Why you don't need to push when giving birth | Down Breathing | The Positive Birth Company

[@dawnnelson7876]

With my second I didn't push at all. I just focused on my breathing and my body just did it. I felt her pushing with her feet inside of me too. So I put my hands on the top of my bump so she had something firmer to push off of. I didn't even know that was a thing until it happened.

[@helenjoyce5900]

I assume you had no pain relief? Did u do a hypno birthing course?

[@adelefarmer629]

That's incredible 🥰

[@julianabradford7081]

That’s adorable. Gave her your hands so she could push off 🥺💓

[@Jenkittypaw]

You didn’t have a doctor telling you to push as hard as possible? I worry about that

[@Stop_Infanticide]

@@Jenkittypaw It's really important to have an OBGYN you TRUST prior to giving birth. I had a phenomenal ob but the day I had my (unplanned) c-section he was out sick so I got a totally different dr... they make and break the experience for SURE. However, even with everything changing last minute, my husband was all hands on deck, and his involvement meant everything went as smooth as possible given the scenario. So, interview as many OBs as you need, I went through 2 before finding 1 I was comfortable with! Then make sure you share your birth plan with EVERYONE. I mean the labor and delivery nurses, the OB, the anesthesia team, the charge nurse (pretty important one), and the neonatal specialist. If they haven't read it, fire them. I'm dead serious. Everyone needs to be on board!

[@alexiamosher9178]

Finally a breathing technique i can understand, follow and practice!

[@bobdobbs4224]

I did the zoom classes, read the book & listened to the guided meditations a million times & didn't really understand how to down breath until I just watched your video now, in the nick of time because I'm due in a couple days. THANK YOU!

[@eziremavhia8373]

Wow can’t explain how I felt after my delivery. It was a beautiful feeling and experience working together with my baby. I finally got this!

[@l.g4820]

Example breathing is at 2:37

[@AntoinetteD]

I'm about to have my third positive birth in a few short weeks. Watching your up and down videos helped tremendously with baby #2 and I expect it to work this time to help me manage pain and avoid pushing. May 7 Edit: had my third positive birth on 3/12 and I did not push. I did scream though. Three screams and she was here lol

[@lalapaige94]

If you don’t mind me asking, why did you scream? I’m first time pregnant, due in October and I’ve seen a few comments like this but no one says why 🤔 I’m assuming pain?

[@kaseyhouanhou7212]

Did you end up tearing?

[@YzobellaRozencrantz]

@@lalapaige94 I’m due this month with my third. Giving birth is very intense, and you become extremely primal. Screaming or low moaning (literally like a lowing cow) is very common. The noise helps relieve some of the intensity, and at least in my experience it’s involuntary! At first I was freaked out when I watched natural birth videos because of the noises the women were making, but after birthing my first I realized that it’s actually a really powerful outlet to harness and that the noise is not scary, it’s just reflecting how intense birth is. Congrats on your pregnancy! Best wishes for you and your new family.

[@smithn.wesson495]

This video is so well done and spot on! So many people don't realize that it is completely possible and normal for a woman to give birth with very little to no pushing at all. Being in the right birthing position and breathing is 95% of the battle.

[@meahdahlgren6537]

Will its not aways the cause

[@Lily-uv9uu]

@@meahdahlgren6537I think babies are usually just going to come out when it’s time. Women can give birth in a coma

[@LucieMartinsdottir]

I am here again after 2 years. I had my amazing hypbobirth with my second after quite horrible first birth. I cannot wait to give birth for the 3rd time. Thank you for what you're doing

[@alexisvers4173]

Same here, back after 2 years for a refresher course.

[@zoedixon9871]

What a lovely presenter you are! Your smile is so lovely and your positivity is absolutely infectious!

[@irinagrimble387]

Im currently reading your book. Practical ways to make your birth better and its blowing my mind!! Im un learning everything I thought I knew about giving birth! Ive just had my first try in the loo of deep breathing and it worked!!! I didn’t have to push at all! Mind blowing!! Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!! This will be my first baby and although I know there will be things that could happen out of my control,this is already helping me lots to feel calmer and more relaxed about it all! Many thanks!!!

[@madbahamut]

I'm grappling with trying really hard to keep my focus and keep calm during labour this time around. I'm only 23 weeks, but I'm trying to prepare myself for the moment...because my Mum died 7 months ago and she won't be here this time around. I'm worried I'll be a mess during labour and screw up my focus or breathing with grief..Mum was CRUCIAL for me last time. I never wanted anyone else there with me aside from my husband and my mum. Mum was, once again, crucial when my daughter was born and she had severe colic...screaming 6 hours a day every single day until she turned purple and choked on her puke :( I'm going to be seeing a psychologist next month, provided by the hospital, and really hoping she can help me prepare for the obvious emotions I will surely feel during the entire thing. I know Mum will be there with me in spirit. I just miss her smile. Her laugh. He crude humour lol. She and I were so close. I just can't imagine Rory [our son I am currently pregnant with] not meeting her and loving her just as much as his sister did. I will prepare for a natural labour, I will succeed. I just have concerns lol

[@Annisa_Kacang]

I’m sorry for your loss and having to go through this with out your Mom physically there. This will be your second so your body will know what to do if you let it. I just gave birth to my second just 4 days ago. I don’t have the relationship with my Mom as you do but this time around we had no one except my husband and 2 year old daughter. At the last few min the doula and midwife as he was born. I think seeing a psychologist is a really good idea before and continuing after. What helped me was actually pretending to have my future self from Nov write a letter to my past self in August. It said how not to worry because labor came with no complications. I also practiced Hypnobirthing, visualizations, focus on relaxing, maybe take a happy moment with your mom and go back to that during labor to relax and let the body do its job. Even having quotes your Mom would say around you. Not to push her out of your mind but bring her in during such a time that you need her. Practice your breath work for all stages of labor. Sending you hugs 😢

[@madbahamut]

@@Annisa_Kacang Thank you SO much for such a beautiful, helpful response. Actually, I am making a visualization board and one of the major things I wanted on there was a picture of mom and some of her quotes like, "You can do hard things.", "Be Not Afraid" [This, she wrote on paper for me before she died], and "Where there's a will, there's a way". She was so determined and NOTHING stopped her. She had horrid anxiety and refused to let that stop her do anything she wanted to do--and I will be taking that powerful determination with me

[@hip2bnienke]

@@madbahamut your mom will be with you every step of the way and she will give you her strength. I had a same connection with my mom during birth and l understand how you feel. It’s a great idea to have her affirmations with you. She is looking after you and watches over your baby boy and girl. Feel empowered, you can do this.

[@EmmaJamabatgerel]

Yes you will! You are great!!

[@sophieh6348]

I was told off by a midwife for 'breathing away the contraction' and coached to push holding my breath. My body definitely wasn't at the point of pushing on it's own. Me and baby had coped so well with labour that I still don't understand why I was (or felt) forced to do it. She came out very quickly and it left me in a lot of pain for months. I wasn't prepared to stand my ground and just did what the medical person said, and I'm still so angry about it 2 years later. :(

[@Markayla17]

My dr told me the same thing to hold my breath to push and I almost passed out so they had to give me oxygen. I practiced my breathing and everything. Holding your breath doesn’t make sense to me.

[@wildharmony33]

Wow I have never heard this. Instead when I've attended births along side the local midwives they constantly remind mamas to breath. Especially during the pushing phase.

[@Dinitrate]

Thank you for sharing your experience and I'm sorry that you were forced to go through that. Im 3 days away and now I know that I am going to stand my ground and birth the way I feel my body should. We should have that right. >:[

[@aggieaggie9747]

Woman thank you so much for this video 🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@nicoleharber-ue9ko]

You’re the best Siobhan!

[@bewellwithdanyel938]

Wonderful info and demos. Thanks!!! 🙏🏽🎉💜

[@Pathrissia]

Best explanation of down breathing

[@eyebutterfly]

Love this thank you!

[@TheAmateurMama]

I'm a little confused, I thought you were meant to breath out through the nose as well? In the original hypnobirthing book it says to breath in and out through the nose, while breathing down, and down the back of your throat

[@dmsmiles4044]

Question: if the midwife says stop pushing (i know that we are not pushing) but sometimes the midwife will want you to stop as they are trying to stop you from tearing. I had this whenbi was in the pushing stage of my 3rd birth. I didnt know how to 'stop' from this breathing technique to slow my body down. Do you have a video on this? (i am now 35 weeks with my 4th!)

[@GenerationYoga]

👍🏻 thanks!

[@rebeccaw8820]

Alrighty so I gave birth three times already and am due for another in 3 months. My first three were all natural and one even at home, no pain meds, nothing. I intuitively trust this process 100% as completely natural and with all my labors I simply just chill, but with some screaming. But I chill meaning I never pushed. Only time I pushed was when the head was at the opening of my privates, but never before then. Now I just learned of hypnobirthing yesterday for my first time ever and am starting my research well really with you. Thinking back on my labors I don’t know if I can identify when I would be up breathing and when the switch for down breathing would occur. So that’s my question is how do I know to up breath or down breath? Other than up breathing is in the beginning of labor through contractions and down breathing toward the end, but I can’t think of when exactly I would have switched in my previous deliveries. I’m probably intuitively doing this technique a little but I did scream quite a lot with all three but I never pushed. Also I see a video of yours about gravity helping and I’m thinking to plan a water birth because I have round ligament pain in my stomach this time. I never had belly pain before but I do now and I intuitively thought the water would help relieve my weight gain and help prevent stomach pain or worse a pulled stomach muscle or strained muscle. It hurts to laugh to hard or cough or sit from laying so I’m a little concerned that I’ll strain my belly during labor. Is hypnobirthing ok in a water birth or better for no water birth?

[@danielae7056]

I had the same experience in my labour, I was very chilled but with screaming during contractions. But that scream was just natural it wasn’t actually something I could control. I didn’t even try to! I did the course and it helped me so much!

[@amy-aceping4224]

Great video - thank you!!

[@honeybee9758]

Can this be used to help induce labor naturally at home before going to the hospital ? I’m full term. Thank you!

[@alanaaragao2039]

Should I try to make the escalation as long as possible?

[@Shubh7]

Would you still feel the urge if you have an epidural?

[@DReed1945]

You can. Not as strong but you can feel the urge to push sometimes.

[@kreads]

@@DReed1945 Thanks you are right! I most definitely felt the urge especially when the baby was coming down even after taking the epidural and was able to push the baby out without much tearing.

[@dawnnelson7876]

I didn't when I had an epidural but that was over 15 years ago. I've been told now they have adjusted it so you can feel more.

[@michelletagle9296]

So I dont push at all ? I’m confused ?

[@kalynkingbabikyan8412]

Not really. Not like you see on TV. Your body pushes naturally. The sensation is WILD. If you're paying attention to those sensations, you'll feel your body just start to push on its own. That's when you'll do this down breathing.

[@Annisa_Kacang]

Try pooping without pushing. I’m doing that as practice right now.

[@thepositivebirthcompany]

You work with your body, which will naturally begin to push when it is ready. You don't need to push and strain like you see on TV ☺

[@madbahamut]

Honestly, get a stool to put in your bathroom and prop yourself into a squatting position whenever you go poo. You'll see exactly what she means! Your body really does the pushing, you don't have to try--it just comes out. Which is why a lot of practitioners suggest having a stool if you get frequent constipation OR/AND have hemorrhoids. I have had hemorrhoids since I was 17 :\ [they're hereditary] so, I've used this method for a long time and they've reduced how often I get flares *significantly* !!!

[@Annisa_Kacang]

@@madbahamut squatting toilets are also very common in parts of Asian and among our ancestors

[@Bbygirl2829]

Hey, when i gave birth a managed to get the baby;s head half way out but i felt like my vagina was too small so they asked if they could do an episiotamy and it ruined me. The cut went up to my cliterus and down to my bum it was awful. But i feel like if i took bit more time i could have gotten the baby out, i felt rushed cuz the midwife was saying if you dont push we’ll take u to do a c section. I had so much pressure like they knew what was happening better than me. I dont know how to feel with second baby now, hopefully vagina isnt as tight and baby will just slip out. Im worried if they’ll force me to do another episiotomy again. I hate that pressure thinking baby isn’t well.

[@cassidy0284]

I was forced to do episiotomy too, I was also told you have 2 mins to finish birthing, otherwise we will use forceps, 🙄, felt forced to labour and leave the room, worse than check out deadline in a hotel 🙄

[@Milena-hy6eg]

Unless there is absolutely no progress, or the baby is in danger, they don't have the right to force you to do that! (Or anything)

[@Ayverie4]

GET A DIFFERENT CARE PROVIDER. There is no reason in the universe you should be fearing this ahead of time. Every mama should do her due diligence well before the birth, and make sure your care provider supports you. I would rather give birth at home alone than deal with that extra stress and feeling like you need to defend yourself.

[@aliaman5058]

I tried this when giving birth a few days ago and it didn't help at all. I practiced this for a good few months running up to my due date but it didn't help. Maybe it works for some and not everyone.

[@flowergirl3728]

Were you nervous internally? What was the reason for it not working pls?

[@Milena-hy6eg]

It didn't work for me as well, but maybe because the contractions to push my baby out weren't strong enough. I tried just to breath down wards, and then they asked me what was holding me back 🤣 I couldn't explain at that point but later I thought, I was trying just to breath and let my body do the work but that wasn't happening😅

[@balance7350]

Yes this is what happened to me. I practiced downbreathing on the toliet and it helped me 💩