Why You Should Have Kids... Lots of Them

Yes, parenting is hard, but that’s not all it is. But it seems like a lot of parents have become exclusively fixated on the difficulty and they’ve forgotten the reasons why it’s worth doing, so I wanted to take a moment to try to reemphasize what I think those reasons are from my own experience.
Most people believe there’s value in being exposed to a variety of experiences in this life, but by the time you get to be a mature adult, you start to act like you’ve seen it all. You lose your sense of wonder and curiosity.
An older friend of mine who grew up in Great Britain was telling me about the fact that historic castles and cathedrals are of no interest to her because she had seen enough of them when she lived there and I was wondering how anyone could take all of that beauty and heritage for granted, but that’s what happens after a while. She was living in a place people will fly to from all over the world and she thinks it’s all just tedious.
No matter how amazing our experiences or surroundings can be, once we’ve seen it a few times, it becomes easy to fall into a pattern of taking it for granted. Something about the experience of becoming and adult infuses us with an attitude like know it all. We forget that life can be an adventure of discovery.
Having kids allows us to discover the world again for a second time through the experiences of our children. We experience their sense of wonder and curiosity as we teach them and try to nurture those experiences.
It’s like you get to go on the adventure of life again for the first time. Experiences like learning to walk and talk, seeing an animal up close for the first time, climbing a tree, learning to read and write , watching Darth Vader tell Luke that he’s his Father for the first time.
And if you’re lucky, you get to be a grandparent and do it all again for a third time.
Seeing my parents become grandparents has been really interesting and beautiful to watch because they are different with the kids this time around. Their priorities when they interact with or care for the kids is different from my priorities as a parent and they don’t treat them the way they treated us when they were parents.
It’s like every time you experience childhood again as a parent and then as a grandparent, you bring a whole new depth of wisdom and joyfulness to it. Maybe this is what Jesus meant when he said that unless we become like little Children, we won’t enter the Kingdom of Heaven. Something about our lives and our nature seems like it’s designed for us to re-experience childhood over and over and that our purpose can be discovered in that experience.
I happen to believe that our purpose in life is to love others as we do ourselves. That’s much easier said than done because we happen to be extremely selfish by nature and this is something that we don’t realize until our selfishness is put to the test.
When we have children of our own and suddenly have to learn to reorient our priorities in the interest of someone else, we quickly discover how much of a strain it puts on our selfish nature and that can be extremely eye opening and good for us.
As I said before, learning to love other people is easier said than done but for whatever reason, call it evolutionary design or divine providence, the natural order of our lives seems to be designed to make this process easier for us if we embrace it.
If we are, by nature, selfish, then the best way for us to learn to love someone other than ourselves, is by creating someone who is as much like us as possible. That’s what having children can do for us. It gently invites us into an experience of loving someone who isn’t us but closely resembles us as much as possible.
It’s a first step to learning to love someone who isn’t you but who is much easier to love than some random person would be because they look like you, they’re tiny and adorable, and they will have similar afflictions to you which will inspire your sense of compassion and empathy much easier than it would for someone who is afflicted with something you can’t relate to.
Lastly, I want to encourage you to have as many kids as you can. There are more reasons for this than I can describe, but one of the most surprising reasons is because it’s easier. The more kids you have, the more they learn to amuse and rely on each other.
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[@BrianHoldsworth]

For everyone responding that we don't have enough resources and "what about overpopulation?" Please challenge your very outdated assumptions. The world's population is at the highest it's ever been and food production is also at it's highest. Undernourishment continues to decline, dramatically, globally. kzbin.info/www/bejne/n4DEemiOh9-ohJo

[@levisando]

This could be a video essay topic on its own.

[@leonherperger4055]

maybe over all, but this doesn't take into account where populations are highest is also where poverty is highest. where does all the food go? the rich western nations. you've oversimplified the matter

[@leonherperger4055]

but never mind that, you might want to consider this: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4Ckkq1oa8egoLc

[@sianmcdonald9176]

the video you shared only discusses about there being enough food for everyone (which you should already know isn't true, Every second a person dies of hunger. Right now, more than 1 billion people suffer from hunger. This means that 1 in every 6 people on Earth don't get enough food to live a healthy life) the amount of grains&wheat being consumed by 56 Billion farm animals that are slaughtered for our tastebuds every year is enough to feed 3 billion people (1 billion people currently suffering from starvation could do with farm animals are currently eating). The amount of food there is for people shouldn't be your only concern. Think about why 14 billion pounds of garbage goes into ocean every year? Because most humans are wasteful using indisposable materials & why are there are 56 Billion farm animals slaughtered every year? because humankind is responsible for this mass production (inseminating farm animals to breed more animals) to please our tastebuds. Why are there so many animals slaughtered for food? because over 5 billion people (including your family of 7) enjoy the taste of their flesh. 56 billion animals slaughtered every year account for 51% of pollution, up to 200 species going extinct everyday, ocean dead zones quadrupled since 1950 & using up 1/3 of earths fresh drinking water. Most people (like you) don't want to become vegan and won't give up eating meat so the only realistic option is to have less people not more. So yes the world's population is the highest it's ever been which is why more animals are suffering in factory farms, more species are becoming extinct and ocean dead zones are increasing. You appear to be a nice man and i'm sure you're a great father, just remember it's ok to agree that the problems of the world i've listed to you are because of Overpopulation

[@sianmcdonald9176]

P.s - youre religious so i have this feeling you want to believe that God put animals on earth for us to eat on a daily basis for our nourishment, but think about it: if God put animals on earth for us to eat, why would he make them sentient like us? they want love, companionship, avoid fear/pain and protect their young just like us humans do. Also it's already been proven to that it's not good for our health to eat animal based products. Vegans/vegetarians have always had the lowest rates of cancers, diabetes, hypertension, obesity & heart disease. I do respect the man in your video who managed to grow more wheat its just a shame it's being overfed to 56billion animals every year to please the tastebuds of you and 6 billion other people

[@Unicornmazda]

Honestly I can discover life again just by looking though a random kid’s eyes sometimes.

[@cherrypepsi8651]

Well this sounds like a catholic made this

[@Kaledrone]

GOD BLESS THE ENCLAVE!

[@rafeytariq3263]

@Cherry Pepsi bet youre an atheist

[@martinciglenecki526]

And thank God for that!

[@ente866]

dude you made me laugh hahahah..., like he seems gay and religious and who cares about that cause he is so nice and has a loving family and you here the first comment just hitting the spot

[@Rolando_Cueva]

CIVITATIS /\ VATICANAE

[@is-be6725]

I love my kids, but damn they’re high maintenance.

[@oambitiousone7100]

Something I read too late: Have children, not just for your 20s & 30s, but for every decade of your life. I only have two, but now wish I'd become Catholic two decades ago and had at least two more.

[@trep2219]

Life is maintenance.

[@spiritanimal7516]

@Prasanth Thomas but you do have to be an idiot.

[@HeatherE303]

@@spiritanimal7516 Elon is also an adulterer. Your point?

[@hl-xt3iw]

@@HeatherE303 that you don't have to be an idiot. So your point is irrelevant

[@yeahh267]

A lot of people in the comment sections missing the fact that he is talking to people who are called to be parents and can have kids.

[@DDSMASH74]

As someone who has traveled and lived in Asia and the Middle east; you are speaking from a perspective of a country with a normal population. Having lived in Shanghai and other crowded places, trust me, there's plenty of people. It was like being a rat in a cage really.

[@konyvnyelv.]

He lives in North Canada so he of course feels we have a lot of space to live.

[@konyvnyelv.]

@Pedro Ortega with climate change the north is gonna become more livable so yes, many will get there

[@SomethingSomethingg]

He's a Christian. He doesn't believe in reality. He probably doesn't even believe in a place like Shanghai because it's not mentioned in the Bible lol

[@Molly1306]

Kids aren’t for everyone. Having many kids isn’t for everyone. I’m glad this works for your family, but not everyone feels the same and should be encouraged to use their own judgement on family planning. 👍

Well said. I agree.

[@HIMYMTR]

@ this is a Catholic channel for Catholics

[@jennyofoldstones6528]

@j s No thanks, thats not everyones purpose :)

[@jennyofoldstones6528]

exactly! thank you so much 💗

[@AWlpsSHOW36]

@j s Uhhh, no. It's not for everyone. I dare you say that to a person with a health condition or has a mental illness and see what happens.

[@uskitchendepot7550]

I agree. I stayed single till 35, then got married and have 4 kids. Having and raising children is the highlight of my life.

[@emergencyambulance2017]

35 ! Yikes 😬 can’t wait that long Better get married at 15 or 20 maximum at 25 But 35 yikes!! 😳 idk what civilisation you come from.

[@myristicina.]

@@emergencyambulance2017you can’t legally marry at 15 in most countries? what are you on?

[@emergencyambulance2017]

@@myristicina. maybe ur race is pu see, but our people at age 15 look like 25+ strong and matured, so in my country its allowed 15+ to get married, which is the right age, this is the age if you dont get married then you start wasting your life with girlfriend boyfriend and all that bs, best is get married and have a good life, here no one is stupid to marry a kid, people here have common sense that ur country lacks, here people know that anyone who looks mature can get married regardless of their age, in your country, if your criminal is 17.9 years old he gets out of jail, what a f loser country. big L

[@ksan1648]

Because you're a selfish asshole who is content to inflict cancer/heart disease/XYZ catastrophe so that you can be amused and aggrandize your own ego with "your" mini-me's accomplishments. Having someone my basement and raping and exploiting them whenever I please has been the highlight of MY life. You've proved jack-shit by declaring this.

[@LauraBeeDannon]

As a mom of four I can say the best times are when the older kids teach and help the younger ones. They comfort each other and truly love one another.

[@abrahamward5493]

Only if society showed the same compassion

[@malilixoxo197]

Basically having the older kids parent your fucking younger kids, truly is upsetting.

[@parthkapgate]

@@malilixoxo197 Yep that's what I see . Unless the mother is a good parent

[@baassiia]

@@malilixoxo197 this is what hunter-gather human did for ages. Younger folks are supossed to learn from older ones. This is healthy and very practicall. It's not equal to be 100% responisible, it's just about showing compassion and care. Playing together, huging, oferring help. I've wathed my younger cousins as a kid, and I loved it. We have great bond as a grown up.

[@jen1963]

As half of a married couple who cannot have children, I feel as though adoption should also be encouraged, which you sadly fail to mention. Just because God has not called some of us to have biological kids doesn't mean we weren't meant to be parents. And just because the adopted child doesn't resemble us in any way doesn't mean they won't develop similar traits from us raising them.

[@BrianHoldsworth]

I appreciate your feedback. Like I said in the disclaimer, the message of this video is aimed at those who can have kids of their own. That doesn't negate the value of adoption or fostering. In fact, I have a video on infertility and adoption coming up soon so please stay tuned for that and let me know what you think.

[@jen1963]

Thanks for writing back! I apologize for missing the disclaimer and definitely look forward to the upcoming video.

[@Em_Elizabeth]

If kids are gifts from God, why do incompetent parents exist? An all-wise and all-knowing God wouldn't be so sloppy! Can we just say It's nature?

[@rickc9234]

Emma Loura it's all about free will. I am a christian with sorry excuses for parents. My dad is never around and mom spends whatever money she has at bar, expensive items, and so on, she even takes money I recieve on my birthday and Christmas. As I said before it's all about free will and God will not interfere with someone's free will because then He would be a tyrant. I don't blame God for my parent's decisions I blame my parents.

[@lepp6598]

So your parents had free will to be shitty parents, but you weren't granted the free will to not have shitty parents.

[@oscarclarke2653]

My mom sent me this video... We've argued about this for years now. God, it would be nice if she could just accept my life choices and shut up 😓

[@crowbirdryuell]

Hope you change your mind

[@MrAsianman987]

Live your life bro

[@Emily-bp7ol]

I think it’s important for parents to encourage and educate but then accept and respect life choices of their children.

[@voyello]

@@Emily-bp7ol Even when they make bad ones ?

[@aokayt9517]

I'm second of six... My parents are gonna have a ton of grandchildren to re-experience their childhoods through XD

[@FN_Ang3l]

Maybe your children won’t want to have children.

[@thoughtsurferzone5012]

I have no philosophical problems with parenthood. It's just not for me and my girlfriend, for financial and emotional reasons.

[@trep2219]

Well, don't become parent if you don't feel like you couldn't handle it, because you probably wouldn't.

[@taylermiller5736]

@@trep2219 that’s not what there saying

[@Smartskull0]

@@thoughtsurferzone5012 You should have philosophical problems with it. Bringing someone into the world without consent = reyping them into existence = worst cr1me imaginable. Bc no one can consent to being born, it should be assumed that consent to being born doesn’t exist => no action should be taken on behalf of the child. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to your act. Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they cannot provide informed consent to being born. Otherwise, bringing a child into the world w/o consent = violation of their autonomy & cannot be ethically justified! Argument is still valid even if life was a utopia bc even a perfect life doesn’t appeal to the nonexistent as they, by definition, don’t exist and therefore, they have NO NEED for a perfect life. They simply don’t need even the best life imaginable & it’s immoral to impose it upon them because they never consented to experiencing said life.

[@caitcupples]

I'm not Christian personally. But the part you shared about selfishness and kids becoming a gateway to selflessness has been so true for me! Even my family tells me they can't believe I had a child because I was so so selfish and can't believe even more than I breastfed. But then they say, "but you're such a great mom". And my heart just gets so full with happiness. Now I want 4 kids and before my first I didn't want any at all, ever. He makes me better and when I have more I'll change even more so they can be happy and healthy.

[@SomethingSomethingg]

That particular quote is such BS. Most parents have children for selfish reasons. It's always, " I need them to give me purpose in my life". " I want to take on the challenge of being a parent". " I need someone to take care of me when I get older". " I don't want to be lonely". " Having a baby will save my marriage". It's almost always me, me, me.

[@davideticconi9246]

That is why most people have 1-2 kids. The rest of us have kids just because we LOVE them and LOVE being parents more than anything else. The parent you described is the toxic, narcissistic one.

[@maggierainville3321]

Yay!!! One mom to another!!!

[@anouk1147]

i don't want kids ever.........just cats C:

[@user-xx2kg7si3r]

@Peter Kazavis no u

[@fatmarashid3231]

You should.

[@FN_Ang3l]

@@fatmarashid3231 why should he?

[@নাস্তিক]

Thats why proper education needed

[@EverydayCatholic]

haha! Love the kids reacting to "I am your father". Beautiful family. My husband and I pray for children🙏🏽

[@ShaneSur23]

Everyday Catholic visit an adoption agency.

[@omowhanre]

I pray you do too ❤❤❤

[@Emiliapocalypse]

Many adults never lose their sense of wonder as they grow up!

[@AndersonPaschoalon]

if you think so, the best possible thing you could do in your life is to not breed at all for you, is better because you are going to be happier for the society is better because if you are not happy doing that, you are not going to create a solid family for the species it is just the natual selection acting behaind the scenes

[@AndersonPaschoalon]

I dont get your point. As I said, if you dont want to have kids, you should not have. If you want you should have I dont know why do you are arguing with me All the others things I said are a matter of fact And i do not think I'm superior because I'm willing to breed, you said that But just to correct you... having kids is much more than passing genes

[@NiinaSKlove]

Exactly! And I don't believe even for a split second - that most people are starting to be more in awe of things, once they become parents. Some yes, sure. But not the majority. - So to me, that (his) statement is kinda not rooted in reality, in my opinion.

[@richardknox7354]

mostly parents imho

[@richardknox7354]

nothing he said is rooted in reality, aparently global malnourishment is going down, so we cantell these refugees not to come to the first world, cos globally there less malnourishment, what i hate is when folk have kids they like to tell everyone else to screw up there life. i rarely mention being an antinatalist

[@shaunanally5478]

Hi there! Can you please tell me where you got the peg apostles and last supper thing? It's adorable!

[@BrianHoldsworth]

My wife joined a peg doll swap with other friends where each person made 12 of the same one and then traded everyone else for the other characters.

[@Loreman72]

5 of them, including a redhead! Most excellent, dude! The reaction to 'I am your father' was priceless!

[@Alexiscom1]

Thanks for sharing, I realise the real challenge starts at 14 years old at this age I can see how well or purely I have done as a parent.

[@JustinWest]

I've always said the first kid is the hardest because it's an infinite increase in the number of children that you have. Child number 2 is only a 100% increase. Child Number 3 is only a 50% increase. And so on. Of course having multiples like twins will throw these numbers off slightly, but overall the pattern holds. The more children you have the smaller the increase in overall number of children and the more equipped you are.

[@YasminMahnaz]

Don't get it.. if you have more kids.. you experience the*kid like mind etc* is less?? Is that cause too many damn kids and can't focus on one long enough?

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

This is a great way to put it! That’s exactly what I experienced as the second oldest of nine children to my wonderful Christian parents. People always thought that every new kid equaled the exact same amount of work that the first kid takes… But that’s not true. With each successive kid, each of the older kids could take on more responsibility, handle more chores, and take care of themselves better - so actually, the more kids my parents had, the more smoothly everything runs, because everybody pitches in and pulls their own weight!

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

@Ye Ye Well, my mom had 9 children, and she would testify the _exact_ same thing as Mr. West. And she homeschooled us, so I grew up seeing it all happen. The first kid or two IS the hardest, and dealing with more DOES get progressively easier with each child. For one, the older children can quite quickly help out with more and more chores as they get older, so mom isn't doing _everything,_ or even close to everything. Second, my mom (who, again, had NINE kids) has always said that the body gets used to the process quickly, and normally, each labor is both shorter and easier than the last. So, from a mother who HAS gone through the pregnancies AND taking care of all the kids: the OP is right. :)

[@haltdieklappe7972]

@Ye Ye make sure to take those anti depressant pills tonight

[@meghanyoung8416]

This is my reply also.

[@seasonalliving2881]

I’d love to hear your thoughts on adoption/fostering. Thanks!

[@ZakkuTakku]

There already enough kids in orphanages. If you want kids that badly (I personally do not), then look towards adoption first. Those kids are already here and need good homes

[@BrianHoldsworth]

There are literally no orphanages where I live. That's a pretty rare thing in the developed world. There are long waiting lists for people wanting to adopt.

[@QPrince2024]

@@BrianHoldsworth They are a lot of kids in America who are impoverished and starving everyday waiting to be adopted.

[@halaambe]

Some comments are very ignorant. Having or not having kids should not depend on global environmental factors unless you are directly affected by it, like living in a war zone. The most important factor is whether you want to have kids. And unlike a lot of people say, not everyone get that parental instinct activated once they have a child. The saddest thing to see is a child growing up with a parent or parents who don't really want him or her. What could be sadder than that? They don't ask to be born. So don't have kids out of some religious belief or societal pressures. Have kids because you so desperately want to shower one with love. And if you don't want to have one, then don't have one. There is nothing wrong with that.

[@Smartskull0]

@@halaambe Bringing someone into the world without consent = reyping them into existence = worst cr1me imaginable. Bc no one can consent to being born, it should be assumed that consent to being born doesn’t exist => no action should be taken on behalf of the child. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to your act. Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they cannot provide informed consent to being born. Otherwise, bringing a child into the world w/o consent = violation of their autonomy & cannot be ethically justified! Argument is still valid even if life was a utopia bc even a perfect life doesn’t appeal to the nonexistent as they, by definition, don’t exist and therefore, they have NO NEED for a perfect life. They simply don’t need even the best life imaginable & it’s immoral to impose it upon them because they never consented to experiencing said life.

[@St0pLookingAtMyProfile]

I'm good.. ..I'd rather be alone I prefer not to be annoyed constantly, and there are still things I prefer to do alone..

[@Chaos3000and3]

Thank you so much for this video. I'm currently a seminarian, living a life of celibacy with no plans of changing that anytime soon. And although I realize that the call to start a family alongside a faithful spouse is a fully legitimate call from God, I find myself having trouble articulating and answer when people ask me, "Why does the Church think I have to have kids?" For me, I've always internalized that I won't have to deal with this, that God has called me to a different vocation. Hearing your words on this issue is a breath of fresh air for me. I particularly like your remarks on selfishness, and how having kids forces one to love others over oneself while still loving someone similar to oneself. Thanks once again, and God bless!

[@BrianHoldsworth]

Chaos3000and3 That's great to hear. So glad you found something meaningful in this video.

[@parthkapgate]

Just another opinion on the selfishness . You could foster/adopt a child/teenager and nurture him/her with love that too forces you to love someone other than oneself .

[@reaniznicetoppl3995]

To be fair having lot of kids can be a financial nightmare like each kid costs a million dollars

[@oneperson5760]

No, they dont. Kids are cheaper than adults. Clothes are cheaper, food is cheaper, they take up less space, they sleep a lot, and the only way theyre a million dollars is if youve bought into the false idea that you have to spend a million dollars as a reason to justify not having kids because youve made them too expensive in your mind.

[@Android-ds9ie]

@@oneperson5760 not cheap schooling and college consider that and you have to spend a lot for healthcare

[@ydbn272_92]

@@oneperson5760 that still doesn’t mean having MORE kids isn’t more expensive 😂

[@oneperson5760]

@@Android-ds9ie Public school or a good charter school is free, the library is free, and if they don't earn a scholarship, they're likely not college material. I've not paid much at all for college for my kids, because they made good grades and got scholarships. Healthcare comes with the husband's job, but we hardly ever use it cause we're pretty healthy. I've not found expense to be a valid reason to not have kids or to only have one.

[@christins.1481]

@@oneperson5760 That's you. Majority of people have the work three jobs and still can't afford health insurance or their job doesn't provide it. If you can't even afford health insurance you shouldn't have kids. We have health insurance and still can't afford the hospital Bills.

[@Kiddcryptos]

Thank you for doing this video. Much respect.

[@compton_cranchy8922]

4:45 if you need to have a child in order to learn to love someone other than yourself, I don’t think you’re adequate enough to be the legal guardian of another human. if your child is the first person you’ve learned to love other than yourself, it sort of implies you don’t even love the person you had a child with which raises even more concerns

[@milkteanomnom]

I believing having children is a beautiful aspect of life.. However, I believe some people are not mentally, and emotionally equipped to have children. I’m a Christian, and I grew up in a Christian household, but my childhood was not easy. My father was severely abused as a child, and he didn’t work on his inner most issues before having children. He ended up abusing me my entire life, and has even done so in my adult life a few times. My father is a very wounded person, and he was not equipped to have children, and he projected his issues onto me growing up. My sister wasn’t hardly ever abused, but for some reason he focused all his abuse onto me. People like him should not have children. My mother is a saint practically, and I couldn’t have asked for a better mother. So, at least I had her in my life to cling to when things got bad. My mum doesn’t believe in divorce, because the Bible says God hates divorce. So, she stayed with him even though he nearly killed me when I was 12. She didn’t know just how wounded of a person he was when they got married, and he didn’t show any abusive traits until about a year after they got married. I believe most of the world is not equipped to handle children mentally, and emotionally. Even in Christian households like mine, abuse happens. So, I believe only about 10% of the populace is even mature enough, and stable enough to have children. For those people that are equipped to handle children, then I believe they should have many children, but for those that are not, they shouldn’t even have any children at all.

[@erinsmith7839]

@K J i could ask you, how do you even know hell is real have you been there?

[@goatrectum]

“Dad, what were fossil fuels?”

[@nicolestarkoniski5674]

I always wanted more than 1 as I was an only child and as I got older say the benefits of siblings can bring. We have 2 kids one girl and a boy. We found out when my daughter was 3 that she had autism, and then when my son was 3 1/2 we also found he too has autism. I would love mor kids but my husband and I worry it would put a strain on our current children’s needs especially our son who has a mor difficult time. Also my husband and I are 15 yrs apart and worry about that complication as well with having more kids. It is hard for me sometimes not to envy the parents with kids that aren’t autistic. It took my daughter long time before she could talk about her day with me, and my son is only making a snail trail of progress. Yes we have gotten help for them, but it’s not an easy journey. Do out know any parents like that?

[@druidriley3163]

"If we are, by nature, selfish, then the best way for us to learn to love someone other than ourselves, is by creating someone who is as much like us as possible." Brian, having kids because they can be just like us is selfish.

[@natural3362]

That's true

[@ninodjuras]

No, it’s that they can experience, live this life like us and share love. You treat children as a gift not commodity.

[@druidriley3163]

@@ninodjuras - I would buy this except for all the people who refuse to adopt and insist on having their "own" children and push technology and spends lots of money to make that happen.

[@ninodjuras]

@ That’s one way of looking on life, but not christian one. We don’t want to prevent suffering, it’s part of being human.

[@ninodjuras]

@@druidriley3163 Did I say that all people act like they should? I’m just giving another view on having children, christian one.

[@emrys3368]

Everyone commenting negative things on this video are terrible people. He is just pointing out the positive aspects of having a family and continuing that. Yes there are terrible things in the world, but that shouldn’t stop you from living your life and raising kids in the world. These kids if raised in a good family could grow up one day and change the world in the most amazing way.

[@gerardohernandez6959]

@クリスティアンスニガ lol I argeed with you this guy sounds like punk

[@gerardohernandez6959]

@クリスティアンスニガ lol I argeed with you this guy sounds like punk

[@Smartskull0]

@@emrys3368 Bringing someone into the world without consent = reyping them into existence = worst cr1me imaginable. Bc no one can consent to being born, it should be assumed that consent to being born doesn’t exist => no action should be taken on behalf of the child. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to your act. Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they cannot provide informed consent to being born. Otherwise, bringing a child into the world w/o consent = violation of their autonomy & cannot be ethically justified! Argument is still valid even if life was a utopia bc even a perfect life doesn’t appeal to the nonexistent as they, by definition, don’t exist and therefore, they have NO NEED for a perfect life. They simply don’t need even the best life imaginable & it’s immoral to impose it upon them because they never consented to experiencing said life.

[@nataliee3764]

I will have to disagree with the idea that siblings will entertain and rely on each other. My siblings and I have never been close. We did not socialize with each other as children or teenagers. As adults, we don’t speak to each other. There is no bad blood or ill feelings between us...we just never bonded. Shared genetics does not always produce a close relationship.

[@painexotic3757]

Well said.

[@mistymockingbird3511]

Anomalies are not the norm.

[@Cricket-iz7sq]

Because you guys are exceptional.

[@damnedmadman]

Surely parents have to teach kids to be together. It doesn't have to happen automatically.

[@milo_thatch_incarnate]

My first response is that you were probably public schooled. That makes an _enormous_ difference. The homeschooling community and the religious large family community overlap a lot, so this isn’t actually a common problem. Since a large number of big families also homeschool, the siblings spend almost all the time with each other. There are lots of fights and spats of course, but you kind of have to learn to get along with everyone, if everyone wants to live relatively peacefully. So you just… do. I’m speaking from experience, as the second oldest of *_nine_* homeschooled children! Most of the families I knew growing up with were also that large and also homeschooled, and we were all the same. There were lots of disagreements, but largely, we got along and were very close, because we spent so much time together. You don’t get that in a family where all the kids go to public schools every day. Of course you’re not gonna be close.

[@dianatrejo2006]

I think you're a really deep thinker🖒 and bring up good points about hwo experience shapes our parenting. And how when our role as learner stops it's time to begin our role of teaching. And it's true that it sucks when you want to do your own thing at times but don't want to reject your child. However, there are still so many cultures,languages,religions,perspectives, environments,skills, games, sensations to learn that you don't neccesary have to stop your role as a learner. And experience shapes our parenting but it also shapes our friendships, love life, and respect. Also having a lot of kids lets kids entertain each other but their still needs to be guidance because most kids learn their social skills through each other and since we're born selfish like you said they can be unfair in their games.

[@FiveEighteenBlog]

Wow i love this!!! Thank you for sharing with us. As im watching this, im in the thick of miserable first trimester with baby #2 , thanks for cheering me up.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Looks like you lost your identity to the baby

[@cityofage]

You want them, great. Other people simply don't. Live and let live.

[@prgunnels7679]

Thank you for not shaming those of us who don't have kids.

[@prodigaldawtr7907]

My husband & I have 3 sons, but so far they've all been born with costly special needs. My eldest will need lifelong care. Therefore, we've decided to abstain which in marriage is called continence. We know how to use NFP, but I am too afraid to even leave a possibility of adding to our family. I am 36 now as well. Having a healthy child doesn't seem possible, and our sons take up all our monetary & time resources. Do you think this immoral of me to prevent God even the possibility (NFP) of giving us more children? Or is it ok to admit we feel we're at our financial limit as long as we have given intimacy up? I struggle with this.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Would your husband consider a vasectomy? I think you should not have to give up being intimate.

[@christusvincit6696]

Brilliant!! Going to send this to my friends with big families! We were not able to physically have more than 1! So happy to be godparents as well!

[@antongustafsson1776]

"You lose your sense of wonder and curiosity" Speak for yourself

[@unknown_user8449]

Nah bro, he said "Most people" and "by the time (they) become a mature adult." People become 'mature' at varied ages. Just because the general statement isn't true of you, an exception, doesn't make it untrue regarding the majority of people.

[@johannesbowman5327]

3:53 is that a Seder?

[@kimfleury]

I've passed by this in the suggested videos section because I'm past the age of having kids. I'm a grandmother...and I probably won't be having the joy of welcoming more grandchildren until my grandchildren begin having their children. But being at this stage, I can vouch that you're right on the mark with this. And also, as a teacher (working as a guest, or substitute, or supply teacher in a different assignment every day), the most difficult jobs involve classrooms with higher numbers of solo children, even from the "best" homes. Granted, some kids from larger families get lost in the crowd, and we see the impact in the classroom behaviors, but that's usually because of environments where certain children are favored over others, or all the children are neglected (leaving one or two older children in charge). Overall, children with siblings and parents who are involved (but not helicoptering) learn how to interact with other kids, how to wait their turn, how to solve conflicts, and even how to learn and try new things.

[@cursedalien]

Unfortunately, I cannot go off of my psychiatric medications for any reason, and I don't know how they would affect a potential pregnancy. I love kids, but I think I'd be better off as a teacher or something than as a parent, because I need my meds to function.

[@geoffreyforbes3098]

Great content, and I appreciate that you acknowledged that some folk aren't called to parenthood. From my perspective, that seems like an often overlooked factor that even my religious family dismisses. They tend to sing the praises of other single non parents, but not when that single non parent is a member of their own clan.

[@tryforthesky2224]

@Geoffrey Forbes, ooh! :D No joke, I'm seriously curious--if you don't feel called to parenthood (and your family is religious), are you discerning towards priesthood or consecrated religious life? There are indeed so many pathways toward growing in a settled, vowed vocation.

[@geoffreyforbes3098]

@ K Caterina Not priesthood or religious life, just a chaste single life. I think the consecrated life crosses everyone's mind at least occasionally, but the possibility of the nonreligious single life gets omitted or ignored when folks discern their path. Like all other options, it's got its plusses and minuses, and I think that's why introspection and reflection are so important: so we can be a sure a possible that we've discerned rightly. How about you? Where's your discernment led you? Was yours a straight path, or a winding one, or are you still on it?

[@tryforthesky2224]

@Geoffrey, cheers and thanks for sharing your story! My own path is still winding--a couple years ago I fell in love and considered married life for the first time but it never quite felt right (at least in terms of the ability to live out my call to communion with God; there were a few issues in that relationship). Right now I'm exploring the possibility of consecrated religious life (attending a vocation discernment retreat this weekend) and want to focus on discerning a yes/no there before re-discerning about the call to married life. Sort of take discerning vocations one at a time, as they tend to advise.

[@geoffreyforbes3098]

@ K. You're right about discerning one path at a time. I made the mistake of taking on too much at once, and I just ended up getting impatient. That was my own fault. The God lets us know in his own time, but I still find myself urging Him to hurry it along sometimes. Bad habit I'm still trying to break. God bless your discernment and your life!! He takes a while, but He'll get you where your going, wherever that ends up being.

[@The-Fluffy-Birdcat]

People should only become parents if they really want kids. No one should be expected to have kids they don't want, and certainly no one should have kids just because someone else tells them to. If you want kids then more power to ya. Personally, I can't stand the idea of having kids and I'll never have any. I find the sound of babies crying and kids screaming to be repulsive. I value my free time and peace and quiet too much.

[@Crazyman1212]

Great video you hit very important points and you were not biased in blasting us child free adults as being selfish. Some of us were just not meant to have kids and some can't.

[@dangelotringali7527]

I'm 14 with a Great-grandparent!

[@iain5615]

Congratulations - you have a wonderful family

[@andrewpearson1903]

Brb having seventeen children to spite some of these commenters

[@PaulV-nm2et]

LOL …....…...…….. if serious --- you aren't offending me by having 17 children. I wish you luck ---- you are going to need it.

[@enyakot]

“You’ve seen and done it all.” All??? Really??

[@spyroninja]

Yes. This is what happens when you age. Everyone. You lose the childlike curiosity and imagination you once had and you can't get it back.

[@HeatherE303]

He said he hasn't seen and done it all

[@limepiper3650]

I was blessed with only one child. She is my gift from God. Being a parent is a difficult job but it is the most satisfying and humbling experience that I have ever experience.

[@joehouston2833]

God said to be fruitful and multiply

[@dellrellvelle4431]

Wow, "satisfying"

[@FN_Ang3l]

@@joehouston2833 yes in the Old Testament

[@Inc0gnit030]

God's not real, people.

[@erinsmith7839]

So if having children is the first step to learning to love someone who isn't yourself, feel really terrible for your wife!! 😂

[@jspanos500]

If you reach adulthood an lose your sense of wonder and curiosity, I feel sorry for you.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

I agree. I've heard this before, people saying they did everything and are bored so they had kids. This just sounds insane to me.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@クリスティアンスニガ Thats hilarious that you think freedom and choices are something you insult someone else for. Yeah I'm sorry you can't control people... boo fucking hoo xD

[@Winterbaby1977]

jspanos500 if you don’t have kids, you probably can’t understand what he means. I was in no way bored when I had my first child, but having him definitely opened up a door to seeing life in a way I didn’t know existed. It wakes you up in an unexplainable way.

[@esthervolina3406]

One other thought about the kids taking care of one another when so many. I think it depends on the parents (and the kids). I had a dysfunctional home and none of my four older brothers helped me with anything because they were pretty starving for attention themselves. They had nothing to give. It was very painful.... but that is maybe more exclusive to me and my family.

[@lynncw9202]

My husband and I had three sons. I was an only child so i wanted a bigger family. It was lovely, but we could not have afforded three children if we were young these days. Life is just too expensive now!

[@ragamuffin2829]

I would suggest couples should be encouraged to have as many kids as they are comfortable and capable of successfully raising, not just having as many as possible. My mum wanted to have 4, but she started late out of fear of not being able to handle parenting and motherhood. She had 2 and was able to devote more time and energy into us. If a couple is able to raise a swathe of children, they should feel comfortable to do so. But there are some people who have lots of children for the wrong motives (e.g. here in my Aus hometown, I know of at least one family who has at least 2 generations producing children just for the government benefits so they don’t have to work and neglect their children).

[@lolalita774]

Your family is absolutely beautiful!! Even when I was a teenager I thought my friends were foolish for not wanting to have kids, usually because 'they'd feel guilty for bringing another life into this messed up world', or something along those lines. I always told em, if good people choose not to have kids, that will only lead to a darker and darker world. Better to raise your family right, and add more good, stable people to the world.

[@jackjerram3550]

But, if people don't want kids that's fine. Let people live the life they want to live.

[@enyakot]

Except that most people who have kids think they’re good and stable... and if they actually were the world would look very different.

[@egoistroman8238]

You're talking about people of color, aren't you?

[@a.s1035]

You should have a child if this decision comes from inside yourself, not because you feel pressure from the society. Who says that having a child is compulsory? It's your own decision, therefore your own responsability, nobody else's. When you have a child because you really want it, then you are going to show him love and give him the attention he needs, whereas when you have a child only because of social pressure then that child is going to grow up with lack of love, lack of attention, possible mistreatment and you will regret it.

[@Smartskull0]

@@a.s1035 Bringing someone into the world without consent = reyping them into existence = worst cr1me imaginable. Bc no one can consent to being born, it should be assumed that consent to being born doesn’t exist => no action should be taken on behalf of the child. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to your act. Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they cannot provide informed consent to being born. Otherwise, bringing a child into the world w/o consent = violation of their autonomy & cannot be ethically justified! Argument is still valid even if life was a utopia bc even a perfect life doesn’t appeal to the nonexistent as they, by definition, don’t exist and therefore, they have NO NEED for a perfect life. They simply don’t need even the best life imaginable & it’s immoral to impose it upon them because they never consented to experiencing said life.

[@AliciatheCho]

Years ago, a man in my apartment said that his kids were a source of freedom. At the time, I couldn’t think of anything more entrapping. But when I got older, I understood there is another kind of freedom found in that commitment. Alas, I can’t have children and am genetically ineligible to adopt.

[@thekingsfighter]

"Going on the adventure of life again for the first time." --I like it!

[@joolz5747]

A lovely family!

[@bananewane1402]

Im sorry but I don't have the emotional capacity to raise children.

[@bananewane1402]

Peter Kazavis I will eventually, as will you. In the meantime I can contribute to scientific fields and otherwise live a hedonistic lifestyle of travel and hobbyism.

[@thorsten8790]

@@bananewane1402 Ah yes travel the world and spread tribehouse gases all over. Better yourself, become stronger and more stable. Get white children and help european society to stay alive. If you don't, at least contribute to healing the world by local permaculture. We need to redesign our civilisation.

[@bananewane1402]

クリスティアンスニガ I’m less concerned about you insulting a culture I happened to be born into and more concerned that you think I’d base my decisions on it. Basing any sort of decision on a cultural reason is irrational. I have Asperger’s. I was born with it (duh), and due to the Asperger’s I have trouble dealing with other people’s emotions. You can’t rationalise with a screaming toddler. I would damage any children I have by being emotionally unavailable and not knowing how to meet their needs. Not only that, but I would get overwhelmed with inexorably high levels of stress. And before you say “your partner can look after children better probably”, there is a high chance my partner will also have Aspergers as I only feel a sense of kinship with other aspies and thus have the same problem as me. So fuck you and your assumption that I’m the product of some degenerate culture. I was born a degenerate.

[@illumoportetcresceremeaute887]

The cult of death is strong in the comments section. Be people of life

[@jestersage8700]

Never realised how many Christians are against having children. They make it seem as if over population is the only problem. If people stopped consuming things unneccsarily then having kids wouldn't be that big a problem.

[@user-et8vm9cc3t]

You would often see in the comment sections of YT a pool of darkness and bitterness, whether it is about relationships, our civilization or, as here, children. Many would sound like desperate, on the brink of committing suicide.

[@infamouscrusader3363]

@@jestersage8700 I am a Christian and I believe having children are a blessing. It really saddens me how most people don't want and hate children today. The prophet Isaiah said it best, we live in a day where that which is sweet will be bitter and that which is bitter will be sweet. Just hearing the hatred of people not wanting children is disturbing to me and it's not just having children, even marriage is looked down upon as well.

[@jestersage8700]

@@infamouscrusader3363 yeah it seems like the family is being attacked today. People look at children as little shits (completely disregarding the fact that their parents allowed them to be that way). People see marriage and relationships as purely transactional rather than a meaningful commitment between two people. The culture of today isn't exactly a friendly family fostering environment. Quite scary really. If people want to know what a society of dysfunctional broken families look like then they should look at ghettos and trailer parks. That's what happens when you destroy the fundamental unit of society, the family.

[@infamouscrusader3363]

@@jestersage8700 Yes. Thanks to movements and trends such as Women's Liberation, Child free, and MGTOW (Feminism for Men), and institutions like the Public School and all fault divorce law, the institution of the Family has been ruined and now pursing a family is seen as radical today and it's really sad. Of course. I believe all this is ran by the god of this world, Satan, who deceives the whole world through powers and sources like media, government,society,etc. (Ephesians 4:12). I'm glad to see that others believe the same values I do, which is why I watch sermons like this and read the Bible to maintain my sanity sometimes. If you have the time, there is a KZbin channel called, Sanderson1611, and there is a video there called "The Bible way to Heaven". Hope this helps, I'll leave you with these two verses: "And brought them out and said,sirs,what must I do to be saved?; And they said, Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved and thy house." - Acts 16:3-31

[@kostastatalias1155]

I never wanted kids till i was 22 and i still dont want now. I am a Christian but a family of my own is not for me. I have a relationship and she doesn't want kids either. And before you people say that i am young and i will change my mind, i had a vasectomy so i am incapable of having children anyway and i haven't regret it.

[@siglan6148]

You are a genetic dead end. A failure to your family and a failure to your faith.

[@moridaredman857]

@@siglan6148 just cuz she don’t want kids don’t mean the worlds gonna End chill

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Misery loves company :)

[@Cationna]

This is such an amazing, beautiful and important video! So well put! You've said a lot of what I've been trying to explain to people for some time, but couldn't express it, and you found the perfect words for it and added your own wisdom on top. Also, this may be beside the point, but your family is SO cute! - and the Star Wars revelation, ohmigosh!!

[@BrianHoldsworth]

Cationna That's really encouraging to hear. Thanks for saying it.

[@jackjerram3550]

'You lose your sense of wonder and curiosity' The bit of life that scares the hell out of me

[@druidriley3163]

You don't necessarily do. Scientists, artists and other such people never lose their sense of wonder and curiosity. They don't need to live through their children to wake themselves up.

[@esmep9387]

@@druidriley3163 is that why those people are so suicidal and fall into depression?

[@druidriley3163]

@@esmep9387 - can you cite some sources where it indicates scientists and artists have a higher rate of suicide than other people?

[@daniallegacy]

@@druidriley3163 hence the rational reasoning going about this video, considering today's competitive economy

[@christusvincit6696]

Your family is beautiful!! We couldn't have more than one.......our miracle baby!!

[@rodpruitt8926]

Have kids, and you will often wish you had not. Don't have kids and you will often wish you had. Make millions and you will at some point loth all that money. Don't make a lot of money, and you will often wish you had millions. Marry and you will desire sometimes to be single. Don't marry and you will wish you had married. NO SUCH THING AS THE PERFECT LIFE. WE ALWAYS WANT WHAT WE DON'T HAVE.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Most people don't regret not having children and most people aren't so retarded to waste millions.

[@seulanen576]

That pretty much sums it all up.

[@Smartskull0]

Antinatalism is the ethical position that views the birth of sentient beings as morally wrong. The justifications are: harm/suffering prevention, the questionable nature of gambling with another life, & the impossibility of consent to be born. - No one has the moral right to inflict serious, preventable harms upon others without their consent! Existence brings preventable, guaranteed harm & is imposed without consent. Because a child cannot consent to being born, the default should be to assume that consent doesn’t exist and that no action should be taken on the child’s behalf. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to or refuse to participate in the act! - Everyone experiences at least some suffering, and some people experience disproportionately more suffering than others. Creating a life is inherently unfair & inconsiderate! - Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & the freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they can’t waive their rights by providing informed consent to being born. Procreation is the biggest violation of a child’s autonomy there is! - An opinion being “negative” doesn’t make it untrue. On the contrary, it’s realistic as suffering is inevitable, & it’s impossible for someone to consent to life. - Procreation is simply not anyone’s risk to take because they won’t be the ones suffering any negative consequences of their decision to procreate-their children will! - By procreating, you are intentionally harming your “loved ones” for your own selfish desires to attain a sense of purpose, fulfillment, pride, achievement, or superior social status. - There’s no reason to create a child that’s for the child’s sake. For a potential child, birth doesn’t solve any problem that it doesn’t first create. All positives in life, such as love, happiness, or good food are based on fulfilling needs, which get created by birth. Creating a life is creating a host of needs for no need. - A nonexistent “person” cannot miss out on anything good since they don’t exist & the nonexistent have no needs or desires, including the desire for life itself or any of its pleasures. - For the betterment of humans, the environment, & other sentient beings, humans need to go extinct. No one is being harmed by the extinction of humans since no one will exist to experience said harm. Who will care that humanity is ending if no one is around to care? - On the point directly above: Just because an outcome may be unwanted doesn't mean that the arguments are wrong. Even if you believe extinction is inherently bad, this does not justify the undeniable truth that reproduction violates the child’s consent to being born. This is an appeal to consequences, a logical fallacy! - Just because procreation is natural & societally accepted doesn’t mean it’s morally good. Diseases, natural disasters, & famine are all natural too, but that doesn’t mean they’re good. This is an appeal to nature, a logical fallacy! Slavery has been around for over 13,000 years. That doesn’t make it moral or ethical. - None of the nonexistent can wish to be born, but plenty of the living wish they had never existed.

[@IG88AAA]

Is this comment a joke?

[@JohnAlbertRigali]

I wish that I had this insight in my early years of parenthood, or perhaps earlier. The Star Wars "revelation" scene had me ROFL! I was fortunate to have moments like that with my daughter and my stepgrandson, and to a lesser extent with my stepdaughters.

[@seshuaiyar5047]

Can you guarantee the safety of the mothers? And give the children good environment?

[@voyello]

No, It's your responsibility to care for yourself

[@top..G66]

@@voyello Why risk quality of life for quantity ?

[@hglundahl]

You once suffered through the entire run time of the Da Vinci Code ... OK ... hat off, if I had had one. I borrowed the book in French translation and quit reading where Teabing started to blaspheme. Easy way out, I guess ...

[@hglundahl]

@Prasanth Thomas You can say that again ...

[@hglundahl]

@Prasanth Thomas The moment I quit. I reread for context, but skipped that part. It seems Teabing is the crook, after all.

[@saltshakerrefill6087]

The Lord bless you and your family. My husband and I would like to have children but feel we are not in an economic position to do so. I have to admit that my struggles with depression and anxiety make me hesitant to pass that on to my kids as well. Maybe I just lack faith.

[@saltshakerrefill6087]

@@venusbonjour9303 Thanks for your kind reply. Our finances are in a much better place now, and I am also in a much better place mentally. I still am not sure about having kids, but I wholeheartedly agree that we can still make a positive contribution to the world. Take care.

[@KFuzze]

Love your videos Brian!!!!

[@YouNoob573]

music at the end some one name pls

[@BrianHoldsworth]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWe8kK2qerxkhKc

[@YouNoob573]

thx ! :D

[@deborahowens3518]

As a former Social Worker who worked with struggling single mom, as well as neglected and abused children, I absolutely think parents should only have as many children as they are emotionally and financially able to take care of. Ancient Church Doctrine was designed to produce more followers of a particular dogma, without regard for the suffering inflicted on women, as well as poor families!

[@BrianHoldsworth]

Really? The original Christians who were being tortured and murdered for their beliefs about Jesus were actually trying to organize a conspiracy to populate future church pews? What's your evidence for this derogatory claim? Notice too that I made no argument that single people should be having kids which is what your entire criticism hinges on.

[@damianwhite504]

@@BrianHoldsworth you are a sensitive little boy arent you? Anyone disagrees in the slightest way with anything you say and you throw a tantrum

[@Smartskull0]

@@BrianHoldsworth Bringing someone into the world without consent = reyping them into existence = worst cr1me imaginable. Bc no one can consent to being born, it should be assumed that consent to being born doesn’t exist => no action should be taken on behalf of the child. Just like how it’s not okay to r@pe an unconscious person just because they can’t consent to your act. Everyone has the rights to eternal peace & freedom from all harm, both of which can only result from remaining in the void. Therefore, every human being has the right to NOT be born so long as they cannot provide informed consent to being born. Otherwise, bringing a child into the world w/o consent = violation of their autonomy & cannot be ethically justified! Argument is still valid even if life was a utopia bc even a perfect life doesn’t appeal to the nonexistent as they, by definition, don’t exist and therefore, they have NO NEED for a perfect life. They simply don’t need even the best life imaginable & it’s immoral to impose it upon them because they never consented to experiencing said life.

[@maybeonemore]

I watched the whole video and cannot in good conscience thumbs up this. I wish you and your lovely family well. Maybe when you are older you will understand how the world really works, and know someone knew you were coming from a good place.

[@Leo.Martins]

That was great man, Thanks.

[@PaulsMom93]

What if I can’t afford kids?

[@johanruiz3422]

Kids aren’t for anyone .

[@YS0976]

My wife and myself have 3 boys. Twins 4 years old and a 6 year. We just decided that we want to have 1 or 2 more. As a young couple friends always say they don't see how we do it. We just tell them that God gives us strength and we are just blessed to be able to make children so we love the gift God has given us.

[@ErykaSoleil]

I had to laugh when you said that you can do adult things while your kids entertain each other--I can't even count the number of times I've had to stop in the middle of things to break up fights between my older two (or save the youngest from the middle child). :p As stressful as it can be, I would love to be able to have a fourth child. Unfortunately, considering how stressed our living conditions and finances are with just three, and with health issues (diagnosed after the third child) that could make pregnancy a bit more dangerous than before, that would be a very impractical decision for us. :(

[@groonix3856]

I hope things have got better, but in case they haven't, I'll make sure to say a prayer for you and your spouse.

[@thevagabondsgambit]

i SHARE YOUR FRUSTRATIONS... And, I Learned to Love it... and apply to break up fights of the ADULT KIND! Having that much experience can make you INTO A FIGHT BREAKER for adults as well! Keep the Faith, ErykaSoleil! MY GREATEST FRUSTRATION IS TO HAVE AN ADDITIONAL 10 KIDS... Well, not really, hehehehehehe... I have loads of young kids, and not-so-young kids calling me father or lolo, so... Hey, I'm at the best part of my life... Kudos to you, Parents and Grandparents... Love the gifts of the Holy Spirit to the family, the little kids! And kids: (and some of the idiotic parents in the US and Western Europe), you are GIFTS OF THE HOLY SPIRIT, so accept how you were perceived upon birth by your parents and grandparents, because THEY RECEIVED YOU on the DAY OF YOUR BIRTH.... DO NOT DARE SAY, AT A LATER AGE, THAT YOU WERE NOT SUPPOSED TO BE HOW YOU WERE CREATED! That presumption alone IS THE UNFORGIVABLE SIN - To Blaspheme or to MOCK THE HOLY SPIRIT!!! For God never COMMITS any MISTAKES; EVERYTHING IS CREATED AS HE HAD PLANNED... and the Holy Spirit created you in the womb of your mother, AND through the breath of the God which is THE HOLY SPIRIT you had received the GIFT OF LIFE - the first of 9 gifts from the Holy Spirit!!! So those Gender Identity/Preference-LOBBYING IDIOTS who call themselves parents, "BETTER TIE A MILLSTONE AROUND YOUR NECKS THAN TO LEAD THESE GIFTS OF GOD TO WRATH, AND TO ERROR..." Keeping the Fires of the One True Faith, ALIGHT AND ABLAZE, and the Light of Truth FOCUSED BLAZING at the Evil and Lies/Deceptions that Prevail in the world! Joseph theVagabond, PS: Actually I always dreamed of having my own daughter, that would have been WONDERFUL... But alas, no wife = no mother = then NO DAUGHTER... Hehehehehehe! Fathers and Father's-to-be LOVE YOUR KIDS!

[@peppy619]

I'm glad that you love your children regardless of how stressful it can be! I'm sorry to hear that another pregnancy may be more dangerous to you. However, have you thought of adopting a child? :O That could be a win-win-win: you have a fourth child as you want, it is not dangerous for your health, you open the doors to a neglected child to be loved.

[@cwebbwash3]

You are literally the only person I've heard say that it is easier to have more than one child. At least you acknowledge that not everyone is fit to parent; thats a departure from the blanket statements us catholics usually make. But just because someone is not fit to parent does not mean they have to be single. I mean, just because someone is not meant to have kids means they have to live and die alone? Seriously? How messed up and flawed is that?

[@Violator2891]

What a wonderful video and advice.

[@MrRobaut]

Greetings from Russia, good man. Big family is hapiness itself. I hope I will one day have it.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

Looks like hell to me. Also all the waste they will produce... this is why the environment is suffering.

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@@italianoetnico.calabreseve9262 Oh then what are you doing here acting all jealous? I'm saving people from destroying their lives and abusing their kids because they hate being a parent and resent them. Also I think its hilarious how you forget that everything that you find attractive in women gets fucked up once they start popping out kids. Even if they try super hard to look good on the outside.. we all know whats damaged down there ;)

[@HikaruYamamoto]

@@italianoetnico.calabreseve9262 "A man is hardwired to leave a woman, even if he got her pregnant, unless he chooses him as mother of their children." haha thats so fucking sad that you feel men have to be trapped with children to stay in the relationship. If he wants babies over me he can fuck off lmao. "maybe you are not ready to have a family." Golly gosh gee, looks like I will never be ready to give up all my freedom to be a fucking slave... time to go back to doing whatever the hell i want. "Every time you fuck her you like her a little less, a little less a little less..." Also sad that you value a woman as merely genitals to fuck and nothing more. I really feel sorry for any woman you happen to trick into dating. "Monogamy for a man, is simply against our nature. Unless he want and become a real father." Looks out upon all the happy monogamous men who got a vasectomy... lmao Ok Boomer... "Abortion is made for men by men, Lions kills other puppys to fuck again the female lion." Yet the ones getting them are women! I love how you cannot evolve past your animal self yet. Have you raped and murdered anyone lately? I mean its nature... Have fun with your primal instincts... let me know how those custody battles and sending shitloads of child support go for you! Enjoy your life of drama!

[@lepp6598]

People should have as many kids as they want AND can afford to properly care for. For some people, that's in the double digits. For others, it's zero. I have one - love her to bits - never wanted another, never had another.

[@Perichron]

Excellent video sir!

[@apond04]

I would love to see more people say that they want the family God wants for them. How beautiful would our testimony be if we loved having one child, or 8 children, or no children because that was God’s will? How beautiful would it be if we loved and accepted our spouse as God made them, whether fertile or infertile? Or if we felt blessed whether God gave us a honeymoon baby or had children after years of trying?

[@FN_Ang3l]

Some where chosen by god to stay single!

[@lizf506]

Cute family! We have 11. You family photo picture part is hysterical and so accurate. God bless you.

[@hannajean8204]

idiot!

[@trevagraham1605]

Liz Feuerborn you selfish piece of garbage! Ultimate loser.

[@luiscarloszardo2588]

disgusting...

[@vanyoutubeburg8072]

Congrats on your 11 kids! That must be really rewarding!

[@trevagraham1605]

@Peter Kazavis Trust me, if I was 100 percent sure I wouldn't go to Hell I would've killed myself a long time ago.

[@cameronbeare7808]

THAT STAR WARS CLIP! Reactions are amazing!

[@yiannisroubos8846]

Thanx I needed this video

[@georgemartin9205]

Thanks for making this video.

[@emj420]

If everyone had many children the population problem would be far greater. We already have more people than there are resources on this earth to sustain them... opt to adopt!

[@liberalbias4462]

Not true at all. The ocean has tons of resources. So does space. And more humans equal more solutions to earths problems.

[@sugercane7213]

@@liberalbias4462 Earth only has problems because of people. We already have 7 billion people; what makes you think more are going to solve this crises?

[@liberalbias4462]

@Sharks Jaw then we go into space. And take resources from asteroids.

[@80sfreak14]

@@liberalbias4462 people are what causes the earths problems. No kids coming from my squirter, vasectomy at the age of 18 instead.

[@jonny-ih7tg]

My wonder and curiosity grows way more being single with no kids....my mind is not occupied by family matters, therefore I think about the depths of the universe and constantly ponder what this reality is. With a family your mind is constantly moving with day to day concerns.....no thanks

[@andrewpearson1903]

morteeeee I turned myslef into a pickle

[@kenmtb]

You seem like a great parent hand one of the few people on the web that has a nice balanced approach to parenting. Most people are focused on guilting the childfree.

[@Chaosfollowslies]

We are not selfish by nature, we are selfish by ignorance.

[@jasonbuford2437]

Bs

[@johanruiz3422]

@@jasonbuford2437your bs

[@waltergrove2657]

We are selfish because we are smart

[@BedboundME]

Oh dear. So we don’t have a population crisis? We don’t have huge amounts of the beautiful earth built over? We don’t have many species facing extinction because of mam taking huge swathes of their territory to live On or get food from (think the mass destruction of the amazon rainforest - lungs of earth- for beef cattle and logging). When man is now the massively dominant creature, in a hundred years of 6 children per family with modern medicine meaning that many children/ mothers in labour aren’t dying (obviously a good thing but that’s what high birth rates were for) where are all the humans and animals going to live , in a way that still allows the earth to be a green and pleasant place not a mass of high rise buildings and housing estates?. We simply can’t keep procreating at catholic rates no matter how delightful little mini mes are.

[@BedboundME]

Doing things for those who are cute and we adore is easy, it doesn’t teach us true selflessness in the way that volunteering at an old folks home would for example. I am really astonished at the catholic Mindset on population. It’s arguable that those who restrict their families size are practising a greater magnanimity / selflessness

@@BedboundME The most compassionate and selfless thing any individual can do in life is to never have children.

[@levisando]

You seem to assume that "procreating at Catholic rates" is the cause for all our environmental problems instead of the blatant disregard for the environment that has come hand-in-hand with the Industrial Revolution.

[@BedboundME]

@@levisando no but it’s a factor. Eg in countries like Nigeria birth rates are high and areas are very over crowded. I’d love everyone to do anything to protect what’s left of our natural environment and in some places rewild, give back land to the forest - England where I’m from has much lower tree cover (and places of peace and freedom) than many countries. However by logic clear with finite resources and land mass, we cannot keep increasing at catholic birth rate with our population doubling in size every few years and carry on living as we do, high consumption, every family living in their own home etc without that having a devastating effect on the planet.

[@levisando]

@@BedboundME I like how you credit "catholic birth rate" for our current levels of population growth like no one but Catholics have lots of kids.

[@misscychilds]

Beautiful!!!

[@Zephyrs009]

Maybe Because most parents have something called a Budget. They kinda want money to Do things and provide. 1 child alone is A huge financial Responsibility. Notice how countries with weak educations typically Have more children per mother.