Why You’re Getting Mixed Messages

[@iamnatassja]

We ignore our intuition because we no longer have to use it to survive as humans, but the sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you choose to ignore is always your answer. Struggling for mutual buy-in in ANY situation is your instinctive cue to walk away.

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

This is the case over 95% of the time; I agree.

[@TaxEvasi0n]

Mixed signals? Move on.

[@randomnameindeed]

Agreed. I have no time for women's irrationalities and drama. Either she likes me or she doesn't, if she gives mixed messages she's out.

[@kevinkeating9076]

Been there ...........sooner or later you have to give her an ultimatum ..........she either goes to a relationship with you or you cut the ties .............dont waste your life . Friendzone is worthless.

[@frankl7370]

A woman makes it very, very easy for you if she’s genuinely interested.

[@Systemlord30]

It's obvious you haven't dated many women. This is completely untrue, some woman use the hard to get tactic, distant and cold routine to weed out weak, needy men only looking for a quick hook-ups and are looking for a man that has patience. I typically pull back and focus on myself if a woman starts playing hard to get, flaking on me because that shows I have the power, which is exactly what a many women are looking for in a man. The last thing women want to is have all the power in the relationship.

[@frankl7370]

@@Systemlord30 Don’t make assumptions, you know nothing about me, other than one comment. This makes you look like an immature person, far from being stoic or patient as you profess to be. Sure, some women do play games. They do it for many reasons. The reasons you’ve listed above, but some, also, do it for attention and their own gratification. Avoid women who make you run around in circles or play games, it’s not about being weak or strong. It’s about having boundaries, self respect, and peace in your life. This advice is not for you obviously, but it’s for anyone else who is reading who’s potentially confused.

[@gsmith12345]

@@frankl7370most women give you shit tests as a reaction to your interest and they don’t do it on purpose.

[@RevealedFilms]

Shit tests exist for a reason. They only overly test the guys they aren’t that interested in but all men will get tested

[@smitty5431]

Tripp, how do you do it?!?! Every time I have a question about girls, you put up a video or a podcast that DIRECTLY answers my question!! Thank you for all you do!!!

[@SlipcasedCoffee]

The FBI is listening to you and Tripp has contacts 👀

[@TheShadowFireYoshi]

So she isn't interested, i have to move on. Thank you for all these videos tripp.

[@celticgibson]

If it's not a F*ck YES! Then it's a NO...

[@morm2173]

With men we are attracted to appearance generally. With women it's way more complex and different women are attracted to different things but that smooth confidence and being interesting and theres so many more variables

[@lolfirepoisonftl]

I can't remember where I read this but there are universal traits and characteristics that all women are attracted to such as confidence, being assertive, high status etc. Then like you said, there are different things that women prefer in a man depending on how she was raised, past relationships etc.Some women might value religion or culture more than others etc. It's complex like you said and you won't know until you get to know her better.

[@davorebo5790]

Women = $$$

[@ziggypop79]

Bullshit women always go off looks first

[@morm2173]

@@ziggypop79 not necessarily you can look good but if your game isn't there with the hottest girls your done

[@bodhitreesocial]

I think human psychology is more complex than this more black and white perspective as often times we can be very interested in someone yet have psychological barriers/feats that prevent us from being honest and upfront with them so we send “mixed messages.”

[@seannoithat9999]

right, it’s more complex. There are many black and white cases, but complicated cases exist, too

[@greatgyatso5429]

Okay, accepting that: Why do you want someone who isn’t excited to interact with you? If someone is sending mixed signals, at best, they just aren’t feeling it- even though you likely look good on paper. At worst, it means you are being used for validation, attention, to make someone else jealous, or as an orbiter. Someone who sends you mixed signals is someone to avoid either because they aren’t interested, have ill intent, or they have some sort of trauma/baggage they aren’t aware of or refuse to work on.

[@jamescoffman8096]

What about the workplace? Pretty risky.

[@ryanbarker3978]

Where this gets really dangerous isn't when it occurs during the initial interaction, it's when you walk away. Women who realize they've lost your attention will generally pull moves like this to try to make you chase them. That is always a trap and can be especially difficult in friendzone situations but going back is never worth it.

[@johnfleming4272]

I have watched a lot videos trying to understand why mixed messages keep happening and this is probably the most ‘black and white’ explanation I have come across to explain this frustrating behaviour..! Joking aside, thank you, this has really helped me understand and move on.

[@seannoithat9999]

well, she’s sort of interested. It doesn’t mean you’re automatically canceled. She saw something in you, but not enough yet to totally convince her to make you her only choice, so she’s waiting to see if you had more to show off. She’s having multiple guys just as good, or even ones that are better. But in case she fails to catch the bigger fish, then you’re gonna be her next choice. You are in line, just keep doing your best to impress her more, your chance might come

[@forzaferrari9709]

Looks like a rebound to me haha,

[@VenV]

Never aim to impress, if she chooses you for being you, she’s the one

[@flatlinex3]

If you're not their best option don't settle for being their backup

[@victorlinge92]

@@VenV You got to impress her with what really is impressive with you

[@galslovveme]

if she treats you like an option and not a priority, then dump her

[@marks-0-0]

Thanks for this great clear advice. Its a good reminder to remember past experiences too guys, when you got with someone and it was effortless as opposed to being messed around.

[@amrdel2730]

Yeah thars what i m figuring out now there a girl interested in me and its her rextin me first half the time and also said that she likes me and wanted us in relationship but other you find yourself always first to text and they are findind excuses to move off dates so you get the feeling that your are in a chasing battle , so i guess the one who wants u will open all doirs all yes to you no big effort required

[@HARwinsOUTagain]

I just found out about you. This video was such a damn eye opener. This is why my last dating scenario ended.

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Keep at it bro, it never makes total sense, but it WILL make more sense... Eventually.

[@jesussamurai8433]

Got friendzoned she still messages me daily and I can tell she is flirting a ton and sometimes even sends me suggestive pictures or sexual comments or even just nudes. Sometimes I'll post I'm at a party or with other women and she all of a sudden messages me with a witty comment or when I'm out she tries to pull information on who I am with She already rejected me made it clear we will never date or have a sexual physical hookup because I'm just a friend. Trust me I made a move I tried to hookup with her in person and she states "I want us to remain friendly I do not see us as a romantic couple physical attraction is not the same as emotional" and gave me a speech on how she wants us to be friends and does not want to ruin it. And that she has 0 interests in me as a date. In person she acts like she doesn't even send me pictures, I've seen her naked hundreds of times as we exchange photos as she states "It is just fun". I'm confused I've known this person for 5 years everytime I want to separate or mention other women she goes up a level her flirting gets more intense or she simply starts telling me about other guys trying to make me jealous. Tbh I keep getting sucked back in even when I meet other women and got dates and things to do she just sucks me right back in. At the end of the day I know what must be done but I've known this person for a long time and we even hung out when we both were seeing other people before this got weird and I'm having trouble seeing them as just a friend now.

[@Jojo-et9pg]

To me it happened that when we were together we had an amazing time but when we were not together I often had to send first message otherwise it would go for hours without texting which made me insecure and gave me mixed messages which in this case I interpreted as black as I don’t think he was that into me...dating sucks

[@isaarunarom7830]

Only hours? I'd hope people don't think any differently whether it took 2 hours or 20 hours for me to reply. The whole point of a text message is your able to answer at your convenience. If you NEED a reply from a person you call them or KNOCK on their door. Nothing about a text message demands a reply, even when its litterly a question. It's still only a text, it's not you using your voice, its just squiggles on a screen that may have not even been turned on for hours.

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

A good friend, the most beautiful woman I ever met in my life (by a large margin) , put me in the friend zone. Was one of the hardest things I experienced during my life. Still, 2 years later, it is so difficult. She is by far the best resource for me to meet new women as she is a super connector, but on the other hand, it is soooo painful and depressing when I see her. I try to forget her, but it would be a terrible loss of a friend (and so many other, shared friendships). Life is cruel, so cruel.

[@jvssjvss27]

You have to leave man. Love is about freedom. Why do you put yourself in this difficult situation? You are doing no good for yourself. Do you know? Sometimes good feelings are linked to bad situations. Life is learning. I remember 9 years ago when I found my first love. I could've been her friend but after 3 years trying I had given up. You know what? It was the best decision I've ever made. You know why is your situation so sad? It's because deep down you know you're deceiving yourself. Take a leap and move on. Life is too short to lose it with impossible situations. The best point is about you showing yourself how strong you can be. Who knows? Maybe it happens again with other girls but next time it will be easier because you've already left one time. The point is take all the sacrifices necessary to seek happiness. Even if it means losing friends. Do yourself and the girls who will really like you a favor. Make room to them in your life. Don't lose your time and your opportunities.

[@ProfWho-ut5he]

@@jvssjvss27 Thank you. That is very nice of you, I appreciate your help. I understand what you are saying, it's just that I fear the loneliness resulting from cutting ties to my female friends. Finding friends at my age is so difficult.

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Axel, you have two basic choices - Cut your losses and walk away, or deal with this emotion every time you see her forever, until she gets married and her husband doesn't want her hanging with dudes. You say it's hard to make friends at your age, yet you speak as if you're in your late twenties. People are all over the place, but you'll need to go outside of your comfort zone. Edge Point is absolutely right, and although this isn't the answer you want to hear, it's the reality you NEED to hear. It's gonna suck at first, but it always gets better over time. Also, don't answer this, if you're below 50, don't try to pretend you can't make friends. It takes effort, and it's easier for some, but much like a pair of jeans it'll improve every time.

[@kevinkeating9076]

SNAP OUT OF IT ALEX ...STOP WIMPING AND SIMPING.............DONT BE A HANDBAG AND WASTE YOUR PRECIOUS LIFE . MAN UP ......KEV

[@alexandros3782]

I have almost the same problem... 😔. Life is way too harsh

[@jamescoffman8096]

You’re not mentioning a situation in the workplace. I currently have a situation at work where there is intrigue with a coworker. I have not really advanced the game largely because of the consequence. She really loves her job (so she says)….and I have played it safe. It bugs me that this may possibly die.

[@jbeezy126]

I’m in the same boat. She has flirted with me a little bit but she doesn’t talk much. She just seems shy. I wish there were more vids on workplace crushes

[@bixumbi]

Great content. Best video of yours I've seen so far

[@beyourself9162]

Most situations in life are not black and white. There are millions of possible reasons why someone gives mixed messages. I just go on with my life, if she was emotionally invested she will let me know one day. Always worked for me. I never chase a woman if she is displaying emotional chaos inside her. I just back off and follow my dreams…

[@logicalpakistani3783]

Excellent advice! Straight to the point. Subscribed!

[@LonskiBig]

...All you have to do is watch couples go by in the mall....That tells you that girls are mysterious in their choice of a "boyfriend" because the miss- matches abound....such that you have a chance with ANY of them...

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

The bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding was a smokeshow, so shit talk was the order of the evening. Not a good word was said, and people asked how long we'd been married... We smashed, and that's the moral of the story.

[@amrdel2730]

The greatest comment

[@SoCoolScience]

What if she says "I dont thinks we should hang out anymore." and then 5 days later she's texting me to go out to eat together and at the end of the night gives me a hug before we part for the night. Then again says "I dont think we should hang out anymore" and 4 days later shes texting me again to go out to the movies together and again hugs me before we part for the night. Then I tell her I think we Im going to move on, and she says "I care about you I dont want you to move on but if you do I want to stay in contact". You wanna talk about mixed signals. What the hell is going on in her screwed up head

[@BUTCHER308]

If she's sending you false signals, and you act on them....that is not rejection. When you pick up the phone when it rings (as in, signals), and you see that it is a prank call done for the callers own amusement......do you feel rejected? Of course not!

[@n.m.3760]

Mixed messages means "no"

[@jreedtrades]

Tripp where’d you get that cardigan man? It looks sick

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

This is how we know we're getting old, regardless of the name we give it. I thought the same thing.

[@TheVermifuge]

Great advice. Thanks for the help. I needed this.

[@ElMundoDeSam95]

1 million subscribers...wow congrats

[@amorosogombe9650]

If it isn't a clear cut yes. It's a no. Never wait.

[@isaarunarom7830]

Was in a relationship for 8 years 2 years ago, now I'm totally clueless how to interact with people becuase my girlfriend and I went to work went home 7 days a week for 8 years, we didn't go to public places litterly ever. And now I keep running in to my high-school crushes from over a decade ago and the same approach anxiety I got back then immediately comes back, even thought I'm so much older I feel even less experienced becuase I couldn't do it then and I haven't practiced this whole time either, I never thought my girl and I would ever separate and never anticipated having to learn how to date.

[@TrippAdvice]

Yeah man it’s normal. And it’s okay. We’re here for ya

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Tripp, I totally replied to about ten comments. Figured getting some dialog going can help sometimes, and multiple opinions can help a lot. Later.

[@cosmari1]

You leading forward a potential date towards sex in fear of being ''friendzoned'' WITHOUT KNOWING if the actual date is a feminst we are in 2020 can YES VERY MUCH SCARE YOU OF REJECTION.

[@swellendamtwitcher2769]

Got into a situation with a woman that was giving me mixed messages and despite flatout telling me she was bipolar i nearly got attached. Funny how when you reflect mixed messages or minimum effort back to women they disappear in rush but can't see they do the same all the time..

[@OiVinn-eq1ml]

The only video I've seen that's black & white Harsh but the truth Thanks Tripp!

[@tander101]

Bro like wait, what if she literally asks you if you want to travel the world with her, asks you if you need to charge your phone (she's on her bed, with the charger in her hand) and even says "are you sure" when you say no, always laughs at every joke you make (even the REALLY bad ones like absolute dad jokes), and keeps distracting you with something when you go to leave, BUT then gets in a relationship the next week? Details: we live in two different cities now but it's not that far and all of this happened in her city, when she texts me she wants to "hang out," but rarely texts me, *BUT* she never uses her phone when I see her and even ignores phone calls from her parents. Extra Details: she always says that I'm the most fun person to do things with, her friends asked her while she was in a relationship why she doesn't date me (she just blushed with no answer), and she hugs me longer than everyone else. Me: WHAT IS HAPPENING

[@TheChees1996]

she is not intrested in you, better pack your attention, fun vibes and keep it moving. if you want test it try going for a kiss if she moves away she is out. Also Long distance relationship are stupid just cut off and save your time and money

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Gonna keep it short and agree with@@TheChees1996 on this. It sounds like you're the confidence booster; just ghost her before she does it to you. A the friend dealt with a similar situation for six years, until he listened to everyone and cut his losses.

[@Haktuar]

You're friendzoned. Walk away and move on.

[@tander101]

Didn't see any of the replies until now. Gonna have to agree with all of you here.

[@alfredconqueror4422]

This girl from the office started writing out of nowhere about personal stuff, then she even sent me her personal number and always pursued conversations with me. I wondered if it was just friendly or just flirting until it was really obvious that she wanted something else, so I asked her out and she pulled the card "who else is coming". Women are so complicated

[@MrMalicious5]

Women understand other women and they hate each other. Take that for what it's worth.

[@GiannisVeronis]

Solid advises here. Thanks man!

[@helpman42k]

Every guy needs to watch this

[@hammads9045]

Just matched with a girl online and started a convo. Because of the virus we obviously can't meet up, but can anyone suggest whether to continue msging on the platform we matched on or whether I should take the lead and get her number for a future possibility?

[@datrandompersononyoutube3061]

Dating shouldn't have to be this complex now, our parents didn't need these fucking videos

[@goonietunes5962]

I get a lot of I can't right now or I'm busy. I know she isn't. She's only busy when I wanna get together but it when she's with her friends or other guys

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Are you asking is she wants to go out, and leaving it open ended? Or are you offering a verb on a day? 'Wanna go out Thursday' vs 'I'm going skydiving Saturday, are you coming?' Maybe not as crazy, but it's an example, just don't lie about things.

[@goonietunes5962]

@@NeverMetTheGuy I've asked her to go out and do things giving an example is to go bowling with me Tuesday night. And I emphasize that I want it as a date. Not a friendly get together. She'll either say yes and then say no the day of or I cant I'm busy. I know I'm not really important because she doesn't try to make up for it like "sorry I cant but I promise tomorrow" she just never beings it up. I was told she doesn't want a relationship. But I dont see why because I know there's another guy she's been hanging out with. Not that she's busy or doesn't want to start dating. She's just not interested in me at all

[@marks-0-0]

@@goonietunes5962 youve answered your own question dude, forget it shes not interested, if she was it would be easy. Sounds like you need to work on your mission dude, youre a man so improve yourself. Check out some redpill content on YT. Good luck.

[@babyelephant5098]

@@goonietunes5962 bro I’m going through this situation now but who cares? Move to the next one man when they are too busy it means that they ain’t interested in the first place.

[@ziggypop79]

I am in a friend zone now with someone who keeps messaging me if I ghost her, problem is I’ve known her for 7 years and love her, it’s so hard to cut the ties. Originally had a thing going with her years ago but she moved on because it was a long distance type relationship

[@HaloNick09]

Great content as always man 👍🏼

[@SwiftTubes]

Thank you Trip very cool

[@subhadipmondal2251]

Thank you... I'm following you for last 2 years approx. Love from India. ❤

[@Johnnyboybravo]

Have you made a video discussing about how to move the interaction "forward" during the first few dates?

[@gvergara1986]

Is like This guy answered my very own question . Haha thanks

[@nova12332]

Thanks Tripp

[@fabianpatrizio2865]

1st date, good.........2nd date, good/ kiss (actually was at my place, she agreed to come over, but didnt push anything, just had a fun time).........then calls/ texts etc for a few days.....(interest!).........then...ghosting from her....hmmm.....no idea why :(

[@Eric36h]

So you have no chance with a girl who shows even the slightest sign of indifference?

[@talkingpictures9107]

How old is Tripp? Been through friend zone turns more after life. Or she gets divorced and u r single..??? So if u are both never single....how does it alter friend zone?

[@BroDude0]

Every girl wants a fan club. She'll never walk away from followers and attention

[@kennyevans6844]

Great video and very helpful

[@matthewrichards5422]

Question trip if a girl is using false pretenses to talk to you. Like asking you a question about another person. But not asking them but is asking you. I really don't know how to ask this question. So I am sorry if it sounded all the place. But if a girl is using false pretenses to talk to you. What does that? Say to you.

[@Fabian-tb2ek]

Means ur a fucking simp and she’s using you as a tool

[@HeadlineHuntr]

You are great man

[@easylee4uify]

This is great advice..could have used it 30 yrs ago LoL! Better late than never

[@shoxsultonxusenov3212]

Thanks a lot

[@georgenic64]

I am 34 years old and never ever in my life a girl was into me...

[@ClumpypooCP]

thats sad man.

[@georgenic64]

@@ClumpypooCP Tell me abt it...

[@momo-xh3bm]

Hey Tripp, not yet watched it through but you've made the point right at the first 30 sec. Hope I could find out the reasons behind after watching it!

[@theawarescorpio]

In a nutshell, Mixed signals = Not Interested.

[@pedromontilva9975]

Thanks Tripp I have the situation of i want date whit a girl and she says to go whit her friend and she plain everything, not thanks. I out.

[@edwardtang1977]

I thought she wasn't interested. I pulled away. Oh the fury that came after that! Since she is a coworker, I see her everyday. She still hasn't fully friendzoned me yet. So it is awkward. 🤡 She would go out of way to ask me if I want to order food with her....that is not someone who hates me do? She wanted to poison me! 🤣

[@GUITARTIME2024]

Attention seeker chick. Don't date co workers.

[@mr.covenant8313]

What if we hook up like every 2 weeks and she gives me these signals .

[@perseusTheSavior1100-f4e]

Tripp i m from morroco can u do a discord or something we can call exept ur number its very expensive i watched all ur video and live but i wana talk to u just one time i have a special situation

[@dedopest3305]

Khra assa7bi darija s3iba bzf bach t3nb biha

[@Mo-kq6dl]

Ju333

[@perseusTheSavior1100-f4e]

HHHHHHHHH DW kan nakhdo ghi l concepts ou rah khdam 100% a sat

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Words! Also, Skype, bro.

[@perseusTheSavior1100-f4e]

What is his skype man?

[@afohakith9320]

hii

[@amanjonheyp9689]

again tripp failed... Tripp women doesn't pursue a men EVEN if they are interested..the majority of them afraid rejection.

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

That could be cultural, and dependant on their upbringing.

[@XaverHellauer]

what if she's just a Tripp Advice subscriber: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qonJmHSMe7t4ers ?

[@1slan550]

👍🏿

[@dinahassan4320]

Life is too short to waste,just go ask her

[@goaheady1306]

What should you believe if she is responding to your messages but almost all the time she is not asking you any question?

[@kathirm8068]

She is not interested

[@trendingtopics5492]

4th comment 😌

[@vardaspavarde8480]

yup shes probably guest ok with you and she likes your atention guest