Why You Spend Time On Things You Don't Care About

How do you know what matters? If someone said what are your about? What are your values? Would be be able to tell them? You probably wouldn’t if you hadn’t already thought about this. It’s not because you don’t have any values. There are things that matter to you. But If you’re like many people, they are not top of mind.
When you haven’t clarified them in your head, it’s easy to spend your time buried in tasks and responsibilities that you don’t really care about. You can unintentionally do a poor job of things because your heart really isn’t in it. Also, when you aren’t anchored by your values, you’re more vulnerable to worry about other people’s opinions and expectations of you. So knowing your values helps you care less about other’s values and opinions. The goal isn’t to be indifferent to other people’s opinions, it’s to have their opinions mean less.
Here are ten common domains that people value.
Family relationships
Marriage/romantic relationships
Parenting
Friendships/social life
Career/work
Education/personal growth
Recreation/Leisure
Spirituality
Community/citizenship
Health
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[@jemiahjackson2508]

You get so comfortable with doing things that are wrong that you've forgotten how wrong it is and whats actually RIGHT

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Very true indeed 👍🏽

[@winebox]

And being around people that don’t want you to do different/better can make that even more of a challenge. Stay strong.

[@jemiahjackson2508]

@@winebox do you think thats part of my problem?

[@winebox]

@@jemiahjackson2508 Sorry if you thought that I was accusing you of anything far from it. I grew up in a depressed inner city neighborhood and sometimes or a lot of times if a person does something to better themselves or start breaking away from one’s group, the group can start saying negative things. I watched an E channel story on Mary J. Blige where she described that very thing. Also, it’s hard to break away from the familiar or it seems hard for some and sometimes you don’t notice stuff around you until you step away from it.

[@jemiahjackson2508]

@@winebox i understand. Is your situation better now? What do you do for a living?

[@knithappy]

I’m so happy that you have chosen the path that you are on! You are helping so many of us and I appreciate you immensely 🤗

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you so much Sandra. And thanks for being around for so long!

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I second that emotion! ❤️

[@emilyjuarbe-rivera4758]

Thank you for life changing content!

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[@Psych2go]

Looking forward to more videos like this Dr. Tracy!:)

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks a lot! This is actually more my lane than the medical content (even though I'm an MD) 🙂

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@@DrTraceyMarks really, really helpful! Thank you so much I really appreciate it.

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Definitely.🤎

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[@CampMore99]

I'm an introvert, yet I realized one of my values was to raise awareness about kindness and advocacy. I started a podcast in 2018, and even though it is exhilarating AND scary, I continue to publish episodes because I feel it makes a difference. Thank you from Orlando!

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hey hows the podcast doing

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What s the name of the podcast?

[@addysaw]

We are so grateful that you decided to return to KZbin and embrace us all with valuable, concise knowledge. Thanks for another fantastic video!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much Adnan! 😊👍🏽

[@edwarddillon5886]

One of the most valuable, if not the most valuable videos on KZbin that I have ever seen. Thank you very kindly Dr. Marks for making this video, I appreciate it.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Wow, thank you Edward! 😊

[@denniswondrak5772]

Forget the “haters”! You’re an attractive, intelligent and interesting woman who has helped me in my life, but giving explanations on certain topics. Thank you Dr. Marks!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Dennis! It’s an honor to be helpful.

[@juliaconnell]

What haters? Where? *why* would anyone say or think differently?... (attractive, intelligent, interesting woman - helping others) oh there are always small minded people, intimidated by strong, intelligent, capable women - and I say that as a 'white' woman - strong, intelligent, capable - AND attractive - *and* black... I'm here for the *CONTENT* - which I always find interesting, informative & engaging - even when it's not directly relevant to me - not the comments of people whose opinion I dont respect (anyone posting hate or disrespect)

[@vixyvelasquez9898]

Julia Connell yes , I find her very attractive! She’s amazing human being ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Mel-os3ld]

What haters??? This lady is an absolute goddess.. what an inspiration Dr Tracey is ❤️😇🙏🏼

[@Mel-os3ld]

@@juliaconnell you say this as a white woman???? How very Nobel of you 🙄🤦‍♀️

[@cutwell9394]

I am so displeased to hear about your negative experiences getting started on KZbin. What you are offering here is tremendous, and no doubt the result of a great deal of hard work. Thank you for doing what you do.

[@KhalerJex]

I feel the most fulfilled when I'm dreaming in my sleep. Real life is just dull.

[@PavlosViscacha]

Same, and I feel bad about it 😔 Relationships, social life, work, etc. - all those domains just create more hurdles for you to jump over, and I hate exercise. I want life to be easy, but easy is difficult. And I know this kind of thinking goes against the broader society values, so it makes me feel like I’m a shit failure of a person.

[@gabi.a]

get therapy if you can, and learn about dissorders with simptoms you relate to, even if it dosen't match your diagnosis, it's gonna help you because of the similarities 🙂

[@KhalerJex]

@@PavlosViscacha I feel the same way, bro.

[@KhalerJex]

@Kristopher L. Berry It won't. I'm 27 years old. Feeling like shit since 14. Like she said in the video: Time is a limited resource. Unless you have a 100% certain way for me to get better, I rather not try anything. I will just take my meds and sleep as much as I can. And when the pandemic ends, I'll go back to the whorehouse too. This is my 'therapy'.

[@KhalerJex]

@@gabi.a I'm in my 3rd year of therapy.

[@PauloNideck]

I really appreciate how much time and dedication you put into these videos, I know from experience it's not easy and for that I'm very thankful. You're videos are really useful to me.

[@icystorm9968]

Dr. Tracey I just wanted to say that you have helped me so much with understanding my mental health and my parent's mental health. whenever I feel lost or caught up in my thoughts, I come to here to watch your educational videos. You have such a beautiful soul and it shows through the screen. You always calm me down when I'm having an anxiety attack. Your morals are nothing less than that of a virtue. We need more people like you in this world! ♥️

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Oh I think I'm going to cry...Thanks so much Icy Storm. I really appreciate you.

[@sekenamcmurren2217]

I agree with you 100% Icy storm, Dr.Marks gives intelligent sound advice. Her patience and calmness is very soothing to someone who suffers from anxiety and panic disorder.👩✌💞

[@shirleykaye4344]

I agree too! Every video I have watched has been helpful to me in some way. I recommend this channel to a lot of people because Dr Marks helps us understand ourselves better, and she always explains things clearly so we can understand her message. This video is a prime example of Dr Marks helping us to know ourselves better and to live our lives spending time on meaningful activities. As a person with mental health problems,I find that Dr Marks can explain things to me that my psychiatrist either can’t or won’t. Dr Marks, you are a treasure and a gift to the world!

[@marymaher4036]

@@DrTraceyMarks ,I Love and agree 100%,with how Icy Storm expressed thoughts to your recommendations! Very true insight. TY so much Dr. Tracey Marks.😊😃

[@gregorybrian]

I feel like I’ve struck gold having found your channel. I’m a tough critic when it comes to advice givers in the media world and I refer your videos to family and friends all the time. Your channel is one of the best. You have helped me gain insights into myself, especially since I’ve recently discontinued a ten-year regimen of antidepressants to manage my anxiety and depression. You talk to us like a good friend. Honest, comforting and practical. Thank you for your dedication to helping your fellow humans.

Dr. Marks, I can say for myself, I have learned SO much from you. There are no words to express my gratitude for the time and care you dedicate to us. People like you, knowledgeable, engaged and unbiased, are the examples we should all follow. This is one of the most important videos you have ever created. No matter where you are in your life, stop and take a breather, reevaluate your wants and needs, and focus on values, is super necessary. Thank you for your continuous touchdowns 😊

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you so much Jaqueline. I’m so glad this resonated. And yes we all need to pause and take a breather.😊

[@LiveLoveLaugh_44]

I agree ! Stepping out your comfort zone. Is where true change happens,The here and now.

[@NenaLavonne]

You are so right!

[@PavlosViscacha]

Not for everyone.

[@DarrenFMagee]

I call it 'giving yourself permission to try' 🙂

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Nena Lavonne that is something so hard for me to do , stepping out of my comfort zone , but I at least try , for the most part I succeed .☺️🤗🖤🖤🖤

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I'm so glad you decided to "grow a thicker skin". Your videos have been an amazing tool for me on my journey to wellness. Thank you for putting up with the trolls to help people like me. ❤️

[@user-fb5id2rc4x]

Whoa! What did I miss here?! People were actually being rude to her?!💔 I have followed her for a long time on here and Instagram and she is Amazing! 🙌😊 She hits the nail on the head so to speak when it comes to all of these topics. I have yet to listen to someone as Great as her @Dr. Marks❤

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks so much both of you. I’m so glad I’m still here too. I don’t plan to go anywhere

[@soulaudacity555]

From one healthcare professional to another…thank you for the work you do!🙏🏽

[@picotincriollo2368]

Hey doc. I'm currently in a rough patch as a 25 y/o and I took this year to be introspective and better my self so I can achieve my goals. Stumbled across your vids while reading a few books related to psych and you've been insanely helpful in a short amount of time. Keep doing because now probably you can reach a lot of more people than your colleagues. Gracias from PR. 👍🏼

[@reallifepsych3309]

This video came right on time! These videos always hit home for me!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thanks a lot Real Life Psych!

[@MyPersonalCoachingClub]

So true, knowing your values keeps you goal oriented and less seeking of validation and approval !

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes indeed!

[@dailydoseofmedicinee]

We are taught from a young age to see money as our most precious resource. We are led to believe that we can make up for any of our shortcomings just by spending money. While money is a very useful resource; time is the most important thing a man can spend👍

[@snorgonofborkkad]

I don't know who this "we" is you're talking about because I was never taught that money was my most precious resource and I don't know anyone who was.

[@hjw4110]

Thank you. I’m lacking health coverage atm and even when I am covered finding a counselor or therapist that is actually beneficial hasn’t happened. And while clicking around on KZbin as I escape from my circumstances of having to move home post break up you come in sharing you practical and pragmatic learnings! Many of these videos are like a prescribed manual for how to start a better next chapter in my life. Thank you Doctor and thank you algorithms.

[@athenao4130]

I wish someone would have asked me these questions when I was younger. At least I can share this with my preteen so she’s not just floundering in the world for decades like I did. Thank you for pushing through the brutal beginning and sharing your knowledge!

[@jimwilkey7294]

Sadly, so many Americans just don’t value the most important aspects of being a human being. Thanks for NAILING IT as you always do! God knows, many in your world have the knowledge but unfortunately they don’t know how to connect the dots or lay it out to others. You are a genuine angel 😇

[@anniel482]

I think you’re wonderful. I love your calm and straightforward approach, but mostly, underneath, I see a compassionate person.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Annie!

[@mdouglastv]

Aww your dog watching you clean..he's like why are you doing that human play with me instead 😆

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Ha yes! He's always around...

[@dakini5693]

I am SOOOOOOO Grateful that you did not give up and let others' comments scare you away Tracey. We would have missed out on one of the best, insightful, and all around deeply helpful people. I appreciate the way you go in and break down things and how you present them. Your videos are easy to understand, relate to, and digest. Thank you for being you.

[@kgaogelopakadi5158]

"Time is fixed and cannot be borrowed so how you spend it says a lot about you and your values." Yes that got me

[@steffc6914]

This video just changed my life. I dont think ill ever be the same, in a good way. It brought me an even higher sense of self awareness.

[@shermellosborne]

Thank you for pushing past the words of people! Your videos are 🔥🔥🔥. We need this type of content more than ever! Oh I also love your hair🙂

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Shermell! I'm glad I pushed too. Did you see that straight look? I also had to get comfortable with my natural look. Thanks.

[@vixyvelasquez9898]

Dr. Tracey Marks your hair is so adorable, cute ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@tineputzeys]

@@DrTraceyMarks I'm always afraid to comment on appearances, especially as a white person commenting on POC's hairstyles. But I'm absolutely thrilled seeing you with natural hairstyles. Every time I think, YES SEE, you can be professional and have natural hair. I hope many more POC youtubers and celebs keep this trend going. I hope this doesn't come across as virtue signaling or condescending or anything. I just want to show support.

[@dannyjensen3634]

Thanks for hanging in there Dr. Mark’s. I’m glad you stuck it out and didn’t listen to the naysayers.

[@vixyvelasquez9898]

I can’t believe someone will hate on this angel , yes dr. Marks is an angel to me and for everyone , and physically I think she’s beautiful, I mean are these haters blind ? 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@noelzehikz]

Seriously tho this dr gets an award for her simplicity in explaining how we are our thoughts

[@veraarena1583]

Congratulations Dr. Marks, for the excellent message, that touched my heart and mind! Great job!👏👏👏

[@DrTraceyMarks]

So glad and thank YOU!

[@dimv1430]

You are amazing. Smart, kind, authentic, compassionate. I found your videos a month ago. So helpful. You have changed my life and helped me learn about myself, and what I want and need from others. I recently ended an unhealthy relationship and feel assured and empowered in my journey forward. You are a gem. Thank you!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You are so welcome! I'm so glad to play a role in helping you feel empowered! 😊❤️

[@nicolenewman200]

Dr. Marks, you look amazing in all your videos. I'm a 55 year old woman & I truly admire how you keep yourself. You are an inspiration to me. Thank you for all the hard work you put into your educational videos. Don't pay any attention to anyone that says different. Their just jealous. Hugs, Samantha

[@melissaedwards8738]

This is right on time. I just starting writing and publicly sharing my work again because I decided not to care about the haters! So glad that you do what you do. Let your light shine, Dr. Marks.

[@adiosepic1829]

I feel so much relief watching your videos that I'm tearing up for no reason. I am so grateful that you've taken the time and effort to help people help themselves. Thank you.

[@joannaladocha2485]

So glad you had the courage to step back into the ring and share your message Dr. Tracey. Not only is your content incredibly useful, now I know the hurdles you overcame after the first attempt, the fact that you are creating these videos is super inspiring too.

[@coleenbrugh7953]

Love you Dr. Tracey! Exactly what I needed to hear and great tips to help me understand and focus on MY core values. Win-Win! ❤

[@erynfish]

Love this! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, feelings and experiences. It takes courage to disregard the unwarranted negativity and accept that you decide how to live your authentic life. ❤ You've shared so much, taught many of us so very much, and have a great and farther reach than you might ever know.

[@EricaVainTV]

I love this Dr. Marks! I am going through something similar right now and struggling with navigating and borderline obsessing over the negativity I receive as I grow my platform and influence !! I am going to do this exercise for SURE!!! Thank you!

[@rasberries566]

You're everything for putting the ten domains in the description. Thank you!

[@javierabascur1318]

Tracy I’m so obsessed with your videos! Thank you so much for pushing through and making these! 🌹

[@gabrielagheorghe87]

I'm so happy you decided to keep making youtube videos. You are amazing and your voice is so warm and calming, it has healing properties.

[@duk2112]

That closing story was fantastic. Get it, girl. These videos are wonderful, and I've always felt like it's vital to make a positive impact in the lives of others and your community because that will be your afterlife. A knowable legacy in the connections made

[@Inessa77]

You are such a kind and generous spirit, Dr. Marks, just wanted to thank you again for your selfless commitment to the well-being of others. Your videos mean so much to us!

[@robbie1321]

Thank you for this information, Dr. Marks. I'm trying to learn more about myself so I can understand my reactions and meet my needs, and I was feeling overwhelmed. Figuring out my values is an excellent place to start. I really appreciate all of your videos and I'm glad you persevered.

[@martijobarrett4527]

Thank you! Your light shines! GOOD. FOR. YOU! 💃🏻💞

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you Marti!

[@milkyshakes]

Yikes, I genuinely needed this video. Trying to spend all my time in achieving a more comfortable life. I just want to feel good about myself & be in the position to enjoy life and improve the life of others. In order for me to get there, I got to start taking care of myself and using the time I have now because tomorrow is suggested, not promised.

[@michalchapmanramsey450]

Your videos mean a great deal to me and what you do makes a difference. Thank you for pushing through.

[@ilovefreefood]

you are so appreciated!! thank you for what you do and for pushing through

[@annialm3766]

This is one of the most important things I’ve learnt about self improvement. I’m doing many thing without knowing why or if I actually want to do them. I am exited to see what will appear as important for me when I do this exercise! I’m happy for you that you’ve found your path, you are my role model, thank you!

[@francinelissiene1220]

Dr. Tracey Marks, before watching your videos I felt so guilty because I lost the person I loved the most took their own life. I always blamed myself for not seeing it before it happened, and this guilt followed me for so many years. Watching your videos not only helped me understand their state of mind, but made me realize that there was nothing I could do. I am still in the process of letting go of the guilt (almost there), but it wouldn't have started had I not gotten sick one day and binged on all your videos... all these years later and finally I am setting myself free. Thank you for being the catalyst, and bringing so much knowledge to mental illness. You don't only help people dealing with these issues, but it is a great way for family members of sufferers of mental disorders to understand them too.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Thank you so much Francine. I’m so glad I was a catalyst for your healing. There is so much collateral damage when someone takes their life. It’s hard not to feel guilty and the grief drives that. I’m glad you’re breaking free from that. Keep pushing forward. I wish you the best.😊❤️

[@mansiupadhyay711]

More love and power to you Tracey! Thank you for continuing to share these videos. This gave me so much clarity which I have been wanting to hear since a long time :D

[@J0ELLEx]

Dr. Tracy calling me out in the most compassionate and helpful way ! Thanks girl I needed you to "at me"

[@yanaaugust1434]

Thank you so much for posting these, I really appreciate it 🧸🥺 I don't think I can see a therapist rn but hearing you speak on things I worried about or thought I should be concerned about, it's really comforting and makes me want to be healthy for the people I care about, my future and myself, questions like these are better than filling out a sheet of goals when I couldn't think of any/felt like I didn't deserve a future Thank you for pushing through the past negative comments for the community and I, we appreciate you and your work 🧸🌺

[@nataliaturner4845]

So much of my life wasted. Really needed this & perfect timing, too, now that school is out for the summer. Time to focus on personal growth for kiddo & me. Thank you! :)

[@esmeralda478]

I found this video to be immensely helpful. I realized that I had lost my way, and this video will help me to get unstuck. Thank you very much!

[@open_water2411]

So glad you kept going Dr Marks - You have no idea how valuable your videos are and the positive impact you’re having on all our lives.

[@LavidaLauren]

Thank you Dr. Marks for being brave and fighting through those insecurities yourself to share your knowledge with us! You've helped me so much because now, I know what to ask for to a therapist, and understand myself and others. After getting the right help and support, I am on my way to feeling better about who I am and want to be. I was able find the strength to create mentorship programs to help others. "Empowered women empowers women". Your knowledge empowered me :) Thank you!

[@LisatotheMarie]

This is one of my favorite videos of yours! I'm so glad you decided to come back and make videos again! Your content has been super helpful to me these last few months.

[@2ktzstuff]

Thank you for not giving up! What you say has been so influential in my life for good.

[@LondonDreamSoul]

Thanks Dr. Marks, great video as usual. I am glad that you continued to post. You rock👊🏾

[@DrumWild]

What I do is meaningful. However, much like my own life and existence, it is meaningful ONLY to me. If I did not assign meaning, then all would be utterly meaningless. And when it comes to work for the average person, they have to try really hard to convince themselves that what they are doing is meaningful. Very few people have a career that is fulfilling. Most of us have jobs.

[@DrTraceyMarks]

Yes, sadly that's true.

[@PavlosViscacha]

Nothing is truly meaningful, and so anything is as meaningful as it’s meaningful to you. Your work can be not fulfilling but meaningful because it gives you means to do other things that do contribute to your meaningful values, e.g. gives you money to travel, or allows you to support your family whom you love and don’t want to see struggle.

[@youtuba6711]

This is overwhelming as I don't have the answers to 90% of those questions. I'm 30. I should put these questions in writing and answer them.

[@stevengreidinger8295]

Yes, just take it step-by-step. Nobody expects you to know everything the first time you try to plan.

[@PavlosViscacha]

I have the answers but my answers would raise a million red flags to any therapist. Is that better? 😔

[@alanseb99]

Lately I've been watching a lot of your videos because I was diagnosed Bipolar type 1. Then I just kept on watching because you offer very good advice. Hearing you at the end of the video get personal about your experience warmed my heart. I'm just so glad you kept doing your videos and helping so much people. But also I just feel very happy for you getting there.

[@michaelkirkaldy7039]

Thank you, Dr. Tracy Marks. I thoroughly appreciate your online presence and will to educate us on the things that will help us get through this lifetime. Be well!

[@CrustofCreation]

I learned a lot from this video. Thank you!

[@DrTraceyMarks]

You’re welcome Fabuloso!

[@darrellhargrove1444]

How do you do it? It's like everything you say flows in a way that I can understand so clearly, and right after your videos I start working on what's needed immediately. Thanks so much Dr. Marks.

[@MrWatchcollector]

The whole time I’m saying “yes yes YES” love it. That last part. Oh the energy. Yesssss

[@StretchLikeACat]

Thank you so much for your return to Yt and your generous sharing. As someone who recently had an unexpected pacemaker surgery and now has a fresh appreciation of time, your example and your guidance about values and making a contribution has been very helpful. Thank you!

[@michellecawthon4565]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@DrTraceyMarks]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️👍🏽

[@cageperson1807]

Thanks Tracey! You are doing a great job putting out there medically informing quality content about psychiatry, therapy and mental health. Big fan!!

[@arianamelero9858]

Such a beautiful message. I find your presence so important. I’m happy you’re on here sharing your message. It’s a great video and I will definitely journal on the prompts you shared because I want to continue to grow. So inspiring. Thank you. 🙏🏽

[@AvaThePrincess1st]

I’m so glad you decided to keep making these videos Dr Tracey. I really have learned a lot, you are one of the best I have come across and I appreciate what you put out to help others. Thank you

[@PhlyTy310]

Dr. Tracey Marks 🙏 I'm filled with immense gratitude for the work you doing here!

[@athirahrosik2873]

Wow. 8-minutes of all-meat, no-fillers. Doing what you're doing is much needed, on this platform. And for that, a big thank you!

[@johndoejrjr]

Good job for you coming back and helping us!!!!!! That type of resolve is truly underrated and inspiring.

[@Libohova]

Thank you so much for making these videos Dr.Marks. There are so many takeaways from each of them. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. Always looking forward to listen!

[@swayitocarl]

Thank you so much for your entire channel. With daily work and advice ive gotten from you, i have been able to resolve negative feelings tied to a negative relationship with my family and have finally been able to move forward and im just so thankful you took the time to share all of this with you. Thank you dear long lost mother figure, Dr Tracy!

[@realmrpaul]

Thank you for these videos Dr. Tracey. You are truly a Godsend. Stay blessed!

[@yahushuaschosen4129]

Thank you! I truly needed to hear this today. I have a lot of soul searching to do. I often seek validation from a friendship of over thirty years. It is starting to concern me, as when making a decision instead of trusting my own reactions, judgment or response, in certain scenarios in my life I first think what my friend would say and do. I fear making matters worse. I hate conflict. When I stand up for myself (even my friend) and not allow others to disrespect me it comes with conflict/reticule. I do everything I can within reason to avoid arguments/ conflict. I care about what people think of me. I know I need work in this area. I suffer from anxiety. I value my friends option more than my own. It has gotten so bad to the point where I feel as though my friend has stopped giving me opinions and advice so that I can trust myself, my judgment and live with it. I believe that it's a good thing. However, in doing so, when I share what I did and said in certain scenarios, at times it result in a non response, gets ignored, the subject changes and unanswered phone calls. It makes me feel some kind of way. (As if I need some kind of affirmation or validation) I don't like how vulnerable that makes me feel. I value our friendship. Over the years, my friend has helped me understand how to handle negative people, given me support advice, and has been there for me. I have peace of mind, when I don't have to deal with people on certain levels. I am at a loss as to what I should do in effort to maintain some type type of healthy friendship it should be at this point in my life, as I heal, become more secure and grow stronger. emotionally. Your advice Dr. Marks would mean so much. Thank again!🌷

[@afrolatinagrl]

I am so thankful you decided to return. Your videos have given me so much to think about and consider. I have been spending a lot of time working on my writing because it matters to me. I love writing, and for many many years, I allowed other people's opinions and my negative talk to prevent me from doing what matter to me. I really appreciate your work, and thank you.

[@devanpennington2188]

Your videos on here are the absolute best by far!!! In just a handful of videos I’ve watched for the first time today (and some I’ve watched four times in a row) you have changed my life for the better. Thank God you didn’t give up! And you know what? That in and of itself is encouraging as well. God bless you ❤️

[@kd1inoly693]

This is definitely my favorite of your videos - not that I've watched them all, but I'm sure glad communication is so important to you!

[@aimeerichards124]

Thank you so much for living your passion and helping others. I'm so thankful to have found your channel and this particular message really blessed me. Much love! 🙏💛

[@plushevil5874]

I am so happy to have stumbled upon your channel. I grew up in a household with serious domestic violence and many other serious issues. Your videos help me understand a part of myself I did not get a chance to properly comprehend until recently...and I am 31 so there's a lot of work! My therapist is fantastic, but paired with these videos, I feel my quality of life is already improving. These are gifts. I appreciate you, Dr. Tracy!

[@WestonSmithBurglekutt]

Thank you for creating these videos, Dr. Marks. They're helping me narrow in on the type of counseling I need to be looking for and also the type of questions I need to be asking. Please continue this impactful work!

[@jrRim]

Dr Tracey, I love you. Really. Thank you for being who you are.

[@LadyKenesha]

Thank God you pushed through Dr. Marks! I needed you! Thank you for coming back. Namaste

[@kwt890]

You have helped me more than you could possibly know. I have nothing but love and respect for you and hold you in the highest esteem!

[@PurpleSunshine23]

Thank you for sharing your experience about the negativity you received on Facebook and how it scared you away for awhile. I think we can all relate with similar experiences in life. I’m glad you came back! Your videos help me so much and I’m sure they help tons of other people too!!

[@paulf0x]

I’m glad I came across this video this morning. I’m grateful for what you are doing!

[@adriennesalazar2066]

You cannot imagine how much your videos have helped me. Thank you for deciding to come back! You have helped those of us who can truly use this information to try bettering ourselves and lives. You are appreciated!

[@stereotypicalhuman]

Thank you, Dr. Marks, for continuing to make your videos. I appreciate how you explain the topics and keep the video relatively short. Please, keep making them!

[@nicolelongecoluxury]

You're a gem, Dr. Tracey! Thanks for sharing your insights and recommendations.

[@gizger5196]

This video resonated so much with me. I have been going through a time in which the opinions of others affect me a lot, and I keep taking an on-lookers perspective on me all the time, wondering what others might think or say about me. I'm definitely going to use this video to workshop the questions you mentioned for every domain. Thank you so much for your videos!

[@modernmarvel]

I am so sorry for your experience and glad that you have pushed through to do what you feel passionate about. Your knowledge and experience help a lot. Thank you!

[@donovancatuncan3373]

We are blessed to have you, Dr. Tracey Marks. Thank you for being there and deciding to continue KZbin. There are very few doctors who are able to empathically explain conditions the same way you do. You empower us with information. You are a soothing balm to us who fear research owing to white-coat syndrome. You know how to share the good whilst putting to light the bad with clarity and care.