Why You Should (Probably) Stay Single

[@ChronoTriggers]

This channel should be called the pursuit of melancholy and the infinite sadness.

[@anachronistofer]

Either you didn't watch the entire video or you didn't understand it.

[@justbrian_47]

Smashing Pumpkins...

[@RealWildWalter]

exactly what i was thibking but i guess it’s technically Mellon Collie?

[@kevinkerr9310]

How can you know happiness without sadness?

[@RenéSaussy]

great album

[@erikbianco78]

Even KZbin now is telling me just to give up

[@finaldestination41]

Life sucks

[@majam8955]

ikr

[@khairul_pjam]

Not youtube. But the creator.

[@Wuwei72-o5n]

Love yourself.

[@bboyneon92]

No, KZbin said it's possible that love can happen if you seek it. But, consciously while working on yourself. And, that's not a promise that you'll absolutely find love. But, you wouldn't regret it if you didn't.

[@GoneButNotGone]

“Throw out the ideal, and build something real” is the takeaway from this. Good advice that unfortunately may take a few broken hearts and a divorce to learn.

[@coffeejunkie4193]

Sometimes it taking the road most travels won’t lead to anything. Sometimes you got to take the dirt road to get the waterfall. It’s rocky and rough but the journey is worth the reward.

[@Vladimyrful]

Did you really learn something new, honestly? I bet all of us were aware of this 'wisdom'.

[@cg8846z]

​@@Vladimyrfulobjectively, we all know this on some level...

[@Vladimyrful]

@@cg8846z Agreed.

[@user7-o9w]

I used to think that finding “the one” would be the solution to all my problems, but I’ve learned that love isn’t perfect or easy, as it takes a lot of effort, and it’s not going to fix everything. Just gotta work on myself first instead of hoping someone else will make me feel complete.

[@DWSP101]

Finally, somebody who uses common sense congratulations. You’re one of the few people who understand this meaning and yes, it’s a lot of work.

[@k2sworld]

No one can "make you feel complete" other than you. You're setting yourself up for disappointment and failure if you think someone else is supposed to complete you. And, what a burden to lay on someone else who is also carrying their own strengths and doubts.

[@塩山マヴィ]

​@k2sworld exactly. True love is pretty much like a coop mode in a video game. The game itself is already fun and fulfilling when played solo, but playing coop with a partner just gives a different experience of the same game. It can make the game easier or hard in certain aspects, but it doesn't necessarily make the experience "better" or "worse."

[@Canvaschronicles-0]

The true meaning of "the one" is actually what you have said

[@rahulsawhney1279]

What the hell? dude it is a COMMON SENSE. LITERALLY EVERY PEOPLE NOW THIS.

[@mitthrawnuruodo1730]

It was when I learned to fully accept being alone that I finally stopped feeling lonely.

[@ShumuStudios]

Agreed, well said

[@Lesistius]

This is literally it. How can you expect people to love being with you, when you can’t love being with yourself.

[@AvoidTheCadaver]

One who is able to be happy and content while being alone is one who would make a good partner because they already know how to handle being with the most difficult partner.

[@himanshu6472]

Me to mate i think its the thought process thats make the whole difference in my 23 years of life i have never been loved by a girl

[@MadaraUchiha-ly8wr]

I'm 34 years old and I'm still learning to be alone. I've been alone for a long time. I want to be alone, I just don't want to be alone with my problems of being me.

[@arn3107]

i like how i open these up hoping to learn profound life lessons, but just end up realizing that i already knew everything presented in the video

[@SenhorAlien]

Some years ago I was hopelessly entranced by so many different things I could learn, but now anything that isn't some scientific innovation or related to technology or hard sciences feels like "yeah, I've seen/thought that before"

[@matyasnovak9539]

you are a wise man, we all have so much to learn from you

[@arn3107]

@@matyasnovak9539 i assure you i'm not... i'm not even a grown man...

[@arn3107]

@@SenhorAlien maybe try focusing on creating things instead!!

[@arn3107]

@@matyasnovak9539 i assure you i am not 😅

[@alephink]

I've taken myself out of the dating pool, no hardships, no break ups, no fights, sure there are things that require a partner, but peace of mind is hard to achieve and hard to give up. Haven't met a single person in years worth the trouble of a second date, so yeah...I'm better off alone

[@coffeejunkie4193]

I think it’s tied to the act of attempting to treat it as if you’re finding someone. It’s because you are deep down are still hoping this is the one. It means you haven’t truly committed to being single. You won’t find “the one” or of someone of worth until you do gain a willingness to be single. Time moves faster. And someone looking will find you. Don’t be someone looking be someone that can be found.

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

​@@coffeejunkie4193 so the other person needs to be the one looking? Why should that person suffer and go through that?

[@UniqueGeekFreak]

@alephink Ppl can't connect with others who are not connected with themselves...that's pretty much everyone at this point due to the unnatural way of living & unhealthy lifestyle Connect with yourself first, get to know who you are....the rest may follow...or not....we don't know.

[@Musicman25-b4d]

Choosing to remain single is a persons way of saying they just want peace in their life without the need of validation from another person. Self Love is the key!

[@cindyl760]

This is exactly where I’m at right now. I haven’t put any effort in dating at all

[@Stranger_In_The_Alps]

Most men I know value their peace more than anything dating has to offer. So they choose to remain single

[@arn3107]

most men you know aren't miserable, i imagine sadly most men you DON'T know are...

[@NikosM112]

Most men are single, because they have no options compared to the average woman.

[@CraigStCyrPlus]

It took me 5 serious relationships to realize nobody is better company than myself. I don't add stress to my life, I remove it.

[@lu5445]

Its better to want a relationship and not have it than to have it and not want it. Everyone needs to learn this on their own tho, “the grass is always greener on the other side” so doesn’t really matter which side you’re on, you’ll still wonder if you’re missing something.

[@reddykilowatt]

That’s called making a virtue out of necessity 😂

[@jameskulevich8907]

My Ma would say, “Make sure you ‘like’ the person you’re going to marry more than you ‘love’ them; with time love fades.”

[@N28-h9m]

Starting to make more sense now that I am over 30

[@trip_t2122]

You mean to try and focus on their 'non-romantic' traits?

[@philosense]

I appreciate the emphasis on realistic expectations, effort, and growth in relationships instead of chasing unattainable ideals.

[@anachronistofer]

It seems to me the modern world often presents an unrealistic ideal of what love is, a fantasy version of it. It sets our expectations much too high and inevitably most of us will be disappointed. Instead, we should strive toward realistic expectations, forgiveness, and patience. Nothing is perfect and never will be.

[@tevbuff]

@anachronistofer I agree ☝🏾💯. Our modern conception of love is unrealistic.

[@donniecatalano]

Next year I will celebrate my 25th wedding anniversary. We are ok, thing change with age, sometimes a bit up, sometimes a bit down. I wouldn't change anything.

[@voodoochile4147]

💜

[@eddieloujones2673]

I found that each time I had my heart broken, the time to recover was longer than the recovery from the previous heartbreak. I have had so many that I no longer am willing to try again. I am cool with that and my life is very peaceful.

[@BazaarGameTradingDracut]

This might be my favorite video of yours and I’ve watched all of them. So touching

[@Wkumar07]

I've been married for 14 years and, like any other couple, we have had our ups and downs. Lately we've been struggling, but we have stayed together. The reality is that life apart would be far more difficult than life together.

[@cynp9431]

This might be my favorite video in the world. I am grateful to have found it at this time. It is too late to change the choices I've made about love before, but now I am equipped to choose differently. I don't know what it means to me yet. But thank you for this video, all the same.

[@Gyatttmunch]

Funny this is recommended to me the same day that a real messy divorce went viral in my country that led to the man taking his own life. I dreaded being alone in love and intimacy, now I realise that loving yourself should be the primary goal.

[@Aquabyte]

Atul case?

[@Gyatttmunch]

@ yeah, just so unfortunate and depressing

[@Aquabyte]

@@Gyatttmunch It is. Well you are right about loving yourself always should be the primary goal.

[@zenmodeplease]

Find someone who can try to work with you through whatever come up … that is love . Because you have no idea what’s coming towards you in life 😌 Life will continue to surprise and shock us … so someone who will continue holding hands through it all is the perfect companion.

[@VenomLeon]

While I understand why many men nowadays choose to remain single, what I however do fear is that this topic about remaining single just helps men to stay where they are and not take any more chances, because it's mostly the negatives and risks that get promoted. It's a rampant topic on the web, and honestly, I'm concerned.

[@samueleborn9909]

I agree. This really seems to be used as an excuse to not take chances anymore. It does not bode well for social wellbeing

[@stefano7868]

I think "chance" is a very misleading and potentially dangerous concept. In my experience, it's far easier to believe that relationships are flat-out impossible because you're going to fail A LOT. Like you're going to fail way more than you succeed. It's not a matter of "trying until you succeed", because you also have limited energy and you're going to get mentally and emotionally exhausted VERY quickly, and that's a pain that almost never heals. You need to carefully manage your "resources" and perform cost-benefit analysis. You can't throw yourself at every single person you like and expect it to work even 90% of the time -- that's like playing every single lottery and expecting to win in the first few attempts. Pain from rejection and exhaustion build up. We're not infinite wells of energy, we're constrained by our minds, bodies, and emotions. I believe that choosing to take chances is just as dangerous and unhealthy as choosing not to. Choosing not to take those chances is better because you conserve resources that otherwise would be highly likely to be wasted otherwise. Self-help advice usually revolves around the idea of "don't think, just ask them out" but that makes the very unsound, illogical, and unsafe assumption that it will always bring progress. Rejection isn't what wears people down, it's the loss of energy that does. The information/experience you gain from rejection almost always tends to be insufficient to make up for the what you lost.

[@puttfordoughdiscgolf9361]

@@samueleborn9909 I've taken a lot of chances in my life. I've been in love in several serious relationships, traveled to 23 countries, lived off grid alone, worked two of my dream jobs, plus multiple other achievements all before 35 years old. After experiencing all those things and their ups and down, I currently strive for the least amount of up and down and just steady peace. I'm content with not taking major chances anymore.

[@xul5042]

Certain laws need to be removed in order for it to be worth it.

[@stefano7868]

@@xul5042 What do you mean by that? Like taxation laws for marital status, the messiness of legal separation, or…

[@DaCasualMMA]

I actually thought this was beautiful. Ultimately love is a decision we make everyday.

[@seemranhoro]

Soo true ❤

[@k2sworld]

The truth is, you are alone. Born that way and will go out that way. You are useless to anyone if you are not, first, happy being alone and in your aloneness. But, once you love being alone, you soon realize that adding someone else takes time away from the most important person in your life; YOU. Love is a drug and has all the same affects drugs do. If you chose to do the drug of love, know that one day, you will exhibit all the behaviors of a drug addict, especially when the drug dealer stops giving you the drug. At some point, at some age or after enough pain and loss, you realize that you just don't want to be dependent on the drug or be controlled and manipulated by it anymore and move on. I know I did and I am MUCH happier now.

[@hobf8573]

Wish I could be an emotionless being of logic. But I am not. To pursue love is how a human was born to be.

[@murppyisdurppy1816]

@@hobf8573 kinda same

[@peterpiper2974]

@@hobf8573 It's the opposite with me: wish I could be a bit more emotional and pursue love at times, but I do not. Having been alone for so many years, it would be arduous to give up peace and silence

[@erikaskag]

The encouragment I need in this hour, havin been single my whole life

[@finaldestination41]

U r not alone fr

[@trishalsuvarna]

Your perspectives are always intriguing to me and I think they are worth listening to. I love how you phrase your words and the video content synchronises and completes what you try to complete. You even talk about your sponsors in a unique way and how you blend it in your videos.

[@Macriné98]

This is a bit off-topic but I just wanted to share since everybody is writing their stories. I'm 26 years old and never been in a relationship. Years go by and I don't even get a hug. I'm a girl and have been dealing with an eating disorder for a long time which isolated me even more. For some reason though, day by day I feel less worried. I love reading books and if I manage to starve for a long time, classical music starts to sound painfully majestic. I try to think that so long as I have access to books, life shall be tolerable. My father is an orthodox priest and when I was younger he said: I named you after Saint Macrine, she was a Christian nun, but the name itself means distressed, futile and abandoned. Somewhere along the lines, I realised that I'm living up to my name.

[@trip_t2122]

I'm 26 too and I've never been in a relationship. It's mostly due to my psychology; I don't have a secure attachment style. I don't have a solution but I hope you beat that eating disorder and that you get a loving relationship eventually.

[@artlover3120]

Girl, same !! I'm 26, and coming from a traditional culture, relationships are based on marriage only so no bf / gf thing, which makes me think really well before getting involved in a marriage. Peace of mind and self love are my main goal now.. Everything else will come at the right time..

[@RichardJames-ur5vi]

15 years ago I got my first two puppies and, despite having been through relationships for 20 years and having a daughter, it was the first time I experienced unconditional love. Today I still have a best friend, companion, and experience a connection no human is capable of offering.

[@yashgupta2912]

"Love won't be perfect but it would be real "

[@hroxaxgaming1699]

I watched almost every video and none of them had failed to make me think. So for that i thank you with all my heart. ❤

[@kayskreed]

Romance and love are completely different animals. To be "in love" (romance) is different from love proper. The first is just infatuation, whereas the latter is deeply rooted in care and respect. I think part of the issue is that most people can't distinguish these since we misuse the same word for it ("love"). Also, there's the problem where everyone wants to be loved, but no one knows truly what that means, let alone how to love back in turn. Because love is not merely a noun, but a verb also. To love is a choice, an action, not a feeling. Lastly, I agree that the "One" is a very destructive concept if meant to represent another person. The closest thing to the "one" we can ever hope to achieve is within ourselves.

[@roysmith5597]

Very wise words. Love is a dance between people who mirror the other's inner world, so that each comes to know both themselves and the other. It is a skill to learn and practice, rather than a reward that is found. It is a path of growth, and one of life's greatest endeavors.

[@JoffreyGeenen]

This video goes deeper than just breaking the illusion of perfect relationships, it's applicable to expectations as a whole, the pitfall into deep sadness is believing that happiness and success are guaranteed and that those things also have clear aesthetic. I really felt something deeply with this video, thank you.

[@7gdnz]

You have to love yourself first before trying to find someone to love. Your self esteem will get crushed otherwise, they will twist your words or use your weaknesses to gain ground when a relationship is supposed to be equal footing. That’s why some men stop trying, give up relationships and settle for 1 night stands or stay single

[@leviathan5207]

Daniel Sloss said: "If you love yourself 20% and someone comes along who loves you 30% you'll be like 'WOW THAT'S A LOT', whilst it's literally less than 50%. You need to love yourself 100%, because then anyone who comes a long, has to go above and beyond" And that really resonated with me.

[@Cjspectre7782]

The irony is every time I start feeling at peace, and even happy being single: some one wants to start talking to me, and eventually be in a relationship with me😂

[@coffeejunkie4193]

That’s just the way it plays out. Just got to sort through the bad apples until one catches your eye. Being able tie step back and excepting being single is the best way to get a partner. People need to stop looking and just step back and let themselves get found.

[@Cjspectre7782]

​@@coffeejunkie4193 absolutely

[@Davidsavage8008]

Love is more of an example of sacrifices made for the betterment of others . willingly caring for someone or thing.

[@georgeedward1226]

Peace of mind is far, far, far more important than love.

[@nickchua3431]

I used to be the type who coped and said that I don’t need a relationship because it’s just gonna drain my time, happiness and emotions. However, I’ve been in a relationship for the past 6 months and even though it has its ups and downs, i don’t regret my choice at all. Right now, we’re going thru a bit of a rough patch but even then ik that this is just how it works. It’s hard to find the right person for you and there’s bound to be mistakes made along the way. But i believe that im on the right track and Im gonna give my all to continue down it.

[@definite11]

I'm glad this video exists. I have always felt this way about life, i never felt like i needed to have love after living alone for a couple years. Then i met someone, and as much as i love them, i know im okay without them. But they do make things more enjoyable, so why not try. I see a lot of comments about people choosing to be single because they were hurt. I've had people walk away as fast as they came and changed my world for those moments. But I always knew that people come and go, and their exits never made me feel like i needed to only be alone for peace. Both give me the same amount of comfort to an extent. I always felt like i was wrong for not being too hurt about break-ups even when i gave my all. This video just helps put it in words for me. Realizing life is a guaranteed up and down battle in many ways which can hurt a person, its comforting that it means im not unlucky. If this partner doesnt work out, thats okay, it happens to all of us, so ill just accept the terms if ill be here for a while. Great video man!

[@WisdomLife9]

Identify the right person to play with, to be a partner is extremly important. Thanks for your sharing!

[@RichMitch]

So... Do nothing?

[@MrTchupam]

Yup… that’s what I’ve been doing. Not going very well I gotta admit it.

[@arn3107]

​@@MrTchupamyou'll get there, dw keep your spirits up

[@arn3107]

@LifeShouldNotExist1 "nothing" in this case obviously means "nothing in terms of getting a relationship"

[@anachronistofer]

Either you didn't watch the entire video or you didn't understand it.

[@arn3107]

@LifeShouldNotExist1 okay but i want you to at least acknowledge that the context is different

[@NotOmni]

God damnit pursuit, why is this right on time?

[@finaldestination41]

Lol

[@ankchak]

2:06 Really needed to hear this right now, utterly grateful!

[@BlackWolF-vp8ou]

Love is to recognize yourself in the other person. To get home when you are with the person.

[@EarlMcManus2005]

Change the name of the channel to The Pursuit of Sadness.

[@That1_CopDude]

100%

[@ANTINATALIST_lewis]

totaly agree

[@--Spidy--]

ikr dude look at all these depressed people in the comments D:

[@raphaelyana7975]

Great video, thank you! I particularly the aspect where you compare pyschologist's points of view and theories. Please continue this format

[@shreyanmajumder5364]

Believe me guyz....find someone who loves you back and is compatible with you in the longrun.... don't rush into immediate decisions. It is beautiful when you have someone to share your life with. Loneliness sucks !

[@_Eric._]

Exactly, I just met the love of my life not so long ago and she gives me peace and makes me happy as I do the same to her. I do admit it is difficult to find that rare perfect woman who doesn't give you much trouble if none at all. I was single my whole life and had only dated once, rejected 2 girls, been rejected twice and was friendzoned for most of my life until I stopped trying/caring and worked on myself. Think that's what people need to do more than anything, work on themselves and let the right person find them. Damn I feel corny now But more than anything I got tired of being alone, I was bored as I was already satisfied with myself and started feeling lonely again right before I ran into my now girlfriend

[@Pixelruu]

To me love is the same as life, something we will all feel in a way or another and like life it has its endings. Those endings can be sad or happy or make you furious. When things come to an end your most honest feeling show. And I hope for all of you, you feel only compassion, care and respect in those times.

[@ArtistSoul]

Liked just for the self affirming title. It actually brings comfort ❤

[@doublestarships646]

My soulmate is a beautiful Native American woman who has a lot of issues that come with her but we literally need each other everyday and we are practically in love. I always tell her that I hope we can stay in love after this life and into the next because there's no world or universe where I can be happy without her.

[@διαβόητο23φάντασμα]

Not going to work

[@--Spidy--]

@@διαβόητο23φάντασμα ok Einstein

[@liam78587]

Not going to work

[@GabrielXDrums]

@@liam78587ok diddy

[@zwagig1761]

May your love transcend time

[@lorensims4846]

Love is life. Life is love.

[@briancavan8116]

10/10 for Zizek quotes. I also like... When I really love someone, I can only show it by making aggressive and bad-taste remarks. Slavoj Zizek

[@raymondmiller5098]

NO WIFE. = HAPPY LIFE !

[@ek3281]

If you're looking for love to be a remedy or a solution you better keep working on yourself

[@artofcujo]

Love is the same as friendship in the sense that you gotta stick by your friends and if they truly care for you they'll do the same. The one is the person who chooses to stick with you and grow, not the person who makes you feel validated

[@Othillde]

So the video I clicked on was called "Simple signs you should stay single". The video I'm watching is apparently titled "How love changes your brain - the dark side of relationships". I'm so fed up of algorithms and creators changing their titles and thumbnails for them. It's all just empty clickbait content.

[@murppyisdurppy1816]

cool story

[@Durmomo0]

I believe in love for some, but not for me.

[@33-nidhiaggarwal9b8]

Most beautiful video I've ever seen

[@austiinos]

ive had to learn the hard way that love is an additional thing shared with that person. I learned to do my best to love myself. To not bring down the person you want to be with. Support and being there is what counts. Timing can rip it apart. Do what you love and love can follow. Dont chase it is all.

[@tmannintendo]

Kind of just waiting till I die at this point.

[@SetariM]

Same. Got my self-retirement plan all set up so no one has to take care of me in "old age" or if I become unable to take care of myself in some capacity.

[@hanghang3d952]

thank you brother for everything till now

[@abrahamkabon1459]

Love will save us all.

[@bobbyking2490]

What a beautiful video! Thank you!

[@thelawyer95]

To all young men, don't marry. Never ever. Build yourself, save money, do whatever you want. Retire early, live happily after age 50 plus.

[@--Spidy--]

Build yourself, save money, do whatever you want, AND marry if you want to

[@thelawyer95]

@--Spidy-- lol all my achievable points are practically unachievable if you marry

[@--Spidy--]

@@thelawyer95 how so?

[@thelawyer95]

@@--Spidy-- I ain't gonna write an essay for you. Look at scientific data.

[@--Spidy--]

@@thelawyer95 working on yourself & finding true love is compatible. If you disagree then you have not met the right person yet. The "right person" will not prevent you from becoming the better version of yourself ; they will - directly or indirectly - push you to do that Also, what are your "achievable points are practically unachievable if you marry"?

[@a.modestproposal2038]

Having a "meaningful" i.e. happy life is something you can do with or without a relationship. Happiness never originates in an externality you do not control -- it's the result of having inspiring long term goals, making choices progressing you in the direction of those goals, and experiencing increasing satisfaction with that progress in the present. A romantic relationship is simply one of many vehicles in which you can do that. Any such vehicle may leave you stranded on the roadside at which point you accept it's time consider what other vehicle may be more appropriate to your purpose. The meaning is the behavior of the driver, not the vehicle.

[@madxbat]

I loved this episode. There is a fantasy as to what we portray love/relationship to be. This Disney, Hallmark perfect romance movie, when in reality love takes work and effort. It's accepting who we pick isn't going to be this perfect, that they can't read your mind. To an extent I am a romantic, but at the same time like in life, we need those down moments to make the up moments just as meaningful and impactful. Bailing out of a relationship because of something trivial or because after a few years, ya aren't in love anymore, to me is a lack of effort to make things work.

[@omgitsarjun]

This video 5 mins ago was called "why you should (probably) stay single" what a revamp lol

[@Arkad_1]

The "Ideal" has ruined a lot of relationships (including mine)... love is to learn what your partner and love them.

[@HarvestStore]

Great video.

[@reaperandyel]

Love, like everything else, is not perfect. But there's beauty in imperfection.

[@hadrienleon]

I needed this

[@MrTchupam]

Wow beautiful animation

[@No-Stack-Developer]

Ah yes. My daily dose of copium

[@finaldestination41]

Lol😅

[@ivor000]

man, your voice cadence is just perfect for the subject matter

[@viniciusnoyoutube]

Perfect. Trying to find my love or dying trying.

[@Joshy2-TJC]

Build your values, and find those who align with them, make every little choice in your life count, because everything builds and adds to who you end up being, and continue to evolve into.

[@ZK_SHREDR]

Thanks this is my new reason

[@Qpoueoor]

Love was always a tool to extract resources. It’s ok. Accept it or quit.

[@SenhorAlien]

I haven't watched the video yet, but I love the title. I've recently ended a long term relationship, and this seems so fitting to my situation! I should probably remain single!

[@coffeejunkie4193]

Just give is a year. Don’t think about it. Don’t look for someone because everyone else is. Let yourself be found. To many people are fighting to find something that isn’t there. Once you accept being single time will move so quickly that before you know it someone will fall into your lap. Give is a year. Focus on yourself and take yourself out to a restaurant here or there.

[@full_time_Sinner209]

I decided to stay single once I realize that most people's relationships are 99% TOXIC 🥴, you CAN'T love someone else without loving yourself first, and that alone is the hardest thing a damage human has to go through and at the end a lot of us won't achieve the goal of truly loving ourselves. 😢

[@TheCrispOne2025]

“Beauty will save the world” - I used to believe that

[@shishiada5758]

Me too.

[@BillMurey-om3zw]

I love myself, every one else is missing out🌒🌕🌘

[@GreenCanvasInteriorscape]

Love and faith Elusive divisive illogical Yummy feelings elusive

[@finaldestination41]

It's all bio chemistry aka hormones

[@mosesinvests]

Nice choice on the toccata :)

[@iamberto97]

Legally separated with two kids. They chose something greener on the other side… I still have hope.

[@josiahareola4924]

as long as we are mortals, we will not end well

[@commoneuropeanstarling]

Very beautiful content

[@darrenbrown7037]

To say that love ultimately isn’t good is the same thing as saying it is good. It’s clinging to a dualistic idea, one that can’t exist without its opposite, and as long as one clings to an idea about something being a certain way, they immediately lose the ability to exist in the moment as it is, they can’t experience love or not love if they are holding an idea of what it should be. There are only moments of being here, even your last moment you will be here as much as your first moment, and when you die then there isn’t a thing to experience moment at all (presumably). So while you are here, experience this life totally, and so long you don’t cling to an idea, you can use them as ways to enjoy the experience. Love the idea is different than a moment shared with another person.. there is no end when you’re just with someone or doing something you enjoy, it’s just now until it isn’t. These videos don’t hold water.

[@illusionfaderr5394]

This video came up on my home page while i'm in the middle of trying to deal with my two first break-ups (& hopefully my lasts, goddamn), & I excitedly clicked on it hoping that it would bring some relief or comfort to the pain of having lost my partners but instead watching this felt like pouring acid into an open wound.

[@anarchyangelo]

Funny...I just downloaded an article i found online about romantic love called "Nothing higher to live for" similar conclusion.🤙🏽

[@jose9630]

Really great and inspirational video. Thank you for posting today. I have been ruminating on this for sometime as I am 31 today and peers and colleagues are tying the knot and getting married. I often question my role in this life. And wonder if I am fit for the demands of social norms or if I am meant to be different in my own way. Find content with the lot I have been assigned.

[@bartlomiejodachowski]

hah title chsnged to a little more appropriate one. btw so so good vid

[@bartlomiejodachowski]

another title once again!!

[@coffeejunkie4193]

A realistic can still see, understand, and value love. Even in its bad and good states.

[@mikaling]

why the title and thumbnail changes?

[@sensable834]

The title, the comments, and other videos by Pursuit of "Wonder" seem more in line with the pursuit of self and self "fulfillment," which I think is largely impossible. While I think this video offers an interesting take on the value of singleness, it seems to lean heavily on the self in an individualistic manner, which I think overlooks the importance of human connection. While being single can feel fulfilling and empowering at first, I have found that is a short lived experience and true happiness often comes from meaningful relationships and contributing to something beyond oneself. Independence and self-discovery are important and useful aids, but they're most meaningful when mixed with connections and purpose in your local community Here is my advice, do the opposite of this channel for the most part, and you will be good!

[@satyaprakash03133]

I still love and am loved in return💓 !

[@slamsuperslam]

I see many people around me, friends and strangers alike, in happy and stable relationships. They have no idea we exist. Thus, I get this feeling that I am but a part of a community, a community of people struggling with love. We watch videos like this one, consume similar content of the same nature across other mediums, and look for reasons to confirm our already developed biases on the reality of love. I think it’s important to understand that this generation isn’t doomed, that the men, women of today aren’t screwed up and incapable of love. We’re just getting through something. I believe that losing hope, permanently altering behaviors, and giving up are all terrible ideas. After all… I see many people around me, friends and strangers alike, in happy and stable relationships. They have no idea we exist.

[@coffeejunkie4193]

Hey the kicker is you are fighting yourself. Let desperation eat away at you. Give yourself a break. Focus on yourself. Stop looking for someone. If you’re able to not keep looking for someone you leave yourself open to be found. Just expect what life is and take yourself out to a restaurant. Treat yourself and work on yourself. Don’t worry about what is happening around you. One you have excepted being single time goes by faster. You won’t be lost and in pain. And someone lost looking might just find you. Like how you treat yourself. Ask to come with you to a restaurant you like. Play a game with you. Then before you know it you will have it. Without even expecting it. This is the way to a healthy relationship. Give up on looking and just look at yourself. Take care of yourself.

[@WisdomLife9]

To those who are watching this video: May you and your loved ones be blessed with inner peace, enlightenment, boundless compassion, and the wisdom to navigate life's journey with grace and tranquility. May your hearts be light, your spirits strong, and your days filled with serenity and joy.

[@stevebentham6787]

Excellent video

[@jeromep-o9q]

Lucky me, I'm too ugly to get a first date. (This made more sense under the video's original title "Why you should remain single")

[@tats6563]

I don't play the game ever since... I just show who I am. Like I challenge them for a year courting me and they stay consistent and persuasive. They will tell me I am the one they hoped for but eventually they will change... and just slowly detached from me saying I am "too much". Which is Ironic because I am a sustainable woman and I don't always talk or ask them every minute or everday. I love being alone time to time and I have my own hobbies. And then eventually I will realise the facts they showed me.. that they are boys who afraid to commit 💔 When bad time comes they will run away. In the end, I stay resilient. I know I will meet and find someone like me... who is not afraid and willing to work things out around this hard life... loving and caring because I will be that towards him.

[@ahnaf_ameer_ashraf]

Worth sharing 😮

[@cousin_JACK]

I truly wish you find the love you deserve. Remember that you must be equally yoked as it says in the Bible, otherwise you’re simply wasting each others time and setting yourself up for emotional turmoil and distrust of others that will ripple out in the future due to avoidable heartbreak. Remember many men are broken or transformed for the better due to love loss. Women are dangerous, the only women you should allow to distract you is the one you wish to procreate with.