Why You ATTRACT STALKERS In Your Life + TIPS | Family Trauma | LIVE CHAT

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

The topic of stalking is pretty extensive. You can learn more about this topic by clicking into this playlist here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bGKug4B7pNd2f5Y

[@darrylharris756]

😎👍✨✨✨

[@tigerbunny6778]

We attract them because they're everywhere!

[@happym3008]

Yes I just learned to not talk to strangers It’s just not worth it Many ppl Also take u being friendly as like small Talk And in their head they think u like them Ppl R very very self ubsesed and don’t read the room

[@jenniferthompson5146]

In my early 20s I moved to a different state for college. First time living on my own and I had no family or close friends in this new area. That year there was a young man in my home state who had a mental breakdown and became obsessed with me. Then at the job I worked, an older male patron became obsessed with being my friend, even though I didn’t want his “friendship.” I was very naive, kind to a fault, and lonely. I have a conservative religious background. Very unnerving experiences. Thankfully I’ve learned a lot since then about confidence and standing up for yourself.

[@pyarkaaloo]

💯💯💯

[@fairygurl9269]

Here's to Feeling Safer

[@HuricaneChampagne]

i had to pay someone to find out where my stalker lived because he literally was outside my home every time i looked out the window or so it seems. once i found out i also found out a few other interesting and very unpleasant facts about him. it did not go well but he ended up moving out of state and that in itself was a blessing

[@angelbeauty8]

A Blessing I need that in my life

[@Cosmic_92]

This is a global problem that needs to be solved. I have to deal with this every day, they live across the street from me. My phone has been hacked, they hear and see everything and keep an eye on me for 24 hours. I live in the Netherlands, a city called The Hague. I wish all victims of gang stalking the best of luck. Karma will deal with them

[@ktsig287]

You live in the Hague and this is happening to you? That's like the international war crimes place I think... I've been there once....to some dualing piano bar. Was staying w a friend in Rotterdam and we skipped over there. I'm so freaking sorry for your experience 😢

[@choozychelleigh8965]

I’m sorry 😢 I suggest blasting music use your freedom to protect yourself as much as you can stay strong and try to get away ❤

[@hopeh1095]

The Lord has given me several scriptures He calls the behavior wicked. Also, most will reap what they sown in due season.

[@Kashmere-w9n]

♥️🙏♥️

[@naturallivingbyenovi]

I have stopped making eye contact when I say hello to any male who I don't have to work directly with even if we work in the same organization. In my country people don't make a lot of eye contact but when I lived in Canada I found it is required. I think eye contact with men in my country makes them think you are a nicer person and it emboldens them to approach you from a relationship stand point which can end up in stalking when they realize you are not interested in them

[@Truth-Finder-7Bbl]

Some people are predatorial in their evil nature. It is not the bunny's or lamb's fault if wolves want to eat them. Predators eye nice and seemingly harmless people to haunt and hunt

[@sandrajunghall9725]

My family's psychopathic stalker will never, never get what she moved to us to get. She came to plunder our lives, but is the one who will suffer for what she's done and, psychopathically persists in out of frustration for her own failures and lack of any other apparent interests and pleasures than stalking.

[@KrystalRoe-ln3rj]

That how she is making me feel like she just enjoys the hurt and pain and the time she is taking from my loved ones and myself. I have had people pass not knowing the truth passing with that painful lie in their heart. She just won't go away others are/were helping her some are just there so she doesn't go through with killing Me. The police won't do anything FBI either. She stalks me with remote access technology through my phone every phone I have had. She has hidden cameras in the public places I frequent so she doesn't miss a thing. They say she acts like me she steals my clothes to make videos and take pictures to pretend it's me doing God awful things. She texts my children pretending to be me. She moves every I do and back dates the lease. She thinks she can hear My Thoughts, I don't know her really just of her. Please somebody help me tell me the steps to stop her from harming me and further.

[@taraarrington2285]

When I went to the police to tell them that I was being stalked and harassed they told me to write down the license plates and to be aware of my surroundings well I figured out that a lot of them have retired military tags

[@Kashmere-w9n]

♥️🙏♥️

[@thurston4mor]

I was stalked by private investigators for several years Caused grief relationship trauma family dissident I was in grief trying to ding the origin Till one day by fluke I caught clues and priced together I was a victim 3 rd wheel of someone toxic marriage I don’t really know the couple But wife had me stalked bc husband fascinated with me.. I’m in shock and considering a law suit against investigators

[@pyarkaaloo]

Same 💯💯💯 they targeted an innocent individual #bullies #creeps

[@gabriellebyczek5192]

I've literally blocked people and they call me nonstop from multiple other numbers

[@samk6820]

I think domestic violence and stocking go hand-in-hand. I am DV survivor long before Social media. I took stalking as a form of a mating call. He loves me. And so has many other women that I have ran into with DV past. I was flattered by the attention. I was trafficed at 14. When I escaped from that situation I was locked up in mental institutions for one year. I was blamed And completely rejected from my family. I was never able to go home after that. I was physically abused in the state hospital also. So desperate for love and attention. Never felt like my parents really liked me. I took the black sheep roll. So when people like this came along of course I would take it as flattering. Still I find it hard to have an opinion about anything. I like to be told what to do. And I do as I'm told. One of the most difficult things for me to answer in a question if somebody ask me what I want. My life has never been what I wanted. At 50+ I find it best I remain single.

[@samk6820]

I would like to see a video on sexual addiction and sexual co-dependency. I think these 2 play a huge role in a lot of domestic violent relationships also.

[@hugmc]

Terrible people in this world ❤

[@sairaailia19]

@@hugmc Right.

[@sairaailia19]

@samk6820 I can relate to a lot of the experiences, of stalking and unwanted attention/advances. I'm 30 years old now, but these weirdos always go after you in your teen years and even younger.

[@Kashmere-w9n]

So sorry you went thru that ❤️🙏

[@marswmnwhoever2188]

Pathological antagonism...explains alot. I have a high level of contentment for what things I have in my life ( area I live in, house I live etc) in my life and for the first time I realized that it can come from ppl that always need something more to satisfy themselves. So they are selfish and greedy ( excessiveness) and they are so narcissistic that they HATE me because Im notTHAT way. hence " antongonist".

[@AbayoOoh]

I can 100% confirm discord is stalker central. That site is so flawed, people are able to hack your phone and hear your private phone conversations in the discord chats without your knowledge. Everytime I go on that site my life always falls apart, I hate discord

[@badbeachindustry1615]

It's true .

[@WilGarcia-jh2nl]

What app are you talking About

[@Andronicus2007]

I had no idea stalking is so common. 50% of people have been stalked in their life, is that right? I think its mostly women being stalked. Stalking is so immature, I mean nobody is going to get anything positive from it IMO. One wonders what goes wrong in the stalkers mind- really irrational behaviour and must be terribly frightening for those being stalked.

[@joakimber8831]

Stalky neighbour. Old, tall, called me theWh.... name and I walked away, he had called me other names, but that one was too far. Then sat in his camping chair watching me move in. I left the property twice that day. I went into town. I went to the police after I had come back and he was not there, but when he saw me he got his creepy camping chair out again. Then it was the hitting the water meter and staring at the main bedroom. Sat evening the other week at the front door with notes in the door..... very upset I did not open the door. I heard him aftgerwards walking around his lounge room in circles calling me the B... as he went in circles for over half an hour. Then someone in the property on the Tues. night. My phone camera not working, my torch on my phone saying the camera was in operation. Then the Thursday afternoon, hanging around the side gate, holding his phone up. My phone still not working. i removed myself and slept in my car a few blocks away. My phone was back to normal the next morning. OK. went to police, ... or called police the Wed morning, they were polite and helpful, but nothing on the system. I went to see them again after finding more notes in the front door. Text messages to his real estate agent and now its just more subtle standing where I can see him etc. I have the main lounge curtains closed, the main bedroom curtains closed. Nothing in the main bedroom yet and packing was confused - now a little bit more unpacked, but it was a tough 4 weeks. Slept in my car over 7 nights of 14 and returned to the city twice staying over 4 days each time. Tired and nothing done, confused, anxiety ridden etc.etc. Tonight, only a small part of my curtain at the front, near the side gate is open, so he stands facing that window and talking loudly. Not somewhere where I do not have to be aware of him etc. Also feeling mentally tuned into. ... etc etc... Put his stalky picture up on Facebook etc. twit/X, so noone can say I didnt have a problem. Made online reports around home entry etc, so police cannot pretend nothing reported. etc etc. Called mY local state and federal members and asked if they ever do constitutent walks.... That maybe my local member could go for a walk and chat with Stalky and ask him what he thinks of stalkers! Sense early on that he thought there would be a very odd romantic link. Felt very creepy. Still aware of the creepiness. Tired, normally I would leave here about now and sleep in my vehicle, but I am staying here tonight. Tidied the kitchen and some washing getting done. I will take evasive actions as and when I have to. ....

[@eros9230]

🚫Stalking🚫: 🧟the act or an instance of stalking, or harassing another in an aggressive, often threatening and 👮illegal manner: Stalking is now a crime in many states.🧑‍⚖️

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thankfully! The only issue is that stalking has now fallen under "cyber stalking" which is hard to prove and track. We lack a lot of laws to protect against this kind of stalking. And even with 50 states having laws, we are so behind! It's sad.

[@Davidtheservant1997]

But it's happening all over

[@hugmc]

Yes it’s a crime but a crime that’s hard too beat especially the group one ❤

[@gabriellebyczek5192]

Thank you for this video. I've been stalked my whole life and I'm almost 30, it happens so frequently people don't understand how they don't stop it's constant for me. If it's not the same person it's a new person thank you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome. Stalking can really make you feel trapped. I'm sorry you are experiencing this.

[@pyarkaaloo]

I’m currently stalked by 2 narcissists & several flying monkeys in their network #creeps

[@ailhaj]

Yes! Same with me! If I told people how many people do it no one would believe me. And women stalk me too at work. They watch me and try to constantly cross paths with me, trying to make me jealous. They're passive aggressive

[@JasmineSnow-v8e]

Oh and most gangstalkers are unattractive or copy someone that they find appealing to appear normal its sad most targets are smart attractive clean cut and has a sense of humor the target seems to he a natural attention grabber people pay alot of money to stay relavent while antarget gets all the attention without even breathing as soon as they walk in the room everyone seems to pay them attention oike a walking higlighter

[@NarcRenegade]

Good stuff on stalkers, I’m frequently stalked and this was very helpful for me to change my vulnerability that is attracting stalkers. I appreciate all your content.

[@JustANurse24]

I don't attract stalkers. It's a privacy invasion on behalf of numerous organization that brings these horrible men and women to me! How negative.

[@bellakrinkle9381]

My first stalker appeaered out of the blue when I was no more than 19 years old - I'd better watch your Why am I being Stalked. I believe my ex landlord ia a Dark Triad stalker who found reasons, almost daily to show up at my door for needed repairs/upgrades to my apartment. He was very recently married just prior to buying the building and he and his wife lived next door! His wife and I were both clueless. I FINALLY realized his fraudulent behavior at the very end of him owning the property. Hello, Amy - if you are out there, I'm not upset with you! BTW, Tamara, you are ABSOLUTELY correct about the attachment issues and porous boundaries; guilty! It's taken me 10 years of intense self examination to learn everything you've presented in this video. Your brightness, knowledge and experience puts you in a special catagory of wonderfulness. 💝

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for these kind words!! 🤗 I'm really glad you find this channel helpful. He sounds like he has/had a serious problem. You have to have cameras and tons of proof with people like him. Glad you never got hurt or anything like that.

[@pyarkaaloo]

Dark triad stalker, you’re not kidding….

[@mrike5651]

Wasn't this on inside edition I remember the story.

[@loudproud7547]

I am a gay man who dated this guy for three months back in 2020 during the pandemic. Things got pretty serious real fast to where we were spending a lot of time together on the road to meeting his entire family and colleagues. We broke up after three months, and he has started stalking me online by using anonymous profiles to do it. He is a medical professional and highly intelligent. I am in Los Angeles.,while he is on the East Coast. I feel like I have no privacy and my freedom has been compromised.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

It sounds like a relationship that started fast and ended just as fast. These kind of relationships often end with stalking or harassment. It's sad to say that but this is what the research shows. -www.cdc.gov/injury/features/prevent-stalking/index.html -www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/stalking

[@pyarkaaloo]

They can be very devious, creepy & vindictive…especially once you figure them out

[@freespeechandme917]

I’m dealing with a stalker at work. He wanted to date me but I told him I wasn’t interested in dating him. He is following me around the workshop that I work at. I work at a place for people with disabilities I have asd. He would stare at me. He would leave his work post and go where I was working in the garden center and stare at me for like 15 minutes. He’s still stalking me to this day at work. I was told to just ignore him. I didn’t want to be friends with him but a supervisor pressured me to do so. My main boss told me to keep telling him that I’m not interested in him. And this goes multiple days a week. And now I’ve found out this person spent 4 years in prison for child molesting. Sick.

[@eyeamphree3337]

You attract stalkers by giving the assumption that you're too "nice" & lack boundaries because stalking is nothing more than entitled disrespect but what I want to know is what do stalkers get out of initiating everyone in your personal life to join them in violating your boundaries too 🤔 it's giving "if we get the people that she loves to do it then maybe she'll respond differently to the harassment & try to understand how normal it is. Talking to people through stalking is not normal. Being comfortable to target someone through manipulative tactics without feeling shame just shows that you think too highly of yourself or maybe too LOW since you're abusing whatever bit of power you have to cover low self esteem that results in being a stalker. I am mad at myself for ever entertaining these type of people because they've really convinced themselves that everything in my life revolves around their attention. Stalkers even take your negative reactions as a sign of hope for their sick motives. This is not a way of life & it's disgusting asf. No amount of participation would make this behavior accepting & there's no justification wanting someone gangstalked by any & everyone. Being outnumbered is not going to make someone believe they're the crazy one. I would advise anyone who thinks it's "okay" to constantly make me feel uncomfortable in my life to stay tf away from me ✌🏽

[@nopereradicator]

I think sometimes you attract stalkers because of your energy. Some crack gets you higher.

[@truth4utoda]

This was soooooosoooo good. Thank you love! You crush it every time.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're so welcome!

[@transitionsnc]

I haven't watched the video yet, but just wanted to chime in with my experience. In 2002, I went on a date with a woman I met online. She lived in my neighborhood and the date went pretty well. I wasn't interested in her romantically. She started emailing me A LOT. I tried to be nice and told her I wasn't interested. For two years, she stalked me, mostly online. She became obsessed with me after one date. I mostly didn't respond thinking she would eventually get the message. She didn't. This woman was an attorney so finally after two years of stalking, out of frustration, I said I was going to call the NY State Bar association and lodge a complaint. The stalking stopped immediately. I should have done this a lot sooner. I'm telling this story for a few reasons. 1. You need to hit them where it's going to impact them. In this case, when I threatened this woman's livelihood, she stopped. (I realize it's different if you're dealing with someone who is potentially violent.) 2. These people don't see your point of view. It's about them, not you. In my experience, you must be straightforward with people like this. "I am not interested in you." "Don't contact me again." Or you may have to file a restraining order. Do it sooner than later. Let them know you're serious. A lot of times, if you're "nice" or "polite", they will take it as interest. 3. Be aware of who you meet online. Back in the day, I went on many online dates and this woman is the only one who wound up stalking me. Unfortunately, it only takes one. Please be careful when meeting people online. Even if you do research, you (mostly) have no idea what their history is. Even if you meet people face to face, you still only know what they tell you. They could be presenting well, may be a good conversationalist, etc. But they may also have a dark history that they're not going to tell you. Please be aware of this and don't give people the benefit of the doubt. If your gut tells you something is off, trust your gut. 4. Unfortunately, it seems like some people go off the rails quicker these days when they don't get what they want. There seems to be a certain level of entitlement present today because some children are not taught how to handle disappointment and rejection. These people will project their hurt and anger onto you and make it your fault. Please be very careful and get to know people. I am still guilty of being too trusting at times and of giving people the benefit of the doubt even after all I know. Let people into your life gradually, not all at once. All the best to everyone who is dealing with this.

[@darkhorse7460]

Good insight

[@nopereradicator]

A stalker attorney. I’d love to hear your thoughts on Baby Reindeer.

[@Lisaaaaaaq]

Ever since I was young I always attracted weirdos and stalkers everywhere I go. And I don't know how to stop it. As soon as they meet me they are locked into my energy for some reason and they always get pulled in. It's so scary and I don't know if it's because I'm giving some kind of "please take advantage of me vibes" 😢 I hate it sooo much and it has really impacted my life and has prevented me from just living and every day I have to plan which way to walk to and from my house. Humans can be really terrible and evil

[@hopeh1095]

Praying God remove all those who are around you do the wrong reasons. I’m dealing with the same thing sadly, God will have the wicked watch the righteous. They can’t help it until they really repent they can focus on their own lives, most of a stalkers are into their victims lives daily. It’s so weird worrying about someone who could care less about them. They really living inside a prison inside their minds worrying about someone else. It’s a big waste of time, I met many ppl who hated me but daily watched my every move. Also, blame social media caused a lot of ppl to be so stalkish the enemy is using these devices to deceive ppl too. We have to stayed focused on God and Jesus Christ. 🙏❤️

[@bridgettetraveler658]

My family seems to find me no matter where 😅I move. I don't know why or what they want. I wasn't important to them when I was a child or a young adult.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. They may be getting your information from public directories in your location or some online sites that reports where you are. That's frustrating I'm sure.

[@bridgettetraveler658]

@@TherapistTamaraHill yes it is a pain. I thank GOD I'm Blessed & no one can stop GOD!!! They hate seeing me Blessed. They've done everything they can to kick me & keep me down. They're crazy, because they don't think KARMA is real!

[@jayc3141]

Is this a spiritual issue as well?! I think it is, I don't mean to be religious or offend. It seems the more I get close to Christ and have that kind of light the more I get these psychos appear. Sometimes have to raise my voice and tell them to get lost.

[@sofya6553]

I've been binging your stalking vids while playing tetris as my ex has been harassing me and I just wanted to let you know that your voice is so nice to listen to! Really floaty and vibrant. I wonder if you have done hypnosis training. Thanks for the videos

[@ReginaDailey]

You forgot to mention that boomers are also more experienced socially. We have the ability to know when a person is slightly off, based on a lifetime of experience. Also, we're just not interested in having any unnecessary drama in our lives.

[@puddlesplasher7]

Wow... I've had two real stalkers... I had never considered these were related to my trauma... Ok I am writing this comment at the beginning of the video so I am so excited to see what I learn

[@PeeLogan]

Thanks for sharing again. I went to an optometrist in Los Angeles., filled out a form. I could hear them discussing my degree. And my very private business. They requested my phone number 3 times. After giving it to them, I was called 4 times in 1 day . One of their customers left office saying to me. I know your business now. I was presented ugly glasses to choose from and she wrote me a prescription for a condition that I don’t have. Can’t wait to pick it up to report her to the medical board of the State of California. When I left that office. Ppl were following me all over town. The energy in that office was really weird. What makes extremely nosy ppl want to spy on me and hack my phone? This lady took about 2 hours examining my eyes? Why?

[@BlackBeauty872]

Thank you for the information. My Mom stalked my Dad, and in my later years she stalked me. Now, I am currently being stalked by Exhusband. Restraining orders don't help.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! And I'm sorry to hear this. No one wants to believe this is happening to them.

[@mrike5651]

You need protection and watch your back you need to accept Jesus and ask him to help you with this he knows the best medicine.

[@Nat-sj4nn]

Have an old flame who I know is still stalking me from time to time online. Part of it is my fault because I have in the past wanted to get back together with him because I keep thinking he will change with his harmful beliefs, but after going no contact at all I've noticed strange spammy accounts being made in my social media who like everything I post as well as someone may have broken into my email and the address being reported from where he lives. I swear he is still stalking it's just I have to remain vigilant and I beat myself up about wanting to be with him before and thinking he wants a normal healthy relationship.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. I think it's good to refrain from blaming yourself in these kinds of scenarios because these kind of guys tend to be very socially smart which makes it easy for them to reel in whoever they want. They are "skilled" at being sneaky. Thankfully, as it seems to be now, you are able to see him for who he really is.

[@Affirmsoul]

I also moved to get away because I was attacked and it changed my whole life. lost two relatives when I moved. I attribute it all to evilness and I still feel I am vulnerable at times. Also I worry about enmeshed abuse which stalkers may hide behind other things.

[@amandajohnson-williams7718]

Ive had a family stalker most of my life, im 60 now. Shes a much older sister who was very jealous that my mother tended to favour me, as the baby of the family. She has an ingrained hatred of life. Ive had to remain estranged from her most of my adult life for my own wellbeing. Trying to keep my address and phone numbers unavailable to her has been a very deliberate goal. She is very TOXIC and dangerous for me! Uughh!

[@ilenhalogram]

Thanks for covering this!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

Thank you for giving information about stalking. You gave some really good information. I had no idea that your attachment style can possibly attract stalkers. Quite honestly, it does make sense. If someone didn't grow up with too much love and attention, yes, I think they will look for someone that can give them those things. Sometimes they may overlook other things just to get that love and attention. Which can be very dangerous. The videos I have seen of yours are very educational. I like how frank you are at times too. Hmm. Basically what I have been learning, many people are suffering because of lack of love. I had no idea how damaging that can be. Thank you again.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! And thank you for that nice feedback. Helps me stay the course for future videos. :)

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

@@TherapistTamaraHill You truly are a winner :)

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

❤🤗My gratitude. Thank you

[@Mothermochi]

I was never able to get a restraining order. Luckily after 8years he finally stopped. It started when I was 13. My toxic family didn’t believe me lol the stalker was clever enough to always be where I was but never draw attention to himself. So when I told people who he was and they saw him he just looked like a guy minding his business. My first gaslighting lol When I first called the police when I was in college, police told me they can’t do anything unless he did something more that contact everyone in my social circle to find out my whereabouts

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This is the most frustrating. I feel your pain. I'm sorry you had to go through this. But am very glad he finally stopped. Very unstable man I'm sure. What people fail to realize is that stalkers aren't always "mean" and "cold" or looking dangerous. Sometimes they come looking innocent and unassuming. Most stalkers know society would never suspect them which is how they get away with the behavior for many years.

[@darkhorse7460]

They usually resurface after periods of dormancy.

[@hugmc]

Terrible too experience that a such a young age ❤

[@M-gd6ow]

I was an almost foster, teenage caregiver kid when I went off to college & I had had my boundaries broken down sometimes in positive ways in that i learned to rely on others’ kindness. My stalker clocked me right away as an easy target.

[@BombshellElf]

You're very likeable and cute! Thank you for speaking about this topic. There's not alot of depth about it but you took it there! I learned a lot about myself and methods to avoid detection in the future. Thank you!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much!😊 Glad this was helpful to you!

[@BombshellElf]

Much love and peace be with you. 😃👍

[@a.8774]

I had a new Facebook friend stalk me and I always felt weird about her. She was soooo strange and I winded up blocking her after a couple of years

[@Classybrown27]

Yes I do! Can’t wait to see what information I get from this footage…

[@iconicintuitive]

This is such wonderful information. Im being gangstalked and it's been 3 years now. I've been through it all and they've hurt my beautiful little business and harm me physically on a daily basis. Ive also had a lot of religious hate towards me because im in the field of metaphysics and healing arts

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry. 😔 I hope you are able to talk to someone about this.

[@pyarkaaloo]

Me too! I’m being gang stalked as well by wealthy, prominent members of society, medical professionals & all their flying monkeys…several years now

[@ecohumanism]

I've never been a victim of stalking, maybe because I don't like social media and haven't met enough people in my life. But there was an instance when I was sending messages to a person like once a day or two when she was not responding after sending to me the message instead of the other guy, and it can be called stalking or harassment, because when someone is unusually silent - it's enough to say that they maybe don't want any messages from you, though I wasn't collecting pictures, nor sending accusations or inappropriate messages, and restricted my interactions. It's thanks to that last devaluation and followed stuff I had to re-evaluate my views and searched nice enough to find out about cluster B disorders. I am quite unhappy with me harrassing and asking for forgiveness and explanations. If stalker is like me, it would be enough to say "Sorry, I don't like you, don't contact me anymore", throwing accusations instead would be a bad thing. I can't seriously consider myself a real stalker, because I greatly dislike the idea of what they're doing, and stalking doesn't look anything like a meaningful connection. Being persistently followed by someone who doesn't want to understand that their actions are unpleasant is icky

[@kalekidanwoldesenbet8199]

Thank you for providing this important information. I wish I had known this information a long time ago .

[@memoona853]

Came here after realizing my family's a stalker and now I attract men that are obsessive and stalkers

[@cesarg.5456]

Im 45 and had a stalker for two years constantly saying things about me to other people trying to make me look bad and convinces peopople to think the same. i moved and my luck she followed me and same thing went on that i had to seperate from my partner because we couldnt live in peace. The sad part is noone believes me.

[@Homelessfrienduk]

I’m going through this, I cannot understand what’s being said but it seems the culprit who is wealthy and somewhat powerful has convinced people I’m a thief & also not to let me out of their site. I was staying in a budget hotel for a few weeks and he paid one of his (male) flying monkeys to stay in the same hotel. The man kept trying my door, and attempting to unlock the door then would knock on my door. I felt very unsafe. Obviously I can’t tell anyone because who on this earth is going to believe a wealthy and powerful person would become fixated and torment a broke single woman who doesn’t even have a stable home?

[@taraarrington2285]

I know my stalker's are trying to manipulate and exploit me I just don't know why

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry. 😔

[@bonnywhite8205]

Thank you Tamara so much! 🙏 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Welcome! It is my pleasure.🤗

[@mon0021]

Can a teenager or under teen be stalker? I have been facing this and that kid doesn't even have clear reason to decline that he is not following me. I feel ridiculous! I am over 22

[@NarcRenegade]

Search your name, city states you’ve lived, regularly online, you can opt out of websites having your information and they have to remove it

[@Gilligan-buster98]

Ive noticed for about 2 months now my wifes family at work has been stalking me at work i mean follow me everywhere the freak out looking for me when they cant see me… everytime i do something they follow me…. Gives me alot of anxiety and unsafe feelings like im gonna have to be in flight or fight mode… im starting to be depressed and scared by it but im also knowledgeable of whats going on an i ignore it so eventually they will stop and see im not bothered by it

[@havefaithtarot]

Ugh, stalkers. I have a couple of those.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😳😳

[@kikimauharuyumi]

I wish I had this channel in my fed when I was in the thick of things…do you offer private counseling?

[@ImjustsayinDetroit]

Love your content btw

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

thanks so much!!

[@vanessar2165]

Hi I’m desperately looking for help w this situation, I am estranged from family, single mom of one girl, I have family trauma and this person knows my past. This person stalked me to my place of congregation. He is charming people in church, I’m afraid he might be victimizing himself around brothers n sisters in church bc I don’t greet him. And the excuse might be “ she is my family, I knows her since she was little “ . I live estranged from that side of extended family, they are not blood relatives at all. This started at my brothers funeral, he kept following me around and being persistent even though I “ see” that he knows I keep to myself. He asked me questions with information that he already knew about my marital / divorce, asked me where I go to church, ect… where do I live, ect. I kept giving him lies w short answers , after this about months later he shows up on facebook around 5 days in a row…

[@ashleykathryn9038]

How do they pay their bills?

[@Classybrown27]

Aha ok so my problem is I think people are kind hearted good spirited people like myself then boom I’m being stalked when everyone isn’t functioning like a emotionally competent individual they hide the extreme traits of their mental illness

[@truth4utoda]

What is an incompetent stalker? I feel like you mentioned this 🤔

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

A stalker who doesn't have the skills or capabilities to "hide" their behavior. They often get caught or someone catches them in the act. They aren't intelligent with their behavior at all. The police ends up catching them and charging them. Most incompetent stalkers are juveniles, mentally unstable, marries men or women, or struggling with some kind of intellectual disability or autism spectrum disorder.

[@SageSuede]

Thank you, I am subscribing to understand their behavior and protect myself. Can you give us advice on how to get them away from us without a broom? lol

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This is a 2024 subject for sure! In the meantime, this may be helpful kzbin.info-jKbqzlTGF4?si=mzUDLs4w3BVrm0kr.

[@SD-rm5ty]

I'm an autistic woman and it takes me a while at times to pick up on subtle cues but I started picking up on the comments my son's teacher would make, initially I thought he was interested in me as in attracted but then our interactions turned passive aggressive and he commented about driving down the street over from the street Iive on and other comments and now I see him for who he really is and something is very off about him. 😳 Doesn't matter at this point with our current state of affairs I'm leaving the country. 😂😂 I know he's probably reading this so bye b**** ✌️

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

LOVE 🙏 🙏 🙏

[@staypositive333-beu]

I’m apart of this stalking and I’m not making out alive. I got people dead set on bringing my life to an end and making it as miserable and unbearable as possible. I hope things change for the world. Listen to this wonderful woman. She is very right. Also check out Steven oh Beckmann as well. I feel that these topics are all a crossed American and happens to people all too often. It is a synchronized system.

[@ktpeters4827]

Thank you.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!

[@makaylahollywood3677]

Your sweater is so cute.

[@Seatonni]

Right it’s a cute design 🌅

[@joycetome8454]

True

[@Gilligan-buster98]

My wife just hates me so much and all i am is positive and pray for her my son she has and her family to be protected from evil….. its sad…. 😔

[@nopereradicator]

You could be unalive by the time the court decides to act.

[@IreneStamelos-m2s]

I’m. Checking later to see if the homeless guy is down there when I leave my class bring that cross back I want to se it I took a picture lots this morning

[@trrhyn]

I felt like I didn't get my first stalker until I was about 29, I also just had my first child at that time but since then I feel I've attracted 3 in 4 years..... I wonder why that is... Did I seem more vulnerable or... I dunno...

[@i80748]

I think there is more healing that needs to be done. I was stalked many times The latest has been a neighbour. He then told lies which got other men in the neighborhood to stalk me. All while I was going through a lot of pain from almost losing my brother. I've noticed when I'm not happy where I am, I tend to attract them more. Unhappy at work or feeling unsafe in my neighborhood or feeling uncomfortable living next to a serious criminal ,not happy in my relationship, being alone etc. I think these kinds of emotions attract them. I think it helps to be real with yourself, and really feel your feelings your emotions your intuition. They are warning you the person or environment around you makes your life harder not healthier. Run

[@nopereradicator]

Tell that definition to the courts. They don’t take us seriously.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's true. The sad reality is that the courts have a completely different way they understanding stalking. The legal definition is often hard for most victims to digest.

[@xse-qb2vv]

I attract aggressive male stalkers, always combative and always violent random males. Im 45 going 46 and I've had males stalk me in the last like 10 years, and a a few disordered females. It's very strange, I don't like it, sometimes I carry weapons..had a guy jam me up walking in the snow to the store last night, pulled over in a car several times stopping, i was trying to figure out if it wS maybe someone i know...he yelled something like "I'll be right back!" I was just going to get corndogs, cigs and soda. I've aready had a few altercations and a ton of almosts...threats, harrassmment, even some of them through connections in the Court or Law Enforcement have been protected, ( cases dismissed in Court, L E.0.'s putting me under investigation, when I was jumped at my old apt., they said i was the aggressor..lol. ) Good thing im an Aries with thick skin that dont like being bullied by wierdos or police.

[@xse-qb2vv]

Srry i havent been tuning in, you are so intelligent. Excellent material to learn.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! Glad when you do, even when you don't! We all have busy lives, unfortunately.

[@xse-qb2vv]

@@TherapistTamaraHill jay hannibal is my alt. Just letting you know.

[@bridgetwebb4619]

Hi! Thank you for pointing out the Cognitive Stalker. Can you touch on how they can somehow tap into the person they are stalking cellphone, please? How can a person prevent them from doing this?

[@bridgetwebb4619]

Thank you for addressing the camera in the home. How do you handle when someone has a camera in their home and has been recording you and your conversation without telling you? You didn't speak on what to do about it. I have lived and worked in a home that is used as a business (if the business is still in operation) that had a notice in the living room informing people that they were on camera or being recorded. I'm not an Attorney, in my personal research of privacy, cameras, privacy in a home, there is a reasonable expectation of privacy. Recording someone in your home without their consent or knowledge is not cool. The person who looked up and saw the camera thought they were having a private personal conversation with the person in whose home they were in.

[@JoshuaAnzalone-zk5ht]

They are completely sick people and they dont dominate or control me. Plus they are not above me at all. I just think its absolutely disgusting and sick and i know that its also if i continue to harass him, he will cave. No thats only making me want her and them away that much more and im not scared of any of them.

[@MaePower-fl9fu]

So my stalkerare from a place my child and several others were asulted. Cops military and several people from that place. A lot of sexual harassment . The cops say they can't do anything ot was a long time ago. Theae therapist want to medicad you instead of keeping them away. Also my kids dads mother who encouraged his abuse. The family of the lady that asulted my son also. I'm about to lose it. They keep me from employment also.

[@constancelouise6616]

This creep is incompetent and a little boy so he gets people's sympathy. Not just society's sexism, but I get blamed. Sexist people legally involved think he's too incompetent to harm me, when he uses tech to harm me all the time. Women even, here, are misogynists, unlike other areas of the state. Anyways, while I've been watching you, he's outside swearing. Someone really needs to break the ice as it's been going on for 18 years. We have to go by the law.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's so disturbing to say the least. I'm sorry. He will most likely eventually be seen. These kind of stalkers are immature and unable to track their steps sometimes.

[@TheRealDragonSwan]

I have tried to watch you several times- I need help. I’m autistic, so there is so much accolades being thrown around other than talking to us about stalking. I have a therapist telling me I’m not safe. Not only being stalked by someone that I don’t know and I don’t understand it, but trying to tell me my husband is stalking me. How goes that make sense?

[@stephaniemillsaps3626]

LOVE 🤔😩😢

[@Jeanninecomeau]

Can these people also have a normal romantic relationship?

[@GeorgWilde]

Does the stalker deserve help from a mental health professional or whomever they confess to?

[@sarak6083]

Women stalk women as well

[@laleezy77]

So life lock alerts you when someone views you social media??

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Life Lock now has a partnership with Norton which is an antivirus software. Both of these programs can guard you against intruders.

[@whanderlust03]

Is it considered stalking if someone sometimes randomly checks their old friends' socials?

[@jennymucha5059]

How can I find out if they got into my phone?

[@staypositive333-beu]

It*

[@taraarrington2285]

My stalkers are bold

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

And foolish. Anyone who is a stalker should know there is an end at some point for them. Every single time they stalk, they are creating a trail that will eventually lead back to them.

[@s.u.l4043]

Thank you for your knowledge. Can you please get a hold of me. I'd like to see you as a patient.

[@Hpe4ch]

Apparently lifelock had a data breach in 2022

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Wow. Didn't hear about that one. I will look into this.

[@hugmc]

Are world has gotten so toxic ❤

[@939449]

This is a problem in the workplace as well. I had a few creepy online profile stalkers from a job who pretended to be women to gain my trust. I started to defriend the suspicious profiles and left that company.

[@leelee459]

im convinced my supervisor is stalking me and getting other people in the office to do it as well

[@MorgansBeauty22]

@@leelee459trust your gut and find a new job❤ you can’t work in a place like that