Why your life is so boring

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Let’s face it. Your life is boring as f*ck. And here’s the biggest reason why... you haven’t taken enough risks. Whether you’re thinking about starting a KZbin channel, asking out that cute stranger across the bar, or moving across the world to your dream city, it’s scary to take a leap into the unknown.
But if you want to live a life filled with purpose, adventure and happiness, you’re going to have to get really comfortable being uncomfortable. So in this video I talk about how you can push yourself further, take the right kind of risks and consistently embrace uncertainty in a way that feels right for you.
Hi there 👋 If you're new to my videos my name is Matt D'Avella. I'm a documentary filmmaker, entrepreneur and KZbinr. I've made a couple documentaries for Netflix. I also teach courses on everything from filmmaking to habit change. If you like to nerd out about self-development as much as I do, you can subscribe for weekly videos.
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[@ahenson4297]

Not exactly a “wild” risk, but I just ended a 3 year relationship and I’m moving back home to save money to fund my dream: opening a local coffee shop so I can be happy every single day instead of working a job that drains me :) great video, thank you!

[@jacksongayton9915]

Good shit 👍🏽👍🏽

[@RayCish]

Good for you man

[@zanehutchinson6491]

Good luck man !!

[@liz27399]

Good luck!

[@OMZCapital]

💯💯💯💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@Tenky]

My life is "boring" by design... I spent all my early adulthood (16-30) having the excitement of skipping meals to pay for gas to work and having no reason to live... being paycheque to paycheque with no ways to save or improve my life... If you come from a privileged place where you had all your needs filled then yes you'll crave excitement and risk... Boredom and stability is my reward for lasting so long in a shitty place and digging myself out of it.

[@thingsofinterest603]

Was looking for this comment. The risk/reward analysis given by so many motivational types always market "boring, low risk, low reward" choices as a bad thing; as if stability and predictability are somehow inherently less fulfilling.

[@drpepper23flavors]

That’s amazing. I too aspire to a stable “boring” life.

[@authenticallytracy3421]

I recently realized that my goal is to be bored. The first 45 years of my life was go-go-go, work-work-work, stress-stress-stress. Bored means I have completely the things that are important to me and I have time to chose what I want to do. Bored opens my life up to new classes and new art and new learning and new friends or new activities.

[@A-Wa]

yes it really depends! After work I do other necessary things like cooking and cleaning and all this drains way too much energy, that I just lay on the couch before I sleep. There is no time to be bored, so I see boredom as a privilege to have!

[@Frichilsasta08]

Yeahh boredom is a privilege for sure. One can be bored from not having money to do things that might be "fun" though. However. If you're constantly financially stressed and simply trying to survive, I'd say boredom is definitely a privilege.

[@DerekBearzi]

Taking risks definitely makes life more interesting and less boring. I used to be scared of taking financial and social risks in my life, until I read a great idea from author Nassim Taleb. He said "you want to take risks that are adverse to ruin." This opened my eyes to the idea that not all risks are created equal, and that I've been missing out on many opportunities in life.

[@mattdavella]

Love that line, Derek! Nice one.

[@deepika2644]

SAVE SOIL GUYS!!!! SAVE SOIL MOVEMENT 🙏🏻

[@Jspec03]

What book is it? Im currently reading his book Antifragile

[@howie3750]

@@deepika2644 to the many times, the many times it has been used by trees and grass, and stepped on….

[@BongRip]

What does that quote really mean though? Take a risk that isn’t really a risk?

[@juliagonzalezperez4458]

Reminds me of something I read a while ago: "If you always do what you know, you will never be more than what you are". Awesome video, Matt

[@alishas7960]

I can recognise a master oogway quote from a mile away, so inspiring

[@ConsciousMomprener]

Thanks. I believe talking about these matters going to change the world. My experience with boredom and being uncontent is slightly different though. I just shared on my channel how I cope with boredom

[@Bjxywg6478]

This video could not have been posted at a better time! I’m giving my 2 weeks notice at my job TOMORROW and I was second guessing everything. The “cost of inaction, reward of action” graphic was exactly what I needed to see! Thanks so much for this great content!

[@mattdavella]

Wow so exciting!!! So glad it helped. Good luck and have fun!

[@AMJHandle]

Go Frannie! What you are doing now comes from your heart, so trust it, of course it's right. Best of luck, you got this!

[@niamhhume1888]

Yessss gall!! I am on the brink of doing the same. Why am I going into a boring job day in day out when travelling has opened up?!?

[@lailaalbuquerque5036]

I feel the title does the contents of this video a disservice - people's lives aren't boring, they are unfulfilling, exhausting and stressful from enduring a less risky path. I'm glad I persisted in watching this nonetheless because it really was a compelling guide on how to get out of your own head and kickstart that thing you always wanted to do - a very thankful fan

[@DanielTitchener]

30, married, and still living with parents... I might need that domain name. #mrriskybusiness Loved the video!

[@mattdavella]

Thanks brother! More like *Best Case Scenario*

[@jaydeclassified]

LMAO

[@IntrovertMaxxing]

damn son

[@mayw2200]

I wonder how much it costs to buy that domain name, cool brand :)

[@aishaadam7473]

Your youtube tells different story🤔

[@JonJosephKuhn]

Most of my life is boring on purpose and I have to remind myself, "I have worked me ass off for this boring life." However I never want to stop learning or failing. One of my five rules for life that I have written on my desk is, "Keep Failing."

[@SpawnPoiint]

I'm at a crossroads in my life right now. Not sure if I needed this push or not 😅 (thanks)

[@shicalista]

I just started my career path change after months of pushing it off 🙌🏻🙌🏻✨ ended a relationship that wasn’t going anywhere and started going to the gym! Feeling amazing! 🙌🏻✨❤️

[@jaydeclassified]

That cost and rewards analysis is mind-numbingly genius!

[@14mrb67]

YThumbs up and a comment stating that you have out done yourself Matt. This video speaks to me so bluntly. Thank you. And Keep doing the great job !

[@breeze3364]

I usually skip through when a KZbinr pauses to thank their sponsor/help advertise, but Matt's are always so entertaining.

[@emomz]

I think Covid has made us all quite risk averse and I’m definitely feeling the itchy feel now of wanting to do some new things after such a long time “holding still”. Anxiety is really high at the moment and that’s really linked to fear/risk perception too. Lots to think about from this for sure!

[@adanpatience3361]

Such good advice. I've been very specific with my job choices in an attempt to carefully curate my career and respective growth. And looking back there are some jobs I should've taken and definitely one or two I should've passed on. I know this now because I chose action. The thing that scares me most is the difficulty to quantify the cost/reward of inaction, because of how success and growth compounds, equally discontent and stagnation. Personally, I'd rather make the choice than have it be made for me. To everyone, good luck on your journey, I've started and still going :)

[@77stephani77]

I was getting bored, felt like the nine inch nail song, “every day exactly the same”, so I signed up for jiu jitsu as a 45 yr old premenopausal wife & mother, yikes, daily asking what am I doing… but I see improvement, & my 12 yr old son trains too and sometimes we work together, helping each other having fun. Definitely not bored anymore and so far worth the risk of old lady body breaking… 😁 thanks for another great video. 🤓👍💕

[@quotient9974]

Reminds me of my mother! When I was 14 and she 47/47 we decided to start going rock climbing. Now I’m turning 20 and rock climbing is one of my life’s greatest Passions and she, at 52 still climbs at least weekly and she’s a freaking rock star!

[@SeanBlackAuthor]

Awesome. I started training as an amputee at 48. Just took two bronze medals at the Europeans in Rome. One of the toughest and most enjoyable things I've ever done. Keep going!

[@ericagoehring1089]

Awesome example! I returned to martial arts at 38 with 5 kids. It brings me such joy.

[@lucbalr]

A co worker of mine started it past his 40s too and he absolutely loves it

[@christophgeorgey3250]

45 is not really that old, but good job to you anyways! 👏

[@forgottenartform]

When I decided to start writing with the aim to make it a career it was terrifying to do something that for 30 years I'd thought was an option for other people - I've entered competitions and been unsuccessful but I've put things online and had a positive response, so I'm chugging along slowly now :)

[@esbenkran]

I recommend reading So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport in relation to the calculated career risk point! Really nice overview of the path you can take towards independence. And of course, the 4-hour Work Week by Tim Ferris.

[@FazalSharif]

Indeed Matt thank you. These videos motivated me to make more videos on KZbin. Even when I had only 5 subs. THANK YOU!!

[@Hello-itsme9]

My life is brilliant. My life is pure. I love espresso

[@77devera]

I've been working for a federal agency for 10 years now. Three years ago, as several of my co-workers retired, most of them had told me that they are not financially ready! After 30 plus years of service, they are still not ready? That was a rude awakening for me, I don't want to end up in that same situation! So I've decided to invest into rental properties. Now, I have 2 SFH rentals and planning to acquire more. This video is making me eager to pull the trigger again and just keep moving forward! Thanks Matt!

[@shaunnolan]

I'm about to take a big leap in my life and the size of the risk feels quite overwhelming at times. But this video made me feel at peace with the risk I'm taking and, since I'm feeling so bored in my life at the moment, it now seems like it's the perfect thing for me to do next. Thank you!

[@sushvlogs9392]

After listening to your video, if I still feel scared to start a KZbin channel, am I hopeless :D

[@charlieold]

I’ve never needed this video more in my life than now. So I appreciate you for this 🙂🙏

[@staargiirl]

5:48 The I've failed bad before and I can do it again is a game changer. This is from someone who had to move in with grandparents due to financial constraints. When I think about going through it again it is bad, but I know I've been there, I've done that. But if you never went "that low", the worst case scenario will seems unbearable. The first big fail is the worst.

[@adamdittrichone]

Asking yourself better questions is key to your personal growth

[@MircoSchroeder1]

I changed my job after 14 years - Scary at first, but a huge improvement in my life.

[@heypitersong3193]

I think the problem for most ppl is that most of their life is risk. Me, personaly, dont have any kind of stability in life, everything is changing everytime and i have to keep getting track of myself over and over again. Its not like im afraid of risk, its that every aspect of my life is already taking risky decisons but whitout being my choice, just because i have to live. I dont fear any kind of risk, i dont fear my confort zone cause i dont have one, and most of the world is like that. If the problem was "getting will to overcome fear" i would already be a millionare living in swiszerland .

[@mino_preneur]

thanks bud, I really need to hear this

[@nathalieguenette1141]

thanks for the advice, I'll see my situation a different way now! I'm a trader for almost 2 years... sooo difficult but I don't regret my move to quit my job. So glad to see Natalie, she's so funny!

[@AMJHandle]

Hello, fellow trader! You got this, best of luck! :)

[@barbaracalabro873]

I am a 70 year old female. I got the chance to go on a tame, zipline (only 400 ft high). Loved it so much.. went on the Catamonster zipline at Catamount, NY ski resort. This zipline started on top of a Mt. as high as the Empire state building and was 1 mile long. Never would of had the courage for it without going on the tame one first. Start small.. If possible, then the big risks won't scare you! 🤗 👍

[@scottyjon]

Honestly, I cannot explain how much you have inspired me or helped me work through anxiety I've had around so many "mediocre breaking" projects I have put on hold! 🇿🇦🙏🏼🤓

[@mariam.abouzied]

this inspired me to finally make moves towards my career switch, thank you!

[@fortifyjoy]

When I saw the title I thought, "my life isn't boring," and lo and behold I have recently taken a risk, which is so far paying off.

[@kristinakeykey]

Risk is energy consuming, probably as a 5k run daily =) And it also leaves a good feeling. My current risk is starting a KZbin channel, and it is anything but boring ! Thanks for the great video!

[@muhammadnurabdillah371]

Happy Ramadan From Indonesia, Thank You For Inspirational Video, Make This Ramadan Better 👍

[@mariandiee]

You seriously don't run out of lessons to share! Thank you for this Matt 💗

[@JessVanDen]

I've been self-employed for 12 years (and I now employ my husband). Heck yes it's scary, but it is SO worth it. Do it, people! But I agree with Matt - do it smart. Start your thing on the side. Do the learning while you're still earning. Set aside a safety net. I spent 1.5 years running my biz on the side as a hobby before life forced me to take it full-time (which, thankfully, worked out for me - but I worked my ass off at that point to make it happen). When things get challenging, the thought of working for someone else is usually more than enough to motivate me to keep working, experimenting, growing. Business is one big experiment - and that's what makes it fun! Life is not what I expected when I was younger, but it's better than I could have ever imagined.

[@peterfallon4018]

Good for AJ! Just said a prayer for you that God (however you acknowledge) will provide strength & perspective to get thru the sure rough times in order to reach your goal!!!!

[@Monk98]

That's true. I'm currently on a job that I don't really like, but for my country's standards (will get back to this in a second) that's pretty high pay since I'm in the US. But in a sense I felt unfulfilled eventhough I can save litterally everything that I make and buy whatever I want. But I learned that having good mental health, be around people that you really enjoy being around and live the life that you want to live is more important. So I decided to quit my job THIS VERY DAY (what a coincidence), go back home in 2 weeks, to Vietnam, and then live off what I have saved here in the US while I try to figure out a new life in my home country.

[@Manila-7]

THE TIMINGGG!! That's exactly what I needed, thank you Matt! Also great editing as usual! Just amazing❤

[@sabaitide]

I have two interviews this weekend for part time jobs that I’m not ready for yet. It would take a lot of time and energy away from my creative work as an artist and writer, but I need to work something out in the upcoming months. I just started a KZbin channel and I would love to learn more about your course when its ready!

[@f.s.8122]

I always think of the comfort zone as a circle with me in the middle. It will shrink automatically if not intentionally enlarged. I traveled through southern Africa and greatly increased the size of the circle. But it has since shrunk, especially during Covid. Now an interrail trip through Europe sounds very scary to me. But I know that with a little effort, I can increase my comfort zone again.

[@derekrank4572]

i just feel bored because i dont have enough income to do more things..

[@songandniko3694]

I‘m scared of driving because the worst case is I kill someone/or myself in an accident, and I will have to go to jail. 😂yeh, that worst case scenario is real scary.

[@MrCmon113]

At least you have street cred then. You can maybe start a gang or sth.

[@MarioKstgr]

However the thing is, how you are supposed to follow your passion if you have no clue at all what your passion actually is?

[@mossbears3288]

I am thinking of going and doing a 5 min stand up set on monday which is kinda terrifying

[@WiWillemijn]

I have so many anxieties and issues, I don't feel its boring at all😂 Just living is an adventure

[@RoaringMrmanH2]

I feel like this is completely dependent on knowing what you want to do. Some of us just haven't found what we're passionate about and are sick of the same mundane cycle. And yes I know, if you don't know what you're passionate about then you need to explore more things. I have, and I still haven't found anything worth pivoting towards. This advice is only good for those who have the clarity of what they love, most of us don't have that clarity and probably will never find it.

[@renekun1982]

Honestly, this video was the kick in my a.. I needed so urgently. Thanks a lot! Looking forward to your future content 🙏

[@Petrrii]

I moved to a different city across the country taking my mom and brother with me, putting all my faith into a job that I'm not even sure will exist in a couple of months..I think I took a little bit of a risk,do I feel any different?Nope..

[@maryr6300]

But you did take a risk, and who knows what else is around the bend for you!

[@AntonoirJacques]

I have ADHD. I always take risks and my life is never boring. I sometimes yearn for a quiet simple life

[@bogxd]

Great video! I'm taking the "youtube risk

[@Username-ld7ho]

I hate my job. I want to do something else. I don't know what. I can apply to a bunch of different companies and see which ones would hire me. I don't have any degree. Just a high-school diploma and basic knowledge of mechanical engineering and architecture. I work pretty much all the time. I'm a truck driver, so even when I sleep, I'm technically working. I don't know what to do to be able to focus on my projects. Develop more of my engineering skills. If I just quit, then my family would probably dismantle. My father would work alone all the time, and my mom would always fight with him over the littlest things. I would be able to have more time tho. And no money at all. Who would hire an engineer with no degree? So that is my dilemma. How do I take this risk, knowing that the worst thing that could happen, is my family completely ripping itself apart?

[@kirbylilie]

Thank you for being my perfect content before doing math homeworks I am motivated now !

[@AnastasiaMizh]

I wanna go back to boring. Love from Russia

[@EmptyNonsens]

So I read it as seek change. Thank you Matt

[@davidbalogh8149]

my biggest fear is not finishing my album in time, how can I simulate that?

[@Atulwebdesigner]

Inspiring and motivating video to take calculated and timely risks. Thanks for sharing Matt.

[@4DaFam]

I quit my job and been enjoying my boring life at home since I’m a homebody but sometimes I do want to take more risk especially financial risk

[@JamesWhiteside]

This is why I run red lights every morning and talk to everyone regardless of how they feel about me talking to them. Lol

[@ethanrougon6504]

Damn! How did you predict that I was gonna say "nop" to all the risk propositions!? I literally said it... Anyway, amazing video as always, love you Matt!

[@rizultra]

oh my God! I really need to design my life. I've been living in "go with the flow" mode for too long

[@willpalmeer]

This has helped me decide to move to bali lol

[@JoshuaLewis6786]

Great video!

[@michaelburge7279]

And this sums up the the saying "the rich get richer" and why we desperately need a robust social safety net. Having a wealthy, stable childhood allows people to feel they can take bigger risks that will, statistically, lead to bigger rewards. They feel safe doing this over and over until something succeeds. The more wealthy your background the bigger risks you'll be willing to safely take, and ultimately the more money you'll potentially make as Matt explains. When your risk could mean losing your house and food you are less likely to take it. People from relatively wealthy families talking about the "risks" they took and why that means they "earned" their wealth are massively over exaggerating the danger they felt. For them investing hundreds of thousands into a business is less risky than us leaving a stable job to earn slightly more. This society is rigged.

[@gabygrand]

Agreed. Also womens safety is affected when she leans on her partner, which statistically means she is likely to experience financial abuse. Womens loves are also y default more expensive and we need health insurance for birth go from and potentially getting pregnant. This applies to people with disabilities too, so really need a solid net because their life depends on it

[@eddiestilll]

taking risks is how we know we're truly living life :)

[@udubnate]

I don't really know if Tim does monthly fear setting anymore

[@137sakshi3]

3:30 very good

[@youknowwithMartyKauffman]

Love this thanks for making such great content

[@mrbartuss1]

I really wish so much my life was so boring

[@etnes10]

Bokeeeh!!!! Haha, I can't focus on the video due to such a shallow depth of field 😁. Is that 50mm F1.2?

[@StickyKleenex]

Wish I would have taken more risks

[@carsonlove531]

4:09 huh okay so if we don’t take risks like Matt, we will live mediocre, boring lives. Cool.

[@AaronFisher]

Didn't think I'd ever see blink-182 in a Matt D'Avella video 👏 (@ 2:43)

[@LisaCulton]

I don't feel bored at all.

[@choboruin]

"it's a bah~na naaaah"

[@abdelzouhir2212]

Great video 👍

[@LukaHauptmann]

thanks for the motivation!! :)

[@ruslanfattakhov1582]

To ECFMG From doctors and medical students of Russia, Belarus, Ukraine and other countries of the Commonwealth of Independent States. On the 31st of March 2022, on International Doctor’s Day, ECFMG has banned for an unknown period of time all Russian doctors, based on their citizenship, and nationality from taking USMLE exams and obtaining an ECFMG certificate which is needed for applying to US residency. Interestingly, we found out about this decision by accident. One of our fellow colleagues had a call to solve routine questions regarding their application and found out that his documents are no longer processed because of his Russian citizenship. ECFMG representatives later confirmed their decision and added that they will not publicly announce it on their website or social media. We are not able to pay, or register for the exams USMLE Step 1 or USMLE CK. Those who have already passed these steps will not be able to go through any ECFMG certification pathways. That means that the absolute majority of Russian citizens won’t be able to take USMLE exams at all, without exemptions. This ban applies even for Russians with dual citizenship, even if it is Ukrainian or US, Russians who have political asylum in the US or any other country and even for foreign citizens, who currently reside in Russia. Ban is based solely on our citizenship and national origin, not on our personal choice, beliefs or actions taken during these tough political times. Years of hard work we put into studying medicine, self improving and preparing for medical residency in the US are ruined by this quiet decision of ECFMG officials. Our work has simply been portrayed as unimportant, all due to political issues that we, in fact, have no control over. Throughout the last month we have signed numerous petitions against this war, putting ourselves at risk. Please, take pity on us, we are simple doctors, looking to practice medicine and save lives in peace. It’s a discrimination of Russian citizens based on country of origin. Russian doctors signed petition against the war and more than 17 500 signed

[@TheEvilCommenter]

You didn't have to call me out like that :(

[@Beaut_Beau]

American: Is that a ba-NAAAN-AH!? Australian: It's a ba-na-na.

[@mohantyshekhar5]

A NEW WEARING

[@TheDanocracy]

blink 182 clip tossed in there ;)

[@dylanalbertazzi]

Amen!

[@hanzeedeleon1016]

Thanks for sharing this your contents are very inspiring and informative, i started minimalism being inspired by your videos..

[@zacharishubin3959]

TITLE: "Why your life is so boring" ME: Excuse me?! 😂

[@georgeseledsky6550]

Oh, it is exactly about me!)

[@danyo6938]

This video couldn't have came at a better time 💪🧠

[@gideonwilliams6307]

I think I'd rather not practice being homeless to motivate myself, but an interesting suggestion nonetheless. Tbh, I love your material, I've been following for about 5-8 years. Keep up the good work.

[@gideonwilliams6307]

@MattDAvella. Hey, I'm sorry, I just re-read that comment and it comes across way more bitchy than I was intending even at that moment, I was more so just trying to be sarcastic. I was kind of referring to 4:28 where you ask yourself, "what's the worst thing that could happen?" A few years back I lived in my car before and it really took a toll on my mental health and the thought of being homeless terrifies me to my core. My mom's isn't really an option either bc I have 5 siblings, two nephews and inevitably two or more people are living with at any given time, which already has one person sleeping on the couch. I was definitely more frustrated about that when I commented than anything you said. Right now, I am kind of at this crossroads in my life where I'm trying to go back to school and not have to go back to my profession (civil engineering) because I hate everything about it, but I just don't have the kind of money to take any real risks in my life and it seems every time I take a risk anyway, it falls completely flat or blows up in my face in a spectacular fashion. Sorry if I came across as an asshole before. I am sometimes, but I'm working on it.

[@PatricksAcousticInstrumentals]

But what if you take a risk and the grass isn't exactly greener on the other side. How do I know if I just need to keep pushing and hope things get better or if I made a mistake? I don't want to quit on my goals but maybe they weren't as great as I thought they'd be.

[@droxxbeats4808]

It's an Banananaaa! Good Video :)

[@jaydeclassified]

If you think about it the Cost & Rewards analysis is quite similar to the Cash Flow Quadrant from Robert Kiyosaki...

[@Rig0r_M0rtis]

If your life's boring it means you dont' have to struggle to survive. Stop watching rich kids on YT telling you how to live and learn to appreciate the little things in your life.

[@pvcegd7554]

how does a kid have " life savings" .....he said that.

[@marcithe]

you shredded af dude

[@dmytrandr]

I'm Ukrainian, and I want my life to be boring :)

[@nonamehm1495]

Sending love ❤️ Hope your family is safe!

[@dmytrandr]

@@nonamehm1495 Thank You! Love is meaningful but money for the Ukrainian army would be more relevant :) Unfortunately, nobody is safe in Ukraine now.

[@demilung]

I may be in the "building the runway" stage of my life for now. Saving money and improving my health to possibly venture into being a fiction writer. Though life seems to be set upon bombing that runway, first figuratively and now literally with Russian invasion.

[@joespreetham6583]

How to solve the problem is career confusion about job or business how to clarifying that .....??? Please do a video

[@beanswtf]

"it's ah berhnahnah"