Why you shouldn't vent anger (according to science and philosophy)

[@DrSulikSquirrel]

"When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred." -- Thomas Jefferson

[@emreyorat803]

Good advice

[@Courtesyyy]

I should try that in the future

[@LindyTube]

I wonder if he counted to 100 before whipping his slaves.

[@turtlzeboi9455]

I always hated this advice because the longer I take to wait, the angrier I get cuz I can't stop thinking about it. Downward spiral.

[@tmc8195]

“…and then take your frustration out on your slaves later”👌

[@manioommen871]

Sometimes in this world, if we dont get angry in some occasions people will take advantage of us. Anger is an emotion to be used wisely with control.

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

Nếu người nào không lựa chọn con đường tu hành giải thoát ra khỏi vòng luân hồi sanh tử thì làm như cách bạn nói. Còn người nào đã chọn con đường tu hành ra khỏi vòng luân hồi sanh tử thì tu tập, hiểu đạo đến mức trong tâm không còn si tham sân. Vì họ đã buông bỏ tài sản, xả thân, xả tâm. Thì còn gì mà sợ lợi dụng. Chỉ con người bình thường như chúng ta còn nắm tài sản, còn thương thân, quý thân, tâm còn hỉ nộ ái ố thì mới sợ mất, sợ bị lợi dụng rồi mình bị thiệt hại thứ gì đó.

[@Kururue]

Thank you 🤟☺️​@@ngocthamhuynh9966

[@jambothejoyful2966]

@@ngocthamhuynh9966I feel that the entire west needs to listen closely to many of the teachings of Buddhism. The people around me are filled with regret and resentment, they often get emotionally hung up on the small things. When all they need to do is to stop and breathe and look inside. It is upsetting that I cannot convince the people in my home to let go of anger

[@tigerlily2941]

​@ngocthamhuynh9966 just remember only those in this world have not achieved such things. So how are to know their teachings get us anywhere?

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

​@@tigerlily2941Làm thế nào để biết lời dạy của Phật sẽ đưa chúng ta đến đâu? Tôi có 1 ví dụ thực tế: Tôi có một tình cảm với người bạn thời thơ ấu của tôi, và trong suốt thời gian theo từng tháng năm tôi trưởng thành, tôi luôn ôm ấp tình cảm trong sáng này, thầm tin và mong một ngày tôi và bạn ấy sẽ kết hôn, song song đó trong lòng tôi cũng luôn tự hỏi mình là tôi sẽ buồn đến nhường nào khi một ngày người bạn ấy cưới không phải là tôi, tôi biết mình sẽ không tránh khỏi đau khổ. Rồi ngày bạn ấy cưới vợ cũng đến, tôi chỉ tình cờ được biết. Đúng thật, tôi đã rất buồn, khóc gần như một ngày. Ngày hôm sau thì ít hơn và tâm an vui trở lại nhanh chóng. Tôi tự biết tại sao tâm tôi lại được an vui, lý do lớn nhất là do tôi đã tìm hiểu những điều Phật dạy qua sách phật học trong suốt mấy năm, tư tưởng của tôi được khơi thông. Một số ý trong Phật dạy tôi áp dụng trong trường hợp này, cũng khá nhiều ý nhưng ở đây tôi nêu ra 2 ý: Thứ nhất, tâm vốn thanh tịnh, còn những thứ khác xuất hiện trong tâm chỉ là vọng tưởng, nên mỗi khi vọng tưởng xuất hiện không cần đi theo đó cũng không cần xua đuổi nó, chỉ cần nhận ra biết nó là vọng tưởng thì nó sẽ tự biến mất. Tôi đem áp dụng, mỗi khi tâm tôi nhớ đến những kỷ niệm của 2 chúng tôi, hoặc tâm tôi tưởng tượng những ngày sau này của bạn ấy, thì tôi biết nó chỉ là vọng tưởng, thì nó biến mất thật, tâm lại yên. Thứ 2, tôi thực hành hiểu và thương. Nghĩa là tôi nhìn thấy ngoài niềm vui trong tình cảm giữa 2 người trao cho nhau thì cũng sẽ có rất nhiều lần những chịu đựng, vì không ai là hoàn hảo, trong gia đình nhỏ của bạn ấy sẽ có lúc vui, cũng chắc chắn sẽ có những lúc hỉ nộ ái ố mà bất hoà. Nghĩ được vậy tôi thấy thương cho họ, thầm chúc họ yêu nhau nâng đỡ nhau, có từ bi hỷ xả để có một tình yêu vợ chồng trọn vẹn đến cuối đời. Cho nên tôi biết tôi học và thực hành theo lời Phật dạy thì tâm tôi sẽ an vui. Bất cứ lời dạy nào mà tôi học rồi trở nên tâm an vui, biết thương mình thương người thì tôi biết bài học đó là đúng đắn, là vô cùng đáng quý trọng.

[@James-ip7zk]

You didn’t include emotional supression as a counterargument. A large amount of people goes through their lives transforming anger into anxiety, not expressing what they really feels when they feel threaten. Anger can be healthy when is expressed properly. Don’t confuse anger with rage

[@MonkeyHero]

TOTALLY. our anger is going to come, and it exists. So where does it go? It must be transmuted somehow. Ignoring it isn't the healthy option.

[@anthoras]

"I was angry with my friend: I told my wrath, my wrath did end. I was angry with my foe: I told it not, my wrath did grow. [...]" A Poision Tree by William Blake

[@Adonis869]

They didn't because emotional suppression wasn't one of the suggested arousal decreasing activities. If you're looking to support your preconceived bias a different perspective isn't going to change your mind

[@Adonis869]

​@MonkeyHero no one said anything about ignoring your emotions.

[@Adonis869]

​@@anthoras"holding on to anger is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die."

[@annesummers09]

I always feel awful and stupid when I have an anger outburst. I always regret I didn't handle it calmly. I feel out of control and stupid for letting someone push my buttons. The older I get, the more I feel so much better when I don't over-react in these situations. I feel better just walking away when I have the choice to do so. Wish I'd learned this long ago.

[@melodybaoin1425]

Perhaps it comes with our environment. I grew up with a family who has to raise their voice when they disagree or confront some kind of conflict. They did tell me not to get angry but they don't show me how. In the end, I get easily agitated in any shortcomings. Hopefully, I will become more calmer in time.

[@lhays117]

I disagree. I love angry outbursts, at least in the right contexts. Yeah getting blindly and stupidly angry is bad, but when someone is really being a dumb arrogant douchebag mofo, I think it’s wholly justified to get in their face and tell them off. Otherwise they’ll just keep steamrolling the situation and messing everyone’s day up while you just sit idly by as a complicity calm spectator who didn’t justifiably assert your power over the situation.

[@kobinsadvance]

I think Einzelgänger is a mind-reader, whenever I deal with a particular issue, he post a video on that topic right away. Blessed to have you in the KZbin Philosophy Community. 🙏

[@blakelatta7910]

No doubt! 🙏

[@nateb4749]

literally this is something i have been fixated on thinking about for several days. it’s insane

[@nateb4749]

literally this is something i have been fixated on thinking about for several days. it’s insane

[@cstone3178]

It is really creepy! I just blew up at someone; I go to youtube and what is the first video in the cue? Was Einzelgänger listening???😉 Well, perfect timing with a very helpful message. 🙏🙏🙏

[@TheNimbleEnigma]

Same thing here. Amazing timing.

[@elFuego00]

Vegeta is a perfect example of this. Vegeta had above average skill level and constantly trained hard to get better. As powerful as he was he was held back by his anger. In his hard battles he often showed a hard outburst but always short lived and the calmer opponent won the fight. Goku was more relaxed and jovial in his day to day and took things less serious. Is why I believe he had more energy to put towards when it came time to fighting and training. Goku was the most powerful character because of this. If your body is always in fight or flight your brain is not able to put the same amount of energy on other things. Staying calm in the middle of a storm. Not letting the external affect your internal. Than your internal has more energy to put external. Great video as always. Many blessings to all 🙏🏾

[@BV-xc3qz]

I fux wit this

[@zhouyu6557]

Goku's anger at the death of Krillen is what allowed him to become a Super Saiyan thus giving him the power to defeat Freiza. Gohan's anger turned the tide of the battle against Raditz and again against Cell. If we're going to explore the effects of anger in the DBZ universe, we have to look at all characters not just Vegeta.

[@Elias-jg6zl]

Vegeta glazer

[@elFuego00]

@@zhouyu6557 you are correct in saying that anger was a key in those transformations but you also have to see where the source of that anger came from. Both Goku and Gohan's anger came from them losing their loved ones and wanting to protect from further loss. Both characters were pretty docile when not fighting. Neither walked around angry most of the time like Vegeta. So when they got really angry it was from a place of love which I believe is what made it different and what helped them reach new levels. Blessings 🙏🏾

[@Chaos007X]

Yeah, people forget it wasn't just pure rage that fueled Goku and Gohan in those moments. If pure rage was all it took, Vegeta would've been a SS well before anyone else. No, those were profound emotional experiences for them. Goku lost his lifelong friend, and Gohan watched an unexpected mentor die which pushed him to finally let go (and even then, he didnt truly give it everything he had until the last spiritual push from his dad during the Father-Son Kamehameha). Anger was a part of the situation, yes, but those transformations took something much more than that alone.

[@dvdv8197]

A Vegeta appeared in the thumbnail... It's super effective!

[@LordBrittish]

As an adult with ADHD, anger and I are old frenemies. Emotional disregulation is a demon we must wrestle with all our lives. * I actually like shooting my bow 🏹 as a stress reliever. I don’t see it so much as violence, but I picture it as holding something tight, like a negative feeling, and then releasing it.

[@brianschwarm8267]

I had a lot of anger issues when I was on adderall and they disappeared entirely when I got off it. Something to consider if you’re medicating. I learned to cope with ADHD without my meds and I am much happier

[@LordBrittish]

@@brianschwarm8267 Oh absolutely! My anger management was worse when I was on adderall. I have been traditionally unmedicated most of my life. Big Pharma calls it “self medicating” and doesn’t like the idea of people growing their medicine in their backyards,🌴 (I don’t do that, I am rubbish at growing plants) and Big Pharma (or money) controls a few of this world’s politicians. Reminds me of a grouchy old wizard I know of who preached that magic was good and all, but the world runs on money. 💰

[@Joseph11OG]

Emotional disregulation is a demon we with ADHD must CONQUER. Trust me, it is possible. To say that "we" as people with ADHD have to wrestle with emotional dysregulation our whole lives implies that there is something wrong with us, and that we are permanently stuck that way. That simply isn't true, is disempowering and misleading, and is rooted in victim mentality. I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same way for a very long time. The truth is that YOU have the power to overcome your emotional disregulation. YOU are strong, creative, sensitive, intelligent and capable. I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant meds until I decided to stop permanently a year ago. I switched to drinking green tea instead of coffee too. Stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help you dissociate from them temporarily. I learned how to regulate my emotions and nervous system through lifestyle & diet changes, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now most of the downsides of having ADHD are easily manageable for me and I became a coach to help others do the same. Don't give up hope brother.

[@Joseph11OG]

Emotional disregulation is a demon we must CONQUER*. Saying that we with ADHD must "wrestle with all our lives" is simply not true, is disempowering, and is rooted in victim mentality. It implies that we are born broken, and there's nothing we can do except take hard drugs to manage it.I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same for a long time because I let my parents and others in authority convince me that there was something permanently wrong with me. It's sad that this persists today with so much evidence to the contrary. ADHD is simply a result of being born with a sensitive nervous system and experiencing overstimulation, chaos and trauma that is practically inevitable in modern life. YOU have the power to regulate your emotions and nervous system. You are wise, calm, creative, intelligent capable, sensitive, and in control of your emotions I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant medications for 20 years. I decided to stop permanently one year ago. I also switched from coffee to green tea. The truth is that stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help dissociate from them temporarily. I learned to regulate my emotions and nervous system through introspection, journaling, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now the downsides of my so-called "ADHD" are minimal and easily manageable. I became a coach so I could help other people do the same, with or without ADHD. Don't give up hope brother, you can overcome this demon.

[@Joseph11OG]

Emotional disregulation is a demon we must CONQUER*. Saying that we with ADHD must "wrestle with all our lives" is simply not true, is disempowering, and is rooted in victim mentality. It implies that we are born broken, and there's nothing we can do except take hard drugs to manage it.I'm not judging you, just trying to dispel ignorance. I believed the same for a long time because I let my parents and others in authority convince me that there was something permanently wrong with me. It's sad that this persists today with so much evidence to the contrary. ADHD is simply a result of being born with a sensitive nervous system and experiencing overstimulation, chaos and trauma that is practically inevitable in modern life. YOU have the power to regulate your emotions and nervous system. You are wise, calm, creative, intelligent capable, sensitive, and in control of your emotions I was diagnosed with ADD at age 10 and have been on and off stimulant medications for 20 years. I decided to stop permanently one year ago. I also switched from coffee to green tea. The truth is that stimulants do not help regulate your emotions (on the contrary), they only help dissociate from them temporarily. I learned to regulate my emotions and nervous system through introspection, journaling, somatic therapy, yoga and meditation. Now the downsides of my so-called "ADHD" are minimal and easily manageable. I became a coach so I could help other people do the same, with or without ADHD. Don't give up hope brother, you can overcome this demon.

[@drhmufti]

Anger is one thing but it isn't healthy to keep bottling things up. Swearing (as long as it is not focussed at someone) has a number of benefits! Unexpressed anger breeds resentment. There is such a thing as healthy anger- telling people when they are taking the piss is important so that you aren't treated as a doormat.

[@arthurb1191]

Thats all im saying. ❤

[@AdamOwenBrowning]

Venting implies it's bottled up and needs to be, well, vented. Calmly expressing your issue with something as it arises is very different to venting. In short - balance! Balance in everything.

[@arthurb1191]

@@AdamOwenBrowning when you present it this way, it does sound alot more conscious and thoughtful❤️Respect❤️

[@parth6115]

Don't supress any emotion but instead give forgiveness for your peace

[@RDW1717]

Maybe I'm misinterpreting the video, but I'm thinking that the studies are showing that "bottled up anger" or "repressing anger" isn't actually a thing. The healthy alternative is hard work since it requires rewiring our brains to remain calm in the moment and breathe and let it pass. Lately when faced with hard moments of infuriating morons I've been reflecting on the insignificance of this moment, this person, and how much it won't matter 1,000 years from now, or probably even 1 year from now. This video and it's studies seem to be reinforcing it. Humans aren't as advanced as we think we are and we have a lot of work to do, I'm rewiring my brain to think that children act out, and adults have created skills to move through anger calmly and properly.

[@Tonito600]

Expressing anger in a healthy way vs reacting is the key I think

[@zaozao48]

I let my anger out at my co worker once. I felt nothing but regret. Every time I get angry, I try to remind myself how I felt during that moment. Now, I have better control over it. In fact, I don't think I had an angry outburst since.

[@Andrew-zr1jt]

Good point there , after the incident comes the regret👍

[@howaboutno2023]

🙏🏾

[@NinjaChoke]

Like a week ago?🤣

[@ebert8756]

exactly . nothing but regret. no catharsis. lesson learned 👌💪

[@mrsnamucheers5412]

Good to hear, I still strugling to keep my anger these days😢

[@ScottishLeo]

"Speak when you are angry and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret" idk who said that but 💯💯

[@simpatico4004]

Not sure I particularly agree with everything said, my man. Personally I find that physical activities have made me better at regulating my emotions, particularly running. In essence, I find when I routinely incorporate these into my day, I rarely arrive at anger in the first place, and are more likely to approach stress with a sense of poise and reason. If I’m misled by the emotion, then again it returns me to my center, where I can dispel the emotion with logic and reason.

[@TheMegaMrMe]

I think he is talking about only going running as a result of an anger triggering event. That would be just a coping mechanism. What you are describing is probably already a habit. Doing regular physical activity will decrease stress levels in the first place so that you can be more mindful. then you don't get angry in the first place

[@anaximander4589]

After an exhausting day of Judo, I am calm and cool like a cucumber. I have adhd so without physically activity, I am pretty hyper.

[@mintakan003]

Anger is probably a surface symptom for something else. Oftentimes, this could be fear. Along with this, many other things.

[@jonathanrandall4140]

Anger is often depression turned outwards

[@tbeartom4855]

Realized recently for me it was fear, anger pushed me away from my family and friends, gave me a justification to avoid my fear which was just some social awkwardness. So much strife for so little reward. Once i let it go and just faced my fear, it dissolved in a moment when i saw how it had warped my perception.

[@yayhandles]

Most likely depression, particularly in males. Angry guy is almost definitely also sad guy. Sad guy is much more likely to become angry guy.

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

Đúng vậy. Ví dụ: một người phụ nữ ghen tuông, tức giận với người phụ nữ khác, vì cô ấy sợ người kia cướp bạn trai của mình. Mặc dù sự "cướp" này chỉ là trong tưởng tượng chứ hoàn toàn không có thật.

[@MrSkypelessons]

I love the Stoics - Seneca's essay on anger is fantastic, and Epictetus is incredibly compelling. Nonetheless, I also love Chekhov's beautifully presented criticism of the Stoics in 'Ward Number 6'. It's only a short story, but a very powerful one, and for me, it is the best argument against Stoicism. Have a read if you like to challenge your beliefs

[@coolbreeze5683]

This is a great topic. I've always been told to go workout or do something physical if I'm angry about something. I started linking those activities with my angry feelings and that bred more aggressive feelings. Talking through why I'm angry with someone or learning to put the anger into perspective in my mind seems to re-train my brain to go into calming mode instead of jumping to aggressive forms of venting.

[@timefly4221]

If anger were solely negative and had no benefits, it would not exist according to evolutionary psychology. So I think it is necessary to understand anger in both a positive and negative way, and to learn to harness the positive aspects and control or eliminate the negative ones.

[@blackmonarch2380]

As it is a tool, like all things in life, nothing should be wasted in use and potential.

[@nateb4485]

We crave sugar and technically it has a benefit, but we are better off without it, just because something has a use doesnt mean there isnt a better way to do things.

[@anaximander4589]

I understand that this KZbinr is all about the yogas and meditations and such, but life is messy some situations will never go away unless you act on it and make it go away, so yes, anger has its many uses that this video isn’t capturing

[@minedantaken1684]

​@@nateb4485we need sugar and are better off with it. Just don't take it from a snickers bar, but an apple

[@brianschwarm8267]

I have read in a psychology journal that venting reinforces our brain to get to a state that needs venting in the future because venting feels good. Almost like a smoker smoking cigarettes. They create an environment in their body that reinforces getting that fix.

[@turtleanton6539]

Yeeeh😊

[@__-tz6xx]

I have been venting lately. This is a great reminder that I should stop and accept stillness.

[@muyscully]

I agree with this… venting is needing someone else to validate your anger… if you can validate it yourself, you can let it go

[@Contribute_TakeCare_Learn_Play]

Another reason showing that common sense is no proof in an argument. Science needs to provide it

[@Emi-hn7ff]

Would ypu perhaps share the journal you got that from? I'd be interested to read into that myself.

[@yootoob1001001]

Anger should always be acknowledged and given expression and within a given context it's about how it's done, not if.

[@johnoakley6362]

Anger has always been a problem for me, I have calmed down over the years compared to my younger years, but it does come out now and then. Hearing the negatives about anger, I must add that it can sometimes be positive. Twice in my life, my life has been in danger, and my anger has saved my life. The first occasion was when a person ran up behind me as I was walking home in the early hours, with the intention of robbing me. He hit me over the head with a metal bar, then tried to stab me with a knife. He failed to fell me, I snatched the metal bar from him, and battered him until he was unconscious and bloodied, and no further threat to me. The second occasion was an industrial accident, where I was trapped under some very heavy machinery, had I not lost my temper, which gave me the strength to remove the machinery from off my body, then I would most likely had perished, as no-one else was around to help me. Sometimes anger saves life.

[@blackmonarch2380]

As it is a tool of fear , it helps us to survive. Awesome take.

[@toryburke137]

​@@blackmonarch2380a tool of fear? That's sounds like a weasel take. Not getting angry is the tool of fear. Being scared to put lessers in their place or punch them in the face comes from the fear of this bitch made society causing trouble in our lives. It's too many weak people saying anger is bad but it's okay for evil to go unfettered by the anger less.

[@Burgemeesterr]

Its good selective, but not all the time

[@itookabigshizzy]

🧢

[@dvdv8197]

Since I'm early, let me take the time to thank you for all the marvelous insights you've given us over the years. It's very much appreciated. 👍👏🙏🙏

[@romieabel2629]

To be honest, I think my venting my anger by drawing is a very understandable choice for me because I'm tired of feeling left out because I'm autistic. 😠

[@TheEraser312]

I've been venting my anger my entire life. It really hurts my own self. Thank you man for posting this video. There's been certain times where I give in to my own anger, and I regretted it all. Theres nothing good in anger. And thats why today I will try my very best to live an anger free life.

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

It's the same as "being happy". Neither achieve any tangible result. Instead, get sheet DONE. The end, 'n that's it. 💪😎✌️ 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@goych]

Anger is life force fella, I blocked mine for my whole life and scared myself silly about venting it, it was utter bollocks, it’s just energy moving through, although we as a society have learnt to suppress it, that and the other emotions of course!

[@rchaelk2319]

I believe the message was about learning how to controll it, so you don't damage others and not do things you regret. Isn't meditation a form of venting? What's the point that football (playful activities (?)) is allowed, but not boxing to vent? -> both are sports Why is Jogging bad, but Yoga so good? In the end my brotha, we all try to learn how to live and find our place in life. Nobody knows anything for sure and just goes on clueless and trying to fill in the gaps. Do what works for you without becoming a brute to things and others.

[@rchaelk2319]

​@@goychYeah, though it depends 😅

[@goych]

@@rchaelk2319 it does, you have to trust yourself first and foremost, but repressing emotions comes at a cost too, you be the judge of that though

[@mikec5603]

Burnout.. working non stop for 10-12-14-16-18 hrs can generate a short fuse as our capacity to take on additional stress is substantialy reduced. Thats why rest, meditation, breathing exercises, sleep, taking a naps just laying down and relaxing can reduce the sensitivity to stress from outside factors and increase our capacity to take on more stress

[@zodiacfml]

agreed. anger should only be used for life threating situations or emergencies. most people abuse or overuse it with diminishing and detrimental effects. anger is a symptom of a problem that should be solved or avoided. my mother used this all the time on business and relationships, it only just drains her energy and easily forget the wrongdoings of her enemies and my father.

[@Unidentified_userr]

As someone going through an anger filled situation right now, this video helped me a ton. I've been venting to my friends about it and it starts to make me angry all over again. It started to feel like a vicious cycle, I'm so glad I found this video.

[@wendyzanck9387]

Anger is hurt’s bodyguard

[@thencasti]

We shouldn't suppress or avoid feelings of anger. Anger is usually covering another feeling or emotion like humiliation, dissapointment, grief, annoyance that must be addressed. I think we should be ok with feeling upset and not feel shame or treated as inferior for experiencing it. Stoics are anti negative feelings because the appearance of calm is what makes them feel in control. We learn how to express anger with our upbringing as we see our parents deal with it. Also, it is very naive to say anger is always explosive. Look around you and see how many people are angry but don't express it. They walk with anger, and then later manifests in physiological and health problems. Anger must be addressed and processed. It must be transformed into clarity and positive action or resolution. Meditating and doing yoga is a temporary fix and distraction from what makes the person react in anger. If you don't question it and transform it, you will be doing meditation and downloading mindful apps for life. Im dissapointed that the only solution in this video is meditation and yoga.

[@Rickfernello]

I agree. I think there should be a balance. It's ok to feel angry and expressing you're angry, but you should avoid getting explosive and irrational. Sometimes anger is the rational reaction.

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

Thật ra từ "thiền" không có nghĩa là chỉ ngồi yên hít thở mà thiền còn là đặt câu hỏi và trả lời, làm thông suốt tư tưởng.

[@ConfessorCromwellProphet]

Great holy armies shall be gathered and trained to fight all who embrace evil. In the name of the gods, ships shall be built to carry our warriors out amongst the stars and we will spread Origin to all the unbelievers. The power of the Ori will be felt far and wide and the wicked shall be vanquished.

[@abandonment]

seeing this video felt so timely because i just listening to Marshall B. Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication series and he shared this belief that anger only leads to more violence, but i think his belief is that anger isn't a bad thing to experience inherently, but that it's a signal to oneself that a need of theirs is not being fulfilled, and they should take it as an opportunity to deconstruct that internally so they can later approach others in a more compassionate way

[@nathanolds6863]

I’m so grateful that you make captions for these videos.

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

Tôi cũng cảm ơn về điều này như bạn.

[@liborrajm2916]

I have a feeling the need to vent anger is linked to desire for at least some control of the situation. It feels like an active response rather than passive acceptance. It might be that we feel it as a sign of weakness to not do anything, and so anger is deployed as a form of defense strategy (i.e. angry and strong > calm and weak). But clearly, as explained in the video, this strategy backfires.

[@beckhambrooklynpenza1708]

A Vegeta thumbnail on an Einzelganger video? Today’s my lucky day

[@officialjeremiahblake]

This channel has helped me more than anything

[@anaximander4589]

Anger can be good in the right context. It produces action in the situations we Where action is warranted, whereas passivity will never produce the feelings needed that get one to act.

[@TonyWKoo]

Hi, I don’t know if you read all these comments, but I’ve found that exercise is a great way to deal with anger, frustration and anxiety. I try to exercise at least 30 min every day. It’s been shown that prehistorically, human beings used to be physically active all day long. It’s how we were meant to be. But now, we don’t. And so, our stress hormones build up instead of being used for what it was originally intended, which is to work out your stress hormones through physical activity.

[@turtlec7140]

100%

[@user01-n6p]

makes sense

[@Masterofmultiverse]

In Buddhism they say like: those who fully come to terms with the fact of their eventual death, all their conflicts, enmities, resentments are silenced. Something like that. It is a profoundly liberating statement and simultaneously a very depressing one. Don't know which is more. Another brilliant and thought provoking video Einzelganger bro. Thank You.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I love the Buddhist perspective on this. The concepts of impermanence and surrender have helped me a lot

[@Uriel-Septim.]

"Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - Buddha.

[@horednaxela6919]

Memento mori

[@Novastar.SaberCombat]

Time is the only resource. 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (book I)

[@souhailfellaki9289]

@@coolbreeze5683 All religion have the same view, they all say that u should hold ur anger

[@papitsunami464]

Thanks for this. Been going through so much anger from betrayal, hardships, victimhood mentality and been venting it out to my partner. I started to STOP venting and complaining to save my relationship. To summarise, things have been a lot better now and calmer.

[@ngocthamhuynh9966]

Chúc mừng bạn vì "mọi thứ đã tốt hơn và bình tĩnh hơn rất nhiều."

[@bugsbunny4698]

❤❤❤ You won't believe how much I needed this video - right now! Thank you so much.

[@armatian]

I can only agree but it is very nuanced, expressing might look like venting but verbalizing without screaming helps me process things with reason and logic and find many times that ilogic thougths or expectations emerge from those bursts, allowing me to think beyond the moment and deal with the experience.

[@Brooder85]

Emotions are healthy and natural. Expression of emotions is healthy and natural. The determining factor in this case is the individual. Their temperaments, impulses and urges. If your emotions run wild and become destructive, its not a problem with the emotion, its a problem with the individual.

[@goych]

I don’t get it!

[@darrenhenifin]

Exactly! We shouldn't "reduce" our emotions because they can be destructive, we should find a healthy or healthier way to express our emotions. Including anger.

[@yurkdawg]

I have always had a temper. At its worst in my early teenage years I thought I found release in playing football and "moshing" to heavy metal music. While those releases were temporarily satisfying, the feelings still persisted. But when I changed "moshing" to relaxing dancing to hippy music, the release became endearing and ultimately fulfilling. This may seem a subtle difference, but the significant difference was I was experiencing positive emotions. I owned a Jack Russell terrier, a dog that had a TON of energy. One way or another I had to do something active with him daily or else he would release his pent up energy in destructive ways. But part of the key was to do positive activities with him so he was happy while releasing that pent up energy. So there is something to the need for "release" for some people, I think the trick is that that release should be a positive experience in itself.

[@saicosis13]

Ironically, I see this video after quitting my job for this same reason. Thank you for the info 🙏 really appreciated.

[@bboyneon92]

The Timing timing timing! Of this release! Thank you!

[@George1966ism]

Freud also writes that blocked emotion, nevrosis can be released by humour. Laughter is just as relieving as anger and the better way.

[@FPgalindo]

I have always dealt with anger as long as I can remember, and I used to think that venting anger was the best way to deal with it (even psychiatrist recommended to me) but I can tell you that after screaming and shouting I always felt a deep feeling of regret and shame. Anger can make anyone do or say something that can seriously harm others and themselves, I can tell you that by experience. Overtime I believe I have made some progress and improvements in this area, it all comes down to the simple realization of "There is not a single problem that can be solved by anger, but any problem can be made worst by it".

[@goych]

What the fuck are you even talking about? Why can’t I be angry if I’m fucking angry? Who says it’s not healthy to express? It’s just the reality of the moment, denying it is utter madness

[@DCM68W]

Incredibly helpful as always. Accessible, profound insights with top-shelf video and script editing. Absolute respect for viewer time, but more than that. I'm talking myself into a tshirt purchase

[@mekalmathew8409]

I think it is more accurate to say that we should avoid "wrath" rather than anger itself. Anger is classified as one of the few basic human emotions in psychology, along with sadness, happiness, fear, surprise, and disgust. "Anger" is more accurately viewed as a feeling--rather than an action. It is what you do with that emotion that determines if it is healthy or not. So if you use your emotion of anger to inflict disorder in the world around you (considered wrath), that would be considered negative. But you can utilize your emotion of anger for positive things aswell. The video makes very valid points on the need to control anger, and this is expressed thoroughly in Buddhist philosophy. In Buddhism, when you feel anger it is considered the "first bullet" and this is unavoidable for everyone, but when you take this anger and cause inappropriate chaos, that is considered the "second bullet." It is within our grasp to control and even eliminate this "second bullet." Some examples of "good" anger include Ghandi's peaceful protest, MLK peaceful protest, and even Jesus' anger in the temple. To eliminate anger is asking to eliminate a basic human emotion, which is to reject an aspect of the humanity that lives in you. It is thus more important to learn how to control and direct it to more productive avenues. TLDR: Anger = human emotion and often necessary. Need to learn how to control and use rather than "avoid." Wrath = negative expression of anger; bad and should be avoided. (what the video is more specifically referring to)

[@kigalbert]

Excellent video. I wonder if some of this can be extrapolated to other emotions like sadness or anxiety. It’s surprising how popular a therapist with a masters degree will tell you to hit a pillow. It’s no wonder why some things are the way they are, seems discouraging. I have found that knowing my suffering from anger is a choice, wanting not to have the feeling last more than it has too and manual labor help, along with music. I agree with the stoic and buddhist stance on the subject. Those two ways of thought, plus taoism, have helped me tremendously overcome my rage episodes. Taking that one second before reacting is practicing my freedom. As always, thank you for the video, I appreciate it.

[@jonathanrandall4140]

Anger, as long as it isn't turned outward, is a catalyst for change. Fuel.

[@rabronin]

I have a complicated history with anger. While I've been aware of the harmful nature of anger, I didn't know more about it until now. Thanks for posting!

[@SitaVanna]

"To be angry at others, you must first resist your own unpleasant feelings" - Hillside Hermitage

[@Bhadh]

Can u explain please??? I Dint get it..

[@E4439Qv5]

Makes sense to me.

[@tonycordero6105]

There is no correlation between how I feel about myself and why traffic makes me angry.

[@E4439Qv5]

@@tonycordero6105 none that you see within yourself just yet. Think it over...

[@noseefood1943]

When anger swells I tell myself we’re all gonna die and return to the nothingness forever then everything seems trivial

[@ScottishLeo]

Exactly! In 100 yrs, none of our human nonsense is gonna matter 😅 it DOES put a lot of things in perspective

[@lathanielulofoshio7889]

A good quote my medic just told me. " It is perhaps most necessary to have patience whenever we do no want to have patience". I am trying to calm myself right now. Petty people with petty problems.

[@runswithraptors]

I enjoy the increasing quality of video production 😁

[@SumPixelz]

I can tell you, I almost choked someone to death once, after being so intensely raged with pure anger and hate, a tidal wave of black and red aggression drowned me in this place of primal fury. I have never felt so powerful and at the same time totally out of control of my own body. Anger is a very treacherous thing, and it takes a lot of power to stop it once you get pushed to the edge. Thank God that I came to my senses just in time.

[@jeremiasimmig9505]

Anger can be a powerful tool if used wisely but it is a thin line between constructive action and temporary madness....

[@E4439Qv5]

Do both. Get compulsive. _We're _*_all_*_ mad here..._ 😸

[@alexandersage967]

Science actually backs physical release of intense emotions through things like exercise and cathartic yelling

[@felixhampe6480]

Thank you so much for making this video. Really shines a different light on how to deal with Anger.

[@dmeloTV]

I love your work, congratulations for such good job 👏

[@TheMidnightdemon]

That the act of venting anger (always directy reacting to the emotion anger) is the very thing, that makes us more angry (or more likely to express anger), makes sense to me. Simply by expressing anger, whenever it arises, we create pathways in our brain, that fascilitate this behaviour. If there are no repercussions from the environment or even external encouragement, additionally to the internal sensation of relief/ reward, this behaviour is very likely to become a habit. Good luck breaking that habit, because it´s not gonna vanish all too soon! What I thought, while watching the video, is that it could be beneficial to not directly react to the emotion anger/ to not vent, in order to stop this habit and to ultimately come up with different strategies to regulate anger down as well as let the emotional energy run a different course and form other habits. Thanks for the thought-food! :)

[@jamesward5721]

Every time you lose it, you lose. Stay cool, calm & collect. Mae West said it best.

[@armorbearer9702]

I notice the media that portrays anger positive is action movies. In those movies and tv shows, direct confrontation is the solution. In other genres, anger produces mixed results.

[@kayleighdriessen]

When I feel particularly angry, I tend to sort of vent to myself whether out loud or in my head in the privacy of my room so that over some time I've blown off some steam without unnessecarily hurting anyone by either physically or verbally using them as a punching-bag (I've only lost my temper only very few times throughout my life before, but I'm afraid of allowing my emotions to blind my judgement and lead me onto a irreversable path of self-destruction) nor keeping all of my strong emotions bottled up untill they explode, so far it has consistently been of great help to me, being able to nagivate through difficult external an/or internal circumstances through self-love and self-reflect plus using your feeling and thinking side in tandem can really get anyone far with or without outside-support.

[@ellie4683]

Anger should not be reacted outwards but experienced inwards. Let me explain: Go to your room, hide under your bed where you cannot hurt anyone. Close your eyes and now begin to vent your anger to the person who has hurt you. As long as it takes. Make it as graphic as you need and hit the air. When you are tired it is really over. I had long running ptsd. Never stopped. But after this exercise it was gone. Of course I don’t know if it works for everyone, but it did for me. Like the ‘somatic experience’. Fantastic. But I didn’t hit anything or shout at anyone. I just don’t feel weak and vulnerable any more.

[@cosmicburp8523]

Getting angry can be a way of avoiding getting depressed

[@magueysunset]

Anger is nothing to be ashamed of. It comes from a place of wanting security and safety. Unhealthy anger is terrible though. The meditation book called 30 Days to Overcome Anger by Harper Daniels was helpful for me. Anger can be a great teacher if observed and not responded to with negativity.

[@JohnTheRevelator11]

Nothing to be ashamed of? It’s a low level fight or flight emotion that shows weakness of character not strength and hurts others because the person with anger can’t control their own reality. A practice of control and dominance. It is shameful. Observation is necessary yes. Until it no longer exists.

[@magueysunset]

@@JohnTheRevelator11 Anger is a primal emotion, nothing to be ashamed of. It's being unable to accept it or directing it at one's self or others in the form of blame that is toxic.

[@JohnTheRevelator11]

@@magueysunset that’s a train of thought that most spiritual practices would not agree w. It’s primal yes. But the entire goal of evolution is to overcome weaknesses of flesh.

[@Bocheef117]

I believe there's sense in both sides of seeing things Altho, personally, I think that what is being ashamed of your own anger is a paradoxical way of adding more fuel to the fire. Yes, it is very inconvenient in a lot of cases due to impulsivity, but in essence what causes anger is the natural response to discomfort and seeking something better; it's a signal that pushes you further. Anger becomes unhealthy when you don't have the circumstances required to keep your own anger at bay, without it controlling you, instead of you understanding the reason behind it. Thanks for reading the comment, I love you

[@Uriel-Septim.]

"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured" - Mark Twain. "Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools" - Ecclesiastes. "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die" - Buddha.

[@simplysunny8714]

Thank you so much. You don't know how much you are helping me right now. ❤

[@rosemary4608]

I’ve always been angry since I was a little child it’s all I know even around myself I don’t think venting it out ever helps But I also never knew how to not be angry I don’t have outbursts anymore it’s just all inside me not going away I will try meditation and mindfulness

[@davidtollefson8411]

I needed this. I’m a pretty calm person, but I have definite anger issues that I need to work on.

[@poojithrao4864]

Love that you put vegeta in the thumbnail!❤️

[@sawdustadikt979]

I think all the points you have made, using a these narrative driven points are missing something that unhinges them. From what I’ve come to understand is that feelings are feelings, they are all equally valuable, the moment we place value on them(be it “good feeling” or “bad feeling”) we become blind to their mechanistic purpose. The more we think anger is bad, the more we avoid it, the more unfamiliar we are with being able to recognize why it is their and how to deal with it, work with it. Cold showers are not as difficult when you take them frequently. Frustration is different from Anger, anger is different from rage, rage is different from contempt. Each is a progression from a LACK OF PROPER ACTION, not action it’s self. Anger is a precipitation of proper action. The action is up to you but it builds pressure for you to to have momentum to step forward on solving a problem, that step could be as simple as saying I’m not happy about this, your words hurt and I don’t know what to say, it could be anger at yourself for not knowing what to do. This is why, hitting things, hard exercise and all that sillyness doesn’t work, you expended energy on not overcoming yourself to over come the probes you are angry about. As much as I have studied stoicism and Buddhism and loved it, there is alot of spiritual bypassing in both, as well as a lot of philosophy and religion, Science proves what you want it to prove nowadays, just like religion and philosophy, the truth is looked at like an anomaly and then it is put to the side because it’s uncomfortable.

[@CryptoC4T]

Maybe because of ADHD but for me without physical outlet it is difficult to calm down. Telling someone who will involuntarily throw next object to "just calm down" is like telling a bullet to "just stop". In my experience it is better to work on not getting angry over small things then at controlling the anger.

[@JohnTheRevelator11]

💯 friend

[@a.b1266]

You will never be punished FOR your anger, but you will always be punished BY your anger. One must understand that until they can rule their mind, it will rule them.

[@alicearcturus8610]

This was interesting and I learned something very useful. I am old but when I was young I thought Freud was full of crap. I did not know, however, that venting anger could be bad. Everyone, everywhere said it was good to get it out. Being old, it takes to much of my valuable energy to be angry. I don't like to vent anymore and I do feel more peaceful. From now on I will let all anger go like a balloon. This video is very very helpful. Thank you!!!

[@Joel-zt4pl]

Fear leads to anger, anger leads to hate, hate leads to suffering.

[@roivosemraiva]

Dealing and facing anger is to treat it with peaceful understanding why you are angry. Thank you..the world should watch thus video

[@johnroman4608]

Forever count ur words before spitting them out - I came off some heated words .. all I could do was listen & be quiet, could not reason. And there I was ! 😮

[@themoonkiddo]

i found the idea that "there's no reason to be angry. anger betrays reason" interesting. i'd like to watch/read more content from this point of view

[@MrStevansunny]

Very true. When I was much younger, I used to deal with anger by driving fast on a car/motorcycle. As the years passed on , I became slower but I still needed the drive to blow off steam. Turns out that I was meditating while driving while observing the beauty of nature while doing so. It was never the thrill of speeding and weaving, but it was a way to escape the situation and the triggers of me bursting to a place where I can collect my thoughts and be calm.

[@ephraimwinslow]

Letting anger out is something you should do very judiciously. There are times when nothing else will get the job done, sad though it may be. The trick is realizing that using anger to achieve your ends is the personal emotional equivalent of smashing the emergency glass. It should only ever be a last resort.

[@anotherwea6692]

I agree. Whilst it may be true it has some good uses in the right condition, it may be too uncommon of an ocurrance for it to be generally recomendable

[@ephraimwinslow]

@@transitionshotline ...Your channel name makes everything you just said so sus.

[@arthurb1191]

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[@ephraimwinslow]

@@arthurb1191 Nope. Just like how that extraneous emoji ruled you out of the serious discussion column.

[@arthurb1191]

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[@briangarcia8384]

Whenever I feel like I'm gonna spill, I remind myself that my emotions are never a result of outside influences. If I ever do spill, I just say something super quick just to get it out and move on. I never dwell.

[@EVacStation]

I've often been told I lack emotion because I don't allow myself to get outwardly angry and/or I keep relatively calm most of the time. And while I didn't have words for explaining it, this video hits the mark for it. I dont value anger. I dont see it as productive or helpful. I will admit, I vent to myself when things get especially bad. But that's more me working myself through the issue than outright being angry. But most of the time I try to let it go. Life is too short to be mad at everything. And all anger does is distract you from stuff thst really matters.

[@theinnerlight8016]

If you don't control your emotions, your emotions control you.

[@Herpetile]

emotions control you because that is being human... it takes quite a lot of mindfulness to keep a logical brain about oneself all the time.

[@Herpetile]

@John-PaulHunt-wy7lf More like be gone Moon!

[@NaqrSeranvis]

How about dealing with anger by engaging in activities that require a lot of attention so you literally have to divert your attention from anger to something else? Like "Sorry, anger, I don't have time for you"

[@alonsomilan7074]

What a valid and well put perspective on anger. I really needed this today dealing with an angry coworker. Thank you 🙏 everyone be well.

[@joannaedwards6325]

I shouted a lot of angry things at my annoying neighnor from inside my apartment (hoping she would hear) for a year. Soon after I got some painful arthritis. Coincidence ?? idk.

[@kellychuba]

If I didn't have my anger i would not have escaped a very bad relationship.

[@HoboGardenerBen]

Good reminder, thanks. Read some vipassana books some years ago that used a fire metaphor. First you light yourself on fire with the emotion, then you spread it to others by venting on them. Makes sense that not being on fire would actually help the situation, not turning up the heat. This will take some practice :)

[@em945]

This is profound. Thank you, Eisenganger. I have been jogging for over 30 years and for a long time, I get angry basically every time. Have stopped coffee before, and tried different strategies, and there are issues occurring that are not being dealt with , but there is always something that triggers me. I am by myself, so rarely seen, but really shocks me how aggressive I can internally feel. I used to be a Pilates and Yoga instructor, so I imagine I had counterbalanced the jogging before. I am female, and never been an angry type (fearful for sure) until age 40 or so. The options you give sound really doable. Thank you!

[@bigcatproductions2789]

You are a Warrior 💪 Nothing is wrong with you .

[@em945]

@@bigcatproductions2789 warriors, joggers and ragers age very badly. It is biochemistry. I aim to age with wisdom, and as much calm beauty and greater communication skills as possible. A 55 year old female body refuses to be bashed around. ( I am already an active small farmer off grid, not living an overly soft life). I am surrounded by amazing older male farmers who's bodies suffer extremely from injuries. Take care. Warriors need to assess the outcomes of their strategies, particulary if they have simply become a habit. The older body becomes the habits of youth.

[@anaximander4589]

Menopause might be your culprit

[@mups4016]

Anger is an emotion just like all the others, you do not need to justify it.

[@MisterGames]

Only time I felt anger rise to a super high level, was at school and the school bully was chipping away. After one little encounter where i remained steadfast, as he walked away i took some deep calming breaths. A fellow student who was petrified of the bully asked me about it, about me deep breaths. I told him, he wants a fight and i am not willing to give him one but i wont back down either and so i need to remain calm and the breaths help... But i would get agitated driving on the road until one day while at a set of light that would take me 3 changes to get through, upon the green way way way ahead the woman in front started throwing her arm up and gesturing and shouting to the cars so very far ahead, they weren't moving quick enough. I realised then, her anger came from her inability to control the elements of her trip and that meant the other drivers. And i realised something else, the danger of superimposing my driving experience onto others, and that wherever I am going will still be there. And i would rather people drive within their skills than exceed those skills and crash, even if their skills almost cause crashes. And as i cannot control any other driver, i should go with the flow, like a cork bobbing on the water as a river takes it down stream. And from that moment, i have never angered again behind the wheel. Cut me off? Figures. Don't see me? Figures. Zip in and out? Figures and clearly hasn't done the math and how little that will gain them. Lane ending and want to squeeze where there is no gap? Figures, there you go, come in and be gone from my space. I now drive like a retired person with zero sense of urgency and it is so peaceful.

[@Davlavi]

Informative as always.

[@Upāsaka_11]

It's not about preventing or even reducing it. It's about controlling it. Emotions like anger have their places in our lives. It's just important not to allow them to control us.

[@حسينمحمد-ق9خ9خ]

I know one thing: throughout the 22 years that I lived, I moved from suffering to suffering and from humiliation to humiliation because I used to restrain my anger, but after I understood the truth of life and human beings, I never restrained my anger anymore except in accordance with my personal interests, and my anger became my drive for development. And progress, and gaining strength, and defending myself, and I noticed a very dramatic transformation in my life in terms of my self-confidence and awareness, and the increase in my times of happiness and comfort, and the decrease in my anxiety and fear, and the organization of my thoughts, and the improvement in various aspects of my life day after day, so I consider this video It is unprofessional and he did not succeed in dealing with the issue of anger in an objective manner, but rather focused on the ideas that serve the masters in their control over the slaves, who are we, the spectators now.

[@mondoseguendo6113]

I doubt it 😂😂😂😂

[@حسينمحمد-ق9خ9خ]

@@mondoseguendo6113 doubt in me ?

[@gzoechi]

Showing anger has great effect on others that can be life-changing positive. I have seen it countless times that people can only be convinced to do sometime if you show them anger. Otherwise they think it's easier to just ignore you. There is no need for real anger. Just pretending is enough and probably the better option.

[@justins7796]

I'd love to experience anger as a normal person. Could probably work on it then but for someone depressed and stuck in their head anger is like a best friend handing you a gun with the confidence to end it all. It shortcircuits your mind, there's no point in tackling the anger at the point cause it's just woken up a worse demon for you to contend with - suicide.

[@Jay_Hendrix]

Anger is imperfect hate Embrace hate and anger melts away, is excercised Anger just happens to you, but hate is a part of who you are We all hate something, in a way thats deeply personal Lying about it to yourself creates anger

[@Hivatel]

Anger is anger. Feeling anger is natural. How you act in the presence of anger is what defines you. Anger can fuel your motivation, but that is all it can ever do. It may drive you to action, but that is all it can ever do. So when you are angry, tone down your voice. Make yourself reasonable. Shatter your perspective and look from a different angle. There is a better option. Ask yourself why you are angry. Why you should be angry. What else you can do.

[@patrickmorton1187]

Thank you for making this, I have wondered about self-control and anger reduction. I know a man that claims he punches walls because he couldn't help it and that anger is genetic because his father was angry. I feel better by breathing, exercising , forgiving, and in some cases meditating. Hopefully we can all learn to master our own anger, it can be so challenging at times.

[@bobkaiser8782]

If I vent, I hurt others. If I don't, I hurt myself.

[@bro5846]

Anger is important for ensuring boundaries are respected