why you're a simp(you're not a nice guy)

Why Nice Guys Finish Last: Sadia Khan's Psychological Explanation
In this video, we dive into Sadia Khan's compelling analysis of why "nice guys finish last." 📉 According to Khan, the issue stems from childhood attachment and perception dynamics that shape how men view women. 🚼👨‍👩‍👦
Khan argues that men who were overly attached to their mothers during childhood often see their mothers as infallible and their fathers as perpetual perpetrators. This perspective leads them to idealize women, viewing them as unquestionable victims rather than individuals responsible for their choices. 🌸👩‍👦
This mindset causes "nice guys" to uncritically accept what women tell them, making them susceptible to deception and naivety. They believe women are perpetual victims of circumstances, which results in unbalanced relationships where the men's needs and perspectives are secondary. 😔💔
In contrast, men with a healthy attachment to both parents see women as individuals capable of making their own decisions. This balanced view enables them to form healthier relationships based on mutual respect and accountability. 💪🤝 These men are more discerning in their choice of partners, seeking women who demonstrate sound judgment and decision-making capabilities. 🧠👩‍⚖️
Khan's analysis challenges the notion that "nice guys" finish last simply because they are kind. Instead, it suggests that their uncritical, idealized view of women hinders their relational success. By recognizing women as complex individuals with agency, men can cultivate healthier perspectives and relationships, leading to more stable and satisfying partnerships. This shift is crucial for forming genuine, equitable relationships where both partners are appreciated and respected. ❤️✨
Join us as we explore this insightful perspective and discuss how men can develop healthier views of relationships to find lasting happiness. Don't forget to like, comment, and subscribe for more thought-provoking content! 👍💬🔔
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[@bululue1011]

if you think someone is naive but not nice, maybe he/she is kind. i hate this kind of manipulation.

[@dailydoselaughter2686]

I understand how you've got it. And that's normal. But try listening again and again and get the perspective she's speaking from. Listen to the first statements well then continue. She's on to something.

[@MadisonChloeLoves]

Thanks. You're a star🌟. Nice and naive are not the same. These are some of the things I use to struggle with. Letting everyone walk all over you is not being nice to anybody. Thanks

[@DibbzTV]

Pretty good, but I think this is an oversimplification of attachment and doesn't put enough responsibility on the woman's part. Maybe woman need to be better with communication of what they need out of a guy. This has "the guy should already know what she's thinking" vibes which is wrong

[@MadisonChloeLoves]

I understand what you're saying 😌. Thanks for sharing 👍

[@xXstevilleXx]

Americans... I have this but say so again, I am a man with principles, moral standards, integrity. I know myself, I have self-respect not ego, self-confidence, self-esteem. I do not lack conviction, I take responsibility, I have four degrees (Behavioral Science, Philosophy, Computing and a Master's in Robotics), been doing martial arts for 27 years, so discipline, service and duty to others is important to me. I do everything I do with purpose, I don't complain, I don't tolerate disrespect... testing me as some do I will say 'no/enough/stop' in a way that firmly states if you persist something bad WILL happen with 100% certainty... women pick up on this, they know what to expect should I approach them what to expect when I speak. Don't conflate being nice with weak, I am nice, I don't finish last (in fact this concept makes no sense to me). Weak? I don't think so, be it quality of character or physical, that is false. Failure/rejection to me is nothing but an opportunity to succeed, if I fail countless times I will succeed. I will say thus, when I seek a relationship, I seek a woman who have real feminine traits, since I will give my 100% in terms of support, respect and protection insofar as family by extension is concerned. I don't oppress, I promote and support whatsoever her ambitions are. I don't follow trends, I don't care for labels. If I spent the time to be the best version of myself, I expect the same. I have no interest in short term relationships, I do long term only. Women who have had say 30 'relationships' when she is 30+ is not worthy of me. Because of my various areas of education, manipulation, misandry and deception have not and will not work... I takes 5 seconds for a woman to determine their initial interest, non-verbal communication which makes up for ~80% of human communication, tonality, inflection, another ~10% (which is why working on having a more regal tone, how not what is important). These are words, meaningless online, but again, deception I detest, so no, I am what I say, do as I say and say as I do. Men, work on these qualities, learn to endure failure understanding that nothing WORTH having is easy. My opinion based on who I am, and a short exposition on a much broader dissertation, I am not American but I see what is going on and mark my words, given the data on relationships in the USA an the outcome (predicated on the aggregate over time) if you don't address this issue properly expect an existential crisis. I know how the majority of men are being treated and you will need to address this, avoidant behavior will not work. Women who invert feminism with ridiculous expectations and who promote misandry, mark my words, when men en masse start to immigrate remember what is given can be taken and do you think your Govt will not take action? Think carefully about these matters.

[@nguvulumakayi9377]

Not true. Girls told me to be nice to girls. My mom beat me a lot. Dad was good.😂😂😂😂

[@MadisonChloeLoves]

Thafor sharing. Sorry for what happened

[@Christ-is-1st]

Ya. My ex is. Well idk what shes doing but she tries to get me to work hard to see her. Or chase her. Although shes seeing someone or many men. And tries to convince me otherwise. However i never throw anything in her face. And thank her for any half ass attempt to get me to want to see her. But i already know shes just playing a game. So i thank het. And tell her have a great day.

[@jimmysweat2200]

Spoken by a ambush predator

[@dailydoselaughter2686]

I wish you could take your time to really understand what she means

[@MadisonChloeLoves]

Thanks for understanding. It can be painful to hear an opinion that contradicts our own. Learning is painful 😒

[@pr00009]

@@MadisonChloeLoves it sure is painful. and you are right. what she said is just her opinion. and it isnt real. and it completely ignores the women mistaking assholes for strong guys. ooo not to mention the greatest excuse in history. women like a guy with money because it represents his capability to nurture and provide for kids. biggest excuse i have ever heard for human greed and it is fucking pedestalized as "biological fact"

[@itsamess3216]

I think there is a lot of truth in this, talking about my own roots and experience. It is indeed not the nice guy, it’s the naïve guy. I’m both and you don’t want to know what prize I’ve paid and I just realize it a few years, currently being 59 😢.