WHY YOUR SILENCE IS THE KEY

[@lonewolf1556]

It's so nice when toxic people stop talking to you .its like the trash took itself out

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌🙌

[@kellimoran8402]

Your so funny and so true!!❤️

[@msfitbrown48]

This the one🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@sandym8787]

LOL

[@nycstarport8542]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@IAmYourHuckleberry]

If someone is disrespecting you it is a gift that they walk away.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯

[@MAJENMOTHER]

Silence is truly key. It’s taken me a long, painful time to realize that after all the “talks” I was never being heard fully or understood. Only one viewpoint mattered in the relationship and it wasn’t mine. Being silent has given me strength to move forward and it’s ok that they don’t get to hear about your feelings. They were never listening in the first place!

[@shivmc4466]

This is true they only care about themselves they use people to a stuiped extent very needy, always drama so they come unstuck in the end and people see the true narcissistic behaviours not to mention strange that's because they have high anxiety...

[@Barbie.Boo1961]

I hope I am as strong as you, I realize it and I will not let myself down for a fourth time. I am so glad and feel hope thru this channel.

[@MAJENMOTHER]

@@Barbie.Boo1961 it’s a daily struggle for me and some days are stronger than others. Being free and happy is the end goal and we just can’t give up. Each day I learn more and I see more. Now, I’m learning how best to handle these times. Many thanks to Andrew for the enlightenment that’s helping me.

[@Barbie.Boo1961]

@@MAJENMOTHER thank you for your encouragement.

[@Chris-tc8sm]

Oh they listened. They listened well and learnt more and more what hurt you and how to hurt you more. Any information you give them they use to hurt you.

[@bloodymary8540]

Silence and ignorance are killing them..responding to them is killing u

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Excellent insight thank you bloodymary..💯🙌💪

[@SherryONeill]

Good One!!

[@betsyroycedean121]

Nailed it! I am going to write it down so I see it whenever I have the urge to break it. Namaste

[@jennwilson8106]

I ❤️ this!!

[@1010QUEEN7]

You ain't never lie about that 😂😂😂

[@dianaaiello588]

I had to go Silent , it was for my own mental health . It’s so true !

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯🙌🙌

[@BluntlyHonest12]

I'm headed there

[@NKRAIEM]

Yes, I did the same. Best thing ever. But I reached a point where there was no other option. I was just stunned at the final lie... I literally dropped the phone, and couldnt communicate again... but in truth, she lied and her kids accidentally exposed her, and then she started to scold and guilt-trip them for exposing her... so before I made my exit, I demanded she apologize to her children and explain to them what happens when you lie- God exposes you. After I got her to apologize to her children, I exited and never made contact again. 2 month ago...

[@Chan.HDZ.1222]

Same here!!!

[@deb2319]

Yes It works so good for detaching and mental health forward healing!

[@judithhetherington6029]

It just made sense. “If I don’t feed the demon, it will seek its food source elsewhere.”.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💯

[@truffaut650truffaut6]

Hopefully

[@isaachayes21]

If no kids are involved, go no contact forever. Thanks Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏

[@susansmith1636]

Of course! Unless they are people you really love deep down inside. Then, you will be given a healing but with boundaries.

[@Blewsi-p1e]

I have gone no contact. Long way to go healing but I’m looking after myself.

[@herbvoigt9002]

After many years of being married to a narcissist I have learned that silence is one of the keys to get the upper hand. Took a long time but it is working.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🤫🤫💯🙏

[@michellespuck67]

After 5 years, the narc ended the relationship with a text and immediately hooked up with someone else. I never responded to the text nor looked back. I moved away and began a new life. I agree you can not give them any more of your energy. Thanks Andrew. Silence is golden.

[@yowhatupmain]

Damn that is crazy mine did after 2 years and it has finished me

[@JH-td4mn]

I got the text after 2 years too, after pretending they wanted to retire with me. Think you can be with a Narcissist for 3 months or 30 years and it still hurts. Everything they do is designed to hurt their "prey" 😈 I wish you all the best on your healing journey. I am over 2 years out and life is so much better.

[@maryperrysmith5815]

ABSOLUTELY BEST ADVICE EVER !!!! Silence is golden so shut up and get yourself back. Your worth it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉😊💯

[@jessparsons8515]

It’s lovely being away from these people no more stress

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😌

[@zulemaflores1234]

Love this Bible verse: Ecclesiastes 9:17 The quiet words of the wise are more to be heeded than the shouts of a ruler of fools.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙏

[@deniseelsworth7816]

Perfect quote.

[@Jerry-jb3mc]

The is No one Worthy of taking our Light....My Father told me long ago use your ears Boy...I'm taking that advice of Him and Yourself Andrew always God Speed .. JCH

[@John-sk8cm]

There's some great stuff in the Bible. I'm realizing that more & more.

[@zulemaflores1234]

@@John-sk8cm The more we read God’s Word, the more revelation we find! The Bible is God speaking to us! And it’s Inspired by the Holy Spirit, and we definitely need the Holy Spirit in our life, because He, The Holy Spirit, reveals God to us in the spirit-realm.

[@cathycpon5832]

SILENCE is the best ANSWER to someone that doesn’t VALUE ur words

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯💯

[@puppets.and.muppets]

nice comment

[@michu2888]

Silence STARVES these energy vampires! And in a weird way it is fun. Thank you Andrew ;)

[@christine11347]

I agree its a very empowering tool 😊💪💪💪💪

[@jenniferellis9249]

It is even though its not in our nature to be vindictive,it works honestly,being totally unavailable,silence says so much that we don't seek revenge.x

[@jenniferellis9249]

@@christine11347 very,its saved my life but took 3 of my empathic friends,domestic violence.x

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Mi Chu..🙌🙏💪

[@christine11347]

@@jenniferellis9249 I really love that your absolutely right it does say we don't take revenge, we are calm and composed and stoic in our silence. They have no idea what any of that means or feels like as I saw play out first hand yesterday. It's great because with no supply they get and leave to go get it from someone else. It's truly a blessing 💯💪

[@annaclaire9927]

Sound advice, silence is key Enjoy your day, Andrew. Namaste

[@craigsmith1365]

Silence is golden...

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely 🙌🙏

[@treelover1050]

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND LISTEN TO WHAT YOU FEEL AND WANT IN EVERY SITUATION. YOU DON'T WANT THE NARCISSIST.

[@latrinamilton1357]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@l.8612]

For 8 mounts i stalked him for anwsers and confronting him. Now one year i am no contact. Eventually i went no contact.

[@Jessica-zf2df]

I agree...as long as they are not silently aggressive.

[@RB-jq6gh]

Being empathic is strength not weakness.💪

[@warriormom5843]

That’s the absolute turning point, Andrew. When you FINALLY realize this “person” is completely unfixable, and doesn’t have a decent bone in their body. They are 100% your enemy, and have no good side to find, or reason with, at all. Then you can go against your natural communicative, empathic, analytical, “there must be a solution” way, and go SILENT! You must be on-guard AT ALL TIMES with these creatures, which is exhausting and why one must leave. Then you have to pray that they don’t stalk you in your continued silence. Complete nightmare.

[@manwithanamethystheart]

Yes! I am learning about narcs not having a decent bone in their body. Unless it's someone elses🤣

[@SunnyBeetle1922]

Warrior mum. I've had this from the narc. I blocked her two years ago. I then had to change my online identity when she and her fly monkey friends came after me. She even googled my name and wrote to me on every platform including etsy yet I only had two way conversations on fb and blocked her very soon after I first met her. Silence is the only way and staying safe!!! Its what we all need to do. ❤❤❤

[@warriormom5843]

@@SunnyBeetle1922 so glad you’re rid of her and let it stay that way!! Full support!! 😇🙏🏼

[@LATSRN]

So right!

[@cee1164]

@@manwithanamethystheart I had to laugh at this statement. Unfortunately, it's both witty AND true. 🥴

[@BarbaraMerryGeng]

Silence is golden Time to detach from toxic relationships..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely beautiful insight 😉🙌❤️💪😉

[@vincecavedog3219]

I saw my narc at a Xmas party she walked by and greeted me by name I barely looked at her and said nothing, she walked off looking miserable! Two years narc free and healed immensely thanks to channels like yours!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful growth and empowerment thank you for sharing Vince..💪🙏🙌💯

[@cttofl8822]

Surprised they weren’t trying to make you jealous. I’m personally nervous for that in the future!

[@AZDC99]

@@cttofl8822 Can't be jealous that they're someone else's PROBLEM now! Like you, they'll also get thrown from the pedestal right into the ditch the classic narc way too

[@cttofl8822]

@@AZDC99 thank you for that I have to be realistic

[@AZDC99]

@@cttofl8822 It always BLOWS UP on folks like those faster and faster each and every time or next person. Relationships nowadays--even for so-called perfect people can mean "NFL means NOT FOR LONG!"--Bill Parcells. (Hated those Giants teams as a Redskins fan even in those glorious Job Gibbs days...but full respect for them....plus, and, it applies outside of football too!)

[@josiah5776]

Excellent advice! The key thing that broke the 50-year cycle of abuse from my narcissistic mother was my complete silence. Once I knew what she was and that she would never change, I had the "permission" to simply walk away. She was no longer my responsibility. Sadly, I also had to go silent with the legion of flying monkeys she recruited, which included my son and almost 50 members of the extended family. I'm still estranged from all of them, even after the narcissist's death. So be it. The peace is worth it.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Joshua 🙏🙌💯

[@ZiVa.WA136]

Sorry for what you are going through but peace ✌ of mind is so worth it.cool

[@WhaleCommunicators]

Congratulations on your complete freedom. Good work. It's hard when relatives and more players involved and judging you. You have done very well and you broke the cycle of abuse in your family (whether anyone else in your family ever gets it doesn't matter) but this was no small feat when a soul does this in the Spirit World with God.. This is the hardest thing one can do - BREAK THIS CYCLE OF ABUSE WITHIN THEIR FAMILIES. I don't see meeting with any of them (my blood relations) again . . . brothers or cousins. If you are not there for the BIG things in someone's life or you sit by and watch someone be taken down without ever speaking a word in their defense . . . then you are not a friend or a loved one; much more like a traitor. Blissings & Many Successes 2u & all of us survivors of abuse

[@susane2398]

Completely heart breaking but congratulations for having the strength to walk away.

[@wallymarcel1]

I’ve had to do the same. It helps to remember most of them never did a goddam thing for me anyway.

[@sanjanabhatia5156]

No is a complete sentence as Silence is a response. Stay strong with silence. Thanks Andrew. 💪 💥☀️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Sanjana..🙌💯🙏💪

[@AJ-kb9hf]

Silence speaks volumes. It tells you everything without saying a word.

[@reneehallford8915]

Actions always speak louder than words.

[@sandracolon3759]

Like The Holy Bible says, There's Power in Your Words. Remaining Silent is equally Powerful for your own Peace of Mind.

[@umsiee]

@@sandracolon3759 so true

[@kimberlyturmel5538]

Silence is Deafening!! I knew thats exactly what needed to happen.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 💯💯

[@michignamymichigan]

Going NC I noticed things. I saw they had given me the silent treatment over the years. I also saw some of my coping moves clearly, some good some not so good.

[@shirleyvanderheijden5934]

The peace that surpasses understanding is God given!

[@donnas411]

You made some good points. Thanks Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Glad you enjoyed it🙌💯🙏

[@MrStrangelyBrown]

Silence is violence. I imagine my narc exploded with great rage and fury like a volcano erupting when I had a great life changing event and they knew nothing about it til later, I asked no permission ,no approval and didn’t involve them . It’s been years of no contact bliss . Confuse them with your silence destroy them with your results.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight Maz.. 😊🙌☀️🙏

[@myphd-myprisonhistorydiplo691]

Love this Maz!! Your last sentence hit home❤️❤️💪💪💪

[@janemwanu6228]

Exactly

[@tiarastevenson6505]

Yes!

[@angelacahill9083]

A peace comes back to you, when you go silent. It is a choice. We bring honour back to ourselves. We are whole again, created in the image of God, to walk in peace. Our boundary surrounds us once more and we're sending a very clear message, that we've moved on and are healing. We validate ourselves much more than we need them in our live, when we maintain no contact.. Stay strong and thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message..🙌🙏☀️💯💪

[@Lailat854]

Thank you! You are so calm that listening to you is like meditating❤

[@jeremyackerson9782]

This is very TRUE. Your silence and indifference is your power. Need to watch out for the next level of manipulation though because when they see that what they are doing isnt working, they will try something else. You can ignore the gas lighting, the threats, the anger, and the hatred easy enough after awhile. But ignoring the ways they suck you back in is alot harder. This is when they make you feel guilty for how youve treated them because you probably ended up being a real asshole at some point. Or they may offer you complete forgiveness and admit all their wrong doings and promise they will change. They will love bomb you, buy you gifts, compliment you, send you a million text messages saying how much they love you. I fell for it time and time again. Just watch, It doesnt take but a few days and youre back questioning your reality. They know what hurts you the most, and they hang on to it like ammo, and they know when ur vulnerable, and how to lead you into the kill zone. So when he says silence is your power, you need to use that power to get the hell away. It's not just for absorbing the blows, You need to deflect the false sense of hope and love they will promise you, because they dont love you. They feed on you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 🙌🙏💯

[@panmad6156]

Copy and paste..

[@angelashort1331]

I reading with tears ,this is happening to our lovely son , a good soul , being wounded time after time ,it's driving him to exhaustion , he's out of his depth , I'm afraid for his welfare . He's being traumatized . . She's just plain cruel .

[@sweetrose813]

Well said!

[@sweetrose813]

@@angelashort1331 get him out and take him somewhere for he can recover and be nurtured do it as fast as you can

[@prettynikki3667]

Been over a year of silence after 2 decades together.. left cold turkey no contact blocked on everything! Silence is the best peace for healing I'm a warrior 💪🏾 congratulations to all warriors stay strong!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing Pretty Nikki…🙏💯🙌

[@prettynikki3667]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone 💜🙏🏾

[@kimgordon3695]

Just be careful not to mirror their ongoing emotional abuse; out of vengeance. That is not Healthy!

[@prettynikki3667]

@@kimgordon3695 I Can not mirror anything when I simply left and moved on peacefully which is healthy spiritually, mentally & physically...

[@susanweaver6946]

I've been no contact for awhile now. I've been getting stronger each day 🤗

[@universallove280]

I counted about 50 narcs in my life. They hate me bc I’m the Kryptonite maybe bc Silence has always been my “weapon”. They cannot play you if you don’t respond

[@francespeto3305]

🎯

[@lavimusique]

Wow, 50!

[@stacyprettyman5756]

We can’t underestimate what our silence does to a narcissist. Hardest thing I’ve ever done, best thing I’ve ever done…by far. I filed for divorce after taking time to make a plan, blindsided him…still going through the divorce, haven’t spoken since. Blocked his entire family and anyone else who could contact me on his behalf. Came close to caving in several times, we lost 3 of our 4 parents through Covid , and he has become very ill himself I’ve learned through my attorney. My compassionate side wanted to comfort and support him, thankfully my logical side won out. Remained silent..

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Maintaining boundaries and moving forward is the path 💯🙌💪💪

[@rue258]

Wow I did the same went no contact since September and filed for divorce in January. My lawyer is handling my case he was caught off guard thought I would go back to him after I left the marriage. I also cut contact with his whole family by blocking them and him too. No contact for 5 months now still growing strong.

[@vanessahogan2837]

How did you get out

[@vanessahogan2837]

@@rue258 what was your plan for getting out

[@Myunvaxedlife]

My son unfortunately is narcissistic and has put me through hell. I’ve had to block his number and stop all communication. It’s been a few years now and my life has been drama free.

[@nickdesmone]

Over the years I’ve realized any package, note, “important voicemail” from them is never ever necessary for me to consume - you truly just let it all go and the illusion fall to pieces 💙

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌💯😉💯

[@martytrain]

She tried a hoover recently, I remained silent Next I saw how it got rude and nasty and the messages became toxic and full of rage but I remained silent. I had to laugh to myself, she sounded desperate. Silence is golden. Good video Andrew,thanks.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Marty..💯🙌🙏💪

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

Silence is the best revenge

[@SaiMugga]

I’ve been silent. She still wants me to help her take out the Christmas tree I got her which is a 9ft tree and get my gift. I don’t want to be around her or near her ever again though

[@SherryONeill]

There Now I am Actually Shocked That Hoovering Has Started Cuz I Seriously Thought he Would Just Leave me Alone Until I Can Get All my Things The Manipulation Has Started I Have NO ABILITY TO RESPOND!! I Have Silence In my Bones Now Guess We Will See What Happens

[@lifeslessons9889]

Ohhh I know that feeling 😊…..but unfortunately it took me too long to learn it . Shame on me 😄

[@kmduarte2005]

No contact is a matter of self-preservation.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯☀️

[@paulag7108]

When I was discarded I read that the best thing you can do is No Contact! Was the best advice for me!!Thanks so much 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Paula 💪💯🙏

[@donnahazlett7305]

It throws them off balance doesn't it. Gets their head spinning because they're used to being in the driver's seat trying to drive you nuts.

[@christine11347]

It most absolutely does and it makes them so confused and frustrated. It's like sticking a 📌 in their bubble and watching it burst. They really are so pathetic at their core. Empty shells. 💯💪

[@donnahazlett7305]

@@christine11347 Exactly. I'm seeing more clearly by the minute. They are empty vacuums, bottomless pits, looking to suck the life out of you...to use you up for their sheer gain and pleasure.

[@donnahazlett7305]

@@christine11347 Everything Andrew says is spot-on. Nothing good will come from them. Even if in the past they did throw you a breadcrumb, it always had a horrible consequence attached to it at some point.

[@christine11347]

@@donnahazlett7305 Absolutely 💯 I really loved how he described it again today. It's so important to take pause and think about how will this benefit me if I look at it because 99.9 of the time it won't and it will only cause destruction and pain. It's not worth it at all. They are so irrelevant at this stage in our lives. Once you have self worth and realize they have none it's a total game changer on the healing path and I am so proud of the both of us that we hit that milestone. Once you reach that point the 💡 moments and 🧩 pieces really start falling into place and we learn our real truths. Your amazing it never ceases to amaze how clueless these people are they have the world and to them is absolutely nothing. So we move forward and continue to shine while they are left scratching their head on how we managed to survive💪💯✨

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 💯💯

[@leilagomulka5690]

You truly have an avocation. A gift from your pain which has become a blessing to us all

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you 🙏🙌☀️

[@tootienottoofruitie1726]

Silence=cutting your ties with the parasites

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes ..💯💪🙌

[@treelover1050]

YES. AND MAINTAINING YOUR BOUNDARIES AND WALKING AWAY FROM ANY CONTACT WITH THE NARCS.

[@christine11347]

Agree 💯 silence is definitely the key to taking the power back💯🙏✝️🕊️💪🎆

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely correct 🙌🙏💯

[@christinaelena7279]

True

[@christinaelena7279]

It's interesting when your told speak up and say what your thinking. I find saying nothing and silence works better. Have to remind myself that it works along with no contact.

[@anitaknight3915]

@@christinaelena7279 yes I have found there is no reasoning with or peace with a narcissist. All they will do is deny any accountability, blame, gaslighting manipulate, or seek your energy for narcissistic supply. It's exhausting. Limiting any interactions or cutting all contact is the only way to preserve your wellbeing and sanity.

[@gacela1971]

Yes baby let's go for it!!!! I want my power and my pride back!!!

[@sandramcleod9723]

He gave me the silent treatment many times. I never did that to him until now. Hes blocked. Just got balloons and a stuffed animal and I gave the stuffed animal to Goodwill and I popped all the balloons and they went into the trash along with the love note. And it was a blessing because it wasn't hard to do and a lot has to do with you Andrew thank you❤❤❤❤

[@cherylt2348]

I may as well be in Costa Rica as far as the Narc is concerned. We are 4 miles apart and the chapter is closed finally. I am proud of myself Silence is the key 🔑

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful message Cheryl..🙌💯💪🙏

[@davidcoppotelli3957]

I'm with you Cheryl, I Walked Away from my Ex Girlfriend 15 Years. Now going on 9 Months of NC. My Silence and my Absence is my Gift to her. We are 4 miles apart I never see her anywhere. She may well be with her New Supply Hope he is a NARC as Well. Stay Well Cheryl.

[@universallove280]

When they open the door, shut it again

[@rhondarobinson4096]

I’m almost 4 months out from the narc with no contact. I still get a daily dose of your videos to keep me focused to never lose sight of my positive gains. Thank you so much!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Rhonda 🙏🙌💯.. thank you for being here 🙏🙌💯

[@okkay6030]

@Rhonda Robinson How are you now? I’m 4 mths -silence ...Andrew keeps me right ...f.eks. holidays are over now( UK) now watch for a hoover on the horizon ... As I’m much better educated about narcs & all the nonsense behaviours that these types bring - it makes perfect sense to be strictly no contact...the “rubbish took its self out”👍👋

[@rhondarobinson4096]

@@okkay6030 Ok Kay, I am doing wonderful. When I originally made that post I was four months out no contact. Now it’s 11 months a few weeks from one whole year and still 100 % percent no contact. Best decision I have ever made. An associate of his and mines informed me he was now homeless sleeping in an homeless camp on a side walk shirtless. When I first went no contact, I wanted revenge but then I shook myself into reality and started loving on myself because I knew whatever deed someone did it would not go unpaid. My deed turned into a positive, his deed turn him into a man feeling hopeless. I guess me pulling the rug out from underneath him with no contact really hit hard. Thanks for asking dear

[@ok-kay4589]

@@rhondarobinson4096 that's good t hear! getting the life u deserved all along..& he'sresponsible fr his choices🤭😆

[@hhsg11]

So true Andrew. Still sharing the same house until moving out day is confirmed, but I rarely speak to him now. I sit in the living room reading a book or listening to music on my iPad with headphones on and it drives him insane..😂. He comes in and offers me a cup of tea, glass of wine or brings me in a plate of food or piece of cake and literally I do nothing for him now. I go up to my bedroom early evening and shut the door and watch a movie or something on KZbin, he’s in the house with his dogs and I leave him to it. I have noticed in the last month or so that my silence is killing him, he’s taken up whistling or playing music on his laptop, both of which he’s never done. His mobile phone is constantly dinging either with texts or WhatsApp from when he gets up until he goes to bed, I’m watching him literally falling apart in front of my eyes. Karma really is a b**ch.

[@overcomer4060]

This is true but it's been the H A R D E S T thing for me; takes every bit of restraint I have, especially when our split was new it about drove me insane because I wanted to be heard. But I'll tell you the one thing, no, two things that's helped me stay quiet most is the realization that #1 THEY. DON'T. CARE. and #2 ANY type of response is supply to them... I don't ever want to give him supply in any way shape or form. Those realizations help the most, but I can't lie--it is the hardest thing in the world for me on the days I feel any anger. I've recently started lifting weights again and that also helps to stay silent whenever I feel angry...***sigh!!!***

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

I understand Overcomer.. 💯🙌🙏💪

[@jenniferellis9249]

Well done,its the lost self of the narc parent or parents that make us a magnet to further abuse,at some point we realise,come into the light and become our own parents,if we are not tought to grow with love and bounderies a sence of self we head for disaster with abuse,healing leads to growing ourselves up with bounderies and independence,no contact is so much easier when loving ourselves, I promise you all that.x

[@michignamymichigan]

Yup. No need to defend or explain to them. I've had to remind myself, they never cared to hear me and respect me before. Why would they care now?

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

I understand the need to be heard but it's like talking to a brick wall with these people, try writing a letter to the narc that you will NEVER send. You get to say your piece without the narcissistic rage, invalidation and gaslighting.

[@bloodymary8540]

U say u wanted to be heard by the Narcissist...but The Narcissist will never hear u darling no matter what.. It doesn't matter how many times u speak with him and if he tells u sorry... He wont hear u, he won't listen to ur message..he won't even recognize...hes doing it all for fuel.. This is the only thing that matters to him...he doesn't know and feel real love and they never ever will so go No Contact because this is the only language they understand...

[@blossom3468]

There is MUCH said in SILENCE.. it's all in the unsaid remember this!! Onwards and upwards guys 💯💯💯

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Amen 🙏

[@kimgordon3695]

Just be careful not to mirror their ongoing emotional abuse; out of vengeance. That is not Healthy!

[@barbarathomas5048]

I fell down on my goal of silence and saying NO. It has made me feel sick inside. I came to the library of Andrew!!! And this is exactly what I need. This has been a good reminder💖💖🌺🌺

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯🙏🙌

[@valb9963]

Silence after narc abuse....I refused to engage with certain people about the narc recently when they tried to converse/ trigger me. This takes strength. This shows your power. They don't care anyway

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful comment thank you Val💯🙌🙏💪

[@romanastrasheim5226]

Amen!

[@1010QUEEN7]

Exactly 🎯🎯🎯

[@universallove280]

My rules: do not talk TO THEM or ABOUT THEM. When people mention them, just smile and say “hmmm idk I have no comment, I don’t really know them that well” even if you have been married or related to them

[@Gabriellecrio]

This is my next move stop answering about them

[@taralangton2417]

The narcissist was a "friend" and has bad mouthed me to other friends spreading lies. Unfortunately other friends have distanced themselves from me. I stay away and stay silent. Not from me but one of these days people are going to see the truth (I'm not the only victim) my other friends will be sorry and I will not be able to forgive them. The friends circle will be shocked.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this Tara..💯🙏🙌💪

[@PITTSBURGH06]

THOSE OTHER PEOPLE ARE NOT YOUR FRIENDS STAY AWAY FROM THEM ALSO!

[@munchey99508]

That’s exactly how I started thinking when my narcissist discarded me and I told him if he left again I would not allow him back into my life. Nothing he does or says matters anymore. He isn’t a normal, healthy person. He’s a liar, a cheat, a thief and a manipulator. That’s what I know to be true and I’m no longer justifying/rationalizing or accepting that behavior in my life from anyone. Thank you for sharing your knowledge in order to help others. 💖🙏🏼🌈

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙏🙌💯☀️

[@beasaroseco5840]

He's right. You can't drive them crazy, because they already are. Bless this channel for exposing the madness. Be FREE!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌💯

[@gerrimiller3491]

I feel stronger and feel wiser when I'm listening and staying silent. I keep my peace of mind without exposing all my life to an evil heart.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great progress 🙌💯🙏

[@1S1S1S]

This is so important. Ignore the projections/smear campaigns, hoovers and flying monkeys. Zero contact and zero emotion.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🙌

[@Pinkdiamond12]

Silence is golden 🌅

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Amen 🙏

[@SoapboxEntTV]

Lovely breakdown. I feel like at some point everyone should study narcissism. For self recognition in the trait and to identify toxic traits that aren’t healthy from other.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you S H A M I R A..💯🙏🙌

[@CD-gr3mk]

Thank again Andrew, you are so right! I love you too and God bless you always! You are a light that shines so bright with truth and love, you really are amazing! 🦋⚘🌈💗🦄

[@cazhickling8151]

They begin to notice that you don't want nothing to do with them and their toxic behaviour through your silence 🙏 Andrew for the information

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Caz..🙏💯🙌💪

[@AmberSkye369]

My late , younger sister begged me to educate myself on these demons. Thank you doesn't begin to describe my gratitude for the intention of love Andrew.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙌☀️🙏

[@maidenmarian1]

Silence has been the greatest gift to myself.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯😉

[@jarmalofamerica]

So glad I found your channel. I left my toxic relationship of 15 years (I'm 37) in 2019. We ended up back together in Oct 2020. And it didn't take long for old behaviors to return. The gaslighting, passive aggressiveness, shaming etc. Over the last few months, she was taking things out on me that had nothing to do with me, picking fights, then saying she did nothing wrong. Our last interaction, she was talking to me very rudely. I let her know that and was hit with "No I'm not" and became more upset. Then proceeded to convince me of how wrong I was And said "you clearly must be upset about something" WHAT?!?! So after more gaslighting and now insults and purposely twisting what I was saying, I reacted very poorly. And my reactive abuse was the catalyst to me leaving in 2019. I'd get baited, shamed and pushed to my emotional limits by her. It's been a week now and I've bee staying in a hotel and at the house when she's not there. We have children so that makes it even harder. I'm now being hovered. She said "lets go to therapy and fix it " but I am the one that goes to therapy. And offered couples therapy. I'm just sick of this and I'm so glad to have found your channel

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome to the community.. thank you for sharing this insight 🙏💯🙌💪☀️

[@angelalopez3701]

Hi I’m just watching this video for the first time and I came across your comment. It hit home when you said it had only been a week and that you were in a hotel. It’s been about 2 weeks for me now. I hope your still hanging in there. Hopefully you’ve turned that corner and are feeling the love of life again.

[@jarmalofamerica]

@@angelalopez3701 Hi Angela. I have been in my own place for over a month now. Things are so much better. I hope things are going well for you. Make a plan and stick to it, YOU GOT THIS!

[@angelalopez3701]

I’m so glad to hear. Thank you for your response. I know for myself it’s the most difficult situation to endure but I also know if I can pull through I’ll never make this mistake again.

[@washedbytheblood1738]

🙏🏽 This too shall pass! No condition is permanent! 🤍🌸

[@frolickingelf]

I started going No Contact in 2017 with the family, rounding out with a year single. I even moved without letting anyone know. Waking up to a quiet, drama-free home with a full fridge and money in my bank account feels luxurious and almost decadent. Survivor’s Guilt and Imposter Syndrome is real, and an important stage of healing… and the silence matters to work through those crunchy emotions. No more migraines, no more physical symptoms of chronic stress, and doing the work to heal from adrenal fatigue and cortisol-related weight gain. Thank you for being you Andrew. You give me hope that I’ll meet an equally-minded partner soon 🧡

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 🙌💯🙏💪

[@SherryONeill]

The Physical Damage To my Body Is The Catalyst Fueling me Now Silence Feels BeautiFull

[@mrsduck2223]

Really positive outlook considering what you've been through ,keep going and love yourself a lot x

[@adeleincorvaia5336]

Even if you have a child with them, when they’re grown you can still go no contact that’s what I did loving this

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌😌

[@Dudenbroboth]

I’m an introvert, I used to be good at sports and school, then hung around the wrong people re drug misuse, now I’ve found myself, and I’m now a magnet to toxic people, narcissists, bullies etc… gotta stand up for myself more that’s my new goal start small then get big

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Building boundaries is the path 🙌☀️💯💯

[@hollyharte7831]

I hear you. Stay strong. 💜💜💜🕊

[@deb2319]

Its all true-he is spot on. toxic wasted energy- cut them chains. Persevere Forward Rise UP Within. Listen to this channell, Andrew is explaining how to dicard them so well. Peace To All.

[@maryloumckinney9270]

I've been in this type of relationship for almost 30 years, what brought me to the brink? Money that took me 4 years to save, new bathroom- new kitchen cabinets- new flooring- new windows- these are the things our home needed and I felt so good about contributing towards the reality of making any one of these needed home improvement's possible. It was a bomb going off in my head when I realized that he had spent every last dime on his grandsons and himself without my knowledge or permission. I had done without so much in order to, (at this point in my life) upgrade so as to make life a little easier in my old age. I work my ass off keeping our home beautiful w/limited resources, I've looked forward to not having to work so hard and now that vision is gone--wind let out of my sails. COMPLETELY LET DOWN, and he doesn't seem to care or understand. I've listened to him complain about me spending too much for years. I'm through--put my senior housing application in for Alaska and in a few short months he won't even know what hit him. i AM THROUGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this 💯🙏🇺🇸🇨🇷🙌

[@esh3333]

You’re the best. I’m having some hints of great days lately. Feeling confident yet cautious. Silence works. It not only keeps the hoovering at bay, it’s also nice to have peace from my own internal anxiety. When I started on this channel, I was holding on for dear life. Today I feel more like Rocky Balboa listening to his coach while training. Grrrr.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful Teshla.. you are doing this..🥊 💪💪💯

[@lisakaler4121]

Great analogy Telsha! Listen to coaches on these channels. They steer us in the right direction! They know what it's like. Blessings to all and Thank you Andrew!

[@georgiabertram5930]

Hahahaha 😊😊😂😂

[@Indy__isnt_it]

I like your "confident, yet cautious" quote. I had a small glimpse of when i felt peace and energy at the same time, it made me think how much sadness is in our world due to this BS they control so much. No one talks much except here and other channels like this, but never in real life.

[@vanessahogan2837]

I'm barely surviving I don't know how to get out. I can only hope and pray for my inner rocky to appear some day

[@elizabethflorez2372]

Yes great description. Cesspool of desperation & destruction to destroy you & revive them in doing so . Separating yourself from them completely. ❤Remaining silent for life .

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏🙌☀️

[@willowwhite7196]

I attest to that! No contact is the only solution. - don't talk to them - don't think about them - don't say their name - Do not Ever react to them.. Answer or respond to them some other time with a reminder of who they are.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight Willow 💯🙏🙌💪🙌

[@willowwhite7196]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone oh well, God got us.

[@bluedaisy4828]

I don’t want to say his name anymore. Thank you. ❤️

[@kimgordon3695]

Just be careful not to mirror their ongoing emotional abuse; out of vengeance. That is not Healthy! That's stonewalling.

[@marthaernest2815]

I still love him for some weird reason so while I may be being silent I am still drawn to him😞

[@carol-xk3lq]

Silence is a language they actually do understand.🙃

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😉💯

[@joyceyarnell6969]

We literally have to do nothing. Stay silent. So away. No holes in our walls. I love this. We have total control. We move forward with strength and self love.

[@deborahsmith-clemmons5484]

I'm currently divorcing a narcissist. A dear friend sent me your video. I find your videos to be of great importance to me and I wish I had seen your videos long ago. It's been a long road, but I am in charge and strong. I will certainly look forward to hearing more of what you have to say. THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Sending healing energy and strength 🙏💯🙌

[@leandraherring1824]

Yesss the silence is the key I've went silence and no contact a year in a half now and I'm at peace no going back to the person that tried to destroy me thank you Andrew!!!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Leandra.. 💯💯🙌🙏💪

[@Anon-pc7vt]

Me too

[@samking1421]

Good god ! I've just woke up and got educated! Thank you my life has just begun. X 51 year old Grandma from Cornwall England.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙏💯🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿🇨🇷🙌

[@hollymelville462]

Wow. A while back I watched you for the first time. It was something about when the narcissist realizes what they lost. My relationship with someone like this (I can't really diagnose, but many of the hallmarks are there) was what I thought was a close friendship, not a romantic or familial relationship. I cut ties eight years ago, and the memories of that time are still pretty tough. Anyway, he reached out to me via text out of the blue after eight years of no contact. I responded, then he sent me another text saying he would like to reconnect but would leave next contact up to me. At first glance the texts seemed like he was making amends of some sort, until I realized there was not even a hint of an apology or accountability about what had happened between us. I did not reply. Then I saw your video and thought, hmmm, that feels like what just happened! It made things really clear, and made me really glad I had not engaged further. Then I saw this video about silence being the key, which further validated my decision to stay silent. BUT WAIT, it gets better: mere hours after I watched THIS video, he texted me again! I did read it, and it was total bullshit, of course. "I know I said I would leave contact up to you...but I need help with blah blah blah can you help me?" I did not respond and going forward I will not even read his texts, as you suggest. I just wanted you to know how both of these videos popped up right when I needed them. I think it is amazing how you do this every day to work through things yourself and to help others work through this very difficult process. I am (mostly) on the other side of healing from this, but your posts still help. Your manner, your insight, and your supportive words make you a positive force out there in the world!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome always 🙏💯🙌💯

[@kimberlysmith7311]

Their is no joy in driving someone else crazy not even someone high on Narc scale.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌 🙌

[@WBrown-gm4er]

So very very true! Never break No Contact.

[@sandracolon3759]

Thank you for your kind support toward victims of domestic violence. Thank you for the message of SILENCE. Thank you.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Sandra..🙌🙏💯😊

[@lisadawson6981]

I got my Christmas hoover . Thank God I was gone. I came home to cheesy Christmas gifts and notes in bags. I walked all of it straight to the trash can. Thank you Andrew No contact is key 👍

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight Lisa..🙌🙏💯💪

[@briansaiditsoitmustbetrue4206]

Make sure the NC (No Contact) is 100% bomb-proof.. You should NOT be getting texts and emails/ phone calls from the Narcissist These should ALL have been blocked. The Narcissist will always use this method first to try to hoover you. Do NOT make the Narcissists life easy. Kind regards Brian

[@Sky_Star-hq6bx]

Same here . Every so called 'gift' and reminder of her went straight to the Dumpster ! Very Freeing !

[@Mike_Cosentino]

This video aged like fine wine. Congratulations Andrew for reaching the pinnacle of indifference. I am eternally grateful to you for all your hard work and dedication to this narcissism epidemic. namaste 🙏

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌💜🙏

[@treelover1050]

I AM NO CONTACT FOR 2 YEARS. HE HAS NOTHING BUT LIES AND CHAOS FOR ME. STILL HE TRIED TO HOOVER ME SEVERAL TIMES. I AM SILENT BUT THEY STILL WANT TO TRY TO DRAW US BACK IN. SO DON'T BE SURPRISED IF THEY HOOVER. HAPPY NEW YEAR ANDREW. TAKE CARE.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you Tree Lover…🙏💯🙌😊

[@treelover1050]

@@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone YOU ARE WELCOME.

[@jenniferellis9249]

Holiday hoover,yes,I've had it too after 2 yrs n contact.x

[@treelover1050]

@@jenniferellis9249 HI. AVOID THE NARC AND MOVE FORWARD.

[@baconbacon3967]

Thanks, Andrew! Going No Contact with my brother brought me some immediate relief. No more rage calls, texts, etc. Much more peace without that noise. xo

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful growth and progress 💯🙌💪

[@user-fh6hv4eb56]

You ain't lying! Do things that make you feel good as long as it's not harming you and anyone else.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

💯💯😉

[@lynchang2007]

As long as you in the silent moment the power is yours because they cannot give reaction without your reaction as well.

[@kimfield1735]

When I blocked my narc he jumped straight onto dating apps etc. I didn’t say that we were over and when I blocked him it was because I just didn’t have anything to say to him and I couldn’t listen to one more lie. Yes, nearly 30 years together and nothing. Instant discard because I blocked him. Nine months later, I’m stronger than ever and looking forward to a new life. Love to you all and Andrew 💕🙏🏻💕

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

🙌☀️💪🙏💯

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Good morning Andrew. I went back in time to find some of your older videos, and I stopped at 1 year ago. I don't recognize many of the names, but people drift all the time. The "silence" is the key. My ex would not stop talking. I can't tell you how many Tylenol I took back then. I also realize that you CANNOT take "things" to heart. If a person doesn't want to associate with you, let it go! I know one thing for sure, and I will NEVER take sides again. If cruel people want to TRASH someone, i will turn away. My parents were empaths, and they raised me to be kind to people. Knowing me, I took some things out of context, but learned from it. You learn something new everyday, no matter how much you THINK you know, you still have a long way to go.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

😌🙌🙏

[@jannlewandowski5540]

Thank you for listening. ❤️

[@mariel.4566]

The narcissist called and emotionally abused me. I got so upset and went off. I said some things back, I should have not because I’m tired of going through this. I prayed and asked God to forgive me. Now I will just be silent and pray. I’m so over this abuse.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Marie.. thank you for sharing this.. maintaining our boundaries is the path..🙏🙌💪💯

[@devapoole4117]

Thanks Andrew...tough when a narcissist uses the scriptures to take from widows...God will repay

[@9430valjean]

Love your phrase “grey rock” - I used to call it “flat face” - no reaction! Your channel is so affirming to my past life! Thank you! Silence IS the key! I still get pressure to break my silence - thanks for helping me stay strong!

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome 💪🙌🙏💯

[@callumhaigh8233]

My ex girlfriend won’t win. One of my friends said that you can’t change a person like that and they’re always going back to what destroys them in the end. It’s a downward spiral

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Great insight 💯🙌🙏💪

[@jenniferellis9249]

Yes let it be.x

[@kimgordon3695]

Wow exactly. Heartbreaking 😢

[@jessparsons8515]

Silence is powerfull

[@ms.jewele7655]

You know they say that people need people as we are social beings, but I find I'm more peaceful when my relationships end. The most stressful times over my lifetime have been when in relationships always trying to make them work. It's like every time I go through a break up I'm trying to get my equilibrium and myself back again. Probably time to let the white picket fence myth go.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Thank you for sharing this insight 😉💯🙌🙏💡

[@davidcrowley1985]

This is such an important message. All the education re the narcasist leads us to acceptance of what they are and what the relationship really was...we reach the end of hope. At this point the installation of a strict No Contact regime has to be a conscious choice...and it's difficult! ONLY with no contact can you heal..recover and look inward to change yourself by learning to say no...to set boundaries...change your self talk and listen to your inner voice. No contact is the key as you say to your freedom to your healing and a brighter future. No contact is your victory over these malevolent entities. Take the win people DC

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Beautiful insight DC..💯🙏💪

[@jenniferellis9249]

Our childhood is the key.x

[@davidcrowley1985]

@@jenniferellis9249 I couldn't agree more. Part of the second stage of healing is looking inward and taking responsibility for our part in the relationship. We must confront and process the childhood trauma that has been buried for so long that made us vulnerable to such a relationship. This leads to healing via change. Its a tough road to the new you!

[@christine11347]

@@davidcrowley1985 this comment is definitely spot on and really highlights that the healing path is in stages. Thank you for sharing this insight it definitely helps me put things into perspective on where I am at in my healing path. 💯💪💡🎆✝️🕊️

[@carol-xk3lq]

Very well put in words, thxs💫💫💫

[@paperdollartzgeniuz3911]

Bless you Andrew for all the videos that you have taken your time to share with us. You actually explain to us in a way that even a child could understand it. Be Ever Wonderful.

[@fin1shingtouch1212]

Silence is Golden!👍☺️

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Absolutely 💯🙌😊💪

[@cymbolichuman433]

I suffered for saying: "What part of NO don't you understand???" But I have no problem repeating that. I am staying strong.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Continue to become educated and empowered 💯🙌🙏💪

[@chloerodgers692]

My ex always used to say that his silent treatment was not an effort to punish me. He just didn’t want to argue. I realize that it can work both ways and I learned from the master.

[@annieb550]

on point once again. thank you. I know I speak for others when I say you make us stronger. thank you.

[@jenniferellis9249]

Yes.

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Welcome Annie 💯🙌🙏😊

[@carlymcfarly6447]

‘Cesspool of desperation where the narcissist lives’ 👌🏼👌🏼

[@NARCDAILYYouAreNotAlone]

Yes 🙌 💪

[@kimgordon3695]

So true

[@childofthemosthighGod777]

Thank you Heavenly Father for opening my eyes WIDEEEE open before marrying a narcissist! Praise the LORD Almighty 🙌🏼