Why you should be spying on your kids | Richard Wistocki | TEDxNaperville

With 20 years experience as an Internet crimes investigator, Detective Richard Wistocki shares his controversial view of how protecting your children online starts with not trusting their technology use.
Detective Richard Wistocki had been with the Naperville Police Department for 28 years, 22 as a SWAT sniper and 20 as an Internet Crimes Investigator. He is one of the founding members of the Illinois Attorney Generals High Tech Crimes Bureau (ICAC).
Rich’s concentration is in teaching parents how to manage their children’s online activities, and instructing law enforcement officers across the country how to investigate internet crimes against children. He is an instructor for National Criminal Justice Training Center (NCJTC), the National Association of School Resource Officers (NASRO) and the State of Illinois North East Multi Regional Training Cenger (NEMRT). He is also the creator of the Illinois Sexting Law, Sexual Exploitation of Children Online, and the Swatting Law.
Rich has also recently developed a case management and online training site for school administrators, SRO’s, juvenile officers, and states attorney’s for handling cases of sexting, cyber-bullying, and the new SB100 legislation
Detective Richard Wistocki had been with the Naperville Police Department for 28 years, 22 as a SWAT sniper and 20 as an Internet Crimes Investigator. He is one of the founding members of the Illinois Attorney Generals High Tech Crimes Bureau (ICAC).
Rich’s concentration is in teaching parents how to manage their children’s online activities, and instructing law enforcement officers across the country how to investigate internet crimes against children. He is an instructor for National Criminal Justice Training Center (NCJTC), the National Association of School Resource Officers (NASRO) and the State of Illinois North East Multi Regional Training Cenger (NEMRT). He is also the creator of the Illinois Sexting Law, Sexual Exploitation of Children Online, and the Swatting Law.
Rich has also recently developed a case management and online training site for school administrators, SRO’s, juvenile officers, and states attorney’s for handling cases of sexting, cyber-bullying, and the new SB100 legislation This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@yulyyy2871]

It's like children are criminals for this man

[@You-ye4xb]

i know right?

[@noxious9de70]

This is a great guide on how to get us modern day kids to isolate and distance ourselves from our parents. I like my privacy thank you, just ask us how we’re doing and don’t spy on us please and thank you.

[@CommanderBruh]

Lmao tell that to this guy

[@rev.carleneappel7900]

Unfortunately, and you know this is true, just asking how you're doing is not always going to get parents the truth. And unfortunately thousands of kids get sextorted and sextrafficked because you are too young to realize a lot of things that can hurt you. That's part of a parent's job because they have the life experience you don't. A predator will hang out in chat rooms pretend to be your age and may spend a couple of years grooming you, during which time he will glean all sorts of personal information about you. Be Netsmart dude.

[@annatoro-bernard8928]

so true.

[@Dis-guysMAD]

Well yeah they should talk to you everyday and everything but yes don’t spy nor taking our phones and look at them and we do have privacy. And trust me I would buy my own phone but I can’t work well at least I couldn’t when I was younger so wtf they want

[@JRKA]

@@Dis-guysMADyou get privacy when your old enough to afford your own place and your own devices. Until then everything you do is because I allow it or provide the opportunities. Sounds like a lot but that’s how parents are supposed to be. Kids don’t have a clue the danger that’s out there it’s a parents job to protect them. Too many parents try and be their kids friend and not parent.

[@canweget1subscriber275]

Give your kids some damn privacy.

[@elmoscotch6621]

Listen to video he will tell you why the don't.

[@fandomfrenzy5985]

@@elmoscotch6621 ok boomer

[@amberh4746]

❤ITS OUR RESPONSIBILITY TO PROTECT OUR KIDS!!!

[@SimosFunk]

This is the kinda guy i want to protect my kids from online

[@nayev118]

Lol

[@agent3639]

Lmao

[@sni.x6545]

probs an undercover 60 year old on dc

[@glaze9864]

“There is no such thing as privacy for children!” EXUSE ME THIS GUY- JUST WHAT WHAT I think i deserve just as much privacy as adults, but since privacy doesn’t matter and i’m just an object my parents should care for and watch every moment of my life, guess this guys privacy doesn’t matter either does it

[@animoo.]

I like your pfp

[@Anti-FreedomD.P.R.ofSouthKorea]

Petition for him to have his shower room done all by clear glass

[@taylormarcum]

Are you fricking kidding me right now this is why you not spy on your kids I understand monitoring them sometimes but spying on them constantly is ridiculous and over the top controlling I do not agree with you sorry this behavior is controlling and I think children have every right to have some privacy parents these days are so controlling for peet sake give your children some privacy good grief I can’t stand parents who are like this so fricking controlling dude its insane my gosh

[@taylormarcum]

Are you fricking kidding me right now this is why you not spy on your kids I understand monitoring them sometimes but spying on them constantly is ridiculous and over the top controlling I do not agree with you sorry this behavior is controlling and I think children have every right to have some privacy parents these days are so controlling for peet sake give your children some privacy good grief I can’t stand parents who are like this so fricking controlling dude its insane my gosh

[@annatoro-bernard8928]

you earn privacy. What you think you 'deserve' sounds like entitlement? best you be safe and angry at your parents than dead with a predator/stranger/trafficker.

[@sami_slammi7741]

Sorry to say it, but kids deserve privacy. If you want to know if your child is doing something wrong, TALK TO THEM. I agree that kids should be safe but don't invade their personal space. And just because the child charges their phone in their room does not mean they're going to do things bad on their phone. But they sometimes do, in that case if you think they are TALK TO THEM. You are allowed to disagree but this is just what I think.

[@nlugton]

If there's one thing to learn from this video it's "Everybody has an ulterior motive" Thankfully Richard Wistocki just so happens to sell a product that can counter any of the fears raised by Richard Wistocki.

[@detectiverichwistocki9493]

what am i selling may I ask?

[@nlugton]

@@detectiverichwistocki9493 Consultancy and Training packages according your company's website.

[@detectiverichwistocki9493]

Quoka absolutely because kids and parents need this message to protect them. I charge for my time of being there. Do teachers get paid to teach? Do professors get paid? Do you get paid when or if u work?

[@HiThereImFootloose]

This is scaremongering followed by advertisement, not a helpful TED talk.

[@heykandy1075]

Notice how about 17 people said “amen”

[@lilypadpiece2844]

Wtf

[@willow6willow]

i

[@JRKA]

My parents trusted me. Wound up addicted and in and out of jail it wasn’t until I did what they had told me to do as a teen that I left that life behind and never looked back.

[@willow6willow]

@@JRKA cool and you’re not everyone!

[@poliisi5]

Spying on anybody isn't ok.

[@thursdayplurbonym-boyporri8921]

oh no kids are playing TRUTH OR DARE how scandalous

[@mjb2189]

Wtf is wrong with this guy, if parents keep monitoring their kids stuff , kids won't feel any trust towards their parents, the way to handle this is just to form a close bond with your child when they're young , talk about what's happening in their life , dont go snooping around, it *will* ruin your relationship with your kid

[@ts3063]

In that case, you shouldn’t have any devices until you’re paying rent, insurance, and your own phone bills...when your parents are no longer responsible for you!

[@mjb2189]

@@ts3063 I respect that , I also believe that children shouldn't actually have mobile devices

[@mjb2189]

@@ts3063 But the thing is if teens dont have devices how will they discover what they like , what they desire , what types of music they're into , where they want to go one day?

[@Pyrodagoat]

@@mjb2189 yes they should

[@dex4836]

@@mjb2189 What do you think about kids having computers?

[@lostballads6658]

This is the whitest thing ever

[@south1328]

Nah but I know a lot of them disagree w him, he is talking to all of us not just whites 🤔

[@JRKA]

I will not provide my kids with phones to remove the possibility of bad things happening. I didn’t have one till I was 18 and I survived so will they.

[@jack2152]

I DONT OWE YOU JACK

[@detectiverichwistocki9493]

YOU ROCK!!!

[@ryanhughes8491]

His nose breathing means he had to have been a coke addict

[@elmoscotch6621]

He's also an old guy...

[@DollyGirly]

This guy: THERE IS NOT SUCH PRIVACY FOR CHILDREN Me: Privacy isn't for you either then.

[@coleclark7195]

I’m confused on why he thinks he’s such an expert on this

[@barto22]

This is a terrible person just pushing his product

[@DeAdler_13]

The first Ted talk i had to stop.. I gave up after 4.48 This dude ain't symphatic at all

[@elmoscotch6621]

Yeah cuz this is inportant topic

[@kiliyikes2706]

If you need those 5 infos before releasing your info, and every kid does that, you can't befriend people, cause for you to get their info, they need your info. Also, great fear mongering, just happens to be that you sell a product you're advertising with this

[@godlikeselephants]

This guys breathing scares me.

[@corneliuscornman6449]

That’s a great talk.

[@fetrusdreyux4577]

He came to speak at my school once!

[@sni.x6545]

i feel bad for u honestly

[@robertpace9923]

Thanks Richard, we now have a golden ticket agreement with our 11 year old daughter. Your talk made me reconsider our attitude towards her internet interactions and I think she is in a safer place for it. Thank you.

[@sni.x6545]

or you could jusy tell your daughter to not get doxxed?? and btw dont listen to richard. hes the type of guy who tells his children to play outside meanwhile hes inside not moving a muscle reading a book for 5 hours straight

[@c4tl0verr50]

I- what is this 😃

[@lilypadpiece2844]

Ikr

[@luthernoah]

Why are there no comments

[@Riuhvdevsrh]

yeah

[@patricialevy13]

we need more videos like this! taking the time and effort to have this conversation is key in order to keep our kids safe

[@nos4a2_]

hey 2 years later¸ how much do your kids hate you now?

[@souljaboi4021]

@@nos4a2_ probably alot

[@noxious9de70]

Hey bud let me let you in on a secret... talking to your kids is much more easier, more cost efficient than buying spyware, and doesn’t put you and your child’s relationship in jeopardy.

[@jrhammond1044]

thank you for bringing the proper light to this topic

[@elmoscotch6621]

He came to my school! 😂

[@south1328]

Strongly disagree w this guy yikes

[@dieberliner1576]

Cool. But more of an advertisement for his product.

[@SomeGuy-fl1gz]

The hub

[@ilovexu]

ok boomer