiest and best short term solution but the problem for you will still exist. It might seem like your life has improved but when you are truly honest with yourself you'll realize thats not the truth and you might feel incomplete in some ways or the other in the near future or when you are old and don't have your business to keep you busy. Anyway I'm happy that you have an amazingly successful business and all the very best for more successes. Take care.

[@vaishnaviddreamer]

Derek Halder I'm not sure if I understand what you are saying. Yes I agree with you that no one becomes strong with out adversity and resolution. And every human being goes through adversity. About the bossy thing, yes it is based on her experience and isn't factual. Though most of the women have experienced the same. And a lot of other things mentioned in her book is based on research. You seem to have a set perception of how leaders should be and your comparisons of leaders is like comparing apples and oranges. Each leader has their own individuality and different circumstances to deal with. So am not sure whether you expect Sheryl Sandberg to be like Margret Thatcher or you have some other issue with her.

[@Chocopacotaco1413]

vaishnavi viswanathan Really you wish to speak for about half the earth? please provide statics showing most women get called bossy. Really I am guessing this is the same feminist research that equates a kiss from misread signs as rape? So yeah I don't think much of it is accurate, not to mention a lot of her work has been proven to be outright lies. Yes leaders have a certain way they should be. you don't want a leader who it too terrified to actually lead now do you. You want someone that is going to take responsibility for their actions don't you? Well knowing feminists you don't but still. Here is the thing though Sandburg is not a leader. A leader does not play a fucking victim but cause some one said something they did not like. No, I don't expect her to be like marget thatcher, but I do expect her not to blame her and women's problems on other people when the problem is their fault. If you can't take insult or criticism you should not and do not deserve to lead, end of story. So I am going to have a problem with some one who wants to make the world one big hug box of no criticism. Also any one who dares censor any words should be the first to completely give up their right to free speech.

[@Vention1MGTOW]

We need more women to share the burden of the workplace death rate. In 2011 4234 men died on the job while only 375 women died. Women need to step up and start sharing some of that burden. Gee, I wonder why no rabid feminists are protesting about this? Women only want high status, high paying jobs but they're happy to leave the septic tank pumping, sewer work, and oil well driller jobs to the lowly semi-human males.

[@Albacorewing]

Vention1MGTOW I once worked a job for years that required me to go into dangerous parts of town at like 2:00 AM. Alone. Female employees there refused to do this, but yelled for the same pay. They refused to work overtime, and they refused to work more than 25 miles from their homes. The men who got the better pay were driving 100 miles for assignments, and working the late hours.

[@leamdav1184]

Vention1MGTOW While I may not agree with everything she has said I find it sad that this is the top comment of such an inspirationally motivated video.

[@jeffbridges5312]

Vention1MGTOW Exactly. But what women don't realize is that being a CEO *is extremely stressful.* It's not fun and games and play time and you are held *accountable* and accountability is something women run screaming from.. women want a dictatorship and that's what they think a CEO is .. held accountable by the shareholders and the board and can be thrown out in a heartbeat. Nor is being a CIO, COO, CFO, director, etc. fun. So the reason only 2% of women are CEOs, 6% CFOs, COOs, etc., is because when they actually DO get into those positions they quickly quit or get fired. 'I' wouldn't want to be CEO! No freaking way! All that pressure? And this women Sheryl whatever (like it matters) isn't a CEO, she's COO and sure enough, I read she barely even comes in to work like so many women. She's busy doing this crap everyday, telling women how to be successful. But she only got that job because she whined until she got it. Great message to young women. What a joke. And then women actually wonder why no one takes women seriously.

[@ilovetoast1239]

Vention1MGTOW that's a bit reductive and not really helpful. if you want to help men who work in dangerous jobs, you should be doing your best to financially support trade unions, who are there to advocate for the rights of workers. here is a handy list: en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Labor_unions_in_the_United_States furthermore, women have been involved in improving working conditions around the world. this post is on tumblr but it provides links to various articles and reports on how women are improving conditions for workers around the world; stfupenguins.tumblr.com/post/105284795756/the-exercist-is-that-so-women-have-been-a what's the point in coming to this video (which was made both by and for women) if it's just going to make you write out irrational and angry posts? please, try not to think with your emotions.

[@jinjitronic7457]

If you knew the safety procedures I have to go through while working underground you wouldn't think things are this simple. It has nothing to do with conditions. The jobs are dangerous. The risk of death is a daily thing. Women don't work these jobs. I love toast

[@poonamgiharshorts]

I always learned amazing things from teds talks thanx I'm glad.

[@kiterafrey]

I learned something important recently from a staffing organization, men are more likely to still apply for a job not meeting 100% of the qualifications listed (and still get it because they bothered to apply) but women won't. We feel we shouldn't apply for a job because even though we have the degree and three years experience, it says four, so we skip past it. We don't even try because we think we'd be looked over anyway or it would be wrong to "not follow the rules." Men still apply. We need to be more self-assured, like men, because I did that just now, I applied one term short of my B.S. and I got the job AND they're working with my last term of school in the fall. I asked the hiring manager why, he said I have the experience and talent, and I asked why then ask for the list of qualifications and he said, "It weeds out those who don't feel confident in their ability because a confident person applies anyway." I was blown away.

[@morganderrick6912]

Katherine Petersorf I don’t think that’s true Kath, for there is high level of gender equality in this era than in the past

[@hellogoodbye4061]

Interesting observation.

[@melohuang4477]

Being a female leader really hard. The main reason I have experienced is not having men's 'authority voice.' Whenever I try leading, guys will just not listen to me. It is just not fair.

[@MrNimtiz]

+Melo Huang Probably because you are not a natural leader. Just as many men aren't natural leaders too.

[@siptalklearn7770]

Loved loved this talk. Thanks TED & Sheryl

[@khufiie]

I agree, but now I'm confused between "I'm awesome" and (another ted talk which said) "Why incompetent people think that they are awesome". AAAAAAAAAAAA WHAT DO I DO NOW?

[@defencebangladesh4068]

🤷‍♀

[@sarahl1240]

Why do you think more men think they're awesome? 😂 anyway, I'm kidding, I love men. Look objectively and answer that question for yourself

[@divyachethan502]

Me and my husband both are working, if I came 30 mins late from work, my husband comments "she is so irresponsible" but if he is late, I m always worried and feel it would have been tough day for him so I will prepare everything for him and wait...

[@bademoxy]

well, i guess there's another "empowered and independant" career women heading into the ranks of catdom...

[@lynns4122]

Wouldn't spending extra time to finish things at work mean you're being more responsible.

[@SR2brother]

@@bademoxy hey she's working and going somewhere, unlike you

[@chidebiolaful]

The amount of negative and sexist comments on this page is appalling, yet we are such a progressive country the U.S that prides itself in equality for all. The point Sheryl is making is valid. Women need to own their own success, stop waiting for a man to provide, but be a co-provider as a partners. Men and women can work as a team. The problem with our culture as obviously stated is that majority of young girls who become women do not think highly of themselves, or pursue ambitious roles because they have been relegated to the background so much that they do not feel welcome in challenging areas filled with men.

[@RaggaMatik]

I would disagree. The US is hardly progressive given its potential for progress. Compare its potential for providing healthcare and the healthcare it provides. Look at its potential for providing equal wages for men and women and compare that to reality.

[@khanhphuongoan4195]

I found you when I read LEAN IN,I must say you inspire me a lot! Love your voice.. And, thank you so much!

[@swathysreer4422]

Civil engineering is still a male dominated field but i want to become an independent buisness women in my life. This is so inspirational.

[@merladyneptune3908]

Excellent Speech & Content! Won me, Close to my Heart 💖

[@Sean-zq9ji]

Women need to trust themselves more and more.

[@martavalenzuelacosta]

To all the haters commenting here: you didn't even watch the video. She's not blaming here institutions or companies for not einforcing women's jobs, she's actually calling women to come around. Stop the bullshit pls

[@TheJoelef]

Marta Valenzuela Costa she supports cencorship by wanting to ban the word bossy/

[@TheJoelef]

"ban bossy"

[@happywings15]

Keeping my hand up is a skill I just mastered last week and realized it. And it was affirmed by this video. It really does work to put yourself in situations and form the idea you belong before you’re actually accepted because it makes you push to get what you want. ‘Cause in any case as a women you don’t want to be made a fool or feel delusional. and that attribute we have is a benefit- to care about in some regard if we’re seen as our best selves can help our competitiveness.

[@morganderrick6912]

Vina MKA 👍🏻 Hope you’re doing great btw

[@deepshikhabiswas]

You brought a smile on my face as soon as you ended ! Thanks

[@sameeraahmed7087]

this is a very good speech. I love her points. She makes me wanna change my actions

[@tereannamonroe3531]

Wow. I HAVE A 5-year-old son and 2-year-old daughter. This message (I felt) was totally for me, as I am a career-woman and mother! Thank you.

[@kattakittaxr]

Wow. An amazing talk. Thinking and hoping today the numbers are better. thank you Sheryl Sandberg

[@swatikulkarni3025]

Well GM has two female leaders at the C- suite running the company. I think the only company in the automotive sector. Barra and Suryadevhara , CEO and CFO respectively have really changed the course of women working in top tier challenging sectors. This will indeed be an inspiration for many.

[@dossube]

As girls dad, I would say speak up and stand up for yourself, be respectful, believe in yourself and aim high.

[@menna93311]

She controls her breath so well and he eye contact is excellant , I agree with the matter she introduces her subject . She won my YES ,only by her presentation .

[@marvelousmimi9165]

I really enjoyed watching this video. I am watching this for my sports management class. It was informational.

[@ThePositivityBoss]

a truly iconic talk by Sheryl Sandberg!

[@ultramarinewaters9325]

This TED talk is eloquent and encouraging! As a young woman trying to get her footing in the adult world, your advice is appreciated!

[@hellogoodbye4061]

A well-established man-hater telling you to blame men for all that ails the world and that women are eternally oppressed is not sound advice. Hoping your mind has expanded beyond this closed realm.

[@nunyadambidniss]

Hah!! Sandberg Leans BACK from FaceHump, LOL

[@e-w-4174]

​@@hellogoodbye4061 She didn't do that at all, but thanks for the hysterical, emotional response. We're coming to get you, Barbara!

[@hellogoodbye4061]

@@e-w-4174 Alas, she did say all that and more, and thanks for the hysterical, emotional response to my comment. This woman has a LONGGGGGGGGGG history of man-hate. She is what she is and you are what you are. Quit licking her boots, it demeans you.

[@AyikosMedley]

Great talk. She basically summed up her book , Lean In

[@ivyvaz]

@taothewanderer Well, you're already in a ditch with that mentality.

[@KitaKatt1988]

I find new inspiration for my personal life, as I grow, and no matter how many times I listen to this! !!

[@hannahstreet-financialplan6090]

I am thinking about going self employed and not having maternity pay or time off is one of my biggest reasons not to do it. I have a boyfriend but we are not married or have a house together. This hit home as it could easily be 2-3 years+ before this becomes a reality for me but it was something I was planning for today!!

[@marcdahan3D]

Good job Sheryl, I'm a man and your speech gives me back a little more faith in humanity.

[@marcdahan3D]

+Marc Dahan even if thats 6 years back

[@defencebangladesh4068]

lol

[@defencebangladesh4068]

@Bethnal Green yep

[@jermainecobena]

@Lord Hentai god forbid a guy believes women should have the same opportunities

[@tiffanykipanii]

Such a great talk!! Sit at the table!

[@sarsysnape]

All good points. True facts. I just read her book, and I really recommend to everybody. She uses researches that prove that we have social issues that we need to talk about to change. Inspiring! July 2023

[@alalayajasmine1738]

I never knew..it's amazing, lovely...contentment is not blaming each other, just to try to grow together..lovely, knowledgeable woman..

[@noeofficial319]

Sheryl Sandberg is so inspiring. Reading Lean In and learning more about my own disposition if I can call it that, has made me a much stronger person. I now have some tools to use, and information to lean on, when I find myself in situations where there is the option to either 'lean in' or 'stay out'. I'm eternally grateful for people like Sheryl and books like "Lean in"

[@jeffbridges5312]

She and all feminist make me want to vomit. She's nothing more than an elitist born with a silver spoon in her mouth who just whined until she got her seat warming job at fb, telling the women, the vast majority working in jobs like Wal Mart that they need to 'lean in,' like that's going to make any difference. All you're going to do is get fired for being an irritating and falsely accusing scab. If you want to be successful in life start your own company.

[@kelbell8127]

Jeff - You carry a lot of unnecessary hate and negativity. I feel sorry for you. Hope you can turn your life around in the New Year.

[@jeffbridges5312]

Kelsey834 The only people 'hating' are you and all english speaking females in the West. You hate men and are sociopathic because of 50 years of feminism. And I don't have anything to do with Sheryl Sandberg doing nothing but whining to get her position. That's a fact. She's less than nothing.

[@nickglover9007]

Seriously this is the lead for Facebook, a ultra manipulative company, bent of making as much money as then can by harvesting all users data to almost any buyer. Never asking users if o.k. Mafia of social media world.

[@brownoniongirl]

Preach! Sheryl, you're an inspiration!

[@ThuyNguyen-bu9ge]

There is also this mentality of, "A rich guy will take care of me." Which could be true. (In some cultures perhaps that is the prayer due to lack of privileged opportunities available to girls/women.) But I would rather bet on myself getting rich than on someone else providing for me. Also, when you're financially independent, you can make better negotiations in your relationships due to the maturity and leadership skills that you developed as you built your financial freedom. In whatever job that you do (in the corporate world, as a mother, as a daughter, etc.), be your best and become an improved version of yourself every year. You don't need to be in a corporate setting to have a fulfilling life's journey. But if that is your dream, you must make strategic decisions to help you fulfill that dream or else you won't be ready for the challenges that will come your way. Without such preparation, you cannot weather for storms of the demanding corporate world, family or self-care. And always keep a question in mind, "What if no superhero will come and save me?"

[@rhiannarain5208]

This was a phenomenal talk! I am so so happy I got to hear it. However, I am shocked at the comments... you all are proving her point.

[@TheJoelef]

no she still ahsnt proven my point that woman don't want equality in dirty dangerous jobs

[@xinyilin3788]

Rhianna Rain i have the exactly same idea with u..I gonna say that there is still a long way to go..

[@pascalfo6014]

lol

[@heathergamez3821]

Lol exactly

[@God.sDaughter]

XinYi Lin The thing is, the world is ran by men. And men are power hungry. Do you think the likelihood of men giving in power to women after they (men) have created and designed a world that functions mainly under their ruling will be easy? No!

[@perfectionnement95]

Everyone needs to read her book lean in as well. We all need to make a difference! She is so right!

[@bielsabas4407]

haters gotta stop being ignorant and read her book (preferably the lean in for graduates since thats the updated version), she explains how her experiences led her to talk about these things and more detailed reasons why she's speaking up about these issues

[@evelyntran5269]

I like how she thinks about men too. She is not one of the women who think "this world would be better only women were in charge." The problem is not whether a certain gender is better. The problem is the inequality and the ways society has conditoned us to associate certain traits to be positive or negative based one's gender.

[@God.sDaughter]

If only men and women respected each other regardless of the differences each one of us has perhaps the world wouldn’t be such a disastrous place. Respect is the key!

[@kayla_battle]

Exactly. Now I feel like neither Gender Trust or respect each other 😞

[@alansamuel2454]

@@kayla_battle True enough, all humans aren't perfect and anyone of sanity knows that. There will be people who are morally strong, support the weak, educate the orphans, uplift widows but also those who are mentally weak and dependent, those who gossip, cheat, badmouth and whatnot. Your comment on neither gender trusts or respects each other is pretty darn true. Women live in fear of being raped / sexually assaulted, not taken seriously while men have a fear of being accused, emotionally neglected and laughed at.

[@w0undedmakers251]

Respect is earned.

[@e-w-4174]

​@@w0undedmakers251 Earn it, then.

[@snezray2324]

Lean in.. great book Sheryl :)

[@Toronto789]

Love this!! Have watched a few times and each time I learnt something new. Great leader and speaker Sheryl

[@jubaerr3796]

Although this video is more than a decade old, most of the problems still exist. What stood out to me the most is how telling or advising women to demand their worth is not enough because success in the work field is heavily dependent on likeability both are in heavy favor of men.

[@ranukarai5819]

I believe what all girls and women need to understand is that this is a male dominated world and we need to start creating big goals for ourselves. Yes people don't expect us to earn a lot of money, looking pretty is enough but it isn't and shouldn't be enough for us. I think women have way more potential than the world taught us and only through self examination, self-awareness, self-love, reading, educating, getting fit, becoming strong by learing mma or boxing or knowing some important tricks to protect ourselves, being alone and smart while taking care of ourselves we will reach our potential. About having kids I think men and women both should take care of the child. Isn't it so weird the woman takes care of the child most of their life and the child gets surname of their father lol so we should value ourselves and put only that much which our partner will too. Add your surname to the child too because it's your baby and never ever ignore insults. When anyone threatens you, become strong and show them your power. Best of luck to all the women in the world, may you realize your true potential and never settle for less.

[@vietnammg]

I have a question for you. It’s true 90% of the powerful and high-paying positions are filled with men, but what about the low-paying, dangerous, and powerless jobs like construction workers, front-line soldiers, plumbers, firefighters, police, truck drivers, loggers.. are these not also filled by men? How many men who are bricklayers for one men who is a CEO or politician?

[@maxalbon9557]

@@vietnammg Dont expect answer from brainwashed feminists.

[@vinitbrett]

I agree with most things she is saying except for this one at 13:12 . She is talking about something which quite a utopic notion. For a person, married or unmarried, man or a woman, it is extremely hard to work in a job which they like to go back to. Does she think all the married men who have a child go back to their job only because they love it? No! Most of them, a high percentage of them go to their job BECAUSE they have a child at home. They can't take risks with their career anymore. That's reality. I know only one thing, if you want to be a successful person, doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman, you have to make hard decisions, big sacrifices and whether we like it or not, have to break some hearts. Turn the pages of history, very few have had a complete fulfilling life. It is very easy to see only the shiny surface.

[@michellemahasin]

Yes, I agree but I think her advises work for men and women, let's face it, not all men are in the top!

[@miriamb2367]

Completly agree.

[@jenanam9513]

Vinit Masram I agree with your idea. Working life is more hard time for me who take a responsible for family.

[@MultiAurinko]

I understand your views on the part where it is hard for men to be under a lot of pressure to keep continuing to work for his child’s sake. But Sheryl mentioned smartly that it’s us, our society that puts that pressure on men and hence not on women. It’s a frowned upon situation if we meet a stay at home dad but considered absolutely ok if the mothers left her career for child. Sheryl is not intending that every women should be working with a child but she points out that even if we are smart enough to get there, we drop our ambition and don’t work towards it. I have men in my life - my father brother my husband who all do amazingly well in their career but my mom is still a smart lady at her job doesn’t talk much about it. I see this at home and around and I understand what Sheryl means.

[@melraven7105]

Cathy O'Brien as spokeswoman for the me-too movement

[@chikara0777]

You motivate me Sheryl. Thank you for speaking the truth for women.

[@jelsonquinga-allaboutwoman3600]

Awesome message 🥰. What I think is that women don’t necessarily have to be made strong in order to compete with men at the top of the leadership board because women are already strong, what we need to do is to change the way the world perceives that strength

[@robd1859]

That's what gets women punched in the face is when they try to act like a man and be assertive and aggressive.

[@e-w-4174]

​@@robd1859 Only a Cro-Mag would think of punching anyone over being competitive at work. Then again, you probably don't have a job, friends, or a purpose in your life. Sucks to suck. Pathetic.

[@powergrower]

Some people say it's important to talk about this stuff, they say you can't fix something unless you acknowledge it's a problem. In many ways, I actually think talking about and always hearing how big of a problem it is that women are not in leadership actually makes it worse for women. Constantly hearing how the odds are stacked against you if you are a woman, black, or whatever creates an unnecessary mental hurdle. Imagine if an athlete training for a fight had to hear throughout their training camp that they have a 70% chance of losing. They hear it from their coaches while they train then they go home and hear it in the media. Obviously, this would be a huge disadvantage. So why would we teach in school that women make 70 cent's on the dollar compared to men or tell them they are less likely to end up in leadership? I'd have to think this only holds them back. If I was a woman I wouldn't even entertain these narratives for a second.

[@steve19811]

Great point. Complaining about anything just creates more to complain about, no matter how sophisticated and intelligent it sounds.

[@Maloprininism]

Women and men can both be spectacular in very different ways and both possess the qualities needed for success. Unfortunately, for some reason, women tend to undermine themselves for absolutely no reason at all (hypersensitivity to superficial messages in the media!) If you want credit for what you do- man or woman- you need to OWN it and act like you belong, no matter what you're doing or where you are. Why should someone give you the trophy if you don't claim it?

[@Maloprininism]

I'm sorry you were stuck in an unprofessional environment. Doesn't seem like you were in the caliber of work environment to be able to meet talented people, which makes perfect sense from the impression your comment gives about your lack of character. From my experience, I have met women and men alike who have been exceptional leaders because of their people skills- empathy, humility, thick skin, and ability to ask the right questions in the right situation. I just happened to notice that women usually put more effort and energy into really understanding who they're working with on a personal and emotional level, a method of relationship building necessary in business and in solving complex, people- oriented problems. Business runs on people who understand people- you obviously do not. To "And women just need to give up" You are either a man who has no mother, a man without a penis, or someone with no love in their life.

[@jeffbridges5312]

Maloprininism _I'm sorry you were stuck in an unprofessional environment. Doesn't seem like you were in the caliber of work environment to be able to meet talented people, which makes perfect sense from the impression your comment gives about your lack of character_ Lol 'An unprofessional environment,' like I've only had one job. I've worked for over 20 different companies over the last 25 years and currently I work in corporate sales for a company I've been with for 8 years and all the people I speak to everyday are in other companies, _hundreds_ of them in every industry there is. I meet more people in a week than you do in 6 months. You have _no_ idea what you're even talking about at all. And all of these people are CFOs, CEOs, COOs, CIOs, IT Directors, VPs, the best and the brightest and there are very, very few women in any of those positions. Only 4% of CEOs are women, only 6% of CFOs, 3% of COOs, etc. www.investopedia.com/articles/financialcareers/09/top-female-ceos.asp Not because of 'oppression' or 'sexism,' but because those positions require huge amounts of responsibility that women run screaming from as well as stock holders holding them accountable and women are incapable of human accountability and don't even know what character is, demand respect instead of earning it like a man. They only want to work part time, never start their own companies, are extremely flaky and unreliable and are petty and bizarre. They fire themselves with their extreme incompetence and extremely immature, infantile behavior, I've seen it a dozen times. Putting anyone, a female or minority in a position like that is just stupid because you are only setting them up for failure because you're not putting them in that position because of qualifications, but because of their gender or race. _From my experience, I have met women and men alike who have been exceptional leaders because of their people skills- empathy, humility, thick skin, and ability to ask the right questions in the right situation. I just happened to notice that women usually put more effort and energy into really understanding who they're working with on a personal and emotional level, a method of relationship building necessary in business and in solving complex, people- oriented problems. Business runs on people who understand people- you obviously do not_ What a pile of steaming empty buzz words and catch phrases that are completely meaningless. I doubt you've ever even had a job and just read too many feminist articles in women's magazines or on Jezebel. And you're way behind the times, even _women themselves hate working for other women._ There have been numerous studies done about this: *Women Prefer Male Bosses Even More Than Men Do:* www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2014-10-16/women-dislike-having-female-bosses-more-than-men-do _To "And women just need to give up" You are either a man who has no mother, a man without a penis, or someone with no love in their life_ *84% of women today in the U.S. want to be housewives:* www.forbes.com/sites/meghancasserly/2012/09/12/is-opting-out-the-new-american-dream-for-working-women/#7a51e3aa3095 So let me get this straight, because most women today clearly state that they want to go back to the kitchen and have given up on Feminism that means I have no penis, love no one and do not have a mother according to your 'logic' - and you _wonder why people don't take women seriously and why women fail consistently in business._ You're idiots. Oh and btw, Cheryl Sandberg's position at Facebook is 'COO.' The COO is tasked with the day-to-day administration and operation of a business and I can guarantee you that she isn't doing her job there and someone else is having to yet she still gets paid. How do I know? Because all she does is travel and give these incredibly stupid, cringy speeches to pathetic and delusional women like you. Men having to do all of the female employees' work for them because the women are always out, too slow and too stupid. Sounds like just another day! Women in the workplace are a joke.

[@claudiawittel7658]

What an important conversation. Thank you #SherylSandberg for the critical role you play in it. As a woman who has been in leadership at various nonprofit organizations and also a mother of three (now) adult children, I know the heartache of the crying child on the leg and the “guilt” that is apparently simultaneously birthed with the first child. I attended an all women’s college-which I now understand helped me to embrace the concept that my voice matters and that I do belong at the table. I was blessed to marry a man that shared both parenting and home responsibilities (50/50) and I agree 100% that the benefits of this type of approach to marriage are AMAZING even after 28 years! I have always loved encouraging young women to live out their purpose and calling and to lead fiercely. I have sometimes intentionally and others times without knowing it served as a mentor to younger women. Sadly, I have worked with very few women in leadership who appreciate and support strength in other women in the workforce. I’m reminded of the dove commercials that highlight the ways we value certain attributes/qualities in men and hold the very same attributes/qualities against women. I hope we continue this conversation so that the changes begin with us and ripple out into our spheres of influence. My three adult kids will tell you that although mommy has always loved her work-she always loved them more...They are doing great by the way, and we all still treasure the limited time we get to enjoy together.

[@user-os1sf2ny9i]

Is it possible to know what kind of dove commercial that you are talking about???

[@mofo7689]

there is a huge difference between women leaders and knowlegable leaders who happen to be women. I've seen women leaders develop. They first thing they do is go into "Drill Sgt mode". I ran into 1 woman leader my entire military career. She was my senior, a bit overweight, but had a smile sexier than Janet Jackson and an even sexier character. She knew "the books" inside and out, and welcomed all challengers. It didn't define her. She kept the office running like a Swiss watch and I spent time prepping her for her wedding. I wish I did not loose contact with her; it was a big mistake. That kind of character was as unblemished as a white crayon in a full box of colors.

[@francescamaisto4896]

For those who think that she can't speech about equality in workforce and feminism because she is a rich, powerful woman: " PRIVILEGE is when you think something is not a problem because is not a problem to you personally"

[@CLARlCEsotl]

Sheryl, will we also have an equal division between races at the top? Transexuals? Homosexuals? What is it, precisely, do you feel that women bring to the table (in view of the basic feminist precept that we're all the same)? It is my opinion that those cut-throat, power hungry people are all the same - regardless of gender or race. I'd argue for a world that requires fewer of them anywhere! Also there's the philosophical aspects of what actually constitutes having the power. Is it the guy at the top? Is it the mob? The guy who controls the mob? The one who can balance on the tallest heels? Seems to me that those at the top exist mostly as a representative figure - a focal point for order, they rarely have any real power. That said, having women at the top, even as simply figure heads may be a positive thing. In short...I don't know...don't put me in charge! lol

[@YoungDirtyExec]

Never listen to a Billionaire talk about sharing power..

[@kaylastitz3498]

Wow, these comments make me realize how little the mentality of people hasn't changed over the past couple decades.

[@mgtowwolf3714]

Women a couple decades ago were happy, now they are miserable. There you go, 20 years of 3rd wave Feminism for you.

[@icameinlikeawreckingball2504]

MGTOW WOLF I think the one who’s miserable is you 😐

[@horatiomud-gudgeon4724]

Kayla or does it show an aspect of human nature, that is how so many people get stuck in their false victimhood mentality and no matter how many clear facts are produced to allow you to stop blaming others and move on in this area of past struggle, you prefer to be an ostricht and keep your head in that ground made mostly of bullshit. I am not saying their are not many issues of inequality in our world, but I am saying it is better to keep in touch with facts for example kzbin.info/www/bejne/h5Sno3hrjtukitU

[@nitya404]

@@mgtowwolf3714 ignorance isn't happiness,

[@mgtowwolf3714]

@@nitya404 That's right, don't be ignorant.

[@lloydsukwoohong9138]

very nice talks! Thank you:)

[@chaugiangang9779]

Thanks for your helpful speech. 💖