Why you shouldn't be afraid of death and dying

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[@rpearce18]

In January 2010, my lovely wife found out by accident that she had terminal secondary lung cancer. When we received this awful news, my wife started to make plans about her funeral, where she wanted her ashes buried. She also made a list of phone numbers that I needed to call after her passing. Then, in 2010, she got pneumonia and was taken to hospital. Once there, she decided not to have any treatment, and it was time for her to say a temporary "goodbye.""" She wasn't scared of dying. Then, at 04:20 on 22nd Marsh 2010, she passed away in my arms. She was one brave lady that for 21 years, that I proudly called my wife.

[@elizabethwhite196]

I’m so sorry for your loss. What a shock! So soon- a diagnosis and then passing away so soon after makes it all so difficult to process. Lucky man for having the love of your life who was considerate enough to make it easy on you. God bless. May her memory be eternal.💕

[@rebeccawells1580]

I’m not afraid to die. I’m afraid of the way I die. Dying peacefully of old age in a bed is the most gracious gift someone can receive.

[@chuckh4077]

I'd rather it be quick. My grandmother died in pain. For weeks she was in pain before her deth. She couldn't talk and verbalize she was In pain. I do not want that to happen to me.

[@infinite8382]

my uncle died peacefully in his sleep....unfortunately the passengers in the bus he was driving at the time didn't go so peacefully! lol

[@bp968]

​@@infinite8382I love me some dark humor. 👏🫡

[@teresamartin4735]

infinite8382: You're joking, right?

[@infinite8382]

@@teresamartin4735 yes, it is a joke. In fact, my uncle isnt a bus drive, but he has been dead for a number of years now. His last words were,..."what are you doing with that axe" :p

[@dereknesbitt5378]

That's exactly what I observed 2 months ago when my wife passed. She was very much at peace during her last hours, and I was grateful for that

[@carlodave9]

I was happy to here this. I thought dying peacefully was a myth. My grandpa was grumpy and kept saying, “I’m not ready.” I learned we all need to get ready.

[@tonybraines7172]

Blessings and live to you and yours my friend

[@Ironside-fz9vd]

Doesn't matter whether you fear death or not , there's nothing you can do about it , it happens to everyone. The suffering before death is what scares me most.

[@seanodwyer4322]

black out iff pain extreme

[@meeluanistyn1644]

I’m not afraid of death. Everyone else in my family has died and I’m alone; it will be my turn next. I’d like to think I’ll be reunited with them all for eternity. I find that thought comforting.

[@awsho3294]

Same!

[@TheAtl198]

I believe that you will be. ❤

[@dennisjohnson6176]

I'm not afraid to die I just don't want to be there when it happens 😊

[@julienielsen3746]

@@dennisjohnson6176 LOL

[@VM-to3no]

God Bless you

[@demesrvl6761]

I not afraid of death, but I just want my dogs to go to good homes!!

[@Jomama02]

I worry about that also, only with my cat. I'm 64 now and most women in my family pass at 75. I've always had 2 to 3 kitties my whole life. I'm down to one kitty because with their lifespan, I'm afraid to get anymore. My only child, her husband is deathly allergic to cats so they wouldn't take her even on a temporary basis.

[@elainegoad9777]

@@Jomama02try to make some prior arrangements, if needed, The no kill Animal Rescue I adopted my dog from signed papers that they would take my dog back. ( they rescued him twice before I adopted my dog)

[@lisasharf1442]

That’s my biggest fear, too. I don’t have any immediate family, and I’m worried I won’t have anyone to take care of my dog.

[@Rae-qf7xv]

That's my greatest fear for my little dog the love of my life. To leave him not knowing if he's being looked after and loved keeps me awake at night.

[@kjohnsonshelton0923]

Ask a good friend or family member that you *trust* to be your dog’s godparent-& if they can’t take both/all, then ask another to care for the other(s). Also consider leaving some funds for their care.

[@cathyg1099]

Still terrified of death and what comes or doesn’t come afterwards. That fear keeps me here on Earth despite a broken body and life.

[@sandrag330]

Same here 😭

[@LocomotiveThought]

I almost died from cirrhosis three years ago. I made an unbelievable recovery thanks to VA Healthcare. It's easy to say you're not afraid to die, until you're dieing. I don't even think about alcohol anymore, I'm no longer depressed, I care about my health, I just want to live & take advantage of life. I was in the Navy a long time ago, I saw so much of the world but now I want to explore again. I have a new lease on life. I am afraid of dieing now, Death wanted me but I said no, not quit yet sir.

[@MKS700-vv3tt]

Interesting. I'm glad you bounced back and recovered. But if you don't mind me asking, how much did you drink to get cirrhosis?

[@LocomotiveThought]

@@MKS700-vv3tt I drank malt liquor, about four (Black Steel Reserve) 8% by vol a day. I consider myself a specialist on stage 2 cirrhosis if you have any questions. Medications & ailments.

[@LocomotiveThought]

@@MKS700-vv3tt I wanted to add, I had been a person who intended to get drunk all my life, even in high school. My cirrhosis was the result of trying to get (mildly) drunk for 30 years.

[@LocomotiveThought]

@@MKS700-vv3tt I drank about four 24oz 8% by vol beers a day.

[@tonybraines7172]

I've been at deaths door too but like you didn't knock.

[@adrianneelbe3616]

My beautiful mom died two weeks ago. We cared for her with the help of home hospice. She was not in pain and her passing was peaceful. Your videos have been so helpful to me. Your work is so important. Thank you.

[@ConversationsWithGodST]

I’m so sorry for your loss

[@suziebrokken5749]

Thank You so much Julie for these explanations...I do fear death so much, that i thought as an Aussie, i would want to go the basel in Switzerland to bypass this last phase.....

[@jamie5555]

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my prayers.

[@dannyjamison8337]

@adrianneelbe3616. I'm happy to hear that things went smoothly and peacefully for your mom at home with her family. It should always be that way. It sounds like you're at peace with it now, like we all eventually are. It's a blessing.

[@michellehollensteiner4643]

I'm so sorry. I know how you feel. My mom died 2 years ago. I miss her so much

[@SpaceCadet4Jesus]

Absolutely not afraid of death, it's actually painless, the transition. What hurts beyond anything else is having watched my wife die of breast cancer while I did everything possible as a husband and caregiver to keep her alive, happy and as normal as a quadriplegic could be for over 30 years, our entire married life. I love her more than life itself and the happiest day of my entire life will be the day of my death where I will be joined with her forever and watch her walk, run, dance and be normal again. I'm looking forward to it.

[@Rtd22375]

I'm not afraid of death , I'm afraid of leaving my loved ones ❤

[@Absaalookemensch]

I'm a retired nurse, having worked ICU, trauma and life flight. My mother died at home as she wanted, in my arms with hospice care. Painless, no distress. It was so beautiful that I have no reason to be sad about it.

[@Lynnette4]

Thank you for what you did!

[@Jesus_Christ_loves_you_alot]

Hi there! Never lose hope. There is always a meaning to continue living. Jesus says to you today: "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavily burdened, and I will give you rest." -Matthew 11:28 May God bless you! 😊

[@reh303]

I've been on a ventilator in the ICU twice in the last five years. Being dead doesn't scare me but the process of dying does. Thank you for this.

[@valeriegood8427]

Yes, I can honestly say that these hospice videos have helped me not fear the dying process. I was afraid before but now I'm just sad of the effect it will have on my family & friends & the life I'll miss out on when I'm gone. 🎉

[@RABPWarrior]

I hope you’re doing better. Sending neighborly prayers your way.

[@ruthwalsh500]

We are eternal beings. There is life after death. Search the scriptures.

[@reekinronald6776]

This. Watched my brother, father, and mother die. They all died in different ways and at different speeds, but eventually we all lose our "dignity" during the process of dying and growing feeble. That is what I fear most. What comes after that will be a relief.

[@EllisDashayel]

my thoughts exactly.

[@normannomate3842]

Started watching your channel because my dying wife, she passed away at Christmas last year but I am still watching your channel. When my time comes I hope to have some one like you next to me.

[@Joanna7428]

Ah, I'm sorry to hear that - she hasn't been gone very long, I hope you are coping ok - it's good that these videos are out there as they do (I can only speak for myself) bring comfort in what is so unknown to all of us, I'm glad these videos help you 🤗

[@mikegarrens5286]

In 2016 I had a massive heart attack and was ready to die right when I walked into the hospital. But it was not a bad feeling or a scary Feeling. Hard to believe this but a feeling comes over you where you're at Peace with yourself. A comfortable feeling of knowing it's not in your hands. I didn't have flashbacks. I didn't get scared. I didn't see any light. It's just a feeling. I know this because I felt this. I left the hospital on my own 3 days later. I began an alternate lifestyle. No questions asked!

[@chuckh4077]

I've heard of people dying in ER then coming back scared. They were in hll. They didn't want to go back

[@Ryu_Shotokan]

My grandpa had a heart attack he was terrified the whole time he was there. He said it was the most painful experience of his life. He definitely wasn't at peace. His words were it hurt like hell and it's a pain I never want to experience again

[@janicespears8054]

Each person's reactions are their own and not necessarily the truth.

[@Jackmonkey66666hghinnv]

@@Ryu_Shotokanyeah my dad almost died of a heart attack and had a span of 3 months after the initial one where he was basically bed ridden and in a lot of pain and had less intense heart pain, it was anything but peaceful for him either lol he would gasp for air and be moaning and groaning in pain most of it not all night. People forget that no 2 peoples experience is the same or even remotely similar even if they have the same problem, the worst thing in the world for one is “not that bad” for another.

[@Turboy65]

Emotional maturity is the point at which you accept the fact that you will eventually die, and it no longer freaks you out.

[@elizabethwhite196]

So true. None of us are immortal on this earthly plain.

[@seanodwyer4322]

@@elizabethwhite196 Gve my coisin a Bible and 7 days later he killed on his motorbike on road in n.z.

[@gailgamble6558]

This makes me feel better. When my nr Hope was passing, she went through these phases. The week before she passed, she stopped eating and drinking. A few days before, she slept more. Then, the day before she passed, she was a little comatose. The day she passed, she was peaceful and starting to be stiff. Also her breathing was almost nill. The hour before she passed she opened her eyes and looked at me. She layed her head on my face and sighed. Then she passed in my arms. I miss her terribly. But she was whole again.

[@RABPWarrior]

Beautifully expressed dear

[@darmannarelli9502]

My husband stopped eating 3 weeks before death..stopped drinking a week before ..he suffered he was wide awake when it happened ..suffereing..the hosppice nurse said that was only the 3rd case he seen like thst ..no amount of pAin meds helped him...I Watched him die its something i can never get out of my mind ..but when he finally died and looked straight intomy eyes he found peace ..would i ever want hospice for myself NO ..i will not put my family thru that..

[@mommabear5059]

My mother-in-law did that same thing. She paid her head on my shoulder, I kissed the top of her head and she gave a sigh. She died shortly after.

[@mommabear5059]

@@darmannarelli9502maybe he didn’t want to go? My Mom stopped eating a month before she passed but she was ready to go. She slept 90% of the time but it was wonderful to get to engage with her when she was awake.

[@glow1815]

​@@mommabear5059you mean your mother slowly stopped eating, if she stopped eating 1 month prior to her death i don't she stay alive for a month.

[@willieboy3011]

"Our bodies are built to die." So looking forward to your book. You have altered my perception of the dying process. As for what comes after, an old Vietnam Vet told me to approach it as an adventure. I like that.

[@charlesbrightman4237]

Whether this life alone or whether we have some sort of actual existence in a different state of existence throughout literally all of future eternity, experience the experiences. Continue to gain knowledge, understanding and wisdom that could potentially be applied in the state of existence one is in or possibly will be in.

[@renferal5290]

It is just a new adventure

[@greensorrel6860]

​@@renferal5290Jane Goodall said that as well😊

[@JQUICK21]

Just read the book Home With God In A Life That Never Ends....it is all about Death.....God never went silent....Divine inspiration never stopped hundreds of years ago.....and we were not left with ancient writings and stories we can only form opinions about.....if you believe God went silent and refuses to answer our questions or speak to us I feel sorry for you......

[@renferal5290]

@@greensorrel6860 Really? I didn't know that :)

[@shuffleslunuffle]

To quote Arthur Schopenhauer: " At Death, we go back to where we were, before Birth"! Very comforting, to me. 👁💫

[@wrxstock2820]

Good work Middle aged physician here. Appreciate this.

[@Morbid_Freyja27]

Im not afraid of death. I'll just miss those that I love.

[@bstoran198]

When you die you won’t miss anyone…. It’s your loved ones who will miss you!

[@charlesbrightman4237]

@@darrellstinnett820 Believing something to be true and that something really being true might be 2 different things.

[@lizzieb6311]

I’m not afraid of death…I’m afraid of leaving loose ends that my family will need to take care of…so..I’m taking care of those things now…then they can grieve me without the burden of “taking care of things”

[@literallyunderrated]

@@lizzieb6311 Theres a thing called Swedish Death Cleaning, its a way of decluttering so your loved don’t have to deal with what to do with your possessions. But its useful even if you don’t drop dead

[@Moluccan56]

We don’t miss anything after we’re gone. Just the same as before coming into existence.

[@MarcusRefusius]

Our Mom died September 17th 1978 of Cancer. She was 46. (Thanks Johnson & Johnson) I was 22 and a total wreck. Ny Mom was dying and there was nothing I could do. She died at 7:25 on a Sunday Morning. I was passed out on her couch 35 miles from the Hospital. I was awoken from a dead sleep when her Spirit/energy/whatever it was surged through every cell of my being. I looked at the clock then relayed with the most peaceful feeling I’ve ever experienced. Within 5 minutes the phone rang. It was dad calling to tell me she was at peace. I said “I Know dad, she let me know”. I have never feared dying since that day. I’m now 68 and of failing health and am not worried whatsoever.

[@rhondawaller4457]

Love this story, thanks for sharing ❤

[@jasonrodgers9063]

Beautiful story of love! Thanks, and peace to you!

[@robertwessels9827]

Your soul is eternal. If you repent of your sins, believe in Jesus as your Savior, and ask Him into your heart, your souls will live with the Lord.

[@georgefaulk2528]

LMAO, BS.

[@Isekai_Fan]

@@georgefaulk2528 I guess we will all find out one day, won't we?

[@TheStuport]

I'm not concerned with dying. We ALL will face this event. I'm more concerned with what my children and grandchildren will have to deal with in their future. My Faith tells me I shall se my family memebers that have gone before me and that is a lovely thought to hold on to. Blessings To ALL and Thank you Nurse Julie for your encouragement!

[@iosta5694]

Don't you see this B itch is paid by Bill Gates and his buddies that want to reduce human population below One billion. They want you Ex Term In At E D. Get it?

[@mamanitubea]

I am not afraid of dying because after my father passed away I had dozens of espiritual experiences of his presence.. my physicist/mathematician professional brain was so pleasantly amazed

[@vampireslayer1989]

I believe what you are saying is true. I'm a senior and have been feeling it lately......always tired, less hungry and thirsty. Brain slowing way down. Not afraid of not waking up tomorrow.

[@WrvrUgoThrUR]

That’s a blessing. Acceptance.

[@ruthelizabeth9638]

I have been afraid of dying since I was a child. My little sister died at 2 when I was 6, my Father said do not mention Suzy cause it will upset your Mom. All Suzy's pictures, toys, crib gone. I use to sit in my room and ask her to move things so that I would know she is around. She never moved anything and I tried hard. When my Son died at 9 yrs old, I told my Mom we are going to talk about Suzy and David. I think it helped her.

[@pyenygren2299]

To me, it sounds good to talk about your sister and son. ❤ ❤

[@46metube]

I believe the fear of dying stops us from living in the 'here & now' as we're always worried about what's coming.

[@K-LynnTexas]

Ruth Elizabeth, my condolences to you and your family for the loss of your beloved sister and beloved son. May God comfort your broken hearts and give you peace. 🙏

[@ruthelizabeth9638]

Thank you, I posted this so if there is a death in the family when children are young, please talk about the loss with them. It would have helped me very much.

[@ruthelizabeth9638]

@@KaiserSoze357Wow that would have been scary and amazing.

[@Skits_Missions]

I’ve been fighting cancers for 10 years this May. I have come to terms with death and am not scared of it. My new cancer has no cure but that’s okay, it has a battle on its hands but I’m ready if the time comes. Enjoy this beautiful world and your family peoples.

[@holleythompson981]

Thank you for this video, as a cancer patient this makes me less afraid.

[@bruce60451]

My mother-in-law has been enduring unimaginable suffering from pancreatic cancer which has metastasized--where first, the doctors and now hospice just can't manage her pain. I used to not fear dying. Now I do. The doctors and hospice have consistently fumbled the medication to ease her suffering. They have constantly under medicated-her going completely against her own advanced directive at this stage in her disease. The family has been helpless arguing with each worker for more and/or the 'right' and consistent pain medication as clearly everyone can hear her cries for relief. The end-of-life battle for medication should never exist like this. I have never witnessed protracted suffering on any scale like this before. Your message is a great one but this experience has left everyone traumatized. The suffering. Beyond words.

[@morganandwong]

Does hospice come to the home or is she in the hospice facility? Maybe you could try to get her into the facility if she is not there already. My family has used hospice several times and have been essential in easing their pain.

[@lunaalice7763]

I feel the same. My nan suffered quite a bit and as it was during covid her care was bungled a bit and she was in pain a lot. Made me a supporter of euthanasia because she was ready to go a few weeks before she finally did, after enduring much.

[@billgreen576]

And there are an infinite number of medical malpractice cases. Why should end of life care be any different? And in the US they milk you untill the money runs out. Then what happens?

[@elizabethwhite196]

I’m so sorry your loved one had to endure unrelenting pain- and you having to witness it powerless. That should NEVER be a hospice experience. They cease giving you mends that prolonged your life while living but hospice is the acceptance that your body is in dying mode and every effort should be given to alleviate the pain of it. My mom had a wonderful hospice team that adjusted her meds as needed and that wasn’t our experience at all nor should it be anyones. Typically the attending nurses inform the hospice doctor accordingly and the meds like clockwork were immediately delivered to our home. Somethings wrong. They need to be reported. I’ve heard some horror stories. I feel fortunate that wasn’t my experience but feel so bad for you and your loved one. I hope you get the help you need as well as a peaceful transition ❤

[@sophieboatman1447]

I hear you ❤ I felt the end for my mum was mismanaged . Try remember the better times .

[@yennyku5240]

Listening to you brings comfort. You are a very empathetic nurse.

[@nikpante]

I think, the most scary thing about dying is not the process itself since, as nurse Julie explained, we are biologically prepared for it, nor the issues we may leave to our loved ones. The truly scary thing is the utter uncertainty about what happens after death. Whatever any religion may tell us, we don’t really know if it’s true in the least. And even the lack of scientific evidence of any level of consciousness after death only confirms that we know nothing at all. So, the whole humanity without exception, whatever we may choose to believe, are in absolute darkness on this matter.

[@SleeplessinOC]

We can know what’s certain after death . I highly rec generation 2434 and click on his lives and scroll down to the title you’re looking for .

[@maryl8539]

I completely understand and have a lot of fear around death. But I have made progress towards acceptance. If you are inclined, choose to believe in an afterlife. That is one choice I have made and I am not a religious person. Don’t be afraid if you find yourself fully conscious after you leave your body. And if there is no consciousness after death, we likely won’t ever know because we will just be gone. What do we have to lose in preparing to live beyond our bodies? Sending you love and my wish for peace for you! ❤

[@presty0525]

Many of us are afraid to die- thank you so much for this channel- by teaching us these things, especially in western culture, which abhors and fears death greatly -you’re bringing the emotion of relief to millions of people please keep doing what you’re doing you’re great. Our body knows how to be born, and it knows how to die.

[@jamminjoe44]

I just subscribed to your channel. My mom passed away in 2017 in Hospice. The care team surpassed my expectation's!! Not only did the nurses care for my mom, they cared for the family as well. Several of the nurses saw how distraught I was, and immediately cared for me too! The Hospice team provided grief therapy for me, at no cost. Thank you to all Hospice personal who care for the family as a whole!

[@markrunyon5524]

My brother and I are taking care of our 86 year old mother whose dementia is getting worse by the day.She used to sleep all the time,now she"s up all the time saying and doing really bizare things,Reasoning with her has long since gone,She barely knows whats going on.I hope for everyone"s sake this doesn"t go on much longer but I know it could.Your video"s are very much appreciated,thank you so very much.

[@JustReed]

That has to be the hardest way to go.

[@jeffmartin3406]

My father has had dementia for 15 years, 3+ in the nursing home. I have little fear of death but I do fear that terrible disease.

[@stuartjames-ng1yy]

I never had a fear of death until I was laying in a hospital bed dying from MRSA, going in and out of consciousness in between the 13 operations, waking up mid operation while they were chopping pieces off of me while unable to speak of scream but feeling every bit of the pain. At this point I wished for death but it never came, months of suffering in physical and mental agony. I suppose now I’m not afraid of death as I had died twice on the operating table but I do fear having to suffer anywhere near as much as I went though. It definitely took a piece of my soul and I just hope no one ever has to experience what I went though Not all deaths are peaceful, some are complete torture

[@bevalexander5897]

I was helping my uncle take care of my aunt who was Stage 4 kidney cancer. Hospice came to their home, and the nurses were amazing. About a week before she passed my aunt seemed to perk up a bit. She wasn’t eating or drinking very much, but she was more aware. I was an EMT and a combat medic in the Army and I had been with several people when they passed. I mentioned that my aunt seemed more aware and I thought that she didn’t have much time left. The nurses agreed with me. The night before she died, I was sitting with her. She asked me if my mom was there. (My mom had passed in 1999.) I told her she was, but she was taking a shower. She said “I knew she would come.”Then she asked if her oldest son was there. (He wasn’t. Hadn’t even called her to talk for months.) I looked in her eyes and lied to her that he had come, but he was lying down. Then she asked if Connie was there. (Another sister.) I felt I shouldn’t lie to her for some reason and told her Connie couldn’t make it. She said, “Good. She’s an asshole.” We both laughed like fools over that. Those were her last words, and she died at 8:00 the next am.

[@summerrain1579]

I love that. What a beautiful moment for you both with awesome humour 🥰🥰

[@bevalexander5897]

@@summerrain1579 Thank you. My aunt and I always laughed so much when we were together. I miss her as much as I miss my mom.

[@justincase2281]

I don't doubt what you say, generally. But my Dad had a rough time the last couple of years of his life, the tail end of over 2 decades of illness. The night he passed away, my sister and I were with him, holding his hands and we watched him take his last breath. His eyes were open, he knew we were there and he struggled taking his last breaths. He fought it to the end. That was 20 years ago. I'll never forget it. He was 85.

[@46metube]

Maybe that's what caused him pain - he was fighting, not letting go?

[@monicacoyle3760]

Not easy to just let go, your survival mode kicks in automatically and that makes you want to fight.

[@justincase2281]

@@monicacoyle3760 True. And my Dad was a fighter. Good reply. Thanks.🙏

[@julienielsen3746]

So sad. My sister had cancer. She didn't seem to be in pain until the last few hours before she died. Her son went though that with her.

[@justincase2281]

@@julienielsen3746 So sorry for your loss. She's at peace now. I hope that's some comfort for you and yours. God bless. 🙏

[@mercurious6699]

You are doing good work. God bless you. May we all leave the body in peace and a deep sense of grace

[@Believerin3]

Your kind words have helped me reduce my fear of death by about 0.00001%. Thank you so much!

[@MarkSangamon]

“It’s not that I’m afraid to die. I just don’t want to be there when it happens.” Woody Allen

[@FriendofDorothy]

I was an acute care hospital social worker for years. Your presentation on this channel is so down to earth, practical, and comforting. I am also an HIV positive man for whom the virus never progressed. In 1989 they said I had "maybe a 10 year window". Well, the window is now an Imax screen 34 years later and ironically at 72 I am healthier than most men in my age group as I have blood draws thrice a year. My labs are pretty much perfect. I know what you mean about some of the wild "spiritual" or "mystical" experiences involving your work. I don't talk about my own as most people are skeptics.

[@magpie1492]

Well put. As a general nurse for over 4 decades, I have seen many people die. It is not usually the person dying that suffers, it's the relatives/ friends. They struggle to understand that what is happening is normal. The eating, drinking thing comes up everytime and it takes sensitive handling to help them understand. I try to explain that when it's time for a body to die, you just can't stop it by giving more oxygen, IVs or cause suffering if that person doesn't want to eat or drink. A body will die, whatever you do. Our job is to alleviate any uncomfortable symptoms and offer support and comfort to everyone.

[@igot5onit423]

It's kind of like being afraid of going to sleep.. But if you think about it , you never know when your asleep it just happens.

[@christinagreaves7932]

Excactly

[@ronjones1077]

You are a bright light for so many of us who have comforted loved ones or are now going through these realities. GOD Bless

[@ndlsumr]

Thanks so much for this video, Julie. I was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive form of multiple myeloma about 5 years ago, and am about to start my second round of chemo. I've been a little too focused on dying lately, even though I feel remarkably well. I don't want to waste the remaining days I have left, and this video provided a great deal of comfort. So now I can stop worrying and just focus on living, which is what we all should be doing anyway.

[@Sunny9700]

I’m afraid of death. The idea of never seeing my sons again no matter their age at the time of my passing scares me to no end but watching your videos always help me calm the panic. I love listening to all your experiences and you’ve thought me so much! Thank you

[@jeffmartin3406]

You will always be able to see your sons. Love in your heart make sure of that.

[@julienielsen3746]

Repent of your sins, and receive Jesus as your Lord and Savior. If they are in Heaven, you'll be there with them.

[@mainnerd2222]

It's crazy how our bodies are built. When you mentioned the endorphins that we are given and the euphoric effect it has on us, all I could think was that God gave us that as a mercy for when we leave this world.

[@fishels3895]

I don’t have a fear of death I have a fear of losing those around me and the sadness of all the things I will miss out on long after I die. All the amazing technological advancements, world history and space exploration will be completely missed by us. Tragic really

[@booksgalor268]

@@fishels3895 same 🥹

[@dannyh773]

Thank you. You are describing exactly what my mom was like at the end. Lasted a couple weeks starting with less food, water intake. Sleeping mostly. Then one night I put her to bed. And the next day she didn’t wake up. Then the second day she passed. I have wonder what she was feeling and thinking during those last 2 days. She has no expression just looked like she was sleeping. But now I know this was a peaceful death. Regardless I took care of her for 6 years. Miss her. We went thru a lot together.

[@cynthiamillheim9257]

Thank you for the videos you post. As an elderly person with severe COPD on oxygen i am very fearful of the death process. The information you have provided has given me lots of comfort and I hope I will have a hospice nurse like you when my time comes. There are many other people who will greatly benefit from the education and comfort from seeing you and hearing your voice. Keep up the good work.

[@mediterraneandiet2483]

Consider using Serrapeptase, Curcumin and vitamin D for your COPD.

[@boli4203]

Happy to help you feel better about letting people die. I really hope I don't end up with someone like you "taking care of me" in my last days... I'm 80 and have been on a low-carb, high fat diet for a year now (in and out of ketosis), and my body feels like I've discovered the fountain of youth (it's a figure of speech). I'm doing things that I long ago thought I'd seen the last of; lifting weights, running (I thought I'd run my last jog a decade ago) instead of just walking, and not feeling any join pain, muscle cramps or weakness, and no more brain fog. This was a quite depressing video and I hope it didn't encourage anyone from wanting to better their quality of life instead of just giving up and dying weak and uncared for...

[@OziBlokeTimG]

I've often thought it would be nice to have someone special to hold my hand. I'm not scared to die. It would just be so nice. I love everyone maybe I may be lucky. I've see a bit of death, having company could be helpful. God bless you all ❤

[@ayumisiinn]

My sweet grandma left on March 20th. A video on your channel about people dying from Alzheimer's or dementia gave us the hint that the end was near. We're able to care for her and say our goodbyes while she fell asleep and never woke up. The pain is immense, and so is the joy of knowing that we did everything we could to make her death peaceful. ❤

[@Avery_4272]

So sorry for your loss.

[@hunterf258]

If I am not within the dying process, it's scary and nerve-wracking to know that someday, I will die. The older I get the more I think about dying.

[@kjohnsonshelton0923]

Same. Seems that realizing our own mortality is undeniable as we get older…& wiser.

[@mudhens4ever]

Yes, me too.

[@20bluelilies]

It's not death that bothers me, but the possible privations of old age. Wish we had an off switch!

[@mollybailes5161]

Don't forget about Jesus. He will give you more peace about it.

[@jimpaxton7697]

Have faith and trust in the Lord and you won’t have to live in fear of dying or anything else.

[@swervedriver5260]

April 17, 2022, In my mother's last days she had been asleep, then woke up and told me she was in pain, then went back to sleep. I told her doctor and he recommended morphine. She wasn't going to recover so I agreed. I'll never forget the last time I looked in her eyes. I miss her every day, we were so close and was my friend. I have hope thanks to Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. He made it possible for us to be with our loved ones upon his return. Thank you to our father in heaven for providing.

[@jerrypritchett283]

I wrote an article once titled "The Grim Reaper - Or Not," in which, as part of the article, I had a section in which I invited Death to have dinner with me. I narrated the conversation between us, which gave a new perspective on his duties. (pardon the pronoun, but as he explained, he appears to be what a person expects, male, female, spirit, etc.) I concluded after this conversation that he was the most kind, compassionate individual I had ever encountered in my 76 years on earth. Nothing grim at all.

[@josephstevens9888]

My Mom is on the process of dying. What Julie explained here mirrors exactly what she is going through.

[@batsonelectronics]

I was on a ventilator for a month after a heart attack and stroke. I had so many recurring death dreams where my family was killed in front of me. The first maybe dozen times I tried to fight, and never won. The last times I just gave in, didn't fight, just let it happen. The deaths were quick and then I jumped into another nightmare. I have lived death 20 times now and never was it painful. I was just sad I lost everything that mattered to me. I don't fear death, I fear a painful one. Without a heart transplant I don't have long. Thank you for this video, it really helps the anxiety of death.

[@jaysea1553]

wow l hope l am as brave as you are

[@dimaknopf]

I've had good luck with Natto, Serrapeptase, aspirin and fish oil. Combined with berberine/metformin to lower blood sugar and TMG to lower homocysteine. I think you are strong and deep down know whats right for you and am impressed with your courage. I respect whatever you choose to do.

[@batsonelectronics]

@@dimaknopf I prefer the stuff that is proven to work. We live longer now due to modern medicine, not herbal therapies.

[@dimaknopf]

@@batsonelectronics if you don't mind me asking. What exactly is proven to work?

[@dmc3067]

@@dimaknopf things that have randomised peer reviewed evidence based efficacy, as opposed to random self reported anecdotal results. Unless you are their duly qualified and appointed medical professional (which you clearly aren’t) Leave this person alone! They answered you, they aren’t interested, and you have no place to push medical question or opinions on them. They clearly have complex medical needs way beyond your comprehension.

[@bwktlcn]

I just want there to be birds and animals. I can’t imagine a heaven where no birds sing, where the animals you have loved are missing. I will happily go where my cats and dogs have gone.

[@TurkishBenAirsoft]

Listening to this with stage 4 cancer is quite comforting. Hopefully few more years in me still but nice to hear.

[@iraguzzardo1788]

I find it so important to educate and be aware of this topic it takes anxiety away

[@b.a.d.2086]

I was with my 57 year old uncle when he died of liver failure. It was a nightmare. He was conscious and terribly sick and sweating. He was conscious to within a few minutes of an agonizing death. I have seen other people die and it was indeed peaceful for them but the one exception has left me terrified and I'm 80. I'm sorry to upset those here who recount peace but it is what it is.

[@carilariviere505]

I'm sorry for your experience. My good friend's Dad is dying of liver, kidney and heart disease and my friend says he also is in pain. I have heard liver issues are not a particularly pleasant way to go. Did they drug your Uncle, or was there no way to make him comfortable? I personally am ready to go whenever called, not afraid to die. But I am afraid to suffer.

[@naturewitch8687]

I’ve heard of some horror stories when people are dying, it’s not always peaceful 😢

[@naturewitch8687]

@@carilariviere505yes that’s my worry, suffering 😢

[@carmenm.478]

I was told my uncle died an awful death 😢 he had colon cancer. He always said he wanted to see his grandson become a man. He kept crying and didn't want to die. He was given a shot to calm him and then he passed 😞 RIP Tito

[@dcbates80911]

I found your videos about six months ago and started watching. My sister has been fighting cancer for almost three years. Yesterday, she made the decision to enter hospice and I will be one of her caregivers. Quite a bit of anxiety has been lessened thanks to your channel.

[@jbm5767]

My amazing younger sister passed away on March 4th. Her last 6 months were very painful and difficult for her. Her last week was spent in Hospice, and it seems a blessing now, that she passed away just over a full week of being there. Thanks to your videos, I prepared myself for the different stages of the dying process. I knew what to expect, and was not freaked out or shocked in the final minutes. Thank you Julie, SO much for the information you provide in the videos, it was an immense comfort as the time drew near. The final minutes were amazingly peaceful, more so than I could ever have expected. I'm eternally grateful. Xxx

[@Siskos-pn7nd]

I think your videos, your message should get a Nobel prize. I am 78 , seen my mom, dad, brother-in-law and others die. IT is not a pretty sight, it leaves lasting memories. But, like anything difficult and uncomfortable, it can be the most instructive part of living. Our parents are showing us how to die. Their final lesson. My mom, very religious, did not question God when it was her time. Her body shut down like you describe. Yet, her acceptance of death was instructive. I think that imagined fear makes dying worse, you fight it as hard as you can because you, your family are all telling you to fight it, don't give up. I believe and your message is clear. Your body knows how to die. We may not like it, but we often have to accept what we do not like. I hate it when my house burns down, when someone I love dies. But, you accept it and move on. You will get through it.

[@seaofnan]

This is so interesting to me, and very helpful. When my Mom was in nursing care towards the end of her life (dying from breast cancer), the staff kept trying to force her to eat. She didn't want to eat, but humored them as much as she was able. We both would have preferred her be at home with me taking care of her, but she had a chest tube that had to be changed out periodically. Once she got to the point where they felt her death was imminent in the next few days, they moved her into the hospice section, and things were much better for her; she was allowed to do what her body was telling her to do. I was there for hours on end and watched her transition. As painful as it was to lose her, the hospice nurse was so amazing and caring, and made sure she felt no pain. How strong you must be to help those passing from this life. Your observations and wisdom have helped my understanding immensely. Thank you.

[@ejeanroh377]

Thank you, hospice nurse Julie, for this explanation of one’s passing. I was hesitant to view as I am age 82 and struggling with physical osteoporosis in hips and knees and fear being unable more than now. I’m a believer and thank you so much for this info... Blessings.

[@daxleone]

A believer in what?

[@kennethwood2089]

Thank you, Julie. You are most comforting and most informative. Peace and blessings to you!

[@rudyberkvens-be]

My mother was in such a situation and she did not want to die. She wanted to live and until the last day she asked the doctor to cure her. I still want to get better, she said. Death is the greatest injustice to overcome.

[@Xamry]

I'm so glad you actually explain this scientifically. I say that because I always loved learning about things in a factual manner, that can be proven and observed, eventually experienced, and I feel like science is unrivalled at that. I'm not afraid of death either. As a child, sure, but my relationship to it is "transitioning into peace". Not worrying about maintenance. I'm so glad you started this off with "your body is equipped for this". We tend to take for granted what the body is designed for.

[@michaelali6882]

You are a real insightful professional. I've watched you, on and off, for 2 years now. I'm truly grateful for your perspective

[@judysahlem7821]

Thank you for explaining issues in a way the non medical person can understand and as a result you give comfort. The information may not be needed now but the death of a loved one or ourself is inevitable. God Bless You and the mission of Hospice

[@nevillecartwright7292]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with us! I lost both my father and my mother last year, and having learned so much from your videos, my understanding & acceptance of the dying process made it so much easier for me! Your work is amazing and is much appreciated Julie - thank you!! Warm greetings from South Africa

[@apatriot7609]

These are things more people need to hear. Thank you for sharing what you've experienced and know.

[@yolandaz2706]

Thank you so much for this post Nurse Julie! This message needs to be told. Unfortunately humankind has lost touch with nature & fears death, when it's a natural process. Thank you & God bless you!🙏💜

[@michellemartorell2394]

My Grandpa has been actively dying for days. No food or drink at all for the past 9 days. Unconscious 24/7 but will still answer questions if you wake him. His hospice nurse just left and said she has never seen anything like it. He was even death reaching and had a death rattle all day. He will still speak to you if you speak to him. I do not understand this at all.

[@philipgladstone1914]

He's fighting it 😢 maybe if you tell him it is time, and you love him and don't want to see him suffering no more....

[@FallenHellscape]

@@philipgladstone1914 I have a problem with someone telling another person to let go. Especially if it’s just to comfort the living. Love them, hold their hand, talk to them, and leave them be. But don’t let YOUR discomfort expedite someone else’s exit. Let them vacate the mortal realm however their soul, mind, heart, and body seek to do it.

[@susanweiss1439]

Tell him, I love you, now it is time to rest. I will mourn you hard and long, speak of you with a smile. If those who went before you come back and want you to join them, go. Tell them I love them, and go.

[@michellemartorell2394]

Thanks guys. I have already had a very similar conversation with him. The only thing left I can think of is that he is afraid he will see his wife again. She died 10 years ago. She was the only woman he has ever been with, and she was nasty to him for 57 years. I think he's actually scared he is gonna be stuck with her in the afterlife.

[@user-dy1rw3jr5o]

@@FallenHellscape I’m sorry but it is ok to tell them they can leave. Sometimes they need permission and knowing everyone will be ok. It’s very selfish of us to expect them to stay here when they need to be at peace

[@Harry-fk5of]

Yes, I've always thought that for the person going through it, it probably feels like when we're super tired and enjoying a good deep sleep. We won't have too much time to overthink it, we'll just be in and out of deep sleep and fairly relaxed. We don't want pain and suffering.

[@davidoverton4030]

I think fear of death is a natural human phenomenon. Especially a fear of the unknown. But your video has been very encouraging. My mum stopped eating & drinking, and slept a lot in her last week of life. I felt we had starved her to death. But your video has aided my better understanding. But my faith, hope & desire for Jesus after death gives me hope beyond the grave too.

[@saritaschwedes8393]

i’m going to keep this and send it to my sons when i start exhibiting symptoms to give them peace about this. thank you Julie 🌸

[@richardnewell7958]

My wife has HD and the last few years slowly approaching the end. Sleeping these days, maybe 20+ hours a day. The end is still pending.

[@taylormaddux8433]

I'm sorry, but what is HD? Thank you.

[@pattygarwig8029]

HD is Huntington's Disease which is a slow degenerative brain disease. It's like ALS but stretched out over 10 to 20 years. 😢

[@lornalulich9562]

​@@taylormaddux8433 I'm glad you ask the question what's HD? I didn't know either.

[@christinagreaves7932]

Ive never heard this explained so well , makes it nothing to be afraid of , my mum needed nothing , she just slipped off , peaceful , this is a good messege

[@greeneyedpixie2]

Hey Nurse Julie, My Mum passed two days ago, I enjoy your videos because your eyes are calming to look at, and you always get straight to the point. Thank You.

[@ladyrachel13]

Thank you for this video. My sister died March 11. You explained it concisely. Learning this makes me feel a little better.

[@rccvcc]

We find your information to be extremely useful, helpful and very comforting. Thank you for sharing and taking time to explain what needs to be heard.

[@martinjohnson9316]

Just to say that your video's are excellently presented and insightful, full of many things i would not have even thought of. Thanks from the UK!

[@onionhead5780]

That might be true for some but not all. My mom held my hands and squeezed hard as we looked each other in the eyes while her lungs filled with fluid and I will never forget the terror in her eyes as she gasped to try and breathe until she finally passed. It was the most horrific thing I’ve ever experienced and it was far from peaceful.

[@Woodman-Spare-that-tree]

Oh my god. That’s an argument for voluntary euthanasia. Why can’t the hospitals put a person out of misery at that stage?

[@kareldebures7006]

Thank you for saying this, as it is one goal in life that I look forward to now even though I still have a bit to go with the pains and other limitations. Oh, and Happy Friday everyone!

[@carolmartin4413]

Happy Friday!

[@niecythebudgetnista3223]

@kareldebures7 My prayers are with you 🙏🏾 I can imagine what you're going through as a recently retired home health care provider Enjoy life as much as possible on purpose Have a wonderful weekend!🫶🏾 💐

[@garyj1709]

Thank you for this! My wife died many years ago and that point was always a question in my mind. She did pass peacefully on home hospice for which I was always grateful. But I also wondered about the process itself. I’m sure someone tried to explain at the time but your explanation comes at a time when my mind is better able to process this. So, thank you!

[@pattydixon6510]

After watching my parents die suffering, I am now a proponent of psychedelics. Some key studies have been done on the profound affect they have on lessening the fear of dying. It's similar to people who have Near Death Experiences, 90% who say they no longer fear death. Easy google, highly recommend it if you are afraid to die like I was.

[@JustReed]

Yup. Me too!

[@sissyroxx]

The actively dying are lucky to get pain medication these days. I'm a Hospice nurse myself and I fought to get adequate pain relief for my dying mother for a year. 74 hours before she died the doctor finally agreed to pain pump. She had been in agony for a solid year. I'm still angry and it's been 10 years since her death.

[@oe542]

If you’ve ever been on an opioid based pain medication for the purpose of heavy sedation then you’d know why people are addicted. It’s the most amazing feeling in the world and you will never forget how chill you felt.

[@leahcimrelbats]

Thanks for the video. I'm feeling my mortality and have recently wondered why no one talks about death. Your hospice experiences and the knowledge gained are invaluable. Thanks again.

[@michaelscott466]

My Grandfather died on the 8th and i was by his side holding his hand when he went. His last words were "This is awesome". If you knew my grandfather you would know how insanely strange It is for those words to have left his mouth. He's never spoken like that in his life, ever. Hearing him say that in his last moments is one of the most interesting things that's ever happened to me. It gave me a real sense of peace with the situation. Now I find myself on KZbin seeking out videos like this! What an interesting subject.

[@daxleone]

I have survived three very serious NDE's ... I totally agree with your Grandfather ... I was very upset when I was revived.

[@HR-wd6cw]

I think part of it about not fearing death (although I do to a point) is coming to the realizing that if you let it consume you you're wasting time with something that you cannot avoid basically, and why would you want to waste precious time worrying about something that will happen and that you can't escape or avoid? You might as well try to calm yourself, and instead, do what you can to experience the life you wanted to, and when death comes, it comes. One thing I was always curious about (and maybe another topic for another video) would be when someone who does perhaps unexpectedly, and I don't mean like murdered, but say heart attack for example? What happens then? (I know the heart usually stops beating obviously but I was curious if the body performs any type of "shutdown", even at the molecular/cell level or if they just die off; obviously with natural death and dying, the body shuts down as you had mentioned).

[@cathouseonwashington6870]

I wonder this also. As well as people who eventually die from an accident. That’s the scary part.

[@johnmckown1267]

I am not afraid of death because I'm a Christian & firmly believe that I will "go to sleep" here awake up in heaven with Jesus. Even if this belief were untrue, it gives me comfort.

[@dennissprague2572]

It’s true!!!

[@ThePanamaCollection1-lv5po]

It's okay to believe in ridiculous medieval fairy tales - whatever works for you.

[@peketee2278]

funny. I'm not a believer and that's why I'm not afraid of death. when I die, I will be in the same state as before I was conceived, and I have no bad experiences from it...

[@johnmckown1267]

@@peketee2278 I do understand your point of view. If, when you die, you cease to exist, then why be afraid to? Most people know that the body will eventually die.

[@dannyhernandez265]

@@ThePanamaCollection1-lv5poyeah, unfortunately I don’t think there is a heaven or afterlife.

[@Diginixx]

Almost died so many times now that every day above ground feels like a bonus. Totally unafraid of death now. 😺

[@mikec32001]

This is a wonderful perspective, and so real. Thanks!

[@anna-marie1995]

I was patiently waiting for this video! I have unpredictable spurts where I irrationally feel my own morality and I become depressed. Your videos are a blessing. Thank you for all that you do.

[@dannyhernandez265]

I feel you. All i have are regrets of the past, and have accomplished nothing. I’m 23 now, and don’t really see a point of continuing my life

[@dammitdan106]

Holy moly, you're only 23. Forget "accomplishments" and comparison others. Live in the present, with gratitude. @@dannyhernandez265

[@PeterS123101]

Who has accomplished something at age of 23? And life is not about accomplishments. It's about loving and learning.

[@dannyhernandez265]

@@PeterS123101 you’re right, I just wish to be successful that’s all.

[@anna-marie1995]

@@dannyhernandez265I’m 29 and I promise it gets better Danny! Thinking of you.

[@KT-zx9jr]

Good clip Julie. We are all passing through quickly. Its really interesting how we as humans always seem to think, at least initially, everything should stay constant for ever...but nothing does. Its all positive...

[@humanze]

I am so glad to have watched this. It's bringing me such emotional comfort. My father is 93 y/o and suffering from dementia manifesting itself primarily as axniety and memory loss. He's become so frail of late. He is at the stage of not wanting to eat/drink and sleeping a lot. I just dont want him to suffer. Thank you for this video❤

[@williadw1955]

I have always felt that for a person to just die and their life to just end makes no sense whatsoever. Something so complicated as a living, breathing, intelligent human being... There is no way that all that life experience is just snuffed out like a lit match. There is something after this life. That keeps me forever hopeful and excited about my next adventure after this life.

[@HotDiggityDogg]

I really really really hope you're right...

[@julienielsen3746]

I'm a born again Christian. I know that we all live forever. Either in Heaven or in hell. God made it so easy for us to be saved. To just repent of our sins and receive Jesus as our Lord and Savior. I'm glad I did that back in 1986 when I was 26. I know my life has been much better because of it.

[@alexcajiao7489]

@@julienielsen3746Correct!

[@From-Hurt-to-Healing]

You are not afraid of the sufferings that you might experience in the next life?

[@carolbullard7956]

​@@From-Hurt-to-HealingThere's no suffering in Heaven.

[@Jomama02]

I'm not afraid to die, I'm afraid of the disease or the pain of dying. I know what chronic pain is and i take narcotics daily just to funtion. Will they still be able to keep me pain free? Most Drs are hesitant to give anymore than I'm taking.

[@bossdeman]

That's the million dollar question ....the harsh pain stage...that is scary.

[@sandihendrickson3393]

When you are on Hospice, you are given pain and anxiety medication as needed i.e. Morphine and Ativan. My Dad was given both and it relaxed him into a calm and painless transition to the other side.

[@debradocekal-lusk5802]

My ex is dying in hospice from cancer and it's awful. He is on all those meds and still in pain. He just wants to die.@@sandihendrickson3393

[@lotharsoran3604]

I think if you have a good hospice team, you have less to worry about. The aim shifts, non hospice medics are about reducing pain and keeping you alive, so they are afraid to prescribe too much. I think when you are in hospice, you are given meds if needed to the level that will keep you out of pain. Keeping you alive, is not the point, so if you do need it, they simply prescribe it, and in solid doses. The aim is to help you pass peacefully, not cover their backsides and avoid your death. That's what I'd hope anyway.