Wife Cheated With a Coworker & Hit Me When I Confronted Her. Finally, I Left Her After Years of...

Wife Cheated With a Coworker & Hit Me When I Confronted Her. Finally, I Left Her After Years of Abuse & Lies.
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[@user-qp3kl8rq2m]

I feel bad for male abuse victims Edit: I’m not down playing the abuse for female victims but male victims aren’t really talked about and some of the time don’t get the help they need. (Read replies for more.)

[@CarlArkinRamos]

Society usually does not believe in men being an abuse victim because they stereotype men to be strong and because of that society doesn't accept male abuse victims.

[@saraashley464]

Society says men can’t be victims of of any form of abuse for some reason and they have to just suck it up

[@Elentay-bc9rh]

And that I hope goes the same for women victims?

[@saraashley464]

@@Elentay-bc9rh society already talks about female abuse victims. At least let this one time not be about them. Women pretty much get away with a lot of things while men have to just suck it up because they’re “imagining it”

[@FokushiKitsune]

@@Elentay-bc9rhI’m pretty sure they do. but for a male abuse victim it’s harder because ppl don’t take it seriously or don’t believe it unlike a female where everyone would be at their side no matter if it’s true or not.

[@That_Thing_Lucy]

Dude, this man sounds like an angel… how tf How could you take advantage of and abuse such an amazing person? I will absolutely never understand or offer my support to abusers

[@notlisztening9821]

More like a doormat.. who stays with a girl who cheated on them? ... twice!?

[@watermia]

Women dont like simps, even if they do everything 'right' truth is women dont want simps or weak men.

[@thedarknessofnana]

@@notlisztening9821Well, maybe once upon a time he was, but it seems he successfully transformed and there’s no shame in that. Not everyone is a super uber confident, and some people (regardless of gender) are more susceptible to abuse than others just because of their personalities. Let’s not shame men for being able to be abused. All humans have the potential for abuse be other humans.

[@nerd26373]

Cheating is everywhere, and I enjoy watching it from a faraway distance.

[@Maninawig]

I know what you mean

[@Mikoto028]

Sadly, there's bunch of faithful women who get cheated on my village and they end up killing both of them. And watching this just made me think "people who still have sanity can handle this by divorcing"

[@christophernoble76]

it always helps me keep focussed on myself instead of thinking of relationships lmao. i simply can't trust a girlfriend after seeing all this.

[@Crisfer05]

@@christophernoble76I also cannot trust men because of in my life almost every other man I have know has cheated on their wife; however, we’re not completely right because we are probably missing out on finding a good person just because we’re afraid to open up and meeting people. I sincerely believe not all men are cheaters but I’m afraid to get with one that is a cheater.

[@Roronoa1213]

It sounds evil, but it’s so real 😔

[@Amenimun]

"Truthfully, when I heard this, I kinda rolled my eyes since I don't really believe in karma. And if karma was legitimate, that would suggest I deserved to be cheated on and experiencing this heartbreak." I like that because it's true.

[@RepellentJeff]

Karma is just one of those pretty little lies we tell ourselves to get through the day. There is no supernatural force that guarantees these horrible people will get the justice they deserve. It’s up to us to make our own justice.

[@belooga-bj3pw]

​@@RepellentJeff If I'm not mistaken, karma originally comes from India and refers just to the law of cause and effect, where actions create consequences. In this case, if she cheated and was okay with behavior that destroys relationships, == putting herself in that position where she's going to face the consequences of it. This might include a lack of genuine relationships or backlash from fake ones. (people get mad/sad/revenge/scamming back etc) It's simply intentions -> actions -> consequences. It's not about "bad stuff happens to bad people." But about "people do stuff, and it leads to results". That's it. They do stuff, you do stuff, affecting each others lifes

[@sgv0719]

His therapist was terrible!

[@vexxama]

Right? They’re having an affair, of course they’re not going to tell the wife, and the therapist actively tried to keep that information from her. talking about karma and who has the right to tell her, sounds like a quack with no common sense

[@IFAMILYIH]

THE THERAPIST AND THE PI SAYING OH DON’T TELL THE AP’S PARTNER. THEY ARE A DISGRACE YOU SHOULD DEFINITELY TELL

[@chessieray1465]

Hopefully more men going through this save themselves as time goes on.

[@darcydabbookallil]

Thank you for reading reddit for us, so much better

[@Extremelybraindeadhumanbeing]

Not watched it yet but I’m gonna bet she gets away with it and isnt charged for abuse and assault

[@ladyweasellou3367]

JFC.... thank heaven there was no children involved in that.

[@rhiarebecca2000]

I would legit record everything whenever I’m around her if I was OP

[@mannydcbianco]

100%. If I ever get to the point where I feel that a partner is cheating on me, and I intend on confronting my partner about it, I am putting up cameras everywhere in the house first, save for in the bathrooms. And I will be wearing a recorder too. I would probably not wear a camera, that's too obvious, but at least an audio recorder in my pocket. I do not trust the legal/court system to protect me or treat me fairly in a word against word situation, so recordings are essential.

[@arcadius3257]

"Wanted a gaming room" And immediately it makes sense why he stuck around for so long despite her actions, poor guy probably thought that he got lucky with her.

[@SSFighter1701]

Please elaborate.

[@arcadius3257]

@@SSFighter1701 Do I have to? Its no secret that gamers have it rough in the dating scene.

[@burningstariv]

​@SSFighter1701 His comment was pretty clear, maybe elaborate on your own confusion?

[@kossettereaditte7552]

​​​@@arcadius3257 That isn't true though. I mean gaming addicts do, but not gamers in general. I know plenty of married gamers, and I'm also a gamer and dating.

[@arcadius3257]

@@kossettereaditte7552 Congrats, that still doesn't make it untrue. And define "gaming addict"

[@detectivewinters3180]

Damn, OP is a literal saint for being patience for that long

[@MrRealGreenn]

can we have another close family related story :)? like another step brother, or mom or dad type of story :)

[@MrRealGreenn]

i watched all of your family stories so far

[@MajorGore]

80 bpm is 10 bpm more than usual. Wow dude, good heart you got there!

[@l-l-l-l-l-l-l]

Good heart paired with no backbone is useless anyways.

[@agx8447]

Not really, it falls within the average range of 60-100. Healthy sure, and that’s important, but it’s not anything remarkable in terms of athleticism

[@kossettereaditte7552]

The moment you gotta start tracking your spouses phone due to infidelity. Just start leaving.

[@Banana.toulouse]

God: "How much of a doormat do you want to be?" OP: "Yes uwu"

[@jacksepticeye3jacksepticey130]

4:52 imagining that is so terrifying bro

[@jacksepticeye3jacksepticey130]

Fire song tho

[@netherwake1]

I just cant bring myself listen to stories when the victim has given multiple chances to the cheater. Once she cheats throw her like garbage, coz thats what she is. Dont be an idiot and give her a chance, then another chance when she meets him again, and then another when you caught her having a secret phone and so on. At this point youre begging to be cheated on.

[@mannydcbianco]

Seems like he has female abandonment issues, maybe because his mom and dad divorced when he was super young. Pure conjecture of course, but since he only mentions his mom one single time in this whole story whereas he mentions his dad over and over again I'm guessing his mom wasn't really an active part of his life. If so then that could be why he put up with his wife's cheating and alcoholism and truly evil behavior for so long. He was probably terrified her leaving and not being part of his life, just like his mom wasn't, regardless of it was his or her decision to leave. So... he just put up with it. Bottled it up, suppressed and ignored everything within him that told him this is wrong, you have to get out. Regardless of if my speculation is true or not I am glad he finally got the strength to get out from that toxic mess. I wouldn't have been as amicable and lovey-dovey in the end as he was, I am more of a gray rock type person, but he had to do it his way. Whatever works for him!

[@ianmoritzplatapino3684]

The classic tales from doormatland the chronicles of simpus maximus and his 304 cake eater wife

[@stevenmanson6720]

Yes victim blaming is such a bitch move Men do have to watch with this sexest society

[@sheepphees3350]

A Hug for admin and Subs from Portugal

[@suamae515]

devolva meu ouro

[@kimble15ful]

I’m early as hell but I gotta go to work😭

[@ushnishchakraborty]

Dude is a weirdo. She doesn't deserve "mutual respect" after all she did. Even tho I wouldn't say he deserved it, but I can see why she was able to abuse him for so long.

[@firehot427]

This guy would take first place for the doormat olympics jesus

[@Readitonreddit07]

@Telltales bro you interested in a story ,I can give you one

[@idontknow2591]

9:39 id literally only say "you only have urself to blame for me not caring about you"

[@minigundozer14]

why do you even have cats?? She probably killed some of them and blamed it on you or something

[@saulohm911]

No masculinity whatsoever

[@ladyweasellou3367]

That's more than just alcohol.

[@raccoonnoise]

See i would definitely find APs wife and tell her but i do think waiting until after the divorce is a good idea. No telling what STBW would try and pull if you did it before hand

[@idontknow2591]

omg the story ended like halfway through and everything else was just YAPPING omg

[@raidenjacktheripper2787]

If y'all got terrible marriage cuz the wife is abusive, leave immidiately. Cuz she isnt keeper, she is cheater. My neighbour got separatee cuz his wife cheating on him and she turn into abusive person, both by verbal or by physical. Just two days ago, he fought her hard on court and win the house while his cheating wife need to pay up alimony which about almost $50,000.

[@TheGaiusVigus]

Portugal mentioned! Letzgoooo!!! SIIIIIIIM

[@jayallen9198]

He sounds like he’s describing a demon

[@Finn-po4kt]

Listening to fake reddit stories makes me genuinely angry

[@darpmosh6601]

How the fuck did you end up with someone like that?!

[@MrRealGreenn]

ALSO W VALVE XD

[@Vash_Carrison]

Steam Deck homie solidarity!

[@9thEdits]

Portugal mentioned CARALHOOOOO!!!

[@bivinsbenner5719]

I beleive all of these stories are just People that want to write but cant get published so they publish themselves on reddit. The format and structure just sounds like a story teller rather tan a real person.

[@jaferhussein2645]

This guy is a doormat. I can't believe people let others walk all over them like this

[@GuardianHalberd]

I feel like the title doesn't match the story

[@Banana.toulouse]

This story seems fake. I hope it is fake

[@norefs]

This is a dummy

[@johnarredondo7259]

Bro how much of a push over are you? Like what is wrong with you

[@firehot427]

The ultimate doormat. Final boss

[@nicknitro86]

If she kept cheating and he kept taking het back, then why even divorce? Just stay and let her keep cheating.

[@Southparkandfamilyguy]

first haha

[@Extremelybraindeadhumanbeing]

Who cares

[@Diaryofprav]

​@@ExtremelybraindeadhumanbeingMe :3

[@doorsplayer123]

First

[@Extremelybraindeadhumanbeing]

Your second and no one cares

[@isrln]

A solid Doormat of the day nominee

[@jgrAnimations23]

A solid andrew tare fan

[@Hoki4]

Good example why you just need to have a high self worth. This guy sounds like a total wimp and is exactly the reason why he got tormented for years. No backbone means people will walk all over you till you grow one and the sooner you get one, the better.

[@squiggle463]

take your own advice

[@Hoki4]

@@squiggle463 But I do. I don't stand by and let people do shit towards me, because I have a backbone and I put end to it all immediately. I've walked away from disrespecting girls, some friends and will never contact them again.

[@prtckthomas3442]

OP is pathetic, its actually understandable why the wife behaved like she did for as long as she did. Who would willingly give up their doormat?